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44

Nothing more to add. Well written
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 03:46 PM
79

Oh I completely agree- you’re damned if you do damned if you don’t. Zero lovers? something is wrong with you! One or more? you’re a hobag and something is wrong with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 07:56 PM
227

While that ship sailed a long time ago for me personally, I have a friend who is a virgin at 36. She’s deeply religious, will only date other very religious men with the intention of getting married, and just never tells them. She doesn’t believe it’s their business until they talk about marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:03 PM
7

OP? Hunny bunny? Have you read The FDS Handbook? Before you go even one minute further in your life, I want you to get a cup of coffee and read it from front to back. You cannot let this cheap ass scrote move into your place, furthermore you should immediately break up with him and get your fucking head on straight before you date anyone else. He is taking huge advantage of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:56 PM
53

I clearly stated why- reread my comment thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 01:16 PM
227

In college, me and my friends would pretend to be in love with some random guy whenever we went out - totally love bomb him and shower him with attention, until the one girl that mate guarded every guy any of us liked would swoop in on him so we could find our own guys in peace. Distraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:53 AM
36

I love when the circus comes to town
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:11 PM
12

Oh Lord I was getting one a day! Just turn off the notifications
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 05:53 PM
11

Ok. Some of the comments do seem unkind, but I personally haven’t seen bullying or attacking. Maybe tough love is more like it. So I have dated someone from work, and it was a complete disaster. Other commenters have had bad experiences too. Maybe you’ll be different and if things go well with this cutie, you’ll be an outlier that proves us all wrong- there are some comments saying they had good experiences. Regardless of where you meet anyone, the FDS principals still apply to vet them and to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:57 PM
7

Wow. No where have I seen anyone call you a whore- I’m wondering why you’re so defensive? A lot of your questions would be answered if you reread the FDS Handbook. Just wondering- have you ever dated anyone from your work before?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:46 PM
71

Probably not such a good idea to date someone you work with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:09 PM
3

I think I’m going to write a piece of fiction to try to indoctrinate men not be scrotes. Nah….never work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:05 PM
5

I also know women that have one or more of the attributes I listed, but I don’t know any that have all of them. In my opinion this was written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:02 PM
371

Like a dog peeing on “his” hydrant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:44 AM
4

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:42 AM
2

These statistics are a LIE If you’re so convinced of the superiority of your argument why would you have to fabricate statistics to back it up? The sheer scrotiness of it all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:41 AM
7

I wish I could upvote this more than once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:36 AM
15

Lol, just pure scrote propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:11 AM
48

Good catch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:48 PM
17

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:44 PM
83

So it’s not any one thing but a few things together, 1) heavy emphasis on her appearance only 2) insistence that no one can tell they’ve had kids (very few women I know take pride in this) 3) running “a few businesses”- most women I know say something like “I’m a nurse, or a doctor or have a life coach business- but a lot of LVM say they “have a few businesses” like oh sure you do 4) no other mention of anything about the kids- most mothers say something like I have two boys, or a boy in nursery…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:34 PM
26

While I agree with you, I believe this particular writing was done by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:12 PM
102

Because it was written by a man who thinks all women are whores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:01 PM
85

A man wrote this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:00 PM
53

And then we all laughed and laughed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 01:23 PM
3

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:19 AM
10

If your aunt had your best interest at heart she would’ve waited a few days to share her opinion with you. I feel like she was trying to bring you down, and nitpick at your boyfriend at the same time. This wouldn’t be a red flag for me personally- but I would keep an eye on him and continue to vet. And? CONGRATULATIONS! 🎈🎊🍾🎉 that’s a huge tribute to your hard work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:02 AM
24

The whole thing is ridiculously unprofessional. Maybe s/he needs to stay closed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:39 PM
49

He’s a weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 02:46 AM
311

“hELpInG hEr” Sure my guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 09:13 PM
49

Good Lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:36 PM
56

No way really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:17 PM
110

Omg did she check your teeth lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:10 PM
353

Lol, TERRIFYING “Don’t mind my grandma, she’s an expert seamstress measuring you for your wedding dress- no pressure!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:45 PM
57

After they drill us down to accept anyone. The libfems are big part of the patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:16 AM
236

No shit, it’s designed to hammer women down to a subjective position so men can elevate by default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 05:27 PM
744

Oh look the patriarchy telling women to lower our standards AGAIN. Where’s the advice telling men to level up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:29 PM
105

I’m so proud of you! It takes some women YEARS to figure this out and look at you- you moved on and are glowing up! Congratulations on your degree- I love a good FDS success story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:47 PM
44

My thoughts? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:46 PM
17

Ugh. Report him, and turn off your DM’s. Fucking scrotes slime their way in everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 02:08 PM
27

Wow. Good job on following FDS principals and protocols - as a former pick me I know it’s easy to revert back when you’re in real life. The Handbook really does work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 02:04 PM
544

Yeah I remember this bullshit. I would’ve taken that Uber to the nearest club and got myself a new boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 12:39 PM
-4

Sorry but no lol. I’m not pretending anything, I don’t appreciate my choices on what I do with my body hair to be policed by men or women. I like waxing, that’s my opinion that I’m allowed to have,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 11:32 AM
15

You’re doing so good hon! I’m so proud of you- now keep it going by maintaining your resolve. Block his number, he’s not your problem or responsibility- YOU and your safety comes before any stranger’s opinion if you. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 06:24 PM
35

For me, I noticed that they would try to conform to whatever I put down or conversely argue with whatever I did. I felt like it was too much information anyway, no random scrotes needs to know my hobbies unless I specifically tell them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:23 PM
83

I have nothing in my OLD profiles. I am the one that makes the decisions who is compatible for me, not them. Anything you put is just a way for losers to try to neg you or argue. Yes I still get plenty of matches and plenty of whiners “you don’t have a lot to go off of”- yup that’s by design to see how you’ll react and now you’re already blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:57 PM
71

I wax clean every month because I LIKE it. I feel cleaner and I really cannot stand all the comments from women telling other women they shouldn’t. How is that any different than men telling us that we should?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:37 PM
25

I have nothing more to add except GREAT post- well done! Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:34 PM
73

Very well said- thank you for posting this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:49 PM
22

Whew- a lot of internalized misogyny in these comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:46 PM
8

Good job! Keep going!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 04:19 PM
20

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:58 PM
4

I don’t know why you’re being downvoted, I completely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 12:31 PM
15

I’m sorry hon- that guy sucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 06:32 AM
99

Well fuck. I would hire my own lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 12:01 AM
68

Every man always does as a form of manipulation and control. Even the “good” ones have ingrained misogyny that makes them trivialize and minimize real and true feelings- as long as they are women’s feelings. I typically say “My feelings are valid” and let them twist in the wind trying to explain that they’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 11:36 PM
12

Standing ovation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:08 PM
3

This is inappropriate workplace behavior. Start documenting immediately and if this escalates be prepared to report him. In the meantime, try to keep all communication on WORKPLACE devices and emails, why the fuck is he texting you on your personal cell? Is he a psychopath? Is he merely audacious? Who cares- he’s making you uncomfortable and messing with your peace. As far as your behavior is concerned- practice saying “you’re making me uncomfortable, I’m not interested.” if he continues to ask …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 01:38 PM
10

Hit dog’s gonna hollar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:28 PM
27

Set up another account so you aren’t linked to FDS. And set up your blocks so you won’t be subjected to this unsolicited emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:27 PM
10

Wait wut? You know what, you could be right! Every huge d*ck I’ve ever known is attached to a man with narrower shoulders. You may have cracked the code lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:24 PM
31

Sometimes a rejection is God’s protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:16 PM
80

I don’t like it, I think it’s intrusive and honestly a little scary. If I smile at a handsome man and then he approaches, that’s ok but just some guy walking up behind me to strike up a conversation? That bothers me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 09:42 PM
32

It totally wasn’t the iNtEnTiOn to call you crazy when I in fact called you crazy. It was a good crazy. Not a bad crazy. Because you’re not like all the other girls that I call crazy. Or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:33 AM
10

So it’s a tough call, are these recent or were they added years ago and he’s forgotten all about them? It’s definitely a red flag but if it were me personally, I would not block and delete I would just vet that much harder. Have you asked him specifically for his social media? Maybe he is on IG for example, but with an anonymous type account- I have like five of them lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:33 PM
2

THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:23 PM
27

Do you know of his other social media accounts? IG or Twitter? While I do think it’s a red flag, I personally wouldn’t block him because of this- but it would make me do a deep dive into his other accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:01 PM
188

Welp if you don’t want to plan a date then that’s what happens. Clown shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:49 PM
46

Lol, you can turn those off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:47 PM
19

Thanks Mods for all your hard work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:43 PM
12

He looks terrifying. I just saw the other comments- shooting her dog?!? Fired cop?!? Beating up a black guy?!? RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:37 PM
104

Lol. No way. Just when I think there’s nothing else that can surprise me…. …surprise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:57 AM
2

Why is he lying on a hubcap? Or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:08 AM
2

Why doesn’t anyone read The Handbook anymore? OP, all of this could have been avoided if you had just read The Handbook. Read it. You need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:06 AM
91

So a sick individual such as this gets off on the possibility of being discovered and/or shocking women. I guarantee this is not the first or last time he’ll do this and there’s a very high probability he has a police record involving exhibitionism and is on your state’s Sex Offender Registry Board. If this happens to you again or to anyone reading here, call the police if it’s safe to do so- sex offenders are a high risk to reoffend so they’ll know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:39 PM
111

We’re traumatized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:29 PM
291

“He feels he might be more willing to put that effort into having sex with other people” girl wut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:11 PM
233

Omg I was just thinking this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:58 PM
10

I’m glad you’re ok- be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:12 PM
98

Stalker vibes. Be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:10 PM
36

Have you ever considered he’s triangulating both of you? No offense, but in reading through your additional comments you both sound like pick me’s. Re read The Handbook and stop basing your self worth on a man’s attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:45 PM
74

Clown shit 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:38 AM
19

Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 06:36 PM
34

“Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman.” Khaled Hosseini I guess my thoughts are, no matter what you say, no matter what you do, men’s viewpoint will be that you’re wrong. The patriarchy will always police your choices- no matter what your choices are. I made a decision not to worry about society’s perception as I (we) will always be blamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:51 PM
22

I think there’s a lot of age groups here, in my opinion- it seems like the younger women here are dogmatic about FDS and FDS principles. While I agree with the majority of FDS and I can usually tell when someone hasn’t read the Handbook- I take exception to some of the sex advice. As a financially stable older women, not interested in having kids or marriage some if it just doesn’t apply to me and what I want out of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:46 PM
34

Interesting input. The Handbook was supposed to be a guide, not a Bible- and I take and apply what fits for me, it sounds like you have too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:32 PM
17

I guess I’m an outlier too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:28 PM
24

I guess women are supposed to deny their sexuality because men are promiscuous? I dunno, I think we all have to find our own way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:27 PM
5

Lol, I said the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:20 PM
49

Maybe I’m not really understanding your question but why does it matter? Why are you allowing men’s perception (which is society’s btw) perception of women’s alleged promiscuous behavior shape the discussion? What is a moderate number of sex partners? Who decides that? Why are you assuming that all women are having sex because they’re trying to find “the one”? What exactly is a “highly promiscuous woman” and why do you believe they’re isolated by “generation/social/societal settings”? It sounds …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:07 PM
11

I guess I feel that if I’m going to get shit on for my choices than my choice is to be with the hottest, finest, wealthiest and nicest man I can pull in lol. Might as well have some fun while the patriarchy seethes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:08 PM
21

Sorry hon this is a bunch of bullshit. Sounds like you’ve swallowed the patriarchy’s koolaid Signed- a woman probably older than you that’s dating more now than ever before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:43 AM
37

“Why must it be a man who takes it too far?” Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 01:58 PM
238

The patriarchy will always tell women to lower their standards to make it more comfortable for men instead of just telling them to level up. Act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:40 PM
9

SketchyAF. Block. Delete. Turn off notifications. Live a stress and scrotey free life. Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 07:14 PM
7

Ugh. This is no friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:48 AM
9

Seems a bit unclear on the subject
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:37 AM
1

Read The Handbook- no clapbacks to negging because it’s an attempt to have sex with you. Of course she can block a coworker- just ignore them, I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 11:18 PM
27

What in The Shroud of Turin hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:31 PM
54

Nope, I love makeup, am a MUA and will wear it every day, all day. But you do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:46 PM
56

No. Don’t waste your precious time and energy and these clapbacks. Men are negging you as a strategy. You’ve seen the strategy for what it is-as an attempt to get in your pants. Block access- move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 02:42 PM
130

GTFOH What in the fresh scrotey hell is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:15 AM
27

The older I got, I wanted to present the very best version of myself to the world. I guess I fell in love with myself in a way. I finally have the time and resources to spend, so yeah if I want little sparkly crystals on my nails like Cardi B- I’m doing it. I schedule in hair appts, nail, waxing and gym appts like they are dr. appts because to me they are in a way- it’s a commitment to myself. Every week I plan out my week, check the weekly weather report and pick out my clothes for every day- n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:02 AM
39

Scrote logic 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:14 PM
66

I’m old and still single too. I glowed up for myself, because I take pleasure in grooming, hair and makeup, working out, etc. I notice when I don’t, I feel bad about myself and then here comes the scrote train. (Similar to a clown car- but more) lmao Glow up to feel great for yourself and the better quality men will follow. They’ll just follow your light to find you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:55 PM
50

Err…wut? You feel sorry FOR THE MAN? Why don’t you feel sorry for the woman hon? You seem to have your priorities backwards- I recommend reading the FDS Handbook to get back on track.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:14 PM
260

Lol, I’m constantly told no man wants me now or will want future me but my phone keeps ringing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:15 PM
65

Lol, I’m 58 and proudly tell my age because I made it through breast cancer and a bunch of other shit that would kill a man. In my opinion not only are we shamed for surviving- we’re shamed for not staying quiet about it. Too bad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:46 PM
7

I had very good experiences with cops in my abusive situation so my advice stands. Forced prostitution is a crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:26 PM
35

I wonder if the nursing staff could help her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:35 AM
240

This is prostitution and her husband is her pimp. Call the cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:44 AM
42

Dunno about this one just saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 10:34 PM
249

Those comments are ridiculous- a bunch of Whataboutism argument fallacies to justify men disrespecting their exes in front of their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:00 PM
45

“I’m kinda hurt” ??? smh Go to the gym and find you a new husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:46 AM
56

I mean you did slam the door in his face so you made your intentions completely clear. It sounds like you live with family, so you do have some protection and people looking out for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:11 AM
172

So you opened the door- in the scheme of life it’s not that terrible, don’t beat yourself up. I’m concerned he knows where you live and this isn’t over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:17 AM
105

She doesn’t love herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:44 PM
31

I love my coffee in the morning- I’m Spiritually married! I’m planning a wedding and will expect a bridal shower- thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:54 PM
1

Lol, all the scrotes lurking will immediately start a shopping list starting with apples and pears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:17 AM
57

Wow. Great information, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 02:55 AM
7

Here’s an Apple! Thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:31 PM
7

I just don’t think they get it- they’re not malicious, just ignorant. It IS annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:30 PM
17

You forgot breakfast too. That changes everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:45 PM
10

LMFAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:44 PM
75

C’mon obviously the whole world revolves around them. As the Scrote turns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:58 PM
161

“Their faces of shock” Lol. Delusional and ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:50 PM
6

No you’re right- my answer was predicated on her waking the fuck up at some point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:24 PM
41

The good news is that instead of saving up for a wedding to this freeloader, the condo is in her name and it will be much easier to throw him out. He’s eXcItEd!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:57 PM
67

Dunno. The only man that had the most politically compatible views to mine is also the only man to put me in the hospital. Finding out political views is important but you still must continue to vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:49 PM
68

Wow. Great research- I learned a lot from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:32 AM
11

Very interesting question. I often refer to porn as “rape on tape”. This isn’t rape, no women harmed in the production, no exploitation. The next question is do you believe him? Is writing erotica accompanied by a secret porn habit? Dunno, I have to say I’m honestly on the fence with this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:41 AM
115

Lol no one else involved thinks this is a complication in the relationship except this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:57 PM
63

What in the Bob the Builder hell? I can’t believe this is an ad. Do you see how the patriarchy tries to influence women to fix a man? How about “You’re in his DM’s and I’m OUT- we’re not the same”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:55 PM
7

Lol, so this guy is complaining your profile wasn’t enjoyable enough? Like it’s a movie? Men really think we’re here for their viewing pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:49 PM
115

I turned RedditCares off. To any dumbass scrote lurking, that can be done. Imagine thinking a woman is suicidal because she doesn’t want the intense pain of anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:42 PM
53

Shocked people were defending her on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:10 AM
268

I think this is in The Handbook under Dumb Fox Credo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:07 AM
87

Lol, talk about a self own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:27 PM
185

Oh they know- they want to get laid and have no intention of anything but a FWB situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:52 PM
74

Just cOmMuNiCaTe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:49 PM
10

Awww, this is beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:53 AM
19

Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:11 AM
72

Wow. Breathtaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:35 AM
43

Ummm…the drama is part of the strategy. He’s a con artist. That’s what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:52 PM
39

sTaNdArDs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:56 PM
198

Nice fucking try lol seemed genuinely cOnFuSeD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:05 PM
92

It’s easy to fall into, especially because most men are so predatory. Remember these are YOUR choices that you are making to protect your future health and emotional well being. If someone doesn’t respect your choices then what does the barber say at the barbershop? Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:40 PM
184

Male attention is that important to her not sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:28 PM
208

I would also take another look at how you’re framing your last relationship. The guy didn’t “dip”- that makes you sound like a victim- he was unwilling to meet your standards and therefore you don’t want him in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:28 PM
135

I dunno hon. You can’t save the world. Dating a married men is a hard and resounding NO from me, but I have friends who have. There’s typically no reasoning with them. If her friendship is worth it to you, just keep the lines of communication open while condemning the arrangement as against your values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:18 PM
292

The saying “you can lead a horse to water but cannot make them drink” applies here, so no I wouldn’t introduce her to FDS. She’s also wrong, I dated plenty when I used to have sex on the third date and I date plenty now that I don’t. I personally wouldn’t deal with her unless she could help my career in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:14 PM
41

I believe in the power of redemption. In theory. I’ve never seen it in real life though and I’m old old. The closest I’ve ever seen a man who completely changed themselves around was ironically someone that you said would be past the point of no return- a guy that killed someone and went to prison for 15 years. Found God, got clean, and turned himself into an exemplary guy. But I think if you go back to the FDS Handbook, your question is a variation of a Bob the Builder type scenario. As women, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:50 PM
90

You’re not getting this hon and you’re being exceedingly naive. Your romantic interest in this individual is irrelevant. His interest in you is sexual- I guarantee it particularly because you told him you’re not dating anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:35 AM
36

Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:34 AM
91

No. The last time I posted this I was downvoted into oblivion but just no. In my opinion, there’s no such thing as a platonic friendship between a woman and a straight man. Someone always wants to have sex with someone else and that Someone is usually the man. Men will try to use this friendship as a way to slip in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:55 PM
5

Depends what the endgame is and what type of position the man in question has in your life. If it’s a boss and you’re talking about compensation for example, fight for your life. If it’s some rando scrote in a bar, nah I wouldn’t waste my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:44 PM
171

I hope she takes him for everything he’s got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:19 PM
50

Shaking that tin can lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 06:50 PM
264

A lion does not ask permission before he eats a zebra. Lions cannot talk, and zebras will not listen. FDS means you are no longer a zebra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:44 PM
22

It’s a scam to get $$$ out of lonely women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:18 PM
13

Every single goddam day. I just block preemptively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:18 PM
61

If used as a vetting tool it will backfire spectacularly as you’ve just given the new man in your life a blueprint to how much emotional/verbal/physical abuse you will tolerate. Even if it’s to make fun of your ex, I personally wouldn’t do it. “Well that other guy she was with said the wimmins are only good for sex and sandwiches, so I can say whatever I want about the wimmins just as long it’s not as bad as that- hurr durr” Your ex is in the past for a reason- focus on the present and future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:14 PM
14

Depends on the area. Injecting drugs into unsuspecting women has happened in the UK and in NYC, I have not heard of it in other parts of the country though. Doesn’t mean it’s entirely safe though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:06 PM
23

Awww…some scrote lost their girl to a bus driver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:02 PM
3

Lol let me edit then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:50 PM
19

Oh a loud and unsolicited opinion from a Scrotey McScrote? How unusual 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:48 PM
11

Dunno what this comment was but THANK YOU MODS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:44 PM
12

She wasn’t taking his shit any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:40 PM
93

I think this dynamic is why we wait to have sex. Pre FDS I was someone’s guilty pleasure, (hopefully) not because I was too unattractive to meet his friends and family but because of our different cultures and religions. The relationship wasted a lot of my precious time and energy and looking back if I had read and applied the principles of The FDS Handbook back then I would’ve never gotten so involved. This dynamic also proves that as women, you really can’t win for losing so take care of and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:35 PM
1

I read your complete post. I understand it. I disagree with what you’re advocating as a mindset as it is against the FDS principles laid out by the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:10 PM
206

Oh I think we know he meant straight up intercourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:57 PM
1159

Luckily she didn’t have a child with him so the divorce will be so much easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:56 PM
1

Yes, what you’re advocating is not advised by the FDS Handbook which is why you’re getting downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:54 PM
5

Nope. Sorry OP but this a waste of your valuable time and energy. Re read the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:46 PM
34

Because sometimes we don’t have choice. If your pipes burst and the only plumber you can get is a man then you just have to access the risk and plan accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:32 PM
59

Let’s call this exactly what it is- this individual wants you to prostitute yourself to him for a room. You were not sending mixed signals and he was trying to be helpful to his dick, not you. I’m sorry that you are being put in a situation where an inappropriate coworker is making sneaky sexual advances on you and the people in your life are gaslighting you that’s it perfectly fine. Because it’s not. The offer was so innocuous on the surface, I don’t know how seriously HR would take it. I perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:16 PM
37

So smooth! So handsome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:49 AM
129

So, I followed all the rules, took an Uber, met him at a busy restaurant/ bar on a crowded city street. When I walked in, he was sitting at the bar waiting for me, and then made his disgusting comment. When I turned to leave, I walked a few steps and then I asked the (very handsome) bartender standing a few yards down the bar where the ladies room was thinking I could try and dodge him. I went to the ladies room, did my business and took my time. When I walked out, the same (very handsome) barte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:46 AM
230

When you establish boundaries men think it’s fun and games to push against them. Think of it as their hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:13 AM
58

They’re just going to lie tho. If a man’s lips are moving they’re typically lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:52 PM
405

I had a first date date from OLD where the guy said at meeting me and I quote: “You’re not as pretty as you think you are but I’d let you suck my dick” I hadn’t even taken off my coat yet- I was so surprised I literally said out loud “nope” and turned around and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:50 PM
61

They’re drowning men grasping at a straw, any straw, to save them from perishing in their sea of scrotey loneliness. It’s delivering desperation and I would unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:29 AM
42

Yes, I have…stories. But cancer does change you, or at least it did me- you just don’t have time for anyone that wasn’t present for you, it’s easy to just let go. I didn’t know that about nurses though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:08 AM
35

Yup, breast cancer is a medical reason. I was so happy that they caught it so early- it was Stage 1A which means it had not begun to spread. It still put me through hell, but it could’ve been so much worse. I’m truly blessed that I had such great doctors- no way was I going to let this scrote try to gaslight me into thinking I was less of a woman from a scar, if anything I’m stronger and happier after the cancer then before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:05 AM
35

Awww…thank you Queen! Cancer did seem to quickly weed out the LVM’s in my life. LVW too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:02 AM
223

You gotta ask? it ain’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:58 AM
644

I’m sad for her. “Is this normal?” No, no it’s not by any definition of the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:38 PM
45

This was actually a woman who is evidently into Dom/ DDLG unbeknownst to me. I would start a new Reddit just for this sub if I really cared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:37 PM
132

Crazy stats aren’t they? smh I mean I left him because there was no way I was going to fight cancer and fight this asshole too. It was definitely designed to try to make me feel grateful for my relationship with him. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:46 PM
167

Poor girl, I hope she’s ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:31 PM
214

The scar is so small that when I go in for mammograms, I have to point it out to the tech otherwise they don’t even know which boob I had cancer in. Anything a scrote can think of to tear down your self esteem they will. Nothing is off limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:30 PM
716

Yes, after I had a partial mastectomy that left a tiny scar under my boob about this long: XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX Scrote said no one else would want me because if it lol. Several boyfriends later he still tries to call me drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:32 PM
297

I’ve been attacked on another completely unrelated sub for posting here too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 04:55 PM
14

I couldn’t disagree more. I wear a thong every day as they are extremely comfortable and don’t show panty lines- you must be confusing them with g-strings. And nope I wear them for me, because if you have a big ass like me, undies just don’t fit. Victoria secret has a sister store PINK, that is geared towards teenagers and young adults, it’s really not that overtly sexy- just bright and patterned bras, loungewear and active wear. I look forward to the day that clothing choices, including underwe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 04:43 PM
11

We as women are all very different- yet oddly the abuse is all the same. As someone upthread said, the abuse is all so similar that it’s like reading from a textbook. Predictable, terrifying and also kinda boring all at the same time. It’s not something FDS really talks about but for me personally, I rediscovered my faith and that helped me immensely. Daily Mass, daily prayer, daily journaling put me in a different place and I’m so much happier. Ironically it’s something my abuser always shit on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:51 PM
40

Interesting. Good information- thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:31 PM
71

Sweet Jesus. Shut them down now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:04 PM
9

Icon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:36 PM
33

Oh wellsies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:34 PM
11

Wow, I didn’t know this- thx Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:24 AM
10

You can do this hon, we all believe in you because pretty much all of us have been there. Every amazing strong woman I know has had a shitty man in her past. I want him to be in your past too. You just need a plan to stay safe. Don’t be afraid of his wrath if you bring an escort. Believe me he won’t be able to act out of it’s a cop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:10 AM
22

Cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:05 AM
87

Who cares if he’s more pissed? Do you see how he manipulates you with his anger? Maybe call a domestic violence hotline for some direction, police work with them to provide escorts in these type of situations. Do not be alone and vulnerable with a man who has already escalated to putting their hands on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:15 PM
37

No one should live in fear. End it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:09 PM
132

This is a link to a free PDF https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that-pdf-free-download-by-lundy-bancroft.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:07 PM
548

It’s meant to break you. It’s a tactic that abusers employ called intermittent validation. I think right now you’re in so deep that you can’t see you’re being emotionally abused. This is toxic and may ultimately escalate to physical abuse. Very very unhealthy for you- he’s trying to break your spirit. Please read Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:02 PM
229

Try to spending the money you usually spend on a man so he can feel like a king on a fucking manicure instead. That chipped red Valentine’s Day polish is heinous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 02:13 AM
198

Hi former recruiter here- I’d write something witty but I’m convulsing with laughter at this pathetic scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:17 AM
121

Wtf did I just read? “Our” girlfriend is getting violently raped by this individual’s husband full stop. There is no advice I can give, or words to use that can make this ok Throw the whole relationship away. I need to go play with some kittens now- this is seriously disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 12:39 AM
136

I’m also an older woman in my 50’s and agree with much of what you’ve said. As far as understanding why men are like this-I understand just fine. Older men are still part of the patriarchy and will try every manipulative trick in the book to maneuver you into fulfilling their agenda. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “Old men want either a nurse or a purse” and they’re sussing out which one you can offer them. Vetting changes slightly at our age, for example they won’t try to use your biological …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:43 PM
9

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 02:18 PM
51

What Do You Mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 04:08 AM
68

She probably knows he’s batshit crazy, block and delete for your own peace of mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 02:49 AM
141

Block. Delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:20 PM
7

Same as all the men who are six feet tall, they lie. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:02 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:45 PM
67

I hope he put in a bank account for his fucking teeth,he’s going to need to level up after she dumps his petty and scheming ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:18 PM
7

Ok thx- I just did that but it says I’m a blocked user? I guess we’ll have to see what happens now Thank you for your help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:49 PM
4

I’ll poke around thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:15 PM
7

Thx- I have all messages turned off already, I don’t think it’s possible to turn off the Reddit Cares ones?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:01 PM
262

I mean why do you need advice hon? It seems pretty clear you understand that he made no effort and rather than cOmMuNiCaTe to him maybe it’s time for you to sit down and figure out what your non-negotiables are in this relationship. Is putting absolutely no effort into a holiday specifically designed to express your love to your significant other negotiable for you? And you specifically said he’s “planning other things” in the future tense- has anything he’s planned worked out? The relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:42 PM
58

No words for this idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:18 PM
83

Get the money honey. At this point I’m so jaded, I would be sad and disappointed about these Dom women but I would be IRATE that he spent OUR money on them. As a mother she needs to think of her children and divorce him to protect their assets before he spends it all. 50% is better than 0%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:10 PM
30

Haha someone sent me a Reddit Cares about you message. Sorry scrotes I’m not suicidal. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:51 PM
204

I mean, he’s in love with his projection of her, not of her. He doesn’t even know who she is except looking at the author of her book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:41 AM
156

Well yes. That’s a given- the patriarchy works out great for men so they’ll do anything to keep the status quo including trying to convince us we’ve been lied to about having meaningful careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:34 AM
430

What a bunch of bullshit. I’m 58 and still waiting to finally realize anything of the sort. Trust a male to reinforce the patriarchy’s agenda of keeping women barefoot and pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:27 AM
23

Not quite as satisfying but I’ll accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:17 PM
1

Hmmm…sounds like the ruminations of a scrote. jUsT LeT mE LoVe YoU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:52 PM
30

That’s bullshit. Block. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:08 PM
140

You don’t owe anyone anything, least of all some scrote cLoSuRe. Please don’t answer the door again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:04 PM
100

Lol- this is HILARIOUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:29 PM
533

You know- if you take a step back, the patriarchy has really done a masochistic number on young women. Older women too. I guess all women that embrace and actually celebrate their own physical abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:04 PM
172

Wow that team totally ruined his party! And totally ruined his life! He just can’t do it anymore guyzzz because of that team! If only he could’ve figured out a way to turn off the TV, like a button on the remote or something- his marriage would be saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:34 AM
615

Do these scrotes not have mothers or grandmothers? Fond memories of their teachers or even the school cafeteria lunch lady? Scary how quickly they can turn to Incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:57 PM
11

Sounds like the advice goes against The Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:23 PM
140

Lemme guess 50/50 amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:01 PM
152

Classic sign of abuse. Sleep deprivation is how they start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:00 PM
106

Sorry but this girl is an idiot. “I gave her my phone because I have no reason not to trust her” AFTER she pulled these stunts? Ugh. Just ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:11 AM
14

Lol, older married scrote tried to be a controlling asshole and got found out. This was a great read and I love this girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:25 PM
150

He’s saved so many lives with his book. Truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:19 PM
10

Married AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:06 PM
246

This. It was never about the ex- but about the fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:37 PM
203

Don’t know what this girl is up to- deliberately trying making him jealous? punishing him for for rejecting a relationship with her? or just living her best life, but I love that he’s questioning everything now lol. Too badz, so sadz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:37 PM
49

I would still contact a lawyer to know exactly how to handle your pics “accidentally” being put on her site. I would do it now to get your ducks in a row.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:33 PM
11

Oh there’s two pages? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:30 PM
35

yawn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:13 AM
185

I stopped at “Marine Engineer”- they don’t exist. Maybe they do in real life but when you see this on any OLD, it’s fictitious- a way to disappear for weeks on end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:31 PM
35

I say because I’m batshit crazy, grin maniacally and walk away. It’s not perfect I know but seems to work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:20 PM
171

This cannot be real. Can it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:18 PM
28

As a breast cancer survivor, I went through something very similar. sigh The way I was treated was harder to go through than the actual cancer. The cancer is over. Well for now at least. But the scars and trauma from being abandoned remain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:08 PM
1

I appreciate your thoughtful comment and I agree with most of you said. In this case though, it’s specifically about an individual of South Asian descent who emotionally abused the OP before abandoning his financial responsibilities not Caucasian’s who are also Muslim. I also don’t think I was making excuses for Islam, although I may not be understanding that part of your comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:02 PM
0

Thank you for your respectful question. Islamophobia is a specific form of racism that refers to acts of violence and discrimination, as well as racist speech, fuelled by historical abuses and negative stereotyping and leading to exclusion and dehumanisation of Muslims, and all those perceived as such. Islamophobia is a form of racism in the sense that it is the result of the social construction of a group as a race and to which specificities and stereotypes are attributed. These characteristics…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:16 PM
7

I spent time in an Islamic country and agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:04 PM
160

I’m so sorry that he did this to you. I’m glad you’re in therapy, I think anyone should be after this abuse. He threatened to sue you? Lol, on what grounds- being fertile? Also? Congratulations on your baby! If this were me, not only would I contact his family, I would go after him for as much child support I could possibly get- not only for you but to secure his baby’s future. Gotta pay to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:20 PM
9

“Jennings found that tattooed-males exhibited significantly higher risk factors pointing to greater propensity towards crime and other deviant acts such as smoking and binge drinking.” https://academicworks.cuny.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1012&context=jj_etds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:14 PM
9

He specified NECK tattoos, and said it signified “problems with authority”. Also- someone replied to my comment asking if this applied to women as well and then evidently deleted their question. I only personally know one female that has neck tattoos and I would describe her as a “rebel without a cause”, never holding a job for more than a year for example. I realize that these examples are anecdotal and do not represent true data- but when I saw this guy’s picture it did confirm what I had been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:58 PM
203

So not only was he partially responsible for her rape, by denying that he saw anything, he was also partially responsible for her Suicide. “tHeN iT hIt Me” Welp, I’m a bitch but Karma’s bigger- his day will come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:11 AM
112

Totally respect the kink to rape children? wut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:01 PM
3

The joke’s on them because I was scoring gorgeous guys before I lost the weight lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:44 PM
37

Sounds like a great guy! What could go wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:40 PM
322

The worst case of domestic violence that I personally know of involved the cashier of a local wine shop that would ring my purchases up every couple of days or so. She was beautiful and bright and bubbly, and her bf came into the shop right after she started her shift one night and decapitated her. When I came up to the shop that day on my way home from work I learned what happened from a plainclothes detective who also told me the boyfriend had tattoos on his neck. The cop said neck tattoos are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:35 PM
49

It’s the fucking around they have no problem with, it’s the finding out that drives them to the Internet for validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:20 PM
16

Read.The.Handbook. Honestly if every single woman on this sub read the handbook, there would never be another question like this asked. Please learn to value yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:02 PM
26

People don’t like change. It just human nature. So when you change, they try to put you back where you were. They’re not bad or malicious, they’re just trying to maintain the status quo. But for themselves- not for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:12 PM
8

I had breast cancer. And the breast cancer that is Estrogen Positive. Like you I was on birth control for medical reasons other than actual birth control and I was on it for decades. Right now you are doing a lot of guessing about your hormones. I would strongly encourage you to make an appointment with an Endocrinologist that specializes in hormone disorders and one that has been told about your family history of cancer. Just to give you some perspective- the chance of getting breast cancer inc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:43 PM
1

It may not be intentional but yes. Men get very comfortable with being catered to very easily and will maneuver situations to create that end goal. But this is the time they should be wining and dining YOU and impressing YOU not the other way around. Set your boundaries and stick with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:07 PM
12

It seems like a cute wholesome activity on the surface but it’s really can be a trap- at least in the beginning of the relationship. I think you’re getting thrown off by cooking WITH him instead of the dreaded cooking FOR him. My experience (pre FDS) has been you start off together but gradually, as time goes by, he spends less and less time cooking WITH you and has to make a phone call, let me just turn on the game, I need to walk the dog, and suddenly you’re the only one in the kitchen and you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:20 PM
50

Ummm…wut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:12 AM
59

There are several different types of breast cancer- 80% of all breast cancers are called Estrogen Positive and are caused by yup- estrogen in the body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:35 PM
114

Hmmm…didn’t see breast cancer on the list, birth control pills increases the risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:59 PM
22

Virtual hug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:12 PM
130

Yup, damned if you do- damned if you don’t. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it and it’s a massive deal breaking red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:39 PM
1480

Oh hon. This may be an unpopular opinion but I personally don’t think he wants a submission woman, he wants YOU to submit to him. If you were a truly meek and mild submissive woman, he would want you to be more aggressive. It’s all a huge mind fuck to take you down and destroy your self confidence and if you take a step back, you’ll have to admit that it almost worked. This isn’t about sexual preferences, it’s about him trying to CHANGE you to CONTROL you. Let him go my beautiful Queen, sometime…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:41 PM
557

He was trying to get her to break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:01 AM
16

It’s not. His patients now have to wait to get to see a specialist. He’s doing what’s expedient for him, not what’s best for his patients. It’s a huge disservice to any patient he has of child bearing age because it’s refusing to provide for their reproductive healthcare which let’s face it, is the primary reason young women go to the dr to begin with. It’s extremely unethical, and probably illegal depending on his state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:53 PM
10

Yay for you- wanna cookie? It’s not doable for anyone I know in my city because parking on the street is MORE DANGEROUS, anyone who truly lives in a city would know this-stop victim blaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:25 PM
8

Where am I supposed to put it hon? Your implication is living in a suburb with a garage is the safest-please. Again I live in a CITY. The closest parking garage is at least three blocks away from my apartment- so it’s NOT safer to trudge through city streets at 3:00 in the morning after a night out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:18 PM
9

I’m not poor. I don’t take buses. Your comment wasn’t about buses, it was about Uber’s. I live in the city and even if I hit the jackpot nothing would compel me to move to the suburbs- instead of telling me to “read better” why don’t you stop blaming victims and “do better” thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:16 PM
30

Huh? Men don’t show up at my door unannounced because I don’t answer it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:08 PM
38

I take Uber’s because I live in a city and I disagree with your entire blame the victim diatribe. Check your privilege, not everyone can afford a car or a house in the suburbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:33 PM
130

I personally think of these loser scrotes as an annoying fan club, they don’t know me or who I am as a person but project their romantic and sexual fantasies onto me. It has absolutely nothing to do with me though and certainly nothing to do with anything I’m doing or not doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:16 PM
400

No. You’re defining your self worth and self esteem through male attention. Loser men will always try to get with a Queen to elevate themselves- it has nothing to do with the vibes you’re putting out or anything to do with you whatsoever. Don’t take these scrotes character flaws and failures personally and continue to work on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:08 PM
108

Don’t beat yourself up, I dated a man from another culture and religion and had pretty much the same scenario. The cultural differences clouded the picture for me too, and sounded so reasonable I stayed much longer than I should. I think the bottomline lesson is regardless of the cultural differences, our expectations and standards shouldn’t change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:42 AM
118

Yes I am so super suffering because I don’t I refuse to accept the fAcTs! He gets paid to know that 80% of women find 80% of men unattractive so you should get over yourself? Just gibberish. He’ll start flinging his poop chimpanzee style next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:50 AM
35

Awww….it’s so cute they think you’d actually care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 11:42 PM
566

“It doesn’t matter how I feel physically”? GTFOH change the locks on the doors and start the divorce proceedings now. I personally would quietly have “a miscarriage” but it’s her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:42 PM
4

Front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:23 PM
8

Yup, this guy was a “business owner”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:18 PM
16

They don’t, which is why I kinda gave it a pass and went out with him despite not knowing too much about him. At the end of the day, if you’re following all the tips here you’ll be safer than the majority of women are. You also have to live your life, go out and enjoy yourself too. Just carefully. For me personally OLD gets me too nervous and paranoid to date, so I stick to meeting men irl. There’s a smaller pool of candidates to choose from but that’s ok for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:09 PM
17

All those gifts were is an insurance policy against her throwing him out and ending his cushy hobo-sexual life. She’s also a pickme so I don’t have too much sympathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:02 PM
13

Typical men won’t even notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:56 PM
75

Just to add to all of the amazing and common sense tips already offered- in addition to vetting, become an internet sleuth and verify every.single.thing.he.says. If you can’t find anything than that’s also a huge red flag as he made up his life to hide his real one. I went out on a date with someone once that I thought I had vetted but really couldn’t find out that much about him. After dinner when he put down his credit card and went to the men’s room, I took a picture of his name which just lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:51 PM
20

I agree that there must’ve been other small signs if not outright red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:54 PM
127

Can we just take a moment to reflect that this Queen left her OWN wedding because she was disrespected and humiliated by the groom? Standing ovation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:20 PM
45

You’re right- I didn’t even pay attention to that part of the story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:21 PM
38

Wtf? Keep that watch for pain and suffering at being dumped by the side of the road like a piece of garbage because you sipped coffee the “wrong” way or something. These pickmes are making me irrationally angry lately. “I’m truly sorry” 🙄honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:19 PM
55

This is a great idea! Thx queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:25 PM
27

Because they can’t believe not everything is actually for them. 🤯 Misogyny and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:52 AM
3

Ok you’re really not understanding this. When the OP asked where the relationship was headed he said he “really enjoys meeting new people and enjoys the feeling of getting to know people in awkward situations” as an explanation for why he doesn’t want a relationship with her. YOU may not find online dating awkward but HE does. Learn to read between the lines so you can vet scrotes better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:40 PM
1

But that situation isn’t what’s being described here. The scrote is saying that HE enjoys getting to know people in awkward situations- ie online dating, and implying that he’s not stopping that anytime soon for a relationship with the OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:13 PM
129

“Honey? Do you know what happens to assholes when they get old? They’re still assholes” -my 85 year old father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:15 PM
48

Lol, it means I’m a scrote that will try to concoct an excuse that you can’t argue with. Respect my choices!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:11 PM
18

Same 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:04 PM
137

He enjoys the feeling of getting to know people in awkward situations? Lol M’kay well I’m glad he has plenty more opportunities to do that since you dumped his ass. Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:00 PM
144

Lol, yes I mind. Block delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:40 PM
332

Not surprised. The patriarchy always infiltrates anything female centered. Hopefully, the FDS Handbook will teach enough women not to fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 04:27 AM
21

Well he SAID he felt like he was in a rut, Kinda sounds like bullshit to me. Just delete this guy, he sounds like a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:45 PM
19

Good Lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:37 PM
210

Ugh. What happened to a simple “Happy Birthday”? This guy is negging after 3 sentences- yOu DoNt LiKe JoKeS Good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:19 PM
207

Fuck him. It takes two to tango- if you decide to keep the baby then he has no right to try to manipulate and pressure you into an abortion. While you’re both pretty young, and yeah I’m sure he was panicking- I would think long and hard about this relationship. If a guy won’t man up to his responsibility over an unplanned pregnancy- what else are you waiting for him to man up about? First big huge true life test of his character and I’d say he failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:27 AM
13

I didn’t realize how many micro aggressions I faced on the daily until they were gone. It was sweet relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:30 PM
377

I think the forced isolation of the lockdown gave women time to catch their breath and to think long and hard about what they’re doing, where they’re going, and who they’re with. The moment I locked my front door to the moment I unlocked it and emerged months later was one of the best and happiest times of my life. Well, as long as I didn’t turn on the news that is. I’ve been trying to recreate that happiness and yup- scrotes gotta go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:06 PM
203

I’m 58. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 02:20 PM
197

I had breast cancer and a partial mastectomy. I look at my surgery as a roadmap to who I was and to I have become. While our circumstances are very different, we are both survivors in a way. Celebrate yourself NOW- the you who loves herself so much, she accepts the mistakes she may have made in the past that helped to create the perfect human that looks back at you in the mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:31 PM
16

Sweet Jesus- are you talking about your baby? I’m typing through tears to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:03 PM
137

Oh hon, I’m sending you love and surrounding you with a white light of protection. Edit- I just saw you are on SS. Explain the situation to the judge- he’ll understand that you can’t afford a $4000 lawyer on 18K per year. You’re a survivor though, and other more legally trained members will be along shortly to help out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:47 PM
2

Sorry- I thought you were the OP in my last comment. He had a conversation where she firmly stated her boundaries and he ended it. In my opinion, she had probably stated her firm boundaries before and he either thought he could live with them or more likely thought he could change her mind. Honestly this is why I date more than one man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:09 PM
6

Is that what’s really bothering you? Because I don’t think what this guy did is all that horrible. It just wasn’t a match, and that’s ok. It does seem like he could’ve figured out sooner though. And yes a HVM man would wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:47 PM
104

This would be hilarious if wasn’t so terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:37 AM
92

Why are you going on coffee dates hon? Have you read the manual?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:21 AM
15

I don’t base my actions in the opinions of a minor child. She’s 16 and is not at an age where her brain has fully developed. Tell her she’ll understand when she’s a grown up sweetie,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:24 PM
94

But you can. It’s called Blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:22 PM
39

All men have the potential to be rapists. It’s self preservation to make them prove to you they’re not before you endanger yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:04 PM
158

Typically after three dates- which is usually when they get denied their free-sex-after-three-dates “privilege”, then you can start to see their true colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 01:47 PM
10

Wow- good job OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:24 AM
84

Whew. Glad you’re safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 12:20 AM
53

Lol put that as your second most controversial opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:42 PM
90

Well it wasn’t easy watching him trying to find an opening to plunge in the knife but she handled it well in the end, even buying him coffee as a power move. Unfortunately the real smooth scrotes aren’t this obvious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:34 PM
29

I just text back Merry Christmas! And then don’t respond to anything else until I can figure out who it is without asking- in my business sometimes it’s from clients I haven’t saved. If it’s some random annoying scrote, block delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 02:19 AM
31

For the love of all things holy READ THE FDS HANDBOOK! Do not go to a man’s apartment on a first date- wut? Of course it’s a red flag- he’s a cheap scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 05:47 AM
11

Right now the police have to get a judge to give them a court order to find out the owner of the tracking device.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 05:42 AM
3

You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:13 AM
3

Who cares what he thinks? He threw away a beautiful diamond. He has no credibility whatsoever. Ignore him because he tried to hurt you and now he’s a Personna non grata who does not deserve even an iota of your precious time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:12 AM
25

Holy crap. Nothing possible about it- he’s a pedophile rapist through and through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:50 PM
37

Lol, medical confirmation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:59 AM
139

I dated a guy shorter than me, 5’5” with a huge dick. One I dated that was 6 ft had a lil itty bitty baby micro peen. I will say that I was fairly promiscuous in my earlier years and I only ran into one micropeen- they seem to be pretty rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:18 PM
15

Lol, he understands it just fine. Block delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 05:31 PM
3

My degree in advertising finally paid off lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 11:56 PM
14

Doyennes for Dollars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 09:33 PM
36

Me ex boyfriend’s sister dated him before Good Will Hunting- can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:02 AM
17

So basically you should get yourself in a position that if a man dumps you because he becomes more successful or whatever his motivations are you won’t care. Maybe you’ll care from an emotional standpoint but your finances, your housing, your INTEGRITY won’t take a hit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:55 PM
47

Nope, I wouldn’t have paid either. I get you were shocked, I was the first time someone pulled a stunt like that on me too. You have no guarantees whatsoever he won’t try to get you to pay for other meals after this so block and delete. He’s not bringing you anything but aggravation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:01 AM
16

Yes I’ve read through your comments. I understand. I disagree. This is a waste of precious time, I would rather encourage a woman that’s being gaslighted to leave rather than make charts and graphs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:12 PM
20

You’re doing fine! Better than fine- you made some mistakes and you LEARNED from them. Stop beating yourself up, you are a work in progress- we all are. I’m so proud of you that you stuck to your guns and he is still blocked. Sending you love and surrounding you with a white light of protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:43 PM
44

No offense hon, I know you mean well but this is bullshit. If any woman has to make charts and graphs to “prove” they contribute more to the household than an LV partner then they should just take him out with the trash. Men know. The woman knows too- I rather see encouragement for her to leave his gaslighting ass then projects like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:35 PM
45

RIP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:55 PM
13

Lots of red flags here. Be very cautious, you may be being targeted by someone who knew you were an American and made your meeting seem accidental because they assume you’re very wealthy. His stories aren’t really adding up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:37 PM
249

Uh oh I watch RHONJ- I guess I can’t message him about his one wipe poops now. Alas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:15 PM
23

Going forward- always control the narrative, if a man says Monday or Tuesday, you say Tuesday is great because you want to present that you are a catch because your life is jam packed with excitement even if you’re just watching reruns of Seinfeld in your pjs lol. The next thing I would’ve done is ignored his last text and answer his food question with, I love Thai. Or something different from the place near him. I wouldn’t agree to meet him at a restaurant that wasn’t close by ME, not him. He a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:07 PM
11

Lolol, this is unintentionally hilarious. Epic fail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:17 PM
93

I usually sit at the bar for faster service and I ask them to put on a cooking show or CNN for me. Please and thank yew. They usually do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:14 PM
14

Ooof. I’m so proud you blocked and deleted him, he was pulling out every stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:52 AM
26

Wow. If it were me, I would just whisper a prayer of thanksgiving that I was free from this scrote. If I was feeling charitable, maybe a prayer for her too. Maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:07 PM
20

Ugh a fucking thief! And a liar! I cannot abide either one, just ugh! So sorry this happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:59 AM
21

Ooof. How did he get your credit card? You know what you have to do hon. Sending you love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:48 AM
11

I was down voted into oblivion when I made this exact same point. I don’t believe in platonic friendships between straight men and women, it just doesn’t exist and women are naive to think otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 11:09 PM
9

Wow. I’m so sorry for your loss and I celebrate your ability to overcome this. Sending you love and surrounding you with a white light of protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:10 PM
6

Beautiful answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:02 PM
14

Oh no you don’t. Cut this out right now. He is purposely fucking with your mind in an attempt to manipulate you. If he was so super duper happy he wouldn’t be looking for you to torment with his fake ass life. Take a breath, focus on some self care, re-read the manual if you have to. This is a distraction to your own happiness- fuck this guy. Bypass, kick ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:01 PM
1

I personally block after 24 hrs. For eleven? I’d be annoyed but ask what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:57 AM
8

No problem, that’s why we’re all here- to be a sounding board and help each other out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 02:15 PM
123

No overreaction at all. My mother, grandmother, and god mother all died on the same day twenty years ago- I never stood anyone up and honored all my commitments. My late mother told me once that “Death brings out the true person” meaning who they really are. In my opinion, you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:46 AM
30

I wonder how many other wives he was able convince not to put up their pictures? Because the way I’m seeing this- she’s not his only wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:36 AM
29

Demanding lil purple mushroom head isn’t he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:59 PM
72

Sweet Jesus Almighty. As a breast cancer survivor I am shocked, appalled, enraged and outraged all at once at this fucking scrote. You don’t need me or anyone else to tell you what to do about this piece of shit as your number one priority is your health. You handled it pretty well though, I can’t even imagine what you’re going through as I am exhausted physically and mentally and I didn’t even go through half of what you did. This mother fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:34 PM
11

We’re not. Constructive criticism is ASKED for. Unsolicited aDvIcE is negging, PERIODT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:02 AM
10

You’re not alone!- You have this entire sub to help you and root for you! I’m so proud of you- look how far you’ve come in realizing this in such a short time, you can do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:57 AM
4

For me personally, it’s a red flag. A second date is the time a man should be selling himself to me. Using therapy as a sales tactic is disingenuous and seems manipulative as it’s a private matter. I like to keep everything light and bright for the first three dates and this seems too personal, deep and heavy. I wouldn’t break off contact with him for this- but I’d keep an eye on him even more than usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:49 AM
265

The floorboard radiator is rusty from piss. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:04 AM
7

It’s actually pissing me off, I feel like the OP is wasting everyone’s time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:16 AM
75

Hon what are you doing? You MUST IMMEDIATELY stop, drop everything you’re doing right now and read the FDS handbook. What is the point of being on this sub and asking for advice if you’re not going to do the work? Honestly at this point you’re just your own worst enemy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:15 AM
16

In my opinion people are creatures of habit- they see you as a certain way, put you in a neat little box in their mind, and don’t like to change. So when you “change” by leveling up in one way or another, they try to find ways to keep you in the little box in their mind. It sounds like your “friend” is only comfortable with your friendship if she can feel “better” than you in some way and as her life is falling apart, the criteria for her oneupmanship is becoming more and more absurd. What you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:01 PM
52

In other news, water is wet. Report at 11:00.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 03:14 PM
55

Wait they think you’re immature for wanting a monogamous relationship? Lol- I would laugh so hard that tears would run down my face and I would say thanks for the laffs What kind of idiot tries to coerce a woman into sharing her man with other women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:17 PM
1

If you are religious thank God, The Universe or whatever you believe in- that you got away with only an easily treatable STD. You must block and delete this lying and gaslighting cheating scrote immediately. You will move on to your fourth partner when you are ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:35 AM
10

While you gave away a lot of free therapy- lesson learned. But I want to focus on and celebrate your firm no sex boundary that you stuck to! I’m so proud of you! Even more so because you were very attracted to him- good job on sticking to your guns, because it sounds like he’s just another scrote that was only trying to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:27 AM
155

I’m low key shocked you didn’t know this. Tina Turner walked out of that marriage with nothing but the literal and actual shirt on her back and her comeback was fucking epic. That’s the main reason, besides her talent of course, that she got a long and emotional standing ovation when she won Record of The Year in 1985.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:15 AM
116

Block and delete every single idiot that made these ridiculous comments to solely tear down your self confidence and make you doubt yourself. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:55 AM
119

I respond with a quick Dunno and a nod. I hate to tell you this but he was stalking you and if it were me I would avoid that area for a few weeks maybe even months. Yes, I know you love it, yes it sucks you have to change up your routine because of a threatening man, jt to me my safety isn’t worth it. Sorry this happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:50 AM
48

With all due respect to you, as a 58 year old that dates a lot, you are encouraging a scarcity mindset regarding men and male attention. The pool of dating candidates are certainly different now than when I was your age, older, divorced or widowers, probably crankier lol but there’s no shortage of them believe me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:32 PM
3

I’m cynically wondering what else this guy and his family are lying about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:14 PM
67

Hi hon, I’m 58 and date quite a bit. I really don’t know if it’s “vibes” or what. I know for myself I keep up with my appearance (not implying you aren’t) and try to be genuinely interested in my date. I know I started off dating after a long relationship by saying yes to dates I may not have been crazy about but figured they’d give me “practice”. Maybe try to date out of your comfort zone, after all it’s just a date not a commitment. Don’t fall victim to scarcity mentality, men and their attent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:10 PM
33

You are prematurely calling this guy a HVM, there’s no way to determine that after only one or two dates- please read the handbook, it will save you a lot of heartache and trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:34 PM
2

Bullshit. The person questioning others is the person trying to control others. Inappropriate and pseudo intellectual to equate waxing with philosophy. It’s completely straight forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:24 PM
3

I started full Brazilians the same time you did and you’ve said exactly what I tried to upthread and wasn’t nearly as eloquent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:45 AM
2

I completely agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:42 AM
2

Oh honestly why are you questioning anything about what women do to their vaginas- hello? Are you the pubic hair police? I’ve been getting a full Brazilian wax every month for almost thirty years. I started for a man but kept it up because I genuinely prefer the feeling of bare skin no hair. No TP dingleberries hanging off of the crack of my ass hair, urine stench isn’t trapped in the pubic hair in front - to me it’s just cleaner. It doesn’t make me wildly happy wtf? It’s part of my self care wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:38 AM
81

Yes I understand- but I disagree. You’re trying to reward men for their “good behavior” with your appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:05 AM
152

Oh hon. Wear whatever the fuck you want because it will be used against you regardless. I personally go all out on each and every date, I could care less if someone thinks it makes me look DTF or whatever. You’re trying to control the way these scrotes perceive you and I personally don’t think you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:33 AM
80

Years ago I would patronize a local wine shop that sold booze too. There was the sweetest prettiest cashier there, she was such a nice girl. One day I went to the shop after work and it was surrounded by cop cars- her boyfriend had come in and stabbed her to death at the register. I stopped and talked to a detective, who passed a comment to me that the boyfriend had a large neck tattoo which was a sign of someone who had problem with authority. I’ve never dated anyone with a neck tattoo after th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:54 PM
7

I’m an older woman, maybe even considered by some to be…ahem…elderly. These con men specifically prey on us and while most are pretty obvious, some can hatch quite sophisticated ways to try to get at your money. Usually they’re stranded in another country (ohnos!) were robbed and are helpless! They need your help right now baby! Being a devout woman, I always tell them I’ll keep them in my prayers as I block them. Bottomline for ALL women, send no money to no men. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:14 AM
6

Write this down, tape it on a mirror, practice it daily until it rolls off your tongue effortlessly- “ Your comment is inappropriate and unacceptable- don’t you ever disrespect me again” Say it as needed- trust me they’ll stop. These clowns are counting on your surprise and unwillingness to confront them. Document every encounter with date and time and who else was around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:52 AM
19

I mean this comment with nothing but peace and love- why does it matter what we think is unacceptable? If it makes YOU uncomfortable than it is a huge red flag in YOUR relationship and should be a deal breaker for YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:10 AM
46

Huge red flag. I slow down purposely and take my time when someone tries to rush me or walk ahead of me. It’s super disrespectful for anyone to assume you’ll struggle to keep up with them as though they are that important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:04 AM
13

I pick up my purse and say “this isn’t working” and walk. But I always know where the restaurant is, and have been there before so I’m familiar with the exits and where to slip off to if he follows me, and always UBER there and back. Never give too much personal info from the jump so he can’t find me and of course block on all social media and phone. Plan for the worse for each date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:46 AM
8

For me and others that hate the show- it’s way too white, too obsessed with pinning down a man, the stereotypical gay characters, the inappropriate way men sexually pressured women in the workplace, the Antisemitic jokes, how women pressured other women to do sexual things they weren't comfortable with in order to keep a man, Carrie's excessive entitlement despite her terrible money choices, Mr. Big and Carrie's relationship actually being pretty toxic, the way women were judged for not being ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:51 PM
6

Why don’t you watch it to tell what the hatred is? Just saying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:20 PM
6

Mr. Big was based on Donald Trump before he met Melania. Or maybe afterwards who knows. Candace Bushnell dated him on and off. ‘Nuff said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:19 PM
-3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:35 AM
2

What did I just read? My eyes are bleeding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:02 AM
6

Yup. Signed a 57 year old woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:55 AM
2

Oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:03 PM
34

Oh hon- I am so proud of you! So difficult to say those words but once you do? There’s no going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:03 PM
9

Omg is her…is her hair gray now? Please tell me that’s an optical illusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:01 PM
14

I love it- except for the poor girlfriend. What a dumbass clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:59 PM
63

Whew. She has been gaslit to hell and back. She’s on Reddit desperately trying to get someone, anyone, to tell her this okey dokey- but she knows in her heart of hearts she’s been played. And yes if we all quit relationships than we wouldn’t ever be in one. And that’s ok. She’s probably getting angry in the comments because she’s very angry at him and more so at herself but can’t admit she’s been massively violated. Sad really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:15 PM
26

Frame it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:06 PM
5

Good job! I’m so proud of you and all the survivors that got out, and I pray for those still trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:13 AM
150

She’s a shitty friend, completely unsupportive as it’s not about her broke, pornsick, and selfish boyfriend. She SHOULD be talking about what a smart and strong girl you were to break the Vulcan mind grip of domestic violence and got out -not all women make it. You’re a beautiful survivor, fuck her and her scrotey boyfriend and get you some new friends. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:02 PM
8

I typically go off of their behavior and don’t listen to even one thing they say BUT this guy ratted himself out. So you figured it out quickly and have now blocked and deleted him.Hopefully. I strongly encourage you to read the FDS Handbook as it specifically cautions on not sharing any negative break ups or other relationship issues with dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:55 PM
4

This guy know EXACTLY what he’s doing. Don’t waste your valuable time trying to educate anyone- it’s not your job and your efforts will be wasted anyway. I typically say “That’s completely unacceptable” or “You’re out of line” or “Really inappropriate” and get up and walk away NEVER to engage with this individual again. Please tell me that you don’t work with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:45 PM
47

After many, many wars I just decided to no longer participate and walk away. I find it creates peace within me. As for them? Don’t know, don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:36 PM
12

Sorry hon your first point is absolute bullshit. LVM are attracted to women PERIODT , it doesn’t matter what your clothes look like. And sorry that IS victim blaming 100%. Everything that attracts HVM is internal not external anyway- that’s why there is a FDS Handbook. Seems like you’re trying to rewrite it in an extremely judgmental and harsh way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:56 PM
12

So this may not be a popular opinion and will probably come across as a little harsh- but why are you investing so much energy on trying to figure out why this guy is treating you in a less than courteous manner? It’s clearly not because of you or that you’re ugly unless you’ve suddenly grown hideous since your last date. He has changed from being friendly and a potential boyfriend candidate to being kinda fucking rude tbh. Your boundaries SHOULD be being treated with courtesy and respect by EVE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 07:14 PM
3

Oh hon, there may not be legal action- but trust and believe this scrote would hit right back. He was harassing her to elicit a reaction, any reaction at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:58 PM
10

Oh hon, I’m in my late 50’s and it’s never too late. I have a better quality life now including with HVM boyfriends that I ever had in my 20’s. This is nothing more than the patriarchy’s propaganda to try to keep you in line by marrying early and ending up barefoot and pregnant. Set your goals, create a plan to achieve them and ignore societal expectations that aren’t in alignment with what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:06 PM
1

Since I have no interest in being a tradwife, I don’t listen to even one word they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:08 AM
145

Lol- he’s THREATENING to lose interest? Uh ok. bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:00 AM
262

You overlooked a lot of red flags- but don’t beat yourself up, we all have at one point or another. I strongly encourage you to read the FDS Handbook before you get involved with another guy. Good luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:15 AM
16

Sorry hon I couldn’t finish reading your OP because I became exhausted at “ the indicators I also have other than this feeling are, that in his Instagram search bar I can go through the alphabet and with every letter, all of the top accounts that come up are porn accounts”- I Mean are you kidding me with this right now? How much more could you be doing with your life instead of policing this miserable scrote’s porn use? Of course he’s lying to you- he’s an addict albeit a porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:22 PM
18

Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:06 PM
75

Careful hon, I was downvoted into oblivion when I stated my firm belief that there is no such thing as a platonic friendship between a straight man and a woman of any sexuality as there is always one party that wants more than friendship and it’s typically the male. nOt AlL mEn ThO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 01:04 PM
11

Lol wut? I stated an opinion. I am defending my opinion, I haven’t started an argument or fight with you, I’ve made no personal insults or ad hominem attacks on you or asked you to justify your presence here on this sub like you have to me. Let’s recap shall we? Straight men and women, in my opinion cannot have platonic relationships as one always have more romantic/sexual feelings for the other- and it’s typically the male. The OP is a perfect example of this playing out. Not all men will act o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:08 AM
-7

I see- so the OP didn’t hold Queen energy then? Sounds like you’re blaming the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:06 AM
5

No, as an older healthy woman who has gone through menopause I need lube. Before I went through menopause, when I was peri menopausal I needed lube. Sometimes as a younger woman I did too- hours of sex can make you dry up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:50 AM
-12

I could care less how others view FDS, as I am not here for their approval. You seem more concerned about my downvotes and others approval than the fact that you perpetuating harmful stereotypes about platonic friendships between men and women. On a post where the OP was sent a dick pic by a platonic friend. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:27 AM
128

To you and to anyone lurking here-there is NO such thing as a platonic relationship between a straight man and a woman of any sexuality. It simply does NOT EXIST- someone is always more interested in the other friend- and usually it’s the male. The minute a woman figures out NO man is her friend, life becomes much safer and less problematic for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:23 PM
1

If you have a homemade facial tattoo in between your eyes, you are in no position to to gauge if a woman is crazy. Sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:16 PM
1

Oh hon- you have got to nip this shit in the bud as soon as it’s starts, I don’t care who is making the joke, it could be the CEO- they’re trying to test your boundaries. Even if he supposedly “forgot” you were there, it must be called out each and every time. Don’t laugh out of nervousness or in an attempt to fit in (you don’t) Just look him in the eye after everyone stops laughing and say “Inappropriate“ and just let the word hang. Don‘t say another word- you gave your opinion, nothing else is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:07 PM
115

Holy crap. I’m not surprised, but very very disturbed. Everyone stay safe in here and I’m praying for his victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:49 PM
14

Another situation where the trash took itself out. Congratulations on dumping him! Good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:35 PM
35

His math is off- my “count“ is much much higher. oh wellsies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:21 PM
18

Why doesn’t he have a smoke detector in HIS house? Being that he’s so traumatized from forest fires and all. Or he does have one and when it went off, it would’ve woken up his GF. So the soup in the pan wasn’t even sending off smoke yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:29 PM
10

Same. No one is fighting over these delusional men or blocking their cock or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:23 PM
38

I dress for the paparazzi that’s waiting for me with cameras. After all, I’m a star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:58 PM
41

Standing ovation. I’m struggling to understand what the fuck I’m even reading here. Why would I or any woman for that matter- care what a conservative albeit “good” man thinks about women no longer coddling them? They’re obviously going to push back with some pseudo intellectual “debate“ that’s just excuses and manipulation. The OP sounds like a pick me and is wasting our time and hers by engaging with a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:52 PM
21

Wow she was that beautiful huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:44 PM
3

While I’m really glad she got to say her piece, I personally would’ve just packed up his shit and changed the locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:14 PM
3

Honestly I’d ask this asshole for half of the cost of an abortion and see how fast he changed his tune.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:03 PM
10

I could barely finish reading your post. No offense but why are you wasting your precious time interacting with a potential sexual predator? Who is trying to control and censor you talking about your own natural body functions? He’s a misogynist idiot that is “repulsed” by women urinating not because he thinks urine is dirty, but because this drunken fool was trying to get you to have pity sex with him in a field. Get rid of this scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:34 PM
7

Basically I’m single because there are no HVM that I have met. So even though I recognize this inappropriate question is meant to somehow shame me I respond with “I know right?“ like I can’t believe there’s no good men either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:18 AM
41

Lol, 57 year old woman here- Nope it doesn’t get better, the men just get younger and have evidently watched a lot of incest porn. It’s pretty disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:53 PM
50

My beautiful BRAVE darling girl- I’m so, so sorry you are going through this. I have no other words of wisdom, as our tribe has covered everything very thoroughly. I’m concerned and I’m worried that you feel suicidal, please don’t let this individual do that to you- you are a FIGHTER! You will BYPASS and you will KICKASS. And you will come out of this BETTER and STRONGER. I’m sending you so much love and surrounding you with a white light of protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:29 PM
33

Listen to me. Call the police now. On a non emergency number. Explain the situation. Listen to their advice, some of it will be useless- some may not be. When I lived in Mass. I was able to file a CIVIL restraining order- not a criminal one as no crime had been committed YET Against a stalker. It was advice I was given by the cops. It was not free, I had to pay court costs. I went in front of a judge- explained how terrified I was and the judge granted it. It worked just like a criminal restrain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:43 PM
3

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. This individual has already stabbed someone and if he’s doing hard core drugs like heroin, he probably has a record. By all means talk to the Police- in my state it’s also possible to get a civil restraining order- it’s not free but was worth my peace of mind. They work just like a regular restraining order but if you can’t get a criminal restraining order because he hasn’t attacked you yet, it’s worth asking about. You haven’t done anything wrong, block…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:50 PM
29

its a bug, kinda like a snail with no shell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:20 PM
2

Hi hon, I’m 56 and I have more men interested in me than I know what to do with lol. A lot of LVM but also really good genuine HVM too. The dating is just as good and also just as horrible as it was in my 20’s, the real difference is in my own self confidence and willingness to immediately cut a LVM out of my life. The biggest mistake I personally made was believing in the patriarchal myth that women have a shelf life and stressing out and agonizing that “time is running out“. If I knew then wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:55 PM
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