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discoveringliberty/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:54 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:00 PM
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This is such a dumb line omg. Of course men are visual creatures, any creature that has vision is a visual creature lool. It's not about them having eyes, it's about them being sexist and disrespectful. Women have vision too and we don't treat men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:36 AM
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Yeah but, where bears are by nature dangerous to humans, the danger and violence that men present to women is completely unnatural and abnormal, so I don't agree with this comparison and it sounds like it's blaming women for being born heterosexual. Men are not supposed to hate women the way they do, it is a completely learned behaviour. On the other hand, it is completely natural for heterosexual women to craze intimate relationships with men. I have no natural inclination to interact with bear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:24 AM
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I wish I could watch true crime as I feel like we can learn a lot from it; I find it too triggering though as so many true crime docs are done in a weird male gaze way that sexualises the rape/murder of women. So I like seeing breakdowns like this on FDS because it means I don't have to watch myself to get the learning tips
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:27 AM
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Woah, major bullet dodged. What a creepy pos lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 05:37 PM
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At this point though I really wish more women would stop consuming IG, or at least limit their consumption of it. I have better self-esteem than 99% of the women I know and I would be very surprised if me not being on social media much didn't have anything to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:02 PM
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From a UK perspective, I really hope in future a lawsuit will be filed against sites like FB for blatant sex discrimination under either the Equality Act (silencing female voices only) or art. 10 of the ECHR (violation of free speech). It's obvious that the moderators of sites like this are specifically targeting female users in a discriminatory manner. Edit: might even be able to be looked into under CEDAW, but I'd have to check whether the UK has put in a reservation against the article of CED…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:11 AM
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I see what you mean but I disagree slightly. I don't pay for my friends food/drinks when I suggest meeting up because meeting up with my friends is completely mutually beneficial and we subconsciously take turns doing the inviting. So I wouldn't count a friend agreeing to see me as them putting in work on my behalf. I think it's different with dating men though, because they benefit so much more from female interaction than we do from male interaction. We take genuine risks when meeting up with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:08 AM
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"But why would I pay for a random woman I met? I don't even know her" You could literally apply this way of thinking to the entire dating experience. If he doesn't see any value in paying for a date because he doesn't know the woman, why does he want to date "random" women at all? Surely dating in general would seem valueless to him since most of us don't know a person well before dating them? Rhetorical question obvs, of course we know the answer is that he's trying to gain access to free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:26 PM
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Disgusting and despicable. From the article: "Another man at a refugee camp in Poland was overheard offering work and a room to a 16-year-old girl before authorities intervened." "At Poland's Medyka border, another case at a refugee camp raised suspicions when a man was offering help only to women and children." "In the Romanian border town of Siret, authorities said men offering free rides to women have been sent away." Keep male volunteers OUT of refugee camps. They are too much of a risk to w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:15 PM
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On a less harsh note though I think a lot of girls and women do this because they genuinely think these men are misogynists due to misunderstanding, as opposed to abject hatred for women. As others have pointed out, young women don't understand that men have been socialised differently to us and are not interested in understanding us or changing their ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:05 AM
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Exactly. Does he mean the girl who has like half an inch of stomach showing? He's a pedo and he's trying to make himself feel better about the fact that he's a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:14 PM
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That's crazy! I had been planning on joining fourthwave, maybe not now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:33 AM
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Trust you gut. It would be a no from me due to his further comments about why he enjoyed it. Since anal has become so normalised and pushed to young people I guess I wouldn't necessarily find it a deal breaker if a guy had done it in the past, but not if he still spoke about it as if it was something he wanted to continue doing and my consent was the only thing getting in the way, and especially not if he tried to mansplain to me about my own body and tell me anal sex is pleasurable for women wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:32 AM
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Yeah I heavily resent this 'he's still young and dumb' shtick. I'm also 24 and I would never treat someone else like this. It's not his age, it's his character (or lack thereof).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:11 PM
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This ad is so troubling. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:03 PM
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Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries is great. It passes the Bechdel test, the lead is a woman and she has a really wholesome friendship with her female companion/assistant. She also has three men working for her who have nothing but absolute respect for her, and have no qualms about having a female boss (it's set in the 1920s). There is a love interest, a detective she often works with on cases, and although he isn't perfect, he is shown to have great respect for her and their relationship grows with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:13 AM
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Literally all the important ones are left blank. But don't worry, he included his star sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:56 AM
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No, but I've never had a man lock the door after getting out and then unlock it again to let me in. When I used to be picked up in a car by my dates (pre-FDS), they would either not get out to open the door for me, or they would and the doors would remain unlocked until we were both in the car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:02 PM
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This is legal in many countries now. Single-sex spaces are no longer single-sex, including womens prisons, as another poster has said. When it comes to non-public spaces, vote with your dollar and don't attend gyms that don't respect womens dignity, privacy and safety. Look up the Wi Spa incident if you want to learn more about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:29 AM
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In some countries you can sue in the civil court for purposeful STI transmission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:29 PM
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We "deal with it" everyday by rejecting the normalization of this stuff. As a social species, humans are very influenced by social acceptance and social stigma. The reason pedos like this - and most of them are pedos, because by having sex with 18 year olds they are saying "this is the youngest I can legally get away with, and I would go younger if I could" - are feeling emboldened to openly admit their depravity is because society (mostly fuelled by porn) has normalised and legitimised male pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:39 PM
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Is this the guy someone posted about who said he doesn't agree with gratifying rape scenes but continues to watch films and TV shows full of them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:30 PM
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So he's trying to lull women into a false sense of safety by pretending to have a girlfriend because he knows that women feel safer around men who are taken. This is why we aren't nice to random dudes. I don't care if you have a girlfriend, don't sit next to me if other seats are available and don't talk to me as if I'm interested in interacting with you. Normal guys wait for social ques that a woman is open to being approached, they don't just force interaction by sitting next to women and firi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:26 PM
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PLEASE tell me people are confirming that this is abuse and telling her to leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:25 PM
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Classic scrote - soo angry to find that a woman is reserving all of her energy for her own life. He is angry that she's stopped being a servant for men, and angry that she has created a sex life for herself that is 100% on her own terms. Scrotes think women are supposed to spend their lives suffering and being used, they think this is why we exist. That's why her happy, stress-free lifestyle angers him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:27 PM
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When I was 16 I did a two week work experience placement at a reception (children aged 4-6) and three different little boys pinched my bum. I was really upset to find that, even though these were literal 4-6 year olds invading my bodily autonomy, I still didn't feel I had the power to tell them off. The sense of shame that women are taught to feel when a man/boy behaves inappropriately with them was ingrained into me even when it came to young male children. So I just pretended it hadn't happene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 12:15 PM
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Please let us know if you do reach out to her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:33 PM
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Her music videos are also, for the most part, non-sexualised, which I really appreciate. There was an interesting post on FDS a while ago that was discussing why it is seen by men as embarrassing for women to be Taylor Swift fans, but not e.g. Ariana Grande fans. The discussion came to the conclusion that it's because Taylor doesn't make her entire persona about appealing to the male gaze. Men find it uncomfortable seeing her acting so human, instead of acting like a sex doll. They aren't used t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:44 PM
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I disagree, men often pose a real-life threat to the safety of women and children. I'm not talking about protecting herself in an emotional/mental way, I'm talking about literally protecting her and her child from physical harm. Countless men each year murder their female partners and children, I think staying away from a man who has wished death on you is the smartest thing to do. I'd rather he get away with not supporting his child than attack her and her child, which this guy sounds capable o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:50 PM
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I actually think she should try to never have contact with him again. He sounds unhinged and has expressed ill wish towards both her and her child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:32 PM
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I think that's a bit harsh. Getting married and having kids are considered major milestones in people's lives by society at large, they are probably just thinking of all the things she now won't have the opportunity to do that they always assumed she would be able to before. Their daughter has just been horrifically injured and her attacker has essentially waltzed out of court with a slap on the wrist. I think we can have some more sympathy for them, this must be a time unimaginable to most of u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 09:02 AM
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Me too, I wrote to a women's clothing company that has a collab with Playboy and asked them to explain why they are supporting it, in light of its pedophillic past. The representative basically gave me a 'we're a strong empowered wOmEN's business, and our Playboy clothes are strong and empowering!'. When I asked them to clarify a sentence that made no sense, they told me they were no longer willing to discuss the matter with me. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 09:20 AM
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Apple should register each tag, so that if a stalker plants one on a woman the police can run it through the system and see which man it is registered to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:52 PM
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I had issues that I chose to fix too. Despite never being a regular porn user, I could only orgasm if I was fantasising about r*pe (yay internalised misogyny). I decided enough was enough after finding FDS and just refused to give in to my urge to think about r*pe. The first few sessions were very frustrating as my brain completely associated masturbation with those fantasies, but I persevered and am now back to being able to orgasm while just thinking about normal, healthy sex. I think I was be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:45 AM
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Men are so delusional about porn. They tie it to masturbation in an attempt to make porn-critical women seem unreasonable: "Masturbation is normal and healthy! How dare you say I'm not allowed to masturbate!" Like buddy, you're 100% right there. Masturbation is normal and healthy, and that is why it is so unnormal and so unhealthy that you are now no longer able to do it without simultaneously watching porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:35 AM
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Exactly, the therapist they went to should lose their licence. Therapists are not supposed to continue couples therapy where it's an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:12 AM
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Good move by your granny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:40 PM
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To be honest, I find the fact that he continues to watch media that uses gratifying rape scenes to be more concerning than his old friends. I cannot watch those scenes because they upset me so much, men who can watch them and continue to enjoy the programme are lacking in basic empathy for women. It's not about it being in "bad taste", it's about the media condoning and glorifying violence against women. I'd be wary of a man who can't/doesn't want to see that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:28 PM
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Who knows, if your paper is full of brilliant references and conclusions, it may change the way some of these pro sex industry feminists think. Academia can shift specifically because of papers written by students of the school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:56 PM
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Christmas with the Coopers is alright - it deffo has some cringe parts but I managed to enjoy it overall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:47 AM
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Sorry this isn't related to this post, but I can't find any other way to ask: does anyone know why my post gets auto-removed as soon as I post it? It literally happens the same second it's uploaded, so it can't be that a mod has actually read it and decided to remove it. I've tried a few things, like removing links, changing the post flair, but nothing seems to be working? Does anyone have any ideas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 02:56 PM
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I'm so angry he's only being charged with manslaughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:48 PM
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Wow that story about the group of men sounds terrifying. I hope that man is now known in Hollywood circles for being a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:53 AM
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We are all aware that teenagers have not finished their brain development. And I don’t know where you pulled me being ‘special’ and having ‘HV role models’ from, but okay. I do not expect teenagers to have all the answers, but a key part of growing up is being taught that you need to think of how your actions affect others. All boys and men who have contributed to the porn industry need to do this. This doesn’t need to be done in the form of an attack, but it does need to be done. You are undere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 06:32 PM
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It's a big deal that she is speaking out against the porn industry. A big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:25 AM
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I disagree. When I was a teenager I knew full well not to support racist or homophobic industries. I'm fed up of people acting like misogyny isn't as serious as other forms of discrimination, or that boys/men don't know it's happening. Teenage boys are completely aware of how misogynistic porn is. And this man is 23 years old anyway, he's not a little boy. I'm 21, my brain is not fully developed yet and still I know not to contribute to industries built on oppression. The bulk of the anti-porn m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:10 AM
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Like I said, I don't have TikTok, so I won't be leaving a comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:30 PM
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So I predict that the porn industry is gonna crash and burn in the next couple of decades - specifically because it is now affecting men so much. I also predict that all the work and discourse that radical feminists have been putting out for decades now about how harmful porn is will be completely written out of popular acknowledgment, and the anti-porn movement will be framed as something predominantly led by men in the name of men's health. When the porn industry finally falls we gotta claim o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:21 PM
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Yeah it's really disheartening to see that for all these anti-porn guys the mass human rights violations committed against women and girls in the porn industry literally do not factor in their minds at all. But they're damn passionate about their dopamine receptors, evidently. If I had TikTok I'd leave a comment calling him out for not addressing that whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:07 PM
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Misandry isn't a thing, in the same way that reverse racism and straightphobia aren't real things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:48 PM
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This is incredible, thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:24 AM
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Yeah, also why sully the name of birds with their polyamory nonsense. Most birds are monogamous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:39 AM
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This is one of the reasons why dinner dates are superior to coffee/drink dates - the check comes at the end. Obviously a scrote who doesn't want to pay for the date he asked for could still decline to pay at the end, but for some of them they'll find it too embarrassing to outright say they expect you to pay for the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:25 PM
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So that the man still has a woman at home to play the wifey role for him, whilst also being able to go out and fuck around. They call it 'nest partner' (vomit)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:57 PM
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'“We appreciate the jury’s lengthy deliberations, we respect the jury’s verdict, and we intend to appeal," Duggar's legal team said in a statement to NBC News.' The audacity of them appealing this. I so hope that the court intends to make an example of him, and I think that is the plan given this statement: "This verdict sends the message that these cases are a top priority for our office," Fowlkes said. "This verdict also demonstrates that no person is above the law. Regardless of wealth, socia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 10:18 AM
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Lol this happened to me on a date, the guy was sleezily staring at an unsuspecting woman's ass and when he realized I was looking at him he went on a monologue about how he's jealous that women's trousers have such great pockets. We all know that men's clothing has more thought put into pockets, who did he think he was fooling lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:43 AM
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Yeah OP please point this out to her - I'm betting he'd freak out and say he isn't gay/bi, and then the perfect response from her would be that she isn't either. It may make her see how ridiculous the idea that this is ''for her' is, especially if he looks repulsed at the thought of having to have sex with a man when he isn't attracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:25 AM
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In my experience they often do. I think it's part of the Cool Girl character, they want to mirror his interests, opinions, hobbies, etc. in an attempt to gain his approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:23 PM
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Exactly, it set off the red flags of low effort and creating false intimacy. Also, wouldn't his first message to her count as a neg, since he essentially said her profile was only great because most others were crap? Edit: it also goes against what Lilith, Savannah and Reaux said on the pod, that you shouldn't give a roadmap to men i.e. by telling them 'no hookups'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:29 PM
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Honestly, men need to get over themselves. Stop writing questions in to advice columns when you already know the answer: you are using her for sex, you are treating her poorly and you are a bad person. It really didn't need that long-winded, wax poetic response about bIolOGy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:39 AM
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I will not be changing my name, and my children will be getting my last name. Changing your last name gives the impression that the man is more important, you are literally changing your identity for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:28 PM
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Her points aren't moot at all. OP wasn't just talking about her current circles or personal standards for friends, her post is generalised about the entire US population. People are welcome to disagree with her, it isn't breaking any FDS rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:17 PM
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I disagree on the whole. Yes, I think obsession with social media, TV and porn has reduced people's attention spans, but overall women are more educated and accomplished now than ever before in the West. My girlfriends and I are always discussing politics, philosophy, history, astrology, etc. I have similar conversations with my parents and my siblings. I'm in university right now, and there are constantly new academic books and theories being published, lots of people are still striving to lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:08 PM
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I'm really appreciating Jonathan's strong jawline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:23 PM
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Same. It's one of the reasons that I couldn't watch The Fall, despite people raving about it on here. The nude scenes of the murderer's victims were just unnecessary and upsetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:12 PM
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Exactly. I've seen libfems opposing this idea and saying 'Women shouldn't have to not go clubbing!!!!' and it's like, yeah, of course, but nothing is going to change unless we do something. Men and clubs and businesses do. not. care. If we don't fight for ourselves no one else will. Oppressed classes have been staging boycotts and walk-outs for centuries now, this is not about saying women shouldn't do XYZ, it's about taking a stand and making a statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:33 PM
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sex scenes that don't show female nudity and are instead focused on the sensuality of it. Basically less unnecessary female nudity. Movies that show relationships between women and men who don't have casual sex. Movies celebrating female friendships and the love between women. Movies with lesbian characters. I feel like the majority of same sex couples on TV are gay men. Movies celebrating womanhood that are uplifting. Media showing the struggles that women face is very important, but I don't wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:21 PM
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You could get a door jammer too, if you're not allowed to install a lock Edit to add: may sound a bit extreme but in your sitch I would consider staging a burglary. Take the TV from the living room and hide it in your room or get a friend to pick it up, then the next morning start shouting about how the TV/other valuables are gone. If your sister is trailing several random men a night into your house it will be completely believable that one of them took it. Might shock your parents into underst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:37 AM
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I think it's probably also down to liberal feminism demonizing anything from the past. There's a word for this phenomenon which I'll try to find, but it's common among liberals to have the view that any and all traditions and norms are harmful because they weren't created by liberals themselves (and also because a lot of traditions and norms were harmful, obviously). This is why dinner dates are frowned upon by libfems. It's quite an angsty way to view the world, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:19 AM
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Yeah, thought he'd stick around to see if she was a three date rule kind of gal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:33 PM
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"I love when people treat women with respect now." 'he realized women enjoyed being treated rudely because it shows a mans confidence.' Lol, what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:01 PM
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Considering they voted against making misogyny a hate crime, I think this is unlikely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:56 AM
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In The Gift of Fear, the author mentions that usually when a pet takes a disliking to a stranger, it is reading anxiousness/fear in it's owner's body language. He says that we often subconsciously know someone is bad news before we consciously know it, and our animals pick up on our unconscious unease. It makes sense in the scenario you gave that the dog didn't like the man, since you say he was obviously a NVM and the woman likely unconsciously picked up on that, even if she chose to ignore her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:17 PM
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I've been getting accused of being a 'crazy cat lady' since I was about 13. Boys/men can sense when a woman does not have an interest in conforming to patriarchal expectations, and it scares them. Every single one of the boys at school who called me weird or said I was a crazy cat lady later went on to ask me out once we got to like 14/15. They could not hide their interest for long, despite their accusations, and it was obvious they were just trying to make me insecure so I would date them. I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:42 AM
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Good for you. I've been celibate and single for over a year now but it is this convo that I'm dreading the most when I start dating again since, like you said, most of them will likely never have been challenged on it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:15 AM
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I think this is connected to another thing that someone on FDS mentioned once: women often unconsciously find themselves annoying. Women often think that men are doing them a favour by dating them and putting up with their 'quirks' (aka. being an individual human being and not a female prototype). It makes sense: women/girls are ridiculed for their voices, the way they walk/run, for talking in a public setting, for the way we cry/scream when scared or being attacked, our friendships are portraye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:08 PM
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Nah, we'll leave these "hard-working" men to their work, thanks though lol. If he can't balance working (like most other adults do) with having a relationship then he shouldn't be in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:12 PM
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"Also, might be you're introverted and want a calm soul. This doesn't mean he has to be older. Just find another introvert." This is exactly what it was for me. I'm not attracted to older men, I'm attracted to sensible, hard-working, upstanding men. Took me while to figure that out. I thought I had 'daddy issues' and couldn't understand why because I've always had a very good relationship with my dad. I would say also, another reason I was drawn to older men was because they had more resources. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:39 PM
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cousin-sister/cousin-brother is actually a common term of endearment in lots of cultures. This guy is deffo still a perv though, he knows the specific word for sexual-based anime and chose not to change it when he realised what it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:26 PM
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. Where the Crawdads Sing (book) - not completely FDS aligned but does such a good job of portraying rape in a completely non-male gaze, non-gratifying way. It's a really enjoyable book, the author does a good job of not letting it get super heavy despite the heavy themes. It also shows female anger and emotion as a valid, justified thing. I think Reece Witherspoon's production company has secured the rights to turn this book into a movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 04:04 PM
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I'm so glad your cousin has you, but so angry that this still happens. Boys have been aware of the necessity of foreplay for YEARS now, there is no excuse for him doing that to her. I think the BDSM movement has dragged us so far back in terms of normalising the concept of female pleasure and sexual enjoyment. We're back to a time where sex is all about men. 'Sex positivity' is all about how kinky you can be, and the kinks all come out of violent and misogynistic porn that has been created by me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:15 AM
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We need to destroy this concept of 'sex' that girls are currently sold, i.e. being used as a masturbatory aid. They need to be taught the importance of the female orgasm, and that 'foreplay' is actually the main event for a lot of women since many women don't orgasm from penetrative sex. It's also so vital that they understand the reality of the BDSM/porn movement. And that liberal feminism is a men's enjoyment movement, not a women's rights movement. Also extremely important and something that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:40 PM
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This film was AWFUL. It was like watching an early 2000s film with the tired trope of the late twenties woman who's whole life revolves around the fact that she can't find a bf. And somehow it ends with her apologising to everyone? Twice? Like I didn't understand why she had to make that big apology and why the guy thought it was wrong that she was writing about her experience of being catfished? Ugh. And of course the attractive guy had to end up sucking because we all know that ugly guys treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:32 PM
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I actually didn't mind F is for Family. I liked Sue's storyline about becoming a businesswoman and how women aren't taken seriously in the workplace. Maureen is also written to be intelligent/gifted and into unconventional stuff. I also like how Frank is shown to not frequent strip clubs or watch porn, and the men who do are portrayed to be sad/weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 04:23 PM
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Sounds like a neg. I hate it when men think that beautiful women need to prove that they're good/interesting people. Like dude, the stereotype of pretty girls being mean/bitchy/dumb is a male fantasy, it has no grounding in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:27 PM
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She means: how can we use this type of psychology to benefit women/convince them to stop buying into liberal feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:23 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:23 PM
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This is the exact reason why laws protecting women and children took so long to develop in the UK. There are literally court records of men discussing how, if the 1% took away men's ability to be the 'King of the house', they would start revolting against the 1% because they would feel so powerless and be angry that they were being treated poorly by rich people. Frances Olsen wrote a really insightful piece about this, I'll try to find a link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:15 AM
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Modelling and waitressing do not rest on objectification and nothing more. In modelling the purpose is to sell clothes, in waitressing the purpose is to sell food. In prostitution the purpose is to sell women's bodies. It is completely different. Yes there are a lot of jobs where women are unfairly sexualised on the job, but that doesn't mean the job is about objectification at it's core, because the models and the waitresses are not the products on sale. Prostitution is purely about sex and deg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:10 AM
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Nah, people don't pay manual labour workers specifically because they want to cause damage to their bodies. Back ache, etc. is merely a side-effect of their job which may or may not occur. With prostitution, on the other hand, the pure purpose is to utilise and abuse women's bodies. Also, manual labour is needed in this society whereas prostitution is not. It is completely unnecessary suffering that exists only because of misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:38 PM
14

Really? I thought we had the sex offendors list and Clare's Law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:51 AM
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Imagine being pickme to the extent that you're trying to prove you're a Cool Girl to men who are literally in the middle of a date lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:52 PM
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Sadly the 'they're like animals' comparison is even giving them too much credit. In the vast majority of species, the males will go to a lot of effort to prove to the females that they're worth having sex with. Male humans don't like doing this, and even argue that it's abuse that we expect them to treat us with respect, hence their hatred of FDS, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:32 PM
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So true, I'm early twenties and having way too much fun to date right now. I'm working for a really prestigious organisation (that there is fierce competition to get into. I got in due to a lucky break despite not being qualified, but now I'm crushing it), I'm working on my part-time degree (which, if all goes to plan, will allow me to work in a field that will make me wealthy and at the same time allow me to help women), and I'm making new female friends through volunteering (after shedding all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:22 PM
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errm wtf were they thinking getting a man to lead that? And how about your energy isn't his to share? I can't believe he tried to get you in trouble with teacher, what a loser. And shame on whoever organised that event for thinking that that was an okay thing to do. I'm a very introverted person and would have felt extremely uncomfortable in that situation since I would not be expecting a man to be there. It would have ruined the whole retreat for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 06:52 PM
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Libfems say the exact same thing about porn though - there was a post a few months ago on here that we were all critiquing because some libfem was saying that porn is a way to celebrate women who used to be seen as undesirable by the sex-work industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:38 PM
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I mean for me I would still count this as stripping (if they are still removing their clothes and the point is to admire their bodies). I don't know how I feel about it to be honest, it was created so that men could sexualise women and I'm very wary of anything being marketed towards women as them 'reclaiming' their sexuality/body/power/etc. I also wonder about the class aspect of it. I don't know much about burlesque but at it's height wasn't it something that a lot of wealthy women did? I feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:14 PM
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I still feel like if you did this in a store there would be witnesses who would say you were 'highly emotional' or 'acting crazy'. We can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:00 PM
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In the UK we have Clare's Law, which means you are legally entitled to know if a man you are dating has a recorded history of domestic/sexual violence. You can make a request to the police to find out if a man has a record like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 10:17 AM
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Condoms all the way for me. Safe and virtually no side effects for either party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:59 PM
22

Honestly I think living and breathing self-worth and self-respect is the key here. Carrying yourself gracefully and confidently, talking about interesting things, giving men the sense that you would literally laugh in their face if they suggested walking you around the park and splitting the £7 coffee bill. Does anyone remember a post on FDS about 6 months ago that was a screenshot of a guy asking for advice for 'cheap yet fancy' date ideas? His friends had set him up with a woman they knew, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 12:39 PM
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Exactly. Even that mess of an article from Pickminique, despite being a hit-peice, could not deny that FDS operates on the basis of living in a misogynistic world, whereas the manosphere operates on the fantasy basis of a deluded belief that women secretly have it better than men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:41 AM
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This is why the trope of women being bitchy and catfights in movies are so stupid. We're literally so much more supportive of one another than they are. They hate seeing female friendships celebrated because it holds a mirror up to how lacking their ones with theirs bros are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 08:12 AM
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I love this response and it's so true! I love all of my clothes now that I've found my personal style, so it's never a question of wearing something because I'm going on a date, but rather wearing something because of the location e.g. for dinner I would dress more smartly than for brunch. I also don't wear makeup (but invest in skincare) and I've never gotten complaints. If a man complained about that I wouldn't want him anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:35 AM
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Plus, our heads have more sweat glands on them then our vulvas do. And, for white women at least, our head hair smells, gets greasy, and we get flaky skin if we aren't upkeeping good hygeine. Pubic hair, on the other hand, doesn't get greasy or flaky if it isn't clean, it just smells unpleasant due to sweat build-up. So head hair is actually the grossest imo lol, but good hygeine is enough to ensure that all the hair on all parts of our bodies is kept clean and fresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:35 PM
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Exactly, and this is FDS anyway, we're above tiptoeing around topics that make women question whether internalised misogyny is impacting their choices. This is a discussion worthy of having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:49 PM
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I mean, the bald vulva thing definitely came out of porn. Before that, women kept their pubic hair and it wasn't something discussion worthy (in the UK at least, can't speak for other countries.) Then when it became a pornified expectation from men, that's when women started saying it was cleaner to shave (it isn't, good hygiene is what keeps you clean, not a lack of hair. If hair is unclean why don't we have lots of women shaving their head hair off in the name of cleanliness? I really don't th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:56 PM
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Lol 19 comments and only 8 showing. The scrotes are mad about this one Thank you for this post. I was never able to articulate why polyamory seemed so crappy to me, but the recent posts about it on FDS have been so insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:43 AM
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I've never experienced abuse from family members so I won't pretend to understand what you went through. I'm early twenties and I wish I had waited longer. I only started dating and having sex because I felt pressured by society to. The experiences I had with guys were crappy at best and scary at worst. I had sex with a guy who, through FDS eyes, I can now see was extremely pornsick. Although nothing bad happened to me and he didn't hurt me, it was the scariest sexual encounter I've ever had as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:28 AM
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If he could see you were in pain he should have stopped. Consent needs to be enthusiastic, illiciting a 'yes' from you at the beginning and using that as an excuse to physically harm you is vile. Don't put the blame on yourself for his actions, he knew what he was doing. I sympathise with you deeply and I'm sure a lot of women on FDS do, like other posters have said, we are brainwashed into believing that being treated this way is normal. Please have grace for yourself, look at how far you have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:03 PM
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Dating is inherently exclusionary, it's not about men getting equal opportunity to access women and it isn't discriminatory to not want to date XYZ men. Don't feel bad and don't force yourself to date men that you don't want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:17 PM
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I'm glad to see this coming from Luna. I really appreciated a video she made where she spoke about how she used to think she was asexual when she was a teenager because she just was not interested in casual sex at all, like all her classmates were. It's brave for someone from her age group to make videos like that that are outside the mould. I know she has issues with self-acceptance when it comes to her body but this video makes me think she's an intelligent young woman and she's only going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:05 PM
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She used to get so much hate from libfems too - before they turned to thinking that sexual commodification is empowering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 09:18 AM
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It's been over a year for me and I'm loving it. Sometimes it's weird because I'm early twenties and no one else my age who I know isn't in the casual sex scene, but I could never go back to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:44 PM
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and I felt bad for the performers who were clearly pressured to upsell private dances when they weren't on stage. And this is why it's unethical to go to strip clubs. You never know which women and girls there are being prostituted/trafficked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:16 PM
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This is such an obvious way of explaining it that had never crossed my mind! So using this to try to explain this to my friends from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:09 AM
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I love posts like this. Sounds like you're creating a lovely life for yourself, congrats :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:09 PM
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Honestly, I didn't agree with a lot of what Elle said either and wasn't a fan overall, but my post was more about the numerous comments from FDSers saying that ANY conservative host should not be allowed on the podcast, and rejecting FDS' aim to be bipartisan. The reason I find the point about not all of us being American useful is because a lot of American FDSers were arguing that by being conservative, these women are anti-woman by default. This is NOT the case when it comes to many countries'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:15 PM
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Thank you for this - I have been trying and failing to write a comment that would articulate this exact issue. This sub is very US centric and I think some members would be a lot less fearful of having a conservative representative on the podcast if they new more about the politics of other countries! In the UK our conservative party are not influenced by religion at all, they are conservative predominantly from an economics/business/taxes perspective. We currently have a Conservative government…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:49 PM
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RIP Miya, another woman lost to the world due to male depravity. For any women who rent who are feeling unsafe/scared right now, you can get door jammers that will prevent someone who has a key from being able to open your door, or at least seriously slow them down and impede them, giving you time to realise what's happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:01 AM
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I think the mods are getting a really hard time here. FDS has stated that it plans to be bipartisan in order to reach as many women as possible. We cannot just pretend that conservative women don't exist, and I say that as a socialist. I would also be wary of being so black and white about the Left and the Right. The world is bigger than America and in my country at least (UK) the Labour party (UK version of Democrats) is currently supporting some extremely anti-woman legislation. Biden is also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:06 PM
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We're all thinking of you Pumpkin. This is a very common tactic in abusive men, you are not alone. Keep posting here for support
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:37 PM
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Do you know how this is handeled by the organisations? Women who volunteer their time to work these hotlines shouldn't be subjected to sexual harrassment, it is completely unnaceptable. I think the Samaritans (which has been brushing under the rug the fact that this happens to their female volunteers constantly for years) is finally considering blocking the numbers of men who do this to protect their female volunteers. They've come under a lot of fire for 'depriving' poor little vulnerable men f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:37 AM
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Yeah, it's such a rapey mindset, men literally expecting women to have sex with men who they aren't attracted to and so obviously don't want to have sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:44 AM
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Thank you so much for reporting him. Men who work in the charity sector are notorious for using their power to abuse vulnerable people, especially women and girls. Who knows how many women this man has sexually harrassed before and got away with it. Just saw on Yahoo news that several male Oxfam workers were under investigation for raping girls in Haitian refugee camps. Same happened in the Congo during the Ebola crisis, male aid workers were trafficking women into hotels and raping them. We nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:46 AM
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Please call domestic abuse shelters in your area for advice, and delete your search history and call log once you've done this. It's very important that he doesn't know you are trying to escape. Tell them you are not safe and that you urgently need help. If you are in immediate danger and just need to get out, leave and go to a library or a church or somewhere else that is public. I'm thinking of you and I hope you get out soon. You can absolutely message me if you want someone to talk to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:41 AM
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Why is she acting like people who like fucking more than one person at a time are an oppressed class? Lool. I'll keep my "white picket fence" dream, thanks, why on earth does it have to be destroyed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:26 AM
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"Are you judging me?" YES. Thank you, Queen Gail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:35 PM
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Are you out of the relationship now OP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:27 PM
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Well done on going NC and re-evaluating the relationship to see the red flags you missed. Situations like this suck but you are obviously a very intelligent (med school at 20 wow) woman with her whole life ahead of her. You've got this sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:24 PM
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I can't believe a guy could be so in denial about the fact that he uses prostitutes lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:47 AM
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I'm glad this was actually taken seriously by the authorities. I hope mum and baby are doing ok now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:38 AM
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I feel this is a grey area though. I've seen women on FDS say not to outright tell a man you are anti-porn as then he can just lie and say he feels the same. I've seen women say to playfully bring it up and see what he says, I've also seen women say that it isn't HV for either party to be discussing porn when on dates and that it's a discussion only to be had with a boyfriend. I'm also wary that porn is so normalised that, like Gail Dines said in the podcast, realistically the aim should be to f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:48 AM
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You aren't safe, this man sounds very dangerous. Please take the advice here and protect yourself. Question why you are more concerned about his safety than you are about your own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:20 AM
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You literally threw him? That's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:44 AM
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I love how the hand he's holding has a glove on it so he can't see she's a skeleton. Side note but I would love to try this for Halloween. I've only ever gone to Halloween parties as a 'slutty' cat or nurse or something but this woman looks so cool and actually scary, I really want to try this! Plus any excuse to wear a bonnet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:34 AM
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Interesting article, though misogyny is an issue on both the right and the left. To be honest I'm more scared of leftist misogyny as it is cloaked and subdued by buzzwords like 'consent' and 'empowerment' and I find that to be more insidious. While the misogynistic stuff discussed in this article is worrying, I think the misogynistic porn the average lefty man watches is probably just as indocrinating as far right chatrooms are. I say this as a lefty myself. Edit to add: not saying I disagree wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:52 AM
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What my male colleague turns a blind eye too is the idea of consent doesn't work if you are conditioned from childhood to think that violent, degrading, extreme porn is NORMAL. This is so important. It is not normal to degrade, abuse and/or assault girls and women, even if there is technical ConSeNT. We never should have crossed into a place where this horrifically violent stuff is considered normal and thus his whole point is inherently flawed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:21 AM
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If it's a massive red flag to you then leave, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:00 AM
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This explains the hate that FDS gets from scrotes. I love this, thank you for making me aware of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 10:23 AM
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Even when I was a pickme I could never get on board with that. It's just so obviously disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:29 PM
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And I'm glad the divorce wasn't finalised! The wife deserves all his money given what he put her through. Also, the fact that he died while having sex with the other woman is the cherry on top of the cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:14 AM
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This! People at work have insinuated that I'm being selfish if I book a holiday off before my coworkers who have children do. As if me being single means I don't have family that I want to spend the holidays with? I've also gotten side looks when I've booked time off during the summer, and comments about it being selfish for me to take time off when my coworkers' children are off school. Your childcare isn't my responsibility? People really think that single, childfree women have no life and exi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing this, it's nice to hear some good news
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:50 AM
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I understand now, thanks for clarifying - I'm sorry the post got deleted (and not sure if this comment will even show?) because no one can deny that what you're saying is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:37 AM
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Agreed - the fact that when WOC go missing/get murdered the media and white people don't care is shameful and and a sign of systematic racism, but I don't see why that means we should be discussing whether Gabby Petito was an annoying girlfriend or was told to leave her boyfriend by family perviously? A woman is missing and her boyfriend, who was the last to see her alive and is now behaving extremely suspiciously, is rightly being portrayed in a bad light by the media. I don't think there's any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:26 AM
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We do not know that any altercations they had weren’t mutual, that she wasn’t someone tough to live with or be in a relationship with. We don’t know if she was warned to leave him and stayed anyway. This is victim blaming though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:15 AM
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I get this too. Whenever I find myself feeling disgusted at past situations and disrespect I actively turn my disgust soley onto the man who treated me badly. e.g. if I feel disgusted thinking back to a time when a man crossed a sexual boundary and did something to me that he knew I didn't want him to do, I turn all of my disgust on him for being a rapist and take any focus off of feeling disgust at the situation as a whole. This stops me from feeling any self-loathing or blame. I also like to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:59 AM
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I have to add FiLiA to this list, as well as the Centre for Women's Justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:37 PM
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Ah I see. Yeah I'd still class that as LV because he expeted you to travel out to him in the first place and asked you to split the bill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 11:06 AM
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Older men want to be taken care of and are BROODY to settle down; older women like me are enjoying our freedom I've heard this is a common complaint from older men nowadays, they hate the 'living apart together' mentality that a lot of older women have, probably because they know having a woman in the house means they get to do less cooking and cleaning, get to live somewhere with a 'woman's touch', and that they get easy access to sex. They probably also want a 'nurse and purse' as I've seen so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:44 AM
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In what context did he give you money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:10 AM
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He spent his birthday with a complete stranger? Why are they such losers lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:07 AM
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Thank you! It's working on my phone but didn't on my laptop, for anyone else who's still looking for the comments. Also, I can only see 7 comments listed and they're all positive, I wonder if Vice has deleted all the negative ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:22 AM
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It's sad how many positive reviews this product has. It's LITERALLY A TAMPON why are these women spending so much money on this crap?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:35 AM
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I can't see any comments, whereabouts on the page are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:33 AM
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Urgh you're probably right. I completely forgot that all the other 'women's' subs on reddit are controlled by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:23 PM
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Wait, so this is a self-named anti-misogyny sub, and they are supporting a sub that states that women are subhuman? Does that mod not realise how plain non-sensical that is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:01 AM
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Yep. My parents got divorced and everyone judged my mom so much for keeping my dad's family's name. I understand though, this is the name that she has identified with for over three decades, the name by which she has been known by everyone at work for three decades, the name that her children have. It is just as much hers as it is his, it became her name as soon as they got married imo. I also won't be changing my last name when I get married though, as I don't want my identity to change because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 09:10 AM
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But surely by stopping the cycle we are rejecting the product? I don't want to continue a patriarchal cycle just because it's already in existence. No children have agency over the last name that's given to them, even in the cultures where the children take the woman's name the children only have that name because their parents chose to give it to them. I agree with abirdo that once that name was given to me it became mine and part of my history. Names are all made up afterall, so I don't care t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 09:05 AM
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That's horrible! Perhaps humiliating you was intentional, if you were the new girl and gettings lots of tips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:30 AM
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Also it literally is brave because it can be faced with aggression and violence from men. I'm mediterranean and have very hairy legs compared to most women in the UK. I spent one month during summer once not shaving them and had to give in and go back to shaving because men were constantly yelling at me, interrogating me, hurling insults at me and I even got a handful of rape and death threats from literally random men on the street. I was not able to leave my home without fearing aggression fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:24 PM
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This sounds amazing and the perfect premise for a movie. Please write a book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:04 AM
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On a second (pickme, park) date with a guy who plays football and is a major football fan. There are some guys playing football in an antisocial way and ruining everyone else's time by kicking balls into people (they were so crap and had no control over the ball) and I make a joke about how I would steal their football and puncture it. He physically covered my mouth and shushed me because he was so offended at me saying anything bad about football. My suspicions about him being possessive and qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:50 AM
25

Wait, the guy who was telling those girls that they weren't allowed to wear bathing suits at the beach? He got fired?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:29 PM
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Ooh, I know where I'm going on my next vacation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:29 PM
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Are they serious? Wow, they really can't stand women having any form of protection against harrassment, can they? Bumble is a clown app at this point. It's entire allure was that women felt more safe using it due to men not being allowed to message first. Take that away and watch as women stop using it entirely. You're right, let Bumble spend more money creating tons of new bots for these scrotes to send dick pics to. With how tragically low the numbers of women using OLD already is, I cannot be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 07:38 AM
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Lets hope he doesn't petition to get sent to a female prison, a trend that is increasing in male sex offenders and murderers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:44 AM
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Some resources on signs that someone is being trafficked: https://www.stopthetraffik.org/spot-the-signs/ https://ag.nv.gov/Human_Trafficking/HT_Signs/ I hope this isn't the case and the woman is *just* in an abusive relationship, as horrific as that sounds, but it's good for all of us to be aware of the warning signs as trafficked victims are brought out by their traffickers in public places and during the daytime a lot more than people may think. Being observant could save someone's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:04 PM
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Damn, now I'm scared this woman is being trafficked. How was she dressed OP? Did she seem run down? How was the scrote dressed in comparison to her? I don't like that he seemed so concerned about attention being drawn to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:16 PM
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That's so awkward, wtf was he thinking? Did you hire him through a company? If so I would report the unprofessional behaviour and request a refund/to switch trainer. If he's a private trainer I don't know if there's anything that can be done sadly. Don't let him project the awkwardness onto you, it is him who should feel embarrased here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:27 AM
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But that's a different context, as Jammies said above the women you describe aren't actually Karens. To say that it's offensive for the term Karen to ever be used is to say that the meaning that white men have given it is more important than the original meaning that black women had for it. We can reject the way in which white men have co-opted it to silence women without abandoning the original meaning. There are some horrible videos of white women harrassing black people for just existing outs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:21 PM
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Read your company's social media rules. They may have a rule saying that employees can't post anything offensive/discriminatory on their personal accounts that would make the company look bad. I second the person who said to say it's creating a hostile work environment, as that brings his past tweets into the present. The 'joke' about drugging and raping coworkers is probably the one I would draw the most attention to, as how can you be expected to be at any work events with a man who has expres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:23 AM
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The recent privacy breach on Bumble is what has solidified my decision to never use OLD again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:49 PM
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Rules for thee but not for me - a key part of the scrote mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:40 PM
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I get you. It's difficult because women aren't currently united against female oppression, as crap like this kickstarter demonstrates. We exert a lot of energy arguing with our own and getting gaslit by our own, which can be extremely demoralising. I don't think we're beyond hope though. Places like FDS prove that women are still able to wake up and change. I think things are going to get worse before they get better, but I think if women keep speaking to eachother, places like FDS keep growing,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:50 PM
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Agreed. Lots of studies are showing that the trend of fully shaved vulvas in porn is correlated with massive increase in male demand for cp. Grown women can only imitate being prepubescent, eventually men feel the desire to move on to the real thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:10 PM
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See this is interesting - it suggests that some men may have an issue with female pubic hair because it shows that the woman's self-esteem is very high. From their comments both these guys seem to think that shaved vulvas singal a woman being more docile, submissive and easy to please. I'd never considered this before, but it makes a lot of sense I guess since women who choose not to shave are rejecting patriarchal demands and that takes courage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:05 PM
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I love this! It feels so powerful loving my pubic hair in spite of men finding it gross. Women loving themselves regardless of how society expects/demands them to be, that is real empowerement. You can go into my history to see a great story about how I dealt with a scrote who thought he had the right to just decide one day that I should shave it all off, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:24 PM
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These scrotes are so toxic and unhinged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:35 AM
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Plus in the first two seasons he's such a pervert around Gloria. It's disrespectful to both Gloria and Claire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:43 AM
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The UK is definitely safer for women than the US (for now, at least). So many women in the US get shot to death by crazy exes, plus states like Texas are working hard to abolish women's reproductive rights. Also, the US is more rapidly abolishing single-sex spaces and is rapidly allowing male inmates into female prisons. If you're in the US please look up the Women's Liberation Front and what is being done to incarcerated women in California. They are getting raped by male inmates and at least 3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:53 AM
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But what is happening to these girls once they arrive in the US? The article doesn't say. I hope these girls are immediately being rescued from their rapists and given citizenship? Like surely they are not just leaving 11 year old girls in rooms with pedo men? I'm concerned at officials saying a lot of the accusations are 'anecdotal'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:38 AM
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If I lived in Texas I would not be touching a man again until this horrific law was repealed. It's horrible because I know so many women don't have the choice to avoid men, the article even mentions that women who are raped are not exempt from this law, but for women who do have choice I hope they will consider not having sex as an option. Again, not ideal at all because women should be able to have sex without fearing that if they get pregnant they will be forced to have a baby, but I think thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:45 PM
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Wow he sounds like such a loser! Well done for dumping him OP, your right, you are too awesome to be dealing with scrote nonesense. Especially at 21 as well, who tf did he think he was even talking to you in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:33 PM
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I have definitely noticed men gravitating towards me more when I allow myself to receive and 'rest' in my femininity. And I'm not a blonde 10/10 barbie doll who only wears pink, for the people who are misunderstanding this post. This post is about your feminine energy, not how feminine your appearance is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:09 PM
64

I'm a radfem and my politics align most with socialism - yet my dating experience has been much more positive with conservative men (back when I did OLD and didn't know someone's political leaning until meeting them and discussing politics). I've found them to be more masuline and fun to be around, and they know how to date properly. I've only dated on a superficial level though, I'm sure that a relationship with a conservative man wouldn't be sustainable for me since our views would just clash …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:22 PM
187

BuT FDs Is juST As BAd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:46 AM
125

I'm so sorry for your loss, this is absolutely heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:45 AM
11

"trying" 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:51 AM
10

Can I commiserate with you? I tried introducing one of my oldest friends to FDS at the same time she started dating a LVM. She didn't like me referring to him as a LVM. He does drugs, he drinks heavily, he has no job, lives in a flatshare with his buddies, is 5 years older than her (we're early twenties), and is poly. As soon as she started dating him she ghosted me and stopped responding to my messages. She popped up yesterday after a month of silence and didn't even bother trying to give a goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:01 PM
16

I assume if you used a VPN they wouldn't be able to track you, as that hides your IP address and allows you to change your location.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:59 AM
11

Absolutely! I've had weedy guys with noodle limbs come and manspread on me on the bus, but the biggest guy I've ever seen, like he looked look a weight-lifter and was really tall, literally sat half on half off his seat to ensure he wasn't touching me. And he only sat next to me because it was the only seat available. Men are perfectly capable of being considerate, a lot of them just don't want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:23 AM
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Thank you for doing this! This was a constant problem for me when I was a teenager. I felt like men would actively seek out women to sit next to on buses/trains so they could manspread. Instances have reduced as I've gotten older but it's still all too common and I'm too scared to do/say anything on a bus or train where the man might go crazy and harm me. On a flight, however, I would ask the man to stop touching me and if he didn't I would involve the stewards. I'm not paying for a damn plane t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:16 AM
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Is this person seriously attempting to compare women experiencing state-sanctioned sex slavery with men not getting to watch porn that doesn't have age and consent verification? Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:39 PM
73

Honestly having pickme libfem friends is just exhausting. You've done what you could, you tried to help her and she's rejected the help and been petty about it by leaving the group. I'm glad you won't be reaching out to her, we can't save those who don't want to be saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:23 AM
103

Omg please can women in the US actually do this, imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:21 PM
47

I don't plan on ever going higher than +5 years. But at my current age (early twenties) I wouldn't go higher than +2 years. The +5 rule will start once I'm in my mid thirties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:57 AM
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Let me guess, he's expecting to get a cut of her money for being the cameraman? Jupitar is right, this guy is going to become your friend's pimp. I don't agree with some of the comments on this thread implying that it's wrong for you to want to raise your concerns with your friend. Friends are supposed to look out for each other, the fact that you want to talk to her about this doesn't mean that you have a 'saviour complex'. I'm worried about your friend. Her poor mental state, her boyfriends in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:25 AM
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I love this comment, it explains sexual objectification perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:23 AM
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Thank you. Great Twin Peaks video also, haha. For anyone interested: "The type of legalization of prostitution does not matter — it onlymatters whether prostitution is legal or not. Legalization of prostitution itself is moreimportant in explaining human trafficking than the type of legalization." This is interesting, basically this study has found that any form of legalization increases human trafficking, not that the Nordic Model particularly increases human trafficking in comparison to the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:21 AM
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I thought this was a meme you'd made, my goodness I can't believe a scrote actually wrote this on his profile lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:20 PM
61

This is one of the reasons why the drive in both the US and the UK to remove single-sex spaces is so dangerous for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:54 PM
54

It's so fucking insulting that that detective was bragging about how much 'time and effort and expertise' they put into catching this guy, when ultimately the police only bothered to check the pervert out after this woman made a formal complaint about the police not handling the case properly. They also literally didn't follow the law initially since they told her that the pervert may have had a 'legitimate' reason for filming her non-consensually, and for good measure implied that the pervert m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:52 PM
1

This is a link to a video about Twin Peaks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:42 PM
11

Do you have a source for that? I don't not believe you, but if that is true then I'll need to do some more research on this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 01:20 PM
47

I also don't shave my pubic hair, and I've actually recieved quite a lot of hate for it from other women, even ones in feminist circles. I think a lot of women have trained themselves to genuinely be repulsed by their own body hair through years and years of removing it, so it makes them uncomfortable to hear that other women choose to keep theirs. I've gotten a lot of comments insinuating that I'm being unhygenic by not removing it, which is ridiculous and completely misogynistic. These women h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:05 AM
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The solution is the Nordic Model. Under the Nordic Model sex workers are not prosecuted but men who buy sex are. Sex workers are also given access to therapy and financial resources specifically for them which are aimed at getting them out of sex work and into safer, more lucrative work. This is a problem that will only be solved with robust legislation and actual punishment for men who are violent towards women, it is not something that women on FDS can solve 'personally' or 'right now'. Furthe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:41 AM
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Agreed, I had no idea the extent of societal misogny until I found FDS and started seeing screenshots from the manosphere and doing my own research into things discussed here. It is kept out of mainstream media, because society doesn't care about violence against women and because society is always gaslighting women into thinking that they don't really have it that bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:09 AM
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I get the feeling this guy was warming up to doing increasingly more violent things to you (probably strangling you) and was angry that you disrupted the flow and reminded him that you're a human being and not a sex doll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:02 AM
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"He also said he would be willing to help me get past the feelings of discomfort" Wow what a selfless man! /s Well done on standing firm in your boundaries and dumping him! We don't want these broken, pornsick guys. Lets leave them to their porn while we enjoy our wonderful lives :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:38 PM
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Have you since made other posts that haven't gotten removed? Because I made a post (my first ever post) yesterday and it got removed immediately. It was sharing a petition about women's rights so I don't know what I did to break FDS rules either and I'm wondering if some posts just get auto-removed for some reason?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:56 PM
61

The internalized misogyny is off the scales
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:13 PM
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You could report it to the FBI online if you're in the US. Sure nothing will probably be done, but it will add to the stats on the amount on men accessing this depraved stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:44 PM
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I made the post but it got automatically removed. Is this normal on FDS, the same way unflaired comments are auto-removed? Do you know if it will be put back up once a mod checks it? Sorry, I've never made a post before and am unsure how it works!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:25 PM
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Women got the vote in the UK because men knew they could no longer keep them from having it without facing societal upheaval. Women's war effort was part of the societal change in attitude towards women, yes. But again, men didn't give the vote to women because they wanted to be nice, they gave it to them because women were demanding it. Your point about slavery is the exact same point I made above, so I'm unsure what your objection is to that part of my comment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:02 PM
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If I have sons I will definitely be utilising Gail Dines' resources for helping children who are growing up in a pornified culture - it's called Culture Reframed. In the pod episode with Gail she shares a story about her son refusing to go to a strip club when all his buddies were going because he was repulsed by the idea of women being objectified. It sounds like her son is HV and from what she said I think you need healthy female and male role models for your sons and to teach them early to qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:27 PM
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I respect your opinion but my alternative view is that men have never willingly given women their rights, our rights have only ever been acheived after fighting and dying for them. When women in the UK got the right to vote it wasn't because men decided to stop oppressing them, it was because the Suffragettes were distrupting society to such an extent that it was causing men more trouble than it was worth to keep not allowing women to vote. Similarly, white people in America didn't end slavery b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:16 PM
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This is so embarrasing to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:03 PM
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"The man is told to respect his wife's wishes. When she does not want sex, he should not push her to engage in it. That sounds quite reasonable and decent" Thank you so much for deigning that laws against rape are quite reasonable and decent, Prof. Scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:48 AM
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I know, it's crazy. That is why, despite the very valid arguments some women are making on this post about how this may be damaging to all the girls/women who are currently doing sex work on OF, I believe this is still very, very good news. We only got to a place where unis were allowed to publish this dangerous crap because of how much sex work and porn has been normalised in this society. Companies like OF backtracking and banning it will be important to combat this dangerous pro-porn/pro-sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:24 AM
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"It is easier that ever to study guides and resources so once you turn 18 you can make an OF" Yep, especially now that in the UK universities are posting support material for student sex work. They claim its purely for those who are already sex workers, but if you read the material it is literally a 'how to' guide that mentions NOTHING about the dangers of sex work, what to do if you're being pressured or trafficked, how to report rape or stalking, etc.. Disgusting, but not surprising considerin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:13 AM
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This just sounds so miserable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:52 PM
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My mistake, it was a woman from the US: https://news.sky.com/story/student-stabbed-around-120-times-by-man-she-mistook-as-her-uber-driver-court-hears-12364948
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:32 AM
39

Yes please everyone check the licence plate. In the UK a woman got into the wrong car and the man got so offended at her thinking he was an Uber driver that he stabbed her to death. There are so many crazy men out there, it only takes a second to check the licence plate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:12 AM
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This is why I have three door locks plus a bolt lock and a chain lock. This was always what my family had growing up and I thought it was the norm! I could never feel safe in a house that only had one lock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:09 AM
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Last time I tried to use the website it was quite buggy and not that easy to navigate. I'll check it out again though, as that was about 6 months ago. I would love for FDS to not be dependent on reddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:24 PM
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I'd guess it's partly down to male projection - they can't fathom genuinely caring about social justice themselves, so they assume that you're faking it yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:57 PM
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It's true. Male offenders who self-identify as female are now being allowed to transfer to female prisons, even when they are in jail specifically for sex crimes committed against women. Please do some research into this, it is being kept out of the media and it's very important that more people are aware of what's happening to incacerated women. If you are in the USA look up Bill SB 132 and WoLF (the Women's Liberation Front), who are campaigning against this. This is also happening in the UK, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:41 PM
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Good on you for not keeping his dirty secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:50 AM
13

Sadly not the case anymore, male offenders (including rapists and sex offenders) are now allowed to transfer to women's prisons in both the US and the UK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:16 AM
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Thank goodness, I was going to say we all need to report his account for advocting for human trafficking and slavery. We need to start using appropriately blunt words to describe what misogynistic men are trying to have done to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:13 AM
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Something I hope FDS can do once it creates its political podcast is bring attention to misogynistic things like this and organise official opposition to it. Youtube (and all other platforms) doesn't listen when individual women report these things, we need to put mass, organised pressure on platforms to de-platform misogynistic content creators. It would also be cool (in the future, as FDS continues to grow and has more money/resources) if FDS could do a series on how to be a successful activis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:47 PM
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This is a sentiment that is growing among libfems and 'woke' men - they're starting to publicly support abuse towards women who don't fit the libfem mold - FDSers, "swerfs", etc. Watching this phenomenom grow has been one of the main things that really showed me that left-wing misogyny is real. It's like modern day witch hunts against women who challenge the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:09 AM
47

There is anti-woman sentiment gaining traction in the UK currently. We aren't OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:39 PM
26

It's due to misogyny, plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:46 PM
15

Well done on standing up for yourself and formally reporting him! I wish I had done the same when something similar happened to me at my old job. It's not your job to smile for him, as he is well aware. Let him power trip on someone his own size.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:26 PM
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I'm in my early twenties and don't do social media, it has honestly saved me. I have friends who are significantly more conventionally attractive than me, yet their self-esteem is low to the point of them developing mental health issues. While I don't have perfect self-esteem, I can truly say that I seem more comfortable and content with myself than the vast majority of women my age who I meet. I really wish more young people would step away from social media, or even just reduce their use of it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:38 AM
11

The Alienist - Sarah and John. Literally the first or second scene of the first episode is John at a brothel, giving women pennies to have sex with him. He eventually stops using prostitutes when he develops feelings for Sarah (sweet /s) but still, John is literally a John. They also have an age gap, and he says he remembers her when she was a young child (ew). Then, he has sex with her outside of marriage, in an era when that could literally ruin a woman's life if it was found out. But in the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:23 PM
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Exactly, do we let tigers and other dangerous animals just roam around in society? No, we keep them contained in specific geographical locations where the risk of them attacking a human is minimised. And if they do attack a human they are usually destroyed, like that crocodile in a wild nature reserve that was hunted down and killed after it ate a child. This wise guy is actually arguing for men to have their liberty stripped of them and for them to be destroyed if they sexually harrass/rape any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:27 AM
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I've definitely felt instant chemistry before, yes. It didn't give me butterflies or make me feel nervous though, I felt very at ease with him and not on edge at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:02 PM
360

Every day on FDS I read about a new standard I didn't even know I had, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:33 AM
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Nah, he'd rather pawn the work off on the women he dates and get them to fix his problems instead. I'm sure he functions just fine at work, because he would never dream of asking male colleagues to pander to his personal issues like he did on this date. I'm so glad OP saw this for what it was and I hope she doesn't feel coerced into giving this dude another chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:43 PM
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Also, even if he is struggling with his mental health that isn't something he should expect the women he dates to manage for him. Women aren't rehabilitation centres, as FDS commonly reminds me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:39 PM
32

Wow this guy sounds like a complete psychopath. Casually mentioning that his buddies were all raping women? Disgusting. I'm so glad you listened to your gut and so glad you're on FDS now, welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:52 PM
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The irony with scrotes harrasing FDS women by sending them reddit care messages is that it demonstrates that they really need help themselves, haha. Scrotes, it is not normal to be this obsessed; please seek help for your issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:06 PM
13

I love this for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:42 AM
1

Great point. Also, normalising BDSM (read: abuse) and making out that it's a legitimate form of male sexuality will only serve to increase men's already inflating entitlement to women. This is what sex work Twitter doesn't get when they say they are 'saving' other women from being raped. No, you're not, you're contributing to the normalisation of male sexual violence and male sexual entitlement - this will harm women, not help them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:26 AM
15

Yeah he for sure thought this was a real-life porno script opportunity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:18 AM
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This is so true. Also why we have the Mean Popular Blonde Girl stereotype in like every single early 2000s film that had a male director. It's one of the easiest ways to infer that a guy was a complete loser in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:04 PM
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How to avoid us? Just be your natural LV self, buddy. You will inevitably repel us so you won't ever have to worry about spotting our 'red flags'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:34 AM
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This will depend on what country OP is in. OP you'll need to check your countries' laws on age of consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:42 AM
1

Great post, thank you. Sadly, my closest friend from school, who I've been friends with for about 15 years now, has decided to just ignore my messages. I truly thought this would be a life-long friend, but she got too Super Big and Important after she graduated from uni, and left me on read for a full 6 months. This is a girl who lives locally to me, meeting up would have been very easy. She then got back to me, apologised and we met up. I decided to forgive her since it was so out of character …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:54 AM
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I'm surprised they haven't all been accused of discrimination and shut down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:45 AM
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I was dating a guy for about 6 months when I was 21. He was lousy in bed, small peepee, had no technique, would only ever take, etc.. One day I was just sitting at home minding my own business and out of the blue he sent me a text informing me that he was now going to be requiring me to completely shave my vulva (which already had about 80% of the hair removed) if I expected the relationship to continue. I laughed out loud, texted him that we were over, blocked him, and never spoke to him again.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:25 PM
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A similar though less extreme form of natural selection canalso be seen in male humans. Male humans used to have penile spines, which are stillseen in species such as chimpanzees, cats, and dogs. Scientists suspect malesuse the spines to scrape out any sperm that competing males have left in thefemale's vagina. Scientists also suspect that these spines are used to create'mating plugs', by which the male can 'lock' his penis into the female's vaginauntil he is finished. The animal species that st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:57 PM
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I just don't understand how you have jumped from making a post about women not being responsible for fixing men to the argument that women aren't doing enough to prevent civil war/societal violence? I'm not sure how the conversation has gotten off tangent, but we seem to agree that women aren't responsible for male violence, so I'll leave it there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:44 PM
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I'm confused about what your argument is now. Are you agreeing with this guy or not? This guy thinks that women de-centering men from their lives will lead to civil war, you stated that it wasn't women's job to prevent this, but now you're arguing that your point is that women should be doing something to stop it? The way women can invest in preventing civil war is by advocating for equality for women, because as others have pointed out, society does much better when women are involved in runnin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:23 PM
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I love seeing content like this becoming more mainstream! She is doing the Goddesses' work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:37 AM
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We all know that civil war is no joke. You'll find very few people on this Earth who's families have not experienced war in some form. But it's men who start wars, not women, so why does he think it's our responsibility? Why isn't he talking to his fellow men about this issue, and why is he acting like women are the root cause of war by not taking men's punches?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:01 PM
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Has this guy ever been concerned about the impact that women being pressured to prop up men (to their own detriment) has on women? This guy isn't concerned about male violence, he is concerned about men having to experience male violence because women are no longer there to take the punches. Has he ever read any statistics on how many women are killed each week by men? How the leading cause of death during pregnancy is murder by a man? How many women and children are getting beaten, raped and ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:40 PM
14

Can you literally keep a schedule? That's what I do. With my friends I reach out once a month asking to meet up, and I expect them to do the same, since we all live locally. I know to some people that may sound mechanical/emotionless, but we all have such busy lives that if I don't keep a schedule I used to find that 3 or 4 months had flown by in what felt like 1 month, and I hadn't reached out to anyone. This is also good for seeing whether you're always the only one ever reaching out/your frie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:55 AM
37

Imagine Disney acting like a victim. Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:51 AM
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The voting ratio on this post is hilarious - 2.7k likes is a very high number for an FDS post, yet the upvote ratio isn't even at 90%. WHO could get mad at such a sensible, mild post? (rhetorical question, we all know who haha).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:22 AM
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We need to get FDS to all women and girls! It will quickly shatter any libfem fairytales they have about how men view them. Honestly, I found FDS in my early twenties and it was like flipping a switch, I truly believe that women just talking with eachother, and with younger girls, will acheive so much in breaking down this cultural pedo-misogyny. Also, women standing against the normalisation of paraphilia and bringing back kink-shaming is the Goddesses' work. Now, when men make casual jokes abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:30 PM
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I suppose for white men it's very easy to virtue signal and be outspokenly supportive of movements like BLM or gay rights, because it doesn't effect individual white men much in the day to day, but instead on a societal level (e.g. being prioritised for education and jobs). Misogyny, on the other hand, is something that they benefit from massively on a day to day, interpersonal basis. It wouldn't be just shouting 'Yes! Women are equal!' like they do with other causes, to denounce misogyny they w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:30 PM
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Is sex work twitter up in arms yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:03 PM
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I encourage everyone to take what action they can on this. I have: . submitted an FOI request to the NHS (UK) asking for confirmation that this is still happening and if so their administrative practices surrounding this . spread awareness of this among my friends and family members . upon receiving my FOI request back I will also write to my MP asking for them to oppose this, and start a petition calling for this to be made illegal in the UK . you could also write to your local papers, and the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:57 AM
18

Yeah another article was shared about this here around 4 months ago and it said the policy was being revoked... does anyone have an update?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:26 AM
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Guys who complain about this will probably be the same ones who gleefully talk about taking advantage of women who have "daddy-issues" and defend BDSMers who degrade and assault women, who more often than not are struggling with unresolved trauma/poor mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:56 PM
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Plus the studies that 'prove' that it's pee have all been done by male scientists and very little money has gone into properly researching this topic. One of the studies that 'proved' it's pee was literally just a male scientist getting women to masturbate and then screening their bladder and concluding that because it was empty that must mean they had just wet themselves. Doesn't sound very scientific to me and it doesn't match with the personal experiences of so many women who squirt. Edit to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:37 AM
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It says he is being charged with attempting to commit a hate crime - does this mean that misogyny is classed as a hate crime in America? Or are mass shootings classed as their own hate crime?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:28 AM
5

Omg that's horrible. I'm glad the owner was looking out for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:07 PM
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There was a post on here about 6 months ago that was screenshotted from the manosphere where scrotes were admitting that they target young, slim girls and women and try to get them to develop eating disorders by negging them about their weight. One was a guy who said he'd eat out a lot and when a young, slim waitress served him he'd neg her by saying "Wow, you look so much healtheir today! Last time I was here you were so skinny but now you've put weight on and look much better curvy". I think a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:18 AM
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For me it's first and foremost a dating preference, and I don't explain my dating preferences to anyone, as that would imply they are up for debate. In the same way men just expect women to have shaved legs (and pits, and vulvas) I just expect men to pick up the cheque. Simple. This has shut down so many convos with pickmes and scrotes. Secondly, statistically women who are in intimate relationships with men are at a greatly increased risk of rape and death, since most women who are attacked by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:34 PM
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Exactly. This couple were going on and on about how shocking and unbelievable it was that their child had been aborted - it was as if they hadn't even considered that their surrogate still had the human right of bodily autonomy and could choose to abort for her own wellbeing? Like it literally did not cross their mind that she still had human rights. And again, a situation that easily could have been avoided if they hadn't preyed on a vulnerable woman who was clearly struggling mentally at the t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:38 AM
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I agree, it's also not in the best interests of the children. With the pandemic hitting, tons of children born to surrogate mothers in Eastern European countries could not be picked up by their English parents. These kids spent the first like 6 months of their lives with their surrogate families, only for a random foreign couple to arrive one day and take them away to a new scary place, and away from the only family they'd ever known. The psychological impacts on COVID-19 surrogate children are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:33 AM
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I'm thinking about that photo of a guy's bedroom after his wife divorced him, where he had a single mattress on his double bedframe. Someone here asked if his wife took half the mattress, and I chuckled quite a bit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:31 AM
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I like a lot of Anna's videos. I wouldn't say she is FDS, but I think her channel does really encourage women to raise their standards when it comes to dating. There's a reason why scrotes hate her so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:08 AM
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And we have to keep fighting, misogyny isn't legally a hate crime yet, and was left out of the new Hate Crime Bill. Police are just trialling recording crimes comitted due to misogyny, and I'm sure will just quietly decide it's not plausible/appropriate to record it, unless we keep the pressure on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:57 AM
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"Most cases don’t even make it because they can’t prove consent wasn’t given, just that there was penetration. Even with bruising etc it’s hard to get rapists convicted." And it's getting even harder to use signs of physical damage as proof of rape, thanks to the kinky crusaders normalising abuse kink. Now women and girls are sitting there in the aftermath of rape having police officers asking them if they consented to their attacker physically damaging them, and trawling through victim's phones…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:02 AM
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Discounts for women ages 18-25 Why do I get the feeling that they're just trying to create an event where a few men are surrounded by a sea of vulnerable young women ripe for the choosing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:10 PM
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It may have been moved/updated by now, but when I read the FDS Handbook about 6 months ago there was a dedicated section/post about this that went into things in more detail. I think the post concluded that you will never truly know how a man is going to behave once married, even if you have lived with him for a year + he may still have a mask on and think that once you're married to him you're trapped and he can reveal his true self - the conclusion was that you always ensure that you're able t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:30 AM
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This resonates with me. I went travelling for the first time when I was 20 and met a guy at one of the hostels I was staying at. I had never felt such chemistry and been so attracted to a guy before. I honestly felt like I was in a movie, because I met him by chance on my last day of travelling when I hadn't even planned to leave my room. I flew back home and the plan was for us to meet up when he got back (he was travelling for another few weeks). We still kept talking via text but as soon as h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:58 PM
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Yes, my comment wasn't about the US, hence me saying countries where weapons aren't legal. I've seen several women here from countries where guns are rightly illegal say that they wish they weren't so that they could use them for self-defence, my comment was to highlight to those women that this would actually put them in more danger from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:30 PM
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Women are statistically safer in countries where weapons aren't legal. Remember, if women are allowed to carry guns, men will be too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:17 PM
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Exactly, it's quite offensive actually to the literal billions of us who have experienced it. Also, I would argue that the legitimisation of sex work will only serve to inflate men's already inflated sexual entitlement to our bodies, thus making all of us less safe. Even if I was fine with sacrificing other women to protect myself, it would not work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:14 AM
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I second all of these!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:21 PM
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Support women's and children's charities. Also, I think one of the best things we can do is stay educated and educate others. Be politically literate, support legislation that protects children, and also push for legislation that protects women from sexual exploitation, since sadly so many girls/children will get sucked into this. Many young girls simply don't know how dangerous the concepts being indoctrinated into them are. For example, my younger sister is 15 and recently made a comment about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:06 PM
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Plus hairy pits, legs and vulva
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:51 PM
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Surely we could use the same laws that allow men/porn sites to upload photos and videos of women without their permission and refuse to take it down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:35 PM
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Where I live (UK) we have a couple of local all women plumbing/electrician companies. My electrician said they rarely ever go to men's homes because they are in such high demand from women customers, so they're able to pass over male ones. It's great, I felt so much more comfortable with them in my home and I hope services like this continue to grow. I'm not sure what the laws are like regarding this in over countries though, and whether they would get shut down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:07 PM
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Omg Yzma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:38 PM
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Best of luck, perhaps there are some women here who have been successful and can share some tips with you on how to advocate for yourself with doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:32 PM
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And if you have absolutely decided you won't be having children, push to get youself sterilised. In any crisis, women's reproductive and sexual labour is always one of the first things to be utilised. If you know for a fact that you don't want children then getting sterilised is a great way of ensuring you don't find yourself in the Handmaid's Tale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:01 PM
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I would also add to get a repeat prescription for a birth control pill. Even if you're celibate, we don't know how the consequences of the climate crisis may effect instances of rape. If we really do go into an apocolypse-type world due to climate change, I have a feeling rape will become even more common than it is now and women will have little protection when leaving their houses. I want an adequate supply of birth control lined up in case they handmaids tale us. Another odd one: don't get pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:50 AM
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While this is a very simplified argument and so I understand why some women are sceptical - research has suggested that actually a very small percentage of the population need to be on board for a revolution to occur. From Chenoweth: In the research data set, every campaign that got active participationfrom at least 3.5 percent of the population succeeded, and manysucceeded with less. All the campaigns that achieved that threshold were nonviolent; no violent campaign achieved that threshold. I b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:51 PM
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If find this line hard to work with though since in lots of corporate settings promotions are given to the (usually always men) who are outgoing and who go to all the work gatherings and out-of-work meetups. Big deals are discussed in casual settings too, such as at bars, then you come into work the next day to discuss assignments and it's obvious the boss has already decided who's getting what and gives the best assignments to his bar buddies. I could never prove any of this though, it's just a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:03 AM
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Totally, my parents were very strict about smoking and taking drugs, said if they ever found out I had done it they'd ship me off to the old country (they wouldn't have, lol, but I didn't realise that as a kid). I listened and to this day I've never taken drugs or smoked a cigarette, meanwhile, most my old school friends are smokers and a significant portion of them are reliant on, if not addicted to, drugs. Lots of kids respond positively to having parents who have firm but fair boundaries/rule…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:43 AM
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Oh your poor cousin, I'm so sorry, that's heartbreaking. I'm so glad to hear that her parents are supporting her and she's got an FDS cousin in her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:34 AM
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Oh I'm sorry, what a cruel thing to say to you given the context. And just gross in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:25 PM
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Plus, her nudes are probably on those sites now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:28 AM
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So female sexuality is unhealthy unless it is centered around men? Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:54 AM
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Her signature. I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:50 PM
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Leave a trail of blood leading to the divorce papers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:33 PM
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Also, the father put his arm out, but the rest of his body is swerved squarely away lol. Super "alpha".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:48 PM
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Also, the kid is behind her. How do we know she even knew he was there? Plus, if she hadn't ducked and had gotten severely injured, the scroaches would say 'WhY DIdn'T ShE DUcK??? StUPID WaMEn IT's hER FaUlT SHE GOt INjuRed'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:47 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story, I'm so sorry for what you went through. I'm so glad that you're a part of the FDS community now, welcome !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:21 AM
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Yep, so many murderous males have been using this as a defence in court that the UK has had to draft a new Bill specifically specifying that men aren't allowed to use 'oopsie I made her ded while banging' as a way of escaping their sentence/getting a reduced sentence. I'm glad the legislation is being passed, but it is only because women's groups have been so vocal about it, before that the courts were completely fine with letting these murderers walk free. It should never have been allowed to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:18 PM
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This is the main reason I find promiscious men unattractive. Am I gonna just be sitting in my living room one day, hear a knock on the door and a child is standing there? No thanks, I'm not dealing with the consequences of a guy's promiscuity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:58 AM
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Omg please tell us more, I want to live vicariously through you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:43 AM
2

Meat is still pumped with hormones, along with shit loads of antibiotics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:56 PM
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"Stevens turned down a settlement in order to speak out about what happened. “I think she chose a much harder path here, but she realizes that this is indicative of a broader trend that many women are facing and feels strongly about changing the culture by telling her story,” says Ariella Steinhorn, founder of Lioness Strategies, a communications firm assisting in Stevens’ case." I admire this woman for doing this, it reminds me of the Maya Angelou quote about one woman standing up for all women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:47 AM
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Love and strength to all our US sisters. We are all thinking of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:24 AM
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This is a really important point - please take breaks from thinking about it all OP. I sometimes take a break from FDS for a couple months because I don't like seeing all the screenshots from the toxic manosphere. I come back refreshed and ready to have critical discussions with my fellow women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:43 AM
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I'm so happy that I've chosen to remain single forever. I really do think the future for a lot of women will be simply not associating with men unless necessary, e.g. at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:46 AM
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"Not only are they [bed frames] costly, they also require construction, which requires emotional fortitude." WHAT? Are they seriously saying that assembling a bedframe is too emotionally daunting for dudes? Vice is comedy gold oh my
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:41 AM
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I am so happy to see that the mods clearly have a game-plan for ensuring FDS spreads and isn't reliant on reddit letting the sub stay open!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:56 AM
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I am utterly convinced at this point that people just don't want to see women be happy. We are expected to constantly be suffering and struggling, wanting an easier life is simply unnaceptable for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:39 PM
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"Covid has revealed the fact that we live with two incompatible ideas when it comes to women. The first is that women are essential to every aspect of life and our survival as a species. The second is that women can easily be violated, sacrificed and erased. This is the duality that patriarchy has slashed into the fabric of existence, and that Covid has laid bare." This is so upsetting but so true. We literally sustain all of human existence and society would not function without all of our unpa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:32 PM
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I reckon it falls under financial abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:11 PM
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Yep. No way am I risking bringing a daughter into this world. If I'm rich though, I plan on fostering girls exclusively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:29 AM
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Sis, he already knows he treated you badly, he doesn't care. Investing time, emotion and energy into sending him paragraphs will just show him that he still gets to you. Block and delete is literally the best way to show a guy that you respect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:45 AM
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Omg scroaches lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:31 AM
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I believe it is also possible to stop friend requests from being sent to your account all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:16 PM
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What a wonderful read, well done on all the self-growth you are doing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:30 PM
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Oh I'm so sorry, that is disgusting. I hope you and your child are alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:34 AM
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This is why I won't donate my body to science, I don't trust that it would be handelled respectfully. Imagine if some scrote doctor took photos of your corpse to wank to/share online?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:44 AM
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I'm so sorry, I don't know how I'd even respond if my folks tried that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:17 PM
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I love my growing maturity and wisdom. With each passing year I become more competent, resilient and accomplished. I appreciate the fact that I found this sub young, it has saved me from a life of subervience and made me a much happier, confident person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:58 PM
3

I assume you've submitted now, congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:49 PM
4

Your parents ask you about your sex life?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:35 PM
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He's asking for kinks after one orgasmless sex session? And is pulling away/being distant? He sounds like a sexist loser and I wouldn't be wasting any more time on him if it were me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:31 AM
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Is this what he plans to do for the rest of his life? Why is he planning to do it long term if he feels too uncomfortable talking about it openly? I just could not feel comfortable with that myself and would definitely count it as a red flag. If he can be involved with what happens to the women and children in those videos then I think that says a lot about his character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:00 PM
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If you find yourself with lots of helping energy you can also channel it into volunteering or self-help instead of towards a guy :) I'm naturally a very nurturing, helpful person but I always remind myself that guys are not charities and they don't need nor appreciate our help. Now I volunteer at an animal shelter, a soup kitchen and spend extra time pampering myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:54 AM
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I think that since you're still under 25 he should wait until after you're 25 to propose. Your early and mid twenties are a time of enormous personal growth and change. Then after that a 6 month to year long engagement would bring you closer to your late twenties and give you time to ensure that this is still something that supports your best interests. FDS advocates for waiting for a proposal no longer than between 1-2 years, I think this is a very good rule to follow and wouldn't be concerned …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:04 PM
2

Have you typed the website name into your search engine? It didn't work for me when I tried to copy and paste the link, but manually typing it worked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:51 AM
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You can just type it into your search engine and it will come up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:49 AM
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Oh yes, let him take you to some secluded area alone. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:32 PM
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This is such a good way of weeding predatory males out. I don't do OLD anymore but when I did I had two accounts, one with my real age (early twenties) and one with the age set to 18. On both accounts I set the upper age limit to 30. Any men who matched with the account that stated I was 18 were instantly rejected on my real account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:31 PM
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I hate how these couples always target girls/young women. They know what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:17 PM
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That poor woman. OP if you're up to it please post an update on how she responds to you reaching out, she's in all of our thoughts now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:34 AM
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One tried the extra pathetic "I do not consent to the recording" Omg lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:37 AM
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Ikr, they're unironically admitting that they look like balding, beer-bellied starfish lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:08 PM
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It's simple: they're misogynists. They support the pro-sex work agenda because they know it benefits them. They do not support 'girlboss' culture because they know that women breaking glass ceilings and rising in the economy threatens their male privilege. They want to be the ones (the only ones) who get to benefit off of capitalism. They also play to our female socialisation of always being caring, nice, considerate, etc. They think that shaming us for taking corporate jobs or whatever will sto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:01 AM
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Here's to you and your new chapter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:47 AM
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Ok but they realise that in this meme they're Patrick, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:43 AM
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Not all men want kids though. In fact, I reckon not wanting kids is more common in HVM than LVM, because HVM understand how grave a responsiblity children are and how much self-sacrifice is required to have them. They don't plan on leaving all/most of the responsibility to their wife, so they have thought it through and many will have decided that due to the above they don't want children. Childfree women are statistically a minority, and due to that you will be in demand from HV child-free men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:30 AM
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Disgusting. Sorry you experienced that, a grown man has no business preying on an 18 year old and I hate how common it is. I'm early 20s but I have a baby face and gross old men are constantly approaching me. I know they think I'm some fresh faced 18 year old who doesn't know any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:22 PM
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Wtf. He must actually be psychopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:11 AM
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Really? What demographic were these comments coming from? And what about being straight means we can't like big dicks? I don't understand the argument
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:03 PM
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This is why it's important to de-legitimise male opinions on feminism. The audacity of them trying to tell us about feminisn. You're right, they're just doing it to divide us and mask their inherent hatred of all women. I also find it sinister that women are just constantly gaslit into thinking that we don't have the right to defend ourselves or define our own existence. Even in a movement literally created by women for women, women are being told by men what they are and are not allowed to say.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:52 PM
5

Not to fear their body hair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:05 PM
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And children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:48 AM
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Not to mention you've got a pension and job experience you can put on your CV. What's going to happen to them when men stop buying their content?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:41 AM
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This is why sex work Twitter is not helpful, these women are simply not representative of sex workers (aka. prostituted girls and women). Their insane privilege allows them to view it as empowering, because they aren't trapped in it like most are. This white-washing of prostitution by predominantly white, middle-class women is nauseating. But as their responses to FDS's tweet shows, they don't care about other women at all, they only care about their bank accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:03 AM
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I'm glad they're showing their true colours. Slut-shaming and calling fellow women ugly because they are critical of the industry you work in? Wow, that's very dissapointing and embarrasing. Also, it's very sad that they seem to think that having sex with a guy because you want to is... wrong. Apprently sex is only empowering now if you're paid for it? Hmm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:58 AM
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So I'll be honset, this post nearly broke me. I cannot find the words to express my grief for what girls and women are being put through in the name of male sexual gratification, and my fear for how much it is evidently increasing. But, then I remembered a post from a few days ago about misogyny being used as warfare, and how us losing hope and despairing is what breaks us down. If you saw this and felt the way I did, please don't let it make you lose hope. See how much FDS grows everyday, how w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:14 AM
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This would literally be child porn? If they show a naked infant on a porn website then that is child porn. This poor, poor child. Imagine knowing that your mother took money from men so that they could masturbate to you being born. This is child abuse if she goes through with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:18 AM
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This is why abusive dudes isolate women from their friends and family. Keep your friends your priority!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:46 AM
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Lol at him projecting. He obviously knew his behaviour opened him up to judgment and decided to try to make you the one feeling judged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:48 AM
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So.. even if you have a VPN they can still hack it and gain access to your devices? What's the point then omg it's never-ending 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:56 AM
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Look at the right hand side of this sub, you'll find a tab called 'Sister Communities', it's listed there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:55 AM
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Omg this is so true, they really are wasters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:57 AM
8

Thank you for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:33 PM
17

Can I clarify for non-Americans - is bookkeeping the same thing as accounting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:02 PM
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This is vomit-inducing. Women are not props for doctors. I wonder if it's legal for doctors to perform a rectal examination on unconscious male patients? Something tells me it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:59 AM
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Yes, I'm imagining all the libfems reading this and automatically going 'ew a radfem, you should be listening to sex workers instead!11!', which is what they commonly do to shut down discussion and/or criticism of the prostitution industry. Sorry guys, but Moran is exactly who you should be listening to if you're gonna take your own advice. That old chestnut isn't applicable here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:57 AM
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This is why the Nordic Model is the only one people should be advocating for. It de-criminalises prostitution but prosecutes the pimps, johns, buyers. It is the only model that protects women while holding men accountable. Check out Nordic Model Now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:51 AM
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2 women a week in the UK are murdered by a male partner or ex partner. Yes, abduction is statistically low but that's because abusers have girls and women at home to prey on, they often don't need to go to the trouble of abudcting one off the street. That doesn't make any of us feel safer though, how dare she try and shame us for feeling scared and make it all about men. I don't care about your son, brother or partner, Davina. Edit: low in the UK, I should say. I can't speak on all the countries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:24 PM
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I'm sorry if I've missed this somewhere, but have you read The Gift of Fear? The author is a specialist and goes into a lot of detail about males stalking women who have broken up with them and how to protect yourself. This letter looks really ominous - the demanding tone, typing it and not signing his name so it can't be proven he sent it - and I see your getting a lot of advice from lots of different people here and some of it is contradictory (e.g. in the book I mentioned the author stresses …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:06 AM
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Wow, does anyone know if she paid him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:22 PM
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There is also a really good chapter in Becoming Bulletproof which deals with how to secure your home. I really recommend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:29 AM
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I wouldn't get a ring camera, they're being used in discriminatory police practice and threaten privacy rights. I would get CCTV installed though, and a dog is definitely a good idea as if attackers hear barking it really puts them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:27 AM
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Same here, I got it more for use in public spaces rather than with intimate partners since it's becoming SO prevalent. I would like to add if you do buy one don't get sucked in to all the high-priced gadgets though as the price for these things can vary hugely. You just need a simple detector that will detect the 'red eye' of a camera, something like this is good: https://www.spyequipmentuk.co.uk/spy-camera-finder/ I would get one from a specialist store as opposed to somewhere like Amazon or eB…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:13 PM
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It is definitely a legitimate fear, and it's on the increase. I suggest you (and everyone else) invest in a good spy-cam detector, you can get one for around $100 online. That way if you do start dating someone you can do a sweep of his room before getting intimate. It's also good to carry one around day-today as more and more men are installing spy cams in public toilets, changing rooms, hotel rooms, etc. to meet the demand for this type of stuff (it's becoming popular in porn to film victims s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:01 PM
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That smirk has ended all the friendships I've had with dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:27 PM
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I don't care if other women choose to be poly, but I strongly dislike them using the existence of poly relationships as an excuse for when men are unfaithful in monogomous ones. It doesn't matter if you're fine with your bf ogling other women online, many of us aren't and it's not because we're insecure it's because we have personally decided boundaries which we require the men in our lives to respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:36 AM
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Well done for leaving, many women brush stuff like this off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:46 PM
10

This woman is hilarious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:18 AM
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Rape wouldn't 'skyrocket' if men were actually held accountable by the law. It's also so embarrasing seeing guys admit that without prostitutes they would never be able to have sex. Guy, how has your life gotten to this point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:13 PM
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'cold weird little mouth' 😂 😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:17 PM
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"I always go down on women"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:12 PM
2

So people were calling the grooming out? Thank goodness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:30 AM
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At least you get paid minimum wage, guy. And have workers protections, pension, legal contract, respect, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:38 AM
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Such a good point! We're allowed to criticise all other industries that endanger people but when it comes to prostitution we're not allowed to say anything, in fact we need to put it on a pedestal. When women are the ones being harmed people literally don't care at all, I can't stand the gaslighting and patronising that always follows any discussion about sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:17 PM
2

wtf??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:26 PM
6

Sex minus abuse kink is not 'vanilla', that's something BDSM people say to make unabusive sex seem like it's lacking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:29 PM
9

This is why I cannot tolerate the libfem logic of 'whatever consenting adults want to do goes and it's all empowering, don't kink shame!!1!1' - you're actions have an impact on other women and societal perceptions of women. If you genuinley love being abused then do your thing (or please don't) but think before you blast that Reddit comment out which WILL effect the way scrotes view ALL women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:25 PM
8

Here in the UK a policeman just got his murder charge reduced to manslaughter because his lawyers successfully argued that when he murdered his mistress (after she told his wife about his affair) that his hands accidentally 'slipped' from her shoulders up to her neck and just stayed their accidentally until she was no longer alive. Oopsie. Apparently he cried in court and was like 'omg I killed her tears' and that's what made the jury vote that he wasn't guilty of murdering her. Edit: forgot to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:16 PM
1

I believe you can still report him to the police but as others have said, even if there has been too long of a time lapse legally speaking, you can still report him to his practice and it will flag him up for them. I'm very sorry he did this to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:26 PM
6

Porn teaching that a woman's sexuality = fulfilling a guy's sexual desires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:47 PM
4

Ah this was me. Never again loool, no piv until I've already orgasmed, and then I expect another few too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:30 PM
67

You can see that as soon as he decided that he was done with this woman he had to hop onto the internet to receive his validation/ego boost dose elsewhere. Lol just tell her it's over and leave her be, you're not Einstein pondering the theory of relativity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:39 PM
8

I bet this woman is brunette or ginger and he thought that him being rude about a blonde woman would make her swoon. Women are not plagued by superiority complexes, my guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:33 AM
5

When will women as a whole finally realise that they deserve to enjoy sex? Honestly, this woman has no idea how much damage one post like this can do. I hate the thought of young girls reading this and thinking that they have to put up with guys cumming in them after 3 mins and refusing to do oral while simultaneously expecting to receive it. And the idea that if you can't feel anything when a guy has a small dick then that's something you just need to work on. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:38 PM
2

High praise for Leah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:39 AM
1

The names are still readable if you were trying to edit them out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:56 PM
6

The audacity in this one is strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:03 PM
8

Congrats on finishing your B.S. That's huge! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:12 AM
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