“Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”

vaguelinen · 2021-08-13T09:30:50+00:00

Yes. I am literally casting judgement on awful behaviour. What is your point?

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-08-13T09:36:18+00:00

Yes this is judgemental because at this point, you must be judgemental to be safe from literal murderers?

No-Adagio-1572 · 2021-08-13T09:34:29+00:00

The ultimate goal is always to protect men at the cost of women’s safety

Ericaeatscarrots · 2021-08-13T10:52:24+00:00

I never understood why people get so upset at the thought of judging. Judging is using our past life experiences to make better decisions for our future. Judging keeps people safe. Are we supposed to go through life blind? No thanks, I will be judgmental AF about everything thankyouverymuch

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-08-13T11:09:47+00:00

Serial killers are bad.
Wow, you're so judgemental.

Cersei_Is_My_Queen · 2021-08-13T12:08:12+00:00

So this is what men mean when they say their ex girlfriends were “toxic” aka “she called me out on my bad behaviour and didn’t tolerate it” 🤡

Scrotes were a mistake

HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick · 2021-08-13T11:25:28+00:00

It's only "judgemental" when you point out something that benefits men. I'm sure If it was about a woman enjoying humiliating men, he wouldn't have the same reaction.

daisy_0720 · 2021-08-13T12:40:54+00:00

So, we shouldn't judge men who enjoy beating the shit out of women, but we absolutely should judge and shame a woman who likes a man to pay for dates?

Okay, got it.

BornToBeWildType · 2021-08-13T09:34:11+00:00

Being judgmental is the point!

Making a judgment is a necessary part of being a human, deciding what's right for you and asserting boundaries. It's triply important when we are talking about women's safety.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-08-13T12:43:00+00:00

This is why "don't be judgemental" is a scam. I can't recall in my life ever seeing or hearing of a man being called judgemental, and that's because it's a psychological abuse tactic used on women to shame us for having any boundaries, standards and even basic self-preservation skills.

ububTkuc · 2021-08-13T11:46:15+00:00

HELL YES it is judgmental - it's women judging that their physical/emotional health is more important that some scrotes kink!

jupitaur9 · 2021-08-13T12:13:57+00:00

Says Perseus the Tyrant.

Zeniite · 2021-08-13T12:57:46+00:00

I want to add a comment about an experience I had yesterday at my part-time job that I started at about a month ago. Maybe it’s relevant and maybe I just need to vent in a safe place. There’s this middle aged guy who makes me uncomfortable ever since he asked me to get together outside of work “strictly as friends” and I declined citing my legitimate sleep issues as the reason why, then reflected later and realized I didn’t trust his “strictly as friends” statement after comments he made about people from my ethnic group being “sexy”. I learned a few days after his invitation that he’s technically a lower level supervisor. I’ve been mostly avoiding him ever since the invite so he won’t get mixed messages and think we’re “friends”. I’ve avoided eye contact, small talk, and even being in the vicinity of him. Yesterday he walks by me as I’m stocking shelves, with me very much not smiling, and says “Hey Smiley” and laughs. I then ask him what he said and he says “Nothing” and I repeat myself to him. He then says “I said hey smiley” with a smug look on his face. I go after him to the back room and confront him in front of 2 other older men and demand that he explain what’s so funny about what he said. He simply answers “It was just meant to be some humor” and I asked “Well explain what’s supposed to be so funny about it because I don’t see the humor in it” and he dismissively apologizes, then walks around the department with a smug smile on his face. I was so angry that I wanted to leave, but instead reported it to a female higher up, who spoke to our male manager. He and his supervisor then pull me into the office and I tell them everything and they ask if I had told the guy that I’m not interested and I tell them what I had said and that I was taken aback in the moment that I was even being asked to get together outside work, then after I leave, they pull him in, and later they tell me that I shouldn’t have anything else to worry about going forward. Sadly I feel super uncomfortable still and will be looking to change departments or find a new job. From what the female higher up told me after I reported him, there have been 2 male employees who had issues with this guy, too. I guess my biggest frustration here is his passive aggressive “hey smiley” and the implication that he expects me to smile around him, and that it’s okay for him to “make jokes” that are disguised as him trying to exert power and get an ego stroke, yet I’m likely to be painted as not being able to take a joke or as dramatic or sensitive.

OrangeyPanda · 2021-08-13T14:48:18+00:00

“The most rage-provoking element of being a female is the gaslighting that happens when, for centuries, we’ve been expected to absorb male behavior silently. Respond- that response is treated like the offense itself...

Oftentimes when we, in our enlightened state ... now respond to bad male behavior or someone just doing something that was absolutely out of line and we respond, that response is treated like the offense itself. - Taylor Swift

spicyspa · 2021-08-13T13:54:40+00:00

When did the word judgmental become almost a slur?

radsera99 · 2021-08-13T14:30:36+00:00

Libfem logic lol. Seriously, when will they realise they’re just pandering to violent men?

InspectorGadget07 · 2021-08-13T13:56:10+00:00

Always

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-08-13T18:00:25+00:00

"Don't judge me!!!" - someone doing something that absolutely should be judged

aquietsword · 2021-08-13T18:39:25+00:00

I can see why scrotes would be concerned since they only know what it's like to have bad judgement. But fun fact: women have good judgement and we should keep that shit up forever.

Ironsculpture · 2021-08-13T23:14:15+00:00

Yes. Cry about it.

PinkBlair99 · 2021-08-14T01:25:10+00:00

Can I just say how glad I am to see you ladies on Twitter

Your tweets keep popping up ☺️☺️☺️

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-08-14T00:51:17+00:00

You can’t reason with fools.

SkiesEclipse · 2021-08-14T04:38:40+00:00

LibFem: If a man enjoys humiliating women, stay away from him

Scrote: iTs My KiNk

LibFem: Oh! Say no more.

eveloe · 2021-08-14T10:59:50+00:00

“So you agree, she’s using good judgement to determine this man is unsafe”

Outrageous-Bat2472 · 2021-08-13T18:37:21+00:00

My ex told me a story about an ex of his at the time and I was horrified. The had a guest and she had her period and it stained through the sweats she was wearing and he told me how he made fun of her for it and she was in tears in front of their friend. It was told to me to “compliment” how tough I was that I wouldn’t cry over something like that. No, I’d have fucking decked you! It didn’t occur to 20 yr old me that it was a symptom of his dick disease, and hatred of women. (He suffered from “I’m a dick” his whole life).

Title	“Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”
Author	MarbleWorld
Upvotes	2245
Comments	52
Date	August 13, 2021 9:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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