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| 111 | Block & Delete isn't always EnoughI, personally, am a huge fan of #TellOnHim2022 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 08:44 AM |
| 4 | Geriatric 65 yr old scrote is telling people that I led him on…Oh my gosh, OP you gotta so this haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:43 AM |
| 18 | New Op-Ed in the NYT: A Manifesto Against Sex Positivity - "What you get when you liberate sex without liberating women"That’s one thing that always makes me laugh- men who are failing to sexually please a women that have the audacity to ask for ANOTHER more difficult sexual act. Like, maybe I’ll consider giving you a pencil when you stop trying to eat your crayons and stop demanding an expensive ball-point pen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 233 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…Any self proclaimed “male feminist” is a predator trying to blend in with their prey. A true male ally would discuss women’s rights with their male friends who need to be educated, not with women who already fucking know that we deserve to be equal. It’s condescending and an immediate red flag. (Like, do they really think that they’re so smart that they’re going to educate a woman about women? Its bullshit) Basically, if a man is trying to tell you about how much he supports women, then run in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 59 | I'm really interested in how society in your country/culture 'discourages interactions in social spaces'!Some men are so obsessed with women that they can’t fathom that most women do not sit on the bus wishing a random strange man would approach them. If anything, I spend all my mental energy in public spaces praying no one talks to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:30 AM |
| 41 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?I met my fiancé on Tinder. I think it worked because we lived in a densely populated city (so there were a lot of options), I knew what I wanted and made that clear, and we attended the same university (we had similar lifestyles and values and whatnot) but just ran in different circles. Without Tinder we probably would’ve just never met, so I am thankful for that because we’re perfect for each other. We’re the ones who made it work, but tinder is what brought us together in the first place. Gran… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:20 AM |
| 21 | Every warning FDS educated me on was literally my LVM exI saw a comment on here once that said, “if you didn’t want us to catch on, you shouldn’t have made it a pattern” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Brooklyn 99This reminds me of one of my fav The Onion articles, “local woman stops being feminist for one hour to enjoy tv show.” It’s hard to do though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:14 PM |
| 199 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.When I growing up, HVM father told me that the most effective thing you could do to distance yourself from a disrespectful/toxic person is ignore/grey rock them. Just don’t give them any of your time or attention. Don’t talk to them, don’t talk about them, just pretend they never existed. It gets the point across, it doesn’t create gossip or drama, and it frees you from that person. It’s the best way to protect yourself from misogynistic men. When a man shows you who he really is, then cool, now… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 01:02 AM |
| 10 | D.L Hughley on Kanye West stalking Kim KardashianIt makes me super sad that people genuinely think that talent is more important than character. No one is talented enough to be entitled to abuse others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 02:19 AM |
| 2 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄It’s insane how men don’t realize that most of them seem much more attractive before they open their mouths and ruin it. This dude’s face is perfectly fine, but when you see his caption, suddenly he is wildly unattractive and his face now represents his vitriolic and aggressive mindset. I literally cannot iterate how many times I swiped right on a guy on tinder, only to immediately unmatch them because their first message was rude, mean, aggressive, etc. Men’s faces are not the problem a majorit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Don't trust your male friends.None of my male friends in the past ever agreed to walk me home at night. They never offered, and when I asked, they bitched and moaned and at MOST would walk me halfway (which happened like 10% of the time). I get being tired at the end of the night, but I was just trying to avoid being raped and murdered. It sucks but the average man just won’t have your back like a woman would | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:53 AM |
| 3 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI agree and I wish I had made this more clear in my post. I’m basically saying that if you get a bad vibe immediately, trust it. If you get a good vibe, cautiously proceed vetting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 09:04 AM |
| 144 | D.L Hughley on Kanye West stalking Kim KardashianKim is still a human being who deserves dignity, respect, and safety. The only reason people downplay Kanye’s concerning behavior and overplay Kim’s sexual history is misogyny, plain and simple. It’s truly shocking how even million upon millions of dollars STILL isn’t enough to keep women safe from abusive partners and exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 07:38 AM |
| 10 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI agree about the authenticity of tinder. When it first started, it was a great way to meet people who were in your vicinity that you otherwise wouldn’t necessarily speak to. It was simple because you could usually assume that a match meant they were single, attracted to you, and interested. You could quickly weed out dullards or assholes via messaging. It was a fun way to meet people (especially in college) and it did feel more wholesome, in a weird way. I feel like I managed to find a good guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 07:04 AM |
| 9 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himFair enough, everybody is different! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:18 AM |
| 2 | "I appreciate modesty in a woman" - says the man who watches porn.When men hear “modest woman” they think “woman I could control, dominate, and possess.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:37 AM |
| 23 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI can completely understand that. One of the perks for me was that I could make quick lunch dates with guys within days of matching, so it was easier to find out that we don’t click in person/ they have tons of red flags you couldn’t see online. Then I could just move on to the next candidate. I can’t imagine how rough the pandemic has been for dating, so my advice could be out dated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:21 AM |
| 82 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himTed Bundy often used a ruse to trap women- he’d pretend to be injured and act like he needed help moving a piece of furniture or unloading a car or something. I think a lot of women instinctually felt like something was off about him, but their societal conditioning stepped in and said “oh but he’s injured, he needs help, I’m supposed to help people, he’s not bad looking, he’s well-groomed, I’m being selfish, it’ll only take a second, of course I’ll help him,” and they ignored their gut instinct… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:09 AM |
| 64 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI’m sorry you’ve experienced abuse, sister. I’m so glad you’re in a better and safer situation now. I don’t know anybody who regrets trusting their gut, and I’m glad you’ve reached a point where you can confidently hear what your body is telling you. Stay safe out there, queen <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.It’s fucking shocking. How can a human being read a harrowing account from a rape survivor and think, “hmm, but what about the other side’s argument?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 43 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI agree! You have to be ruthless on OLD to get results | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 10:42 PM |
| 82 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI mean a very high percentage of men out there have the potential and the inclination to be dangerous. There’s a good chance you’re surrounded by LVM/NVM. The goal is to find a man who doesn’t give you the ick. Also, just because they’re family doesn’t mean they’re good people or high value men. Every single abuser, rapist, and murderer was somebody’s son/brother/father/uncle/nephew/cousin etc. I’m sorry you’re in a situation where every man is setting off your alarm bells. You’re likely justifi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 10:40 PM |
| 31 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himA little over 4 years ago | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 10:35 PM |
| 61 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himSame here! I’ve only regretted giving toxic men second chances | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 09:29 PM |
| 290 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himIt’s wild how men will demand that women who don’t find them attractive date them, but then they’re all shocked when those same women aren’t super interested in having sex with them. What did they expect? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:57 PM |
| 227 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himI agree! I actually liked that aspect of online dating. My strategy was: (1) if he has a face you wouldn’t want to sit on, swipe left. (2) if he’s attractive, read his bio; if it has anything weird in it, swipe left. (3) if his bio is fine, strike up a conversation. If he says anything weird, creepy, mean, unfunny, etc, then unmatch him. (4) if he’s attractive, has a decent bio, and you guys have nice conversations and good chemistry, then set up a date to meet. (5) If he does anything that make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:33 PM |
| 107 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himWell, if he doesn’t go out of his way to talk to you, do you think he’s interested? One of the hardest things I had to accept in dating is that men are either interested or not, and you can’t make an uninterested man interested. It sucks, but I promise your time is better spent finding someone better. You deserve to be with a man who enjoys spending time with you, goes out of his way to talk to you, and has no problem asking you on a proper date. If he doesn’t seem interested, then you should qu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:28 PM |
| 10 | Family annihilators and how to spot one quickly when dating. Long-ish post. TW [murder, suicide]Great post! If I may add, we should never date men who we wouldn’t want to have as exes. Ask yourself, is this the type of man who would still respect me if we broke up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:25 PM |
| 64 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himAsk him questions about himself and see how he responds. Take note of how he talks about and treats other people, especially women. Find out his political views, career aspirations, goals in life, etc and see if they align with your values. Maybe make a silly, light joke at his expense and see if he laughs at himself or gets angry and defensive. Basically, talk to him and observe him. You can find out a lot about a man in just one conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:23 PM |
| 118 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himIt’s fine to be attracted to a guy, you just gave to remember your dealbreakers, boundaries, and to stay on the look out for red flags. I’ve definitely gone out with guys who are physically attractive, but they become unattractive once they say something disrespectful, cross a defined boundary, or start waving red flags. Being attracted to a guy is necessary for a relationship to work, but it’s not the only necessity. Make sure you’re taking note of his speech, behavior, demeanor, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:12 PM |
| 15 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”Thank you making this post, and I’m proud of you for deconstructing your unhealthy pick me behaviors in the past. You are moving in the right direction and every day you’re getting smarter and stronger. Keep up the good work sister <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 163 | A rant about beauty standards; men have no right to decide what women "should" look like.What men think of my appearance is none of my business and absolutely not my problem. I think all men should look like Tom Hardy, but you don’t see me telling every man I meet that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:41 PM |
| 52 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”If they’re “simple,” then you’re always the crazy one who makes things “complicated” when you ask for basic respect and decency. It’s a way to villainize us from the get-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:29 PM |
| 62 | Men who hide their political views from youPeople who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. If he’s being avoidant on political issues, it’s because he knows his views would offend you. Conservative men are dumb enough to vote for racist and sexist fascists, but they’re smart enough to know it’s a bad look. Ask him about politics; he either has empathy for other humans, or he sucks. Men always have an opinion on everything, so I don’t believe for a second that any of them are truly “apolitical.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | LVM Love To Spread the Myth That Women Should Settle Lower Than What We're Attracted To But Mistreat the Women Out of their League Who Give Them A Chance Regardless - SO don't settle and don't make this mistake!I love how it’s always the women who should sacrifice themselves and their sex lives for the sake of ugly men, when those same men would NEVER even consider dating a woman they aren’t attracted to. It’s bullshit and two-way physical attraction is an absolutely essential part of any strong relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:51 PM |
| 75 | Don't tell him what red flags are a deal breaker for youGreat strategy! Your dealbreaker list is private and for you (and only you) to reference. Don’t hand men a road map to manipulate you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 19 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Ignorant men can’t grasp the idea that rape doesn’t occur in a vacuum (nothing does). It is representative of a larger issue with society. Obviously we need rapists to take accountability, but you don’t have to be a rapist to uphold and benefit from rape culture. Simply not raping us isn’t enough- they have to go out and stop other men who think it’s okay to treat us like objects who exist to fulfill their sexual perversions. I’m tired of men thinking that doing nothing is the solution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:08 PM |
| 14 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.I agree. I am so done with being expected to praise men for doing the absolute bare minimum, like thinking women are human beings or washing their asses. You’ll get praise when you do something praise-worthy and nothing less! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 13 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.I love this! Stop apologizing for other men and DO SOMETHING about it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:03 PM |
| 46 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.“Outside perspective” aka “the only perspective we’ve heard our whole lives.” They really think they’re out there doing something when they’re really just continuing to oppress us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:01 PM |
| 37 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.More like #notallvenomoussnakesbitepeople because nonvenomous snakes literally cannot poison you, but every man is capable of hurting women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | It only takes one wrong guy to ruin your entire life.Not just ruin your life, but END your life. The wrong man could quite literally, no exaggeration, murder you if he’s having a “bad day.” All of us ladies are valuable and worth protecting! You’re not being “too picky,” you’re keeping your standards high enough to ensure that any life ruining men don’t get through. We are literally just protecting ourselves out here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:58 PM |
| 6 | She’s speaking all factsFirst of all, I love this woman and want to be her friend. Second of all, as a bisexual woman, I can confirm that going down on a man is much more difficult than going down on a woman. I’ve done both and they aren’t even comparable in terms of physical exhaustion. So when a man expects oral but won’t give it, he 100% ain’t shit and ain’t worth your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:56 PM |
| 1 | LVM are out there thinking men don't treat women like shit. Drew's response is on point as always 👑If men treated women the way we treat them, then I could blissfully go about my life while men keep their opinions to their selves. Men hate when women ignore or laugh at them, women hate when men rape and murder us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:52 PM |
| 3 | I am just so... disappointedI think men with PIED think the ultimate treatment is for a woman to fix them. It’s a lot easier to believe that instead of confronting the root issue: porn. Why bother self reflecting when you can just get a girlfriend to fix it for you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂They’ll invest their life savings in fake pictures online but balk at the thought of investing time, money, and effort into one dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:38 PM |
| 21 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Great analogy because it only takes one cancer cell to start the process that ultimately kills you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:32 PM |
| 33 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.The bar is so low for men that they are truly shocked and offended when women demand more from the men they date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:26 PM |
| 12 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Absolutely! The thought of women just living for themselves instead of catering to men drives them crazy because they believe they are the center of the universe. Any man who takes pleasure in infiltrating spaces for women is 100% a threat to us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:18 PM |
| 20 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.This is so true. It’s very telling that the sole man in a group of women is in heaven, while the sole woman in a group of men is in hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:15 PM |
| 8 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Does the website have a mobile app? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:13 PM |
| 25 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.They don’t seem to understand that supporting women is the absolute bare minimum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 42 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.This reminds me of something I used to experience in college. If me and my friend where hanging out with a group of men and they all started talking about something we didn’t care about, we’d just quietly start our own conversation off to the side. Without fail, every single time, the other guys would get so mad and demand we tell them what we’re talking about and include them! Like, you guys had no problem excluding us from the conversation, but the second we want to do our own thing we’re the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:08 PM |
| 29 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.It makes my blood boil! Especially because when a man is raped, those same dudes crying “but what about male victims?!?!” will be saying “lol he prob liked it I wish she’d rape me!” They have no desire to actually address the serious issues that make victims face, they just want to derail the discussion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:03 PM |
| 40 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.It’s insulting because they really think we’re too stupid to see through that bullshit. Obviously they’re here to “impress” us, not stand with us. When will they understand that it’s not about them?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:00 PM |
| 26 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.It’s because they see feminism as something performative they do to score extra points with women, instead of a call for action to fight against the injustices men subject women to daily. It’s a lot easier to try and get rewarded for doing the bare minimum (aka thinking women deserve rights) instead of seeming “lame” for correcting the toxic men in their lives. I want men to stop talking the talk and start walking the walk. Talk is cheap and we don’t want it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:59 PM |
| 16 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.A lot of creeps see a women’s group and just think “this will be a great place to meet women!” Like as if they aren’t the ones we’re trying to get away from | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:50 PM |
| 23 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Just another reason I love this sub- it’s full of women learning from each other and striving to protect each other more each day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:46 PM |
| 30 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.I agree! The way men feel about me and my thoughts is not my problem. If a man doesn’t like what I have to say about what it’s like being a woman, then he can go kick rocks and touch cow dung instead of bothering me. Men genuinely believe that women vocalizing their standards is just as, if not more, oppressive as thousands of years of female subjugation, commodification, patriarchy, and rape culture. It’s like, actually no, your feelings are no where near as important as our safety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:42 PM |
| 31 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Exactly! No man is going to tell women something we don’t know about the female experience. Any man thinking they have anything of value to contribute in a women’s space is wildly arrogant and obnoxious. We need men to call out other men in spaces where men tend to feel safe using abusive language and perpetuating harmful stereotypes. A true male ally to women will focus on educating other men and making the rest of the world less habitable to misogynists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:44 PM |
| 102 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.I don’t understand how any woman could feel safe discussing birthing and breastfeeding knowing that there are loads of creepy and weird men jerking off to it and joining the conversation. Just leave us alone!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:24 PM |
| 35 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Men will even do the mental gymnastics to convince themselves that it’s okay to go to lesbian bars, a place where they couldn’t be less welcome. I’m sorry men ruined that Krav Maga group for you. Their presence surely deterred many women who would’ve attended otherwise. It’s like, congrats you guys, your need to feel like a Nice Guy is actively harming us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:22 PM |
| 23 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Thank you. It was difficult but I learned from it and am now wiser and stronger as a result. It was the first time I’d ever received targeted harassment online, but it also radicalized me in ways that piss men off to no end, so that’s nice haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:18 PM |
| 30 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.He obviously didn’t win the election but his audacity is a story for the ages. He would constantly interrupt other women in the group and just gave off mega am-I-attractive-to-you-girls-yet? vibes! He was so smug about it too! Like “look at me, I’m such a great ally!” when in reality he was trying to force himself in where he didn’t belong. And the other members of the group didn’t want to risk alienating him so they never said anything. They actually ended up starting a club that was for men wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:16 PM |
| 35 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.It’s especially infuriating because male only spaces like the priesthood led to men controlling the religious and political narratives. By excluding women, they completely took advantage to set up rules and systems that continue to oppress us today. Yet men today get mad if I want to join a women-only hobby group so I can relax and enjoy myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:09 PM |
| 38 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Thank you for putting this feeling into words. Women have to police their own existence when men are present because there’s no telling when one of them might just decided to react violently. I’m a funny person and a lot of my jokes regarding men are hilarious, but I’d never dream of telling those jokes at an open mic because men dominate the standup comedy scene and I wouldn’t feel safe clowning on a group of them to their faces. Odds are at least one of them will take offense and feel the need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:06 PM |
| 71 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Because it’s Reddit and life is a fucking nightmare 🌈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:58 PM |
| 24 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.That’s why I never post on XX anymore. I had one post hit the front page and I had to BEG the mods to lock the post. For years I had multiple angry men following my account and downvoted every single thing I posted after that. Thank GOD Reddit finally allowed us to remove followers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:48 PM |
| 26 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.That last sentence is chef kiss. What really gets me is the fact that men don’t support each other and then they make that our problem. It’s not my fault they don’t put effort into friendships and don’t ask for help when they need it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:47 PM |
| 35 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.What can they do to help? Shut the fuck up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:43 PM |
| 44 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.A few years ago I made a post on XX that hit the front page and I had to beg the mods to lock the post because it was flooded with men being just awful and saying horrible things and blaming women. I would’ve never posted if I had known that men were allowed to completely derail the topic and harass me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:41 PM |
| 132 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.I agree! Every time I post here I tend to respond to every comment because they’re consistently engaging, eloquent, and thought provoking. It’s a huge breath of fresh air! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:04 AM |
| 131 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Oh man, I’m sorry that happens to you. It’s completely inappropriate to pull a switch like that. Like ma’am, YOU trusting/liking your boyfriend has zero impact on his utter strangeness and threat to ME! Plus there is always the threat that it’s a man using a woman’s profile. Your living space is your sanctuary and you are in charge of who enters! Keep up the good work, sister | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 71 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?Dating is about human connection, so there’s something mildly unsettling to see an approach devoid of any personal human touch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:55 AM |
| 5 | Dating has no second chances. Stop giving them!This is also something I’m very passionate about! There’s no such thing as a break, it’s just a soft breakup so they can explore their other options without losing you as a backup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:39 PM |
| 25 | Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each otherSociety wants to drive wedges between us because men know that we’re much more powerful together than alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:12 AM |
| 11 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀You know what? I’m okay with men having these ridiculous standards if it means they leave the rest of us out of their creepy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:24 PM |
| 36 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.Ah, yes, who doesn’t get stressed at work and react by raping their spouse who recently lost a parent. It’s just the natural response!!! /s obvi but just in case. This man is a cold hearted rapist. You can’t claim to love someone AND ignore their pleas while literally raping them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:04 PM |
| 10 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?I think this says a lot more about thirsty men with no standards or shame than it does about you! I’m sure you’re perfectly lovely and attractive to HVM out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 46 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?I think this is a huge red flag because it shows they have no regard for consequences. When they’re single, then their abrupt and impulsive decisions mainly affect themselves. But when they get married and/or have children, they continue to make sPoNTaNeOuS decisions that upend the lives of not only themselves but their wife and children. Side note- I think another reason this rubs me the wrong way is that it demonstrates a cavalier attitude towards safety that some men and all women cannot affo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:37 AM |
| 446 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthWhenever I hear men talking about how “no one cares” and that they don’t have friends “like women do,” it’s like… so, make friends then? Put effort into maintaining platonic relationships? Why do these men all just want unconditional love and support and labor from others while giving nothing in return? ETA: My friends are ride or die for me because I’m ride or die for them. If one of us stumbles, the others lift her back up. Support like that doesn’t just happen because we’re women; it happens … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:17 AM |
| 40 | you're not toxic.I love this!!! Keep preaching the FDS gospel, sister 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:14 PM |
| 81 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬I doubt they be as understanding if the women they were with had a sexual dysfunction | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:51 PM |
| 1 | “Women like you give feminism bad name” shut up - effective feminism always had a “bad name.”Yeah I think general male opinion is not an appropriate moral mile-marker | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 05:24 AM |
| 21 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetMy dad also used to say there’s nothing more exhilarating than being shot at and missed; I imagine you can understand that. I’m so glad that your close calls were just that- close calls. Stay safe out there sister | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:46 AM |
| 37 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetThat’s a great point! I hope with FDS we can make widespread abuse against women a thing of the past for the next generation of queens. It is always better to be proactive, but it’s never too late. It’s like how the best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago, but the second best time is right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:25 AM |
| 13 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetThanks sister! I’m glad I was able to word my thoughts in a way that made sense to other queens :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:22 AM |
| 21 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetYour younger-self would be so proud of you if she saw you now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:22 AM |
| 25 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetYou’re moving in the right direction and you’re making progress! So proud of you sister, keep up the great work <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:21 AM |
| 11 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetJournaling like that is such a great way to work through your feelings! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:20 AM |
| 3 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I mean that’s literally the only option, unless he has an ankle hostler for it (which I doubt) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:39 PM |
| 39 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?Why carry hot sauce but not a ziploc bag to put a used condom in to throw out later | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:49 AM |
| 33 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?Why didn’t he just bring a little plastic bag and take it with him if he was that worried? Why risk leaving it? And why was his solution to cause her horrible pain? There’s a million better ways to not knock someone up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:48 AM |
| -3 | Been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he does meet a lot of my requirements however he watches porn, a few times a month he says he can get it to zero if i don't like it, it does make me uncomfortable though. Idk should i still give him a chance or find someone who didn't watch to begin with?. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 04:18 AM |
| 10 | Fangirl moment for FDS!We just absolutely LOVE to see it, sisters! Keep up the great work!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 08:08 PM |
| 58 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 44 - Billie Eilish & How The Media Groomed A Generation of GirlsEver since seeing Billie speak out on how porn was damaging to her growing up, it was so inspiring and I immediately couldn’t wait to hear this sub’s and podcast’s opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Levelling up man freeIt’s like when athletes train with weights on their legs. If they can run with the weights, then they’re going to be flying without them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:34 AM |
| 1 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑My heart goes out to this poor woman’s cervix. I eventually just stopped letting men finger me because they always get too rough and that shit HURTS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERHonestly, she deserves to know as soon as possible before she moves in with him. Can you locate her on social media and message her? If I were her, you’d be my hero for doing that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERI think cheating and infidelity is a very LV/NV trait | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:28 AM |
| 3 | lowkey don’t even care at this point if a guy wants to screw around with my feelings like that i simply just do not have the time and resources to deal with it - block and deleteLife is hard enough, why be with someone who makes it harder? HVM don’t withhold affection from someone they love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:23 AM |
| 10 | Having a baby via sperm donorWanna really get mad? It isn’t even technically illegal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 07:27 AM |
| 180 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with men“Impregnate you” just reeks of “I want to raw dog you, leave you with lifelong responsibility and permanent repercussions, and never speak to you again” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 08:50 PM |
| 452 | Having a baby via sperm donorJust make sure you use a female fertility doctor. There are too many horror stories of male doctors switching out donor sperm with their own. Best to stick with someone who can’t harvest their own haploids with their hand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:58 PM |
| 110 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!“A break” is just a soft, vague breakup. If one of you is seriously considering ending it, then it needs to end. Don’t drag it out, it’ll only make things worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfYeah there’s nothing anti-feminist about acknowledging that men have more testosterone that results in overall increased muscle mass, and that violent men are primarily deterred by the presence of a man. That’s just reality | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 04:53 PM |
| 35 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examples. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:36 AM |
| 45 | We're not doing it anymoreAnd even so- it’s not like my mom was reveling in delight at my bodily functions and cleaning them up. She didn’t cheer when I pissed the bed, she was annoyed and grossed out but she cleaned my sheets because that’s what parents do for their children. Some men just want a woman who will feel obligated to clean up after him, yet they also want a woman who takes pleasure in doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:39 PM |
| 24 | Is it a red flag if he makes a comment about the Uber being expensive?They always have good arguments; that’s why you gotta have solid, no-exceptions boundaries for yourself. It’s okay, you’re okay, and now you know not to do that again :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:35 AM |
| 195 | Why are men like this“Clearly my 5 seconds of thought is superior to her lifetime of curating her own taste and style” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:42 AM |
| 18 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.You gotta lay down the law early on- I take care of gifts for my family, you take care of gifts for yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 03:42 AM |
| 50 | Yep, just about what I expected 😡The average girl on OF makes less than $200/month | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:05 PM |
| 53 | It’s the weekend!! Let’s have some fun. Thought I’d share some of the recent DM’s (I never respond) I’ve received.It’s just so funny to me how shitty men genuinely believe that the worst thing a woman could be is single. It’s a million times better to be alone than with a bad partner | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:48 PM |
| 224 | The tea is hotMen like that paint their nails so they don’t have to clean under them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 08:22 AM |
| 17 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeThey see intimacy as transactional and they lack the empathy to understand that women do not. In their minds, they think everyone else is also lying and manipulating others to get what they want too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:24 AM |
| 19 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeThat last line is just perfect. It disturbs me that any man thinks it would be romantic or sexy to stop a rapist. The victim in that situation is not in the head space to find true love, they’ve been fucking traumatized. Who thinks that’s a meet cute scenario?? It’s been upsetting realizing how many men are willing to “mind their own business” when they see rape or abuse occurring. Whenever I’ve witnessed something like that going down, I’ve stepped in immediately because that’s what you’re supp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:14 AM |
| 30 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeFun fact- I got banned from a sub for commenting that the titanic survivors being primarily women and children is a unique situation and only occurred because the captain held a gun on all the men. In every other sinking ship, the men trample the women and children and toss them out of life boats to save themselves. Men are by and far the most likely to survive because they will use their increased muscle mass and cowardice to save themselves at the expense of the people they “protect” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:25 AM |
| 21 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeHave you considered telling on them? Like I would want to know if my husband was creeping on single girls in the area. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:10 PM |
| 43 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeDamn that is so true! Like “oh I’ll just mow the lawn twice a month while you clean the entire house every day” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:09 PM |
| 15 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI agree. I’m against firearms but I would never want to restrict a woman’s access to that kind of protection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:15 PM |
| 43 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeWow, I love that phrase. It’s so true through. Men are our biggest threat but also act like they’re the solution to a problem they’ve caused. It’s like a plumber patting himself on the back for fixing the leak he caused by smashing the pipes with a wrench. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:08 PM |
| 31 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeThat is fucking terrifying. I hate that the mere existence of a man is enough to deter would-be predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:05 PM |
| 24 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI’m wary around all strangers, but especially around strange men because I have a 0% chance in a physical altercation against any male over the age of 14. At least if I’m attacked by a woman, I have a more-than-zero-percent chance to come out on top. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:04 PM |
| 25 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeIt’s like when someone says “the only thing safer than one gun is two guns” as if zero guns isn’t an option? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:02 PM |
| 27 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI’m really against guns, but I do appreciate how they can be the great equalizer between the sexes. Sometimes I wonder if I should risk owning a firearm just so I know I can protect myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:02 PM |
| 55 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI have the same gripe with “male feminists” who go to women-oriented spaces to tell US how women should be respected. And it’s like, yeah, no fucking shit, WE know that! We’re the ones who brought it up in the first place! Go find your shitty friends who abuse women and call them out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:00 PM |
| 92 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeExactly! Most men want to “protect women” in unlikely, hypothetical scenarios, like a masked assailant popping out of the bushes that they get to beat the shit out of. These same men, however, think it’s simp-y to be there day-to-day and protect their woman by driving them places and keeping an eye out overall. That kind of consistent protecting is boring and harder than just being violent on one occasion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:59 PM |
| 146 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeIf every woman disappeared off the face of the earth, society would crumble. If all men disappeared, society would be safer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:57 PM |
| 45 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.As long as they’re leaving us out of it, go for it. However, as we all know, men who hate women don’t avoid them or leave them alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:34 AM |
| 14 | Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends?I think it’s a maladaptive defense mechanism and a way to convince themselves that they aren’t being abused. They get manipulated into believing they are loved in a healthy relationship and it’s easier to attempt to manipulate concerned onlookers than to confront the truly dire situation they’ve found themselves in. Their behavior is not okay, but damn it if my heart doesn’t break for these women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:04 PM |
| 11 | Anyone who uses porn is fucking terrible in bed, and it’s time to spread this message far and wideThe number of women I know who have caught their man watching porn WHILE having sex is just mind boggling. How could that not break your heart? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:32 PM |
| 106 | Today marks the 32nd anniversary of the Polytechnique massacre in which 14 women were killed for being engineering students.Absolutely heart breaking and preventable tragedy <3 rest in power ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:51 PM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I’m not planning on kids, so I want to keep my last name. It’s a good strong name you know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:38 PM |
| 48 | Are all adults just getting dumber?Yes, and I suspect it has to do with the fact that we’re all chock full of micro plastics at this point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:00 PM |
| 55 | I don’t have a car and I live with my mom but if you pick me up and cook for me I’ll send you to rehab (respectfully). Found on a Facebook group I’m in and… wow I’m so glad I’m married.Yeah I short circuited early on, can’t seem to physically read the rest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:22 AM |
| 300 | Break up songs by guys that make you laughSomebody that I used to know by Gotye. Catchy as hell, but the man’s attitude is toxic as fuck lol. Of course she’s not gonna stick around and do free emotional labor for you after the relationship ends, dummy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 05:59 AM |
| 128 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.I snooped on my man’s Reddit. It was full of kind comments answering technical questions and explaining concepts to users who needed help. No porn subs, just green flags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:40 PM |
| 15 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Most of science history is “man taking credit for woman scientist because he got to be in charge solely because he had a penis and she didn’t” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:39 AM |
| 77 | Every rule on FDS is written in bloodThe wrong partner will ruin your life, if not take it completely. We are all worthy of protection and high standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:19 AM |
| 110 | Story time: do not EVER date a man who admits to cheatingEvery rule on FDS is written in blood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:07 AM |
| 62 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombI’m so glad my IUD is working so well for me. I plan on having one until I get sterilized or hit menopause | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:51 AM |
| 11 | He found me.Social media isn’t reality. The fact that he went out of his way to get your attention tells me that he’s not out there living his best life like his social media says. Block and delete because he is not worth any more of your head space or energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:42 PM |
| 45 | I have no wordsI literally cannot FATHOM going into my significant other’s suitcase and secretly unpacking something, anything. Tossing something in that you noticed they forgot? Fine, cool. But taking something OUT? That’s absolutely absurd and this man’s spine must be broken from all the mental gymnastics he’s trying to do. If literally ANYONE did this to me, I would immediately cease contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:17 AM |
| 18 | Men will do anything for sex (except actually put in effort): A refresher course on the DENNIS systemDennis is a straight up psychopath and serial killer, so if you hear a man talking about using the DENNIS system or you suspect he’s using it on you, you gotta get the fuck away from him ASAP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:00 AM |
| 40 | Question: have you experienced men saying, "If the genders were reversed..." and you were deadpan because it in fact occurs reversed and often?I like to cut em off and finish their sentence with what they should’ve said. For example, if there’s a post or whatever about a woman is hitting a man (for whatever reason) other men LOVE to say “oh well if it was a man hitting a woman-“ and I like to cut in with “nothing would happen to him and the woman would be left beaten, ashamed, and isolated? You’re right, domestic violence against women is an epidemic responsible for millions of injuries and deaths. A majority of perpetrators get away w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:56 PM |
| 5 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.Oh my god, that is so fucking disgusting, absolutely unprofessional, and a million percent inappropriate. If you have it in writing, consider reporting him to HR/ the head of your department/ the title 9 group of your university. I’m so sorry. If he’s said this to you, he’s probably said it to other young women. He clearly has NO business being in a position of power. Once again, I’m so sorry this has happened to you. We all hope that maybe, just MAYBE, we’re safe from sexualization in professio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 02:32 AM |
| 67 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfThe LVM in your life shit talk him because he’s raising the bar and they don’t like that. The HVM will appreciate him and be happy that you found someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Side note- all these LVM wanna talk about how they’re “strong” and will “protect their woman” but they also think it’s simp-y for a man to keep his partner safe by driving her when she’s dressed up and doesn’t want to take public transportation. It’s almost like they only want to “protect women”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:36 PM |
| 19 | Religion is by men, for menMost mainstream religion is a bunch of out of touch men trying to tell me how to live my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:49 AM |
| 345 | “Never tell men about your trauma”Every rule on FDS is written in blood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:31 AM |
| 19 | I think being intimidating is a good thing.Hell yeah I’m intimidating. We’re looking for men, not little babies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:36 AM |
| 15 | Did you guys see the house wife unpopular opinion post on front page?They don’t want a woman who would be happy staying home, they want to force a woman to do it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 07:24 AM |
| 34 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?I don’t really have an answer but one time I couldn’t stop myself from laughing at this guy’s weird lion face tattoo on his titty and he got like suuuuper offended | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:12 AM |
| 75 | When negging is made mainstream!Yeah, the jokes on them! I got terrible hearing and don’t even respond to my actual name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 131 | Don't stay for a guy that claims they don't know what they wantExactly! You really wanna be with a man who doesn’t know what he wants when it’s right in front of his face? Intelligence is a HV requirement | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:03 AM |
| 18 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?If they need to feel needed, they can buy a plant or adopt a pet. Women and children don’t exist so that men can feel needed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 03:24 PM |
| 8 | Listen to your guts, ladiesThe same thing happened to me. Growing up, I always knew men ain’t shit and I vocalized it at every chance. But in college I met more men and thought “hmm okay maybe some of them are okay and it was just my hometown where they all suck” and then I got attacked and was like “okay, right, so it’s not worth giving any of them the benefit of the doubt, cool, good to know” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 07:46 PM |
| 23 | Listen to your guts, ladiesYeah turns out some people are hideous on the inside AND outside | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 10:41 PM |
| 353 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"How many “geriatric pregnancies” are the result of old men’s elderly sperm and not “””women of advanced age”” (aka over 35)? Me thinks a lot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:12 PM |
| 65 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.The only way to win their game is to not play | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:31 AM |
| 10 | Thank you FDS!!Yeah when I realized this sub was down, I was like “well, I guess I’ll have to keep all those thoughts to myself for the foreseeable future” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:20 AM |
| 15 | Dealing with embarrassment after dating poorlyCringing at your past behavior means you’ve learned and grown. No one can change the past, but you control your future. If you learn from your mistakes, then you’ve paid tuition for the school of life; if you don’t learn, then it’s just wasted time. YOU get to decide if you’re going to learn from this. I think you should try shifting your mindset. Every single shitty thing your LVX did to you gave you hands-on experience with a red flag and dealbreaker. You will NOT let that shit go again; as so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:48 AM |
| 25 | Globally, most cultures, books, movies, media, the internet etc portray attractive women or women in general as bitchy, manipulative etc. The whole mean girl trope is so false in reality. In fact in real it it men who are manipulative, liars backstabbing, bloodthirsty, murderous & many worse thingsEvery “bitch” I’ve met was like that due to years of abuse at the hands of various men (usually their father and/or boyfriend). Like they want to use and abuse us, but then they complain when we’re traumatized as a result and we react accordingly. Why don’t these guys just buy a pocket pussy? That’s all they want- something to fuck who won’t bother them the other 99.99% of the time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 12:25 AM |
| 104 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itThis kind of shit infuriates me. I woke up getting sexually assaulted once. I did NOT consent, it was NOT okay, and it was incredibly traumatic. Fuck this guy and fuck everyone who thinks this is okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:19 PM |
| 15 | Offline FDS StrategiesHonestly what helps me out the most is the fact that I’m pretty funny. I’ve spent my whole life roasting men and it’s been great practice; I’ve gotten super good at it. When I make a biting, astute observation about the audacity of men and the need for women to have higher standards that’s ALSO hilarious, then women are more receptive to the gospel and men have a harder time dominating me in conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:34 PM |
| 8 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneIf I was in your situation, I would just not seek medical attention, and I’m sure many women would do the same. It’s tragic that the egos and entitlement of some men could threaten the well being of women. Male gynecologists are more focused on the fact that they want to be in that field, and ignore the fact that most women do NOT want them there. I’m sure many have good intentions, but it’s pretty stupid of them to think we’re better off for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:55 PM |
| 25 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneI’m not surprised in the slightest. I think most women get into therapy to help people; I think a lot of men do it because they think they’re so smart that they can mansplain everyone and anyone’s problems away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:29 PM |
| 38 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneHonestly I feel the same way about male therapists as I do make gynecologists- I just simply would not feel comfortable being treated by either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 03:51 PM |
| 130 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneNo matter how good their intentions are, male therapists just don’t get it. In therapy you need support and understanding, not to have to constantly justify yourself because some man doesn’t get it. Female therapists aren’t always great either, but at least there’s a chance they understand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 03:39 PM |
| 13 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksOnce you’ve determined that a man is toxic, low value, and not up to your standards, then nothing they say has any bearing on your life. They have nothing worthy of note to say to you. If it’s over and he keeps contacting you, then block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:36 AM |
| 9 | My ex accused me of stalking & harassmentI’m sorry you’re going through this. He’s facing criminal charges (for actions HE committed, not you) but it sounds like he’s suing you in civil court. This is a scare tactic to try and avoid responsibility for his violence. Don’t let him get away with it again. Maybe you could counter sue him for emotional and financial damages? Because he’s trying to weaponize the court system (which most judges do not appreciate). He had no right to put his hands on you in anger. He is a violent narcissistic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:26 AM |
| 8 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherThe men like that, women are just props to be used to further their own agenda | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:36 AM |
| 101 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherI know I sure hate it when my ego kills my mom and makes me look dumb! It’s the worst! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:13 PM |
| 32 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?One think about OLD that made me laugh was how quickly men can ruin things for themselves. “Oh, this one is cute, I’ll swipe right and if we vibe I’ll definitely go on a date with him!” Then their first message is cringe, perverse, or just offensive and just like that, it’s over before it even began. Men who haven’t spoken yet have the highest potential. The problem is that men loooooove to talk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:47 PM |
| 3 | About to reject my first man ever, in my late twenties, and needing support!Each time you tell a man no, you become more powerful. You don’t owe anyone your time, attention, or energy. You’ve seen enough and you’re not interested, end of story, full stop, bye bye. Plus, cats enforce their boundaries with swift and punishing violence and we still love them dearly. The only people who hate cats just hate that they can’t do whatever they want to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:02 AM |
| 12 | It’s a no from me.Not even that, but “a relationship goals” like the only standard is having a relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:27 AM |
| 12 | Personal achievementOof that last paragraph is just 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:51 PM |
| 29 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.I read on this sub once. “if they didn’t want us to catch on, they shouldn’t have made it a pattern” and it speaks to my soul | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else having trouble making new friends after FDS?I try my best to uplift my sisters and preach the FDS gospel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:05 AM |
| 60 | Open communication doesn't seem to be a thing anymoreMen like that want girlfriend benefits in bed without the commitment or work. Don’t give him wife benefits if you aren’t married and don’t give him girlfriend benefits if you aren’t dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:08 AM |
| 65 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsI simply would never feel comfortable with a male gyno | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:08 PM |
| 15 | Cringeworthy :/Yeah like on one hand I get frustrated by women who perpetuate this type of sexualized abuse, but I mostly just feel really sad for them because this is probably their reaction to unwanted, inappropriate, aggressive sexual attention from men their entire lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:15 AM |
| 102 | Women being more likely to be killed by a romantic partner or a family member than anyone else was one the worst facts I found out. Nothing is more heartbreaking than knowing you’re more at danger in your home than outsideThat’s a really interesting perspective and I agree. There is a cultural reckoning of women refusing to put up with abusive men and men are not happy about it (which says a lot more about them then us) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:16 PM |
| 35 | Make sure he’s complete because if you build a man, they will leave.Just another item to add to the list of things men will do before going to therapy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:36 AM |
| 26 | Defending yourself against men who want you to be a pickmeI’m related to men like this. Honestly I just ignore it and pretend that they never said anything. Just continue talking about something else. Refuse to engage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?I know, but even 10% is more than any other female-specific scholarship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?Pageants are the largest providers of college scholarships to women in the US… and it’s entirely based off of appearance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 15 | Keep your professional reputation inviolate. Do NOT pursue workplace romances.Don’t shit where you eat. It’s a simple principle and the best policy. If you do breakup, you want the process to be clean (source: my best breakup prior to moving far away, my worst was with someone in the same dorm. Trust me, not worth the convenience) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:15 AM |
| 46 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣I listened to a podcast where the guest was a relationship therapist and neurobiologist. He said he’s never once see a relationship last after opening it up to more parties, but it inevitably threatens the primary relationship and ends in failure every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:42 PM |
| 22 | Do I just have to be a bitch, then?I like to avoid the issue by wearing reflective sunglasses and hats | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 11:21 PM |
| 22 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.Ever since I stopped shaving my pubes, I’ve had so much less irritation, infection, and odor that I can’t believe I was shaving in the first place. I trim it up occasionally but pubic hair serves a purpose and helps keep your vagina safe and in a happy homeostasis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 08:06 PM |
| 140 | Men want to believe porn is empowering to women so they can to consume it without guiltThat’s my biggest motto when discussing this topic. It etched itself into my brain when I first read it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:44 PM |
| 83 | Men want to believe porn is empowering to women so they can to consume it without guiltI think that’s definitely the case for some men, but I think some well intentioned men WANT to believe it’s not as evil as it is because it’s easier | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 5 | Men want to believe porn is empowering to women so they can to consume it without guiltGood bot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:33 PM |
| 28 | FDS Going Private For Monthly Cleanup - Sept 1st and 2ndThe mods on this sub are amazing! Take all the time you queens need to keep this place running! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:51 PM |
| 7 | This is a silly question but I don’t know where else to ask, pls help 😬Girl, don’t put up with this. Find someone better. You’re driving yourself crazy and it’s simply not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:19 PM |
| 130 | No. No thank you. Please don't. Don't give stalkers more toolsA lot MORE women would die. If I wanted creeps to know where I lived, I’d post it on Reddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:19 PM |
| 29 | This is really sad and honestly terrifyingMore like a twig | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:33 PM |
| 37 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.No man is automatically high value, especially not the insanely successful and famous ones. Honestly stanning any man is just too risky. I only stan my IRL gal pals and Ruth Bader Ginsberg. Famous people fucking their fans is so wildly problematic. The power differential is so wide that there’s no way to guarantee complete, 100% enthusiastic consent. It’s just gross and in my opinion is super low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingDo you think I should delete it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Welcome to FDS!Ok :) thanks for getting back to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:28 PM |
| 4 | Welcome to FDS!Hi, could I get an updated flair to FDS apprentice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:40 PM |
| 121 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingWow, what a shocking yet not surprising statement | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 99 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingOh dear lord. I’m sorry you had to deal with that obnoxious scrote. One time I saw a guy on tinder and his first pic was holding one a sign that said “I’m a feminist because no one deserves to be raped.” I almost broke my thumb swiping left on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 140 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingUgh this is one of my biggest pet peeves. I went to a women’s club in college and of course the entire meeting was taken over by the two male assholes who couldn’t stfu about how supportive they are. That was my first and last meeting Edit: Holy shit I forgot the best part! One of them was RUNNING FOR AN OFFICER POSITION!!! Of a women’s club that focused on women not being represented in positions of power! The audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:05 PM |
| 46 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI completely agree. Instead of improving in other aspects of their lives, scrotes think they can just say “I’m a feminist” and suddenly we’ll be falling at their feet. Do they not realize that thinking women should have equal rights is the BARE MINIMUM requirement for most women?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 52 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI literally almost added that to my comment when I wrote it. Great minds think alike!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:47 PM |
| 40 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!I just wanna say thank you to the HVM captain who knew the only way to protect women and children was to hold a gun on all the men on board | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 177 | It was too good to be true.“We have so many diverse creators: skinny women with big tits, chubby women with big tits, and, uhhh…” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 58 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothing100%. Talk is cheap, actions are everything. To quote all of my writing teachers in the past, “show, don’t tell” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 99 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingExactly! If they truly cared about women, they’d get the fuck out of our way. We aren’t the ones who need educating. Remember lurkers, a man who is a true ally to women call out their male friends’ shitty behavior. If you don’t call out toxic masculinity and misogyny when you see it, you are just as complicit in oppressing us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:52 PM |
| 103 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI’ve added a disclaimer. Thanks for letting me know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:50 PM |
| 189 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingDISCLAIMER: the author of this comic Stone Toss is a Nazi piece of shit and I do not stand by him at all! However, I still think he hit the nail on the head with this one comic, even if his intentions were to shame liberal men instead of warning women. Edit: Mods, can you pin this comment to the top? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:48 PM |
| 238 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingYeah the whole “male feminist” schickt def became more popular after the 2016 election. Male lurkers- if you wanna be a true feminist ally, then mansplain feminism to your sexist guy friends and family members. There is exactly a 0% chance that your opinion will enlighten any woman on the female experience. Just shut up and listen for once! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:34 PM |
| 188 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI’ve been saying this for years. When a man calls himself a feminist (instead of simply being an ally to women) he is (1) making it all about him and (2) pushing his own shitty narrative of what he wants “empowered women” to look and act like | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 39 | Are progressive/liberal/well-read men any better than others?Exactly! My HVM is liberal and supports women and minorities, but he didn’t go around announcing it. His other actions and behaviors showed me who he was, which is an empathetic and caring person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 32 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!We can make one the capital and the other the bustling metropolitan city | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:07 AM |
| 4 | “Promising Young Woman”I 100% agree with the sentiment, but i think the ending was supposed to be bittersweet because no woman ever truly gets total justice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:04 AM |
| 266 | Are progressive/liberal/well-read men any better than others?Any man who makes it part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:44 AM |
| 7 | Texas has an anonymous tip line for reporting abortions.I’ve never wanted to know how to code more | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:40 AM |
| 66 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!We will call it Ginsbergia and it’ll be awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:50 AM |
| 10 | Why do men love using this excuse when they f*** up?The highway to hell is paved with good intentions. And yeah, I fucking HOPE that wasn’t what you were trying to do. Not wanting to hurt someone is like the absolute bare minimum and it doesn’t make things better to hear that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 20 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itI’m ND and it’s frustrating that boys were “allowed” to be rude and obnoxious, but I just HAD to “act like a lady.” If anything, this extra pressure to perform appropriately in public delayed my diagnosis by years because I was too “smart” and “well-behaved” to have ADHD. This of course ignored the extreme stress and inner turmoil I felt for years while putting on a polite, brave face. Overall it feels like boys were told that it’s okay to act ND whereas girls were shamed into hiding their sympt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 35 | Would you elope with a man who is involved in an active investigation regarding sex trafficking minors?🤒It’s pure exhaustion from carrying around men’s dead weight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:40 AM |
| 28 | Well that was bound to happen🙄Porn and sex trafficking go hand-in-hand. How could you enjoy pornography with that knowledge? (Spoiler alert: It’s because of male depravity) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:16 AM |
| 118 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.A man’s reaction to condoms is a great vetting strat. If he gets pissy about wearing a condom, he’s not worth your time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 16 | The "I have a boyfriend" lie and my personal issue with itI feel the same way. I’ve only used the “I have a boyfriend” card when I’ve gotten super bad vibes and felt like I was in danger. Otherwise I make it a point to just say “no” and ignore them. They want a reaction so the best thing to do is not react at all. Why can’t scrotes wrap their heads around the fact that being alone is infinitely better than being with a LVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:54 AM |
| 12 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Do you live in a big city or in a more rural area? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:47 AM |
| 236 | What’s your best FDS quote?“Men don’t wash their ass” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:43 AM |
| 28 | Sisterhood is resistance!!Isolation is the first tool of an abuser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:43 AM |
| 3 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Yeah I mean FDS in and of itself is a strategic vetting technique. I love this sub and my fellow queens <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 14 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.The only men I HATE are misogynists, rapists, and abusers. Okay and mansplainers but still, if a man takes offense to that, it says a lot about him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 18 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I mean, if they’re going to act like children, we’ll treat them like children | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:13 PM |
| 36 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I think low value men know this and that’s why they’re obsessed with convincing us that we should just settle for one of them instead of thriving in every aspect of our lives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:28 PM |
| 55 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Nothing can change the past, but we control our present and our future. If you learn from a bad experience, then you’re paying tuition in the school of life. If you don’t learn, you just had a bad experience. Don’t get too bogged down by regret. It was a learning experience and you’re wiser and stronger as a result <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:25 PM |
| 36 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I agree. It’s better to be alone than with a LVM. It was only after I became fully content with myself and my life that I found the right guy. It was never my main priority, but I’m very happy that he enriches my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 36 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.When we ignore a red flag, we also increase that man’s confidence to mistreat us. A lot of LVM will “test” a woman by being a little shitty and seeing if she puts up with it. I may have been a straight A student, but that’s one test I’m happy to fail! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:14 PM |
| 35 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Cringing at your past self means you’re learning and growing! Also “Mexico isn’t that far why are you so mad?” That’s… wow. Yeah that’s some low value logic right there. You can and will do better!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:12 PM |
| 22 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Congrats on learning and growing as a person! Every day is an opportunity to be a little better and wiser than yesterday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:08 PM |
| 24 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Exactly! What happened to stamp collecting? Let’s go back to that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 15 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Way to go, sister! Good luck and stay safe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 25 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.We’re conditioned to accept less than we deserve. We’re conditioned to believe that we need a man (any man) to be complete. There’s no shame in falling into that trap, as long as you know better now. Therapy really helped me analyze my non-productive dating techniques and discover better ways to accomplish my goals. It’s a great tool and I wish you the best of luck!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:06 PM |
| 87 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.You don’t owe anybody anything, let alone your most valuable resource: time. I used to feel the need to explain myself, but I’ve found that saying “I’m just not interested” is more than enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 77 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I don’t even believe in yellow flags. They’re either subtle red flags or simple misunderstandings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 36 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I personally already have my HVM; I just like sharing my dating strategies I used to weed out the rest and find him. This is female DATING strategy, so I believe the goal (according to a mod, IIRC) is to find your HVM. However, that should never be your life’s mission or even your priority. I’ve always put education and work above dating, and I’ve also found that when you are happy with your life, you tend to attract more high value people. Dating can be grueling and it’s more than okay to take … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:59 PM |
| 50 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Being high value means surrounding yourself with high value people. Despite what we are conditioned to believe, we don’t owe anybody anything. My life improved 100-fold after I stopped giving my friendship to people who weren’t interested in returning the favor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 157 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I LOVE this comparison because I also fucking hate roaches hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:49 PM |
| 181 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I used to feel obligated to explain myself, but I realized that the best thing to do is say, “I’m not interested, have a nice day” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:48 PM |
| 72 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Exactly! I’ve dated HVM that just weren’t the one for me. I’m glad we decided to end it when we realized it wasn’t going to work for either of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 36 | Gentle men are so attractiveI’m glad you dumped that loser and found yourself a better man! Aren’t we all just cat moms looking for the right cat dad? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:15 PM |
| 70 | Gentle men are so attractivePeople in relationships are supposed to take care of each other and dote on each other. I’m a kind and sensitive person. Why on earth would i want an emotionally-constipated toxic-masculinity-fueled man-child who can’t care for himself let alone another living thing? Emotional intelligence is an invaluable skill that society tells men they shouldn’t bother developing because that’s “for girls.” There’s nothing sexier than a man who is warm, empathetic, in touch with his feelings, not afraid to e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:13 PM |
| 19 | (UK) NVM throws acid in the face of a woman. These past weeks have just been filled with gender based violence. Stay safe ladies.I know an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, but maybe men would stop blinding us if they knew we’d get to blind them right back. Stay safe out there ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:37 PM |
| 120 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.Your last sentence cleared my skin and saved my crops | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 29 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.I know! My HVM checks every box and he couldn’t be more perfect for me. I’m so glad everyday that I never settled for less than what I deserve! FDS works ladies! Keep your heads (and your standards) held high! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:20 AM |
| 78 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.I agree. It’s truly sad how “radical” it is to have bare minimum standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:48 PM |
| 206 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.Me: I want a mutually respectful, loving relationship with a generous, kind, productive man. Scrotes: oH So yOU jUsT hATe MeN, hUH??!?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:18 PM |
| 16 | Breakfast first date?Brunch is delicious! But I also think a late lunch/ easily dinner on a weekday can be good. No secondary locations, no alcohol, and the sun is still out. Just focus on talking and vetting for an hour or two. And if that first date goes well, go to a nice restaurant at night that Friday or Saturday for a longer date. That’s what I did with my HVM and it worked really well; it was a new strategy that I would’ve def kept using if things hadn’t worked out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:42 AM |
| 83 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”My first rule for online dating is to never swipe right on someone who has a face you wouldn’t want to sit on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 19 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningYou’re looking for your life partner- it’s okay to move on if you’re not completely satisfied in any way. It helped me to more quickly move on when I realized that every minute I spend with a LVM who I know isn’t right for me, is another minute I’m not spending finding my HVM. I know dating men (especially OLD) feels like digging through a pile of shit, but you can find little gold nuggets of HVMs in that pile if you look long enough and improve your strategy to digging through the shit more eas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 50 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?Oh yeah, 100%! A lot of times it starts as “playing” around, which I do not fuck with at all. My “””friend””” who used to do that to me ended up trying to rape me so it’s definitely a HUGE RED FLAG 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 06:19 PM |
| 40 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?Pinning your arms to your sides and not letting you go immediately, and then laughing it off if you start to get angry or scared. It’s a way to remind you that they’re the strong one and that they’re in charge of what happens to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:53 PM |
| 85 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?Pinning your arms to your sides and not letting you go immediately, and then laughing it off if you start to get angry or scared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:53 PM |
| 175 | “So okay, I don’t want to be a traitor to my generation and all but…”You gotta get out of there, sister. He’s hitting the walls and floors because he wants to hit you. Please start making an exit plan because he is not the one for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 07:35 AM |
| 20 | And they wonder why we don’t even want to acknowledge them in public 🤦🏼♀️It’s literally easier to just ignore every man’s existence compared to trying to be platonically polite to each of them. I’m so tired. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 04:19 AM |
| 20 | I found dating to be really empowering, and I wish other women would experience it that way too.This sums up my feelings EXACTLY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 01:20 PM |
| 56 | HVM will respect your time; LVM have no worries making you wait around for them because they have no respect for you.When my HVM was running 1 minute late for our second date, he called me to let me know. It was a huge breath of fresh air and a big green flag. To this day he is consistently respectful of me and my time. I have been rudely stood up by a couple LVMs and it made me so angry, like how dare they assume my time is so worthless that it’s acceptable to them that I wait around for their sorry asses?! My biggest dating regret is giving a LVM another chance after standing me up. Guess what happened? He s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:26 AM |
| 57 | LVM has no emotion or respect.A shocking number of men have admitted to masturbating at work and it just boggles my mind. And they all say they do it in the bathroom- in THE MEN’S ROOM, arguably one of the most disgusting places on earth. Make depravity knows no bounds | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:07 AM |
| 2 | "Choke me like you hate me"I can’t even imagine how stupid and disconnected they are to think they can do that. Like why wouldn’t I assume I’m about to get raped and murdered? Shockingly, feeling scared for my life is kind of a huge turnoff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:43 AM |
| 2 | "Choke me like you hate me"There’s no such thing as safe choking! It is simply not worth the risk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:42 AM |
| 9 | I ignored FDS principles and it cost me 6 weeks of my lifeI’ve never regretted following my gut and dropping men at the first red flag. I’ve always regretted giving men second chances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:34 AM |
| 3 | What are ways that emotionally immature men are "too sensitive" that society ignores?And of course they always get hella offended and upset when you say, “hey, maybe you should get a real therapist bc it’s not my job to deal with your shit, but if you pay them then it is their job, and no one wants to deal with your shit for free” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:38 PM |
| 6 | The surprising reason so many young men are virginsI am so sorry you experienced that. I cannot even begin to imagine processing trauma like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:25 PM |
| 1 | I need support. I need to be reminded this is the right choice.A relationship with a true HVM will make your life better, easier, and more enriched. You deserve that. What you have now is not that. Also, violating sexual boundaries is a drop-dead dealbreaker. Love is respect and trust; by doing that, he disrespected you and now you (rightfully) cannot trust him. There’s nothing he can do to fix that. My HVM wouldn’t in a million years even consider trying anything sexually that we haven’t discussed at length and mutually agreed upon. If I say something is o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Azealia Banks continues to be the broken clock that is right twice a dayI mean logistically speaking it would take weeks to organize a 2 female threesome whereas you could probably plan and execute a 2 male threesome that day. So rationally we should assume that they mean the much more easily-obtainable situation that is geared towards you (you know, if men who said things like this could think more than half a step ahead). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:20 PM |
| 16 | I went on a walk today and a man spit in my faceWell he made the mistake of committing assault and leaving his DNA on you. Call the cops and report him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:12 PM |
| 35 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.I’ve learned over the years that there is not one single group of vulnerable women/people that men WONT take advantage of and rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:26 AM |
| 15 | Men love to remind women that they can physically dominate us because they are bigger and stronger than us. That's why I think women shouldn't be afraid of gaining muscle and having a little extra body fat, so we have more mass to throw around in self defence.My “friend” who ended up sexually assaulting me used to pin my arms and it’s a red flag 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 04:11 AM |
| 20 | Walked out of diner on first date yesterday!We love to see it ladies 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:55 PM |
| 69 | Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincessI worked at a care facility for people with debilitating physical conditions and injuries. 2/3rds of men there with a degenerative disease had wives who visited every day. Every woman there was single because their husbands left them after they started to go downhill. I literally never saw a single man visiting his wife or girlfriend who resided there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 08:17 PM |
| 14 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!We love to see it, ladies 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:30 PM |
| 4 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?My HVM hired a professional cleaning service before I moved in to his place | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 12:50 PM |
| 11 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.Even the best communicator can’t make some dipshit actually listen. Men’s inability to listen is more of a problem than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:56 AM |
| 37 | i felt this one deep within my soulDid we have the same shitty ex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 06:11 AM |
| 75 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.Hey, cmon, you were just a kid. You weren’t the one abusing her, you were a kid who was uncomfortable and didn’t understand the nuance of hypersexualized behavior in children. Maybe you could reach out to her on social media and send her a heartfelt apology for what she went through and how you and your friends reacted. If you think that would be appropriate, I’m sure she would appreciate the kind gesture and supportive words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:32 PM |
| 74 | “I love a woman with a sense of humour.” Translation: she must laugh at my shit jokes.Anything that isn’t directly written for men is automatically “not funny” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 02:52 AM |
| 93 | TeeheeH👏🏻V👏🏻M👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:33 AM |
| 36 | Patriarchy 🤮I feel like a lot of religion is just “listen to what these men say or go to hell” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 17 | I ignored all the red flags and let a POS dull my intuition to cheat, use and abuse me for 2 years. Never again.Once I started dropping guys the moment they waved the first red flag, I was able to weed out NVMs and LVMs quickly. Only HVM can go weeks or months without dropping major red flags. It’s been only green flags since I met my HVM and I never looked back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:31 PM |
| 4 | Being a pickmeisha won’t make men like youThe most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:41 AM |
| 28 | But reallyYou know he’s HVM when you add “except him <3” after “men are trash” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:05 AM |
| 6 | Let’s not let it happen again, sis!Omfg me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:04 AM |
| 14 | "You get one chance to act right, and that's being generous." Thank you FDSThat shit is infuriating, good for you! No HVM would think your time has so little value that it wouldn’t be impactful if you wasted a few hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 17 | The “not all men” guys are the worstI don’t think men can be feminists. They can be allies as best. Like, no man will ever enlighten on the realities of being a woman. Just stfu and listen you know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:06 PM |
| 39 | Used or new, we will run you overDon’t you hate it when men dump you because you don’t have 4 wheel drive? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 03:27 AM |
| 155 | Used or new, we will run you overClearly all the men must be fucking each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 03:25 AM |
| 2 | The 👏🏽 fucking 👏🏽 message 👏🏽One of the best things my mom ever did for me was taking no shit and marrying/having kids with a HVM, my dad. They have a loving relationship with good conflict resolution. I was not raised to accept abuse from anyone, especially men. It breaks my heart to see so many of my peers tolerate shitty behavior by L/NVMs. Your kids learn what you show them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 26 | Riddle me this.I agree, but would it be even more HVM to stop the snake instead of her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:52 AM |
| 48 | Dear Men: Your Opinion Holds No Value Here. Did We Fucking Stutter?I am in a very happy relationship with an extremely HVM, but I had to dig through a lot of LVM/NVMs first, which is why I subscribe and participate here. I love this sub because it’s the only place that is actively enforcing a safe space for women while also giving each other the tools and support we need to find what we deserve. News flash, y-chromies - in order for a space to be safe and comfortable for women, it must be free of men, and yes, that includes you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 02:53 AM |
| 1 | We honor our female ancestors by living a life they could have only ever dreamed of.I worked at a nursing home in college and so many of the older women were so excited for me because I was single and getting an education and I didn’t need a man to be successful. I do it for them ✊🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:33 PM |
| 2 | You never truly know a man until you tell him “no”I made it a point to say “no” on the first date to something to see their reaction. I’ve saved myself SO MUCH grief that way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:02 PM |
| 2 | You never truly know a man until you tell him “no”I mean isn’t ending a relationship the ultimate “no” to aggressive men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:59 PM |
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