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So the issue was that the phrase “not all men” was not apprended to every post expressing frustrations, in order to appease lurkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/23 11:47 PM
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Edit - since his comment got removed, I will write out what he said: You can’t use “openly discuss dating issues” to cover up hatred for men You have it backwards. It’s not uncommon for women to have had experiences dating men who don’t respect them. Discussing the experiences leads to generalizations about which types of men to avoid, which in turn makes male lurkers who have trouble finding dates get on defensive mode. If you don’t like that, then unsubscribe. Not that it matters anymore. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/23 12:04 PM
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I understood the sarcasm. Believe it or not, despite the notoriety on Reddit due to some loud voices, this was once a place women could openly discuss dating issues. I don't get why you're subscribed here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/23 03:32 AM
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I miss the days when there was an active, open discussion. Oh, well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/23 02:01 AM
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This thread reminds me of that episode of 90 Day Fiancé where that Thai girl was so disappointed when she learned that her old white fiancé had no money.
/r/seduction27/10/22 03:10 AM
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Sounds very time consuming. Since you have that type of time on your hands, you might as well try getting dates at irl events or something like that.
/r/seduction23/10/22 10:56 PM
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If you’re getting first dates then it’s not your looks. In online dating, a lot of people complain that what someone looks like in their profile pics doesn’t accurately represent what they look like once they meet in person.
/r/seduction23/10/22 08:45 PM
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Are you sure it's a "growth"? This doesn't seem like a new trend. It's something that's been heavily embedded into our society's everyday lexicon for generations. It's language that is prominent in old movies and music. Language shapes our thoughts, so many young women--myself included--have had trouble conceptualizing approximately when they stop being a "girl" and can expect to be treated like an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 02:08 AM
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Anything that is posted, MUST be accompanied by a quality text submission. And this applies to all screenshots except for memes and humor posts, not just male depravity. Low effort posts are NOT allowed. To clarify, this means it should be in the title, not just as a comment? Videos and TikTok clips, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:13 PM
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Savings account actually charge so little interest they lose money yearly because of inflation. Lol. I wish I even know about high yield savings accounts years ago when the interest rate was decent. I was taught by my parents to just keep all my money in my checking account because “it’s liquid”. I didn’t learn anything about finance until after the stock market fell due to the start of the pandemic and that’s all anyone would talk about. I was so nervous to move any of my money out of it. I rem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 05:04 PM
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They exist because they draw an audience, meaning a lot of $ponsors. I personally find them boring, but there is a large portion of the population that likes rating women. The US isn’t the only country that has beauty pageants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 01:07 PM
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I could relate to the anxiety/depression he had to deal with, which I think is the root of his problems. However, most people in his situation would be homeless, but he is living off inheritance. Assuming the story is real, he foolishly buys a tailored suit and a resume writer. He should have instead invested in a good psychologist and career councelor. Many states have a vocational rehab counseling center.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:53 PM
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"women should be mothers and not in the work force" Oh, cool, working sucks. Now give mothers sufficient welfare checks when the men who impregnated them take off before the babies are even born. Pay for their hospital bill, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:17 PM
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This is why I bought a money belt and own skirts with pockets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:58 AM
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EDIT : I have three (so far) "concerned redditors" reach out to me about my mental health" apart from the dozens of hate comments that are thankfully getting filtered! 🤣 Keep getting mad scrotes!! There are subreddits dedicated to making fun of FDS posts. There are men who hate it here so much that they spend all their free time lurking. These lurkers are pretending to feel like they're better than us, but really they are insecure about their own dating life (or lack thereof), hence the obsessio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 10:56 PM
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> 2) no Very international one. If he doesn't speak English, he should at least know what this one means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:52 PM
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Some of these men may know this and actually fetishize dominant women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:51 AM
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A top comment from the obsessive FDS hate-sub that cross-links every other post: I feel like these people don't understand the concept of supply and demand. They always talk about how valuable they are, yet complain that they are unable to find a man. Maybe if you can't find a man, you aren't so valuable 🤔 OP is not complaining about the man dipping after no sex for 2 months. She is happy he vetted himself out. If he really liked her and wanted more than sex, he would have stayed. even if it doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:52 PM
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We wish this weren’t true, but in India, rape and murder attacks are commonly filmed and posted online or sold on USB sticks at local markets for cheap. I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:10 AM
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A lot of those porn stars get into it thinking they signed up for modeling gigs and then gets trapped. A lot of those women, especially the “barely legal” ones are victims of trafficking, and don’t get paid to the same extent as their traffickers. The Netflix documentary “Hot Girls Wanted” gives you a little bit of insight, but it’s only the tip of the iceberg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:30 AM
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Men cannot handle what we have to say about their behavior and I can’t speak freely knowing there’s a chance some annoying and aggressive dude invades my space to mansplain women’s issues to me. As we know, FSD is notorious throughout Reddit for apparently being an “echo chamber” of radical women with ridiculously high standards who dehumize men. Umm...No. Our minimum standard is respect, but it’s shocking to hear we have standards at all because it’s a taboo subject for women to even mention. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:22 PM
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texted me a picture of a mutilated animal and asked how long I thought it took it to die from its wounds. Of all the time I spent on this sub, I’m finally convinced to never give out my number and stay communicating on the app. If this were done through the app, you could easily report him for gore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:52 AM
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You both have good points. On one hand, it will scare off the many men who who would only want a coffee and walk date, or tell you which men will test your boundaries/can’t read. On the other hand, you may waste your time with men who would actually be low effort, but will try to trap you on the first date. I think that’s what she’s saying. It’s best if our dates can be their honest selves so we can vet red flags before we’re in too deep—as we have seen time and time again, sometimes women leavi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:32 AM
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The waitstaff must have been amused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:18 AM
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Maybe I’m overthinking it, but I don’t know how I’d feel about someone asking me out while shopping for groceries. Seems creepy that anyone would try to pick up women at the grocery store. The concept of being asked out at the library reminds me of Stalker Joe from “You”. Guys that go to spin classes to pick up women? Hmm... I remember a guy, who seemed really out of place, trying to catch my eye in a yoga class. It made me uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:15 AM
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He sounds like a very impressionable 13-year-old boy who spends too much time on YouTube.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:42 AM
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The US doesn't even require employers to give full-time worker any paid vacation time. I don't see paid parental leave to happen in my lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:58 AM
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Women only in the last century got, like, rights I often forget this. It may take a few more generations to fully shed away old ways of thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:07 PM
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I stopped because the last date groped me and that made me extra picky and cautious to the point where I realized it was a poor use of my very limited free time. You are reminding me of all the times when my thumb got so sore after swiping through a lot of low hanging fruit. Last time I went through swiping missions was when I tried Facebook Dating. Based on past dates, I knew to be extra mindful on any signs that the potential date wouldn’t work out. I was super picky, but wasn’t patient enough…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:26 AM
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If they want to fuck someone that doesn't resemble an actual adult, they can go fuck themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:32 PM
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I don't mean to argue, women certainly can give birth to a healthy baby in their early 40's. However, women's fertility can vary so much. We are all very different. This page lists some very informative updated statistics on fertility throughout the lifecycle. I urge women who are even considering having children in the future to educate themselves about these statistics and talk to their gynecologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 05:07 PM
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TBH, many women definitely struggle with pregnancy around the age of 37. Let’s not pretend otherwise. I will admit that thoughts of “will I miss my chance of having my own children if I don’t get married within the next 5 or so years?” have crossed my mind since surpassing my mid-20’s. As women with maternal instincts, pressure from culture, plus fears of being alone when we are old, I sympathize with women who have such anxiety. I know freezing eggs is expensive, adoption isn’t an easy process,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:31 AM
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The bit about "me and my three eggs" sounded like a joke that someone influenced by theredpill or MGTOW would say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:49 AM
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The woman is also a celebrity, though much less famous than the main guy. He also gets his ego boost by showing off his pretty celebrity trophy girlfriend, who he clearly doesn't actually respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:36 PM
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I guess bad publicity works. I've been out-of-the loop about pop culture and haven't heard of these people until I saw the Dabady's nonsensical bowling alley fight on Reddit last week. After reading the backstory of the fight, I was trying to figure out who these people are. What kind of man would evict his newborn baby? I found this video and noted the glaring red flag talked about in this sub--financially well-off men not wanting to spare a dime for their girlfriends. If Danileigh weren't so d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:12 PM
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One of my ex’s tried to have sex with me as soon as I started having a mental breakdown about something. He later admitted that a redpill tip he heard: that women are apparently either more submissive or hornier when crying. edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:05 PM
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Is Craigslists report button useless? These posts should be taken down immediately, and the account and IP address of the poster should be banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:53 AM
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Everyone is saying this, but it assumes these men are putting much thought into what they’re saying. Yes, it could very well be a manipulation tactic, but it could also be a lack of social skills. In either case, run the other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:13 AM
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A woman can't stand up for herself or other women without being called crazy. This is not new. FDS is about women learning to stand up for herself and prioritize her own needs for a change. Crazy idea, I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:20 AM
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In the beginning he even tried to phrase devaluing other women as a compliment: "I love that you dress so elegant and refined instead of wearing crop tops and short skirts (like those other girls)" One guy (not Muslim) said to me "I'm into the natural look. I like that you are natural and don't wear makeup." After hearing this I thought 'why tf would I put makeup on for a video call to see a guy I just met off a dating app??' For some reason, the comment made me a bit uncomfortable. You made me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:54 AM
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I stopped going there because of the migraine-inducing neuroticism from the redpillers and incels that post their infallible sexist opinions they try to present as facts, using redpill blogs as sources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:31 PM
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If you don’t want kids and you’re under 30, avoid dating childless men over 35 who purposely go for much younger women because they know women their own age will likely struggle with fertility by the time the relationship settles into marriage. It doesn’t matter what their occupation is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:23 PM
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Julia inspired me initially, but upon finishing the first season (I admit it was entertaining), I found that it left a bad taste in my mouth. It was clearly so fake and staged. This narrative of how she became so rich and powerful within a few years of running away from an oppressive community, suicidal and with little education, didn’t seem credible. This article explains how she exaggerated the “fundamentalism” of her background, and that her old billionaire husband owns the company she is the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:24 PM
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Men who are obsessed with that tend to jerk off to videos tagged “teen” or “barely legal” on porn sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 10:12 PM
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FWIW, a man that dates an older woman for money is called a gigolo. I never hear this term used anymore, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 02:33 PM
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This reminds me of a date I recently went on (the seatless Starbucks date I mentioned on another recent FDS post). I went to give him a polite hug goodbye after suggesting to see each other again (to give the possibly clueless man a second chance). Did he politely hug back like a normal person? NOPE! He used that as an opportunity to squeeze my torso while feeling me up and down, and then grabbed my butt with one of his grubby hands. “Nice ass” I say nothing back but give him a shocked look. He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:23 PM
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Maybe. The advice here isn’t much different from the advice my grandmother gave me. I knew about it, but i chose to ignore it. I’d tell myself “this guy is different,” just to end up disappointed. Or I knew it would end in disaster but I was hopeful and impulsive and wanted affection, companionship, and connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 10:00 PM
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I’m wondering if they’re too lazy to figure out if the place has seating, or if they purposely want to walk around outside. The last date I went on, it’s highly possible that his plan was to convince me to go to his apartment because otherwise we would have to walk around outside in the cold witth our coffees. I wonder if there is a different reason a man would prefer a walking date over sitting at a table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:07 PM
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My last date initially suggested we go for a walk. I told him that wasn’t a good idea with the cold weather. So he chose a Starbucks—with no seating. Only choice was to walk around and find somewhere to go indoors. He kept saying we should walk to his apartment... This is not the first time I had a date want to go to a seatless Starbucks and go for a walk. I don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:07 PM
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Oh I recently dated a man who was separated, except he still lived in the same apartment as his wife and lied to me about his marital status and who his roommate was. I always thought it was peculiar that he would go through great lengths to make sure I left before the roommates (she and her boyfriend) came home. drama I only know now that he was married because his now ex-wife installed a hidden camera in his office/makeshift-bedroom to get money from him in divorce court (not in the US). He’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:19 AM
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I used it once (I actually did have a bf at the time). His response: “Sorry I don’t have white skin!” and took off. It was very strange. His man stopped me in the middle of a somewhat crowded street as I was about to enter the subway station. He said “I know this is sudden, but do you want to go to a show with me?” I noticed he was almost twice my age and had awful teeth. I should have said “ [nothing] “ and kept onward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:33 AM
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Ruined a perfectly good name, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:43 PM
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I did tell him I relied on public transportation but he chose a pub a lengthy walk from the train station. He was rather...unfortunate looking, a little awkward, and I could tell he didn’t have luck with women. I told him I got no sleep ahead of time, so I had a good excuse to leave. He even said I could just bail right away to get sleep (don’t know if he knew I wasn’t interested in him). But I had too much pride to let him pay for me. I wanted to make the message clear I wasn’t interested and c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:49 PM
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The woman who interviewed me for my current job asked me no questions during my initial interview. I asked her several questions, which she was happy to answer, and would spend an hour of our time going off on tangents. I thought she wasn't interested in me. I asked for another interview, so I could get a chance to talk about my qualifications. She agreed. At the end of the second interview, I mentioned that she didn't ask me any questions during the first interview. She joked about how she just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:17 AM
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The interviewing advice I've been given is to never ask about salary or benefits until after a job offer. So when I'm looking for work, I have to pretend I'm not trying to support myself, otherwise it's trashy. But staffing agencies always ask for my salary requirements at the end of a phone screening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:05 AM
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“5’11 because apparently that matters.” Height is a salient part of your appearance that is not often known in photos. You use an app that requires you to swipe on people based on a few (carefully) selected photos, and yet you are dismissive of women wanting to know your height? Something about this screams red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:53 AM
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Exactly, like a child that begs his mom to buy new toy just to get bored with it after playing with it once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 07:18 PM
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Working from home is technically SAH, right? Growing up, my father worked remotely and my mother commuted to her office, but my mother took care of the far majority of the housework and childcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:25 AM
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Catfishing is real, but even if he looks descent on video call, you may still be disappointed by his appearance when you meet in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:06 PM
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They met a bit over a year and a half ago and are already thinking of getting married. This tells me she has been in the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship for a while, seeing him with rose-colored glasses. There’s no way there were no red flags earlier on. She glossed over them and fixated on marriage. Always keep your eyes open for red flags early on, regardless of your partner’s profession, his looks, or your chemistry with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:52 AM
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It would depend on the width of her hipbone. That's about my size and I have always been 4 or 6, depending on the brand. Size 12-16 is way too unrealistic on a woman of this height and weight, especially if she's never had children. Maybe he's hoping for a woman with a Brazilian butt lift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:12 AM
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Or childrens/teen sizes - a 12-16 ranges between 24" and 30" based on a few size charts I've found Considering he wants someone 12+ years younger, those are likely the size charts he looked up as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:01 AM
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I hate to be a buzzkill, but it’s not as cute or impressive as it seems. This clip has been viral for years and articles such as this one explain that this rodent, which naturally grooms itself often, is trying to get rid of the irritating soap that someone put on it for entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:26 PM
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He lives in an alternative-reality where people are expected to get reimbursed for their SO's Valentine's Day gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:59 PM
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Or the ones who use their kids or someone else’s kids as props in their OLD profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:34 PM
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being by yourself at an event or concert, family function makes you a target for creeps Last time I went a concert by myself, I was left alone...until after the show. It was almost 3am, I was trying to arrange an Uber home, and multiple creeps suddenly had an interest in flirting with me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:59 AM
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The best way to go about it would be to take your date on an organized hiking trip with a group and a guide. Never alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:55 AM
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I'm in the very tail end of my 20s. Nothing I have read here is anything new. I have read things that my grandmother warned me about when I was younger, but I chose to ignore it. I dismissed it as out-dated and closed-minded. It'd been nice to have a place like this at the time. Same core advice but adjusted for modern context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:40 PM
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As a tall women, have you experienced creepiness from me who prefer tall women for the same reason as the men who prefer “fun sized” women? “Amazon women” is its own porn category. It’s for men who fantasize about being overpowered by tall women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:29 AM
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Does he seriously expect a 20-year-old to not be youthful looking? 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:53 PM
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I noticed that the main theme among the princesses in the old Disney films is that they all dwell on their dreams, but don't/aren't able to take action on their own to successfully achieve those dreams. I grew up believing my life would change for the better as soon as I met the right person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:19 PM
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Ok, I have a second reply to this. :) I prefer Bumble for this reason. Bumble allows voice memos. I find it a good middle ground between wanting a phone call right away and wanting to text a bit more. I send a voice memo, he sends a voice memo back at his leisure, and we both get a more intimate idea of whether we’d jive before a call or meetup in person. It lowers the risk of feeling awkward/uncomfortable, if anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:30 AM
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compete with however many other women he's talking to for his attention I’m sure he’s aware how low the bar is on the guys’ end on these apps, but I’m confident that his matches have better matches than him. 😂 If he uses his dismissive tone early on to weed out the girls who won’t tolerate that, good for him, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:03 AM
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I prefer to talk on the phone, as well. However, I hate talking on the phone to a stranger if I get no indication other than a few photos and a very short bio that we’ll vibe. Personally, I prefer just a few texts that show mutual interest before I end up in a potentially awkward conversation from a guy who won’t even put his age on his profile. There were more tactful ways he could have gone about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:32 AM
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No one raises an eyebrow when a man says he prefers short girls or that he prefers tall girls, and men having a height preference is not rare. I hate those Tinder profiles where the guy lists his height like this: "5'11, because apparently that matters". Height is something that can be easily hidden on a dating profile if listing the height isn't required. If you list your own height on your profile because you know that will matter when meeting in person, why try to dismiss this preference whil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 09:49 PM
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If you were in love and sure about your future with him, you wouldn’t need to ask this question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:55 PM
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After looking through parental leave and abortion laws throughout the EU, I’m pretty sure it’s Estonia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:51 PM
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He probably usually just demands a 5 minute quickie to get his load off. She complies so she can sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 11:48 PM
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Based on the full "Law & Crime" article linked within your link, it sounds like she made no effort to report to murder until she confessed to her mother who called the police. She and her husband thought they could get away with the murder by secretly burying the boy in a remote location. However, based on the husband's psychopathic facial expression, I wouldn't be surprised if she were afraid of what he could have done to her had she intervened. One of the toxic comments says "Sadly, this is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:34 AM
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Makes sense since they can't comment here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:40 AM
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Well those are generic things people will say to you when you seem like a lost cause, and they don't want to make you feel bad. Try to notice patterns you haven't noticed before.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:39 AM
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If you listen to multiple pieces of "how to attract me" advice from different women, especially women of different demographics, you can pay attention to which parts of the advice are common and which are more unique. You may find some value in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:35 AM
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Yikes. Incredible how a person can suddenly change once they think they have you wrapped around their finger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:21 AM
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Good call for not agreeing to marriage. I wasted a lot of time with my ex's because "I was just exploring" and "living in the moment". I was not thinking rationally about my future, and I knew from the start we would not have a successful future together. When my last relationship went on longer than I initially expected, I was too emotionally attached to abruptly end it, and wished I would have stopped going out with him before we became a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:09 AM
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I know nothing about your relationship, of course, but it’s possible you wouldn’t have been together in the first place if marriage was a priority early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:35 PM
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It sounds like a high-tech dystopia you’d see in an episode of “Black Mirror”. It makes me not want to leave the house without sunglasses and a surgical mask. If Covid isn’t a strong enough reason for some people to want to wear a mask, this should be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:20 PM
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He literally stated that he likes paying for sex because it means using his money to control women. For a wealthy man, this poses no financial burden. It’s an easy power play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:18 AM
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They are not used to not getting what they want. It gives them a strong sense of entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:11 AM
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The usual safety PSA don't share anything revealing, like where you went to school. People in my city only used one app when I was on OLD. This exactly. I'll add: Don't list your employer Don't list your exact job title if you're in a specialized field Don't use photos that are on your social media profiles. They can reverse image search them and find you. Heck, with facial recognition software, even unique photos aren't safe anymore. Don't specify your location more than the general (metropolit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:10 PM
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I personally am more open to OLD than the consensus here. I'll say to just think of the type of person you'd want to attract. Use your intuition regarding whether a bikini pic will reap the results you want. If it's a distant bikini pic of you in a cool location, maybe doing a water sport, that's different that a "look how sexy I am sitting by the pool" pic. If you insist on using it, I suggest making it one of the last pictures and the other photos should balance it out. Make it clear that you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:58 PM
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Along at least one abortion and/or a single motherhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:47 PM
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I’d like to think he’s using that term ironically and the post is a joke. It’s gotta be, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:43 PM
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What I’ve heard in this situation, as well as the time Syrians were fleeing ISIS, is that the men have education and can more easily find work so they can send money back to their family. Ideally, the wife and children will eventually have the money to also flee the country. Unfortunately, these men may no longer have a family to send money to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:09 PM
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I know, my hair grows very fast. It’s just that I cannot get that image out of my head of that man who had the audacity to fricking spit on me, all because he was turned off by the hair and was clueless about how to work with it. He also gave me the “I have a headache” excuse after he finished. I was naïve enough to get into the situation too soon and felt cheap afterwards. I just feel I need some time to get over that before feeling comfortable with my pubic hairs again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:03 PM
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I also have sensitive skin and I would never have a waxxing procedure on the pubic area. That’s like ripping hair out of a kitten! Expensive, too. [They would] shame me into removing my body hair. I’ve just realized I have been essentially bullied into shaving everything. Here’s my timeline: Around age 9, girls at my summer camp pointed out how gross my legs were when I came out of the lake. The hairs on my calves appeared darker and more pronounced when wet. Age 13 at sleepaway camp, a girl not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:45 AM
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Girls who are forced into marriage before they even go through puberty may not even realize what normal body autonomy is, sadly. Hundreds of years back, child brides were the norm in the West. We are lucky to not have been born during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:58 AM
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In other words, she is saying he lacked what she considers good hygiene, and she prefers to have a partner with hygiene and self-care to her standards. It sounds to me like she realized the little things that bothered her about him added up to something she personally couldn't tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:34 PM
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Not to mention it’s hosting of MGTOW - home to actual terrorists! Oh that must really be helping Reddit’s image to shareholders! Home grown terrorists! Wouldn’t be the first time either... MGTOW was banned 2 days ago. The people claiming it’s unfair MGTOW was banned but not FDS have to realize that regardless of how they feel about either community, MGTOW was linked to online and offline violence and harassment, while FDS was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:48 PM
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They typically give you their last name before the date? I wouldn’t give them mine. If you have the full name, bear in mind that other people probably share his name, assuming he was honest with the name he gave you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:17 AM
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I know you’re not saying otherwise, but I want to remind y’all that even good looking men who are financially stable and have good social skills have the potential to abuse women. Be cautious regardless of how handsome and charming he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:56 AM
6

DMing FDS members to bitch or insult Wow, I never heard of this. Should thos happen to you, report tjem to the mods so they get banned from accessing the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:42 AM
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The part people like is not know which profile will show up next and getting a match. It is designed to be addictive, like a slot machine at a casino or an Instagram feed. I do like that Tinder now has a video chatting feature and Bumble a voice chat feature, which saves some time, but overall the apps are usually unfruitful. I’d say it’s fine in a moderation and not something to rely on for dating. I thought I was successful twice. The first was my boyfriend for a few months, but after we broke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:52 PM
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Sometimes this is described as being "bitchy" or even "c%nty". It's something only 50% of the population has to deal with for the most part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:21 PM
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If you don’t like a woman’s behavior then don’t date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 11:36 PM
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Ghosting also kills attraction. You gotta find the right balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 11:32 PM
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And then break off with her when she’s 31?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:33 PM
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No, you’re not comprehending. A man having reoccurring sex with a woman he’s not interested in dating is essentially a type of relationship with some feelings involved, even if unrequited, and many men don’t want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:26 PM
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This must be the case. Personally, only the gym situation seemed typical to me from the text post because I feel self-conscious of men looking at my body while I work out. I cannot imagine making a conscious effort to ensure my back is toward a man at a fast food restaurant unless something about that man in particular made me feel uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:58 AM
197

Politeness is a temporary condition, not a personality trait. I’ve seen the biggest assholes act polite when necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:51 AM
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A “party pal” of Chris Brown who won’t be seen publicly without a skii mask...yep, typical 25-year-old, nothing to comment here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:12 AM
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Apparently some are afraid to swallow the hairs when in reality they don’t know how to give oral properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:59 AM
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It’s very difficult to find porn that has an audience of straight women in mind. Otherwise the men involved in the videos would at least be more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:55 AM
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I did it out of respect for the nice Italian cafe I picked out, not the clueless boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:44 PM
42

He needs to understand that the home is not a boxing gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:26 AM
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Reminds me of an OLD I had once. I told him in advance the cafe we were going to was cash only. Lo and behold, he came with no cash and even forgot his debit card—despite ordering 2 expensive cocktails. I had only enough cash for myself. Being the kind person that I am, I ran to the atm for sufficient cash. He venmo’d me what he owed, but the damage already was done. Not to mention he was an hour late and a boring conversationalist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:39 PM
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The least they could do is name two or three options, which would actually be smart because it would take into account for not knowing their dates’ preferences. But, no, they resort to just meeting up at a park to “watch the sunset” or “a stroll” and figuring it out from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:19 PM
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The translation I’m understanding is: “I’m way past my prime but I want kids with a teenage wife.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:18 PM
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At least he wants to video chat, I’ll give him that. Usually I hear men complain about women wanting to video chat first. It really does save a lot of time. However, I think it’s tacky to state it explicitly in a dating profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:04 AM
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Growing up, whenever something broke or had to be assembled, I was told by my father “I’ll deal it”, or by my mother “go ask daddy, he will do it.” I cringe thinking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:54 PM
1

Many people appear shorter than they actually because they hunch over a lot, perhaps from being on the computer too much. There are ways to improve your posture and exercises to expand your spine, making you appear a little taller. It’s not much, but at least it’s something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 07:36 PM
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not religious at all Societal expectations are probably very different where she is from, regardless of her own religious views. Even though you probably come from a more promiscuous country, look up “average number of partners per gender” for your country. The samples of 1000+ people surveyed in such studies will be more accurate than personal anecdotes. after uni...women I know use dating apps far more Going out on Tinder dates doesn’t mean casual sex each time. Usually the chemistry isn’t the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:34 PM
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I know almost nothing about Bangladesh, so take this with a grain if salt, but I know it’s a Muslim country and I’m going to assume a conservative culture. Maybe your housemate saw hookup culture as a novel thrill. Most women I know regularly engaged in casual sex Since you’re in uni, it sounds like these women are young and are kind of exploring. It’s thrilling. It makes them feel loved, validating, and popular. Are they getting sexual pleasure comparable to that of a man who always organisms? …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:09 PM
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My ex still has feelings for me. We hung out a few times since the breakup, and he has made that clear. I do care about him as a person, but he has yet to get his lazy, self-absorbed, overly-complacent, emotionally-immature act together. Dating him was actually like dating two people: him and his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:52 PM
9

Being nice is not the same as being kind. I value honesty. If you are so eager to please that you have to lie behind your fake smile all the time, I am not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 07:41 PM
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There is also the very harsh truth of the fact that you cannot really know a person through text messages, phone calls, and/or video calls. You can’t tell if he’s lying about his height all that time either 😆. you've likely never seen your partner's way of interacting with other people. I was in a LDR once where we just talked nonstop after meeting and a few weeks later he flew to me to see if a relationship would work. Oh my, was I shocked by how he dealt with customer service staff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:50 PM
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If they don't have a photo where I can see their EYES, TEETH, HAIRLINE, it's a no from me. This exactly. And if he’s currently bald, the first photo on his profile should contain his visibly bald head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:14 PM
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I think the way it sounds like it’s mentioned in the profile means that they keep halal at home but will eat a non-halal steak at a restaurant. A bit like people who identify as vegetarian but will eat beef hotdogs at their friend’s BBQ party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:08 PM
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I’m sure that was your experience...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:03 AM
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Adopted children can and do receive unconditional love from their adoptive parents, which is not what they’d get at an orphanage or a foster home.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:47 AM
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Growing up, my grandparents were available to help with childcare, but nowadays, even older middle-aged women are overworked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:16 AM
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Article says nothing about them waiting until late to try to become fathers. Dads were more likely than moms in the poll to say they saw positive effects from fatherhood on their love life and career Well, obviously. They do less domestic labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:08 AM
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If he’s decent-looking AND rich and wants a gold-digger, then he can get away with it. The majority of young women don’t find men significantly older than them attractive. Non-kin adoption is a human rights violation You’re kidding me...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:22 AM
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It’s not all on the women for their decision to have kids, it’s also on their spouses, if they have one. It’s not so easy to raise kids on predominantly one income anymore, and less men are settling down in their 20’s. Despite the vocal people on Reddit, the desire to have kids “some day” among the general population is still there. With shifts in cultural expectations and cost of living, it gets delayed. Many people still realize they want a family as they approach the 2nd half of their life, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:07 AM
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I’d be more open to no-strings-attached sex if the sex from that was actually remotely pleasurable from my end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:50 AM
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The think it doesn’t make a difference if they mention their height with shoes on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:12 AM
13

I have to somewhat disagree considering I have been speaking to a life coach after years of licensed mental health professionals. However, my coach was initially volunteering before I started paying her, and she charges me what I can afford. The program that matched me with her screened her out to ensure a good fit. Yea, life coaching is not regulated and I’m sure many are scammers. I lucked out. I realized I did not actually need a treatment for a mental health diagnosis. I just needed to talk …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:36 AM
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Yea 4 years older has always been my cutoff, even at 29. I actually would prefer 2 years older to be the cut-off but I try to be lenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:29 AM
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They calculate age based off people they know around that age. I work with children and they guessed my age was 34 and then guessed 24. Huge difference but they don’t have enough data to determine what a typical 24 year old vs 34 year old looks like. The people that physically age quickly tend to: be heavy smokers, be heavy drinkers, have poor diet/exercise, don’t take care of their skin, lack sufficient sleep, and/or be over-stressed. Yes, genetics play a part, but if someone’s most frequent en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:13 PM
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Same thing happened to me recently. I’m your age. The man asked my age and was shocked that I wasn’t much younger, like 23. I said something like “well, I don’t think 29 is old”. He asked me out but I declined. He was 44 and was trying to pick up a woman at the beach who he thought was half his age. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:00 PM
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And then their efforts come to a halt as soon as they orgasm, usually ending the sex entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:58 PM
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I didn’t say it was a problem. It was an example of a guy who was honest. But some guys would not be open about that and mislead a woman for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:48 AM
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When I told a guy on Bumble I’d be relocating after a few months, he said he wants a long term relationship but wouldn’t want something like his gf relocating to ruin it. He stated that the only alternative would be a friend with benefits... I’m sure the concept of “to see where you stand as a woman” often has to do with the possibility of having casual sex with a woman he’s not so interested in as a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:24 PM
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No, 18-19 year old women tend to have zero interest in dating a man in the same age range a 30 year old woman would go for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 07:08 PM
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You’re going on quite a tangent to defend your country, but I’m not blaming poorer countries with high population density. It’s the wealthier countries taking advantage of their high population and cheap labor that leads to overconsumption of natural resources and a massive amount of pollution. You argue that wealthier countries apparently produce more unclean products, but the things produced in places like China are everything from clothes and toys, to car parts and weapons. The pollution, how…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:51 AM
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The issue isn’t space, it’s natural resources and pollution. The issues impacting places like China is impacting the rest of the planet. It doesn’t help that we rely on them for cheap manufacturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:30 AM
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When a government realizes that an aging population isn’t sustainable, it’s too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:23 AM
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Some people help their parents when they become old and unable to advocate for or take care of themselves. Unfortunately, this isn’t as common anymore in Western society. I understand people have kids because they don’t want to live the second half of their lives lonely and without a family, which is honestly my own fear. I have no clue how I’d be able to afford to raise and help my parents at the same time. It helps if the kids’ grandparents are still young enough to assist with childcare, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:16 AM
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Regardless of the genetic risks, it’s most important to have children with someone who will stick around. Of course the mother of the non-verbal autistic child ended up raising him alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:27 PM
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Maybe you can report him to the social media platform and they can ban his IP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:57 AM
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My ex got me into 2 car accidents as his passenger and then would try guilt me for appearing nervous when he drove us through heavy traffic. “How dare you not trust me!” is a common theme...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:28 PM
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I was naïve, hopeful, and maybe a bit lonely. I tend to be a bit too trusting towards people who come off as nice, and have found myself in situations where I’ve been vulnerable. It might be a self-esteem issue. It’s something I’m working on. That’s why I’m subscribed here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:36 PM
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So here’s the cringey story: He was started out so chivalrous, complementing me, saying he would treat me to his cooking, take me out, etc. (Edit: and offered guitar and foreign language lessons 🙄) I made arrangements to video chat. We do for less than a minute. Then he excuses himself. He refuses to video chat again. He wanted me to stay at his apartment and that he had no intention of sleeping with me. I said this was risky on my end, plus it was pricey for me to travel. He promises to pay for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:01 PM
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This explains why a Tinder match wanted me to travel 2 hours by bus and train to meet him at his apartment rather than meet me halfway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:23 PM
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like guys complaining that hookers are misleading them Your comparing a relationship based on some level of emotional trust to one that is fundamentally based on monetary transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:41 AM
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The issue is trust. Most of the FWB relationships/casual encounters I’ve had didn’t end well because my partner misled me in terms of how much he cared for me outside of his own sexual pleasure. I, and many women, tend to attach emotion to sex and have learned to be wary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 07:51 AM
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I like that you actually were able to answer the question. So many men (in the thread, for example) seem oblivious to the fact that there are reasons for intimacy other than sexual gratification. FWB relationships can be even mildly successful when the “friendship” component isn’t ignored. This requires seeing your partner as an actual friend, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:53 AM
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have interesting conversations, be as ambitious as she was, to be funny, and to be of similar attractiveness. She lost most of them at the "have interesting conversations" part, I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:17 PM
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Bear in mind that when people have kids young, the grandparents are more likely to be there to give free childcare and other assistance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:55 AM
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A now ex-bf of mine made me get it once. I didn’t even need it because we used a condom and he finished outside, but he was super paranoid. It was the last one at CVS. It was on the shelf, not near the register. $50. The man at the register looked at us and joked about it, and it was indeed embarrassing for me. After splitting the cost 50/50 and taking the pill, my ex checked under my tongue to make sure I swallowed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:46 AM
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There ought to be something that would also suit overly entitled middle aged raging men. Maybe Bruce, Todd, Frank, or Gary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:51 PM
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You forgot to add “a Karen” to the list. I don’t think there’s a male equivalent for whatever reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:05 AM
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Do you not use picture verifications for mods?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:00 AM
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I mean, I don’t agree with every post and every comment. But so what? I’m mainly here because I like the reminders about setting boundaries and not putting up with disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:11 PM
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It’s so easy for someone to misrepresent themselves on there or catfish. Tinder has a video call feature now and Bumble can verify profiles. Meanwhile, trying to meet new dates organically in person is very difficult, and can be unsafe depending on the setting. I think the dating apps are fine if used within reason. Take advantage of the video chatting features, it really saves a lot of time and aggravation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:27 PM
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Congrats! You’ve been flaired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:52 PM
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I’ve had this feeling to some extent at every birthday since I turned 24. I’ve had enough. Any man who marries a young woman and uses “the wall” in his vocabulary will be likely to cheat on her as soon as fine lines show up around her mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:51 AM
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Very old concept. The skin care industry has been capitalizing on it for decades. My grandmother used to jokingly tell me she was “29+” whenever I asked her how old she was when I was a kid. I thought nothing of it at the time, but now that I’m 29, thinking about her saying that makes me sad. Ever since people thought telling me I looked younger than I am was a compliment, I felt a sort of pressure I cannot seem to ease off. The movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” illustrates this concept well. I k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:21 PM
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On the flip side, a wealthy man can use his money to manipulate you. Money is not unimportant, but it doesn't necessarily make a relationship worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:09 PM
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Nevermind that many prostitutes are actually victims of sex trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:44 PM
7

You have a flair now. Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:41 PM
5

For these polls you should have an option that says “Just show me the results” because I’m sure not everyone who answered the poll qualifies to answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:37 AM
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It took me a long time to accept that hesitating before kissing my now ex-bf meant I wasn’t really that attracted to him. At the time, I chalked it up to me being anxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:33 AM
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If they accept the help. Otherwise, they should focus on themselves and not make women feel like his nagging mother, until he dumps them a few weeks later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:14 AM
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Nothing is worse than a prickly chest, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:54 AM
7

I’ve struggled with this. My platonic friendships tend to fade quickly. I’ve always envied girls and women who have a strong circle of friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:08 PM
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You’re “missing out” in the sting of a man’s charm immediately fading after he orgasms and doesn’t care to talk to you the next morning, despite literally being inside you the night before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:35 PM
1

The children are often the ones who dump their elderly parents in the nursing homes in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:12 PM
1

I've had better luck with local Facebook groups. I have met the strangest people in Meetup groups, including men who were desperate and came on too strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:38 AM
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