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Not gonna lie... You really had me going there! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/23 01:33 AM
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Ignorance is bliss, sis. We were all probably there at some point until FDS knocked more sense into us. And not everyone is going to want to listen to the truth. They would rather actively deny their own reality and live in denial than face an uncomfortable truth. Sad, but true. There will always be willing participants to patriarchy and misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:58 PM
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Correct. There is no such thing as a dream girl, which is why I put it in quotations. Their dream girl is a figment of their imagination that they project onto any woman they find attractive. If she doesn't act in accordance to his ideal (aka his "dream") then she becomes just another b*tch who won't give him the time of day and therefore goes on meaningless !ncel rants on the internet. The "dream girl" is a fantasy trope and cannot be obtained because she is not real. It is just the dream versi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:05 PM
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These men are not celibate, involuntarily or not. There are women who are being fooled and tricked by these men and these men turn right around to whine and complain that no women want them. This actually means that the woman that they want don't want them and they are having sex (read as: using and abusing) women whom they don't even like but they have to take what they can get until their "dream girl" someday might breathe in their direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:50 PM
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Is this aligned with FDS? I do not speak for all of FDS, but my opinion is no. Do not mix business with pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:08 PM
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I agree with you! The total lack of effort is what does it for me too. I mean I was married to a no-effort manbaby for 14 years and I'm not willing to put up with that again for even 1 second. I've paid my dues and I know I deserve way better than that shit. But men are just so dumb and lazy, can't think beyond their own immediate gratification, and have become so cheap with this 50/50 bullshit. Where have all the gentlemen gone? What happened to building an experience? Now it's just this "let's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 11:28 AM
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Everything else aside, resentment is a relationship killer. If you're feeling resentment, there's really no coming back from that unless he addresses the problem, which means you will have to tell him in the good old fashion cOmMuNiCaTe way. It'll be up to you whether having that talk is worth it to you.
/r/askFDS17/04/22 12:24 AM
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Sorry sis. Sometimes it's the only way any of us will learn... through experience. I hope you'll be able to resolve this quickly and without much hassle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 12:03 AM
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It's not that men have "created a dating eco omy for women with little inequality" it's just that they are thinking with their dicks as soon as they see a woman - "is she fuckable?". "how desperate are you right now? because you could probably bag this one for a quick lay." Simply put: men do not value women. And then they are surprised we don't find someone who looks down on us to be attractive and we want nothing to do with them???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 04:50 PM
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I remember seeing a video posted on Reddit a long time ago with this dude at a baseball game, but he wasn't paying much attention to the game as he was sitting in his seat furiously swiping away on every women's profile he came across without even looking at her profile let alone her photo. He did not miss one swipe. I wonder how many men are doing this out there and skewing the numbers for data research? 😂 It's not so much that men are creating "dating economics which are low on inequality," bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 04:44 PM
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he’s moved into my home This was a mistake. Never move a man into your space. If he wants you two to live together, tell him to go and buy you another house AFTER he has proposed and set a date with a deposit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 01:03 PM
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Reminds me of another FDS comment I read: It's like their egos will die if we don't show enough appreciation/admiration for them. (Paraphrasing and probably didn't do her original comment justice.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:09 PM
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I am appreciative when men pay for dates. I mean I showed the fuck up, didn't I?! 🙄 It's not my fault men are so socially inept that they can't read such a simple social cue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 09:12 PM
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At whatever speed you want/find comfortable. Only you can make that determination, not us. My rule of thumb is to follow Deb Cooper's advice of "If he's not giving you the relationship you want, get rid of him." Very cut and dry. He has to be on the same page as you to be truly compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:31 PM
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It's either what you said OR these men don't like the idea of their PickMe dating pool to be shrinking as FDS is growing. They don't like that they don't have access to us anymore and they are big mad about it, so they are trying hard to change our minds back to being PickMes. Sorry scrotes, but once our eyes have been opened, there is nothing you can say to get us to believe in that lie again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 01:48 PM
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If any of you ladies are sure about not wanting to have kids ever, please look into your insurance to see if it will cover sterilization. In some cases, it will be 100% covered. Don't let anyone - man or government - have control over your rights. Protect yourself and stay safe out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:16 PM
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But why buy the cow when the milk is free? 🙄😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:33 PM
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Don't want to pay? Then don't ask me out. Not a hard concept. Why do you think it's acceptable to waste my time if you have nothing to offer me? ETA: I got a butthurt msg from a scrote saying he finds women who ask him out to be a lot better. Of course you do. You didn't have to do anything. And that's fine. You do you and stick with the PickMes you like so much. But then why are you trying so hard convince me to change when you don't find women with an FDS mentality attractive? Hmm...???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 04:18 PM
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It's infuriating to know that even if you're not the object of his desire, he still had no problem using other women to get what he wanted but was too lazy to do himself and just felt entitled to it falling into his lap simply because he wanted it. Fuck that guy (but not literally.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 04:24 PM
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When your ex takes forever to get back to you via text, but when you're with him in person and he's constantly on his phone. 🤡 Make it makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:47 PM
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Lol, they use that line regardless if we have a registry or not. The registry is to help women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:18 PM
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That's why they are on Tinder and in bars looking for ONS and NSA hookups. To use and discard after they have fulfilled their every fetish. And they just presume that's what women do too, Or they just think: "How many other men have used this woman like I have used up countless of other women? I wonder how many men have used and discarded this woman that I am now interested in dating seriously?" And then they drive themselves crazy jealous because they are projecting hard. Stupid begets stupid. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:30 PM
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I agreed with a public registry. Then all the Not All Men brigade can see exactly HOW MANY MEN. It's not a "tiny minority" of men like they like to assume. It's basically Enough Men to make it a huge problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:16 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree with you. Which is why I said that if her friend continues to be LV, then OP isn't missing out on anything really, other than the nostalgia of an old friendship she has obviously outgrown. OP also needs to work on her own boundaries as she seems to be absorbing other people's emotions/problem as her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:22 PM
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I love how much effort they put into following us and discrediting us all over Reddit, but won't put in an equal amount of effort in either self improvement or their relationships. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:09 PM
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As a previous post said, they are worried about being used for a "free dinner" because they KNOW that's all they have to offer a woman. And what will happen once he's given out his free ration for the winter and he gets rejected? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:05 PM
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Idk. I didn't get that impression at all. Her friend stated she was hurt by OP's words and then requested space. Sounds like a boundary to me, not a "punishment." Then again, I'm not OP and Idk how it went down. My reaction would have been to just give them space because I wouldn't be hurt that they requested time away. If anything, I would be happy someone who was so emotionally draining to me removed themselves from my life so I didn't have to. Lol. ETA: My biggest concern is OP stating she fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 04:47 PM
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You told her she needs to set boundaries and then she set one with you and you are upset? You should be proud of her for taking your advice! And whatever comes of it will be her problem and not yours. Does it suck to "lose" a friend temporarily? Sure. But if it helps her grow and become a better person in the end, then great! I hope she comes back when she is better. But if she continues to be LV, then are you really losing anything? Nope. Continue your own personal growth with the time and spac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:52 PM
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I just described the good emotional qualities he had He then proceeded to talk about his ex but only in a physical way. This the most interesting bit that stood out to me! You described your old-ex on a deeper level, while your new-ex described his old-ex rather superficially as if he didn't bother to get to know her as a person and only valued her appearance...? Sorry I'm not answering your original question, but I found this part to be fascinating and wanted to point that out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 03:25 AM
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Repeating the same actions while expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. That's the funny thing though, isn't it? Common sense dating advice tells you to just cOmMuNiCaTe, and so you try that a thousand times and it never seems to work and one day you just snap and go off on him. Next thing you know he's calling "crazy" because quite literally he has driven you to insanity. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 03:00 AM
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they derive no pleasure from giving. BINGO! Selfishness and entitlement run through their veins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:23 AM
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Sir. Your scrubbing your own toilet on occasion is not a gift to me. 🤣 Imagine when you tell men to make more of an effort and he responds with "I cleaned my toilet for you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:21 AM
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It's easier for the women to just do everything. just stay single. FTFY 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:19 AM
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I have always been a proponent of "If I have to ask, I don't want it anymore." And It's not about being a bitch, playing mind games, or punishing the man. It's about wanting a truly equal partner who will think about me as much as I think about them; for him to anticipate my needs, want to do things for me that will make me genuinely happy, and being proactive in our relationship. I don't want someone I have to train to be thoughtful. It's insincere and that's why I don't want it. It doesn't com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:13 AM
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Men make it not fun and super boring, then wonder why no one wants to go out on a second date with them. Your first date is your first impression and most women are not impressed with the boring laziness that they see. Why would she want to waste anymore of her time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:43 PM
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Yes. I understand exactly what you mean. I've been there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 11:21 PM
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There's a difference between "love" and being "in love" which men and women get wrong all the time. Don't confuse the two; they are not the same thing. When you love someone, you do things for them in order for them to feel loved and therefore fall in or be in love with you. This should be reciprocal obviously. But far too often, men just take and don't know how to give. So it's great for men to be in relationships where the woman does all the loving and making the man feel loved and he feels in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 04:50 PM
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Adding onto Tip #1... Frame it like a compliment since men don't get enough compliments and have suggested to us women that we should compliment men more often. Phrases you can use that come off as compliments/bonus negging: You would look better if you smiled more! You're kind of cute... if you would just smile more! Stay savage ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 04:38 PM
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Lmao And all the male lurkers are gonna link to this post as solid evidence that incels and FDS are the same because they were created from the same reason. They have no critical thinking skills. Incels are male entitlement to the extreme. It makes men uncomfortable because it's evidence of their own misogyny. FDS was created as a natural response to incels and all other LVM which are basically incel lite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 01:31 PM
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If he avoided his own gf for days and hiding this information from her until he couldn't and was forced to tell her the truth... he already knows it was "wrong" of him to do. He knew how she would feel about it and did it anyway. What more information does she need that he chose someone else's well being over hers? Like great for the guy for being a good friend. But he could have helped her in a completely different way that did not have to cross his gf's boundaries. Just shows how little men th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:31 PM
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He's angry with her for thinking she had no standards before? And he's angry now that she has ended up with him rather than be grateful they are together? He sounds disturbed. His problem is that he views her as a play thing. He's angry that other men played with his toy first and didn't take care of said toy. That's what it sounds like to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:18 PM
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Good solid advice for all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:52 PM
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I think you're putting too much emphasis on the "timeframe" part. If 1-2 years is too short for you, then obviously that timeframe does not work for you. Take as long as you need/feel comfortable with, but he has to be showing YOU that he is moving the relationship forward. So if marriage/engagement is not what you are comfortable with by 1-2 years, then it will need to be something else. What that has to be will be up to you. But know that the longer you wait and the longer you let him get away…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:50 PM
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Lol, no. The solution is to cut bait and call it a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:43 PM
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him insisting on her presence in your life I'd like to add "new female friend" to this too because it's not always just an ex in orbit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:02 PM
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No one on FDS advocates for quick marriages. You misunderstand when the ladies say engaged within a year or two. It shows commitment on the man's part, but as the woman, you should always be vetting him. No one says to rush to marriage within one or two years. Its not the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 08:50 PM
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How sad. Every man downgrades once he marries you and thinks he can coast now that he's "secured" you for good. Sigh Date for fun. Never marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:15 PM
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Same, girl, same. I no longer feel suicidal now that I'm divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:49 PM
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Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:42 PM
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"Not yet ready or rather not so spontaneous" to have her stay overnight. But also... "After we had sexual intercourse" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:40 PM
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Yes. I had another buyer within a week and the sale went through fine. The house sold as part of my divorce, so i understand the hardship OP is going through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:29 PM
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I sold my house. Had a buyer and a closing date. Buyer had gone through inspection, appraisel, and deposit. On closing day, he decided not to go through with the purchase and backed out. Nothing is signed until closing day. Going through the process means nothing until things are signed by all parties on closing day. They have nothing finalized. Buyer loan financing should be done before they even make an offer. Title search is done before closing day. If everything is in the clear, they sign on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:24 PM
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IANAL. I wouldn't know what she could do. If he refuses to sell, then there's really not much she can do... She'd be on the hook for the mortgage as much as him and without marriage, she can't really force him to do anything. She'd have to somehow convince him to refinance the house in his name only if she wanted to get out of it completely. And I would highly doubt he would do that if he's being difficult on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:38 AM
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They got a buyer, but are "supposed to complete in 2 weeks," which means things are not finalized at all. 2 weeks sounds like their possible closing date. If he doesn't show or refuses to sign the closing documents, that means no sale is happening. And as a buyer, I would be frustrated with these sellers and back out of the deal completely. If they were married, they would have to split the house as part of their marital assets, which means either someone buys out the other's half, or the house …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:47 AM
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Idk about anyone else here, but I don't feel "agony" knowing the truth about men and patriarchy. I feel a higher sense of freedom. Freedom from unrealistic beauty standards. Freedom from the Disney fairytales. Freedom from the sham of marriage. When you de-center men from your life, it frees you to focus on other, better, more worthwhile things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:58 AM
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Assuming they are even married? And I agree. Divorce would make this situation easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:09 AM
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Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:05 AM
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As a fellow Asian... fuck that guy. DIE MAD SCROTE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:18 PM
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Lol, now i wanna know what you said to prompt such a response. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:06 PM
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Devastated over what? You told her you didn't want her. Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:01 PM
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I think he included her because they supposed to be a "team." Not that i agree with it, but he didn't want to be hung out to dry on his own so he threw her under the bus too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:40 PM
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Considering that 99% of men are LV, it would mean that to believe in a soulmate, mine would have to be, statiscally speaking, inherently LV. So no, I don't believe in soulmates. The math doesn't work out. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:43 PM
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If you're married to a man who sides with his "friend" instead of his wife, he doesn't love you and your "marriage" is a sham.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:16 PM
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I can't take her seriously when she sexualizes herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:33 PM
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I respectfully disagree. There will never be an instance where "withholding sex" would be an appropriate thing to say. Withholding has the connotation that sex is naturally free flowing from women and that by withholding, you are actively intterupting a natural process. Women do not give out sex. Men are not entitled to our bodies. I dont know about you, but sex does not flow freely from me so I can't be withholding anything from anyone. In your example, it would more correct to say a woman is w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:47 PM
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I respectfully disagree. There will never be an instance where "withholding sex" would be an appropriate thing to say. Withholding has the connotation that sex is naturally free flowing from women and that by withholding, you are actively intterupting a natural process. Women do not give out sex. Men are not entitled to our bodies. I dont know about you, but sex does not flow freely from me so I can't be withholding anything from anyone. In your example, it would more correct to say a woman is w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:46 PM
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Felt like I could have written this. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:48 AM
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He straight up told her she's not worth even $5 to him. I love it when they tell on themselves. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:35 AM
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it decentralizes sex from the relationship so other things like trust and common values can be the theme. The most important part. Building a solid foundation instead of crashing and burning once the honeymoon phase is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:12 AM
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Withholding sex Weird language choice. Women do not withhold sex because sex is not something that women give out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:04 AM
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I noticed that too! He full on admitted that he has nothing to offer his gf and she stands to gain absolutely nothing! This is actually the major of men. They have zero to offer us and are more of a burden than anything else. I'm not looking to be a mom to a manchild who can't cook or clean up after himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 04:31 PM
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"Or their egos die." 🤣 I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:59 AM
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Men are filled to the brim with audacity. There's no room for the shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 07:10 PM
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Nope. If it hasn't gotten better by now, I have no hope of it getting better. Men are doomed and they are hell bent on dragging us down with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 11:10 PM
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Too many men fit this description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 10:50 PM
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Men have so much audacity, they have no room for shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 10:36 PM
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They are stunted by porn as well. Their depravity just grows exponentially with their lack of empathy, self awareness, selfishness, and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:58 AM
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Well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:56 AM
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I said it before and I will keep saying it again: A man's sexual attention is completely worthless. And here is the proof. When they sexually desire you, it's because deep down, they don't respect you at all let alone see you as an individual with personhood. They see you like they see that porn star on the screen; as a "thing" to be used and abused then discarded. Do not be flattered by a man's desire for you. That's just the lust speaking. And it is as useless as it is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:54 AM
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"Ask for a specific knife next time." Ah, yes, the mental labor we need to do for men because they are too stupid to think for a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:46 AM
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Because then he'd lose his wife appliance and I heard they are hard for men to come by these days. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:11 AM
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A woman choosing to do sex work on her own is only a problem when it somehow inconveniences a man. Yeah, but the other side is if women didn't do sex work, it would also "inconvenient" men. Their double standard bullshit never ceases to amaze me. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:09 AM
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A woman who engages in sex work will forever be regarded as a wh*re So... Why aren't men who engage in (ie, watch, use, consume, etc) porn regarded as a wh*re? I mean, in my mind, he's flithy and disgusting and is more of a wh*re than the porn star because a porn star can only do that for a short amount of time before their bodies give out. But men will continuous beat their meat for DECADES. Tell me who's the bigger wh*re here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:06 AM
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I agree with you. You are the company that you keep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:28 AM
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Sweet. Makes labelling LVM in the wild even easier now! /s before y'all start with the pitchforks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:13 AM
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I thought the same thing! Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:08 AM
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At least he leaves! Be wary of the one that stays! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:55 AM
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I think you need to understand that this message wasn't written for nor intended for a female audience. It was made for a male audience, and sometimes you have to dumb it down to their level for them to grasp basic concepts like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 01:09 AM
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Lmao. Boils down to: It should not be hard to cheat when no one wants you. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:10 PM
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Plot twist: They don't love you. Never have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:09 PM
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Eww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:36 PM
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How can I get over the sense of betrayal and move on in our relationship? Wait. What??? If you feel betrayed and the trust is broken, then the only way to move forward is to move on and away from this relationship. The trust is gone. There is no coming back from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:54 PM
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Yeah, I never understood the whole "porn is natural' mentality either. If it was so natural, you would be seeing people fuckin on the streets in broad daylight with a group of people standing around and watching, probably wanking off too. I mean, that's totally normal right? Why is our personal sex life considered private, in the bedroom, and behind closed doors? But porn is open for everyone to see? I don't understand it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:18 PM
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They don't find it insulting because they don't believe it's true that men act like children. (But it is true...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:58 AM
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You ever see a grown man rage for losing in a video game? Like want to break the controller and smash the TV kind of rage? Same energy here. Big yikes. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:58 PM
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I can’t come up with any other reason as to why someone might claim to “need” something while simultaneously resent the work that goes into securing it. I think you're absolutely right. It's a mix of laziness and entitlement when it comes to sex, power, and women. They saw their parent's generation all coupled up and think they should have it just as easy. What they didn't see is all the work that went into it. Kind of like social media and seeing the highlight reel of everyone's life and thinki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:08 PM
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Huh, interesting. Men value sex and that's why they claim to "need" it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:47 PM
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Because we are not people and only exist for them. When we are not interacting with men, we just power down and stay looking pretty until a man is in the vicinity. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:46 PM
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that is horrible treatment of someone you should love and care about. It means he doesn't love her. He pretty much admitted it without having to say those exact words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 02:38 AM
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Shhh... they don't like to hear that! 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:59 PM
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No, I don't hear anything. They don't deserve even the tiniest of violins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:58 PM
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I wouldn't necessarily consider your way of thinking to be a "compromise" though. You're thinking for yourself and putting yourself first in this instance. Being closer to the guy is just a side effect or bonus. For the original OP, don't ever make big life decisions with a man in mind unless marriage is on the table. If you want to move because you want to move, then do it. Ask yourself, if it wasn't for this guy, would i be thinking about moving at all? If no, don't move. If you were already c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:46 PM
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If you block and delete him, he'll be witnessing FDS in action. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:24 PM
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Theres also the illusion you’re taking control of your sexuality - which on a subconscious level you know you no longer have actual control over as your self esteem hinges on other people and your sexuality is what you were told what’s popular. All of this. If these women were actually in control of their sexuality, they would be able to exercise their right to say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:36 PM
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What would he have done if I'd accepted and wanted to start wedding planning right away? He would have panicked that you were taking it way too far/too serious. Then he would either become really distant while you were planning it all, or not show up at the altar day of the wedding citing that in the end "he wasn't ready." Anyway you swing it, it would not have been a good outcome. Men are stupid and create a lot of their own problems, then outwardly project the blame onto other people around th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:56 PM
18

Yes, dressing up is something women do for themselves in the same way they "dress up" their homes and decorate them beautifully. We like clean, pretty, inviting spaces and our bodies are no different. Men should try it sometimes and maybe they will be less miserable beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:24 PM
31

This really begs the question (no, not really, lol) but what exactly are men looking for in a woman when they are constantly contradicting themselves? She can't be career oriented or financially independent, but she has to pay her own and contribute 50/50 because mOdErN dAtInG. How exactly do they expect that to happen? So maybe they want a woman who is working, but she can't have a job that's better than the man or make more money than him, but somehow she is still expected to "keep up with him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:21 PM
140

Sure, signing a "piece of paper" is way more commitment than chancing an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy or std, amirite? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:03 PM
50

The way it ought to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:56 PM
49

Yes, but I added the /s so the mods won't boot me from FDS. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:06 AM
149

You don't have to slam a bunch of women just to compliment one. But how else is he going to tell if you're an easy target? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:38 AM
129

she said , now you can prioritize you. That's a good friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:06 AM
47

He sounds like a real winner wiener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:01 AM
95

Lol, are you me? I had the same thing happen! I knew the guy for a month maybe? I saw him maybe 2-3 times at most? Disappeared on me one day and I just kind of forgot about him and moved on. About a year later, around the holidays, he popped up and messaged me on FB, which I don't use, so I didn't see the message until a month later. He also texted me, but I didn't have his number saved anymore, so I had to Google it and his name popped up. I screenshotted both messages and sent them to my best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:57 AM
24

Marriage isn't just a financial loss though. It's an everything lost for the woman. She loses her name, her identity, her career (if she has kids), her body (also kids), her freedom, her family (if traditional, depends on culture), etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:34 PM
39

All men are opportunists. That's why women should never approach first. And now I'm seriously thinking that women should never marry either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:30 PM
25

What is even the point of men like this? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:41 PM
103

Wait until he finds out a HVW doesn't want community dick. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:13 PM
16

Small brain can't keep track of more than one account. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:32 AM
36

Which makes no sense either. They don't want us to depend on them, but they want to be able to depend on us shelling out 50%. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:06 PM
105

Oh, so one man can speak for all men and say with certain confidence that no man will want future you? But one man rapes, abuses, and manipulates women and suddenly it's "not all men"? Mmmhmm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:34 PM
8

Wow. Do you know my ex? Because it's like you wrote this about him. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:46 AM
2

Omg, she should totally lose all 200 lbs of that dead useless weight she calls her husband! That's the only weight she needs to lose!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 05:22 AM
37

This is supposed to show you how "unrealistic" your standards are, but ends up showing you how 99% of men are low value lol. Lmao. Exactly. This just tells me that I was right in thinking men ain't shit. 😂 It does absolutely nothing for my standards. I ain't changing those. It's up to the men to fit into and measure up to my standards. Otherwise, you know where the door is. I'm not too pressed about dying alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 08:13 PM
31

She's amazing. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:44 AM
130

Show me an article written in a men's magazine/online blog that gives men advice on how to make women feel good in relationships. I'm not talking trashy RP dating advice on "how to score a woman." I'm looking for real, genuine advice that tells men how to meet a woman's needs and wants. Until such a thing exists, I'm not taking any of these garbage articles seriously. Nothing is ever written for men to do. The expectation has always been women twisting themselves into the perfect pretzel so that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:38 AM
2

Hold the door wide open to their audacity is the only thing I've ever witnessed personally. My ex-husband of 14 years HATED to open doors for me. Imagine a grown man who claimed to love his wife that HATED to do anything for her that require the least bit of effort on his part. A small gesture that he couldn't even bring himself to WANT to do for me. Grade A Fuckin 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 09:18 PM
2

The correct meaning is "shoplifting" and is a euphemism for stealing in general. But here, I am using it to mean: if a man wants free sex (the "discount"), then he can keep using his hand (the "five fingers") instead of "stealing" (implied from original meaning) a woman's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 09:13 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 09:09 PM
25

Exactly! If this chart were true and relationships did not benefit men at all, then why the fuck would they bother with us? Want sex without the responsibility? Go pay for it, buy a plastic doll, or keep using your five finger discount, but leave us real women alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 05:16 PM
7

Love how it's perfectly acceptable for a man to ignore a woman because he "works hard" and is constantly "tired" and in a state of "not looking his best". But if a woman is working 2 jobs (working FT job and picks up a second shift at home), it's not considered hard work at all. She is still expected to keep up her "gf/wifey duties" of maintaining the cooking, cleaning, sexing, and looking pretty 24/7. But don't you dare ask the man for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 04:07 PM
330

Lmfao. What modern day 50/50 "man" does any of the above for women? 😂 Free dinners? Women are expect to pay for themselves or risk getting labeled a gold digger. His money? What money? Women will be lucky to find a man who has a job. Holding doors open? More like he offers Netflix & Chill at his place and you have to drive to him. Male servants? But men don't know how to do anything. What service do they provide other than weaponized incompetence? Attentions on me? Please. Your attention is chea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:16 PM
134

Men aren't getting any better. They are getting worse imo. I do not have hope for them in the future unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 01:34 AM
88

You know he ain't going to do shit except use this newfound "knowledge" to tell women he uNdErStAnDs tHeM nOw. Fuck this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:52 PM
58

Because men think the world revolves around them, and everyone should just conform to his needs and desires without reciprocation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:21 AM
110

All the downvoted comments have the energy of "I'm in this post and I don't like it!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:16 AM
101

You know what's worse than not getting married? Getting married just so you don't lose an $8k deposit. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:12 AM
131

Savage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:25 AM
63

The sad reality is "We're pregnant" actually translates to "She's pregnant, but I have to put up with it." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:18 PM
16

He literally said, "I always thought of my money as ours..." Then why you mad, bro?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:30 AM
108

Real Food™ I am rolling! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:37 AM
7

On their deathbed when they regret all of their other life choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:10 PM
43

Which is weird because men are capable of holding themselves to that very same "high standard" that women will. He's essentially telling on himself as well as all men and admitting that men ain't shit and they have no standards outside of the woman he wants to be with. What woman wants a man with no standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:22 PM
17

I was pre-banned from a sub I never posted to/interacted with. It honestly made me feel so special. Like I'm such a threat for being on FDS that they had to pre-ban me in case I ever wanted to post on that sub. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:18 AM
36

Second chances mean they think you're a dumb b*tch who is stupid enough to get a second round of disappointment, which he will ultimately serve you again. Not giving a second chance means he will forever pine for you as "the one who got away." You can't win with them. It's best not to play the game at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:18 PM
50

he f*cked around and found out. We are from the same city. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:28 AM
10

Same difference. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:59 AM
19

I love a good LVM with no filter (so long as I am not dating him.) 😂 Please keep posting more of these. They give me life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:57 AM
29

Women know, they feel it. So true. I left my ex before he even cheated (physically) because I knew what was coming. I could see it from a mile away. How do I know I was right? He started dating that "friend" he told me not to worry about as soon as we were separated, not even divorced yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:43 AM
17

Funny because a man usually realizes within the first weeks if he's never going to marry a woman, but still going to waste as much of her time as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:22 AM
8

It's more exhausting putting up with some LVM's bullshit. Vetting is easy: Not happy? Ditch him. Easy as pie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:55 AM
17

He didn't want her when she was available. He only wants her when she's no longer available. He doesn't love her. He loves the access he used to have with her, and now that's being taken away from him. Anyone else notice the language he used? ​ Someone else has her heart I want to tell her how I feel about her just in case her feelings for me are still there Sounds like he took a hit to his ego and trying to get an ego boost by seeing if she still wants him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:18 AM
79

The funny thing is... They can only tell you were "the one who got away" by leaving you, fuckin around, and comparing you to all the other women after you because then he can circle back to say "Yeah, you were the love of my life; I just didn't know it then." 🙄 Carpe diem, motherfucker. We don't work on your timelines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:23 PM
9

D. All of the above Even if he doesn't do it intentionally, his actions are still abusive and they have consequences to your mental and emotional health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:54 PM
75

Lmao, first thing I noticed too. 😂 I can't deal with these "my way or the highway" type of men. They absolutely should not be dating let alone be in a relationship. If his lifestyle and living routines are so important to him, then just stay single. Being in a relationship requires a bit of self sacrifice and compromise to make it work, but it needs to come from both people. If you're not willing to do that, then just stay single! He's like the poster child for "wants all the benefits of a relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:20 PM
34

They are more likely to say shit like "both sexes should get the draft, since women want equality", which is covert misogynism to the extreme. (If your first thought is "women should get the draft too", instead of asking "why anyone should get the draft in this day and age", then you have serious issues and no woman should be involved with you!) Agreed! This is along the same bullshit men say in America with "equal rights, equal fights" and proceed to mansplain to you why he should be able to pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:13 PM
25

Ok, so let me get this straight. There are men out here telling women they just met that they have to go 50/50 on dates because he doesn't know her and doesn't want to date a gold digger. Meanwhile, this couple has been together for a 1 year, so they KNOW each other, and there's no 50/50 happening when he happens to stay at her place more than 50% of the time? Make it make sense. Women are asking men to pay for dates because women KNOW men are just going to turn into THIS once they get too comfo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:47 PM
62

They argue that brushing tongue makes them gag. I see they gave a perfectly valid reason why bjs are firmly and forever off the table then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:43 PM
332

Breaking News: Man feels shame for not measuring up to something that comes naturally to a woman. Demands apology for hurt fee-fees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:39 PM
156

those weird guys that take their pillow girl out for coffee I mean, they at least have the decency to leave real women alone. I respect the respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:22 AM
4

Men's audacity is like the universe: infinite and ever expanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:52 PM
30

Men really, truly are astounding. How can he post ALL THAT and still say he doesn't think he's the asshole? I will never understand the mental gymnastics men have to do in order to be ok with themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:33 PM
6

I spent way too long trying to cajole, encourage, motivate and model normal behavior for LVM who were already maxed out. Holy shit! I am dying! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:01 AM
3

Answer: "Oh, yeah? How's that been working out for ya?" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:40 AM
97

Idk why this makes me laugh. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:12 PM
18

No, she never did wifey shit, but she was a loyal gf and stood by him in his lies and bad attitude. He was LV because he never had a steady job, always told her how he wanted to marry her but never moved forward with anything in life, lied about having a kid until he couldn't lie about it anymore, told her he wanted more kids (cause she wants marriage + family) and then changed his mind about everything later (did not want to marry and didn't want anymore kids because he was perpetually broke). …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:08 PM
24

Divorced women are label as being more difficult for precisely all the reasons you listed above. This translates to the feeble minds of men as "I will have to try harder to impress this woman" and ultimately means "I'm unwilling to give more effort, so she is not worth the trouble." There's nothing wrong with divorced women. Men are just lazy. It's easier for them to aim lower, younger, and more naive. Women who have not been married yet, but are still trapped on that fantasy can be exploited ea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:41 AM
41

I have a friend who dated a guy for 5 years and she never had sex with him. She was a wait-until-marriage type and she made that very clear to him from the beginning. He was low value from the beginning and quickly nosedived into negative value before the end. So, yeah, even LVM/NVM can just not have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:34 AM
32

In fact…… they wouldn’t even CONSIDER doing it They wouldn't consider it because they would never have the thought to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:36 AM
46

You’ll always wonder “what if I fixed this for us?” Fixing his mistakes is not your job- especially at the beginning. Do you think this thought would ever cross a man's mind? To "fix" things? Fuck no. He would never think that because (a) there's nothing about YOU that needs fixing or (b) he'd nope the fuck out and find someone else if you did need "fixing". And I highly suggest you start treating men the same way you know they would treat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:34 AM
14

Men are Porn is wrong. Yes all porn men. FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:38 AM
32

Should've been like "Good, he can stay out of the house indefinitely because I'm never going to apologize." Then book the next abortion appointment possible. Fucker doesn't deserve kids let alone a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:20 PM
47

This is absolutely correct. He gets to claim the "don't say I never did anything nice for you" mixed with a little bit of "she's just an ungrateful b*tch" with a dash of "I can never do anything right!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:23 PM
29

But but but... He had to get up off the couch and use his precious gaming hours to go out and actually physically get those things for her! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:18 PM
23

That feeling she has is "too little, too late." 8 years together and he constantly forgot about her birthday, but this year he magically wanted to surprise her after she paragraphed him with 6 messages? Yeah, I wouldn't think any of that was genuine or sincere either. He just knows he's on the shit list and if he doesn't do something, he's gonna be out a gf. So he does the lamest, most generic thing possible with the excuse of "but this is what you said you wanted!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:14 PM
7

Men like this don't know how to think about anyone but themselves and it clearly shows when they have no ties and no responsibilities and can just pick up whatever, whenever and just leave. They purposefully keep shallow friendships so no one has to depend on them. They don't have a career path so they can quit whenever. Other than the selfishness and irresponsibility, this massively rubs me the wrong way because it's entirely male privilege to be able to go to another country on a whim, rely on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:02 PM
89

You need to add "my dog" in there between "my family (not wife and kids) and "woman" because I have definitely seen some men treat their dogs better than the woman he is dating or married to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 01:50 PM
59

You're not wrong here. A "good" man who has no spine will definitely do whatever his trash friends say because he wants to be accepted as a "bro" and will never contradict their depravity even if he doesn't necessarily agree with them. And I say he has no spine because he can see how trash his friends are and still keep them around for whatever reason. This guy is definitely the type to date/marry a woman he doesn't even like just to keep her around and use her like he does with his trash friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 01:48 PM
135

Plus, it's infinitely easier to tell other people what to do when they are not the ones who have to subject themselves to his abuse. Everyone just wants to keep the peace at her expense. Fuck those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:43 AM
101

This is hilarious. All the men who are offended by this just got a reality check. This is how you sound to women. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:22 PM
63

Just because it's been normalized, doesn't mean that it's right or morally correct. You know what else has been normalized by society? School shootings, murder, suicide, and rape. Happens more often than you would want. Doesn't make any of it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:45 PM
74

You can't control who he masturbates to! No, you can't, but I don't have to accept it either. Scrotes can't be all surprised Pikachu face when women find out their degeneracy and then distance themselves because of it. They have no one to blame but themselves for their inappropriate behavior and can shout into the void that it's "normal" and "you're just a prude" all they want, but I don't have to accept it and I don't have to put up with it. Respect goes both ways. If they want me in their live…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:43 PM
120

It's just men telling on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:52 PM
156

Who invented simp culture? Like, who decided treating women like human beings was wrong/bad/stupid/something to make fun of by calling it "simping"? Men did. Men make fun of other men for being kind or doing anything that could be misconstrued as actually liking or caring about a woman (heaven forbid!). Cause it sure isn't the woman who is complaining when a man is treating her well. And then these same men like to bitch about how they aren't allowed to be emotional or show vulnerability, and co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:13 AM
22

Also, when you factor in that "minors" won't have the money to take care of a baby, do you fuckin think these men are looking to provide for her AND her baby? GTFOH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:17 AM
44

Yeah, but "lying cheating bastard" just doesn't have the same ring to it. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:45 AM
28

Men are so comfortable making decisions about how women should feel. Perfectly phrased!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:43 AM
16

He wants me to act like it's a date, but he doesn't want to act like it's a date. OMG. So well put!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:56 AM
16

It only makes sense when you understand that LVM think that hanging out = date, which is why they are reluctant to plan, put in effort, or pay for meals/activities. Meanwhile, women know that hanging out =/= date; and LVM who suggest that are quickly placed in the "friend zone" because they failed to make their romantic interest known. Too many LVM don't know how to date properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:38 AM
82

I do not want a man to put in effort just to get sex. That's no different than what they are doing now. Sex =/= Relationship Men need to learn to focus on building quality relationships. Maybe then they won't be so goddamn lonely and whiny about being touch starved. Until then, fuck 'em (but not literally.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:19 PM
78

If we are hit on by scrotes, I wish we could repel them with one line: "Sorry, I'm over 30!" 🤷‍♀️ It would make life so much easier to be invisible to them post-wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:31 AM
24

They are too lazy to even think. Shows a lack of effort for himself, for her, and for the relationship. What would be the point of all of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:28 AM
9

What's ethical about lying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:03 AM
28

This guy's definition of "relationship material": Mentally well adjusted. Has job. Domestic skills. Is NICE. Most men wouldn't even qualify due to the absence of all of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:55 AM
5

It was a $4 deposit for a second date. If the second date wasn't going to happen, he wanted a refund on his deposit. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:16 AM
4

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:15 AM
12

Anyone here watched the show Succession on HBO? 🤭 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIgW5QaT65Y&ab_channel=GregTheEgg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:03 AM
72

I am actually 100% ok with PIED. For one thing, LVM will be easier to spot when they can't get it up for you. They will be essentially taking themselves out of the dating pool. Second, if they aren't having sex with real women, they aren't procreating and certainly won't be passing on their defective genes. I say... It's sort of a win! LVM are taking themselves out of the running. Survival of the fittest!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:48 AM
51

Yes, but they are delusional, so they think they will look better with age when that's not true at all. They just aren't ready for that truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:34 AM
101

According to their logic? Because women's looks start to "fade" after 25 (supposedly), which is the only thing a woman has to offer a man. And if it's an incel man, he believes every 25+ year old woman has had a thousand dicks in her, so she's "used up". But men without anything to offer prior to 30 years old, suddenly have come into their careers and have "a lot of money", which means they are magically worth something all of a sudden. The catch is, they don't want to share any of that supposed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:57 PM
70

Clearance section $19.99 -> $1.99
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:14 PM
43

But... Half of nothing is still nothing, so he's technically not wrong? /s 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:10 PM
26

Makes perfect sense when you realize most men are just toddlers in an adult body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:45 PM
11

Very good point. Men only hear what they want to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:41 PM
26

All the problems men have are caused by men. Then they turn around and blame women for it. I said what I said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:39 PM
49

They want compliments for doing ordinary human things because men know they aren't shit, so when they take out the trash or take a shower, they need to be told they were a good little boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:33 PM
39

They just expect a woman to have endless patience, re-parent them, but also find them sexually attractive, and never snap and let them know what a giant loser, whiny manbaby they're being. With the added bonus that the woman never have needs of her own, so he never has to put in effort, think about her, or do anything for her and she'll just stick around anyway. However, she is expected to do everything for him when he wants his needs met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:31 PM
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For men, sex is something that they do to a woman, not with a woman. Read that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:23 AM
55

Let's reframe the narrative of lying he didn't think you were worth telling the truth to he didn't respect you enough to be honest from the start he knew telling you the truth would be an inconvenience to him (because he wouldn't get what he wanted) lying was easier for him than being real, open, and vulnerable I mean, any way you put it, it's not something you want to "fix" (and it's not your job to fix anything!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 01:05 AM
72

Men are so quick to draw up pre-nups because they are scared the woman that they "love" will take away all the nothing that they have. But as soon as they know you have money or make more money than them, suddenly they don't know what a pre-nup even is. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:51 AM
32

Where are the "Not All Men" folk at?! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:42 AM
13

Sad but true. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:42 PM
64

I will take FDS over my ex any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:32 AM
49

But I thought men loved anal? Why are they complaining about it in jail?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 02:17 AM
97

"Besides we are just better at everything." Oh, really? Then you don't need a woman to cook and clean for you either. You got that covered too! Every woman should proceed to use the line, "but you're so much better at (insert random thing) since you're a man and men are just better at everything than women!" And try not to vomit when you say it. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:21 PM
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"Women... were created to lead and rule. Men are created to help and serve women." I know scrotes are going to have a hard time with this one, but you don't need to look at "nature" to see this happening all the time. How many men get frustrated with their gf/wife and literally say, "Just tell me what to do, and I'll do it"? They are literally asking a woman to lead them and basically admiting they are too stupid to think on their own or try on their own, so you have to tell them (in small words…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:15 PM
16

You're giving him the benefit of doubt that he even knows Korea is split. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 02:28 PM
10

"but you don't know me, you cannot know if you want to talk to me or not" Wow, they really don't know how to talk to women, huh? Just completely baffles me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 02:26 PM
28

LVM would literally rather emotionally abuse you than make efforts to become better men. Because they can't accept that they are the problem. You bringing up that they are indeed the problem, hurt their feelings/ego/whatever, and now they have to hurt you back because they don't know how to process their hurt feelings and turn into an infant who throws a spiteful tantrum to get even. It doesn't even need to be outright criticism for you to see this in action. I told my ex (when we were still mar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:23 PM
38

For real. You don't want to date someone you have to train. Either come correct or don't come at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:03 PM
61

According to male logic, you can't criticize a man because men don't do anything wrong. And if he did do something wrong, it was because the woman in his life made him do it. Men are allergic to responsibility and are incapable of accepting accountability for their actions. You can't criticize a LVM because they don't know how to self reflect, analyze, or respond appropriately. They just react. And usually poorly as a defense mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:30 PM
74

No orgasm and a chance to risk a second pregnancy and go through all that shit again? I wouldn't be interested either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:11 PM
13

This absolutely wouldn't work on me. 😂 I don't know what "vibing" means when we've never met in person and absolutely hate the word. How do you even vibe with someone over a dating profile, a photo, or a few text exchange? It's over used and completely meaningless. It's like they are telling you upfront they don't know how to connect with people and only know how to have superficial relationships. I don't drink. At all. So drink dates are a no-go for me. Just asking me that would turn me off ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:01 PM
16

He can "want" you in the way he wants a burger. It's ephemeral and doesn't do anything for you. It's the classic "guy with good intentions (wanting you), but never actually does anything" coupled with "his intentions alone should be good enough." If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:01 AM
63

“what do you want me to get you for Christmas?” "Am I dating myself? If so, what do I need you for?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:31 PM
100

Please add "video games that we can play together" to this list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:28 PM
91

It's always funny to me how anything a woman might expect is already expecting too much from a man. Pay for a date? Get you flowers? Think about you? You're asking for too much! But men will often tell other men: If she doesn't have sex with you by the third date or within the first month, dump her because she's just playing you and you've been friend-zoned. Under male logic, this is not asking for too much from a woman they barely know. People will argue that this means that these two people ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 03:03 PM
108

Men shouldn’t be praised for being basic human beings. Absolutely agree. They should, however, be SHAMED for not being basic human beings though. Shame can a powerful motivator. It's what men have used as a tool to keep women down for generations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:39 PM
49

Lmao. I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:30 PM
8

Dated a guy (very briefly) that called his ex "crazy" and the first thing outta my mouth was "What did you do to her?" 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:19 AM
47

Nope. I left my ex because he was spending way too much time and attention on some "friend" of his. Within the first 2 months after separation, he told me they had talked about dating. We weren't even divorced yet. He was just securing his next victim. I filed for divorce and he dragged his feet about signing it. I have no clue why though since he already had someone else lined up. Guess he wanted a bit of time to feel like he was married AND had a gf. Who knows. Men are terribly fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:02 AM
24

Compete? Compete for what? The abuse? Uhh, I'm good. The sex robots can have you and all the men like you. This Starfish would be happy to become obsolete and rendered invisible when out in public. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:47 AM
45

Men will always feel a pang of regret for "the one who got away". None of them ever lie awake at night thinking about the woman who stayed. DAAAAAAAAMN. If that's not the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:48 PM
7

Girrrrrrl... I had to screenshot this and print it out. This is a fantastic checklist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:44 PM
11

Women reject upfront. Men reject after they've used you. The problem is, most men would rather you use them for sex and then dump them afterwards because, hey, he got sex out of it at least. And it will carry him until his next score because they are all so tOuCh StArVeD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:08 PM
20

TRP talk about how women are constantly showered in affections but it's all lies and scrotery. Seriously? They believe this? I mean, their whole schtick is to talk down to women (negging) and they believe women get showered with affections? By whom exactly? Certainly not by them. Lol And even if women do get showered with affections, it's like 90% false affection (love bombing) just to get into your pants, so it's not even genuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:05 PM
25

Idk. I've been to a guy's place before without any intention of sex on either of our parts. But this was during daylight hours. I was only stopping by because he had to take his dog out and he let me check out his place, which was cool cause he let me snoop a bit and determine his lifestyle & cleanliness. 🤣 I say it depends on the guy and how he has been interacting with you and if you feel safe with him. I would never recommend to go to a guy's house at night though. Or if he suggested any "dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:04 PM
12

The difference between actual children and man children is that actual children will learn as they grow. Man children do not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:10 AM
8

I did the same. His room always smelled like funk and I never had to go in there to clean. It was his space to dirty up and also his problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:46 PM
68

I lost it at "bumbling man brain can't see dirt" 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:52 PM
43

You explained it in the best way possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:00 PM
70

Nothing dries up a woman more than a man who thinks he should be wooed. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:46 PM
96

Lmao, especially when men don't even offer good companionship anyway. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:41 PM
30

Women are expected to do everything else, so the least men can do is initiate everything in the beginning. Look at it this way: men want a free mommy-nurse-bang-maid. Men have to convince us HARD that they are worth it. Otherwise, women are perfectly content to be single and unbothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:39 PM
189

The pity party he threw for himself in this post reveals that he does not care about keeping his marriage or his family together. He cares about losing his live-in slave because now he will be forced to do all of the work that he has been avoiding up until now because no one will be there to do it for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:47 AM
53

If he openly admitted that he can't help being lazy, why should she stay? What would be the point of that?! Lol, I can't even with this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:43 AM
23

Gotta cater to men's feefees, but God forbid they do the same for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:50 PM
12

Thankfully, I've not had this problem (yet) but when I was married, my ex had an emotional support future-gf. Does that count? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:07 AM
74

This is actually great evidence that dick is abundant and low value. So low value that no one would ever pay money for it. Men are clearly not the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 01:32 AM
11

They can't even tell the lie right. They should have said, " Western women didn't enter the PAID workforce until 1960" because women have always worked. They just weren't paid for it properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:16 AM
236

What happened to "iTs bIoLoGy"? Sex is for procreating. What. The. Fuck. ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:16 AM
125

First thing that caught my attention too. Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:21 AM
80

Eww, but also quite accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:12 AM
15

Subtle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:01 AM
77

This guy is literally worse than useless. He burdened her with children and then won't help to keep them safe. I say you're absolutely right about him being worse than useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:11 PM
49

When you read stuff like this and then sit and wonder what even is the point of men. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:07 PM
65

When their mental load is less than ours, they really do think they are contributing 50%. They don't see all the other things we simply THINK about and manage because they don't see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:20 PM
62

Either he will support you or he won’t. And you will know what to do when he says he won't agree with you. Sell the house, break up, and move on. There is no saving this if he's not supporting you.
/r/askFDS05/12/21 03:22 PM
179

Men in general have no concept of giving love The amount of men who ask Reddit "how to talk a woman" tells me everything I need to know. If you don't even know how to talk to a woman, can women even rely on you to know how to love them properly? It's like they go through the motions of what showing affection could be (taking you on dates, paying, buying you flowers/gifts, etc) but very rarely are they thoughtful or sincere on a deeper more intimate level where he is trying to connect with you. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:14 PM
18

I got a message from someone I haven't talked to or seen in like 2 years just at the start of cuffing season. 😂 I promptly updated my block list. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:02 AM
47

Lol, that last one is on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:54 PM
16

I like to tell men I can cook and then proceed to never cook anything for them. I won't even let them try leftovers. If we're parroting this 50/50 bullshit, then if I'm not going to get a home cooked meal, then neither are you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:46 PM
19

That's because whatever men don't want to do, they will label it as women's work and it will be expected and unappreciated at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:43 PM
19

You know when women get cornered in an uncomfortable situation and just play nice in order not to make things more awkward by politely agreeing to whatever the other person is saying/suggesting? Yeah, "Let's see where things go," is the male equivalent of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:56 AM
20

you lost a chance at the 50-50 dream life where you would contribute only the 0 of the 50? DEAD ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 01:25 AM
40

So (in response to their slipping value), men have unintentionally but collectively come up with a new form or capital: providing validation. If true, then this is fuckin hilarious. Another form of pure projection from men. As Deb Cooper liked to put it... Men need women in order to validate them as men. Men don't know how to be men without a woman's validation. That's why men seek women at every stage of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:21 AM
114

Flip the script around as say it for what it really is: Men feel entitled to women for little to no effort. It's not that I feel entitled to a man paying for dinner. It's that I demand respect from a man not to waste my time. I'd rather be eating leftovers at home in front of my TV than forced to sit through an average dinner with a man who will complain about me not paying when he was the one who asked me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:14 AM
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It doesn't even have to be full fledge slurs like b*tch or c*nt. Little everyday sayings growing up normalize all forms of misogyny. Who here hasn't heard the phrase, "You throw like a girl" as some form of insult? How many of you have heard, "Stop being a p*ssy and MAN UP" as some weird male encouragement? Both of these have the connotation that women are weak and less than and in order to be better you have to act like a man. I think Lib Fem took hold partly because women internalized all this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 12:16 AM
16

Questions... What was he wearing? Why didn't he just tell her to stop? He seemed to be enjoying it, so he was asking for it, and now he regrets it after the fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:02 PM
21

I disagree. I lay it out first before even getting physical. They weed themselves out for me so I don't need to go through the disappointing sex at all. Why even bother with all that? A guy who is ok with putting you first isn't going to be turned off by it being stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:35 PM
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What's scary about it? You lay it out for the dude like this: My #1 rule for sex is that I finish first. If I don't finish, you don't get to finish either. This is the only 50/50 eQuAliTy BS that I will accept. If he agrees, congrats! If he disagrees, NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:03 AM
31

People really out here thinking that you'll magically be comfortable with someone after a few text exchange and 1 meet up (not even a date)? Do people not know how to be social anymore? Do they not understand how long it takes to develop a relationship with someone, romantic or friendship, doesn't matter - it's not instantaneous?! If you don't have sparks shooting out of you like Katy Perry, it's an instant no? People are fuckin stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:59 PM
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Which is weird and contradictory because all the men complaining about not being able to find "someone who accepts them and loves them for them"... and FDS preaching about "don't ever build with a man." So in essence, men and women are like oil and water, constantly repelling each other. Women shouldn't except a man who isn't fully developed into a "man" completely on his own. And men don't want to better themselves or can't help themselves and constantly need the support of a woman to be "bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:22 PM
66

And the Community Dick Award goes to... 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:54 AM
82

"women are emotional not logical" Riiiiiight... because thinking with their dicks makes them oh-so-logical. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:16 PM
425

Oh, honey, he doesn't love you. He doesn't even LIKE you. 😬🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:11 PM
70

"We were on a break!" - Ross 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 08:11 PM
32

Messy and dirty are two different things though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:32 PM
61

It's because men know they have nothing to offer and only make delusional demands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:01 PM
88

When guys say things like that, he is just admitting to have done it to some poor girl himself, but wouldn't want the same to be done to him. It's all projection at this point. If he had the ability to think it up, it's because he'd done it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:00 PM
108

Well, they're not working real jobs, so what else they gonna do? /s 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:28 AM
254

Translation: I lost interest in her after I got what I wanted and NO LONGER want to (or need to) string her along. What do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:27 AM
13

But... no appliance = no problem 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:40 PM
63

If there's smoke but no fire coming from him, it means you're the one burning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:33 PM
45

Your novel was beautifully written and accurate AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:44 PM
41

Men don't have a sense of humor. They just like to destroy things: their lives, their careers, their relationships, the planet, other people, but especially women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:30 AM
80

Why the fuck did she have kids with this useless POS?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:24 AM
67

ALL MEN are LV at best, NV at worst until proven otherwise. Sorry not sorry this has to be the case, but time and time again men prove to be shitty human beings incapable of thinking women are human beings or deserving of respect. It's up to men to change that narrative if they don't like the stereotype they painted for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:50 PM
27

LVM will put out the bare minimum but expect you to put out the maximum. Scrote logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:22 AM
40

"Men's rights" doesn't exist. Have there ever been a men's rights movement? Like seriously a movement where men gathered to fight for a right they were denied? No? Because they never had any rights denied to them, so they never had anything to fight for. Modern men's rights activists just like to circlejerk and complain about not being able to abuse women anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:22 AM
111

I'm not a golddigger. I'm a respect-digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:37 PM
99

The example you gave didn't show that he was immature, inconsiderate, or selfish. It showed that he was either really fucking stupid or ignorant about bed sheets. I mean, he asked you for your help and then took the initiative to go out and buy new & better sheets. Now he won't go back. I get the sense that a lot of dudes just don't know any better because they just literally never thought about it. Their minds are too preoccupied about p*ssy to think much about anything else. And they will only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:48 PM
428

I saw this post too. I don't like the language he used: "she didn't fuck me" like he was owed sex. Edit: Also a lot of comments were telling him it's gross that his mattress is on the floor because of possible mold growth due to lack of air circulation around the mattress. But health concerns alone wasn't enough reason for him to buy a bed frame. No, it's because his dick didn't get what it wanted. Men are pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:39 PM
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Fact is, men like women who like them. Also, a man is much less likely to take advantage of a woman who puts herself out there and says "Hey, I really like you, I feel really comfortable around you, so I was wondering if you'd go out on a date with me on Friday?" NOT FDS APPROVED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:12 PM
21

Don't swipe left or right. Just get off OLD. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:54 PM
74

"Cancel culture" by another name is really just the consequences you face when you are a complete garbage human being and need to be held accountable for the damage(s) they have done. Giving them another chance to "redeem" themselves is just giving them another pass at being a shit human again. I don't understand why this is hard to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:27 PM
79

She's not a reference for vulnerable women in Hollywood even though bad things can happen to any woman of course. And it's a damn shame that it will take something awful happening to her just for her to even believe it's possible that it happened to other women. What a fucking clown. Her privelege has blinded her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:24 PM
51

Building their harem.
/r/askFDS06/11/21 01:56 PM
3

"You talk an awful lot for someone with very little to say." Sometimes you just have to be blunt and get them where it hurts to make a point.
/r/askFDS04/11/21 11:36 PM
3

I agree with you. But given how prevalent misogyny is in our society and the conditioning women have been brought up in, I think the topics she covers is still very relevant to women and how to get them to be "unconditioned". It's the very real reason why feminism is still needed... because the fight isn't over. Not by a long shot. So if she glossed over topics on like how to stand up for yourself, etc in favor of financial independence (which is already covered by many other people) then she's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:16 PM
4

This is an interesting perspective that never once crossed my mind as I watch the two of them on YT on and off. I think Lisa covers different topics on her show that are not covered by Tom. If her show were to do the same topics as her husband's show but with a "female twist" to it, it would just be seen as dumbed down imitation. Something like where she couldn't come up with anything of her own and just talks about the same things Tom has already covered. That's my take on it anyway. These topi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:06 PM
19

I'm down. Where do I sign up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:44 PM
7

What boggles my mind the most is that the one they long for the most is some ex gf. If she was so right and so perfect for him, why is she an ex? They don't treat them right even when they have them, so i don't believe their bullshit or buy into their so called trauma. It's all some elaborate excuse they gaslit themselves into believing and then they try to sell you on the same lie. Notice how they will pine forever but never actually do anything about it, whether go after what he feels is right…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:07 PM
59

I've never understood that one. If you can't stand your own company, what makes her think anyone else can or should? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:24 PM
47

"Why are you single?" Because if I had a choice between being with you or being single, I'd choose single. Every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:18 PM
15

I feel all of this to my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:15 PM
35

"You're going to be single forever..." "You're responsible for your own happiness..." I see no problems here. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:05 PM
19

Really? I'm waiting for all of them to die off. They keep saying sex is a need, like it's something required for them to keep living. Why aren't more men just croaking???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:23 AM
43

Idk, but somebody better clone this guy quick! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:58 AM
106

They also have a serious lack of imagination. It's like they saw this on TV and decided this was the ONLY way to have a bachelor party. Really? How sad for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:58 AM
2

I agree with you. My point was that it's illogical for men to demand payment upfront for services not even rendered yet. No one would do that for anything else in life. Why would they expect women to do that then? Men are on a whole other level of audacity and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:53 AM
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Then set him free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:50 AM
24

Imagine demanding your company give you a paycheck first before you did any work for them. I know some people work this way. Like lawyers usually require a retainer up front, but then they are obligated to actually do work for you, not just take your money and not provide a service in return. In the case that men use sex as upfront payment with the promise of emotional labor after, if they don't actually provide any service in return later, it's not like you can take the sex back like money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:04 PM
83

Did anyone here watch Squid Games yet? Dating for women is like Game 5 where you have to guess which man is like normal glass or tempered glass. Except the game is rigged because 90% of the panels are normal glass and chances of you dying is HIGH. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 12:33 AM
1

What a fuckin clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:41 PM
130

If anything, taking pleasure in sex seems, to some, vaguely obligatory. But today it seems less relevant to women who feel brutalized by the expectation that they’ll be open to anything. Somehow, as sex positivity went mainstream and fused with a culture shaped by pornography, attention to emotion got lost. Perhaps now that the old taboos have fallen, we need new ones. Not on sex, but on callousness and cruelty. Couldn't have said it better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:17 PM
16

Yeah, I've experienced that first hand. Always craving newness and novelty. Why do you think the world is as shitty as it is? Because men run everything. They have instilled their shitty, greedy, selfish, morally corrupt values into the whole system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:05 PM
20

He's telling on himself right there. Becoming a husband and father are not at all important to him. Go figure why he even bothered with the whole charades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:22 AM
23

He's just mad she didn't give him the all clear to abandon her at her most vulnerable. She's very obviously the selfish one here for thinking her pregnancy is important. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:20 AM
44

So what you're really saying is that men make themselves miserable. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:18 AM
92

like his family and wife are chores he has to do and which stops him spending time with his real love: his career Lol, no one told him to get married or to have kids. This guy is an idiot. I can't wait until he loses his family. Then he'll realize what was important all along. Or maybe not. Maybe on his death bed he'll wish he had spent more time in the office. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:12 AM
13

Let me get this straight... Dude wants to further his career, and he did that by getting a wife and having not one but TWO kids? And all the while, he feels like he has nothing? Uh huh, okay... I'm gonna need a minute here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:09 AM
80

The audacity of that man to do something like that in public is off the fucking charts. Men really have been emboldened to just do whatever the fuck they want, haven't they? Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 01:24 AM
166

The replies were full of guys saying they already do this or were going to start now. And then they wonder why they are always alone. Male logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:16 PM
16

I hope her name is on that property too then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:02 AM
17

I'm surprised to hear he even has any pennies available for her to take! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:31 AM
37

They hit the wall and need to secure whomever was within sight so they don't die alone. That's pretty much it. They will marry the first woman that will have them. It's not any kind of accomplishment or honor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:29 AM
16

At this point, the "small blessing" (very loose usage of both words) would be if your man was so lazy he didn't wanna bother with cheating (too much work) or so workaholic he didn't wanna waste time on juggling another woman on top of his wife/gf. So sad but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:27 AM
36

but they want to have their cake and abuse it too Funny yet accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:31 AM
21

Lmao, I never understood how men don't know how to talk to women, and then I read shit like this and it all makes sense. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:42 PM
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If they "change", it's only a response to criticism or consequence. And even then, you'll be responsible for their progress. I think OP meant to say "And even then, you'll be made to be responsible for their progress" because their change was only based on your criticism or consequences. It's not real change. It's change dependent on how another person reacts to their behavior. I don't think OP was insinuating that any woman take on an abusive partner's progress for change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 12:30 AM
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I never understood why society makes it seem as if ghosting was the worst thing that could happen to a person in their lifetime. Lmao. What's the alternative here? Start treating men the way men treat women and murder the ones we don't like? Is that what they want?! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:28 AM
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Makes sense. Imagine these people applying for jobs. "Hi. I applied for this job. Why haven't you answered me yet?!?!?!" They understand well enough. They just don't want to understand it when it comes to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:24 AM
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Lmfao. True statement. Ain't no lie detected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:28 AM
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Correction: A lot of you scrotes are going to be single for the rest of your life. Simply because you value everything else more than building a real relationship with a woman. You value getting p*ssy, impressing your bros, sleeping around, watching porn, shit some of y'all value your damn video games more than women. You're lazy about everything in your life. And will put little to no effort into finding and keeping a woman. If you don't see the value in having a solid woman by your side, then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:24 AM
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I agree with you about how it shouldn't be posted here. We are not here to give validation or credit to men who "get" it. Let men have this one. I'd like to keep the FDS page free of men-content like this as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:28 PM
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Yes. Otherwise, what would be the point of them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:26 PM
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I said this before and I will say it again. This kind of content is not for us. It is made by men for men. If women say these things, we're labeled as bitter old hags and misandrists. If men say these same things, they might get a discourse going. Good for them. I am all about men calling out other men and saying what needs to be said because men will not listen to other women, but they might listen to other men. So I'm all for content like this IF it gets men moving in the right direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:11 PM
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Most men never grow up from this or move out of this phase in life because they lack the self awareness. Sorry, not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:08 PM
55

These unremarkable manchildren think we’re their trophies that they can expect king treatment from whilst they treat us like slaves. I think treating us like slaves is what makes them feel like kings. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:07 PM
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Just a shower thought-- why do we place more value on gifts given to us by romantic partners than the ones we give ourselves or even the ones family and friends give us? The core of this is validation-seeking. Sometimes we have to be our own validator, approver, and compassionate witness first and for a period of time, as most people (esp. men) lack the capacity to do this for us. For me personally, it has less to do validation than it is seeking to be understood, to be seen, and to be heard ful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:32 PM
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No no no... You can't judge a man by his actions. You have to judge him by his intentions! He meant to get those things for her. Just because he didn't, doesn't make him the bad guy. Obviously /s Also, message for male lurkers: For all your claims to have built the world, imagine what the world would be like today if men only had intentions of building instead of actually taking actions to make their dreams a reality. Edit to answer a male lurker's question: Based on the comments here, it seems …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:41 PM
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Many men never transition from prioritizing "what's best for me" to prioritizing "what's best for the relationship." They're focused on their own wants, needs, and preferences. Oftentimes, what's best for the relationship or the other person isn't even considered. All of this. My ex and I sat at the therapist's office and she asked him if it was the other way around, wouldn't he care who I spend time with? And he flat out looked her in the eye and said, "I don't care." Wide eyed, my therapist as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:56 PM
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Wunderscrotes I need a definition here. I think I missed this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:34 PM
38

Don't ever do a job you aren't being paid for. This include handjobs too. Remember ladies, sex work is real work and you should be compensated properly! /s 🙄😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:31 PM
30

I firmly made up my mind that I didn't want marriage or kids when I 14.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:20 PM
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That's because men would be looking for a new gf/wife before her body is even in the ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:19 PM
2

Yeah, this type of indifference to somebody's feeling is death by a thousand paper cuts. The funny thing is... I had mourned the death of my relationship while still being in the relationship, so by the time I was done, I didn't feel anything. No sadness, no pity, no regrets, nothing. I didn't mourn the end of my marriage when we separated. In fact, I felt happy and exhilarated that I was finally free of the torment. I had to ask my therapist if something was wrong with me that in the end, I did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:02 PM
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I went through this. Hindsight, I see it so clearly now. In the moment, not so much. I wish I had as I would have left sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:31 AM
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I love to see this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:46 AM
29

Lmfao Does he know? 🤣 This is what crazy women say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:19 PM
18

I count myself extremely lucky that I never had the urge to be a mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:03 PM
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Men get hateful and resentful at 30+ and project all that insecurity onto women and created the myth of the wall. Truth is, men know they get more worthless and less desirable with age. If he's over 30 and never had a long term relationship, never thought about marriage, and still doesn't know what he wants, he's damaged goods. The problem is... Even if they had their way (sleeping with multiple women with no commitment or responsibilities) they still wouldn't be happy. They have no drive, no sk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:50 PM
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To be fair, all the problems men face are self inflicted, not just the small dick problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:48 AM
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I don't think it's beauty standards or even the age really. I think it has darker implications than simply just how old you are. Part if me feels like men just like the idea of ruining something/someone innocent and young people (aka children) are the most innocent not to mention naive and vulnerable (aka easy prey). So the older you are, the more likely you have been with someone already and so they are less interested because you've already been "ruined" by someone else and not by him. It's ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:17 PM
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That's because the lives of men revolve around pssy and nothing but pssy. What a sad life they lead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:39 PM
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And why would they? They have all the fun and none of the repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:32 PM
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Men don't bother to take care of their general health. Why would you think they would take care of their sexual health? When was the last time a fully grown man made a doctor's appointment without the help/reminder from his mom or gf/wife? Don't bother getting your hopes up that men will put forth any effort for themselves let alone for a woman. It requires too much effort on their part. It's easier/better for them all to live fast and die fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:30 PM
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Well, if I'm going to be maintaining everything else in our lives, the least he could do is maintain me. He ain't good for much else if he can't even do that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:59 PM
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Some took it as a payment for taking on the "burden" of having a woman around. Women were only a "burden" because she didn't have her own money, couldn't make money, couldn't get a job, couldn't get an education, couldn't do anything without permission from a man. I wonder who made the system like that? And then had the audacity to complain about it?? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:55 PM
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Idk man. I would have made a scene and called her much worse in front of everyone, making damn sure everyone knew how I felt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:13 AM
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On the other hand, you've got the men who will ask you "how do you know you don't like X if you've never done it before?" and then try and coerce you into doing some depraved shit to get him off. You literally cannot win with them, so do what's right for you and fuck their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:39 PM
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I couldn't agree more with you. Little Boy Energy is not attractive at all and they lack any self awareness to realize that is what is so off putting about them. Not their looks, height, or bank account. The are repulsive because they are not men. And unlike men, women do not want to date children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:29 PM
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Because we live in a era where critical thinking skills are not being taught. Everyone is basing their logic on their emotions like "If it makes me feel bad, then it is bad." These men have not moved past a 3-year old's basic level of thinking or understanding. Which is why dating is impossible these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:17 PM
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Lmao. When FDS = common sense and everyone loses their damn minds over that revelation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:10 PM
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I actually met a grown woman that was like this too. She was over 40 and a former co-worker of mine. She would call me her best friend even though we just met and never hung out outside of work. She got mad at me once and said some really unprofessional things in front of me to another co-worker, so I cut her off. I don't need that toxicity in my life. Two weeks of silence and she finally broke down and asked me "Do you still love me?" when I had known her all of 4 months maybe? Super bizarre be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:08 PM
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What creeps me out and disgusts me about some men is that vapid, vacant, complete lack of curiosity about women as people I find this incredibly strange too. I have spoken with men who do not ask questions beyond surface level "how was your day" type of thing. It's like a built in mechanism not to ask you about yourself. Why do they do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:55 PM
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Men really tell on themselves. Here they are saying that women make better men than men themselves. In essence, he agrees that men are trash and need every ounce of help he can swindle out of women from cradle to the grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:46 PM
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Absolutely. In which case, why even bother with a guy like this? He's not boyfriend material let alone husband material. Leave this man alone. He's a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:43 PM
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Np. FYI, you may have been downvoted for asking a question answered in the Handbook or from male lurkers. Don't take it personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:41 PM
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You're confused. You can be someone's girlfriend and hold that title, but you should never give "wife" benefits in that sort of relationship. GF status just signifies he is exclusive and committed to you and the relationship for now. He should be making moves towards making you his wife eventually. If that's not happening, you're in forever gf status and need to get out. The point of "single until married" is a mindset to keep even when you're in gf status. It means you need to be able to drop h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:38 PM
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Honestly, whenever you want it to happen. That's your standard to make. Go by your own timeline, and if he doesn't make it happen by then, cut him loose cause he's not on the same page as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:33 PM
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but I think that past that we should be splitting at least some of the expenses Why? She just told you... She said that unless we're in a serious relationship, I'm expected to pay for nearly everything. Dude, get a fuckin clue. Either ask her to be in a serious relationship with you or stop asking her out. The fuck? You want her to take on shared expenses in a non-relationship? Wtf would she do that for? She just gave you the answer you needed in order to solve this problem. Commit. Don't wanna …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:30 PM
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Which makes no sense considering they will have to meet her in person eventually. Unless they just want a text based relationship all their lives, in which, just date a bot. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:22 PM
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I am right there with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:31 AM
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Sometimes you gotta take ambition into your own hands and make the first move. I think this line is what bothers me the most about his post. He's spewing out all this advice, but won't take his own. A woman could be cripplingly shy as well, and yet here he's asking her to do exactly what he won't. Rules for thee, but not for me. I can't with men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:17 AM
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Absolutely. As someone who married young (and dumb) divorce was inevitable. I'm actually surprised my marriage lasted as long as it did. On the other hand, now that I am older (and wiser) I feel like now that I've gotten a relationship and marriage out of my system, I no longer feel to need to go through it again. I'm financial independent and feel like I can live the rest of my life the way I truly want to without scrote interference. Not that I would recommend this path to anyone else, but it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:13 PM
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Lmao. I went on dating apps just to see what the hype was about and wanted to see if it was indeed as trash as everyone said it was... It was! Men have no idea how to talk to a woman, approach a woman, or keep a woman interested. It's really not that hard and I find it hilarious how bad they are at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:04 PM
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Men aren't rescuers and they aren't providers. They want an independent woman who has her shit together, no drama, make her own money, owns her own place, has a car, and no kids. But you turn that around and ask the same standards from a man and all of a sudden you are a gold-digging misandrist. If you've gotten your life together to the point you are self sufficient, then don't bother with men who can't give to you what you already give to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:59 PM
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I'm paraphrasing this quote: All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:46 PM
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If they're not going to put forth any effort in themselves, they won't put any effort into you. There is no point in dating these kinds of guys, and that's why no one is interested in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:18 AM
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They can't change their height and they don't want to change themselves, so they default to the excuse of the thing they can't change Sometimes it's even worse than this. Sometimes, these guys genuinely feel there is nothing wrong with their personality/behavior so it has to be about their physical appearance. That's why they don't look too deeply. That's why they don't think they have anything to change. If only they could look like Chris Hemworth, then they would be perfect. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:01 AM
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But they also don't want a gold digger. Go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:12 AM
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I have always believed that the more wealth and status a man has, the more openly misogynistic he feels he is allowed to be. Money does not make a man HV. If anything, you should be more wary of men with means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:49 PM
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Yeah, no, fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:28 PM
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I keep saying... There should be a Tag & Release program for these men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:55 AM
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Everything diggers. They move from mommy to gf/wifey with very little independent time in between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:52 AM
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What happened to society where watching other people have sex is so normalized? If porn was so "natural", people would be fucking in public, but I don't see that happening anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:37 AM
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It's half this and half "omg, she flipped her hair to try and get my attention." Like dude, you are not the center of the universe. Stop thinking everything is about you. That girl he said was on a fake phone call? How does he know it's not a real call??? He was paying THAT much attention to notice if it was fake or not?! C'mon! Get real here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:39 AM
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and most of the time I'm only focusing on where I'm going and my music, not the people around me Except for when he makes a post focused entirely on what other people around him are doing that really annoys him. I mean, if you're not focused on other people, how would you even know what they are doing or how they are reacting to you? And how do you even know these people are reacting to you specifically? Like, dude, you're not the center of the universe for everyone else in the world. They reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:25 AM
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Lmfao. Is that what I have to look forward to? Guess I'm going to solo travel in Asia first...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:52 PM
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If you're prioritizing the relationships needs while he's prioritizing his own, get out. I tried explaining this one to my ex-husband who chose not to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:42 AM
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I'm sorry you had to experienced this. What made men so socially inept? Can someone enlighten me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:39 AM
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Where's the 50/50?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:19 AM
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You can count my ex among those men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:49 AM
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I don't even understand the point of "trying different p*ssy". There is no difference blonde p*ssy or brunette p*ssy. If you're only there for the hole and not the person, there's literally no difference?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:42 AM
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No. Women usually have the "wish I had never gotten involved with / never gotten married to / never had kids with" conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:37 PM
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Well, if they are ok using a bathroom that has black mold in the shower, crumbs under the oven/microwave/toaster, and a carpet full of hair and lint, more power to them. I want nothing to do with any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:27 AM
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If a woman is ever labeled as "crazy", it's because the man made her that way. Isn't it just weird how these men didn't think she was "crazy" in the beginning and entered a relationship with her willingly? And by the end of it, just somehow she just became "crazy"? She didn't go "crazy" all on her own. She was driven to abnormal behavior because of all the lies, the abuse, the gaslighting, the dismissal, and not meeting any of her needs despite her many pleas. Don't want a "crazy" woman in your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:23 AM
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I don’t know any men who can clean as well as I do, and I really don’t clean all that well. It's not about knowing how to clean well. It's that living in dirt and filth does not bother them the way it does women. This is the number reason why I will never live with a man again. The level of cleanliness will never be on par with what I need it to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:29 PM
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I agree it's hard work. The whole point of the husband/father is to take care of the wife/mother while she is taking care of the child. This is how it's supposed to work. His second job is to care for the wife exclusively as her second job now becomes taking care of the child. This is how nature and society intended for this to work. If you can't find a man to do this for you, don't have children with him. He's not procreation material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:25 PM
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Logically... if a man stays home to take of the kids, it's real work. But if a woman does the same, it's not work at all and she's just being super lazy. It's so obvious! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:14 PM
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"The scrote doth project too much, methinks." - Queen Gertrude, Hamlet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:03 PM
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If he's only with me for what I will do for him, then I don't want him anyway. Pickmes can have him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:43 PM
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YES! Omg, I wish we could tag them before releasing them back into the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:42 AM
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Yeah, women are expected to fulfill a man's needs, but men aren't expected to fulfill a woman's needs. They just label her clingy, needy, and crazy if she asks for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:28 AM
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Funny how when a man needs sex, he's not considered needy though. 🙄😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:24 AM
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They love to tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:18 AM
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That word was only created in order to justify their passive existence. If they had to come to terms with the fact that the world was built by men for men, and they still somehow failed to achieve something - literally anything - with their life, they would spontaneously combust. It's just easier to blame women (like they always have) for their shortcomings and for everything that's wrong with their life. It's funny how women are simultaneously the problem and the solution to all that ails them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:18 PM
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Bullet? He sounds more like a land mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:58 AM
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And prompting into a garbage bin so you can save the next woman the hassle of finding out what you already did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:38 AM
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Thinking about doing something, but never actually doing it is a central tenent of LVM though. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:43 PM
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The problem is... they don't even offer love! 😆 They offer nothing! They just sell you on the idea of offering you some type of love in the future. It's all built on false hope and nothing of actual substance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:02 PM
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he's going to be paying child support for 4 kids while she lives in "his" house and he moves out. I wish she would. The way he's talking about her and their "marriage", he ain't no prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:18 AM
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She gave him 4 kids and he doesn't want to pay her student loans because he's "frugal"? She got the bad end of that deal for sure... Edit: Some scrote commented that he didn't know children had a monetary value to them. Idk, ask the government about that Child Tax Credit if children don't have any value to them. Ask men why they want to be fathers if children don't have value to them. Ask a woman what sort of toll it takes on her body to carry for 9 months and then give birth if children have no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:28 AM
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"making them wait" implies that he'll be getting something in the future. Exactly this! They aren't entitled to anyone and there is no promise of anything happening. There is no "waiting" going on as if there's a countdown or a timer goes off the minute they take us out on dates. It's all just made up in their heads cause their heads are filled with junk ideas. It would be like women saying... "He made me wait 10 years and still no ring!" Men would definitely blame her for "staying" rather than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:31 PM
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Preach! It also blows my mind when the woman is having some man's baby and when you ask him when they are going to get married, it always ends up being that marriage is too serious of a commitment and he's just not ready for that yet. But... being a father isn't a serious commitment? Somehow fathering a child with a woman is less serious than... marriage? Are you fuckin kidding me?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:55 PM
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And yet all the broke men out there will swear that love is all a relationship needs, but they aren't willing to give money or love to a woman. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:46 PM
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I don't believe in the concept of "making them wait." I'm not having sex with some strange man I barely know. I'm not having sex because I don't want to. I'm not having sex for me and my safety. It has nothing to do with them. Sex is not something I give to men or do to men, so saying "making them wait" is just weird. I am waiting for when I feel it is right for me. I am waiting for when I want to. I'm not thinking about him. I don't care what he wants. And if he's going to pressure me or questi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:25 PM
26

WOW. Just. OMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:00 PM
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Like the evacuation in Afghanistan? Disappointed, but not surprised. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:55 PM
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Men on OLD were always shocked that a woman had done more in the outdoors than they had That's because they think women just sit around looking pretty all day waiting to be picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:21 PM
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And then he can just blame shift you about it later if you make a fuss over it. "You should have just asked me for help then!" No, you should have just done it without me having to ask you. Anticipating someone else's needs is very HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:38 PM
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FDS advocates to watch their actions and not trust their words, so why even bother asking them questions when you know they can (and probably will lie) to you anyway? What's the point in that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:29 PM
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"I am grounded in reality and don't believe in fairytales anymore. Dream guys do not exist. I am looking for someone that connects with me." Leave it vague. Either he figures out how to connect with you on your level or he can GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:20 PM
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Yes, and he was still trash in the end. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:47 PM
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Thank you for notifying me! I whole heartedly agree with your sentiment here. Men's audacity levels grow proportionately with their wealth and status levels. In reality all this means is that they were always that shitty wannabe cheater all along, but the wealth and status allows him to be more open about it cause now he has f*ck-you-money. I love the idea of #youtoo. I will definitely be using this because to me, ALL MEN are shit unless proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:22 PM
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That last line. 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:27 PM
7

Well that sucks. Sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:33 PM
6

Why was the original post removed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:26 PM
15

I'm House Ravenclaw though. 😱😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:57 PM
39

Game coming out this week... Tales of Arise? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:42 PM
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Anything of value to you that has unisex usage is free game. My ex used my favorite hair brush on his greasy, dirty, flakey, dandruffed locks once and I was so disgusted I told him he could have it. I was so pissed about it too cause I never found another brush as soft as that one and he fuckin ruined it for me. I never want to share space or live with a man ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:20 AM
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Because if they can't get a hold of him, they will go after people associated with him, usually family though. My brother defaulted on his loans and I remember people calling me trying to locate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:16 AM
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I like that quote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:42 AM
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Don't you love it when they tell on themselves? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:29 AM
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“As a country, we don’t have the tools yet to help white men who find themselves needing help,” Dr. Jackson said. “To be in a time when there are groups of white men that are falling through the cracks, it’s hard.” LMFAO. They are angling so hard for Affirmative Action to apply to them. Fuckin hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:22 AM
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Men in interviews around the U.S. said they quit school or didn’t enroll because they didn’t see enough value in a college degree for all the effort and expense required to earn one. Applies to their dating life as well. They don't see the point of putting in effort for a woman but they want a gf anyway. Many said they wanted to make money after high school. All they ever want is sex. Max reward for minimum effort. None of this surprises me in the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:18 AM
13

I relate so hard to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:09 AM
14

Me crying after my divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:08 AM
87

Ah, the duality of man. They are by default victims of their own oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:02 PM
49

"It came from nothing, was nothing, and died as nothing."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:58 PM
95

I disagree. Dude is straight up off the chart and doesn't even register enough to be negative value. He has no value, is not a man, is not a male, is not human, and definitely not worth anyone's time here. It was born a scrote and will die a mad scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:40 PM
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I disagree. Even if they spent as much time as women to look good, they still have abhorrent personalities and attitudes towards women. Men need a complete overhaul down to the cellular level. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:34 PM
22

Ideal wife? Boy are they in for a rude awakening... when they discover women have minds of their own at any age. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:11 PM
66

Doesn't even need to be that serious. If he's stressing you out, then get rid of the source of the stress!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:16 AM
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Yeah, if you're only seriously "dateable" starting at 21... (because you're presumably finished with school and considered a legal adult by then)... and expire at 25, then what's the point? 😂 Your 20's should be spent establishing your career and working on being financial stable, not dating crusties or dusties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:18 PM
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Well, back in my day... that number was 35, not 25. But your point still stands. If I have an expiration date 1/3 into my lifespan, why even bother dating/marrying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:12 PM
30

Continue their relationship? For what reason? He just said he wanted kids someday but not with her, which means he will be breaking up with her when he finds someone he does want to have kids with. What would be the point of her staying then? I'm not understanding this male logic here. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:57 PM
17

LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:55 PM
49

Inquiring minds want to know... How did he think she was going to react to his statement??? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:34 PM
31

If he said that to you and wanted to be with you, does that mean he considered you beyond his worst enemy? 🤔 Male logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:19 PM
5

I know someone who still lives with the guilt. But she was 16 when she got pregnant and got an abortion. She and I both knew she made the right decision at the time, but that never stopped her from thinking about the never-was kid she could have had. I remember she made a comment about it years later saying that the kid would be X old today if she had kept it. Women feel it and it does not leave them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:14 PM
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Mine told me, "I'm a bad boyfriend." Plot twist: He made an even worst husband. Double plot twist: He makes an excellent ex-husband since I deleted him from my life and blocked him from everything though, so there's that. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:44 AM
236

I'm gonna post this for posterity's sake... The first time I had sex with my ex, I had to ask him if he was in. He moved and I didn't feel anything. I remember I kept thinking, "sex is so overrated" cause sex didn't feel like anything to me. Now I know sex with my ex was just whack. Of course he cheated in the end, and I was like... girl you can have that! 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:30 AM
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while working out if his new victim is worth the hassle of dumping you Sometimes that's not even the case. They just want to make sure the new victim is on board before they dump you overboard. Gotta secure that new bangmaid first. Otherwise, they start telling you they made a "mistake" and how "sorry" they are cause they don't want to lose their supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:16 AM
2

To be fair, women fake it just to get it over with quicker. At that point sex becomes another chore and not at all enjoyable for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:26 PM
22

These are also the same men who complain that they are not mind readers and want women to be more direct with what they want. Um, ok, women are not mind readers either and want men to be direct about their feelings/thoughts as well. Convenient how 50/50 only applies to paying for dates, but not about communication or chores?! The fuck?! And just like with the dishes, women do not want to always tell you how you need to love them. That gets really fuckin exhausting real fast. And if I have to kee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:10 PM
8

I didn't internalize any blame onto myself. I knew that whatever he did was his decision, his choice, his actions, and it had nothing to do with me. He's going to have to live with that guilt for the rest of his life, not me. Now that I'm rid of him, I feel so much better. Life is so much better. The second thing that helped me: I sleep better knowing he's out there ruining someone else's life rather than mine. 😂 There's no jealousy for the other girl, only pity. I don't want him back, and I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:52 PM
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A girl that never dated him, never slept with him, never kissed him Nah, he's obsessed with the idea he had of Genny built in his head. The way he tells it, it sounds like he never even knew her and just stalked her from the shadows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:57 PM
98

Because they feel with their dicks. /s 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:55 PM
33

It’s always been about escaping the consequences of your own actions. Not wanting to deal with the cost of your own behavior, so you make your own baby pay for it instead I read through all the comments so far, and not one person has brought up this: In some instances, the women may be ambivalent about keeping the baby because her "boyfriend" has not committed to her (marriage) or talked about about having/starting a family yet. And most of these instances it's because the man isn't serious, doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:18 PM
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Yeah, they act like getting an abortion is like going to the spa or something pleasant. Not only do you have to deal with the physical trauma, you have to live with the mental trauma and guilt of it for the rest of your life. Men don't had to deal with ANY of that. Fuck them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:10 PM
11

play the sims lol. Or Stardew Valley. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:58 PM
18

Seriously! Dating a man is like having a kid - You start giving up your own life to take care of them. It seriously sucks. If you find yourself falling into that blackhole, just leave cause it means he's not pulling his weight in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:57 PM
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Keep one as a pet if you'd like but never fall in love. I treat them like the kids I never wanted. Great in small doses, fun for a day, but I always get to give them back to their parents, and go home to a clean and quiet home ALONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:55 PM
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DARVO in action. I fuckin hate that shit. They are all demented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:53 PM
36

Lmao Love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:11 AM
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Correct. You just physically described my ex. Dirty, greasy, flakey MFer never did a load of laundry, vacuumed, or cleaned anything in all the time we were together. Oh boy, I don't wish him on my worst enemy. Good luck to the new girl though. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:41 AM
11

Doubles as a list of reasons never to live with a man again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:38 AM
20

Or that "friend" he told you not to worry about. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:31 PM
71

So true. Men don't care. The minute you stop being "fun" and require actual work/effort, they just bounce or start acting stupid so you're forced to break up with them because he's a coward and doesn't want to look like the bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:49 PM
45

Please link me! I'm not on TT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:05 AM
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Let's say he is being truthful about it this time and he's not viewing porn. But you're completely paranoid about it now. Is this how you want to live out the rest of your life? In a paranoid relationship from some dude who can't find a better hobby than porn? You know what you need to do and you don't need any "evidence" to do it. Your misery and lack of peace is enough to walk away from this situation. The trust has been broken and there's nothing he can do or say that will earn it back from y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:36 PM
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Men like that got themselves into that situation by not vetting and dating/marrying/having children without any intention. They live in the moment and live on a whim. Then years later when their life isn't the way they want it to be because they ended up with so many responsibilities they never wanted in the first place, they look for someone to take that burden from them. They have zero to offer anyone. They got themselves into that hot mess and they should have to live with it. Of course they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:29 PM
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I have first hand experience with this one. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:33 PM
12

Abort the baby. Abort the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:44 PM
12

Considering most men don't even qualify as boyfriend material, I hold very little hope of finding a man that is husband material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:44 AM
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Why do these things always sound more like "how not to trigger your abusive husband so he doesn't beat you or try to rape you tonight" than it does "how to make a happy loving home"???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:47 AM
79

Just give them back their favorite line. It's biology. Deal with it. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:09 PM
227

I say go naked on the bottom half and just let blood get everywhere. At this point, who the fuck cares?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:41 PM
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It's OK. He's only this angry and bitter because no woman wants him and he has to try to convince himself and other men that women are the problem here. Do you think he'd be making a video like this if he was in a happy loving relationship? Of course not. Bitter to the end. Die mad scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:28 PM
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The entire reason I never go to a salon. The one time I did, I was charge an extra "long hair" fee. All I went in for was to trim off my split ends. Didn't even request a wash and blow dry. Just a trim to even out my length. $80 bill. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:17 PM
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Yup. Loved how he just assumed she would be into him just cause he wanted her. The delusion is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:23 PM
95

Pikachu constellation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:23 PM
71

Upvoted for Philly slogan. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:22 PM
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Beautiful women are single today because they understand being alone is better than being with a terrible man. Men are so terrible these days, women don't want anything to do with them, including this guy. It's not a hard concept to understand. But they aren't ready to accept this truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:19 PM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:55 AM
31

Daily Male 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:21 PM
18

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:21 PM
4

People like that don't know how to think about others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:17 AM
53

how would him pay rent Not her problem. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:05 AM
12

You really have to hate a woman so much that doing better for her and making her happy just isn't worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:00 AM
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That's why they avoid the candle stores and the bath & body stores. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:04 AM
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"Kids are going to watch porn and there isn't a lot we can do to stop it." Uhh, you can stop making porn, ban porn, and make porn illegal. This is the very definition of "We have tried nothing and we're all out of idea."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:56 PM
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It's funny how people are much more willing to abandon a job/workplace for being toxic and not valuing you properly (ie, your pay rate) than leaving a romantic relationship which pretty much does the same. Emotions are wild. Edit to add: No one ever stopped themselves from finding new work because they had a fear of not being able to find another job. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:52 PM
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Finally a 50/50 post I can agree with! The other "reasons" listed never really connected with me, but this one does. If I am being invited to a date, I do not think I should have to pay since it would be a charge I would not have incurred had I not been asked to come out. This is the most socially acceptable thing to do for all parties involved. Why would you invite me to come out with you and then burden me with the cost? You knew what you were doing when you asked me to spend time with you. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:04 PM
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"Profession" Why is everyone acting like women back in the day were getting paid to be used and abused just because modern day prostitutes get some money now? Spoiler alert: They were not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:22 PM
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This is what happens when girls start acting like boys and try to have a male's sense of humor. None of it is actually funny and it's all emotionally and mentally manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:20 PM
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Yes, and baby girls are systematically aborted or given up for adoption as a standard "norm" in some countries. The ones that manage to survive are then either sold off into marriage or trafficked. Women are so valued. /s 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:13 AM
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When they say women have power, this is the kind of power they hold. Women get to choose who to have children with and if said children will survive into the next generation. Why do you think men and religion try so hard to control women and their reproduction capability? Because we could breed men out of existence if we wanted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:41 PM
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Also speaking of male entitlement, it must be nice growing up in a society that sees all of your emotional and psychological needs as the default. I get this feeling every time a man says "but what about the men?" on a thread about women's issues. We don't talk about men because they are always the default/norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:37 PM
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Men live life on easy mode and still have the audacity to complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:34 PM
8

There are other ways to bring about change. Like breeding them out of existence? I mean they abort baby girls all the time. This still happens in a lot of countries. Maybe it should have been the boy babies all along instead? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:25 PM
21

They really like to tell on themselves don't they? 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:23 PM
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Whenever a man leads with that, it just sounds rapey af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:03 AM
112

Agreed. It's a financial mismatch. Say he avoids going to this expensive restaurant this time. How many more times does she need to go without before this becomes a problem? Just call the incompatibility out from the start and don't date each other then. He is clearly not on her level if he can't afford it or isn't willing to pay. Also, all those bitter men who think so poorly of women from the very start, they are just shooting themselves in the foot with their awful, awful mentality about wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:36 AM
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And it literally does not matter to them what our standards are or how high the bar is set. If there is no one in this universe that can meet them, then we just stay single and leave all men alone. That's it. They are under no obligation to date us, meet the high bar, or put effort in if they don't want to. So why even be mad at us for something they don't even need to do???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:23 PM
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The stupidity never ceases to amaze me. Honestly, it's like watching a train wreck. Highly entertaining and you can't take your eyes off of it even though you know you should. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:16 PM
37

Does it smell like an Apple store to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:11 PM
26

I'm dead. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:08 PM
83

You're looking for the sheets. I'm looking at that sad flat pillow. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:06 PM
21

I'm partial to the firing squad. To each their own, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:42 AM
10

Easy. Quality over quantity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:32 AM
44

Kinda like how dating apps are all men and bots? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:24 AM
34

Came here to say the same damn thing. They have no concept of rights because they never had any limited/restricted/removed. They don't know the definition of the word "rights".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:23 AM
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I get the feeling his friend Matt has been paying for all these fancy places and her bf is just a mooch. No where does she say her bf pays at these places when he's out with his friend. Not even a mention of splitting or 50/50. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:37 PM
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This is wrong on so many levels... But let's just say that this was somehow true. Given that men don't get flowers for women anymore, men must not want bjs. Otherwise, they would be giving women more flowers. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:17 PM
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This was my initial thought as well. They want an easy going woman to smile at him and give him all positive attention so he doesn't have to do any work or put in any effort to draw out the real you. Unfortunately, relationships don't work that way and it takes TIME to get to know someone properly. If you ask me, they want you to "warm up" easily/quickly because it's the gauge they use to see if you'll be open to having sex with them within the next few dates. Let the trash take itself out and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:18 PM
98

Maybe women wouldn't need to "try to be men" if men stopped trying to be the woman in a relationship. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:29 PM
154

Screenshot that shit and send it to his mom. Then block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:52 PM
131

Women don't need men anymore, true, but honestly most women here don't even want a man. They are more trouble than they are worth. That's what they are really up against! 🤣 Edit: To the male lurker who commented that he felt the same way but about women... Your unwillingness to put forth effort for a woman/relationship has been noted! Please kindly take yourself out of the dating pool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:21 PM
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Exactly. Men can't simultaneously want a gf/wife, sex, and constantly complain about being touch-starved and wanting love and affection, then ask women "what do you bring to the table." Seriously?! GTFOH!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:57 PM
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sToP tReAtInG mEn liKe aSsEtS!!! I will stop treating men like assets for money when men stop treating women like assets for sex. I mean, we're still dong this bullshit 50/50, right? Then why do women need to stop if men won't do the same?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:53 PM
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The funniest shit about gamer culture is the new titles they give themselves. The really hardcore gamers who make decent money from streaming their games or from competitions call themselves "esports athletes." ATHLETES. I just can't take that seriously at all and it makes me cringe to my core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:50 PM
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An old Buddhist teaching is that suffering is all in the mind. If these men didn't center their lives around getting and using a woman for sex and focusing solely on how much sex they get, then they wouldn't be "suffering". You made your bed. Now stfu and lie in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:22 PM
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This pisses me off knowing women pass on more of their DNA, but historically "family names" are passed on by the men. Fuckin bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:18 PM
17

This post is also saying: ALL MEN are dangerous to society if he doesn't have a woman. Yikes, way to tell on yourself and your fellow men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:06 PM
55

Of course! If you didn't exist, he wouldn't feel the need to hurt you! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:57 AM
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should have to have anal with incels At that point, they can just have sex with each other's assholes. Why get women involved? These men will stick their dicks in ANY hole, so why not another man's hole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:46 AM
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Yeah, husbands murder their wives & kids. It has nothing to do with having a woman or even access to sex. Crazy men are going to do crazy things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:43 AM
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I can't take dating advice from a guy who is perpetually single still. How can anyone take him seriously? What sage "advice" does he really have to offer when he can't make his own advice work for himself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:05 PM
23

Right? Like I manage to feed myself the other 29 days of the month. I don't need this one meal from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:46 AM
177

I speak Scrotinese. Let me translate this for you. He didn't want his next woman target to be a baby momma because he wanted to be the one to turn her into a baby momma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:09 AM
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I'd like to point out that ever since news broke about all the shady shit priests were doing to kids and how the churches covered it all up for probably decades, the world over has made this a running joke. We see a priest and just automatically think, "Yeah, he probably diddled some kid before," and it's a total normal reaction to have because there is TRUTH behind it. And yet, no one thinks society is toxic for doing this. 🤷‍♀️ But when we hurt men's feelings, suddenly it's toxic! Suddenly, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:03 AM
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This is closer to 95/5 (and shit I can't even find that 5% tbh) with her doing everything! I'd say it's closer to 99/1 where his 1% is him showing up for the dates she planned. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:46 AM
41

NVX saying he "made the biggest mistake" of his life "Oh, I'm glad we're finally on the same page for once!" 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:18 AM
69

Why should men pay for anything? Mm... No one said you had to, but if you want a gf/future wife, then you should want to. Otherwise, stfu and die mad scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:12 AM
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they're just bitter that we have an easier time getting laid If men had some goddamn standards, then this wouldn't be the case. It's their own fault they can and will stick their dicks into any hole - literally ANY hole, human or otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:05 AM
57

It's not being greedy to want a nice ring. Everyone wants nice things. If I was given a ring like this, I would assume he doesn't think much of me. Imagine giving him half assed sex, just laying there with no enthusiasm, staring at the ceiling just counting down to when it's over. You still gave him sex, but it wasn't great or exciting at all. Then he b-tches and moans about how bad the sex is, and you tell him "be glad I gave you sex at all." That's the equivalent of this ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:39 PM
8

Yup. Dream life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:10 PM
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If your point of view doesn't match theirs, it's wrong. This covers a whole range of things for me. In my previous relationship, I wasn't allowed to like things without being called stupid for liking them. And because he didn't like them, I wasn't allowed to like them either because I wasn't my own person; I was just some sort of extension of him. I was told I had shit taste in music because I like to listen to Enya on occasion. I wasn't allowed to buy a Prius because apparently it's a stupid ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:32 AM
38

Testing for sexual compatibility is easy. If he's pushing for sex and you're not ready and he's still pushing? Not compatible. If he's selfish outside of bed, he's going to be selfish in bed. He's not going to put your pleasure first, which means sex is guaranteed to suck with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:28 PM
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You didn’t drive him to shit. He’s a grown man. No woman can make a man do something he didn't already want to do. If she could, she would have made him love her more, not less. Men are stupid. I also love how it's always sounds advice to "communicate", but men just like to keep shit to themselves, cheat, and then talk about all the things that supposedly troubled him about the relationship that lead him to said cheating. Men do not have logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:31 PM
3

The definition of insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:44 PM
42

This is the weird part that I will never understand about men... He fucks up and wants you to forgive him. But if you do, he respects you even less because of it (even though you're giving him exactly what he wants???) And the cycle repeats itself until he has nothing by disdain and contempt for you at which point you two break up. Just absolutely bizarre behavior! Men are truly illogical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:16 PM
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Yeah, I'm not "simping" for a man just so he can provide mental and emotional abuse for me. Lol, no thanks! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:11 PM
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How do you deal with the shame of having stayed? Idk about you, but for me it's knowing that I am free now. Isn't that just the best feeling in the world? No amount of shame or guilt can override the high I am feeling being completely FREE! Also, there was a CS Lewis quote going around that captures it beautifully: “You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” How your story goes from here on out is within your power. There's no room for sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:08 PM
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he’s fucked in the brain if he thinks your value should be defined by looks Gotta love male logic. Men think women are only worthy based on how hot/pretty she looks or what she can do for him. But turn it around on men and they will literally cry if women base men's "worth" on their height or how much money he makes. 🤣 Men can't take what they dish out because they are weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:30 PM
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"You do it so much better and efficiently" The only correct reply to this would be: "Sounds like you need more practice then, so you should do X chore from now on so you can get on my level." After all, we're doing this 50/50 bullshit, right? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:21 AM
53

Yeah, I feel for her cause my ex-husband did the same thing - put a "friend" before me and he only knew her for about a year at that point while we were married 13 years at the time. He had no idea why he should have to put me first. Can't make this shit up! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:48 PM
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I disagree. We need to bring back public shaming of men like this and to make THIS the norm. It's what they did to women and still do to women and what women to do other women. High time we give it back. I'm all for equal shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:11 PM
45

When men want women to not have expectations, but he expects sex by the third date. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:13 AM
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This makes no sense. Your attraction to certain people have nothing to do with your standards. I don't find Chris Hemsworth attractive, but it doesn't mean I think he's ugly. I can say objectively he's a very handsome man. He just isn't my type. Doesn't mean my standards for looks are "too high". What a dummy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:12 PM
32

This makes no sense. Your attraction to certain people have nothing to do with your standards. I don't find Chris Hemsworth attractive, but it doesn't mean I think he's ugly. I can say objectively he's a very handsome man. He just isn't my type. Doesn't mean my standards for looks are "too high". What a dummy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:12 PM
19

That is so fuckin sad. I'm sorry you went through that. Hope you and your kids are in a better place now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:19 PM
98

Even when we don't particularly like the dude anymore, we don't let him starve or stop cleaning his messes. Relationship forums are filled with women having to be told “Stop cooking for him! Stop cleaning up after him if he's being a prick”. Like it never occurs to us to start negative punishments to change behaviour I remember reading somewhere that women continue to cook and clean because if she didn't, he would make her live in filth and starve because he won't ever help even if she stopped d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:40 AM
59

The love bombing I think is easier to spot earlier. Their default is either shower with words or shower with gifts…get her hooked and it will all work out. Absolutely boggles my mind how little depth and self understanding, even when faced with logic and reason Men don't know how to make genuine human connections. They don't even do that with their guy friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:35 AM
108

Men's cortisol levels decrease around their significant other. They make oxytocin when we touch them. I was just reading another post (not in this sub) about some men complaining how "touch starved" they are. I didn't know that was a thing for them, but it sure explains a lot! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:28 AM
39

This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:02 AM
56

No she did not! That less than 1 minute reply time meant she did not blink, did not hesitate, did not second guess. I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:27 PM
16

Also they are not afraid of the consequences not complying with women's standards. If this isn't the truest statement ever made, Idk what is! If you don't want to be broke and homeless, then you gotta find some level of work for the money even if you don't want to work. You have to have money to survive. The same is pretty much true for relationships. Sure, you don't need one in order to survive, but plenty of men act like they desperately need sex in order to live. So in their reality, they sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:17 PM
147

So why is it different when it’s women? I also thought about writing a similar post to your question because it seems like every aspect of trying in life is ok until it involves a woman. Women want men to pay for dates to show they are serious, but men will b-tch and moan about being treated like a wallet and question why they have to do that with "what do you bring to the table?" bullshit. But when you go to work, you're expected to work before you get paid. No one questions this, not even men.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:27 AM
70

The only reason why LVM still have penises is because they keep wanking it to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:52 PM
10

It takes 2 to tango though. I wonder what it says about the women who allow their exes to stay in touch with them like this? Couldn't be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:19 PM
1

Depends on the man. It's been well known men never get over their first love, so yes, it could be every woman after the first. I was talking more about the one they jump to immediately after their last relationship ends, especially if there is no time in between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:51 PM
72

Gotta love how logical it is that men can do whatever they want and women are the ones who have to constantly adjust herself if she wants a relationship. It's easier to just be yourself and stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:21 PM
72

Relationshit. My new favorite word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:10 PM
482

Young people aren't always the best at starting conversations about finding out what a partner liked from the previous events. "I noticed you were WIDE." vs "So... did you have fun/enjoy yourself last night?" I mean, if young people can't even learn how to speak to each other in a coherent and mature manner, they should definitely not be having sex and risking an unwanted pregnancy where their spawn is going to come out just as stupid as the parents...?!?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:35 PM
10

Thank goodness someone finally said this! Thank you for your post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:35 PM
50

This is why they get all twisted at FDS when women start looks shaming and having looks standards. They can do it to women because it's been normalized by society. But women can't because that's just weird, and obviously women just need to take what they can get because ALL MEN are just average at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:00 PM
78

9pm. I'm in bed by 10pm. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:35 AM
144

It's 2021, we don't need men. But if you want one, good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:10 PM
74

Motherhood is a thankless job, but it's still a job. Men will never understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:15 PM
293

6 years. She's been living in his mind rent-free for 6 years. So now he's coming to collect. 🤣 Men are so pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:54 AM
7

Sounds exhausting tbh, and not very worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:36 PM
35

You'll be forever alone. That's your fear, not mine. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:14 AM
26

I don't know if this will help you, but when you get comfortable enough with the guy you are vetting to have "the sex talk," I think you can be a bit coy/playful with your inquisition - ask him "So what's your favorite position/move?" This doesn't directly ask him about porn or his porn usage, but a porn sick LVM will tell on himself (they love to talk about themselves). Whereas, I think a HVM will answer the question very differently. Again, it will have to be up to you to interpret his answer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:10 PM
31

Women don't ghost. They just move on. And no, she doesn't need to tell you why. If men ask you this question, just flip it back onto them with "What did you do to make her ghost you?" or "Why do you think she ghosted you?" Stop doing mental or emotional labor for these lazy ass men and make him think for once. Cause anything you have to say, he won't listen to anyway, so why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:18 PM
12

I experienced this as well. Now I go to sleep better than I ever have knowing he's out there ruining someone else's life instead of mine. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:24 AM
54

There a difference between feeling insecure about yourself and him making you feel insecure about the relationship. The first is what he is accusing you of. The second is what the major of women are talking about. They don't communicate from the same place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:23 PM
8

And all the PickMes clapped for her while FDS weeps. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:45 AM
157

Thank you for breaking that down and explaining it so clearly. To add to your thread, you'll see how the commenter here chose to focus on what the woman will or will not do, making her solely responsible for what happened and what's going to happen. There was no focus on this young man's bravery, no focus on his health and recovery, no mention of the violent ex who did this - NOTHING. This is the clearest example of a man making a woman responsible for the actions of another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:08 AM
11

But hey, she got married, right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:31 AM
125

Anything they have is likely because of the woman. In an ideal world, she would just be taking everything she gave in the relationship, which would rightly be upwards to 80% of any physical property or assets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:18 PM
190

They love the idea of 50/50 until it comes time to take your 50% in the divorce. Then they cry "divorce rape" when they actively ignore physical rape because notallmen. I can't even with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:17 PM
70

This is why 50/50 is a sham. It's never 50/50 if a woman is involved. We give AT LEAST 80%, so you have to come at me with 100% just be fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:15 PM
20

It's almost like all the no-drama guys LOVE drama when they do this shit. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:00 PM
53

This is a very dangerous mindset for men to have. They think that everything wrong with their life is because they don't have a woman/gf/wife yet and that if only they could get one, then everything will magically become better! When they finally manage to get a woman interested in them, and they see that their life is more or less the same (just now he's able to have sex too), he's going to start resenting her for not being good enough to have changed his life for the better. He's going to be w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:02 PM
236

The only thing this proves is that you're more invested in the relationship than he is, and he will absolutely use that against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:13 AM
571

Below is a list of things that will be corrected in order for us to remain married. Nothing is up for negotiation this is a all or nothing agreement. Oh, ok. BYE then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:04 AM
149

I always ask: "Do you always make it a habit of inviting strangers to your home?" And see how he answers. If yes, that's pretty weird, gross, and stupid (also super male privilege here). Drop worthy in my opinion. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't take their own safety into consideration cause you damn well know he won't consider your safety. If his answer is no, then my follow up question would be: "Then why are you asking me?" See how he answers.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 04:58 PM
8

I think it would depend. Ask yourself: What is the purpose of revealing this piece of information? Is this past trauma I haven't dealt with? Am I looking to get sympathy or validation? Do I just need to talk to someone/anyone about it and he's just here? If so, no and go get a therapist. If it's not relevant to him or your relationship with him, why do you need to tell him? Now if it's a new situation like a recent health issue (mental or physical) I think you can test the boundary by mentioning…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:56 PM
74

I don't know who these people are and if I had seen them together, I would have assumed that was his daughter, maybe even grand daughter. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:01 PM
31

You know, I've low key fantasized about this. Same. The only reason I haven't preached this is because of how unfair it would be to the child(ren). And then we run the risk of having men raise the next generation of degenerates. But lowkey, I would love for women to pretend they want custody and see him "fighting" for custody in the court as a way of hurting her/getting back at her for the divorce, only for her to be like "J/K! You can have the kid(s) and all the responsibilities that come with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:52 PM
60

I have a very strong inclination to start telling women to divorce their LVX and leave the kids with the father. Men will very quickly realize how "easy" kids are. Every woman - a mass exodus of "Here's your fuckin legacy. You take care of it since it means soooo much to you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:27 PM
66

The same men who think women live life on easy mode are the same men who don't want to do anything for a woman. Not pay for dates, not make effort in a relationship, not do chores, NOTHING. So how are women living life on easy mode with men like this, who are more of a burden than a blessing? Make it make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:05 PM
42

How do I let go of the guilt? By forgiving yourself and recognizing that you were filling a gap created by a mismatch in communication, energy, and effort. The right person will not feel burdened by you and whatever you choose to share with them. He was not The One and you should take comfort in knowing you didn't do anything wrong. He just wasn't your person, and now you are free to go and find that person. Consider his departure his final gift to you.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 01:59 PM
43

Same. I told my ex no and he did whatever he wanted to anyway. The amount of utter disrespect was astronomical, and I just wasn't going to take it anymore. In the end he tried to play on my sympathies but I had none left for him; he had exhausted my patience and I was finally done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:39 PM
418

Truly the best advice on here. I just want to add: When he shows you who he really is, be ready to make the hard choice and leave him. Always be prepared to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:26 AM
40

Who wants to date someone who clearly hates them? Why are they so surprised? Just utterly baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:08 PM
90

It's "not all men" when it suits them. It's "all guys are like that" when it suits them. They go whichever way the wind blows. Spineless cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:47 PM
64

"I really don't want anything to do with them anymore." Uh huh, cause you got caught right? But prior to that, this was total ok with him? Funny how that works. What a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:33 PM
136

If this is "dudes being dudes" can they really be all that surprised when women want nothing to do with men???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:23 PM
16

Just reply ok and then straight up block & delete him. That will show him exactly how clingy you are. And if this is in person, say OK, then get up and leave. Follow it up with block & delete too. Cause anyone who would accuse you of being clingy, whether true or not, shouldn't be someone you waste anymore time on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:01 PM
14

Funny how he had to try and "convince" her what she would be missing out on when all he was doing was showing how much he knew he was missing out on by doing what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:58 AM
6

He's 38 and still single while all his old friends are in relationships with younger women? Lol, ok. You know something's wrong with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:49 AM
14

His username is DirtyProjector. That's the only accurate thing about his entire post. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:48 AM
2

At this point, they are also beyond saving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:24 PM
6

Love it when they tell on themselves. Makes vetting so much easier. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:59 PM
69

I've never understood this. Why is being spoiled and being pampered seen as a bad thing? Don't we all strive to get better jobs and make more money so we can buy bigger houses, faster cars, and overall better stuff? Everyone does this, but somehow women need to be humble and Iive like they're broke? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:45 PM
8

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:39 PM
29

I don't waste my time trying to explain anything to men. If they want to live in ignorance, I leave them to their bliss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:32 PM
98

The main issue here is their lack of reading comprehension. They read "high value" and assume it means "at least 6 figures" or "wealthy" then claim we are all "gold diggers". We are operating on completely different definitions of high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:09 PM
23

Let me provoke you into a reaction and then act all surprised/offended that you reacted appropriately to my shitty behavior. A classic scrote move. 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:31 PM
39

“if I’m content in the relationship, and you’re not, it’s because you have unreasonable expectations.” It never occurs to men that they aren’t fulfilling and being there for his wife when she needs him. If I wanted a Pet Rock, I would have gotten a Pet Rock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:08 AM
44

Sounds pretty much like how "tradwife" marriages were back in the day. When men complain about how marriage isn't the same anymore, this is they mean; this is what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:10 AM
27

When I told my LVX that I didn't feel loved by him, I was met with his anger which was quickly followed by dismissal. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:05 AM
23

Most women have issues because of men who dicked them over. Pun intended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 09:03 PM
209

P R O J E C T I O N
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:06 PM
25

The unfortunate reality is that most people (men and libfem women) feel like those economic freedoms have already been won and no longer need to be discussed. Women have the right to higher education and to get a job. They act as though being able to do that means the fight is over, as though our rights can't be taken away at any moment (ie, abortion laws being overturned). What a sad bunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:25 PM
67

Violence and rape has been normalized by our society, so much so that they can "joke" about it and no one bats an eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:17 PM
84

Yup, pretty much. Which is why they think women just cruise through life. As if periods and child birth are a walk in the park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:55 PM
173

Men don't have the same struggles in life women do, so even the tiniest of amount of discomfort makes them feel all put out. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:09 PM
92

I'm ok with re-education camps for men so they can learn empathy, hygiene/personal care, and work on their mental health issues. They really need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:59 PM
69

If it's that small, can you even say he has a dick? Isn't it a nub at that point? NUB ENERGY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:11 AM
14

Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:42 AM
8

No, no, no... You're confusing him in the process of cheating. He clearly hasn't cheated yet. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:32 AM
210

I actually appreciate when a man says things like this on a public forum because men will listen to other men; they will never listen to women. We preach on here all the time about how men don't support other men. Well, this man is laying out facts and it will be up to other men to do what they will about the information. But they can never say no one told them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:48 AM
53

This whole dynamic plays out the in the trademark Nice Guy routine, where he likes to say women don't like nice guys like him; they only want men who use them and treat them badly. But nooooo, he's not like that; he would never hurt you. As if that's his whole selling point, which is bare minimum. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:35 AM
89

Porn. I think they see pain and unenthusiastic responses as a reason to go even harder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:30 AM
13

Funny thing is, he had an apartment in NYC and he did the cooking, cleaning, and his laundry while there because he was alone, so he was more than capable. He just never lifted a finger to help me at home when I was there to do it for him. 100% useless user. Thank you for the well wishes. I wish nothing but the best for all women here on FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:47 PM
26

I know what you mean. I had married one of those as well. Couldn't peel a boiled egg right. Didn't know how to fill out a check right. Never did a load of laundry in 14 years. If you ask me why, I wouldn't be able to give you a good answer. The only thing I can say is: Thank goodness I am free now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:33 PM
24

He sounds like a child, always wanting things his way and can't fathom another person having their own opinions, thoughts, and feelings. Men who are uncomfortable with their own feelings of discomfort should be avoid like the plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:28 PM
63

Being with the right person should feel effortless because they understand you and you two are compatible. It doesn't mean, nor will it ever mean, that relationships do not require work. Relationships are like a second unpaid job, but when it's the right one, it's rewarding in and of itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:20 PM
80

The "not knowing better" thing. I know better now. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:16 PM
38

Ouch. The truth hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:15 PM
7

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:06 PM
26

This. But I'll also add that women are capable of self reflection and are willing to do the hard work that is necessary to level up and become HV. LVM, on the other hand, are often allergic to responsibility and therefore incapable of self reflection (because they will blame anyone but themselves for their failings.) If they aren't willing to put forth effort while in a relationship with someone they claim to love, they will not put forth any effort into bettering themselves outside of a relatio…
/r/askFDS07/07/21 03:10 PM
7

while without access to this it is very likely it would never have come that far. Ignorance is bliss. They wouldn't know they were missing out on anything if it wasn't for social media and porn. These men seem to think that every other guy out there is having orgy levels of sex all day, every day and they are somehow missing out on this "fun" but new studies are showing that the younger generations are having less sex than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:00 PM
30

The good ol' Shaggy defense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:30 PM
59

Everything apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:13 AM
145

Men like this are absolutely disgusting to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:17 PM
5

Chore charts 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:02 PM
6

Wtf? How does that even make any sense???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:54 PM
12

Mirror their behavior back. Tell them "I'm not being rude" and walk tf out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:57 PM
5

Should have gotten up and said "I'm not being rude," and just walk out. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:56 PM
16

Why a man can’t do all that? Different priorities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:56 PM
18

The "damsel in distress" narrative is pure projection. Men are always looking for a woman to save them from themselves, whether it's cooking, cleaning, loneliness, or that build-with-him bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:55 PM
6

The pure desperation of NEEDING someone to feed off of. I am a producer, he is a consumer. He sounds like a parasite tbh. Just like my NVX. Glad you're rid of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:55 PM
43

Honestly, even if he didn't have bad intentions, he's so obviously not thinking about how it will look/feel to you and not taking your comfort into consideration. That's what we are vetting for here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:38 AM
81

claims it will never happen again Lol, it always happens again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:17 PM
59

The new girl is always a bandaid fix for whatever issues they don't want to deal with about themselves. They never take the time to self reflect and heal before jumping into a new relationship, and all the pain they caused in the first relationship will just carryover into the next one. The poor girl is just a rebound, a distraction, and will never be anything more. I always feel badly for the next girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:07 AM
44

I envy you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:25 PM
14

'After all I've done for you!?' "Doesn't matter what you did cause you didn't do it for me. You did it for yourself."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:12 PM
30

I wanna watch this version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:26 PM
61

Him: I mean I think I like her, Also him: I really like her. Lol, wut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:36 AM
8

He was also a waste of skin. I learned a new phrase today. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:14 AM
163

Honestly? Tale as old as time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:26 PM
79

He is saying she needs to live for him and rely on him for everything so his fragile ego could "feel" like a man. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:36 PM
68

You don't. I spent 3 months looking for a place, worked with a realtor, and 2 mortgage lenders (I switched lenders) before I ended up purchasing a place. None of these people would have worked with me if they thought I was an impulsive flake who couldn't afford it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:34 PM
489

Any time you don't let a man do whatever he wants, it's "controlling".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:07 AM
7

🤣 I hope you slammed the door shut and turned off the lights and proceeded to pretend like you weren't home anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:41 PM
3

They invite you on a date to eat but get mad that you actually ate This made me laugh way too hard cause its so true! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:33 PM
7

I never understood why men would bitch about buying a woman dinner if they were interested in her, but not bat an eye at spending money on strippers/only fans services. I guess that's how you weed out short term vs long term thinkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:24 PM
114

Can we also add the word "infatuated" to this list? My LVX was telling on himself from Day One and I was too young and stupid to see it then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:12 PM
6

Solid advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:08 PM
16

They say that men mature slower/later than women, but the stories that women tell here on FDS makes me question whether men ever mature at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:06 PM
7

Or to put it another way... In their minds, they are only winning if you're losing. What a sad and miserable life if that is the only way they can see a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:04 PM
11

God, the accuracy of this thread. FDS never ceases to amaze me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:01 PM
11

giving up something minor to gain something major is foreign to LVM. This reminds me of the time my LVX totaled his car in a game of chicken on a highway with a truck. Mind you, he drove a really small 80's car. The insurance didn't want to pay for the damages, which cost more than the car, so they declared it a lost. My LVX boasted how he had "won" that game of chicken cause he would not let that truck merge in front of him and he stood his ground. And many months late, he kept complaining abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:00 PM
51

I was in this guy's wife's exact situation. I'm appalled by how common this scenario is in reality. It's not worth the eventual headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:50 PM
159

Start treating yourself this way and it will make it easier to accept when/if men do it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:54 PM
58

I wouldn't even consider that "asking you out". That sounds like straight up harassment. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:57 AM
85

Imagine saying that about your career path. "Don't go to the interview. They should be throwing money at you and begging you to work for them. The company needs to prove they are worth having you work there." Please. 🙄 Everyone knows: if you want something in this life, you have to work for it and go after what you want. In the case of these incels, they only have themselves to blame for their own misery. Like a girl but don't want to tell her, chase her, or do anything for her? Then I hope you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:47 AM
5

I've caught them emotionally cheating when their SOs are not around. This happens often because men don't understand that this is cheating. They think because it was never physical, then they didn't "cheat". Why don't men take this seriously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:32 AM
37

We all die alone. So true. Next time a scrote says this to you, just asked him: "We all die alone in the end, unless you're offering to come with me when I go?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:47 PM
1

Yes, but they put the wrong date on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:07 PM
20

Sounds like FDS dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:21 AM
765

"I wrote the wrong age in my profile and don't know how to change it! Oh well!" No one wants to date someone that incompetent though, so he's stupid either way. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:44 PM
15

A LVM will take years of your youth and feel like he's the one getting a bad deal. ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:49 AM
273

My personal experience: My brother (38) is currently unemployed. In fact, he has never worked a regular job before (just small cash jobs), defaulted on all of his student loans, and currently lives off his wife. Oh, and they just had a baby. 🤦 After the divorce, my ex went to live with his friends (a couple about to have a baby) in their basement. He works for them too. As far as I know, he has no plans to change this arrangement. 🤷‍♀️ My best friend's brother (30-something) is also unemployed, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:43 PM
2

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. But you are absolutely better off without him. As for my LVX, he is what he is = no longer my concern. At the end, he told me he would never get married again. His life long dream is to become a beach bum (literally his words, not paraphrasing). He wanted to be free of me, free of responsibility, free to do whatever he wanted. Funny how, despite everything he said, what is the first thing he does? Get involved in another relationship! But he doesn't want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:03 PM
6

Wtf did I just read???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:24 PM
48

They always talk about how women should build up men, but you never hear how men should build up women. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:10 PM
166

Once you've built your own empire, you're more unlikely to let a scrote into it. Build your life first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:21 PM
16

Fan-fuckin-tastic! I got a fabulous new job that essentially doubled my income, and then I bought myself a newer car and condo. ✌️ Life improve 1000% after he was gone. Don't miss him at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:43 PM
15

Just goes to show he never appreciated anything I did for him, never appreciated me as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:37 PM
26

Same, sis. That girl "friend" he told me not to worry about? He started talking to her about dating the minute we were separated. It's not like he even waited until the ink was dry cause he hadn't even signed the divorce paperwork yet. Then he swore up and down it wasn't like that; that their "relationship" developed after we separated. Yeah, Idk about anyone else here, but attraction and feelings don't just develop overnight like that. He hadn't even properly processed that we were breaking up/…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:34 PM
29

Wow, what a narc. Glad you got out. Now we are both scrote free!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:32 PM
105

Women tend to self-sacrifice so much of themselves in their relationships — men cannot fathom that So the one and only couples therapy appointment my ex and I had before I initiated the divorce, I was stating what I needed from him (to give up this other girl he was seeing???) and he fired back with "Why do I always have to be the one to sacrifice something? What have you sacrificed for this relationship?" I have never unloved someone so fast as hearing that come out of his fuckin mouth. I knew …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:25 PM
14

How he reacts to you when he doesn't get his way. He lied to my face and did whatever he wanted to behind my back anyway. How he goes about disagreements and negotiations. He felt like whatever he did wasn't wrong and thought I was overreacting. He would constantly throw the "What you don't trust me?" excuse at my face in order to turn it around and guilt trip me and make himself the victim. How he acts when you are vulnerable and depend on him. Couldn't handle me being vulnerable. Thought I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:35 AM
27

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:58 AM
11

Considering how deep misogyny and patriarchy are ingrained in our society today, just leaving those deeply toxic movements aren't enough to undo the damage done. Stepping out of the deep hole into a shallow hole means you're still in the hole. They would have to rise above much more than just "getting out" to truly be considered reformed. And, well, we all know how much effort men do not like to put into relationships, let alone themselves, so I don't have any reason to believe a man can ever be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:58 PM
22

Men who involve themselves in those depraved circles just take themselves out of the dating pool and end up blaming women for it instead. You're undate-able because you made yourself undate-able. Women had nothing to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:51 PM
16

I agree with you. This was a very different sub when I first joined with only 2k members. The quality of the posts have gone way down, but there are hidden gems once in a while. I still lurk and comment every now and then, but the energy is definitely different now. I guess this is what inevitably happens when it's grown too big.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:41 PM
1

More of a reason for them to die then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:36 AM
52

They are aiming for zero effort because even low effort is too much effort for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:32 AM
443

Yeah, your realtor is pretty shitty, which is weird cause selling you a home pays them. Why should they care what you buy as long as you buy with them in the end?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:48 AM
41

They made their bed. Now they need to lie in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:24 AM
55

I saw a comment from a different post (read it a while ago now...) that claimed FDS women are all crazy because we expect men to spend at least $10k on us or we don't consider them HV enough for our liking. Like if you're going to lie about this sub, at least make it a convincing lie??? I remember reading that and just laughing at the absurdity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:50 PM
57

I realized that she truly believes women are beneath men and she does not respect herself or other women because she’s a women. Reminds me of the cultural phenomenon in China where they abort baby girls because boys are seen as "better" or "more valuable" to society. Imagine you are a pregnant woman and being able to think that you don't want a baby girl because Chinese society says girls are bad all while being a WOMAN who is creating LIFE within her. That is some next level cognitive dissonanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:43 PM
36

My LVX was 6'4" and useless, so I bought a step stool to replace him. Best investment ever. ✌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:45 PM
50

Get that shit notarized!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:34 PM
165

Just be aware that just because a man isn't in contact with his ex, it's not always because it was his choice. Maybe his HVex blocked and deleted him, so he has no choice in the matter. So don't take this as a "green flag" on his part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:19 PM
3

Lol, this is every LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:00 PM
16

And also why they think women peak at 25. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:15 PM
13

Ask a man if he would ever date a woman who would never have sex with him. And if he says no, then call him a "sex digger" since he's only with her for the sex right? 🤷‍♀️ Same logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:57 PM
145

If you hurt someone without the intention to, what difference does that make in the end? Your intentions mean fuck all if in the end, you hurt someone. Try killing someone and telling the judge that you had no intention to hurt anyone. They will go from murder to manslaughter. Your intentions mean squat. Judge their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:22 AM
73

It goes both ways though... Like if he is really that stupid, should I really have anything to do with him??? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:10 AM
89

If their only options are to step up or stay single forever, I can guarantee you they are not going to step up. As for staying single... That's exactly why rape happens. If you can't get it through normal means (manipulation, coercion, etc.) then do it by force. ETA: Men are depraved. They would absolutely rather rape a woman than to better themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:42 AM
34

Big yikes! 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:41 AM
24

Yes, and all the while gaslighting you about how it's "different" and totally "not the same thing" and you "shouldn't worry about it" and that you're "just jealous and insecure". Give me a break. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:11 PM
26

It's different because he's allowed to do whatever he wants and you're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:06 PM
21

He's just projecting and showing his insecurity. He's making it out to be something it's not because he can't fathom a woman being a fan of a man for his art and not for him/his body/etc because men do not think the same way women do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:06 PM
38

Where did romance go anyway? Why are men so inept with it now? It's not even that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:49 PM
351

Reduce women to their looks and they'll reduce you to your paycheck. ☝️☝️☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:33 PM
40

Wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:38 PM
8

Yikes. No thanks. 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:25 PM
3

IME, men have never been worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:21 PM
482

I've always wanted to ask a man: "So you want me to have sex with you, but you don't want me to enjoy it. Is that correct?" Like why on earth would anyone do that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:44 AM
10

Is there ever a time and place to reveal trauma? Outside of therapy? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:31 AM
24

but they still hold this mentality that men pick women. Where are they getting it??? Where??? I laugh about this too. If anyone wants to take a look at the other dating subs, you'll see it's filled with men complaining about their lack of options, lol. It must be one of those "manifest" mantras they tell themselves as a coping mechanism, so they don't go full incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:14 AM
377

This is the "wall" that women hit at 25. It's called becoming an adult and knowing better. They want to get you before you get wise to their low effort bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:01 AM
11

Holy shit. I was also 13/14 at the time when a random stranger on the street grabbed my ass on my way to school. 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:20 AM
149

The KonMari method for men is the best! Does he spark joy within you? No? The logical conclusion = 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:49 PM
40

WHY??? JUST WHY??? Wouldn't it be easier to... Idk... poop IN the toilet instead?!?!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:54 PM
23

Dried fecal matter left behind because they don't wipe their asses and don't clean their asses in the shower either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:53 PM
77

Standards high ladies! I'm sorry, but what??? Not peeing on me and not pooping in the shower is NOT HIGH STANDARDS. Holy shit, these men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:46 PM
61

abuse is a problem of values Goddamn, so true. Left my ex because his values were utter shit and not compatible with mine. In fact, I believe most men do not have good moral values for everyday life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:42 PM
27

Yeah, I'm a planner and I know what I want to do in life and where I'm going, so I need a partner to know the same, not be some dead weight I'm dragging around with me on my journey through life. Don't hold me back with that shit. It's not attractive. It's especially a turn off when they don't know what they want but they want a gf/relationship anyway cause they are bored or lonely or both. They aren't serious about you because they aren't serious about anything in life. What a waste of time and…
/r/askFDS12/06/21 01:29 PM
13

Any excuse not to take responsibility because that requires too much work on their part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:25 PM
80

I've run into this problem as well. It's either they just want to make sexual innuendos all day or they just want to talk about themselves all day and rarely ask you anything about yourself. Like do you want to get to know me? Do you even like me?? What are we even doing here???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:17 AM
37

At 40, he is set in his ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:15 AM
83

If she didn't find out about the debts until after the marriage, would she be able to file for annulment/divorce on those grounds??? I feel like she should have some legal discourse for being deceived...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:34 AM
66

She's too young to be putting up with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:12 AM
12

scrotes with terrible personalities and looks. You forgot to add low EQ so trying to even form an emotional connection with scrotes is next to impossible. If you can't fix the ugly, can't develop a personality, and don't work on emotional intelligence, then sorry my dude, you are the trifecta of fail and your genes should not be passed on. Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:28 AM
3

WHAT IN THE HOLY GARBAGE IS THIS SHIT POST?! Sorry, I didn't even bother to finish reading this. I just can't...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:24 AM
19

Everything they say and do is just pure projection. They call women shallow because they are shallow. It can be applied to anything they say about us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:57 AM
37

I feel like all women need to have a period of time where they do not date and do not think about men. Just live life for yourself and do things that make you happy or build your career. That's when you realize that you can absolutely go through life single. I think most women date young and just never get out of that cycle of constantly having someone feed them validation. Stand on your own and it makes realizing you can do this so much easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:51 AM
12

I love her tiara collection! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:22 AM
65

No expectations? Then don't ask me for sex, attention, or affection. Simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:00 PM
60

He likes to receive, but not to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:08 PM
36

What this boils down to is that he did this on purpose to get a reaction out of her because it knew it would upset her. He did it on purpose. He upset her on purpose. And then they complain when we can't take a joke. It's not a joke. And if it was, it was a joke made at her expense. So either way, it was a shitty thing to do. Why would any woman stay with a man who so obviously hates you or at the very least, doesn't care about you or give a shit about your feelings?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:18 PM
34

"Babe, I didn't cheat on you. I was just teaching her a lesson!" I could totally see this as an excuse. 🙄😒🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:40 PM
31

he's expecting you to do all the work while he just lays there Remember when men would complain about women who starfish? Lmao...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:46 AM
14

Good lord, did we date the same person?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:49 PM
9

I relate to this so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:15 PM
1

I'm so sad I can't upvote this more than once!! P.S. I just became an aunt. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:45 AM
170

JFC. Everything really is all about "muhpenis" with them, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:29 AM
23

scrub away his crusty brown shame HOLY SHIT! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:27 AM
14

smelled like yeasty death I'm dead. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:20 AM
21

Even worse than that, I've been told "the water will get it," so they aren't even talking about the trickle down soap effect. FML. 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:18 AM
84

I always operate under "guilty until proven innocent" when it comes to men. The opposite when interacting with women though. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:12 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:59 AM
2

Cries in USA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:06 PM
2

I'm in the US. Will look into my coverage to see if this is covered or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:03 PM
16

Uh huh... He raised himself and look how he turned out. 🙄😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:55 PM
3

Is it expensive? Does insurance covers this procedure at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:25 PM
9

This is really what needs to start happening. Don't like the rhetoric surrounding your gender? Then DO something about it instead of preaching "not all men". ETA: I'll believe it when I see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:19 PM
8

We will forever remember the nest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:02 PM
6

I am all for this! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:55 AM
211

Men talking about how women should be having 3 kids minimun, Guarantee you that none of those men would take care of the children they end up fathering, so who do they imagine is taking care of all these kids???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:34 AM
48

It's amazing how much better my life got once I got divorced and started living my life solo, only focusing my time and energy on giving myself everything I missed out on during my 14 year long marriage. Live life for yourself, not for anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:00 PM
6

My side hobby is an alternative fashion. And my ex was super upset that I didn't dress the way he liked/wanted me to. Like dude, this is MY hobby that I do for myself and if I want to switch up my fashion style to something else on a whim, that's got ZERO to do with you. The fuckin nerve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:21 PM
9

Girl, you do you! Live your best life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:59 AM
30

If we get to the point of "disgust" though, that relationship is over. There's nothing he could say or do to win her back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:39 AM
34

So... Why doesn't the asshole go stay with the girl he was cheating on his pregnant gf with...? Just saying. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:26 AM
79

My ex in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:19 AM
1

Is it worth it? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:13 PM
80

I personally liked the "go touch some grass" part. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:36 PM
2

She should take her own advice and do #7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:43 AM
14

Queen energy! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:19 AM
155

I think he was born with the wall. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:18 PM
319

He's essentially telling on himself. "I am older now and never worked on myself and still dress and act like I did when I was an undesirable teenager. Now that I am an adult and should know better, I am not. And women still don't want me." What in the hell is this thinking???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:17 PM
14

You left him everything that was his though, which just happened to be a whole lot of nothing. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:10 PM
5

I would like to hear your theories!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:30 AM
59

These men waste all their time coming up with stupid games and strategies to manipulate women. Have they... I don't know... try being genuinely kind? Or fuckin normal as a strategy??? JFC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:08 AM
33

Even when you don't have an inch to spare, they will still demand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:29 PM
143

The very definition of "give an inch and they take a mile."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:37 PM
3

TIL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:24 PM
10

I am contributing. I SHOWED UP. The fuck are they on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:34 AM
13

At that point, you know exactly what kind of father/partner he's going to be and you should get rid of him immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:08 AM
10

Really? I would just say no in any of these situations just on principle. Fuck his feelings. It's not like he was thinking of me when he pulled this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:04 AM
24

Yeah, love how they think they are competent enough to lead a nation, but doing a load of laundry is just soooooo complicated. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:08 AM
8

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:06 AM
23

Men lie so much, they don't even think they are lying anymore. That's how insidious it all is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:01 AM
44

Lmao, you give him too much credit. As if the thought ever even crossed his mind. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:45 PM
80

Speaks volumes about the state of men and what women think about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:55 PM
10

I also don't understand why wedding marketing is mostly directed at women Because women are usually the ones who spend money. On makeup, clothes, home decorations, furniture, food, kitchen stuff, etc... you name. Men don't really shop the way women do. So when you want to rip off sell to anyone, it's the women you should target market to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:03 PM
14

Chances are he will not leave you for someone else if he lets you keep the money. Negative. My ex and I had a joint bank account/assets where I was the one who took care of everything financially. He still fucked up. In the end, everything was split 50/50 even though he didn't deserve 50%. This was just the easiest/quickest way to divorce instead of dragging it out and fighting. Anyway, my point is, don't be fooled by a man who will let you hold onto his money like it's yours. That's not a "gree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:37 PM
82

I was told the same thing by my doctor. I also got tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:39 PM
42

Even more of a reason to stay away from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:30 PM
35

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:06 AM
14

Lmao. Yup. LVX hid information from me because he didn't know how to tell me and was afraid of my response. My response was to divorce his dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:09 PM
7

I could not agree more. My ex couldn't stand to watch me suffer in the agony that he caused me, so he just bounced. 🤷 He was not only useless, but absolutely worthless. He wasn't even worthy of the title "trash".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:03 AM
6

The modern day equivalent of a "right of passage to manhood" includes losing his virginity as quickly as possible followed up by banging as many different women as possible until he's essentially forced to settle down and get married. Really it's all just a man's way of one-upping each other in someone endless and vain attempt at being the most "alpha" (aka the one who has slept with the most number of women) as if that's some sort of accomplishment in life? It's a meaningless purpose. And the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:48 AM
11

If they've got this much time on their hands, they should be fixing their own gender before coming to "correct" ours. But I have a feeling I will die before I ever see that happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:47 PM
105

If he didn't want kids and wasn't willing to get a vasectomy... the LOGICAL conclusion would be to not date this woman...? 🤷 The logical gender strikes again. 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:05 AM
14

I wish they did die without sex. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:14 PM
31

In addition to your comment... Men love to blame women for being needy but have no problem stating they need sex and the adoration of other women. Men are needy sex pests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:35 PM
117

The "am I expecting too much?" part killed me. She's not expecting anything she hasn't already given to him, and she thinks she's not allowed to have that? My heart goes out to this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:45 PM
8

Don't worry. I did. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:25 AM
16

We always hear about how a man has needs, but never how a woman needs safety and security in her relationship. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:23 AM
18

You are a whole mood and I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:09 AM
19

I see your list above and think it's perfectly reasonable, honorable even, to be such a man of integrity and worth. I see nothing wrong with it. I wonder what happened to men as a whole to make them look at that same list and think "pssh, I ain't no simp" and think that's a completely acceptable mindset to have. What's wrong with being honest and loyal to one woman? Why the need to be man-ho? What's wrong with providing for a loving spouse/family/home? I really don't understand why men wouldn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:51 AM
26

I am happier now than I ever was in the last 14 years (when I was married). If I had to do it all over again, I would never have spoken to him let alone marry him. Better off single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:59 AM
29

"If you didn't think I had anything to offer you, why are talking to me?" 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:35 AM
25

Isn't it sad women have to resort to such measures in order to just live? Like, why can't we just say up front "I'm not feeling this" and be able to walk away freely without expecting to die?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:12 PM
202

"peak earning potential" I thought these old scrotes didn't want gold diggers? Why flaunt something you're not even going to offer like it even means anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:44 PM
23

Why does he even care? Why bother sending such a message to women he doesn't even know and will probably never know in real life? He's so pressed about this place cause it cost him a girlfriend, and he's acting like he's doing you a favor by warning you about how "toxic" FDS is. Just go find another Pickme girlfriend and leave FDS women alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:20 AM
19

Amazing! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:02 PM
7

I was married young and for 14 years, separated for 1 year, divorced officially about 5-6months now. I gotta admit that not much has changed in my life. That alone says a lot about the marriage itself. 🤣 You can't miss the company of someone who was barely present in your life, can you? While physically present, sure, he was always emotionally absent and he must have checked out mentally many, many years ago. I'm better off on my own, not having to carry the burden that was his life on my should…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:48 PM
15

Did you date the Devil?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:51 AM
6

Don't Tell the Bride. It's the name of the show they are talking about in this thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:32 PM
30

Sad reality is... The men who have to buy sex are precisely the ones that can't get a woman because women do not want them, thus he has to pay someone to have sex with them. It's not a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:59 PM
5

Lmfao. You killed me with this statement. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:56 PM
19

it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders I described my separation in this same manner to my therapist. Knowing it was over and I was finally free... it was the most wonderful feeling in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:46 AM
16

This has been my experience. He couldn't even lift a finger to sign divorce papers that were provided to him with "sign here" labels. 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:32 PM
41

Gotta love it when men call women chaotic, crazy, and irrational but we are not the gender who loses our shit and goes on a killing spree even though we have more of a reason to than men. But yeah, let's just keep calling women the crazy ones. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:31 PM
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Then they have the audacity to say they are taking the job with increased pay FOR the family. Yeah, ok, if your new job includes living apart from the "family" so you can skirt your responsibilities as a parent and partner, then I say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:28 PM
127

Women do the labor and men take the credit. Tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:08 PM
31

Bet you he still expects her to know how to cook and cleaning and have sex the way he likes. Doesn't sound like he wants someone "inexperienced" to me. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:07 PM
12

You can't be using him for a free meal if you don't finish your meal (taps forehead) /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:02 AM
126

Meanwhile he's sitting there, smug that he bagged a woman like you for a deal even Walmart wouldn't price match. I love your writing style. Looking forward to more of your posts!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:45 AM
42

I love hot bean water, but I love it without the LVM even more. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:31 AM
18

NEET, an acronym for "Not in Education, Employment, or Training", refers to a person who is unemployed and not receiving an education or vocational training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:06 AM
56

This works the other way around as well. If you're not willing to help a woman in a life threatening situation, then you are a piece of shit person, and don't deserve anyone's time or attention. So ok, you keep doing you, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:00 AM
10

It's like saying you agreed to the terms of service by checking the box at the end of checkout, but you know for a fact that no one actually reads those things... It means absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:18 AM
20

I'd like to add point 3. The men who manage to sleep around and use women for sex must think that if she was willing to give it up to him that she must be sleeping around with a lot of men too so she must be "riding the cock carousel" and therefore not "gf/wifey material". 100% projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:42 PM
47

Glass ceiling - (n) an unofficially acknowledged barrier to advancement in a profession, especially affecting women and members of minorities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:37 AM
1

I mean, you can if you want to, but it's kind of pointless to judge someone's opinion. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:11 PM
21

I have a feeling that 99% of men knew they would wind up on this registry if it were allowed to pass. Men know. They just don't want to get caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:50 PM
9

"Pick better" as if women are mind readers. Then they have the audacity to say that women need to communicate because men are not mind readers. Make it make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:48 PM
8

If it was a jail full of women with women prison guards and we never saw a man again, would we call that paradise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:40 PM
10

Wow, I agree everything you just said. I need this in the handbook. Can't upvote this enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:39 PM
1

I'm late 30s, nearing 40, and she looks older than me. Let's not judge other people's perception of age. And 27-30 do not have wrinkles like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:43 PM
5

27-30?! She looks like she's 40 in that photo! Holy shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:46 PM
51

Short term thinkers don't think about the long term consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:44 PM
443

LVM: You're sexy as hell. Me: Thank you, but I'm not interested. LVM: Whatever. You're a fat fuckin b*tch anyway. Me: Thank you, but I'm still not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:15 PM
10

"The LVM doth project too much, methinks." - Queen Gertrude, Hamlet, 2021.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:46 AM
8

She can have them. ALL OF THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:39 AM
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I fully support this message... to be aimed at men and only men. Don't focus on get off, guys. Just settle for the physical and emotional intimacy of it all. 👍 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:13 AM
19

If women are expected to carry the relationship once they enter into one, then men can at least initiate. All this talk of 50/50 and they say they can't even approach and plan dates? Sounds more like 0/100 where women are on the losing end. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:07 PM
42

It's easier to tell his friends that the woman he took out on a date didn't want to see him again because "she was a gold digger just using him for a free meal" rather than "I fucked up" or "I suck at dating" or "She didn't like me". Notice how none of these men ever take responsibility for a date going badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:15 AM
4

Good on you for leaving him. You deserve way more than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:35 PM
8

Uhh... That's... I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:33 PM
11

"why did you tell our friends that we broke up" lol, wut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:29 PM
10

They gotta lie to keep women on their toes! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:27 PM
21

He's complaining about not getting everything he was entitled to by virtue of being born male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:26 PM
37

They are only lazy because of their entitlement mentality. They think good jobs and good women are just supposed to come to them without them having to do anything for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:24 PM
18

And yet he offers no solutions, only complaints. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:22 PM
24

What a glowing endorsement for Mastercard. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:47 PM
3

you might think about how you've been treating others and what energy you put out in to the world. But also, I hope next time something bad happens to you I only wanted to fuck you The irony and hypocrisy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:31 PM
7

I feel like her workload isn't as exhausting as mine That's all I needed to read. And if doing chores is too difficult because of his PT work and classes, then why date at all? Clearly all he wants to do is "focus more on my class work." Dude, just break up then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:52 PM
44

Just another good example as to why men should not be in places of power. They are too emotional. They have no self control. And they are in constant need of help by women. So why not just put women in charge? Seems like that's what the natural order of things should be. If men want to continue to act like children and want to be taken care of like children, then I say "know your place!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:43 PM
267

But but but... cooking, cleaning, and raising kids is living life on easy mode! Didn't someone tell you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:32 PM
43

I remember reading a post about someone asking why all major anime characters were "white" because they had blonde hair and blue eyes. And I just thought it was stupidest analysis I have ever seen anyone make. Naruto and Sailor Moon are not white people just because they have blonde hair and blue eyes. If we are going exclusively by hair/skin/eye color alone, what tf are all the blue/green/pink haired characters then? And by their stupid logic, the most famous American cartoon family, The Simpso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:23 PM
35

Well, Idk what you expected from the gender who can't even do the bare minimum, not for a relationship, not for his hobbies, and certainly not for himself. I think the words "trying too hard" aren't even in his vocabulary. The entire concept is just foreign to someone who does not try at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:16 PM
32

Omg, her editing skills and music choices are amazing!! I can't stop laughing about that lone hot dog close up. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:59 AM
1

I meant if you're in the position to give someone closure and it wouldn't harm you, it seems fine? I see that you're already committed to this idea, so why are you on here asking if it's ok for you to do this? If this is what you want to do, then do it. That is not FDS's stance on the subject, but telling you otherwise doesn't seem to be doing anything for you, so I say you do you. I do not want to go in circles with you. ​ I was thinking if I dumped someone who wasn't that bad (not LVM), I'd tr…
/r/askFDS08/04/21 01:56 AM
21

This woman is a whole mood! I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:40 AM
3

Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:14 PM
69

I won't give him what he wants unless he gives me what I want, and I want commitment, and commitment means marriage. P.S. I do not want to be married. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:41 AM
1

Offer an explanation for what? If you're done, then you're done. Giving an explanation just drags this out unnecessarily. And you have to think about WHY you feel the need to "offer an explanation". Is it to soothe your ego? So you can feel better about not being a bad person? Or are you doing it so he won't think you're a bad person? In the end though, who cares? It's over. Move on. ​ why not be nice? We have a flair for this called "Nice For What?" ​ I'm kinda just saying this because I wish I…
/r/askFDS06/04/21 02:35 AM
11

I got really lucky. I felt better the day after he left. I genuinely smiled for the first time in a long time and I felt so happy inside because I knew I was free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:20 AM
12

So OF is for male consumption only? Figures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:48 AM
21

Serious question: Are there men on OF selling fan service or is it only women/girls doing that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:20 AM
67

Uhh... why do I have to prove anything if we are equal? Libfem logic. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:42 PM
38

"I'm a porn addict" and "But I don't watch it all the time" Uh huh, so which is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:26 PM
34

BINGO! My ex matches all 4 of these. What do I win???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:21 PM
22

Being single is only an insult to men. As always, it's just pure projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:28 PM
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The only acceptable answer to "you should have communicated" is "no, you should have known better." Then block and delete. If his parents failed him, it's not on you to correct that. As for the whole "do you want to split the bill" fiasco, my go to will be "Depends. If this is a date, then no. If we're just friends, then sure." And put all the emotional labor of vulnerability back onto him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:26 PM
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This is the biggest case for UBI, if there ever was one, especially for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:23 PM
46

The funny thing about this "height and dick size is unchangeable" bullshit narrative is that cup size and bust-waist-hip ratio is also something women are born with and cannot change, but it doesn't make men shame women any less for being flat chested or not having a thick enough ass. And due to a patriarchal society, it is socially acceptable and probably even highly encouraged to mutilate the body nature gave women in order to please men. So they can stfu and die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:32 PM
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pissnugget Petition to add this to the FDS lexicon! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:12 AM
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Funny you bring that up cause I could swear mass shootings weren't a thing a few decades ago too... Almost like no easy access to pornography and no free sex outside of marriage was a good thing. 🤔 But give them easy access to porn and sex and suddenly there's been an explosion of incels and massing shoots. Couple that with FOMO and these idiots think everyone is having orgy levels of casual sex except them and they are so angry about shit that ain't real and ain't happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:49 PM
35

You mean like in porn? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:35 AM
40

Agreed. This is how you properly manifest good things into your life... by not wasting time, energy, and effort into things that are of no value to you or are not serving you. When you surround yourself with only the best things, you'll look back and be surprised by how it all happened, but it was really down to you actively choose to keep negative things out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:50 AM
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Nope. Which is why I don't understand all the hate FDS gets. WE ARE NOT REAL! So how can they hate us??? 🤔 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:09 PM
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Excellent point! If you don't want me to shame you for liking what you like, then don't shame me for not liking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:36 PM
25

you cannot have a family without women. Access to sperm donors and finding a tribe of other women to help raise the next generation away from toxic men is a much more ideal scenario. I'd be willing to put time, effort, and money into building something like that than to continue on the current path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:48 PM
22

"Oh, here, let me help you narrow down your choices even more." BLOCKED! You handled yourself like a Queen. Fuck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:22 PM
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Men have zero emotional intelligence, are mentally fragile, and overall the weaker sex. They cannot handle your truths. Keep them to yourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:58 PM
14

Your automatic response should have been... NEXT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:56 PM
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He’s emotionally cheating. He spends copious time with her or vents to her continually especially about y’all’s relationship. He looks to her for fun times especially if y’all fight and he’ll talk about her to you and be protective. He has chosen her over you already. Yes to all of this. My ex and I broke up over this. I would not allow this in our marriage and filed for divorce because he just could not let her go despite all of his insistence that she was just a friend. As soon as we separated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:45 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:48 PM
7

My ex used to do this. It's pretty common; not a superpower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:23 PM
22

truly amazing how shitty guys have universally transcended geographic and cultural barriers Being a scrote is encoded in their DNA. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:58 PM
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“I want someone to accept me for ME,” But don't expect him to reciprocate at all. Everyone has to conform to his needs, wants, and boundaries because the world revolves around him. 🙄 Never date a highlander, ladies. He is not The One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:47 PM
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Yeah, you really have wonder how men got labelled as the more logical gender when... men using real physical violence with deadly consequences (aka shooting up a massage parlor) = he was just having a bad day and we all need to give him the benefit of the doubt and sympathize with his unfulfilled 'sexual needs' struggle rather than demonize him meanwhile... women create a text based community to share their dating horror stories, tips on how not to get used and abused, and empower/support each o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:13 PM
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Ah, you're referring to the "pencil sharpening" effect! Totes true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:33 AM
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I can't decide if I want to actually be married or if I just want the affirmation that someone wants to marry me (if that makes sense)? Makes total sense to me because I'm right there with you. I was married, now divorced, and Idk if I want to go through all of that again. I like my newfound freedom and enjoy being single, but Idk if that's because the divorce was so recent and that I'll just need to give it more time before I know if marriage is something I truly want again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:42 AM
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My thoughts exactly. A lot of pickme's initial reaction to this sub is to be turned off, but the ones who stick to it start to see the light. She needs more than half an hour on here to really understand. Or she can stay a pickme and go on with her sad excuse for a journalism career. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:39 PM
6

Everything he said is all about him. "Been there, done that." Ok, cool, she hasn't. You can't make this special for her?! He doesn't love her. He doesn't even like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:28 PM
1

why even get married again? Gotta secure that bangmaid. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:26 PM
1

I laughed way too hard at your comment. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:15 PM
2

how he got her second hand. Oof. 😬 Truth bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:14 PM
3

Yup. Agreed. My ex did the same thing to me and it wasn't until well after separation that I began to see what he had actually did to me. He lied to my face, dismissed any and all of my thoughts/feelings/concerns, neglected me, and I became super upset but couldn't verbalize why exactly. Then he flipped the script and got mad at me for being upset with him, so that I would end up apologizing to him for being "irrational." It was without a doubt crazy-making. In the end, he had the audacity to te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:08 PM
6

It's precisely because of his personal experience of "using countless women" that he is painting his poor wife in the same bad light as the women he used. It's 100% projection here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:02 PM
5

I thought the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:59 PM
4

If men really wanted their 3 government mandated sex slaves workers, then they should really fix that worldwide femicide problem. Just saying... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:54 PM
5

No, no, you misheard. The police said he was just having a bad day. /s 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:51 PM
14

What??? You mean food doesn't populate the fridge magically??? You have to BUY them??? But when I was a boy, my mom always had the fridge stocked full. It was just always like that!!! - said every scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:50 PM
21

They really tell on themselves, don't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:48 PM
9

Maybe they like the idea of having touched other men's dicks via the flush handle and that's why the don't want to wash their hands. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:18 PM
2

This is why I will never live with a man again. And why I will never invite a man over to my place. I don't need dick grease all over my stuff and space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:17 PM
4

My take has always been this: Enjoy it for what it is in the moment, and be ready to cut it off when you need to. There's no such thing as forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:16 PM
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Translation: Looking for a woman who can keep up... with the cooking and the cleaning because you know I won't lift a finger for you. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:34 PM
79

That last line hits hard and true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:55 PM
57

"Sex work is work!!" So is slavery, child labor, and sweatshops. What's their point? Coal mining was work too. It was deadly work and not empowering in the least. It was just a way to make enough money to survive, just like prostitution. And if they had a choice, I doubt anyone would willing choose to risk their lives in coal mining work. This whole notion of "sex work is empowering" reminds me of this line I heard from one of Chris Rock's stand up routines about being rich vs being wealthy. He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:21 PM
7

Wasn't the CEO in the news for sexual harassment or something like that? And then the company went under due to all the bad publicity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:44 PM
14

The interesting part is that he already thought he did feed the dog. He probably thought he did feed the dog just by putting the food in front of her and watching her eat it. Never did he once think about how the food came to be and all the work that went into the food provided. And that's the real problem men just cannot grasp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:08 AM
2

And what do they call 18 year old boys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:36 PM
30

They can feel confident saying all this because they don't know what the definition of a sex offender is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:14 AM
6

Inaccurate. Men don't have that much self awareness and if they did, they would never admit something like that. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:57 PM
93

This is the correct answer. Misery loves company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:50 PM
166

The entitlement is tangible at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:09 AM
70

Wait a minute... 🤔 what's a dried-up 30-35 year old woman who has slept with hundreds of guys in her youth also I'm just going to keep pumping and dumping those Tinder 19-23 year olds So... he's blaming the women for sleeping around and just giving himself a pass for being the one using said young women??? Scrote logic at it's finest! 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:06 AM
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Holy shit, that was a hilarious read! I'm saving this. 😂 Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:28 PM
2

That just makes it funnier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:27 AM
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Idk why men think being single is the worst thing that could happen when men will literally keep acting like they're single even when in a relationship. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:49 AM
19

People be like "Why wouldn't you want to get married?" Sir, if I wanted a second job, I'd pick one that actually pays me, mmkay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:33 AM
10

All that "vanilla sex" you're having is probably more sex than he's getting. That's why he's big mad. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:03 AM
64

Can we just eject them into space?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:23 PM
20

they see the rest of us as no different than their dogs Not true. I've seen plenty of men who treat their dogs better than any woman in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:07 AM
17

P.S. I love your username and avatar. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:46 AM
14

You tell them simply, "Because it doesn't interest me." I've never gone skydiving before and have no interest in doing that either. It's not hard to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:55 AM
12

Right there with you. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:50 AM
33

To all the men who complain about not having a day, today is actually White Day, which is the male's equivalent of Valentine's Day. It's exactly 1 month from Valentine's Day and women are supposed to give a gift in return to the man who gave her a gift to acknowledge reciprocal feelings, which is cute and proper. None of this "cook me a steak and give me a bj" bullshit. Why do men have to turn everything ugly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:32 PM
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It makes me sad that more men are concerned with getting "divorce raped" than women getting physically raped. And I hate how men are allowed to label all women as gold diggers, and they refuse commitment and marriage because they are afraid all women will just clean them out at the divorce. So it can never be "all men" but to them it's certainly "all women".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:19 AM
21

And so true! "Resentful husband who wants to divorce sick wife but doesn't want to lose half of his income in the divorce" and "resentful employer who wants to fire sick employee but doesn't want to get sued" have the EXACT. SAME. ENERGY. This makes sense because we live in a patriarchal society. Basically, men make the rules, men make the businesses, and so the business rules are just men's rules. Businesses are cold and calculating, just like the men who made them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:16 AM
20

Anxiety, stress, insecurity, and neediness. My ex caused all of it. I'm pretty happy now that I'm single, thriving even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:44 AM
17

Hey, at least your ban kind of makes sense? I was permanently banned from a dating sub that I was subscribed to but have NEVER participated in. I just got a random notification one day that I was permanently banned. Like, ok, petty much? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:09 PM
19

"Aesthetically impaired" 🤣 I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:04 PM
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Elderly, children/infants, physically disabled, comatose... doesn't matter to them. Has nothing to do with attractiveness and everything to do with male depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:04 PM
4

"Hygiene shows a level of self-care..." If you don't care about you, why do you think I should? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:40 PM
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If you end up living with a useless man like this, just go back to 50/50 basics: Only do your own laundry, never his. Make your own food, never for him. Do your own dishes, never his. If he wants to act like a roommate and not a partner, treat him like one. And then work on finding your own place to live cause what would be the point of him? Edited for formatting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:26 PM
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Why lock your doors? Why lock your car? You're treating every person you know and don't know like a potential thief. That's not acceptable behavior. Such logic. 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:19 PM
4

"Pressure distilled" is so accurate. 😂 P.S. I'm kinda salty the mods let you keep your post up, but they had to remove mine cause the scrotes were mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:08 PM
43

Or a toaster. Mine got me a toaster I didn't want. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:20 PM
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Yo, can we get this pinned on the front page?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:10 PM
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Then they throw their little temper tantrums and lash out when they get told "no". Yeah, I unfortunately have experience with this part too. Whenever he asked me if he could do something, I was never allowed to tell him no. Then why even ask me?! It's not much of a "choice", was it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:08 PM
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I totally understand where you are coming from and I wholeheartedly agree with your original message and to those it applies to. It just didn't apply to me. I hope all women are able to reach a point where they learn to forgive themselves first and forget the rest. Don't waste any more of your time on someone that does not matter anymore. There is no point to it. When you come to that realization, you tend to move on real quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:52 PM
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That was your chance. Men just don't understand this enough. You have ONE opportunity to make a good impression. Otherwise, it's game over, no do overs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:47 PM
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Only problem is... I don't want his commitment or his carrot. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:45 PM
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Lol, no. I forgave myself for being stupid and let him go for good. Blocked and deleted promptly after the divorce was finalized. I have not forgiven him for what he did, but I have certainly forgotten about him. I'm living my best life, and I don't have time or energy to waste on someone that no longer has any meaning in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:36 PM
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Down payment for my own home. My IRA and other investment accounts. Saving for my dream vacation. Buying equipment for my side business. In general, living life freely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:28 AM
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No, it isn't. But that's where you start growing up. Unlike men who never grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:03 PM
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Marriage in your early 30’s isn’t all it’s cracked up to be FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:36 PM
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The wall that women hit at 25 and over is a woman who figures out who she is, starts her career, focuses on self love, and stops taking bullshit from men. Welcome the wall, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:33 PM
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Not weird at all. Men are as aimless as they are useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:58 PM
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See, that's when you go down to the local courthouse the day after your wedding and pick up a divorce packet (paperwork) and just keep them on hand. The minute he says "ball and chain" or any other disrespectful slur, you can whip out the papers and hand them to him. Make sure you have them pre-filled and clearly mark where he needs to sign with those sticky arrow tabs. "You're just a couple of signatures away from freedom, darling! Just sign here and here, and you'll be free!" Let's see how fun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:39 PM
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I too would choose my stuffed animals over a man any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:16 PM
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What's the point of keeping a man who so obviously hates you? He clearly is more into the idea of having a girlfriend than he is about having her as his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:14 PM
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"you don't want to have a nice companion?" I do. But men aren't nice. What else you got? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:48 PM
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I don't know if you're already doing this, but set goals for yourself. Realistic, achievable goals, not those day dreams like "I want to travel the world!" but something like "In 2022, I'm going to Paris" and then start planning towards your goal. Budget, save, plan an itinerary, plan your PTO - stuff like that. It doesn't have to be travel related, but that was an easy example. For me personally, my goal this year was to buy a home. When I have a goal in mind, I focus a lot of my mental energy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:46 PM
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This is amazing. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:20 PM
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"They can see..." They are such visual creatures though! How can they not see the violence?! 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:36 PM
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Alimony is absolutely fair. It's the "providing" part that a lot of men lack these days, but court ordered. They like to have all the fun while taking none of the responsibilities that may follow, then cry foul when they most certainly had a choice. What fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:10 AM
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Happily divorced. Life got better as soon as he was gone. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:47 PM
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I'm comparing expectations. Men think women have unrealistic expectations of dating due to romance media. Meanwhile, men think they have perfectly reasonable expectations about sex because of porn. They can't even see their hypocrisy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:01 AM
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I've never understood this. Men say romance movies/novels are unrealistic and that women shouldn't expect that level of courting in real life as it is not real. But they can't say the same about porn? So much for "the logical gender."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:39 AM
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This is my favorite screenshot of Reddit of all time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:06 AM
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My friend told me, "I don't think he loves you." I failed to listen to her the first time. She was absolutely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:39 AM
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I love these. Please keep them coming! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:37 AM
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Will try anything once = 0 common sense This one was my favorite. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:31 AM
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Match made in heaven!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:30 AM
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I think being LV is a conscious choice. Everything you decide to do in life is a reflection of your values, your character, and your integrity. If you choose LV behavior, you're going to be LV. This is why you should never give LVM a chance. Because they choose to be LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:27 AM
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Clearly the people on either side don't even understand her message. It's not about gold digging and struggle love ain't cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:01 AM
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Paying "maintenance". Yup, women are just objects.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:13 PM
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Remember boys, beauty is pain! Yes! Remember how wonderful corsets and foot binding were for women? 😂 /s <- just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:11 PM
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That's when you ask him for 50/50 sis! Make that eQuAliTy work for you! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:09 PM
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Lmfao. This is going to be the only time I shame a woman. This is a picture of my boss (woman). Holy shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:23 AM
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Army surplus here we come! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:56 PM
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It's not "he comes home to me." It is literally "he comes home and I am there." If he really came home to me, he wouldn't have made a pit stop at the strip club beforehand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:14 AM
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Simple solution: start billing him for all the unpaid work. He'll end up either having to pay for everything or will have to start pay her just to break even. If he scoffs at that idea, dump him and he can do everything on his own or pay someone else to do it. Either way, it's not her problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:55 PM
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The problem I have is that I find I am way too patient with things. I wish I could tell the difference between my patience and my excusing bad behavior. A lot of things just don't bother me, so I let it go. Any advice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:59 PM
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About to go to bed. Thanks for the nightmare fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:08 AM
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It's no secret here that men love other men, but men cannot bring themselves to degrade other men in that way. That would be an atrocity that they could never do. Unless they are in prison. Or a priest. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:09 AM
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Minor correction to your statement: they're attracted to the use of women's body parts. They are not actually attracted to women's body parts as a whole. They find vaginas smelly and gross. They think periods are disgusting. They don't like body/pubic hair. They don't like women's body parts, just the use of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:44 AM
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That's a lot of words just to say: I don't love this woman and just using her to split the bills so I have more money, lol. He's more worried about the number in his bank account than this woman's happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:35 AM
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If I understand modern dating, it goes something like this: sex first; relationship second (if at all). And if you happen to make it into a relationship/situationship, then it's: baby first; marriage second (if at all). It's pretty common to see everything happening in reverse order now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:31 AM
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Took the words right outta my mouth. Girrrrrlllll.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:26 AM
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The problem is their attitude not what you are wearing I never suggested otherwise. I was just sharing something I thought would be helpful to other women who were not aware that you can buy shorts to wear underneath dresses/skirts if this would help women feel more comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:23 PM
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All of these bring to mind this photograph. I have no hope for men. They are as they always have been, and they have no intent on changing their ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:33 PM
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Men are pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:43 PM
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You're a prude because they couldn't see your business? 🙄 Sounds more like they were being creeps, but of course, they have to blame you for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:41 PM
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Can confirm. Went to Catholic school. I didn't even realize this until you pointed it out! Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:24 PM
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Uh, no, I didn't miss that at all. Did you miss the part where she said Nike makes the skirts with shorts built in so that she would be comfortable and confident in what she was doing? I mean, I wear my shorts underneath dresses and skirts for the same reason, and was just sharing that because Idk many women who wear these. Of course, no amount of measures taken by women will protect them 100% from the depravity of men. Depraved men are gonna deprave no matter what, so I'm just going to keep doi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:23 PM
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Lol. On top of the car stuff, my ex also started 3 handmade gifts for me and never completed 1, so I never actually received anything in the end. I guess he thought he could get away with "it's the thought that counts" as the actual gift. 🙃 Men are useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:34 PM
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Prior to being medicated, it was locking them up in asylums or getting a lobotomy. So... slight improvement? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:01 PM
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I was with a guy who could change the oil in the car and change the brakes himself, but he would bitch and moan about it throughout the process, so much so that it was less stressful for me to just take it to the shop and pay another guy to do it for me. So honestly, it's not a good thing even if they can do handy stuff. You can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:51 PM
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Funny how men of today want to do just that. Wife up and have her work, pay all the bills, cook, clean, and raise the children while they are unemployed and going no where in life FAST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:45 PM
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I'd like to add that a lot of those upper class white society women in so called "perfect marriages" were also heavily medicated either through prescription anxiety medication or self medicated on alcohol just to get through their marriages/life. A lot people like to gloss over that. It was not a romantic or happy period of time for women like men like to believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:43 PM
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But porn tells them they can. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:39 PM
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Nice! I am glad to see I am not the only one that does this! I got the F21 ones because I like the lace trim. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:18 PM
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I wear knit shorts (aka bloomers) under all my dresses or skirts because you can never be too careful, especially when going up stairs, escalators, or walking over glass walk ways - and also Marilyn-Monroe-wind happens. I was very surprised to find that not all women do this, and that some women are not aware that these even exist. I got several from Forever21, so it's not like they are hard to find or some weird obscure relic from the past. I also wear them because I feel really gross putting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:07 PM
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Notice how in the video's interview that the question was something like: It isn't it inevitable that boys get sexually curious and find their dad's Playboy magazine to look through? Sure, but men made that normal. That's not to say it IS normal behavior. Because that question suggests that only boys get sexually curious. Don't girls go through the same thing at about the same age? And yet, you don't see similar lines about girls finding their mom's men porno magazines to look at because a large…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:54 PM
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I think it has a lot to do with power. Money is power too, so a lot of men seek out higher paying jobs, not exactly for the money itself, but for what money represents (status symbol) and what it can do (power). LVM who don't have the skills or connections to achieve high money status probably feel the need to obtain power in other ways like sex. Dominating someone small and weaker than them makes them feel more powerful. Spreading their seed and having a high body count is likely their equivale…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:54 PM
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