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| 230 | One of the best break downs of the minds of men who watch porn. Protect your peace and protect your wombs ladies. #AllmenI think it's worse than drug addiction because real humans are the drug and the further they go, the more they seek the fix. As the poster said, they begin to look at any and everyone as a potential source of sex because that is what the brain is meant to do. If you're craving food, you are supposed to be hyper aware of potential food sources. If the brain craves drugs, it looks for people who look like they may have drugs, receipts on the floor begin to look like baggies: everyday objects begin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 03:25 PM |
| 32 | An Ode to Living AloneYes and looking really bored and miserable so you start to rush so that they don't moan at you for "taking too long" and you forget things. Like I swear they do it so you just start going on your own. When you're on your own with a clear head, you can devise a plan and be in and out In a few minutes unless you choose to linger over something - and then at least you can linger without someone huffing and puffing behind you. What drove me nuts was how if my ex tagged along to the hardware store fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 12:58 PM |
| 36 | all this going on farida.d. author is a reminder men are not our alliesThere are a lot of performative "allies" out there. They're probably narcissistic and/or sociopathic. They don't ever address comments which aren't fawning over them (this happens in person or online ) because they can't go off script. They don't believe what they're saying, but believe that they have something to gain from saying it. That's not to say that all male or white allies are fake, but they fake ones usually do have tells. A person who truly cares would cite their sources, would mentio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 08:48 PM |
| 15 | all this going on farida.d. author is a reminder men are not our alliesTurtleneckemo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 08:38 PM |
| 332 | Dating “inequality” “data analysis”-🤣Well i think some inc3ls photoshopped a woman to have a beard and chest hair and generally look as unattractive as possible, put her up on tinder and she actually got plenty of matches. It's not that men have "created a dating eco omy for women with little inequality" it's just that they are thinking with their dicks as soon as they see a woman - "is she fuckable?". "how desperate are you right now? because you could probably bag this one for a quick lay." See that article where the guy accident… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:59 PM |
| 66 | “If Beyoncé can get cheated on, then there’s no hope for us” is a cope, not the standard.This right here. Being a Pickme is dangerous. Large quantities of men will be interested yeah but that's it. It's a lie that sexual ability and availability will keep a man. And it definitely is a sure-fire way to end up with a guy who only likes you for those "qualities" even if he keeps up the facade of being interested in other things for a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 11:16 AM |
| 5 | i can’t take this relationship anymoreSilence is sometimes the best answer. You got it right -he'll only try to hoover you back in if you give him anything at all. And for what it's worth, those horrible things he has been saying to you aren't true. My first relationship was with a guy who used to call me selfish, stuck up, dopey, backwards ...all kinds of things and it worked because family members had said similar things. But it wasn't true. None of it. When guys say things like this it's just abuse. That's all it is. They'll wear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 08:05 PM |
| 17 | "policing of emotions"?Yeah. My dad didn't let me have any feelings or even speak directly to him because it was "rude" so I grew up believing that having feelings or needs would make other.people uncomfortable. Then I had an ex who expected me to take it very seriously every time he got angry or upset over something minor or would lash out at me over something which was nothing to do with me. But i was never allowed to be upset about anything. For example, he'd make promises to me and just neglect to keep them or eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 01:10 PM |
| 8 | Post not on FDS? 40K upvotes. If they saw it here they'd just instantly hate it and call us delusional.The men who treated me like shit were the ones that I made a first move, no matter how tiny that move was. It’s also hard being in places physically, seeing a guy you’re attracted to, but he does not make any moves on you. If that’s the case, he’s not the one for you, nor would he appreciate you making the move first. Yes! Even if you just subtly flirt with a scrote, he will note that he has the opportunity to secure sex. Even if he doesn't know you or particularly like you as a person. It's sad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 02:30 PM |
| 29 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?Nah his inability to perform is probably due to porn. His brain can't comprehend why women don't come with a built-in pornstar mode which activates as soon as he shows her his penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 09:13 AM |
| 9 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.You can't win with men. We're supposed to lower our standards, jump on the first guy who shows interest, don't sleep around, be Ride Or Die™, communicate and work on the relationship instead of walking out when he disrespects us, we're not supposed to put pressure on a guy to treat us well and we shouldn't expect it because there are always worse guys out there. We're supposed to give our all to a guy. .. but somehow it's our fault if the dude mistreats us. Or if we get strung along for years be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:02 PM |
| 480 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’."I want to pander to the male gaze because I'm insecure and crave male validation so that they don't lump me in with the "angry, ugly feminists". But I don't want anyone (Including myself) to believe that I am simply pandering to the male gaze so I slap a feminist label. I am still shackled by internalised misogyny, but it doesn't feel so bad when I call it a personal choice. Everything stays the same, but i feel the "empowerment" running through my veins. " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:56 PM |
| 119 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEWhen will women start seeing men for who they are? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:58 PM |
| 15 | I just realized that women are encouraged to apologize for wanting, well anything and I'm done GAFYeah but when the guy you "gave a chance" ends up (surprisingly /s) treating you badly, somehow it's your fault for not picking better guys. It's BS. We're supposed to look past poor appearance, income, hygiene, attitude, behaviour...everything, jump on the first guy who shows interest, but then men flock together to moan about how "women just date assholes, not nice guys like me waaa". No point listening to men, they don't know what they want besides a limitless supply of free virgin p-ssy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 10:23 AM |
| 35 | Overheard: "Insecure women are BAD"You won't find a confident woman who looks like a pornstar, caters so hard to the male gaze, has zero sexual boundaries and desperately tries to prove that she's a 'cool girl' , not fazed by her partner's misogyny in the slightest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 02:31 PM |
| 123 | SWer finds out her dad watches porn. Calls him vile and disgusting. He doesn’t get why and neither does Reddit.It's that whole bs idea of - you're just taking money from these dumb, desperate degenerates. You can laugh your way to the bank knowing that you're somehow tricking these creeps out of their money. So you go ahead and you think that and you go about your life with a sort of justification only to find that these guys are not just weirdos behind a screen, they're your brothers, fathers, coworkers, friends, boyfriend. And then I think it starts to click into place- something you didn't really want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 13 | Well… you chose him!Yeah so what? I chose who he pretended to be. And when he showed his true colours, I left. What do these people expect ? Do they think he was acting his worst on the first date? Do they think we chose him because of his awful behaviour? The annoying thing is that when we're picky and we dismiss guys for dropping red flags, men and pickmes will harp on about how we need to lower our standards, give a guy a chance etc. And that's how we end up rationalising mistreatment until it gets too much to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:50 AM |
| 433 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.A twenty-five year old dating a twenty year old who's just starting to form her views gets pissed that she's decided that what works for him is not best for her. 🙄 Also: "I really love her and don't want to lose her but I don't want to commit to her. She won't have sex with me until I do. Help me, Reddit." 🙄🙄🙄🙄🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 11:19 AM |
| 197 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidWhat in the insane fuck did I just read ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:00 PM |
| 13 | Anyone disgusted with the way men talk?I mean men have never had to silence themselves, learn to keep their thoughts or opinions in their heads. They're not taught to practise restraint in any way, especially when it comes to their sexuality. The whole of society tells them that their reproductive organs are the most precious and valuable things in the planet and that they should never deny themselves sexual pleasure. As they get more desensitizes to porn and sexualisation, we start to see more and more of it saturate our culture. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 11:19 AM |
| 59 | Men finding "love" with AI chatbots - Horrifying Black Mirror episode, good alternative to sex workers, or both? - 'I fell in love with my AI girlfriend - and it saved my marriage'Yeah let them have their AI waifus so long as they leave us alone I say. Unfortunately, I think they'll tire of it and go out searching for 'real pussy'. We already aren't human to them but indulging all their desires only ever leads to escalation. Men are so hedonistic, it's unreal. They're slaves to their dicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 10:37 AM |
| 26 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…Yes. if you care about someone, you want to know that they could survive without you. Anyone who "encourages" you to be dependent on them in any way does not actually care about you. Especially if that person is sweeping you off your feet, giving you the time of your life and slowly, but surely, pulling you away from your own life, making your life revolve around them. This is the infamous "honeymoon phase" of abusive and controlling relationships. People focus so hard on the lavish ways their p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:34 AM |
| 50 | “Men are simple creatures”Except they all claim that they're simple-minded unless it comes to having to justify why they should be in charge of anything - then suddenly they become "the intellectual superior sex". (Self-proclaimed.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:05 PM |
| 134 | Men make up these stupid excuses for their behavior because they are spoiled and never called outOh he most definitely is. Edit: actually his personality just sent him rocketing into the minuses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:23 AM |
| 21 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of CheatingYes. I had the same. And yes, he was cheating. .of they're throwing around baseless accusations, they're either cheating or they're attempting to cheat. Also you probably are out of his league (definitely in fact), but for insecure guys, they wonder why and how they managed to bag a woman out of their league. They wonder what is wrong with her. They wonder if perhaps, because they could get this beautiful woman, maybe they could get a "better" woman. They may be jealous and want to tilt the powe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 123 | A rant about beauty standards; men have no right to decide what women "should" look like.Yeah I feel you. We're taught to live outside of our body, constantly observing yourself through the lens of what men currently find desirable. It's a joke. For one, men's standards are not nearly as high as they claim. They just enjoy ranking us. The beauty industry profits off of nitpicking our appearance and men want to get the most conventionally attractive woman they can to impress other men as if we're nothing more than a fashion statement. (Or, as men call it: status symbol. For two, who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 08:35 PM |
| 87 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡People on the internet aren't people and don't count when he's getting off to them, so why is he seeking the opinion of people on the internet who are...not people because screen ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:12 AM |
| 8 | Dating men who are grievingDon't. I did it when I was young and it occurred to me that I wouldn't do the same to anyone else. It makes for an extremely one-sided relationship. Even when he's over the grief, he'll be used to leaning on you without any reciprocation from him. As other ladies have pointed out, a good person would not be looking to date while mentally not in a sound place. Grieving can make you needy, irrational, prone to lashing out or disassociating, likely to prioritize your own feelings and behave selfish… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 12:51 PM |
| 20 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..But why tho? Why bottles of piss and jars of shit are so important to men ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 12:38 PM |
| 292 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women."I was just offering some oUtSidE pErSPecTive. ". Yeah bruh, we hear your perspective all day every day everywhere we go since birth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:13 AM |
| 129 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.A good man would stand outside the door, protecting female spaces, not invading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:11 AM |
| 25 | scrotey man can masturbste ‘for hours’ but can’t hold an erection with his girlfriend. sex columnist advice ‘oh don’t feel ashamed, just communicaaaaate’Perfect. 😸 Edit:. thing is, even if we all started spamming these people's inboxes telling them the literal truth. Even linking them to research, they'd probably just get a column crying something about how " the anti-porn, sex-negative movement is harassing us when we're just doing our job. " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:53 PM |
| 18 | If you follow FDS right, you WON'T know the full truth of what you dodged. And that's not only fine, it's preferable.“You’re the only one who makes me this way.” They all say that. I swear most of them all are reading the same playbook or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 12:35 PM |
| 263 | 🤡Please. Can we get something in writing as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 6 | How'd You Find FDS?"These women are saying that p-rn is bad and that a woman shouldn't have to put out after buying her own coffee in a man's presence!!!!" Oh no. joins sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 09:43 AM |
| 42 | The term Pickme gaining traction? thoughts?I've seen men calL eachother pickme recently. The funny thing is that it doesn't have the same effect, they're like "yeah I do hope I get picked/I did get picked. And what?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 09:40 AM |
| 69 | Ladies please be careful about who you have children with. She is pregnant but he is trying to dictate how she gives birth… also he doesn’t know about the umbilical cord? 🥴How much you wanna bet he's gonna flip out when he finds out she won't be able to have sex right after giving birth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:50 AM |
| 94 | Porn sick scrote almost killed his girlfriend performing kink. THIS IS DANGEROUS!He was shook cuz that's not what happens in his pornos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:25 PM |
| 10 | Referring to women as girlsI was literally complaining to my mom yesterday about how people in work and also doctors and various officials still call me "a young girl". I am nearly thirty! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:27 AM |
| 58 | How'd You Find FDS?I genuinely found it (on my old account) via people complaining about it lmao 🤣 it didn't have many members back then and I didn't know what it was but it quickly became one of my favourite subs and it survived the Reddit purge. I'm so glad it's grown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:23 AM |
| 9 | Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each otherYes. And kindness from a woman is never to do with how attractive you are. They genuinely care. When I was young and in an abusive relationship I'd come to work obviously with stuff on my mind and it was older women who took me aside, somehow knew exactly what was up and tried to protect me and show me my worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 11:19 AM |
| 37 | Man After Breakup: A StudyYeo, as soon as my neighbour's poor partner (and mother to two of his young children) moved out after her physically and verbally abused her(!!!). He immediately started having other women over almost every other night. She told me that he kept calling her asking her to come back eventually she got a new phone and changed her number. Yeah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:43 PM |
| 204 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Yeah this guy is defo watching porn. He just wanted a second mommy for his kid and takes out his porn-induced and self-hating depression on her. The only Dr he needs is a psychiatrist and only after he gets the divorce papers. The OP needs to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 12:53 PM |
| 14 | Journey into the oblivion! The angry scrotes in the comments are a nice touch 😂They're coming with their audacity in the comments and none of them (other than the Walmart guy) answered the question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 08:07 PM |
| 72 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Yes rescue this woman and her baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 09:25 PM |
| 33 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.He's either punishing her or playing some stupid redpill game to make her feel insecure. The problem is that guys have collectively got women and girls questioning their sanity so instead of just walking away at signs of disrespect, the women/girls go and ask the internet (full of other rp guys, inc*ls and pickme male-apologists ) whether they should let it slide. And it was me at one point too except I didn't have Reddit so I just used to Google stuff and find all the same advice from pickme co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:16 AM |
| 114 | Saw this on IG. Could say I'm shocked but sadly I'm not.Yeah F-that. Not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:38 PM |
| 99 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬Tbh they ruined pretty much everything else as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 103 | How are men so obsessed with sex and yet still SO BAD at it??They just want to c-m and the whole of society says that that is sex, that is what they should want and that they literally don't have to do anything else. They put so much effort into acquiring sex - they fake whole personalities sometimes, but when it comes to putting effort into the woman who allows them access to her body, they don't. They don't see us as people and until they do, they will continue like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:58 AM |
| 4 | Scrote abuses and manipulates wife into thinking she is ugly and blames herself for his cheating and abuse.I can guarantee that she is beautiful and he is telling her that she's ugly so that he can continue to abuse her and make her think that she'll never do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:54 AM |
| 54 | PIED confirmedR-pe on tape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:45 PM |
| 49 | We have to stop putting up with this shit 🤡Same. Usually it's him who was abusive and the ex at most simply reacted to his abuse with reactive rage, mood swings, mirroring etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 09:39 PM |
| 72 | Man pretends to be doctor, lawyer and council official to control his girlfriend. Story in the comments:2years huh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:08 PM |
| 35 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.The thing is, I was in this situation and the dad made my life hell when I tried to make him leave. He'd run off with the baby, get his family to harass me, threaten to tell the people who came to check on the baby that I was crazy. He bully me then pull out his phone to record me sitting in the corner holding the baby trying to get away from him (but my house was tiny so I couldn't get away. ) He could afford better solicitors and legal help than I could and he'd threaten to take me for as much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:46 AM |
| 19 | We have a fragile one.I'm pretty sure that if we could choose our sexuality, most of us would Unfortunately we're stuck being attracted to the sex who wants to harm us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:48 PM |
| 31 | Looking the same after babiesOn my first, I definitely gained weight while breastfeeding and I had a lot of pressure to lose weight. I got away from the guy while pregnant with my second. I lost the weight from the second child really quickly. I think hormones and stress definitely play a major role. Sometimes during breastfeeding, the body probably thinks it needs to hoard fat to sustain yourself and a baby during a stressful time. (Even when the " stress " is some scrote watching p-rn and calling you a "6" while he sits o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 09:27 PM |
| 7 | A “predictable response” from a redditor. My concern about men preying on young girls is definitely just jealousy 🙄They forget that we were teenage girls/young women at one point and oftentimes we don't want other young girls falling prey to older men like we/our friends/girls we knew did. Women's re apparently "so emotional" but the only emotional men ever seen to attribute to us is jealousy and envy. It's them who are jealous of younger, attractive men so they desperately try to go for girls who are vulnerable and naïve, convincing themselves that it's fine and "natural" while they attack any older woman t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 09:04 AM |
| 39 | Stay at home dads vs stay at home mumsSounds about right! Hide the mess. Give them snacks (which the mom probably bought), TV on all day long. Leave the dirty clothes for the mom. Leave the dishes for the mom. Leave wet laundry in the machine Let them nap long or late so they're bouncing off the walls at bed time. Then the kids think that the mom is the boring one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 6 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!This response had me in tears. 😂 Congratulations to the orignal Op for seeing straight through that BS. For me it wasn't a cat, it was a job. It was a shit job that I hated and was supposed to be temporary but it was my job He hated it and constantly accused me of "choosing work over him. " Because he couldn't get me to just quit my job, he sabotaged me in whatever way possible. He would make me late, he would start fights before and after work. He would question my schedule and accuse me of che… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:24 PM |
| 72 | Angry right nowSo sorry that happened. These men don't give a fuck and don't even think they did wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 09:20 PM |
| 21 | To those who were cheated on and took back their exes for a “second chance” how did it change you emotionally/mentally? What gave you the strength to leave?He convinced me that it was his friend who had been using a dating site on my laptop while I was out. They both have the same first name and I obviously couldn't sign into the account because it had been logged out - it just said hisname+random number in the username suggestions to log into the site. I didn't believe him, but thought that I needed absolute proof in order to leave 🤡. Later in the year he left his Facebook logged into my phone and I found him messaging his ex asking to see her. It… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:19 PM |
| 164 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upHe started dating her when she was 18/19 "barely legal". I feel sorry for the daughter in this. It is absolutely disgusting. And the OP is deluded. She would rather think the daughter is being catty about her height rather than even entertain the idea that the daughter - a 31 year old woman can see how clearly disgusting the situation is. I'd be uncomfortable if I had to watch my dad getting all cuddly with a 23 year old girlfriend (he's about the same age as OP's "bf") and I'm only 27. I rememb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:03 PM |
| 90 | I just waited around to protect my lash technician from a creepy client.Yeah we're "paranoid" for not trusting men around our kids, but if something happens guess who gets blamed for not protecting her child? So unless they sort out the guys who are doing this then we have no choice but to continue to be paranoid. Instead they choose to sulk about it and whine about "but women are bad too. " & " didn't do nothing, it's not all men" etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 11:57 PM |
| 45 | Friends that make questionable relationship decisions like this are LV. I don’t understand how the entire friend group KNOWS it’s disgusting and yet…no one steps up to call him out. Gross.Yeah I agree. I used to have to hang out with a lot of guys and they confront eachother over all things major and minor. The only exception ever being women and girls - I've heard them talk amongst themselves about guys who date teens, guys who cheat, guys who abuse their girlfriends, guys who do all kinds of messed up shit, but they keep it all on the low. Same often goes for these guys families as well - including mothers, sisters, grandmothers. The best you as a woman/girl might get is a warn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:30 PM |
| 8 | When posting here have you gotten Reddit Cares messages from scrotes because they’re big mad?I had to get a whole new account. I don't even know what I said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 09:20 AM |
| 133 | A case for a prenup - "I was my husband’s research analyst, caregiver, cook and housekeeper. Now he wants a divorce after 38 years."The old creeps are the worst. Everyone makes the excuse like "he's old he doesn't know what he's doing/saying". Yeahhh nah it's not an excuse, it just means that even with a failing memory, a lifetime of harassing women has it wired into his reflexes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:03 PM |
| 26 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?This. My ex swore that he would be nothing like his dad. He didn't grow up with him so I assumed he meant it, but I guess he had idolized his dad as a kid and was eager to have a relationship as an adult. His dad had cheated, was an alcoholic and user and had a reputation for beating his girlfriends. As he grew closer to his dad, he became more and more like him. ( And he didn't even see him every day, just a few times a month over a period of about a year. ) It's not necessary a sentence that y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:23 AM |
| 66 | If it’s true it’s sad :(Yeah it's shameful that I was, at first, taken aback by how clean it was. Then I was like....oh, right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 09:02 PM |
| 53 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineI was gunna say, she looks young and I'm 27! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 10:04 AM |
| 51 | Politician says female Doctor Who is to blame for young male violence on International Man’s DayNope. Our government doesn' t give a fuck about women. Misogyny was declared not a hate crime just recently because it would "overwhelm the police. ". The police who already fail us all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:06 PM |
| 51 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantPlus they have kids. The dad isn't factoring them in too. It's not really appropriate to be bringing adult friends over all the times forcing the kids to be on their best behaviour when they should be enjoying themselves too. Nevermind that the wife can't relax while he chills with his buddies. I doubt he does fifty percent of the childcare too. Edit and I guarantee as other people pointed out that he is either the reason her family don't talk to her or she has a family so toxic that she was a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 01:33 PM |
| 80 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.Yeah man-child is apparently hate-speech now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:48 AM |
| 35 | Another reason why we should never date men who don’t clean and proactively manage their health: this woman’s husband has poorly managed IBS and she’s getting shamed for being disgusted (“IN SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH!”) because he makes her clean up his literal shit.I have Crohn's. in my personal experience:. Only one person ever tried to use it to hurt me and that was an ex who in general stank up the bathroom worse than me on a bad episode so.... Redundant. In fact he is literally this guy in the original. He would bring it up when he was angry at me, telling me that no one wants a girl with Crohn's. Once I had an accident and he freaked out and called me disgusting. Then he ended up having many accidents during the time I knew him. Karma? Nah.... Him stu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 09:29 PM |
| 10 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?But if you break up with them, for any reason, it’s 100% because you want to fuck other guys and definitely not because he’s a piece of shit who doesn’t deserve to breathe the same air I wish someone had warned me about that. And told me not to care about it. I legit had a guy who'd break up with me all the time and I was just kinda like... Okayyy but then he'd accuse me of "cheating " when he'd broken up with me. And if I ever tried to get away from him, he'd tell me that it was because I wante… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 09:08 PM |
| 11 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?This. Sex and hookups are overrated and can even ruin your life. But also I wish I'd been told that I was supposed to at least enjoy it a little bit. It isn't something you should do because a guy pressures you. If he runs because you won't "put out" soon enough, let him go. If you decide to go ahead: Make sure that you do not feel pressured. Make sure that you definitely want it. If you have any doubt, wait. If he makes fun of you or talks badly about you for wanting it. Walk away. This guy is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:35 PM |
| 65 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.My dad nearly died from refusing to go to the doctor's (which is FREE here + better then than it is now). He let his cancer progress to a stage where it was really hit and miss whether treatment was going to work. He'd be crawling on the floor in agony, crying in front of my little brother and sister and freaking them out. I was worried, my mum was worried and he just wouldn't go. Eventually my mom phoned the emergency services who said to bring him in right away when he had golf ball sized Lump… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 07:36 AM |
| 18 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I hate it. In my actual personal experience, I have only ever been pressured or, in some cases, downright forced to give head to unattractive and unhygienic guys. They'd always expect deepthroating and for me to swallow or to finish on my face or chest. One guy would hit me and scream at me if I wouldn't do it well enough. My first kiss forced me to give a BJ and I used to think about it to help me vomit when i was purging just to put it that way. I have given a girl oral when we were both 17 an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:37 PM |
| 30 | I’d show you the comment I was responding to, but he deleted it. Called out a misogynist and he wrote an essay in response.Their emotions are apparently "rational" so they only perceive someone else's reaction to them. They never see their behaviour which caused the reaction. Even if they behave extremely poorly to the point where they recognise it, they'll find a way to make it somehow someone or something else's fault in order to rationalize their behaviour - they work backwards to prove that their behaviour was justified and a logical conclusion of .. whatever reason they give. While most women recognise that the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:19 PM |
| 211 | Masturbation requires porn apparentlyYeah a guy definitely wrote this. He's mad cuz his girlfriend left him over porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:32 PM |
| 79 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?That you're allowed to give Yourself the love you thought you had to save for others. That it's common to be called "selfish" for not extending yourself to anyone who wants your time and energy and you don't have to GAF. What others say about you isn't always true even if they're people who claim to love you. Being "high maintenance" is a good thing. Being super chill gets you walked all over - I knew that but had to hear the ladies here say it. You're allowed to have expectations from a potenti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:16 PM |
| 10 | so.. I let my feelings get ahead of my logic and did something idioticSweetie, I've apologised to a guy like this and it just jerks their ego off. It's nothing to do with you and all to do with him. You won't get the closure you're looking for with this guy. It might make you feel better to know that he almost definitely knows that you're not a monster. He knows that he did wrong, he just doesn't care right now. Right now he's just getting off on torturing you because he knows you care. He's enjoying knowing that he's messing with you, punishing you for leaving hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:49 PM |
| 8 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴You are so right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 08:05 AM |
| 72 | What's coming next? Do you think things will get better or worse?Nah they took away our rights in order to force us to depend on them so they could distribute us amongst themselves. Men built a system which was predicated on our subjugation and on land-grabbing colonialism, war, slavery, and exploitation. They make us and other oppressed groups feel grateful for giving us rights within their system which they've been controlling for thousands of years. The civilization which men built and spread around the world is destroying our planet and the richest among … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:39 PM |
| 204 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.We need to spread the word far and wide and hopefully every woman will start acting like this until men either sort it out or rage quit dating forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:48 PM |
| 2 | The victim blaming pickmeisha. Could it get any worse?I'm sorry. And sorry for the utter bs blame you had to face. "your fault for being friends with him". Do they even hear themselves? We're not supposed to not trust men, but when we do trust them and something happens to us, apparently we "should have known better than to trust them.". Every day I'm reminded of another reason to not trust men . Any men. Even the ones you think you know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 201 | The victim blaming pickmeisha. Could it get any worse?I was 11 and wearing a school uniform. Then at 15 wearing a knee-length dress with no cleavage or make up. I was not assaulted when I slept at a straight-male-friend's house because I was too intoxicated to go home. Almost as if it's not important how we dress or act at all and actually is entirely dependent on the man and his choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 19 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itI can relate. I wasn't the talkative type. I grew up with a dad who worked in the community and thus our family was always in the public eye. We had to relocate multiple times because of my dad's job. I didn't fit in anywhere, but my parents expected me to extend myself to others and have the demeanor of a friendly hostess or someone in customer service. Often my dad's friends or kids from school would come and talk to me in public and I'd just... Shut down. I wouldn't know what to say. I do t k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 09:18 PM |
| 57 | Jesus Christ how is this not banned already. TW r**eFor the most part, no. No we are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 03:52 PM |
| 75 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Yeah but giving men space to grow and the only thing they grow is biceps and hatred. They disappoint. They do this to themselves and they blame us. The majority of men do not have what it takes to be in a relationship with an average woman and instead of ..like, trying ...to be better people, they seek to control and terrorise us and when we start to gain rights, they sat we've "gone too far" and seek to gain back the control they once had. Wtf, men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 57 | ..did anybody see this?That guy is just being really emotional. All the men giving him awards are being emotional too. Patting eachother on the back, consoling eachother "it's alright bro, we don't need to listen to anything women have to say about us. They just hate us and want us to all die. They're just as bad as us. We don't have to take a look at ourselves, our friends, our family... Why do better when we can just imagine a world where women are worse than us! " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 8 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧I too came here to say this. FLUS is a great place to start working on loving and establishing yourself before you throw yourself into the mess that is the dating scene. I wish I'd had guidance like this when I was younger. I didn't love myself. I didn't establish myself. I crashed my education because I cared too much about what my family thought of me. I burnt out and tried to strike out on my own. I immediately got snatched up by a predator. It's much harder to recover when you've burnt a lot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 28 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsYes, men are so....smart and... logical 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 61 | “Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” -@sheenie_weenie_, 2021 ADI was put off tiktok for a long time, then I downloaded it and it's algorithm seems to reckon I'm some kind of rad-fem-anti-capitalist lesbian badass who likes carpentry and animal facts ...lmao (I'd be proud to be who tiktok thinks I am) I've seen a few problematic videos such as strippers counting their money, but plenty of other people calling them out for encouraging young girls into sex-work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 08:14 AM |
| 169 | A personal realization: why losers leave during cancer.I read something really sad which said that women who get sick tend to keep on doing housework until it becomes physically impossible -nevermind fatigue or pain or discomfort or risk of injury, they usually have to get to the stage where they're pretty much bedridden before they stop. Husbands usually only start taking on the majority of the housework when their wives get to the bedridden stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 08:50 AM |
| 5 | Passive communication; She was raped vs He raped her. Which do you hear more often? Why?Yep the passive voice and labelling r*pe and sexual assault as "women's issues" allows men to step out of the conversation and largely ignore it. They get to think along the lines of "well I personally haven't done any of these things so therefore I get to remain complacent and let women talk about it amongst themselves" as if that solves anything at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:40 PM |
| 111 | Why are we taught to focus on MEN??Manipulative people will always have you running round trying to prove yourself so you never have time to question whether they're even worth it. You'll always be on the backfoot feeling insecure while they get to sit comfy on their pedestal nitpicking and criticising and never having to hold themselves accountable. This is just what society is doing to women en masse. Men get to wallow in their Cheeto dust, "dad bods" and porn addictions while beautiful women scramble over eachother in a desper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:42 PM |
| 2 | UNICEF Report Says Pornography Not Always Harmful to ChildrenI saw this recently and I really don't get it. Giving a child drugs or alcohol or cigarettes is not going to make them upset necessarily but it doesn't make it right and nobody seems to take an issue with restricting children's access to those substances. Just because something doesn't make you feel upset or may even make you feel good does not mean that it has no effect on you. Wtf kind of "logic "is this? So UNICEF is concluding that access to highly addictive- often violent- sexual content wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:11 PM |
| 90 | How would you ever be able to trust him again? Disgusting.Aw... Why... ? This woman has no self-respect and clearly that extends to her own sister. I can't imagine even being able to look at someone who violated my sister without her knowledge like that ...and his excuse is pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:00 PM |
| 19 | I have no words...Father likes that people think he’s dating his daughter🤮My dad and I would often get mistaken for a couple because he looks very young for his age and also I was born when he was pretty young. He'd get all coy with whoever posed the question/made the comment, but he would quickly and proudly say "no that's my daughter." It wasn't to do with me but more his being happy to look younger. I used to joke and say "I know I look older but not that old. ". Yeah, for sure, he did get a bit of an ego boost, but he in no way ever tried to keep up the pretence o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 04:27 PM |
| 47 | My self-esteem glow-up since FDS:It's a horrible dumpster fire of a show. And the female characters all just seem to get skinnier and crazier as it goes on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Do not read or entertain essays from low value menThis one time on my (now dead) account, I had some guy follow me and then write a message to me about how my grandma apparently sounds like a "queen" and I could learn a thing or two from her. He literally asked me for her contact details. It was in reference to a post about how she belittled my mother, me and my sister for pursuing higher education and not aspiring to be dutiful housewives? Post didn't even have that much info in it. This woman legit did some serious damage to me when I was chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:58 PM |
| 66 | Porn is one of the leading factors in why couples get divorced. Divorce lawyers have been sounding the alarm since 2002.I think not shaming them is called enabling. It's not even exactly comparable to another addiction such as alcohol or smoking (which people do get shamed for more than porn!), But this is an addiction to literally orgasming to the degradation and abuse of other human beings - it doesn't just harm the consumer; it harms the partner; it can harm any children in the picture; it causes the consumer to view women and children differently and increases the risk of rape or molestation - including sexua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:14 PM |
| 37 | Always listen to your gut & let’s count the red flagsWeirdly I know exactly what op is talking about. I once kissed a guy who, no word of a lie, reminded me of raw liver - his lips were somehow cold and repulsive even though I couldn't work out why since he was conventionally attractive. I think OP's brain/ body had picked up on something icky or off about him which didn't register on a conscious level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 101 | I usually don't like this meme format but I had to do this 😂He'd probably just think you want him to come over and prove you wrong lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:17 PM |
| 63 | This is so distributing.So many actually blame the children themselves or dismiss their own children, calling them liars or ignoring them. All bad. All evil. And then men scream and shout false accusations to put the element of doubt into any woman's testimony. Same with rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 12:00 PM |
| 59 | A question?It's probably something to do with the way they've formed their sexuality with porn use since they were children. When they're not horny anymore, they close the tab or do something else. There is no intimacy associated with sex for these guys- it's just a release like the way they see masturbation. Even the most awful guy I have ever been with still wanted to cuddle after sex and actually got angry with me because I didn't. I'm not a touchy-feely person and also wasn't attracted to him. I was su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 11:43 AM |
| 66 | Qualities of Queendom: not giving a fuck about other people being mad at you 👸Me too - I couldn't put it into words before FDS. My upbringing wasn't even that bad. I used to say that I felt like I was made of knives and everyone else of glass. Offending someone by the way I spoke (or didn't speak) was the absolute worst thing I could do. It teaches the fawning/flirting response to anger - trying to placate the one who is raging rather than standing up for yourself. A lot of women seem to have this. We're conditioned to be agreeable and stifle our own emotions even if they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:51 AM |
| 4 | I'm in a blind rage. Look at the top youtube searches that start with the word "feminist."That is actually possibly true though. Who wants to be equal to those who are prone to unregulated emotional outbursts which result in their partners and children being harmed? Or those who spend their days getting off to sexual and physical abuse of others? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 04:37 PM |
| 18 | I'm in a blind rage. Look at the top youtube searches that start with the word "feminist."Men: If women are equal to men, then men should be sanctioned to do the exact same thing that men have been doing to women for all of known history - slapping them around for daring to disagree. Checkmate, feminist!!! Hurhurhur not so equal now that you got a 6ft gymbro threatening to curbstomp your wh*re face. Men: if women equal then how come I gotta pay to fCK them. Why don't they pay to fCK me? Only the hot ones tho.. Womyn logic amirite boys?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:13 PM |
| 16 | Something I missed in my post about body positivity and obesity: a lot of disordered eating in women is a manifestation of trauma.All that fawning which is seen as cute and feminine in women is a massive sign of trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:52 AM |
| 140 | Another woman is not yours to “offer” or “give” 🤮I saw a post on a local sub where a woman had handwritten a note TO THE MAN telling him that she and hubby found his girlfriend attractive and were asking his permission to ask his girlfriend to come over and have some "harmless fun between consenting adults". The dude posted it in confusion, but took it as a compliment to his girlfriend & everyone was just finding it cute and amusing. It was weird. In what reality do we live where a woman asks a man if she and hubby can borrow his girlfriend? D… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:21 AM |
| 10 | If you're *really* married, how come you're on FDS?Exactly! I'm neither married nor dating, nor planning on either...ever again. I still stick around for the conversation. If women here wanted to get married, uhm, we could. I've had marriage proposals from age 15. Let me tell you, lurkers, it's not hard. Women have never had trouble finding someone to marry them. Even when women weren't allowed to own property or have a bank account or work outside the home, dudes would be lining up as suitors. They really don't think there is any other purpose … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:53 AM |
| 83 | Men hate us both for being “high maintenance” when we’re young and “not taking care of ourselves” when we’re oldTruer words have never been spoken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 09:33 PM |
| 16 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎You know you're in the right place when you're in the most hated sub on peddit. They hate women who say no more than they hate Inc*st, CP, leaked nudes, racism... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 07:50 AM |
| 67 | Even LVMs who ride buses know they're a poor choice to be a father :)This. Men:. Women should give us a chance regardless of our situation! Also men: dumb women shouldn't get pregnant with a dude who has no car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 04:37 PM |
| 28 | I used to and still feel scared of embracing my feminine side because it feels unsafe. Has anyone else felt this way?Real empowerment: loving your body for the amazing things it's capable of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 48 | why i hate all the “men” (read: man 👶’s 🍼) i’ve slept with. they got instant gratification & a green light to leave, & i was once again sad, loveless & orgasmless. so i stopped every single type of intimacy without being in an LTR with a man who exceeds my expectations. 10 months in, i found him🥰He had sex with his pillow and now he's depressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 07:36 AM |
| 102 | "My ex is crazy" is still a red flag, even if he's telling the truthYes. They often want someone who's insecure, doesn't expect much but is desperate to people-please. They're describing someone who is mentally unwell. Men are attracted to vulnerable women. That's why there are those "crazy Vs hot" graphs made by men showing that they basically think "crazy" women/girls are hot. Then they treat them terribly and that mental illness breaks the woman down until she really does start acting "crazy" and they can show the world that she really is a piece of work. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:58 AM |
| 129 | Men still harass us no matter what we wear cause it doesn't change what they know we have underneathI was catcalled in a mask and a man's coat carrying a baby on my back. Someone in another post on here just said it perfectly - they still know you have a vagina, they're gonna harass you. I gotta say, personally I do prefer wearing a mask though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 07:46 AM |
| 157 | On-Screen Violence Towards Women is Not "Realism"People shitting is realistic, but no one wants or needs to show it. Sure a character can be raped, but why shoe it? Why go into detail? I remember watching Dr Zhivago when I was young and the young girl is clearly raped by the old man, but nothing is shown! You know it happened! Rape scenes on TV are just "sex scenes" to men. They're meant to titillate and turn men on. It's perversion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 98 | Men who get too comfortable in relationshipsThey withhold their depravity until they think they got you. It's not about "trusting" or being " able to open up". That's just how they frame it to manipulate women into justifying it to themselve. "Oh, he feels ok talking about anything with me. He'll even share his deepest, darkest fantasies. This means that he loves and trusts me enough. Ok...I guess. " Nah. When you've been in a relationship with someone and you do start to trust them, you may feel comfortable revealing private information … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 07:54 PM |
| 12 | Anybody else feel re-traumatized and/or re-victimized over the way they're treated when they try to talk about their painful experiences with men?Your dignity and self-respect are a threat to those who'd rather you didn't have it. They've given up theirs and still believe they should be treated like royalty. When they cannot take it from you, they will try anything to make you give it up yourself. Don't. They're the undeserving ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:26 AM |
| 63 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreThe poor child. Also, does she not realise that both of their lives are literally in danger during birth? One of them could die and if she thinks these scrotes would stop watching, they won't. That video would be shared around even more and you bet scrotes would find it even more arousing as torture/snuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:18 AM |
| 34 | Another Valid Reason Women Are Refusing To Procreate With Pornsick Scrotes : in the U.K. there was over 9 million attempts to access photos and videos of children suffering sexual abuse in April last year alone. Britain is the THIRD largest consumer of live- streamed child abuse world wide.I'm from the UK and can confirm - it's nasty over here. I don't even want to date. I didn't before I tried it and I don't want to do it again. Most of the women I know are either single by choice or in awful, broken relationships with losers who do not respect them. There's also a really brutal "lad-culture" which transcends class. Our PM is a pervert who has had restraining orders taken out against him. Many people in all sorts of positions from high-up government positions, to charity workers,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:29 PM |
| 63 | Most men are not dating to marryThey may marry you if you continue you to put out for however long it takes them to realise that they're running out of options and begrudgingly decide to settle for you - the safe-bet-sex which comes with extras (by then you've probably been giving them "wifey" treatment for years)-. It's not worth it. It doesn't mean that they 'realised' that you're "the one". It just means that they are trying to secure themselves future sex and domestic labour. Possibly some kids too. I've seen guys string a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:31 AM |
| 29 | Indian scrotes discussing what they’d ask women before an arranged marriage. The audacity.And women are called gold-diggers when digging a girl's family for money and stuff is a thing that men thought up and which they still practise ...? And they still somehow find ways to tell themselves that their own system is against them ? Men are weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:21 PM |
| 345 | True crime and age gapsInteresting and disturbing. Great point about the victims often being described in an infantile or very naïve way. I noticed when I was younger that often when women would be in the news as having disappeared or been murdered, they'd be described using the word "bubbly". I put it down to it just being a generic, unimaginative word that people use for women/girls. I never thought it could be indicative of something more sinister. But it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:46 AM |
| 52 | I think guys only say "all guys watch porn" to try to make you believe you can't do better"Everybody" i.e. most people do a lot of awful things. It's never going to make it right and, unless those that do not agree are willing to stick to their guns over an issue rather than capitulate to social pressure, then nothing will ever change. It's not a good reason, just an excuse that people who know deep-down that they're wrong will always use. If women who disagree with the porn industry keep porn as a deal-breaker and refuse to date or make concessions for those who watch it, then so wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:27 AM |
| 62 | On a post about rare conditions encountered by doctors. Imagine being unable to feed yourself because your wife died or divorced youNot just that, but clearly hasn't a clue about nutrition ? There are so many ready meals/ take aways and all kinds of fruit which require zero preparation. This dude has a lot more issues than a lack of cooking skills. The logical sex™ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 01:20 PM |
| 23 | My best trick for EARLY DETECTION of misogyny: pay attention to his interpretation of TV & movie charactersLmao the new star wars is a big one. A lot of guys hate it but don't want to go into detail as to exactly why- they talk about plot holes and whatnot as if the original series were a flawless masterpiece and not riddled with all kinds of bizarre nonsense and inconsistencies. (They're still fun though! ) If anything, the newer movies have much better character development (fight me.) My mom is a real star wars geek and she enjoys the new movies as well as the old ones. Most of the men who love th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:07 PM |
| 219 | I’m just so tickled seeing this. Yes Queens, yes.I don't think guys who are so desperate for these "artificial wombs" have really thought the whole thing through. These guys can barely look after themselves alone, do they really reckon they're gonna be able to handle a crying, totally dependent and vulnerable newborn for even a full day ? Doubt it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:04 PM |
| 9 | Spotting Red Flags: Maternal EnmeshmentGreat post. This describes my dad's family to the t. I feel sorry for him if I'm honest- he did his best to get away from her but family crises brought him back close. He didn't (still hasn't ) realised the full extent of how messed up his mother is and I, as the oldest child, was subject to her abuse throughout my teens. Unfortunately, his lack of ability to confront her or even recognise her bad behaviour led him to dismiss me when I tried to tell my family what she'd done to me. Being with a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:50 PM |
| 17 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme."grumpy" lmao what a loser. Glad he's an ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 09:31 AM |
| 10 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.Idk I got a kick when I'd delivered my son and I asked my ex why he was all wet- it turned out that, during contractions, I'd been dunking his head under water and holding him there until the contraction was over. I also tore his collar by twisting it until I nearly choked him. He deserved it. The midwives told me how they'd had a guy the day before who'd been wearing a tie and had to have it cut off else his wife, who had ahold of it, would have strangled him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 09:28 AM |
| 9 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.I wondered the same thing.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 09:18 AM |
| 21 | An important way scrotes trap you and how to overcome it.Yikes. I'm seeing a lot of my dad's side of the family here. I see the dynamic a bit more clearly now and why it led me to such a bad relationship. I grew up terrified of offending people. It makes it so hard to lay down boundaries later in life. Even when your natural instinct is to be firm, it gives you that doubt in the back of your mind of whether it's worth the other person's reaction or whether you're truly in the right for speaking up and/or drawing a line. You end up completely kneecappi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 42 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialYeah the whole dear of being "high-maintenance" is so deeply instilled in the minds of young women and girls these days that they (read: we because I've been there too) will go above and beyond to show that a guy doesn't have to do anything for them. We aren't taught to ask for anything at all for fear of being "demanding/controlling/ jealous/ materialistic etc." Meanwhile we're still supposed to put in all the effort -visible or invisible - to maintain a relationship...and then some... All whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:47 PM |
| 13 | Word 🌸✨I'm indépendant : I don't need a date. Why should I pay to potentially get pumped and dumped (least awful scenario) when I could spend my money on something better? Why should I pay to impress a guy enough to marry me and then he can sit back, jerk it to porn and moan at me while I go through childbirth and do the majority (at least) of childcare. No thanks. That's a bad start to a bad end. We don't need that. We're independent and if guys offer little or nothing, we don't need them either. 🤷🏽♀… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:16 AM |
| 57 | Yeah sure let's put the blame on a girl and victimize a man who in 99% of cases was the pursuer. Funny how people don't even get enraged that hard at raped victims who had their lives ruined. Omg.If I had awards to give, they'd be yours. Bang on. What a joke. How about, don't hang out and hit on young-looking girls in a place where children are.likely to be. Don't add or hit on women/girls you don't know on social media - especially the young looking ones. In fact, don't speak to anyone you don't know in a place where there are likely to be underaged people around. It's easy to not ever have to fear that you may have had sex with a child. Oh, wait but that's not what where afraid of. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:00 PM |
| 25 | They hate confident women because they can’t control us!We'll probably die alone whether we marry and settle down or stay single; if we choose the latter, we just get a statistically better chance of a longer and happier life first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:12 AM |
| 29 | LVM Doctors create years of agony for “testy” womanI had trouble with my feet for years - from age 16-22. I tried to tell the doctors but they dismissed me. It got severe and I wasn't even offered an x-ray or anything when a female doctor decided that I was clearly just trying to get painkillers. I reported her but nothing was done. I saw several doctors about my feet and one finally referred me to a podiatrist who told me that I had Tailor's bunions and sent me for an x-ray - at that point I was 20 and my feet had caused nerve damage in my legs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:01 PM |
| 42 | Four stages of denial, aka "you should have CoMmUniCaTeD"There's no point in communication with someone whose goal it is to shut you up and keep the status quo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:10 AM |
| 49 | Abort Mission if a Man Sees You This WayI got called a six by a guy after I caught him commenting on social media that other women were apparently "10/10" so I straight up asked him "what am I then ?". He expected me to think it was "a good rating" and I was a "solid 8/9 when he met me". Bro, I wasn't having any of it. A) I don't really care for someone who rates women by numbers- it was over when I saw his comments, b) I birthed his kids and did all the housework, all the chores, gave him all the sex, worked and did all the childcare… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:52 PM |
| 16 | Saw this, shocking. Even in seemingly the BEST of circumstances, sex work is bad for women and never empowering.That's what it reminded me of - the truck-shop system for labourers which I remember studying in history. Factory workers, miners etc. would have to spend their tokens in the company store which was more expensive for them and they couldn't afford to feed their families. I didn't even know that brothels were still using it today but it makes sense. The whole thing is slavery legal or illegal. There's no freedom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:06 AM |
| 112 | Saw this, shocking. Even in seemingly the BEST of circumstances, sex work is bad for women and never empowering.In normal jobs you can save as much as you want. This says that the women must keep up an expensive life-style and gives them no real means to get out should they choose so. It's financial control. Making sure they don't have an emergency exit fund and leaving them with nothing to show for their time when they retire. It's like being frozen in limbo. When you leave, you'll be pretty much in the same financial situation as when you started except years of your life will have gone...and to what ? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 5 | I was calling out Pickminique on why NOT to date guys with mental health issues, because I grew up with a man WITH serious mental health issues which seriously affect my own mental health (Note: she didn't like it)My poor friend in HS had a father who was bipolar. She had to repeat the last 2 years of school because he destroyed her sense of calm and safety in the home, disrupted her studies and abused both her and her mother. After dating a bipolar man and watching how my dad's family deal with a schizophrenic sibling, it is mentally draining - whether they are up or whether they are down, it is all about them. They fluctuate between abusing people and crying about how they're sorry and then making thems… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:00 PM |
| 148 | Who else can relate? My last ex once ranted at me for 19 minutes straight without taking a breath.My first partner used to rant and rave at me for hours then break down crying then expect sex and sympathy - he was an emotional rollercoaster. I lost the ability to feel anything other than tense when I was with him. Nevermind what was going on in my life - that had to be pushed aside to make way for him because he apparently "had a bad childhood". This guy was older than me. The first guy I ever kissed was a softboi with a victim complex - a 24 year old chasing a 15 year old and expecting me t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:36 AM |
| 39 | Men's reviews of prostitutes they visited. This is for you libfems who promote the empowerment of sex work. Very graphic so warning.There are no words that could be said to a guy who thinks this way. A hammer to his ugly face might be able to express it better. Yes I'm advocating for violence. Sex buyers deserve nothing less.. Well, Sex-buyers actually deserve to live the lives of all their victims. But... Let's hope the afterlife brings what this world can't deliver. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 06:33 PM |
| 92 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.Reads like fanfic. Did a woman even write this at all ? "I am a pretty outgoing lady..." "Like the confident woman I am...". Ending with "ladies, do this if you've got the guts!". Yeah a dude wrote this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:10 PM |
| 63 | The fucking audacity to think porn can fix anything when you already can't get it up for your wife...He doesn't sit there and think about his wife at all... not for comparison or anything ..while watching porn. That's what he means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 11:40 AM |
| 332 | This is why you shouldn’t take other peoples opinions about your body seriously.They love it and hate it at the same time. They love it because it arouses them but they feel "betrayed" that it took surgery to look like that. They legit think that we ought to look like perfect sex objects "naturally". Also they hate what they can't have. Most (all) guys who complain about "fakery" would jump at the chance to be with a "fake" woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:45 AM |
| 23 | Beauty Hurts, a riddle by DworkinMy family's phrase was "you have to suffer to be beautiful" and I was "a cheeky little Madame" for saying that I didn't want to be beautiful. It was first said to me when I was 3 and had to spend several hours having my hair, make up and dress done for a wedding. I think every culture has this phrase because it's implied everywhere you look - no matter what the standard of beauty is, women will have to go to great lengths and endure huge feats of suffering to achieve it. It's in no way comparabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 11:27 PM |
| 41 | Forcing men to invest in us will force them to be pickyThen they can stop complaining that "all women use me for a free meal waaaa". It irks me that all they literally have to do is swipe right on anyone they find "fuck able" and narrow it down based on how many replies they get, then have the scrotacity to complain about the women who agree to the minimal effort "dates" which these men offer. If guys vetted like we have to...y'know to decrease our chances of something awful happening, then they'd have far fewer negative experiences. If they actuall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:50 PM |
| 76 | I don't have words for thisThat was me 🤡🤡🤡 laying in hospital, flooded with oxytocin, looking at this beautiful baby and where was his dad ? Hitting up old flames on FB, watching porn, taking drugs and at least trying to get an "escort" (don't know or really care if he succeeded. ). I only found it out piece by piece over the following months. I felt like such a fool because I remember leaving him, then he did a 180 on his behaviour, came to the birth. I let him into my home so that he could bring furniture (I'd just move… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:14 PM |
| 103 | I don't have words for thisWhich is apparently cuddling poor, sad men who don't have any human interaction (often elderly widows) to sleep and complimenting them for half price. Fucking disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 05:44 PM |
| 12 | Drug addict scrote who abused child(ren) died, friend's scrote husband majorly in mourning for himYeah I hate that. My ex would always say "don't speak ill of the dead". Turns out his gramps had been a massive p*do (who worked in child protection services!!!!), but the way his family talked, he was a saint. When I found out, I was just told "yeah he had his flaws, but he was a good man who provided for his family and did xyz so now that he's gone we should focus on that. " Like wtf. Obviously it disturbed me enough to end things. I should have known though when he talked similarly about Mich… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:17 AM |
| 66 | ‘Studies’ showing dad bods are more attractive to womenLmao they do look like hairy, balding oversized babies. It's gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:13 AM |
| 10 | I dated a Softboi so you don’t have to!I dated an ugly "nice guy" who turned out to be a textbook abuser. He had a persecution complex or something as well and would go on these long sob-story rants after he was done being angry and abusive. Basically an all-round entitled white misogynist who claimed that he wasn't racist because he'd been with a black woman and had black friends (he literally shouted this when I accused him of being racist). Granted, he treated his black male friends the same as his white male friends, But the way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 117 | Making fun of "daddy issues" as if it was the girl's fault that her father failed herIt's the father that has "daddy issues" considering that he failed time and time again to be a daddy Spot on. He failed his daughter(s). He failed as a parent. He ruined the lives and development of his own children because he could not be a functioning adult:. he is the one with issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:40 PM |
| 37 | Promising Young Women is an empowering movie for all women **Trigger WarningI need to find a way to watch this in the UK. I haven't found any news on its release over here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:01 PM |
| 158 | Perspective shift...We're always given the male perspective which eliminates their fault because, most of the time, they reckon that it's "what any man would do. " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:10 AM |
| 62 | A warning about older men!Tbh the half your age plus seven rule should be the legal minimum. I know it's not great, but it's better than a lot of what I've seen - which is 30+ year old guys chasing and harassing 16 year olds because "'iTs LeGal !!11!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 08:59 AM |
| 44 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.Even if a woman doesn't bring it up, why do men feel that they are naturally ok to watch porn in a relationship. They genuinely count on women having zero boundaries when it comes to porn, and expect us to just accept it. Most of them don't even say that they watch it - a lot of them will deny it even if asked. A lot of women also have no idea what "watching porn" even means and would be disgusted if they actually saw what their partners got off to. Some women watch it with their partners and me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:33 PM |
| 55 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.That's what I was thinking. Porn use only gets worse with time and he'll still be jerking it to 18 year olds - possibly even dressed up to look younger - when he's 50. It's messed up and does no good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:27 PM |
| 24 | "Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions"I have kinda curly hair and once my then-boyfriend found me straightening it at night so that it wouldn't be so hard to manage in the morning and he freaked out. I'm not exaggerating, he freaked out because not his sister, his mother, cousins or any previous girlfriends had ever done that and so therefore, it was abs wrong! My intent was to look nice for our day out the next day without having to get up extra early to do my hair and wake him up (which used the make him super moody), did he give … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 09:16 PM |
| 93 | Imagine feeling bad for cheating scrotes who abuse and exploit your body AND use you for free therapy sessions.They tell her whatever they need to tell themselves so that, not only do they get to feel like a victim, but also get her to sympathise with a prostitute. The pity flirting strokes their ego too. I remember watching a ted talk where a "sex worker" talked about how men just need intimacy and love and human touch and all the men in the comments were all "yeah! See. She gets it!". Like...what do you put into yourself and relationships to even deserve intimacy and human touch...? The comments on ano… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:04 PM |
| 16 | Saw this on Twitter — horrifyingI had someone do this to me when I was 11 years old walking to my house from the bus stop. He'd follow me and 'hide' when I turned around. He could have easily caught me, but I think he just got a kick out of scaring me. The same dude did it not once but 3 times. I was too afraid to go to my house because my parents weren't home. I didn't even tell them and I was new in the town so I didn't even have any friends and had no cellphone back then. Ever since then I have always kept am eye out for 'w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:43 AM |
| 94 | As we all know. Dominique Sisley recently posted a wild article on FDS. Apparently she can’t take criticism either. This is what happens when you try to explain what FDS’s main purpose is.Exactly my thought. The irony is most definitely lost on her though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:56 PM |
| 11 | Just read this thread of a 28 year old man trying to make excuses to why it's okay to have sex and a romantic relationship with a 15 years old. I'm disgusted.If 15 year olds don't want to have sex with other 15 year olds, they shouldn't be having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 09:42 AM |
| 26 | Use actual conditioner, groom, shower, wear nice clothes, and utilize the treatments for baldness. Us women take care of ourselves you need to as well.Basically men expect their partners to be hygienic and well-groomed, but straight men decided that, since women are not men, we don't deserve that same level of respect from a partner. This is why women and gay men often do many of the same things - it's not a gene & it's nothing to do with testosterone levels... But when straight men see that both women and gay men do keep ourselves clean and tidy, they call it "effeminate" and don't want anything to do with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:39 AM |
| 385 | Came across this today I have no wordsWait till he clicks that he came from the vagina of a living, breathing, eating, sleeping, farting, shitting human-being. Edit: I bet if his mother heard him speak like this, she'd have wished she'd just had a period instead of nine months to bring this into the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:08 PM |
| 140 | Choose Your Fighter: The “men comparing women to inanimate objects because they cannot fathom women as being any more than just objects for their own gratification” edition!They think it's made of memory foam or something and fear that their inadequate dicks won't fit in the gaping hole left by Chad that one time 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 05:36 PM |
| 71 | If a man says "I will teach you" simply ask "Oh, so you've sucked a lot of them, yes?""if I just keep dominating enough women, I'll never have to look inside my cold and empty soul. I've been watching porn since I was 8. I'ma never open up. " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:25 PM |
| 101 | As usual men doing the bare minimum in relationships.He's driving 20 mins to bang and get free food. That's what he expects - bday or not. Her self-worth is so low that all he has to do is drive to see her, she feels appreciated (probably he mentions it a lot in order to guilt her) and he gets what he wants. I've been like that - appreciated every minor thing someone did for me as this major effort and I know that it can be hard to realise and admit because it feels like an even greater blow to your already-low self-esteem... But he's using her an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 10:32 PM |
| 8 | Scrotes way mad over 1 post! I'm still getting harassed from my last post. A concerned redittor apparently reported me bc they care?I had one of those "concern" messages just from posting here. It's absolutely ridiculous. The only time in my life I've felt that I had to reach out to support was when I was with an absolute trashbag of q human being who made me feel lower than ever before in my life. These people who stalk us on here are the ones who currently need some kind of help - they think we're nutjobs, they should leave us alone, but no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 02:30 PM |
| 14 | Having boundaries does not make you controlling or insecure, and cut anyone out of your life who tells you otherwise.You're bang on. Insecurity is tolerating someone else's bs or conforming to someone else's beliefs which make you uncomfortable simply because you fear being alone or rejected for your own morals. Insecurity leads to basing your sense of self-worth on the approval of others. In relationships, an insecure woman will jump hoops to win her partner's validation which includes putting up with or even supporting his ogling and fantasizing about other women (or even completely depraved material due to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:40 AM |
| 16 | Imagine how pissed men would be if we brought up female homelessness/suicides as often as they brought up how "mUh dOuBle StAndArds!!! MaLe rApE ViCtiMs aRe iGnOrEd!!!"It made me literally laugh to myself. I'm going to borrow it at some point, op. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:09 AM |
| 133 | Women being abused isn’t enough for men to quit watching porn.Yeah they blame women for "tempting" them with pornography. It sounds similar to old school religious folks blaming women for their lack of self control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:38 PM |
| 13 | Britney Spears Was Never in ControlI'm 26. This is exactly how I was raised. I would never teach my daughter to put being "nice" and "polite" above her own wellbeing. I won't even give a flying fuck if other adults call her rude. I'd rather she be rude or abrupt than put herself in danger. I'm not talking aggressive or mean, but simply able to know when to shut it down and walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:26 PM |
| 44 | Males wanna make fun of women going to the bathroom together but...It happened to my sister's friend while they were at a student bar during their first year - a guy who was in his 30s kept talking to the one who didn't give him the cold shoulder and when she went to the bathroom, he waited for her. Luckily the friend group watched him and harassed him until he went away. Can't be too careful. Also if you're with guys who you don't know well, bathroom time is a great time to make an exit strategy or bring up that someone is making you uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:02 PM |
| 20 | Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship.Omg you sound like you met my ex to the T! I couldn't verbally communicate with him because every time he'd throw a tantrum about anything from the timing of when I expressed my concerns, to the way I said it. Nothing ever got addressed. He'd emotionally escalate situations and stress me out to breaking point and then would blame me for the whole situation when I'd have just tried to express a basic and simple request... I resorted to trying to text him thinking that without his emotional escala… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 01:21 PM |
| 31 | On a question about why old men hit on 13-18 year olds. I am absolutely disgusted and frightened.Fuck that hit. I wasn't interested in boys all throughout HS and thought that it was me - that I should have a libido. For one , I found all the boys my age to be gross and for two, I just wanted to focus on studies and hobbies, not run around chasing boys who just seemed to cause drama anyway! Teenage boys are interested in girls but it's not usually reciprocated unless the girls have been raised a certain way - i.e. to believe that male attention is the be all and end all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 126 | Have men always been so bad?I think as well that the harder we push, the uglier it will get. The more rights we gain, the more men try to groom young girls into "sex work" and normalising sexual abuse. The more traction we gain in society, the more men will spread lies. Porn is a massive contributing factor to the way that young boys are socialised to see us- an 8 year old may start with curiosity and softcore porn, by the time he's 20, he won't be able to get off to anything but violent and degrading porn. If that young m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:55 PM |
| 284 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.I'm 26 and the thought of dating an 18 year old sounds stupid and creepy to me. They look and act like the teenager that they are! What is wrong with men ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:53 PM |
| 72 | While viewing porn, man sees his wife’s photo - decide he’s been cheated on 🙄Yeah I've seen quite a few posts on other subs where a guy has "outed" his female family member for having an OnlyFans or posting nudes ..but like, the fact that he was looking at other women's/girl's content goes absolutely over his head. Also it's never done out of concern for the female family member, only to shame or embarrass her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:14 AM |
| 29 | "Women can have a man who is either attractive or a good person, but not both. If you want to date a hot guy, expect him to treat you like shit. If you don't want to be abused, you have to put up with having sex with someone you're not attracted to"Ugly guys will make you feel like you're the ugly one a lot of the time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:09 AM |
| 61 | LVM, even at their dying moments, will have the audacityI too work at a hospital and there are men in diapers and hooked up to catheters who think they can hit on female staff. Even seemingly.sweet old men try to flirt especially with very young female staff. It's awful. Also I've heard the midwives tell tales of how there are always men, whose wives/partners are there GIVING BIRTH TO THEIR CHILDREN, try to flirt or even get their numbers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:33 PM |
| 5 | Social media censorship of women talking about real issues is getting out if control.I've never heard of it. What is it ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:45 PM |
| 13 | I always faked my orgasmsI had an ex who sulked and shouted when I didn't moan or say that I came. But none of it felt nice. A lot of it hurt and went on for ages. I now know that he was a heavy porn user, but he blamed me for his delayed ejaculation. I'm sorry you went through that, op. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:38 PM |
| 28 | We are never safe. Ee Lee, a 36 year old woman was beaten, raped, and murdered by underaged men.She was one of us. None of us are people to the boys who grow up on porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 04:28 PM |
| 10 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂Conveniently ignoring the fact that none of them would choose to get fucked by a man to be "provided for" (male lurkers: this is also an option for you, don't forget! You might say you're not gay, but ugly unhygienic men are just as repulsive to us as they are to you. 🙃) and anyways none of these men in her inbox want anything more than easy sex. 🙄 Lmao I made that argument when I found out that a guy I was with had had sex with a prostitute and was making ridiculous arguments. I asked him if he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:51 PM |
| 56 | The logic of dating: double standards of "satisfying needs". Watching porn.Yep don't waste your time and energy. Chances are he'll just get better at hiding it. Don't bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:10 PM |
| 190 | Why is it that I’m supposed to specify “not all men” when discussing rape when 1 in 10 men are rapists?And sex after having a baby is commonly forced upon women when it causes them pain. Not to mention all the guys who force anal of coerce their partners or wives into anal or other sexual acts which the partner doesn't enjoy or which causes them pain. Most men jerk it to porn so... Yes, almost all men. A good man doesn't say "not all men". A good man would call out other men for their sexist comments or their behaviour toward women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:09 PM |
| 54 | Teenage girls are proud to be approached by college guys. They really believe they are ”the winners of the game”🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️Girl you're doing well. If you're 15 and you're already here, you're gonna be strong. Unfortunately you will have to watch your peers - even friends maybe - fall behind and get stuck chasing men who end up hurting them. Sometimes there is nothing you can do, but keep going. Keep moving forward. Keep setting an example and raising the standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:17 PM |
| 157 | It's not kink shaming; it's refusing to buy into the bullshit. It's calling out depravity that serves men while destroying the lives of women. It's rising up against a system of oppression every woman on earth is laboring under, due to no fault of our own.It's just DARVO. Sure, you choke your girlfriend unconscious and jerk off to literal rape, but clearly you're the victim, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:28 AM |
| 3 | too many women know this pain💯 society loves to make women insecure then men make us feel that if we don't conform or fit in to society's current beauty standard- in men's words: unless you're a solid "9" at least - that you don't deserve to ask to be treated with respect. And so many women fall for it. They settle for a guy who doesn't even want to treat them right because they aren't "beautiful" enough. It doesn't matter if you're overweight. It doesn't matter if you're underweight. It doesn't matter if you aren't full of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:38 PM |
| 17 | Who taught men to say "sorry you feel that way"?And thinking that their emotional outbursts are completely warranted and should be taken very seriously. They only created the idea of women being more eMoTionAl so they don't have to listen or care about anything we have to say. Women often cry because we would be dismissed as psycho if we acted like men - shouting and raging. Hell we even get called aggressive for being blunt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 10:40 AM |
| 30 | Cosmopolitan. Why, WHY did I regarded it like the bible once?? SMH. 'WomYN HYperGAMouS BAD, man naturally born one uppers GOOD.It's a shame that the one thing they can never upgrade is themselves huh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 03:13 PM |
| 4 | Remember, men have agency. They choose. They aren’t idiots. They know what they’re doing and they’re getting exactly what they want without consequences. See past it and free yourself. (Here’s some snippets of an AMAZING article on the subject - link attached!)Our prime minister in a nutshell. -UK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:45 PM |
| 22 | This Sub is so empowering that I can't stand other relationship subredditsWell how else can they get to both feign ignorance then also play the victim when you "attack" them with your "aggressive" (direct) words? 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:24 AM |
| 45 | Yup 😂Why do they want us so small ...? Oh ye because then we're so much less intimidating / easier to intimidate. I suffered with Anorexia and lost all my muscle tone - could barely squat and lost the ability to jump - I was 3rd best high-jumoer at my school and could leap across puddles and streams like nothing. They want us small, they want us weak, they want us insecure at any weight. And when you're small and weak and dainty and childlike, you get so much male attention...but get with a guy and g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 02:49 PM |
| 9 | Need catharsis? Butterfly House will name a cockroach after your ex for Valentine's DayLol at least a cockroach can fend for itself and possibly survive a nuclear holocaust. They also don't make much noise nor do they do vile, vomit-inducing farts every 15 mins; jerk it to teen-porn (abuse); throw tantrums; objectify women and call us slurs; hit up girls 10 years younger online; blast the TV all day everyday and use up all my utilities in the house which I pay for; beg for money which I know is because they been out all night doing drugs and then lie and scream when I say no / acc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:10 PM |
| 39 | A summary of the Pickme: The Cool GirlI worked in a kitchen. You can only take it for so long until you snap and give them a piece of your mind - in my case I became known as the "psycho lesbian". I'm not even a lesbian...sadly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:42 AM |
| 39 | Another reminder why not to reproduce with NVM video game playing manchildren.Holy fuck nor would I ! I'd use the vid as evidence of his behaviour to get full custody and get to away from him. That poor kid's face in the pic, bless him. What a horrible man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 04:35 PM |
| 148 | They will always make “single mothers” the villains to shift blame from male predators or male parental child neglect.That's disgusting and I'm sorry you had to go through all that while getting shamed for it. What a disgusting and horrific attitude to have for a poor girl who suffered at the hands of a predator. I had a 22 year old "boyfriend" when I was 15 and he started talking about having children and moving in with him. I am so glad that at that time, I sensed that it was wrong and ghosted him. Young girls need to learn that attention and attraction from older men is no flex - it doesn't mean that you loo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:03 PM |
| 50 | Women are constantly bombarded by marketing and advertising, from a very young age, and how that reduces women's sense of self, how both marketers and men viciously try to make women feel unhappy and inadequate.Nothing we do will ever be enough - you're right, first it was pressure to shave, now it's pressure for surgery and bleaching. Why ? To make us look even more like children ? It's disgusting. Don't feel insecure. Anyone who is worth knowing won't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:14 PM |
| 64 | Pornhub is trying to position itself to be a resource on Sex Ed. Of course they’re still glorifying misogynyDisclaimer : tutorial does not include how to actually pleasure a female partner....or even make sex comfortable for her. This is basically a 15 minute long video of a (at least) 2 part series about ways to make sex more interesting for men whose minds have been fried by years of porn use. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:28 PM |
| 46 | CAn wE JUst DO SoMEthINg NiCE FOr MEn 🤪....annnd we're back in the real world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:19 PM |
| 17 | NSFW TRIGGER WARNING: Belle Delphine posts pics of herself being kidnapped and raped in a babydoll dress and Lolita shoes and continues to pretend she doesn’t see the connection to pedophilia.This isn't a fantasy. This is too fucking real. This happens. This happens to little children and teenage girls all over the world. She's completely detached from reality and possibly, as some people are saying, a sociopath. The men who watch her are scumbags but she's encouraging them. She's on their level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 36 | "Don't kink shame, don't you know there are women who ENJOY having their ribs broken? Lolol" 🤢🤮🤮"omg some people enjoy starving themselves so like world hunger isn't a problem". **I do suffer with anorexia (healthy weight now for the past 3 years) so I don't actually believe in shaming the sufferer. However it's very obvious that the fact that anorexics exist doesn't change the fact that they are mentally unwell and need help, not encouragement and to have their illness used in defense of cases forced starvation or neglect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:51 PM |
| 72 | Who's the aggressor they're scared of tho? Someone brought that up and someone else claimed "that's irrelevant" 🙄Exactly. Being female, we wish we could just chuck our valuables at them and get away... Getting a bit roughed up and having someone take our belongings or, at worst, give us a beating is nothing in comparison to what we fear when we walk alone at night. And yeah getting injured, robbed or possibly killed does warrant being afraid, yet still, men wanna whine that they're victims and yet it's not us who they're afraid of when they walk down a dark ally. It's the men who they conceal every time th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 88 | When Women Refuse"Butwhy don't women just say clearly that they aren't interested?" Because there's a very real chance that your fragile man-ego cannot handle straightforward rejection so we have to go to great lengths to try to let all men down gently or simply exit the situation without giving an answer. We have no idea which ones amongst you are going to be set off by a simple rejection. We could get anything from a horrible remark, to a face-full of abuse and still count ourselves lucky that we didn't end up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:14 PM |
| 14 | Decided to jump on the cute ring trend that’s going on this sub, here’s my first ring that I purchased from a merchant stand at college in my early twenties and I still love it to this day! ❤️Yep all these pics of rings and I keep thinking - how are everyone's hands so elegant! I have huge hands with big knuckles and have to have short nails for my job so I always catch myself looking at people's hands. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 04:03 PM |
| 70 | "Sex work is empowering" sounds suspiciously a lot like "trauma induced hypersexuality"Your explanation reminded me of something:. It's like Anorexia. You feel totally in control. You feel awake and alive almost like you're high. You love being able to refuse food. You love how strong it makes you feel. You feel powerful while everyone else around you talks about how they find it hard to lose weight; how they can't resist that donut. You love feeling different; you love feeling special. You feel almost invincible at times. You love watching your weight plummet. You love the compli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:30 PM |
| 30 | They use women to wank off and blame women for having feelings.Say the ones whose hormones start wars, genocide, mass-shootings, rape, child murder, create the sex and trafficking industry...the list goes on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 12:44 PM |
| 10 | It's time to wake the fuck upThis grooming is teaching girls to "chase that bag" via objectifying and dehumanising themselves ; making themselves a target for blackmail, threats, stalking, rape, abuse and even death at such a young age; leaving themselves mentally scarred for the rest of their lives; give up or seriously hinder their education and career advancement in favour of chasing some elusive coin from the pocket of a misogynistic scrote's/ multiple thirsty scrotes' who have absolutely zero respect for them and the r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:41 PM |
| 16 | Why the sex positive movement reinforces inequality displayed using the example of oral sexIt's the problem with simply labelling it as "equality" rather than acknowledging the unique struggle which women face in society as opposed to men. In reality, striving for simple "equality" between the sexes is useless as it spreads the blame equally and allows women to be harmed by the very laws we have fought for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:48 PM |
| 112 | How did watching porn become normalized when this behavior would be absurd if acted out in real life?Unfortunately, with porn, the equivalent would be showing a "barely legal shy teen boyslut forced to take sasquatch pussy" and ask him why he can't be cute and submissive and smooth like that boy. Which is just absolutely disgusting, but more accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:14 AM |
| 50 | Guy has countless nudes and inappropriate photos of a friend saved to his phone, girlfriend becomes manipulated, gaslighted, and depressed to the point of suicide. Guy continues to save nudes to his phone regardless. Just things scrotes do.Dann right. I don't know where men learn these stupid things that they all seem to say to us- they are made to sound sweet in movies but they're utterly meaningless with no action behind them. Like when the dude in the post says "I find her attractive but I'm with you for a reason..". Tf is that supposed to mean other than "I want to bang my friend but she doesn't want me so therefore I settled for you so that I can get unlimited free sex for as long as I can string you along. " That is it. That… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 10:30 AM |
| 29 | Anyone else have this view on having children?I have kids and I thoroughly agree. This is how young me envisioned my future and what I'd recommend to any one else. It makes me uneasy when a child free woman starts gushing about how much she wants kids. It's not that I judge her, but I'm not sure that her opinion is entirely her own. More than likely, it's a result of the massive propaganda machine working to subtly or obviously influence women's perception of the whole thing. Kids should be carefully considered and not automatically a top-p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:30 PM |
| 20 | This sounds like my last relationship!Don't trust him. He hurt you, lost his chance and now he regrets losing you. There's a small chance that he may be sincere, but if he's learned his lesson truly then he won't make the same mistakes with the next person he meets. I got back with an ex who really hurt me after we went no contact and he apologized for everything -meaning that he knew what he did. I took it as a sign that he had evaluated his behaviour and understood. I gave him a chance and he was good for months until he started f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 09:21 AM |
| 19 | Men don't have any sort of taste or preference.I never thought about it, but you're right. They see no beauty in a sunset. They won't take five minutes to appreciate something wonderful. They think that it's "feminine" to see beauty and all they are allowed to perceive in us is sex appeal based on what other men agree is "sexy" at the time. It makes them feel so shallow and empty and bloody BORING to be around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:22 PM |
| 15 | It does make sense when it involves sexually arousing other people with your body and genitals, which doesn't happen in ANY form of work. END OF STORY.It's the same as when people talk about "porn addiction " or visiting brothels as just some kind of vice. Like it's just a problem on the same level as using drugs or video games. It isn't. Drugs often fuel the trafficking industry but the substance which is consumed is not a human being. In porn and prostitution, humans are intentionally and unavoidably harmed and exploited - they are the drug. We become the drug. Unlike drugs or other vices, making this work legal doesn't protect anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:51 PM |
| 33 | Is it an American men thing or?I have to say , the UK has some of the worst LvM I've ever seen in my life. Most of them don't even wash and think that it's "gay" to have feelings for a woman Edit:. British mothers are also the worst. American women are tougher and allowed to be louder than women here. In the UK, women are supposed to be soft, sweet, muted- even country girls. People here on general have a problem with anyone who is blunt, but men get away with it more while girls are reprimanded for not flowering and cushioni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:34 PM |
| 8 | SO sick of seeing this bullshit at this time of year. It takes a couple of YouTube tutorials to teach yourself and actually put in some effort for your loved ones.Both my grandpas are great at wrapping presents. And my brother. Even my dad has gotten better over the years and at least tries even though he's not great at it. It's not exactly origami. It doesn't even have to be perfectly symmetrical - just make an effort and try to make it look nice. Or at least get it store wrapped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 03:26 PM |
| 112 | Don’t give men your time when they have nothing to offerMy russian friend told me that, in Russia, you save your smile for when you mean it. If you smile at everyone, they think you're crazy or drunk or something. Save those smiles for those who deserve them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:53 AM |
| 33 | imagine referring to women as a different ‘race’ as the only thing you say in your OLD bioEh pass. He can continue to lose faith and lose out as much as he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:38 PM |
| 10 | Men who cry wolf really irritate me - if you want therapy seek it but don’t compare it to “therapy is for women”.They can really let you down sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 08:19 AM |
| 104 | Porn acting is notoriously bad, except for when it portrays extreme degradation of women, then suddenly it's "not real, they're just acting"A lot of them would happily rape if they could get away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Husband tries to convince wife to let him buy a sex doll. Wife’s self esteem is low due to people in his social circle criticizing her appearance. A lot to unpack here. I think we have a rescue mission."He has sexual desires which need to be met.". I'm sorry, what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 12:13 PM |
| 21 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!They think we're here desperately trying to get a man because we're sad and lonely and can't get one. It's probably just a troll or a very confused scrote who sees the words "female" and "dating" and thinks we're as dumb as he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:30 PM |
| 43 | They’re Not Dating “Horror Stories” Anymore, They’re Just How It F*cking IsThat's a good point. Guys using OLD because they have zero repercussions for treating the women poorly is a scary thought, but rings true. Literally the first time I used OLD, this guy who was very good looking asked me out - I was 18, he was 26, but me being me was like okwhynot - we met in public but he was like "I know a place .." and took me to a bar during "happy hour". He bought me 2 cocktails and I'd never had cocktails before so I was wasted. He bought lore drinks. The night went on and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 25 | Pornhub removes all unverified content, following reports of exploitationHow hard is it to be verified tho ? I'd love to celebrate a victory against that cesspit, but is this really going to do much? Mindgeek also owns a whole empire of porn sites and anything which has already been downloaded will find its way onto other platforms. GirlsDoPorn was a big, official channel on PH and the vids were only removed following a court case which proved that the women had been coerced, raped, drugged, lied to and threatened into making the vids. All porn needs to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 08:51 PM |
| 22 | FDS is nothing like those incels or the subculture they have of pillers, and it is odd you would think that.The problem is that I've seen people outside of incel forums and even outside of Reddit talk about how this is a "female PUA/ incel sub" - it feeds the general narrative that "women are just as bad as the worst of men, and just as responsible for what incels/ puas do". It puts gullible women off from even considering our advice and "legitimises" hatred and backlash from men and pickmes. It gives the illusion of an equal playing field with two equally degenerate sides who are simply caught up in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 08:45 PM |
| 22 | Man Baby TantrumIt was the same in my experience- I worked in a restaurant abroad for a while and a bar kitchen back home. Everyone tries to hook up with everyone else due to the unsociable hours. Kitchens also seem to have a weird macho culture so there was always a lot of "locker room talk" and male hormones flying around. Not a great environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Women of color do not exist as a commodity to live out a fantasy. How far does someone's head have to be up their own ass to think that fetishizing someone is the same as complimenting them?I live in a place where it's common to see middle-eastern and north African men get young teenage white girls pregnant and then leave them to marry a "good Muslim woman". It's disgusting and they readily admit that they think we're "sluts" - there have even been massive child abuse scandals involving Muslim pedophile gangs preying on white girls in foster care /orphanages where the police even referred to the girls as "sluts". These grown ass men would wait for them at the school gates and pass … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:02 AM |
| 3 | Women of color do not exist as a commodity to live out a fantasy. How far does someone's head have to be up their own ass to think that fetishizing someone is the same as complimenting them?They're so indoctrinated by porn that they walk around categorising all of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:59 AM |
| 26 | "Don't worry, I love men with a little meat on their bones", "Real men have abs", "I think we all know how he got that promotion", "Shh, sweetie, the women are talking."My favourite is "you seem stressed, why don't you have a nice long bath?". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 09:14 AM |
| 107 | I'm getting flashbacks to every first date monologue a LVM put me through - Never again!They are helluva boring to listen to. They think they're the most interesting thing in the word, but they're so predictable and unimpressive. Sometimes it seems like they're just writing self-glorifying fanfic of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 17 | There is so much hilarity in this post. But if I had to pick my favorite, it’s that even an incel chooses the women who make him invest in them. Never prize yourself on looks or circumstances: you are a queen the moment you decide you are.He paid her $200 a month for sex because he couldn't get any better. He probably held the money over all of them because he felt that he "deserved" the sex. He preyed on single mothers and paid them so that they could feed their kids and so that he'd have someone to use for sex. Clearly he didn't want them for anything more than sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:45 PM |
| 9 | Men who are “jealous” of abusers give me the creepsExactly where my mind went. It happens to me and I've seen plenty of stories on Reddit where a woman's current partner/husband finds out about something she was coerced into doing by someone who damaged her....and current scrote is jealous of past scrote "getting to do that" and insists that she should do it for him too. Men don't love us, they try to conquer us in any way they can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:37 AM |
| 31 | 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻I've never seen a woman cry tears of rage. I have seen more than one man - every time over a situation which wasn't a big deal by anyone's standards but their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:13 AM |
| 11 | Why I Hate the Push toward Older MenMy one grandma lives in la la land and the other one is angry, bitter and hateful of any woman who doesn't do what she did. They both had kids at 17. It's sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:40 AM |
| 16 | The urethra and clitoris are very different body parts. If she says it doesn't feel good dont double down act like you know better.Did he even wash his dick ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 42 | As a woman whose never given birthHe deserves permanent disfigurement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:11 PM |
| 146 | Guys need to stop being comfortable about things that don’t affect them....The way that men behave with their daughters shows clearly that they know what's up with most men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 12 | Men will do anything to make women feel insecure. (Context in the comments)And then get called "crazy " and made out to have been the "problem" the whole time. Shit's biblical. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:24 PM |
| 12 | This idiot made one of his dating profile pics the “crazy hot scale” 🤮🙄🤮🙄So basically, the less mentally stable she is, the hotter guys like this man find her. Nothing more irresistible to scrotes than low iq and poor self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:14 PM |
| 70 | This video 'Talent Belongs to the Beautiful - How Media Manipulates your Tastes' is very interesting and demonstrates how we judge good looking people differently.Agreed. Even with the quote at the end from Hoffman, the narrator acts like men and women are equally judged on their looks. Post Malone and Ed Sheeran never wouldn't have been praised for their talent, nor the Beatles. Most male celebrities have, still do and probably always will be able to look awful and still have women and young girls swoon over them because they're "nice" or whatever. I'm not saying that looks-based prejudice doesn't exist for men, but they aren't placed under a microscope … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 05:53 PM |
| 12 | LVM are always scared of commitment. Don't date guys that act like your boyfriend but say they aren't ready for 'a relationship'!"Benefits" also includes exclusivity on her part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:33 PM |
| 35 | Pedophile is angry his victim cheated on him and tells her mom. 11 year relationship starting when he was 18 and she was 12!3&9 are no where near eachother on anyone's keyboard wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:30 PM |
| 31 | To all the LVM, NVM, and pervs who think we are threatened by younger women... “no, you’re never going to get it!” 🎶 🎵Those creeps are the ones who are threatened by us teaching younger women to have standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 46 | The comments on this are so sad...But, she can and she will. Also he's lying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:07 PM |
| 11 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄They are absolutely disgusting and the law is on their side because male depravity transcends class, social status and even intellect. Anyone can see that it's messed up, but most men don't want to change anything which serves them and they'll find any way to discredit or insult anyone who stands up to them. They see teenage girls as children when it comes to making any major life choices or having a political voice ...or in any sense other than sexual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:11 PM |
| 64 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄Here it's sixteen and you bet there are men in their thirties who think it's cool to add 16 year old girls who still have to go to school and wear a school uniform on social media and try to flirt with them. Some manage to have sex, relationships and even babies with these girls who then get blamed for being "sluts" , "attention whores" and "messing their lives up". There's nothing anyone can do because the men just scream "but it's not against the law!!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:40 PM |
| 27 | “Nobody hates women more than straight dudes”It doesn't make sense because they aren't the logical gender . They sabotage us purely for access to our bodies for sex and for their lineage. Biologically, women go through so much to bring more humans into the world all they really have to do is run round and ejaculate. Unfortunately for them, we don't need many of them around to continue our survival. We'd only pick the best of them and have sex and children when we feel ready ..which could be a long time. If men didn't subjugate us, most of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 10:54 AM |
| 21 | Nobody’s nicer than a guy that hasn’t fucked you yetAnd supposedly we're the emotional ones whose hormones totally control our lives to the point where it affects everyone around us. Men are crazy delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:05 PM |
| 160 | geee i wonder whyAnd bitter, hateful and immature...misogynistic....entitled... And totally itrwtional- he'll never get it. He is never going to try to better himself in a world where it's simply easier wallow in self-pity, blaming women his problems and whining on the internet. No one gives these guys any incentives to behave differently so they don't. They don't question themselves or what they've been taught; they don't even try to live for themselves or find fulfillment...they're just empty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:52 PM |
| 15 | "We want to make you happy. The fact is, we love when you orgasm almost as much as we love it when we do."I like this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:08 PM |
| 16 | they’re ALMOST getting there :’)I'm not surprised- all this "sex-positivity" is pushed so hard onto young girls because it's not inherently in our nature to be so reckless with our bodies and our safety. It's illogical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:58 AM |
| 10 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendHell yeah. That would actually be a great idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:45 AM |
| 26 | He says it’s a sign of disrespect towards him to not have lost the baby weight already- after giving birth to their 7th child. The audacity!"And she's so crazy. Always crying and trying to guilt trip me :(" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:51 PM |
| 10 | It's called mutual respect and also showing your commitment in a relationship 👏They always use it when it's a woman talking about her husband's/boyfriend's excessive porn use or following "models" on social media or even subscribing to onlyfans. Yes, he's fantasizing and orgasming to problematic material and often ignoring the woman who is there beside him, but clearly this is a her problem. In reality, it's men who are insecure about women having standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:48 AM |
| 10 | Is anyone else kind of miffed at the whole "male as default" assumption in culture?Yes! My mom briefly taught in various schools and asked this one to her students. None of them ever got it! Just kids and already brainwashed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:44 AM |
| 50 | We are not far from this time. I’m just saying, men have been trying to gaslight her forever.Yeah this has always kind of bothered me- you can't know that the guy who is staring at your most intimate areas definitely isn't a creep. Also, it makes no sense. Men for hundreds of years completely botched women's health with their poor understanding of our bodies and Dunning-Kreugeresque attitude of "I know better than you when it comes to your own body which is entirely different to mine". Can't they just let us look after our own - I doubt many female med students choose to specialise in l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 17 | It's called mutual respect and also showing your commitment in a relationship 👏It's like they vaguely grasp the concept of certain relationship buzzwords, but can't quite figure out how to apply them accurately - examples being "gaslighting", "controlling", "abuse", "narcissist", "insecure". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:01 PM |
| 40 | Is anyone else kind of miffed at the whole "male as default" assumption in culture?Oh no, how terrible... /S I think men really are genuinely afraid of women showing them up and also of the fact that we seriously don't need them. They need to make us need them. Hell, the woman who made them already went through more pain bringing them into this world than many of them would ever have to go through in their entire life so they have to out-macho us. They need to make us feel weak. They are afraid that naturally, most of them wouldn't even have a chance with most of us if we woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 131 | Is anyone else kind of miffed at the whole "male as default" assumption in culture?I remember when, in an airport near me (UK) there was a horrendous storm and the captain managed an incredibly dificult kinda sideways landing. When people first heard, they praised the captain, saying "what a man". She is a woman. It's just an example, but when the gender of a person isn't known, it seems that everyone is always quick to assume that it's a male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:53 PM |
| 22 | I’m so disgustedThe only solution. It's not like he's gonna be a fun presence at Christmas when he can't sneak off to the bathroom to fantasize about his underage -looking dream girl. He clearly doesn't care about his partner or the family on top of being a creep. Why keep him around ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 10:28 AM |
| 12 | Male allies do not exist.I think he thinks we're really dumb. He knows what he is, but he thinks he's found some kind of loophole where "if you say that you're a feminists then you can do whatever you want and call it empowering and dumb females will just go along with it!" It just reminds me of the stupid stories of men "winning at life" because they'd take women's studies or something, drop a few key words into a combo and be "drowning in pussy". As if that ever happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 09:01 PM |
| 93 | MaturityIt sounds like me with my cousin who is 6 days older than I am. He was allowed to hit me, pull my hair, steal my stuff and say hateful things to me, but Lawd have mercy if I ever bit back at him or called him out. He pretty much got to do whatever he wanted and my aunt and grandma cherished him and showered him with compliments and excuses for his behaviour. On the other hand, I got slapped, screamed at and called "a snotty little girl" or a "ragamuffin" all the time by those two. Toxic , toxic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 16 | We need more mothers like thisExactly what I thought. I hope the mother doesn't let him anywhere near her or the daughter or the house ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 13 | Examples of disrespectLol yeah I was with a dude who looked through my phone and made me feel guilty about not sharing everything with him. When I asked why his Facebook still said "single" he was like "omg why do you even care. It's just Facebook.". I don't have Facebook, so no, it wasn't "that important" to me, but it was to him. He was always on it. Plus the way he treated me I was guna make a big deal out of it. I worked out his password and of course, his Facebook was full of him hitting on ( really young-lookin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:52 PM |
| 12 | Examples of disrespectNo sex happens in an emotional affair either, but it doesn't stop it causing damage. Guaranteed these guys would make a big deal if they catch their girlfriends or wives doing any of these things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:47 PM |
| 10 | How has she stayed for 4 years of this... NVM. I have no words.I wouldn't call myself a "gamer", but I do play my PS4 from time to time. I used to play games as a teenager and still had active hobbies, studied, read, helped around the house esp. when my mom was doing her PhD. My sister is doing a master's degree and goes to the gym, maintains a relationship with her boyfriend, plays dnd and only really games when she has time. Video games can just be that.. a hobby which you choose to do when you give yourself an hour or so to relax. My uncle is seriously d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 10:54 AM |
| 39 | Men trying to convince women we need "a man."What I've gathered from a lot of men is that they don't want us to be people. They want us to be available for sex, possibly to live with them and do chores like mommy did and care for them, but to switch off and disappear when it suits them. They don't want to have to do anything for us or out in any effort to "get" us. They love to hate and dehumanise us no matter what we do in life. They love to hate the ones who stuck around and they're resentful of those of us who don't want them at all. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:12 AM |
| 15 | In which universe are flowers and dinner equivalent to blowjobs??Valentine's Day isn't for women. I don't know where this stupid idea came from - you said it exactly- men resent anything which makes them feel like they have to put effort into their relationship- they resent treating their wife or girlfriend unless there is sex and domestic chores offered in return. I don't even like Valentine's day because it's so commercial and already just a thing for a guy to buy some overpriced-but-still-cheap novelty gift and go out for a meal and still expect sex at the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 08:06 PM |
| 40 | They think this is an accomplishment.They're just masturbating with a human flesh light and some of them are so pornfried that they need to actually watch porn to cum even with a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:41 PM |
| 1 | The partnership is about working together 🤗 he's making the mess, and I am cleaning it. But seriously, I can't imagine how harmful it is for the young girls to hear such things said by an authority.I think it's crucial to find a guy who takes pride in his environment. If he doesn't, his mom probably used to clean and he'll expect you to do it too or he'll act like it's your "choice" to clean because, like, you actually care and you can then never complain that he doesn't help you because he's happy to live in his own filth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 09:45 PM |
| 13 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?All of these comments are full of great advice which I really needed a couple years back, but had no one to tell me. Pereonally, the things I could tell myself would be: Never, ever "give him a chance" - only agree to be with someone who you actively feel attraction to. Failing number one, don't give second chances. You leave him. You cut him off and you don't look back. He will try to get you back after you leave him. Good. Let him miss you. Let him cry if he needs to. Let him feel the misery t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:53 PM |
| 4 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?All of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:20 PM |
| 71 | online dating...Hence why they go for the most young and insecure women they can get - someone who they can mould like memory foam to fit their jagged and uncomfortable personality. Working on being the best person they can be is too much hard work when society is doing such a great job of basically mass-grooming and damaging young girls for their predation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:43 PM |
| 31 | Why "loneliness" and "depression" excuses for men make me angry - a rantWe're supposed to tolerate all of life's hardships and take on the burden of soothing everyone else's emotions around us ...all with a smile on our face. And God forbid you aren't smiling on the worst day of your life - some random dude will definitely have to go out of his way to remind you to look more cheerful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Should I leave him? I don't look at him the same.It doesn't feel any better when they look at porn (cuz it is porn, just because it's not all hardcore) of women who do look like you. You end up feeling just as awful - like you're just a type to them. And plus it's still cheating no matter what men and libfems want to say. If following, lusting after and indulging in fantasies about other women isn't cheating, then emotional affairs aren't cheating either - it also shows that this dude doesn't respect women - including you - there's no use tryi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:32 AM |
| 17 | IS THIS a new breed of pickme? HUSBAND had (afaik) emotional affair at work and she went on mental backflips trying to blame HERSELF 😩Just what I thought. Why would you even worry about being a sociopath if you are one? Why would this man even be able to hurt her if she were a sociopath? And why would she blame herself ? Sounds like she's been gaslighted for a long time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 51 | When even men like Bill Maher can acknowledge and criticize the abusive,rapey and misogynistic nature of modern porn, what's the excuse of the rest of the scores that play stupid?Unfortunately some men will only ever listen to men. Some men I've known have only ever listened to/ consumed male-led or male focused media- it means that they don't listen to women. I dated a dude who was an obsessive YouTube watcher and all his subscriptions were just endless videos of men rambling in a "philosophical" manner. He loved Joe Rogan. After being exposed to countless hours' worth of this stuff, I noticed that men tend to speak at length without really getting to a point. They're s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:01 PM |
| 53 | Girls please never chase men! As if the post isn't embarassing enough, a guy commented just to make fun of her...He's showing how "well" he deals with rejection by going out of his way to laugh at someone-a stranger- who was used for nothing but sex. He's also using it as a way to attack all "girls". He clearly can't deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 29 | The absolute state of this threadThey also have weaker immune systems - size and muscle mass are literally the only advantages they have over us. Add to that their poor diets and bad hygiene, low pain-threshold and bad self-care and you've got the actual reason why men die sooner and get "man-flu". Forget their narrative of they "work so hard, physical jobs" as if women didn't work hard, manual labour throughout history lmao. They love feeling hard done by and also superior when they are actually neither. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:48 PM |
| 14 | Human decency? Don’t know her.He's never actually tested this. Idk anyone who would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 11:49 AM |
| 68 | When Keeping it “Woke” Goes Wrong. Male Vegan Activists brand women with hot irons to demonstrate what “Animals Feel Like”. TRIGGER WARNING/NSFW!!I don't get it either - like wtf are they even supposed to be demonstrating ? That literally happens to real people out in the world anyway and there they are doing it too, claiming that abuse and torture of women is somehow supposed to demonstrate the abuse and mistreatment of animals ? Nah... They just know that it attracts attention because sickos get off to it. There are plenty of videos online showing the rampant animal abuse in industrial farms, slaughterhouses and laboratories- there is n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:52 PM |
| 28 | Why do gamers attract such a culture of pickmeishas surrounding them?My mom told me that in her day, she always noticed the boys who were into skating and alternative music would always have groups of girls fawning over them and the girls seemed to get little to no attention back. I think whatever is the 'cool' "boy's only" hobby attracts a lot of insecure girls and women who simply want validation for "being different" to the rest of us shallow ladies. In the end, they get nothing for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 09:55 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with "the wall."I hate the way I treated myself in HS. I didn't wear make up or even the clothes I wanted because I simply thought that I'd look like a clown. I hardly let people take photos of me. I found some photos and you know what ? I didn't look bad at all. I remembered literally seeing every flaw jump out at me all the time- I wasn't hideous. I hate that the world tells literal children that they aren't good enough, aren't pretty and that that is what should matter to them.. And I look back and feel sorr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 09:43 PM |
| 9 | What is the most pointless lie that a LVM has told you?Hmm sounds like one of mine. He lied all the time. About everything. He told so many lies that he couldn't keep them straight. He also said that he couldn't eat onions but he did all the time. He'd insist that he was allergic or intolerant to things and then proceed to deny that he'd ever said that if he got caught. He also told me that his adoptive grandfather was Jamaican when he was very clearly from Scotland and was super proud of his heritage. It was just a weird lie. One of the most bizarr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:20 PM |
| 16 | My little queenI think we need a teen girl's magazine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:29 PM |
| 25 | One of the comments on this post said “porn is ruining sex” and I couldn’t agree moreThat's what I thought it was. Although it's banned in combat sports because the intent is to tear the petson's skin and possibly hurt their neck. I don't even want to look it up in the sexual sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 09:12 PM |
| 25 | One of the comments on this post said “porn is ruining sex” and I couldn’t agree moreThat's a thing men get off to ??? I'm shocked, but only a tiny bit. That's awful for anyone that's happened to. I've been spat on by an ex but that's just what he did when he was angry. Wtf is wrong with men and their desire to humiliate us in every way. I'm so sorry for you. That's disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 09:06 PM |
| 47 | Men are truly horrific sociopaths. This post made me officially give up.If a man has one bad experience with a woman, he will never forgive us all as a collective and must continue his life taking out his pain on any and all women who cross his path. And that's seen as normal behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 09:00 PM |
| 58 | And here we have NVM/LVMs who whine about paying for a first date huhYou know what, she's right. I've never thought about it, but then I guess I've always found women more generous. Men only seem to go out of their way when they're pretty sure that they're gonna get something in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 9 | Toronto van attack: 'Incel' killer Minassian pleads not criminally responsibleI can't believe that anyone would believe that 'not understanding non-verbal or social vues " has anything to do with mass murder or aggression. I have Asperger's. It has never entered my head to violently hurt a bunch of people just because I'm not getting my way and my feelings have been hurt. I don't know anyone on the spectrum who has a violent record. Anything to avoid saying that there is a growing problem with the way that men a) feel entitled to us b) can't handle rejection and c) don't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 21 | Teachers: Pornification and pedophiliaDuring the pandemic with zoom classes, there were a bunch of posts with screen caps where the teacher /lecturer had porn tabs open when Screen-Sharing. People laughed and thought it was funny, but one which really disturbed me - I think it got to the news - was one of a college professor whose tab was something to do with "busty college girls..." They sexualise their subordinates. These girls could have been attending lectures, speaking one on one to him, engaging with him and totally unaware th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:02 PM |
| 15 | I compared two photos of myself, 5 years apart, toxic vs healthy relationship. The differences were unreal.I'm glad you're doing better. I remember when I was with this guy and he was just so unbearably awful - I looked through some old photos recently and you can see how I rapidly got worse and worse looking throughout the relationship- I remember watching a woman on YouTube when I was trying to come to terms with what had happened and she showed pictures of herself - worn out, painfully thin, stressed , older. Same with me. This dude who did this to me ended up calling me a "bitter old woman" towar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 8 | First statue of Mary Wollstonecraft and they do this?!?!Why don't we have representations of great male idols' "ideas" depicted satiny fragile men standing there with their winkles out. Winston Churchill- "never, never give up " with a coy looking, slender man looking like he's halfway through a striptease. Logic * * * Liberal feminists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:31 AM |
| 15 | I have no idea why this is a revolutionary statement. The whole, "what if it was your daughter, mother,sister etc" narrative really rubs me the wrong way. You should care about women period, no just when it impacts you personally.More like they only care when the woman/ girl is "theirs" - i.e. property. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 07:26 AM |
| 45 | We regret to inform you ...Too right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Whelp it’s the end of an era y’all. r/UnpopularOpinion moderators and their selective application of the rules only on women who have actual unpopular opinions that they don’t personally like strikes again."Unpopular" opinion is just popular opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:14 PM |
| 63 | Does anyone else not want to give a man oral sex ever againSame. I never rest liked the idea of penises nor did I like that look men get right before they have sex with you - it's like the look a cat gets when it's got a mouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 50 | Does anyone else not want to give a man oral sex ever againI also never wanted a penis in my mouth. Really beginning to question whether I ever want one in me anywhere ever again tbh. Penises are gross and most guys don't even seem to realise that you need to wash before you put it in someone's face (or anywhere). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:09 PM |
| 8 | Please never compromise your education and career for a guyAgreed. Make long-term choices which will benefit you. Never throw your dreams away - the right person would never make you feel that you had to do that. I was taught by family that my dreams were selfish. I threw everything away for them and ended up with a man who didn't even let me work - i.e. he literally got me fired and didn't "allow" me to search for a job. If I wouldn't have been so dumb, I never would have had to be where I am now, trying to get myself back up at 25. Don't be me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 223 | Chile The AccuracyWhat's mad is that I've never met a man who actually wants to help a woman the way we're trained to help them. Some men see women who are going through a rough time and, instead of helping, simply exploit her. Others just call her a mess and don't give her a second thought- depends on how attractive she is, really. And I was a "hot" mess when I was young, believe me. They don't want to build you up. They like that you're broke, they like that your self-esteem is near rock bottom, they like that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:44 PM |
| 14 | If Women Behaved Like Men In BarsSadly, the only way to get men to even fathom how horrible some of the things that other guys do to us is is to get them to imagine a gang of men who treat them like that in prison - the prison scenario gives them a sense of the powerlessness we feel in every day society. And unfortunately, for most men, they can't even picture that unless it's happened to them. Even guys who have been victims of harassment from other men can't understand- they say "but I'm not gay!". They don't realise that the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:45 PM |
| 33 | If Women Behaved Like Men In BarsMen think they'd enjoy that. They wouldn't if it was done to them all the time , anywhere they went. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 12:29 PM |
| 35 | All this manosphere anti-feminist backlash is just a crude attempt to regain power over women and force us to be subservient to them. The good news is that it's having the opposite effect: alienting women and motivating us to be even more independent from them."sex work" sells our subservience to men. It allows them to buy our compliance or take it for free with porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:10 PM |
| 18 | PSA: Making a woman feel bad for not being wet enough is YOUR problem for not giving enough foreplay.The daddy/husband stitch pretty much sums up how men feel about us and our bodies. It's a form of genital mutilation- intended to please men at the woman's cost. Who gives a fuck that she pushed out his child, ey? Now she's gotta heal fast and get back to pleasuring her man asap, lose the weight , stay young , keep her vajayjay tight and be a great moma while he gets lauded for not punching her/ cheating ...if he changes one diaper, he is hands-down father of the year. Men's pleasure/ desires al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 33 | PSA: Making a woman feel bad for not being wet enough is YOUR problem for not giving enough foreplay.Also foreplay isn't a thing in porn. The woman just "enjoys" whatever the man wants her to enjoy. They find it hard to be aroused by actual live humans because we're imperfect and real. They don't want a "loose" (aroused ) vagina because their dick is accustomed to their hand. They also probably actually hate us and find us gross hence why women in porn are so dolled up to the point where they look like sexualised Bratz dolls. The scrote paradox - the constant mental battle of wanting to stick y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:15 PM |
| 23 | PSA: Making a woman feel bad for not being wet enough is YOUR problem for not giving enough foreplay.I got yelled at for not moaning like I was supposed to while he treated me like a series of holes to satisfy himself. I had to fake moan so I wouldn't get screamed at. I had to fake moan during anal. He tried anal in the room next door to his mother for some reason. No lube. No warning. No foreplay. Anal is humiliation and agony. I pushed him away. I got yelled ar. I got told that I apparently liked it. Why ? Because normally you moan. Yeah but I have to moan or you'll shout at me Cue him scream… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:06 PM |
| 13 | How to deal with a cheaterAnd plus the ego boost that being able to have someone so beautiful makes them think they can get better... They always see themselves as the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 09:24 PM |
| 16 | I feel like kids have less tolerance for offensive and annoying behavior than adults doThis is so true. We're taught through life to ignore all the instincts we have to keep ourselves safe and well. It isn't "natural" for women to put themselves last, it isn't "feminine" to ignore our needs in favour of others. It isn't. It's systematic brainwashing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 09:14 AM |
| 28 | Not "questionable age differences", but a list of pedophiles...I have a friend who had to move into a women's shelter with her kids because she married a man 40 years older than her when she was 20. He beat and verbally abused her - she's so kind and beautiful - he pretty much married her straight away and she's from a country which really prioritises submissiveness and young women getting married asap - he controlled all the money and it was so hard for her to leave him especially with the kids. Young, alone and in a foreign country.. what a sick old man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:13 PM |
| 14 | It should be considered child abuse to teach daughters to be "good, submissive wives."I was totally sabotaged by a family member too and the sad thing is, that I wasn't like that for most of my life, and I changed for what ? To get used and abused. I feel so sorry for the girl in your story. I hope she sees the light before it's too late. I hope her mom doesn't give up trying to reach out either. I'm sorry for every woman and girl who have been taught that being feminine means to be a slave to a man's desires and to put herself last. This kind of thing needs to stop because we're… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 24 | Imagine being told to hush while in labour. I’m actually speechless!I'm glad you walked away. My ex also treated me like shit during pregnancy and I still had the idiocy to give him "one last chance " when he acted real sweet towards the end. He was the one who wanted a kid. Of course he was awful during labour - for waking him up in the night and again in the morning, then angry because I said I wanted to go to the hospital alone because he was stressing me out, he threatened to get his family to come and "tell me". I was like wtf. I literally told him that I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:01 PM |
| 47 | Wahmen bad for... *checks notes* having hobbies?It's hard to connect with someone when your own personality itself is beaded on dehumanising them and trying to use them for sex ...or, if they're lucky, a forever live-in maid who helps with bills, incubates "your" kids and listens to you for ever and ever and ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:55 AM |
| 51 | Women never orgasmed throughout history, but now that they can they will. Why buy the cow when a single tool can fix your problem without dealing with a whole ass dudeIt's because they know deep down that that is how porn works on them. They also think that our vaginas permenantly enlarge every time we insert something into it - they think that toys and penises destroy our vagina, especially the bigger they are and the harder they're used. General scrotes think that we would actually consider having sex with them if these things weren't available to us. I agree that those toys definitely look like they're made for men. Men are so easily confused like when the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 09:03 PM |
| 115 | Broke up with BF bcs of OnlyFansI literally have heard that one before. My ex apparently had "known this girl for ages" and was sending her money. It wasn't onlyfans but to get private access to some kind of stream she did. Like whatever. Edit: Men's excuses are so lame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:12 PM |
| 62 | Serial killer Ted Bundy admitted porn prompted him to dehumanise women, but MUH PEEN ain’t ready for that conversation 😒Ted Bundy but scared of the law. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:08 PM |
| 3 | On HingeThis wasn't OLD but when I was younger, I went on a penpal site and almost everyone who messaged me was a (usually much older) dude saying "hey. How r u", "wow ur so pretty like the sun", "do you have Skype", "do u have pictures " , "nudes?" "Do u have a bf?" Or something along those lines. Some guys should write a full sentence so I'd reply and then they'd get only sexual. I wrote out a nice profile and translated it into the languages I was learning and only the girls read it- they all got the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:48 AM |
| 22 | Ladies, yet another manipulation tactic we should be aware of! This one is more subtle and absolutely terrifying.Gaslighting is a part of the manipulation - it's one of the tools abusers use in order to change their victim's view of themselves and of their reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 42 | r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡I love the condescension in the whole reply - "this must be hard for you to wrap your head around..." Uhm because it's something that no human should have to wrap their head around - past abuse or not. Men like the OP's boyfriend and the replier need to wrap their tiny minds around the fact that they have been damaged by porn and that no matter how "nice" (dead terminology. What is nice even ?) and "normal" they think they are, their sexual desires are a deep and truthful expression of who they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:25 AM |
| 12 | According to scrotes, "Biology" only applies to them.We have to learn because there ain't enough people out there telling it like it really is - most of us are sent defense less into the world, taught to be kind and receptive and loving and we have to learn the hard way that men, as a whole, simply do not respect us. Many of them will actually hurt us intentionally. So many of them are not taught how to handle a simple discussion let alone navigate a real relationship and somehow we have to deal with all that too like it's our problem and not thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 36 | I'm new to this sub, but I just want to say....The world tries to knock our standards out of us. I too had "high standards" and was subjected to constant berating by family members about how I was a "vain bitch" and how I wasn't "all that" - let me tell you, when I gave up everything, I look back at myself and think I was "all that". I was successful, smart, pretty, determined, resilient, focused...I didn't need or want a man. I didn't. I gave some guys a chance and it was my downfall. I looked, felt and thought worse than ever before and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 10:59 AM |
| 68 | They will ALWAYS find a way to blame women for their misogyny.I had a friend from Korea who moved to the UK, she was really tall- she told me that guys would always make nasty remarks toward her because of her height. She went on a date with a dude while I knew her who literally raged at her for wearing tiny kitten heels because it made her like 2" taller than him- apparently she was trying to "knock his confidence ". Like wtf. It's men who feel emasculated somehow by having a woman who is bigger than them. Think of the cartoon trope with a big strong man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:05 AM |
| 38 | Woman finds out husband of 6 years is a porn addict and cheats on her with webcam girlsIt's the same as when they call women "emotional" or "crazy" . .like, dude she caught you lying / cheating / completely disrespecting her, sure she's upset and angry - that's like a normal human response to getting betrayed by someone who says they care. They just love painting us a "emotional psychos" or "cold-hearted bitches" (depending on the situation) while completely avoiding accountability in any situation. They're always the victim, no matter what they do or who they hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 07:17 PM |
| 66 | Men want a 1950s housewife but can’t do any of the 1950s husbandIt's true. And really sad. These women set an example for their sons and simply, through all their genuine sacrifice, raised their sons to be another woman's problem. They worked themselves to the bone and all to perpetuate an ugly cycle of learned behaviour, learned sexism and disregard for their own daughters. And they were all brainwashed into thinking that they were doing the "right thing ", that this - endless work, putting themselves last, never wanting, never needing, always pleasing - wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 04:01 PM |
| 45 | How do men see women in pornography if they can dehumanize and objectify women who are just wearing a bikini?Yeah because according to the other men, "why would you show a woman/women basic human decency unless there's something in it for you .." Says a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:38 PM |
| 77 | How do men see women in pornography if they can dehumanize and objectify women who are just wearing a bikini?They know it. Most don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:56 PM |
| 23 | Pick me desperationThey are desperate. A lot of them are still thinking along the lines of "if I could just pleasure him right. he'd stop doing xyz and start appreciating me"... He won't and instead of acknowledge that, they'll waste unquantifiable amounts of energy, time and effort going to great lengths to sexually satisfy him, while also doing everything "a woman should do" outside of the bedroom too. The men are treated like kings and respect these women less and less the more they try. Edit: it's the endless … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 87 | 🙄 also, why do men insist on calling us “females” tfI'm not a curvy woman , but a curvy younger relative of mine used to wear baggy clothes as a teenager to hide her body and she got called "a fat slob" by other relatives. You cannot win being curvy. You can't win being female. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:45 PM |
| 44 | Opinion?Wait ? Can't men just make their own music festival? Oh no wait, they wouldn't want a festival with no "girls" there to get intoxicated with and hook up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 12:33 PM |
| 59 | Im so tired of women being told we have to accept all men watch porn or that it’s ok for them to have strippers for their bachelor partyAmateur porn is no better. Sometimes those are just pimps abusing their prostitutes with a camera. Sometimes it's rape. Sometimes it's revenge porn. At the best it just shows that society is grooming girls to do anything for validation and fuels the market. Amateur porn is really popular because of men's craving for novelty, because it feels more 'real' to them. That's just a normal woman degrading herself for his pleasure, probably not making money, likely not even aware that the video is there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 09:36 AM |
| 4 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propagandaOh right, the dude's phrasing just boggled me a bit. The thing is, I think men should be more straight up about their priorities instead of letting a woman waste her time to come 2nd place (or 3rd or 4th) to something else in his life. Sure she ain't gonna be happy to hear it, but she's allowed to ask questions even if she don't get the answer she wants to hear. I don't get why men who think like this also think that they deserve a girlfriend or that it's on "females" if no one wants to date the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:37 AM |
| 16 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propagandaMost of these make no sense- like 15?- and they wouldn't like to be told any of these "rules" by a woman they thought was theirs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 49 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propagandaToo accurate. Those same guys expect you to take every. Little. One. Of their rollercoaster mood-swings over minor perceived slights as super serious. You're also supposed to excuse their terrible bad behaviour and the fact that they take everything out on you because their mommy didn't buy them an Xbox when they were small or some shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 12 | What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Centre of Life?I had a real good friend when I was late teens/early 20s and going through a rough time. He was gay and so there was no sexual feelings between us. We basically lived together between our houses - like he'd chill at mine couple days, I'd chill at his. We worked together - sometimes same shifts, sometimes different shifts. I'd yet to make actual close female friends at that point (still working on that) , but he'd been through his fair share of bad relationships and when we were together like tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:22 PM |
| 56 | Trigger warning: Men's behaviour during the pandemicI read an article once about how , when men experience stress, they are more likely to assault and abuse women. The article mentioned how men during the British occupation of India raped and abused women and girls en masse and blamed it on the "stress of trying to civilise the natives ". Or something to that effect. It happens every time there is a war. It happens every time during colonisation. It is partly to humiliate and degrade the enemy, but the men will always blame it on the stress and p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 6 | I bought the berries & chocolate, dipped them myself, a card, flowers, & her favorite wine for < $30. My mom is supporting me during grad school & tonight I’m making her fave dinner + this surprise. I’m a broke graduate & I found the time to do this for the queen in my lifeC'mon you're showing up a lot of men out there! I love this. Effort doesn't have to be grand gestures. Just simple, personal, acknowledgements that the person means something to you. Beautiful ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:45 AM |
| 45 | I was told by OTHER WOMEN to don't shame and that sex work is work while trying to stop a 16yo from becoming a sexworker and meeting up with a 30yo sugar daddy?? Are people REALLY becoming this brainwashed? Shes underage, what the hell?Porn. Liberal feminism, but mainly porn. Men believe that there are a plethora of women available to them all the time because they are deluded. This creates a mentally of abundance and entitlement. They don't want to even commit to a relationship, let alone marriage. They blame women having money etc. For the fact that we don't want to marry them and "settle down" or that we're too "career driven " (lmao I got that accusation when I worked a minimum wage job BC I actually went to work and refus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 17 | BDSM grosses me out so much. To any women reading this, don't allow anyone to pressure you into doing that. It's misogynistic as hell.Always be skeptical when masses of men fully support a woman's "decision" to do anything- it usually is because it benefits them in some way. Be highly skeptical if that "choice" is something which men have forced women to do for millennia. It is so transparent that this is abuse, misogyny and often racism that you have to really really not want to see it for what it is. But in the eyes of society, so long as it's a "sex thing", it's alright to want to torture a woman and calling her slurs, or t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 05:31 PM |
| 19 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man."Yes! Any insecurity, weird characteristics, anything that makes you "different", or/especially any mental / physical health issue you have which causes others (and by the unavoidable internalisation, yourself) to perceive you as "less than" attracts the worst kind of people. They often masquerade themselves as caring but in their heads, they think that you should count yourself as "lucky"to have found anyone at all and will eventually treat you as such. They see you as easier to isolate, manipul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:04 AM |
| 47 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man."Single mothers get plenty of male attention. We're seen as "desperate" and "easy pickings". Anyone who tells a single mother to drop her expectations in a partner to yield a larger dating pool is absolutely deluded and doesn't recognise the fact that when you have kids, vetting is extra critical and must be done with utmost caution. The wrong partner could not only damage you but mess up your kids' perception of what they should tolerate/how they should behave in a relationship ..at best or it c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 09:23 AM |
| 39 | How does a HVW deal with catcalling?I have flipped them off and once called them "pedophiles" when I was in a school uniform. But tbh, only the latter incident got them to look sheepish. I would do that again if I ever saw another little girl getting harassed just in the hopes that they may feel a twinge of embarrassment. I wouldn't ever flip them off or get pissed off again because the rest of the time, they just laughed or called me a slut, spat on me. Once I got followed by three guys in a foreign city. I had to actually shout … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:52 PM |
| 1 | “Their fawning is but flattery; their faith is falsehood; their fair words allurements to destruction; and their large promises tokens of death, or of evils worse than death.”She could have been speaking today. When men and pickmes claim that sexism is not a big issue anymore because it's not like we can't own property and vote etc, they aren't acknowledging the fact that, while we have more on paper, men's and society's views really haven't changed that much. Things such as "sex work" and casual sex have been rebranded as "empowering choices" , but even when people shriek about our liberation, has any ones view really changed? Are things any better whether we're gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Gas me up to drop this manYou are stronger than this. Sis, you know what to do and you'll feel much better for doing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 01:24 PM |
| 11 | On men and braveryMy dad and his family are all brave and so is my mother (less so the majority of her family. ). In fact it was my dad who emphasized from a young age how important it is to respond even if you're the only person to react. Even if everyone else walks on by. Even if all you do is call the police (because obviously it would do no good if you end up hurt or dead yourself) -anything other than nothing. He taught me that even if your friends laugh at you, you stand up for the downtrodden. Even if you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:03 PM |
| 18 | Men using LinkedIn to pick upMen use any and everything as a way to hit on women. Everything. They're out of control! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:38 PM |
| 155 | As a former gym rat (thanks covid), this makes me angry. Just a few, sadly predictable, comments.Lmao they want us to have the perfect body, but don't want us to have anywhere, such as a female-only gym, where we can safely exercise and they complain when we go to "their " gyms. Pick one, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:34 PM |
| 13 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩"go take a nice long bath, honey. You seem stressed." Can we just treat men like this please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:09 AM |
| 2 | The worst of "female qualities" usually have to actually come from a man. Because we don't actually pull crap like this, and are usually way too accommodating. :)👇👇👇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 10:05 PM |
| 9 | The worst of "female qualities" usually have to actually come from a man. Because we don't actually pull crap like this, and are usually way too accommodating. :)I am also a "crazy ex" , but everyone else seems to think I'm pretty level headed. These a-holes will fuck with your mental state and you'll act in ways which will later make you feel ashamed, but they are the ones who are so mentally unstable that that is what they do to anyone who comes close to them. The only crazy thing we ever done was stay with their sorry asses for long enough that it got to us. The stupidest thing we ever done was believe in them and the most irrational thing we done was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 10:03 PM |
| 26 | Ah yes, only interested & want to be affectionate to your gf when you want to get your dick wet. The dudes in the comments defending this as “Post Nut Clarity”They are. They complain a lot about "girls" being "needy" after sex and wanting to cuddle or talk about babies or the future or something. They want us until they get us and then suddenly all the memories of why they hate us and cannot be in our company come back. They basically wish that they could summon us for sex and send us away afterward. They really hate us and they're teaching the younger generations to not feel anything toward the girls they have sex with. It's not cool to have any atta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 5 | What made you question or doubt if your abuse was abuse?You described the way my ex behaved -. He wasn't a master manipulator. He claimed to be Bipolar and said that everyone who stuck with him just "understood". He directed so much blame and criticism toward me that I was constantly trying to prove that I wasn't this monster that he claimed he was. Deep down I knew that he was doing wrong, but was ashamed to talk to anyone. He made me sleep on the floor when I was unwelbecause I was coughing and that was when I started to really question his bipolar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 9 | 'He only bullies you because he fancies you'Same - I had a boy when I was little who used to do things like come up behind me and crush my ribs or turn me upside down and show my underwear to the whole school. I also had a male teacher and he as well as even the female teachers just said that he wasnt bullying me, that that is just what boys do when they like someone. I thought that sounded wrong then and it's still wrong now. I also used to have to have this boy come over my house who constantly tried to pull down my underwear and I got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 09:23 PM |
| 161 | “Women should be more indulgent of affairs”. Excuse your mouth?That's why the best thing to do is just leave and cut him out. Men cannot handle a Microdose of the medicine which they dish out so easily - giving them a proper taste is dangerous because they often have violent, irrational and unpredictable reactions. They don't empathise that this is how she felt when he treated her like that. They feel wounded, wronged and it only hurts and damages the woman too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 01:54 PM |
| 104 | They’re now mocking sensual and intimate sex. The comments are full of girls saying how they only watch brutal or forced or kidnapped porn?? And they’re so proud of it??Loveshaming more like! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 01:43 PM |
| 52 | I can't believe that OP/everyone in the comments believe this is accidental. He's definitely using alcohol as an excuse to indulge his anal fetish.I've heard of guys who pull this shit. Either porn isn't as good at teaching sex as they claim it is...y'know seeing as they have no grasp on human anatomy or they're doing it on purpose in which case porn is dangerous for even portraying it as ok or normal. Either way fuck porn. Anal has been around a long time, but porn has made so many men think that they have to and have a right to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 52 | Prostitution is NOT a victimless crime. Prostitution is illegal for the same reason Crack is illegal: It's a public health hazard for both the distributor and the consumer, and contributes to trafficking and social breakdown.Prostitution is even worse than drugs, usually. The distributor is the pimp - the prostitute- a human being - is the substance. It's one thing having an addiction / needing to use a substance despite knowing that it harms you and others , you don't really see the human cost there in front of you. I don't see how anyone could mindlessly use a prostitute - no physical withdrawals from not using , no actual dependency. The human cost is there before your eyes. Of course drugs and prostitution are a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:55 AM |
| 29 | Older men who date younger women admit they’d date teens as young as 16 and that their attraction progressively fades with age. It’s never a good idea to date much older men. It’s doomed to fail once you age out of his preference.Older men who date younger women /girls are the most immature people on the planet. And when you reach the age that he was when he first started dating you and realise what a creep he was, and that you're so much more mature at that age, you end up feeling disgusted. I'm 25 and while I can talk to 18 year old guys, we have literally nothing in common and I consider them youngers. Moreover , I wouldn't assume that any of them would be interested in me! - 25 was the age that my ex got together wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 25 | Not to stereotype, but do you tend to notice Mediterranean men tend to be more stalkerish?Turkish men and Lebanese men made my teenage years hell. They appear more "liberal" than traditional Muslim men who want a traditional Muslim wife. They're happy to sleep around with white "whores" whereas the women from those countries are raised to be " pure ". I listened to 3 Lebanese men rant about how "stuck up" Lebanese women are- the ones I have met have been total queens btw. Like even when I was 15, I watched them brush off men like they were nothing but flies. Every country has men who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:04 PM |
| 12 | 29 million girls, women victims of modern slavery: report. Women account for 99% of all victims of forced sexual exploitation, 84% of all victims of forced marriage, and 58% of all victims of forced labour.By their definition, you're right. I mean, does it really change a thing if the person who has enslaved you is your legal "partner" ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:28 AM |
| 10 | Found this gem in my suggested posts. It’s actually crazy how delusional MGTOW are. Do they really think they need this much protection?This guy sounds like he's raped / sexually assaulted at least one person or is planning to so. He just doesn't want to state it outright so he's dog whistling to the others who have also done so , asking for advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:08 PM |
| 37 | Be wary of men with racial fetishes/comments towards ANY raceI lived in the area where the girls were pimped out by the Asian gangs. In so many areas of the UK, Asian boys are taught to sleep with white girls and discard them before marrying a nice traditional good Muslim wife. Nobody wants to talk about that much because they're afraid of being "islamophobic" and it's a great injustice to the girls who are used and abused en masse by these men and boys who themselves are being racist! It is not a phobia to discuss problems within a community- in fact, it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 11:09 AM |
| 55 | I look like myself againThey don't. I have a friend who went from being very overweight to crash dieting and exercising herself to around 120lbs (she's also very very tall). She has a lot of make up, fake eyelashes and dyed blonde hair and men go absolutely goo goo over her. When we go out, they turn into drooling , grinning zombies, tripping over themselves trying to get to know her. She's super insecure and I think at first she liked the attention, but now she's starting to get depressed by it. She said that men can'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:10 AM |
| 16 | Adult man has a sad because even the literal child that he’s been screwing knows that he sucks in bed.I was a "mature 16 year old" pushed into dating older men because of this. They were actually more immature than I was, but that wasn't saying much- they hadn't progressed past the toddler phase. Being immature and young and inexperienced myself, I also had no idea how to handle their outbursts and criticism so I just used to sit there silently, thinking at the time that they were more mature and did know what they were speaking about. How dumb I was. Here it was totally legal for me, a 16 y.o. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:15 PM |
| 21 | Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.My ex tried to convince me to get implants ...for "myself", of course. He gave the whole "you're so beautiful and perfect" spiel when he got with me.few years down the line after putting up with do much bs from him - a dude who decided to stop any body maintenance including showering and changing clothes... Or do any thing at all decided to tell me that I was "just a 6/10" and "not all that ". Like, ok that's his preference, but why lie to me just to get me to be with him and tell the truth when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:06 PM |
| 93 | FDS Responds to Media Accusations of “Pick Up Artistry”They're just trying to misrepresent FDS and make it seem like a 'he-said-she-said" / tit-for-tat situation. It's like how feminism in general gets equated to Men's Rights. Apparently men should be allowed to shit on us as they have done for a massive chunk of human history and the moment we react with anything but a sweet smile, we're "just as bad" . Lmao there are literally men out there encouraging eachother to lie, manipulatre, coerce and even rape us, but can we teach defense against this da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:08 PM |
| 67 | FDS Responds to Media Accusations of “Pick Up Artistry”Ikr whoever runs the FDS Twitter has a level of sass which I doubt anyone can help but admire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 25 | She gave him her best years but once she's hitting menopause he wants to cheatThat was disturbing. That alone would put me right off initiating any intimacy at all and just like ...leaving. What a pervert. No amount of councelling could make that right. He has to go. He's probably been watching teen porn and fantasizing about trying to groom his daughter's friend who is giving off "daddy issue' vibes- if she really does seem to like the old fart. Either that or he's just doing it to basically say-without-saying that OP is getting old and ugly and he's still thirsting for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:19 PM |
| 13 | Mariah Carey on being called high maintenanceMen are SO high maintenance - they literally expect us to maintain them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 8 | @aishathalia with the facts 💕Why is their only argument when it comes to porn "but other men do it !!!!!". Like bro, I hate to sound like a parent, but I am one so.. for one just because everyone else does something, doesn't make it ok. For 2, All your friends may be out there looking at porn and if you need that in common with them so much, then I'll give you something else to have in common with them - none of you can have me. End of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:19 PM |
| 6 | LVM don't know how to apologize.No one warns you about those ones , but they show themselves for who they are when you tell them that they have to actually stop doing the thing / a similar thing again after apologising for it. Then they either get mad or go off on some sob story about their life which really has nothing to do with the way they treat you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:43 PM |
| 29 | PSA: if you wouldn’t tell your hypothetical daughter to marry someone just like her father, you do not need to be having children with that man.Oh yeah I tried that exact one. It didn't work. He dodged the question by saying "that's her choice". Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:15 AM |
| 10 | "you seem really sweet"Oh for sure, it can be, but it really depends on the relationship you have with them. Mostly when women compliment women, they aren't trying to get together with them and often women have been conditioned to praise women based on a male POV so .. I've had a very manipulative woman in my family tell me all sorts of compliments which basically translated to - you seem easy to manipulate and turn against the other women who I don't like. I've also had an ex's mother tell me that i'm sweet and she d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 10:49 AM |
| 37 | To the frustrated woman still waiting for him to change: He won’t. An inside peak at their thought process....I have been that friend. My ex stopped me from speaking to anyone other than his friend's girlfriends who were all massive PickMes who had no interests in common with me. It was sad and lonely and one of the reasons why I left. I realised afterwards that he was threatened by my friends - not just the male ones, but the female ones who were always on my back to chuck him out. Luckily I started a new job and met a few women and a man who:d been in pretty much the same boat as I was then and echoed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:02 PM |
| 29 | And if it does, it’s probably gaslightingYou tell them how much you hurt them. = you're just trying to manipulate them / turn on the waterworks / whatever BS they come up with to make themselves feel better. You tell them you're leaving and they don't believe you. You leave and they cry that they didn't see it coming. That you just left for no reason or that you probably cheated. Anything but take a look at the way they treat you.chances are they know and they don't care. They hope that they can mess with your head and you'll just stay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:18 AM |
| 7 | Random dating advice on the Prepping sub? They know what's up and majority of comments tell the girl to dump her boyfriend!What's that i smell ? No bullshit, only bitter sweet truth. 🤷🏾♂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 47 | I'm pissed. A 16 year old former sex worker posted about how the glorification of sex work hurts women and they removed it!Empowering nudes 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 08:36 PM |
| 23 | Just because a decision doesn’t feel good, that doesn’t mean it’s not the right one. Just because a choice is hard to make that does not mean you don’t have choicesThis is the problem. What you "want" and what's actually good for you are two totally different things. Same as being a "nice" person is not the same as being a good person. Society no longer sees this. You need to be good to yourself. It won't always feel nice, but you'll be better in the long run. You'll realise when you're better that you didn't even really want that emotional-rollercoaster relationship, that awful job, those bad friends or that crappy apartment. Or whatever situation you wer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Upset. Just got chased 1/4 mile by a man on my runLmao I had a dude follow me down the street after I walked past him in his doorway. He got into his car and processed to pull over every now and again but there wasn't anyway that he could have time to park his car in time to catch me. I just carried on walking. Like wtf was going through his mind ? My dad was very confused the one time when he tried to pick me up on the way home from a party and I bolted. I wasn't expecting him and he honked at me, it was dark so I crossed the street and all I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 07:44 PM |
| 49 | Where’s the lie?Same. It screams porn addiction. When I was about 18, I noticed that every guy told me that sex should last up to 3 hours. Idk where they all got that number from or where they got the impression that any woman thinks that doesn't sound like 3 hours of sweaty (or cold if you are skinny like I was back then ), anti-climactic jackhammering and awkward porno re-enactments where as the woman, you're supposed to keep up a performance of utter bliss while he stares dead-eyed at the wall behind you.. a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:50 AM |
| 10 | LVM Giving Attention to LVW Over You (Mix of stuff learned from this subreddit & what I've picked up on my own)This was my school years until I started trying to be feminine. Then I got loads of attention and ended up in some sucky abusive relationship. Fuck that. Femininity is a display. It's effort and replaced having your own identity, values and interests. It's a performance which, the better you are at it, the more it appeals to the type of man who don't see women as human. They're looking for an easy lay or a submissive wife (read housemaid/ mommy who he can have free sex with ). These are the exac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:48 AM |
| 7 | After you defeat all the other pick-Me’s you have to face the final bossThe exact kinds of men that you don't want. These people must be so brainwashed and desperate. Like dude, you'll probably find a man for sure and he'll brag about you, but he won't respect you. You won't have a good female support network to tell you to leave him when you get down, just other women reinforcing the "stand by your man" line. Could anyone be happy like this ? R | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 15 | Something doesn’t add upI shudder every time time I hear the word "panties ". Men get to say "boxers, underwear " etc. And we have to act like little children who say "panties. " I got told to wear "sexy panties " by a man who didn't wear underwear . Like. At all. He showered maybe once a month with a lot of begging. He stank. He never shaved. Oh but I wasn't shallow so I couldn't mention it.. fuck that pickme logic. If a man wants sexy panties , he can wear sexy panties too. If he wants you to have sex with him at all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:48 AM |
| 19 | Queen actions. Saw this on Facebook FDS material.I had a random stranger come up, hand me a little box of chocolates and sit and talk with me a while once after my then partner had just stormed off and left me in the street. I sat down on a bench and must have looked miserable , but she didn't judge. She didn't ask what happened. She told me that she had been upset that day because the next day she'd be leaving my country to go back home half the world away. She didn't do it in a way that made me feel bad. She didn't do it in an inconsiderate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:41 PM |
| 9 | LVM and "watching porn together"Yes I think this happens to a lot of us these days. Men literally think that porn is how they get turned on so they think that it turns us on too. They don't realise that sex had nothing to do with porn for all of human existence save the most recent part. It's a major turn off and just show their lack of brain function due to porn addiction. You put it well its sad,sick ,depressing and dystopian af. They don't think we're human. they think they can turn us on as if we're a machine and we'll jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:29 AM |
| 4 | r/MGTOW sums up the dating world: “Most men can't get most women, most women find most men unworthy”. Thoughts?He confuses personality with charisma. No, dude not everyone who acts decent is just playing nice to get what they want. Sociopaths are incredibly charismatic and narcissistic people too when you first get to know them. Having a good personality and being charismatic are two totally different things. Anyone who has had the unfortunate experience of having any kind of relationship with these people - family or partners or friends- know this all too well. This just shows how he sees the world and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Men put barely any effort into their appearance and wonder why women don't compliment themOmg I can't believe I even forgot that! Yess!! It's exactly what happens. You try being nice to them when they seem down and they think you're coming on to them and then they accuse you of "leading then on " or "friendzoning them". They can't see compliments for what they are, they don't deserve them until they learn to give and take them selflessly and properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 07:17 PM |
| 65 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secMy ex did the video thing too. It's fucking cruel on so many levels. Mine would threaten to show the police . I said "what? Show them that you chased me into a corner while I was holding a child and had time to get out a camera while I cried?". I don't think it's admissable as evidence, so the only reason he did it was to scare or shame me. I'm glad I'm not the only one but at the same time disgusted that at least more than one man has done this. Edit:. I hope your ex realises one day when he's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:38 PM |
| 25 | “I’m not a feminist for very simple reasons. I love being a woman. I love men. I can’t wait to get married and start a family and I’d gladly make @GTSFarmer a sandwich, every time. Feminism is a scam. If you think Lena Dunham and Kathy Griffin are happy — go be a feminist.” - Candace OwensIt's sad because often women like this never learn. They go from man to man each as bad as eachother and they all seem to end up pretty bitter and alone at the end. They never learn to respect themselves. Sometimes they think they need a man to fulfil them because their self-identity literally revolves around being a wife. They can't perceive themselves as whole without a man to serve and thus never learn about themselves as humans in their own right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:35 PM |
| 42 | FDS isn’t about menExactly. That's why it's good. Most relationship advice is about trying to find someone as soon as you can - changing yourself, not for your own benefit, but to make yourself into someone into a the type of woman a man wants. This is wrong on so many levels. When we enter the dating world, we barely know ourselves and we end up giving up a lot and trying to tolerate and change for someone who has been taught from childhood that they get to be the one who makes demands. FDS teaches women and girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Saw this on my fb feed this morning. Had a good laugh and thought I’d share.So you say "Unlike women who [month you were born], I [colour of your shirt]. [Color of your hair]!!". Makes a generic pickme sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:34 PM |
| 6 | Saw this on my fb feed this morning. Had a good laugh and thought I’d share.Lmao ok so Unlike those women who are #superbossy, I can change a tire. Fuck dem haterz. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 7 | Why don’t men make attempts to look better??I was one of those girls when I was younger. And tbh looks don't matter too much to me if he's kind, caring and a good and reasonable person , but as I found though trying to not be shallow , the ugly ones are ugly both inside and out. It's not a matter of simply being born looking ugly because you can do things like simple hygiene, a good haircut, exercise and nice clothes - that would make the majority of men look so much better, but they don't. They don't even try and the ugly ones seem to en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:31 AM |
| 68 | Men put barely any effort into their appearance and wonder why women don't compliment themWtf is this trend. Men:. "no one ever compliments me!! Bwhahaha my mum says I'm handsome but no one else does" Who compliments us ? "Oi sexy!!" Shouted from a passing van is not a compliment. A man may compliment us when he's trying to slither into our sex lives, but if you reject him, his "compliments" soon turn into "well you're not all that anyway " at best. Usually they take it all back and end up throwing a couple insults such as "fat" in just to make themselves feel better. Women complimen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:56 AM |
| 21 | Every woman - friend / roommate / acquaintance I’ve ever known who‘s looked through a man’s phone(s) or device has always had their suspicions confirmed. Trust your gut and don’t let anyone shame you for doing so.Aw that's awful. My ex did something similar - he used to accuse me of cheating all the time. Once he left his FB signed in on my phone and the first message was him sexting his ex. All others had been deleted. He tried to say that he was just trying to get her to come see him so he could see his kid. Nah. She didn't seem interested in the messages. He did. Later on (I'm ashamed I stayed because I didn't have anywhere to go at that time ) I found that he'd been in online dating, a prostitute ser… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:20 AM |
| 81 | I hate how LVM behavior is coded as "benign/good" in popular moviesAny reaction a woman has is branded as "crazy" , "emotional " or "hysterical ". I literally sat quietly in a chair after discovering my then - boyfriend's dating profile (3 years in with the dude who checked my freaking phone while I slept) and I refused to speak to him for all of 30 minutes. He. Lost. His. Shit. But while he was flapping around the room and I was sitting quietly smoking a cigarette (as you often do when you're with this type of stress-inducing male) and yet I was apparently "hy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:42 PM |
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