I am so sick of self-proclaimed male “feminists” invading spaces in real life and online that are specifically for women. The presence of one man (no matter how much they believe they’re “one of the good ones!”) defeats the purpose (even if they stay silent). I think that’s why so many men get enraged by this sub; we make it clear that they are not wanted here and will not be tolerated here and they HATE that. Incidentally it’s one of the reasons I absolutely love this place! If you post anywhere else on Reddit (or online tbh) that even remotely criticizes men (or one man tbh), the topic will inevitably and rapidly be derailed by angry men telling me that “aCtUAlLy women are also the problem and here’s why you’re a bitch!”

I have left “women’s” clubs, groups, etc because I showed up with the expectation that it would be a women’s club but, alas, men had consistently invaded those spaces. One even tried to run for an officer position. All of them thought that being there meant they were suuuper fuckable (obviously they came across as incredible unfuckable, 0/10, and completely insufferable). Like, it’s not enough that they have to trespass, but they also expect to be rewarded for doing so! It’s condescending, infantilizing, and it irritates me to no end.

The essential appeal of safe spaces for women is that no men are there. We all have a lot to discuss regarding men and frankly, men 100% cannot participate if we’re going to get anything done. Men cannot handle what we have to say about their behavior and I can’t speak freely knowing there’s a chance some annoying and aggressive dude invades my space to mansplain women’s issues to me. Obviously that’s also by design, but I’m so sick of the arrogance, entitlement, and invasion. Leave us alone!

To any angry lurkers- every single man is a threat to women, yes, even you, so stay away from where you’re not wanted.