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This might be a country-specific question, but I always thought rape was sexual assault — that the terms were interchangeable. How are they different here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 05:09 AM
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in between my marriages, I blew through men like a chainsaw at a massacre I got exactly this far before I died laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 06:48 PM
34

😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:12 AM
46

Each successive choice to have six kids in eleven years He was raised Roman Catholic. REAL interested to see what “choice” his mother had in any of those pregnancies back in the day. The sacrifices she made for her kids, and he memorializes her like a criminal meth head. Because she drank Tab. His poor mother didn’t have a choice back then. Him dragging her in print like that? That’s a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:33 PM
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“we cook 95% of our meals, which I prefer” That “we” is looking mighty suspect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:57 PM
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I disagree 💯 percent with this take. I do think this incident is FDS-aligned (if uncomfortable to watch.) Chris Rock is a raging misogynist. In the minute before the punch, he was literally joking that Penelope Cruz was such a loveless harpy that she would make her husband’s life hell if he won an Oscar and she didn’t. (Because “the ol’ ball and chain” jokes are so inspired, right?) That’s when he moved on to Jada. He would’ve quadrupled down PUBLICLY if Jada said anything in her own defense. Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:56 AM
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This isn't even FDS, but ... if ANYONE proposes to the other person after a four years and they get rejected, isn't it just time to cut bait and move on? Where do you even go after a "no" on that topic, after 4 years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 09:47 AM
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I remember that video. What’s amazing is how many people (including that CT Insider article) are glossing over how this grown man violently tried to get at these high school girls in the kitchen. Like, they had no way out and were desperately trying to keep him from getting in. Instead, they report on how he “yelled at them.” And fuck that scrote for posing like a concerned parent. You know what a real father does with a kid that delicate? Exhausts himself spending every waking moment making sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:47 AM
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From CT Insider article: Iannazzo’s BrokerCheck profile shows his place of employment as Aegis Capital Corp., which is located at 156 Kings Hwy. in Westport. It reports he registered with the firm on March 15. Aegis Capital’s website lists a variety of services it provides including investment banking and wealth management. Mitchell Fitter, the Aegis Capital Westport branch manager and a vice president of retail and institutional sales, declined to comment on Iannazzo’s hiring. So our Connecticu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:32 AM
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you’re a frog in hotter water than you think. Get out before it’s too late. This is profound, sis. Love me some FDS nuggets like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:26 AM
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Good catch on the “wrecked her car” neg. I blew past that one. Not one good thing to say about her in a public anniversary post. Not one. How I wish I could say that was never me. But I’ve definitely “bought the damage waiver” back in the day from a couple of NVM in my pick-me ignorance….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:12 PM
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You know, I see so many women these days who are in dire straits when it comes to housing. And my first instinct is always to consider renting out a room to help a sister out. But the next thought that hits me is always THIS EXACT SCENARIO. I have no idea how I could help lift a sister up without endangering my own safety. And it sucks, because I can’t think of another time more than now when we need to come together for support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:04 AM
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OOF. Ain’t that the truth. I’m still mad for Aisha Tyler when she had to pay $2mil a year in spousal support to her scrote ex — PLUS $500k cash, PLUS half of all shared assets. Spousal support. To a Dartmouth-trained lawyer who just gave up practicing for the last 10 years of their marriage. And THEY DIDN’T HAVE KIDS. He didn’t stop to care of their kids. He just stopped practicing law to ride her coattails, then felt no shame in taking spousal support from this woman. Compare that with the SAHM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:08 AM
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If OP’s husband didn’t show his true colors until the baby arrived, the speed with which he is escalating this is severely alarming. I lived this. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. It is truly hell on earth, while at your absolute most vulnerable point. Just like this woman is experiencing, the psychopath also doesn’t fall far from the psychopath tree. That MIL…. What true “mother” could ever keep a crying, hungry baby from its mother? Answer: one that raised a shitstain to prioritize her needs over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:30 AM
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Damn, this one isn’t even FDS-specific. Like, if my kid told me someone tried this, I’d just point out two things: Glossing over the taking of the credit card for a sec … why does this asshole need the PIN for the card? You only need the PIN when you’re trying to get nice, fungible, completely untraceable cash. (And credit card cash is at an even higher interest rate than regular purchases to boot.) Take the GF out of this equation. Would this asshole do anything like this to one of his bros? Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:16 PM
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So I know this is going to be a really weird take, but this sentiment really resonates with me in one very particular way. Don’t judge me, but it’s when I want to sell something online. Recently, I needed to sell some large items. I’m talking big enough where I can’t get them in my car — like a washer or a bed frame — and the person has to come into my house for inspection and pick-up. When I post to sell online, I don’t reply to men. I just don’t. This is FDS, I don’t need to explain the risk w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:52 AM
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The police say they don’t think anything suspicious happened. That cannot be where the police end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:50 AM
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Sis, SAME. Who comes to someone’s house unannounced anymore? No one decent, that’s for sure. Even the local Girl Scouts advertise on Nextdoor nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:46 AM
45

Drake is just fugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:19 AM
149

Not even if this asshole was playing in the Super Bowl. Permanent and irreversible amnesia of this scrote’s existence would be an instant symptom of my pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:07 AM
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What’s shit is that even with the horrifying sex ratio, the women in China are still absolutely DRAGGED for not getting married young. BBC did a documentary on these “leftover women” (WTF). I couldn’t finish it. The story started with this 30-something queen. She was a lawyer, super cute with great fashion sense, and she went to a matchmaker to help find someone on her level. She admitted she wanted a partner in life — she didn’t want to be mommy for some scrote. In minutes, after the matchmaker…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:49 PM
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Right? For every true crime story like that, just spare a thought for HOW MANY MORE women are unalived and no one pieces it together. For my part, I was thinking about the mom who was poisoned by her cheating husband (AFTER she took him back!) and somehow survived a lethal dose of the poison. It was only a coincidental review by a doctor that the poisoning was even discovered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:04 AM
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Damn, Big Thrift is really out there lobbying to get thrifting accepted as an acceptable date. Showed up twice on this list. Thrifting is just one step above going out to a field for a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:21 AM
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At this point, if I ever met a seemingly HVM widower… I’d still dig deep to find out exactly how Wife #1 died. It sounds black-hearted, but … nope. Way too many moms out here getting offed by scrotes with a strong allergic reaction to an equitable division of marital assets and child support orders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:12 AM
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DIVORCED DADS ARE LOW VALUE AF I read that line, and reread it. Then I actually went through the ol’ mental Rolodex of all the men I’ve ever known. All the divorced dads I’ve ever met? Not just dating, but in life? Out of a lifetime of crossed paths … not one HVM among them. Not even one. Just … WOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:59 AM
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What a shitty friend. How is anything other than “give my friend a heads-up immediately” even on the table? I love them both Ah. Even when she knows her friend is extremely unhappy with this guy. Lemme fix that: What a pick-me friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:39 AM
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See, I’d heard about a serious nurse shortage. But what’s strange to me is that I don’t hear anything about a similar doctor shortage. If a person’s looking at deciding between going doctor or nurse, would it be a chump move to go doctor nowadays? What your friend is pulling down — $480k pretax a week — is surgeon pay, as far as I can tell … which is insane. That’d make anyone considering going doctor (with the extra years of education and training) just pause and consider, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 08:59 AM
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Unrelated to this, but do any FDS-ers know: do CRNAs really make this kind of money? Back-of-the-napkin math says that she’s making $360k+ pre-tax a year, working the minimum 40hr a week she mentioned. More than a family practice doctor makes. That’s jaw-dropping. I would buy ALL the Audis with that kind of money. Is that covid money? Because even if it is … I think it might be time for a career change.💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:39 AM
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He works less than a 40-hr workweek making $90k+, but he thinks HE should be the one to quit working and be a “professional gambler”. 🤯 And that’s AFTER he blew his finances to shit losing at gambling. (Including pissing away real estate in this market!) Then he openly seethes that he didn’t baby-trap her when he had the chance. That’s not audacity. That’s naked sociopathy. This women better make it clear he isn’t a beneficiary on a life insurance policy — then move TF away from this guy as soon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:54 AM
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WOW. Just googled what you described. That is … too much. (There’s even one with those two on either side of Lisa Bonet, and it is awkward AF.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:44 AM
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My thumb is starting to hurt from upvoting everyone else here. Sister, you sound young, and you might still be in the “I’m invincible” part of your journey. I’m not taking anything away from that. Just please understand that you’re sleeping — eyes closed, deeply and vulnerably asleep — from a man who has shown you he does not accept societal restrictions. Look at this: he kept yelling at me to 'stop acting cute' he just kept repeating that I was You’re not just engaging with the crazy guy on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:26 AM
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Just to plop the kid in front of the TV during his “parenting time”… Strength to you, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:54 PM
17

Did his custody ploy work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:48 PM
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Also, I've noticed when I read historical biographies about successful men who were fine artists often there was a wife in the background who was holding it all together with home, meals, childcare, etc. She was the reason that he had the space and time and well-being to devote to creativity. This barely gets a mention in the books. GOOD GOD. I had this same revelation earlier. It was while reading up on Albert Einstein’s first wife. Can I tell you how ANGRY I got reading how much she carried th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:12 PM
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If we’re being brutally honest? I wish to God all men were this upfront with their fucked-up hidden motivations. What wouldn’t I have given for this same gift? Him: so nowtruly, you’re going to be cool with me abusing you, cheating on you, and basically just completely dropping the psycho mask as soon as your pregnancy is far enough along that you’ll be at your most vulnerable? Me: WTF did you just say? Him: oh geez that sounds like a “no”. Well, looks like it’s time to peace out, then. Where do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:05 PM
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Damn, that’s some hermit-mystic-on-the-mount wisdom right there… I’m with you. For me, that idea’s got legs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:54 AM
43

Wait — did HE post this video?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 03:24 AM
41

Damn. SAME HERE with the joke thievery. WTF…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:54 PM
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My heart was racing by the time I reached the end of the article. I don’t know if that post-COVID marriage was supposed to be a “feel good” way to end the article, but WHAT THE FUCK. She even admits that this third husband ALSO makes less than she does. (What?!?!?!) By that point, she’s gotta accept responsibility for putting her own neck on that chopping block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:50 PM
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Good God, the more you read about this guy, the more brain bleach you need. After he told his wife about what he had done hours after their son’s funeral, he “asked her if they could continue their marriage without the boy.” Then he told her he’d taken out an insurance policy on their infant, and that he’d “already had $50,000 of it spent in his head.” https://www.cbsnews.com/news/indiana-dad-tried-to-cash-in/ Please, someone tell me this guy died in prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:28 AM
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(And how bad of a cop do you have to be to get suspended without pay?) Woman, I was literally thinking this! You’ve gotta really burn some calories to find the one Trump-era, NY/NJ career cop who did something so heinous he was actually suspended without pay. That part alone is nightmare fuel - let alone when she leaves this little cry for help: Even though we had some rough patches with his anger over the job situation ….Things are better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:58 AM
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Please PLEASE consider silence-and-blocking all the answer you need. This dude is stalking you. (Don’t blame your name: blame HIM.) He was already unbalanced enough to pursue you when you dropped the dating apps. THEN HE STILL DIDN’T BACK DOWN WITH YOUR FIRST NO! Crafting a “PR response” for a guy who’s giving off predator vibes like this what he’s looking for. He wants to pull your strings, and any response — even another nicely-wrapped no — will suit him just fine. You can’t “nice girl” him in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:50 AM
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When she said that, I WAS that Leonardo DiCaprio pointing gif.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:41 PM
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🤣 I heard the “doctorette” too. Two other options: A. This dude literally can’t understand a professional women unless she’s a dancer (Rockette) or cheerleader (Steelerette, Raiderette). B. This guy’s English skills are as strong as his interview skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:36 PM
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Disney, man. Disney brainwashed us all. Disney movies groom little girls to submit to LVM with 100s of 🚩🚩🚩 like it’s a prize: — Aladdin, with the lies right out the gate? — The Beast, with the literal trauma bonding? — John Smith, repeatedly bragging about genociding his way across the known world? — Even Li Shang, who thinks NOT KILLING MULAN is adequate payback for a soldier spectacularly saving his life and the lives of his men? And little boys are taught that they don’t have to work on any o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:07 AM
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Hahaha I was just thinking the same thing. That pic alone makes me want to not click on the link. (That and the lack of any synopsis.) Is that guy supposed to be the prize? I can chop my own veggies while drinking wine without Eau d’Old Balls wafting through my kitchen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:45 AM
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I’m in the comments looking for this PSA. ☝️ Dude who doesn’t brush his teeth = dude who’s pushing rope in bed. That’s gonna be a no for me, dawg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:01 PM
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Good LORD. I know there the Scrote Olympics aren’t a thing —the “Scrote-lympics”, maybe?— but your ex is definitely going for the gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:04 AM
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Gossiping behind her back, something men have mocked women since time immemorial No, lie, I just saw this play out in a zoom meeting recently with some senior guys (and one junior remora.) They were talking at length about a woman who wasn’t in the meeting, calling her “emotional” and “wound up” because she had an opinion on something. Then they colluded on decision that impacted her without her being present. NBD, like it was an everyday thing. The real shit part? This woman is a major pick-me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:53 AM
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A man who in any way attacks / negs / criticizes a woman’s relationship with breastfeeding and her soundness as a mother — especially to deflect from his own failings — is a NVM. Completely irredeemable. The human equivalent of salted earth. A woman’s choices around breastfeeding are COMPLEX. The anxiety about the “right” choice ratchets up 1000% when she’s isolated and stressed (as this poor woman seems.) What he’s saying to her is intentional and deeply abusive. If he keeps her doubting her ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:32 AM
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🤣🤣☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:12 AM
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Serious question: how would she know he blocked her number? (Wouldn’t it just keep ringing?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:17 PM
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This right here. She can’t navigate her way out of this because her internal compass is busted. For her, true north is abuse and neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:13 PM
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On her birthday AND Valentine’s Day…. 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:10 PM
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One more thing to add: if he’s forcing your attention in a conversation, I’d watch out for an accomplice who could come around the side/back while you were distracted. Could drug you (look at the club injections trend), could block your tailpipe (force your car to stall), could slash your tires — anything to make you vulnerable. Unless you know your doors are locked, your windows are up, and you are driving away free and clear, I’d be wary of engaging anyone in a parking lot who initiated contac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:10 AM
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I genuinely believe only women see this and understand this to be fact. I literally have never heard any man — “liberal” or otherwise — point this out or even acknowledge it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:17 AM
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I see you’ve read my diary… 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:51 PM
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WHHHY is she looking for legal grounds to stay longer??? This guy already showed her the face under the mask. Why would she ever want to keep her kids around that? After he pulls a move this heinous, how does she feel comfortable leaving such young kids around him in the evening while she’s working? Like, sure, he’d kick kids out into the street with less than 24 hour notice … but there’s no way he’d abuse them? The house is burning down around her and this poor woman is watering the plants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:47 PM
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avoid men who have never married into their late 30s and 40s who have high-paid - even dubbing some of them 'unmarriageable' Never married. High-paid. 40s. Boy howdy, did I ever fall into this trap. Thought I had tripped and fallen into this amazing treasure trove of a man. How could one woman be so lucky? Spoiler alert: I wasn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:34 AM
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Man, is it weird that I’m STILL haunted by that whole incident?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:41 AM
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This is my nightmare. The world makes no sense with decisions like this — but they’re the norm now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 01:35 PM
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Oh, God — I’m so sorry for this. The shitty part is that the unknown factor is the judge on the bench. If THAT judge is a scrote or a pick-me … it’s like your ex is violating you all over again. Only this time, with the court’s blessing and the weight of law behind him. Ask me how I know. I’m praying you get a judge who puts your child first, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:39 AM
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Asked him to help me cut a jalapeño and he chopped it into 4 chunks and when I asked him to dice it smaller, he pointed the knife at my stomach, looked me dead in the eyes, and sternly said, “No. Found the psychopath! 😳 I so wish there was a Yelp for men….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 09:15 AM
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I simultaneously love and hate this post. Depressing AF (but I’m smarter for it.) Thanks, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:32 PM
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An honorary degree. OOF. Straight to the heart of it with this one line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:15 PM
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🤣🤣🤣💀 This literally had me questioning myself! I was like, I know it’s been a minute since I read the handbook, but DAMN! Kale’s a red flag now? It’s so good with eggs and toast, though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 01:51 AM
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pro kale propaganda Is this a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:44 PM
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Im tired of competing with girls who they dated before their balls even dropped. And that was how my belly laugh woke up the neighbors….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:22 AM
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Did he just buy stock in the word “hence”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:18 AM
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What fresh rabbit hole hell is this… Found the “no tech” Waldorf school mentioned in one of the articles. $30k/year for elementary and middle school. $40k/year for high school. $30,000 - $40,000 A YEAR. And then it’s time to pay for college. If I ever felt like a have-not, it was a practice run for what I just felt today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 05:08 AM
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That’s why so many Silicon Valley moguls send their children to Luddite schools where they don’t even use computers. Everything is analog and handwritten. Do you have more info on this? I’ve never heard of this and it definitely piqued my interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:04 AM
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This is heartbreaking. Your poor grandma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:56 AM
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Right? Every time I see joint Facebook pages, I instantly think three things: He cheated on her. She thinks if she keeps the leash a little tighter, it’ll keep him from doing it again. He’s doing it again. He just got better keeping it on the DL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:22 AM
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Wasn’t he lying in wait for her, though? Door jammers are a must, but they wouldn’t have stopped this guy from coming in while she was out. The spare key really is the weak link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:15 AM
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HOLY FUCK. Look at how practiced he is at sliding his foot in the doorway before it closes. He was bending it like Beckham. This was not his first attempt. It looks like he was waiting in the hallway for the keys to stop jingling, then he was banking on her going in her home at a normal rate of speed. If she hadn’t sped up at the end, he would’ve had her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:11 AM
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I LOVE THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:00 AM
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I remember that! Doesn’t he couch the mooching in an umbrella term like “living with family”? Like… bruh. Respect the craft. That one doesn’t even take a deep dive. If they’re not mooching off a hard-working gf or wife, they’re mooching off mom. Words matter, son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:36 AM
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Yeah, it’s jarring to me the number of people I’ve seen on Reddit talk about this guy ending himself. The clown quietly drove Gabby’s car across the country to his family’s house, lawyered right up and hunkered down for over a week while he waited for others to put the pieces together. Then he had his family cover for him for another 4 days to give himself another headstart while he goes on the lam. That behavior is practically THE textbook definition of self-preservation. This dude is pulling o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:18 AM
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HOLY SHIIIIIIIIIT!!! You survived attempted murder, sister. God in Heaven…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:07 AM
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That makes a lot of sense! I never looked at Watts and thought he’s crazy. I really think what he did is just another option among several for “emotionally inadequate” men — and those guys are all around. Just let the right constellation of circumstances happen, and another woman’s getting Wattsed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:23 PM
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The shorter list would be who DOESN’T think he killed her? I can’t wait for his google history to reveal such winners as: — “how to get away with murder in a desert” — “does driving gf’s van without her cross country automatically make me the owner” — “how to pick up chicks in a van”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:37 AM
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whose face looks like a smashed crab DIED 😭🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:28 AM
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Good point. I got through most of that “advice” — it really seemed more like a mom talking a toddler down from a temper tantrum at the store — before I drowned in the ads, but I didn’t see any mention of how the scrote found out about his girlfriend’s stash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 03:57 AM
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Goddamn it. Same here. (And pretty close on the money loss, too.) 💸💸💸 Being tethered to an LVM because the U.S. court system goes weak at the knees for a “father” who puts in the barest minimum — to the point that he WILL get 50/50 just by fogging a mirror — is 100% a prison sentence. Honestly? Really super honestly? It sucks the joy right out of being a mother. Don’t make this mistake, OP. Keep the scrotes — and the LAW — away from your kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:15 PM
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My ex husband was supportive during labor, too. I really hung a lot on that chestnut, too. It was one of the reasons it took me way too long to understand that he’d been body-swapped with a complete monster after my kid was born. Now I understand that the only reason he “seemed” supportive was because there was an audience he was pandering to. It wasn’t because he really was a good guy who cared: he was just a psycho putting on a show. Getting one over on the normies. I almost wish I’d tangled w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:13 AM
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You know, I was just thinking of that scene from “God of War”! I literally think of how many layers of approval that part of the action had to go through to get included in the story. How many men were involved in working out the “right” combo to “succeed” at that totally cringe-inducing mission. How many men could have said “this is stupid lame, guys” and yet NO ONE DID. I remember that scene whenever I start to question how fucked up things can get and yet no one stops the fuckery from getting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:13 AM
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I’m dying at “vicious side eye” 🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:18 AM
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Exactly. These assholes, just by being themselves, literally make everything around them worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:15 AM
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Even in a totally non-dating scenario, they’ll still go full reptilian brain stem. I remember walking into a BK Lounge when I was still a new and wide-eyed babe of 20. Saw a (what I thought was) normal-looking dude with a little dachshund puppy waiting for his friend. And I ask if I can say hi to the puppy. After 30 seconds of puppy loving — seriously, just imagine how off-the-charts cute dachshund puppies are! — I stand up, say thanks and move to go inside. And the guy, dead serious, reaches ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:08 AM
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so it's all a bit of a baboon field experiment. 😂😂 comments like this keep me coming back to FDS. Betrayal and the existence of a victim within a triangle artficially heats up dogshit affairs. But it’s insights like this that make me know FDS is the gospel. Thanks, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:26 AM
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Woman, you had me “sly grin.” Duper’s delight. And you’re the dupe. The moment I understood what that look meant — and just HOW FUCKING OFTEN I’d seen it — that was the moment any love I had ever felt for my ex was smothered. Quicker than kicking sand on a match. Like it never even happened. The signs of duper’s delight should be taught in schools. Protect the younglings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:09 AM
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Is she really wearing heels, though? I’m not convinced. She even looks a little hunched over. This scrote’s not talking to Stevie Wonder. She sees what he’s doing, and she’s (consciously or unconsciously) trying to get him to chill TF out. Damn. Poor girl can’t even get a drink without clocking some time as The Incel Whisperer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:37 PM
209

Damn. This was literally one of the daughter’s stories in “The Joy Luck Club”. ** Husband had lobster at the restaurant. She had a salad. 50/50 split. ** Husband would go down the grocery list and itemize the whole thing for a “fair split”. (I think he even refused to cover her tampons?) ** And I think he was a lawyer and she was a paralegal, if I remember correctly. Still 50/50. The mom had to share her story of woe, but the daughter woke up and kicked that POS to the curb. After she saw her ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:28 AM
10

I know I should be a-bubbling with rage at this neckbeard’s quest to be America’s next Top Scrote. But the comments here are killing it! I literally almost peed myself laughing while scrolling. Damn, I love you ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:24 AM
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OSAMA…. I swear to God, the ending of the movie is the most horrifying thing I’ve ever seen. It’s cinematic genius, because the creator knows — having introduced you this nightmare of life under the Taliban — they don’t need to explicitly show you anything beyond that end. You know exactly what’s waiting for that little girl, and you want to scream yourself blind at the thought of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:09 AM
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Sis, what’s even worse is when you look at the children in those photos. You remember that one pic of the 800 Afghans packed onto one military transport flight? Look at the children. Maybe you start to feel good that kids were saved, until you notice one thing: that’s no where near a 50/50 ratio of boys and girls. Given a choice, and knowing what hell on earth the Taliban would wreak on women and girls, those men primarily picked their male children to save. Add that to that Guardian article whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:46 AM
18

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:12 AM
15

Don’t you put that evil on me, Ricky Bobby!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:32 PM
8

🤣🤣🤣🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:35 AM
6

Silly example: I reaaaally like that scene of Captain America breaking a log in two, LOL. I didn’t know what this scene was — had to google it. haha now I understand the context (and now I really like that scene, too!) (Also, side note, Robert Downey Jr’s jiggling moobs as he fake-cuts logs really put me off my lunch. 🤢 Whoever had the bright idea to put that embalmed nutsack in the same scene with Chris Evans the Adonis should be fired.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:48 AM
8

I like pans You got me with that one! Laughing in the dark over here like a loon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:45 AM
10

I read this whole thread, and it was like reading from my diary. I lived through this, too. And you’re right: it leaves the most insidious kind of stain on your soul. I still haven’t figured out how to clean it up entirely. Years later, my life is milk and honey now, and every now and again, an old insult will bubble its way up from nowhere and leave me feeling filled with intense shame. Like I was the one with the problem…. Goddamn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:42 AM
24

This women is well on her way to starring in her own “Dateline” special if she stays with someone that nakedly sociopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:28 PM
22

😂😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:22 PM
187

Haha after I found out about his cheating (but before he knew I knew), my ex would literally say with faux love, “but you’re the one I come home to every night.” The shitty thing was, that dude was parroting back exactly what he saw HIS cheating-ass dad say to his mom growing up. And his mom stayed for decades through that disrespect like that line meant something. My ex could not believe that this comment didn’t instantly undo my moving out. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:43 PM
17

Really surprised this one hasn’t been mentioned yet: Used to think it was HV when a man loved his mother so much, he’d go out of his way to call her and see her. All the time. At every chance. Navigating that MIL hellscape took YEARS off my life. A man who cannot establish healthy boundaries with his own family will never be available to you — marriage certificate be damned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:24 AM
76

Thank you for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:50 AM
43

This goes well beyond dating. I need childcare. I see women post offers to babysit/nanny kids in a local FB page here. But when I click on their profiles, their pics are overwhelmingly one of two varieties: Woman posed solely for the male gaze. Heavily made-up, cleavage out, over-the-shoulder duck face — you get the idea. Woman draped all over a male who is so visibly scrotey, you can smell his breath through your phone. Both kinds of women reek of the need for male validation. When women are so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:23 AM
13

Wow, that's a true bro. How brotastic of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:41 AM
20

I watched this a while ago. The whole series is incredibly well done, and it made my heart physically ache: as a mom, it really captured what it was like trying to divorce someone who wants to literally destroy you, and would use your own kids to do it. But can we talk about those last 3 minutes?!?! No spoilers. But … I think it’s been two years since I last saw this story, and those last 3 minutes have haunted me. That grabbed me by the throat. I looked at my own life through that lens, and … i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:14 PM
5

In my experience, they can still game you, even when it comes to taking care of you and family during sickness. My mom was dying in hospice, and my ex did everything right by her. So attentive, so thoughtful. Had her AND me convinced he was the perfect HVM — so much so that, as she was fading away, one of the things she said was that “I can rest knowing you have him to take care of you.” It wasn’t until my late in my pregnancy that he started to show who he really was. After I was trapped. In th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:58 PM
3

When I get some land I might get some kids. Goats are adorable. 😂😂😂 You don’t know it, but we’re best friends now because of that line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:43 PM
21

Dating before the divorce is finalized? No. That is the literal opposite of an HVM. Getting a divorce from the mother of your two children IS A BIG DEAL. If they tried working on the relationship, even more so. The post-mortem of a marriage with children merits a long and reflective pause. Chasing women before it’s even signed is not a mature reaction. Plus … honestly? It sounds like some trickle truth, where he’s admitting some of what he did (going on dates) but not all of it (they fucked). In…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:43 PM
18

Oh my Lord, I’ve literally laid awake at night thinking about exactly this. How AMAZING it would be to have a “Golden Girls” set-up with other like-minded single moms. The money you could save. The camaraderie. The peace of mind of not having to go it alone every day. And then I think about how all it would take would be a camouflaged pick-me to pooch it all up. Flaking on shared duties to cater to a BF every schedule change. Saddling you with EXTRA kids for long periods so they can go clubbing.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:21 AM
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I died at the part where the guy gets dragged out of the office, screaming: “All I said was it looks like she could take a dick! It’s a COMPLIMENT!!!!” I laugh because my life is immersed in Brosephs who would literally say this straight-faced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:02 AM
24

His FACE when he got tazed!! 🤣🤣☠️ (@ 1:00)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:58 AM
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I know I’m shitty for laughing at that comment, but I am instantly on board with making that a working verb. Glad you got out before the Chris Wattsing kicked off. (Also as a gerund. I 100% support its use as a gerund.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:32 AM
67

Your anecdote gave me chills like I was reading a scary story. That guy was straight up a psychopath. Like, body parts in the freezer, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:06 AM
8

Yeah, I’m with you: need some help on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:56 PM
51

At :25, when her fingers show the death rays of stench AND she makes that hissing noise … I laughed and got skeeved out at the same time. 😂😂😂🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:59 PM
38

Where TF is the wooing? Even a small fish under the sea will build a nest for a female to inspect for suitability before mating. But we need to meet halfway? Why, exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:46 PM
17

Do it. You will never look back, sister. Hand to God, you and your child will THRIVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:45 AM
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This reminds me of when I was a drop-dead sexy goddess of a woman living with a LVM who I loved with all my naive heart. One day, I was so happy and excited to see him after work that I ran outside and gave him a rich, passionate, lusty hug and kiss. My very soul was in that kiss, ladies. When he pulled away, he stated in a completely dead affect, “Guess we’re having sex later tonight.” That was over a decade ago, and I still remember how much that hurt. How much he needlessly hurt me, because h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:52 AM
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“she’s pregnant with his kid but seems he don’t care about that detail.” Christ on a cracker. I’m sorry, but you will never convince me that a man’s love for his child is anything like the mother’s. Not ever. These scrotes are irredeemable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:36 PM
79

I’m laughing at your comment, but seriously: that dude pokes holes in condoms. Any guy talking at all about fertility before there’s a relationship is a condom-compromising predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:44 PM
31

It literally sounds like he’s asking her to willingly walk into a hostage situation and offer up her own kid as tribute. What happens if she doesn’t like the date and wants to leave? When she won’t put out? When she “displeases” him in some other way? Good God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:41 PM
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Not only that, but they’ll loudly proclaim facts that are straight WRONG! They literally act like the authority on shit they know NOTHING about! These happens at work so much, I now only notice the days where it DOESN’T happen. I cannot comprehend the level of obliviousness it takes to be a man in society these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:28 PM
30

So that means, after a lifetime and a family together, he never saw her at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:00 PM
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The brainwashing is POWERFUL and OMNIPRESENT. I know you’re right, but I can’t blame the victim for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:52 PM
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or to temporarily alleviate loneliness. Damn, sis. That cuts right to the core of it all, doesn’t it. I gotta sit with that one for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:50 PM
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I clicked on this without reading the flair or title and laughed out loud. Thought it was a great idea — looks like that dude’s not getting a birthday present. Then I read the title, flair, and comments, and realized this was supposed to be from dude to his girlfriend. Nah, bruh. Women aren’t the limp-dick PA losers of society who will — FOR SOME INEXPLICABLE REASON! — still pursue a relationship with an innocent victim. As a woman who made the mistake of marrying a PA … nah, bruh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:40 PM
79

One day, a guy at my job liked me enough to share a story about his wife. Gird yourself. He said he knew his wife (mother to his children) adored him with her whole heart. But then he got it in his head that he needed to test her. So one day, when he was still on the toilet after taking a horrific shit, this guy (in his early 30s) pretended to be so sick that he couldn’t stand up. And he called to his wife and asked for help. And out of a place of pure love, that poor woman helped pick that guy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:54 AM
15

That’s … really gross. Just ew. Happened with my ex, too. You know what you’ll see if you look through my phone? An unhealthy number of “petfinder.com” tabs open. (Don’t judge.) Dudes. Just … why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:23 AM
21

Oof, that QUILTING!!! 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:12 AM
42

What killed me was how this article tried to make it seem like dads really want to spend more time with their kids … if only they were given the chance. Then the article right after it talks about how workspaces post-pandemic will become male-dominated spaces, since (with telework options now the norm), mothers are overwhelmingly choosing to WFH … and those same scrotes are screaming to come back to the office. They can fuck right off with that false narrative of “if the dads only has a CHANCE…”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:08 AM
15

THIS IS THE WAY. (I say that as the mom who didn’t… 😐)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:58 AM
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Yeah, you weren’t wrong. It ended with (paraphrasing): — what if these (clearly) OCD moms just … stepped back, and let some of the many balls their juggling hit the floor? — And then maybe men would step up and do their share? — And hopefully an infant isn’t left alone in a car seat on a hot day while Darling Dad figures shit out? (Read that in the questioning Ron Burgundy voice, because—like that scene—I thought humor was the intended goal.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:55 AM
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But since Ross is a grown-ass man AND he elected style his hair like that … let’s keep the kids safe, sis. Throw him on that same list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:47 AM
9

No Gerard Butler? That dude’s low-hanging fruit for this kind of thing. Gerard Butler in “300” as Leonidas (2007)? 💋 Gerard Butler in “Greenland” as Someone’s Cheating Old Husband (2020)? 🤢 Seriously, dude now looks like he’s allergic to sunscreen. And salad. And a washcloth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:29 AM
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Man, this is another great observation. I didn’t understand this until you pointed it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:19 AM
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he doesn't last overly long I know I’m supposed to have compassion for my past self, but if I had only understood what this one little red flag meant just a few years ago, I could’ve followed that one clue to the fucking giant leaf pile of red flags he was hiding. I’d still be flush with the tens of thousands of dollars I wasted on a divorce from a lizard person in disguise. Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:15 AM
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That’s a great point. I knew it was wrong, but I couldn’t figure out how I knew it….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:10 AM
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Literally came here to say this. It is a giveaway. Straight up. Every fucking time. Also, she didn’t mention his horrifying porn addiction. Either she hasn’t yet understood the extent of it, or she’s stuck in a “cool girl” mental blind spot. No NORMAL and HEALTHY man is “averse to sex” with his wife without the cheating, porn addiction, or a combo of the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:31 AM
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no body kits No woman, in the history of the known universe, has ever found a HVM driving a car with a body kit. That’s science, people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:38 AM
5

The only chance he has of continuing legacy is if the tissue he jacks off onto starts growing mushrooms Thank you for the belly-laugh, sis. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:54 AM
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Oof. I really felt this one. Have you ever gone to the sub-Reddit that addresses custody? 40% of the posts are questions from pickmes asking “on behalf of my poor boyfriend” about how to cut the mother out of the picture. (The rest of the breakdown: 50%: LVM scheming to snatch more custody from their “crazy” exes. 10%: moms trying to get some real help in protecting their kids from the damage LVM inflict on their own kids.) One prime example: one scrote who admitted ghosting his own kid for the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:45 AM
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Wish this comment was up top. Any guy “selling” his single dad status like he clearly did with OP is NOT, in fact, a single dad. He donated sperm to some woman who is 100% going it alone, and now he uses them as photo props while he spins a story about “how his girls are his world.” Yeah nah, bruh. If you’re a real single dad, you’re at home bone-tired and vigilant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:41 AM
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Yeah, that detail just kept jumping out at me, too. Like he’s one of those rapey adolescent dolphins you hear about. Willing or not, that thing’s coming out. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:34 AM
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“We’ll resolve this”?? He got a mouse in his pocket? Who TF is “we”? Not even man enough to just own it and apologize. What a coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:29 AM
6

Only 0.3% of women had only been subjected to one violent incident or less. As shitty as it sounds, I genuinely question this number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:06 AM
21

How’s George Takei rolled up in all this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:02 AM
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If he drives a pick-up truck ... and doesn’t have a job that GENUINELY requires a pick-up truck. Hand to God, only the scrotiest of scrotes drive trucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:28 AM
2

😆 Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:32 AM
2

Am I the only one who doesn’t know what a “bellend” is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:12 AM
2

Dang, you have a link? That’s totally me, and I make no apologies. 😅 I googled this and all I found was the SNL “Murder Shows” skit. (Which was still pretty accurate, if we’re being real.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:04 AM
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Watch out for "friends" that say a child needs a father/male role model. ​ What a child needs is POSITIVE and LOVING role models. Period, full stop. Acting like a child needs someone with the "right" plumbing is the most maddening bullshit I've ever heard. Do it on your own, sis. I promise you it will be MUCH easier than the alternative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:21 PM
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Ok, serious question, though: doesn’t it hurt them when it’s dry, too? Isn’t that where the “lotion and Kleenex” jokes came from? Who TF wants dry sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:03 PM
12

Come on, Brandon. Get your shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:18 AM
2

I literally almost peed myself — this belly-laugh caught me off guard. You got me, sis. You got me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:27 AM
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Hahaha this is awesome — thank you! I’m not familiar with her work, so for some reason I thought quote=lyric here. Trying to read this like a song almost broke my brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:43 AM
15

What’s the quote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:14 AM
3

I didn’t even know he’d died...TIL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:23 AM
9

Wow — that’s really fucked up. Like, what? Would Kobe do that for her? Who does that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:19 AM
16

I literally gasped at the casual mention of $40k in debt he accrued and she is paying off. AND he bought a gun without telling her. You know what sociopaths with ballooning debt and wives they hate really dig? Generous life insurance policies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:14 AM
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In a general online meeting, my woman boss (not immediate supervisor, but head of the organization) actually made a case for end of WFH by framing it as a chance to tap that “undefinable benefit” of face-to-face synergy with my colleagues. I work almost exclusively with men. I almost went blind, I rolled my eyes so hard. Which benefit? The one where I’m stuck in a neverending echo chamber of the white straight male opinion? That benefit? Yeah, miss me with that trash. WFH has been a godsend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:04 AM
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Sorry, but I read “in ut jail”, and thought it was weird to be calling out the Utah penal system like that. 😂 I also have this idea that jails in Utah are like jails in Eagleton (for my Parks and Rec ladies...) Definitely too good for this deviant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:09 AM
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I don’t know about that. I haven’t heard anything about Obama at all. Like, AT ALL. And given the level of vitriol aimed at him and his wife for decades, you’d expect to see negative stories everywhere. Fingers crossed ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:02 AM
5

Die mad. This was literally my face when I read that: 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:56 AM
19

I thought we were going to see where she was going with the Harvey Dent cosplay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:53 AM
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It could be to provide a legitimate “face” for society at large. Makes it easier for these lizard people to blend in and prey on others. Like, my ex was a successful 40 yo who’d never married and didn’t have any kids when I met him. Thought I’d won the lotto at first, buuut ... I still asked my friends why he wouldn’t already have had a family by now. (Those were my spidey senses tingling, I think.) Now, he’s divorced with a kid: a more “normal” story for someone his age and peer group. He was c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:52 AM
10

WTFuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck!?!? That’s pure insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:41 PM
14

“tiny diamonds” 😂😂😂 They do act like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:39 PM
9

I hear about girl power all the time but truthfully I’ve seen it so rarely in real life. Me, too. I feel this 100 percent. And about the “more hostile if I’m smaller” bit ... That’s a pickme tactic I’ve endured too (when I was smaller, I mean.) And I’m not excusing it all, but the blatant pickme-ness of it is at least a constant that makes sense to a degree. It has a logic—however flawed—that my brain can comprehend. But when I’m supposed to be “less of a threat” ... and the fat shaming is comin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:19 AM
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Men treat me like I’m invisible or they’re openly hostile to me. I’m not trying to be the wet towel here, but during those times you’re heavier ... you don’t catch women doing this exact same thing? I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life. (I’ve always been fit, but rarely svelte.) Hand to God, I genuinely didn’t notice the weight difference until I’d say hello to women in the hallway at work and get noticeably shunned. Repeatedly, by nearly every woman. And the few times I did make it to the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:31 AM
13

I can’t stop staring at Disick in this picture. How does a guy in his 30s have that kind of old man body? And is he sucking in his gut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:35 AM
7

😂💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:35 PM
64

This meme literally had me laughing like a crazy person in the dark. Fucking scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:29 AM
49

That explanation was so abhorrent, I almost reflexively downvoted you. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:13 AM
27

Oh FUUUUUUUUUUUCK NOOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:10 AM
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There was a British woman who dropped a truth bomb earlier about this (don’t remember her name — got the impression she was a layperson). Basically her idea: in the early days, when the process of reproduction wasn’t fully understood, women WERE the power holders, because they could create life. A very visible miracle. When men’s role in reproduction were understood, they snatched the reins and inflated their own importance. And that’s how we live in this shithole society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:31 AM
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It took me way too long to understand seggs=sex... 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:18 AM
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I 100 percent think that’s what drives this culture. I had women OB/GYNs, and they’d fully drunk the koolaid, too — the whole birth experience was needlessly traumatic. I know I tried to get a midwife here in the states, but it was all an uphill battle. Hearing what you described, it’s like reason #1976299 I’m looking at life overseas now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:15 AM
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I’m sorry for being dense, but I don’t get this line. Did he say that after the baby died or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:11 AM
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It’s because of the original subreddit it was posted in. Not going to name it, but it’s the one where’d they only ask the sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:13 PM
27

I know what you’re saying — and I actually agree with it in this case — but am I the only one who feels a certain way about “guilt by google search”? If my google search history was ever examined ... 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:44 PM
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“so I guess we’ll get through this together” 🤣💀💀💀 Queen just Chernobyl’d his sexual prowess — but damned if she didn’t stay gracious, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:19 AM
23

This reminds me of that story arc where Law and Order:SVU had the department captain use escorts “because he just liked the company”. But seriously — at least he didn’t fuck them. They really painted it like it was a sweet, sad, wholesome thing for a lonely bachelor to do, too. With just a twinge of regret. You know — with “it” being the debasing of human trafficking victims into unwilling prostitution. And the CAPTAIN of the SVU unit, who is practically SWIMMING in human trafficking cases FOR H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:42 PM
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Audacity for DAYS here. Dude went for the stepdaughter first? He was “Daddy” to this woman — until he wanted to get his dick wet somewhere else. Then he dropped her (along with her mom) so hard he couldn’t be arsed to come to the daughter’s wedding. But he’s wily enough to exploit that “Daddy” card when he needed it later. That’s to get to Mom, who he knows he can manipulate with a real eye-roller of a story. And the poor woman’s swallowed the whole tall tale, ready to “rescue” the same guy who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:33 PM
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Yeah, she’s really lapping up that narcissist’s narrative. Heartbreaking when you see that. Scrote is straight-up using her, and she’s going to take a running jump into that dumpster fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:14 PM
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Is ... is the Cryptkeeper in the dirty jean jacket actually touching the woman’s butt? These pics are nightmare fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:21 AM
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The stats are pretty damning. — The 8 year age difference. — Been together for at least 6 years. — The public marriage proposal. I know this has to seem callous as all get out, but it just doesn’t look good. Scrotes get cancer, too — and Rhali’s already getting a headstart in making her own needs smaller and smaller. (And I won’t lie: when most pics I find of the two of them together are her looking adoringly up at him, while he’s looking at the camera ... all I see are 🚩🚩🚩.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:17 AM
11

What does the frequent vacuuming help with? (Other than all-around stank, of course.) 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:44 AM
17

I was cleaning my house earlier today while catching up on the news. And while I’m dusting and vacuuming, I’m hearing the rundown about this attack on Asians in Atlanta. And they kept stressing “eight PEOPLE were killed” (my emphasis on the word choice). It was weird. I was kept wondering about the gender breakdown for a lot longer than I would’ve expected from a news broadcast. And when they let it drop that SEVEN of the EIGHT people killed were women, I literally stopped and said “What the FUC…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:02 AM
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After watching my brother cut off my mom — THE epitome of “such a sweet person” — after the divorce just because he didn’t want to risk losing access to Dad’s gravy train, the thought of the guy you just referenced was really, really good for my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:26 AM
13

This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:42 AM
9

Hahaha not even an oven-fresh McChicken...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:39 AM
77

that child comes with strings. A man. A man who can literally take that bright future away from you. Can confirm. Ex actually dragged out a divorce playing the “I want to be with my kid” act. Ended up costing tens of $1000s (money that I was setting aside for retirement.) Now that the divorce is over, his parenting time is virtually nonexistent. Just often enough — and unreliable enough — to make my life in lockdown even harder while I WFH. It’s career sabotage... and it’s MY career he’s sabotag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:38 AM
8

Please excuse the question if it’s too forward, but are you at risk for ovarian cancer? What made you consider get your Fallopian tubes removed? (I’ve NEVER heard of this before, and now my interest is definitely piqued.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:28 AM
6

I didn't know that ... but I KNEW that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:21 PM
36

So now you've got thinking that I knew only pickmes growing up, because damned if this wasn't my entire experience in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:16 PM
8

Numero dos, fingers crossed. And I mean ... it’s now my favorite reality tv show moment, too. Just for that reason. 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:24 PM
8

I heard tissues, too! So confusing. I was scrolling through here someone would throw me a bone. Though ... damn. “Where are my tissues?” at least LOOKS like he might be close to feeling authentic emotion. Change it to tennis shoes and ... blech. Even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:14 PM
19

Ah, the scrote narc mom... Not gonna lie, but never having to deal with that shit show again was a major motivator in the divorce. Similar story (with the same fucked conclusion): In the later part of my pregnancy, my feet swelled up. And I mean, they swelled up A LOT. Like, cabbage patch kid feet. (I know that’s a dated reference, but it’s worth the google.) I didn’t even know this was a thing beforehand. And for the uninitiated ... look down at your feet. Look at the skin on top of your delica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:04 PM
7

That’s some gross behavior. It’s a scarf. Bro is seriously trying to get you to see that he’s worth your time — it’s a first date — and he says you take yourself for a princess for pointing out what should have been an obvious gesture for him? FUCK. THAT. Dude’s too far below your level to even register.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:36 AM
1

Oof. Scurrying is never attractive. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:29 AM
24

“Enfeeblement” ... for romantic delusion. This one translation cuts like a scalpel to the core of the meaning. German, man. What a precise language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:02 AM
8

Hahaha I have NO doubt about that, sis! And did you notice that the only time he wasn’t squinting at the camera when was when he said, he’s “like, WAY BETTER” than you. At holding his own dick. He was taking about holding his own dick. Dude got stone cold when he was talking about how much better he is at having his dick in his hand than his GF. That is some smooth brain pride right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:58 PM
44

😳 Not to be alarmist, but she may also be picking up on some homicidal rage aimed at her. Someone “borderline abusive” to his own kids is perfectly comfortable ending his own wife’s life. She may literally be imaging a scenario where he takes her life and he either goes to jail or offs himself. You know your friend. Could you reach out and have her talk it out with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:00 PM
79

Small hands on a grown man gross me TF out. Also, it’s “argument”, bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:59 AM
7

in my scrotation 🤣🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:24 AM
6

😂😂😂 Those voice recordings were playing in my head as I read that post. Damn, I do love me some American Dad.... SO TOTALLY NOT MAKING LIGHT OF THE SITUATION! (Also, since Roger’s always trying to have sex with Steve, I actually think the whole skit sums up why we don’t give out our real phone number, actually.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:19 AM
11

This made my heart race .... 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:45 AM
8

He wasn't lying, either, he 100% believed he thought and felt all of that. This is why I think I am done, I think. In the moment, men can completely mean those vows. In the months and years leading up to the wedding, they can love you with their whole heart. From the beginning, they can step forward with you in life planning to start a tribe with you. And then they step outside, and a breeze catches them a certain way, and all that shit is out the window. It’s like dealing with an alien wearing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:27 AM
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Don’t hate me, but I feel like I need to be the Ghost of Christmas Future on this. My ex-husband did exactly this. ALL THIS. Handsome, dapper guy at the wedding. This big man choked up — with tears in his eyes! — as he read his beautiful, heartfelt handwritten vows at the ceremony. (I’ve since shredded anything remotely connected to that curse day, but I remember something about how becoming my husband “filled him with life and purpose”. Blah blah blah. REALLY convincing performance.) You could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:04 AM
54

YEESSSS. 💯to this. Admitting “we’re not close” just makes you the loneliest gazelle on the Serengeti. I’m in this boat now, and you literally can almost see the calculations going on behind their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:47 AM
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Guys who go to strip clubs = guys who cheat. 100 percent. 7 days a week. 365 days a year. Story time! ☕️ Right after my ex and I got married, I had to leave for a few months for work. And during one of our nightly phone calls apart, ex laughingly mentions that the guys at work found out he had never had a bachelor party. No strip club before we were married. And he asks for permission to go the strip club with these work friends to make up for the “lost” experience. I remember being weirded out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:22 AM
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😂😂 I AGREE! I just want to hang with anyone who’s internal monologue consists of: “Hmmm ... need to organize my shit. Better order my claw machine now.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:15 PM
22

“crap sperm” hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:53 AM
48

More controversial: in addition to not paying for furniture, don’t be tricked into paying the other bills, either: grocery, water, electric, etc. NO, my heart. If you’re paying the other monthly bills, then NO, he’s not helping you save money by letting you live “rent-free”. You’re helping him live a care-free life, while he’s throwing everything at building his equity. He’ll be building real wealth, no matter how the relationship ends. You, on the other hand, will have NOTHING to show for all y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:27 AM
21

Military
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:51 AM
5

got a coworker pregnant You can actually hear his incredulous indignation, too. Like she did all this because he forgot to pick up some milk on his way home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:29 PM
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Just picture the movie’s reception if it had been Jennifer Lawrence (working class) to wake up Chris Pratt (promising writer) and condemn him to that kind of fate. All because SHE WAS LONELY. There would’ve been rioting in the streets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:22 AM
62

Heels? I’d walk through a lego minefield for a breakfast like that... Also: your bag is B-E-A-yootiful. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:59 AM
33

Damn, watching “Girl in the Basement” just as I read this comment. It goes from Disney to depraved in less than 20 minutes. And it’s on Lifetime. 😳 My skin is crawling. Never heard of this case before. Now I do. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.oxygen.com/true-crime-buzz/josef-fritzl-case-reimagined-in-lifetimes-girl-in-the-basement%3famp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:37 AM
23

GODDAMN. What’s the strategy for something like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:29 AM
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Don’t throw hate at me, but I found it really reassuring to read “don’t use highway rest areas”. I’ve done a lot of cross-country road trips in my life. I love driving, and I love seeing new places. I’ve gone everywhere with my dog. But if I ever got tired and needed to rest, or my dog needed a potty break in the middle of nowhere .... good LORD, what a stressful experience. Those places literally look like the backdrop of a true crime show. I’d treat each bathroom like a Marine flushing out ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:40 AM
56

Wait, what’s wrong with waiting at night at railroad crossings? (Serious question.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:26 AM
13

How did he get your phone number? (Not accusatory, just trying to understand what you’re up against.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:23 PM
14

I seriously don’t understand how this post has a NSFW tag, but the post right below this, with a picture of a woman being choked on a dick, doesn’t. This is a really helpful post, OP — thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:42 AM
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It is absolute BS. Especially in those states where you are still “married”, all the way up until the day of the divorce. (Unlike the states where the date of separation marks the end date of all marital debt.) In those garbage states, it means you’re a financial hostage to this prick you’re trying to put in your rear view mirror, for as long as he wants to drag out the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:29 PM
17

If he’s got access to all your personal info (SS#, birthdate, etc), he could still have opened “joint” accounts you may not know about. Depending on your state, those debts would be shared if he opened them after your marriage. (Yes, even if you didn’t know anything about them.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:47 PM
11

I love that you got away from that energy vampire AND saved the bunny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:25 AM
5

Yeah, I agree: ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure here. Lock it up if you have to. I only know dogs, but I’ll tell you that too much weight on a pet is just negligence. It’s bad for their heart and joints, and it really tanks their quality of life. I can still remember how out of breath my old dog was, carrying all that extra weight on a regular walk around the block.... 💔 Got him back down to where he was, but it was rough seeing him struggle with a BS, easily-avoidable problem he’d n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:21 AM
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Unfortunately, I’ve learned that it’s true that how a man treats animals reveals how he’ll treat children. My LVM ex took care of my dog while I was gone for work on an extended assignment. Had me swooning over all the cute face-to-face photos he was taking with my dog — I couldn’t believe how he was doting on him! Until I got back. He’d been giving my dog A LOT of snacks to win his loyalty. My normally 45lb dog was nearly 60 lbs when I came back. (That’s a 33% rapid weight gain on a small old d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:07 AM
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HE BEAT HER WHILE THEY WERE HANGING OUT WITH OTHER FRIENDS. WTF. One dude there straight up denied knowing her, or knowing how she got hurt. They arrested him “after receiving evidence to the contrary”. How many were there and didn’t stop this? If women were a protected minority, this would be a hate crime. Instead, it’s just another Tuesday. She had just finished high school, too. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:06 AM
114

I normally avoid the “how to high-value” posts on FDS, after there was a stretch of them being used for BFs of 3 months or so doing some certifiably love-bomby shit. This one, though? Glad I saw this. It, too, thawed my equally ice-cold heart. He even painted it a pretty color for her... 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:53 AM
16

So ... are we doing math badly in order to prove something? The dude’s got an average dick. His GF prefers a pringles-sized dick. (Maybe due to her unconfirmed “porn addiction”, maybe she just naturally rolls this way. Who TF knows.) Now this dude’s got the sadz because his GF is making him feel inadequate with his average dick. Moral of the story? This guy got a taste of the same medicine that beautiful, totally normal, every-kind-of-body-dimension women everywhere get whenever they cross paths…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:46 AM
11

I don’t understand this comment. Am I missing something? 6 inches in girth is pretty average. Girth = circumference, right? I don’t think think he’s measuring diameter because ... then you’d be talking moose dick territory. (Not taking away from the double standard the OP is sharing with this post. Just genuinely confused by the comment.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:41 PM
21

Honestly, with some of the BS I’ve seen ... I think he’s also using this to triangulate some side piece with this drivel, too. That’s why he won’t focus on anything unique about his own wife after one year of marriage. Somewhere, he’s laid already the ground work with another woman. And this woman can see this message. Like, I’d totally leave the old ball and chain for you, but you need to be THIS level of slave for me to commit, sweetie. Call me jaded, but too many of these fucks have zero sham…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:10 AM
5

I want this so bad it hurts. 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:58 PM
17

Does this guy have stock in Winking Emojis? Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:38 AM
10

He was probably partaking in the increased “parenting time” he strong-armed from the girl’s mom in court, so he could pay less child support. Even better: he gets do to whatever TF he wants during that time, and the little girl better keep up if she knows what’s good for her. Somewhere, that girl’s mom is heartbroken, hoping she’s okay — and grateful you were there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:28 AM
21

Agree on the “blue eye” call-out. That is one Punnet squaring mofo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:05 AM
23

Damn, I can’t believe no one’s mentioned the Kelly Clarkson thing. That link chilled my blood. That woman is THE DEFINITION of “bootstraps”. And this parasite trapped her for life, with the court’s blessing. Just ... GODDAMN. The world’s not right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:18 AM
41

“look at me” I belly-laughed at this. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:50 AM
1

Good eye!! I couldn’t shake the feeling that I knew this one.... The old-school cover art on her books were all chef’s kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:25 AM
48

Can someone explain what the video is showing? So the sealant ... caused an explosion? In the back seat? And that somehow caused the trunk to dent inwards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:51 AM
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“And he farted in front of me.” Ooh, super triggery for me. My ex started doing this after we got married, laughing maniacally each time. We didn’t last long married for a laundry list of reasons, but that was scarring. (Who hides that until marriage? If you could hold it for years, you couldn’t learn to hold it as a habit?) Now he gets my toddler for a handful of days each month. And each time, I have to reteach my kid “farting etiquette”. Because my ex is such a POS scrote that he doesn’t care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:47 PM
13

She kicks the chair over and says, “you’re free to go wank now” as her eggplant Parmesan arrives to the table. This is one of the funniest things I’ve ever read. The whole scene killed me. 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:25 PM
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The “thanks for your time” in the shaky psychotic handwriting is really messing me up. And ... I got the impression the OP only took the bag to post it as a PSA? Like, look at the audacity of these assholes — but then the responders totally missed the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:52 AM
9

“tier 2 bags” Literally lol’d. Thanks for that one, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:45 AM
16

“because our 3½ year old son got out of the house and was found by the police wandering the neighborhood” My heart was in my throat at that part. HORRIFYING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:36 AM
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😂 “chipotle Scrooges” ... that is just chef’s kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:21 AM
75

Not even man enough to be the one to sleep on the couch. Never mind that he... — Doesn’t pay for rent. — Doesn’t pay for food. — Steals what’s not his. — Sets up his girlfriend to live the unique trauma of being robbed — at midnight, after a 12-hr shift. — Then reveals what he did while basically calling her a liar (because of course she would lie about her dad.) All that, and NOT EVEN MAN ENOUGH FOR TO TAKE THE FUCKING COUCH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:10 PM
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And it wasn’t even in her medical record? He “cooked the books” with her medical record? 😣 He did this abominable thing ... and then hampered future medical diagnoses, endangering her in the future? He didn’t even believe it was the right thing to do. If he did, it would’ve been documented. He would’ve gladly stood in front of a medical board proving his stance. HE DID IT, AND THEN HID WHAT HE DID. Please tell me this criminal is not still a licensed doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:07 PM
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Man, I was JUST wondering this same thing about the glut of drug commercials nowadays with dad bod “models”. Otezla, Dupixent, Skyrizi ... I can’t watch TV now with some young dad-bod clown feeling “brave” enough (thanks to these drugs, I guess?) to jump in a pool ... chase a (reliably) thin woman at the beach ... or slip on a water slide. Moobs and love handles, as far as the eye can see. Pure pudgy propaganda — for dudes, at least. That’s supposed to be my new normal? These disgusting young du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:36 AM
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And that’s his “good” picture? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:16 PM
16

💯 this. Actually now a red flag for me. Learned this one the hard way. On our first date, ex-husband tipped the same amount as the check total. Waiter was very young, we were in a poor country, and she started crying. Would’ve been a thoughtful gift, except... he kept saying “Did you see her reaction???” Literally said it 3 times that night, and brought it up later during the courtship, as well. It wasn’t from the heart. It was a calculated move, and he was hellbent on getting his money’s worth …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:28 AM
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Might be an unpopular opinion, but if he’s divorced with kids — and they’re with their mom — he’s an LVM. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. That’s a big waving flag that says: A) at some point, he’s shown another woman that he’ll always put his own needs over those of his own wife and kids. (If she was the one to file, go ahead and lace up your running shoes. 👟If she did while pregnant or with very small children, then drop some smoke bombs while you’re at it. 💨💨💨 No woman in that situation w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:44 PM
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Ooh, I was looking for this one, sister! If he sexualizes conversations and jokes between you, he’s bad news. If it’s not something he would do with a man, then he doesn’t see you as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:24 PM
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Honestly, I can’t believe these scrotes were raised in human families. Who in the ever-loving fuck hears a woman give her number TO SOMEONE ELSE, expends calories REPEATING THAT NUMBER TO HIMSELF until he can write it down, then calls that number to creep on a COMPLETE (and UNWILLING) STRANGER? They looked at that game plan and thought: Yep. Totally acceptable behavior. 🤯🤯🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:05 PM
15

Aaaaand at the very end of the video, we see the guy’s barely 5 feet tall. He couldn’t cope with that. His poor wife took the brunt of a whole lifetime of rage for that. The 911 operator got some of that rage splashed on her in those brief interactions, all those forced “ma’ams” be damned. (Everyone’s right here: he’d have been a different person with a man on the end of the line.) The wool’s been pulled off my eyes. You will never convince me that marriage EVER serve’s a woman’s interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:54 PM
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“We caught up her ex-husband” ... and the fucking Missing Link lumbers onto the screen. How does this scrote manage to look even more repugnant than before? Not one shred of remorse. That ugliness is TO THE BONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:51 AM
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Holy fuck. I thought this just happened to me. I’d take pics of my husband and infant baby together that looked like goddamn magazine shoots. Made that spoon-chested mouth-breathing sociopath look like Captain America. When I’d beg him to take pics of me and the baby, I’d always end up looking like something that had just crawled out from beneath a bridge. Wasn’t me, though. I’d try to “show” him how to take a good picture. 🙄 Just ended up with selfies with my little one (which were invariably b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:02 AM
31

“dick is kinda wack” 🤣🤣🤣☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:48 AM
18

GODDAMN, Queen. That’s so true it chills your blood once you let it sink in...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:34 PM
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“I don’t know anything about her so I am describing her with vague compliments to pretend I care about her as a person.” BULL’S-EYE! 🎯🎯🎯 I’m slapping myself for not catching that... 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:15 AM
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It’s even worse than that. If this guy is in his 40s, it’s likely his parents are retired. Living on a fixed income. And before he moved back in, his parents told him they didn’t want “that stuff” in their home. He brought it anyway. His parents helped him with a home after his divorce, tried to help him find his way out of his addiction AFTER HE IGNORED THEIR BOUNDARY—and he’s totally comfortable pushing them towards destitution in their post-work years. David Werking, scrote extraordinaire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:49 PM
19

That’s ... just so much bread. For two people? I love me a good roll, but damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:37 AM
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This should be taught in schools. One day, my heavily-pregnant self was waiting for my husband in the car outside his work because I needed to drive him somewhere over lunch. He was wrapping things up, he said. He’s practically skipping when he leaves the building. When he gets in the car, he lets out out a half-laugh and says, “what if ... we made this an open relationship? Just kidding!” Then he carried on like everything was normal. Nope. Not joking. He’d just met with his little side-dish ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:23 PM
6

Oh, no — they definitely got their consent. Lying there alone, unable to move and without an advocate ... after I realized there was no way I could get myself to another hospital and my child needed to be born, I had no choice. They got their consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:02 AM
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What he did to his wife was a form of violence. If he could do that to the person creating and caring for his own children ... he has no business being in charge of safeguarding your feminine health. You simply dropped someone unqualified for the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:34 AM
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I, too, will call bullshit on this “if I’ve never seen it’s because it never happens” garbage. My first birth was in a teaching hospital. I didn’t know what that would mean for me until it was too late. The entire pregnancy, as I interacted with my (female!) gyno, I had no idea that she intended to sit sidesaddle with a gyno-on-training-wheels during the surgery. (She started gunning for a c-section EARLY.) Didn’t find out until after they gave me the epidural. I begged her not to use me as trai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:25 AM
1

Honestly, I had just watched the Betty Broderick season of “Dirty John”, and it left me shook. I went a-googling Betty, and one of the top hits was a comment on this site. I forget what the post itself was, but I remember reading the post, reading the rest of the comments, and thinking: this is 👌🏼chef’s kiss👌🏼 Not a redditor. Signed up just for this tribe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:51 AM
9

“They’re smoothbrains” ... And just like that, I found my next insulting epithet. Thank you, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:44 AM
15

Get a hold of their phone. Google anything. If autofill comes back with any porn terms ... eureka. Gross, porny eureka.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:55 AM
22

If the man is not taken, no one wants him. A stone-cold fact. Nope, you didn’t find a hidden gem who “miraculously” stayed single all those years before you can along. You found a dirty turd, trying to pass itself off. Leave that turd be, sis. LEAVE IT BE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:51 AM
12

No downvote, but you HAVE to test drive that used car. It’s not a fool-proof test, you’re right — it’s all we’ve got, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:46 PM
31

Also beware of guys who claim they love to go down on you. My ex was like this and I’ve heard stories that they will go down on you once and then not bother after you’re sleeping with them regularly. ☝️☝️☝️ This. Right there. WATCH OUT FOR THIS TRAP. My ex seriously acted like going down on me was all he ever wanted to do. Really convincing stuff — I thought I had won the lotto. Kept the charade up for a good while, too. Then he started tapering off after the engagement. .... After we were marri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:44 PM
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Not the same, but on the same shelf.... Years ago, I got my first puppy. I was over the moon with this little girl. And as I was mulling over possible names, I worked out that “Una” (not really) was the best choice for my new love. When I told my BF about it, he shook his head sadly, like a farmer whose favorite heifer just died. “No, that’s my ex-girlfriend’s name. You don’t want to bring that name into this house, do you?” How considerate. Tenderoni that I was back then, I ended up finding ano…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:20 PM
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“What’s confusing you?” Low-effort AND playing coy about it, to boot. This makes me angry for this poor girl ... and sad I didn’t have FDS when this was done to me. Inexperienced Me could really have used some help navigating those LVM waters — and clearly this young sister does, too. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:09 AM
7

Oh, my heart 💗 ... What a Queen. She slayed him with this post, and he can’t point to a single syllable that isn’t true AND classy at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:47 PM
51

Apparently FDS is tracking my movements now.... I live someplace where haircuts are real hard to come by. (Thanks, COVID.) I finally get a chance to go to a hair salon, but for some reason, the two women stylists have nothing but male clients. (This is really unusual for this place because they’ve literally partnered with a barbershop right next door. Never seen this before.) I show the stylist what I’d like, quickly get settled, and we’re mutually quiet, with a smattering of small talk. It’s pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:35 AM
1

Ugh, I can literally hear his “wow” in my brain. At this point in my life, if a man ever says “wow” to me like that, he may as well put a bullet in his own brain because he is DEAD TO ME. You and your unsatisfying dick can kindly fuck off, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:27 AM
5

I am WITH you, sister! I am 100% digging masks. Yeah, yeah, they flatten the curve — but they also also provide a shocking amount of freedom. Mask? —> Check. Ratty clothes? —> Check. BASIC HUMAN DIGNITY wherever I go? —> Checkitty check check. Lipstick? Make-up? Say again? 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:17 AM
5

Oh, good Lord, the “womanly” decorations. I’m so glad you brought that up. Whenever I see a car with a “half my heart is in Afghanistan” sticker — or even one of those bejeweled license frames — I always shake my head. Not because I think they’re dumb — I actually enjoy personalized cars. (Unless it’s got a Trump sticker. Then I make it a special point to pull up and get a look at the racist/misogynist/moron du jour driving...) I just think: you’re making it EASY for the crazies out there. They’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:03 AM
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Honestly, it’s because of stone-cold, completely indisputable facts like these that child custody laws MUST be overhauled. A man contributes VIRTUALLY NOTHING to the creation of a child. Nothing. A woman, on the other hand, ENDANGERS HER VERY EXISTENCE by carrying a child to term and through birth. (Never mind the irrevocable changes childbirth does to a woman’s body even when it’s “uncomplicated”.) So why the fuck are mothers forced to share child rearing with sociopaths who were smart enough n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:38 AM
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Two YEARS...!? What the fuck did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:14 AM
8

It’s cheating. Don’t let them gaslight you. It’s CHEATING. My ex husband didn’t ask for a bachelor party when we got married. I thought it confirmed his “HVM” status. HahahahahaNO. He just waited until the marriage certificate was signed to reveal his ugly nature. When I left for a long work assignment months after the wedding, he called me to “ask permission” for a bachelor party, since he never got one before we got married. The guys at work were REALLY pushing for one, see ... 🙄 (Setting asid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:24 AM
8

He’s straight-up testing your limits. Breadcrumbing you to see what your absolute minimum is for sexual fulfillment. I had a “HVM” try this on me once in a relationship. I was ruthless back then, and ended it for another reason (read: I wanted someone else). When I ended it with the first “HVM”, he started crying and asking if it’s because he wouldn’t go down on me. He would go down! He would go down! If only I’d take him back. 🙄 THEY KNOW WHAT THEY’RE DOING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:19 AM
5

Not to ask the obvious question, but how do you search for recording devices?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:42 AM
11

Here to second the P.O. Box choice. If you already know the mailman is failing you, there’s zero need to keep hoping against hope. FDS his ass — get a box at the post office. Plus, the post office is another place you can receive packages (so if Creeper McStalksALot leaves a box at your door, you’ll know it’s not something legitimate.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:40 AM
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Whoo — GOOSEBUMPS! After living a life chock-full of NVM/LVM, it’s always a jolt to see or hear about such a normal human behavior exhibited by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:42 PM
2

This is powerful. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:00 PM
158

My vagina and I shared a hearty laugh at this. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:38 PM
86

He wouldn’t accept the down payment share she offered = he KNOWS he’s financially using and abusing her. He wasn’t interested in increasing both of their net worths through equity. Why would he enter into a contract with her? She’s still there making no demands AFTER 7 YEARS, so he saw no need to bring her up with him. She’s nothing but a cash cow for him. This man will cold-bloodedly exploit this woman for as long as she’ll let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:33 PM
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😂 That’s a good point! No — no, he did not. Now that I think about it, I’d even asked him to grow out some facial hair after we got married — just a few weeks’ worth — and he absolutely dismissed me. And when I say “dismissed”, I mean like he was waving off an annoying kid. And AGAIN, I dutifully put that under my “that’s a newlywed thing” file. As I’ve posted before, this guy was REALLY good at the HVM game for two years. (Just as a BF, this guy drove 1000s of miles just to pick up my dog and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:20 PM
12

That BRIDGE! 😂😂😂 Almost made me spit out my chai, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:10 PM
3

Woot! I needed this note from the future. 😊THANK YOU (and CONGRATULATIONS!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:04 PM
37

Ain’t that the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:22 AM
74

I was just thinking this! This should be relabeled “Wholesome Content”, because my heart swelled just looking at these handsome young guys with genuine smiles sharing great pictures! 💗 I’m literally happier having clicked on that link. Wow. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:21 AM
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THANK YOU! Yes, that’s a great description for how I felt — even though I couldn’t understand it at the time. I tried to convince myself that this is something all newlyweds go through. (Because again: how could I even recognize that I’d married the kind of psycho that tricks someone into a marriage after YEARS of courtship, when they’re not even their type?) That kind of casually malignant evil ... it fucks with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:11 AM
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This was a karate chop to the throat. When I first met my ex-husband, my hair was pixie short. It’d been that way for about a decade. The entire courtship (2 years) he never says anything significant about my hair. Not good, not bad — complete indifference. Would give a regular compliment me whenever I got a fresh haircut. Totally normal. AS SOON AS WE GET MARRIED, he starts leaning on me to grow it out long. Brings it up REGULARLY. It starts out with “jokey” little comments about “if you look t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:58 AM
8

1 in 50 .... 😳☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:54 AM
44

Holy SHIT. He had a pre-packaged lie about a WHOLE TESTING KIT ready to deploy! Imagine if he’d used some of that scrotastic go-getter attitude and — just spitballing here — actually worked to develop and make that kit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:52 PM
4

What a fucking shithead. That’s absolutely monstrous. You worked four years for that one moment — and he took a shit on it. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:00 AM
12

Hahaha not just backwards — we’re actually picking up speed as we’re driving in reverse... 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:06 PM
22

Ohhhhh, the fucking lactation space fight!!!!!! I’m a year removed from breastfeeding, and I can still remember fighting for a fucking dedicated space with the desperation of a fox with a leg caught in a bear trap. The best I got was a communal MALE space with no key, no privacy, and I’m pretty sure it was wired with cameras. But they “provided a lactation space”. And the kicker was that my boss was a woman. When pick-mes rule, HVWs lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:02 PM
5

“if you have time” 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:25 PM
27

Oof. Did NOT see the kid on the first pass. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:27 AM
36

And if the guy IN ANY WAY negs you for those precautions — if you even see a hint of smirk on his face — drop his ass like a lava hot rock and GTFO. Every time. Only LVMs/NVMs mock a woman’s reality. Real men know what women face, and have zero problem waiting until you feel comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:42 AM
5

I think it’s a red flag if it’s said within the first six months. One check would be to ask yourself: how does it make you feel DEEP DOWN when they say that? The two LVMs that have left the largest oil slicks in my sea both told me, “you’re the smartest woman I’ve ever dated.” And they both said it early, within the first 2-3 months. And each time, I’d accept the “compliment”, but it always felt ... off. I do think I’m very intelligent, so on the surface, everything seemed kosher. But peel back …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:04 AM
16

This whole thing is comedy GOLD! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:16 AM
3

“Either shape up or die from scurvy from a pizza pocket diet.” I am cackling in a dark room at this line. 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:31 AM
9

How about the guys who look hurt in the middle of the road only to jump you when you stop your car and get out? It could Mr. Rogers himself, on the side of the road with car trouble, with a zombie horde lurching down the road heading our way. If I see a dude alone with “car trouble”, I’M NOT STOPPING. Look in the mirror, scrotes. You’re the reason for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:12 PM
4

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:01 PM
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I’ve wondered what that looks like to the outside world — when a woman leaves the family home with her kids, I mean. To me, it’s self-evident that the man was so insufferably bad that the mother thought it was worth relinquishing her home to save herself and her kids. But my ex was a convincing con. He started a slash-and-burn campaign against me as soon as I left, mournfully telling the neighbors to call him if they caught me skulking around the house so that he could get me “the help I needed”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:56 PM
5

“grabbing all the orgasms I can” 😂😂😂 The Queen has arrived. Welcome home, sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:46 AM
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Right? I can think of at least one “Forensic Files” where a non-family member forged paperwork on someone — then that person had the obligatory “accident”. Thank this scrote for the heads-up, then GTFO of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:48 PM
9

LMFAO 😂 I’m in the US, and I’d never heard of Calor. Well worth that look-up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:34 PM
2

Haha I know, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:44 AM
13

I’d definitely be weirded out about a dude in a lab coat putting his hand inside me. But more than that ... I just don’t understand going to a doctor who’s never felt a single period cramp in their life. Or suffered the special hell of tender breasts. Or felt any of the effects of the monthly ebb and flow of hormones. Especially when all those things are related to why I’m seeing that doctor in the first place. Then, multiply all that by 1000 for any thing related to pregnancy and childbirth. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:35 PM
24

“and he just chuckled.” All my pick-me pain and trauma, years and years of it, captured in just four words. My heart hurts for this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:08 PM
3

This is awesome — thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:53 AM
2

I’m intrigued by the lasering! Never heard of the before? Could you compare it to a chemical peel? That’s the only one I’ve ever tried, and it went horribly: it left a very prominent “splotchy” scar on my face that took about a year to fade away. Does it make you peel? Does it change your complexion color?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:09 AM
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When you use the Pond’s cold cream cleanser at night, do you then wash it off? Or leave it on? If you leave it on ... HOW does it take the make-up off your face, then? My mom used that too, but she passed before I ever got interested in this sort of thing. Trying to figure it out on my own is ... challenging. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:58 AM
1

What do you use the LED wand for? (I saw a commercial for this earlier today, didn’t know what to think.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:50 AM
31

Ooh, that pregnancy reveal. He pulled his lip back and bared his teeth, but there was zero happiness in that smile. His words and tone, when he started saying what he thought normal human beings would say at that moment, made my skin crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:35 AM
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You’re my sister, and I love you. Hugs, internet stranger. That’s what I grew up in, too. I left a long time ago, and I’ve been No Contact for decades. Good thinking with the name change. I didn’t, and now a not-insignificant part of me still wonders if, when he gets a whiff of his own mortality (cancer diagnosis? failing liver?), he wouldn’t come looking for me to finish what was clearly in his heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:31 AM
19

I could not believe this statistic. Then I looked it up. I don’t want to live on this planet any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:23 AM
13

If you google the gf, some seriously effed up stuff comes up. Like, apparently the police had evidence that she’d been following Shanann’s life online ... THEN applied to work at Chris’ company? Again, the evil done, I put squarely at Chris’ feet. But I do think some of that evil, the gf tracked in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:10 PM
24

Him in those pics.... 😳 This beautiful woman was about to marry Howard the Duck. Bullet DODGED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:03 PM
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And can we just keep it basic? Yeah, he’s got twin girls he doesn’t father. 🚩 Yeah, he’s got an ex who’s both “crazy” and “difficult”. 🚩Yeah, he’s probably another Methusalah grooming yet another 24yo to be his bangmaid/babysitter/old-age caregiver. 🚩Yeah, he negs her whenever she’s got the audacity to bring it up. 🚩 Can we just see that he lied about a significantly impactful thing to this woman for TWO MOTHERLUVIN YEARS? Two years is a LOOONG time to lie by omission. Two years!! 730 DAYS!!!! T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:41 AM
20

Yeah, he’s got twins he’s hiding, but they’re from the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:28 AM
14

Damn. That was ... eye-opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:21 AM
20

I REMEMBER THAT. 😳 I remember that they really focused on the “great father and footballer” part — almost like he was pushed into it. He SET HIS KIDS ON FIRE AS THEY WERE SECURED TO BACKSEAT ... and he was pushed into doing it??? I remember the stomach churn I felt because the mother had been abused by this guy — but was still required to co-parent with him by the courts. I really need society to wake up to the fact that most men are not fit to be fathers. Really. This mandatory “two parent, equ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:39 AM
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It seemed to me that she built the house back east near her hometown. When she met Chris, they moved to Colorado to start her family (meaning, new house).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:31 AM
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She wasn’t even sorry! You own up to an honest mistake. That walking sense of entitlement? She kicked her own granddaughters out of the house along with Shanann for not going along with what “Nana” wanted. No small wonder her offspring was the same kind of garbage. No remorse—even as he spent the entire next workday just a few feet away from the entire family he had just annihilated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:59 AM
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I really think this guy was so emotionally defective, it really didn’t dawn on him that Shanann had family and close friends that would actually miss her and question her absence right away. That’s why I think he thought he was going to get away with it. This dude didn’t seem to have ANY friends, and his family was toxic AF. Both are big red 🚩🚩that’s been covered here on FDS before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:26 AM
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Just watched the documentary because of this post. Super triggery — my chest was tight the entire time. A few points: The true depth of Chris Watts’ evil got a bit whitewashed. No mention of how autopsies on the girls revealed OIL IN BELLA’S STOMACH. They don’t think she was dead when he jammed her in the oil tank — that they think he didn’t care to check, since he knew the oil would finish her off. That he had to scrape Bella’s arms and head to get her inside that tiny tank hatch. His own daugh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:20 AM
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Another cool thing I learned: I’d always wondered why, when my baby yawned, I’d instantly catch that yawn — but he almost NEVER caught my yawns. Come to find out that the brains of babies and toddlers need about five years of “learning” the level of empathy needed to reciprocate the behavior. Again: thanks to FDS ... 🤯! https://www.npr.org/sections/krulwich/2014/03/25/294222535/you-yawn-she-doesn-t-yawn-back-uh-oh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:06 PM
2

YES! These experiences were really isolating when they were happening, and it’s life-changing finding a place where you can catch your breath with sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:11 AM
2

Was I that woman? Because that’s an exact description of my ex’s mother. 🥴 Certified, and certifiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:25 AM
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“he doesn’t yawn when other people yawn” Totally unrelated, but I am straight up AMAZED at what FDS sisters teach me! Never heard of this. Just spent 20 minutes down the google rabbit hole. And now I know about yawns and psychopaths. 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:11 AM
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I really appreciate this because, as a new member, the dissonance was honestly getting a little confusing. I lurked before joining Reddit to get on this sub. When I finally joined, it was a bit crazy-making seeing the paragraph text responses, since it seemed so opposite to what I had learned just a few months ago. Made me question what I had picked up earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:53 AM
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Wow. I’m ... wow. 🤯 that’s crazy to learn. What your describing makes sense. I’ve only know vegan woman, and yes, their skin, hair and overall health seemed better. They just seemed to have their heads on a little straighter. I’ve never even considered a vegan dude, though. (I work with A LOT of knuckle-dragging cave dwellers, so my horizons are LIMITED, to say the least.) With what you’re describing, all that comes to mind is Orlando Bloom as the elvish guy in LOTR. Which ... let’s be honest, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:28 PM
5

Is this ... true? About vegan guys? 🤔 I feel like y’all are really burying the lead here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:02 AM
2

I was scrolling for this question. I think it was a (shitty) joke about a diamond ring. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:56 AM
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What the FUUUUUUCK... That’s how girls die — when authorities put a boy’s wants over a girl’s needs. Instead, how about using that positional authority to pull the abusive looney toon to the side and telling him, hey, if you stop being such a shithead, you don’t have to abuse them to keep them.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:58 AM
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Hahaha “separatist” .... never heard it put like that before, but WHERE DO I SIGN UP? And I’m with you on the tolerance for the intolerable risk. Maybe FDS will get far and wide enough to break that cycle (inshahallah).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:19 AM
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“The greatest phenomenon of mass rape in history.” I had never heard about the rape of Germany by the Allies. Including by Americans. 250,000 women and girls. Not raped: those are the ones who DIED from rape-related injuries. I am a grown woman. I grew up with all that crap about “The Greatest Generation”. And I have NEVER heard about the rape of Germany. How the FUCK is this not taught in schools AT ALL?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:51 PM
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I was waiting for someone to mention the gym pick-mes! In my experience, the gym pick-mes have been the source of the cruelest comments. (Both times were when I was trying to get back to healthy after childbirth, too.) Really derogatory stuff — and ALWAYS for a male audience. Someone explain to me again: why would you make fun of an overweight woman for working out? Should... should I be at Taco Bell, instead? That’s a level of stupid I can’t comprehend — but that’s where you’ll find the pick-me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:47 PM
2

The few times I’ve used a 24HR Fitness, I’ve always gotten a rapey feeling from the guys there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:39 PM
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I love this idea, but when I’ve seen it in practice, it’s been ... garbage. Think Plessy v. Ferguson. In the Middle East, I stayed in a hotel that had segregated gyms. I don’t remember how I was able to look inside the male gym, but it was outfitted with the most up-to-date, bougie equipment money could buy. Really nice. When I went to use the female gym, it was sparsely equipped with some dusty, rusty stuff from the 80s (no lie). In Illinois, I went to a super popular gym that had a “woman’s on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:38 PM
11

“pumpkin futures on December 1st” 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:27 AM
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Pre-FDS, when my husband was balls-deep cheating on me while I was home taking care of our newborn—but before I found out—I think I sensed this to be true, but could never define it out loud. Since his compensatory NVM tactic at that time was to devalue and demean me at every turn, I was suffering through massive amounts of emotional abuse, as well as some significant post-partum depression. One night, when I had stumbled on him texting his side dish (but still didn’t realize it), he flame-spray…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:46 AM
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That is stone-cold TRUTH right there. Seriously. Don’t self-sabotage on this one. DO NOT PROJECT YOUR OWN VIEWPOINT ON THEM IF THEY TALK ABOUT THEIR EXES. Sure, sure, he says she’s the one that got away ... but that was 10 years ago! No one holds on to a memory for that long. Lemme just share my awesomeness with him, and he’ll forget all about her.... No, sis. NO. In the face of that kind of awesomeness, yes, you would forget. Yes, I would forget. But these scrotes? You could be Mata Hari reinca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:24 AM
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Literally had to look up “actuary” to understand what was going on here. Found out, then realized it didn’t matter. This dude’s a real scrote’s scote. Fuck him sideways just for the parent shaming, salad fork commentary and absolute non-help during a sickness. FDS: making me a better person, one google search at a time. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:59 AM
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MOTHER OF GOD. I had never heard of this before. I clicked on the link and lasted 3 minutes before I had to reach for the brain bleach. Human garbage. Literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:30 AM
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Living in “red alert” everyday is exhausting. To-the-bone EXHAUSTING. That’s why I love this thought exercise. “If only....” When our women-only commune opens its doors ... I’m so there. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:03 PM
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“abortion is abhorrent” ... what? Do you understand that “abhorrent” means “causing repugnance”? Sorry, but in no universe would I feel repugnance for a 19yo girl being wise enough to know when bringing a baby into this world is a bad idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:18 PM
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Agreed. That was WAY too specific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:02 PM
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I’d open all the windows in my first-floor bedroom and peacefully fall asleep enjoying that wonderful ocean night breeze. Instead of my real nightly routine: lock up every window, door, and dryer vent at my place like a zombie apocalypse / CAT V hurricane / nuclear fallout cloud were heading right for me. Because if I didn’t do that every night, they’d say “she was kinda asking for it” when the inevitable thief / rapist / murderer invariably targeted the single woman with the audacity to FALL AS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:54 PM
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I’m a little lost. Is she holding up her phone and recording him, or is this a hidden camera? And if she’s holding up his phone and recording him ... he still acts like that? How could he possibly think he looks like a “gentleman” with video proof of his asshole behavior on display?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:15 AM
9

Like too close with his mom .... 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:51 PM
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Killing ... his toddlers ... drunk driving.... And he’s on OLD??? Why?? Giving it the ol’ college try again?? Unless this guy is living a hermit’s life on top of a god-forsaken mountain in abject self-imposed penance for what he did, there’s no way that scrote feels even remotely sorry for that crime. (Beyond regretting the consequences imposed on him by society, of course. ) But he DAMN SURE feels entitled to another turn, at another woman’s expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:45 PM
3

AMEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:45 AM
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No, never under a year. That should be hard and fast FDS rule. And (from personal experience), that should be a year of constant, regular, unbroken observation. I repeat: NO BREAKS. AT ALL. After a 1.5 year courtship, I thought I was marrying the HVM that broke the mold. Truly, one of God’s gifts! And my eyes were OPEN, ladies. (So I thought.) Only trouble? There was a 5-month military deployment in there. That’s not a big deal, right? I mean, the guy was in CONSTANT contact! Really — every sing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:17 AM
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That dog’s FACE...! The doggie equivalent of “Honey, you would not BELIEVE some of the shit I have seen.” I feel you, sis. ✊🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:03 AM
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Thank you for sharing that link. The comments on your post — unexpected. Left me shook. There was one comment with a now-deleted account that got inside my veins... 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:25 AM
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“Tired of vanilla in this city.” Negging the womanfolk of a whole city in the profile? I’m already exhausted by this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:03 AM
12

That HEAD...!! My condolences to his mother. I hope her recovery is going well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:53 AM
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I’ll be honest, I’d be hesitant taking them to a place I loved in the beginning. I’ve had guys I end things with instantly start haunting MY special places — sometimes even using them as places to take their newest sucker. Appropriating motherfuckers. And if they know my schedule, so much the worse. One dude went to MY gym during MY scheduled gym time — even using the treadmill when I do. Then he had the gall to say something along the lines of “Does this bother you? I’m doing it for ME, not for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:22 AM
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“the economy is in shambles”.... I died. 😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:40 AM
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That’s why I asked the question: I really can’t understand the friend not reaching out. If I put myself in that situation, I think I would always tell. Say my friend didn’t tell me about the abuse, but I still know about the pending divorce. If her ex is ARMED and INTOXICATED ... there’s no universe I still don’t send her a message. Even if it’s a gallows humor kind of message: “Is this guy part mogwai? Cuz he’s acting like a murderous little gremlin over here at the bar. My buddy had to get him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:17 PM
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When he bent over to demonstrate what cutting the lawn with scissors would like (for the knuckledraggers in the room), I both laughed and got a little lady boner. Don’t know this dude, but I love the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:26 AM
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😂 I was thinking the same thing. Only 2 hours a day on all that would equal a spa day...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:22 AM
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I LIVE for diving this rabbit hole now. NEVER GOING BACK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:20 AM
15

“Pls clap.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:09 AM
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Oof. This one got me right across the face. With our FIRSTBORN, ex left me for most of the delivery to water the lawn and take a nap. Gone HOURS. Then when he came back, he immediately negged me about taking the epidural, having NO IDEA how the contractions had gone south in a big way. The fucking NERVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:08 AM
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Reading about this case is just broke my heart because this woman’s friend could’ve actually helped her that night, and chose not to. The bartender (Glass) serving Meredith’s husband alcohol and watching him get more and more drunk, was Meredith’s friend. She was supposed to be at Meredith’s party that night. She knew about the pending divorce (about to be finalized in days). She saw he was armed. She was alarmed enough about the husband’s behavior at the bar to send texts like these... “Spencer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:44 AM
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My heart hurt reading this. I’m so sorry you crossed paths with this sociopath. Your post made me wonder.... When I first met my ex’s friends, we all hit it off famously. One of them even told my ex “she’s a keeper!” (something along those lines.) Then shortly after that meeting, when he was starting one of his Friday fights — where he’d pick a fight on a Friday afternoon so he could storm off in a huff and be out of comms the whole weekend without explanation 🙃 — he spit at me with venom, “you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:03 PM
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And this probably goes without saying, but if you’re checking text messages, you’re not just checking the ones with a woman’s name. You’re checking the “innocent” ones, too, like ones with a guy’s name or a job title with no name. Scrotes love to act like cheating is just like being part of the French Resistance. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:40 AM
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Related to this ... If you just started dating, and he lets you use his phone, pay attention to the AUTOFILL feature. Take it seriously, and do not hesitate to act on what you see. When I started with my now-ex, I took his phone one day in the car to google some restaurant we were talking about visiting. (He was driving, and I was sitting shotgun.) And the autofill on his Safari was ... indescribably gross. Truly skin-crawling stuff. It started with “smooth peach underage Asian girls” and got pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:43 AM
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Yes! That “just coffee” part got me, too! Like, don’t get too uppity and come at me expecting a chocolate croissant with that coffee....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:09 AM
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I’m so sorry....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:47 PM
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This topic deserves its own post, I think. My ex was a true spaghetti dick. Long and thin. The kind that you could handle like this: 👌🏼. (And I’m a really small woman, so ... yuck.) Anyway, our first time, I’m privately embarrassed when I realize that I could handle him with that index finger-touching-thumb move when he’s fully erect. Did he notice? I must’ve had a look on my face because I looked at him ... he looked at me ... and he starts telling me I must be the biggest I’ve ever been with. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:49 AM
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“I’ve been like a kid in a candy store” 😂😂😂 Good for you, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:28 AM
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Hahaha “a hoodie you wiped the kitchen floor with.....” Vivid. And super gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:20 AM
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carb assisted suicide ... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:21 PM
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Motherhood is awesome. It’s awesomer if you do it alone. Then you’d be THE DEFINITION of a no-drama mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:02 AM
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Holy shit! That's beyond red flag territory. You MIGHT know who this guy is ... after he has you within drugging / grabbing / molesting range? I know I'm not the only one, but if I'm meeting ANYONE off the interwebs, I always let someone close know who I'm with and where I'm going. You know. Because women have this crazy knack for going missing after meeting a stranger, then ending up chopped up into bits spread throughout a canyon somewhere. And this guy took away your ability to do even that o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:45 AM
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Did you google him using the secret voicemail name? Also, “ok murderer” made my heart happy. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:15 AM
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BLESS YOU, QUEEN! I WAS that hormonal woman with a 7 month old. And yes, what he did was so fucked up, I couldn’t take another day in the same house. And yes, you’ll now see this goblin on dating and hook-up sites with my gorgeous kid plastered on there with him. Once a quarter, he “rents” my kid for a weekend to update his my-kid-is-my-world pics. Gotta keep the bait in the trap fresh, right? 🥴 (On the other end of the time spectrum, his other scrotastic tactic is to use pics of himself WITH MY…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:24 AM
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I didn’t say deer — you did. If it makes it easier to understand the sentence to include the word “small” in front of the word “animal”, there you go. Obviously you could have inferred that on your own that from the context of the whole post instead of hijacking the sentiment, but...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:20 PM
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1000x YES. If this guy is this comfortable doing this to his own toddlers ... yes. This is Chris Watts on training wheels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:52 PM
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It is NIGHTTIME in this picture! They could’ve been abducted. Attacked by roving predators. They could’ve woken up confused and scared, tipping their car seats over and fallen off the porch, still strapped into those heavy seats. And what if Mom wasn’t home??? It wasn’t her week. She could’ve left, taken some time off from mom-duty. Been gone for days, even. LVM should not be allowed near children in any way. Even their own. ESPECIALLY their own. Children absolutely do not need both parents when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:45 AM
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Holy FUCK. That guy is UNHINGED. He took a car THAT HE DOESN’T EVEN USE????? That is some UNFIT PARENT bullshit. I don’t know if you have a lawyer, but I’d do everything to stress that to the judge. That directly and negatively impacts your ability to care for your babies. Please document ALL the ways this has upended your life. Problem: cannot visit friends without a car Effect: isolation is harmful to mental health OF THE CHILDREN Cost of work-around, if there is one (did you have to Uber? He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:31 AM
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The equivalent of a driver intentionally hitting an animal when they could easily swerve to miss it entirely instead. Sociopaths. Men who NEED to cut a woman down ARE sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:02 AM
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I like the quote, but I’m with you on Julia Roberts. LVW, all day, every day. Making some movies doesn’t excuse truly atrocious off-duty behavior. She’s the patron saint of pickmeishas and other asshole women everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:55 PM
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“covered in Cheeto dust” 😂 Gems. It’s gems like this one that make me so glad I found this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:32 PM
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Just read up on Clara Harris. Had never heard of this case. I swear, Dan Broderick and David Harris must have been in the running for the All-Time POS-Husband-Of-The-Year award. Seriously: what kind of man fucks their receptionist in the same hotel in which they married their WIFE/MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:17 PM
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What the everluvin’ FUCK. 🤯 That was a great catch! Totally slipped by me on the first read. I knew this guy was manipulating her into paying half his bills — but the 9 months-no-rent devilry? I don’t have the words. Someone call this poor woman an exorcist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:36 PM
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Yep, that was my take on it, too. Her: Vetting’s hard, and look! Even if you “vet”, you may end up divorced anyway! (I think she’s conflating “dating for 10 years” with “vetting”, fwiw.) I’d put hard money on her being one of those shitheads who refuses to wear a mask in a store in the middle of a raging pandemic, too. “We’re all going to get sick anyway! Stop living in fear! Do what makes you fucking happy!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:24 PM
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That was a tough read. That woman is straight drowning, while telling herself that there’s nothing wrong being thirsty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:16 PM
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Hahaha “petty af” is now part of a complete breakfast, as far as I’m concerned. Won’t start my day without it. And thank God you saw the play coming! You were caring for HIS kid and he STILL wanted to swindle you! It makes you wonder how there are things like the Geneva convention in the world, when the depths of these scrotes’ immorality is practically bottomless. And I shared that mortgage payment story for sisters to see two truths: Marriage does provide some protection from scrote predation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:21 PM
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FIFTY men let ONE man isolate NINE women. 50 against 1. Picture how many men that is! And not one could raise a hand to stop him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:31 AM
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Relatedly, here’s another thing to consider about marriage, home mortgage, and equity: CONTRIBUTIONS. Both your names may be on the title, but if only one party is paying down the mortgage, their payments will be deducted from the home’s equity IN THEIR FAVOR — and you’re left splitting a smaller pot. I married as a pick-me. This lesson, I learned the hard way. He tried to buy our marital home in his name only, while I was working out-of-state. He said that “of course” it’s still OUR HOME — we g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:40 AM
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PREACH! I got goosebumps with your examples because ON PAPER, that looks like some top-shelf HVM behavior! You feel like you’ve cleared the last hurdle and made it to Relationship Nirvana when you’ve got a man doing stuff like that for you. You feel like the universe is finally rewarding you for stoically continuing to love with your whole heart, holding nothing back. Nah, sis. Not even close. It’s literally only a matter of TIME before the LVMs get the shakes and start inching back to their tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:43 AM
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“with my drink cradled in my hands” All the LOL’s for that one. Don’t give one motherluvin’ INCH to these NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:08 AM
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Fuck. YES. I’m so proud of you!!! Strong boundaries, then ROBUST vetting, with all rose-colored glasses firmly locked away. That is STRENGTH, lioness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:57 AM
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I actually stopped clicking on the “How to High-Value”’posts because of this. Too many “examples” of HVM because they got a special present from a man they had recently started dating (meaning, just a few months ago.) That’s not HVM, that’s Lovebombing 101. It was jarring to see those kinds of posts, when all the others were pure revelations from the mountaintop. I washed up on the shores of FDS because the sociopaths I wrangled with were able to keep that mask nice and secure for YEARS — but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:51 AM
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He answered the phone without a shirt? Is that a thing now? Dude was expecting a phone call. Is it asking to much to REMAIN CLOTHED when you give him a timeframe for the call? I’d be skeeved out by a shirtless pick-up even if it was Dwayne Johnson. (Not as much, but still. 😏)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:11 PM
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Her FACE...! I feel you, sister. My face lights up like that whenever I win the MegaPenis Lotto, too. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:26 PM
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Sniper just got me right between the eyes with that truth bullet: “people who ask for a “break” just want a free pass to fuck around with no consequences.“ God, I wish I’d found FDS years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:35 AM
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Gross. This guy needs a map, a compass, and an expert Sherpa, because he clearly can’t find the shoulder press machine on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:24 AM
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“how to talk to him”? I’d never be able to stop wondering if that was dickbreath I was smelling. Never. NEH. 👏. VER. 👏 I got secondhand nausea just reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:13 AM
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I have a son, and I do worry that he will grow up to be a terrible human. And he’s a toddler. I can do my part. I’m a badass: smart, funny, confident. Master and commander of everything in my domain. I can love him and teach him and protect him with all the feminine strength in my veins. But I bred with a sociopath. I got bamboozled by a scrote who was just smart enough to talk like an HVM, walk like an HVM, and look like like an HVM, all the way up to the wedding. It was only after I got pregna…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:57 AM
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