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I learned about that gem recently. God it makes me angry. Let alone when women start in a field making 70k and a guy with the same qualifications gets 90k. "She didn't argue for a raise." Ok Mike, again, why do you think that is? Maybe a social aspect? Or maybe if you pulled your head out from between your unwashed AH you'd then go and actually look at THOSE numbers. Women are bargaining and asking for raises, but they aren't getting them. What's the plural of dingus. Dingi? They're a bunch of d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 08:15 PM
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PPPPPFT If it makes you feel better, I work in an engineering-adjacent role and some dude who has no degree and is not an engineer interrupted me to "correct" me on the definition of two different words which I had JUST looked up to make sure I wasn't insane, since he had been so vehement about it before. Spoiler alert: he was wrong So I take anything a guy I don't know says with a grain of salt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 07:05 PM
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Lest we not forget the wage gap. They conveniently ignore WHY women are in lower paying jobs or providing almost, if not all of the child care and such. No, it's all about how "but men are CEO's and women are teachers!" Like alright, try to dig a little deeper, Mike. Let's ask our second "why" question here and root cause this out. Use some logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:45 PM
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OK but I'm really curious as to what that fool used as his graph data points?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:44 PM
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Reddit auto deleted my comment for some reason, so just came here to summarize what I wrote; I could almost hear the clown makeup through this post. Don't buy a house with someone you are not married to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 11:51 AM
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You'd think but this type still falls into the "I need to kill them with kindness" bullshit where she'll probably let him off the hook just so she doesn't hurt him. Even after he sprung this on her. I wouldn't sign over the house until he bought out half. You're right, they're being so progressive to men's benefit they're hurting themselves. Marriage SHOULD be costly if it fails, that way they actually take it seriously and they are actually committed. Moving in together, let alone buying a hous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 11:37 AM
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I'd be curious as to the state of his place. I could be wrong, but there's a much much larger chance I'm close to the mark based on the quality of what is out here lol I could not believe that post when I saw it. The shit people try to bamboozle us into putting up with, I swear Lmao sorry you're getting downvoted by bed nesting lurkers. Yikes, they're out in full force today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:04 PM
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My friend watched my betta fish for two weeks and I gave her $100 lol, let alone if I had lived with her 5 days of the week for MONTHS and ate up more of her food and ran up her utilities and took up space. Bruh. If he doesn't treat you like you treat yourself/ your friends/ him, drop that dud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:02 PM
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Probably has a bed nest 😹 mattress is pushing it for some of the dudes out here, sis DON'T LET THE BED NESTER SQUAT IN YOUR HOUSE. STOP LETTING HIM EAT YOUR FOOD AND USE UP YOUR UTILITIES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:51 PM
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The edit is so poignant. Hope she reads that last sentence in particular
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:50 PM
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But you see where I'm coming from, right? He's already running your utilities up (and probably food, if he eats more than you and/or doesn't contribute), staying there 5 days a week, talks about it benefiting HIM and not YOU, and I'm sure will expect you to do the lion's share of the domestic work/ mental load. Tell me you've read and understand. That's the important part here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:48 PM
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Don't. You shouldn't even have to mention this. Shouldn't move in with a bf. And he says he wants to "save" so he's straight up telling you he wants you to subsidize him. Guess who will be doing most or all of the cooking/ cleaning when he moves in? You. Also, reread the handbook. FIfTy FiFty really isn't equitable, and quite frankly if he hasn't even brought it up it's not your job to mommy him and explain he doesn't get a free ride and a mommymcbangmaid. This is some supreme pickmeisha shit. R…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:39 PM
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He'd redirect it somehow. I'm sure he'd say men are biologically programmed not to need grammar, and to not look behind the curtain, no, the problem is somehow women over 30, and how women over 30 are just sticklers for grammar and statistically the most unhappy due to their education, so that really a 21 year old woman who also can hardly speak her own native language is therefore the best possible woman and much MUCH more appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:37 AM
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The end cost at the bottom had me REELING The bottomless audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:06 PM
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I would counter that it will likely get you picked; by bottom-of-the-barrel men. What I think you meant to say is it won't get you "picked" by a HVM, or otherwise work out net positive for you in the long run (or even short term sometimes) She's been picked, sure, but gets no emotional support, romance, nothing. Just some (probably piss poor) sex and likely STD's from him sleeping around. She gets her feelings played with for fleeting joy that she gets infrequently from the relationship, just en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 01:15 PM
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Absolutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 02:37 PM
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One of the reasons negging happens! Insecure people have to bring others down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 03:57 PM
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We should dub this "NPC syndrome"; when a dude thinks he's the best, center most, end-all-be-all and his partner is just his flavor of the week, but then the bombshell drops that she's actually way cooler/smarter than him and it rocks his world and makes him insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 01:42 PM
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Only dudes who want to use you get upset about paying. A guy who is interested in you and cares enough about you to put out a minimal amount of cash versus squealing about paying 50/50 and how women are now treated equally (categorically fucking false) understands this. A low value man who will probably end up wringing you dry for your labor, body, and free therapy will only see the value of what he's losing, aka, the price of one meal, since he's not serious about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 05:58 PM
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Quality post! We all need to remember this. I'd carry all the applicable ones to friends too. You are the bar. If he doesn't meet you at your level, ta-ta
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 05:55 PM
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Doomspiral it is! But hey, if a man pays the meal and then is like yOu AwFuL FeMaLe, you dodged a bullet. Just outing themselves Just another side to the coin of "he expected me to go 50/50, we are done here" Either way, you find out the guy is not serious, nor good partner material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 04:19 PM
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When the guy who thinks he's a main character realizes he's a much better woman's passing phase 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:18 PM
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Omg in Indian matchmaking that one guy is a personality-less potato and it drove me NUTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 11:20 AM
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Came here to say this. I get the message, but those weren't found roadside. Those were taken from some tended gardens and I'd be PISSED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 03:59 PM
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If my husband ever did this to me, he'd wake up to me having given him the "husband snip" lol Imagine torturing your wife after she pushed out your child just so your peepee feels a little bit better during sex. You have to be insanely selfish/ hate her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 03:33 PM
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Lmao and what did he say? Dying to know 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 11:44 AM
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While charging them, no less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 01:11 PM
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Definitely scammed. She should see a lawyer about that ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:36 PM
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"but why won't she answer me? Doesn't she want to do this again????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:58 PM
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Lmao based
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:56 PM
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My prediction: we all know when he meets DreamGirl™ that he will be happy for a few years, and then decide that he's going to retire at 45 (without his wife) instead of working until 50 so they can both retire. He'll be fine with letting her work herself into an early grave, even if they're married, as long as it benefits him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:18 PM
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Makes 230K a year and whines about a $100 dollar dinner. Sis found a dud lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:56 PM
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I'm telling you it's right. It shouldn't be who earns more, but about the division of time that counts in chores. If he's working 60 hrs a week and you work 40, sure. Did your ex also share that surplus money he made with you, since you did extra cleaning and all? I'm curious It counts as income so I would think their bonus should be fair game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:49 PM
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100%. After all, if my fiance ever play shoved me, I wouldn't knock him down and fucking pile drive him in response, then when he is clearly in pain I wouldn't brush it off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:51 PM
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He bit the soft part of the arm and BROKE THE SKIN. That's a serious bite, not a play bite. That sounds like a full force chomp. He knew what he was doing. Hope she takes pics to show the lawyer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:16 PM
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Well it was going too, but her husband threw a tantrum of her keeping the money from her outside endeavors, which she was able to do only with her allowance btw So now he gets to decide where their joined money (I consider his bonus half hers as she is the SAHM) goes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:45 AM
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Well here's the thing, he earned his bonus at his job, during his normal workweek. She earned hers outside of being a SAHM, and using her "allowance" to purchase the materials needed to make and sell the crafts This guy is a total dick, hope she can divorce him and take her share of the bonus. He is lording THEIR money over her. It came from his job. This wasn't a side hustle, him repainting a deck on a Saturday for 8 hours and 200 bucks or sth. If only she could withhold childcare. If she stays…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:40 AM
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And then those AHs are like "why do women have baggage"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:22 AM
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Block and delete this mofo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:46 AM
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Exactly. The willful ignorance hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:48 PM
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Yes, this. The idea you aren't whole until you find a man, so then women don't focus on bettering themselves FOR themselves, learning to love themselves, being independent. They blind themselves to red flags because they are so desperate to somehow love their way into changing a man to behave better for them because they're in love so they MUST be soulmates. They project what they see as their ideal partner into this imperfect man because SOME of the qualities align with what they like. Now that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:42 PM
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God me too. I was so frustrated reading that because her family was so right and it was a fool move. Then I realized I was mad because when I was young, in my own naivety I made similar mistakes. Luckily around 24 I snapped out of it and was able to make life changing choices, but man, to have something like SHE had lined up and to throw it all away for some LV dick.... God that hurts to read. She didn't learn anything Like girl, dick is ABUNDANT. Plenty of fish in the sea. If she were so intent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:36 PM
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I feel so uncomfortable in more than 1 sports bra and honestly it did not seem to help. Just made it harder to breathe, hotter and more uncomfortable. Bleh NO PADDING. NO SUPPORT. It's atrocious out there. Maybe I should go design tata holsters...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:19 PM
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I have atopic eczema Shut up, me too! I feel the pain!!! Also you'd think they'd have more bra sizes above a C, but what they do have has fuck all for support. I went to a sporting goods store to get some new ones since mine don't have great hold, the "heaviest duty" sports bra any brand offered was "medium support." Only light or medium. Where the F is my heavy duty stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:42 PM
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The floating arch is really the worst part. Then your whole weight is just strained through there with no support from the shoe, down to the knuckle of your big toe. I also use men's shoes for sports/ regular day to day wear. So much better, and I don't need a pink and grey combo on every gd shoe I buy. Edit to add: don't get me started on bras and sports bras
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:18 PM
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I too have flat feet, so the arch never works and my foot doesn't have support while it floats in the air and is AGONIZING. We have absolutely been duped. A d the fact that we tend to make significantly less and spend it on crappier quality products that do not last and can hurt us/ cause damage is insane to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:57 PM
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Just HEELS. Awful concept
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:07 PM
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Important sentence. I rarely wear makeup. It damages the skin, takes time out of my day that I could otherwise spend doing USEFUL things or just not subjecting my skin to powders and creams. I only use it when I need a confidence boost or am feeling good. But why is that? Few men put on makeup. And makeup is expensive as HELL. Makeup should not change how I feel about myself, but it does. I recognize this. I ultimately hope that someday women will not feel the need to wear any makeup ever, not f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:41 PM
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My first thought. Because if he's not, guess who gets to deal with the painful/expensive consequences. And all probably for a subpar 25 minutes in the bedroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:49 PM
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Imagine if he behaved this way to a friend. "I expected you to trip over yourself thanking me for a $5 beer I invited you out too, why didn't you offer to drive me an hour home even though I shouldn't have planned so poorly??? Can't you just drive me the 45 min in another direction from your home? You know, alone, just the two of us even though we just met? What??? You're asking me for gas money??????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:34 AM
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"I would have texted you some coupons" ☠️☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:32 AM
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Immediately picked up on it. The moment dude says female outside of using it as an adjective or in a scientific study and PARTICULARLY when they then use man or guy instead of male, I get the ick and nope out of there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:30 AM
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"best of luck with your future" Like he's taking some kind, altruistic highroad after lambasting her for not bending over backwards to make him feel like a man, which is apparently her job as a "feeeeemaaaaale"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:29 AM
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They WOULD steal that, make money off it and degrade the women after. That sounds about right. I didn't know this. So sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:02 PM
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The face she's making, particularly in the last one, SLAYS ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 08:53 PM
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God, you have to hope so. I was drinking that Kool aid too and woke up, thanks to the help of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:06 PM
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"She worked at McDonald's! Fire her ass!" Also interesting to note in one of the comments that he was like "that's important to men" like # of sexual partners in particular matter to them, but women don't get to have that standard. That stood out to me and gave me the ick. Them and their communal dicks get upset not due to participation in an industry (they consume so much of, as they proudly affirm), but that because their communal dicks MAY be paired up with a woman who has has as much or more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:53 PM
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Yeah the hypocrisy hit me too. Recently a bunch of people on a thread were tripping over themselves to explain to me that wanting a man who doesn't watch porn is unrealistic since "99% of men watch porn." I'm not a gambler but I'd bet good money that each an every one of those shitty, judgey comments was by some man who actively, currently watches porn. And even if they never ever have, the lack of empathy is disgusting. Imagine being with a dude who simultaneously consumes porn, degrading women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:44 PM
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It it were work she could put it on her resume. Half the comment section on the photos is like "what if her job finds out and she loses promotional opportunities!" That wouldn't happen with any actual job. It's treated differently and is as we can fucking see here, actively harmful to women, even women who have EVER participated. Burying heads in the sand doesn't change this fact. It. Hurts. Women. PERIOD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:40 PM
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Fair counterpoint. His outburst could have been fairly terrifying, and we don't know anything about how he was in the past. Her being cold still gives the façade away I think, but there's probably only so much she can do to fake "everything's alright" if she is trying to leave after how he behaved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:15 PM
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I just read this. He not only escalated out of the blue, but then nuked the relationship between her and his mom. Someone pointed out she may have been acting nervous because she was going to tell him she was pregnant. I hope not. Poor girl. I cannot believe she continued to make food for him. I would've dumped his dinner right into the trash after those comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 04:42 PM
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Mom was worried her special snowflake's gf wasn't good enough for him, but she had it backwards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 04:41 PM
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I RARELY see men marrying women unless a) they're sure (whether it's because of love or a benefit to them), or b) they can't get their "first place" imaginary perfect woman that they'd projected on another specific woman already in their life, or c) the woman is a barb the builder and they plan to vaguely upgrade when their situation is bettered. So I agree, generally speaking a divorced man is a caution sign, at best, since they tend to benefit so much more from marriage and women also statisti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:08 PM
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The trash loudly taking itself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:13 PM
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Yes pat his back, once, hard, with both hands; let that pat propel him out the door and then lock it behind him. Women should get pats on the back for all the bs we have to deal with on the regular, from periods to harassment to being golddug (whole they call US golddiggers), to lower pay, less upward mobility in work, pregnancy risks, sexism in the medical field and family planning expectations as well as unbalance workload in the home and providing men free therapy. But go off and tell me how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:12 PM
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This was really recent too, I thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:11 PM
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You can probably seek a consultation, I believe those can be free. I'd start there and shop around with reputable companies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:05 PM
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Yeah the last line, "we're splitting our wedding, 50/50" She learned nothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:34 PM
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Honestly it might be worth it to seek the guidance of a bonafide financial advisor to figure out the best investments for you. There's a lot of hype and misinformation from stockbros who had a lone lucky break and a good chunk of change to play with, that are just posting for clout. Tread carefully here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:01 PM
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Thanks! I'll start posthaste XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:33 PM
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I can't believe some SCROTE makes real dollars telling women shit like this. It's absurd. Time for me to write a book. I'll call it "how not to repulse, use or abuse women so you can have a healthy and equitable relationship with someone you love, if you even have the capacity to love" Guessing I'll get 0 buyers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:03 AM
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I'm HOLLERING This is IT, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:59 AM
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She should've asked why he's such a "useless sl*t" then. I can't imagine he's stupid enough to NOT see the irony. He must understand he is exactly what he just described. And John should feel bad, he helped raise that little shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 05:44 PM
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"audition for his peen" 100% accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 10:04 PM
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She should sell the gift and put the man in the rubbish bin where he belongs. Imagine being with a dude like that. I always wonder how much of the Kool aid the girl has had, because the denial here is strong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:23 PM
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I like that. I'm stealing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:24 PM
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I think it's still tacky tbh. Unless you personally ask them, they are again putting preferences in your face you don't meet. It being about weight is interesting too, because weight is such a sensitive topic for women. I'd say if he mentioned a preference for eye color, height, certain features sure. But weight always feels like a neg. After all, if he were balding you wouldn't be like "yes haha it's cool (insert famous hot person here) has so many followers. I love a guy with a full, thick hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:22 PM
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Well tbh he can have preferences but why would he make YOU feel bad if you don't meet them? And what would the other outcome here be? What's the point of him saying "I prefer this standard that you don't meet?" I can't think of any possible happy outcome or reason for this if a guy is serious about you. I'm engaged and sure as shit wouldn't tell my fiancé "I prefer x, y, z" trait you don't have" because it would hurt their feelings for no good reason. I take all of it as a neg tbh unless the per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 11:56 AM
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Didn't you hear? They want flawlessness but it has to be natural. But effortless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:28 PM
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Another good ole onlyfans push as PrOoF women have it better than men. Yeah, most don't make the money. It comes at the cost of their dignity and damaging your body. I must again refer to the post someone put here showing a guy who got upset his friend didn't get the engineering role but a girl he followed on OF did so he sent those links to her boss so she was fired. Never ever again tell me onlyfans benefits women, I'll laugh in your dumbass face. He's another one of those "but men also suffer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:00 PM
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"bUt WoMeN CaN MaKe MoRe On OnLyFaNs" Actual sentence a guy threw at me the other day. Like it's some huge gender discrimination and not some usually poorly paying, always exploitive, pervy supply and demand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:22 PM
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I screamed omg 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:09 PM
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This is a really good take, and we'll articulated. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:41 PM
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"I was 22 years old and she was 19. She wasn't jaded yet from bad relationships. Nothing but fun, loyalty, love, trust, appreciation, all of that. Nowadays I am involved mostly with women 25+ and goodness me, most of them just are not quality to be honest with you. Lots of baggage and issues and expectations. All the really beautiful and fantastic women got quickly wifed up, and for good reason." Lmfaoooo what a scrote. Doesn't realize he's hit the wall. Women??? With expectations??? Perish the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 09:30 PM
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If he were the perfect guy he wouldn't feel the need to pressure his partner into a painful and dangerous act for his own pleasure. This man is an idiot. Be glad he outed his sense of entitlement quickly. I would have been tempted to reverse uno him. "What if you meet a girl and the only caveat is she wants to always shove a pineapple up your ass? Or a succulent up your dick hole? You gonna let a little thing like pain stop you? Good luck finding a woman!" I'm sure he's a 50/50 bro too 😂 "You ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:07 PM
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Mine was much more long winded but this is short sweet and to the point, lol. Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 07:06 PM
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Honestly the late gifts early on would be enough for me to nope out; remember, he's on his best behavior early in the relationship/ during the first meetings. And that's how he acts/ the effort? It will only get worse Second issue that he asked you for a nude. I get the impulse, but no one is dumb enough to not understand how that gives him a LOT of power, unfortunately, into your life. I say this from personal experience. I would have absolutely dropped him here. He is jobless? No thanks. You a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:56 PM
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That and makeup is not great for the skin, you're doing yourself a favor. I hope we start trending this way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:12 PM
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It might sound mean but I'm trying to whip you into better shape here so you can live a better life. "Do or do not, there is no try" Print out that handbook. Highlight the relevant parts such as blocking and deleting at the first red flag. Star it. Read whenever you're tempted to contact him. But do that after you block and delete the everloving shit out of that energy vampire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 09:26 PM
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This. OP needs to read the manual. FDS helped her find out he was CHEATING, he blamed HER for him cheating and imploding his own life and she's gone back to him MULTIPLE TIMES SINCE. And still is enamored. Don't be. He's not a good guy. His "redeeming qualities" are not worth the awfulness he brings to your life. Sis you are playing yourself. You need to level up. The fact that you have done this same song and dance and he is stupid enough to KEEP showing you who he is (and you keep falling for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:13 PM
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Interesting. Actually not a bad idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:55 PM
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I can't imagine the shame I'd feel as his parent. Imagine if one of the ex partners read this, especially one who he had "lowered his standards" for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:54 PM
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Yes and could have died in that time with his refusal. He did what many men do and trivialized her pain (even though by and large women have higher pain thresholds than men) and she's going to marry that clown
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:53 PM
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"Bang this and bang that and bang her and bang other her and bang bang bang bang bang" I like how he described his only two "bangs" by the fact that he took one's virginity and the fact that the other was "exotic" Then he says he has to lower his standards, like the poor women whose standards were low enough to be with him This is a perfect example of a male that should never reproduce or have access to women. His sperm should have ended up in a sock somewhere but instead we got this prime examp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:47 PM
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Yes this is a fear of mine, which is why I plan on working right after. Women having kids seen as less reliable in the workplace because guess who that labor falls on! As such, they are denied raises and promotions, whereas their husbands who pick up the kids MAYBE once a year if their wives can't are seen as reliable "domestic heroes" (as the article put it), and so are GIVEN raises and promotions. It's insane So even when you go back to work, you have to deal with that perception that will lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:18 PM
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You are very correct. I struggled with a way to put this and that was what came to mind. Edited my statement. Doormats is much more accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:44 PM
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So she has poor poor judgment, yikes Imagine having this happen where you are injured and in tears and your fiance ignores your plea for the hospital and you are like "yes this is who I want to marry." I would have dumped him in the hospital as soon as the doctor confirmed the injury, just so he could be there and I could glare at him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:40 PM
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As if anyone who has APPENDICITIS is dramatic or painless. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:38 PM
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I choose to believe this is real And am now tempted to buy some billboards and throw this message up there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:36 PM
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The comments were frustrating. One idiot was like "he got you a beach house why choose this hill to die on" like she didn't take care of ALL of the domestic labor including HIS dog, birth him children and fully maintain and take care of them and their schedules and so contribute to their relationship. Insane to me that anyone would defend that level of incompetence. It's not hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:28 PM
317

Honestly she's lucky he did. Hope she is wise enough to read the writing on the wall and bail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:02 AM
190

Came here to say this. Like the AH someone showed screenshots of here weeks ago, whose buddy didn't get a high level (engineering? Can't remember) role but this girl he had followed (who was no longer on OF) got it, so he sent photos to her new employer who then fired her. And then was like "but I support women, see! I pay to jack off to them and then ruin their careers because they only are important or valuable if they are pleasing my dick" Made me outraged and upset that people like him strol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:56 PM
13

This. The more attention you give them, the more they feed off it and the more foot traffic they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:20 PM
7

I laughed harder than I should have at this. You caught me off guard. Accurate. It's also filled with companies virtue signaling at the same time they deny women affordable healthcare, maternity leave, equal pay and promotions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:29 PM
114

I love this but it also hurts my soul and makes me angry. What a conflicting feeling. You'll also notice how women are paid less and yet don't balk like most men do at FIFtY FiFtY somehow (even though women should for a variety of reasons). *Paid less and still overwhelmingly doormats for men Edited: *wording
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:02 PM
121

I think it's interesting this lonely loser thinks attention is good for women. It's not. That's how women end up r*ped and murdered, pursued by negative value men, browbeaten into unfulfilling relationships until they're sucked dry. Attention is dangerous for women. The whole point is most of us don't want it, we have shit to do and our safety is almost always in question here Edit to add: "Free gifts" like yes that's what a gift is. Let me introduce you to 4,000 posts in this last week from all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:47 PM
165

I've never dated a guy who financially benefited me more than I did him, so idk what this idiot is on about 😂 "His money," like almost all men on the internet aren't screeing about "FrEe MeAlS" for dates and even sometimes the cheap ass coffee for their walk dates. What reality is this dude living in, fr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:46 PM
164

That sounds cute AF. I can't imagine most guys doing that today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:59 PM
23

I wouldn't even say break even; that time off could cost her advancement opportunities, especially short-term. And with his attitude, what do you want to be she'd be the main caregiver?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:40 PM
1

My thoughts exactly. She was being kind. Glad I'm not the only one who was like Oh NoT FiFtY FiFtY ArE We
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:24 PM
25

"Why yes, this IS the person I claim to love! You don't believe me?? But we're spiritually married!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:23 PM
65

He's not even doing 50/50 now. He wants her to handle 100% of seemingly the pregnancy/ birthing costs AND the time off she'll need from work. I'm curious as to how they thought child expenses should be split
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:23 PM
98

He is shocked that since they keep it separate, he should have to keep it equitable. She's not even charging him for the physical and emotional burdens of pregnancy and delivery, so idk what he's complaining about The fucking audacity. "I want her to do this but only she should suffer financially in addition to all the other sacrifices and risks she is taking" Toolbag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:21 PM
260

Yes tbh this would just solidify my choice. "Oh so you WERE capable of doing something nice without me having to ask or plan for you, you just didn't feel like it before. Interesting"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:20 PM
53

This. 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:19 PM
5

Your last sentence slayed me ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:15 PM
301

Ugh super gross and annoying. You should have sent back "ween size doesn't matter, king" blanket memes and "it doesn't matter how big you are, matters how you use it!" "I'm sure someone will recognize and accept you in spite of your penis" "Flaws like your penis are true beauty" Would that go over well with him? If not he needs to take several seats. Tool. Him sending you that kind of stuff reeks of a more subtle neg tbh, and maybe with a dash of some cope from how he has aged?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:16 PM
107

"if you don't like it it's just because you're insecure!" Miss me with that shit, it's because I don't want a partner who has little enough life to invest in fiddling with his ween over other women. That seems pretty reasonable to someone with working cognitive functions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:57 PM
32

"he's funny and sweet" is code for "he meets SOME bare minimum personality requirements for many people" (having a sense of humor, not being a huge asshole and sometimes telling a partner he loves her). Usually "he's sweet" translates into something like "he cuddles me and tells me I'm pretty once in awhile but has never gotten me anything for my birthday and made me feel like shit when he asked for 50/50 rent split but now that he's unemployed he wants me to pay it all" or some negative value, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:49 PM
79

I like how "It'S jUst $20" is his excuse. I'd bet money that on their first date he wanted to do 50/50 even though her meal was JuSt $20. Love the audacity of "I'm going to use your card without any prior discussion to treat myself" and I'd again bet that he'd get himself a really nice, fancy breakfast and she'd get something cheaper that isn't really her taste but she should feel So GrAtEfUl hE TrIeD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:46 PM
19

Male, early 30's. Medium height. I'll focus on you being a "trophy girlfriend" and insist you should do cardio for an hour and a half a day while guilting you to literally only consume one can of beans a day for you to reach this ideal. I have the audacity because I was a chubby pre-teen and with natural hormones and growth spurt, think I bootstrapped my own way to thinness so it should be easy for everyone! I will not support you emotionally and expect a quick lay. When my skills suck and are u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:53 PM
44

The finger guns slayed me ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:50 PM
32

So men want to have sex with someone so that they feel like they aren't being taken advantage of? LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:58 PM
103

I SAW THIS. So she was making way less and was just his gf. Now he's making double and as punishment wants to go FiFtY FiFtY so she subsidizes him while she herself can't save. He and most of the commenters clearly don't understand basic ass math or have ethics on why she shouldn't have to explain that she squirreled away a meager few thousand a year for safety reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:19 PM
224

"you see how much work you're putting in while the bitch is sitting there.." 😂😂☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:26 PM
232

He was hoping to be able to have sex with all 63 women for 500-600 total, so about $7.94USD - $9.52 USD Wanted the cheapest prostitution possible. These poor girls spent more than that on their mascara.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:40 PM
152

"baby's" If he can't spell "babies," don't fucking do it. His anatomical and reproductive knowledge of women, unsurprisingly, is actually fucking dangerous. It is our duty to prevent men like this from passing on their stupid genes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:09 PM
2

"Adam Sandler??? Is that you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:36 PM
43

I am so hung up on her skirt it's ridic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:20 PM
63

This description is both cute and accurate! It sucks for OP but ultimately she saved herself some BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:02 PM
97

I'd also argue that if his number comes up smaller, you've actually "paid more" by doing all that labor to set everyone in the household up for success. Then I'd promptly argue divorce. Don't let a dude trample all over you with I EaRn MoRe when the cards are stacked in his favor, especially if he has the audacity to expect you to invest more time and energy on self maintenance, chores, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:56 PM
141

I was going to say "fair's fair" and suggest an appropriate response but I'm sure reddit would flag it as "inciting violence" so I won't. I mean that potato man is especially never going to find love since his personality is clearly also shit. Imagine that poor woman. I'll do all the PT and rehab in the world just to return the favor Edit: only 13 to 20 years??? Wtf. Throwing acid on someone should be a life sentence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:07 PM
371

"But! I was only supposed to get all the easy parts!" Yes he's not complaining about women having to give birth, being expected to be homemakers, pornstars, full time successful white collar workers, fit and with cool hobbies. Women who don't mind being free therapists and cooks and maids and give them LeGaCies. The REAL travesty is men having to approach women, having to TALK to them, having to pay for a few dates! The horror! The inequality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:04 PM
76

❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:03 PM
332

"Haha! She wants to be treated LiKe a PeRsOn" are the vibes I'm getting from this. She's basically asking "how can I get him to not be violent at me and to respect me?" and he fucking laughed. No thanks. Sis needs to dump him and laugh her merry way to her car to drive faaaar off into the sunset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:39 PM
96

The manager told her to write it off, though If that's not bad enough, credit card companies get reimbursed by the government (a certain amount, not sure) for fraud charges, which means you and I also just paid for this scrote's scrotery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:35 AM
71

To be fair, experience is the best teacher and it doesn't sound like she has good resources. She's got mainstream libfem rhetoric, a mom who isn't helping her, and undeserved optimism. She's about to find out the hard way, as many of us have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:14 PM
30

Agreed. I empathized with her. I'll be honest, I really don't feel bad for the PickMe or her ex. Her ex pushed her to insanity not only with his "trading her in" but the taunting and using his lawyer connections to strip everything of meaning, everything she worked and sacrificed for, from her life. The "eat your heart out bitch" or however it went note on that wedding announcement she got in the mail hurt my heart. Basically everything did. I'll always see Betty as the victim here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:13 PM
92

"But she's now younger and hotter and while I've depletes YOUR life her resources are untapped" I'm always reminded of Betty Broderick when I think of Barb the Builder, and how that worked out for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:07 PM
136

"I can't wait that long" 😂😂😂 Well at least he was honest that he intended to start right back up a week or two into getting back together. What the hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:06 PM
97

Was just gonna say, I never see this shit posted about women, to endlessly endure bullshit in the hopes that women become better. RiDe Or DiE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:05 PM
23

"No one on here can judge either of you, really" Sis yes we can. We can, and your bf has been found.... LACKING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:30 PM
114

I'm really glad someone else saw that he is being part of the problem if he remains silent. It's a sucky situation that's not his fault but he could be the solution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:04 PM
87

This was my first thought. I don't know any of these women, but I'm disgusted that he has consumed enough and creeped on them enough to know them by name. Could probably name his top 50 "fIlMs" too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:18 PM
128

Also important to reflect here that our friends can be our biggest supporters and we should cherish those HV women in our lives. She gave you a glimpse of how you deserved to be treated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:12 PM
42

The golf emoji at the end killed me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:11 PM
178

It hurts my soul that women can't put men with the audacity, like this one, back in their place because men can't seem to control their emotions. Asshole men should be treated assholishly and not with kindness or respect. Ugh so frustrating, but obviously the right move on your part. Lol I guarantee you his idea of a romantic date would be a mediocre restaurant FiFty FiFty and you giving him head. I dumped a fuck who sent back all the stuff I'd gotten him on vday with a letter that said "this is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:14 PM
381

Wow what a day. And what a red flag torpedo dodged. Did you tell him before he left? Edit to add: now wondering if it was a powerplay- he times this just before Valentine's day and super late, and then including another woman's clothes might somehow make you "jealous" or see that he is with others, to hurt you. Obviously that didn't work because he's a tool but now I'm curious if it was genuine or if he really was that pathetic and dense lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:48 PM
36

Came here to say this 😂 maybe she's not CoMmUniCaTiNg hard enough or for long enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:38 PM
12

Ok but which movies 🤔 I haven't seen anything good in theaters in awhile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:32 PM
136

And yet I'm sure they expected some kind of sex later "Wahhh I have to eat a fancy dinner my wife probably spent hours making and not be on my Xbox, and she expects FLOWERS?? " In the same gd breath they expect a lay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:32 PM
7

This is what happened with me. I met him at first in his own country, visited him. We are engaged and the stupid visa process is a nightmare (especially during covid) but this man OOZES HV. It's been hard due to the nature of the relationship but he still finds ways to make me feel loved, to prioritize and celebrate me. Absolutely possible, but it is more difficult than a traditional relationship, and obviously you have to have plenty of in-person time too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:25 PM
19

"He's trying to intellectualize treating you like shit on a day where you're supposed to feel extra loved and appreciated. On a day where all the other women get jewelry, teddy bears, chocolates, beautiful bouquets, dinner, etc. You get his excuses instead." So well worded. Absolutely. I put in effort for my SO on birthdays and holidays (including v day) and so no, it's not MatErIaLIsTiC to expect some effort back, and if a guy thinks like that he's either a) a dirty liar and he knows what he's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:32 PM
43

Yes I'm waiting for all the posts where it reads like: Her: "I made his favorite meal from scratch for 6 hours, took him to see his favorite movie in a rented out theater, gave him an hour massage and got him a card and a new Xbox game. Should I be mad that he said he'd do something special then didn't then wore his dirty clothes to our dinner and he hasn't showered in 3 weeks and then slept through the movie date I'd planned?" Followed by: "Did you cOmMuNiCatE that he should wash regularly, be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:14 PM
98

And probably cooking, cleaning, a live-in therapist. But yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:39 PM
93

Oh yes, I'm curious as to the women who rejected him and if he has a very narrow standard of beauty. My guess is yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:25 PM
103

Yes, let's talk about footbinding, aka old timey unrealistic beauty standards, where a young girl's feet would be purposefully smashed (not medicated) until they were broken, and then tied up so they could have small feet, which obviously lead to, at best, severe life pain and mobility reduction, and at worse, horrific infectious death from the feet not being able to be cleaned properly and such. Like fuck off, no woman ever has told him to change his face, but I damn sure bet plenty of women do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:22 PM
124

All of it Can you even imagine 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:28 PM
13

Good point! It is art, I just want the bar to go back to a fair place for how women should look. Like no, it's not unprofessional if I'm not wearing mascara. Women shouldn't be expected to be "artists" and certainly not for anyone's gaze but their own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:20 PM
17

Well shit now I have to go get some glitter 😂 Right, I know guys that say women look worn down if they don't have foundation, some blush and mascara. It's like yes, we are worn down, and also this is what a non photo shopped, non-made up face looks like. Why do I have to take more care of my face and also beautify it more than you do yours? I'm not about that as a standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:19 PM
29

While I want women to feel their best, I think it's important to question why women feel the need to spend thousands over their lifetime, and days doing makeup to feel good about themselves. Most men don't. I'll never police women for wearing makeup (I fall into the same "sometimes I need a self esteem boost" mentality) but at the same time, I'm aware that this isn't an expectation for men, that this is a drain on my money and time, and that the makeup industry is something I would like to see f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:13 PM
73

I shouldn't have cackled at this, but I did "Natural habitat" in my heels and full makeup, half naked awaiting some dick, ANY dick to find me and jackhammer me while ignoring anything that would provide me any actual pleasure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:04 PM
52

Of course they're not 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:22 PM
69

Right? I'm pretty sure that's below healthy BMI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:29 PM
17

My thoughts exactly. Maybe punishment that she got the job over his friend in there, or thinking that because she is pretty, she can't possibly be smart. Or maybe a general superiority complex over women. Could be a lot of shitty reasons, but ultimately it's clear he's a scumbag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:56 PM
88

Same. I think lib fem is a subcategory I don't agree with, and that I'm also part of a subcategory, radfem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:07 PM
901

"I have no problems with onlyfans, look, I jack off to it so I'm the good guy with morals! I'm so considerate! But here, let me shame her and actively prevent her from getting a better job because I also look down on her. Fuck her trying to make a living, amirite? Anyway, I have nothing against wh*res"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:02 PM
229

I've never heard this before, but so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:58 PM
184

This might be the most audacious thing I have ever read. That poor woman has been trampled over. Jane is beyond presumptuous and a huuuuge part of the problem, but the husband's audacity knows no bounds. I don't even know what to say. Holy hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:57 PM
45

☠️😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:36 AM
94

This. What the shit, imagine targeting women like this. Fuck whoever wrote that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:07 PM
585

"I don't want him to feel embarrassed and disgusted with himself" Umm...why not? Edit: apparently the mods removed some post by some loser who said "uhhh because he's her husband and she cares about his feelings as she should?" Guys the bar is in hell 🤣 this absolute walnut must have conveniently missed that her husband knows she hates that sex act, that she is pregnant, that he didn't care about her feelings when he pressured her into putting him, dirty and disgusting and unwashed, in her mouth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:22 PM
71

"hi, I'd like 6,000 chicken fajitas please" I say this all the time, don't even need the link to hear it in his voice 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:56 AM
475

😂😂😂 Or couples therapy? Maybe if he makes a chart on the fridge to remind her and rewards her on days she doesn't say it with sunny stickers and sexual favors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:56 AM
30

This. That statement in favor of her embarrassing herself (and let's be honest, other women) was appalling. One of the tenets of feminism is not lauding a woman embarrassing her entire sex because she made a poor-taste choice, unless I missed something. Some of these women really need to start critically thinking here. The founders of feminism wouldn't see this and think "yes, this is exactly what we were pushing for!" Ffs what is wrong with the hive mind there thinking this is acceptable. "Femi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:22 PM
20

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:46 PM
116

Well we should make an equivalent term. My mind is drawing a blank, so I'm not coming up with anything original. Old husbands' fables? Or no, they think old is the worse thing a women can be, and according to them they believe women think the worst thing they can be is not rich. With that in mind Broke husbands' tales
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:18 PM
255

Honestly at least this was the fastest weed-out you could have gotten, he wasted almost 0 of your time. It's weird that it's a personality trait or a point of pride for them, now. That's not something you opened with 40 years ago, or even 10 years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:08 PM
175

Right. Sure, the work culture and work/life balance is in the gutters, but that's a whole other issue that needs to be tackled. Relying solely on a man is a recipe for disaster and akin to a frog jumping into the pot of warm water on the stove because it's nice and toasty now. In a few months or years though, that water may be boiling. In most cases you'll be subtlely devalued as both a person and your contribution to the household and on top of that will have no money or resources of your own, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:23 PM
3

This line was really powerful and stood out to me too. So well worded, sharp, and I'm sure most of us have had this same experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 06:10 PM
8

I see. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:58 PM
24

How do you know?? I don't know much about actors, wasn't sure if I missed some key info. I figured she would not be able to name him Edit to add: Just googled. The age and 25 year old gf fit lol. That makes me incredibly sad. I can see how she fell into that trap with him. But what tipped you off without going on a massive hunt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:49 PM
64

This was so powerful. I loved her inclusion of every "off" but not necessarily apparent red flag. Her end point of how her mentor knew this would happen and still decided to use her as fodder and then blame/ distance herself, with the defense that "she knew what she was doing and wanted it, this is what she deserves. So unprofessional," so chilling. I wonder too how much of the patriarchal female competitiveness led her to use thing young, apparently very attractive woman to further her career, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:10 PM
267

Right?? Like what do YOU have to offer, sir. HaS DoMesTiC SkiLlS Like being a functional adult falls onto women as the requirement This dude legit goes in asking himself if she seems like "cleans my skid mark out of my undies and serves a 3-course meal while I play COD" material I've never once considered criteria for a man being that he's skilled in mechanics and yardwork or some shit, because I know it's my own damn responsibility to be able to adult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:26 PM
174

I think my point of particular interest here is how (on a date?) without being asked he volunteered that he found one attractive and then also said he'd take a bullet for them. It's fine and good to be extremely close to friends, but the attractive bit is weird. I'm guessing he wouldn't love it if OP gushed over her hot male friend and mentioned she'd be doing some sleepovers at his house, not really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 02:24 PM
9

This reminds me of that guy who was caught while a woman was filming herself for TikTok a year or so ago, he opened the window to her apartment and was about to climb in and she was like WHAT ARE YOU DOING, GET OUT and had the foresight to keep filming while she ran to a neighbor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:04 PM
2

I honestly would dispute this bill from my insurance company for "services not rendered." He was there to cover specific topics for you, not have a debate over and industry that hurts women and benefits his peepee somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:09 PM
31

Wow. I've never seen this so well summed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:51 PM
12

I feel you there. So depraved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:36 PM
31

EW WTF. Can you even imagine doing this on the job, AT your client's house. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:26 PM
17

I can't help but think of how terrifying and sad and painful and desperate the final moments of victims like this were, and my heart aches for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:25 PM
3

This gives me Betty Broderick vibes. The AH ex husband who doinks his 22 year old secretary after dragging Betty through hell to support him and raise their family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:12 PM
2

Seriously. He's telling on himself She should be like "sure, and I wish I'd gotten you in your years where you weren't such an entitled whining dick bag, probably, yet here we are"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:11 PM
1

Like he's African but he looks white, so he is not subject to harassment/ racism based upon his complexion/ features
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:56 AM
7

Basically what he thinks. And even if that were true, no one ever questions why there is a lack of female presence in these roles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:55 AM
184

I have a friend whose parents paid for everything up through his master's degree. He is early 30s, his gf has not graduated college yet. He makes upper 5 figures and expects her to go HALFSIES. Once he told me he expects to be with a woman who earns more because "why not? Women expect that of men" and it's like oh, i didn't realize YOU were the marginalized group in a world designed with glass ceilings for men while women easily get promotions, more raises and are the vast majority of CEOs. Didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:55 PM
31

Isn't... Isn't that what most men accuse US of doing? 🤔 Almost like THEY ARE PROJECTING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:50 PM
3

I wasn't far off! So he doesn't respect women, and he's a cheap bitch lol Clearly you made the right move "You want ME to pay for the date??? GOOD LUCK EVER FINDING A CONSIDERATE MAN, YOU HIGH MAINTENANCE, CRUEL B*TCH" is the vibe I got from this. Man, it's so often the cheap and inconsiderate ones who are absolutely outraged when they're turned down for said cheapness and inconsideration. I'd bet money that if somehow you had gotten into a relationship with him, you'd have gotten or made him so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:34 PM
3

Im curious about which 2/10 he failed. My guess is porn and patriarchy in the west
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:05 PM
39

My big question is--- where does he prefer both be????? Asshole in the lower back, hoochie belly button? Like what could he possibly see as anatomically more appealing??? So many questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:44 PM
45

Lest we not forget, this was not a charity. He got paid to be around people he fetishizes in his head, fetishizing them through degradation. Gets PAID to virtue signal while this is brewing in his brain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:32 PM
157

And imagine your partner being a POC. Mine is African (white presenting) but even if he were not, I can't even fathom being disgusting to him, much less in the bedroom to get off. Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:31 PM
357

I think they like it because they can be around the very people they fetishize WHILE pretending to be helpful to society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:30 PM
274

Right like WHY WOULD YOU WANT to be horrific to your partner. It's like white dudes just cannot grasp historical importance or nuance of life through another person's shoes who hears and experiences horrible things all the time because of a physical trait they can't change (but of course they only notice it when it "hurts" them) This isn't a kInK, this is straight up racism. Why he gets off of being a racist is something that needs to be analyzed and fixed and not excused as a harmless kink. Won…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:29 PM
364

Of course he's into race play and works in a diversity apartment. Ofc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:26 PM
177

Omg the 6 figures in a studio while expecting you to use gas/insurance/ car payments that are exclusively coming from your money and then ordering extra when it was your turn...I would've gotten lobster on his dime and then ditched him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:05 PM
186

I'm hollering at "I'll think about it," wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:02 PM
34

Ah updated mine and just saw your reply! Absolutely. I forgot to make it equal😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:56 PM
14

You'll like the edit even better then. Just realized I forgot a component needed to make it equitable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:53 PM
21

Judging by how well his brain does not function, my guess is a no on the genetic lottery lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:20 AM
340

She should say she will do a foursome only, and the guy has to have a huge dick. See how he likes it Edit to add: bonus points if she then says "I already have one small dicked guy, why would I want another"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:38 AM
35

Also I can't imagine the long term health issues for continued consumption of sugary energy drinks. Cannot possibly be good for the body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:23 AM
26

I man, when she's spreading messages like this she absolutely is. So she's a problem, just now how she thinks she is, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:54 PM
17

The bar is being limbo'd under by the earthworms in Satan's garden rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:06 PM
18

And yet women are simultaneously shit on and underpaid, go figure (sad lol) Yes it's women's fault for making him upset that he is a useless lump, we are so cruel and demand so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:34 PM
77

Well I'm sure that's gonna work out for her. Smart choice. Also excellent proof that social media is just putting on a happy face to be show poodles for your friends. Big yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:38 PM
85

Yes ladies, WE are the poor communicators. We just need a new and softer way to ask men to pull their weight, treat us like people. Clearly it's all the responsibility on us all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:15 PM
121

Was wondering where the Pickmes were to defend this brave, chivalrous truth-teller and his completely appropriate forum for bringing up how gross he is and how he really feels about her/ wasting her life. You deserve MUTUAL love and respect in a relationship. I'd argue loving them is more important than liking them since this is a romantic partnership, NOT a friendship. What a dumb sentiment from that commenter. This is the kind of revelation you may not ever recover from. They've been together …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:23 AM
87

I actually took it as them being in a relationship for 6 years and being engaged at some point within that, but to your point I wouldn't be surprised about a 6 year engagement. I feel so bad for that poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:19 AM
87

"Tell me you're an unloved skid mark without saying you're an unloved skid mark"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:42 PM
96

She thinks she loss... But she really won. This dude is a grade A loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:43 PM
41

When I checked a few months ago we were at 170k. Now at over 190k! Another 20k+ women waking up to the bullshit and learning how to prioritize themselves and only go for men who are not trying to bleed them dry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:43 PM
50

Girl thank you You know it's extra frustrating because at least they still wouldn't have to push a grapefruit out through their dicks and pay the medical costs/ be judged and all the other fun bullshit that accompanies pregnancy. I like this bill a lot better than the TX one P.S. he never responded 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:41 PM
39

😂😂😂😂☠️☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:46 PM
234

There was already some dude that said "what about the men who were r*ped or had a hole poked in the condom" and I responded to him "WeLl ThaT'S SuCh A SmAlL PeRceNtAgE oF CaSeS" How does it feel, asshole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:45 AM
160

"I go there to laugh about all the stories where men hurt women and I think it's pathetic that women don't like when men abuse them and take advantage of them" Yeah, I can tell he "used to be" an incel. We don't hate men, just the shitty ones. This site gives us space to breathe, have convo about the shitty ones and the behavior to avoid. I swear, so many men are delusional and just want to keep the bar low INCELS WANT TO HURT AND ABUSE WOMEN. FDS WANTS MEN TO STOP HURTING WOMEN. Not the same th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:20 AM
3

I don't know but I want to find out 😭😭😭 Thanks for giving me some silver lining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:29 PM
63

Girl my student loans are clowning me, so no early retirement pour moi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:39 PM
43

"his biggest resource was his audacity" 😂😂😂😭😭☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:22 PM
9

You wrote what I did just now, but better I feel you on all these points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:21 PM
22

I don't see this as benevolent in the slightest. I'd argue it's maybe "indirect" versus direct, but that's probably not quite the best way to frame it either. Holding a higher bar makes it harder to even meet "average." Being called beautiful puts focus on something that can and does fade. Being told you are nurturing puts onus on you to feel like you owe society child rearing or teaching, and may make people try to pressure you into having kids that you don't want, in an already overpopulated p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:20 PM
104

Lmao this is like the amazing answer to a math question I never asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:09 PM
93

What is FIRE? Edit: best guess is Financial Independence Retire Early but would like confirmation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:08 PM
85

You think he'd be offended if the roles were reversed and she was OK with leaving him high and dry to get her grubby lil hands on another few MILLION? Because I bet he'd be calling her a heartless b*tch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:07 PM
184

Yeah RiDe Or DiE is interesting because it's so disproportionately a message meant to be "stick with a man." I know of/ have heard of very few instances where RiDe Or DiE is uses to promote being with a shitty woman who is an alcoholic that wants to fuck her bf's father and puts his father's face on the male models she follows obsessively on social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:00 PM
62

You guys WhAt SHoUlD ShE DO So hard to decide whether or not she should be in a relationship with a loser alcoholic who is sex obsessed with her mother What a conundrum Man, the state of women today where any of this could ever be considered a "bump in the road" DON'T TRY TO FIX MEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:58 PM
112

She also has to be 19 for forever!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:18 PM
19

And something about "accepting a proposal if it were a McDonald's onion ring" because she's been waiting 14 years for her manbaby, part-time, videogaming scrote who sucks value from her life to put in an equally garbage proposal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:06 PM
37

Also, malls are super dead. This wouldn't even be any fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:32 AM
49

I bet he'd want you to pay your own coffee too, a whole $3. You can just hit him with a "no thanks." Pickme me would have either accepted the low value date or tripped over myself coddling his feelings about me explaining why I didn't want to go on said date. You can keep it short and sweet, but he would probably be a LV friend too so I'd block after. He won't bring anything worthwhile into your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:31 AM
61

Imagine how much effort he'd put into a proposal. If he can't even do a solid date when he is, in theory, at peak courting and interest mode for his FIRST IMPRESSION, he will be low effort in all the other facets of his relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:29 AM
116

"No thanks, I only do adult dates"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:27 AM
42

Yeah, I actually am happy for her that she dodged this whole ass package of loser, in bullet form. Fuck that guy. It's one thing to not be attracted to someone, another to proactively shit on someone's appearance unprompted. I'd like to see this guy so I can pick the looks apart of this modern Adonis that I'm sure he must be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:22 AM
22

It is so strange adjusting to that after growing up and hailing the lot of them as just and there to protect you, but I see it all the time now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:15 AM
122

You know this dude was like "I'll take any woman that asks me out unless she's ugly [fat]" and then he himself is underweight. Same type of dude who also is vocally all over Reddit about how "fat isn't healthy" and then if someone mentioned his BMI would cry about skinny shaming being JuSt aS BaD aS fAt ShAmInG and ignoring the "health" advice he offers fat people, unsolicited of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:25 PM
128

So glad Reaux brought up my first point of fixation on Brian's part of the interview, where the police essentially led him to "oh so you were just defending yourself? It wasn't really even a push? She's crazy and you're a good guy, right?" and with Gabby they didn't. I hate that my Pickme self would have acted a lot like Gabby, coming up with excuses for an argument that places the blame only upon me and me being crazy, to protect the aggressor and to second guess myself. Edit to add: wild how c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:44 PM
30

Glad to see he's an ex! It's one thing to be like "hmm yes this is her preferred food type and a cool venue" and then to see if a public proposal is something you want, then offer to plan it (along with more details to make it special) and then DON'T LET YOU PAY FOR BOTH OF YOU FOR THE DINNER. Even those scrotes who think this is just a long game to get a $25 meal must realize "letting her pay for her own proposal dinner and mine is really cheap and tacky of him" I fucking hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:58 AM
8

Came here to also lavish praise. This is a great response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:41 AM
243

THIS. It's a bit weird even if it were just a "let me show my love" billboard (at least to me), but it just feels embarrassed/ a tactic to put pressure on her for something he did that was CLEARLY awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:13 AM
35

🤣☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:35 AM
46

Why would I want a dense, anxiety-riddled man? Edit to add: one who can't take frank hints and won't put in effort Another add: one who wants "modern roles" and also FiFty FiFty when she's courting you? Fuck that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:32 PM
7

Oh my. I just found it again. He sure did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:21 PM
3

Wow that layer he threw was what, maybe 20?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:22 PM
36

There are some scrotes on a different thread and their pickmeishas who can't believe that "FDS iS MaKiNg FuN oF A WoMaN FoR BuyInG a MaN ThiNgS" because they possess an equal amount of comprehension of nuance and implications as a rotting coconut. Like no ding dongs, buying things for a man isn't a problem, and if you don't see why her tweet isn't laughable, you aren't paying attention and are likely part of the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:49 PM
25

Also once ALL DV is reduced/ eliminated, the pay gap and gender bias in workplaces, and harassment being almost entirely gone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:46 PM
2

You mean like this? https://youtube.com/shorts/8MZs28-AAOU?feature=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:22 PM
5

Lmao. Realistically it would have to be a bunch of huge, strong dudes all the time. Especially at night. Then that guy can sit there and explain to them why he walks faster, or else he's rUde
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:00 PM
51

This this this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:34 PM
3

Done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:58 PM
3

He sure did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:53 AM
55

By a nice, big, burly man that's twice is weight? What was he in for? Idk, could have been wrongly convicted, or some stupid petty theft. Could have also been murder. But according to this guy, you have to just assume he isn't there to hurt you and not a bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:08 PM
318

It slipped, fell to the ground in a pile of shit and shattered. I've never even heard shitty men in my life complain about this tbh. There's a true crime podcast I listen to (of course most of the victims are women) and the host's advice is to always "stay weird" because it could save your life; basically, chose your life and potential loss of it over someone's feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:52 PM
74

Right, he takes it personally. But I'm taking my safety (as a woman this has happened to, insofar as the harassment/ following) as a priority over his feelings by a country MILE I don't get pissed off at deer because they flee when I head in their direction, even though I wouldn't hurt them. Them running from me does not affect me in any tangible way. It's like finding problems to be upset about and ignoring the much more severe problems facing the people you're trying to blame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:50 PM
230

Him: "treat me how I deserved to be treated" Comment section: "you are an ass, use your brain to THINK about this and stop taking offense Him: nO NoT liKe tHaT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:43 PM
282

I was honestly blown away, and then his final comments that only "fat ugly feminist btches could possibly find fault that he is glossing over the very real threat women face because he somehow makes it about him and his feelings-- it's just a new level of scrotery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:39 PM
550

Edit to add: guys now in addition to being overly cautious we have to talk to every man in the vicinity at night or while alone and let them know we don't blame them, we are just nervous that they will hurt us or worse, so we don't hurt their feelings 🤡🖕 If your feelings are hurt and you think the major problem here isn't how women reach this point of having to be afraid, and if on top of that you expect them to confront every man they are trying to escape the notice of to be nice and assure you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:34 PM
359

And yet YoU WaNt Me To PaY A WhOlE MeAl is the reddit anger echoing across other subreddits. Yes, I asked you for consideration and chivalry, not demeaning labor because I'm a woman. We both enjoy a meal. When she's folding his laundry, they aren't bonding, she's not enjoying herself, and he's being lazy. This is the biggest reddest flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:14 PM
13

Right?? Is that even a chore then? I'd argue it's more like a very sporadic part time job. That's such ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:38 PM
47

This hurts my soul 😂 "Instead of helping, how can I also make money off of her labor?" Reminds me of the tampon glove
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:12 PM
4

Right. This could and SHOULD be an excellent opportunity to realize that yes, actions have consequences. Saying gross things has consequences. Stop doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:00 PM
23

ONE IN THREE WOMEN. Holy hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:54 AM
12

I was about to comment this! He just wants access to you again to belittle you and try to twist it as your fault for not TaKiNg a JoKe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:30 AM
145

Sex with a guy who may or may not want to choke you out, slap you, tie you up and then complain that his peep can't get hard because he spends 2 hours a day jacking it to camgirls that he also degrades offline. And then he expects you to pay 50/50 on a first date since it's 2021 and women have no problems now, didn't you get the memo??? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:48 AM
19

Yaaas 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:21 PM
32

They already do, for lack of orgasms (given from a partner. I wonder what % of them were chronic masturbators too, now that I think of it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:45 PM
101

And also doing 50% of the pregnancy and birthing. And 50% of the well done, not sloppy chores. And 50% of the emotional labor, the planning and scheduling. While we are at it, they should also get 50% of the periods, wear 50% of the makeup and do 50% of the grooming, working out and eating healthy. And only have 50% of the gaming Since they're so worried about having the shitty end of the stick on InEqUaLiTy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:43 PM
25

Thiiiiis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:40 PM
240

RIGHT. It wouldn't be problematic without the pay gap, DV, abuse and harassment statistics, difficulty in being seen as competent and so receiving promotions, birth and pregnancy, awful medical care, bodily autonomy being under attack, being the majority of incel murder spree victims, having to do way more chores and child rearing in ADDITION to working full time... No thanks, my partner isn't going to make my quality of life worse. I'm happy to pay for him sometimes too, and get him special, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:40 PM
185

You ever notice it stops being funny when you tell jokes about men and their problems? Funny how that works
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:14 PM
20

Well I mean, they only could've gotten the job since they themselves are *soooOOoOo competent" so that makes sense /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:17 AM
26

This. Even without my fiancé, I have had so many HV friends and acquaintances I've met throughout my life. Seeing how they treat their partners, hearing how they talk about them (and women) and actually try to understand the daily issues we face, from microaggressions to life-ruining problems (DV, abuse, etc) gives me hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:49 AM
58

Which is weird, because have these employers SEEN men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:40 AM
30

I respectfully disagree, with one point in particular. It's shown that conventionally attractive women make more money over the lifetime of their counterparts (especially if their counterparts are overweight and we are talking about a skinny woman), as the attractive (read here: skinny) woman is not seen as lazy. Sure, they attract more sleazeballs, but they also are able to more easily attract HVM. I think it can be a tradeoff, but I'd rather be attractive than not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:11 PM
25

Then he shouldn't raise his son into a scrote 🤷 focus on making him into a man Hope he's as outraged on posts calling women derogatory names
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:46 PM
418

It was used stupidly on a post from the other day (where a male author said about a woman whose BOYFRIEND was insecure that she had an emergency savings account should the relationship go sour, that she was committing "financial infidelity")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:19 PM
27

Tell me you blocked him again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:06 PM
28

Omg call him a cockroach. "Sorry cockroach, you're out of my life for a reason! Byeeee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:05 PM
65

But you also just know even if he did want to be "friends," it would rapidly devolve into him dumping his problems and insecurities on her, and if she ever had something to discuss he would either clearly be bored and give short/unhelpful answers or rapidly change the subject. From there I bet he would nosedive into requests for nudes and then FWB sex. I'd be tempted to play this out just to prove he's a scuzzball and shut him down hard XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:01 PM
159

And make the request title "emotional therapy"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:31 PM
18

Prognosis; him leaving was a blessing. The moment someone compares me negatively in favor of an ex, done. But then trying to be fit for other women? This woman was a placeholder. This is why you don't play Barbara the builder. He wanted perpetually younger women (even though he himself is almost in his 30's) and all the work you put into him would just help him speed run his fucking over other women until they age 3 more years and he finds one younger. This man was a cyclical leech OK with stayi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 03:13 PM
16

Fuck that guy. Ew. What kind of rejected DNA puddle does this shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:39 PM
27

I did this a lot abroad. Dudes would be walking side by side on the sidewalk and I'd have to step off or turn myself sideways when one of them could just fall behind a sec. They were always surprised when I squared my shoulder and kept walking. No, YOU move. You have the space since there are two of you. It's a small thing but it's just one more annoying thing to deal with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:56 AM
20

He suggests "financial dates" to discuss those separate funds that are none of his business? To help the guy's insecurity? GTFO of here. So freaking ridiculous. Clearly Paco doesn't understand domestic risks even though he very briefly and vaguely alluded to the unequal power dynamic in most hetero relationships. She's allowed to have a safety net; this could be the thing that saves her life. But of course, it's about him FiNaNciAl InFiDeLiTy, give me a fucking break
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:16 AM
26

Where's the lie, though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 07:22 PM
122

"Rolled my eyes so hard they punched my brain" is fantastic. This is a good point to watch out for them hinting at self-betterment without them actually doing the work for it. Like, do you think I want to be at the gym instead of at home? No, but I do it for my health. Do you think I work OT because I like it? No, I want to pay off debts. Everything has a price. Want to be healthy mentally, as you are not right now? You won't get there by doing nothing or "thinking about maybe starting" to go to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:42 PM
54

Right, for a community all about CoNsEnSuAL [injuries] you'd think they'd be all over this AH as clearly there was no CoMmUnIcATiOn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:00 PM
291

Only fair game if I can kick him in the nuts for my "kink" but he can't get mad and should respectfully talk it out with me, after I just put of the blue assaulted him and caused him harm. If that sounds ridiculous to you, it's because it is. Assault is assault. The moment a man slaps me, we are done. And even if you are into that kink (in which case I would recommend asking yourself "since when" and "why, is this because I was trying to impress someone else?") there need to be really firmly, no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:41 PM
55

He only valued himself and his sad, unsatisfying peen (The sex was also awful and one-sided. Imagine that!) But I wanted to fix the selfish fuck. Turns out you can't give them a heart. Or empathy. Or brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:42 AM
20

He was a negative value ex for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:41 AM
59

Yeah, vomiting is actually one of my biggest "this turns me into a useless baby" things. I hate hate hate nausea and vomiting. I appreciate the fact that you're a considerate person! Thank you for being awesome :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:51 PM
39

Yes! I'm glad even though he was a LVM he had some redeeming qualities and didn't just shit all over your pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:46 PM
39

I would have done it without asking. You know, like an adult. But yes, had I not he would have pitched all of the fits and called me a b*tch. He was a little sleazeball
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:45 PM
104

They'd be very much "did you tell him how that sentence might be construed as upsetting? Deal with your illness and then give him grace and endless love, and then when he inevitably dodges the problem and twists it to YOU somehow you just have to communicate harder???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:44 PM
154

GIRL. RIGHT. Your think I wasn't sick and just asked him for shit all the time. This was the first time I asked him to do LITERALLY anything for me, and it would have not cost him a dime and taken him, like you said, 5 minutes. He was a HUGE sack of shit. He was one after we broke up, too. I haven't heard from him now in about a decade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:42 PM
150

The teeth and steam punk hat/goggles of the dude made me laugh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:43 PM
764

He is a horrible little shit but the icing on the top, the epiphany was when I was so sick I could hardly make it to the bathroom. I had no food I could keep down and he was supposed to meet me at my place later that day, so I asked him to pick up applesauce. I then realized I didn't know how long I'd be sick for, so I asked him to pick up a can of chicken noodle soup and some bananas, and told him I'd pay him when he arrived. He texted back "I'm not your fucking delivery boy." We'd dated for ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:51 PM
125

I second this. Instead of men detracting from any kind of self reflection or responsibility with "NotAllMen." Then they do nothing for "MeToo" because it doesn't affect THEM and much like they wanted, doesn't directly address the problem or point fingers and makes the narrative more about who is a victim rather than who is the perpetrator/ how we should handle them. YouToo is perfect for basically saying "you aren't the amazing, 'non sexist' guy you thought you were and in fact are part of the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:43 PM
21

I agree. Men will go on all day about "it's not a big deal!" and sure, it isn't to YOU, but it is to me so either you respect that I don't like you putting in effort to see posts from women you clearly want to bang, or we don't work out. I don't follow hot men on IG because I have better things to do and I think it's weird. If he prefers the company of righty, more power to him Also girl, if this wasn't clear, follow your gut. It's clearly trying to warn you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:45 AM
7

Because we can't win and they need to feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:29 AM
7

Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:33 PM
42

"he decided to commit date suicide by splitting the bill" is amazing XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:21 PM
143

"if your gf was bald you would have expected her to try everything" PREACH I personally have no issue with bald dudes at all, but the truth right there was just so, so illuminating "In a society BUILT FOR YOU"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:20 PM
79

Oh my god, I've thought this so often. I'm never getting one as I've heard horror stories of things gone wrong, let alone installation pain. For me, not worth it. That should absofuckinglutely be anesthetized, especially considering the forced birthers being uppity rn. "Don't want abortions? Fucking make contraceptives easy and not wildly goddamn painful."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:38 PM
6

A lil bit of DHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:07 PM
17

In other words, like 2/98 rather than 50/50, if there even is that positive 2 at all. With some men it's like -100/200
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:16 AM
121

It's wild out here. In one thread someone was asked how to split finances with a future husband. I saw (admittedly, could have misread but I don't think I did) someone post that 50/50 labor for house is good, and 50/50 on expenses if they're similar, but if he works 80 hours a week, OP should take over more of the housecare. I said unless there are pooled resources I don't understand why he should get more $$ for himself and she gets more work to do that is his? They said it freed up time but sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:02 PM
64

Lil baby scrotes, scrotes in the making
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:17 PM
51

Was this the one where OP was asking if she should reward him with praise as he asked, after cleaning up after him for over two years, because (something very akin to, in her partner's words) "I knew you'd clean up/ pick it up for me" Because the first comment to that was that a rewards system helps reinforce and it's not his fault he was raised that way. Ok so he lived like a young, inept slob for years before OP? So now she owes him praise after picking up for him for 2 years? It's not enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:16 PM
6

I see! Thank you for clarifying. I thought you meant somehow the employer was like "ah I see you've moved in together. Never gonna get promoted again!" These make sense. Totally agree, particularly with the exhaustion after taking over most of not all domestic duties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:14 PM
204

This is phenomenal Kind of like when men are like "oh but look at what males have contributed throughout history and somehow that directly relates to MEEEE even with my lack of value and contribution" being told #NotAllMen XD YouToo is perfect. Really highlighting these examples of how many men there are that do this instead of defending them with "NotAllMen" which is a nice way to ignore a very real problem. Sure, not all men. But what are you doing about the SomeMen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:35 PM
36

Omg what a scrote. This is a horror story. You should have shot back "That's interesting! I can tell you have a small wee and coincidentally sell pills! Looks like you need them. I won't date a guy who is undersized. You should probably get that and your greasy hair in order so women find you attractive. Also, this is the worst date I've ever had. Good luck with your personality!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:12 PM
35

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:54 PM
38

Ah, thank you. I'd never heard of that before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:11 PM
44

Papped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:49 AM
88

He had an affair? Did I miss that part? Was she the affair partner????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:27 AM
497

Hasn't actually fixed his addiction issues, just divorced and has dated this woman as a rebound for what, a few months? Phenomenal, glad a kid will now be in the mix. "She kinda held my hand through everything" yes so you never actually processed shit/ learned/ grew as a person/ fixed yourself. His ex wife sounds better off. Hope she can find someone stable and forget about him and his rebound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:26 AM
46

It's where the pay gap starts? Can you elaborate on that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:34 AM
11

YES I TOTALLY AGREE. That button twirling was complex to me, and the whole premise was a bit cringe and seemed like it was more to add something to a game that most games didn't have, to appeal to their main audience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:18 AM
174

"If he needs to be dragged, leave him behind" could honestly be an FDS rule
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:26 AM
7

I agree. If this was in regards to my first comment there about "did you let him know," I meant it purely as "did you tell him you were insecure and he started this behavior after knowing where you can be needles," not "did you let him know that him shitting on your body all the time is not nice and bothers you?" If it's the latter, immediate dump. I'm here for an empathetic, smart partner, not to train one like a disobedient dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:22 PM
80

I have to say, I was proud of how ruthless and immediate it was. He did not enjoy it as much 😂 oh well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:01 PM
122

WiTh My MaChEtE LikE a BiG mAn WhO Is ToTaLlY StaBlE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:43 PM
102

Well worded, and true. It clearly thinks women are its property and that it is owed a woman who can do nothing to get away from it; by spreading to women the red flags this thing shoots out like a machine gun, it knows it is in danger of not having a woman, and is threatening torture and violence. You'll notice I'm calling this an IT because, as someone else pointed out, this scrote is too vile to even meet the most negative value male categories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:35 PM
32

Totally agree sis! He sounds cunning if he could pick up on that to abuse you, or maybe he just knew women get the very short stick when it comes to being judged and valued by certain physical qualities. I am, he's the sweetest and if I ever have any kind of self esteem issue (not just related to appearance) he is always very compassionate, listens and has never once thrown anything in my face. It's almost been 5 years too. Emotional intelligence is core point 1 for a good partner, along with co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:12 PM
73

I think it's helpful to realize and repeat to yourself that you weren't the problem, he was. It was never an issue of you not being good enough or attractive enough. I hope you can recover! Find some good HVW friends and level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:02 PM
38

Yikes, I'm sorry to hear. Did you tell him about these body image issues, and if so did that change the dynamic? I hear a lot about men hiding their true selves and then negging, wondering if that happened here. Yes, I am fortunate to have a wonderful HV man who would never push their problems off into me and hurt me in such a way; but in the past I have not escaped men like you're describing either. I've had a few duds like that. Luckily I have gotten better at recognizing them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:00 PM
286

I think here is a good place to leave a light, anecdotal bit about an ex (dunno if he was porn sick but he had whacko body image issues that he projected, as he used to be overweight, though I never actually saw him watch porn) and he'd always point out that I should only be eating well below a healthy amount of calories and at the gym a few hours a day until I attained "trophy gf" body, nevermind that he was no prize himself. So here I am getting frustrated and not taking the bait (cut me some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:57 PM
82

Did you undergo the surgeries? And my follow up question, did he pay and pamper you during recovery? Yeah, men willing to destroy the self esteem and leech joy out of their supposedly loved partners aren't men, and they certainly should never be your partners. I can't imagine ever shaming my partner, particularly in a long, self-esteem crippling game like this, just so I can get my panties wetter a few times a week or some such bullshit equivalent excuse Edit to add: him paying and pampering doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:49 PM
48

"Since the dawn of time, a plague of scrotes has threatened women. Sometimes skulking in the dark, always on the prowl, unhinging society from the inside." I'd read it. But I definitely want a happy ending! "All the scrotes were put onto an island and forced to endure each other for the rest of their miserable lives."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:20 PM
57

s3 (forgive me, I can't cube it on my phone) - when a scrote is so scrotey that not only do other people become enscrotened, but it transcends space and time. Entire histories, timelines, generations are forever negatively altered because this one thing existed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:14 PM
58

SAS -scrote among scrotes. The scrotiest, biggest losers who actively make multiple lives worse, are stupid and/or violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:09 PM
27

I hope it reads this 😂😂😂 beautifully summarized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:05 PM
59

I love this and by proxy love you. This was amazing, 10/10 Edit to add: "It scroted off into the distance; unnoticed and unloved, a blight upon existence. It knew it was an abomination, unworthy of love. It had never been more than a mere scrote, and through its own scrotery, could and would never be. "Years later, it would die, still mad and alone, having made everything in its wake worse by its pathetic presence; a sad failed attempt at humanity trying to pull off the facade"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:49 PM
222

I would argue he's negative value. Even LV males aren't this level of violent or delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:29 AM
270

You know this scrote is out there complaining about WhY wOn'T wemEnz DaTe MeEe Also laughing at "LV men," as if he could ever reach that category. Homie is in the negative value range. I can't imagine he has a single good quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:28 AM
602

Can you report this? That machete bit is straight up a threat. Edit: report to the authorities, not to reddit Second edit: just read the rest. Yikes. A) what a loser, but b) super deranged I laughed at "WoMen AnD TheIr DivOrCeS" like you are the problem you ignoramus. His parents should be ashamed. Wonder what it's like to have that level of no self awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:24 AM
14

Also very true. Maybe just letting her know what she did was shitty and giving her the warning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:55 PM
71

Can you maybe ask her again and say look, the only difference is him not coming and we had planned and looked forward to this for x amount of time? You can even offer a more relaxing trip/ casual activities (I'm already sure she'd get to sleep in) I'd also remind her how much fun she'd have. Edit to add: I get that people are burned out but it's a garbage friend move to bail on plans like that. Does she often bail on things/ let her bf's life affect her plans with you significantly? Also it's af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:52 PM
21

"The real inequality isn't the macro and microaggressions women deal with every day, or their safety or opportunities! It's having to shell out for a date I wanted! Why can't these stupid sl*ts see that!!?? ScrEEeeEE!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:45 PM
28

I have to comment on one of the YT comments I saw (yes, I know I shouldn't have looked.) This man goes on and on about how his wife had a tricky birth, hard time breastfeeding, was constantly up with baby but always smiling, not once complained, worked hard and helped pay bills and shit and said "she's my soulmate and we are equals." I know they aren't equals because she pushed a baby out of her and did all of that while I can guarantee he did not breastfeed, get up in the night and take care of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:13 PM
35

Basically. I will say I've seen many stand up for women's rights recently as part of the result of the TX bullshit, but it's super important to notice hey, we are absolutely not treated equally still just because some men outwardly support us. Idk why they think women are going to take men's low level issues and bump them to the top of the priority list when we have a laundry list of much more serious problems. Paying for a first date does not hold a candle to our inequality in bodily autonomy a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:43 PM
54

"we're not all equal" 💯 Steve isn't worried about getting date r*ped, most likely not his period he has to pay for, nor why the underqualified women got the promotion over him, nor why he was making less than her in the first place with his greater skill and time there. He's not worried about being forced to carry a baby to term and birthing it for hours while his genitals rip to his AH, nor the weight that carries socially. He's not worried about gaining 10 lbs, nor being made to do most of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:35 PM
101

If he tells you the female orgasm is a myth, run in the other direction. This is the reddest of flags. He will excuse his not trying on that. Tell him his masculinity is a myth and block that bish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:53 PM
5

Next time just wish him the good fortune that befalls those poor women and let him stew over it after you hit that sweet block button
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:54 AM
451

This man may not have a job, nor money, nor independence, nor a functioning brain, nor empathy, nor dignity, nor sense, but what he DOES have is the AUDACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:40 AM
27

It's a lot easier to say it's "just nature" when you're the one benefiting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 08:09 PM
96

This same dude would expect you to trip over yourself apologizing if you ever upset him in a way that is much less serious than a familial death, or also be out of sorts if you didn't lavish him with attention in the same scenario
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:53 PM
34

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:18 AM
282

YOu BrInG sO MucH hApPinEsS tO PeOplE Like he's Santa Claus or working for the Make A Wish foundation. Yeah, I think not. Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:03 PM
14

Oh my god that's so pathetic 😂😭 can you even imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:33 AM
7

I wasn't gonna say it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:21 PM
14

Yeah what it burning a logo into the tv? I don't understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:48 PM
27

"Sorry, anal is at least a transcontinental flight. Those shoes were only $80. Even prostitutes charge more" He is looking for a cheap prostitute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:58 PM
9

Oh for sure. I get my partner gifts all the time because I want to make him happy. I spend a decent amount and put in a lot of effort, and I don't expect him to then do me favors (sexually or otherwise) as payment. This should take effort yet at the same time be worth it and feel "effortless" in the sense that you WANT to do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:57 PM
88

Basically. He's upset and throwing his hands around. Most women recognize that stuff like this, when he's upset, indicate he might escalate and become physical, if not touching at LEAST strongly implying and threatening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:30 PM
92

I also greatly enjoy how his voice cracks when he says "I'm DoOoOoOMiNaNt"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:29 PM
96

I don't think he's working hard tbh, he's just ranting and saying women cheat on nice guys and that he's dOmInaNt. Also buys things for women on condition, which, sure, but never outlined what his "If I tell you something you gonna DO it" is, exactly. Like sir, what do you expect in return? I probably don't even wanna know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:28 PM
164

Did you notice how jerky and wiggly he is too, in his anger spasms? Reminds me of a snake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:25 PM
85

What? No way. Look at this man! He is the PINNACLE OF MALE PERFORMANCE. LADIES, DON'T HURT YOURSELVES SCRAMBLING OVER EACH OTHER FOR THIS MANLY MAN AND ALL HIS WISDOM Also, what does he think he's gonna do, get a 20 year old every year until his heart gives out? Good luck, bud. Finally adding: just ew. Ew ew ew imagine thinking like this. Imagine a bunch of 40 year old women giving seminars and making YouTube videos on how to prey on/ groom men half (or more) their age. Ew ew ew ew, all this man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:57 AM
5

Let's also mention the dudes like "if she had turned down my no value proposal, we wouldn't be together" like yes??? Clearly you don't value her so she should leave??? She probably put more effort into cooking for him that night than he put into a whole ass proposal. This isn't the flex he thinks it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:48 PM
6

JUST ACCEPT THE ONION RING PROPOSAL WHY WON'T YOU SETTLE FOR A GREASY FINGER AS A SHOW OF LOVE -some scrotette, probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:45 PM
193

Yeah a lot of people complain about certain subs like "well they always tell the couples to break up and that's dumb and unhelpful" and it's like dude, have you SEEN the situations people talk about? Just today on one there was a woman whose bf threw some racial bs at her, so she finally retaliated mildly, and he threw a HUGE slur at her and kept doing that to punish her even after they talked. Like girl, what? Or "my bf quit his job without asking me and does 0% of the chores and now he hasn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:22 PM
324

It almost feels like they did this just so they could then pretend to be heroes and quash any future attempt to shut this part down. Let's be honest, this is just a porn site
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:09 PM
102

Right? The post is like "men have to be useful???" And I'm over here counting off all the requirements most men expect women to have, both reasonable and the absolutely wild, dumb, insane ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:23 PM
64

😂😂 What?? Women want a useful adult partner??? One who makes their lives better and not worse??? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:21 PM
15

My guess is he doesn't get her $50 dollar food, let alone an appetizer. It's a 15 dollar Applebee's date (or the foreign equivalent) and they split it FiFtY FiFtY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:14 PM
66

Imagine if the roles were reversed. I can guarantee you men aren't just like "as long as she isn't an alcoholic and doesn't hit me she's a winner" No, they have this big ass laundry list of qualities, some reasonable (personality, education, self sufficient) and others which are ridiculous (even though women still get paid and promoted less, she should fund me and we should do 50/50, she should go back to her post-baby body within 3 months and do all the cooking/ most of the cleaning in addition…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:13 PM
47

Not gonna lie, I laughed at "she's for the streets, king" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:57 PM
86

Yep. Also notice that the men aren't all like "iTs a JokE NoT a DiCk, DoNt TaKe It sO hArD" Do they see how annoying that is, or...? Also I agree, reciprocity. What he's getting all bent out of shape about isn't even a reality for the vast majority of men in relationships. If he wants to discuss golddigging, we can take a look at women's free labor or take a stroll down one of the subs on this site to see the dozens of stories with women talking about how they do all the cooking/cleaning, make l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:01 PM
478

It's funny because you know if the shoe were on the other foot and she were the cheating, two-faced AH they wouldn't be saying "why can't you just let her be happy!" They'd be saying shit like "ruin that skank's life, she deserves it. I hope she gets an STD and dies bro, she was just using you and will end up a single mom with 5 kids and a used hoo-ha" or something similarly colorful yet more vile and aggressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:40 PM
31

"I married my wife out of convenience" So he acknowledges all she has done for him and improved his life. He proposed knowing he didn't love her the most, and wasted her life. What a garbage can of a human being. I hope his ex found someone better (low bar)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:26 PM
21

Yes?? If you can't be kind and self sufficient why are you "owed" a partner? It goes both ways, you need to be an actualized adult. I don't understand what he's complaining about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:45 PM
156

Meanwhile I hate all influencers, equally, and how our collective attention spans are regressing to that of the average chipmunk's. It speaks volumes that he was pissy about makeup on women, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:32 PM
53

This absolutely killed me ☠️😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:32 AM
145

Protect men's feelings* Even worse lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:31 AM
12

Yo tampoco 😂 La audacia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:21 AM
15

I like how you did him the nice small favor of watching his stuff, then at the end he basically wants to get into your pants by also asking you to make him food like I'm sorry, are you paying me to be your chef? Have you taken me on dates? 50 bucks says he wants "his woman" conservatively dressed and expects her to do all the domestic labor but also that she pays fiFtY FiFty. He really shot himself in the foot with that pushy behavior also. I don't understand why some guys can't pick up on the..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:20 AM
6

Lmao "I don't care about your shoddy, sad attempt at putting in effort that's too little, too late. Give me my time and money back"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:22 PM
28

My palette costs more than the meal wouldd 100%, and probably for the both of us lmao Pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:04 PM
65

Scrooge McScrote 😂😂😂☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:02 PM
12

Mine sent me back everything I'd ever gotten him along with a letter saying "this is the romantic thing we WOULD have done on valentine's day" (info: he never planned or did anything nice in the year + we'd been together, so I'm pretty sure he was taking out of his ass) which was funny to me even so soon after dumping him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:02 PM
15

I love when I see women's posts like "I supported him for a year while he refused to clean or apply for jobs. We go 50/50 on dates and he's never bought me flowers once and always puts in minimum/ no effort for my bday. He sometimes gets verbally abusive when I ask him to at least clean up after himself. He says if I leave he may hurt himself or worse" And my first thought with these NVM is not even pity. You cry when mosquitos get swatted, why would you worry about this leech and what he does t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:54 AM
8

A HANDFUL of times in 15 YEARS???? Even just after college when I was broke af I got my (ex) flowers once in awhile! My current very HVM gets me flowers and they're always so beautiful and make me feel so special ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:51 AM
24

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:17 AM
388

Right? They're not the 40 year old scrotes trying to get with young teen boys so I never wanna hear about "women are so much drama" from men again. Jfc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:19 PM
116

For sure Trump
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:17 PM
298

Lol came here to say this "Ah, besides the creepy sexual pedo overtones, we have objectifying women! What a shock"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:16 PM
138

It's so wild that equality only apparently applies to helping men?? Like sure, let's go 50/50 when domestic violence reaches 0, when sex trafficking is shut down, when the pay gap and lack of promotional opportunity is cut, when harassment no longer exists, when men do their fair share of chores without needing to be goaded or begged, when abortion rights are no longer debated, when women around the world have equal access to education, when women and girls aren't harassed anymore. Oh, and also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:03 PM
101

"lead life penis first" ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:59 PM
51

Ugh that's gross. Tell me people were telling her to ditch this fool. Also, nice dodge on his part. I'm sure that prompted "thank you" he unwillingly gave and just used as a "get out of jail" card totally makes up for all of the money and effort she spent on dates and the fact that she will apparently always have to do that forever because he's lazy, disrespectful and unappreciative. Like sis, let that one rot in the basement alone with his boring, no effort life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:34 PM
42

Love how she tries to slap him away from him continuing an act that is damaging to her/ could end up being fatal VERY easily and then after he DOESN'T stop she hops right to "then I could tell something was bothering him." Girl WHAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:48 AM
23

"bro flat share musk" is such a specific, succinct way to perfectly describe that nasty stale, unclean smell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:39 AM
84

He cared so much that he had sex with her while she was clearly miserable and uncomfortable and DIDN'T WANT TO. That's my favorite kind of sex, the kind I definitely clearly don't want but the guy keeps going anyways. And hey, there's even a word for that! What a scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:37 AM
70

Yeah, "no pain no gain" is a mantra that is not useful in the dating world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:30 AM
59

A moment of silence for our poor Pickme sister and her free-falling future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:34 PM
3

Oh my god I had no idea about the actress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:28 PM
37

I wanna know who would be each puff. I feel like Reaux would be Buttercup for her really accurate, unapologetic sass and straightforwardness calling out bs, Savannah strikes me as Bubbles for her fun humor, her joie de vivre, her random spiciness and her empathy. Lilith would be Blossom; decisive, laser point focus, analytical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:19 PM
85

I'm really annoyed when people feel the need to say "but I don't look that bad, I'm active!" Like I don't care if you eat a little too much and gain weight, or you don't work out a bunch and you're really skinny (bodies change, you can still be HV as long as you're working towards better health even if you aren't there yet) but even if you DID gain or lose weight so you pop out of the socially "ideal," that's no reason for your spouse to give their opinion on your looks, unless it has to do with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:08 PM
6

I prefer Chloe, poor poor Chloe. She was the best of them. Blew my mind when Clark just passed her by. I know we are attracted to who we are but like CHLOE IS THE FULL PACKAGE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:57 PM
27

Is it tactical and technically allowed? Yes Is it even close to the right thing to do? Absolutely not. You shouldn't throw the competition because she's blind but Jesus, not putting her in a spot where she could lose a finger (or more realistically get some nasty cuts and be terrified) is not a lot to ask
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:41 PM
60

Im curious as to the answers but I don't want to puke 🤣🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:34 AM
89

Yeah it's not jealousy, it's disgust, contempt, disdain. It's a gross thing to be normalizing. You can look at other people obviously but when you're seeking out nudes to wank to, like Jesus dude find a hobby, or go spend time with your "real" girlfriend (and if she does exist, the poor poor thing, I'd be shocked)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:04 AM
275

Imagine telling a dude like this "I sat on another man's dick. Doesn't mean I'm replacing your dick with theirs, I'm just admiring it because I like dick. Maybe his has other features like bigger or more satisfying. But who cares! A confident, educated man will understand it's just some fun" Oh, does the logic here only apply to men oogling other women like they're dumb animals with no self control?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:02 AM
26

Just googled it, her name was Christine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:44 AM
86

All I can recall from this show (not sure if it was hell's kitchen or another cooking one) was one dude won the prompt and made a blind girl handle and prepare to cook live crab. But yes go off about how women are the ones keeping women down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:27 AM
68

May that man be attacked by tigers every day for the rest of his life. Also men being fucking predators isn't natural, and SHOULD be trained out in a society. If you brutalize people because you can't integrate into society, you get excommunicated. What a braindead moron he is. If he's allowed to say that women are essentially asking for it by not taking protective measures, how do you think he'd feel that women take the proactive measures he prescribes and start pepper spraying the eyes of any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:21 AM
12

Ah talking about Betty Broderick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:00 AM
131

"I never buy drinks unless I've heavily made out with you." "I never dance unless I get your shirt off for a "back rub" Jfc so creepy. The moment he said the first thing I'd be DONE. That is not serious relationship material at all, and honestly sounds like risky hookup material for those playing that field. Ew ew ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:06 PM
53

Honestly now IIIIII need some therapy lol Ever lower levels of depravity I swear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:35 PM
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"maybe YOU should try therapy" Like no sis, maybe the dude who can't feel satisfaction with "normal" sexual acts needs to find out why he constantly feels the need to comment on other women's attractiveness out loud and get a "gummer" Glad you saw the other side though! Some women never do. I think very few of us got through our youth without falling for that "cOmMuNiCaTe" and "it's ok he treats you like shit! This is a YOU problem" at least once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:27 AM
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Omg after this I would totally tell him every little thing I did, especially cleaning up after myself. "babe, I did my own dishes! What??? You don't care?? Where's my compliment?!?" "Hun, I put away my own leftovers! I'd like some thanks now" "Hey sweetie, I washed my own clothes! Why aren't you thrilled??!?" Edit to add: just kidding! First time a guy wants me to commend him for cleaning up after himself and getting pissy that I don't, I'm OUT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:44 AM
14

This is the real life, dark "women actually have to deal with this unacceptably creepy bullshit" version of "How I Met Your Mother"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:21 AM
135

AND THEY WERE ONLY FOR HIM, AFTER SHE MADE HIM A WHOLE ASS MEAL. HOW DENSE AND SELFISH CAN YOU BE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:10 AM
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Many can also tell you some kind of bonkers sport (or video game fact) so yes, he's capable of remembering, you're just not important to Mr 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:07 AM
99

For the birthdays or the names AND the birthdays 😂😂😂☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:06 AM
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tHe DAiLy WaR He HaS wItHiN HiMsElF 😂😂 You mean existing and doing the bare minimum? Wow, better give him a cookie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:03 AM
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I honestly think this is good. It exposes bullshit that men do often so other women may see it and think "wow so it's not just me, this is unacceptable"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:34 PM
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"Sorry you wanted your best years being a forever girlfriend and maid to some loser" It's like they're almost self-aware 😂 like yes that's the problem with you NVM, lazy and noncommittal. I'm glad we can agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:34 AM
44

Right!!! Like, no one wants to work pal. He said himself if he worked another normal chunk of time he could retire in his 50s with kids set up and much more security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:37 PM
56

Imagine getting into a relationship where some AH scrote thinks giving your partner attention, gifts, being nice to them is NOT NORMAL and they classify it as "needy" "You can only get one of the things but I want sex, 50/50 and for you to do all the housework, child birthing and rearing and cooking" Lol NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:27 PM
50

Lmao basically 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:25 PM
9

Was thinking that as well! "He finally got something right"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:48 AM
19

What??? You didn't marry another guy while pining over and only fantasizing about that other relationship that wasn't gonna happen??? And you aren't trying to excuse your creepass behavior by just repeatedly stating that you feel bad and lying that you love your current partner??? Blasphemy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:48 AM
33

That poor, poor woman. I hope he fucks up badly enough that she realizes she can do better. She is not loved by this creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:46 AM
27

"A married female" is all I needed to read to know this loser is 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:42 AM
9

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:34 AM
13

Oh yay! I love it 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:14 PM
34

I missed something and have a dumb phone. Someone pls explain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:01 PM
34

We should give awards for how many Redditcare posters here get because scrotes are triggered. In this specific context, you're upsetting them so badly they misuse something intended for good, so you must be doing something right. Edit to add: I strongly prefer tall men and my current partner is beautifully tall 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:46 PM
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Also, as someone who had this happen to them (sadly I was 20 and it was not illegal in my state at that time) if you find them online pretty sure you can still sue him for underage porn, even if revenge porn itself is not yet illegal in your state. Investigators could probably trace the messages as well since nothing in the internet is lost forever. I would maybe consult with a local attorney even to help ease your anxiety, might be worth the money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:59 PM
31

Ugh I'd quit. He clearly doesn't have a functioning brain. No point in arguing with "men" like him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:26 PM
230

A certain sub regarding men who aggressively and loudly travel in a different direction from anyone with a vagina has been axed, so those same lady-dodging, no doubt reputable gentleman are flooding the women's spaces they claim to so vehemently avoid in order to harass said women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:19 AM
177

Cyber flashing is the perfect term for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:46 AM
38

I'm a NYer. Was wondering if he'd weasel his way out. Can't say I'm surprise he threw in tidbits about "oh well as pa used to say" and "you know, my two pawns-- I MEAN DAUGHERS.." etc etc. We need someone at that meeting who can say "Ok but what are you going to do now that it's been confirmed you had 11 women who you've sexually harassed? What are the reparations, when are you stepping down"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:02 PM
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My first thought. She doesn't get massages, a free day, anything for her work which I'm sure at LEAST is quadruple what he's doing even with the chart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:27 PM
105

LMAO 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:27 PM
79

Oh good lord 🤦 it speaks volumes about them that they abuse that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:36 PM
62

What is redditcare?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:38 PM
31

I cannot even imagine the resentment I'd have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:36 PM
18

This makes me happy. I'm sorry your garbage bag father did that. If he ever calls you up and asks, if I were you I'd laugh, hangup and change my number lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:45 PM
82

Lol did you see the article awhile back (can't find it now) where Chinese women were not having any of the "have more kids and get married! Also, take care of your parents!" rhetoric. Basically they said "you devalued us below sons, so your sons can take care of you in your old age" and then the massive thread was removed by the government.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:43 PM
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Thought this myself. Like wow what does that feel like, do tell Also highly doubt it was about his appearance, some comments above made a good point that he was probably projecting since that's how he perceives value in women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:55 AM
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I saw this and laughed my ass off. Even it were genuine, maybe he should be questioning if he is low value. People done usually say something so pointed without a reason, and I doubt it was actually his looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:53 AM
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Can confirm. Am in this situation now with a negative VM (not my partner, just a roommate). It's very frustrating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:25 AM
11

Ugh I wish scrotes would stop infiltrating everything. That's such ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:18 AM
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Wow really? I've had the opposite experience with that sub, in which a lot of posters really focused on the special problems CF women face. I did also leave a few months ago, so maybe it changed or I didn't see those articles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:20 PM
11

Basically asking "but you're doing so well? Don't you want to add some more thankless chores into the mix with someone who clearly doesn't respect you or themselves as an adult??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:16 PM
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So she's at least doubling her cooking amount, probably tripling her cleaning (let's be honest, those who don't clean usually are the same who don't pick up after themselves because they've never had to care( Remind me what the benefit for her is here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:29 PM
37

This this this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:42 PM
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"what would have you done" I would have paid my portion, tip, and then left, blocked and deleted lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:42 PM
1

Overlook and Oakmont! I went there before moving. It's a really beautiful area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:24 PM
2

No way! I grew up there :) I've obviously since moved away but it was crazy to hear Worcester. Small world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:25 PM
18

Wow. This is new levels of desperate. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:41 PM
4

i just read where it's based in! I grew up around there! Have you ever heard of Ashburnham?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:09 PM
3

I've never heard of this. Is this on Netflix?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:07 PM
191

I bet he was downvoted to hell. I saw this post earlier today, so I'm glad you also mentioned it here. I was like "why is sis doubting herself. Why"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:05 PM
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Imagine if she started masturbating to pics of his best friend-- who is single, flirty, and buff (and possibly better looking than him?) after she makes several comments praising the looks of said bf. And then she gets photos of him shirtless and posed on her phone and he sees the photo and she admits she masturbates to it. Anyone want odds on what level of anger/ insecure he'd be? All of a sudden it won't be so "totally normal and fine," I bet. I don't know why only some men don't think of what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:02 PM
66

BUT MY UNWASHED BEDNEST. WHAT A B*TCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 12:00 AM
130

She wants me to WASH MY OWN ASSHOLE??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:59 PM
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I love her He never lists that impossible standard. Oh and let's list what most of these NV dudes who can't do anything for themselves generally want from women: Kind, and basically a doormat Beautiful, at least an "8/10" so skinny, big butt, thin waist, sizeable chest "but not too bulky" and a nice face Flawless hair removal from the eyebrows down Has her own education and career Can cook and clean, plan and shop, without complaint Is cool with paying half in everything even though he probably …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:37 PM
152

Oh I'm gonna kink shame them I'll kink shame the fuck out of them. They can find a much more safe, non-life-ruining kink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:03 PM
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I find it particularly interesting that he then had the gall go go complain it was such a nightmare. He should have specified that HE was the pushy, clingy nightmare 😂 and then he chased you after ☠️🤡 what a loser Dodged a bullet not being his friend too. Even if he were somewhat mentally stable (clearly he's not), you'd next hear him complaining about other women to you while he lovebombs them while simultaneously trying to make you jealous/ guilt you into a relationship you never even wanted (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:07 PM
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men gesturing at porn and their gaming consoles, their bedframeless beds and disgusting apartments Edit to add: probably not, that would require some self awareness and accountability
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:54 AM
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She's like a trashier version of how I imagine that one woman, Ben Shapiro's sister there who shoved herself down our collective throats on YouTube for a few months, if she had snorted coke and pounded a few coffees beforehand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:53 AM
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Ah so she's an onion ring girl; as long as he proposed so she can hit the milestone, it doesn't matter if he actually values her or puts in effort 🤡 wonder how that's working out for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:51 AM
15

Oh my god I never though of that before. It turns out that all along I was the clown 😂😂 You did crack me up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:24 PM
15

😂😂😂☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:45 PM
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Rabid-chipmunk energy could not be more on point. You can tell how hard she's trying to impress all men by being the "cool girl." "So what if he sleeps in a dumpster? So what if he is LITERAL TRASH. You having standards is so uncool and sexist"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:43 PM
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Lol alright go have fun with the 5'7" bedframeless, mentally unstable man then. Oh nooo ladies she's gonna take those options from us 😂😂 whatever will we do while she sleeps on the floor, deals with his temper and baggage and brings her down??? 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:42 PM
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gestures broadly at the economy and men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:07 AM
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I thought that too. Can't even be formal about it. "Pwetty pwease" or some shit. Thanks for clarifying! I wouldn't want a term of endearment based on my weight (never liked "gordita" either) and so to do that on the world stage, to me it just felt like pointing out her body and putting that pressure on her, idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:16 PM
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Yeah but I feel like most men wouldn't have paid you back in that situation tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:13 PM
1

It never gets better with dudes like those
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:13 PM
9

and knew it was going to ruin her birthday The first things he did were awful but this really nailed how fucked up that was of him. Boy wasn't even ashamed enough to Venmo her back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:11 PM
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Imagine if you will after sex she texted him he was "small" and then when he's like wtf she follows up with "well after men orgasm they shrivel up and get small so I know you enjoyed yourself thanks to me. It's a good thing!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:28 PM
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*Herself and the child she had at his insistance That's insanity to me. It's one thing to make poor choices for yourself, another to let yourself be doormatted to the point where you bring your own child down with you and hinder their quality of life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:25 PM
18

Wild that anyone would want to be in a "partnership" that not only doesn't improve their lives but negatively affects it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:49 PM
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An update from this same post? She edited that she didn't want an abortion but she also didn't want a baby and now doesn't want it to be supported? Oh boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:25 PM
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Ok so how is he going 50/50 on pregnancy/ childbirth then? Since it's FiFty FifTy Edit to add: lol she added her own edit because she knew everyone would see that as the best way to fix her life. Abortion/ leave the NVM/ move on. She might as well have put "edit: don't tell me to separate from him" Like sis if you're ruling out the smart advice, no one can help you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:23 PM
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This was my first thought. I know flaca is a term of endearment too and I don't know Spanish well enough to know if that's only said to skinny partners, but I don't love that either Edit to add: OMG ShE'S sO LuCkY, I'd MaRrY a GuY wHo PrOpOsEd WiTh An OniOn RiNg Like my boo didn't even get a SNACK, this is next level LV. No dressing up, no kneeling, stealing her moment she worked so hard for, a shitty handwritten sign. Big yikes She put far more effort into that morning just eating her carefully…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:10 PM
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Guys is it now kingly to be early 20's and have an ED thanks fo overconsumption of porn? Apparently nothing screams "royalty" to these dudes like a man with his pants around his ankles and 3 half hour porn sessions lined up while he tugs his ween, twice a day for a year and a half? That's not what I think of when I think "kingly" but sure, javelin that bar right down into the depths of hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:22 AM
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Ugh it's so disgusting he didn't even go to see if you were ok. I'm sure he "spent the night" with her. Be happy you dodged the bullet and let that living shit show find someone else to drag down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:11 PM
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And some wine of course to really bring it together. Just a note that says "thanks for helping me dodge that one. My condolences, you'll be needing this" then BAM, red wine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:43 AM
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Came here because I was also shocked Pikachu face gif that she'd turn around and not confront him. If that happened to me he'd be awoken to the sound of me packing his bags and putting them out in the hall. Glad she saw what a loser he was and learned some huge red flags in the process. You shouldn't have to subsidize someone else's laziness, ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:51 AM
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Yes, OP saved a lot of time, should send that girl a fruit basket lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:28 PM
115

This went a different direction than I expected. Also love his audacity and hypocrisy in bitching about paying for a single meal (when clearly he expects free sex) and then goes right to wanting her to put him up for the night (and of course she would clean her place so that labor), spend her money and time/skills in the form of giving groceries and cooking for him (guess who is doing 100% of the dishes), spend her whole night in general on him and give him sex (because it would be very much one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:20 PM
18

There was one "no free dates here" ok so you admit you're trying to buy a prostitute for cheap then? Because my $30 dollar plate and water isn't expensive, but a $300 prostitute is. Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:05 PM
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So WhAt If YoU'Ve GivEn Him SeVeRaL, YoU'Ve BeEn ToGeThEr So LoNg So YoU OwE HiM aNoThEr OnE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:29 PM
34

Right?? "I've seen some hard shit" he says, flashing back to the one time his girlfriend told him no and that other time he lost out on a job because a female applicant was more qualified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:28 PM
14

They just take that bar and try inching it lower. Give an inch they'll take a mile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:42 PM
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Or anything really. "Oh you can't blame me for never cleaning, I don't have the CapAcItY. Also it's not my fault I won't get a job and I expect you to subsidize me! LiFe iS O HaRd AD I DonT HaVe TgE CaPaCiTy. I can't watch our kids for more than an hour because I DonT hAVe ThE CapAcITy." All I hear from this post are lazy and scummy excuses as to why men can't learn to be functional adults and partners who actually bring any kind of value. No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:41 PM
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YoU nEeD tO ComProMiSe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:39 PM
102

My first thought exactly I lack the capacity to deal with those who don't meet my reasonable expectations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:38 PM
120

The moment a male says "i HaVe InNeR DeMoNs," that's your cue to peace out. No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:52 AM
27

This is clutch. You're going to remember "oh but that one time he was so cute and did X!" or maybe a single HV trait he has, some quirk you liked. Remember the cold shoulder, the ignoring you, all the bad. You need to really be specific with those emotions and if he had any other dirt bag things he did/said write those down. Remember them when you are tempted to reach out to or answer him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:29 PM
2

You are 100% right, it was exhausting trying to vie for that, dealing with all the bs, the constant disappointment. This will give you an excellent opportunity to just breathe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:06 PM
3

Yes be free! It sounds daunting and scary but you'll soon realize it's empowering. A good relationship is good but a bad relationship is AWFUL. It's so important to find who you are as a person without the influence of another/ wanting to impress. I hope you take this time to find some hobbies/ make new friends/ develop yourself! Good luck on your journey :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:39 PM
49

My ex used to purposefully piss people off in the car because he thought it was funny. A few times he road raged and flipped other drivers off (and they were clearly already angry) with ME IN THE CAR. Like YOU are the problem, they are right to be mad at YOU, and I don't want to get run off the road and die/ get shot by some person you egged on in their JUSTIFIED ANGER at your RECKLESS DRIVING. I have a roommate who says he "loves to drive" and then pitched a whole ass fit with me in the car abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:59 PM
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I'd get him a 100$ ladies only massage coupon so that I could use it myself to destress from his bullshittery, that's his gift. Just kidding, I'd dump, block, delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:37 AM
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That is 100% a drinking problem. If you're well adjusted you won't binge drink, particularly when you could get fired for it. Good dodge on that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:31 AM
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Once I got a cup of froyo and out of nowhere my ex bf asked if I was stress eating 🙃🤡 he got more aggressive about body shaming too, that was just the tip of the iceberg. Shortly after he became less subtle (I was a very healthy weight for my height, ate pretty well and worked out almost daily) Don't tolerate this shit. You should be bailing at the first sign of him negging like this, as he will only get worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:43 AM
10

"also a female" would have been an instant block from me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:46 PM
12

I'm ALSO glad she wasn't "too nice" (as we often are) and follow him out. Love the bouncers for booting his disgusting ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:42 PM
15

A lone beer? Tap or bottled 🤣🤣🤣 I have to know if this relationship ended right after. Tell me it did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:40 PM
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Ugh all the facepalms in the world. Like girl he's gonna do it anyways. He will cheat if he respects you that little to keep forcing this issue on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:35 PM
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WOW thank you so much! So interesting. Big wow to the 12 more kids. Old timey roasting made me chuckle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:33 PM
15

Oh, I thought at first that you were talking about the hetero woman who, in order to shut her nagging bf up, agreed to a (two women, one guy) threesome on the premise that she pick a male to have a (two guy, one woman) threesome with after, to make it "fair." Her bf agreed and they did the deed. Then she started picking out guys and he kept saying no to them. She told him it seemed like he was just trying to get out of the deal and he basically said "yeah I never intended to go through with it, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:20 PM
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I am so curious as to how this worked out for him/ what type of person he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:26 PM
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I am so curious as to how this worked out for him/ what type of person he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:50 PM
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Yes but those scrotes don't have 18 acres, 10 of them SEEDED by god! They certainly aren't offering to buy me hoop skirts and waterfalls either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:31 AM
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I have to disagree. In some cases, I've seen this double standard make them VERY upset (but that was personal experience). Go figure, they still refused to acknowledge why THEM doing it was not problematic It think it varies. Do you have an apathetic scrote? Or a narc? A functional man won't be spending his money on camgirls and obsessed with jacking it, so either response you have yourself a grade A loser who will drag you down and give you porn standards to boot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:25 PM
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Good points There's a different between losing your job and losing your job and becoming a professional leech 🤡 If he's not putting in the work YOU would in that situation, don't do his legwork looking for a job for him and applying. Drop the dead weight. Watch how fast he scrambles to put in effort then 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:18 PM
24

It hurts my heart when I see dudes (or anyone really) squandering all that money when it would be such a life changer for me. UGH. What a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:56 PM
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"He even petulantly throws in that SHE should pay for HIS therapy to fix his entitlement. Omg the audacity!! I really hope she divorces him." "Alright if you won't find money for therapy to fix YOUR spending issues, you'd better hope to find some for a divorce lawyer because here are the papers"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:49 PM
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We need to temper these with imposter syndrome though; women have a tendency to still undervalue themselves and downplay all their efforts/ skills/ value. I agree you should expect to "date in your league" but that's going to also involve a really critical, blank-slate look at yourself to probably confront some hard truths, and also hopefully illuminate some positive aspects once the self doubt or previous insecurities/ imposter syndrome has been cast aside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:59 PM
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Just saw this garbage comment after the article: "However, it is still important to understand wider socio-political and economic factors affecting mens’ attitudes towards women, as opposed to focus upon ‘men’ as the source of the problem" Clearly they are the source of the problem, let's not pretend like them being dick to women over their lifetimes makes them a victim. We can and should find out why it's prevalent but I don't want to hear this nonsensical "don't focus on men as the source of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:08 PM
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Excellent points. I had not heard "underage woman" before, big yikes. That's called a girl, my dude. A child, if you will. They make this so clinical but language is important and they aren't capturing the huge problem; the intent to pull down, subvert someone to keep them tight in your hold because they think they can't do any better. I think even trauma-bonding has the idea of "sharing mutual trauma to cope" versus "I neg her and strongly imply she's fat and ugly once a month so she thinks she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:23 AM
11

Oh I struggle to make/find opportunities for myself (particularly financially). This is a very good point though. If anyone has suggestions, I'd love to hear them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:17 AM
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"he's so smart and refuses to get a job and now I can't pay for food and he keeps losing all our money in trading (read: gambling) and wants to drain me dry for a living so he can pretend he's contributing" Yeah that one was a few days ago. It makes me want to shake these women awake from whatever dumbass stupor they're in. Imagine dealing with this and not immediately shutting this shit down/ getting out of that relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:04 AM
17

You sound like a fantastic parent and ORGANIZED to a fault, which I identify with. All that effort smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:12 PM
36

This is the best response. He has LV behavior (not taking care of himself, gaming what sounds like quite a bit). OP seems to think he's HV because he's "nice" but "nice" isn't good enough. Also sounds like they just about split costs but he makes more than her? No me gusta
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:09 PM
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This is a good point. Also considering men tend to get the far better deal in marriage, why would they want a divorce? They love being lifted up by a woman they drag down. One who bears their children and takes care of them almost exclusively (to your point about the dentist, which was a good example), probably works full time and is the homemaker "50/50 on chores," subsidizes either his stagnant wages and laziness or has to pay 50/50 even though she makes 1/3 what he does. It is a sweet deal fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:15 PM
347

LMAO girl basically. All these Reddit posts like "my husband is a great guy, but sometimes he drains my bank account which he hasn't contributed to, without me knowing, which leaves us unable to pay the mortgage. I've put in 117 job applications for him and he refuses to go to the interviews or get therapy. He eats all my food I bought for myself and doesn't help clean. I just love him so much what do I do???!!?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:00 PM
64

If you had the doors locked and still blocked him RIGHT THERE it would have been amazing. POWER MOVE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:39 PM
176

FOUR alcoholic beverages for himself. FOUR. On a first (real) date (OP says this was their "second date" and she always does a walk date for the first). That's poor form for basically everyone, we aren't here to see you get smashed, Jason. One or two is more than enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:21 PM
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A lot of nopes in that one for me Big red flags Edit to add: dying at "it's a new world." Hope your response was "yeah, a new world where being cheap still won't work out for you" and then you left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:20 PM
57

Agreed. Especially after the comments. You have to handle it right there up front and correct the waiter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:18 PM
186

This is the best answer. Shame, correct the waiter so you at least aren't paying for the scrote, and then peace out and don't even engage with him in any way ever again, even if he sends a nastygram. Let those last words be the last to him and his final memory so he can feel the shame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:17 PM
2

The first one with the porn, big yikes. The last one made me so sad :( Petty as me would rant about that now to him, like "wow a food court date where I also drove, what a special day from a special guy. How my knees are holding up in the face of the overwhelming urge to swoon is BAFFLING. By the way, we're done. Grab whatever shit you have here and get out. I'm spending this day with friends who aren't losers." And then block and delete. I hate that heartbreaking feeling when you've been let do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:14 AM
1

Yes. He took the only food I could eat (considering he also left my seafood out overnight, so that was gone). I was honestly devastated. No breakfast that day, just cleaning the rice all over the floor from the food fight 🤡 I kicked him out that morning, since he refused to acknowledge or apologize and said I was selfish and making a big deal out of nothing, and implying I could stand to lose weight so he did me a favor 🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:07 AM
2

The worst part is there are more stories to this tune. I should write a book. I blocked and deleted him after the breakup (he blocked and deleted me first, then 3 week later unblocked me, I saw it and didn't want the drama so I reblocked but he managed to reach out to me and yell at me for doing WHAT HE JUST DID). He then posted revenge porn. This was before it was illegal in my state, so there was nothing I could do about it and I consulted with a lawyer who said best to drop it. I haven't spok…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:51 AM
19

Then she could respond: BuT iT's JuSt A JokE wHeRe'S yOuR SeNsE oF HumOr DoN'T Be sUcH a SCroTe WhY aRe YoU bEiNg So EMoTioNal lEaRn To tAkE a JokE meN aRe So EmoTioNal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:54 AM
72

I was horrifically ill and had my own apartment. We'd been together over a year. I had the stomach bug that makes you throw up violently for hours, makes your whole body ache, gives you the hots and colds (among other things) and I had nothing I could eat (all my food was flavorful and the thought of garlic noodles almost sent me running for the toilet). I asked my ex if he would stop at the grocery store on the way over for soup, he said sure. A few minutes later I text him back and ask him if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:45 AM
26

"I wouldn't want to spend any money on you!" Ok, bye then 😂 I don't know why he thinks it's attractive to basically start off with "I doubt you and I want to do this transactionally. You don't know what you're missing out on!" Yes we do, a walk date with a cheapskate 🤡 boy, bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:22 AM
20

This is better than mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:51 PM
80

"She doesn't understand how that's a joke" no, YOU don't understand how that's not a joke, which should be simple. It's not funny. Ugh imagine if he called her up and she answered "what's up, scrote," I'm sure he wouldn't have laughed that off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:30 PM
53

Almost self aware lol, still doesn't seem to quite get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:00 PM
53

Yaaas queen 👑 God forbid they also fall into the trap of being treated like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:46 PM
14

"They're not a military colonel" sent me. Accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:56 AM
37

Stealing the word "scrotessa," that made me chuckle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:52 AM
54

Funny you mention this. In my tiny hometown we had an incident of road rage a few years back where a dad and son apparently pissed off an off-duty prison guard who, once they parked in the gym parking lot that was their destination, shot them both. I believe he killed the son and injured the father, son being somewhere in his 20's
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:33 AM
38

YES. Aparna is hardcore. There's one dude later on who is like a potato of a person (you'll see what I mean) and it's legit frustrating af to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:29 AM
29

Others here have already suggested therapy, so I'm just giving examples of what I did personally, which did not involve a therapist (at the time, I had awful insurance). I hit the gym. I spent a lot more time with friends and doing hobbies I enjoyed. I went for walks, went out and made new friends. It took a long time to get over that pain and even a fraction of the anger, but it gets way easier. Once you start having a self-minded recovery, and focus on your own life, it's much easier to excel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:21 AM
89

YAAAS. YAAAAS. BE FREEEEEEE did you officially dump the scrote? Give us all a reason to celebrate! 🎉🎂🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:14 AM
38

Those same guys would neg the SHIT out of you for dull hair, blemishes on the face, if you don't smell like daisies 24/7. You can't win, so might as well do what makes you feel refreshed and happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:35 AM
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You can almost smell how bad their apartments reek, and see the future of how much their pickmes will have to clean up after them and deal with "but why can't you have gravity-defying titties like my waifuuu"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:58 PM
24

Imagine the yellow teefs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:56 PM
6

Sounds like you lost a bunch of weight, him! So he wasn't wrong, you needed to lose that "weight," just not in the way he thought :) Good luck with your recovery! Remember these losers thrive on making you feel lesser so you feel like you can never do better than them. This is a tactic. Next time leave at the first sign of disrespect. Also try the "blood in the water" tactic with something else to start to pick out if you netted another asshole before moving forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:12 PM
140

Well he's got money, so I'm not surprised. Also, go figure, men tend to not take this stuff seriously (unless of course it's their daughter)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:44 PM
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My apartment mate (NVM) has not washed them since we moved in-- a year ago-- and sweats profusely, besides leaving fast food takeout in his room and hoarding all the glasses to dump into the sink (but not wash) a few weeks or months later. You can smell the stink of the unwashed body odored sheets in the hallway, adjacent bathroom, and living room. Now he's sleeping in his boxers in the living room with the tv on and his room light on all night 🤡 thankful to be out soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:20 PM
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Unpaid* construction crew 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:27 PM
54

Lmao I can almost hear that with the slack-jawed tone I'm sure he had while saying it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:14 PM
129

He looks like a bloated thumb with arms. Did he maybe mistake her photo for his mirror like he mistook who tf he was emailing his bullshit to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:49 AM
23

Lol imagine coopting your daughter's 16th birthday party for a first date... Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 09:04 AM
21

Hopefully not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:38 PM
93

Lmao good way to put it. For real, why even have a partner if you aren't going to be decent to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:37 PM
573

Always vet but he's doing great so far! LVM would see this as him being too generous, even though as a woman I'd do the same for my friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:59 PM
23

I honestly am just really frank (and if needed, mean) with them and block/delete them. Life is too short to spare the feelings of men who won't take no for an answer and keep bothering you. To be honest, I also don't use Snapchat or Facebook or insta. Do you find that those apps add value to your life? When you could just use Facebook messenger, for example? Can't help you with the street stalking. I think most of us deal with that still. If it makes you feel safer, wouldn't be a bad idea to dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:40 PM
32

You're missing my shaky eyeliner hand, my shaky brow hand, and my extreme blending!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:41 AM
11

Girl can IIIIII live with you? This sounds like paradise. I can only imagine how beautiful and clean it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:22 AM
109

He said she took 20 min to do makeup, so I know he's lying lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:57 PM
9

what a horrific thing to say. Do you always have filter issues like this? I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:23 PM
23

Lol then where are my 80 sky miles? What an ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:51 PM
44

Also, big yikes to many of the comments in the discussion. Like some men are too dense to understand that we haven't achieved equality on ANY level yet but then they expect us to focus on things that benefit them; i.e. paying for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:50 PM
117

Girl! Yes! Send him a reverse Venmo request "$250 for cut, color, updo, $75 for the dress, $80 for Mani Pedi plus tip, $65 for heels, $6 for the portion of makeup I used, $50/hr for my time spent getting ready and commuting, wasting the time on a date with someone like you- 4 hours so 200, altogether 676, so your half is $338. Oh, and I didn't eat or drink as much as you did, so I'll pay $40 for my share and tip, so you owe me $298"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:41 PM
10

You read my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:38 PM
61

It's gross that somehow he points it back to it being her fault though, like DUDE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:47 PM
167

"that's upsetting but you can't allow her to put you down or hold you back" I'm sorry, what???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:08 PM
34

The weight, tattoo, natural and current hair colors and "have you ever been a man" really did it for me. Launch the whole man into the sun Edit: SOMEHOW MISSED THE ADDRESS PART, I'M SCREAMING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:31 AM
63

Came here to say this. Talking about "body counts" and shit, using girls half naked and twerking as accessories to show their financial status, calling women names and joking about cheating and otherwise devaluing them, and dudes don't bat an eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:56 PM
127

"Neglecting you and the house is a sign of depression and lack of communication on your part. How was he supposed to know playing video games on the couch for three days straight was wrong? How did you expect him to find your clit without a map and flashing neon signs? You know, it's emotional abuse to tell him he can't have midnight conversations with his female friend who sends him bikini pictures and calls him baby with multiple heart emojis." Wow you just summed up so many of these actual co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:36 PM
64

LOUDER FOR THOSE PICKMEISHAS IN THE BACK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:35 PM
8

Thank you! And yes, sadly the pandemic destroyed those near me so I haven't been to a gym since then... Still trying to at the very least find a good environment (not gonna do PF), so I can say I HIGHLY, HIGHLY recommend a ladies only gym. It was a gamechanger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:19 PM
15

Omg when her voice breaks at 11:30, heartbreaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:07 PM
66

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:56 PM
60

Whoa, can you link the volunteering website? I've been struggling to find good opportunities in my area. Also kudos for being a cool cucumber. I have so much respect for how you handled it, and how you're choosing to turn this into a positive long term with setting goals. Your goals are also fantastic. After a breakup years ago I got a membership to a women's only gym (amazing) and got more fit. I started eating a bit healthier, spending more time reading and with friends, and my life improved f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:46 PM
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"You can't judge men for their flaws" but they'll practically bust out a scale to make sure you aren't lying about your weight. We all have preferences. I'd tell them if they like him so much THEY should date him Edit to add: this would build resentment anyways. And you don't "owe" anyone who doesn't attract you a shot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:23 PM
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The sheer scrotery. I had to hold my tongue because it's below me to spend energy on some scrote, particularly one who just wanted to feel justified and not actually see the other perspective/ learn anything, but I was like "this scrote may not have the girlfriend but he certainly still has the a u d a c i t y" To your point, yes, I like how they think dating ANYONE is the goal/ a win. "Yes being single is better than wasting my time and energy on someone who think it's acceptable to spend time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:36 PM
37

Your username is FANTASTIC. And I am frustrated for you, that sounds annoying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:34 PM
34

Only when it's to benefit him I guess :) shocker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:33 PM
142

I'm surprised he didn't use that nice little dodge to pivot into a "but you know what MIGHT make me touch you more sometimes is if you lost 10 lbs and wore some lingerie around the house while you cleaned up after me. That would attract me more and I bet I'd naturally just start to touch you more"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:56 PM
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Wow guys, her boyfriend on occasion even does DISHES or cleanssssss. What a hero. That's not even the bare minimum. I fully expect my partner to share in doing half of the regular chores without being asked, and to do them well. Unless he deep cleaned the entire house impromptu I fail to see how this is some magical thing he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:55 PM
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Just saw a post yesterday about a guy pitching a fit because the girl he was going out with asked if he watched porn, he said yes and she's like "sorry, I'm not interested" and he was like iS ShE jUst BeInG EntItlEd and when basically everyone said "no, she's allowed to have her standards and be comfortable" he would argue back in the comments Clearly was not there to learn, just wanted a pat on the back and an "it's ok for you to jerk off to other women and how dare she feel any type of other w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:36 PM
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Ah, good ole machismo. Interesting for sure. Thank you for the info. I learned some Spanish I didn't want to today lol Edit to add: pinches escrotes (escrotos is scrotum so I tried to keep it scrotey by altering it a bit; pinche(s) is Mexican Spanish for "fucking")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:36 AM
9

You're my hero
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:46 AM
10

Oh man. And look at the upvotes. Women are starting to wake up to this unacceptable behavior. With that check one, I would have asked the waiter to split the bill (my drink on mine only lol) and then left, blocked and deleted. Besides not offering to pay because of all the money I'd already put into date prep and other various reasons discussed at length on FDS, wouldn't be in the 3 entree situation, but if somehow I were I'd also ask the waiter to split the check appropriately to what we had or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:33 PM
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This is definitely more acceptable IMO ; he acknowledges it's for him, you get to pick out something that is more tasteful, that fits right and is not wildly uncomfortable/ unflattering. And not from Spencer's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:14 PM
14

I'm glad you called them out. How did the exchanges after that go? Gimme the juicy deets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:36 AM
52

Is it bad I want to make these into legit trophies and send them out to our lost pickmeisha sisters in preparation for the inevitable shit gift/ no gift their LVMs/NVMs have for special occasions? Because then maybe it will finally resonate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:30 AM
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Lol imagine crying because you game too much instead of spending time with your S.O. and instead of deciding "I should do this less often" you decide "wahhh somehow this is my partner's fault WaaHHHHH." What a scrote lol you dodged a bullet, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:28 AM
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Real emphasis on shitty. It was classless, cheap stuff. This particular little diddy was a florescent pink "lace" pattern, with a lot of skin showing, that had no tata support and connected the two cups via a cheap plastic X looking piece. My ex scrote didn't even have good taste for the gift for himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:14 AM
10

😂😂😂😂 this is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:51 AM
18

Girl yes I know. It probably cost $7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:38 AM
196

Yes. So much of this. You can't complain you've been shot if you're the one who pulled the trigger. Some things in our lives are not our faults but how we react to them ALWAYS is (and, of course, we need to see that most people have had some kind of hand in their own situations/ problems). Everyone makes mistakes, but if you can't acknowledge and own up to them, you won't learn and you won't improve. HVW are always working towards becoming a better version of themselves, and that starts with ide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:30 PM
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I got one from a NVX in my early 20s. Wasn't even good lingerie, he got it from Spencer's 🤡 Should have dumped him right then. Used the shitty lingerie with another guy and then threw that cheap trash out. Don't accept lingerie as a gift. You wearing it is a gift for HIM. A guy even attempting this as a gift is a huge red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:58 PM
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Could you buy a few nice, long term plants to attend to? It's something that brightens up your room and is more long term. You can also hit up a used bookstore, buy a few, buy a nice bottle of wine and chill at home in the bath for the evening. You could make yourself some fancy (and inexpensive) homemade pasta too. As far as general money saving, i LOVE food so I tend to meal prep in big batches with crockpot meals based around chicken and veggies with rice. Saves me the eating out temptation, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:55 PM
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"His life hasn't changed in the slightest" Yes no shit. That cool girl stuff isn't working out for her now, is it? I have a harder and harder time feeling empathy for people who shoot themselves in the foot and then cry that it hurts after. Like yes, no duh "Hey but at least he thinks you're soooOOooo cool"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:47 PM
15

Lmao the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:47 PM
8

Dude. Dude. This karma made me so happy. Please tell me you're a millionaire laughing on a yacht and telling him you're retired already 😂 I wish this for you so hard lolol. Though I still don't understand how he blew that much money even with a pay cut and being able to in theory have enough saved to almost afford a house? Yeah if he can disrespect you like that... Like Jesus, if I make more than my partner and I love him and he contributes why WOULD I want him to work himself to death? It's a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:50 PM
29

Are you sure? I'd think he'd be saying "this success is MINE" and asking her for 50/50. Or maybe he'd only do that after they moved in together, so she could save $50 a month after splitting the expensive place he can comfortably afford, and he can save his 5k a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:44 PM
18

Lmao so accurate it hurts XD he'll rub the cheeks only and then and start going at it. My tension is in my shoulders, asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:24 PM
43

Lol we should honestly just be frank "I'm not spending this money and time preparing for a date when I'm already to be devalued/ paying even more on top of this. Goodbye"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:22 PM
57

This. This this this this. Here let me help out the oppressors who already don't value all the time and money I spent getting prepared for the date with the hair, makeup, nails, clothes, by ALSO paying half, which will probably be me paying more for his $40 dollar steak when I got the $15 salad. Big nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:21 PM
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Equality only works when it's about making men's lot in life even better, did you know? Screw reproductive rights, equal job opportunities and pay, and those women-only issues! /S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:19 PM
2

To be honest, at least he told you the truth about that lol 🚩🚩🚩 Now you can peace oot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:19 AM
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Ew. That's like bragging about eating shit instead of just not having food for dinner. Some people are just that desperate for relationship/ milestone that they think they need to achieve that they don't care how/ what the sacrifice/ consequences are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:18 AM
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🚩when you called him out or brought something up that bothered you, instead of apologizing or even trying to have a discussion he either got angry or slid the topic to something completely unrelated to shift the focus to you 🚩made you do fIfTy FiFty on dates or asked you to pay that for rent and food/ utilities, even though he made more/ you also did most of the house work and cooking 🚩 porn sick 🚩Negged you to try to make you feel like you deserved his treatment/ couldn't do better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:12 AM
4

LMAO let's hope not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:08 AM
3

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:53 AM
29

"I won't pay for you in my old age." Bitch I'm a LUXURY and I'm not free. Fuck right off, I'd be out the door then. That's not a partnership, that's being a warm hole for his dick for free. And to your point, I'd have told the scrote "ok then you can birth and raise the children, and clean your own home. Take care of your own dick too. DEUCES. What a gold digging POS. Imagine loving someone, and they maybe even give you a family, take care of you when you're sick, and then being like "lol I'm en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:51 AM
29

They'll call it baggage and move tf on, is what they'll do. Which, whatever fine, but then don't expect the same. Dude males don't even stay with their terminally ill partners, the statistics on that are bonkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:13 AM
4

Water is tame. Why not some red wine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:11 AM
18

Right? And clearly hungry. "i gave us a $50 budget and you ordered the $35 dollar option." Then he brags about the steak after. What an AH. I hope he gets food poisoning at every restaurant he ever eats at for the rest of his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:11 AM
42

Ah so he wanted you to have only 100 a month leftover (and not as fun money) while I'm assuming he had a couple thousand to put towards whatever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:09 AM
48

Tbf there was an age gap and she was set up from a young age. 19 to what, 28?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:08 AM
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Oof tbh that's painful, he should probably throw another k my way if he wants that level of pain Or like, a vacation to Bali. Then I'll think about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:47 AM
69

Lmao! Basically. I haven't thought of it this way before 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:46 AM
17

Some dumb idiot who thinks on top of all the other shit women do for men, they should also be paying their way also. PFT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:40 AM
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You READ MY MIND. In all these cases the woman is paying more. Like bruh, the woman is already putting more time and money into her appearance. She's already being shortchanged in what she's making at her job and working twice as hard as you. She's already paying extra maintenance costs in the form of feminine hygiene products/ hair, nail, skin care, bras and such. She's already set to be contributing more than you to household labor/ shared mental load/ child bearing and rearing. Now you're gon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:39 AM
53

Funny how it's never struggle love/ ride or die when it's a woman who needs the building up/ help/ affirmations/ front investment put in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:34 AM
4

My fiance told me the allowance to take on more than one partner is allowed IF the husband can provide enough for both, treats both equally. He also said this was intended for times of war, when women were left widowed and needed support
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:44 PM
8

"we could have double the income and I'd have someone to play football with!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:43 PM
22

Lmao so true it hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:32 PM
92

Yep. Free childcare for a kid that isn't even yours 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:49 PM
21

HOT wine? Was this in Germany?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:49 PM
22

You are honestly my hero lol boss bitch status. Me gusta
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:47 PM
26

Lol the only thing I wish you did would be, upon leaving to say "my love language is my partner not being a stupid selfish dickhead, so I guess neither of us are getting what we want"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:54 PM
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I love Simone Biles. She is 100% class
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:47 PM
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I love your Fable icon! Also block the scrote, so pathetic when men try to turn their shit around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:17 PM
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Mine didn't threaten, he just did that. After we broke up mutually (I initiated). Because I moved on with someone else faster than he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:16 PM
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"go to jail then Bob" lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:46 AM
7

That was my first thought exactly. How offensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:50 AM
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Honestly I'm glad you did though? It helped call him out/ really highlight his douchebaggery to your friend. If men start learning there will be uncomfortable and embarrassing consequences to their actions and words, maybe they would stfu more 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:31 AM
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This was an amazing article. Thanks for posting. What was poignant to me (besides the part about the fictional character who should have returned the volley and hit the dude with a "deux petits pommes,," since we all have experiences some disgusting comment or otherwise like that, was: Having identified the problem — women use compulsive overeating to soothe themselves in a world where too many demands are placed on them — she hoped the problem would be solved. It wasn’t. The fact that her book …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:26 AM
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Look how his asswipe spokesman framed this shit: "Cosby’s spokesman Andrew Wyatt thanked the comedian's legal team and the Pennsylvania Supreme Court, calling Wednesday's ruling a moment of justice for Black Americans." "This is the justice Mr. Cosby has been fighting for," Wyatt said in a statement. "They saw the light. He waived his Fifth Amendment right and settled out of court. He was given a deal and he had immunity. He should have never been charged." It's easier for Wyatt to say since he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:13 PM
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So true. Lest we not forget she was always conventionally "hot" to start with but wore looser clothes, and a ponytail, was still always kind and had goals/ambitions outside of being a GaMeR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:46 PM
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I very deeply hope hope the 17% who said no are rendered infertile and are constantly made to feel shame about their own bodies until the light bulb goes off in their dark, empty, simple little noggins
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:37 PM
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Ew what is this sad garbage Was she trying to make that seem cute? He has kids and is presumably married? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:34 PM
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I really like your point about not listing your "checklist" or deal breakers, as people who are not compatible with you but are looking for a hookup/ interested in you on a more shallow level will still try to make a move or put on a façade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:08 PM
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This is a fantastic response I hadn't thought of. Petty ass me would destroy them and replace them with the least flattering (and if possible nude) photos of him possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:09 AM
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Because somehow also BiOloGy like women naturally want to date 30+ years their senior or some double standard stupid bs like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:04 AM
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This made me so happy, love when fellow women get that 🗝️ You got me good. Congrats on your house! From the little I can see it looks lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:02 AM
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What stood out to me was there was already an age gap (5 years is a LOT when the woman is 18; difference between being in high school vs having graduated college and worked for 2 years). He fixated on her looks immediately (love at first site). He is not even slightly apologetic nor does he demonstrate any worry about his wife or her feelings with his emotional cheating and him preparing to divorce her to upend their family so he can date a way younger woman who generationally has almost nothing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 09:58 AM
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yeet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:59 PM
7

This killed me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:40 PM
11

Can't even watch it because I know it will piss me off too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:39 PM
8

Bruh. Then we aren't compatible. Why do they think they have to comment in a standard women want? If they don't meet it, they can move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:50 PM
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"it seems like every single man is a LV pig who doesn't respect you and will keep you around until their dream girl comes around and you are a placeholder only" So close to some awareness. Almost there. I love how she thinks vetting and being cautious means you're an ice queen. Good luck out there to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:49 PM
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Well worded af. Hard agree to all of this. Edit to add: love that this was downvoted because someone out there apparently also has a stockpile of teens dancing and now HOPEFULLY they feel called out. Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:42 PM
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I didn't even think about this, good catch in the love bombing. I bet if OP brought it up he would either "but it's no big deal" it, or he'd lie and say "yes I'll stop" and be sneaking/ back to it within a month. Like, I can find other people besides my partner attractive but I don't dedicate a social media account to watching barely legal boys dance around in jock straps or some shit, I don't know why people normalize this. And he FOLLOWS them so in some ways it's worse than porn IMO. He probab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:41 PM
18

Don't I wish 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:24 AM
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We don't talk about the sunken cost fallacy enough. I had issues hopping out of unhealthy relationships a few times because of how much time and effort I'd put in or what we "went through" together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:21 AM
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You just need to CoMmUniCaTe or how else would he know being a selfish asshole who pushes all the labor off onto you is making you upset? HoW CoUlD hE POsSiBlY KnoW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:20 AM
46

"Their scrotacity has gone to plaid!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:15 AM
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And yet so many women get impregnated by scrotes. I need the eggs to up their game a bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:24 PM
99

Probably could hardly stand the sex. Jfc I'm about that age and having sex with an 80 yo? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:11 PM
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And I'm sure they pay FiFty FifTy (though much less of a burden on her than average women, who don't have millions, but still)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:10 PM
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I believe it WILL. He knows what he's doing (he just doesn't care) I never name call my partner and would not throw in something men are insecure about to insult him. This dude probably can't fix this about himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:04 PM
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I know! This really stood out to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:03 PM
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So close to being self aware! SO CLOSE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:38 PM
14

I was shocked she even entertained them staying together after repeated verbal abuse meant to destroy her self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:07 PM
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"Whenever we have a small misunderstanding, he calls me a nasty name like fat bitch and much worse. He’s fat-shamed me for a while. He’s even said that everyone else has babies and loses their weight fast." Calling a woman fat is one of the lowest blows because society is ridiculous, and he knows this. He wanted it to hurt. If my guy and I got in an argument and he throws this in even once, it's done. Can't believe she tolerates this MULTIPLE TIMES. What an asshole Edit to add: shortly after she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:07 PM
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Ew I hate him. He paid for their meals once (I hope) so does she now get to use his debit card every time she goes out to eat for the rest of her life since he consented once? This guy gives me rape vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:17 AM
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So interesting that "rules for thee but not for me" is something actually believed in by this guy and his band of merry morons. Imagine saying "men only cheat because their partners aren't hot enough" is better than "women cheat because they're ignored emotionally and found a connection" Cheating is ass no matter your sex and one isn't worse than the other-- they both amount to the same betrayal. The fact that he can put everyone cheating into a box like that by biological sex and not realize ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:52 AM
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I don't doubt it. Just don't let him weasel his way back into your life with more false promises, because once he realizes "wow I really fucked up and look at all she did for ME" he's gonna try to dangle the carrot. I validate tf out of you! You did great for leaving his ass and getting yourself a ring. Use that ring like a superpower to repel that NVM back to the pits from whence he came XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:23 PM
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So proud of you. He sounds NEGATIVE value. Used you for sex, used you for cash, I assumed you cleaned, he kept promises he kept reneging on, and then bullied you to the point where he said he was open to a discussion and you were too worried about the fallout because he can't behave like an adult or empathize like a mature individual. Good riddance. If you ever think about taking him back ("oh but I did enjoy this ONE time three years ago!") I want you to look at that goddamn beautiful ring you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:27 PM
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Love your username, but also that make a lot of sense. Regardless, she's profiting off of it and people tend to toss their morals out the window for large stacks of cash It's in her best interest to separate her platform to show how "woman-friendly" it is to draw more business away from other apps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:15 PM
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Interesting. I saw it as a way to curtail the nastygrams from men you don't want, while also being able to pick (based on looks and profile) someone who you think you'd like. So basically, a way to weed out most of the noise/ horny dudes mass emailing trying to get laid. I also have no experience with OLD though (don't quite know if Tinder is so different). But yes excellent point, now it's like vying for THEIR attention and then you lose a lot of the ability to have that initial interaction and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:09 PM
4

My first thought before I'd read all your posts was Chris Watts! He just wanted to cheat on her and not deal with kids after. Betty had a very different motivation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:04 PM
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Totally agreed. Her kids have been brainwashed too. It's pretty sad. There is a good piece on YouTube about it, and the sympathy in this case is quite divisive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:04 PM
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I think the psychologist basically also said something to the tune of "ok but clearly these were abnormal circumstances and the only person she was a threat to is gone now"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:11 AM
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I don't feel bad at all for him, or his pickmeisha. He stole her life from her, ruined her relationships with family and friends, dragged her through the mud and humiliated her after he'd sucked her dry. The pickmeisha was complicit in ruining another woman's life. They didn't expect her to snap, and kept pushing her over and over again. They fucked up hard. He took away everything from her, and then we're shocked when she acts like a woman who has nothing left to lose and with a score to settle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:10 AM
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Ahh I see! I wasn't sure how that worked eating out. Honestly I think turning off the likes counter and such is so good; it allows us to stop getting that "dopamine" rush that is training us to try to put forth hive-mind material to appeal to the masses versus being our authentic selves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:06 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but can't steak be halal? I know all pork is haram but thought any meat could be halal if the animal is killed properly. I really liked your point about not giving them info on jobs or mutual friends because so many are creepy stalkers, and I can only imagine the shame they'd try to wield over you or lies they'd tell to coerce you into a sexual relationship with them after to avoid stalking/ harassment/ stalking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:17 AM
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This is such a great post, and I loved the anecdotes. We've all been here. I'd like to add my own; asked an ex (just after graduating college, so I was a young pickmeisha) to stop making snide comments about my weight, in what was a much more nice way than he deserved for how he'd bring it up (I was at a healthy BMI and worked out a lot, he'd poke my thigh and say "jiggle, jiggle" or pinch skin under my chin and say "oink," or if I ate anything that wasn't like raw beans, scrambled eggs or veggi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:07 AM
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The Good Place is a great series. Love Michael. We should always strive for OURSELVES to keep learning, keep active (wherever possible) and develop our own hobbies and such. We should also try to help others when we can, and be the kindest we can (in appropriate situations, obviously don't be kind to AH's) Our partners should reflect that; you will naturally tend to pick up characteristics from them, you don't want someone who is just content to scrape by
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:38 PM
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I hope those women see this and take these assholes that THEY SUPPORTED to the cleaner's. As we see here, 6 figures can't buy you a personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:57 PM
15

"play me like a violin"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:17 PM
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Right, until men are expected to maintain the same level of hygiene and fitness as women, get paid 4/5 what we make, lose job opportunities because they are seen only as either "bitchy" or a pushover, until men have their bodies policed and can get pregnant, until men are the ones taking the bc that insurance doesn't have to cover, until men have to have curfew to avoid being harassed and assaulted, we are NOT equal so I'm not going to PAY like we are. Notice, this is not addressing the MANY ine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:31 PM
5

Hmm could your recommend any other FDS-aligned podcasters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:17 PM
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I feel classier even thinking about it lol "THIS IS WHAT BACH WOULD HAVE WANTED*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:52 PM
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Nope because It'S tOtAlLy NorMaL and CoOl and HiP tHat I WanT tO bE aBuSeD dUrInG SeX
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:44 PM
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Ah yes I can't have good sex and cum without my hot cocoa and marshmallows, being tickled and sniffing flowers while classical music plays in the background. I need my partner to bop me like a rock em sock em bopper while a criminal throws bricks through my home windows near the landscaping company I hired that's cutting down my tree. I have to put out a cigarette on my partner and throw it into a trashcan, where it promptly starts a house fire. It's the only reasonable way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:31 AM
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Some scrote in the YouTube comments (I know, I know, shouldn't have even looked" said that because he did this it must be because the ex made him crazy so she also shares responsibility for HIS actions, and that someday the daughter will come to love and understand him still instead of "letting this drive a wedge between them." Not even kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:08 PM
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Imaging birthing and raising a whole ass person for them to be a creepy failure who then has the nerve to disrespect you over the phone and walk away like "I told HER"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:02 AM
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Imagine hoping into a relationship when the man actively says he's going to leech you dry and provide no value to YOU. Weird that that would be his selling point? Basically the equivalent wouls be like us saying to them "I'm tired of working out, looking nice and maintaining hygiene, I'm gonna live in my own filth and expect you to be super attractive." How do you think that'd go over? Good selling point to a potential date? I think not. That idiot needs therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:41 AM
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"wanting to get married so you can say you're married" YES. YES. You hit the nail on the head. Parading around that someone is married while we don't even stop to ask "what type of relationship" is so sad. It's basically when the woman is panicking about whether or not she's worth ANY love from anyone, and settles out of fear of being alone We see so many of these, and it's just the end result of constant pushing of the messages "you have to have kids young," "you'll hit the wall at 30," and of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:38 AM
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This was very well written, and so true. This needs to be the message we give girls and women. Because when we are young we are all learning; but at a certain point, he knows what he's doing. He sees you cleaning the bathroom, cooking, doing x y z labor. He knows you took the kids for HOURS so he could game or hang out with friends. He knows you put a lot of thought into the very him-specific gift you got him for his birthday, those reservations you made at his favorite restaurant. He knows how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:22 PM
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This should be a top comment. Hurts how accurate this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:54 PM
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I love your (non) response. Can you explain a bit more about that tax? It's like a property tax on top of rent and they'd get a reduction for living with a student? Edit to add: besides all the other perks, and my above question, sounds like he'd be saving 25% and still wants it to be less by asking YOU to take on HIS costs. What an honor. "wHy IsN'T ShE ChOmpInG aT ThE BiT tO PaY FoR Me?" The a u d a c i t y
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:02 AM
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I think we all have. I'm currently learning that with a roommate lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:53 AM
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No worries, I can literally name hundreds of things off the top of my head that I'd spend money on first XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:46 PM
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OPPORTUNITY COST is really that hidden cost that we can't really easily put a dollar on, but can be very significant over a lifetime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:52 PM
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Take this poor woman's gold and spread the word of "what is this fuckery" across the world pls 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:50 PM
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Oh my god girl I don't even want to think about it. Not as much as you, but I've blown thousands, tens of thousands trying to impress LVM and get them nice things and clean up their mistakes. Not anymore though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:47 PM
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Don't read the YouTube comments from pathetic scrotes. "Ex must've driven him to this." "Men get the raw end of the deal I'm marriage and lose money that they disproportionately worked for." "The daughter will have a good relationship with her dad some day when the mom butts out." "I bet both exes are peaches" These men should be put on and island where they can't be around women. 0 perspective. I'd like them treated as women are for a few years and see how they like it. These particular men wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:09 AM
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Right which is how he made the knee jerk reaction of going to the bank, hassling the tellers to specify he needed 800 dollars IN PENNIES, for which he had to get 1600 rolls of pennies (.50 per roll), open each one, put them in his car, drive over and still make a scene. You know, like a normal upset person does If I don't even do this to Sallie Mae or the IRS, he can contain himself. This took planning, effort and a new level of childish vindictive pettiness Edit to add: it looks like he rented …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 AM
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My first thought lmao Like have you seen what women are expected to do in bed? Gymnastics and shit? Wtf you talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:28 AM
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You make a good point. But tbh I think this is a good first step. All guys should live life in our shoes under different areas to understand better and maybe turn on the lightbulb. His self congratulatory "guys guess what IIIII discovered!" is where I take issue. Also I can't help but notice there's no apology to women that he apparently just didn't believe us before or thought we were exaggerating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:53 PM
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Right! Lol never goes this way does it???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:35 PM
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I like this. Only feel bad if you end up not taking as much as you are legally entitled too. Fuck his feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:35 PM
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You don't need the edit to explain yourself. Most people with a working brain know what abuse is and wouldn't DM a stranger with NO info to insist that stranger is lying for some reason. Don't feel bad. Abuse AND leaving you for your "best friend" (think you forgot "ex"), take him to the cleaners. People like him seem to never get karma. You have the chance to be the karma. Listen to your lawyer and don't think about his "remember this one time I did a nice thing?" bullshit. Remember the abuse .…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:34 PM
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That 1/10 is the one who is too embarrassed or afraid to admit it, has only been in high school for a single day, or otherwise doesn't recognize sexism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:26 PM
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To your point, it's an experiment he can exit and go back to his normal life of PROBABLY little to no harassment. That must be nice. He might mention it to his buddies or ladyfriends for ally points, but I'm wondering how vocal he will be? Will he call out sexist attitudes of friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:22 PM
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True, but I will say I prefer this "oh SHIT" moment of realization, even if it requires firsthand experience, over continued ignorance. Maybe this will be the thing that helps him take women more serious? One less man who thinks women exaggerate here or have all the "dating privilege"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:00 PM
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"I'm a cheap old perv who refuses to acknowledge the developmental and experience differences that make an age gap relationship inherently imbalanced but LoVe Is LoVe"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:22 PM
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This is really great. I'm glad there's an artist making eye-catching statements for all to see, and I like that there's a different message under each
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:25 PM
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HAHAHAHA 🤣🤣🤣 you aren't wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:37 AM
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"My plumbing is much more complex. You wouldn't understand." They probably wouldn't either. How many of them do you think know the difference between a vulva and a vagina?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:20 AM
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"he's so sweet! He even asked if I was OK after he socked me in the eye!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:18 AM
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I don't want it for a day. I want it for a full year. Enjoy the more long term problems of pay issues, lack of mobility up the corporate ladder, your patience deteriorating day after day while you continue to deal with this shit while some scrotes say you're a man-hating psycho and ignoring the point where you state "I just want to be treated with respect by men and to be left ALONE*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:12 AM
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I'm glad you posted this. It's nice that "oh now he understands" but why did he doubt in the first place? Has he not seen HUNDREDS of women online talking about this same issue? I can't diss someone for trying it themselves because I think that gives the best perspective, but acting like "oh did you KNOW" about it is so frustrating and really a slap to all the women WHO HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:11 AM
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And bragging that he didn't buy her a single thing so it can't be him being a sugar daddy. Good lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:03 AM
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Agree! You don't have to be flawless bit you should have your problems really being worked on and be trying to get to a point where you aren't bringing potential issues into a relationship and setting yourself up for failure/abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:45 AM
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Jesus, that's awful. I can't even imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:40 AM
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Wow "taking you out for a 50/50" date huh XD What a gEnTlEMaN. The audacity of scrotes, I tell you. Imagine doing the reverse Example; sorry about the argument babe, this week I'll do the chores to make it up to you Oh but also you'll do half of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:26 PM
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Slayed me with this one. "Guys, I did something NICE for someone else besides ME for the first time!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:21 PM
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HAHAHAH fuck this man. He has no right to your organs. This is karma coming back. Don't do it, you will regret doing it, I guarantee. Tell him he "just wasn't good enough" as a father growing up. He let you live in poverty. Tell him maybe his rich gf can buy him a new kidney or whatever it is. Is the world a better place with him in it? My guess is no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:06 PM
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It's hard to enter government as woman. As you can see, discrimination based on sex is alive and VERY well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:04 PM
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Thank you for all your efforts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:03 PM
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Remember the outrage at a FAKE bill mandating men get an entirely reversible operation done once they already have a bunch of kids/ are a certain age and they flipped shit? It's like imagine that but ALL THE TIME AND WAY WORSE. You think a forced vasectomy is bad, try forced pregnancy! With the risk of death, long term health complications, your genitals being slowly stretched and ripped open, sometimes teeth lost, all the medical bills, peer judgment before and after pregnancy, and ladies, feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:29 PM
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And also don't want women to be allowed to have abortions. Like Jesus at least make SOME sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:27 PM
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100%. I think asking this question in the first place shows you either need to work on yourself/self esteem because something's going on upstairs, or that your relationship is probably not as good as you think it is/want it to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:41 PM
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I think the antidote to this is to 1) obv stop being with scrotes, and 2) changing the narrative, but most importantly 3) stop seeking approval 1) self explanatory, don't be with a man who values you less than other women, duh 2) We feed into the "beauty is the most important thing" narrative which reinforces to ourselves that we must be conventionally attractive. NO. BAD. A better question would be based upon value as a person, a whole individual with MULTIPLE facets 3) Words are important, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:39 PM
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Right? COME INTO OUR LOVING ARMS, WE PROVIDE HARD TRUTHS AND EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:29 PM
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Why am I not surprised? Well I'm sure you have friends who know the real story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:28 PM
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Girl you need to leave him and work on your mental health. You can't find your HVM if you are also dealing with all this trauma, and honestly screw dating, the most important aspect is YOU and working through this for yourself and to better your life. There are a lot of problems you have right now, and once you ditch the fool you can address your traumas better. I'm really sorry about what you're going through/ your assault. If your friend had this happen to her though, what would you advise her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:37 PM
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Right? Like maybe you should start charging him if he's gonna be such an AH. Charge for childcare and chef duties too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:15 PM
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My only reticence is I want to see one that's "low stress," for example child free with a HVM, and one that's high stress, kids and a LVM/NVM who she also basically has to raise. I bet you'd see a huge difference between the two women but not one between the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:13 PM
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Imagine the audacity Just picture it I would immediately throw the whole man out Edit to add: pissed that some people are focusing on his "eating disorder." Yes clearly he has issues with food but so do most women I've ever met? Join the club???? And also women with eating disorders not only RARELY take others' food, but I've never read one where they take it from their children and then laugh about it???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:32 AM
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THIS. I had to triple take. So clearly he insults her normally and she continues to reproduce with him. "It's fine if he insults me privately just not in front of his friends" NOOOO no no no NOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:31 AM
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If I read it correctly, 4th is on the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:30 AM
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She's on kid 4 with pregnancy 3 🤡🤡 with this guy who clearly is so patient, loving and HELPFUL 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:30 AM
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What struck me was "I'm OK with insults." Why???????? And also that's she's pregnant again with this loser and is just 22 🤡 Would bet a lot that she has low self esteem/ was groomed. Homegirl needs to gtfo of there and fix her shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:29 AM
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But kind of wholesome you were friends with them! Yay other women! I'm glad it backfired on him 😂 Now he gets to play third wheel instead of you, as intended
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:44 AM
44

Correction- not BUYING him food after he ate what she prepared and then didn't warn her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:40 AM
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Honestly if you're never having kids, I personally think that would be the best path long term, even if you accrue dog care costs for a bit. You'll also feel much more secure about any scenarios such as (as fucking awful as it is) outcome of rape, or even a consensual sexual partner then strong arming you into keeping an unwanted fetus. Ultimately the way I see it is by getting the procedure you'd be assuring yourself that your reproductive power stays yours in all circumstances. Whatever you ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:04 PM
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I was gonna say, she'd better countersue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:07 PM
23

UGH that must have been frustrating and mortifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:16 PM
49

Did your ex scrote pick a fight with your landlord too? I've dated some doozies but never one that did that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:39 PM
50

Did I write this post? Are you my long-lost sibling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:38 PM
25

I am proud of you! And glad you're out of that situation. Your pregnancy helped you wake up and make good moves; from what I see in my narrow scope online, you're an outlier for sure. I wish you and your kid the best :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:38 PM
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True. It's just frustrating. I want to shake some sense into them. Or take over their brain for a day to start repairing their dumpster fire lives (in one easy step! Dumping the ass) I was a pickme at one point too but I grew out of it before FDS, so it hurts to see when women don't escape the trap and make these obviously horrendous, irreversible choices, with lifelong negative consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:36 PM
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At least it was only 6 weeks. Some women are with their mistakes for years, or have babies with said mistakes. But that's ass. It's good you saw that behavior early on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:59 PM
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Lol she should save that for proof and tell him "excuse me, I'm having a discussion with the other adult. You know, the one who works and deals with finances." When women in their late 20's/ early 30's have babies with these dudes I always wonder what the absolute fuck is going through their heads. Hope she ditches his ass Edit to add: funny he's the big man when it comes to concerns over taking away from his free ride, but he can't lift a finger to work (nor, I assume, to cook or clean. What an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:04 PM
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"The poll was soon taken down" tells you all you need to know about their particular brand of ignoring and mistreating women while expecting the benefits to a society that women could have provided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:37 AM
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Some crazy statistic came out wherein they said about 40% of cops participate in DM? And that's just recorded incidents too, I believe... No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:07 PM
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If I said what I think of this man or this system, I'd be banned, so suffice it to say, I will zip the lips. The most important part anyways is that I'm so sorry for that woman and her family. The system failed yet another woman so egregiously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:59 AM
21

Is DTMFA dump that mfing ahole XD that's all I could think of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:55 AM
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"Being with a man who cannot provide is not a badge of honor" YASSS PREACH🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:49 PM
41

RIGHT??? I'm nice. I also have hobbies, work out, have a degree, have moved up in my field and work OT, can cook well, can speak another language, etc etc. And you know what else? If I get turned down, I might be bummed out but I know I'm not entitled to the romantic interests of others Edit to add; all the common areas in my house are clean and I don't need a partner to micromanage being a clean human being nor even remembering dates and shit. Almost like I have the ability to out in MINIMAL EF…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:09 AM
23

Yep, same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:16 PM
32

Seriously, what moral high ground do they have? If she tried yanking out a catheter I wanna see these same idiots bitching at the men who complain and calling them fat misogynists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:33 PM
14

Now he knows what it's like to be a woman. Also planning some dates and starting the conversation is hardly the backbreaking, "amazing bf" flex he thinks it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:11 PM
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I SAW THIS EARLIER. Insane. Stalks her for MONTHS and harasses her, cuts her lines for communication and entertainment, REPEATEDLY slashes her tires? Idk how this isn't at least a few years in jail and like 10k paid to her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:59 PM
40

HAHAHA, the best and only response to this entire women-hating, future fantasy garbage he spewed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:55 PM
52

*NVM FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:54 PM
138

Wow, wonder why he's never been kissed. What a mystery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:53 PM
18

While it's her choice, I gotta caution the ladies out here: don't do it. You're tying yourself to that guy for the rest of your life It's not a good move, find a HVM or get sperm samples, idc, but don't have the offspring of a NVM/LVM. It can and usually will make your (and your child's) life harder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:23 PM
62

And possible pregnancy, costs and pain of abortion, while they vote for people who try to repeal our rights! Gotta love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:45 PM
4

My partner and I were just talking about how there were warning signs/ times where his jokes went too far and he KNEW it. It's all speculation, but also a stretch to believe this is the first time this kind of thing has happened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:36 PM
266

Still more effort than my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:39 AM
47

I saw this earlier, in addition to the color red (lol). Imagine birthing his child only to realize he's a scrote. Imagine watching your partner endure hours of unimaginable, unbearable pain and being in such a state that they cry out to their dead mother, THEN turning that into the joke. Where is that funny? The only joke here i see is the husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:14 PM
12

Don't get em started on deciding for a second 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:33 PM
37

Ignoring what a fool this guy is, because it literally affected the big doofus, the "I didn't want a baby and he did, so we had it because I thought tying myself to this controlling asshole for the rest of my life was a good idea and he would grow to love me and the baby he didn't want eventually" thing is so so ridiculous and I see way too often. It's OK to abort and GTFO of that relationship to try having one with, you know, not a NVM. I seriously can't fathom why some people make the serious …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:09 PM
85

Much better upgrade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:48 PM
104

Whenever you miss the good parts remember this. If he wanted to, he would sis. He ain't the one. I'd bet good money you did something lovely/ bought him a pricey gift/ treated him well for his birthday. Remember, LVM can still have HVM traits. That does not mean they are HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:48 PM
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This was very well thought out and put. I hadn't thought of this. I think they're just stingy b*tches and some of them can hear the voice of their conscience dying in the distance as they mask their cheapness under "equality" when you know damn well they aren't protesting in favor of women's bodily autonomy, preaching about domestic violence and rape issues, fighting for equality of opportunity and fair pay for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:40 PM
12

My roommate once tried to argue that I was gaslighting him 🤡 why? Because I called him out on his shit. I couldn't take him seriously anymore and left the conversation until he'd had time to get his emotions under control to have a civil conversation, one based in reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:31 PM
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"I disagree" and "I don't take responsibility for that" are the two most powerful ones, IMO. Ex. A man gets upset when your reject him: "Your standards are too high if you want a man who doesn't watch porn." "I disagree." Also powerful and consistent on FDS; walk away and let them stew. Their own whacked sense of reality is their own problem. I got a nastygram a few weeks ago from some loser scrote, read one insulting sentence and then logged that away. He wrote PARAGRAPHS. I didn't even deign t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:49 PM
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ESPECIALLY not a baby, that'll just tie you to them for the rest of your life/ put more stress on your plate Have never ever ever understood why anyone would even begin to think it's a good idea to have a baby in a rocky relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:50 AM
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Waiting for an article that says "64% of women believe men should be the ones to be pregnant and give birth and enjoy the inequitable amount of housework/ mental load expectations on them, but 76% also think that men would not be nearly capable enough" But no let's focus on the REAL inequality, ie. women sometimes having their dates pay for them. That's what should be written about /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:23 PM
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If you dissect that just a wee bit you'll notice the sentiment isn't asking her to orgasm for her own pleasure, but for his. Him making her orgasm proves how skilled he is in bed and him trying to coax it with that verbiage (which many of us have heard before) is basically trying to make him feel like he can make her orgasm on command. To your point, with minimal participation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:19 PM
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I mean what well adjusted adult doesn't? It's a necessary expense like food or housing, and such a smart investment of money /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:13 PM
49

Makes more money and will have more job opportunities/ advancement than us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:31 PM
69

It feels like they want to feign some sort of innocence in their lowering the bar down to hell and pretending that they are just so chivalrous at heart that it hurts to ask for this, but they just want to see eQuAlItY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:31 PM
61

I am gonna start using "brokey" ahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:25 PM
2

Ooh I wouldn't have thought of this. Good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:18 PM
2

I really wanna see the entire thing and how they broke this down, I'm interested in the numbers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:48 PM
209

"I'm not gonna turn into a fucking simp" oh boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:39 PM
12

Something tells me we don't want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:38 PM
48

Would also like to add: wHy WoN'T wOmEn DaTe MeeEEEeEe scree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:17 PM
71

Who TF wants to just get a "free meal" while going on a date? They're missing the point completely. I could just pay for it myself then instead of having an awkward ass meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:16 PM
62

This is the same fool who will degrade women who aren't "effortlessly beautiful" down the road, and/or partake in an expensive hobby such as gaming that he won't think twice about spending hundreds of bucks on a month. No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:06 PM
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That's the thing. If they are unable to or unwilling to have an open and honest conversation that can be uncomfortable and to acknowledge and confront issues that they may have caused (like a mature adult), you're wasting your time, energy and throwing it into a pit whole stressing yourself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:23 PM
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I've never really considered this, this is a great point. It's not even so much about needing to stand out as it is to separate from the vapid, "annoyingly girly," "nagging wife" etc tropes we so often see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah and it's worse when you consider their whole argument of "iT'S dIsTrACtIng" Oh, but Kevin in a crop top and booty skirt is totally not distracting, apparently. Maybe it's because we hold women to some expectations and we let men blame it on women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:41 PM
48

I saw this. Imagine having your photo RUINED like this (particularly the plaid), being made fun of and having them imply you're immodest because of an inch of cleavage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:38 PM
36

Ain't that the way 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:28 AM
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Oh my god imagine this moment being captured and aired on TV and put on the internet for all time. What a douche
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:37 AM
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I used to be one of these. I thought it made me "cool" and "chill" but always sucked my self esteem. Then I realized that I didn't do that to them-- didn't follow crazy "masculine" mostly nude models, hearting all the pics. I'm sure if I had, all of a sudden it would have been "a problem." It's basically porn sickness, but in the form of photos where there are small pieces of cloth, so no thanks on that one. If he's wasting his time drooling over other women rather than doing something productiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:10 AM
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This is a really good way to put it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:54 PM
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This sounds fantastic. I need more you energy! I am always busy and fulfilled (usually too busy, I have some time consuming hobbies and good friendships outside of work) BUT I could use some more motivation to really professionalize myself at work and be a boss bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:53 PM
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This stood out to me too Like yes Becky, we don't like how lazy, entitled and abusive so many men are nowadays. We like the good ones, sure, but until the problems are fixed and the majority men live up to LOW BAR STANDARDS and dating becomes less dangerous to women, whYYYYYY wouldn't we want a space to vent frustrations and discuss red flags so other women aren't hurt/abused? The point whooshed right over her head, and she ALMOST HAD IT. SHE WAS RIGHT THERE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:10 AM
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Congrats! What was your field of study? I hope to get mine someday soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:51 AM
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Love the one that admits his gf broke up with him due to FDS standards pulling back the curtain and-- gasp -- revealing he's a LVM/NVM. Gotta love that instead of actually maybe doing some self-searching and asking the question "could it have been something wrong with MEEEE????!!" he jumps straight to (here implying) that his hurt and breakup affect him and are not his own fault in any way, conveniently ignoring the exploration of what he did/didn't do to earn the dumping, which fantastically il…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:57 PM
71

LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:34 PM
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If only. Sad that we'd have to do this so women could take control of their bodies, but hey, if iT's a WhOlE LifE who has rights to my body, OVER ME I GUESS, when we even grant more rights to literal fucking corpses, then the least we should do is push for some kind of semblance of shared responsibility. So life insurance should start coverage for the cell clump as well, and the food stamps, plus the tax benefits... Errythang. Fuckhead anti-choicers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:26 AM
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100% correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:28 PM
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But so so true. Most of us learn to do and cope with so much, yet never drawing and respecting our own boundaries, identifying and executing on bad behavior from a partner, or just calling out men I am sure none of us had this wisdom until we'd bumped into at least 1 or 2 exemplary garbage LVM, but we should be teaching this to women out of the gate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:19 PM
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I drank that koolaid of ex wife= bad and "well HE earned the money" until I grew up and saw the inherent economic power imbalance, PARTICULARLY decreased earning potential as a SAHM in a world where daycare costs more than the pittance that most full time jobs are willing to pay. Like unless she sat around on her ass instead of doing SAHM tasks (I have to imagine a lot of this is projection because I don't know of any SAHM's who don't do MORE than their 8 hr day of child rearing, house cleaning,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:01 PM
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This went in a different direction than I thought it would; I've never considered the sexual subservience implications of this (also, was that a thing back then? I thought sex was more tame as porn was and was less widely available) For me, I think of traditional women's roles and think of all the men who want a bangmaid but one who ALSO goes 50/50 even though he doesn't help out much (or at all) with household chores, kids, etc, doesn't come home to help with traditionally male chores (woodwork…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:54 PM
3

What a scrote thing to say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:26 PM
9

Then they'll try to make legislation decriminalizing rape because somehow men are the reeeeaaaallll victims, or some such equally absurd bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:27 PM
37

Was just thinking this. Staying silent because I don't want to get FDS in trouble for the life I hope for for this "man"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:44 PM
21

Lol it's a race to the bottom with these pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:50 PM
9

Totally agree on your first point. Omg the arrogance. There are so many beautiful countries with lovely people, art, culture, food. It's akin to insisting Ritz crackers are the best food ever when they'd never tried anything else like PIZZA Girl I get it. Top 5 needs for my HVM include needing to allow me to drag him (and him wanting to come) to whatever country I want. I hope to move abroad within the next few years. Also, I love your username so so much ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:43 PM
6

I love where he was basically like "and don't think that YOU dumped MEeeEEEee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:13 PM
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Dude. This. I was trying to describe to my fiancé LVM/NVM are a special type of NV/LV in the US. That mid level management one hits hard. Lest we not forget all the work they did to get that position; "confidence of s medicore white man" mistaken as competence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:50 AM
3

I thought this was Tom Brady for a hot minute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:47 PM
3

This is actually a really good idea tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:32 AM
8

I pulled that name out of my ass so the fact that this literal exact thing was observed by someone on this thread who read my comment is hilarious. The Samantha apple didn't fall far from the Samantha tree Goddammit Samantha Jr and Sr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:12 AM
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Our ex president is a SHINING example. Also imagine being butthurt about a woman wanting to keep her last name when dudes literally claim the whole name of the child their partner literally fucking made XD the A u d a c i t y
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:45 PM
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There's a reason there are no "Samantha Jr." little girls running around; women tend not to be that level of narcissist. A girl would still be his bloodline but this shows he sees women just as incubators (and probably housemaids and "50/50" partners even though she does most or all of the housework and child rearing). This is the kind of dude to freak tf out when he sees the sonogram and the doc tells him it's a girl. This is also probably the dude who then (if he even gives two shits about his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:52 PM
5

Me still looking for the men that paid for me in my teens and twenties 🤔 Ladies, these are the men you don't even talk to. They can masturbate alone and wonder why women don't like them and won't make families with them. Imagine being married to one of these ungrateful douchenozzles. I doubt a single one is breaking 50k annually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:14 PM
14

Right, exercise is still incredibly important but you can only put on so much muscle mass to "shape," and you don't control where that fat that your body needs goes to. Men still have to work hard for muscle, but being a healthy BMI is easier. I'm not gonna shit on a dude for being overweight because I feel the love for food in my SOUL and I honestly find plenty of heavier men attractive, but I still expect them to be healthy; active, working on eating healthy. I Stiller expect hygiene and putti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:12 PM
6

LMAO we can only hope they do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:05 PM
130

I am not surprised that this basically says "uh we get to be more selective and choose who to reproduce with because that's a biological thing" and men are like OK BUT THEN WE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO RAPE YOU The irony of the example of "we get to deny subpar men access to ourselves and our bodies" and then "OK fine but then we will rape you." Those fucks should be put on a watch list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:02 PM
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Also, it really is not that hard for (most) men to be attractive? They burn fat way more easily and have more lean muscle mass. If they eat even somewhat decently, exercise occasionally, don't down alcohol and just do basic upkeep (trimming facial hair, styling hair, plucking brows, moisturizing, applying deodorant and dressing in nicer clothes) they look good. This isn't a high bar, this is a pretty standard expectation that they eat OK, occasionally work out (barring health issues), have prope…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:23 AM
16

I SAW THIS and was too lazy to post here. "He makes 4x as much as me but we go 50/50" 🤡 Wonder who is doing all the cleaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:37 AM
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Let us know how it goes! Hmm how do you think they'd react? I'd try going tomorrow, as soon as possible. Ask to speak to a female officer if you can; she might take you more seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:52 PM
35

I just guffawed 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:31 PM
76

You should absolutely file a police report. This has to be some kind of assault. If you have a bruise, snap a few photos. Fuck that guy. I'm sorry he did this to you. May he sprain his ankle every day of his life forever and die by stoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:42 PM
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Yeah I love how their first reaction is "well I'm prettier than you!" Which, first of all, maybe not. Then they go for "your man is probably subscribed to ME" like no lady, I don't go for those LV/NV scrubs you do. Get some standards. Also their beauty fades but that stank personality may last forever 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:12 PM
132

So he is the wall... Naturally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:08 PM
27

"hot forever girlfriend " XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:06 PM
22

They're gonna argue "BuT bIolOgYYYYY" to try to pretend their sexual interests aren't totally fucked up because they can't imagine themselves being wrong/ having to take some responsibility for their interests
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:25 AM
59

Jesus Christ imagine dealing with that All of those paparazzi should be fired and jailed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:24 AM
6

Congratulations! Enjoy this time to yourself :) it's nice not having an anchor weigh you down!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:45 AM
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Good point. I guess I meant more the hypocritical outage if the shoe were solely on the other foot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:12 PM
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I respectfully disagree. I think that number is much lower than 20%. I'm gonna say 2-5% probably. There are plenty who won't think holidays or gifts are a big deal, who don't maintain basic cleaning in their residences, don't know how to make simple meals. Plenty addicted to porn, who are "gamers," who expect to be the fun parent and don't help out much. Plenty who pressure into sex, nude photos, don't reciprocate in bed or just want to get their own rocks off. Too many. Now I'm thinking 2% migh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:01 PM
66

We see a lot of that with the constant stream of U.S. shooters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:12 PM
19

Or delighted ending up happily single! Far better than the useless anchors that are LVM dragging you down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:38 PM
197

Imagine if women were into this kind of porn (but young boys) en masse. Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:05 PM
173

They want virgins but virgins who are slutty ONLY FOR THEM (nude photos, good at sex but haven't had it yet, etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:25 PM
197

A hairless woman who has never sent nudes but will to him, who doesn't care if he asks her to get an abortion if she's carrying-- Let me guess-- Not a boy, and vaginal health? Boy, what? You an OBGYN? Once he reads off a blank diagram of a woman's reproductive organs, THEN we'll talk. Creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:24 PM
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Dude this got me as well. Does he not see the hypocrisy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:21 PM
9

It's like the movie Idiocracy, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:36 PM
15

Right?? If a society has to keep increasing it's numbers to support the past generations it's not sustainable. This is how overpopulation/mass extinction happens. We need to fund social programs early on and well to support the older generation and account for the (IMO fantastic) population decrease that at this point we desperately need if we have any hope of saving the planet for future generations Also, and this should go without saying, if you DO decide to reproduce, vet vet VET that guy. We…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:06 AM
27

The shrug got me. Imagine being that big of a heartless dick and a slob
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:25 AM
10

Yes but have you tried CoUplEs CoUnSeLiNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:42 PM
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Wanna throw my 2¢ in here too, this is the same type of dude who then complains his partner hasn't "bounced back" after kid 1, makes snarky remarks about her weight by kid 2, and then after kid 3 blames their failing relationship on her weight I see that nasty shit all the time posted here, and I always feel terrible for those women who are like "AITA for not having lost pregnancy weight in 45 min after birth??? Should we go to COUNSELING??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:34 AM
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It is sad. Waiting for the flooding in of "I asked for x and he ignored me again even though I do all of the housework and child rearing and on father's day I scrimped from all the overtime I worked and bought him a PS5 and took him to his favorite steakhouse, am I a bad person for being upset??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:58 PM
68

I wonder if that asshat also is fIfTy FiFty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:46 PM
17

I'd like to add healthy food, gym, TIME at the gym, face and body creams, razors, emotional labor, cleaning, cooking, shopping, period products (enjoy the tax on those!), errythang
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:14 PM
3

Well I'd better steel myself for some dirty looks then because this bitch LOVES ramen "Fellas, is it gay to like food?!!?*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:55 AM
46

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys had an incredible relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:55 PM
1

It's one thing to have them, another to lie and use that manipulate someone. That's beyond fucked up of him. But WOMEN are the emotional, illogical ones apparently /s OHHHH that's wicked cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:26 PM
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Point 2 made me barf XD yeah you scrote, because your dead end job and splooge shorts and gaming when you come home all day is comparable to her "leeching off your success"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:18 PM
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Yes but haven't we all. Hopefully she learns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:13 PM
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Also "She's my soulmate!" Yo, no. A 2 is never a soulmate with a 10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:13 PM
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Really? I always see so many cute bento things (wives making them for husbands) that I assume "cutesie" foods aren't an issue-- which they absolutely shouldn't be anyways, the work and love and skill that goes into those things is bonkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:12 PM
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So was he suicidal because he's a huge, inconsiderate, no-blame asshole who let down his at the time gf or was he playing the "maximum damage" card to try to double down on his assholery? First of all, fuck that guy. So cool that you "matched" the exhibit. Can you share what type of exhibit it was? I am so curious. I love when people (read: mostly women) have these really cool hobbies and interests in culture/art/history/ anything educational
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:10 PM
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I wouldn't even extend him that. He might follow you, try to harass or neg you into getting back with him. He stopped needing closure the moment he cheated. He closes that door himself. Get out of that lease and then block the number, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:02 PM
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And she is also STUNNING. She clearly puts a LOT of effort into herself, so if a scrote can't even meet a LOW bar, then that's their problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:50 PM
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That definitely makes this worse. "My future daughter can suffer and live alone in a tower as an outcast if I can get a good f*cking"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:28 PM
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She really was. It was her fantasy to get married. And didn't her father basically sell her humanity to the fairy godmother? I forgot the details of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:12 PM
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I always found that weird, and feel like someone should stalk them/ their families to make a point. Not so innocent now, right? And it's just a woman stalking you, not some sex crazed, entitled dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:52 PM
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I am sure he is, and it brings ME joy too. Speaking of which, give a sis the secret to that sweet 6 figure job. Ya girl is broke! So did he serve papers and you signed or how did that go since you filed and he backtracked hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:55 PM
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Just mad/ in a bad place 😂 "Honey, you can't be mad at me for threatening divorce and upending the life you'd built! I was in a bad place! I WAS BLUFFINGGGG" yep I don't play that game anymore. Congrats on the divorce! What a tool he was. I bet you felt like a million bucks ditching the dead weight shortly after!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:17 PM
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It's seen as an advantage. Long ago before I'd learned that many men can't be reasoned with, I asked one in earnest how he thinks women have more rights than men. This scrote LEGIT said because there are ladies nights at bars and men buy women drinks. Uhhh the ladies are USED as marketing to lure in men to pay the cover and increase their own sales, like dangling bait on a hook. Also, just because I get a 7$ drink from some dude MAYBE, that doesn't mean that him making 2x as much as me for the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:59 PM
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If they do, they aren't worth being in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:49 AM
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Yes, weird how much more disgusting and depraved this seems to me when you substitute a man, because I'm used to women being degraded so it's bad but not as ridiculous sounding as this. This also ties into porn sickness and how chasing that next orgasm requires more and more extreme things, and guess who usually gets the shit end of that stick. But hey, wHaTeVer HeLps HiM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:44 AM
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Oh no! True. "Haha Mark played videogames all night again and woke the baby with his screaming, isn't he just a CARD" The other part to this needs to be affirmation from peers that she's NOT crazy and that her life would be easier without her partner. Then I want to see the relationship status updated to "single."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:28 AM
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Aaaand lived with his family for free before that. Really it sounds like all the money he saved up living with his folks could easily accommodate a round trip flight and some food but hey, why help out the woman you're dating who is funding your place to live, amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:26 AM
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Some comments said that too! Hard agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:25 AM
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I saw this! What an ass. Glad everyone gave resounding YTA's. This is just a more frank and honest version of what women go through in many relationships, though. "She took on WAY more of the work and when an opportunity for her to relax or do something nice with me (that had all but been given to me) arose, I decided SHE wasn't worth the effort"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:25 AM
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Some excellent advice I like to give anyone in a relationship is "if your friend were telling you this, how would you feel/ what would you advise they do?" I bring this up because if more women saw all this LV or NV shit we put up with and we stopped just settling for this behavior, we'd all be better off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:59 AM
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This is a really good point. On the opposite side, women should start posting the bullshit. Can you imagine? "Ray left urine on the seat again this week and this is the third time I've had to clean it since Monday" "Mike hasn't done the dishes in two weeks and then complained he didn't have a bowl for his cereal" "Kevin complained about dinner when he hasn't cooked any in a month and a half and bitched that I asked him to pickup takeout on the way home two days ago because I was tired" "Jake has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:13 AM
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I'm working on correcting my diet and not eating out! I've managed to work in 2 months of consistent exercise so the next step to healthiness is figuring out a meal plan with more veggies and to start working down some debt :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:00 AM
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Yeah funny how their BiOlOgy urges don't extend to making themselves better people to attract the best potential partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:30 PM
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ThIs MaKeS mY pEePeE sAd aNd VagUeLy AnGrYYYY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:29 PM
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Yes because he clearly only came with his dick for the good of womankind! We were such fools
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:25 PM
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Thank you for fixing! Just wanted to point that out. Language is really significant and while your point was accurate, I know the "men/female" thing drives several people nuts, and can be a hard habit to unlearn. Just shows how even our language devalues women to the point where we dont notice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:57 PM
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I did it before too, because internet culture is inundated with even these microaggressions. It's not a big deal (to me) with women, but it happened twice so I thought I'd point it out, as I think it does demonstrate that sometimes we even subconsciously reduce our sex to just that, while also lending men humanity, just by substitution of a simple word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:59 PM
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Oh so now we're ignoring fIfTy FiFtY? How convenient. When is he gonna cook HER meal for her long days?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:25 PM
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Lol you should've responded "so does she get to pretend you don't exist because you're jobless? Or if your partner has a job are you waiting on HER hand and foot?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:23 PM
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One comment I wanted to make was calling women "females" instead of women. While I'm not trying to tone police, a lot of men do that to dehumanize women (notice you don't call them "males"). That just bothered me a bit so I thought I'd share. Female could be any species and I think it's important to keep the language used the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:21 PM
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But way cooler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:15 PM
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And sometimes, not even then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:14 PM
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It's really more of a circle council Now I really want this though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:02 PM
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I am disgusted that that man has a child, let alone a daughter. Poor girl. If he can't even see the misogyny staring him in the face with a daughter, there's no hope for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:01 PM
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"Fifty fifty feminism is you doing all the emotional labor, cooking, cleaning, while I neg you! But we have to renegotiate if YOU start making more than me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:00 PM
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But what will we do if we can't hear his opinion! I was DYING to know what a stranger on the internet who happens to have a dick opines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:59 PM
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You got me here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:58 PM
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Ah yes a manly man giving his manly reason to us emotional wemenz who lack logic, unlike him and all his majesty Sisters, we should heed his wise words of experience as a woman, and of gender inequality, for who could be better versed and more knowledgeable than a man? As we know, the logic is actually stored in the penis and wisdom, in the testes Ah, but to not be a frail woman with "wrong" experiences and flimsy logic! If only I could step aside and let this man speak for me in my fEmALe space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:57 PM
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You're right, that's the REAL inequality. How selfish of me /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:49 PM
9

An awful lot of words for "women don't like me" Gee wonder why? He thinks the bar is high for men 😂 can you even IMAGINE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:47 PM
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A small glimmer of hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:05 AM
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"More than 1 in 4 women in the Caribbean and Latin America experience intimate partner violence in their lifetimes, according to a recent study by the Organization for Economic Cooperative and Development" But tell me again how women are "treated better than men" and "have more rights than men."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:04 AM
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You notice this violent response here but when a man derails US it's not met with this "I hope you get raped in every whole" type comment. May all these "men" rot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:59 AM
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Guys don't forget iT'S hArDeR oN mEn because it's not hEtErOsExUaL rApE nor GiRl On goRl rape What fucking tools. It's like they were given the roughest possible prototype of a brain and it shorted out hard in the areas responsible for basic logic. Nuts. None of these men should be allowed to reproduce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:57 AM
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Also love how condescending he was and implying she was overreacting and she just takes it and was like "yeah but I'm trying to be better about my husband wasting time jacking off to other women because somehow me not loving that clearly makes me the damaged one here."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:34 AM
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"i WaS MaKiNg ArT" Go fuck yourself. If you consider the abuse of women art you deserve to rot in prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:53 PM
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M'doormat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:11 PM
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Right? That's what they always tell us 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:07 PM
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I read "groomed online by reptiles" first and honestly, also on the mark Also big yikes. Let's see how that works out for them. They almost always find out too late, like a bug in a venus fly trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:03 PM
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He's throwing a "mantrum"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:50 PM
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Tradfem? Do I even want to know XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:50 PM
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OK but how TF are you going to effectively wield a sword while hugging a bible and drowning in insecurity? 100 bucks that guy got the sword at a garage sale or something. He's not even holding it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:49 PM
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Yeah that was my first thought, "they'll get even punchier about it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:46 PM
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You should hit up that post being on the FDS podcast, your insight would be incredible. Also, that last one EXTRA yikes. How TF do you deny that. Can't gaslight her out of that, pal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:08 PM
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Oh man at least there's that XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:48 PM
13

Easy peasy. Just Cruella Deville the hair, be born with good enough genes to hold fat in the right places while also working out to be toned (but just stomach and arms!), and have multiple personality disorder. Not difficult at all XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:47 PM
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"Looking for- a traditional girl who cooks and cleans and also into BDSM and also is a full time employed, successful woman so I don't have to pay our dates and we can split everything 50/50. Offering- opening the occasional door, but only very literally speaking."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:25 PM
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And also even if ONLY physical appearance were the end-all-be-all of a person's value, who decides what qualities constitute as a 10?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:23 PM
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The "don't worry, you won't end up alone" I'd be like bitch who asked you 😂 alone doesn't mean unhappy, and also that wasn't a concern of yours anywho. The petty part of me wishes you had negged him back. "Oh I'm not worried, I've got several other men I'm seeing. They're really (insert thing he lacks that he's sensitive about), which is my my jam anyways. Peace!" Then block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:19 PM
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I try to remember "his shortcomings and issues weren't my problem and weren't my fault, I was just the one suffering for them." You absolutely do. All the peace. Therapy was a smart move, and I hope to continue to feel better and love yourself ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:26 PM
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I had a horrific ex who I dumped years and years ago because he frankly just sucked. The fallout was rough because he was a huge baby about it. I realized within days what a good move I made; I felt lighter than air, happy, like my old self. Every year on the date I dumped him, I celebrate by treating myself. Maybe a nice hot bath, a dinner out, getting my nails done, buying a good book I've had my eye on-- now I look back and think of all the lessons it taught me with red flags and boundaries. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:15 PM
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Imagine if, if I may use a stereotype on the flip side, after he taught her mechanical shit with her car and helped her upgrade or fix it. He overhears her talking with her friend who tells the gf "wow, must have been boring, he's gotta have the best dick ever if you deal with that" and then unprompted she's like "nah he's more like a 7." Would scrotes be hopping in with NAH BRO THAT'S FAIR, REALISTICALLY ONLY PORNSTARS ARE 10. YOU'RE BEING TOO SENSITIVE , BRO. i fucking think not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:37 PM
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Also just look at how much time and $ she invests in skincare, makeup, etc.. the cost of dating isn't just nothing for women, and men don't seem to get that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:33 PM
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I was just thinking this same thing 😂 Like who deserves this beauty, not some scrote Can he 50-50 the care she puts into her appearance, clearly? I think not Reinforces that so so many women are too good for so, so many men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:30 PM
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I didn't get that vibe, I thought she was also like "pft knew from this that it was downhill from here" which isn't wrong. I think women tend to be more responsible with playing games, I don't think it was necessarily a shot at anyone who enjoys video games ever But I feel you there. I actually made a post a bit ago about wondering about how the FDS community sees women who game, and the response was overwhelmingly that as long as it's not an addiction and you are a person with hobbies and ambit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:49 PM
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I hope you judged them back. "Well your POV is a 0 but you're a 3 looks-wise so you avg out at 1.5 but I'll round down to 1 because you're being a real dick rn"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:40 PM
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And only when she's an 8 like jesus life must be so hard for Dirty Daniel over here, not reaching his full potential of the woman he deserves who should be a 10 goddammit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:39 PM
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BuT mOsT wOmEn ArEn'T ModElS. The fact that so many people say that and the ONLY value is based on their subjective tastes; nothing about her personality, her ambition at work, her responsible finances, her efforts at home or emotional labor... HER HELP LEVELING HIM UP, is pretty pathetic and very telling. Good luck finding your supermodel, scrotes 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:38 PM
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That's exactly why I left the post. Hope the people who voted YTA end up in a similar situation getting judged so they can finally pull their heads out of their asses and see the nuance and difference between leveling someone up and insulting them to friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:36 PM
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Right? Her saying he wore bummy clothes (a quick fix and minimal effort) is different than reducing her value to a number on a scale based on some obscure looks-only requirements to a friend, and then not stopping your friend and telling them to NOT insult YOUR PARTNER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:35 PM
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I do play games as well but when a dude games in this context that's already a bad sign, I think. For whatever reason men seem to go past recreation and straight to obsession with games. It's just a red flag and I think she was just mentioning how right off the bat he's got this red flag, versus it being the worst part of this post, which it certainly isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:33 PM
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Girl I was gonna post this. The comments are a train wreck! "how dare you call him bummy" and "but realistically you AREN'T a 10."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:30 PM
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The moment a dude says "ight" to me I'm donezo Basically a lead in to talk down to/lower the bar. You can feel the disappointment about to hit you as soon as you read those 4 letters Also wayyyy to informal to me for someone you're trying to court/ don't know The rest is just gravy. "Show me yours"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:18 AM
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Moreover, to TWO kids, one of whom is mean to her and complains about nothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:05 AM
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Even if she did outright call him valueless.... She wouldn't be wrong 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:03 AM
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Right? You can still be a negative value leech of a human. Being human doesn't automatically make you worthy of some kind of dignity or value that you don't actually have lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:02 AM
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THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:02 AM
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Deleted my previous comment since it does not encompass the bullshittery. She needs a lawyer, not the internet, to determine if she won't get CS; I don't see how she wouldn't. Also she'd be saving money not paying for him and time not working for him at the very least. And that comment about "well don't just see him for his tasks! He's not a spreadsheet" is gaslighting horseshit. When one partner does almost NOTHING in the relationship you can absolutely call them out for sucking up value. Glad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:59 AM
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I'll do one: That's an awful lot of words for "no one will touch my peepee but me :("
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:57 PM
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But somehow stupider
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:54 PM
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Excellent point. I wanted to ask him how the dude only paying 50/50 and expecting free labor and meals and timr spent is toxic femininity and not masculinity, and if he would call it toxic masculinity if she did that to him XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:02 PM
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Same sis! But even in my early 20's I never understood the obsession with gasp 30 (insert woooOOOoo ghost noise here). My 20's have been a blast, I've picked up cool hobbies and worked on the above, started really developing a career, and am pumped for it to go up from here. I'm currently learning about plants and working on fitness and my finances and towards my goals. These are building blocks to an even better future, not the end of an era. Yeah those are from LVP who had nothing else to offe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:54 PM
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Well how else would they get married and then at the divorce claim that the woman who put in most of the effort and unpaid labor and even took on extra non- 50-50 expenses was a gold digging harpy for then asking for half?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:17 PM
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There's a word for that in German! Fremdschämen The more you know stars and rainbow here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:53 PM
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Not gif, I can't brain today. Meme XD but now I want a gif!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:52 PM
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The gif for this is just chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:32 PM
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And the time spent cooking plus shopping*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:51 PM
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The end got me good. I could hear the tone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:24 PM
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Some ECE 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:22 PM
11

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:17 PM
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Also would like to add mid 20s aren't "prime." People seem to equate a woman's prime with looks, and yes it is easier to be healthy and active in your 20's. However most women feel that they hit their prime in their 30's, 40's and 50's; most say they felt they really started taking off at some point in their 30's; they've gotten a career path lined up, earned a degree maybe, made good friends, had educational experiences, learned to set boundaries and handle emotions better, found hobbies etc et…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:17 PM
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Yeah you don't want that secondhand sausage Lol, in all seriousness the caliber of people on OLD now is saturated with players and people who very much SHOULD NOT BE in relationships until they work on themselves (pickmes included)! They're more hookup sites than actual OLD. You really have to vet out a HVM in person for the best chance of success. It shows that they're probably socially competent, have hobbies out and about, and have employment which are low bar basics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:13 PM
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On the original thread found this gem in the downvotes. Ladies, please roast the scrote for my joy: I didn't get into it on the post because no use arguing with a lost cause. For your righteous feminist anger: "Funny how everyone is calling him cheap, broke etc. always the guys fault right? Sounds like toxic femininity, but unless it’s toxic masculinity. No one will call you out on it. Ya want equality etc, but yet the guy still has to pay. But ya always want same working position at jobs, but g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:04 PM
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OK but what about my nice dress? My nice shoes? The weeks of my life spent learning makeup, growing out and taking care of my hair with special, expensive product, my skin, learning to be emotionally competent? That is more than 1800 dollars. Also fuck that guy, show me the man who comes fully suited up for a date and doesn't just try to shoot for cOfFeE MaYbE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:54 PM
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When he gets comfortable, he'll start asking for you to do more in the house, pay more for the bills because he "just couldn't afford it" (he earned the money and penny pinches but just didn't spend any on YOU) No thx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:52 PM
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Sure, and it's toxic masculinity to expect the woman buys and makes you food for free. Almost like they're ignoring the entire point of the post because it hurts their fee-fees when women call them out on their bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:51 PM
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Reverse uno him and send him a venmo for (current salary rate x hours spent being his emotional labor, cleaning, cooking, favors that went unreturned, unrequited foreplay or sexual acts). Then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:49 PM
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Lmfao this is basically what I read. Poor girl already knows this is not acceptable and is basically second guessing herself for fear some asshats call her crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:48 PM
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Men threw that label all over every woman indiscriminately back when women were expected to WFH and wanted to be with a man that could provide the most for their family, then reverse uno'd us and did the gold digging while gaslighting the hell of anyone who suggests otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:46 PM
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The smugness still makes me feel bad for them. She doesn't realize how unequal that relationship is and someday his 50/50 bullshit (while she focuses on making his food and cleaning his house and he can focus on his career and make WAY more than her but STILL insists on 50/50) will catch up with her and she'll wonder where it went wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:44 PM
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Adding: you KNOW if the roles were reversed and she 50/50'd him and asked him to work for free for a few hours on her car (and buy the equipment) he'd laugh in her face and insult her. So why does she not see it for what it is? The reverse of that? She should have laughed and said "nah, 50/50"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:42 PM
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Probably think she's not being very fIftY-fIftY and EquAl about it even though she's shelling out the labor of shopping, cooking and paying for the ingredients. And he was bold as brass to ask for that in return for literally nothing. HE didn't have a problem being an audacious leech, and she's over here trying not to be too mean and accusatory or fluff it in case some dudebros call her crazy so they can keep the bar in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:40 PM
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So it wasn't even related to the cheapness! Goes to show if there's one bright red flag there are bound to be more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:29 PM
33

OHHH. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:26 PM
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I would do it because thanks to student debt I'm under extreme financial distress, which points to other huge systemic problems in the US that targets the young/ women (I'd probably be able to have more financial security if I hadn't spent my time being very qualified yet underpaid/undervalued to men with no experience)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:20 PM
10

Oh no! I'll have to look. I'm already nervous :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:18 PM
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Don't forget the crying. There's usually some pubescent tears floating around from the e d g e l o r d s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:43 AM
20

And mine. We must have the same one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:40 AM
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And vidja games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:39 AM
43

Honestly it's worth the $4 to know he's not worth wasting time and effort on, but then she KEPT GOING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:39 AM
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I thought you were gonna say "this was the only incident I witnessed because she dumped his ass" but still very satisfying! So has your friend talked to you about this before?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:38 AM
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100000000000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:38 AM
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She also gave the "haha" at the end to soften it because in an online space god forbid a woman doesn't soften her language and second guess her dismay She knows, not that deep down even, that this is ridiculous and he's a taker. Venmos her for 1.50 coffee and expects her to cook for him and shop for him, so labor AND money. That's a nah from me, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:37 AM
40

What is TRP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:36 AM
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Or even ONE FIFTY. Like this isn't frugal, we've hopped skipped and JUMPED into stingy, penny pinching, cheap ass territory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:36 AM
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That's interesting. Idk how you can compare the two evenly. There are some basic similarities but IMO (also white though so idk) it seems like there are wildly different experiences. I would really love to hear the POV of a WOC on this, whether she sees that as well from her experiences. Because I can see white women being seen as more privileged in certain places, with regards to state violence for example, but then also just BEING a woman means you are a target for sexual assault/ r*pe, which …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:34 AM
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I was gonna say, imagine ditching your partner for being sexually assaulted because your masculinity is fragile and you have no damn heart. She dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:30 AM
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Ooooh this is interesting, I didn't consider this for some reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:14 AM
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So cost of living is not that bad; food is quite cheap, especially veggies and fruits, meat that isn't pork can be a bit more expensive. The biggest pain will be the housing market, it was very hard to acquire a good apt as they have a shortage. It's not uncommon to split an apartment with 2-3 other people and pay maybe 350 euros for a good location (only speaking about Madrid). If you're over 25 you can get the long term bus/metro transport card called an "abono" for 75 a month for unlimited zo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:13 AM
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I think they are egged on a lot by the culture to act like the other whiny manbabies too maybe. And good point, I guess I just don't see screaming or wall punching or bingewatching episodes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:12 PM
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On that last point you made, did you talk to your mom about setting a GPA requirement so he takes school more seriously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:11 PM
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What you are doing with your brother may seem sucky to him but it's going to benefit him so much in the long term since he'll have to find other things to do to occupy himself and find other hobbies. 5 hours is a pretty decent amount of time, maybe he could split it to a few in the morning and a few in the evening? Yeah 3 seems like a happy middle ground, he is just a kid, and it's way better than some of these "men." 100% on your grades not slipping thing. I'd raise them to not play until they'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:10 PM
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I bet. It's like a cesspool of insecurity and hate and they egg each other on with all the privilege and don't feel like they need to put any effort into their own development or personality and that women are free therapists and housemaids. It's sad when you see the bar go lower, I imagine. I have several guy friends from France and they definitely were leagues better than the gremlins we have here, but I had a small sample size
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:54 PM
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Hopefully they continue to repel themselves out of the gene pool! It's hard to imagine the lunacy, isn't it XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:50 PM
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You made me think, "wow I never played Mario for 73 hours straight, unbathed, screaming my family awake" so good point! It's been tainted for sure. I can't imagine playing WOW or LOL, but my first and only time about a decade ago I had a bad experience. I hate that gamer "joke" when they hear a woman's voice and are like "is that a grill??" and it's like don't worry about it, it's very obvious you'll never attract a "grill." Enjoy soaking in your mediocrity and misogyny, scrote XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:07 PM
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Yo I majored in Spanish! It's so fun to learn. If you have some nostalgia in you I recommend Pokemon (in Spanish) which you get get from sites online to play on your phone, downloading an all called John GB (or GBA if it's one of the game big advanced versions). It's a simple way to get repetitive actions into your brain, and with something you're already familiar with. I was just talking with my fiancé how I'd like to go back to Spain, take some courses and get my C1. What inspired you to start…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:03 PM
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Also deflects back to "that doesn't make THIS right," doesn't even address the minimum of "yeah it's really shitty when men do it and men shouldn't be saying that shit about every woman ever." Just "yeah but now that you're doing it to us, that's the problem"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:50 PM
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I'll stop saying scrote when they stop demeaning women and actually level themselves up. And also when they stop being scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:48 PM
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You're my hero
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:45 PM
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Lol not good except my current patter but he was a RARE find, and also not from the U.S. I'd be curious about non-U.S. POV's on how the men are, and if they're higher value, particularly from anyone here who's lived in both the U.S. and that country for an extended period of time (to really get a good scope of the men)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:42 PM
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Ooh what language are you learning?? Yeah I stopped abruptly at college because I was too busy (in both good and bad ways for sure). And I tend to play nonviolent things. Yeah maybe it's the established culture egging them on to confirm, but like how do you get there in the first place? I'm happy that my recreational video gaming doesn't make me a LadyScrote lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:27 PM
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Yeah I was antifeminist until about 18 when I actually critically thought about life as a woman and was exposed to men outside of my small town, and still took a few more years to stop being a NLOG and a maaaajor pickme.. And yeah, I'd only ever consider a group meeting with women because women tend to be timely, respectful, wouldn't throw a tantrum for losing or scream into the headset, and also would lose with some dignity, I'd imagine. You can know if a man meets the minimum bar of "well adju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:57 PM
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Are you into reading at all? Or horticulture? Another fun thing might be crocheting, or making a fancy meal for yourself! I find these things relaxing But not knitting, NEVER KNITTING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:26 PM
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I will say some of the older tomb raider games sexualized Lara so much that it forever turned me off of that franchise. I hope to see more feminist games coming out as women infiltrate the game development industry (I can only imagine how toxic that is). I was pretty naïve in following the "games don't cause violence" because I didn't feel that way myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:19 PM
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Same, I hate gaming culture. I just want to enjoy some storylines and strategy! I too love Skyrim btw. When I think of "gamer" I think of angry men with out of control mental and emotional issues. It's interesting that you also avoid first person shooters and the men that tend to focus on them. I agree some get absolutely obsessive and treat it as the only important thing in their lives. I've read articles about how gaming is a risk for addiction because your dopamine spikes and beings to reduce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:16 PM
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Thanks! I just see posts about gaming addiction guys and I'm like ew, no thanks, and don't feel addictive towards it but also wanted to get some opinions on whether or not one can be a HVW if she basically touches a controller, at all. Also good to get a reminder on "support what you consume" which I hadn't really given much thought to on games before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:11 PM
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My fiancé and I have discussed that if we have kids, they won't have any screen time (besides like Disney plus or Netflix) for years, and even then we want to limit that. No internet for a long time and until they are well educated on the toxicity in these spaces, no online gaming certainly, and no games like GTA or COD. For sure the important thing to me is that this is a no-value hobby that is purely for fun. I would choose this over drinking but lower priority than almost anything else (readi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:08 PM
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I have HZD but at some point the machines made me too nervous to continue, haha. I play like Final Fantasy (X, XV), Spider-Man, the Sims, light things like that. Content I try to avoid dude-bro testosteronefests like fortnite or COD. I like the way you put that regarding a good way to check balance. It's literally maybe 2 hours every couple weekends, which seems now pretty reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:04 PM
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That is fair. Avoiding online space for gaming is already something I do, but you raise a good point about being more selective as to what to consume, even if it's alone. I'd like to think I'm more like your HVF (and now I want a shed!) in that it's more a relaxing mechanism for me, I don't get upset and just like any other fun but not necessarily value-add hobby, it has time limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:01 PM
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I think FDS has made a really good point that a LVM can still posses HV traits, which is where so many women get hung up. You see the "but other than this GLARING and WILDLY UNACCEPTABLE FLAW, he's a great guy"isms all over relationship advice posts. I find that we are also not taught to keep boundaries so even though we have those reservations, we let them be trampled over. Our entire language structure is catered to men= strong, logical, good while women= weak, emotional, bad and that really s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:43 PM
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Dude I love that CF sub. Most people on there are just spitting facts and the only people they attack are entitled parents (tells you a lot about why they're so hated, we have an epidemic of poor/lazy parenting, which seeing some of these "relationship advice" thread postings, surprises me not at all). Back to the point, my fiancé basically said they want to live out the life of a 1950's married man without providing like that one. I disagree that the greatest marketing campaign ever is diamonds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:54 PM
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Yes my brain just associated it with a captain going down with their ship, I suppose. Thanks for the correction!
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