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THINGS SCROTES SAYfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:10 PM
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SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGYfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:36 PM
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DISCUSSIONfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:52 AM
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DISCUSSIONfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:57 AM
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STRATEGYfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:20 PM
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fogplum/r/askFDS17/04/22 12:07 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONfogplum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:54 PM
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fogplum/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:01 PM
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One of my fears is ending up with a man for whom I’m convenient, not adored. I guess that’s what I would have been. I’ve already written some lists about the negative things (pre-break up as I was having doubts, and post-break up) - I’ll make that a daily habit to form those connections in my brain. I will check that book out too. Thank you for your kind words!
/r/askFDS19/04/22 12:30 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/askFDS19/04/22 11:43 AM
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I’m sorry you’re going through that too. I don’t think there is anyone like that for me, and I’m tired of trying.
/r/askFDS19/04/22 11:42 AM
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Ok I will repost it there. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 12:55 AM
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What the fuck? If this is real the family must know that it's intentional, not incontinence, because if he's "too ashamed" to wear adult diapers how is he not ashamed of announcing that he peed himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 08:26 PM
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They said that what we saw on TV was a watered down version of it, so I also wonder how much more he said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:31 PM
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And you don't need a pin# to use a credit or debit card, especially for such a small amount. It seems like he was testing the waters & maybe going to misuse her card after he had the pin# for it. Yeah I don't even remember my credit card pin - I've never had to use it at a store. Beyond the violation, he had nefarious intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:45 PM
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I don't like period sex because it's messy and I don't like feeling messy. I'm also very attached to my own bathroom when I'm on my period lol. I hate having my period when I'm on a trip, because I just want the comfort of my own house/bathroom. I won't stay over a boyfriend's house when I'm on my period for the same reason. Having to use the bathroom at work is annoying enough. That said I don't get all the concern about the man. He will just have to deal with whatever I choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:54 PM
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But also sanitary reasons - I don't want to put anything "inside" when I have an open wound (or multiple ones), it's not safe. Wait, what does this have to do with menstruation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:49 PM
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I don't actually know anyone like this. I know couples that have been together since high school or college that wait until one or both of them are done with higher ed - I never got the sense that anyone was a reluctant husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:08 PM
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Agreed. It's just extra disappointing to see women here spouting misogyny. However, now that I think about it, nails are something that men rarely care about or notice, so it's kind of a women's version of misogyny. I've only ever heard critical comments about nails come from women (as opposed to comments about weight, facial beauty, etc. coming from men).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:44 PM
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While this scrote's idea of toxic femininity is bullshit...I've definitely seen actual toxic femininity here on FDS (from users, not supported by mods). I've seen several women on FDS putting other women down for not participating in feminine beauty expectations such as... not having their nails done. It's insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:23 PM
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Proud of you! He sounds manipulative and you dodged a bullet. What were the yellow flags?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:09 PM
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I have only used Hinge. A HV family member met his spouse on Match.com (I believe that is paid subscription).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:52 PM
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In my experience men aren't too concerned about doxxing so I'd be a little suspicious of vagueness. Usually at most he'll be as vague as "physician" or "medical resident" instead of say, "radiologist" or "radiology resident". But there's no way to tell for sure from his profile. If you're interested in him, get him on the phone and listen to him talk about work. It shouldn't be hard to tell if he's lying if you know basics about the profession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:07 PM
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I think the best way is through your social network. If you have HV couple friends, how about their male friends? I have a couple of friends who are engaged or married to HV men, and their mutual male friends seem great (although different religions so not viable options for me).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:19 PM
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I would definitely not assume "health care professional" means doctor. Ime male physicians like to showcase exactly what they do (ex: anesthesiologist) because it gets them more women. I know women with specialized job titles who use that term so that men can't find them easily online (ex: Alison is an Occupational Therapist in X city and with one quick Google you can find her NPI number and place of work).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:31 PM
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Oh man I have that from my career. Time for a change but studying for a new career means less sleep and more stress and age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:57 AM
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What's funny about that? She should have just swiped left, that's way too much effort to say "ew no".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 11:42 PM
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"you have to do what feels more comfortable and safe" YES "Just know that the timing of sex has nothing to do with anything other than sex-negative cultural values" UHH WHAT? Way to contradict yourself. The timing of sex has to do with fucking self-preservation first and foremost, as well as finding a man who loves you for YOU rather than what you do for his penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:08 PM
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French tips lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:24 PM
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That's very sweet, sounds like a keeper so far. I'm sorry about your dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:38 AM
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WOW. What the fuck? "someone is able to pay conscious women to come and be drugged so that I can get my kink out" this is the basis of the movie Sleeping Beauty (with Emily Browning) and it's as disturbing as you could imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:35 AM
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How do you find someone who loves to cook for you? Every man I meet loves to brag about his culinary skills then expects me to cook with him and help him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:38 PM
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Don't straight up ask to check his phone. Don't let him know you're onto him. If he's secretive about his phone, something's up and that's all you really need to know. He should already be readily sharing his passcode with you when you ask - find any excuse like adding a song to the queue when he's playing music, or whatever. If he refuses to share his passcode so that you can do something innocent like that, that is a red flag. Once you're in his phone you can find whatever you need pretty quic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:30 PM
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Hm so they're basically trying to trick you into taking on that role. That's disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:36 PM
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I thought promise rings were for little girls to pledge their virginity to their father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:13 PM
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Bluntness is great, but if you're going to comment, comment something useful. I think that is why you were downvoted. Not because of Pick Me's lmao. This topic isn't covered in the handbook, that is why I am asking. I did not downvote btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:21 PM
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And if he asks say no and see how he reacts / if he keeps asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:19 PM
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Well I’ve read it and she talks about cooking FOR him so I wondering about WITH. The consensus here seems to be that’s a no as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:43 PM
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I never saw this topic covered in there, but yeah that makes sense, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:26 AM
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If I’ve already done this…is it too late? Never cooked for him but with him once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:19 AM
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I’ve read it multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:17 AM
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Thank you this was actually really helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:41 AM
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How do you vet for this?? It seems like she was completely blindsided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:20 PM
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Yes, rape - often in the most sadistic and violent manners - is a characteristic of most conflicts. In many cases military and political leaders give soldiers orders and/or explicit permission to rape women during genocide (ex: Rwanda, Bosnia, Pakistan vs. former East Pakistan). Only when it is explicitly forbidden by leadership and strictly punished, is rape/sexual violence uncommon during conflict (ex: Tamil Tigers). When there are no rules, no laws, men will rape and gang-rape in the most gru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:05 PM
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You can sniff out guys like this, who lack theory of mind and are essentially cognitively toddlers, within seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:41 PM
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No publicity is bad publicity. A lot of women have found FDS through our male superfans who can't stop talking about us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:33 AM
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Tbh a lot of women on here are not smart when it comes to internet privacy - they'll have just one account for everything, hobbies, career, and FDS, making themselves identifiable to people who know them, when they should have multiple accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:37 AM
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If you're knowingly friends with a cheater, you're basically condoning cheating. I would cut her off and surround yourself with better people. Like you said, one day her lack of loyalty is going to be turned on you. And honestly, people judge you by the company you keep. Will a HV potential friend/partner decide against pursuing something with you because your best friend is a mess? (I judge men and women by this standard, and assume they either don't share my values or have no standards/boundar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 09:04 PM
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oh my god. Did she voluntarily give him the money?? I would sue him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:07 PM
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Yeah I just tell guys I don't like to cook. We all have to do things we don't like. Then if he expects you to cook for him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:14 AM
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The last sentence…I didn’t think it could get worse but it did. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:31 PM
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/r/askFDS24/01/22 08:11 PM
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/r/askFDS24/01/22 01:11 PM
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/r/askFDS24/01/22 05:46 AM
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Antiwork is against worker exploitation, yes, but it's also against the idea/reality that everyone must work to survive. It promotes the idea that work should not be necessary to acquire basic human rights/necessities. That said, I agree with you and that post is a contradiction. Worker exploitation = bad but sex worker exploitation = not bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:59 PM
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I literally just posted this on pornismisogyny: If “sex work is work” and you’re anti-work how can you NOT be anti sex work?? That post makes 0 sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:13 AM
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So it’s her fault he anally raped her? (I’m referring to the comments she mentions, not you OP) Fuck “sex positivity”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:27 AM
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To be honest I wouldn’t be friends with someone like this. I tend to get along with people who are continuously striving for growth, and that starts with self awareness and critical thinking about where one can improve. My friends are intelligent and while they don’t know everything (and I have foreign friends who don’t know/understand a lot about social issues in our country so I find myself having to explain things sometimes), they do not annoy or embarrass me with their views nor do they get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 05:10 PM
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He could be measuring his words because 1) He sees you as marriage material and cares about your approval or 2) He wants to sleep with you and doesn't want you to get scared off. Yeah that makes sense. When you say not showing expectations or reactions to things, what kinds of things do you mean? We have already started kissing but nothing further than that.
/r/askFDS12/01/22 11:18 PM
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Yeah...I wonder if it's a habit from his career, but it could be that he's hiding things. I suppose time will tell.
/r/askFDS11/01/22 02:39 PM
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I do feel safe and comfortable with him. He was very careful with physical affection at first, I think he didn't want to scare me off if it was too soon. I have put up a few boundaries verbally and nonverbally and he has respected them. He definitely seems more like the first type you described. He's not shy, but not very expressive. The type of guy who has lots of friends, a loving family, is active in the community, respected at work. I haven't met his friends or family yet so this is just wha…
/r/askFDS11/01/22 02:36 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:14 AM
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Education for girls is the only way out. But that’s a privilege in Pakistan, not a right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 10:51 PM
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One correction. He is very much a man. Men are dangerous, violent, and sadistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 07:53 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 07:39 AM
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Pickme couple at best. Husband’s in to broach an open relationship at worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:47 PM
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We are going backwards. Whatever happened to encouraging our girls to expand their minds and make a contribution to the world. The cost of education (in the US at least, and it seems Australia too) is prohibitive and saddles us with crazy amounts of debt. Lack of support for mental health issues is another problem. But to think that sex work is the easy way out is so naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:48 PM
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I checked and she said she went viral on Tiktok unexpectedly. She got lucky, for however long it lasts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:34 PM
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Hmm. She must be extremely lucky to make $1k in a day just by selling pictures of her nipples. That does not sound realistic unless she's already semi-famous. I think this is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:24 PM
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Good for her. I'm glad it wasn't too late for her. That's one of my worst nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:25 PM
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If a guy genuinely likes you, you won't even get the chance to initiate anything. Because he'll always be reaching out to you and planning dates, trying to get more of your attention and time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:06 PM
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I don’t think that question necessarily puts you in the hoe category considering how normalized porn is, and if a man thinks you’re a whore for asking that then drop him I think in my culture most men would. But it depends on cultural norms of course. However I believe all men, consciously or unconsciously, subscribe to the Madonna/wh*re complex. What it takes for a woman to land in the wh*re category will differ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:59 AM
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My issue with that question is that a man that doesn't watch porn will be put off by that question....it will also make you come across as very sexually forward and he'll just put you in the wh*re category. I'd rather play it wholesome and snoop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:30 PM
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I don't think I've ever dated a man who did this, or maybe they were all sneaky and I was just oblivious? I honestly don't know. It feels like too much work to me to constantly track where his eyes go when we're not looking at each other. If it's obvious and I notice it, that's obviously a problem, but I don't need another thing I have to be on high alert for. I figure the scrotery will show in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:26 PM
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What were your doubts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:11 PM
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1 to 3 years? I would prefer to get back to work as soon as I'm able and take maternal days off as late as possible into pregnancy. I don't think you understand the immense toll pregnancy takes on your body, mentally and physically. And that is in a healthy pregnancy and post-partum with no complications. Almost every woman I know whose husband can afford to support the family, has taken 1-2 years off to take care of herself and her infant before returning to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:55 PM
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Oh my god. I've had women reach out to me before for an informational interview, usually we're connected in some way (same alma mater) and while I've never turned anyone down I can't imagine any of them would react like this if I did. I've also reached out to more experienced women in my field and sometimes get no response; I chalk it up to she's busy and move on. This man IS entitled and unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:37 AM
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If I had a friend whose boyfriend creeped on me, I would distance myself from her. No friendship is worth subjecting yourself to that behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:09 AM
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I agree with a lot of the comments critiquing her approach and I won't reiterate what everyone else said. But as far as the "no hookups" thing...the problem with saying that is that men will assume that so many other men have approached you for hookups, to the point that you need to put a disclaimer in your profile. Men will not value what other men don't seem to value. However you were treated in the past, they'll assume that's what you deserve. You have to act like you've always been treated i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:03 PM
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A major incompatibility is a major incompatibility. You did what was right for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:03 PM
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What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:02 PM
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Security system is a great idea too. Thank you for mentioning it. You could get one with cameras, and install a camera outside your bedroom and inside. So they know they're being watched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:33 PM
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We don’t allow locks inside the house but i’m ordering one from Amazon lmao. As in, your parents don't allow locks inside the house? Because that is insane, when your sister is bringing god-knows-who at all hours of the night, they won't allow you to protect yourself in the most basic way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:31 PM
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I really like PD Paola! I don't know if they do vermeil but I have 18k gold-plated pieces from them that seem to be great quality, have had them for 2 years and no discoloration or anything. They are not super cheap (generally $70-90 a piece) but worth the price if solid gold isn't in your budget. I only have solid metal pieces from them, so I can't vouch for the quality of the CZ pieces. I also like Nominal so far, but my pieces from them are <6 months old so I'll have to see if the quality las…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:35 PM
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That post is bizarre. It sounds like he wanted her to: a. pee herself or b. get water intoxication I don't know if it's control, a fetish, or intentional physical abuse but...either way, that man has his claws in her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:39 AM
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I have a few 18k gold plated pieces (no gems, just metal) from PD Paola that I love. They look more expensive than they are and still look new despite being 2 years old as gold-plated. They also do solid gold and fine jewelry but can't comment on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:01 AM
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You also don't have to break the bank if you're on a budget. You can find decent quality fabrics and classic cuts without designer price tags. It's harder to find jewelry that looks like fine jewelry and stands the test of time but is not real - it's often a hit or miss but I've found one brand that I'm happy with. I stay away from CZ/diamond substitutes and stick with just gold pieces (actually vermeil or gold-plated). I get lots of compliments from women and sometimes men on my style, clothes,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:57 AM
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It is standard to discuss income in terms of gross pay… that’s how everyone I know does it. But was he lying about his gross pay? If you look at gross pay for the year so far in his pay stubs, is it well below what he said he earned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:31 AM
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That's great if you never want to see him again, but otherwise, it's best to observe what he'll do independently and make your decision from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 07:26 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:49 PM
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I’ve never been good at trusting myself, I’m slowly getting more confident but not there yet. And I’ve learned a lot from other women’s experiences here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:33 AM
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This guy seems unhinged. Stay faaaaaar away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:07 PM
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Are you a model marketing yourself to get more work? If so, post it. If not, I wouldn't for all the reasons the ladies here stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:02 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:17 PM
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Do you have aspirations to study in the US/another western country? I know a lot of people from South Asia and the Middle East who have their bachelors from their home country and came to the US to do their masters and settle here (with a grueling immigration process). In case that is something you want to consider, you will need a bachelors preferably in STEM.
/r/askFDS20/11/21 06:21 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:44 PM
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What?? Where was this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 05:51 AM
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That sounds lovely! But yes, not acceptable for a date unless it's a light activity for after a meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:53 PM
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Thank you, you gave me a lot to think about. I decided to hold off on letting men pick me up until I'm absolutely sure.
/r/askFDS15/11/21 07:15 PM
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Hold up, your botanical gardens are free??? I'm jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:21 PM
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So men feel aggression towards…their unborn sons?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:12 AM
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Apparently it's selfish that you won't have kids for other people. I.e. not providing your parents with grandchildren. This is manipulative, but at least it makes sense. If it's anyone other than your parents telling you you're selfish for not having children...they're fucking braindead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:21 PM
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Can you change your name on the app? I don't use UberEats but I use Grubhub with a male name and do no contact delivery. Haven't had any issues so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:52 AM
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Yes to all of this. If a man is genuinely intending to go on that date with you, he too wants to know that he won’t be stood up, so he will confirm with you. Usually the day before but at the very least the morning of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:26 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:57 PM
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I’m curious, do you remember what the micro expressions were?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:19 AM
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I've heard things like, "get off your high horse, you're not that pretty", "not everybody is a rapist" Several men even commented things like that on the video even though she was 100% polite to him. God forbid we so much as look visibly uncomfortable when a creep is persistently making advances and won't take no for an answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 07:38 PM
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Oral fixation? Wants to be pervy but dude sounds like a fucking baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:47 PM
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Pass the recipe on? I've been looking for the perfect mac n cheese and haven't found it yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:46 PM
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Hm I remember her dad made a comment that he had a lot of things to say about Brian but wouldn't. This was when the news broke that she was missing so that could have been because the Laundries weren't speaking and Brian was acting like a coward and a guilty man, but I don't know. It could have been due to long-standing feelings as well. Her dad also moved to be closer to her after she moved to live with Brian's family, which to me suggests he was worried about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:17 PM
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Which app do you use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:39 AM
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I mean...a lot of families, at least in my culture, teach their daughters they have to stick it out and make it work no matter how her husband is treating her because divorce is the worst thing that could happen. Parents of women in abusive marriages need to hear this message. If this is in reference to Gabby Petito, that's a much different situation since it's clear her dad at least was not supportive of the relationship. Let's be real, men will never stop abusing and murdering us. We have to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:22 AM
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Don't do this shit for a boyfriend either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:13 PM
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I have a former pickme friend who literally agreed to an arrangement like this a while back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:09 PM
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For my first boyfriend around 20, it was some girl who rejected him in middle school lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:32 PM
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Ugh. No regard for ruining her life. Arranged marriage/semi-arranged with a short timeline do not work for women. Because men and their families can get away with hiding so much if you’re getting engaged within 6 months and live 3 states away (long distance is common due to matchmakers covering huge areas for small religious communities).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:07 AM
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Note to self: don’t browse FDS on a plane. His wife probably knows something’s wrong, but doesn’t know what. Edit: removed personal story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:38 AM
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Do you have any strategies to vet for this? Obviously allowing him to pursue, noting his effort and thoughtfulness, but beyond that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:27 PM
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From another article , a woman who discusses how things have gotten worse for women since her uni days: “I think some men in lockdown became de-socialised, locked away they became caught up on incel forums and other misogynistic platforms, and it’s easy to buy drugs online.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:37 PM
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Yes, a healthy young man will get hard during a steamy makeout session. He most likely still watches porn if we're being real, but at least his dick isn't broken from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:29 PM
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Best case scenario they're lying and pumping up the numbers. Worst case scenario prostitutes or gray area rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:27 PM
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Just googled "viral spreadsheet men" lol. No problem, just wish I could get access to the actual list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:55 PM
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I did not know that! How does one get in on it 👀 I looked it up and I believe it’s the “Shitty Media Men” list from October 2017 - the dates coincide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 09:43 PM
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I looked it up and I believe it’s the “Shitty Media Men” list from October 2017 - the dates coincide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 09:42 PM
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Ok wait as she's talking about the last guy she says " I just found out he was on a certain viral spreadsheet, though thankfully I couldn’t corroborate any of the claims there." What is this referring to???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:47 PM
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Any woman that wants something that doesn’t directly benefit them is seen as crazy or irrational because objects aren’t allowed to have desires. Wow. Yes. This explains all of men's REEEEEEing when we have standards that filter them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:26 PM
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Also if I don't think I can spending 90 minutes talking to him, why am I getting dressed up? I've been tempted to accept coffee/drink dates because "I'm not sure if I'm interested enough to sit across from him at a dinner table for 2 hours" and those were always guys I shouldn't have met at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:53 PM
11

We are on our deathbed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:49 PM
10

I don't really care about how I look but it would be heartbreaking to realize my husband's not attracted to me anymore after having the children HE wanted. Mostly I'm afraid of ending up bedridden for months or years, with vaginal prolapse, anal prolapse, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:48 PM
1

Women are always fair game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:46 PM
60

Yeah I'm not having bio kids. I've been told if I won't, no man will want me, but potentially ruining my health, body, and livelihood to get a man is a little too risky for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:05 AM
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They really, really hate us. Imagine getting this much hate for - gasp - being a stay at home mom. She's cooking, cleaning, and raising a tiny, demanding baby - what a useless waste of space, right? She's leaning into it too. Her bio says "full time gold digger" lol I bet that's what triggered these scrotes, who apparently have nothing better to do than verbally abuse a stranger on tiktok...like useless wastes of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:03 AM
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Yep she has a newborn baby...apparently she's supposed to run herself ragged working full time with a newborn even though her husband can clearly provide for the family on his own. Men (and jealous pickmes) will find one reason or another to hate us. If she was working, they'd call her a terrible mother for not being there for her baby in early infancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:46 AM
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Thank you! I think I'll say no to this date idea and find a girlfriend to go with instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:11 AM
8

Oh we're not doing any of that. I've been taking things slow. He seems to be very into me and has been high-effort so far, but has been taking cues from me about how much to be in contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:05 AM
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What a tired, boring joke. Every man thinks he's SO funny but so few of them actually are. I met the FUNNIEST man of my life a few months ago, a friend of a friend, and not one of his jokes was sexist, racist, or offensive in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:02 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:30 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:05 AM
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Girl what the fuck. Male lurker?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:21 PM
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But if they were going to try for a walk in…and there were plenty of reservations open, there would surely be a table open? If a walk date was his plan from the beginning he did not think that through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:45 PM
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I'm sorry but sooo many red flags. A man 10 years your senior (that's all I needed to know) spends $700 on you in one night to make you feel indebted to him, then tries to get you drunk. Also, you gave him the cheat sheet (don't do that, a man needs to figure it out on his own) and he still fucked up. He's dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:52 AM
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That approach sounds perfect, establishing a standard that I'm used to. Yes, I won't reveal anything negative about my ex/past relationship.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 05:23 PM
1

Done!
/r/askFDS10/10/21 05:20 PM
2

Usually I ignore. Sometimes it feels safer to give brief responses ("hi", "I'm good") so he doesn't feel ignored and lash out, but act like you're in a hurry.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 05:31 AM
2

For your safety, avoid mentioning things that will give away your location on reddit.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 04:49 AM
3

Yes, that would have been ideal.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 04:41 AM
8

Thanks, great advice. I will ask him next time and see if he keeps it up without asking if we continue seeing each other.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 04:41 AM
6

Yes if he had your phone number I know Instagram at least will suggest people in your phone contacts. Use a burner phone number next time until he proves he's not a creep.
/r/askFDS09/10/21 05:53 PM
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It’s basically some first date getting to know you questions and I let the conversation flow however it does. Usually starts with “how was your day” so you can talk a bit about your work. That transitions to talking about our career/educational paths up until we moved to this city (“how did you get into that?” or “what brought you here?”) Often touch on hobbies or fun things you’ve done recently. Maybe touch on family/siblings. Essentially I’m trying to find out if he can hold a conversation and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:24 PM
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I also like to imagine what my mom would say (who isn't exactly FDS-aligned because she's traditional, but she knows men ain't shit and women have to keep standards high and boundaries like steel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:16 AM
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There are guys who have been trying to friend me on Instagram/Facebook for months to years. Only social media. They don't text me. Everytime I clear out my block list, thinking "oh he's surely forgotten about me," a week later - follow request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:09 AM
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Up to you. I've never had a problem with men not looking like their pictures and I never feel like doing my makeup/hair just for a videocall, so I prefer a phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:39 AM
9

Good points!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:38 AM
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As far as the carrying the convo thing, if you vet them with a phone call first (~30 mins) you can see if he can hold a decent conversation and is relatively normal. Most of my first dates have been lunch/dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:35 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:23 AM
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I think that's a red flag for something. To me it's odd - maybe showboaty, maybe socially clueless, maybe trying to prompt you to tell him how much you make. I've never met a man who mentioned how much money he makes until we're well into a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:15 AM
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Went on an unpleasant first date today (from OLD). Won't be seeing him again. I have a first date with another guy lined up this weekend - if that disappoints, I'm deleting the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:51 AM
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Male "friends"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:20 PM
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I would rather be single and lonely for the rest of my life than live seething with resentment at a man who refuses to pull his weight for the rest of my life. If I have to do it all myself anyway, I’d like to do it in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:32 PM
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Yet if a girl or woman is “provoked” to murder her rapist/abuser/pimp in self defense, she goes away for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:01 PM
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I pretty much only drink in my own home. My reason is I drive everywhere, I don’t want to deal with the cost/inconvenience/safety issues of ridesharing. I regularly order mocktails just for fun. I just say I don’t drink much. So far no one’s had a problem with it but that’s a great way to weed out the predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:31 PM
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Teenagers are naive and inexperienced thus easy to manipulate and control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:35 PM
6

That’s awesome! Do you mind sharing which app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:52 PM
133

So so sweet! How did you meet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:50 AM
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If you’re not ok with it, you’re not ok with it. I wouldn’t be either. First of all he clearly has a type, and if a guy has a type that is nothing like me I can only imagine misery in my future. Second of all, it’s plain trashy to lust over hot girls publicly. I’ve broken things off because he followed Instagram influencer girls who DID look like me. I can also say I have met men who don’t do that. Each of exes and some other guys I’ve briefly dated - because this was something I vetted for even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:46 AM
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Disgusting pedophile. I save my kindness for women and children and literally look through strange men like they’re not even there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:34 AM
3

What brand collagen do you use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:57 PM
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I'm legit scared for them that someone they know will recognize their voice and dox them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:11 PM
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I would avoid making plans with just her moving forward - only group plans. That way when she bails your plans won't be ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:39 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:33 AM
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And if it feels off, you don't have to try to figure out why and justify why you're breaking up with him. That feeling is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:19 AM
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Right, I understand that they can find me regardless, but does disabling followers remove those who were already following you? Or just prevent new people following you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:50 AM
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Thank you, this is useful info. I just disabled followers - does this mean that the 5 people following me were removed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:59 PM
2

Take this as your lesson, but please don't beat yourself up over it. We've all had lessons like this. These feelings are normal and standard - casual sex is not healthy or beneficial for women. At best it makes us feel like shit - at worst it's dangerous. Please avoid this guy, he just wants to use you.
/r/askFDS02/09/21 07:15 PM
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The went private for maintenance until September 3.
/r/askFDS01/09/21 06:28 AM
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A quick google search yielded this petition https://www.change.org/p/international-olympic-committee-china-close-internment-camps-before-hosting-2022-olympics-uyghurche-%E4%B8%AD%E6%96%87-%E6%97%A5%E6%9C%AC%E8%AA%9E-t%C3%BCrk%C3%A7e-%D8%B9%D8%B1%D8%A8%D9%89 and this organization https://www.saveuighur.org/videoactions/ as well others. Definitely do your own research to make sure organizations are legit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:05 PM
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Same, I'm tired of it. It's time to downsize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:59 PM
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It's private but I felt the pressure to accept them because we run in similar circles and it would be perceived as rude not to. But I'm allowed to have a no boys allowed policy haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:56 PM
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Satellites use hot women in their follows to have access to Hot Girl TV and get social clout by getting you to like their pics back (make it seem to other girls like tons of hot girls like them). If they were interested they would have reached out. Damn. That explains it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:53 PM
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I got in a relationship with someone from OLD and we didn’t add each other on FB, Instagram, etc until after three months when we called the relationship official and we both knew we would be committed to each other. This is how it went in my last relationship too so this behavior is new to me. These are acquaintances I don't know well, though not from work - they're friends of friends. I think I'll just let follow requests sit there from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:03 PM
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That's a really good point, a guy adding you on IG right off the bat could be indicative of character traits of laziness and low effort, so he wouldn't even want to deal with the effort of pursuing once he has some kind of access to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:46 PM
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I mean it can be dangerous if the guy in question is dangerous, so follow your gut. But lots of guys do this and it's kind of just gen z culture. I've never accepted a follow request from someone who gave me the creeps. I've never felt afraid, it's merely annoying to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:43 PM
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Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:58 AM
55

Ok wait 30k weaves? Is this real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:50 AM
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Yes, and you were so young too. It’s hard to anticipate situations like that when you have so little life experience to prepare you. It’s definitely smart to put a hold on dating until your life stabilizes. That job uncertainty can be stressful and you don’t want to step into the dating world in a vulnerable state, whether that’s financially or mentally or emotionally. Best of luck with work - I hope your job is safe and/or something even better comes your way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:44 AM
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I think the key is not dating unless you know you have the money, resources, and safety net to get out of a potentially dangerous situation. Always have cash on hand to pay for a cab if necessary. Have a ride share app downloaded with a credit card linked. Don’t date yet if you’re brand new in a city and don’t have any friends who you could call for help. I dated when I was technically broke in grad school and it was fine, but I had financial support from my parents and a decent social network i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:20 PM
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100% agree. On top of all that, how can I respect a man who beats his dick to watching another man fuck a woman he knows he could never get? It’s pathetic. I’d much rather be alone than be with a man I can’t respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:38 PM
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Scrotes mad about reality - 17 comments, only 9 showing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:47 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:42 PM
236

Right, if I’m buying dirt cheap clothes from Shein am I supporting Chinese factory workers? No, I’m exploiting them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:25 PM
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This is so sad. She’s so young, she has her whole life ahead of her and she thinks it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:10 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:01 AM
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Very informative, thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:58 AM
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Exactly, coffee is great for an interview or business meeting, or studying together or working on a group project if you’re in school. Not for spending quality time with a friend or potential partner. The only time I get coffee with friends is as the start of a full day together and even then it turns into lunch anyway. A coffee date feels so impersonal and businesslike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:09 PM
21

Looking for a free prostitute, what’s new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:54 PM
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People wanting to fuck you =/= being loved. I, too, would be nothing if I wasted my life doing nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:52 PM
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boys are also raped because they are not considered "men" yet A clarification - the Taliban is officially against this practice, it was punished with death. Based on what I've read, this was one factor in the popular support for the Taliban in the country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:02 AM
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So if you are a foreign woman dating a man from my culture I'll advise you to NEVER give him you luggage (also applies for giving it to women) and also never accept to take anything to anyone ( he can send those things by international mail). Do you mind sharing which culture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:43 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:28 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:11 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:55 AM
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Men assume every woman on OLD is a whore and treat women on OLD accordingly. Then get butthurt when women on OLD don't want them. Men, if you don't like it, don't use it. Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:42 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:39 AM
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Mattress on the floor, no bed sheet???, no duvet cover...if you're hard up for cash, you can get a twin bed frame from ikea for $60 and a sheet set for $6. I do not get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:44 PM
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Picky eaters are so unattractive. Is he a four year old child? He should be grateful she’s willing to cook for him. He doesn’t like what she makes, he can cook his own dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:21 AM
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I know I lose all interest and attraction when a man stops treating me well. Which they inevitably do when they get comfortable and think they’ve “got” you, before or after marriage. Why doesn’t this dude write an article about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:38 AM
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I think you're giving him too much credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:17 PM
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"We wouldn't have an immigration problem if women stayed home and had more children." Yeah, noped right out of there. Racism, xenophobia, and misogyny all wrapped up into one loser. What does that even mean?? What was he trying to say? Does not compute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:58 PM
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Right, if I was so nervous or embarrassed about making a complaint or asking for something, I would just deal with it, not make it someone else's job to take care of it for me. Do we know that this guy has a diagnosed anxiety disorder? No. Assuming he does have an anxiety disorder, shouldn't this be something he works on in therapy, so that he can be a functioning adult, rather than make his problem everyone else's responsibility?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:20 PM
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Lmao I used to be very shy and hated asking for stuff like this as a child, but my mom forced me to get the fuck over it and ask by myself. This is a grown ass man?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 11:48 PM
11

Have they ever watched the Bachelorette?? lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:00 PM
22

What the fuck? A justifiable action would be breaking up with her, not DRUGGING her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:09 PM
4

Who called into the show, the woman or the man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:01 PM
4

Do you think there might be a racial element to the bullying? I cannot fathom why adults would act like this.
/r/askFDS30/07/21 04:19 PM
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That's awful. I think this is a lot more common with Pakistani families, I haven't heard of any Indian women marrying men from the homeland. Probably more common with Muslim families as well. Also maybe more common in the UK? I'm Indian and my family straddles the line between progressive and conservative. I know I would be shamed for choosing a man that is "less than" what I could get. My parents expect me to marry a wealthy doctor and I'm not a doctor lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:07 PM
16

Doesn't he know this happens on a monthly basis or did he fail middle school health class?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:24 PM
11

To be fair his family is wealthy and I'm sure they were paying for Sima's services. I don't think any of the Americans were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:47 PM
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Not to mention, even if it is "acting", what kind of depraved monster gets off on a woman crying and in pain? That's not normal. That makes you a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:37 PM
24

It is parody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:36 PM
19

Artificial womb technology seems like a very bad idea once it falls into the wrong hands, which every technology does eventually. e.g. child sex slaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:26 PM
13

This is genius. I might try saying I'm insecure about my small boobs, which I'm not at all, because it's a classic. In fact an ex subtly negged me about my small boobs in relation to my big butt, when I'd never expressed any insecurity about it, and he had told me he was an "ass man". I also know I have a habit of brushing off and barely noticing insulting comments (from men and "friends" alike) because I don't really care/don't feel insecure about the topic of the comment. So intentionally test…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:40 PM
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This sounds fake. Yeah, the bald comment was rude and unnecessary and I don't know a single woman who would say that to someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:00 PM
13

Also did anyone else saw the news where their old high school teacher said he would fly over her school when she was FOURTEEN so he would impress her?! Honestly how come no one found this weird???? I'm confused. Are you saying the husband who murdered Caroline Crouch used to fly over Caroline's school when she was 14?? I thought they met when she was 16?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:19 AM
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Not a virgin but I am turned off by slutty guys. As a woman with high standards I want a man with high standards (and I don't mean appearance-wise). A man who will sleep with anyone is desperate and has nothing better going on in his life/inner world than to chase after women he doesn't like or respect. I've never had a man brag to me about how many women they've slept with - I would run in the other direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:43 PM
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Even my friends' brothers and guy friends will cover our drinks/dinner when we go out as a group (with no nefarious expectations)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:05 PM
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Oh absolutely. Also in my culture, when family, friends, or colleagues go out to dinner, Indian uncles will fight over the check, sneak off to pay it before it arrives, etc. We all watched our dads do this growing up. If a man can't extend that generosity to me, he learned nothing from his parents and/or he and his family are stingy af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:19 PM
109

Not to mention, they pin the blame on white women while raping black women and children in Haiti and the DRC. Makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:50 PM
112

I used to admire my ex for the most part, but whenever he would get drunk he would turn into an absolute dumbass that I had to babysit. It was incredibly unattractive. I haven't yet met a man I've been interested in who didn't act like a dumbass at some point, causing me to lose respect for him, either slowly or all at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:30 PM
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It sounds like they would have to block their girlfriend's/wife's phone number first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:06 AM
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I remember when I was 16 and doing an internship, I had to walk home alone one day because my mom wasn't available to drive me. I walked 20 mins in my suburban town in one of the wealthiest areas in the country. I was honked at too many times to count. Thank god no one stopped and tried more than that. This "beautiful woman and medical doctor" is a dumbass. I bet she's one of those female doctors who invalidates her female patients. It's always extra disappointing coming from a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:52 AM
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She looks like she’s already regretting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:57 AM
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He clearly views these types of posts, maybe saves them. That data factors into the algorithm. This happens to me too - I get lots of curly influencers in my explore page on Instagram though I don’t follow any. I do frequently view them and save them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:38 AM
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I have a specific one - calls you by the name that only your family calls you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:37 PM
11

The fuck? I used to make $15 an hour doing administrative work without a college degree when I was 20. There are so many options that pay better and don’t involve ruining your future...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:16 PM
5

I recently had to cut off a friend I met from BumbleBFF. She seemed nice and normal at first but looking back there were red flags, not on her profile but on the first meeting (e.g. complaining about her relationship which I could tell was doomed, acting like her one single interest was ~so~ unique compared to my interests). She proclaims on social media that she's a "girls' girl" yet she's the only woman who has ever rudely questioned my natural caution with strange men, to the point that I bro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:26 PM
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I agree, the walking out without even a goodbye is a red flag. No matter how embarrassed he was, that is just rude. Also a red flag is joking that she must be proud...why? Should we be proud of making men cum? Lmao.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 03:42 AM
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This is so disgusting. Your friend's husband not only imagines you naked, and who knows what else, he has no shame about it such that he's happy to tell you so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:36 AM
25

Men literally don't see as humans. When we remind them that we are in fact humans, with agency to reject them, they lash out. We're not well-trained little sex dolls like porn leads them to believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:35 AM
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I eat them with my teeth showing. If they want to imagine me biting their dicks...ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:12 PM
3

Most (all?) men are sexually attracted to children. They say so themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:03 PM
8

God forbid men, I don't know, care about each other. That would be ~gay~.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:47 PM
10

Is there an article about this attack? I want to know if the girl is alright. And if the boys faced consequences - though I doubt it, white boys never do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:42 PM
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If sex is a big deal to you, sex is a big deal. Tell them to stop invalidating your feelings and boundaries. No need to explain yourself, it sounds like you've been doing plenty of that. And drop them if they won't listen. I have friends who have far different perspectives on sex, but they don't shame me for mine, try to change my mind, or try to pressure me into engaging in things I don't want. I don't see how exercising bodily autonomy by choosing not to do something you DON'T WANT to do uphol…
/r/askFDS30/04/21 10:17 PM
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Also, why would I make a move on someone I'm not interested in? I'm never interested in someone who hasn't already respectfully demonstrated interest in me. It just doesn't occur to me, and I think hvw generally operate this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:53 PM
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Oh they understand, they just don't care. She exists for him, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:27 PM
7

Lol this is idiotic. You wrap the used pad/tampon in the packaging of the new pad/tampon, and put it in the trash. Problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:12 PM
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I too hated my body as a teenager. I was sick of being sexualized, or imagining or assuming I was being sexualized, for looking like a post-pubescent girl. I didn't want to be a woman if that's how women have to live. So I starved myself - as if being skinny would have changed things. I remember when I read Fear of Flying by Erica Jong, this passage: Excess flesh was connected with sex—that much I knew. At fourteen, when I had starved myself down to ninety-eight pounds, it was out of guilt about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:05 PM
5

Where the fuck does he go to the bathroom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:25 PM
276

Why are men so emotional? Can they not take every single thing personally for once?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:27 PM
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Wow. It’s funny to me that even though he was trying to hide his depravity he was dumb enough to accept a follow from a supposed stranger. How did you make the fake account seem legit? Like did you get followers on it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:25 PM
16

Damn how did you find his secret account? Teach me 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:40 AM
3

THANK YOU for this scientifically-backed strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:16 PM
3

100% agree. Wait until you are financially stable, then marry someone who is also financially stable. I'll be damned if I marry a man who will drag me down into poverty OR financially trap me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:10 PM
7

Thank youuuu. Any tips to find out his username?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:53 PM
2

What brand do you get? I haven't been able to find ones that aren't too short or too long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:39 PM
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Putting his whole family at risk to get his dick wet. Should be a punishable crime, gross negligence or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:21 PM
52

I've never lived with a man but this is too much for me. If I have to tell him to do something he's already failing. If he sees there's something that needs to be done, he should do it. He should take initiative. Plenty of men can cook, I've only found men that love to cook (whether they will continue cooking after you marry and move in together, who knows...), and those who don't know can learn so that is no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:00 PM
6

Lmao this is bullshit. I don't doubt that most men are pedos, but most young women are definitely not interested in 50 year old men. Excuse me while I vomit up my lunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:22 PM
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Like the wife was just a vessel for an heir, nothing more. It's sickening. Imagine going through one of the most traumatic experiences of your life, and also one of the happiest moments, providing your husband with a CHILD, and he rewards you by cheating with a prostitute and bringing an STI-riddled dick into your marital bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:17 PM
44

Someone gave me gold (girl why, save your money), now I have 100 reddit coins and I don't know what to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:43 PM
20

This is my worst nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:50 PM
1

Oh I'll keep that in mind! It does seem fun to use though haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:42 PM
11

Following! I just have pepper spay but would prefer a taser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:20 PM
29

Less than half, I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:56 PM
6

Wary. FDS has instilled the values that my mom tried to teach me, she raised me to be very wary of men. I thought she was overprotective and too traditional but I understand now that she was right. If she saw me here she'd be like "you never listen when I tell you..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:52 PM
7

Girl I take it as a compliment. "Picky" yeah you bet I am!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:45 PM
28

Just a bitter, jaded man who's ready to ruin another woman's life and act as if he's doing her a favor. I hope she listens to her doubts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:24 PM
20

They actually become more entitled, aggressive, and gross the prettier you are to them. I don’t know how you beautiful women handle getting harassed everywhere. I've noticed this too. I'm moderately attractive. I'm used to being treated fairly decently by men, with a few outliers. I have a friend who is objectively gorgeous (she's naturally beautiful and puts a lot of effort into her appearance on top of that) and men are constantly hounding her but they usually treat her terribly. Getting sexua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:52 AM
11

If it looks like a shit-bag, talks like a shitbag, trust that it's a shitbag! Leave a scathing Google review if his business shows up on Google. Those are the first thing people see when researching a business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:24 AM
22

Don't trust people who do business on Venmo anymore - Paypal is better (I believe) because they (at least claim to) provide purchase protections when you're sending money as a buyer to a seller (though not if you're sending money as a personal transaction)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:22 AM
9

When men cry misandry it sounds just like when white people cry about racism against white people. i.e. it doesn't exist. sorry you're so fragile you can't handle 1/100th of what you've been dealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:19 AM
2

It's hard to end a friendship so props to you for doing what was best for you. I find it's hard to make friends during a pandemic, and in general it's hard to find female friends that don't prioritize men in their lives. I wish it was easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:31 PM
2

It's definitely about big sean. She had him IN THE MUSIC VIDEO. I just don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:31 PM
6

Also some random porn account followed me on reddit. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:30 PM
2

She’s so talented and beautiful and I love her music but god I can’t listen to some of her songs because they make me want to vomit. Ie pussy fairy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:28 PM
3

Not a far reach with that shot at Ariana in one of her songs...completely unnecessary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:26 PM
12

Does anyone else have to deal with friends that ask you every time you see them - "how's the dating scene?", "any new guys?", etc? As if I haven't told them 5 times before that I'm not dating right now and I'm not interested in dating right now. Do they not listen or do they just not care? I'm tired of repeating myself. One of them is an old friend with whom at least we can talk about anything and everything. One of them is a new friend that's going through a recent breakup and making questionab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:37 PM
39

Men? Because they want you. Women? Because your behavior, standards, etc. make them feel insecure so they try to shame you into being more like them. Now why would other women feel insecure if they're happy and fulfilled doing what they're doing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:26 PM
119

Realizing that all I'm missing out on is a headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:52 PM
8

Yeah that's dumb. Pretend play is important for girls AND boys and it doesn't have to be baby dolls and brooms. You can pretend play with legos. I know little boys who love their kitchen sets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:51 PM
24

You could turn it into a uterus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:46 PM
8

No. Honestly, can we stop posting their crap here? Unless it’s useful for awareness or strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:52 AM
33

The irony. Tells you you need to learn to take a joke while he is unable to take a joke. I bet he didn't even get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:52 AM
1

I know, the non hormonal options are not appealing. Not worth it for me. I tried both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:24 AM
30

They like to put words in our mouth. We all have different preferences and there is no rule. I don't need or want 6 foot or 6 inches (lol) but around 6 figures, yes. If I'm going to raise a child with him, he has to be able to provide. My mom has higher standards than me, she tells me I should marry a man who makes at least $300k - I think that's unrealistic and I would be wary of such a large income gap. He has to have an attractive face and body though. The most attractive guy I've dated was p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:46 PM
5

He didn't brush his teeth??? I would venture to say the way he dresses and especially grooms himself says a lot about what he thinks of himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:36 PM
69

I'm honestly scared to date after learning here what men my age can be like. My ex was normal (he was a LVM due run of the mill misogyny, but normal). Our sex life was normal, he wasn't a sex pest, and he was even more physically affectionate than I am - sweet kisses, hugs, cuddling. Apparently that's hard to find...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:43 PM
382

Holy fuck. You should expect affection before sex, during sex, after sex. Sex should be an expression of affection. That poor girl. I'm so tired of men and pickmes trying to beat down women's standards and turn us into living sex toys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:03 PM
47

I especially love shows that center around female friendship. Unstoppable was cringy at times but so so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:38 PM
28

I'm so sorry. Please get a covid test to be safe. #notallmen....but some men act like rabid animals, while the rest of them are entertained by violence towards women. or at best pretend like nothing happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:34 PM
6

Thank god I’m single and celibate. I think I want to stay that way forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:01 PM
49

I want to adopt a baby girl and I’m honestly so terrified of a future husband being a pedophile. Especially caring for a girl that isn’t biologically his. The funny thing is that nothing like that has happened to me, my father and uncles are normal, but I’ve heard so many stories that I would hesitate to trust anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:26 AM
17

When I’ve heard stories from men (in real life) when they’ve dealt with creepy people, it’s always other men. Stalking, roofies, etc. by other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:21 AM
30

I had a museum security guard try to lure my friend and me to the museum roof for some event (that we checked - didn’t exist) when we were teenagers. Thankfully we were not that naive having dealt with years of creepy older men by the time we were 17.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:18 AM
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The recovery sounds great. I read that you can still have an abnormal pregnancy after, though. That scares me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:13 PM
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Thanks I'll look into that! How was the recovery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:10 PM
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They were pretty typical bad experiences but I'm extremely averse to physical discomfort/pain and it's not worth it for me. Mood swings, constant breast pain, and extreme nausea. I once missed a dose and took two the next night as directed, I spent the next 3 days vomiting. I've never used an IUD though, just pills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:08 PM
4

I'll look into that, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:06 PM
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I am never going on hormonal BC again after multiple bad experiences and I'm so terrified of getting pregnant (ever) that I don't think I can rely on just condoms, so I'd rather just not have sex until I maybe get a tubal litigation. Not saying that anyone should do what I'm doing, but celibacy is my birth control haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:17 AM
3

I've had men I went out with not want me to meet certain friends of theirs - because they know their friends are predators and don't want to subject me to their depraved behavior. Then when I question "so why are you friends with him?" it's all "oh he's a good guy other than that" "he's a great friend". They'll acknowledge their friends are predators and then make excuses for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:36 PM
2

I know you're being sarcastic, but genuinely, most men are so psychologically damaged that they are incapable of respecting someone they they fuck/want to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:32 PM
5

Wait what?? This "date" sounds like a front for human trafficking, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:35 AM
11

I’m talking about mother in laws, not men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:16 AM
13

Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:10 PM
27

Right...they think if they're not violently raping women in alleyways, they're good guys. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:08 PM
15

I wouldn't even bother engaging. Women who care more about protecting men's feelings than supporting their fellow women are not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:06 PM
121

I personally believe they willfully misunderstand and misrepresent our message to try to delegitimize our group. Because, according to them, if we're a bunch of ugly women, we're not worth listening to. In reality there are women here of varying levels of conventional attractiveness, but none of that matters. No woman deserves to be used or abused because she's not pretty enough or too sexy or whatever other bs they come up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:06 PM
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Totally agree. Also pay attention to how his mom treats his sisters compared to how she treats him. If the mother is misogynistic to her own daughters, a DIL is in for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:39 PM
385

Women do not need strategies to attract men, we need strategies to eliminate men we do not want. Through process of elimination, we either find a HVM or we remain alone and at peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:24 PM
118

One of my vetting strategies for a MIL is that I will not date a man who doesn't have sister(s). MILs especially in my culture can be awful period, but the worst ones are always extremely male-identified due to having only sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:14 PM
10

Self control, to put it simply. You are in control of your body no matter how strong your urges are. If you find you cannot remain in control of yourself when you drink, then stop drinking or drink less. If you think you can manage limiting yourself to 1-2 drinks, then do that. If you can't limit yourself once you start drinking, then cut out alcohol entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:15 PM
7

The founders of Vice run the the Proud Boys???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:08 PM
1

If a man ever tries this on me, I'm definitely going to Drop That Bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:19 PM
31

Here's hoping he ruins his career before it starts. He's right on track.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:31 PM
46

Interesting but not surprising. How do you think they react to women who are single and childfree?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:52 PM
23

Ugh I'm sorry he put you through that. He sounds incredibly selfish. And it sounds like your body knew he was not for you long before your mind did. Sex is not supposed to be painful and everyone always assumes if it is, there's something wrong with the woman's body. More often than not, there's something wrong with the relationship and/or something wrong with the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:29 PM
31

It's fine if men murder prostitutes because they aren't people, right? /s As long as us "respectable women" are spared. Except we're not. Was this monster's ex wife spared?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:59 PM
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With a man who's even somewhat decent, you won't feel obligated to have sex under any circumstance. I went on dates with my ex-boyfriends who were not even HVM, they paid, and I never felt pressured to sleep with them. I felt comfortable to take things at my own pace. I went on first/second dates with other men, they paid, and I DID feel the pressure, which was my cue to never see them again because that pressure was not coming from within myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:21 PM
106

Oh my god. Why did her date her in the first place? The very least he could do is break up with her like a man and leave her alone. Ladies, don't date below your league, you'll only feel that much more stupid when he disrespects you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:13 PM
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This is super cute. I love sharing food and I always appreciate it when my friends choose a dish that aligns with my dietary restrictions so that we can share. I haven't met a man that does that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:07 PM
7

He can murder you with his bare hands and get away with it because "she asked for it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:31 PM
9

Not having sex on the first date isn't to prove we're "gf material", it's to weed out the men who only care about sex. Jeez. Because everything we do or don't do is to catch a man /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:27 PM
44

Sounds like he has one foot out the door and has for a while. He doesn't want to call any attention to the engagement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:45 AM
26

I don't believe there is any reliable test for men for HPV. Ladies, make sure you get the gardasil vaccine and be extremely choosy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:33 AM
60

Great post. Young women need to know that our sexuality is precious and it belongs to US. WE get to decide who we share it with or whether we choose to keep it all to ourselves; choose wisely. "Too often does a woman's exploratory past come back to haunt her, and her partner becomes resentful because he never got to try the degrading things that other men "got to" do to her." On the other hand, if you haven't had much of an exploratory past, watch out for those who will try to convince you that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:10 PM
21

These days?? Women are lower maintenance now than they ever have been before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:24 PM
11

That's better at least. I always think about what happened to Ruth George when I'm in a dimly lit parking garage. It's safer during the day of course, but I've also heard of several carjackings in parking garages in the middle of the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:06 AM
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I remember waiting in the car once when I was a teen and my mom was grocery shopping. A man came up to my window, knocked on the glass, and smiled at me. I wasn't that scared because he was with his wife and baby but wtf. Why was that necessary. I learned to lock my car doors in one swift motion as I'm closing the door - so first lock, then close, in less than half a second. I also lock it as soon as I put it in park, until I'm ready to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:00 AM
28

Parking garages are creepy. They're usually dimly lit and no one can see from outside what's happening inside, unlike an open air parking lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:57 AM
27

It used to be b*tch or wh*re, they're just getting even more creative now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:45 AM
32

They think "incel" is the ultimate insult. Doesn't matter that it makes zero sense. If I lowered my standards (and I'm not talking about looks) I could have a boyfriend within two weeks and a husband within two years. We all could. But we all know that's not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:39 AM
148

Gross. Case in point why we need to make men wait for sex. To protect ourselves and weed out the desperate, horny losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:12 PM
10

YES. He can only keep up the doting gentleman act so long if that's not who he really is or how he really feels about you. I've been tricked into relationships by men who do this and 3, 6, 9 months later let the mask slip because he already "got" me. We have to always be ready to walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:07 PM
10

I also recently ended things with someone because he followed instagram models. Disappointing, but oh well, at least I found out what type of man he is sooner rather than later. I don't get it either. The thought of strange men doing who knows what with my pictures terrifies me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:37 AM
33

Also, women in their 20s are the most fertile/have the most successful pregnancies. Teen pregnancies are much higher risk with greater complications and higher mortality rate. Biology my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:15 AM
23

Yep. I'm significantly more attractive now but get catcalled much less than when I was an ugly 15-year-old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:13 AM
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Thank GOD I'm out of that relationship. I should've dumped him by the fourth date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:39 PM
3

Girl, don't even waste a second of your time arguing with him. Just block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:32 PM
5

Never never tell a man what you have done sexually, especially if it's something you don't want to do. It's none of their business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:31 PM
14

You can't consent to being abused, physically or sexually. Full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:19 PM
5

Try getting some nice pants other than jeans! Like comfy slacks, cigarette pants, paperbag pants. They really help elevate an outfit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:56 PM
11

I don't know, I'm in my mid twenties and I've never experienced this, thank god my ex-boyfriends were normal. Then I wonder how many of the guys I dated briefly and nexted would have tried to assault me had I gone further with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:20 PM
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I’m glad you did, and I didn’t intend to question your judgment at all! I just know way too many women, feminist women, who keep hanging around their misogynistic guy friends. It is depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:23 PM
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“It’s different because girls and women aren’t humans” I hope you cut this psychopath out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:37 PM
51

I’m not at all surprised either. The body keeps score, whether it experiences race-based trauma, sex-based trauma, trauma from abuse, etc. Living under patriarchy is like living under white supremacy. Very interesting study though, I want to read more about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:27 AM
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If you’re asking out 100 people and only 1 says yes, I’m pretty sure that indicates there’s a problem with yourself that you need to work on. Yeah, I know average-looking men who are well-adjusted, have pleasant personalities and take good care of themselves (grooming, dressing well) and I kid you not, women throw themselves at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:09 PM
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I'm so sorry he put you through that, but I'm glad you're free. It reminds me of men who go to therapy so they can use psychological techniques/language to gaslight their partners. I highly recommend you start a new Reddit account for your privacy, since he's seen your account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:30 AM
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How many girls they've hooked up with that they would be embarrassed to admit to their friends? (which is really shitty to those girls, but yeah plenty of guys will "lower their standards" for a ONS because they're desperate af) They should be judged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:18 AM
2

Usually a quick google search of their name especially if you have their full name, along with his city and/or alma mater does it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:35 PM
6

I would not be mean or engage in anyway. Keep him unblocked so you can feel out if he's going to escalate, but don't respond to his messages at all. Engaging with him in any capacity will likely only encourage him because he's learned messaging you will get him a response - I learned this from the book the Gift of Fear. If you don't respond, hopefully he will eventually get bored of no validation/responses and leave you alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:39 AM
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Or want to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:33 PM
3

Oh man. Her father and husband were cut from the same cloth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:24 PM
4

Do you have a website you can recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:22 PM
42

I always thought it was a weird thing to say, when he could just be direct and ask for my number. I never thought about why though...the more you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:19 PM
10

It's absolutely bizarre that her father joined in on this....is her father also a psychopath??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:21 AM
1

Yeah I 100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:31 AM
9

One is enough babe. RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:18 PM
35

You know what my type is? Soft warm fuzzy guys with great smiles, a warm sense of humor, good hygiene, and a positive, empathetic, kind personality. Literally my wet dream. Apparently it's too high a bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:11 PM
3

Thanks lady, I'll add these to the list! It's crazy how ubiquitous this is among all races of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:02 PM
7

This is ingenious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:56 PM
12

I once took a nude photo of myself for myself, the first and only time, and was immediately terrified of getting hacked. I immediately deleted it. I later had my phone stolen and thank GOD the most embarrassing thing on there was ugly selfies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:54 PM
6

Oh my God. Collect receipts, dump his ass, and sue him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:51 PM
13

I'm sure they are there, but that it takes time to find one. I've been thinking a lot about this lately - if I want to limit myself to Desi men. I could potentially see myself with someone (more broadly) brown and from a somewhat similar background in terms of family/culture/values. But then I see these beautiful Desi couples on instagram and I want that so badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:51 AM
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Yes thank you for writing about the flip side with white men! I don't even fw them at all because it's not worth the headache. It does feel very Madonna-whore. Ultimately if a man is misbehaving with other women, it's not because of the other women and it's not because you're lacking, it's because he's trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:26 AM
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Ew. So he reduced her to an "easy white girl" and tried to manipulate you at the same time. After some hard lessons, I've decided the first time a man compares me to another woman *in any way* is the last time I will speak to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:28 AM
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Girl, tell me about it. It's hard out here. Plus if you do dating apps, you can't vet a guy's past easily. It's easier if you meet him through your social network so your friends can tell you allllll about him. Yeah, if they already have an extensive dating history but they've never dated a brown girl, that's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:12 AM
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I have noticed this. As a South Asian woman, whenever Middle Eastern men show interest in me it feels sus as hell. I've never seen one of them with a woman darker than them. I don't trust it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:07 AM
29

Been there. I'm glad you're here. On to better things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:03 AM
49

That's gross. I would dump him for following insta models even if they look like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:58 AM
51

I have met Desi men who are very into brown women specifically. I've also met men who don't seem to particularly have a racial preference when it comes to attraction but only date/marry brown women because of family expectations or they want to pass on the culture. I personally think I am fine with that (*as long as they do not lead other women on). They are out there, you just have to vet vet vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:56 AM
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Bad news bears. Some guys may not have a preference. Others may have a sexual thing for (insert race) women but would never date and/or marry them because he's racist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:47 AM
39

I seriously thought the commenter was just fucking with the OP. Was he being serious??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:03 PM
30

I wouldn't make plans with them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:12 PM
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You know what would be awesome? If there was some kind of vetting service that could find everything a man has ever posted online, under any account, on any platform and show you the results. So you can see who he truly is. We already have no privacy on the internet, let's use it for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:11 PM
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Yeah this sounds fake, otherwise he's a complete idiot for agreeing to any of this. He could've gotten a much better deal especially considering she cheated on him, if he had just hired his own attorney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:03 PM
13

this is so fucking sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:20 PM
5

Unfortunately. Smoking isn't the only cause of throat cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:56 PM
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He's not a boyfriend, he's a roommate that doesn't even pull his weight. Can you imagine putting up with a roommate who refuses to pay for the utilities he uses? She needs to throw the whole man out and find her own affordable place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:39 PM
3

No no no, that's not how they're going to get their free pump and dump from the cool, fun girl if she starts expecting ridiculous stuff like respect and reciprocation. /S That's so true for men. But when it comes to women who dole out the "s**t shaming" label to anyone who questions (toxic) sex positivity...I would like to think they just don't know better. Rather than believe they are so male-identified that they value men's so-called right to easy sex over other women's safety, emotional well …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:05 PM
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Thanks for the reminder! We all need it sometimes. Rather than forgiving men who don't deserve it, save your forgiveness for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:55 PM
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Also, rates of oropharyngeal cancer are rising due to HPV transmitted through oral sex. There is still no method to test for early signs of HPV in the throat. And there's not enough evidence that the Gardasil vaccine protects again oropharyngeal cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:23 PM
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Right? Somehow it's always about "shaming", when they fail to realize that it's actually about educating and protecting girls and women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:49 PM
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