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| 2 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?What I find is that people who behave like this are counting on you shrinking or having a fawn response where you try and placate them or cow tow to them to stop the bad behavior- especially if you’re perceived as being too quiet/ introverted to do anything else. But it’s also well within your power to go the opposite way and expand instead of shrinking into yourself. A game of force was being played where it’s like we all know we were talking about you openly and rudely in front of your face an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/22 02:33 PM |
| 10 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.Season 2 Penelope needs to learn this with Colin. She constantly pedestals him- listening to his overlong letters, entertaining his dumb philosophy. He’s really not that clever and a bit of a navel gazing wind bag. She is the star- not him. She’s far wittier and cleverer and quite a good business woman too if you see how she bargains and asserts with the printers end eludes everyone, and also shrewdly joins forces in a mutually beneficial relationship with the seamstress- Madame Delacroix. She h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/22 04:29 AM |
| 22 | They know.Yes, which is even worse. I see many men get off on/ amusement from dicking women around emotionally and in conversation and watching them get upset and struggle. It’s been done to me even in the workplace. Everything you feel that doesn’t slam them in their place in a way that’s shocking and unexpected to them is a joke to them- something to dick around as lame. Or laugh at | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 11:19 AM |
| 48 | Blocking guys you see in daily settingsThey do. If you have iphone their texts to you start going green instead of blue on their end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 09:07 AM |
| 7 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceNo pun intended | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 03:54 AM |
| 35 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI believe it does. But if she made those comments could be that they’re living off what he saved from it. Also they were together several years before she gave him the ultimatum that he better marry her. So they were likely living off it during that time while living together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Rumor is Rihanna dumped ASAP for cheating, thoughts?This had aged badly. They were just spotted and photographed loved up arriving in Barbados together like last night. Y’all gotta fact check | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 02:17 PM |
| 74 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI recently watched something where someone was talking about how strange they find Nick and Vanessas marriage and interactions as displayed by their hosting of the Ultimatum. They and others said they felt Vanessa was insecure in how she kept bringing up her own ultimatum that she gave to Nick to marry her and how the show often almost felt like marital therapy for them as the hosts as much as for the contestants and how she seemed too invested in that story and slightly resentful, while Nick at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 02:05 PM |
| 6 | Rumor is Rihanna dumped ASAP for cheating, thoughts?“Rumor is” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:16 PM |
| 5 | I can’t stand most men for this reasonUnconfirmed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:55 PM |
| 58 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.I’ll up you one- it’s the same for men who seem to move heaven and earth to get to you, with grand gestures and outsize effort and then withdraw suddenly- acting almost repulsed by you and annoyed with your presence and expecting you to chase them and fawn over them to regain their mercurial little favor. They’re not real men, they never genuinely wanted you- just the thrill of proving they could chase and catch you and then once that was over the thrill and ego boost of having you act slightly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:41 PM |
| 9 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Who is it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:01 PM |
| 28 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Yes, but that’s the way they view it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 05:56 PM |
| 21 | Have you ever experienced this?The first two options are both lines that would just get you clowned at or laughed at as being overly formal or stupidly prim. Then they’ll start picking at you further Same with- “you know what i don’t really feel like hanging out any more”. You would be laughed into the ground with that and look so lame and stupid. Turns to you with broad ugly smile. Almost falling out laughing already ahahahaha!! you’re not upset i’m not taking you are you??? Looking intently into your face omg she totally is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:53 AM |
| 48 | Have you ever experienced this?This is it. It’s a boundary test of how much they can humiliate or subtly neg you while you try to tolerate it and act like it doesn’t hurt. They get off on if you explode too or try to end the date or become cold. You’ll be messed around with an ugly “what’s wrong?? why are you mad?? Omg she’s acting weird because i’m not taking her to the dance thing like I’m supposed to care?? You really thought I should take you???” You’ll be mocked as lame and stupid if your mood does change in a way that t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:51 AM |
| 58 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Even men you don’t want who perceive you as making the first move/ or wanting them will start resenting you. I went to physical therapy shortly for a simple condition. We had an immigrant boy there who they basically had on as charity watering the plants and washing the gym towels. I’m sure he barely made anything. She was like the lowest level worker in the entire office, but I was super kind to him and tried to engage him/ ask him about himself. I was coming there super nicely dressed off the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:27 AM |
| 87 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Last 3 sentences is it. They will feel youve emasculated them and come to resent you for not letting them work as hard as they should- and as a they believe a real man should | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:18 AM |
| 82 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.They also resent you as having emasculated them/ stolen their role | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:16 AM |
| 7 | "policing of emotions"?This also happens to be what male attorneys expect from female secretaries or others in female coded jobs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 12:16 AM |
| 4 | The term "pick me" is becoming mainstreamThis term has been around long before fds. I wish people would stop doing posts like this. It’s not exactly new or fds exclusive language | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.Yeah I really feel it’s more about venting anger they still hold toward her. Wanting to shame and degrade women as a whole still/ her, not looking for compassion/ sympathy. More so wanting to shame her and have the validation of someone else believing she’s a stupid slut too, and that their anger is justified. If she’s so crazy why not be sympathetic towards her or concerned about getting her help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 10:00 AM |
| 7 | "f around and find out" as a mindset makes it easier to blockYou gone learn today 🗣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 09:57 AM |
| 6 | "f around and find out" as a mindset makes it easier to blockThat’s exactly what he expected- for her to sheepishly grin beside him and endure it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 09:56 AM |
| 74 | We are taught that a woman's love is natural, and a man's love is validating. Do not for a second live by this lie.She’s a discard and a loser and he’s some god-like george clooney bachelor who must be tamed because he’s such a prize | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 09:11 AM |
| 369 | A HVM will make you like your own personality MORE“I spend time psyhcoanalyzing what a guy did or didn’t like about me” Switch the script. You are the chooser. Did you like him/ did he meat your standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 03:59 AM |
| 1 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesAnother thing I want to point out is that just because you say good morning and are always polite doesn’t mean you’ll be exempt or that they’re attempts to smear you won’t stick or work. There doesn’t need to be anything legitimate there for them to do it especially if you or quiet and they are forcefully loud and adamant about it going from person to person. People begin to think you absolutely must have done something to deserve it and even become mad and microaggressive to you second hand, tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesThey’re stupid and they’re wrong but as someone who has put up with this heavy (being labeled antisocial or being resented for thinking i’m better or not socializing/ being part of the crowd) on jobs, be very very watchful of how the level of resentment people develop over your perceived standoffishness. People will literally stop at nothing to ruin you over it- it’s happened to me twice with older women who tacky and started try to ruin me hard on the job- like all day everyday. You’d be surpri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.Last sentence is so ugly but so typical of men. He admired an abuser for being somewhere in the male hierarchy he thought he was not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:03 PM |
| 5 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.Even women judge other women for putting up with too much or being dumb. It’s not even exclusive to men although that lack of compassion is far more universal among their sex than ours. It’s an ugly part of human nature in general but it’s amplified times 10 in men. Aren’t most men constantly seeking sympathy because their ex was “crazy” No, Id argue they aren’t doing that at all. When women lead with describing an ex who was crazy or obsessive they’re looking for someone to acknowledge and vali… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:35 PM |
| 24 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.The other thing I’m picking up on is like he feels it reflects poorly on him like 1. Suggests he must be a dud too if that’s all her past roster includes (I don’t think he genuinely believes this though he sure suggested it) OR and i think this is what the main problem is 2. He thinks it suggests he’s a fool who overpaid in action to get her if all these other guys got off doing less. He feels like a chump and a sucker who’s unwittingly been doing more than he had to That’s where the anger has c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.Love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:06 PM |
| 13 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.It shouldn’t matter that she did though, if he was a decent person with good intent. That’s like me saying- my wallet got stolen! And you saying- well you left it out! Sure, shouldna done that but it doesn’t matter unless I’m around a thief or a fucking LV person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:03 PM |
| 32 | Straight from the horses mouth. NEVER share your past relationship trauma/problems with men because they will hold it against you. How poorly you were treated by men in the past will either make him resent you or he will use it as a bar for how much you are willing to put up with.This guy realizes it’s a him problem and not a her problem Does he really? I don’t think he does. Like only on surface but his angry tone even in discussing it suggests to me he still feels justified in his feelings even if he’s asking for “advice” on the surface. It’s probably more a request for confirmation and consensus on how shitty and lame she is because he really doesn’t sound all that sorry or contrite. I’m still getting tones of feeling self righteously justified I don’t trust him even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:58 PM |
| 3 | How do queens handle a lukewarm man?We don’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:33 AM |
| 8 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I know you mean well. And I agree there was probably a smoother way to do this, but I don’t think the response you suggested is very good at all. That’s just too many words and kind of corny/ strained/ not the right tone. That would’ve looked lame too. But that just underscores the overall difficulty of the situation that although everyone knows it could’ve been handled better no one can actually tell us exactly how or offer a better alternative that isn’t other universe cheesy or clownable I do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:12 PM |
| -30 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 01:27 PM |
| 24 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I guess what I’m trying to bring out is that I don’t think people realize what a struggle it is as a black person in this country just to feel like you’re keeping your loved ones protected every day. And how the trauma of that and feeling constantly undermatched to the task could lead to someone snapping and feeling they just have to do something. A lot of times the black men who are called on to protect black women in these spaces don’t even feel they have the leverage and social acceptance the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 12:11 PM |
| 53 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?The level of what-I-would’ve-doneness here and how things should be properly handled-ness is sometimes OTT here. Like it fails to take into account the very imperfect situations people are coming out of or how they truly live, in a way that’s very white privileged. While I admire the pragmatic level headedness most of the time. I’ve seen comments here on all types of posts that are sometimes very high handed. Like- well I would’ve [insert completely unrealistic and OTT preparedness for very unli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:40 AM |
| 12 | The Hardest HVW Lesson *for me*: No one is going to save you.“You are your own best thing” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:27 AM |
| 43 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?He treated his wife as an object. You’ll note NOTHING speech later was about her or about awareness of what she’s going through. All it was, was “keep my wife’s name out of your mouth.” She didn’t even have a name - she was just the thing belonging to him. I get what you’re saying but am not sure that means anything one way or another either. Emotions were obviously high. You think he just had an off the cuff speech building alopecia awareness sitting folded up in his top pocket? I can understan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 83 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?This post seems an overreach to me. He had a bad moment. He’s been almost 50 years in the spotlight without another one like it. I don’t think there needs to be a huge read into what it means about him, because likely, not a damn thing Obviously the laugh was not genuine. It’s really splitting hairs to be like well how do you go from laughing to hitting someone. He clearly wasn’t on board with it to start with. People try to put a classy face on things all the time only to find they can’t fully … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:38 AM |
| 133 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Why is anyone even focused on the fact he laughed at first? It has zero relevance. People laugh all the time when they are uncomfortable or put on the spot. It’s a way to cope. What the heck else was he gonna do with like 10 live cameras panned in his face at an internationally televised event but laugh and try to play it off/ brush it off. If anything, that just shows to my mind he was doing his best to be a good sport but emotion got the best I find his initial laughter irrelevant. It was clea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:31 AM |
| 210 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Eh. Will has already been fielding joke after joke about Jadas infidelity. Where he may not have had an issue with it privately, as he says they’re in an open relationship, being outted and forced to deal with it so publicly with the whole world making judgments and slick comments and laughing in your freaking face about how you’ve been cuckolded, cant have been easy on any man’s ego. I understand why he did it. The shits been being heaped on him and building up for like over a year with constan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:23 AM |
| 8 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️what issues | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 08:33 PM |
| 46 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️It’s not a bad habit. It’s who they are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 08:23 PM |
| 22 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingIf youre spending 1 hr clipping coupons to save $20 but could earn $40+/ hr on a job or doing some side hustle you’ve just undervalued your time. You’re now the discount | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingYeah, I know I have to get out. And have plans. Let me chat you on it more intimately. Don’t want to put out too much here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 04:14 PM |
| 11 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingYes, I’m in a similar line and salty older women in HR and Office management space are the main gatekeepers playing games to keep other womens pay low while getting the max work out of them or keep them in one position for years and years with no growth, pretending there’s no way they can be moved. They totally fob them around and “manage” them. It’s ugly behavior but totally accepted and found almost everywhere/ very common in the space. Like it’s not considered screwing you over, just par for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingIME, unfortunately it’s been older women i. their 60s and so, who are almost exclusively the holders of HR and office manager roles whove fought to keep me small or not paid well or from advancing promotion wise. Everytime I’ve taken a jump it had to come from advocacy of a broader thinking man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:55 PM |
| 23 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingIt’s true but the least we can do is not gatekeep ourselves by giving up those limiting mindsets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:42 PM |
| 67 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingOne thing I you said that I agree with greatly is how women are taught to make do with less on every point- respect, attention, love. Whenever something bothers us we’re taught to manage ourselves and our feelings about it down. Shrink and suppress, rather than grow, boss up bigger than the situation and leave it behind, seek better- which is what a man would do. We’re told- well you’ll just have to “be the bigger person” (which is code for shrink), scolded that we need to learn how to control o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:25 PM |
| 33 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingI agree with most of this except maybe the last two paragraphs- I don’t think clipping is necessary unless you’re really in a tight space. Yes you can save but I prefer to direct my attention to making more, even through a side hustle which I think reaps better benefits. But saving is not an either or dichotomy. It exists on a spectrum. Just because you don’t clip coupons doesn’t mean you don’t know how to live within your means or avoid paying full price or are a total wastrel with money. I ref… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:10 PM |
| 79 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingWhile I understand difficult circumstance. I don’t believe there’s anyone who truly doesn’t have control over their income longterm even if it takes them a while- return to school, take a certificate course online, connect on linkedin etc. That’s another lie we’ve been sold that we’re powerless and just have to sit there. We don’t all start with the same advantages but no one is bound to live one way forever. The main thing about coupon clipping is that it keeps us distracted from higher value a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)Oh it’s not. I know that as I’ve experienced it but it’s far more common among women. I man may play those games if you’re associated with him and he thinks dragging down his image but it’s not as common as you find it among women for things like i feel she’s a bitch or didn’t smile at me enough. It’s possible to receive really strong relational bullying from women who are just bare acquaintances. It’s not as common among men as they’re not as strongly social as women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 12:19 AM |
| 8 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.The men are exploitive. They want someone young and pretty for 1. Sex 2. Social clout 3. To bend to their will and make into whatever they want 4. As a maid or carer for their kids and homes Why must she be exploited by him and not get what she wants out of it as well. Why are you so focused on where he’s being exploited by her and not at all as where he sought to exploit her. You were trying to play someone and got played yourself. Who can have any sympathy for it. It’s fair game | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.While I don’t feel an obligation for keeping up looks or care for beauty contests or plastic surgery- I have no issue with those who do. A woman can be whoever and do whatever she wants. Men sure as hell do. The other day I heard a conversation in my office. It was about a 35 year old who married like a 70 year old and was divorcing him saying his family made it hard to be together but she was still entitled to his money. The woman professional in my office recounting the story had so much conte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 0 | Let’s compare the meanest thing a woman has *ever* said to one of the tamer things a man has said to me. (Trigger warning)Let not. Give us something uplifting please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:50 PM |
| 51 | And she’s right. Does he think he’s the first man to quit his job to avoid paying CS?Minka Kelly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:38 AM |
| 5 | Red flag: The man who disagrees with everything you have to sayThey’re the type who say ‘I don’t see the point in using lots of words, why do people talk so much’ They are exactly this type. They think having no words and constipated underevolved emotions makes them cooler and superior rather than just emotionally and socially inept. It’s used to one down you and show how much better their personality and logical ness and supposed self control is. They feel totally superior on little things like “talking less” etc, thinking it means they’re above it and abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 20 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)Why should we not expect some women to exhibit the same flaws as some men Of course one does but it goes beyond that. Yes, both men and women are obviously going to have flaws. But because women’s strength is in their community and ability to work collaboratively and connect- it often makes them far worse relational bullies than men. Just because they place a higher emphasis on social connection to begin with and are more adept at how to use it- for better or for worse. That means when they use … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:38 PM |
| 33 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)I really don’t find this a relevant excuse at this point. Maybe in Corporate America in the 80s. Even then, people are still 100% responsible for how they choose to behave. That argument can be used for just about anything. I’m a black person. You don’t think “there can only be one” exists there? Even more so, and yet usually when I meet other blacks in the workplace it’s a source of instant comraderie not automatic rivalry. Women need to take responsibility for how they choose to behave in that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:26 PM |
| 10 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)They’re not cool. IME, they’ve been the most threatened and micro aggressive of all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:11 PM |
| 17 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)It’s a subtle- you must/ should come to me attitude. Which often if you were to do, would be rejected in a Blair Waldorf top of the MET steps type way anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:05 PM |
| 6 | Testing your Boundaries vs Violating your ConsentIn the pick up artist world it’s called kino. Getting her to used to increased physical contact touch from you so you can sleep with her eventually. Starts with reaching fir your hand to lead you through a crowd etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Testing your Boundaries vs Violating your ConsentThat’s far beyond just basic “disrespect” and really not what anyone has in mind when they talk about leaving at the first sign of it. Disrespect is disrespect- not near assault | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Why do women always have to be "kind" and "nice"?That’s what they say they want but at the end of the day they hate and don’t respect you for it. I’m pretty sure my boss chose me for what he felt were meek sweet characteristics. The minute I disagreed with him on a matter of preference I was shouted down and attacked. My “sweetness” was savagely decried as “passive” and “naive” in a at that was meant to humiliate me and rip me apart. At the same time I think he at times talked to me and tried to put certain tasks on me that he would never ever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Why do women always have to be "kind" and "nice"?I notice people are more offended by it if they thought you were weak or of a station (young, female, black, lower ranked, less educated) that they definitely feel should be beneath them or they should have dominance over if no one else. The lowest lowest men and women are the worst at this. People in deadend jobs long term with no lives, etc. Always looking for someone to pick on or be “over” even when you’re the same station/ title, maybe more, and it’s not their place It’s just like poor whit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:31 PM |
| 33 | The mental process of a pickme - it’s long but I feel like we have all been herI can’t even watch this foolishness. I watched the pretty privilege video and just feel she has low self esteem. I cringe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Normalise telling men to just shut upWhat do you typically say when you confront | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:32 AM |
| 9 | Man deliberately pushes woman in front of train at Brussels metro stationUnfortunately, I’ve seen women try this too. Recent incident of a very normal looking hispanic woman from like queens or the bronx who tried to shove someone hard into an oncoming train and then just walked casually away. She literally waited til the last moment when the train was coming and tried to shove another woman in front of it. Owing to a split second miscalculation the woman bounced off the side of it instead getting scraped up but surviving. Had it been a second earlier she would’ve la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:27 AM |
| 8 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Women think they’re fostering connection. Men think women who do this are wearing a kick me sign on their back- baring a wound and showing lack of dominance/ beta qualities that basically beg for them to take a slap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:21 AM |
| 10 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Chaos is a ladder….to men, so is trauma. To position themselves in the power structure/ put themselves in a position of dominance over you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:59 AM |
| 28 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Telling trauma to people is just a way to be abused yet a second time In sharing the abuse the person you’re sharing it with will slap you too. By: -Gaslighting -Implying you were stupid or weak or a punk or somehow deserving of what happened to you/ not so innocent -Insinuating you’re lying or misperceiving the situation, or nutty, etc etc Even with family members your utmost insecurity from those traumas will just become the crowbar they pick up to hit you with whenever they have a petty compl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:54 AM |
| 14 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Even if you got through it he’ll consider you weak and lame for having allowed it or even been in that position to begin with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:46 AM |
| 14 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Slow clap. Really enjoyed this and had never considered this before. I’ll be changing my game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Well… you chose him!I’ve literally had people in the office, other women, get gleeful and think they have one up on me if they ask me how I’m doing and I don’t answer great immediately. Like if there’s even the slightest hesitation there that they think could imply that things aren’t all perfect they get such an ugly smile and huh what? Start gleefully trying to push the question farther to get me to show a wound so they can feel superior and laugh at it etc. I recently experienced this with a 75 year old women in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?It’s giving Cassie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:29 AM |
| 81 | PSA: Feeling like you have to “do it all” to prove men wrong is *still* internalized misogynyBlacks have long had this dilemma. Just the way many black people feel they must be better educated than whites at the best Ivy League schools- go to a far better school than them and then get far better grades and start a career where metrics wise they’re far more successful. Out polite and outperform and outclass them in every possible way, so that no one can ever deny what their value truly is or call them less than civilized or human. It’s a terrific burden and still a form of slavery and in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:01 AM |
| 33 | Well… you chose him!Yeah, I find it true even among “friends”. Maybe I need a new set of friends. The only people I never get these vibes from are immediate family | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 12:06 AM |
| 65 | Well… you chose him!People like this kind of enjoy your misfortune to be honest. There’s probably an element of the “friendship” where she thinks you hold yourself as superior or better and she’s probably quite gratified to see you get your comeuppance/ waiting for you to fail. I’m beginning to believe the old adage “never tell your problems to anyone. 20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them”. It’s a shame you can’t be emotionally vulnerable even with most “friends”. It shouldn’t be that way but I’m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youYes, ITA and have done entire posts on this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 11:34 AM |
| 72 | Love Is Blind- What Did Shake Say Behind Deeptis Back?I’m hearing Auntie comments and comments of not being attracted to her. Is that all or was there more? Of course that in itself is already totally dumpable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 12:42 PM |
| 39 | Love Is Blind- What Did Shake Say Behind Deeptis Back?Did you see it as him implying that she was ugly/ there something wrong with the way she looked or just that there was no chemistry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 12:13 PM |
| 6 | Woman tweets about her divorce and the comment section is….yikesIt’s all about male entitlement and how they think our sex is just made to shrink and continue to self sacrifice in the face of extreme discomfort. That we must inherently just take less space and play it smaller and stand up for ourselves less Whatever discomfort I throw at her she’ll just have to shrink and take it and play the good girl through it- because that’s the role society promotes to women. So men assume we don’t know any other way but to struggle thru even when being mistreated or di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:01 AM |
| 17 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?Men are so selfish. Even in dating this two separate experiences thing occurs. Even conversationally. It’s cater to me- send me a pic, talk sexy to me, while I grunt and contribute nothing. Even in those simple exchanges they think it’s been amazing for you because they were entertained titillated etc. But don’t stop to think what did I do to actually entertain or arouse her. Aside from grunt and give lame mono syllabic responses. What did I actually give that would have made this a pleasurable … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:11 AM |
| 55 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?It’s sooo funny you say this because I was just thinking about the Level 11 manifestation of men who stare at other women The black Martha Stewart, B. Smith was a legendary model, lifestyle guru and had her own line of household goods and restaurants. She made great money and had a house in the Hamptons. But she married a no value black man. She got early alzheimer’s at like 60 and started forgetting who she even was. He promptly moved another women right into the home B Smiths ventures paid for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 85 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?The Level 10 version of this is Scary Spice/ Mel B saying her husband told he she was nothing compared to the young nanny whom he was sleeping with while also paying out of mels salary. Telling her she was old and out of shape and nothing compared to this younger woman and making her have 3 somes and engage in group activities. Had her bring the nanny he triangulated her with into their bed for 3 somes saying she was fat and unattractive and he needed something else Looking is Level 1 of this an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.I’m glad someone can identify. It really gets on my nerves how poor behavior from other women, especially older ones get infantilized and white washed like they don’t know better. I have seen some of the worst behavior possible from older women and it’s done precisely because they think they can get away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:01 PM |
| 11 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.Yeah, I’m not necessarily talking about you specifically. I just wanted to make clear how much that thinking tends to come up here and elsewhere. I work in an office with older women who are often rude and aggressive and purposely sabotaging. I can’t tell you how often the presumption is pushed on me by other people- whether that be family or friends or administrators I mention the situations to- that I must turn the other cheek or kiss those kicking me. Oftentimes there’s even anger that I must… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:56 PM |
| 19 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.You don’t need to give another woman who’s disrespected or aggressed you the benefit of the doubt either. I see that idea of misplaced kindness come up here often in various forms It’s ok that she’s micro aggressive and rude to you. She’s had a hard time with the patriarchy She just needs another chance. She doesn’t know what she’s doing You just need to try and befriend her. I don’t ever advocate anyone give the benefit of the doubt or returning kindness to anyone aggressing them or disrespecti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:28 PM |
| 21 | Subtle signs of misogynyI’ve had my share of problems and jealousies coming from older women in the office but I’ve also worked with great, secure, amazing women. Trouble is most of them leveled up quickly out of the kind of work I do, leaving mainly the insecure, lame ones. That being said even with the outright abuses and bullying I’ve sometimes faced from older women- it’s been seriously annoying to me when these same older women would constantly be making comments like- “Ugh. Too much estrogen in the room” OR “I wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:51 PM |
| 25 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Yes, in any situation at all. No matter how bad. The most HV question must be- How can I move forward? Not who did what. Not- wasnt xyz wrong etc etc. All of which is problem focused thinking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:35 PM |
| 69 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Yes, that’s where the value is. Honestly when it comes to maturity as a person I feel the lowest vibrational level is pointing out or complaining about a problem. I don’t deny its necessary. As alcoholics say- admitting it is the first step. But it’s very problematic if you never move beyond that low plain of thinking. If you simply remain in the cycle of sounding alarm about whats wrong. You haven’t matured or leveled up until your focus shifts to providing solutions or at least analyzing the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:20 PM |
| 155 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Great post. I’d appreciate more of this type of helping each other and strategy tone. I see a lot of posts about men behaving poorly, or doing outrageous things lately, which is certainly valid. But better to focus on where we have control and can move better than harp on the wrong they do. Like we all know MAT already, no surprise- no need to do videos or screenshotted posts of them calling to teens etc. It doesn’t help. The question is how can we move better ourselves to our greater good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:03 PM |
| 5 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedTbh, I think it exists a ton in women to women relationships as well. In the form of nice girl expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 11:27 AM |
| 13 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedYeah, add to that theyre ragingly defensive about any suggestion theyre not the very best people in the world. And will fight you into the ground about it if you even suggest that they’re merely average nice or that you’ve experienced equal niceness elsewhere. Like they’re just gonna beat that view out of you. So ridiculous the level of investment in that label. They hide their true feelings too, in a way that in the long term, isn’t kind and keeps people invested in situations they shouldn’t be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:05 AM |
| 21 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedYes, people especially in places like the American South- definitely do get almost cultish about how performatively “nice” they can be while failing to be kind. I actually an extreme red flag to me if a person over self identifies with the “Nice” label. No one I’ve ever met who was actually nice felt the need to constantly say it or remind people of it verbally. IME all it’s means is they’ll feel entitled to become very Not Nice the moment you don’t meet their stringent and arbitrarily determine… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:55 PM |
| 42 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedYes. Niceness is performative. Kindness is not. I submit another theory- Corporations and companies can have Nice Guy Syndrome I’m currently working somewhere that’s kind of light on the benefits and doesn’t provide much of the employee perks and support I’ve been used to. Benefits are basic at best. Like a nice guy with not much to offer they rely heavily on being “nice” as their selling point. There’s a lot of rah! rah! rah! We have the nicest people! No one is nice like us. All those other co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:36 PM |
| 39 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedIt totally is. I’ve experienced this constantly myself. It’s always a problem- especially with older women, that they feel my attitude or demeanor is coming across rude just because I’m not overly emotive and am of few words. Nothing wrong or disrespectful is said. I don’t practice performative niceness in the slightest. I think a lot of women were socialized with this emphasis on “plays nice with others” and I completely missed/ skipped that lesson. So although I’m kind and show up strongly for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 05:24 PM |
| 7 | Therapy lines that are used for manipulationThis is the biggest one and should be pinned to the top 🔝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesIt’s amazing how they sound like almost the same person. I definitely felt mine was using his gf to advance his career. He brought her in every business event out of town and would fly her out to business retreats etc- she would recommend him to others for career and do research, save articles for him. I definitely saw what her value was to him in his career. On top of it he was divorced with grown kids and I feel he literally sought her out to fill a specific niche as- house manager and oversee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesWow. Almost identical circumstances. The guy mentioned above was also had people coming up to me telling me doing you know your boss is engaged. Of course he fucking wasn’t. He would play around with that idea and also call her his wife to everyone in the office, I think to legitimize himself as mature etc without making the actual commitment. I noticed she was a lot more hesitant to use that term and would say every available euphemism under the sun but that- “his better half”, etc. Neither of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 01:12 AM |
| 4 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesBandaid on bullet hole marriages. Relationship already failing when they finally marry and they’re actually trying to use the formal commitment to “fix it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:06 PM |
| 12 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesYes, I truly feel there was an element of that here. It’s not a coincidental dynamic in a lot of cases- it’s purposely done to keep her unsure, insecure and desperate. Always trying to prove. It’s like dogs they purposely don’t feed, keep half starved to make meaner attack dogs These women are purposely kept hungry and unfed with commitment so he can get off on watching her prove and struggle to win him, in a dynamic where he ultimately becomes the prize and she consents or tacitly agrees to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:20 PM |
| 17 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesA gentleman is nothing more than a patient wolf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:11 PM |
| 18 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesYeah. Forgot to mention that I definitely saw him slow walking- just 1/2” from holding hands with the colleague he was always chasing/ flirting with in the office one day. The two of them were coming down the hall one day in the office for all to see on a very slow stroll- that was giving off heavy date vibes- walking with their hands just 1/2” from brushing. It was the kind of walk you do on a date when you’re just about to spontaneously hold hands or kiss. They went off and disappeared like 50… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:33 AM |
| 190 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesI see this with my former boss. I can’t tell you how the marriage goes because they’ve been dating 11-12+ years and still aren’t there yet. Here’s what I did see: He had a hungry look on the job. You know when men are sizing women up to see if they can be with them? You all know the look 👀 men have or the way they look at attractive women when they’re actively hungry/ hunting/ interested. It’s the wild man look. Not the committed man look. He had it with me when we first met- going out of his wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:48 AM |
| 89 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesMany of them are super high achievers and conquer the world types- literally the only thing they choose to be passive about is that. And that’s because they’re not actually being fucking passive they’re being incredibly active- actively avoidant. Theyre running circles around you figuring out how they’ll outsmart you out of marriage. That’s one group The other type of men who do this are indeed passive gamer types who jUsT diDnT sEe aNy rEaSoN to make a move | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:25 AM |
| 14 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?They were never out of style to black people. It all depends on who you ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?Lame. Sir Mix Alot says when another man leaves it he “pulls up quick to retrieve it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 9 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑No one is reading this self righteous scroll of an essay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:50 PM |
| 10 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑Yet you all have no problem adopting that tone like that with Beyonce. Both took back a cheater and at least Beyonce didn’t wait 10 years for a proposal. Somehow Kates above it?? Give me a break. She looks like a fool/ has played the fool for william and I’ll be plain in saying so if I want. Just as I would with any other women or female public figure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:35 PM |
| 12 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑Kate is a pick-me, that’s why it has to do with FDS. “Kate who has not shamed the family in any way that I can see”. “Shamed the family”?? What an antiquated and bizarre thing to say | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 06:50 PM |
| 12 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑The topic of the original post is literally the royal family. If you privately support them and want to tone police and shame me for saying they’re harboring a p-edo and are therefore LV, just say so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:45 PM |
| 9 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑Ok. Since you insist on taking it there. Didn’t I find you raving about Megan in back posts on other subreddits centered on the Crown. I think I did though you later denied it and the posts/ comments disappeared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:36 PM |
| 36 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑Surprised to see there are people who think the royal family isn’t racist and abusive in 2022 🤣🤣🤣. Come off it. She didn’t need to stay there and take their shit. They been had a whole ass pedo in the family they don’t go after- now that’s LV. You worried bout Megan more than that though, right?? 🤣 Look. I don’t argue with people here. Take care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:27 PM |
| 66 | LITERAL Queen Shit! 👑👑👑The royal family is abusive. Whether you agree with Megan or not there’s absolutely no question they treated Diana like absolute shit. So I don’t know that there’s any making sure “you can cope with life with them”. That’s like going into a job saying “i made sure I could cope with the abusive boss, first”. Kate could take a page from this. She was a pick me for William who let her break up with her via a phone call at work after years of dating and still got back with him. There were also photo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:57 PM |
| 25 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!We need a code. Like another site ask are you 2% owl 🦉 Or like gay men asking each other if they’re a friend of dorothy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | FDS lingo is catching on!When I say a running joke I don’t mean in a way that’s degrading. Just that women will post sweet things their guy does for them and then at the end put remember: If he wanted to he would. It’s an actual trending style of videos. It’s joking but also low key really encouraging women to raise their standards. More like a light good natured ribbing if your man isn’t putting in the same effort and reminding you you can do better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:28 AM |
| 3 | FDS lingo is catching on!It’s all over social- tumblr- long before this forum existed, it’s everywhere on tiktok and IG too as a running joke. It’s more than been around for a while in a variety of places | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:06 AM |
| 83 | FDS lingo is catching on!This phrase has been around forever. It’s not solely FDS lingo nor did it even originate here. I wish you all would stop thinking everything comes from FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:59 PM |
| 70 | Reminder: Please don’t be like this 37 year old woman on a blind date.Eh, I’m not big on shaming women for dressing supposedly too young. I’ve seen it used by older jealous women in a very bullying way and just to put strictures and rules on people that they’re threatened by that don’t exist. We had an attorney at my job who made great money was a partner super successful in here career and she dressed amazing. Chanel suits, designer shoes etc. Nothing flashy but you can tell it cost and that she took care of herself well. Occasionally she would wear a shorter sui… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 03:15 PM |
| 5 | Would a HVW make nice with an ex’s new girlfriend for the sake of the kids?I didn’t mean “you” personally. Just you in general, as in, “a person”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:51 PM |
| 10 | Would a HVW make nice with an ex’s new girlfriend for the sake of the kids?Not jumping down anyone’s throat. Just saying how I feel about the idea people should or have to be unbothered. It’s one I don’t agree with. No personal animus towards you behind it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 07:29 PM |
| 29 | Would a HVW make nice with an ex’s new girlfriend for the sake of the kids?HVW aren’t bothered by scrotes and their nonsense She’s entitled to her feelings. I find it a bit much to say a HV person shouldnt/ wouldn’t be bothered by this. You can’t dictate how a person feels. Both his and the new womans behavior is tacky and disgraceful. Being HV doesn’t exempt you from the human condition of having emotions and feeling them. As long as you’re working to channel that emotion in a healthy manner and exercising discipline rather than acting out inappropriately, there’s not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 51 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"An empathetic person never would. You don’t know if that person was abandoned as a child by their father, sexually abused by a family member/ uncle, r*ped on a college date, beaten within an inch of their life and physically abused by a drunken father, ex husband or boyfriend. When an empathetic person hears that they think- “Wow. I have no idea what this persons experience has been that’s brought them to this place. But I’m sorry that’s how it stands” So they either immediately start seeking to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:49 PM |
| 179 | The term Pickme gaining traction? thoughts?This is uninformed the term pick me was around and being used long before this sub. It’s never been some secret inside club parlance. It’s literally been around since like the early 2000s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:11 AM |
| 33 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenience“Pipe dreams” or pipe laying dreams? 🤣 So meaningful in this context | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:02 PM |
| 16 | epiphany: men who neg strong womenThat’s good but seems to be missing some things. I didn’t realize it would display so ugly in reddit app. In other apps that I use for here you can actually see each pic instead of the ugly links | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 33 | epiphany: men who neg strong womenShelby Lormans Awards for Good Boys on Pygmalion https://i.imgur.com/N8dtY1i.jpg https://i.imgur.com/oeNHUQ3.jpg https://i.imgur.com/sFCbzSy.jpg https://i.imgur.com/l4CCcC7.jpg https://i.imgur.com/IlM6H4Z.jpg https://i.imgur.com/Q5Agxm5.jpg https://i.imgur.com/ZvHr4sl.jpg https://i.imgur.com/xFXGSqm.jpg https://i.imgur.com/xFT64f3.jpg https://i.imgur.com/NMwUVVz.jpg https://i.imgur.com/JdkTsUq.jpg https://i.imgur.com/jk2N2s0.jpg https://i.imgur.com/XOqpAwu.jpg https://i.imgur.com/XzhBoJo.jpg htt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 11:30 PM |
| 28 | Thoughts on a particular sort of female-perpetuated misogynyA lot of Boomer women are like this. I sat next to one who was constantly going on about how “these little girls these days are so fast”. She felt every teen girl was trying to connive to get her son who, for the record, was nothing to look at. You know who’s “fast” and fucking conniving. No one more so than an old ass man who thinks he can manipulate his way into a younger girl or women’s pants. It’s insane what older men pull to do this but the internalized misogyny is so strong in her she doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:29 PM |
| 37 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?I don’t. Im a lot of things. You just have to get to know me Are you? Why do you ask? (throwing smoke by answering a question with a question) I’m an undercover feminist, judging from the shadows. I’ll never really declare myself as one and don’t really even think of myself as one (not because I’m not, just because I’m not into labels in that way). I find it best to avoid declaring what I am and instead sit back and watch people prove what they are Am I a feminist? Doesn’t matter. The real quest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:57 PM |
| 63 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?Yeah, Taylor Swift is definitely a feminist though I’m not sure she’s ever openly declared herself one. Edit: How can you tell? Her music. Her refusal to backdown and let her ex bfs control the narrative of why they ended. Prioritizing and making her own voice and POV just as loud. Her refusal to allow society’s judgment of her to say who she is (crazy, man eating liar who dates too much) Her suing that radio guy who grabbed her as$ for a mere symbolic penny just to stand up for herself and othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:44 PM |
| 3 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsYeah, I realize I allowed myself to be gaslit and more importantly gaslit myself largely during my 20s about the supposed “goodness” of these people. Looking for a co-sign or validation of what I knew about it from people who only thought they knew that person and kept declaring they were amazing when I knew for a fact they were passive aggressive and shady af. Some people will never understand or be close enough on a situation to see someone as they truly are. Or may have a completely different… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:22 PM |
| 3 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsHonestly, I’m still in the process of it. I distanced myself from them. Id never accept that negging behavior from a man. A girlfriend is no more worthy. Really no one has a right to treat you with disrespect. In the process of trying to attract better into my life. I trust that it’s out there. Why settle on disrespect and rudeness. Most of them are being slow faded out of my life. I’ll replace them at first opportunity with better. One of my “friends” would always kind of be tonally bitchy in c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 12:05 PM |
| 26 | Promise rings are a fucking joke.This is really crass. But the first thing that ran thru my mind when I read this was “If I wanted that much pu$$y Id be with another woman” Promise rings are pus$y Men who give promise rings are pus$y Real men give real commitments not the pOsSiBLe pRoMiSe of one in the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:36 PM |
| 13 | Men and PowerI don’t advocate humility in women ever. Any man you get with needs to have it though, if he’s going to be the kind who doesn’t try to abuse the power differential set up by society | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?How do we know that she struggled with mental health issues for years? I wasn’t aware of that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:38 AM |
| 19 | Men and PowerYeah, I personally want it for the freedom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Men and PowerI kinda view them as going hand in hand though Id happily choose being rich and anonymous, not that powerful over being any kind of head Hauncho in control of a lot of people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:32 PM |
| 41 | Men and PowerThere’s a riddle that they say is a great way to get to know people: I have a magic potion. It will grant you: Love, Wisdom, Glory, or Power Which would you take? I asked the men on my job that I was most friendly with and dealt with daily. They all swore they would choose wisdom but then at the end confessed all of them really wanted power, but no one wanted to say it out loud. They were answering wisdom because it was the socially acceptable answer. All agreed unanimously that they don’t give … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?They 100% cause suicidal ideation even in people who’ve never been treated for that and have never had that before in their life. Yes, it can 100% create that feeling out of nothing. You can be depressed and fat from suicidal. 1/4 of the population will be clinically depressed at one point or another and that’s only the portion willing to admit to it. Sure the true number is far higher. Yet most of these people will probably never be suicidal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:16 PM |
| 52 | I think he told on himself“After I scolded you the other day you seemed to feel remorse for your actions, but now I can tell you’re back to being defensive” This is a red flag. “After I scolded you the other day”, you are not his child or his dog and yet he seems proud of it. It tells you a lot about where he thinks you as a woman should stand relative to him. “You seemed to feel remorse for your actions”. Once again putting himself in the position as judge of your actions, like you have something to prove to him or like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:36 PM |
| 176 | I think he told on himselfjOkE. There was a study done that indicated that like 70% of things said in “jest” are actually 100% meant. Almost nothing’s ever a joke. Just a thinly guised way of slyly putting out there what they really think while having a built in bailout from accountability if it’s not taken well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:01 PM |
| 8 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I really do find saying this had to be about age- a bit of a stretch/ overly simplistic or unlikely. One really strong possibility that everyone overlooks is that maybe they started her in antidepressants that caused this. She’s mentioned in articles that she was already under the care of a good counselor/ therapist. With it being winter in NY and all it’s possible that they’d just started her on antidepressants which caused her suicidal ideation/ suicide. Proven fact, by study after study, that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:51 AM |
| 27 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I know. It just hurts my feelings, I suppose | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 03:19 AM |
| 101 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?Do you really think the suicide was about that though? It’s so hard to say- maybe there were other issues at play. I’m invested in this as Id recently started following her and interacting with her videos on social. I literally commented on a post of hers like 3 days before her death. And when I saw her face splashed about the news I thought- Noooooo. It can’t be!!! Can’t be!!!!!! How???!!! I’ve literally combed every thread on lipstickalley, reddit, rooted through tiktok, dailymail, nypost, fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 02:41 AM |
| 45 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsAnyone who’s insecure and externalizing it needs to go. Whether theyre pick me or not is less relevant. I found myself having a lot of anger toward certain “friends” in my life and I realize it’s because they were actually very micro aggressive in convo. A constant game of poke the bear was being played. But they’d been in my life from before a time when I’d become more boundaried so it was flying under the radar and not reaching my level of consciousness and the whole friendship needed to be re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 45 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?It shouldn’t. Everyone loves the sunlight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:21 PM |
| 8 | “You’re Not Happy”- A Gaslight PhraseAnd very difficult to call out or respond to. Effective in that it puts you on the defense and now forces you to defend your mental state/ feelings which is a very hard thing to do It can be a gaslight in that it’s putting the onus on you to call or explain why you feel the way you do when it should be obvious and is obvious to him though he’s choosing to play dumb You: “Your friend called me a bitch at dinner”. Him: YoUrE nOt HaPpY??!! Your cue to now explain why that isn’t appropriate or why a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:22 PM |
| 17 | “You’re Not Happy”- A Gaslight PhraseAw well with that one word (never) you’ve added yet another, whole new meaning to it. Youll NEVER be happy- a malediction, a curse! A spell on you to live a sad undesirable life devoid of happiness forever unless you drop the issue at hand right now Does he show up to christenings uninvited in a horned cap? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:47 AM |
| 19 | “You’re Not Happy”- A Gaslight PhraseThey like to make your not being happy the focus to distract from having to fix what you say is making you unhappy. Because they don’t really care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:41 AM |
| 1369 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!Pig. Do you know what a drain being pregnant and sustaining a whole other life to grow exponentially every week or so inside you is? It literally siphons off your food supply, vitamins and minerals so that you have less energy not to mention the physical stress and added strain on your joints, feet etc The mom and sister are equally disgusting and problematic and show just why he’s the way he is. They probably raised him as a little King. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:15 PM |
| 46 | Received a Shock Yesterday When My Baby Nieces Started Repeating My Rhetoric Back to MeYeah, I’m well aware the world isn’t exactly kind to assertive women but it’s even more unkind to passive ones, if you know what I mean. They will go out there looking like an easy target if they’re too thankful and polite. If we’re to suffer let it be for the things we believe in and want, not for an old paradigm we merely feel cowed by but don’t actually support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:43 PM |
| 171 | Received a Shock Yesterday When My Baby Nieces Started Repeating My Rhetoric Back to MeI honestly think girls need to be raised with a lesser emphasis on being “good”/ “nice”/ “respectful” and a much higher emphasis on self confidence and self respect. Less emphasis on constant respect for and deference to others and MORE emphasis on knowing you deserve respect yourself and how to demand it, that you should demand it, have a right to demand it. So I keep telling my sister it’s nice that they’re polite but don’t make them TOO polite and if you have to correct them, correct them but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:42 PM |
| 3 | A forever girlfriend I metWow. Runs 🏃🏽♀️ to read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:58 AM |
| 133 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesDelusional fuck. I love their boundaries none of that being cowed into still dealing with because hes OuR dAd. No. You betrayed our mom and you betrayed us. So gtfo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:06 AM |
| 144 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesOmgggg I laughed so hard at that. They’d probably stomp on his toes if he showed up in person and I LOVE it. Lmaooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:56 AM |
| 421 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesROTFLLLLL at the young daughters sending him a burn letter together with pictures of the ex wife’s wedding and saying we have a new dad figure, we don’t need you anyway and don’t even think about reaching out. ROTFLLLLLLL. Well done baby queens 🍼👶🏼👑. I am hollering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:55 AM |
| 17 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.Idk that it’s so much about being bubbly. I think he wanted someone he felt raises his social stock by being popular and socially desired too. He maybe felt she didn’t bring enough to the table when it came do making them look socially good and sought after. Notice how he also mentioned her executive assistant job as being lower stock than the attorney’s and that she wasn’t going anywhere in life. Looks like he’s reaching for a certain overall social status not just someone bubbly and supportive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:25 AM |
| 19 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.As a matter of fact a lot of them look at it contemptuously as a sign that you can’t do better. They despise the kind of woman who would be lame enough to take someone as low as them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:27 PM |
| 13 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.The wound is where the light enters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:24 PM |
| 89 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.I like to shame them by calling them passive aggressive openly. Like “wow. Super passive aggressive. I don’t like passive aggressive men.” It’s office code for “youre a little bitch”. Only they can’t get upset about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:20 PM |
| 12 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.He'll probably cry crocodile tears and ask why Reminds me of a line off Jay-Z’s Big Pimpin’ “First time they fuss I'm breezin' Talkin' about, "What's the reasons?" I'm a pimp in every sense of the word B*tch, better trust and believe 'em” Time women start adopting this mindset too. Acht acht acht! First time he’s negging, fussing, creating a problem- youre breezin! Don’t even care about him asking “what’s the reason” or trying to provide one. Doesn’t need to be one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:33 PM |
| 173 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.I hope he goes to her to find she looks down on him for having been a former fatty, and obviously not a great personality if he treats people like cheap commodities you dump and upgrade If she’s a decent person she’d be turned off knowing he treated someone else this way. Especially someone he professed to love, dated long term | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 12:09 PM |
| 183 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.Wow. The “I embarrass him by being too quiet/ introverted” That one really hurts. Basically he’s saying- all along I thought you had an undynamic inferior beta personality i think has low social value that brings down my own stock by association. Your face is sorta ugly too and now that I’m the right size I feel you’re actually 10 lbs past prime. Oh and your job and what you’ve achieved career wise is kind of lame and low. It’s a pretty low blow to try and say someone’s very personality embarras… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 12:00 PM |
| 53 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.Wow. So we have “your job is lame, your face is regrettable and your body is only ok, you’re actually a little overweight. Your personality embarrassed me by being too undynamic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:54 AM |
| 147 | A forever girlfriend I metForget the D, give us the tea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:38 AM |
| 52 | Guy I dated thinks a woman should design and furnish his new apartment. Proudly establishes he WANTS to be a project.You “get to” decorate it for him…as a little treatie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 11:56 PM |
| 12 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerI guess the other reason this rubs me wrong is that if you’ve worked a lot of low level jobs you know that low level workers can be LV up close. Yes, I’m well aware you’re just talking about showing respect for them when you brush shoulders with them in simple service interactions. But I’ve had similar judgment frequently used against me in the office like I thought myself above fellow coworkers in entry level jobs or wasn’t being magnanimous/ was being ungracious and bitchy if I wanted only min… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 09:02 PM |
| 28 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerEh, tbh while not being wrong I’ve started to find this advice a bit trite. Like I feel everyone knows to obviously avoid that. I even see motivational quotes about it on IG. The best among them know how to appear HV standup loved by the whole underclass type- but can still be undercover abusive to you especially undercover subtly emotionally abusive to you. Think of the community pillar and businessman everyone thinks is AMAZING but beats his wife at home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutYes, the centering of himself and his likes/ pleasing him as what should obviously be the paramount concern for her- screams high level narc exec used to being the most important catered to person in the room. I worked for one and that kind of sneaky negative and positive reinforcement meant to make you say and feel only what he wants or deems comfortable and acceptable was used on me in a similar way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 07:12 PM |
| 297 | Same dudes who have/want to have casual sex will look down on YOU for having a history of it. The hypocrisy. Yet another reason to stay away from casual sex AND slutty guys, they're hypocrites with insane Madonna-whore complexes and STDs/STIs who think they're a prize to be won.What a disgusting tone. This laundry list is probably coming from a guy who drinks out a bowl when all the cups are in the sink. cAnNoT oVeREM-FUH- sIzE- MUST bE nIcE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 06:55 PM |
| 45 | My bf is sending me memesKudos, to you. May we all find this level of attention and care | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:52 PM |
| 183 | My bf is sending me memesNot to shit on anyone- you know him best, but frankly I tend to be suspicious of men who make an open show of aligning with feminist values rather than just being for them casually as a matter of assumed human decency that they take for granted and think everyone else should too. It’s sad that acquaintance with fake woke men and fake male feminists has led me to have to be this cynical, but that’s where we are. Whenever a man claims to support feminism in any way I find slightly showy or perform… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:12 PM |
| 30 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutAnother example of backfooting is not suggesting you’re cheating but suggesting “hmmm….i need to figure out if you can really be good for me” The idea is to put you in a position where youre immediately so busy proving yourself to them out the gate that youre too preoccupied to question whether they’re good for you and measuring up to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:46 PM |
| 44 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutA lot of men use accusations that you’re being needy or negative to manage down and control you from expressing certain things. Needy= Conditioning you to never express a need or desire whether than be emotional or material Negative = Conditioning you to never call him out on bullshit or complain about inappropriate behavior Both = Conditioning you to be low maintenance and minimal effort for them to deal with need wise in the sense of what he has to provide and how much effort he has to put in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:22 PM |
| 5 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutHow so from women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 08:49 PM |
| 14 | Shakespeare in LoveAt least it shows that the prevailing notions of what’s acceptable or “cute” in romance is shifting to a higher standards place. The fact that we all cringe at these films that were considered adorable and paragons of romance just a decade ago is proof that prevailing standards are changing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 06:36 PM |
| 60 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMYes, I feel that’s gonna be a controversial comment I made but I’ve seen it time and time again in my life. I’m not saying they deserve it for not being model “good women”, just that how it often plays out. I think some of them tend to purposely choose men who are rude. Thinking they need someone even mouthier and more ready to fight, “stronger” than them to feel like the softer feminine party in the relationship. Then they go into shock when those qualities are weaponized and turned against the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:51 PM |
| 83 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMEh, I don’t believe this entirely. Sometimes it’s because they think you’re better and want to break you down. Sometimes it’s because they think you’re worse/ less and will take it. In the same way you may kick a dog or lesser life form just for kicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:42 PM |
| 107 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMThe women most likely to get beat in my mind are the outspoken mouthy ones- think of Mel B and Eva Marcille. I’m not saying that to be mean. They’re strong women who look for someone even stronger and more aggressive than themselves to be able to respect him as masculine. Those men they choose then turn out to be more than they can handle. Eva marcille was moving like every year to get away from Kev McCall crazy ass Oftentimes they are women who are even bullies to other women and who get men li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:39 PM |
| 51 | The Movie Star and Me: Very Well-Written Account of a Big-Time LVM Actor Messing with a 23-Yr-Old Intern's MindIt’s annoying to me how he was abetted even encouraged by all the women around him and on the set. Also how she was treated with contempt by them like his little slut- even the ones in his family like his sister and mother. Hard to believe the majority of this covers only TEN DAYS time. Not even two freaking weeks before he goes away. Total whorl wind of sped up false emotional intimacy to get her to feel comfortable enough to sleep with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:54 PM |
| 56 | The Movie Star and Me: Very Well-Written Account of a Big-Time LVM Actor Messing with a 23-Yr-Old Intern's MindHer mother is a fool. Provided no guidance. Encouraged this squealing just like a stupid little child herself. She should’ve been the voice of maturity in this and failed her spot. Mine would never and the contrast makes me see how fucking completely she failed her role. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:13 PM |
| 8 | The Movie Star and Me: Very Well-Written Account of a Big-Time LVM Actor Messing with a 23-Yr-Old Intern's MindAnd who is it? Tell us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:05 PM |
| 55 | The Movie Star and Me: Very Well-Written Account of a Big-Time LVM Actor Messing with a 23-Yr-Old Intern's MindThat pic she chose is actually a still from the music video of taylor’s long cut of her song about jake. So yes, that choice does strongly imply it’s about Jake Gyllenhaal. Also that scene where she shows up to a party with his friends and feels ignored and small around all his very important and worldly friends is exactly how Taylor recounted feeling in an almost identical incident detailed in her long cut song about him and acted out in its music video | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 17 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!Could be how it’s worded. What do you want out of life for a partner is a bit awkwardly worded and made me draw a blank too. Maybe what wishes and hopes do you have for any future partner of yours. What kind of life would you hope theyre empowered to lead/ do you hope to assist them to live? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:21 AM |
| 39 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?What lies and manipulation. I seem to remember you having a grudge against her in other threads. Only to look in your history and find you post on British Reddit boards bashing her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 28 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?It’s rape. She was doing something to him he did not consent to sexually. That’s how they would refer to it if a man were stealthing a woman or trying to get her pregnant against her will Some could even argue this was self defense on his part If a man tried to wrongfully impregnate a woman against her will and got hurt from trying to do so. I don’t think people would cry for him. No one cries for anyone who injures themself trying to do something rapey to someone else. That’s the risk you take/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:33 AM |
| 39 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?So what. He doesn’t owe her his money. The tone of this is coming off a bit self righteously justified kinda like- Well she did what she needed to do because she needed money and help!! No, she did what she did because she was a low value sleeze. If she wants or needs money she can get out there and do what the rest of us do- work. No one is entitled to a certain lifestyle. So what if he has more advantages? You say that like it means something. As he should. He went out there and freakin worked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:18 AM |
| 37 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?They both did LV things and yes, she did get what she deserved as she had to literally go looking through the trash for this problem like the garbage person she is. Congratulations. She found it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Not sure why you care or what you’re so upset about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:25 AM |
| 15 | Internal Red Flags: TextingEh, it does work to help you communicate your value better and not seem over eager. But at the same time anyone I have to worry about being seen as over eager with or lame because I sent too many texts aint for me. I want him to match my energy on that, to be just as excited as me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:38 PM |
| 16 | Internal Red Flags: TextingHe just wanted to make you feel lame. It was a power play, to position you lower than him socially | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockThat’s valid and I greatly love and appreciate this story. I have one almost identical to it myself but also opposite, in that it never actually involved blocking. I had a male figure in my life whom I cared about very much in a platonic way and whod taught me a tremendous amount at his feet. He was also very manipulative though and started playing mind games designed to degrade control me and degrade my self esteem. I left him abruptly with no warning. Which was a tremendous shock to everyone. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockI’m actually not against blocking. My phone is full of blocked people. But I also don’t see anything wrong with just determining never to reply to a person again. It’s pretty much the same thing to me. Either way you’ve withdrawn your energy I totally appreciate and agree with your first paragraph though about how men typically respond. You are absolutely correct about that. Even so I’m not always against expressing your anger if it makes you feel better and more able to move on and you don’t ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 03:42 PM |
| 49 | 35+ Queens - He Still Ain't S**THaving to affirm youre attractive at 39 still isn’t it. It’s like you’re still coming from a standpoint where age is still a focus. Even making a point of showing you consciously reject the idea that women expire, unfortunately means some of the conditioning got through. Because if it didn’t you wouldn’t even be thinking about it. Low key I had to think about how old I am when I read that- I think 36. Could be a year older or younger, I’d have to do the math to remember honestly. It’s that irrel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"Absolutely correct. It’s just a guise for emotional abuse- under the thin veil of well maybe xyz. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:58 AM |
| 3 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"Ironically, a clear case of him making everything about him and being too damn self absorbed to even notice he was doing it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:56 AM |
| 6 | Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red.I agree but having a second party call them out is a faster track and what I expect when you’re paying $175 an hour. I can guess at things for free myself at home. If they’re not gonna contribute something tangible they can gtfo. But at that rate you better earn your goddamn keep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:22 AM |
| 86 | 35+ Queens - He Still Ain't S**TWhy? Did he think they’d be desperate? Kinda reminds me of the Ashton-Demi dynamic. She says she pitted her against and compared her to younger women and used it to pressure her into doing things she didn’t want | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 5 | Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red.One who calls you on your bullshit and hang ups and holds you accountable on some of your more cobwebby and dodgy corners and patterns of thought would be invaluable to a level up journey. Imagine years worth of growth you’d have to bump around and get thru living spoon fed to you bit by bit in a therapists office. You could arrive at your destination so much earlier and with so much less pain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:38 AM |
| 41 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?I hope it was Johnson and Johnsons. It’s what he deserves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:34 AM |
| 195 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?lmao @ preferred style of communication being “memes or gaslighting” 😂 Otherwise sorry for your experience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:34 AM |
| 6 | Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red.Yikes at last sentence of your second to last paragraph. That’s the LAST thing they should’ve done. They don’t sound very qualified | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:28 AM |
| 8 | Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red.Totally. I’m nit sure what the method was but maybe I need to find what aligns with the active feedback I’m looking for better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 63 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?You’re correct that most men do not have personality disorders as much as shitty attitudes that disrespect women but this man literally leaned into his first wife’s ear on their wedding dance and whispered “I’M THE ALPHA”. So I think in this particular instance there actually is a very high chance of narcissism if you listen to this and the rest of his first wife’s account. The way he tried to control everything down to haircolor and his children’s looks. No, Im not a licensed doctor but I don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:33 AM |
| 92 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?YES. I never forgot that and found it both hilarious and ridiculously awful. I wouldn’t be surprised if he were on the spectrum/ had aspergers as well as having some strong traits of narcissism. He seems startlingly undeveloped emotionally and socially, which in a woman would be taken as a demerit. But in a privileged white man like him is lauded as confirmation of special genius and superiority | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:25 AM |
| 141 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?He’s incredibly LV despite his sky high net worth. I seriously suspect a personality disorder like narcissism or the like, I wouldn’t be surprised if there were some other issues at play as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:13 AM |
| 60 | Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red.IKR, IME I’ve only seen ones that nod and smile when I tel them of disrespectful situations when really they should’ve encouraged boundary setting and deeper consideration They’ve literally literally been worth fucking nothing in my experience. Just glorified vent spaces. Like anyone needs to pay them nearly $200/hr to stare blankly into space and blink back at you. If I wanted that I’d get a diary. It sorta disgusts me. I’ve literally solicited feedback from them and expressly told them what I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 260 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?I would never. Especially not a guy who looks up to or idolize Elon Musk. Not much was known about Gates less savory side until recently. Like he hid it decently well and had good PR. But Musk has long been openly sketchy and no role model. You need only look to his ex wife’s account of his psychopathy in her magazine interview He also stole largely from work of others to get where he is rather than it being the work of his genius. He just buys people out and claims credit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 12:58 AM |
| 14 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”Cool. Thanks for the added perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 12:54 AM |
| 130 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”I’m not saying this to be unkind but I don’t think it could be argued that she’s in any way as good looking as some of the many supermodels he dated in their prime and even had kids with and yet never married. Likely not as dynamic, interesting and well traveled either. I kinda suspect she’s just young, warm bodied and willing to care for him. And I’m saying that as someone about the same age. It’s hard to compete with Jerry Hall and Bianca Jagger in their prime- looks wise, vivacious energy wis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:02 PM |
| 410 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”This is how you know it’s not about the girl herself. He’s been with a long string of legendary models etc. I doubt this woman is so unique either in looks or personality that she just happens to outshine all the others he’s dealt with in his near 80 years on earth. I doubt she’s prettier, wittier, or of superior personality or moral fiber. As far as commitment goes she didn’t outperform nor was she any better than any of the other women. She just happened to be around and open when he felt like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:44 PM |
| 7 | REMINDER: STAY MADI just did a post on this recently if you look in my post history. It bothers me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 5 | REMINDER: STAY MADId planned a whole post on it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:51 PM |
| 24 | REMINDER: STAY MADYes, and as the person who wronged you it would NEVER be their place to say that. It’s like going into a store and breaking an expensive vase and telling the owner yOu nEeD tO jUsT wRiTe iT oFf. Yes, they may decide to do that but for you to tell them they have to do that when you’re in the wrong is a lot of nerve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:50 PM |
| 22 | REMINDER: STAY MADSometimes being the “bigger person” makes you small | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:44 PM |
| 24 | REMINDER: STAY MADNo one ever says it to men. Inability to forgive is only held against women to shame their anger. We must be emotional and feeling and caring in our response to disrespect. Like we’re expected to do emotional labor or making others feel comfort even when mistreated and wronged No one ever regards the choice not to forgive as weakness in a man. In fact it’s usually confirmation of his strength and power in that he doesn’t put up with bullshit. It’s looked at admiringly in him- like look how stron… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:38 PM |
| 83 | I am the female version of the Sorcerer's StoneBrilliant. I love it! Only those who see themselves holding you (who actually enjoy/ are after the mere enjoyment of being with you) can claim you. Not those who see themselves using you (for money, talent, social status, looks). Since you like Harry here’s another a similar analogy from there I’ve long applied in my life. It comes from the scene where Harry uses the time turner to go back in time. Watching from the bushes he runs into himself being attacked by dementors. Having already lived th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 7 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!It doesn’t surprise me the same dynamics exist in nursing/ healthcare. It’s the same structure- an old profession with what was for a long time a mainly male upper class, supported by a mainly all female support team. And yes, Ive heard a great deal about older women in nursing being bullies to their own, which doesn’t surprise me as I see frequent elements of it in law | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!I think a lot of them know it hasn’t worked to their advantage. Ive had some within the office say it to me in moments of frankness. But there are others who are kind of blind to it and get really bullish and defensive trying to push there way on me. It’s almost like they can smell the difference in attitude and approach on me although I make no declarations and it offends them as a rejection of how they’ve lived. Kind of a strange phenomenon but you do get a sense of some of them trying to thro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:11 PM |
| 29 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!What I see is that they take up more space than female secretaries but still significantly less than male attorneys. In 15 years I can only think of 3 that insisted on being just as loud as the men. I don’t think they receive the same pressure to shrink and whisper that I do from older female secretaries because they out rank them, so those women don’t feel able to impose. But because I share the same title and have less seniority they look at me as less/ under them and someone who must listen t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:44 AM |
| 9 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.Yes, they’re emotional abusers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:25 PM |
| 10 | The “ Crazy Ex-Girlfriend “I like you and millenialpinks energy on this. No ones ever said that to me, but if they do in the future I’ll be challenging it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:30 AM |
| 25 | Meagan Good and Devon Franklin Divorce. Accusations of Negging and Emotional Abuse/ Control Games on His PartShe’ll be ok. Her beauty is legendary in the black community. It’s almost like white people saying Megan Fox is free again. Maybe even more meaningful as she’s been acting since she was a child and came of age in the limelight. She’s like every black boy of that age’s first celebrity crush and awakening. Twitter is posting meme after meme about exactly how lit and thirsty her dms are about to be. She’s not going to want for a man if she doesn’t want to. Hell probably even some women will be in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:43 PM |
| 9 | How to deal with passive men?Don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 09:12 AM |
| 3 | They know what they're doing.What I like about this is the negging and criticisms she cites are some that I might not even have thought of as that because they’re so subtle. You leave a party where he’s super charming and as soon as you get in the car he begins criticizing you with: *Why didn’t you talk to my mother longer? You didn’t have my back when that guy was talking to me You know you really weren’t that nice to my boss, that would’ve helped. Don’t you want me to get that promotion”.* All of those things can be cut d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:02 PM |
| 5 | and another thing on not ever dating single fathersI definitely feel the church was responsible for some of the brain washing that we must be kind and charitable to the poor and not discriminate against them. And even the idea that poverty is more closely aligned to a humble spirit and more godly superior personality traits whereas money means haughty arrogance and undeveloped nasty personality As someone who’s never had money i can tell you a lot of the people around me without who I grew up with were also LV assholes. Men who gambled drunk etc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:25 PM |
| 4 | and another thing on not ever dating single fathersYeah, I was younger myself at the time and pre-FDS so although I wondered about some of this stuff I didn’t really even know enough myself to tell her different. Like all I could do was watch closely to see where something like this really goes. I didn’t have enough experience in my own life to say it was good or bad for sure. Just hmmmm…. But tbh, I kinda get the impression that if I had I warned her off him she would’ve looked down on me as not being developed enough in my kindness or empathy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:19 PM |
| 4 | and another thing on not ever dating single fathersYeah what’s really sad was that they were dating and I could see thought living with him and getting up at 5 am to make the kids eggs was a flex. Crossing her arms and bragging to me- no tv or video games before homework with me. Now they make all As. But why be playing second mom in your 30s to kids that are not even yours with no ring yet even in sight? I feel she was brainwashed by church that this is the good and kind thing to do but your responsibility here is to be kind to yourself first a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 9 | and another thing on not ever dating single fathersI have a friend who married a guy 20 yrs older than her. He was in his 50s when they started dating with two pre teen kids from a previous marriage where the wife left him. She was just coming out 5 yr or so relationship living with a young guy who she found out had no intention of marrying her. Desperate for kids before hitting a certain age she starts attending church, meets this guy. I get the impression she was really impressed that he takes care of the kids and would dress them, bring them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:11 PM |
| 105 | Don't Let A Man Waste Years Of Your Life Keeping You in the Forever Girlfriend RoleHe was always so firmly dismissive when asked about marrying her even though they’d been together for years. Like literally happy to say god no! He probably was adamant about telling her it would never happen privately too. He never should’ve been given a chance. He seems like the type that thinks he’s so good everyone is trying to lock him down. Like I get big deli fish/ please myself vibes, off him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:52 AM |
| 10 | Jonathan Ross Points out Lewis Hamilton on His BSYeah the dismissive quotation marks about being bf and gf. The inability to remember exactly what parts of the song she said she wrote for him. Honestly, he comes across really self important and dismissive of her which is ironic because I consider her the catch. Everyone said she had a GREAT personality when she was judging on that show. She’s beautiful as well with a body that’s basically legendary. He didn’t deserve her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:43 AM |
| 8 | I don't know why anyone would date a single fatherHave you ever seen or read Daphne DuMarier’s “Rebecca” Even a dead ex can be problematic if she’s hailed as a mythical Mary figure you can never measure up to and used to triangulate you There’s a reason its considered a horror film/ psychological thriller | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 09:10 PM |
| 43 | They know what they're doing.What’s the proof for those of us who are lazy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:39 PM |
| 7 | How to remain a HVW when you run into your former flames?Being high value does not always mean “taking the high road”. Especially if he’s tried to character assassinate or ruin your reputation through a smear campaign or exposing private things. In those situations I think you do whatever you have to to put things in their place and sometimes that may involve some level of intimidation or meeting him where he’s at as that’s all they’ll heed or respect. I don’t advocate “being the bigger person” where a man has acted poorly. Sometimes being “the bigger… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:49 AM |
| 70 | Would you date someone who doesn’t understand misogyny?If they “don’t understand” they’re part of the problem. Further, comments about women having it way better than years ago show exactly what the problem is. It isn’t that they don’t understand it’s that they don’t think the complaints are valid or worth anything. They think women should shut up and be happy they’re not being treated like they were in the 60s. That their current treatment is good enough. Imagine saying that to a black person? Why are you protesting being shot unarmed in the street… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 09:56 AM |
| 5 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Tiger Woods Never got any play while young because too focused on academics, success and unhot. Now a little successful and trying to go buck wild with the hostess at Denny’s and every other woman that have them. A lot of these men feel it’s owed to them to try out every type of woman and every type of sexual experience they can possibly get. Like they’re working some checklist of different ethnicities and positions just to be able to say they are the man and did it all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 11:30 AM |
| 8 | The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last TimeTaylor Swift voice I wanna be defined by the things that I love. Not the things that I hate. Not the things that I'm afraid of, not the things that haunt me in the middle of the night. I…..I just think- You are what you love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 11:23 AM |
| 8 | The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last TimeEmotional terrorism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 11:08 AM |
| 91 | How narcissistic men view marriage. Spoiler: It is to gain credibility from other men, so they can maintain status in the male 'dominance hierarchy'You’re doing gods work with the summary for us lazy ones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 03:20 PM |
| 28 | F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the worst shows I've seenThey are very vocal about consent but consent also includes what we discuss. If I tell you that I do NOT want to hear about your latest boyfriend’s performance or BDSM adventure, let’s talk about something else 🤯 I never thought about that before but you are so right. It is a form of boundary breaking and forcing something on someone against their will. You can’t ear rape a person. Interestingly enough this has been used by men against me as an almost masturbatory form of assault. I worked with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Negotiation tactic: always be willing to walk awayWhat hobbies and friendships are rounding out your life. I think I’m doing pretty well there but would like to round out more what a really lush independent life looks life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:12 AM |
| 16 | Negotiation tactic: always be willing to walk awayHonestly, 6 months to me is the first face off point. The area where people get comfortable and the mask drops in a job or a relationship. It’s actually the point where i start looking for red flags hard once again and reassessing things. Because I always always always have a problem at the 6 month mark and when it seems I didn’t in retrospect- I realize red flags did crop up around that exact time whether I ignored them or not. 6 month mask fall is vital | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:10 AM |
| 6 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.My favorite way to deal with this- Me: You seem to be implying/ saying xyz Them: No no no! Me: Factually reasserting in a quietly confident way Well thats how it seems Very simple but rather hard to get around. You can’t accuse the person of being hysterical or paranoid. It seems neutrally observational yet shuts down so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:32 AM |
| 10 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.They talk in third person when it’s clearly hostile and aimed at you My narcissist boss used to do this. You’re absolutely correct it’s passive aggression because they are too cowardly for confrontation but what I also found is it’s a control thing. Exactly as you said it allows them to criticize and call you out and humiliate and degrade you, emotionally man handle you- without any right to reply on your part. Because “iM nOt tALkiNg aBoUt yOu.” My boss would do this all the time- make comments… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 03:41 AM |
| 43 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.He has to be. In his mind it’s a zero sum game. If he’s not running you, if he doesn’t have his boot on your neck he automatically assumes you’ve got yours on his. Their mind doesnt admit for a relationship of equals. You’re either the dominant or the bitch and they’ll be damned if they’re gonna be the bitch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:47 AM |
| 2 | The insane shit men will lie aboutIt is a big deal. And it signals 1. They are ok with snowing you to take away your right to vet or reject them on certain parameters 2. They’re not comfortable with who they are and where they are in life. Online dating has normalized this greatly though and a lot of women will overlook a “white lie” of a few years on age. I don’t believe it should ever be overlooked. Anyone who does that should be cancelled as it’s a harbinger of larger issues and problematic attitudes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 6 | The insane shit men will lie aboutAnd they get quite triggered when you refuse to play along And have such fragile egos they will go to extreme lengths to cover their snowball of lies This is the crux of it. It’s basically a deeply flawed personality/ personality disorder. The unraveling of the lie in front of you- not even you challenging them directly- just you tripping up and chancing upon the truth. Causes them to reel and touches on their eyeball/ their sense of self in a way that is completely destabilizing to them. You ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:03 AM |
| 17 | The insane shit men will lie aboutThese are the type that murder you. I see it all the time on shows. He’s a Doctor from Harvard. Only 6 years into the relationship the lies start unraveling and he’d rather kill her than let her find out he’s already married, never went to college or any other school save that of Hard Knocks, and is 10 yrs older than he claimed. Men who lie on that level are a huge red flag. And the misdemeanor of a white lie says something about their lack of ethics and morals that becomes so much more. For som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!The coMmUnICaTiOn is never done in good faith from their end It’s about gaslighting you and getting you to bend. About how to make you consent to disrespect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!Nikki Giovanni spoke about this years ago. How black men would smile in the faces of their white bosses who treated them unfairly but take out all their anger and frustration from the job and from the troubles of racism and discrimination on their black wives and lovers. “Why can’t you lie to me? You lie to everyone else. I’m saying Lie to me! Fake it with me!” Powerful words. They know how to moderate their emotions and engage etc in all the right ways where they think it counts and with whom t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:48 PM |
| 7 | Men are emotionally stuntedThis was a big problem I had with my last boss. He was emotionally constipated and although he was extremely intelligent, maybe even genius on other levels- he was so emotionally stunted and stupid. Just like you said- they makes assumptions predicated on how bubbly we are. He thought and I think a lot of men do this even in marriages- that they can tell just by looking in your face, exactly what you’ll put up with and where they stand on your breaking point for bullshit. You’ll have complained … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 11:48 AM |
| 31 | Don't let the man downgrade you!Chemo is another reason for yellow teeth and yes whitening does weaken the enamel. Isnt all that good for the tooth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 02:56 AM |
| 2 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaSo glad you’re living the dream! I’m not too pressed or upset as I’m being quite paid a lot- well more than I’ve ever made before- and expect to transition out soon enough! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 12:12 AM |
| 28 | Men are emotionally stuntedEverything listed in the last sentence are forms of abuse and misogyny put on us by men. So men who behave in the same way don’t have the same justification as women for it. Women are running from the frequent abuse and mislabeling of them from men. Men aren’t really running from anything valid, because hardly anyone is more understanding than a woman with an interest in you. They don’t really risk being gaslight or called nutty or insecure for opening up to a woman the way we do. In fact, any r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Yes, Taylor. Also Britney, Janet, Lindsey etc. A lot of women in pop were mistreated by the pressed and framed in deeply misogynistic ways by the media. Glad there’s been a cultural reexamination of it and an accounting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 09:43 PM |
| 14 | You really are the prize. Don’t let the media and the patriarchy convince you otherwise.We lengthen their lives. They live longer with a woman looking after them and their quality of life, mental health and self reported happiness goes up. They also earn more than they do single with use supporting them in their careers. Women by contrast are usually burned out working and doing ALL the house chores. Married women are more likely to be on anti depressants. That’s what men do for us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 09:24 PM |
| 11 | A man you date can only be two things: a dating potential or a husband. In your mind, he should NEVER be considered your family.I used to see my boss do that with his forever gf. Loudly introduce her to everyone as his “wife” and say things to her like “you’re so smart. That’s why I married you”. They were in fact not legally married at all. And he was flirting very openly and hard with another woman in the office whom we all suspected him to be screwing. Yet when his gf would come to office hed make a huge show of showing her around to everyone as his wife and making sure the staff at his disposal respected her as such … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.Yeah, communicating isn’t going to ever fix them. Just bail if you find yourself with someone like this. I can’t see what drawing line in the sand about what you intend to do if they continue to go hot and cold is going to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.Meditations is an excellent book but I now regard men who larp on it or claim to be into “stoicism” as a red flag and with mild disgust. It attracts the most emotionally stunted pseudo-intellectuals ever. Sea lions who will question your question and have no idea how to love. Also a big red flag if he’s a nihilist or claims to like Nietchze whose personal history and deep misogyny chasing a woman who didn’t want him I won’t get into. But he makes many incredibly sexist generalizations about wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 01:49 AM |
| 8 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaWorse part is HR and Office Admin are often older females who uphold the misogynistic idea that you must be everyone friend or furrowed brow, pearl clutch you’re not being “NiCe”. So if they complain they’re not getting enough attention from you, they are often backed by other older women in charge with the same internalized misogynistic ideas about the overly open, people pleasing attitudes women must have in the office and how they have to/ should cater to everyone else’s social comfort. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:13 PM |
| 66 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaIt is NOT my intention to be mean. But as women we need to unlearn expecting emotional labor and “unconditional love” from other adult women. Boundaries and accountability are healthy! I experience this often on the job, usually from older women. I notice they demand nothing from the men socially- are even used to being treated like or overlooked like a piece of furniture and accept that silently. But have a sense of entitlement to a certain social exchange from me and to emotional dump on me. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:34 PM |
| 1 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?What were your other examples of why. To ben honest I’ve seen enough episodes here and there but never watched the show the whole way theough. But I do feel he gets held up as a symbol of aspirational black love all owing to the “baby please” scene | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:48 AM |
| 20 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.The avoidant partner is so caught up in their attachment issues that they probably won't even notice you or your needs or wants. Until you go to leave, anyway, then they're ✨blindsided✨ because you never cOmMuNiCaTeD. Whoa. Truth bomb. As someone mentioned below they will completely ignore you in moments when you need emotional support or someone in your corner. Even allowing emotional abuse in the form of their friends and family ganging up on you in front of them, or saying things to degrade y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:59 PM |
| 9 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?I don’t really like her. She gives off mean girl competitive vibes to me and I get the impression she had a get and keep the man at any cost attitude toward dwayne wade- which has made her a door mat and pick me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:22 AM |
| 8 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?Yeah, she’d probably be tied to him for child support and have to engage with him over rearing the child and visitation. But I think he also purposely is making a grab for the genes of someone who is known as one of the most beautiful women in the world to produce his offspring. That too is about power and control but from a different angle. I think he would do it even if it were clear she would never have any financial or legal obligation to the child and never see either of them again, just to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 14 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?A grab to utilize and control her beauty/ genes. I think the reason he wants her eggs so bad is as a dominance/ control claim to her genes so as to guarantee him a beautiful child even if they’re not together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:27 PM |
| 16 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?A lot of people who read Gabrielles book noted that she was still trying IVF to conceive even while “separated”. They speculate that the couple never really broke up, he cheated but to save face after the fact and continue to be with him, Gabrielle maybe framed it like they were on a “break” when they weren’t. Bc who continues trying to conceive by someone they broke up with? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:04 PM |
| 36 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?Hey, we are talking about 2 different people here- Dwayne Wayne is a character off a popular black tv show from the 90s- A different world. Dwayne WADE is the Miami Heat basketball player But yea, Dwayne Wade is super LV too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:02 PM |
| 64 | I have no wordsAt the same time he probably enjoys the exotic aspect and look of her being part black and was attracted to that in the first place. Only to turn around and neg the hair routines associated with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:05 PM |
| 55 | I have no wordsShe probably needs one of those t-shirt towels | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:00 PM |
| 80 | I have no wordsYes, and oftentimes when they claim a family dislikes something about you it’s because they secretly agree, sanction it in private. Family says you dress slutty, it may be true they said it but only because he made them feel comfortable enough to and sides with them on the issue when you’re not around behind your back, KWIM. So to an extent it’s really coming from him or them as a group +/including him. But as a coward he uses them to sublimate his own negative feelings and aggressions toward yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:29 AM |
| 11 | DAE Hate Shonda Rimes Written RomancesHTGAWM was so oversexed. It was really disgusting to me how they kept acting like the gay character was such an oversexed stereotype who did nothing but fuck in every public corner he could find. It was insanely unrealistic that everytime they got in a fix he would use his seduction skills to get the necessary person on their side and fuck his way out of it. Like that large a portion of the population just happens to be gay and open to being seduced by another man anyway. Kinda ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 08:05 PM |
| 63 | Look whose reaction he wantsThis is the ultimate in overvaluing male approval and bro-ship over the support and connection you have with a woman because you think women are intrinsically lower value as humans. How funny that he’s seeking to honor his bro but his bro overstepped him to honor his own wife, showing he doesn’t value their friendship as more than his marriage, the way the other guy does | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:43 PM |
| 14 | DAE Hate Shonda Rimes Written RomancesWhich ones and how so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 20 | DAE Hate Shonda Rimes Written RomancesI think she was responsible for the script of the adaptation and you can tell by the speeches etc it was made to be in line with, share a common thread with her other work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:33 PM |
| 92 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?I haven’t experienced this rude talking about you right in front of your face from other couples but I have experienced it in spades from older women, especially on the job. Commenter above is absolutely correct about that smirking body language being the best way to handle it. I experienced this myself first hand. The older women on my job were daily making a big show of talking about me and smirking over my head as they walked past my desk. I would frown in mild disgust and I could see in thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:10 PM |
| 40 | Reminder of why it's prudent to never go off appGive a google voice number. It’s different from your real one even though it can be answered thru your regular phone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Do not accept negging at all. It's always made to make you feel insecure so that you emotionally depend on them for validation.https://youtu.be/L8V0VVUGdYU This video talks about exactly the scenario you described and was insanely eye opening to me. It goes over why men do it and what a test of your self esteem etc it is- and then various kinds of responses you can give to shut it down It really is an excellent video | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 10:41 AM |
| 59 | Lets talk about COWARD MenHe couldn’t even verbally defend me. He couldn’t even take my side when I told him a story from my day about someone being an ass to me, like he never believed I perceived the situation correctly. The emotional violence of being disbelieved. This is another example of what I spoke about in my own comment below about men who don’t defend against emotional issues being just as cowardly The disbelieving is a respect issue at core. He hated you/ didn’t respect you think your experience was valid as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:20 AM |
| 78 | Lets talk about COWARD MenWhen he sees you in pain, what will he do? Will he get concerned and immediately try to make that pain goes away because he just can't bear to see you in pain? Or will he get annoyed and says you are just being "overdramatic"? This applies to emotional pain too. I’ve known men who would’ve jumped in front of a train for me on the physical front but for whatever reason allowed me to be in emotionally abusive situations were I was being d*cked around and disparaged by their family members, their f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:25 AM |
| 10 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceMen are the greatest cause of low self esteem in women- and i don’t even mean bfs and husbands. I mean father | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 12:35 AM |
| 16 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceBoth are forms of mental health shaming meant to degrade you and lower your value and self esteem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:34 PM |
| 45 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceYes, so glad someone else said that. I did a whole post on it once. I’m tired of women being negged for “not loving themselves” enough. It’s even used in situations where it doesn’t apply to try and give women a complex. Black men love it in the black community- you’ll even hear it in fuck boi songs- “how can I love you baby first you got to love yourself.” Imagine being told that by Rick Ross’ fat a$$. It’s a very popular neg for black men to use to degrade both women who may have imperfect cir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:47 PM |
| 38 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceA lot of them have misogynistic, old style ideas about women too. Like with a 55 year old you would do nothing but clash because even the ones who seem modern often have extremely outdated ideas of how women are and what they want. I learned that working closely with them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | A reminder for you ladies *remove* the pickme’s in your life today including family - A moody synopsis and someone who understands *you* for once.And yet 19 other people agreed. Do they lack comprehension skills too? Have a good night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Have you dated a man that can actually clean up?Ok, hear me out. The double dipping is vile but I don’t think showering at bed time and then not doing it the next morning is so bad. What really did you do to get dirty except roll around in a clean bed? If you don’t sweat at night I don’t see where it should be an issue. The only thing that might make it meh- is if you like to wash fully after using the bathroom in the morning. But that presumes you don’t sully yourself at any point during the day by using the bathroom while at work or out, wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupYeah, I’m not really invested in her. But making such a big deal of publicly saying I’m not mad! I’m not mad! made me think of a larger problem at large. I’m like ok. So what if you were? Is that a crime??? It’s not but society would like us to believe it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:30 PM |
| 11 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupBeing the bigger person makes you small. Men know this which is why they never do it themselves It’s also is why women are often encouraged by men and society to do it. I can’t stand when other women become covert agents of this oppression too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 13 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupI was in very deep grief and it was the moment I stopped being a cool girl, got in touch with my anger and told him to never contact me again as I had lost all respect for him that I felt that I recovered my dignity and some self- esteem. 🤡 really thought he was going to pop in and out of my life and was a “nice guy” because I hadn’t said anything. Yes, oftentimes naming things plain is a huge part of recovering some of our self respect enough to move on. And you’re right people spin staying qui… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 04:58 PM |
| 22 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupWe really have to see this kind of respectability politics for what it is and reject it. YES YES YES to all of this. I love that you made the connection to respectability politics because I 💯 percent thought about it too but was too lazy to fully get into it or flesh it out. The respectability politics men impose on women and praise after a relationship ends but which privately only benefits them is EXTREMELY similar to the game of respectability politics put on blacks. Like the idea women have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 04:40 PM |
| 15 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupI’m not solely talking about expressing anger to him. But expressing anger or annoyance or just the neutral truth of what it was on a social front. The context was adele’s interview making a huge point of saying shes not angry after the end of her marriage. Which is ok. But why the big need to say that publicly. Would it be invalid and shameful if she was especially if she was mistreated. It shouldn’t be but often is for women who are expected to put on a placid, unaffected exterior socially eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:48 PM |
| 38 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupOne of the biggest cons men have affected is making women feel they need to be silent after a relationship to prove they’re not the crazy ex or overaffected and over upset about it or to not come across as “unclassy” It’s allows men as a whole to continue to perpetuate many crimes against women while taking for granted the woman will be tight lipped about them in public and with society because it’s frowned upon as tacky for her to do anything else | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:39 PM |
| 16 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupYes, this is a lot of what I was trying to express about the downside of this attitude but didn’t get into entirely. I’ve done posts on it more fully in the past- but yes, it does perpetuate and allow them to get away with quite a lot and it’s going to take us being a lot louder and making certain relationship behaviors publicly shame-able by society to change the norm. Which is why I love that Taylor swift speaks out publicly rather than just letting shit go silently when men have wronged her I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:30 PM |
| 20 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupNot necessarily if they were hiding their behavior and you broke up abruptly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:21 PM |
| 34 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupWhoever can trigger your feeling controls you Why is this idea only ever applied to women, though. Men express inappropriate anger all the time at things women do and they’re not given this morally superior, condescending talk down about “Well if she’s getting you that upset she clearly controls you and you’re weak”. That logic is only ever used to shame female displays of anger. And the fact that it’s never applied to men- Male anger is still allowed to equal control and power while female ange… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:19 PM |
| 38 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupBut women need to learn to separate their feelings from their external expressions I don’t want to say to this is a form of victim blaming, but I don’t feel we have an obligation to hide feelings that are valid. If a person is angry that you mistreated them what does anyone expect. That’s totally to be expected. It may not change the situation but it may be necessary for that person to express. I don’t like the idea that we should have to put on a false face about anything. I feel like it’s just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:38 PM |
| 46 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupI can get with this. I still hold my viewpoint for certain situations but I love and agree with yours as well for others By the same token, like there’s no way you should be in a 5 year marriage to someone complete with multiple kids, etc and they cheat and you have to act un-angry or unaffected by it or like you barely noticed. I’m not saying that getting upset changes things. But it is natural and it’s more for you. I do believe at some point the pressure to seem unaffected and un-angry gets r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:16 PM |
| 5 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youYes, and it’s also a quietly coercive effort to push your head down and train you to never bring up a problem by giving you negative feedback back and so much trouble each time you do. They try to make the threshold for address so high in emotional fuckery we have to put up with from them that we don’t try. It is a very purposeful training on their part to silence us and get us to keep quiet/ fear brining you the things they don’t want to hear. What you said about them wearing us down until the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:50 AM |
| 5 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youA lot of them revel in taking passive aggressive shots or shots sublimated through other people and then Big Ugly Smiling. Whaaaaaa??? What did I do??? Knowing full well you’ll be unable to explain to call it out because it’s so round about and sneakyily done. They know this and that’s exactly why it’s done that way. When disrespect is kept vague and confusing. When they can throw the rock and hide the hand they can get a woman who wouldn’t normally eat shit to eat a shit sandwich because she ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:41 PM |
| 9 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youI have secondary satisfaction as recompense for the myriad times this was used against me and I didn’t know how to respond | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:02 PM |
| 13 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youYes, I’ve often come to this same forked crisis of conscience in trying to communicate before pre-FDS I hit a point where it’s like either such extreme ignorance on their part they’d be responsible for it and it’s still their fault anyway OR them playing dumb in a way that’s cruel and calculated to make a fool and punk out of me and disrespect me passive aggressively. But either way they’re fucking responsible or in the wrong and need to go. And you’re right it blows their mind when the confusio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:12 PM |
| 33 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youThat’s part of the game and it’s not coincidence. They blow you off or shout you down or shame you off when you try to communicate and then impose a fake statute of limitations after having commuted the convo several times. Like omg why are you still on this??? We’re still on it because you purposely stymied and prevented me/ us from finishing addressing it properly the first time. He just didn’t want to hear it period and complaining there was “always something wrong” was a way to shame you out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:11 AM |
| 27 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youOr he’ll pretend it’s nutty and unstable. Why are you so “worked up” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:32 AM |
| 26 | Famous HMV?no. he been cheating on his wife with sanaa lathan and if you listen to his wife in interviews you can tell. Pauletta in an interview: “I live with this man. I see the down part. I see the sad part. I see every part. He has and knows he has that stability in me as his wife. That’s gives him strength, regardless of if he misuses it. I can’t dwell on that. But I do know that gives him a great platform to go and fly,” F dat mean cept he cheat and I still support him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:05 AM |
| 22 | A reminder for you ladies *remove* the pickme’s in your life today including family - A moody synopsis and someone who understands *you* for once.“Not listening to advice…Demonizing you for attempts to ground them” You take on too much. No one has to listen to your advice or attempts to ground them. There’s a certain amount of presumption in assuming they do. Let people live their life unless they actively and overwhelmingly prove they want your advice and viewpoint thru their actions. If they ask, then show they don’t want to hear- fall all the way back. But what’s the point in getting upset. No one is entitled to have their advice liste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:05 AM |
| 5 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeBoss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:59 PM |
| 3 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYes, sometimes the flex on degrading you a bit for others in a sense of showing how powerful they are and what they can get you to do. The caliber or the person they’re able to control- it’s a form of power signaling Here’s a good looking woman who seems to have her shit together and I want other men to know that she lets me degrade her because I’m such an alpha, so very much “that guy” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:03 PM |
| 6 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYES YES YES Oftentimes charismatic does NOT mean extroverted alpha male the way people imagine. As a matter of fact with the best top top level manipulators it almost never does. They’re way more subtle than the traditional love bomb though they’re doing something that amounts quietly to the same. Oftentimes they come across as extremely humble quiet committed guys who do more than the usual for others. Who mentor and uplift others. Those are the acts that ingratiate and charm people. Quiet acts… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:25 PM |
| 6 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic Me100% doesn’t represent him as a person. It represents your experience with him. 98% of it may be amazing and totally feel good while 2% involves some vague form of disrespect. I’m not saying he should be 100% because no one is. We all have flaws. But I’m saying there should be no notable elements of disrespect in the relationship regardless of how well the rest of it seems to be going and how much of a serotonin boost it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:53 PM |
| 4 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYea, it feels hard to find someone else as handsome, singular, as much of a boss, with as much social acumen and class, etc etc. Like they overachieve in their roles as bfs too and the nexus of what they provide seems impossible to get elsewhere but eventually if they push things enough you become determined or forced to try and see I left someone similar over disrespect that seemed hazy and was done in such a manipulative way it seemed not to be coming from him at first. I’m not sure if I’ll ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:26 PM |
| 9 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYea and this is the type of outsize generosity they often express I said outsize gifts and such and they they’re generous materially it might not be that. Usually it’s in the form of mentoring you in a way that seems amazing, in connection and opportunities- moving you forward financially and career wise in a way you could rarely get elsewhere. That is the special behavior they have and that make you feel they can’t be LV if they’re contributing to your growth and advancement so much in those wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 12 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic Meyes, so true. the thing is they’re often over achievers and outliers in personal areas of life too. Like playing the good son or bf. So yes they may show up for you in some very real ways that seem beyond what most men would do. Taking care of sick or disable relatives, supporting your family monetarily etc and still not be 100 in other areas or have narcissistic tendencies Ironically, the person I was thinking of when I wrote this post also has a forever gf who’s disabled child he supports and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:28 PM |
| 20 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYeah but a lot of times they also don’t come across as trying to be big man on campus or very extra or overt in their charm. They may even highlight being very down to earth and not appear to have wealth openly. The stuff they give and do to you will be very nice but they just seem like high professionals. People don’t realize they are like quiet millionaires The charisma isn’t overt either. You discern it through how others react to them and the kind of outsize love and devotion others seem to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:17 PM |
| 18 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYes, because of their special positions of leadership and visibility they demand undying and unquestioned loyalty and respect from those around them. You’re constantly having to prove youre for them. But often times they are not for you in the most basic and important ways when it comes down to it and they don’t think you’re important enough that the loyalty they’re always openly demanding should run both ways. They’ll question your support for them on the most minute things and then flagrantly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 12:45 PM |
| 17 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeYes but a lot of men can be 50/50 or 60/40, 70/30 etc. It’s still very clear. With these types it’s overwhelmingly difficult because they’re more like 98/2. it’s kept so subtle and vague the problems may not even reach conscious level for a very long time while you’re being smothered in gifts and words of affirmation and acts that generate good feeling. It’s a different serotonin trip that makes it harder to distinguish from other. There’s a reason these types are often Executives, big leaders, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:21 AM |
| 49 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeSame. Yes, they do tend to get sloppy and arrogant about what you will put up with and what they can convince you you didn’t see/ do right in front of your face and lie poorly about with impunity. That’s when the disrespect reaches conscious level and becomes impossible to ignore. But they think still they’ve got you by the t*ts so hard with gifts and charm that you’ll never walk even if you both know you know and see it In the end, they always overplay their hand by arrogantly overestimating th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:07 AM |
| 69 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.Perfect answer to this: So is money. But you chase that, dont you? Most men are doing the most to try and have a career and the status money provides. Well why is that important when it’s also just a piece of paper? Because it provides certain very real privileges and advantages. Just like being legally married does. But really money is just paper. Especially now that it can be manipulated and printed at will and we are no longer on the gold standard meaning it is backed with nothing concrete- b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:01 PM |
| 8 | Taylor Swift’s “All Too Well”I suspect she went to therapy after the whole Kim K debacle where she was cancelled and got called a snake and publicly shamed on a massive level. she disappeared for a year. They asked her if she’d been in her documentary and she very coyly declined to answer. But even without it, I just suspect she’s super smart. She made some great observations about fame and the limits people put on how much success they will accept from women, that the public is only willing to see a certain a mount of a su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 11:51 AM |
| 38 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”Honestly though, this imposed forgetfulness when a relationship ends, at risk of being crazy shamed as “nutty” or “too affected” or “not moving on” has long been weaponized by the patriarchy to silence women on male shittyness It is a tool used to hold women’s tongues and shame them into shutting up or not speaking about the wrong things that went on behind closed doors, inside a relationship, the violence, both emotional and physical, perpetrated by men. No matter when you do it it’s always “om… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:53 AM |
| 59 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”But I seriously wondered tho, for the sake of mental health is she really okay? For your mental health, are we really there yet? Her remembering plainly what happened does not make her mentally ill or holding onto the past and the suggestion that it does is a tad bit condescending. She’s clearly moved on and done other things. Further her adding to the songs gives obvious incentive for people to listen to her re-recorded cut. Why should they if they’re exactly the same as the original? And provi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:13 AM |
| 252 | New guy feels the need to talk shit about a dead HVM. Smells like LV/NV from where I'm standing.“thats him??! that’s the guy you got with??” What an incredible loser. He’s trying to neg the guys looks as being beneath him and also her for dating someone he doesn’t think was top tier looks wise. It reeks of misogynistic loserhood. He’s the kind of person who works off hotness scales. Like a high schooler or lame ass frat boy. Nevermind hes so misogynistic and needing to be dominant against every guy he meets, he’s negging having a d-ck measuring contest with a dead guy. He’s an incredible i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:12 PM |
| 74 | Taylor Swift’s “All Too Well”I love that she always speaks her truth on different relationships regardless of the lashback. They tried to silence and shame her when her relationship with the Jonas brother ended too. She spoke out about that. So long women are expected to hold silence or take the L of being mischaracterized or blamed after a relationship ends while public opinion rallies around the man and finger wags her even when she was horribly treated behind doors By speaking out Taylor constantly affirms that the femal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:10 PM |
| 72 | Taylor Swift’s “All Too Well”Another reminder to never envy others relationships. I remember when he made a huge show of like getting her a really expensive vintage guitar. I was like wow. He really goes all out for her. It looked like he doted on her so much. he made a big scene about like going up to her at an awards show while she was sitting in her chair and doting on her etc. Yet look what was going on behind the scenes. It was an $11-15k rare guitar. https://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/jake-gyllenhaal-sur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 11:38 AM |
| 23 | Assault disguised as "mischief"People have been paralyzed being pushed in the pool at their graduation party/ engagement party etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Job interviews are like datingThey open themselves up to legal liability/ can be sued if they ask that in a state where it is illegal. I worked at a big office and on every single interview schedule recruiting would send out for a prospective candidate they’d put all the states in which that is illegal to ask in huge bold letters on the bottom with a big reminder not to do so. So don’t let them trick you into feeling you must say- especially if you live in one of those states but even if you don’t, it’s no ones right to know… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 6 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceYeah, I didn’t get their weak vibe from her either. She was able to do the right thing pretty firmly and quickly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 11:06 AM |
| 60 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Yes, angry at what a frigid bitch you are if you don’t let them hit but look down on your as a slut and lower value if you do. They don’t even realize they’d have far more abundant sex lives if they lifted the societal stigma that makes sex a reputation risk for women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:41 PM |
| 63 | Saw my best friends married and currently going through IVF, uncle on tinder.What websites can you check through | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 100 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.IME 6 months usually is the face off point where the mask slips. Even in jobs. 6 months is usually where the bf, boss, etc who seemed amazing to start with starts showing red flags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:46 PM |
| 50 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceYeah, I posted that big wall of text that lists many faults of his but it’s like people read between the lines and find the one background point where she maybe didn’t step 100% perfectly. It’s like a woman has to be 1000% perfect in every word, tone, gesture and move before the focus can shift to what the guy did wrong even if that guy was deeply flawed, abusive, clearly 99% the cause of the relationship ending. I’m not saying the concerns raised aren’t valid or true but sometimes that choice t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:56 PM |
| 49 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceYeah, I feel he’s one of those guys who looks normal and upbeat on the surface but has hang ups, personality flaws and control issues underneath. She maybe could’ve played it differently but he was definitely like 90% responsible for the relationship ending and so obviously the more problematic one He was trying to use money as his one personality trait and power card. He seemed socially awkward and very withholding and it was basically the only thing he had going for him. Some in the comments w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 49 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceYou’re definitely right. But I can’t say I’m so interested in going the well why didn’t she x??! route. Women already have that put on them so much to move perfectly. He’s really still more in the wrong for being a shitty person than she is for misjudging. It gets a bit wearisome for me to hear well she shouldve x or see the focus always put on how the woman shoudlve had better sense or chosen better, moved more perfectly while ignoring how flawed and shitty the men behaved. Just for today I’m m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:34 PM |
| 61 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceI think she did have something set up but don’t know the full story. She probably could’ve handled it better at the start but played it just right at the end. Not interested in judging her when he was so clearly the primarily flawed one with hang ups and control issues. Sometimes you live and learn and she definitely handled it right at the end/ in that final conversation. I’m sure that point will be obvious to most people reading here anyway. The real lesson in this is what covert negging and f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Do not mentor/help male coworkers in their careers. It has ultra low chances of payoff.Ugh. I have noticed many men think it’s a blessing for you/ favor to you for you to serve them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:44 AM |
| 165 | JFC. Men: she cares more about material things more than me. Also men: I had to buy a bed frame to get laid.Ikr, is someone supposed to handhold his d*ck through this severe mental distress | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsGlad someone was able to appreciate/ identify with it. It’s been my struggle for years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 04:14 AM |
| 5 | Help me figure out my strategy...How did heidi use this trick. Did she have the expensive lawyer or did he? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:20 PM |
| 97 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionScarlett all but said their marriage failed because she was too popular at the time and it hurt his ego that her career was in a better place than his | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:38 PM |
| 29 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionLink us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsYeah, I get why it’s needed. It does have a real basis in reality but kinda annoying that’s the only thing focused on for us. We can’t be successful if fend off these things is all we do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsI love to hear her speak and her general vibe. I can tell she’s amazing but I feel her talks on the podcast are always things I kinda already knew. Like they’re good reminders but nothing groundbreaking for me mentally | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:13 PM |
| 7 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsI wouldn’t join in it so I was made the target of it instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsNo ones faulting them but there is such a thing as undo concern about it and that does nothing but reinforce the problem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsI love evy she a boss babe but I feel the interviews with her and her book are somewhat surface. Like i don’t feel I have a real guide to do anything with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 5 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsOh, I definitely understand the reasons for it. But it also definitely reinforces a certain socialization and focus among women, that may not really be to our benefit in the same way financial independence is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:09 PM |
| 63 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.It obviously is. I’m not taking it as seriously as everyone else here. But they’re right that he is LV and rubs me the wrong way. I do believe there’s truth in that hahaha satire of “I love her because of how much she does for me/ how much she loves me/ only as it relates back to self and not any real inherent qualities in her” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:25 PM |
| 8 | Reminder: people are incapable of treating you any better than they treat themselvesI disagree with this as it relates to women. Men typically will not treat you better than they treat themselves. Women do that often and in spades. Nonetheless, a lot of men try to use some variation of this as a weird neg on women. “You can’t love me baby, first you got to love yourself”. It’s a hugely common neg in the black community, from fuck boys. I basically hate this saying because it’s a vague gripe that’s come to be weaponized against women to take a swipe at them by suggesting they ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:46 PM |
| 10 | Huma Abedin on overcoming Anthony Weiner's betrayals — a high-profile LVM. So sad how Huma takes on a lot of responsibility for his actions.I dislike how a lot of conservative religions and cultures keep women from dating for a long time. So they’re like 35 and naive, don’t have any experience with men. And then look to settle down and pick shit because they never evolved, had time to learn discernment and red flags or what they don’t like This is super common in religions and cultures that keep women locked down and innocent/ over sheltered for a long time. They then take the first completely flawed loser who crosses their path bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 12:29 PM |
| 58 | This weird type of poor communication that I dealt with after talking to a guy for a few monthsA close relation to this is- Omg. You’re not happyyyyyy here/ with me. Giant wail No, Chad. Just because I’m bringing up a concern in the relationship doesn’t mean that I’ve been unhappy in it the entire time and been hiding it/ not honest with you. I just want you to be happyyyyyy. You’re not happyyyyy?!! I’m beginning to think that too was a deflection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 10:28 AM |
| 154 | You’ve heard about baby trapping. Be wary of baby and marriage trapping (by his family)If you’re religious or in a culture where gay is not accepted many families gay trap too. Privately they feel/ know the son isn’t quite right but push a woman on him to marry thinking it will “fix him”. It’s ruins the womens self esteem when she can’t figure out why he won’t touch her. The reality is he was always non practicing gay and they always kinda knew, which I’m not decrying or bashing. But when parents push in that way not being honest about their kids inclinations it’s really not fair … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 07:39 PM |
| 13 | I knew I wasn't crazy to think that BDSM/rough sex is wildly incompatible with respecting someoneLet’s not forget the recent studies correlating being strangled with a partner with eventually being killed by him. If your partner has ever choked or strangled you the chance he’ll kill you multiplies like 8 times. And almost half of women killed by an SO were also strangled by him in like the 6 months-year proceeding Let’s not play like that dis-includes bed “play” or choking in bed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 10:50 PM |
| 1 | examples of "Gaga world" -- extremely suble male abuse and manipulationYes, it absolutely will be. The risk of great and the payoff is guaranteed to be almost minimal and non existent. You’re just loading a gun for them You’re gonna be laughed at as an overinvested, overemotional nut. You’re not doing anything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 09:00 PM |
| 40 | This is how a HVM should reactYes, it is a subtle neg. It’s telling you your opinion and experiences are so low, he places them on the ground. They don’t believe it, value it. You’re not to be trusted, aren’t smart enough, perceptive enough, sane enough to know what you’re fucking talking about. To even be with someone who does that in a work setting was a violence to self I could not continue to take. I can’t imagine how it is in a romantic relationship/ marriage. It’s basically telling you repeatedly that you’re nutty, com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:32 PM |
| 38 | This is how a HVM should reactThe violence of being disbelieved. You’re absolutely right. It is a matter grounded in a lack of respect for you as a human. Someone who truly loves you in a situation where they don’t have any facts doesn’t immediately veer toward disbelieving you and taking the side of someone he knows LESS well without even first soliciting what you know and saw. Him doing that to you despite knowing you all your lives hits deep to me. What shit jerk behavior. The violence of that alone made him unworthy of y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:17 PM |
| 14 | Victim BlamingWow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 12:38 AM |
| 30 | examples of "Gaga world" -- extremely suble male abuse and manipulationThe reality is when you reach that point he doesn’t hear you because he doesn’t want to hear you. No degree of communicating is going to fix it. Preserve your dignity and spill it in a journal or to a therapist. I get where you’re coming from though and have been in that place where so much had gone on for so long that I felt I simply could not let it pass without remark. This was in relation to a job. But what do you gain? Nothing but being laughed at, called a nut, abusive, unstable despite be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:08 PM |
| 8 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Yes, I hear yolanda starve them and say insensitive mean things about their looks She probably conditioned them to accept abuse in relationships by being so narcissistically self involved herself. When that’s your baseline- you’ll take it from a man too without knowing better because it feels normal to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:17 PM |
| 7 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:16 PM |
| 39 | Victim BlamingWhat happened really. I’m still confused on it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:15 PM |
| 76 | Let's talk about picky eaters.iF i LiKe u i MaYyYyY cOoK fOr yOu Well looky here- Bobby Flay MAY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:14 PM |
| 45 | examples of "Gaga world" -- extremely suble male abuse and manipulationWhy tf would you ever need to send a man you live with handwritten letters to communicate. What’s next? Morse code and smoke signals?? Guttural clicking noises that some native tribes use???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:09 PM |
| 13 | GASLIGHTING: Which tips/tricks did you teach yourself to combat (self-)gaslighting?But I think that gaslighting is a secondary problem. If a man is convincing you that you are crazy, you never said that, he never said that, that never happened, etc, then you *already trust him more than you trust himself.* Yes, this is the heart of the issue. If someone is able to do it you’re not firm enough in your own self image and self belief. You’re not trusting enough of your own perception. They can only do it if you let them. And you would only let them if some part of you already bel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 03:02 AM |
| -12 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I agree but the way the last paragraph is worded made it seem there must be physical abuse I was unaware of | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:50 AM |
| 5 | GASLIGHTING: Which tips/tricks did you teach yourself to combat (self-)gaslighting?I’ve dealt with this a lot from really slippery clever sources in the professional world. If you are comfortable posting the comments I’ll give you a good reply. Or if you dm me or chat me. I’ve spent ages thinking about how I could’ve handled such comments better in the past, watching videos and getting advice and now have it down to a pretty good science | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 9 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…What’s the abuse you’re talking about. Did he hit gigi? Edit: Don’t know why people are downvoting this. The last paragraph is strongly suggestive of physical abusive which I hadn’t heard before. Quoting below for reference I bet scrotes are scrambling to say Gigi must be an annoying bitch. There must be SOME reason a man abused her! And the interfering mom had it coming! Poor bloke just wants to abuse Gigi in private now y'all are up his ass leaking the truth :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:08 AM |
| -33 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…How was she a “staggering peak” pick me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:07 AM |
| 1 | read those micro-expressions, they tell everythingHis statements were unquestionably true while mine had to be triple-checker and tsked I worked with a young guy in his 30s like this. I had been around wayyy longer than he had- like 11 years, to his 3 at our office. But anything I said about the people there or the workings of the place or even my own experience that occurred long before he got there or had even heard of the company’s name- was treated like their was no way I could possibly know what I was talking about. I’d get a very smug bru… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 1 | read those micro-expressions, they tell everythingBrian Landrie did that in his interview with the police | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:40 PM |
| 40 | Something I noticed about being gaslighted. . .The best way to handle gaslighting is to gaslight them back. Pack up your shit and go all while insisting everything is fine. Nah, babe there’s nothing wrong. We’re good. Let them beg for an answer, all while insisting nothings changed and it’s all in their head. If you tell them the truth. You did x and I don’t like it. They’ll just gaslight you and the balance of power shifts once again in their favor. They’ll insist that they didn’t do it. That you’re crazy, nuts etc. If you get upset any emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 11:05 AM |
| 18 | Be wary of the guy who communicates a little too wellThe communication isn’t done in good faith They don’t want to understand. They don’t want to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his egoLol. Calm down. No one said you specifically. I was referring to the people weighing in on this, in general. Some I’m sure do give, but I’m also sure there are probably many who don’t. That says nothing about you as an individual specifically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his ego“You seem to be struggling with the idea that people can be complex” That’s a stretch. I simply said the math wasn’t mathing. And it wasn’t. The idea that she only gave away $1/2 million was incorrect math, improperly done multiplication. My struggle was with how your comment related to the actual story at hand. There seemed to be a missing connection there you didn’t spell out but thought naturally followed. Other people upvoted my request for an explanation, so obviously they didn’t understand… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:05 PM |
| 6 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his egoI get this. But how does that relate to the story at hand? Who are the work pickmeishas you refer to. Are you suggesting that Sara’s employees are accepting less than they’re worth/ being work pick-mes by rejoicing over the 10k and flight tickets? Or are you saying that Sara the Spanx head is somehow a work pick me? If so, how? Or maybe you mean the commenters hyping and rejoicing over the gifts here are work pickmeishas, for getting so excited? Who exactly are you referring to as a work pick me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:20 PM |
| 212 | Be wary of the guy who communicates a little too wellYes, it can turn into a subtle form of negging and emotional abuse under the guise of soft points for improvement It will be phrased in such an emotionally sensitive way that it obscures the assholery behind it and makes you look like the reactive over sensitive one if you don’t agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:27 AM |
| 25 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his egoShe didn’t get 1.2B. The company was valued at 1.2B when the majority stake sold to Blackstone. Blackstone also did not buy the whole company. They bought a majority share- depending on who else owns a portion we don’t know what percentage even constitutes a majority. The highest possible option is 51%. 51% of a company valued at 1.2B is the highest she could’ve gotten and that is still only about half of what you all are assuming. No one took into account the huge taxes on that as well that you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:03 PM |
| 11 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his egoMaybe over the bad math. She gave away $10,000 each to 500 people. That’s $5 million not half a million/ $500,000. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 08:27 PM |
| 8 | Spanks Owner treats her staff to amazing gifts. Women in business always give back. As opposed to men who do dumb shit like shoot a rocket into space - benefitting no one but his egoWhat does that mean. Explain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 08:23 PM |
| 156 | read those micro-expressions, they tell everythingStudies show micro expressions of contempt especially on the face of the women toward the man are some of the hugest indicators of divorce | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 06:12 PM |
| 40 | One of the most bittersweet, but ultimately helpful realisations of my dating life: For a LVM, it isn't about you. Make sure that it is about you for the guy you're dating.And they don’t want to. What she says about them tuning out or even getting irritated when you get into any area of your interests that differentiate you as a person- is the truth of 90% of men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:30 PM |
| 5 | When You Become Strongx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:14 PM |
| 16 | When You Become Strongx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 12:34 PM |
| 37 | When You Become Strongx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:38 AM |
| 17 | Are men not attracted to women they respect?How did you learn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 11:48 PM |
| 65 | Are men not attracted to women they respect?That is so cool. I don’t even know how to swim but learning to surf is a private fantasy of mine. Where did you learn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 11:44 PM |
| 80 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.May Allah be with you. From one house- innie to another, I bless you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:01 PM |
| 16 | This Whitney Houston Song Has Some Great FDS Themed Affirmations & The Remix Is Awesome Exercise Music for Empowerment. Listened To This All Day, It’s So Good.I love it but I hate it. It’s the typical wronged black woman trope even though she’s putting a spin on it that focuses on her ability to carry on. Musical genius that she was I don’t too much listen to her or Mary J when they do these style songs. I don’t want to come to identify with that wronged black women narrative- it is not to be my lot in life Why does the black female narrative have to always be about us being done wrong and abused by a man but being sTrOnG women and learning how to car… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:19 AM |
| 1 | When you see it..When a woman has always been around a man, for several years and never wanted him it never bodes well when she finally dates him or marries him . It’s always almost certainly settling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:02 PM |
| 1 | When you see it..When a woman has always been around a man, for several years and never wanted him it never bodes well when she finally dates him or marries him . It’s always almost certainly settling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:02 PM |
| 126 | Men always knowThey try to make the threshold of emotional labor you have to do to be heard by them and communicate so high that you don’t even try. That you never object or complain or try to advocate to get your needs met It’s an ugly game of feigned ignorance and deafness meant to wear you down to the point where you don’t speak. It’s a form of control. You’re being actively trained not to ever inconvenience them by complaining. They’re doing this by actively showing it gets you nowhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:57 PM |
| 48 | Men always knowMore than half. About 51% as we out live men on average | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:47 PM |
| 186 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?I don’t believe men need sex to feel emotionally open. You can give it to them and still never get that. But if they get no sex they use it as an excuse for why they can’t have emotional intelligence or do any emotional labor in the relationship. So it’s kind of a Catch-22. Mostly, I think they just use it to hold women hostage for physical gratification. Like they selfishly push us for sex pretending they can’t give in any way to the relationship without it and when you give it to them they sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:08 PM |
| 354 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionAnother example of this: All the women lead voices in the 60s James Bond movies were redubbed by one woman to give them a certain uniformly soft sexy sound. Essentially they all have the same soft feminine voice and the exact voice, no sense of individuality. I’m sure there’s a lot that could be said about the erasure of women’s voices and the suggestion of interchangeability as it relates to this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoWhat changed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:09 AM |
| 174 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"Yes. Old sperm equals increased chance of autism and congenital defects | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like Bossesdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?What do they say about the ending | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:41 PM |
| 46 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?I once did a long post on how this is a version of Madonna/ angel v whore and how it infantalizes women. What I find especially is that they don’t believe older women especially to be capable of any ill will, or bad behavior. An angelification of them goes on and they’re just viewed as these saintly care creatures, who take care of them. If his mother shows clear signs of jealousy or tries to haze or sabotage you or is in general a bitch, they’ll never believe it. They’re more likely to think yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like Bossesdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:32 AM |
| 5 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like Bossesdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 10:47 PM |
| 26 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like Bossesdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 07:53 PM |
| 30 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like Bossesdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 60 | Never settle for “Fine”deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:37 AM |
| 6 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandGold star comment. Should be pinned 📌 . Precisely this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 12:31 PM |
| 19 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandI disagree. Hear me out. They damn sure don’t take no for an answer with a promotion, etc anything else they want out of life. And often they haven’t respected what you’ve said to them on other topics/ what you wanted them to stop doing or start doing for the relationship to survive etc., which is what led you to this point But suddenly they want to be soooooo respectful on this??? Suddenly now your word is law and it’s- “WeLL sHe sAiD i cAnT cALL sO tHeReS nOtHiNg i cAn dO….. She also said don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:25 PM |
| 9 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t Understanddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 19 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t Understanddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:50 PM |
| 44 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandDeep shit. Gold star 🌟 comment. That’s exactly what it is. It is a form of quiet coercion and arm twisting beneath the scenes to erode boundaries and put you in a position where you must eat any shit they spit to be with them. This should be the top pinned comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:15 PM |
| 26 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t Understanddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:47 PM |
| 48 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t Understanddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:44 PM |
| 71 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandSo disgusting. Why it’s best not to send paragraphs. It just becomes comic relief | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:42 PM |
| 8 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksAnytime a woman speaks. Even when it’s on her own experience they think you’re asking to be validated by them. For them to tel you if what you saw really happened, if your perception is right or wrong. They don’t take it as you giving them a hard incontrovertible fact In fact, to them, the very fact that you’re bothering to have a convo with them shows you’re malleable/ not that firm in self or that they can move in on top of you and run things, mold your thought to what they feel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:25 AM |
| 40 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?m | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:36 PM |
| 17 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?Soul-less, one may even say… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:36 PM |
| 30 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:35 PM |
| 12 | Topanga is a real queen here 🥰“Among the many accusations, actress and writer Melissa Stetten tweeted that Karp was a “manipulative gaslighting narcissistic ex-boyfriend” who once told her “he was surprised I hadn’t killed myself because my life was so worthless.” Singer and actress Rory Uphold wrote Karp was the “most abusive person” she had been with, while another user shared similar sentiments of Karp being selfish, controlling and manipulative and that he had ruined her life for close to a decade.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Men who lament they “never fought” with exesThis absolutely. Here’s your answer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 11:45 AM |
| 45 | How to Get Over a Breakup. Are You Loving Yourself the Way You Loved Your Ex?How often we forgive him, extend compassion to him after a relationship has ended, even knowing he was in the wrong, but not to ourselves. We tell ourselves things like- he has this genetic disposition, that childhood etc But then we tell ourselves we should known better, done better, communicated better. You see the disparity in compassion? Even after the death of the relationship that means we’re still giving him more in love and compassion than we give ourselves Because we absolve him of resp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:45 AM |
| 3 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!what’s it called and how does it differ from/ what does it add that the first doesn’t have | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:04 AM |
| 33 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 12:44 AM |
| 14 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?Whos that in your adorable avatar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 10:16 AM |
| 529 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?Yes, you see this with Cosby. Black women who came out against him or held him accountable for his actions were seen as trying to tear down a great black man. They were expected to sit on their hands and “let it burn” for the greater good of the race and not tarnishing before the world one of too few great black luminaries Time after time the public reputation of the abusive black male is prioritized over the pain and need to be heard of black female victims. The expectation is that they must, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 12:31 AM |
| 11 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingI think types like these only get married when there are already major problems in the hopes that it will save things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 01:20 AM |
| 38 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingLmao. Yeah, I like his music too. But it’s kinda not a surprise he’s a man whore though. Those who’ve heard him scream “defile me! DEFILE MEEEEEE” on the “Use Me” track know. Apparently he meant it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 34 | Will Smith reaches his "Fuck-it 50s"Yeah they’ve all been too tier hot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 44 | Will Smith reaches his "Fuck-it 50s"Will has a very charismatic humble persona. But based on the first Red Table talk he did about him and Jadas relationship I don’t know he’d be all that easy to live with it. Under it, like most successful men you can tell he has really stringent kind of controlling ways of doing things and views of what his family should be and how they must act etc. Especially when it comes to his image and viewing his family as an extension of that rather than their own people. Which in some ways may be tied u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 124 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingSo glad you peeped 👀 game and 🏃🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:11 PM |
| 107 | Will Smith reaches his "Fuck-it 50s"Yes, I didn’t even think about it. But you’re so right. These women have full on careers, lives and relationships with other people. Why the fuck would you put out publicly that you considered having them around as a toy. Like they ever would consent to or even consider that themselves. Messy even to put their names out in this in a way that makes it look like they would’ve when it’s totally one sided and just your fucking pipe dream | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:09 PM |
| 14 | Red Flag: He’s Constantly Asking if You’re HappyYes, when you do have an actual issue they gaslight or play games to avoid addressing it or laugh it around etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:03 PM |
| 20 | Red Flag: He’s Constantly Asking if You’re HappyI agree that it is a gaslight to angrily externalise the problem from themselves or any failure on their part and instead put it on a “problem of perception” on your part. You being moody and ill-adjusted and just generally not at peace in your own life. It’s bullshit from men who don’t measure up. It’s also a way to get inside your head by taking a dig that’s centered around your personality and that is a part omen or curse on your future. “If you leave me, you’ll never get anyone else how you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 8 | What Strides and Discoveries Have You Made About Being in a RelationshipI call it using calm manipulatively. I did a post on it a long time back but deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 07:57 PM |
| 3 | What Strides and Discoveries Have You Made About Being in a RelationshipIn a few words, what did they say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:28 AM |
| 52 | Don’t Allow Men to Use Ambiguity to Emotionally Abuse YouBlack people have a saying- “Dont tell me what they said. Tell me what made them so comfortable to say it to YOU?” In other words what led her to believe you’d be ok with her talking that poorly about me in front of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:51 PM |
| 10 | Female level up strategyYes, definitely baggage reclaim | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 01:19 PM |
| 17 | Female level up strategyDo you think that rule punishes men equally though. It’s much easier to see if a woman is having premarital sex than a man as we are the ones who bear children. It’s been proven several times over that he has some sexist views. I don’t have time to go hunting for them but I’m sure if you google you’ll find out. I agree that he does have some good advice. But there’s no woman in the world with similar advice we could use who represents our values and thinking better? I just don’t believe in havin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 01:17 PM |
| 26 | Female level up strategyDave Ramsey has some sexist views and rules targeting his female employees. They can’t get pregnant out of wedlock or are penalized for doing so etc. He also had a mask free COVID party. Better options include Tori Dunlap of HerFirst100k. She has an IG, newsletter and podcast. As well as DumpsterDoggy who worked in WallStreet finance and have an IG, and does webinars. Both really smart women so maybe more in line with the feminism the place radiates I don’t deny Ramsey has some good points but I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 12:58 PM |
| 2 | When your period pains slowly get worse and start happening outside your period, and people tell you it's all in your head...Thanks for following through. That’s what I thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 02:39 PM |
| 3 | When your period pains slowly get worse and start happening outside your period, and people tell you it's all in your head...Wow. Is there a way to confirm endo without invasive surgery? Asking for the friend I mentioned above with the ER level period pains every month and ridiculous amount of ovarian cysts. We’re trying to see what the problem is and endo is something that’s come up into my mind often about it? But I kinda don’t know how we should approach getting it diagnosed or find real answers. Everyone just kinda shrugs. We had to push to even get the pelvic MRI showing the cysts and that was after years of pain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:35 AM |
| 2 | When your period pains slowly get worse and start happening outside your period, and people tell you it's all in your head...I’ll certainly ask. I know she takes methyl b12 regularly so not likely that and i think iron hs been checked as she’s been having the usual doctor labs and it typically includes that. We have actually talked about leaky gut in the past and then forgot but maybe it should be back on the radar Thank you for weighing in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:35 PM |
| 9 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”Yes, I was coming here to post about that exact passage. Super rude and lame. You need to cOmMuNiCaTe in a way that doesn’t make you sound CrAzY. All the communication is done in bad faith, you know you don’t respect her enough to listen whether she’s calm OR upset. That’s the emotionally abusive catch 22, no win situation you put her in while smugly smiling thinking she’ll just have to continue spinning wheels. It’s all a ruse trying to make her believe it’s her fault for not using the right wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:17 PM |
| 17 | When your period pains slowly get worse and start happening outside your period, and people tell you it's all in your head...Don’t rule out ovarian cysts even if the ultrasound doesn’t show any. A pelvic MRI is really the best bet for showing cysts. Insist on one if you need to- or if this stuff still isn’t figured out. In close with someone who had ultra sound after ultra sound and CAT scan after CAT scan. She was constantly in the ER with pain for period. When she finally got a pelvic mri which everyone kept saying she didn’t need- it showed over 20 cysts on the ovaries. That’s just where they stopped counting. Her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:00 PM |
| 95 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”Oh, it was never their “brickheadedness” so much as the underlying assumption that women are worth less and therefore not necessary to listen to/ someone to brush over or ignore when they talk. And also the tacit assumption that as the “stronger” man they know how to play her/ work her. They’ll just nod and they know she’s not going anywhere Surprise. She does. Now they’re wailing to anyone who will listen except a paid therapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:09 AM |
| 178 | Have you guys heard of The Body Language Guy on YouTube? He has a video about Gabby and her abuser that you guys should check out https://youtu.be/E9J0Oz47PAsYes can’t stand how they gaslit her either as a cRaZy, “eMoTiOnAl” woman Their accounts of what happened differed and instead of noting that he could be lying the conclusion the cop jumped to in the report after noting the difference in stories was- “She is clearly confused and emotional*”. In other words, not seeing things properly and obviously miSpErCeiViNg what happened because crazy woman so emotional. The discrepancy couldn’t possibly be him being a fucking liar in addition to being an ass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:53 AM |
| 143 | Have you guys heard of The Body Language Guy on YouTube? He has a video about Gabby and her abuser that you guys should check out https://youtu.be/E9J0Oz47PAsOne gripe- the body language expert says generally at the end- that “they had a toxic relationship”. I hate for that term to be used because it makes it sound like both parties are actively involved and equally responsible for the toxiticity. What they had was an abusive relationship with him as the abuser and her as the victim. Using his unfair power advantage over her, physically/ life experience wise etc, to beat up on her. The evidence of this is who is still alive and who is not. But it sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:46 AM |
| 115 | 911 Call Released - Witness saw Gabby Petito being "hit" and "slapped" by Brian on August 12thCops and military men have ragingly disproportionate stats on domestic violence within their ranks. You call the cops about a male abuser and who answers the line….except another male abuser. This time in uniform. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:23 AM |
| 101 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.*did a good job of “getting me”. What is it with this terminology constantly being used by men on women. We are not trophies or a fucking feather in your cap. My comment above talks about a coworker telling me years later how impressed he was with another guy for being able to “get me”. It was this guys first day at work and another guy was taking him to lunch on the company’s dime to welcome him. I passed thru the sub shop on my way elsewhere and he begged me to sit down with the two of them fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:29 AM |
| 206 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.It’s true. Ive been pursued hard by men only to realize they basically never wanted me to open my mouth and kinda preferred if I never talked. Any time I expressed an opinion or spoke about my life- it was like “acht acht acht! Close that pretty mouth. That’s better…” My whole role was to look pretty and raise their status to other men by showing what they could “get” The dehamanization and treating of you like a prize is a real thing. Men become competitive to say they “got you”. And it means y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:40 PM |
| 36 | I finally broke up with my narcissistic abusive ex and everyone around him thinks I'mYes, I learned this dealing with a boss with narcissistic traits. He looked supremely confident on the outside, basically carefree cocky to everyone. But deep down was anything but that. I realize a lot of his toxic behavior was need to control, and that need to control was in turn coming from an incredible incredible insecurity and anxiety over how he was seen, preserving his status and social image, etc I’d always imagined he was the strong one out of the two of us because he had an extremely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:03 PM |
| 30 | NEVER admit insecurityYes, exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:53 AM |
| 55 | NEVER admit insecurityI was just looking at the IG of this incredibly smart female professional I knows bf. Super successful. He himself is a former reality tv contestant but the only people he follows is pretty women of a certain racial persuasion. Theyre not thots or thirst traps outright but very IG model, living my best life, young and sexy. 4k people and I only counted one male account he follows. Barely a single man, just all pretty women of one race. I said damn. What this guy doing. For reference, they’ve liv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 10:41 AM |
| 77 | NEVER admit insecurityThis includes even talking about situations where you think you were treated unfairly. I spoke at work about how I didn’t like that a department I’d worked in was mismanaged and my promotion had taken longer than others. I viewed this as me standing up for myself and calling for accountability. But people automatically assume if a woman is talking about something, she’s super bothered by it and it has a psychological hold on her. My standing up for myself and expressing a wrong was viewed as my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 10:36 AM |
| 2 | The novelty variant of the "Blood in the water" test: "Nobody has ever done ... to me"I use this method when vetting women for regular friendships or romantically. When talking about men I casually drop how I've never been sexually harassed by women, only by men. Which is a stereotype and also a lie. And that women have always respected this boundary so far. You'll be unpleasantly surprised how good this works on female abusers and narcissists…..Within the next few days up to 2 weeks the mask slips. How so? Can you be more specific about what a slipped masked or fail or this test… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:12 PM |
| 3 | The novelty variant of the "Blood in the water" test: "Nobody has ever done ... to me"I see this even in female friendships, when they hear something about me they assume I must be insecure about. Example: Im grown but live with my parents. Which is common in my culture. I make good money and could easily live alone. But stay here and help them. Whenever a female friend finds this out subtle negging begins. One “friend” who’s seen me supermarket shopping with my dad (with whom I have a great relationship) etc. Made a huge point of rearing back and telling me pointedly with arms c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:56 PM |
| 57 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏“And look where it's at! Middle America, now it's a tragedy Now it's so sad to see” I’ve always appreciated that dripping with sarcasm line from Eminem as it does represent well a very real attitude coming from whites and people who are otherwise privileged, where they just don’t give a crap about heinous violence happening to minorities or in the hood until it comes to their doorstep and becomes their problem. Then they’re shrieking about what a travesty and a shame it is. It’s only a tragedy w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:25 PM |
| 26 | GUIDE: Boundaries & clearing up space for growthThis includes women friends who try and reinforce your having low self esteem or seduce you into lowering your standards, pretending that’s ok and what the norm should be. They leave you open to these LV males. It’s like someone from your camp who insidiously removes a piece of your armor everytime you sleep or tell you- you don’t need that helmet, breastplate etc you know. Your best interests really aren’t at heart and listening to them will get you maimed, injured and fucked up With them stand… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:26 PM |
| 10 | They don't understand noBlack men love to do this and think it’s cute and charming- leading with you doing labor for them off the bat like it’s some kind of privilege | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 28 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.That includes female friendships for catty behavior and negging, ugly shows of one upmanships and attempts to ruin your self esteem. Oftentimes these can do way more damage because you’re naively not expecting it from another woman and it’s done in indirect ways, while smiling in your face and still pretending to be your friend. I actually find it hard to find a female friendship with no element of undercover rudeness, snarkiness or competitiveness or desire to see me fail. I don’t know if a cer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 03:52 PM |
| 23 | What Is Self-Gaslighting?Nothing’s worse than the trauma of not being believed. Or if people insinuating you deserved what you got, or they don’t fully believe it’s not your fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:01 PM |
| 60 | 'Money can't buy happiness' is a lie women are sold which compels them to seek fulfillment in romantic relationships instead of investing in their education and careersHaving money isn’t everything. Not having it, sure as fuck is. Your every thought and free moment will be consumed by how to get food in your mouth and make ends meet. It’s all consuming when you don’t have it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:46 PM |
| 33 | Children of Dads Over 40 at Risk of AutismIt’s good to know though for the sake of going into things with eyes wide open. Children with autism require more time or care that you want to make sure you can actually provide. It’s not necessarily a statement they’re not worthy of love and existence, so much as a bunch of statistics. Tbf, I didn’t read the article with a fine tooth comb. So maybe some condescending statements were made that I missed? Overall, I think it’s better that women know this becomes a stronger possibility the older t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:14 AM |
| 7 | 'The Three Stop Signs' from Dr. Craig Malkin's "Rethinking Narcissism," p119https://www.tiktok.com/@jemmaranecoaching/video/7003210259816910086?sender_device=mobile&sender_web_id=7005013893395842565&is_from_webapp=v1&is_copy_url=0 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:43 AM |
| 10 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemYes, they feel entitled to your sticking around so they can abuse and punish you. The ultimate God play is to opt out entirely and they reel when that option to humiliate and degrade you is pre-empted or withdraw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:33 PM |
| 8 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemThe kicker is always when I tell them don’t reach out again. Even if I leave them over disrespect they always try to desperately cling on as a friend or still talk and imagine I’ll want to do that or somehow need that. And are floored to find out I don’t want that either. GTF away from me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated Them“…then the disrespect starts” And doesn’t it always start. The ironic part is that I’m not even perceived as kind. I’m perceived as both a pushover and a b*tch at the same time. I don’t bother much with people so they’ll perceive me as a bitch both to women and other men. Everyone they think- except for them. When it comes to them they think I’m a pushover and a fool. That I treat everyone else bad but have googoo eyes just for them. It’s a weird combo where they think I’m only sweet to them and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 37 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated Themx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 03:45 PM |
| 112 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemYes, this is EXACTLY what I am describing/ have experienced. They start to test you in ways that are super openly disrespectful and straight up playing in your face in a rather perverse way because they think- this b*tch is so obsessed with me I can do whatever- watch this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:58 PM |
| 126 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated Themx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:38 PM |
| 208 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:40 AM |
| 90 | Just wonderingThis is also how many white people have been conditioned to think. Basically any favored majority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:12 AM |
| 18 | Men benefit from women romanticizing marriage through the lens of unconditional loveWhat did he say to the pack mule comment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 06:56 PM |
| 1 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes Mentalityx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 2 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes Mentalityx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 09:27 PM |
| 57 | When friends ask you for advise, ask the guy you’re dating what he would do!Great tale. Excellent insights. I’ve never thought about doing this but will now. Viewpoint questions can be incredibly powerful in revealing how people really think and feel That comment about how she’ll gO cRaZy without a friend was so fucking stupid and patronizing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:36 PM |
| 14 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes Mentalityx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:55 PM |
| 7 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes Mentalityx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:45 PM |
| 31 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes Mentalityx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Other Women Demanding Performative Femininity from YouThe legit went to my boss and everyone i had to work with to put in their ears that I was a bitch and rude and to make them dislike me too based on them not liking my demeanor and straight face and speech. It’s not like they feared my lack of performative femininity would get me kicked out and were trying to keep me on target. No, I had 5 star reviews and my bosses favor. They were the danger trying to fuck up my livelihood and check and basically push me out over some lame anger at my demeanor … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Other Women Demanding Performative Femininity from YouThey’re all older but there were one or two who absolutely knew it wasn’t true based on how helpful Id been to them on the job. Even occasionally bringing them back a small dessert from my lunch when I saw they were working thru it. But they never defended me and began believing it anyway. So it’s like they knew better but based on length of friendship with her and her force of words. They began actively constantly looking hard for any sign of rudeness in me. Example: The older woman on team gav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 6 | Other Women Demanding Performative Femininity from YouYeah, one of them began running around calling me a bitch loudly and openly and declaring Id been so rude to her. She later admitted to HR i hadn’t actually said or done anything wrong to her but she was angry and offended I didn’t talk to her more because that made her feel “rejected”. What really annoys me is that the people who judged and were mad at me for shit like not smiling enough never judged her loud raving about me as a bitch and retarded as inappropriate for the office. In fact that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 4 | Other Women Demanding Performative Femininity from YouI felt I was basically punished by the older woman on my job for it. It was spun out like I behaved super rudely even though there was absolutely nothing concrete I had said or done that they could point to. I’d always been gracious in speaking to others but was very straight which they took as rude and bitchy and a narrative struck up with zero support to that effect that they just would not stop parroting And when new assistants come in I hear them going over whos who right in the office next … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:41 PM |
| 7 | FDS Causing You to Tolerate Less in FriendshipsYeah, she hit me with some pseudo-science facts she thought were super smart. I cringe. Sorry for the kids but time for her to be dumped | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:45 PM |
| 13 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapy“Before I even knew any of these terms I always found it interesting to observe the narcs in my family interact with people who had actual boundaries”. And how did that play out typically. Can you give us examples. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:10 AM |
| 49 | Pet Peeve: When You Cut a Man Off and He Goes “Well We Can Still Talk”deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Study finds that altruism is a determining factor in which men women choose for longterm relationships.Yes, I realize my boss mentioned below had terrible control issues although he looked incredibly confident and charming on surface. A lot of it came from anxiety and fear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:47 PM |
| 11 | Study finds that altruism is a determining factor in which men women choose for longterm relationships.deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:06 PM |
| 15 | Study finds that altruism is a determining factor in which men women choose for longterm relationships.Sometimes saving/ helping someone else can be very much about YOU. All about how powerful and important the man feels he looks doing it. It can be a status/ power move very much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:56 PM |
| 53 | If anyone gives you a backhanded compliment or neg at the start of a conversation, walk away...He was conditioning you/ training you/ managing you down to the level of smallness he wanted you at, already | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:50 AM |
| 83 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("Ugh. Men are sometimes such disgusting creatures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 49 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 6 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama cultureHe does have the higher net worth of the two if you google ($75 v 29 million). But I think people are probably downvoting this because those figures don’t take into account the wealth of the Hadid family in general which is likely considerable/ huge from real estate and development and Zayn pretty much has no one in his family with money. So despite her having earned less from modeling than he has from 1D, she still has far deeper pockets and resources of the two | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Best Sports for Self-DefenseI take it everywhere and still don’t feel safe. Question if it will jam or if I’ll be able to get a good aim | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Broke up with my bfCould be worse. Know a girl who lived with a guy for about 5 years. Asked him one weekend about marriage and realized he had no plans. Moved out immediately. Can you imagine though. 5 years. They obviously seated even longer than that. Maybe 6 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:46 PM |
| 2 | You Don’t Love Yourself Because You Hold Yourself to Such a High Standarddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 20 | You Don’t Love Yourself Because You Hold Yourself to Such a High Standarddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:03 AM |
| 7 | You Don’t Love Yourself Because You Hold Yourself to Such a High Standarddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:41 AM |
| 12 | “Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”Always | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:56 PM |
| 8 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMYes, why did that version of you tolerate it is the most important question? What was wanting in you that made you accept disrespect or incompetence for however long you did. Look closely at that and fix it- whether it was a lack of boundaries, low self esteem, the thought you couldn’t do better, etc It’s important to identify what was wanting in you, not that made you cause it, because it’s certainly not your fault. But that made you accept it for however long you did | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:10 AM |
| 3 | Men Who Get Angry When You Express Unhappiness Are MisogynistsI repopulated the post/ put it back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 3 | Men Who Get Angry When You Express Unhappiness Are MisogynistsI’ll put it back. I think it’s saved in my drafts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 34 | Pickmes play a big part in why things are changing for the worseYes, there’s been an awakening. I see it all over twitter and tiktok. Young women are up and they’re not going to accept what their mothers and grandmothers did | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:59 PM |
| 25 | Extra vetting bulletpoints I wish my mama had taught meWhere do you find one/ how do you engage one? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Male Bosses SuckWomen bosses can be problematic in their way too. Every single one I’ve had has tried to impose ideals of “good girl” behavior on me even in situations where I was being aggressed. Suggesting I need to play nice and cater to others in order to be a team player and not a bitch. Whereas the men I’ve had were just about getting the job done. The woman female bosses always made clear they felt I felt was doing things wrong or had a problem with me if I didn’t display the correct level of nice girl s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 09:21 PM |
| 2 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Maybe it doesn’t need to be on that level, if that’s not what she’s open for. Everyone has different levels of comfort for how much intimacy they want or allow out of relationships whether they be romantic or platonic. It seems like you want her on the exact same level of intimacy as all your other friendships but she’s a different person. Every friend I have is on a different level according to who they are and what they like. Maybe you need to develop tiers and accept that she’ll never be tier… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:48 PM |
| 7 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Had what I thought was a HV friend who started taking digs at me. I started making myself less and less available for this. Now she acts angry that I don’t reach out or take time with her on calls anymore even though she knows she was being disrespectful. Almost like “You better get your ass up and answer the phone so I can neg you. Good!” I’ve experienced this more than once with female “friends” and it seems to come out the blue. I never take subliminal jabs at others in convo even when they f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 10 | Don't chase menYes, it happens to me all the time with women as well. Some who have basically begged to be my friend- once I start trying to engage them and show them kindness/ attention, begin taking digs and being rude and thinking they’re better than me. Even becoming a little disrespectful and laughing in my face. They get cut off and reel. They start thinking I’m so desperate for the relationship that Id just take disrespect. In actuality I’m someone who needs way less interaction than normal and could ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 3 | "Normal marital woes"I’m doubtful that was actually a will smith quote instead of something they just plastered over the face of someone successful- which they love to do on IG | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 16 | Don't chase menExactly. One guy I know comes to mind. He was poor, skinny, short, unattractive. I was going to where he worked for physical therapy after work and coming in dressed to the literal nines. He barely even had a job there, he like picked up and washed the towels, he wasn’t an actual PT just someone the owner had taken on out of mercy in like a clean up and assist role. I was very kind to him and tried to engage him, make sure he was always acknowledged. If you can believe it he started treating me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:12 PM |
| 20 | "Normal marital woes"Yes, she’s being too easy on men. She’s acting like they just don’t understand. The problem is they just don’t care. They have an inbuilt misogynistic standard where they think they don’t have to respect what the wife or any other woman is saying, so they don’t. It’s taken as “yeah yeah whatever.” And they assume she’s powerless to act or do anything. There’s a misogynistic presumption that if she doesn’t like something well she’ll just have to put up with it. She’ll just have to self martyr and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:32 PM |
| 68 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!I agree that you shouldn’t validate them. But some of this comes off super catty. “You only got a 4k bonus???” I wouldn’t like anyone male or female who said that to me because it passive aggressively catty. “If youre happy with your camero fine but you at least need x more expensive model.” 🙄Who wants to have a convo with someone who does stuff like that. If it were a man I’d throw him out. It’s not giving self respect- it’s giving unpleasant to be around. I had female friends who do stuff like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 26 | Don't chase menWhat he perceives to be a better option will often be a woman who’s lesser in all regards except for not having chased him. Just because he’s adopted her high opinion of herself- whether merited or not. The view you seem to have of yourself is the one they often will adopt. I’ve seen that happen a lot. It can be someone with far less education (like barely got out of high school), far less physically attractive, worse dressed, not as kind, not nearly as well mannered or considerate, etc etc. But… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:34 PM |
| 0 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal ObservationsOh, I absolutely believe the women. He unquestionably did that shit. I’m just saying that from a strategic standpoint it would make no sense to cave by resigning. Why should he when others have done far worse and still managed to keep office. He didn’t get there by working against his own benefit. I’m not condoning his actions. They’re clearly hella wrong- but from a legal, strategic standpoint that just would not be a good play for him or anyone else. Like any lawyer advising him is likely goin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Dated an awful NVM, now a billionaire.. You can level up from your pickme days!She is too good for him. But I don’t think she’s taking it seriously. It took her forever to even claim him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:44 AM |
| 0 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal ObservationsHonestly, if I were him, I would not resign. Let them go ahead and impeach me. From the strategic standpoint it’s the smart play to make. And as a politician I’m assuming he was also probably a lawyer first. From my experience that’s exactly how they’ll think about that. He’s already holed up, tweeting on unrelated topics. He intends to ride this out. He definitely behaved improperly. But they still don’t have a whole lot, besides overly close hugs and guache comments. The most major thing I saw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:27 PM |
| 24 | Dated an awful NVM, now a billionaire.. You can level up from your pickme days!Yeah. I think she’s just having fun though. I doubt it’s deep connection or that she’s taking it seriously. She’s already nexted every other male bum in her life, including the ones who weren’t so obvious with it (Drake). So I doubt she’s playing for keeps so much as entertaining herself. She’s already shown she knows what to do with a lame ass man when she wants to I’m proud of how shes dropped every man who didn’t serve her to elevate to these heights 1. Chris- Whom she obviously did love at a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Dated an awful NVM, now a billionaire.. You can level up from your pickme days!I’m sure you are. But you have to respect that that is your opinion. She can do whatever she wants. It’s not anyone else’s right to tell her what to do with it, regardless of how they feel. When you obtain that level of wealth, you’re welcome to take all your ideas and put them in action. Until then hold yo peace because it’s not your place to impose/ put them on anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:17 PM |
| 5 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal ObservationsIn most places I’ve been it’s been self generated by the women- but the men take pleasure in it/ advantage of it, realizing it benefits them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:36 AM |
| 47 | Dated an awful NVM, now a billionaire.. You can level up from your pickme days!It has to go somewhere. Better in her hands than in the hands of a rich white man who doesn’t give a damn. She does a lot of charitable work for women already. But even if she doesn’t thats her choice. I’m not big on saying what anyone has to do with their money. Comes across very preachy to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:31 AM |
| 16 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal Observationsdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:59 AM |
| 15 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal Observationsdeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:50 AM |
| 21 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal ObservationsDoubt much will come of it. They had the investigation. He did do and say inappropriate things but he’s hardly cosby level. He’s also far from Bill Clinton level and Bill never resigned and in fact, still enjoys incredible popularity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:18 PM |
| 17 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.Yes, I too have avoided hurting the feelings of ugly men I knew were insecure. In every single case they turned around and tried to obliterate mine. Most of them I wasn’t even in a relationship with, I just tried to be kind when they approached me. I didn’t shut them down hard and they started to think they had some kind of claim/entitlement to me. When I put up real boundaries- they started calling me moody and crazy and fucked in the head to everyone who would listen. That is how they treated … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:18 PM |
| 33 | Don't give ugly scrotes a chance. They will neg you and disrespect you.Should’ve replied- Nah boo. Not all men are like you. I was with an ugly man. But I damn sure won’t be with one again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:51 AM |
| 11 | Share your badass breakup stories!https://media0.giphy.com/media/d9CIqq5Ia9wqgRg85t/200w.gif?cid=82a1493bf2ytcj0sfxjowmilebq7ffc2ajehx1a5vuzye8i8&rid=200w.gif&ct=g | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:33 PM |
| 11 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsThank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:28 PM |
| 18 | "WoMeN WeRe hAPpY JuSt In ThE 1950's WhEn ThEy WeRe MoThErS AnD WiVeS"Almost but still a long stretch from the fucking lie and slap in the face it is for whites to say that when blacks were being literally bought and sold as chattel and animals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:37 AM |
| 8 | Men Don’t Respect Disputes Between WomenYes, had sansa been a man people would’ve respected her inherent right to defend and try and keep the land her family had already ruled for centuries It got played as “I don’t like her because my brother is with her” or because she’s a female rival | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:31 AM |
| 27 | Men Don’t Respect Disputes Between WomenCan guarantee if he were in your shoes and she was disagreeing with him, he would not let it drop until he pounded her into submission and got the last word. But when it’s you it’s petty and stupid and needs to be let go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:17 AM |
| 6 | Boundaries & Experience of AbuseRespecting your boundary to him equals “She controls me when I’m supposed to control her. I’m pu$$y whipped | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:32 AM |
| 67 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessThey expect us to self minimize and sit through/ stew in discomfort they never ever would. That would make them feel angry or disrespected and ready to fight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 08:59 AM |
| 64 | Never want to go through a heartbreak again? Then establish these boundaries.Lmao. Yes, it does. It’s very annoying to have a man pestering you for food. They’ll do that the same way they pester for sex and it’s just as unattractive and annoying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Comfort tests, shit tests and healthy vettingYeah, the friend above I’m trying to cut. I overlook her failures and bad decisions and cheer her on. But she always implies the things I’m doing will fail even when I say they’re doing well, presses me in a demanding angry way like she’s exposing me or pulling the sheet off me. Or if shes agreeing makes sure to do so in a tone that’s a little rude and implies she knows just how it is. Whatever. She’s about to be cut. It’s honestly a little lame but it got past me for a while because I felt she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Comfort tests, shit tests and healthy vettingYes, I experienced this with a friend who started to try and laugh rudely at everything I do or at random things I said in conversation. In retrospect, I do think she looked up to me in a way but became very aggressive with trying to let me know I’m not all that. I thought she was HV because we started out very supportive of each other but her constant negging in convo as the relationship developed over a few years have caused me to reconsider. I don’t ever take shots or say passive aggressive t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:13 PM |
| 28 | I learned quickly that if I have to chase you, I don’t want you anymore.Yes, the language of it is all wrong. It makes it sound like it’s the woman’s fault. Like don’t you see he doesn’t fucking want you, stupid?? The reality is his opinion of you/ what he wants doesn’t fucking matter/ is hardly the center of the world/ the goal anyway. You are the center and the question is- Is he even worthy of you?? Does he please you? Meet your needs It basically assumes you’re desperate to impress him and get his approval instead of the other way around | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:06 PM |
| 3 | Comfort tests, shit tests and healthy vettingI’ve also noticed a similar flavor with LVW, but it’s slightly different 🤔 Explain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:19 AM |
| 79 | Greys Anatomy LVMAll Shonda shows do. I don’t know why they are so popular. The writing and overblown speeches are 🙄 and that included Bridgerton and Scandal. I hate her stuff. Like it’s all very overblown unrealistic whimpering love scenes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:45 AM |
| 67 | Start paying attention to the conversations you haveIt's really annoying when an entire group is praising a guy for the bare minimum and you have done better, but if you say anything you will 'step out of line'. It is but at the same time no one put a gun to your head and said you couldn’t speak about yourself. A lot of this is self imposed There are women out there who do self promote regardless of any stigma or social conditioning not to. If they are able it means the variable is you to some extent. Yes, there is a social bias but at the end of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:32 PM |
| 31 | Have to come to this realisation that male friendships are pointless.Eh. It’s true they tend to be very fair weather if that. And sometimes really ugly disloyal in the way they talk about you behind your back. Quick to throw you under the bus to curry favor with another man. In fact, the reason will uphold the most passing male relationships over theirs with you. D-cks before chicks. My female friendships definitely offer more parity of support but I’m annoyed with those as well as they each have elements of passive aggressive negging in them or competition that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 6 | I can’t stand the older generation of pick-mes that made men so damn entitled.I’ve long been saying this. Pretty sure it’s what got me this Pickmeisha flare. People said I was being “ageist and divisional against other women” They’re also pickmes in the office picking on younger woman and hoping or trying to force them to go thru the same unnecessary bs, just asshole in general. It’s a problem and I’ll never back down from calling it what it is. They get excused a lot on their poor behavior for being old They’ve been the lamest pick mes I’ve ever dealt with and they’re re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 15 | Selena Gomez - Kinda Crazy (Official Lyrics)I like this. Love how she turns the crazy card right back on him. Men do this all the time. They chase you and then when you respond and develop normal expectations, they begin to act like you’re a crazy, when really they’re the ones who switched up/ started acting flaky/ unstable. The woman gets forced to wear the cRaZy label just because he said it. So glad to see women taking agency and putting it right back where it deserves to go. You don’t have to be a passive recipient of the crazy card. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:48 AM |
| 7 | A Very Long Post About Talking to Guys in the Wilddeleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:22 AM |
| 22 | A Very Long Post About Talking to Guys in the WildIt does get better the more you do it. I realize this but I still don’t think it’ll ever be me. I can do it but it’s still never going to be authentic to my personality. I actually think the Ice Queen approach works far better for me. It’s a better fit for my, personality, my looks, the way I dress. It’s much easier and more natural for me to work the unattainable angle and it drives men crazy. Gets them working for you from the start Everyone has to know thyself to play their particular angles … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:21 AM |
| 29 | A Very Long Post About Talking to Guys in the WildYeah, it’s all about what seems natural and authentic coming from you. As some one who speaks relatively little it seem blaringly obvious if I suddenly decide to ask what wine that cute guy in class likes KWIM. If you’re someone who openly talks to everyone you can more easily do it without telegraphing ulterior motive or intent. But overall, I’ve always regretted approaching first. It makes even guys who I DONT want and who straight up disgust/ repulse me think, I want them and become a little … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:06 AM |
| 63 | A Very Long Post About Talking to Guys in the WildI don’t advocate talking to men first but a better way is to do so in a way that is conspiratorial and immediately creates intimacy, makes you a team against a common foe, whether that be the weather, a long line or some other crazy circumstance Let’s say something whack goes down- a car almost hits the curb you’re both standing on, an irritating panhandler is working your train car, the teacher just assigned an outrageous amount of homework- a great way to connect is to just put on a sly expres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:50 AM |
| 123 | The Real Reason Scarlett Johansson Divorced Ryan ReynoldsYou oughta know is actually about Dave Coulier off Full House. Apparently Uncle Joey is an ass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:28 AM |
| 156 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”Yes, I get the same exact impression that he was insecure about ScarJo outearning him and being more famous. And that he picked Blake because she would let her career go and have babies and he could once again be the dominant, biggest personality in the relationship. She basically completely let go her acting career and faded into nothing as soon as they married. Started trying to do a “lifestyle blog” which is eye roll inducing and really beneath someone on the level she was formerly. See my co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:01 PM |
| 9 | Male Double-Definitions of Respect and How It’s Used Against WomenI’ve seen several male business relationships that were almost homoerotic in how one party looked up to the more successful one and loved and worshipped him. You see it on a more general scale with men who absolutely idolize male business figures like Elon Musk, who are deeply flawed (Musk according to his first wife is fucked up and almost certainly has a personality disorder as well as several crazy abusive and absurd traits) but of course they overlook that and still claim him as King and God… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Naomi Osaka documentary: Hard to watch due to her LVM boyfriendI can understand that. You’re not wrong about that. What did he say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Naomi Osaka documentary: Hard to watch due to her LVM boyfriendSelena’s dad was a Jehovah’s Witness. They’re very strict. He pretty much never would’ve supported her being with much of anyone or really even having a life of her own, making her own decisions as a grown adult. That doesn’t necessarily say anything about Chris. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:59 AM |
| 41 | Male Double-Definitions of Respect and How It’s Used Against WomenIt’s entitlement that goes above their humanity. Entitlement to be looked up to as big hauncho, deferred to, respected as the one in charge or the one who makes decisions or decides how things go One of the greatest signs of disrespect for a lot of men is “she didn’t/ won’t listen to meeeeeee. Allow me to lead her”. They feel entitled to have that control over a woman and whine when they can’t get it. She won’t let me tell her what to do. They are the same ones who get ragingly upset when a woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 08:40 PM |
| 7 | Naomi Osaka documentary: Hard to watch due to her LVM boyfriendHow did you find this out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 12:32 AM |
| 30 | It's better to be single & work on yourself than strain yourself with a LV entanglement (My Story)My interest is how or where you learned about money management and trading. Not so much your actual trading principles. Like what classes did you take? Something online out at your local college? What books did you read etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 04:42 PM |
| 27 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelitiesI’m well aware but at least he was HV in his politics and social causes. JFK is praised but really was not. He was opposed to and privately dragged his feet as hard as he fucking could on the civil rights movement. He really was not the political giant people thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 04:27 PM |
| 89 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelities“Kennedy's infidelity literally drove his wife mad, claims the book.” 🙄 No it fucking didn’t. Totally fucking annoying how happy and gleeful people are to say this about women. They just tried to paint her as crazy when they got pushback from her over it which is not the same thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:16 AM |
| 72 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelitiesYes, he didn’t genuinely support the civil rights movement at all. He was avoidant of it and actually dismayed to find out what a good orator MLK was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:02 AM |
| 69 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…Candace Owens is constantly saying race traitor/ Trump supportive stuff. She’s not a good example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 07:54 AM |
| 6 | Three women discovered they were dating the same man. They dumped him and went on a months-long road trip together.Sister wives of the traveling pants | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 10:50 PM |
| 80 | Anyone Else Cut Off A Lot Of Friends/Situations That Didn't Serve You Recently?Also quit my fancy job and am ghosting a friend of 10 years whose passive aggressiveness I can no longer stand. Scary place. I’ve cleared out the old but am not yet sure of receiving new. Trying to keep the faith that better is coming soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:34 AM |
| 106 | Found on Dr Jessica Taylor's Facebook page, and I had to post it here - such a great analysis of how misogyny works today.Rule 12: Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves. My boss branded me a crazy for expressing anger/ irritation with mismanagement and a years long disparity in my promotion time v others. Years worth of bullshit and I needed to remain silent on it to be sane or else he would whisper about it and make sly insinuations to others over my head until my mental health was being whispered and winked about openly in the space Meanwhile, he could lose his shit and act RAGINGLY … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 10:46 PM |
| 145 | Red Flags that indicate he doesn't see you as a fully autonomous personA bath is wrong but weed is Christian? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:27 PM |
| 41 | A Facebook employee hunted down a woman he went on ONE date with who stopped responding to him. Yet another reason to stay off social media.🧐 Full disclosure. Some of it is motivated by self interest because I find him hot but I’ve been around his kind and suspect he’s got a spirit of misogynistic entitlement that most men with his background tend to carry. So sad…he’s exactly what I tend to be attracted to but his bad behavior ruins my feels. I’m interested to see if this marriage lasts and if so, at what behind the scenes personal cost to his young wife, Sabrina. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:19 AM |
| 94 | A Facebook employee hunted down a woman he went on ONE date with who stopped responding to him. Yet another reason to stay off social media.That’s typical of African and West Indian men. They’ve been taught the world revolves around them and women should always serve and yield. He’s always had a wandering eye. And has been known to keep like 2 women at the same time, as K Michelle testifies to. She also said dating him was a fairy tale until she found out he had a whole other woman pregnant and she was the side chick. He’s had 3 marriages all to similar looking women who he all abandoned. Tbh, I suspect he’s a narcissist. That’s why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:52 PM |
| 75 | A Facebook employee hunted down a woman he went on ONE date with who stopped responding to him. Yet another reason to stay off social media.Unrelated but 1-2 weeks ago you posted Idris Elba for FAF Friday. Thought you might be interested in this. There was some debate in the thread as to whether he was HV or not. He recently admitted to “massive anger tantrums” while dating his now wife and telling her to “just leave/ get out” if she can’t handle it: https://www.nbcrightnow.com/lifestyles/entertainment/idris-elba-offered-wife-ultimatum-over-rows/article_d9e8866d-5568-5dd5-b26f-67ee42bde83d.html Thought of here when I read it. Wonder… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:31 PM |
| 91 | Wild Take I received while vetting:Kids he doesn’t even take care of, that will be a burden on her body and and health and 90% her responsibility | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 17 | Can you imagine being a SPICE GIRL and still having to wait 21 years for him to make up his mind🤦🏻♀️Awful but can’t be worse than Scary Spices abusive piece of shit husband. Who physically abused her, pushed her into threesomes and made sex tapes of said orgies he held over her head and blackmailed her with, fucked the nanny and triangulated her with the girl- telling her she wasn’t as young or hot and needed to compete/ put up with him using her money to wine and dine her and also bring her on vacations (apparently a common tactic in toxic celeb relationships) Even Posh/ David Beckham is a su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:12 PM |
| 21 | Why the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women.Yes, I commented my experience with this with male bosses in the workplace. I communicated about a situation that was microaggressive and abusive. He ridiculed my expressions, did nothing about it. I left. He claimed he didn’t see it coming. His shock wasn’t that I was unhappy. It was that he couldn’t manipulate and control me like he thought he could. It has a lot to do with male entitlement to female self sacrifice even in the face of pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:25 PM |
| 94 | Why the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women.Exactly. It’s even occurred for me with male bosses. I expressed what was making me unhappy with the environment. They ridiculed my expressions and allowed the problematic behaviors marginalizing me to continue. I left. My boss kept saying over and over in a wail: I did not see this coming. She wasn’t happy. No shit sherlock. He knew damn well I’d complained formally to our office administrator and to him several times to rectify a situation that was microaggressive and abusive to me. He wasn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 57 | Beware of the non-apology apology!!! Anyone ever had a LVM say "I'm sorry you got hurt" rather than "I'm sorry that I was a piece of shit asshole who did not respect/consider your feelings?" One is not even attempting to accept blame!! BEWARE!!This is often used by HR in corporate settings/ bosses etc to avoid admission of guilt or responsibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:45 PM |
| 16 | Irritating Difference in Treatment of Female Anger v Male AngerYes, Hispanic and Caribbean cultures expect women to have more servant tasks but are also more open to them- expressing anger, having an attitude etc. Anglo culture is built around dissimulation and any outward display of anger especially for women is frowned upon so both women and men sublimate it passive aggressively to preserve a certain outside image. All anger has to be expressed indirectly. Men do it, but it’s worst of all for women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 07:36 PM |
| 21 | Irritating Difference in Treatment of Female Anger v Male AngerYes, where if a man is angry it’s a threat if a woman is angry it’s a joke and a nuisance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:51 PM |
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