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74

Does he know he could put distance preferences lmaoo what in the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:05 PM
21

Yeah when they call vaxxed people "sheeple" when they make their decisions based on some moronic right wing pundit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:01 PM
67

Absolutely!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:01 PM
45

Same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:23 PM
25

Absolutely, I'm not going to put any of my loved ones in danger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:22 PM
33

Exactly...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:09 PM
52

This is the sad truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:09 PM
160

It's really silly. The amount of guys that match with me that are looking for "nothing serious right now" is infuriating too, because I made it plenty clear that I'm not looking to mess around. No one reads a damn thing. I think men do the ultra fast swiping and then filter through their matches later, and that's just disgusting to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:02 PM
73

You're totally right, it's a waste of time and emotional energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:00 PM
13

That's very true. It's hard to think of the HV men cause there's really so little out there, and the general culture awards LV behaviors like shitty jokes and bad-mouthing SO's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:14 PM
26

Everything from the male depravity, forever gf, red flag posts. That's why I also mentioned the handbook, because it's full of advice on what high value traits look for, how to act as hvw, how to level up, as well as addressing all the crappy things crappy men do. When it's exclusively the bad things that terrible men do, it really feels like it's the only thing there is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:55 PM
119

Wow... You're absolutely right... I've never thought of it that way at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:25 PM
106

You're right, that's why I declared my post as a genuine question, because I didn't mean it to be rhetorical. Most of my experiences in dating have been negative, and even when right now I'm focused on myself and not on dating, it's hard to believe that good men even exist because of all the nonsense I come in contact with on a daily basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:24 PM
25

My issue with the "jokes" at work is that they are almost always degrading, or they reference violence against women. A lot of the men I work with have cheated on their wives, and they still bitch and whine about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:08 PM
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I totally agree with you, I'm pretty happy with my life and I've embraced the mentality of "if I find the kind of man who can keep up with me great, if not, also great!" Like I said above though, it's not just in the context of dating, because I'm not interested in dating the men I work with, but it's an environment where I feel like in need a 6 inch callous around my whole self, and they still get under my skin sometimes. And when confronted about this, both younger and older coworkers will exc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:04 PM
144

This is such a heartbreaking post...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:13 PM
2

Yeah, my first relationship was a nightmare, and that's the one that lasted a year. I was 18 and major pickme with very low self esteem, and I stayed in a bad situation thinking I couldn't do better. Afterwards, like you said, things just didn't work out in the span of 3-5 months of getting to know someone, and I took a lot of breaks from dating (even going years without) just to work on myself and find peace. I'm not really looking to date now because I'm in a massive level-up life overhaul, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:12 PM
4

I'm a woman who's almost 30 and never had a relationship longer than a year... Is that a red flag on me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:48 PM
139

It's always best with they show their true colors early, really glad she was wise enough to gtfo that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:50 PM
19

If I couldn't wear a ring I'd go for earrings, I love earrings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 09:56 PM
2

Says the creature that pisses from the same hole he shoots his blanks from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 06:28 PM
33

It's incredibly creepy and vile, and I'm glad to be subjected to less of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:11 PM
231

There's some peace that comes with it, first and foremost is middle aged men losing their interest. It's a damn blessing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:17 PM
31

That's one sad Peter Pan... Glad he told on himself though! Makes it easier to cut him off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:40 PM
25

Amen to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:32 PM
52

Painfully true, especially when using OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:52 PM
198

Remember not to feed the trolls ladies. We need to be aware of this, and stand for women's rights, just don't let the scum drag you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:11 PM
760

Glad she's finally getting out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:44 AM
99

That's a block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:42 AM
16

For podcasts I follow: Brene Brown: Unlocking Us (self compassion, social issues, evolving to be a better person) Brene Brown: Dare to Lead (leadership) Tori Dunlap - Her First 100K - Financial Feminist (finance and leadership) YouTube Channels: Lavendaire - https://youtube.com/c/Lavendaire (self improvement) Linda Raynier - https://youtube.com/c/LindaRaynier (career advice) Women of Impact - https://youtube.com/c/WomenofImpact
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 12:32 PM
4

Ditto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:56 PM
4

💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:23 PM
6

It's both disheartening and heartbreaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:18 PM
21

I've told some ex female friends about my sexual assaults and their first response was not all men. I had to cut them out of my life for my sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:00 PM
81

These are great points. I think romanticism and go-with-the-flow culture are detrimental for the health and safety of women. Edit: is->are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:04 PM
81

That is so well put, thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:07 PM
11

All of Kristin Hannah's books! Firefly Lane Fly Away The Nightingale The Great Alone The Four Winds My personal favorites are The Nightingale and The Four Winds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:37 PM
54

I wasn't hit, but he sexually assaulted me. I continued to be with him after, in a sexually abusive relationship for about a year. There are a few reasons why you might not have left. Those were some of mine: shame: once it happened, I felt like we had a shared shame. I would keep his sexual violence a secret, and he would keep my humiliation, pain, and suffering a secret. To the outside, we looked like an ok couple, and I was too ashamed to be otherwise -learned helplessness: family life, socia…
/r/askFDS10/08/21 02:31 PM
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I really needed this OP, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:25 PM
11

Always a pleasure 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:37 PM
63

Wow it's almost like linguistic simlie isn't related to biological science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:18 PM
27

None of the people commenting see women as human beings, any older adult aiming to couple with someone much younger is either power tripping or mentally stunted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:06 PM
7

Haha we're all here because too many of us had similar experiences. What comes to mind is the following from my personal experiences: One "boyfriend" being older and more experienced and knowingly approaching and pursuing me Same guy doing the "all my girlfriends were awful to me, I bent over backwards for them". He said this to me in the two weeks he was nice to me in the relationship, making young me go "oh no, this poor handsome man, I will be good to him". Queue admiral Akbar going "IT'S A T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:44 PM
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Thank you. The idea is that no matter the perceived attraction, everyone deserves respect. In romantic relationships, professional relationships, friendships, and all. And you bring up a good point, a bad person will treat everyone badly, whether they are attractive or not. They might be performatively nice to someone they perceive as attractive, but it's likely to be only to use and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:03 PM
54

I did get my very first angry DM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:25 PM
31

I don't see any either, maybe they're waiting mod approval?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:13 PM
87

"why are you still married?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:18 PM
30

This man right here is an "my ex hurt me and broke me too much" man when he does meet the "right woman".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:49 AM
1

Yeah this is dangerous hon, it's one thing to mention past pain and another to keep going over it. If he's not over the pain, he will not be able to love fully. This is true for everyone, those with unresolved pain should not be dating until they sort their head and heart out.
/r/askFDS06/07/21 05:49 PM
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It's funny how it's both "I don't want to pay for dates" and also "if a man doesn't pay for dates he's a bum" at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:58 PM
1

Absolutely he does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:12 PM
4

I'll work on it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:19 PM
4

Did not call her stupid at all, please don't put words in my mouth. I was mostly horrified and thought to share, there was no malice behind it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:09 PM
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It was brought to my attention by u/eveloe that my post makes it a little too easy to just judge the lady in the post rather than give any useful tips. I didn't live through the exact situation as this lady, but I will share how I leveled up from similar mentality. 1) reclaiming power "Empowerment" is useless. I lived in an upbringing where my mother always touted how she wanted her daughters to be empowered and take on the world yet she often withheld love when we misbehaved (spoke up, disagree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:07 PM
5

That's true. I'll post a comment separately from this thread so it's more visible. Thank you for bringing this to my attention, I don't always break things down like this, and I don't mean to antagonize either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:33 PM
4

Tbf I commented on the post saying things like this, but it wasn't the account I use for FDS. I didn't want to include my comments because it felt like both a plug and exposing myself to the general population of Reddit. I get where you're coming from, if I post again I'll do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:20 PM
9

It's ok, I'm just trying to participate more. I was also her when I was her age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:10 PM
9

I guess that's fair, I don't really see how it's so different from posts previously posted with "fds rescue mission flair" but if it's from the angle of beating a dead horse, sure there's a lot of posts like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:57 PM
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I think it's still important to highlight problems like this because a lot of recovering pickmes have been abused and need to realize that they deserve better. I want non-fds women to stumble on this on Reddit, see themselves, and decide to do better for themselves. I agree that there's a lot of positive to focus on, it's still important to highlight negative stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:35 PM
11

It's ok, I understand where that question is coming from. I want to make sure our ladies learn to love themselves enough to never be in a situation like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:10 PM
12

Exactly! So twisted...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:09 PM
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Don't move in with LVM When LVM commits an outrageous sin such as this, kick him to curb Learn to love, value, and heal yourself In comments of the post, she keeps mentioning the "good times" that were "so great. No good time is worth abuse, ALWAYS find someone who will be good to you through good times and bad times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:03 PM
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Please don't show the subreddit name, we get accused for brigading and harassing other subreddits if we do. The mods are probably taking it down because it shows the subreddits name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:32 PM
4

I agree with you, I think as a woman who has said this myself it was because I was hurt directly as a result of "I paid for your dinner, you owe me". Only now do I have the knowledge to understand that anyone who thinks a dinner=sex is scummy. I fell into thinking "that's just how men think, and I have to protect myself". I don't think a lot of women saying this are specifically trying to say that it should be an established rule, but I agree that we all need to be more conscious of what we say …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:59 PM
2

OMG this concept of "real metal" like sir kindly fuck off. I'm personally huge on power metal cause dragons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:43 AM
2

So glad someone is speaking about this! I'm actually hesitant to mention my affinity to rock and metal around men because of this shitty mindset. Same with nerdy content like Star Wars or Star Trek, though that's gotten slightly better lately, but still lots of gatekeeping from LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:52 AM
89

The man who sexually assaulted me said not all men too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:50 PM
14

Thank you so much, I can't tell you how much I appreciate your response.
/r/askFDS28/05/21 02:04 AM
4

100% agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:47 AM
28

I know about Bridgenorth in Canada, the founder is a survivor of trafficking herself. Link: https://www.bridgenorth.org/our-story.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:42 PM
22

I don't think anyone should feel bad that anyone is attractive, unless morality and legality come into play. That being said, the pornification of the sub is very off brand to what I thought the message and goal of this sub was. I don't want to view half naked men; I don't want to see them off this subreddit, and I ESPECIALLY did not want to see them on this subreddit and here we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:32 PM
26

It honestly sounds like you're going "not all men" to justify this. It's photographed like he's an icon to be praised, the angle, the lighting, all of it are to highlight his form. I don't want to admire men, especially not for their looks. I agree that not all posts are for all members, I think this was a hugely ill thought move on the part of the mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:59 PM
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I can't help but be really disappointed and uncomfortable at the FDS mods decision to post "sexy men". I don't want to expose myself to sexual/sexy photos. I have trauma associated with sex/sexuality, and I feel constantly bombarded by media and social media, and I thought I could escape nudity and soft core porn in FDS but I guess not? I guess I still have to worship and praise the sculpted douche nozzles even in FDS...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:31 PM
21

Great points! Also Happy Cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:09 PM
2

Yeah it's hard to move away from establish habits, but it's both possible and probable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:51 PM
1

💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:51 PM
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I'm still in the grieving process, I am also in my late 20's, and I ended a situation-ship in early November, vowing to never again be with someone who doesn't care for me. I think my way of saying sorry to myself is to do better. I no longer have any OLD accounts, I am dedicating this year for personal growth only and not looking to date (working out, learning new languages, getting a professional coach, etc). I don't really know how to get over the pain and guilt of my pick-me days, and I don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:34 PM
6

This 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:44 PM
114

What an ass, he's deliberately trying to put her down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:42 PM
6

I love first-aid kit! I can't believe I never heard this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:54 PM
34

I know... I was actually feeling nauseous reading the post, I hope somehow the universe intervenes and she doesn't go through with it. He's literally double her age, and she's a minor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:39 PM
142

Men anyways telling on themselves and have the audacity to say "not all men"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:17 PM
60

This post has so many red flags... I hope no matter what happens she is safe and sane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:16 PM
23

Truth! Also Happy Cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:44 PM
5

I deeply mistrust compliments from men (barring very few trusted ones), I get a bad feeling in my gut. Complements from women are the bees knees though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:12 PM
11

"How can you say you're hungry when they're a sandwich lying on the floor right next to a dumpster????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:09 PM
195

Gross gross gross 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:48 PM
3

You're right, that's what I'm really trying to say. There's more to unpack in the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:18 AM
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I don't disagree, women do have it harder. Weight gain can happen for a variety of reasons, depression being one of them. This man could be lazy and unmotivated to change, but going from dirty floors to "you disgust me" is drastic, and that's what I'm trying to say. There's a lot to unpack in this relationship and it seems they're not suited for each other, and there's a lot of underlying resentment for such a drastic jump in the argument. I'm not saying she should fall over and worship him for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:11 PM
55

Yessss Q U E E N! Though I should say, Dr. Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:55 PM
26

Yeah but... Then what? If they post non-fds and sketchy stuff, they'll be found out pretty quickly? Ultimately I do not understand what is their hope here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:53 PM
41

Her ex-husband is human garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:39 PM
45

What I'm wondering about is the true purpose of LARPing as a woman. I don't understand what those dudes are hoping to accomplish by doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:38 PM
8

TheTake has a really good video on this on their channel, I highly recommend giving it a watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:55 PM
9

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:04 PM
38

Hey there! Framing it as "have some dignity" is actually kind of hurtful. TW ahead. I looked for love for a long time, and I was constantly rejected because of the old "I don't want a serious relationship right now" deal. I'm someone who was sexually abused as a child, and my first boyfriend also assulted me (I stayed with him because religion and culture, my thought was that I've got to keep him happy so that he marries me and my honor is intact). After looking for love and only being used as a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:54 PM
11

That's pretty manipulative thinking, it's a shame you empathise more with a liar than someone working their ass off who deserves the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:24 PM
2

He was an alcoholic... Basically any time he wasn't flying (he was a pilot) he was drinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:09 PM
10

This is fantastic advice, thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:14 PM
3

Thank you kindly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:52 AM
8

This might have been true, I'm glad it was never asked of me. He kept saying "we're just friends, I hope you're not the jealous type", but the way he used to look at her... Yeah I shouldn't have stayed with him for as long as I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:51 AM
38

My goodness he totally had a harem of female friends! And he was a misogynist, one time he argued that women should get paid less than men because men paid for dates and I reminded him that I offered to go Dutch for Every. Single. Date! I can't believe I stayed with that clown for 4 months 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:11 PM
11

I feel you, I look back at my first relationship and I wish I could grab my younger self by the shoulders and shake her until she dumps that abusive jerk. But alas, time can't go back. All we can do is be the best versions of ourselves, and learn so that our future selves don't look back on us and lament.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:05 PM
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I had a feeling that would happen with my LVM ex and his bff, I blocked them both after the breakup. If it were to happen I wouldn't want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:09 PM
14

Are you me? My first boyfriend was exactly the same... I've personally lost hope that good men still exist in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:33 PM
22

I hope you're not friends with the French one anymore...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:42 PM
29

Catch 22
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:14 PM
133

It's her right to spend her own money on herself wtf. This guy is an asshat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:00 PM
8

I just finished that book! I'm the same girl, that's why I took a vow of (romantic) solitude, until I sort my own self esteem out 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:36 AM
89

In Jordan (where I'm from, and where honour killings aren't illegal btw) a man stabbed his neice to death because he had a DREAM about her having sex with someone. His sentence was reduced from death sentence to 10 years of hard labour...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:34 AM
36

I honestly don't even know what my type is anymore... For so long I made exceptions to what I like that now I think my type is "someone who is decent to me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:32 PM
30

I felt sick reading that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:05 PM
43

I seriously wish I had this when I was a teenager...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:01 PM
13

That's what he's saying yeah... This is actually the reason I no longer compliment men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:36 AM
50

LMAO well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:18 AM
18

Came here to say this 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:26 AM
1

Ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:40 PM
5

How awful... I'm so sorry that happened to her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:06 PM
24

"I don't want him to go to jail" is her concern... He's a freaking pedophile, run girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:56 PM
26

That's a pretty roundabout way to come out but ok homie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:26 PM
8

What a bastard...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:04 PM
29

Talk about rubbing salt into an open wound... Not only did he betray her with cheating, but now he's demanding things for the child he had through his adultery. Just... Fuck that guy... On second thought, no, no one fuck that guy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:03 PM
2

It's catch 22 with these scrotes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:33 PM
1

Wtf... This complete BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:31 PM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:00 AM
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mic drop For real though, learning self sufficiency and self love is the true key to happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:43 PM
217

That's something I learned after many errors. If he doesn't show love, he doesn't love. I'm proud of myself for walking away in my last situationship, I will never again let anyone mistreat me, romantically or otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:41 PM
4

Me too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:39 PM
6

To this day I regret not telling anyone about my first boyfriend who assulted me... I don't understand this person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:19 PM
120

This man sounds unstable... This is extremely alarming behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:40 PM
3

East Asian culture is deep rooted in Confuciusist (sp?) ideals which are honestly very toxic towards women, it's very hierarchical and inherently sexist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:54 PM
6

Ok this is gross on so many levels. Honestly though, we shouldn't be celebrating cheating... It's definitely gross to date someone who's your child's age, but the cheating doesn't sit well with me at all either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:09 AM
12

This guy sounds like a massive asshole...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:05 AM
15

Unreal... Wtf "I'm not just confused"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:55 PM
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I agree, I have two comments about this: Many men use niceness in a transactional way, the whole concepts of "women are vending machines that if you put enough nice coins in, sex comes out". Nice is VERY important, and so is: intelligence, charm, attraction, goodness/altruism (good isn't always nice and nice isn't always good), ambition, common interests/goals, compatibility. Nice alone isn't enough to carry a relationship. Edit: a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:06 PM
67

Notice how he went from "I have to get away from the house, the kids are too much" to "there's no better experience in the world than having kids"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:14 PM
231

I was just listening to the episode from Brene Brown's podcast "unlocking us" with Emily and Amelia Nagoski, where they talk about how there two types of people; the "humans" who get to pursue their goals and dreams, think philosophical and grand ideas, advance themselves and society. And there are the "caretakers" who do everything in their powers to make sure the "humans" can live up to their potential. Society puts men in the "human" category and women in the "caretaker" category, and in gene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:36 AM
12

I love her calm and composure. I work in a male dominated field and I aspire to be like her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:21 PM
18

I'm gonna throw up....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:39 PM
9

Yes absolutely: https://youtu.be/ug3mCkuFQG4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:40 PM
90

I watched this incredible video on why this is BS, men want equality in this aspect where it benefits them (50/50 on dates, holding door open, financial support) BUT: They will not fight for our equal rights and pay in the workplace (the wage gap is a myth!) They will not fight for our bodily autonomy (abortion rights) They will not admit or fight against the social norms that keep us down and deny us opportunities They will only bring up male rape and male domestic abuse when are brave enough t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:04 PM
36

What a toxic person... I'm sorry you have to go through that. Power to you ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:38 PM
190

Before I gave up on hookups, I had a hook-up whisper in my ear (after a very intense session of making out) "do I have your permission to pleasure you?" And I literally melted, I whispered a "yes", but he said "please say it again" while kissing my neck, wanting me to say it loudly and clearly... Yeah it's super fucking hot to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:11 PM
4

Luckily all my social media is already private, but unfortunately my work schedule is pretty set I can't change it that much. However, I do take Krav Maga and I plan on getting some pepper spray and a collapsible baton. I'll do my best to be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:50 PM
2

I only had phone number but yes he's been blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:46 PM
45

You're right, a couple of years earlier another man harassed me and to this day I regret not speaking up about it, he ended up saying something inappropriate to another woman which is what eventually got him fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:29 AM
60

The creepy thing is that before all this went down in one of our early conversations, he made that comment himself "I'm old enough to be your dad", it was so off putting and stomach turning to get those texts from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:28 AM
29

Now that's a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:54 PM
31

😂 you're right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:27 PM
71

My first bf forced anal sex on me, and I remember how painful and gross the first few times were. I ended up getting used to it, but it never really stopped hurting. After him, in my pick-me mentality, I would try to further entice my partners with it, almost like a "please like me more" move. I've sworn off it now, it doesn't make me feel good, it's painful, it's gross. Just come out and say you're gay homie, it's NBD. Keep your dick away from my ass though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:52 PM
255

"Me! Me! Pick ME!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:05 PM
1

Done ma'am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:44 PM
14

Hell yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:07 AM
111

After my last breakup I have vowed to never let a LVM mess with me again, I'm reading the handbook a second time now, and I'm sure I'll be rereading multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:32 PM
3

On that point when I saw the original post they do look to be a similar age, I just blurred their faces. Nevertheless, I cannot believe what I'm seeing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:37 PM
4

This is literally medieval...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:11 PM
22

Definitive proof that it's no matter how good looking the woman is, men feel entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:49 AM
24

I think it's truck part... I saw it on Instagram so I don't have the full context but from what I infer, she doesn't have a ring so his truck can be on the road in 2021...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:47 AM
40

Entitled trash...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:42 AM
11

This is so fucked up...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:45 AM
121

Thanks, I hate it... I hate that the men are like "oh we ranked them by personality" wtf you didn't even talk to them what personality??? I remember back in uni when a guy I barely know straight up walked up to me and said "7", then walked to another girl and said a number at her too. We're not yelp get your damn reviews away from us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:07 PM
83

I'm really sorry you went through that, I had similar experience with my first boyfriend... Except it took me 8 years after the breakup to realise how terrible it all was. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:19 PM
19

Had a run in with something like this recently, I thought an older coworker (he's in his 50's, I'm 27) was being kind and friendly and it turns out every single nice gesture was so that he can "turn me on" eventually... 🤮 I hate when men make me regret being nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:03 PM
2

I have sent the FDS handbook to both my best friend and my sister, and they loved it so far. To be honest they've been giving me similar advice for a long time but I was a very low self esteem pick-me. Better late than never though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:17 PM
16

Well put ma'am
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:10 PM
26

In my experience most men I talk to talk about getting married one day and having kids, but most women I talk to are fed up with men and disillusioned with marriage and motherhood. That being said, men don't want to get married because they don't want an equal partner, which is what a lot of women who want marriage want. They want all the perks of marriage (living with their gf/bangmaid) without any of the commitment and support of marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:10 PM
2

I know... I was hoping that he was going through a funk or something, but I guess it was just him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:05 PM
10

Yeah we were going on a couple's weekend in Tennessee and he invited her and she was supposed to have a date, but when her date cancelled on her she still tagged along anyway... I should have ended things then and there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:12 PM
43

Yesterday I broke things off with a guy who made it plenty clear that my feelings don't matter to him. We met on OLD and it started out great, he'd pay for dates, plan dates, show real affection and interest. But he just started getting colder and colder a few weeks ago. We went to a weekend trip to Tennessee where he brought along one of his female friends who at first I liked, but as time went on I became more annoyed with. After Tennessee, we were never on our own on a date, she was always in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:45 PM
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