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LEVEL UPqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:17 PM
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GREEN FLAG 🟢queenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:49 PM
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LEVEL UPqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:12 PM
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RANTqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:57 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:02 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:29 AM
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queenagave/r/askFDS15/04/21 09:34 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:08 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:21 AM
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RANTqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:49 PM
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NAH, SISqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:20 AM
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NAH, SISqueenagave/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:34 PM
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I was just talking about this yesterday. My sister was talking about getting older and how she doesn't know how to feel and I was like I fucking love it. I love the confidence gained, lessons learned, life lived, another year of discovery and growth. Who wouldn't love that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:37 PM
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Same. There's something unredeemable and so so wrong about someone if they find children sexually attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:31 PM
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Ooo congrats on becoming a mod (idk if you always were one and your flair was updated lol)
/r/askFDS01/09/21 10:02 PM
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I got really caught up on "collective" when he meant "collected" like what???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:27 PM
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Anyone else who has gone through the initial FDS glow up find posts like these almost triggering? I feel so bad for these women, angry at the LVM, that '~~~' (that's the only way I can describe it) feeling of remembering you've been there, the thankfulness of having grown from that, and then the semi irritation that women are out here accepting and bragging about this?? WOMEN HAVE BEEN SO DAMN WRONGED BY THE PATRIARCHY FFS🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:04 AM
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I haven't gasped, said gross/ew and wanted to puke so many times in a row. Also some sex workers are seriously having sex for like $50??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:26 PM
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That's so freaking cute omg😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:39 PM
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I love this honesty, you're going to be exactly where you want and further by December 🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:02 PM
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I confidently say I love myself. I've told dates that I'm my favorite person, I have no shame😂🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:01 PM
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Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:49 PM
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As well as accepting disgusting acts masked as "kinks"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:48 PM
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Seriously. "Inclusion" sex workers aren't a protected class, lets calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:12 PM
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Wait what...? I'm so confused by this. Side note: GET. A. BIDET. ATTACHMENT. Seriously life changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:24 PM
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I am not a fan of small talk either and my therapist gave me suggestions to help with that bc as the other user said, it's important in getting to know someone. Avoid: sex, politics (take your pick on this one), trauma Do: think of what topics might be triggering to you Small talk can be something like: what is something you're excited about in the next year? Or if you could travel anywhere right this second where would it be? I try to think of questions that I actually want to hear the answer t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 10:34 PM
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This is one I recently experienced and was pleasantly surprised. He wouldn't let me walk on the side of the sidewalk that was closest to the street. Stayed consistent with this throughout the whole night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:19 PM
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I straight up mention being high maintenance. I expect you to put in effort. I have only had a couple messages that made me roll my eyes and more so bc they're like "what's up gorgeous." I hate how they assume I'll appreciate their validation of my appearance. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:34 PM
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Oof. Sending love to you sister. I hope you realize your worth and move beyond this behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:28 AM
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Yeahhh I'm trying to figure out how to get my nudes off my ex husbands phone... I'll never be sending nudes again. You wanna see me naked for your pleasure later? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:00 PM
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I love salt and pepper diamonds 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:55 PM
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Seriously though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:18 PM
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They explode when you hold a mirror up to them and they don't like what they see. Unable to use "I" statements
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:13 PM
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Hahahaha I totally love the mask for that too. definitely helps bc I have an expressive face😂 I appreciate you explaining what you meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:33 AM
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I totally respect that. The wearing the mask wasn't really the point of my comment however I see where you're coming from. My work has stated if the mask mandate comes back they will suspend the hybrid work schedule and stay remote and I would prefer to be remote. I am fortunate that I don't have anyone in my close circle that I'd have to wear a mask for as we are all vaccinated and such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:24 AM
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I needed this advice. Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:16 AM
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Ooo Queen, yes, I am loving this ice More importantly, I'm so happy you're happy and being treated how you deserve 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:13 AM
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Whoop whoop. I love everything about this post. Thank you for sharing and so proud you caught yourself this early!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:10 AM
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Omg I love this😂🙌🏾. I hate how men (and some women) view therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:07 AM
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Lmao. That flex when they think they know your plan and they don't know shiiiieettt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:01 AM
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I love your style. I'm going to start reacting that way. We might have to start going into the office next month and I swear to God I am praying that bring back the mask mandate so we don't have to. I'll get very aggressive towards him bc I am done with this shit. NOT THAT I WANT COVID AND SHIT TO CONTINUE YALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:55 AM
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That and real housewives. Definitely some pick mes there and some boss Queens too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:51 AM
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Honestly I've seen how my younger siblings txt and while weird af, definitely not this level of depravity 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:47 AM
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:46 AM
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This is how I feel around a coworker. Recently had a company happy hour (first time meeting almost everyone face to face since I was hired). he had the nerve to touch my back and "ask for a hug." It was sooo uncomfortable. Men in tech, they just have nothing but the audacity. Actually that's just most men in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:45 AM
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Mmm sounds like he shouldn't be your mans anymore....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:44 AM
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I know right? I freaking love love💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:43 AM
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No😂 that's why they mad. Still living off mommy with a beer belly and a micro penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:41 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:34 PM
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Ehh I don't agree with this. Not everything women do to themselves beauty wise is based on external factors. If you want Botox and it's for YOU, get it. As others mentioned, have a super honest convo about why you're getting it and if it's not coming from a healthy place, don't. I've gotten it both for medical reasons (TMJ) and personal reasons. I get small amounts and most probably wouldn't be able to tell I've had it. Which is really the point, it's for me. I love it. Different strokes for dif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:23 PM
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I thought about getting it for sweating. My injectionist was giving me all the info and then goes "remember though. Sweating is normal so don't feel like you have to fix it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:15 PM
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The good news is if you feel wrong after getting it, it'll break down after a few months or so. Ive thought about getting it for this too actually! Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:08 PM
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Sammmmeee. I love it for my TMJ, I actually need to go again here soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:07 PM
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BOTH AFTER 12 FUCKING YEARS OF MARRIAGE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:01 PM
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Thank you and I'm sorry you were there too. I'm proud that you managed to stay focused on the money and your goals and not get sucked into that hell hole forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 07:26 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate your kind words! I did report the driver however, Uber didn't do anything. I think they refunded my ride and then stopped responding to my messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 07:10 PM
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I worked at one of these places. Real quick trip to actual sex work. I got propositioned a ton. My experience went something like this: They would only allow us to have salad for free, otherwise we had to pay for a meal during your shift. They would let you know if you were getting too "thick." Oh! And they didn't hire me until I got a weave. Some of my coworkers also started stripping or got sugar daddies. Married men would come to cheat on their wives (literally had Google phone numbers to hid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:08 PM
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I get so heated with this topic. It's all LVM whining from the couch while they struggle to find the remote their fat a$$ has been sitting on all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:09 PM
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Yooo, who marries someone after knowing them for 3-4 weeks?? They could've been talking for years online (how long was it though??) You don't know someone until you've seen them in person for a while and even then... Like I'm so confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:06 PM
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Hmm..well there certainly sounds like some growth however, I'd just block and delete. Why would you want to be friends with someone you were once attracted to and who dated your friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:26 PM
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Omg. Don't you dare put this into my mind. How are you even clean if you don't use some method of scrubbing with at least a rag???(and I'm not even a fan of those). I've washed my body twice in the shower bc I couldn't remember if I actually washed my right armpit or not😂 Do they not smell themselves?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:26 PM
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(4?) if they are your younger sibling and you're either still living in the house with them and correct things as you see them or if you happen to be hanging out with them. Don't make it your job though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:20 PM
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Right?? I use a body oil every night and I've NEVER left marks on my sheets. I'm seriously so disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:25 PM
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I've been playing around with the idea of collecting my things, excusing myself to the bathroom, and leaving. You asked me out and you are supposed to be impressing me. You didn't and either way, you're paying the damn bill😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:21 PM
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Cue scrotes crying misandry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:19 PM
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Exactly. He shouldn't have texted the first time. Move the first text time to the second text time and then say the message above. THEN DONT SAY ANYTHING UNTIL SHE RESPONDS😅 He 100% was testing boundaries. I was getting irritated reading the texts😂 plus he has the audacity to text her after she said don't and doesn't even offer anything worth sending a text for. A one liner bro? You couldn't put in more effort than that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:41 PM
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This is terrifying. I'm so sorry. I wish I had something more to say😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:49 PM
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Pick me!! Choose me!! HS me: aww, so romantic. He better choose her. They are perfect. Me now: 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:42 PM
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Cue, "lol so sorry I'm a bad txtr and bad with spell check" I shit you not. This was literally texted to me. I laughed and felt this moment of joy bc this guy actually thought that would work and in the past, it would've. However, now? I could replace your number with 5 more in an hour if I really wanted to, miss me with that. I'm here to be chased and impressed by what you bring to my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:37 PM
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True. Plus some of the stuff they build is so damn awesome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:31 PM
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ding ding. We gotta winner right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:16 PM
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What are signs you missed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:11 PM
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I had to stop reading after "she brings the randos home and puts her 4 in a bedroom." I'd be like listen sis, you need to handle your shit and focus more on being a mom vs where to get random sex. She is going to invite the wrong creep home and end up getting hurt or killed. Then block and delete bc fu***k that noise, life is way too short to deal with people like this.
/r/askFDS27/07/21 12:58 PM
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I hate arguing with people who can't use "I statements" and everything is "you should've done/said this." Then when you express a boundary of needing time to process the situation. Two days later they hit you with a "you're an important person, I would've liked a second chance after crossing your boundaries, but that's okay. Have a great life, sending you love and light." Then follows it up with "if that wasn't your intention my bad. My ex used to do that to me." Bc they assumed my taking time t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:24 PM
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I work in STEM without the degree. I took a 9 month class which resulted in me getting a cert in full stack development. You can definitely at least get a start with learning by yourself, Id take a course if you can. The jobs available and such is a little more specific to where you're at and such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:13 PM
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Hard relate to wanting to see more of the siblings. Were there any HV relationships in that saga? Maybe Edwards parents (they really dropped the ball with lil eddy. Though thinking back on it, I think they were proud of him so 😶) and maaaayyybbee Jasper and Alice???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:06 PM
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Did he work at subway or eat a lot of subway...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:13 PM
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Bruhh. It's the porn. You can "wank it" multiple times a day to your imagination (provided it's not porn fantasies)/just the sensation and you'd be fine😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:05 PM
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his first quote is trash. you probably dont even drink your recommended ozs of water
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:43 PM
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Stay strong, Queen. I recognize your username and love the advice you give. Putting out the best vibes for you to be free soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:23 PM
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My ex used to be like "again?? You just had it." ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:25 PM
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Honestly commend you for wanting to support this woman. I'd put your focus on that. Don't bother trying to convince a pick me to go against her man, 9.9/10 times it won't happen and it's truly not worth the emotional and mental labor you're putting in bc to be blunt, this really doesn't involve you beyond knowing your ex-friend is a predator. And you mean ex-friend, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:21 PM
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I'm confused by this. Of course not. How could you? That means you're basically cosigning the approval on their abuse. I saw your comment of an interesting discussion on standards but I fail to see how this would start that bc anyone dedicated to applying FDS on this sub would cut them off and move on. I think we are all well aware that scrotes and pick-me's would ignore it, or justify it, and stay friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:14 PM
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Right? He wants to "pick up chicks?" Go to a damn farm. How can you be so obsessive and degrading to women but claim "you're scared to talk to them." Just say you hate women, jump in a hole, and the world will continue on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:02 PM
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Ahh, yes. I love the feeling of choking on a scrotes dirty pp, feeling like I can't get enough air, and having my gag reflex tested. /S Come on. Who actually enjoys this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:57 PM
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Mmm, I beg to differ, in my personal experience narcs are able to hold the mask for longer. ABV - Always Be Vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:54 PM
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i fucked up but now that I've realized it you should still be here for my half assed attempt to suck you back into my endless hole of manipulatuve bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:28 AM
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I'm beyond pumped for the true crime pod. I love true crime and can't wait to hear a deeper analysis of these killer scrotes. I'd recommend checking out the Morbid Network, they host up and coming true crime podcasts. It was created by two women and I am sure they'd love to have your content on their network!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:14 PM
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Ommmgggg my NVX would do the same thing when I reacted to his crazy ass driving, and somehow I'd feel bad?? When in reality I was terrified and maybe he should've driven like a normal ass person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:09 PM
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Keep coming back to the sub and reading people's stories and let that inspire you. That helped me a lot. If you're not in therapy, I'd definitely suggest that. Create a strong community outside of this guy and his circle, you'll need people to lean on as you go through this. Get familiar with the stages of grief and remember healing isnt linear so there will be good days and rough days but that's normal! Get a journal if you don't already and use it. Even though he's abusive it'll still feel lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:48 PM
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Theres so much more wrong with this profile than his physical appearance. Though that is actually super important. it'd be one thing if he was nicely dressed, had a good profile, a job, and was overweight (not my cup of tea but at least he's bringing something to the table). He literally put no effort into any part of his profile or himself. Plus the health implications of being overweight and not caring for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:15 PM
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furiously returns to sender
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:09 PM
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Isn't this sexual assault??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:34 PM
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Can't imagine him doing physical work👀 what a slug. The dirty shirt just kills me. WHYYYYY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:57 PM
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It's the fact that every picture is him in a shirt with some stupid saying on it. Are you in HS? Get a fucking polo or something with a collar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:52 PM
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Right? What an insult to fries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:48 PM
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If you have resentment before moving in, MOVE ON it will not get any better living together.
/r/askFDS20/07/21 03:40 AM
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bonus points when they lose a job and you're in a STEM position you love Get prepared for every single damn neg they can bring over any small thing. In addition to the not going to the job interview, pile on "I could do this job and it would provide for us and such but it's so boring and didn't go to school for X to end up a corporate X person...." 1000% back the if they lose a job they should be able to handle their shit where it doesn't get taken out on you and they are actively working to cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:37 AM
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Don't they already have a show like this? Love Island or something like that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:36 PM
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Truly. the only way to go. Sometimes I hesitate and think "is that too harsh?" And think WTF am I thinking. I'm literally talking about someone who would and does go out of their way to abuse others. They deserve the absolute worst. Even in my lowest pickme days, I could never imagine intentionally abusing someone physically, spiritually, and emotionally. My lowest was getting angry and spitting out "low-blows" that were based on my experience with said person. Aka me honestly expressing myself.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:56 AM
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Yuppp. I was able to recognize that my recovering pick me self was too quick to be excited about a friendship with a woman I connected with. She started showing LVW signs and I cut her so quick. I wasn't about to feel guilty in a 'friendship' to someone I didn't really know. I gave her an extra step and expressed how I felt and why. She gaslight me I blocked her number and moved on. She ended up blocking me on social media (my personal and public account 😂🤡) and I laughed because it hadn't even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:43 AM
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I'm happy you're glowing up and moving on! You deserve the best and this scrote did not understand the assignment 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:38 AM
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Gold. Fucking gold😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:36 AM
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I politely disagree. I don't think this is enabling women to wallow in negativity. I think this is giving women the chance to talk about their experiences, especially given time to look back on the red flags they had missed or ignored in a relationship. I feel this is helpful for women just starting in relationships and giving women a chance to let off steam about scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:34 AM
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Whoa. Is he an ex? That's so demeaning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:31 AM
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just remembered this one I was basically dying from a medical allergic reaction. Throat closing up and body burning from the inside. I didn't call right away. I had been in the hospital for hours and he actually asked me "do you want me to come home?" (He was on a work trip) and I said "no it's okay. My family can help" 🤡🤡 This was combined with me being anxious with him leaving in the first place (do not quickly cycle through meds at the instruction of your Dr ladies, that fucked me up) WHO MAK…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:29 AM
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I recognize this behavior so vividly. You said it so perfectly. It starts so small and subtle that you don't realize until you've started internalizing the BS he was feeding you, then you realize no one else is saying that, then get your self confidence back together, then realize he's actually just a pos to everyone in life. I just can't with these masks from scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:19 AM
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What a scrote. I hope he spends every night alone in his basement realizing what a piece of shit he is. Unless he magically grew up and became a man, in which case you did the bare minimum, still no cookie for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:11 AM
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This happened shortly after your kids were running around naked. I just.... I'd fucking end him. Y'all live in a secluded jungle anyway, feed his a$$ to something out there and claim he got lost exploring or something. Collect the life insurance and move on. He's a pedo, he deserves nothing less. Posted again bc I used banned language 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:44 PM
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This family Guy clip (20 secs get the point across) touches on that, scrote logic😂 "At a quick glance I would guess there's a 26 year age difference between the two of you. Not quite old enough to raise eyebrows while still giving you a younger mind to shape." My ex used to get so mad when I joked with him that he was like that😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:29 PM
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I love when people say this and then I get confused when women get weird about their age. I'm enjoying where I'm at now however, I'm so excited for the growth and development as I age. Especially looking back at how much changed even from 23 to 26.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:21 PM
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I died at the standing on the sides of the treadmill. This scrote did the same thing💀meanwhile I'm over thinking, "all I wanted was to crush my abs and do some squats before getting my nails done." They try to ruin e v e r y t h i n g. Doing the most to do absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:18 PM
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My ex used to make jokes about my ring light and that I used it to take nudes or do onlyfans... I finally straight up asked him, "how is that funny? Like what. Your wife is going to do onlyfans behind your back?? You think of me like that??" He tried to pull the joke thing too. Looking like a stupid fish outta water. I WAS USING IT TO FILM MYSELF DOING DIY AROUND THE APARTMENT AND WHEN I REPOT PLANTS FOR MY PLANT INSTAGRAM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:05 PM
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I literally did this yesterday at the gym. This guy just gave me weird vibes (sidenote: he would do like 1.5 minutes at a crazy speed on the treadmill. Suddenly stop, then do these over the top crunches. I've never seen this type of training before) so I kept moving out of his line of sight and closer to the other woman who was working out. He ended up leaving after being there for maybe 10 minutes..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:50 PM
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the man I thought I married doesn't even exist in reality. Hard relate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:34 PM
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Literally none of these young women have fully developed brains y'all. I don't really consider someone an adult until 25 now bc YOUR BRAIN IS STILL DEVELOPING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:01 PM
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I did do a little searching and it looks like she's actually with a 19 yo though they haven't made it official yet. Edit: dug deeper. Nahhhh they were definitely together at some point. There are pics of them kissing. Apparently the mom found him on TikTok and showed him to Millie...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:59 PM
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WITH THE ROAST A SCROTE. I REALLY NEED TO KNOW. DID HE TAKE A SHOWER AFTER THE SHIT OR JUST GO GET DRESSED?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:18 PM
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Oh fuck. I went and found that post and I just want to vom forever and ever. I can't even tell you how many comments I saw supporting "r@pe play" under the guise of it being therapeutic.....like can you just stop and realize you're getting turned on with something involving rape?? That's disgusting. Don't even get me started on "non consent porn" which was also brought up as "a healthy outlet" and should "left at that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:20 PM
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I truly hope she created a new account that this rapi$t doesn't know about before posting this... Also, sis, did you not learn from the first time about putting your trauma out on Reddit asking for advice? Willing to bet she got messages from other creeps trying to manipulate her. Without her even realizing it, while genuinely needing help, she's put herself in a place where some scrote could easily victimize her again. Edit: idk if certain words get banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:23 PM
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Wow okay. I didn't wake up and choose crying but here I am😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:17 PM
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If I were to respond it'd be something along the lines of, what about my 80 Delta airline miles? How're you going to get me those? It's not even worth a response. Block, laugh, and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:21 PM
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So relatable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:57 AM
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Can attest to this. My soon to be legally ex husband started to resent me when I was making really good money (especially for my age and time in my field), he would start to neg me about my career when I was having a stressful week at work or anything like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:56 AM
17

Soooo you missed the most amazing moment in the world for a game with crap seats. Gotcha gotcha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:09 PM
29

Getting my IUD inserted was traumatic. Almost all forms of bc have been traumatic for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:52 PM
8

Please🥺🤤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:32 PM
48

Oh dear. That's super concerning and not that I'm a doc however I feel that's a sign that she's been abused or groomed..this makes me sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:31 PM
135

Why are we even focused on him ghosting her and not the fact that she is a child and he is an adult and it's sick that he has any sort of interest in her. This is a moment to realize it's not normal to have adult friends like this, especially with men when you're a minor. Edit: why was he even talking to her in the first place????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:29 PM
3

No that makes perfect sense. Thank you for the thoughtful response. I've been working through grief with my therapist too. I have been working out a lot more and started an art project in my hallway. It's been nice to focus on me and not feel like I'm shouldering someone else's shit. Again, I appreciate the response!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:47 PM
197

while I have a crush, I don't feel out of control or uncomfortable. this is an important feeling I want to have. Best of luck to you, Queen. Edit: wording
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:47 AM
5

How do y'all feel like you'll know when you're ready to date? Or more so, just have a rotation of scrotes that you're vetting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:43 AM
14

Hahah goals though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:06 PM
6

This is very important. Driving like this with you in the car is putting your life at risk. If you're flinching or gasping while he drives, leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:52 PM
20

Because you idiolize him and he looks like a dried sponge already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:04 PM
13

Ohhh man, I was super confused at first reading this. I didn't realize she was romanticizing it. I thought she was expressing a horrible cycle of abuse. Making a poem about how this isn't healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:25 PM
6

If he wanted, he would without being told. It's one thing to mention "I enjoy romantic gestures" and then they start surprising you with those types of gestures vs. "I want you to invest in yourself and build yourself up" and then they do it. OP, you'll either spend forever holding him to your basic standards and he will be content with that OR he will level up and leave you. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:36 PM
44

Oh lordt..big dick with the big dick energy or bust🙅🏾‍♀️ I'm low-key laughing that he hit you with a "we both came" text 😂 how could you have orgasmed basically nothing happened!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:06 PM
44

You poor Queen. Did you even feel anything?😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:42 PM
2

Please make sure to cover any and all usernames/sub names when posting screenshots. Also, this was posted yesterday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:16 PM
12

I hate so many men that work in IT. Their d**ck$ get hard just thinking about great they think they are and 90% of the time, they are behind stupid and out of touch like this a$$. I work in tech and I'm shocked this slug is trusted to work with tech and make that money... I have to laugh otherwise I'd cry and burn the world down. Men suck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:35 PM
3

It's probably being deleted because you havent edited the SS and I'm pretty sure we aren't supposed to show other sub names bc that gives Reddit a reason to go after us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:32 PM
52

The fact that this was even a trial disgusts me. "Men" truly hate women so much, it's astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:25 PM
33

pro male vendetta ...... Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:36 PM
33

A couple counselor showed me this but didn't frame it as indicators of divorce.. interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:02 PM
9

So much love for this post. I relate so hard and I'm proud that you're out and able to reflect upon the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:45 PM
190

Amanda Bynes was 1000% going through some sort of abuse. I remember when she snapped and I was like "??????" "This isn't even slightly amusing where the fuck did this come from???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:52 AM
1

Woohoo!! We are all cheering for you!🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:39 PM
150

Never ever help a man that comes up to you. It's definitely putting yourself in possible danger. You do not owe an absolute stranger help. I listen to a ton of true crime podcasts and it's scary how these monsters lure victims. Side note: I learned about Anthony Sowell (literal scum from hell) yesterday and he would wait by the bus stop and just grab women. He killed 11 women and i'm pretty sure he never went beyond his neighborhood for a victim...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:47 PM
37

Hahahah idiot probs thought Women would think it was a filter.. I can't with this bs🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:34 AM
13

It's a regular level but has a laser on it so if you're hanging multiple things and want them all at the same height or want them staggered, etc you can use the laser to check as you go or make reference marks! Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:22 PM
539

I didn't even notice the towers at first, haha. Just based on the quality, stance, and general energy of this pic, it's giving me mid 40s but go off😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:19 PM
16

Consider getting a level with a laser in it, a total game changer. Also a ladder, sand paper, and a drip cloth if you do any projects with paint!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:16 PM
2

At first I tried to create a routine and do it every morning before work. Once I got in the habit of it I started doing it whenever I felt like it. I try to do it every week or whenever I need to process something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:08 PM
6

Sis, thank you so much. I really feel seen and validated with this comment. I cannot fucking wait for my ring to get here, divorce is hard. Even from trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:57 PM
2

Get a journal you're excited about. How it looks, feels, the paper, etc. I started by doing a daily entry of an affirmation x3, an intention, something I'm thankful for, and 3 accomplishable goals for the day (or 3 things I did, depends when I wrote). Once I was used to writing in a journal again I started needing to put my thoughts down. I realized how free I felt. I didn't put an expectation on it. Sometimes I journal half a page, sometimes, pages, both are equally valid entries. I really try …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:54 PM
1

LMAO💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:46 PM
2

I wasn't. I was an early bloomer so it started when I was a kid and I was groomed by older men. Also, while I walked around in a Lil skirt at work, I was fully clothed once I was in the Uber. I didn't share where I worked at first too and had my Ubers pick me up from a place that wasn't my work. I do see what you're saying, however, I don't think it entirely comes into play here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:44 PM
51

Try to work on that. I used to have road rage too. Everyday I wrote the intention "I will let go of things that don't serve me" while thinking of my anger on the road. Now I only get a lil irritated when I'm overwhelmed/ emotionally in my personal life and someone is driving very slow or dangerously. The biggest thing is I notice it right away and remind myself the real reason I'm upset and let it go. I say this from experience. At the worst of my road rage a motorcyclist drove up next to me whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:22 AM
40

Same for me🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:07 PM
8

YAY YAY YAAAAYYYYYYYYYY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:07 AM
9

Lmao. She said "unexpected" but meant "low effort", "lame", "not even a fraction of any woman's dream." -Despite the fact she was, rightfully so, thinking, "ehhh. Okay?? This kinda sucks?....but at least I have a man and we've come this far...?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:01 AM
12

Isn't it so weird?? I still feel off about it, like violated somehow. I told him it sounds like everyone is unhappy and the kids are probably suffering. He unloaded soooooo much on me. Talking about his childhood and shit too. Like damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:56 PM
4

Yuppp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:10 PM
23

I cringe when I see subs for teens and there are young girls posting selfies. It's basically an easy way for creeps to prey on girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:08 PM
29

Or sheets on the bed?? This bed gives me PTSD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:03 PM
62

My coworker literally did all these things last night 😂 thankful for FDS as I was able to read him so easily. He straight up trashed his wife/marriage and basically said he's only with her for the kids (18 and 21) and because he doesn't want to find someone else. It was a lot. My former pick me self would've been "aww so trusting. This poor man etc etc" now I was able to see that and think who the fuck would do that???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:00 PM
53

The Daily Stoic is a great book about stoicism and it's easy to digest as they are daily readings! ETA: this is a great post. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:55 PM
93

I met a coworker yesterday and I asked him "if your wife says this bothers me, how many times does it take for you to change?" And he shrugged, laughed and said "depends what it is. If I want to change, 1 or 0 times. If I don't want to, she could tell me all day and I wouldn't do anything."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:45 PM
56

Is this for real? I hate to ask that however, I am so blown away by all this behavior. Literally leave. Don't explain. Choose you.
/r/askFDS21/05/21 06:43 PM
6

I'm sorry but what??? Wild garlic?? Hahahahah that's so bad hahahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:57 PM
42

Low value nature date: “Want to come to this field I know?” "It may come as a shocker but I will try to make some moves on you while laying in this itchy grass" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:55 PM
8

Also, the fuck kinda approach is this? The least amount of effort possible even if she did have good grammar and spelling. Imagine thinking texting someone stating you want a threesome that day is going to result in a "yes."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:42 PM
12

I feel this.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 07:12 PM
18

Or hey, idk just leave her alone and let her live her life since you can only view her in romantic way and she's a whole ass person who doesn't owe you being in your life in any capacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:51 PM
15

The number of lib fems who will jump down your throat when you say "don't have sex on the first date." Is astounding. So determined to not focus on the danger to women🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:22 PM
29

I told my younger sister (college age) that if she goes on a date and the guy tries to make her pay ANYTHING that she excuses herself to the bathroom. Pays for only the things she had on her own (he can pay for the app/dessert), leave, then block and delete. Then I followed it up with "honestly, it's not even worth it anyway. Just focus on you and school. And if someone really wows you, maybeee he's worth a date." may her standards be higher than Snoop Dogg🗣️🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:20 PM
16

One of my closest friends is a pickme. It's so frustrating especially as she mentions being happy to have found FDS and wants a HVM. Yet puts herself in situations with LVM men - having one night stands and goes to their place without having met them face to face before, etc. It's honestly terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:06 PM
9

That's awesome. I'd 1000000% do this only I'd have a plant room too😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:51 PM
21

I don't have advice on the friend part, however, I wanted to share some thoughts. Some of the things you listed don't make you a LVW. Like not having a degree and smoking pot, those aren't inherently LV. You can still be a HVW and smoke pot, it's a matter of is it your whole life? Do smoke and then not do anything else? Does it take more of your money and you can't cover bills? Definitely moderation is important too. Having a degree is great. However, you can still have a nice job and such witho…
/r/askFDS16/05/21 03:35 PM
11

This is the point I was trying to make and you'd be amazed how many scrotes and pick mes are fighting this basic logic. It's depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:26 PM
13

From what I've seen on all the FDS subs, I think I know that's the reality.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 05:24 PM
61

Right? Text back "k bye" lol
/r/askFDS13/05/21 07:58 PM
52

So many red flags. "K gnight" is super passive aggressive and trying to get you to feel bad, among the myriad of other flags he dropped. Just break up with him. You don't deserve this and and have enough abuse with an alcoholic parent (so happy you're getting out of that situation, been there as a kid and it's hard to manage).
/r/askFDS13/05/21 07:58 PM
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so I can figure out how to get attention from men Stop with this thinking. You need to actively remind yourself to think of something else. It'll be hard but this way of thinking is going to get you hurt, emotionally and possibly physically. Say this everytime you start thinking about men's attention: I DO NOT NEED A MAN OR HIS ATTENTION TO DEFINE MY WORTH. Leave yourself notes pointing out features and things about yourself that you like. Buy yourself flowers, take yourself out, get yourself gi…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:59 PM
42

What. The. Fuck. First off, I am so sorry you had to deal with this and you handled it like a damn Queen. My mouth literally dropped open as I was reading and I got angry for you. Second, scrotes will do/say the CRAZIEST and PSYCHOTIC shit. Like what car you fucker??? What random car told you to give me a styrofoam container of who the fuck knows what? What was the plan here (I mean, I know however..). What would he have done if you'd said "okay, drop the plate right there and drive away." 10/10…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:08 AM
49

Poppin bottles on her behalf!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:00 AM
7

Thank you!!🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:18 PM
46

Some of those responses were horrific. Soo many scrotes justifying SW because without it they would've gotten divorced. One guy says "he would never abuse a SW that'd be like abusing his primary care provider." Then women saying "we fuck them so you don't have to" the point is we don't want to fuck them, why are you proud that you do? They kept saying "blame the men, they created this demand" which ENTIRELY deflects the point which is YES. WE KNOW THEY CREATED THE DEMAND. YOU KEEP CREATING THE S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:44 PM
122

She literally didn't do any math and has no idea what she is talking about🤡🤡 That awkward moment when you think you're making a lot of money and find out you're not and could make the same amount and not have to sell your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:31 PM
182

This is so embarrassing. It doesn't take skill to be a prostitute, sweetie. Men will fu*k ketchup bottles, you putting your mouth on a WD isn't impressive. Tell me about your health insurance, mental health, 401K, and investments. I guess I'll simply enjoy my morning waking up and going to my high paying job where I don't have to get naked or degrade myself for money and I have all the things I listed before and more. Also, I stripped literally two times and stopped because I felt so disgusting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:29 PM
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Probs because these are the main highlights of a wedding for most women.. Put in a ton of effort and stress to make this day amazing because it's your wedding day and it'll be one of the main factors you bring up when trying to justify a relationship you're unhappy in Edit: wording
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:19 AM
35

I wouldn't doubt. I did some research on this sick fuck and she has a history of being a piece of shit. She lied about having depression so she could get a nose job paid for by the UK. Went on Dr Phil, owned up to it, Phil said "your nose still looks wonky", then she said she is going to try and get it fixed through the same process only now it wouldn't be a lie because she "suffers from anxiety and stress" from being bullied for lying about her mental illness. Oh and said something about studen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:05 PM
78

if this is you, stop it. You're a pain at brunch. Hilarious and so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:27 PM
60

“We’ve made the decision that this baby is not going on social media, unless somebody offers the right price" What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:05 PM
32

This is disgusting. So many reasons to gouge my eyes out. How THE FUCK is pregnancy sexual??? What about a woman giving birth gets your whistle wet??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:01 PM
6

Congratulations!!! So proud of you and can totally relate to the doing it yourself otherwise it'll never happen. Maybe buy yourself something you've really been wanting or take a lil trip to celebrate too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:54 PM
5

I would hope that point 2 would go without saying. As for 1, to each their own. However, don't make the choice out of desperation or something. I too enjoy having my own space. I love it. I wouldn't want to live with friends, even in a big ass mansion where we'd all have our own space, haha. I thought it was a fun post so I shared😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:37 PM
47

I saw a post on Instagram that said something like "stop normalizing the need to get married and find a partner. Start normalizing getting a big ass mansion with your best friends and pets."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:21 PM
24

Gosh. Don't you know you just roll up to your local HVM Shop, grab one you like and put him in the car. Boom. Drive off into the sunset. Cue happily ever after 🤣 In all seriousness. Great post!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:20 PM
21

Or "well I guess I can't touch my wife/gf/etc"
/r/askFDS11/05/21 02:36 PM
84

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:25 PM
5

How? In the pod they literally say "we need to stop thinking a man is a bad guy just because he's hot" you're making a blanket statement that all hot men are "douche nozzles" which isn't true. You don't have to praise him simply because of how they portray him in a photo. I am not discrediting that he was very posed/edited etc however, I don't agree with how you're expressing your point. Edit: wording Edit 2: it's just a post so women don't feel bad finding the sculpture body attractive. You don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:12 PM
17

Okay so not sure if this biology or porn sick. Long gaps in having sex and when you do they finish super quickly. They've had to use a numbing spray to help them last longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:00 PM
10

You don't have to praise it. Not every post is relevant to every member. The point is, those women who do find that attractive are allowed to without feeling shamed or thinking "it's ridiculous to find that body type attractive" or hell, having people automatically associate "douche nozzle" with a body type some women find attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:56 PM
2

If you'd like to DM me you can. I understand not having anyone to talk to and feeling very alone.
/r/askFDS09/05/21 02:19 PM
18

Don't hate yourself that's not productive and is subconsciously instilling negative self thought. Instead, try to think of it as having empathy, some sadness, and maybe some laughter at young you's mistake. We all have them. Now you know better and can focus on you. You have a very solid example to look back on should you come into a similar situation of a NVM not respecting you as a person or your boundaries. I would highly suggest journaling on this so you can remember how you're feeling and t…
/r/askFDS09/05/21 12:56 AM
13

I have never waited to have sex with someone and regret it so fucking much. My next relationship, I will be waiting at least 3 months, probably more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:45 PM
14

Oh!! Here's a good one. A NVM asked me on a date and we had been working a lot lately. We get to the place, have a nice meal, the check comes and he goes "oh. Do you mind paying? I'm kinda out of money right now." I was soooooo pissed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:39 PM
17

Oof been there. With my NVX I got a credit card and used it to buy him tickets to a football game. Like really good seats. I don't even like football and was cold and wet the entire time. I think that year he got me a bong.🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:35 PM
6

Honestly, not even sure I'd do this for my husband. Something about it rubs me wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:25 PM
66

Thisss and then Black women have to hold everyone up and get called "strong" for it. Basically diminishing Black women's pain and suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:22 PM
1

This is for real💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:19 PM
112

Hahah I was hoping for a comment like this😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:35 AM
2

THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:55 AM
2

You literally contradicted yourself. Ugh, annoying. I literally said I don't know why so chill ... projection? You say you have no idea why I'm cursing and yet you say I'm projecting your emotions? maybe don't make assumptions fellow newbie and take your own advice and chill ETA: again I'm amazed I'm arguing with a fellow member over a damn fictional character🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:29 AM
1

I curse all the time. Another assumption. How about you just don't respond since you really don't know me and don't address any points I've made. Thanksss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:10 PM
14

I love allll this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:22 PM
39

Yeah right? If anything 2021 brought on more divorce or thought of it because women realized their man just sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:42 PM
115

There's a movie like this?? How creepy. It sent a chill down my spine when my LVM would say things that were weirdly similar to something I had journaled about. I ended up hiding my journal after it happened a couple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:36 PM
3

You made an assumption about my intention. I don't have any problem with princess movies so the whole base of your statement is wrong. You seem to assume that: Simply because I called her a pick me (which she fucking is by definition, despite her other skills) that she's useless and that's it. Weren't/aren't some of us pick mes and recovering/recovered? Pick me doesn't discredit her other skills or what else makes her up. However, she is a pick me. She literally sat in a tower waiting to be resc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:10 PM
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I thought the same. I kept trying to pause to make sure. What a piece of shit. I dislike that I have to be proud of this Queen for calling him out, not because of her. She is AH-MAZ-ING I am struggling to comprhthow any decent human would act like this slug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:50 AM
17

You have fun/laugh at dinners. You can do this yourself or with a female friend. This is the extreme bare minimum to keep someone in your orbit (Friend or more). If you're here asking about it, you deep down know the answer and we are here to support you through completion. He literally broke a boundary you expressed before you were even together. Why would you want to give him a chance to be your friend and figure out how else he can violate your boundaries and get away with it? Edit: clarifyin…
/r/askFDS06/05/21 01:49 AM
28

I know that feeling of the delayed ball hit 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:42 PM
55

All the scrotes and incels are going to be SHOOK when their perceptions of our appearances are so wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:39 PM
48

I was just thinking today, no offense to my friends and family but I'm my favorite person ever hahah. A Friday night alone isn't lonely for me, I love my company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:06 PM
72

Some of my favorite Instagram accounts are women in their mid to late 30s. They're graceful, inspiring, and so confident and G L O W I N G.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:59 PM
181

Because she's a pick me. Groomed from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:53 PM
5

I'm getting back into my weekly pilates swing and recently got some resistance bands for at home work outs. I may try my gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:16 AM
11

Get one!! I currently have mine on now. They're great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:11 AM
45

Why are you being so aggressive??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:57 PM
13

I wouldn't. I told my husband and FIL I would take his last name mostly to make them happy and figured "we're married." I never went and did the paperwork (should've been a clue how I felt deep down but I digress) I changed my name only on social media and for some deliveries from Amazon etc. I love my name, it's super unique and whenever I tell people they say "no way, that's so beautiful/cool" and I can't believe I considered legally changing it. Going to save me a lot of time in the near futu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:43 PM
21

RUN RUN RUNNNNN It may take time but that facade will drop and you'll be left blinking and thinking "what the fuck??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:50 PM
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Exactly. I enjoy dressing nice, getting my nails done, hair, etc. I feel so self pampered, refreshed, and good about myself. Not because men might see me, I literally wish I could be invisible to them 80% of the time. But because I feel like a boss a$$ Queen taking care of myself the way I like to. When I shave my legs I don't think, "oh gosh I need to shave my legs because men or ppl in general might look at them and see they are hairy." I think, "ugh, I don't like my legs feeling hairy when I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:03 PM
106

Yeah the comments he made about it being hard to find a man are extremely inappropriate. HR might consider this workplace harresment, especially since OP was asking him to do his damn job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:49 PM
9

I want a relationship, I have been waiting over a year, but I am afraid of even being approached romantically I don't think you're ready for a relationship. You're only 22, spend more time focusing on you, learning about yourself, leveling up, handling some of these triggers and such you mentioned. Therapy is super helpful. You're going to change so much in the coming years and continue to tweak as you get older, cultivate your garden and wait until a man comes who adds to it. That's how you hav…
/r/askFDS03/05/21 05:14 PM
26

Just called the NVM out on this tonight. Felt so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:53 AM
15

Just bought myself flowers a couple days ago. The NVM response? "Did someone send you those?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:52 AM
15

Nothing but facts here. I miss it. My current company doesn't have a designer and we are reworking tons of apps. Their solution? Let's throw it into Salesforce despite only have 1 dev that semi knows it. Ugh, companies are so fucking cheap across the board, it's unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:40 PM
78

How the fuck is something fake meaningful?? It's supposed to be a SYMBOL OF LOVE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:36 AM
63

Literally 90% of problems on sites could've been avoided if they had had a designer and/or actually listened to said designer. My old company used to treat our designer like she was second tier and it drove me crazy because she was invaluable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:31 AM
197

Just did a deep dive into this. NO ONE FUCKING HELPED HER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:00 PM
6

Fair point. I did some research and was absolutely disgusted. I'll edit my comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:41 PM
6

The white house HR ones are to die for. "GIMME YO DAMN PAPERWORK"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:15 PM
1

Keep reminding yourself of this. Not just the statement but you saying, 'writing,' It. That's the most important part.
/r/askFDS30/04/21 10:49 PM
1

Love this
/r/askFDS30/04/21 10:40 PM
40

Are you fucking kidding me? I literally gasped. That's a whole new level of wanting to be picked. literally raping women with your man? ETA: changed up the wording bc they are rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:39 PM
7

You shouldn't have to express your boundaries more than once. Real friends wouldn't push you on it.
/r/askFDS30/04/21 10:36 PM
140

HAHAHAHAHA IF I HAD MONEY ID BUY A BEAR AND FRENCH FRIES FRENCH FRIES ARE A MOOD😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:37 PM
174

And don't even get me started on fucking Lena. The forever girlfriend pick-me WHO JUST HAD A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER AND IS GOING BACK TO FILMING PORN. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:26 PM
59

Riley and Lena have filmed together and I think they are friends to answer the threesome question. I feel so bad for (pity is a better word) Riley honestly. I used to follow her insta and she would post about how good it felt to not do porn during the quarantine and considered not going back, also posted about being sober (which I doubt has happened) to focus on her happiness. She clearly is unhappy and tries to frame it as "bUt I'm EmPowErEd." Did she mention that she doesn't have a bf but a Fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:24 PM
31

he is your child Oof that one hit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:57 PM
138

Scrote: this just shows men are the prize. Even bad hygiene can't keep women away. Queen: did you not see that most of these girls left these men alone? The prize got put back on the shelf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:55 PM
28

"I was hearing but I wasn't listening" 🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:04 PM
14

It's possible that since you've wanted to meet him for 13 years that you've romanticized lots of aspects about him and the situation. It sounds like you should focus some more time on you and why you're awesome!
/r/askFDS28/04/21 08:17 PM
33

You just contradicted yourself. We talk about men not believing women when they are experts in their fields She has 12 actual years of experience on you. I'd call that an expert. You are finishing a program, I would not call that a expert. Knowledgeable? Sure. However, you're still learning. This response is the exact thing you were bringing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:41 PM
17

I don't have advice. Just coming to say I have something similar and I feel bad because I look at the things she's saying and feel sad, a little disappointed, and sorry for her. You cant force people to change. You gave her the tools. She can make her choices from there. It takes some time to undo this insane conditioning we've been put through. Some Queens get there faster than others.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 05:27 PM
32

Sis, just one of these examples would be a valid reason to dump this man baby. Dont EVER compromise your standards. Don't settle for someone giving you less than you can give yourself. 3 degrees already? Killlllliinnggg it. Keep leveling up!
/r/askFDS27/04/21 10:14 PM
1

I don't think it's pandering to men. 99% of men would've skipped the ad which you could do on YT. I totally get birth control is horrible for women. It has messed me up. However, some women do use it and I was more just glad they are pointing out the shit we've had to deal with concerning birth control and not putting shame around the word vagina.. Obviously it would be best if they would focus on male birth control etc etc. Or a bc that wouldn't harm or effect us as severely. ETA: also that's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:33 PM
69

Lol meanwhile Scott is dating or recently dated "fresh meat" and continually flaunted that. He's actual trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:54 AM
66

Queens supporting Queens. We love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:40 AM
49

Oh wow. This was hard to read. My heart goes out to you and your family. Can you change your locks? Maybe get a deadbolt or two? I believe they also have bars you can buy you can put up against the door/floor so no one can force it open. I'm sending you so much strength. I wish I could give you advice to nail this fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:52 PM
67

sips drink sips drink sips drink Mmm bummer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:10 PM
47

Though most of the porn industry is run by men anyway so it's all self serving (in their favor) in the end. It's literally men perpetuating what they know other men will like while also manipulating women into preforming these degrading acts. Not to mention the situations where women feel forced into that route in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:26 AM
9

Lollll, k thank you bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:12 AM
100

I literally couldn't get past the first paragraph. My mouth dropped open at that line about "trying to keep them weak and not going against the system" or whatever the fuck this scrote of a damn scrote just wrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:08 AM
7

Where was he planning on going with this?? "Are you obsese if not, would you want to..." Would I want to what?? Are you insulting me or hitting on me? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:42 PM
69

This made my morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:11 PM
25

He's a NEGVM + a criminal! What a winner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:06 PM
21

Not even an object "HIS" object
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:56 PM
82

Did y'all see the photo of them together when she was still in school?? His arms are crossed in front of him and he's super rigid. He's trying too hard to not touch her and create distance while she's leaning into him. Started when she was 19 (STILL BASICALLY A CHILD!!!!) My ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:52 PM
11

This is not a father. I'm so sorry. You need to get out now. Do whatever you have to. This isn't a safe or healthy situation for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:46 PM
11

A true Queen post right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:56 AM
66

must laugh at: online dating THAT INCLUDES YOUR PROFILE TOO, RIGHT? DOESNT MATTER IM STILL LAUGHING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:54 AM
85

Woohoo! I share FDS with all my friends and they share it with theirs. Joining the mission to awaken, reawaken, or affirm every woman's Queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:48 AM
2

Ohh damn, that's beyond annoying that you can't edit the playlist you follow or hey or even copy someone else's or just being able to block someone would be great. I feel personal pain when having to recreate any music library. Good luck🎶
/r/askFDS18/04/21 01:45 AM
10

You could always create a new account and follow your playlists on the old one and then just leave the old one?
/r/askFDS17/04/21 04:53 PM
24

if I was having trouble with dating women I'd ask them for advice Women: literally create a space where we say what we want/don't want Men: no. Not like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:40 PM
10

Start loving your fellow sister. If one walks by and she's wearing something cute, tell her. You see someone on social media killing it? Say congrats. Woman coworker did well and you noticed, tell her or give her a smile. Treat women the way you want to be treated. The rest of the world hates us, we can't be hating each other too. Recondition yourself to want to support instead of tear down.
/r/askFDS15/04/21 01:10 PM
5

Keep it at once a week. Gives you a chance to get an idea of his home habits/life and gives you a chance to miss him. 6 months isnt all that long. This also helps create a boundary for you and your feelings so you hopefully don't miss/dismiss red flags. Good luck!
/r/askFDS15/04/21 02:09 AM
15

Very true!! Thankful for the growth I've had and the growth to come🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:41 PM
69

Ugh UGH UGHHHH I've done this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:09 PM
7

My NVM literally said "you say that I got scary but I never hit you or hurt the dogs. So I'm confused what you mean." 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:22 PM
29

Plus I'm fairly certain Lana has done OF shoots/content with other pick mes recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:08 PM
68

Ehh, I'm an FDS newbie however, all those things you listed for breaking it off seem like huge red flags and definitely not HVM traits. It seems like you dodged a bullet. I love that you're living it up with your bestie, got more money, and got the dog. Congrats on your Queen sh!t👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:36 PM
24

How do y'all find out they have a porn addiction?? What are the signs? I haven't even thought to ask if my husband watches porn or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:22 PM
20

Phew, was looking for this one. Ron is a ZVM and Harry is a LVM at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:58 PM
16

I've found the places I don't get cat called or ogled tend to not have men there at all or very minimally. Such as Pilates and aerial yoga etc. You could apply your mindset to literally anything else and it still doesn't hold. I've gone to fancy restaurants where we're spending at least $500 for two people type shit and literally had an old man come and harass me multiple times during my meal and the waiter informed me "he's a regular." So no, men with money will still treat you like a piece of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:43 PM
17

This. I mute and start talking over mansplanning all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:37 PM
60

That's like the celebs that started an OF and are becoming pimps and starting OF rings where they manage other girls and take part of their earnings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:44 PM
76

and then I made the decision to agree with you LOL OKAAAAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:06 PM
2

I just.... PS: I think you're supposed to block the sub name too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:01 PM
12

Facts haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:51 PM
7

What's FDS thoughts on being in a ltr before knowing your standards/expectations and then growing, gaining confidence, and realizing them. If your partner doesn't meet them as you've realized them, however, you never expressed those and after expressing them they are trying to meet to them. That's good, right? Or?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:42 PM
10

Thank you. I started crying reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:44 PM
24

So happy for you and even more proud of you for choosing YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:12 AM
3

Your mom is a Queen. Would she want to be my life coach by any chance? In all seriousness, I admire all of this. How does she stay firm when in an argument and not feel worn down or something? Do they yell when they fight?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:57 PM
3

Wait. Are you saying the times I've cried after sex was because of trauma? It's happened a few times with a couple men and I couldn't ever figure out why, pretty sure I ended up saying "it's because it's so good."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:57 PM
8

When he wants to eat you out but doesn't have good oral hygiene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:49 PM
2

!RemindMe 2 days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:44 PM
2

YAAASSSS!!!! So happy for you and this amazing life you have built! I love reading stories like this, keep thriving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:39 PM
13

I was waiting for this point. I've seen the worst pick me behavior from Trump loving women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:13 PM
9

You're 100% correct I don't deserve this. I am planning on leaving. I'm getting my ducks in a row before pulling the trigger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:39 PM
95

Did I...did I write this and forget?? I literally just experienced this yesterday and all the time. My husband is constantly grabbing at my body or makes hand motions and chomping sounds while gesturing at my vag?? Grabs my boobs, will try to rub my vag when he hugs me/ randomly in bed, sexualizes me getting ready for work. I was walking to the dryer and he came over and tried to grab my ass/put his finger between my cheeks and I kept trying to turn away, signal to stop and finally said "what ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:24 PM
14

You deserve this and I'm so happy for you!! Made me smile the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:01 PM
18

Can confirm. An old manager from my restaurant days reached out a while back and was kind and semi-attentive until he realized I had waaay waaaaay more self respect and knew my worth than when he last knew me and wasn't going to fuck him and literally hasn't talked to or interacted with me in anyway 😂🤦🏾‍♀️ #whenascrotethrowshimselfawayforyou
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:38 AM
26

There are no words. The fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:30 AM
5

Me: orders glossy finish for a project I did on a shelf H: oh (pause diff tone) you ordered a glossy finish? Me: yup! H: cool. So you know it'll be shiny then? Me: yup.....🙄 H: oh cool they have matte finishes too, did you see that? Me: yes. JUST SAY YOU WANT IT MATTE STOP HINTING AND ACTING WEIRD. FUCCCK. COMMUNICATE LIKE AN ADULT!!! It's staying glossy. Idgaf I did the project.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:21 PM
19

She's also very educated politically and encouraged others to learn and vote etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:59 PM
8

Exactly. That's my point. No matter how they slice it, women are blamed when it's clearly this man's fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:56 PM
14

Took revenge against the same gender you would cut off a ball for so a model will look at you...anyhole...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:04 AM
36

Me realizing I was literally gaslighting myself in couples therapy by saying our problem is "we have trouble communicating" when in reality I've been communicating and he hasn't been listening... Holy shit ladies I just realized my husband heard everything I was telling him and now that we are in therapy he's saying "he didn't know how bad it was" FUCK. I'm working on my exit strategy (thanks FDS for helping me level up without 100% realizing I needed to/realizing I wanted to).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:37 AM
13

Wow. Speak my current reality into a comment why don't you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:32 AM
19

No matter how you slice this it fucking sucks. No matter what the murderer is less than a ZVM. However amazing how the news will grab onto that "oh it's due to porn!" Or "oh he was struggling!!" Either way it's downplaying and distracting from the fact that he mudered people, mainly women, and most importantly mainly women of color. By pushing it towards a sex thing it basically places blame on women AGAIN like somehow we are responsible for men being shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:24 AM
7

On some real Queen sh*t right here!! Continue thriving on your journey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:17 AM
7

Commented on your last post, coming here to say (again) I relate to so much of this. Especially concerning the childhood abuse, rape, etc. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's helped me feel more confident in mine. My husband will frequently sexualize me doing simple things or make grabbing motions at my body which make me uncomfortable and I think he's learned I don't say no because I instantly freeze internally and panic even though I'm screaming NO in my head and my body language ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:45 PM
10

Sooo much is relatable in this post. I felt like you were speaking to me. Congratulations on your Queen shiit!! This made me smile and I'm happy you're happy 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:19 PM
8

You're very welcome! Take your time, you don't have to make a decision right now. You can create a backup plan if it helps and then focus on school. Good luck with the exam and your future!💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:06 PM
3

Wheeeww... Welp that makes a lot of sense with the disconnect we are currently experiencing..and I met my husband (technically when I was 20) but we didn't start dating until I was 21 and he's 8 years older.. ETA: thank you for answering!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:11 PM
68

My mother straight up told me that she forgot my husband is actually 8 years older than me because I'm more of an adult than him. So that's fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:53 PM
3

What is an acceptable age gap?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:51 PM
21

Gross. He seriously said he doesn't date Black women and then pulled this shit? I feel so dirty thinking their love was cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:47 PM
16

Will staying with him distract/hurt more than the breakup? I know breaking up will hurt and be a lot to process. However, are you unhappy now and continuing to remain unhappy that it'll distract from studying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:42 PM
74

The fact that the DA actually face palms. Gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:57 PM
9

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:28 PM
2

Hahahah what???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:21 PM
4

Not talking to ex's I think because I honestly don't know who he has dated. I wasn't super interested when we first started dating and he wasn't super forthcoming on his own. More so liking girls photos that were half naked or something "artsy" and responding to girls instagram stories with "oh wow" and "damn!!😍" Though now it's not words anymore just emojis and the stories disappear soo who even knows what he's reacting to. Mainly girls though. No no, not over explaining or anything. I apprecia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:50 PM
5

You ladies were 1000000% correct. We had the first talk last night and he basically said he would handle it himself now that his anger is on the front of his mind he will take more notice and if he felt he couldn't think he way through it, he would go get help. Fast forward through some back and forth and a lot of me crying and he says he will see someone. He gave an example of people going to rehab not wanting to go but sometimes have to have a shove. He also said at some point "as long as we'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:43 PM
3

I check my credit constantly. I believe I would be alerted if my debt amount had increased. Thats a really good thing to keep an eye out for though. I had a moment of panic when I first read your comment! That's some bs that they can hold you responsible for debt you know nothing about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:34 PM
3

Hey! Thank you for your concern. however we don't have a lot. We don't have a house. We live in an apartment. I bought my car while we were dating and it's solely under me. Unless he was going to try and take money which would require him going to court and getting a lawyer and he doesn't have the money to do that. I will still reach out to someone however I'm not sure what he would be entitled to. I'm fairly young, <30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:32 PM
3

If you're comfortable you could DM me the story. Thank you. I'm glad you're out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:28 PM
41

I appreciate the support. It made me tear up at my desk. Thank you x million!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:37 PM
49

You're so sweet, thank you🥺 I will keep FDS posted!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:36 PM
24

Your story is giving me soo much hope. That's what I'm striving for. The focusing on more and learning to cook and live for me. That was so inspiring thank you thank you thank you!!! I'm glad you're living such a great life now🙌🏾💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:36 PM
14

Thank you so much. You're right. It definitely will be hard. I'm not looking forward to it but it's time to move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:33 PM
64

THANK YOU QUEEEN!!! Its awesome to hear two successful stories after making a hard break. I'm ready to focus on myself and the life I want to create. Wow!! Right before covid!! That's awesome that you thrived during a double whammy of a hard time. STRAIGHT KILLING IT NOW!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:32 PM
28

We don't have any combined finances. Nothing is under both of our names. Do I still have to worry? I talked to my lawyer and mom and she said I wouldn't have to worry about him trying to take anything. It would take a lot of time and money that he doesn't have. I recently got a physical as ND got tested for everything. Im clean. I don't think (???) He's physically cheated on me however he's definitely violated social media boundaries I've set in the past. ETA: we've only been married for a year …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:29 PM
14

Thank you!! I'm trying to keep that in mind. If I'm not happy I'm sure I'm also hurting him without meaning to so it's just better for everyone. I'm not really looking to improve. I thought about it and have been throwing ideas with my therapist around for about a month and nothing felt like "yeah! That works. I can bring that up to him outside of my therapy without worrying about his reaction." He reminded me of my abusive ex when we were fighting a couple months ago and I think after that I kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:27 PM
4

I don't think he does either. Which sucks because I put tons and tons of work into myself. I love self improvement and being the best version of me. I think I'm at the point where I have to say "you need to see someone or we have to get divorced." He mostly listens to my feelings and does those other things (as far as I know idk what happens behind my back) the anger really taints that though. Not that he's always angry but just the fact that he has an anger problem. Plus I feel like I've raised…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:24 PM
9

I have a male (husband idk where he falls on the scale of LVM/ etc ) but he has anger issues and won't go get help or go to couples counseling. Sometimes I feel like he only apologies and realizes his reaction is so big because of how I react (day to day things like him forgetting he had an appointment or something even though it's not for an hour). He is kind and I love him but I'm not happy. He doesn't really have a place to go or make a lot of money right now. I need some encouragement and su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:24 PM
14

Stay strong. You got this and you'll be out soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:19 PM
4

At least Im not the only one 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:23 PM
2

Not great. Super super dry and had some breakouts 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:22 PM
1

Nope. It just "cleaned really well" and would "sting a little"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:22 PM
42

Ouch. I had to do this for my husband...he was using rubbing alcohol??? Ugh. I've been a Becky Build A Bitch 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:02 AM
1

Bumping my own post for visibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:53 PM
83

Hard facts. Thankful for that trusty wand that does the trick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:51 PM
13

Omg Becky Build a Bitch is gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:14 PM
7

My husband has horrible road rage. It's terrifying. I will tell him to stop and he he doesn't. I've started just getting really quiet and holding my breath. Sometimes after he reaches over and grabs my hand and asks "are you okay?" Like he isn't the reason I was super stressed. Even better this is in my car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:49 PM
89

So happy for you. You deserve the best💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:06 PM
11

I felt this way with my ex (and possibly am starting to feel it now) by the time I finally broke it off I had been done for a while. I'd started focusing more on myself and was ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:31 PM
43

I honestly am getting so tired of the "what do you want" question. I want to be surprised. I want to be wooed. How about instead of asking say "let's have this for dinner" or "I made this" or "I'm taking you out for vday and here's a card" or something. Ugh, stop making me decide everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:42 PM
4

Wow. This is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:17 PM
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