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I do want to have kids someday but I LOVE being a Cool Aunt ™️. I always strived to build a good relationship with my nieces and be a positive example in their lives. Now even my hometown friends say they want their daughters to be like me when they grow up. I didn't really sign up to be anyone's role model but you know what? There's enough bad examples out there already. If my life choices inspire girls to achieve more, so be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:41 AM
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Yall I remember making a post here on FDS about having a crush on this shy guy, deciding not to pursuit, and seeing him starting a relationship with another woman who went out of her way to get him. So, they eventually got married last October, and they're the most underwhelming, aromantic, newly wed couple I've seen in my life. Their lack of overall chemisty and synch, compared to common friends who got married around the same time, is so poignant it's kinda sad. For the record, I have no qualm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:47 PM
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"You" came to my mind right away as well. Maybe because I've been watching mostly Korean dramas, or because I watched the 3 seasons in a row, but the sex scenes was something I would endure more than anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 12:23 PM
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My real issue with most of geek guys and their passion for super hero movies, games etc is: 1) How it becomes their whole personality/identity. If you have other interests outside the super heroes' realm, you find their conversations very limited and boring. And even if you like those things, and try to strike up a conversation about that movie or comic book, you'll realize most of times they're not interested in such hero's values and character development but the escapism such universe provide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 10:23 PM
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It's great that your female co-workers not only supported your decision but also collectively let that guy screw himself over. If you did it alone he'd still get away with it for quite some time and maybe you'd been labeled as an unsupportive co-worker, but because it was a coordinated action, his laziness was impossible to ignore and action had to be taken. I loved that for you all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 09:53 PM
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The part when the scrote's parents side with the girlfriend is my favorite in all AITA's stories. His mom bonding with his girlfriend? Loving the tattoo and posting it on facebook? The guy finding out his parents are not as traditional as he thought? That should be on the wholesome memes sub. But no, he had to make it all about HIM and how his girlfriend did something "behind his back".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:26 PM
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Congrats, you are steps ahead of me. If I found FDS by that age, or anytime sooner, I would have saved myself for so much trouble and heartbreak. You're making a great investiment in yourself, keep up the good work. I do have hope all the young queens on this sub will have a better chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:54 PM
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this book contains two of the things I hate the most: men telling women how to date, and telling women how to carry an "interesting conversation". it's annoying how dating coaches pretend the average guy is a good conversationalist. any women who tried these texting prompts know how underwhelming and disappointing it is when you take your valued time to "create a connection" and the guy doesn't even bother to match your energy and effort. men don't start conversations to connect with women, they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:01 PM
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he wanted freedom for him, not for her. his whole plan was to open relationship, aka having sex with other women while keeping his gf around. his entitlement is sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:54 PM
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Great points! It reminded me on how stressed and overwhelmed I was in my past relationships, because that useless manchild would drop the gatekeeping part on my hands like a hot potato, so I didn't have enough headspace to evaluate the relationship because I was too busy in the management part. Between dodging his lovebombing antics and constant need for validation, then constantly having to control the course of the relationship, I was mentally and emotionally tired for those long six months. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:36 PM
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most dating advice for women is exactly that: men need to feel needed, coddled, to feel like a king, here are 18762827 steps on how to be a doormat and maybe he'll put a ring on your finger after stringing you along for 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 11:06 PM
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Whenever a guy says "I'm just trying to understand" "I'm just asking a simple question" "I was just joking", it's safe to read it as "I'm just trying to undermine your confidence and boundaries by putting you on defensive mode". These guys on apps rarely care about whatever opinios we have or what we want, so if they're hellbent on "trying to understand" why you think this or that, it's because you have standards that don't serve them. Like, you don't think a coffee date is an actual date? You d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:44 PM
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The thing is that even if she disclosed her income, he still makes twice as much money as her. How could they have a 50/50 budget when there's such an income gap in both scenarios?? It was only fair he had to pay for most of the expenses. Also, let's talk about the 22k he was so hungry for, shall we? Did anyone do the math? Because I did. And it helped me undestand the situation better. She saved up 22k in 3 years, so she saved about $7,333 per year (22k / 3), and about $611.11 per month (22k /3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:42 PM
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these are great doc/commentary videos on youtube about the male gaze and how we internalizing. these groups are pretty much like that, you can't voice your opinion without scrutinizing every word and your whole existence because some man might project whatever he wants on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:53 PM
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that guy who went on 63 dates in 4 months took these ads too seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:19 PM
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rumor has it Peter is still hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:21 PM
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is ethical porn when the actress pretends to like being degraded?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:20 PM
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good thing I quit OLD, imagine matching with a Linkedin Pro dude and having him lecture you NFT's, and he will suggest taking a walk as a date because he lost 50k due a bad investment on crypto last week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:19 PM
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younger women keep lying to themselves about what why men in the 30's pursue women who were teenagers 1-2 years prior. these men drop some stupid line like "you're more mature than women my age" and boom! these barely legal women get the male validation and female competition in one hit. but they're never treated as equals, because these men don't groom women to be their equals to being with, and whoever tells these girls otherwise doesn't have their best interest at heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:20 AM
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She didn't ruin her mom's life, she did NOTHING wrong. Assholes like the mom and the husband should be exposed and humiliated more often, but I understand the disgust, dispair and emotional pain is already a lot for the victim to process, so of course the public expositing has been doing a number on her and her children. She's so brave and wish her the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:51 PM
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I used to say I'm on a dating hiatus, but now I just say I quit modern dating for good. I've seen enough and heard enough and there's no reason for me to keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:09 PM
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That's the kind of relationship you expect from teenagers who are dating for the first time and are peniless so their idea of "date" is hanging on each other's houses. Seeing people in ther late 20's and early 30's doing this lazy dynamic is awful. Do they even like each other? Part of me wishes this girl found someone better, but they don't really sound that different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:44 AM
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It's the "Therapy has helping" for me. Should therapy be considered a false green flag now? It's harder to tell men go to therapy to get their shit together or lean some petty tricks to prey on women. Also are therapists aware that many of their clients are using therapy as a PUA mentorship session? Because the should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:23 PM
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at first I thought he was so hellbent about vaginal birth because for being one of those perverts who have fetish on watching women giving birth (isn't there a subreddit about it?), but that's way too disgusting so I'll take his bullshit as sheer ignorance and leave it as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:03 PM
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I was expecting him to mention cheating, porn, or open relationships. Hard to believe there's nothing else going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:34 PM
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Reading the thread I've noticed how a lot say they "were not ready to be man" or "didn't know how to be a man" at the time so they'd break up with their girlfriends or string them along for years until they eventually got tired of it. I've heard similar narratives from different men and I still think it's just that, a narrative. A narrative about how timing wasn't perfect, the stars weren't alligned, mercure retrograde was at it, is much more palatable than admiting they had one job and they ble…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:54 PM
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Not here to judge how people get emotionally invested while watching sports, but what is it that men turn into possessed beasts and feel entitled to beat people down and destroy things because their favorite team lost a match? I remember how at some point I'd avoid leaving my house on Sunday evenings because of the soccer hoolingans in the streets. These guys would never have the courage to defend and protect their families the same way they defend their team.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:23 PM
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that's the scammer accent. all non native English speaking scammers sound like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:23 PM
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Really though. Have you watched The Tinder Swindler? The guy is even that handsome, I found him really average-looking, but he's really groomed, trimmed, always dressed in fitting, expensive clothes and carries himself with the confidence and charm of a con-artist (oh wait, that's just what he is). Finantial scammers know how they outstand the rest just by dressing a nice button down and shaving their neckbeard, but those guys think using their worst low effort selfie on dating apps will have th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:08 PM
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God he coul leave the sugery room with Michael B Jordan's lips and still get zero dates. Not even those crazy plastic surgery reality shows in Asia can fix such petty behavior and low life energy. Let's alternate from "you're not ugly, just broke" to "you're not ugly, just unsufferable"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:01 PM
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It'd make sense if they fluffed their finantial situation in order to somehow show they're well off, like "look at me, I have money, I'm not like those damn gold diggers, he's borrowing money from ME". Also rich people hardly would date down their finantial bracket and lifestyle. Wasn't it what Pernilla was looking for at the first place, by the way? Someone with a similar lifestyle to hers? But then she found ok to get emotionally attatched to a much richer person with the "just friends" excuse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:40 PM
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what got me shocked on the spot was how easily these women said yes to flying off the country with guy they met. sending their passport info. yeah loosing all that money could ruin someone's life, but you know what else could do? human/sex trafficking. and apparently none of them thought about it. maybe it was easy to think about it being a WOC from a developing country, but just as he didn't seem to be a scammer at first, he could have been a human trafficked as well. either way, taking these w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:55 AM
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I don't really think sexism has too much to do with her "scandal". K-netizens raise their pichforks at anyone for the most stupid reasons. They're professional cyberbullies. I haven't seen people outside South Korea berating her for wearing knock-offs, even though there is a lot of discussion about influencers and how they sell a lifestyle they can't actually afford. Or peole totally relating to her, like myself, as I had unapologetically bought fake LV purses in the past. Then again, I'm very c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:16 PM
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you can tell he has planned all this bullshit: taking her to a fast food restaurant, playing with his phone the whole date, insulting whatever gig she'd have going on. and probably it's same estrategy his brother and hers apply, that's why all of them got so infuriated when it backfired. none of them expected her to be so confident in her own skin. some TRP warn their disciples these techniques don't work with women who have high self esteem but these scrotes don't listen. good for us, the more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:14 AM
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This is a classical example of why FDS warns us about guys who go to terapy. At the end it's all about weaponizing real struggles and hijacking psychology jargon in order to manipulate their partners. What caught my attention was the moment you went you had a breakdown and immediately he held you guilty for making him fim worse, and then you had to comfort him instead. This is one of the manipulative tactics I hate the most, because it's as evil as it is effective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:25 PM
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it looks like it's no big deal but see, since my dad got covid last year, all his 60 years of unhealthy habits and never taking care of himself eventually got to him and now he has diabetes, hernia, and will go under surgery because the diabetes is affecting his vision. and guess who manages all the medication and schedules all the appointments? yes, my mom. last november she came to visit me and expected to stay here for a month, but my dad asked her to go back because she had to buy his medica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:22 AM
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now where are the sex the dolls they've been promising to replace us when we need them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:58 PM
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every woman could use a friend like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 01:05 AM
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it's about time for women to understand that a guy who fits in the "unemployed, useless, games all night and sleeps all day" trope is a waste of time, energy and effort. it's like reading about the same scrote over and over again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:07 PM
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well, who was the one living her best life, taking care of herself, working two jobs, making the most of 20's, had both the looks and the wits, and wanted a relationship because she was in love and it just felt right? and who was the emotionally damaged, with mommy issues, daddy issues, afraid of making long term plans, had the smallest dick I'd seen, the typical "forever potential", and wanted a relationship so he could flaunt his beautiful, successful girlfriend around until he started resenti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:10 AM
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this "man of the house" thing is so stupid, it annoys me so much in family gatherings when all the women (who had been cooking all the day while the "kings" watched soccer on tv) line up to fill the men's plates as if they were uncapable of getting their own food. it would be fine with roles switched espontaneously from time to time, but men don't take as an act of kindness, but something they're entitled to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:56 AM
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I didn't know much about the whole hailey-justin-selena, I knew jelena had a pretty toxic relationship but I had no idea justin used hailey and treated hef lfor years and still...she married him? also the kendall is the worst friend a woman could have. she knew justin is a dirtbag but was determined to set him up with hailey at all costs. if she was that invested on her friend's happiness, she'd let justin and selena alone and set hailey with a decent guy - but then again, the kardashian-jenner …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:55 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:25 AM
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happy birthday! I'm turning 30 in a few weeks, so looking back 10 years ago, this is what I'd do differently? I wouldn't have been so anxious about checking all the boxes of what I thought was my ideal future. because once I got exactly where I wanted, it sucked and I decided to do something else. I would've spent more time with my friends, there wasnt't so much trouble arranging a date that suited everyone's schedule. I wouldn't have been the Cool Girl™. I wouldn't ignored men just how I ignore…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:00 PM
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is she really sapiossexual when half of the post consists on her rambling on how "he looks like a Greek God"? is he really a "good father" when he expects her wife to work full time, take care of 3 toddlers and cater to his needs, while his overall life seems completely unaffected?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:18 PM
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I'm sorry for what happened to you and it hurts to know how many of us can somehow relate to your story, including myself. Just wanna say that talking about trauma is a underestimated but really effective healing tool. You might think you don't make sense but you don't have to anyway. You're pouring your heart out, and it takes a lot of courage to be this vulnerable. I don't really have the nerve to share my SA story with anyone else than my mom and my therapist, at least not now. Someday, maybe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:54 PM
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I know him from the series "Kurt Seyit and Sura"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:04 PM
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not to be forgotten "dIVOrCe rApe" "alimony destroys men's lives" "I'm just trying to understand [whatever the reason you're respecting your own boundaires and not doing what benefits me]"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:54 PM
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it's also incredible how even if the guy claims not to fit in said generalization, he will go above and beyond to fight against it and you'll almost see hear his teeth clenching from other side of the screen while he angrily type how "not all men are like that" or "what about women????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:38 AM
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this is what comes to my mind when people tell me I'll never find a man who's "ready" and that I'll have to "build him up". yeah so he'll dump me once I outilve my usefulness?! how about no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:02 PM
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bro I'm just running errands and grocery shopping, I'm not doing a catwalk through downtown so you can practice your Redpill-PUA shit on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:25 AM
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when some rich scrote burns their money on expensive shit it's because "they has too much money and he has to find ways to spend it", but if a working class woman wants to splurge her hard-earned money on a manicure she's "high-mantainance"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:12 AM
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people get so worked up when a woman realizes she doesn't have to keep her life and dreams on hold because she's single and childless - even if she does plan on having a family someday. I've read a comment about this standard shaming coming from a place of jealously, and I agree. don't ever listen to people who wants you to be fine, but never better than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:07 AM
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basically, you can't make something "empowering" at your own accord when it's dehumanizing at its core, and men still benefit from it anyway. it might give you the illusion you have some control in the situation, as in "make them laugh with me, not at me", but even if you force yourself to laugh with them, they're still laughing at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:49 PM
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what's even better: not only it's female only but also FEMALE BENEFIT only! so many times I'd on female online forums full of pickmeishas, cool girls, hypcrite lib-fems who'd always complain on the LV men in their lives but would scorn anyone who'd say "you know this guy is an asshole, why don't you just leave him?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:32 PM
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incels are men who are stuck at a time women would marry out of survival. they still believe 'women aren't as visual' as men, that we are terrified of being single, that they're entitled to sex as if it's a human right, that we're supposed to look past their physical flaws and see their personality - but where is it, Kyle? I can't find it through all these layers of laziness, sense of grandeur and porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:21 AM
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I was talking to this guy on a dating app, and once we started texting via whatsapp, he'd send me the same cute message every morning for like a week, until he realized it didn't work with me. seriously the bar is on the floor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:01 AM
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I'd also add pet names, like 'babe' or 'sweetie'. Indian men online are notorious for calling women 'darling' or 'sweetheart' right off the bat. I used to go full heart-eyes when guys I just met would call me 'princess' 'babe' or 'my angel'. Now it sounds like a cringeworthy way to fake some level of bond and intimacy there is not even there. Whenever guys ask me "may I call you [insert any stupid pet name here] from now on?" I just tell them to call me by my first name or my nickname.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:56 PM
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well let's suppose I've finally found someone in a OLD app I can have an actual conversation with. these would be some of my questions: - how covid affected his profession life and if he applied for the government's financial aid. if one moment he brags about how he made lots of money (and thus invalidating the pandemic side effects) but then tells me he applied to receive money he didn't need, it tells a lot about his character. - how he carried himself during the pandemic. did he do the bare m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:40 PM
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"looking for open-minded women who aren't afraid of new experiences" = porn-sick pervert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:23 PM
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I tend to get in a rut with my self-care routine a lot, but these are some of the things that get me going: 1 . guided meditation: I've finally found a meditation podcast on spotify that actually gets me on the zone, never noticed how breathing the right way makes wonders for my mood. also I feel so proud of myself after doing it, it motivates me to keep going. neck self-massage and jaw relaxing: having a desk job makes me prone to lots of muscle tension and jaw clenching, so I take a break ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:54 AM
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my cat is more emotionally mature than any of my exes, and I scoop its poop. becoming a cat lady sounds like a blast, to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:14 AM
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am I too late? I happen to have a step-by-step guide I wrote for myself when I wanted to change jobs. let me know if you're still interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:54 PM
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I'm so glad you just walked away and never replied to him, what a mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:03 AM
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I loved reading every part of it. we're so used to subpar behavior from men, being able to read such testimonial of a healthy relationship dynamic is a breath of fresh air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:00 AM
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oh the classic struggle of showing the guy's picture to your girl friends and repeating "I swear he's cute irl, he just sucks at taking good selfies" into oblivion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:59 PM
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can't believe you guys forgot that guy who traveled abroad once and all his pictures are from said place, and he wants to show this "world citizen" energy when you know in your gut his eurotrip was for sex only. (sadly not all fuckboys have a Midsommar experience) selfie with middlefingers up -- just WHY??? as for weird faces...last time I'd be on POF I'd take screenshots every weird profile pic I could find, like this guy who placed his earphone wires under his nostrils like he was Hazel Graze …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:56 PM
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that's a lesson I took way too long to learn. I'd lower my frequency, expectations and boundaries in hopes they'd feel motivated to level up and meet me halfway. None of them ever did. All the settling we force ourselves to accept in order to accomodate a man's ego and lack of overall ambition in life is a waste of time and, dare I say, a hazard to our well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:26 AM
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I had been to Curves for one year and it was great as it was my first time ever going to a gym. It had a really nice vibe, the instructors were very supportive. Sadly I had to stop going when my college schedule changed and started working as an intern. Also once the finantial crisis got to everyone and I wouldn't be able to keep paying for it anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:57 PM
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they talk about men being more likely to be homeless/unemployed/suicidal/mudered and call it "women privilege". tell me how??? do they really think there is an evil upper hand stopping men from graduating at college, or starting a business, or just making an appointment with the doctor?! are they just going to ignore that decades of teaching men to look down on emotional inteligence and aggreableness are finally getting to them?? when I see my work field being taken over by women, from the unive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 10:32 AM
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I remember wanting to marry my NVM first boyfriend and pass those damaged genes forwards lol that guy is cursed to be a waste of space, I dodged more bullets than Keanu Reeves in that Matrix scene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:52 PM
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eh sorry christian, i don't date guys who have bigger boobs than mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:25 PM
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I'm proud of how much I've been growing at my new job. I was so worried at the beginning of pandemic, but it was actually was my chance to prove my worth and I did it! The pressure has never been higher but it motivates me to work harder and smarter. I plan on working my way to a pay rise once things get more stable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:12 PM
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what's the point of the sub if the only answer allowed is "try to communicate" and people are downvoted when telling the OP to check out of a relationship that's been doing a number on their wellbeing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:29 AM
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as a recovering Cool Girl, I absolutely agree. once you set on own bar on low, it always manages to go futher down the rock bottom. first you're chill with going to burger king as a date, then one day you're giving blowjobs that are never reciprocated because you think it's empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:28 PM
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didn't expect to feel called out this early in the morning , i'm-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:52 AM
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a while ago someone here posted a great post on how straight men being sexually attracted to women but not liking us as individual people at the same time. it's something that I always sensed in my relationships but I never put in these words, I used to say "he loves being a relationship with me but doesn't really care about me as a person". how can you tell mere attraction and actually liking you apart? a guy who's just attracted to you will say things like "I like you because you make me feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:44 AM
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that line SENT ME!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:11 PM
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I'm past the point of thinking these man don't understand what FDS is. This guy literally said "it teaches woman to have their own standards" as bad advice, so by saying "FDS doesn't work" he means "FDS makes more difficult to low-effort men like me to find a good woman willing to give up on their minimum expectations just to prove she is low-mantainance". These man KNOW tables are slowly turning. They know more and more women are getting fed up with their character flaws and terrible behavior. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:58 AM
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I was (tbh still am) worried about any of my exes contacting me due quarantine but happily none of them has gathered enough audacity for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:52 AM
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I could never take advice from my mom because as much as she managed to dodge some real dangerous bullets in the past, she ended up marrying a guy who doesn't even love her anyway. She's a people pleaser through and through. I grew up watching my mom giving my father everything and receiving nothing in return. Except for teaching me how to spot a pedophile or a teen predator, she'd never encouraged me to keep or even set personal boundaries. She'd always put the feelings of others before mine, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:01 AM
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made me realize I was not batshit crazy for being done with the counter effective advice in the dating scene and deciding to put the bar back high where it belongs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:50 PM
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they don't care about you, that's why. I had this bf who was weirdly obsessed with weddings and tried to future fake me by constantly talking about wedding venues he'd see on pinterest, to the point I'd get annoyed and snap at him and obviously I'd always be the bad guy in that context. after we eventually broke up, I realized he NEVER asked about what I wanted my wedding dress to be like, or the song I'd like to walk down the isle to, none of that. it would always about what HE wanted, and when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:06 AM
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so this is what "sex positive" came down to: you must have sex with anything that moves or else you're a self supressed prude?! we all know who benefits from this agenda. these kind of pickmes are the worst. this woman wants to make sure we keep our standards as low her self-awareness and risk our own safety so she won't feel guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:47 AM
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if those ingle moms wanted another kid, they'd get on the adoption waiting list, not tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:59 PM
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and I've seen these same women actually reverse their age once they divorce their husbands???!!! like they manage to look prettier and younger than when they were. this shit is real you guys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:30 PM
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I just call them "emotional vampire", because they suck the life out of you and when you ask for some empathy they blow out a thousand bats and disappear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 02:37 PM
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this is the kind of alignment I'm looking for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:36 PM
10

I always loved this song and I wish I had taken its lyrics seriously earlier. btw the whole album GOLD, filled with such queen energy and totally unapologetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:11 AM
3

in my country the wife keeps her maiden last name and adds her husband's, their children get both last names as well (we got it from Portuguese colonization, except we no longer pile the names up as generations go). now it's getting usual for the wife to switch it up and put her husband's last name before hers it this combination sounds better, or if she pleases. I might as well do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:18 PM
3

is she dating my ex? he'd get a hold of me all the time, he's even get mad of me for claiming some personal space and moving to sit on another couch. so yeah it's a puppy man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:29 AM
41

isn't he the old man who restored Woody in Toy Story 2? that ol' champ is a catch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:35 PM
15

Christian single men make me consider becoming a nun at least twice a day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:33 PM
9

In my experience, men did appreciate my accomplishments and all, but just because they liked to tell their friends and family they had a graduated, independent woman as a girlfriend. I remember this one ex spilling my whole resume to his friend, to the point I joked on waiting for his friend's feedback on the interview. Awkward. There was a point I started to resent my own success because guy would tell me about their dead-end/entry-level jobs they were stuck at and I'd try to be as chill as pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:31 PM
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I miss times when nerds were actual intelligent guys, who wouldnt be coolest kids but could engage in nice conversations when given a chance. now any mentally handicapped moron calls himself a nerd just because he knows the chronological order of the Star Was movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:04 PM
289

so tired of pickmeishas stuffing their chests and proudly saying they watch porn with their men. how is it something to brag about? your man needs to watch a woman being degraded so he can get weenie ready and you call that "spicing things up"????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:56 PM
8

I bet she used to be the kind of "cool girl" that would go on the cheapest dates and never showed her desire for some romance just to prove how low mantainance she was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:08 AM
21

this should be such a beautiful moment for everyone involved, but at the end it's so underwhelming. as if he was downstars in his "man cave", then a bulb lit up on his head and he proposed to her on a whim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:32 AM
5

I regained the piece of mind that was blocked because there was a leech on the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:26 PM
5

I wouldn't be in such subreddit to being with. period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:21 PM
51

so satisfying when the trash takes itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:59 PM
38

there is one item missing: let go of the belief romantic relationships are a human right that society failed to provide for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 02:05 PM
245

god forbid women to feel grossed out at the thought of a 40 year old incel showing his limp dick off at a halloween party! if it's not a nightmare fuel I don't know what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 02:00 PM
5

that's the mood I want to embrance once I hit my 30s. also the white hairs. I could be fulll X-Men's Storm mode right now for all I care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:34 PM
6

it's a wonderful thing not only to accept but also embrace aging. there's no such as 'pretty years', and once you realize your beauty and value isn't tied to your age, you're able to make the most out of your twenties, thirties, forties and so on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:31 PM
3

wonderful mindset and choice of words right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:26 PM
36

my level up strategy was developing the willingness to give up on anything that doesnt work anymore. workplace, relationships, way of living, eating habbits, everything really. I no longer resent the effort I've had made to make those things work. They worked for as long as they meant to, and as soon as they stopped working, I let them go. It costed hurting some people, confusing others,. but I didn't look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:16 PM
14

I wish I could rub alcohol over my brain after reading this. yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:30 PM
39

I broke up with guy within one month because he wouldnt stop trying to push me into sex, even though I was clear upfront I wouldnt have sex with a guy unless we were at least engaged. I even said it'd be okay if he wanted to walk away and date someone else because I wouldnt change my mind. but noooo, he decided it was a great idea to stay and waste my time, bringing up ridiculous debates over it, as if he'd get laid if he could win the argument. well at some point he did win the argument and los…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:46 PM
88

why do women find okay going to a guy's house for a hookup? guy wants to get laid and wont even bother to take them somewhere nice, and they're like "okay, I'm going to spend on transportation/gas and get to your crappy place to have some lame sex" gurl why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:16 AM
9

Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:13 AM
20

another thing, they want to have children to make up for the emotional neglect they felt all their lives. then again, it's all for their benefit. guess they dont know such a thing as nurturing love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:37 PM
2

adopting is just a matter of time for me, regardless I'll have my own kids or not. if I get to take one child from a risky situation and give them a better chance, I'll have made a impact in their own future generations. dunno why the process is so slow, I hear is that many people are picky and only want babies or kids who are physically similar to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:20 PM
6

so that's why sometimes I'd swear my ex (who's hella fat, with childbearing hips and boobs) had no testosterone than me. he was so lacking in virility, I felt no sexual tension when kissing him, to the point I second guessed if I liked men anymore. now it all makes sense. adipose ex definitely has male pcos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:43 AM
2

I've watched this a couple years ago and honestly, it got me tearing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:48 AM
19

so that's why straight men get to hate women so hard. they might be sexually attracted to us but it doesn't mean they feel love or admiration towards us. it explains how they consider tearing women's confidence down as a dating strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:42 AM
3

my mom became a SAHM when I was born. even though I'm only making sense of my family dynamics now that I'm older, there are something I'm sure made a difference: - my mom manages the house money. she pays the pills and keeps the expenses on control. my dad always sucked on it. she visited me for a few months and when she was back home my dad got his credit card blocked due lack of payment, to name just one example. - she's always made money on the side. she's a natural enterpreuner, and an aweso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:24 AM
3

there is a FDS post somewhere about how a man makes a woman believe she "got to choose" between two alternatives when in fact she did exactly what he wanted. that's pretty much the case. they didn't negotiate shit. he convinced her to be his side chick and she deluded herself on making it more something more in future, until reality kicked in. now she needs to believe she got the upper hand because she'll be the one to be shocked once she realized the role she played in the history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:49 PM
7

I love her channel and she made a great video about 'how to stop being nice to bad guys'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:35 PM
10

you can tell that is the kind of scrote who coerces young women into sex saying shit like "come on, you're an adult already, we're just having some fun"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:30 PM
36

I loved this. I grew up to be a private person myself and I'm very selective about who I share personal information with, but I was guilty of oversharing on lots of dates. You don't gain anything by "wearing your heart on your sleeve" to someone you don't know -- hell, sometimes you can't even open your hear to people you've known for years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:26 PM
9

YES! who bullied me the most during elementary school? the ugliest boys, mostly the ones who were as fat as me. whatsmore, these guys would bully any kind of girl they found unatractive. today these same dudes cry their adipose hearts out over being ignored by the women they used to humiliate during school days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:34 AM
11

he thinks that empathy and respect means being "perfect", the bar is hitting chernobyl's core right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:08 AM
7

this movie hits different when you're older and hears ariel being like 'I'm 16 now, I'm not a child anymore' , like calm down girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:15 PM
9

ok for a hot minute I thought I wrote this?! seriously though. being overweight, vulnerable and naive made me such an easy prey when navigating OLD my early 20's. I did think it was all fun and empowering back then, because that's the message I got from everywhere. The late realization of how and why I entered adulthood with my self-confidence and worth completely wrecked still gets me to this day. But like you, now I know better and started prioritizing myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:22 AM
16

funny how FDS is controversial even in the conservative in-universe. being a pickmeisha is the norm there, it's just not lib-fem oriented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:06 AM
66

THIS is the kind of men we're trying to avoid by setting boundaries from day one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:28 AM
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I don't remember seeing this post, but I had the exact thoughts on emotional labor a few days ago. A common denominator in my relationships (I mean, besides them all being low-to-negative-value) was how I'd make so much effort in nurturing them and receiving not even half of it back. While I'd practically be their free counselor, from their eating habbits to professional choices, their 'nurturing' consisted in sending me good morning/night texts and asking "how was your day at work?". It was out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:36 PM
4

I agree the amount of memes has been kinda overwhelmed, but at the same time, I've some posts about shit men do that are so heavy and mentally draining to read I need a little humor to get my energy frequendy back up. and yet, a longer content post is more likely to catch my attention than meme anyway. and other people who prefer strategic posts will still search for it. guess it's up for us to mantain the quality of the sub (but I did like the idea of allowing memes only for one or two days of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:02 AM
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busy, bad at texting, almost never initiates the conversation, didn't like being called out on his lack of effort but is willing to discuss about it ... once YOU go to visit HIM. come on, read your own words. are you sure you don't know what do to? or you don't wanna be the bad guy for cutting him off? you don't need this guy and you don't need permission to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:54 AM
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thank you sis, I needed this peep talk so much <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:07 AM
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haha this one lurker dm'ed me about one of my post "waaah I don't understand what's the point of your post, explain it to me" and I replied "nah, I was very clear, get over yourself" because obviously he didn't want to understand my point, he was butthurt and felt entitled to an apology. cute of him to think I'd waste my precious time rephrasing my words to suit his fragile ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:06 AM
2

most guys can't keep a conversation with women for their dear life so they all do is ask a bunch of questions who don't build any rapport but give them the female attention they need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:53 AM
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people still don't get that a lifelong singlehood is not the worst thing that could ever happen to women. and "dying alone" is pretty unrealistic, as if the said person won't have any family or friends to be there at their last hour just because they didn't settle for some loser in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:40 AM
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I'll never get why cooking is such a big deal for men when it's literally a survival skill. And at this day and age, when microwaves, youtube tutorials and all kinds of package sizes exist, it's unreasonable for grown ass men to depend on other people (aka women) not to starve .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:16 AM
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you're not alone, sis. I stumbled uppon this sub just when I was ready to make some real shifts in my life. maybe if I found anytime earlier I wouldn't have the right mindset to take it all in. when women get in tune with the universe and listen to their gut, things just start falling into place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:04 AM
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I'm pretty aware these trash men were raised like kings by their pickmeisha and how society cut way too many slacks when it comes to their shitty behavior. But I have a responsibility with myself, and my future offspring, to keep my standards high. Enough with "hurr durr what do you bring to the table?" because I'm not even sitting with them. Enough with the emotional catering, potential projects, parenting relationships. No more hesitating to tell them that yes, they're unattractive, immature a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:59 AM
14

I wanna print 500 copies of this comments and post it all over town
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:38 AM
13

men I thought my disapoiting experiences with sex were because of my lack experience, and why no man could make me orgasm yet I did a good job myself was beyond me. now I read women in all levels of experience, status and count complaining and everything felt into place. it still sucks but at least I now it's nothing personal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:15 PM
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he was really just a fuckboy who wasted your time and emotional energy. but it's still so cringe worthy how they KNOW they're gargabe and will apologize a million times but won't move a finger to become a decent person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:16 PM
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I understand the rule as not giving him any perks who are higher than the relationship status you currently hold. so, if you're just dating, don't give him boyfriend perks. unless he puts a ring on your finger, don't give him husband perks, don't be the forever girlfriend, and please do. not. propose. him. I wish I didn't have to mention the last part but I've seen some shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:09 PM
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being chaste or not, you cannot win when it comes to LVM. their brains are way too rotten due madonna/w*hore complex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:59 PM
94

of course you don't want your woman to be sucessful, or else how are you gonna finantially abuse her and force her to waste her life by your side for not having a security ne?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:53 PM
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this might be one of the best things I've read lately. so much secondhand embarrasment but still so entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:54 PM
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honestly, she was. comparison is pointless but yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:26 PM
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The point of the post was to say that we often get shyness and lack of interest mixed up, but even a shy guy shows interest if he's really into someone. I didn't want the post to be much longer so I had to cut some time line and context, so maybe that's why you got it wrong. January last year I was the-new-girl-in-town and he caught my interest when we first met. He seemed kinda into me but wouldn't much. When I asked some friends about it they were like "he's shy and quiet, maybe if you try to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:35 AM
17

the concept of boring is way too personal. a guy who's into hiking, cycling and running is kinda boring for me, because I'm quite far from being a sport-ish person, but he might be totally interesting for the next girl who loves outdoor adventures. i think it needs to be discussed around here that a guy might be a HVM and still he might have interests and personality that don't resonate with yours and that won't make any of you low value. there are many kinds of interesting men out there to have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:31 PM
83

dude you have one job, no need to blame capitalism and consumerism society for not being able to give your girl a flower
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:08 PM
5

I don't understand what's the point of "friends" in FWB when there can't be any kind emotional bond or connection in order to work. you force yourself to accept a kind of "friendship" with people you don't even like that much, if at all. outside of Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis' mvies, the whole situation sounds awful and with zero actual benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:35 AM
31

my last relationship felt like a chore because I'd always feel compelled to guide him through most trivial stuff, like he'd have a job interview and asked me about this (ugly, frumpy) button up he considered wearing for it. I told him "no, that shirt gives you manboobs" and he held me and say "thank you babe!!!" and I was like "can't you tell it gives you manboobs??" but no, he couldn't. he was just that stupid. we'd spend christmas at my relative's house (that big family reunion thing) and told…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:39 PM
54

she "never intended to become a SAHM", but making babies with a guy who's not your husband and letting him take over the household's finances is not the way to avoid it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:12 PM
19

I wish I had the same audacity as this man who compares himself to a NFL Quarterback while playing Incel in D minor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:00 PM
2

not sure if if applies here, but "Bad Romance" by Lady Gaga is a straight up ode to abusive relationships and even though I love its coreography the lyrics have always creeped me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:17 AM
12

not gonna lie, his advice helped me when I wanted to breakup with LVM boyfriend, so yeah I give him some slack. but overall it's same old dating advice told in a charming accent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:00 AM
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for some reason it reminded me of a girl who posted here about adopting a dog and some guy pm'ed her like "now you prefer a dog than dating men? do you have sex with your dog? omg you're disgusting" it sounded so random and all over the place but now I see he was just projecting his own sexual deprivity on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:59 AM
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I'm all for helping the homeless but there is no need to include relationship in the charity package. All the showering and cleaning and grooming won't fix the pletora of mental/behavioral issues and even drug abuse that led them to the streets to begin with. Anyway, we can tell this pickmesha clutches on her bag whenever she walks by a homeless guy, but she's telling all women to risk their safety just to get male points and that disgusts me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:47 AM
11

multiple locations to build rapport? more like seeing them being boring and uninteresting in different environments so we can vet them faster anyway it's not like I have enough social battery for such things, so anyone who try to drag me around like a horse will get a big NO and watch me head back home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:50 AM
16

guess Cancer is not just about his Zodiac sign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:41 AM
42

these grounding tips are helping to ease the nerves before a first date. we tend to focus so much on the other person we forget it's about us too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:10 AM
84

good lord how did my ex's picture turn into a meme?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:07 AM
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also should it really be in that sub? i mean, he's been jerking off to her pictures. how is it not porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:25 PM
6

this is great advice! once I stopped feeling attatched to my current situation and set my eyes on my purpose, that's when I started leveling up. I'm more in sync with my intuition and can feel if or when it's time to move on - and have the grit to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:12 PM
42

I did think she would get pissed but then she took it as flattering?? my faith in humanity is still way too high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:54 PM
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most of the male attention you'll receieve in your life is low quality, so never validate yourself with them. being objectified is not empowering. repeat that until it sinks down into your soul. just don't entertain horny depraved guys online, for heaven's sake. you'll feel disgusted when you experience half the stuff you sext about with them. listen to your gut more. if it says that guy is not on your level or you should walk away, don't hesitate. unless it's an activity that requires physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:55 AM
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so that's why every dating I've ever used is filled with garbage? they're all online "ladies night, free tickets" bars? that explains the dozens of low effort messages and some straight up sexual harassment, why would they treat us any better when they believe there are so many "options"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:28 AM
8

same!!! already grew a few silver strands on the back of my head and can't wait to go full grey when I'm older
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:37 PM
16

these are the "best" tips from a relationship advice website I used to religiously read on my pickmeisha days: -men think of women as cookies or broccoli. the broccoli woman is good for him, and on a conscious level he knows she's good for him, but she doesn't have the appeal of the cookie woman, so he goes for thecookie one even if she's a hot mess. so you have to make the man believe you're actually a cookie. -you can't show upfront you're looking for commitment, because it kills the vibe of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:38 AM
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she started dating him at 15yo? yikes. she didnt meet anyone else and is holding onto a guy who's not even able to propose her. and it's sad how she already resent this but wants to get married at all costs. girl, if you always dreamed of being proposed and getting married, why the hell you already gave him every husband perk in the book? even a shared account?! of course he's not eager (dare I say, willing) to purpose, he already lives a married life, so by male logic it's kinda pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:03 PM
3

the graduation, or lack of, is not the problem. your man seems to have a different kind of intelligence than yours, more practical and hands-on. this is good, it brings balance to your relationship even if you both don't feel it. i know how it is to date a guy who's neither educated or intelligent and believe me, you're lucky. many men use their lack of educational background as an excuse to stay stuck in mediocracy, and while a diploma is required to advance in many fields, it is possible to bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:59 AM
3

this article has been on my bookmarks for years, I still re-read this from time to time because that's some good evergreen content. I've applied this approach to many aspects of my life (from jobs to relationships) and it is yet to fail me. we tend to be so used to have pickmeisha indoctrination being pushed down our throats, hearing we should never settle for less than sounds grounbreaking when it's just common sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:46 AM
37

no shit I was waiting to read him saying "please walk me through your resume"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:45 AM
7

I was talking to my friends how none of my exes leveled up since I broke up with them. no shit, it's tragic and funny at the same time. they still ugly, broke, underemployed if employed at all, enjoying the same stupid things, wearing the same ugly clothes. one of them decided to go roll in the depts of my IG feed and liked my pictures from ages ago. I didnt do anything about it cause I knew he was looking for attention, but when I saw his IG profile he posted a selfie with his new girlfriend? a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:35 PM
33

do people know liking fast food is a not personality trait?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:04 PM
12

a Chanel pursue doesn't lose its value just because a broken person can't buy it, so you don't lose your vale just because LVM don't want you. believe me it's not the kind of attention you want. it strokes your ego for like 5 seconds until you feel bad for even attracting that kind of men to begin with. you might get that a lot, but you're still young and have a lot to work on your confidence and self esteem before looking for relationship. take some advice from your big sisters right here and l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:52 PM
13

maybe she likes being someone's "wifey" (why does it sound so cringy and condescendent btw), it gives her an identity, a shitty one but still i don't get why people complain on their relationship being shitty or their partner being an actual parasite but they refuse to let go. it only makes me assume they inside enjoy all the drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:23 PM
6

I felt this deep in my soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:05 PM
13

yes! it's not a comfortable exercise, but one of the reasons it's so hard to get over someone is that we put them on a pedestal, mostly when we didnt get in a relationship with them. you dont even have to try to hard, it can be little things like how their obsession on football always got you bored and that ugly t-shirt they'd wear all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:47 PM
23

I've talked in other posts about being on a dating hiatus until further notice. this sub keeps me updated on the current events out there while I can focus on my personal improvement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:23 AM
28

almost choke on my lunch when reading the "set him free" part. what a silly narrative she created for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:19 PM
58

his rant is all "I don't think it's her fault she was raped...but she shouldn't have got drunk to begin with" and the comments is a victim blaming blackhole, it made me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:52 AM
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they crave the emotional connection but haven't developed the empathy and self-awareness to get it. they see other males as competition or bros', women are always 'ho*es', no real bonding. so they come to reddit to complain about having no friends and how nobody has complimented/hugged them for a year or so. I'm yet to see one of theses dudes who don't act like the world has failed them in getting success in life and love. and I think that's why saying the 'FDS is PUA for women' is so misleading…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:37 PM
2

just posted the source. a good laugh material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:07 PM
8

is it logic that makes a man rub toothpaste all over his dick to get a girl's nudes???? edit: true story https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/ejt9o7/tifu_by_putting_toothpaste_on_my_dick_and_sending/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:28 PM
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it makes me angry because they always prefer to go for women for want a serious relationship. I guess it's because when a woman wants a LTR she'll be less likely to sleep around? idk man it's fucking annoying when I tell a guy "I want sometimes serious, I won't have sex without a commitment", and instead of leaving me the fuck alone the fuckboi starts a verbal diarrhea about sexual compability, phsyical-touch-is-my-love-language and standard-shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:11 PM
13

if you're brave enough to listen to your gut, you can tell when you're being appreciated for who you are and when your qualities and personality are being used as a commodity. deep inside you know when you're more like his wellfare state assistant than his girlfriend. and it's hard to leave this kind of relationship because apparently there is nothing wrong with it. then again, you have to trust your gut and leave him. don't be afraid to be "the bad guy" in the situation and hurt him due the dop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:50 PM
16

imagine being so unhappy and bitter with your life you feel the need and entiltlement to belittle strangers online because they wont bang you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:54 PM
12

Well it turns out, not only did she dance, she pickme zumba danced her way into her current position as her king’s forever girlfriend of 5 years! how come they're always the forever girlfriend? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:48 AM
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I didn't mean prostitutes aren't people. If he want to "bang, cuddle and cuff off after a while" he could just hire prostitute instead of leading that girl on - even though it's kinda obvious he wants the sex service for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:50 AM
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I showed this to my mom and she said "tell him to get his depraved shit together or find himself a prostitute" and really this is all I can say about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:52 AM
1

I always hated goodmorning texts (and good afternoon/evening texts), even more when the guy would send me these texts everyday. it's just so fucking pointless. any concierge will greet me the same way if I walk on by often enough and it doesn't mean they're into me. and don't even get me started on the breadcrumbing texts. they really think it's all about the amount of messages you share in a day that tells the quality of the relationship, so of course they don't care about sending the same "how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:44 AM
31

ALL OF THIS and how they say things like "women use sex to get a man's love" and similar disingenuous bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:27 AM
12

he's getting no attention from anywhere so you're his last shot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:27 PM
82

if you pay attention, the amount of 'empowering' things that actually only serve to benefit men is insane. the pickmeisha culture wants us to believe that pursuing men; not being "picky"; acting like the "cool girl and finally bending backwards until you're broke is empowering and liberating, when in fact it empowers the insecure LVM and liberates them from making any sort of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:25 PM
182

"where is your engagement ring sis?" that was savage! and I loved it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:02 PM
34

natural selection at its finest 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:14 PM
4

Yeah, as in "xoxo gossip girl" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:44 AM
51

I tended to be too agreeable in my relationships. When I first started dating, I did believe I could keep a guy if I was the "perfect girl" who would never be "negging" and arguing neither starting "drama". I was terrified of being "a bitch" so I put up with some ridiculous amount of bullshit. I'm still a little conflict-avoidant but nowhere close to what it used to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:56 PM
61

I used to feel like that in my last relationship. I could feel I was on constant masculine mode, not because I wanted to, but because my ex would never build a safe place for me to tune in my feminine energy. I'd never feel like a woman around him. Hell, sometimes it felt like I was the man in the relationship and he couldn't even bother. That's why is so important to trust our gut and pay attention to the energy we're giving and receiving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:45 PM
17

I see nothing but the truth in this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:35 PM
123

I swear she could say "I drink water" and he'd come up with what ways it could benefit him. that fucking leech can suck the life out of someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:00 PM
59

I've been against the "damaged goods" fallacy for a few years now, and it still impresses me how some people think they're so above anyone else just because of their sexual past. and funny how it's always about women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:13 PM
17

yo my ex didn't even go to college, so he could only land minimum wage jobs, and he had no professional goals whatsoever -- but still had the nerve to lovebomb me into marriage. as if.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:46 PM
51

can't think of jobs per se, but I see a huge red flag when the guy can't keep a job for longer than 3 months or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:36 PM
17

first of all, congrats on deciding to start your journey! I found a similar question on another sub, so if you don't mind I'll just copy-and-paste my answer here: well, femininity is very personal. most people think it's about wearing dresses, makeup and acting cute. but actually being feminine is just getting more in tune with your own feminine energy. what makes you feel more like yourself. what puts you at ease and in a constant flow of creating and nurturing. as you can tell by now, it's mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:40 AM
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the thing is that, even when you ask them, pickmeishas find a way to defend their fuckboys saying "but he's nice to me sometimes" and proceeds to tell about the breadcrumbs they occasionally get, or that "he's going through stuff".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:44 AM
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I finished reading Jane Austen's Sense and Sensibility and I couldn't keep myself from taking the characters on a FDS light and how dating could be as dreading and complicated even in 1800's when chilvary and courting still existed. Austen's ability to portrait fuckboys and pickmeishas is so impressive and it's been more useful than most dating counselors altogether. "What would Jane Austen would do?" has become an actual motto for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:36 AM
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uh I guess this is the reason why I started to hate texting with my men. you get the same stupid small talk at best, and sexual harassment at worst. well, I'm taking none of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:35 PM
105

I know many people have a soft spot for Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey, but I really think Bella Swan and Ana Steele are a great example for pickmeisha behavior and the romantization of predatory behavior as long as it's done out of "love".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:58 PM
123

if a man can't help but turn any random subject into sex talk, you know his brain is rooted to the core at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:04 PM
4

[michael kyle saying "eeeeeehh...nah" for 3 minutes straight]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:37 PM
26

dating a male pickmeisha is sad. and very annoying. they fish for compliments, ask for validation every 5 minutes, latch onto you like a fucking koala and it feels like their lives revolves around you and your approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:28 PM
28

money management is just another chore for wives to deal with. it might give the impression of decision power but it's still not your money and won't save you from a possible finantial abuse. the only way a stay-at-home woman can make it work, without being held hostage from her husband's income, is by making money on the side -- for the love of Aslam, don't get into those MLM schemes, monetize your talent (or develop a talent you'll be able to monetize) and if possible get a passive income. my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:41 PM
75

men do believe that hearing a no from a woman is the most humiliating thing in the universe. even if they don't feel attracted to you, they feel rejected by the thought of you not wanting them. they just make it hard for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:08 PM
20

once a time I had a crush on this guy friend. we never dated or anything, it was as cute and platonic as it could be. I found out he was into another girl and yeah that hit me hard, but we already were good friends, so when I told him about my feelings, I was like "I just hope it won't ruin the friendship" and he was like "No, it won't! I'm just sorry I don't feel the same about you." he could've made it awkward by giving me the cold shoulder and treating me different, but he didn't change his b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:10 PM
46

you gotta be kidding me there actual people who read this and unironically take it as good advice. ok it might work with girls whose self esteem hit rockbottom, but any sound woman would kick his ass at the first passive-aggressive remark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:53 AM
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over the years I started to get more private about my celibacy because men would turn this into some really stupid debates on how THEY think about my choices, or they'd see it as a challenge, or try to negotiate their way into my pants. the only time I had no problems with it was during my last relationship, but just because my ex lacked so much in virility I'd feel practically assexual when I was with him. so I'm not sure about how I'm gonna address this when I go back to dating without undergo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:32 AM
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all I could think about is: would he get into this wacky mindgame if he went on a date with Gigi Hadid? No, he wouldn't even secondguess she's a fucking prize. he wouldn't take her on a coffee date and expect her to go dutch. he wouldn't resent spending $50 on a date with her. because damn Gigi wouldn't keep with any of this bullshit, neither should we. he can shove his precious 50 bucks up his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:43 AM
56

HVM know that our vetting strategies are towards low/negative valued men, therefore they have nothing to worry about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:57 PM
8

is it even English?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:26 PM
32

I met a few guys on dating apps who claimed they had no social media. but after a few days chatting on whatasapp, their profile would eventually appear on my facebook suggestions. so for me it's hard to believe thar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:12 PM
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these girls won't give up on their boyfriends because they're an easy source of drama and excitement. it keeps them distracted from whatever inner work they're trying to avoid. they don't need to work on their own toxic behavior if their boyfriends are toxic too. they don't need to work on their self love if someone else is giving them a half-assed version of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:34 PM
45

following "traditional men" on social media, I can attest 90% of these guys look at traditional women with the same objetification they'd look at more progressive ones. like TRP, they disgust me -- no, I hate them more because at least those redpilled scumbags don't lie to themselves by playing saint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:29 AM
26

i'm a little too invested in the Ideal Boyfriend's questionable taste in fashion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:14 AM
54

don't ever let yourself believe you can build a man up to his "full potential". some men are doomed to be full of potential but will never accomplish anything because they don't have the balls to pursue any goals in life. what would you have to do with a waist of human space? you're busy building YOURSELF UP! delete his number and go finish your squats, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:43 AM
45

also, he lists a bunch of pretty generic qualities and then "...humble".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:33 AM
42

taking of being a foster parent to grown men sounds miserable af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 11:48 PM
56

for me, finding FDS at this very moment of my life was a divine providence (non ironically), like a confirmation that it's time to level up and don't look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 11:46 PM
29

when it comes to brazilian soccer players, they're either drug addicted or depraved, sometimes both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:25 PM
52

wow such a chick-magnet, can't get any better than this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:54 PM
38

hitting off my fitness journey. already started working out this month, so in january I won't have to dread that awkard first day at the gym; softmaxxing: I really wanna try professional eyebtow shaping, eyelash extensions and stepping up my skincare game; carreermaxxing: my one-year contract with this company is ending next month and I have a job interview in two weeks. such a big opportunity if it all goes alright. mental health: need to get back to therapy asap! there's so much going on with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:10 AM
53

watching men biting their own necks on how they're expected to reach minimum standards is so amusing I could always use some popocorn to watch the pity party rolling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:49 PM
11

weird relationship with their families. one never met his biological father; was rejected by his stepdad when his stepsisters were born; his mom spent most of his life at the hospital due kidney problems, so he was mostly raised by his grandma, who died a while before we met -- what a perfect underdog for a pickmeisha with a savior complex! no wonder I was left in pieces when he broke up with me. previous ex's father have like ten children from different women and never bothered support them -- …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:54 PM
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oh dear. there's no need to berate yourself. you already have the self-awareness that's necessary to do the inner work and personal improvement. going to therapy is already a great move, even though it doesn't feel like it right now -- it's a long term investment after all. also FDS is not about "doing x and y to become high value" but learning how to treat yourself the way you deserve and not allowing anyone to treat you any less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:12 PM
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so, he doesn't like chubby or black women, but he goes nuts if those women won't worship his dick. the best thing we can do for this kind of guy is depriving him from our attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:32 PM
19

I'd impersonate my best charmander and set him and this stupid card on fire!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:35 AM
48

let them believe that! let them have fun with the trash we take out! it makes our job easier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:46 AM
18

what does "etchically monogamous" even mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:21 AM
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when they whine on how they are "tired of bitches and psychos", "want to know if there's a real woman" and "hate playing games and drama". saying they're "looking something serious" and three lines bellow talks about "having fun" = fuckboy. "I don't like to define myself because then I'd be limiting my personality" and the like = has the self-awareness of an artichoke. believing that being lowkey alcoholic is a personality trait. any "swipe left if..." intros, so fucking entitled and cringy. usi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:12 PM
28

thanks for such great advice. whenever our dating tool of choice fails us, we tend to believe another tool is more effective, when actually it is just as troublesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:53 PM
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why would he even propose to her after 12 years of husband perks without the legal commitment? even if she does propose him there's no guarantee the wedding will actually happen, she'll just switch from "forever girlfriend" to "foverer fiancée" and he'll still lead her on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:33 PM
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and why can't this study be a subject for a positive discussion? education studies are very interesting and explain a lot of our struggles during school years. tldr: he won't discuss the study because he got a A+ in Stupidity, you deserve smarter people to talk to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:25 PM
22

saving this for the same reasons. holiday convos have been getting on my nerves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:15 PM
5

oh man I hate those multiple "wyd" questions like, dude it's 3pm on Monday, I'm on my coffee break at work and you are ruining it guys like that have nothing going on their lives and it shows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:06 PM
23

what an idiot, it didn't cross his mind you might enjoy your alone time a little too much lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:20 PM
74

the mind game is ridiculous. "so want a relationship? have sex with me and we might go official someday" future fake at its finest. and notice how they always go for women who want something serious, because they couldn't handle the thought of a woman dating around like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:00 PM
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they act all the same. you're not missing a thing sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:56 PM
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I love this kind of posts! such a mood for life. you finally got what feminity is all about: go for whatever makes you feel more in tune with your inner feminine energy. thankfull we live in a time and age where we have access to so many cool aesthetics and styles, let's make the most of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:14 PM
17

his filled his profile playing cards against humanity, one would guess, by the amount of random-ness in his answers. and shower selfies? omg why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:35 PM
4

storytelling 05/10 but nice try
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:48 PM
130

demands him to have anal sex and when he refuses tell him you'll find another guy who does it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:51 PM
55

that trp sub and their lowkey rape fetish is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:46 PM
42

I know a similar case IRL and I don't have too much hope for her. This kind of women know on a conscious level they're being abused and the situation is unacceptable, but they give up on their own agency without realizing, by the time they ask for help they have no mental strenght to make any though decision about it. They tell us "Im gonna leave him" but they rarely go through it. She's most likely to get pregnant again next year and get back to reddit to make pretty much the same complaint wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:33 PM
16

pickmeishas are willing to do anything just to prove they don't care about money for men who'll eventually burn their money on videogames, booze and side chicks while pickmeishas will work their asses off to mantain the house. and they want us to believe it's a better scenario than living alone with with 10 kittens? brb heading to the closest animal shelter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:06 PM
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Sometimes I really piss myself off with my pickmeisha msmories. but I remember my past self crying on the shower floor, heartbroken and shattered, and I just feel compassion for her. My past self had to experience all that shit so I could become who I am now. I'm glad she chose not to give on herself and her future. I hope you'll be able to look back at your past self and feel the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:51 PM
48

never bargain, let alone entertain window shoppers. let them stare and suckle and whine because they can't have you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:45 PM
36

it's true though. they mistake masculinity for being unkept and flat out gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:47 PM
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I always dated men who made less money than me and I know how uncomfortable it feels. There's only so long you can keep up with this. Men love dating woman who are independent and successful but they resent not being able to keep up, so it makes me wonder why they even shoot their shot to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:44 PM
17

giving them a sock and saying "now Dobby is freee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:33 PM
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no shit, every married/engaged/taken guy I know told me they knew their girl was the one in a matter of days. "Men just know", they say. if they don't know, they don't want you. it's that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:11 PM
21

I'm in! a fuckboy-free life is a good life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:09 AM
7

I'm having way too much fun reading your recaps! btw I'm rooting for Ryan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:53 AM
17

the fatties are banging the chads while he's crying under his fedora
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:09 AM
22

guess he doesn't know there's such a thing as plus size women models
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:57 AM
44

i read a post on facebook telling women to go easier on fat guys because they have self esteem issues. I didn't reply directly on that post but here is a (better and more honest) version of what I posted on my profile: no, I'm not fucking sorry for fat guys. do you know why? because if a girl has the perfect looks, they worship her ground; if they consider you too short/too tall/too skinny/too fat they treat you like shit, specially if you're fat, they hate fat girls because they hate themselves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:32 AM
30

I've never had the patient to befriend girls whose lives revolve around guys. not because I was at the "not like other girls" phase, it's that these girls are so boring. during elementary/high school I'd talk to them and all they could talk about was some guy(s) they hooked up with at a party, the guy(s) they tried to hooked up with but didn't get to, the guy(s) they plan on hooking with. b o r i n g.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:12 PM
47

the about lovebombing: some guys do it out of sociopathy, some just are unaware of it. this guy must be the case of oblivious lovebombing, pretty much like my ex. he gets an emotional high on courting you and treating you like a girlfriend, it doesnt much if he really is in love with you, he feels good so he keeps doing it. do you know why he dismisses the fact you're smart? because he doesn't need you to be smart. he doesn't get off you being smart, so he brushes it off and goes like "oh you're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:09 PM
24

isn't fantastic how there are millions of fuckboys out there and still when we hear about one of them, it instantly reminds us of one or two fuckboys we had met? you're right, they're all one and the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:24 PM
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Idek why I keep reading the original posts like this, it always goes the same way. men watching porn is so normalizing that getting caught became a sort of comedy trope. nobody takes in consideration that wives might feel humiliated, dismissed and cheated on, yet they'll be blamed for the eventual deathbed men are alledgedly trying to avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:01 AM
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I can't tell what's wrong with him but the real question is: why is she undergoing such mental and emotional labor when this guy literally doesn't give a shit? whether he needs therapy for his unadressed depression or dismissive/anxious attatchment behavior it's his problem. I could tell her to comfront him about it but maybe he's just bland and boring, you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:03 PM
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I internally screamed "SAME" pretty much all the way through your comment. it's crazy how women are outperforming men in pretty much every level and they don't even have the balls to measure up. I dunno if you guys read that but a couple years ago there was a fuzz about women "taking the place" of men in university and workforce as if we were somehow guilty of men being lazy and stupid. I think it tells a lot about the responsibility that is thrown on us with no accountability on the other side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 08:40 PM
30

I was already fed up with all the Pickmeisha indoctrination I went through the year. You know when something is off but you can't wrap your mind around it? That was the case. I could sense there was something wrong because this. shit. would. not. work. two important moments were: when I dumped my ex and decided to never settle down again; when I met this guy when moved to this new town and quickly got a crush on him, and when I asked common friends about him they'd all be like "he's just really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 08:22 PM
25

Have you heard about the Gypsy Rose case (that was in turned into the first season of Hulu's The Act)? Her ex Nicholas Godejohn a guy got arrested for looking at porn in a McDonalds cafe for like 9 hours. so yeah, people dig that deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:08 PM
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he treats you the way he sees you: a queen! he shrugs it off because doesn't see it as an obligation, doesn't keep score or expect you to give him a medal. what a keeper. I'm so happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:40 AM
28

going a bit off tangeant but I'd like to talk about some of my girl friends that are really resentful on how men approach them as "friends" but at some point they act like total pervs we were discussing in a girl-only whatsapp group about some guy friends in common who acted like this nd another girl said "well, they always treated me well. I never did anything to provoke disrespect from them". she implied they behaved like pervs because we made them. it all went downhill from there and I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:27 PM
14

I've been really lucky in this department, I have some great male friends. I consider two of them as brothers-from-different mothers since I love their mothers as well. does it have to do with the fact they don't consider me attractive? most likely, but that's not the kind of attention I'd enjoy, so I'm good. there were situations in which I was the one to want something more, was turned down gently, we became great friends anyway and I even happily attented their wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:17 PM
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so I went through the original because I thought "damn this girl must have been roasted to ashes or something". but then it was like... a few down votes and people trying to explain why the don't disagree with you???? I mean, unless you received some nasty messages on private, saying you've been "targeted" is a bit farfetched imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:01 PM
2

it's not problem. the problem lies on not being able to handle the backlash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:28 PM
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opinions aside, you should know by now that nobody sugacoats their opinions here. and about the flair: 1) it's just a freaking flair and 2) posting a rant nstead of directly contacting the mods doesn't solve anything and only creates unecessary friction in forums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:00 PM
46

does anyone else sometimes hate being straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:11 PM
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this goes along with another lie "physical touch is my love language, I dont know how to show love outside sex" both indicate that his dick is his moral compass and nothing good can come from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:51 AM
11

around Feb 2018 I dumbed my couch creature bf and decided to go on a dating hiatus for one year: no dating, no flirting, no matchmaking groups on whatsapp, even avoiding accepting facebook friend request from males. it felt so good and gave me so much headspace, that I'm heading to my second year hiatus with no change of plans in sight. it's a bit conflicting that as much as I'd LOVE to meet a HVM anytime and quit the dating scene for good, minding my own business and doing my thing gets more va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:38 PM
34

when he comment about asking her to get him off while was crying in pain, the way she freezes during sex, I got actual heartaches. this girl has been raped for more than 2 years. I seriously regret reading all of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:38 PM
29

I thought we were past the point of having to explain "it's not all men; just the LVM piece of shit men"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:01 PM
12

r/Vindicta was one of the first subs I joined but since day one I have a specific goal in mind: I want to get back to myself, reach my prime version, and regain my self-esteem. my "stacy goals" are women with similar appearance to mine: warm bronze skin tone, dark hair, hooded eyes, full lips, round face, not skinny. I make it work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:17 AM
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A woman should take care of her appearance because she enjoys the process just as the results. The moment we stop doing it for ourselves we become prone to a lot more of insecurities, and we don't need more of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:15 AM
22

aaaaand they're still not official ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:49 AM
59

the fucking nerve to ask "do you think I was unfair?" the fucking nerve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:40 AM
92

she better not forget to buy the strap on for the wedding night, since she's nose diving into this wacky reversal road
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:00 AM
47

There aren’t more “ethically good” unattractive men. SAY IT LOUDER! Personal experience can confirm that. Lack of looks, fitness height, or size never stopped men from being flat out assholes to me. And even when they weren't assholes, they'd bring little to no value for my life. So what's the point of dating ugly men? For the sake of virtue-signaling? "oh look at me, I date ugly guys, see? I'm not shallow!" people can think what they want about me for now on, I'm not giving up on my precious sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:30 PM
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“Let me tell u ladies about the beautiful feeling that is looking at someone u used to fantasize about, dream about, NEED, cry over, die for...and realize that he is ugly. " Chasing men is cancelled. " "Men are replaceable. That guy you can’t get over? You can find a new him. Easily. Men are everywhere. You can stand outside and throw a rock and it’ll hit a man. "You don’t miss them. You miss attention. Read that back before you invite someone SHITTY back into your life. " "The thing about raisi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:30 PM
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some men in the comments did say they'd love to receive flowers but none of them said it'd make them like the girl more. of course the OP won't the clue because she wants to be told it was a hella move and it'll sweep him right off his feet. dunno why people go for advice when they only accept a specific and convenient answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:16 PM
30

the amount of accuracy in this text is overwhelming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:02 PM
4

short answer: dump him. long answer: you know him better than us. if you realized he's a LVM it's because he doesn't show any signs on self-improvement over the time you've been together. to make things worse, he's used to be the way he is since that's how you accepted him at first place. that's why we're always told not to expect the man to change any of his shady behavior in the future, they assume you're okay with it. a man only changes when decides he must so - and even that, you need to con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:33 PM
13

Men care so much about what other men think, they date women other men find attractive just for the social status. It's funny how men say we wear make and nice clothes because we're insecure and want to impress other women, but they're willing on investing months and even years in a relationship with a woman just to flaunt her around like a walking trophy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:20 PM
15

And I said “Oh you mean he has a risk? Yeah women have a risk when they go out with a guy they barely know all alone and hope the guy is decent and safe. On top of that when you have the money and don’t mind it you give it or treat them cause you want someone to have it not because you think you’re being taken advantage of” of course he'd run out of excuses after that. you addressed two important points: 1) we put our own lives at risk when we accept to meet up with a stranger, having our dinner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:31 PM
27

today I happened to read one of those TRP incels complaining on how "women nowadays are all promiscuous and the exepctions practically don't exist". and this the same thought shared by thousands of millions of men. they already decided to put an scarlet letter on us. which means that we'll be considered whores regardless what we did and what we didn't. there's no point in exposing ourselves even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:52 AM
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and here we go, the whole "why the fuck didn't I stumble upon this text a few years earlier" feeling strikes again. he didn't go deep and hard enough to break my hymen but still, that's how my mom got pregnant of my older sister, and different from my dad, my ex couldn't have supported me. guess I was just lucky he was so small and he didn't leak inside, but that was the first and last time I played this russian roullette.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:23 PM
57

if he think that having Receiving Gifts as love language equals being a gold digger, he didn't understand how the five love languages work at all. he likes physical touch because, well, sex. and by words of affirmation", he must be the kind of guy who says nice things so he can hear it back. I doubt he is capable of loving love in a way that won't directly benefit him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:37 PM
26

church girl here and I approve this letter. if that is a serious church he'll be held accountable for all the harassment and humiliation he'd done to you and maybe other girls. I hope the guy he was talking to will be held accountable as well for not calling his friend out on his bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:12 PM
7

yo I remember watching her music video on MTV and my niece was still a baby, she'll be 16 next year and it double hit me right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:12 PM
12

to be honest it doesn't sound like marriage, but a parental relationship. he doesn't see you as his wife, but someone that must look after him. you might have decided to spare us from the details, but you didn't tell us about one single moment in which he decided to stand up and be a provider, all he's ever done is take and take and take some more. and ironically, he's the one who's depressed - but even that is up to discussion, since he's using his mental issues to hold you hostage and gives no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:25 PM
5

omg it reminded me of my first boyfriend, one time he started to rub my clit real fast and hard, but I wasn't even aroused or wet, at some point I was oversensitive but getting nowhere and I told him to stop, he was like 'I almost made you cum ;)' I should've told him 'nah, you almost made me PEE IN YOUR HANDS, YOU WERE PRESSING MY BLADDER'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:19 PM
11

I'm 28 and most people think I look younger my age. when they get surprised and ask me my 'secret' I joke 'moisturizing my face with my tears' but I guess it's a combination of genetics and drinking lots of water, there isn't much else at play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:47 PM
37

his abuse is so effective she actually believes it's her fault, even though she can tell something is off she's still second guessing it. that's a miserable situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:26 AM
14

I think we all can take advantage of enjoying our single season to its fullest, whether we plan on getting married or not. I have a wedding board on pinterest like the girl next door, but I also have big plans for my life and I can't let the possibility of marriage stop me. My intent is to create such a wonderful life for myself right now as if I was sure I'd be single forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:15 AM
32

how dare her have standards and boundaries on how she's going to have sex with? I'm laughing at this scumb but it made me angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:59 AM
16

First of all, what a mood! I'm inspired by your gentle strenght. Introverted women like us don't take enough credit for your soft skills. And yes, LVM flock around us because of that. You're a beautiful, intelligent and determined young woman, you will attract leechers (emotional, mental, sometimes finantial leechers), so you might as well intimidate the shit out them with your sweet badassery. Don't let them get into your head with this 'you could be easily manipulated' talk, they're trying to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:42 PM
2

I didn't sound like closure in my head but I guess it really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:26 PM
3

healing is hard work indeed, but you'll get there. we all will get there, in our own paths. and you can count on us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:25 PM
5

I feel you sis, but the truth set us free and we no longer had to put up with any man's shit anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:22 PM
7

it was rooted down in my soul, it took me years to get rid of it. lots of spiritual work, figuring out what my actual personality is like, learning my value as a human being with all my flaws and quirks. I didn't get any counseling (my parents were pretty ignorant about that at that time), so I had to do it all on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:21 PM
5

What you're doing is so important! The part about warning your daughters about abusive relationships really stick to me, because abused people rarely notice what's going on until someone tell them, and they don't see their way out unless there's available help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:18 PM
3

same! I thought I attracted all those shitty men because that was what I deserved. it couldn't be further from the truth! there is nothing wrong in expecting the same amount of effort we put in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:15 PM
3

I don't know where my mom falls in the spectrum. She's the most practical and emotionally independent woman I know, but she settled for a man who doesn't really deserve her -- okay, it was the 70's and we're all clueless when we're 21, right. The thing is that I grew up watching a pretty one-sided relationship and I think it somehow dictated my future relationship dynamics. She always tell me to be wise about choosing my future husband, but her example got in the way everytime. Words of windsom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:12 PM
4

That's so true it hurts. We no longer need men for survival purposes but there's still that internalized pickme behavior creepin on our necks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:54 PM
5

Thank you! I'm so ready for that. Time to make beauty from the ashes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:51 PM
8

Thanks! To think there was a time when I thought I'd never learn English. I'm so happy I didn't give up, it gave me access to so much knowledge and resources -- like this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:50 PM
8

Yes! I'm well aware my current choices will affect my offspring and I want them to have a better chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:49 PM
82

okay but why isn't it a thing a already? let's be the change we want to see in the world!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:47 PM
62

posted this on facebook and people defended him saying "but he was a drug addict and she's privileged and rich"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:29 PM
114

This kind of discussion tires me out because it shows how most men are uncapable of doing the minimum mental and emotional labor of self reflection without trying to throw the responsibility on us like a hot potato. they clinge onto their "yeahh but what about women?" blanket and will do anything on their power to switch the focus of the conversation. men have no fucking clue about nothing and they're mad because it's getting harder to get away with their bullshit every passing day. Instead of a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:49 AM
54

men have like ONE JOB and even that is being taken by the pickmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:24 AM
41

An object to play with? How do you know that’s their intent. Maybe they’re being friendly. But to assume it’s about ‘playing’ with you. Seriously. the OP clearly stated those men are a thread to her physical integrity and she's supposed to assume they're being friendly???????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 08:22 PM
29

19 yo, still in high school, working part-time, probably broke af, but he really believes he's a catch because .... he knows how to entertain people. wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:50 PM
130

if you're trying to grow a beard but it always looks like pubic hair, give it up. just shave it all. quit the axe deodorant spray for good. you suffocate everyone around you when you're in closed spaces. contrary to popular male belief, you're supposed to wear clothes there are your actual size. there is no reasonable excuse to show up on a date with saggy jeans pants that expose your ass crack or wearing a shirt that's so tight your nipples are looking me in the eye. YOU WON'T GROW A VAGINA IF …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 10:27 AM
15

I thought these were just funny tropes for romcom movies but apparently people do make money off that???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 10:01 AM
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no, you're not the guy my mom warned me about. you're the guy me and my mom laugh of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:42 AM
7

I need to read Northanger Abbey ASAP!! so many precious quotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:10 PM
18

you get an opportunity to get full dolled up and listen to some majestic music! focus on enjoying yourself and feeling great. also attending alone will make you more available for a man to approach you ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:16 PM
55

your pick up artist failed you, bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:07 PM
43

women of faith in relationships are pressured to get married at all costs. I've the most absurd excuses through the years, mostly that you become damage goods if you've been in too many relationships. there are always more single women than single men in every community, not every man is a good potential partner. in short, the christian dating scene plain sucks. I've considered becoming a nun more than once in my life and I'm not even catholic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:50 PM
15

so he said let’s just drink and watch a movie this time by "this time" he means "from now on", don't let him fool you sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:32 PM
49

those "forever girlfriends" always start dating way too young and keep up with it for way too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:11 PM
31

that's the whole point! if we take time and effort to sort ourselves out, why can't they? oh yes, it's just easier to find an empathetic woman who'll be their free therapist and social assistant. I'm sick and tired of these losers projecting all their emotional garbage and unadressed child trauma on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 12:34 PM
3

That's my Girl by Fith Harmony and This is Me (from the Greatest Showmen soundtrack) never fail to lift my mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:08 AM
72

he should've taken the hint that you're up to no bullshit when you said you're studying for a 'business strategy' exam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 02:52 AM
62

when some thirsty creep asks me for nudes,I reply "oh you wanna see my wet pussy" and then I send a picture of a literally wet kitten. 8/10 will get mad at me, the remaining two will try to take the joke but still will be mad. and I'll be 100% laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 02:25 AM
65

silver/grey/white hair is beautiful and shouldn't be a big deal at all. people say it makes her look older but I think suits her best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 12:35 AM
18

I've been binge-reading the "required reading" notes for days and seriously, pretty much everything covered up my questions and doubts about plenty of topics. of course it's easy to just ask for advice, but it gets deeper in your mind when you reach a conclusion by yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 12:05 AM
7

lots of parents allow their underage children to be groomed by older men as long as they have money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:11 PM
60

no coincidence NVM also goes for "nevermind"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:55 PM
38

men victimized by their own lack of self awareness and emotional inteligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:23 PM
10

I see this discord thing everywhere, how does it work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:06 PM
24

same! it always feels more trouble than what's worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:59 PM
15

why do you allow yourself do get so worked up on someone else's taste in tv shows? call the heck down, buddy. go to r/rant or something. maybe pet a fluffy dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 02:39 PM
44

this is so inspiring! I'm glad you managed to find your own HVM and everything is going great so far. Wish you nothing but happiness <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 02:30 PM
81

Men hate to admit it but their egos and self-worth is tied to whether or not a woman will validate them through sex and attention. 5 min in any other sub and you read about men feeling actually miserable because no woman wants them. you can tell it affects them way more than the other way around. they don't even have to end a long-term relationship to feel this way, just decline a date offer and they lose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:20 PM
102

I'm not damaged goods, I'm a warrior queen. protect this mindset at all costs. never let anyone tell you otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:08 PM
52

Two of my close friends started dating a while ago. She's the ultimate Dreamgirl through and through and he's such a HVM as well - seriously, you see them together and it's so hard not to swoon. He didnt took long to go exclusive and of course he's putting a ring on her finger -- they're getting engaged at New Years Eve. How am I supposed not to have high standards when something like this is happening before my eyes? ​ edit1 : accidentally hit SEND before finishing the comment edit2: what do yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:03 PM
107

if a guy uses pictures of cars, motobikes etc on his profile I assume he's a fucking Transformer and swipe left hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:53 AM
167

YES SHE PUT INTO WORDS WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY ALL MY LIFE. whenever I see some guy complaining about how women don't want them because they're broke, I assume they're actually complaining on the fact of being broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:17 AM
6

that's what scares me the most. there are men out there holding women responsible for their insane emotions and willing to harm (at best) or kill (at worst) them for the sake of it. also can we point out that, while MGTOW's worst nightmare being accused of rape, while women's worst case scenario is being actually raped and/or murdered? isn't that enough to prove the gender dynamics are unbalanced from the start?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 10:58 AM
16

whenever a guy says 'I dont want a relationship right now' is means 'I don't want a relationship with you'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:18 PM
84

the fact we see a difference between Low and High Value Men is enough to tear the 'misandry' argument apart. compare to movements like MGTOW in which a woman has no human value whatsoever. if they're so baffled that women are gathering around support groups, crossing information and finding out they've been lied to with years of bad advice, we already made a point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 06:13 PM
18

lol my 5 month old kitten cleans himself better than most men out there, and I have to scoop his poop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:56 PM
17

the fact she doesn't know what to is so alarming. as if there was an alternative option than kicking his pornsick ass out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 01:51 PM
34

not a big fan of her but what's up with women's egg obsession these days? is it their strategy to make us settle for men whose genes should never be passed forward?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:47 PM
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he's searching for empathy but saying "I want a romantic partner, not a friend" makes it so hard. if really loved her, he wouldn't be so bitter about it. I know how it is to love your best friend you've know for years, and even though he doesn't love me back (not in a romantic way at least), I couldn't imagine life without his friendship. I'd never place my romantic feelings over a 20 year friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:17 PM
20

living in a third-world country, with plenty of single moms and unresponsible men, I believe that women get trapped when they believe a baby can lock a man down. also there's so much ignorance about contraception methods (ie if they find a stable partner, they stop using condoms, or get careless about their bc pills). the worst case being this one friend who got his girlfriend pregnant. his family forced them to get married, but he's an entitled, selfish piece of shit, and she was way too young …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:59 PM
100

uh I've put up with all kinds of broke men because of this "being there when you had nothing" crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:45 PM
28

I started going on dates around 23 years old, after finishing college and starting my first job. yes the lack of experience can make somethings harder, but take notice you've spent all this time focusing on your educational and personal life. it means you're determined and future oriented. and it makes you more valuable and demanding. just don't make the mistakes I did, don't settle for guys who are nowhere near the same page in life as you. don't feel like you have to shrink yourself in order t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:42 PM
23

I hope someday my self confidence will be as strong as this woman's pinky finger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 01:05 PM
5

that's way too funny and clever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:40 PM
8

I'll take my time to read this through but first of all, christmas and summer? south hemisphere club, assemble!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:35 PM
44

they use science to justify why they prefer women with a big butt, but when they get rejected for the looks it's shallow and offensive lol your hyprocrisy is showing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:16 AM
133

men got away with looking ugly and unkept for way too long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 01:42 PM
182

I use the uber service a lot (to the point of being VIP for months), nothing ever happened to me but it's really a nightmare fuel. can't even close my eyes and take a short nap cause who knows... if I get really insecure I share my localization with my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:10 PM
21

so many people suffering from actual depression and being suicidal, and then there's those manipulative pricks who use suicide as a magic card to block any sort of accountability or confrontation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:39 PM
2

omg yes I meant that. gonna edit n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:06 PM
6

gurl, been there done that. and I know for fact it's never too late to change your mindset and finally go for what you deserve, even if sometimes you don't believe you deserve it. now it's your time for lot's of soul searching and self improvement. we're all in this together, just at different stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:22 PM
15

Men don't have the same emotional outlets as women and are trained to view us as their healers, THIS! whenever I man talks about his emotional problems I suggest looking for help instead of wearing the savior cape and trying to 'save him from himself'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:45 PM
67

glaring flags: - talking too soon and too much about getting married. even though you've been talking for a couple weeks and barely know each other. - toxic parents. ie abusive mother, emotionally distant father. no background or examples on healthy family dynamics. - being unable to keep a job. if you've been together for six months and he was fired twice then he's the problem. - can't take care of his health for shit. - says he doesn't want go too fast on the committent but is eager to get sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:16 PM
28

Bad eating habbits also equals immaturity. It's not like I eat my veggies because they I think they taste like a whopper, I eat them because I must be healthy in order to live my best life. It is so frustrating when you take care of yourself and your man looks like a 10 year old fat kid who refuses to eat carrots because 'their mom forced them to eat as a child and now he's 'traumatized''.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:46 PM
72

one of the ultimate reasons I broke up with my last boyfriend was that I refused to be the one to pass his genes forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:26 PM
167

I'm straight and I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:23 PM
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this post is GOLD. then again, thanks to this sub. I used to believe there was some wall I was on the verge of passing on and I was wasting my pretty young years by still being single -- as if I'd get uglier by age, when in fact I only get prettier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:26 AM
6

thank you so much. all of my friends and even my mom think I should go out of my way to get closer to him and drag him out of his shell, and it just didn't feel right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:56 PM
9

seriously, do it! I couldn't afford a house just yet, but I did move to a rental tiny house and I was a great decision. I relate to feeling torn about moving out befor finding a partner, but I think I'll be glad for living sometime alone before getting married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:13 PM
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- 2020 I'm working on being more assertive. I'm an empath and it's gonna be the hardest thing to do, but I'm so sick of biting on my cheek to avoid "hurting their feelings" and not having my needs met. - Thanks to a post I read here, I decided get over my crush. I don't give a fuck if he's shy. I'm not making the first move. We've know each other for almost one year, if he doesn't think I'm worthy the effort he might also not be worthy my feelings. - I need to glow the back up. this year took a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:07 PM
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come on now. what a 30 aged, well-rounded woman, looking for a long-term relationship, would want anything to do with a guy who praises himself for being a serial fuckboy and seeks younger girls for instant gratification/ego boost? it's funny how he believes women should never raise their standards and expect something better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:52 PM
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I've read the post's threat and only a few people took in consideration she might be unexperienced. even then they be like 'oh maybe you don't find her hot enough'. which means that his behavior has been normalized, to the point that if those men can't enjoy a non-porn-ish sex they'll just look for a women who's okay with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:21 PM
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people say marriages used to last longer but it's rarely adressed that lots of those wives were under finantial depedency and had to undergo all kinds of abuse for they were not being able to support themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:02 PM
17

if only I had the self confidence of an entitled average looking man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:56 PM
2

what's the problem with loving dogs? are they jealous that dogs are more emotionally inteligent than them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 02:01 PM
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