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Yah I agree. I think misery loves company. Toxic people like to have other people on the same wavelength
/r/ExRedPill23/01/25 06:04 AM
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I agree. I just have noticed personally that with girls in my past. If I try to sit down and get to the heart of issues they break down. Ultimately it means this person isn’t actually willing to fix the problem and I should get out. But I guess I’m a people pleaser and I want to figure out how to make it work.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/25 06:02 AM
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So the vibe I got and the way I understand these convos. Was the woman would sometimes feel like they shouldn’t have to spell it out for you. You should know or pick up the context clues and if you really were invested in her well being you’d know what to do or you’d know what not to do before it happened. So in my experience this made me have to consider almost every action I made and think is this an action my partner was ok with. This was expected of me because this is what my partner did. Sh…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/25 07:16 AM
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It would be worth it to check out the podcast with destiny and Dr K and they go into detail of the type aloof person who is attracted to red pill and what they get out of it.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/25 12:51 AM
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Remember he is his own person with his own thought process and he is making rational decisions that make sense to him. When you push back on that you’re not just saying red pill is wrong, he is gonna take it as his thought process is wrong and he might get defensive. Help him come to his own conclusion that another group is what he should be interested In. If that makes sense
/r/ExRedPill16/01/25 12:49 AM
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The only thing that can get him out imo is he needs to see a role model on the left that he likes and have a reason to get out. If he is really redpilled it’s because he sees the redpill guys as people to look up to. He sees some sort of value in them. You need to just expose him to something that’s is more healthy and fills that same void.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/25 12:47 AM
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Thanks. I believe you sometimes I justvgetbthebrandom thought based off past experiences obviously and I post on here before thinking it through.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/24 02:49 AM
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But I don’t want that experience to make me scorned. I don’t want to only do my part in my neck t relationship. I want to help my partner even if my efforts are more than hers. I just have to know when to stop and realize the relationship is over.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/24 02:10 PM
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I kinda went through this in my last relationship. I’m not in that relationship anymore so maybe my advice is worthless but, I remember getting to a point where I think I accepted that my Gf was done. I took full blame for lots of things she had issue with and never gave pushback. I just focused on hearing her complaints and putting together a plan to fix it. I felt like my good choices could help encourage her to be excited about the relationship. The problem was my work alone can’t save the re…
/r/ExRedPill17/10/24 02:08 PM
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Sorry to hear that. I’ve said it multiple times I’m not putting this onto every woman and I’m also aware that lots of times the roles are reversed. I think I’ve just mostly been in a bubble and my perception was feeling like reality. But that’s why I posted here with this thought. I wanted hard push back. I did not want to be in an echo chamber.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/24 02:02 PM
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I think I just wanted to feel like everyone other than red pi lol could relate to me. Redpill was really attractive cuz these guys who I perceived as successful were talking about things that I really related to or thought I did. So it felt like for the first time someone was talking to me not at me. I would have liked to hear someone outside come to me with that same energy. Not necessarily the specific word choice.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/24 01:59 PM
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Also obviously we didn’t not have the same life path. I don’t know you and we could have had very different life paths. Of course I might relate more to a female bass player who likes to go to the gym and graduated from the same school as me, and who is Hispanic, and has similar parents. And she’s lesbian and we are attracted to similar women. Idk stack on the similarities. Yes. I very well might be able to relate to that imaginary person more than you. But I mean if I were to make a guess of wh…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:58 AM
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Well I mean I assuming we are both men we both have male genatalia and we both went through puberty. As males going through puberty we would have more testosterone than a woman going through puberty. Off the bat we both experienced a flood of hormones that has predictable, not absolute but predictable ways of expressing itself. Women can relate to getting their first period, women can relate to child birth or just the prospect of eventually being a mother or having to manage not getting pregnant…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:48 AM
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After reanalyzing my statement. I see that that is the natural consequence/ implication of my statement. That’s also not what I wanted to communicate. Thanks for helping me see that. I think I was being accusatory and gendered when I shouldn’t have, I think my main idea was I was wrestling with what’s the best way to express an issue you have while also working with your partner to resolve the issue. Thanks for the feedback
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:31 AM
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I see your perspective I guess in my head I read it too charitably. Thanks for pointing out that this is the implication from my statement.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:27 AM
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I agree thanks for the feed back. I’m sorry if it came across like I was “plowing ahead”. Think I was just throwing a thought out there and I was hoping I’d get good push back. You guys can’t check me if I don’t give you my honest position
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:25 AM
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If you don’t have a resolution that’s ok please share your issue but understand it’s more effective if you can provide help.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 09:21 PM
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Yes I agree. And maybe I’m in a bubble right now and I’m only exposed to similar types of issues. It’s good to know that the world is bigger than my neck of the woods and knowing not every woman is the same
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 09:18 PM
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I’d rather be unfairly burden to do extra work to rehabilitate my offender knowing that I’ll be happy after instead of. Following justice, washing my hands clean but being sad after because my partner gave up and they couldn’t fix the problem in their own.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 09:17 PM
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I totally agree. Let me try to respond to certain piece. I think what I’ve tried to do is operate on the practical and ideal. Ideally: if a partner has an issue the offending partner should take that in and take action to fix it. The offending partner I would say has the duty to do so because he caused the issue. Practically: no one is an ideal person. People have blind spots and they have a bunch of baggage that doesn’t allow them to just get stuff done right the first time. They need support t…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 09:14 PM
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Also I feel like yes ideally if someone is harming you the person should stop. But as is often the case in life you can’t always expect people to do the right thing and at the end of the day you can’t force anyone to do anything. All you can do is make efforts to get the other person to empathize with your issue and incentivize them to help you. To make a comparison. At the end of the day if I’m getting bullied yes the bully should stop. But if I never stand up for myself or share how his action…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 08:51 PM
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No. Definitely not. The exact opposite. If you have a problem bring it up but being it up with a game plan and a way to get your partner in board to help you. Don’t just get mad at them and have no resolution in mind.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 08:48 PM
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I agree. I mean I put a disclaimer that I could be suffering from a selection bias and that this is onviously not all women. I also acknowledge that it maybe a cultural thing. I’m trying to share my experience and what I’m noticing in the moment while still being aware that I have biases and my anecotal experience isn’t representative of the entire population. But my experience is still real to me
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 08:47 PM
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Well I think although we are all just people men and women have very different life experiences and go through the world in different ways. I will have more shared experiences with men because we likely had lots of similar experiences or ideas and developed similarly. Women likely have their own different struggles and different ways they developed compared to men. I don’t want to tenderize everything but to act like men and women are exactly the same kind of ignores the reality that men and wom…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 08:44 PM
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Thanks. I’ll check out that book.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 06:33 AM
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Sorry ti be long winded but back to my original point. It seems like sometimes women complain about their issues and make a big deal of it without considering: well can he fix this? how long would it take? If I helped him would it go faster? Do I know how he can fix it? Do I really want to go through the effort of helping him fix it? When they blow up and don’t offer solutions it comes across to me as “hey I don’t like this but you need to fix it” but it’s like aren’t you the one who wants it fi…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 06:31 AM
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Well I would think it is a deal breaker. But I think him meeting it is inevitable the issue is how long does it take to meet her standard? And how much effort does she need to put into helping him meet the standard? If it takes a long time and lots of effort then it’s not worth it and she should move on. Cuz in the time it takes for him to get with the program she could have dated someone else who was more compatible. Another way to illustrate my point is, I’d live to have $100. If you told me a…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 06:26 AM
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You’re kinda hitting on one of the issues I faced in my relationship. I’m simultaneously and over thinker and inconsiderate. I know it’s amazing. But I remember trying multiple times to set up time with my ex to I guess take inventory on how we are treating each other. I guess get live honest feedback about whether or not we are caring for each other. The main push back I got from that was that she wanted me to figure these things out for myself and that she doesn’t want to show me how to be a g…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 06:21 AM
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Si go out there and be a positive force in someone’s life no strings attached and see what happens
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 05:52 AM
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It’s apparent the biggest thing you need is an ego boost. Idk you idk your life but you need to learn to pat yourself on the back for your accomplishments and carry that with you or go out and accomplish stuff and feel good about those things. Remember women just like anyone else want to be around people that make their life better. They want to be with people they enjoy and make their life better. If you’re not giving that to them then there’s no reason for them to be with you. No one wants to …
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 05:49 AM
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I think I also mentioned this above. Whenever I have a problem I understand it’s “my” problem. If it bugs me a lot then I become I’m very motivated to see it fixed. I also understand I have different sensibilities and different tolerances than everyone else so if I want them to help me I may very well have to convince them to help me because it might not be a problem to them. I can’t expect people to think like me and have my level of conviction to solve a problem unless I can get them to empath…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 05:29 AM
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I guess to answer your question more directly it’s medium to big issues that could have been avoided if she helped the guy or encouraged the guy to be more considerate and helped point him in the right direction. Assuming both parties actually love each other and want to take care of each other.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 05:23 AM
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No it’s more existential issues. Example: 1) GF doesn’t trust Bf. Either because she suspects bf of cheating or just has a “feeling” and wants to do some snooping. GF goes through BF’s phone when he’s busy with GF’s family and for 2 hours goes on a deep dive in his messages. No evidence of cheating but a bunch of innapropriate locker room talk and ignorant stuff. Blows up on him asking why do you do this, you need to grow up, why aren’t these texts from old girls deleted, do you still think of o…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 05:20 AM
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Interesting I’ve definitely thought about that and wondered if this was a cultural thing. I am Hispanic, dated a Hispanic, and the couples I’m referencing are Hispanic. Thanks. I guess it sounds like you’re saying I’m in a bit of a bubble and if I get out of my bubble I’d be surprised at how other people deal with things.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:49 AM
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Interesting I’ve definitely thought about that and wondered if this was a cultural thing. I am Hispanic, dated a Hispanic, and the couples I’m referencing are Hispanic. Thanks. I guess it sounds like you’re saying I’m in a bit of a bubble and if I get out of my bubble I’d be surprised at how other people deal with things.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:48 AM
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Thanks. I appreciate that insight. One thing I was faced with in my last relationship was trying to help a people pleaser type person be comfortable bringing up complaints about me so that they never turn into blow ups. (Like regularly creating space for here to share her issues, and letting her know it’s a safe space and that I want to be aware of these things to do better). But is that doing too much? meaning I have to make sure I’m communicating well not make sure we’re both communicating wel…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:43 AM
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See my response below
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:34 AM
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Well I guess I’d hope to read a response and make the determination on whether or not they are credible based on the response. Life experiences that seem to be realistic would be good evidence in support of a claim. Basically something like an uncle telling you hey man I’ve seen this before this is how I dealt with that try this out
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:33 AM
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Im trying to share my thought and also share my bias. So that you can give me a more educated answer
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:30 AM
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I am conceding that I am bias. I think that’s obvious. What I’m asking you is am I wrong and this is not a trend you are also seeing? Am I biased and that prevents me from seeing things clearly? Lol. I’m basically asking you to scold me and explain why, or tell me something like this is a trend but here’s how you work on it.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:27 AM
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Lol. Are you implying that this doesn’t happen? Or are you implying that they come with solutions I’m just not looking? I’m also not denying that I or other men can be huge pains in the ass but lots of those behaviors are learn bad habits built over a lifetime and they need intentional effort to fix
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:22 AM
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Lol I’m asking why I am seeing this trend? Is it kind of true generally for lots of women? Am I only looking at toxic people and need to move on from it? A comparison would be that lots of guys don’t share their feelings. That’s not true of all guys but it’s true about enough guys that it’s important to be aware of for women and how to deal with it if you come across it.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:18 AM
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Lol. This seems like you just like this girl and you’re a bit insecure. 1) I think you have to learn to be ok with knowing that you tried your best and being objective about the response you get from a woman. If you like the response keep going. If you don’t move on. 2) part of dating means that you’re trying to differentiate yourself from all the other guys she might be interested in. Once you accept that all you can do is be yourself and that’s what you want to focus on offering a woman you’ll…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:15 AM
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I think it comes down to a fundamental question of trusting your partner. There’s nothing wrong with being thorough but understand that it comes across as rude and ultimately that you don’t trust your partner. If you want to do a DNA test it’s kind of weird but if that’s what you want then be consistent about that level of verification even for yourself. Don’t just make it seem like it’s a one way street. I can see it being a positive experience if you say I want peace of mind and I’m happy to o…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:08 AM
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Great point. Scarcity mindset.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/24 03:55 AM
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This sounds kinda weird and I agree that it kinda sounds like desperation. My guess is 1 of 2 things is happening. Either you’re having lots of interactions with great women that you should pursue and maybe that is an appropriate feeling or you’re just thirsty for a relationship and you fall in love too quick. Try to find a happy balance of enjoying someone’s company but not falling in love. I think it’s normal if you meet a girl and she’s pretty and cool that you should want to explore that mor…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/24 03:54 AM
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Women don’t like fake guys or guys who don’t have the courage to be intentional. IMO when dealing with women it’s good to put them in a friend box and a relationship/intimacy box. That doesn’t mean people can’t change boxes but I think it’s useful to think like that. Last note is relationship box doesn’t mean you have to be a dick or crude or too forward or that you can’t be friendly with a woman. It just means if a woman is in the relationship box a relationship is the main goal. Example: I mee…
/r/ExRedPill22/06/24 11:13 PM
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Thanks for the feed back. So question when I’m itemizing this list. Sorry if this is wordy I actually want to really get this down I like that you gave me a process. I think I have a pretty good grasp in my head as to why we broke up. She obviously told me and I think I fully understand her reasoning. For example, if someone asks me why we broke up I could articulate her perspective in a way that she would not object. Is that what I’m writing down? “Jane broke up with me because I was selfish an…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 05:04 AM
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Bro one of the biggest things I learned is that its better for everyone if you just don’t waste each others time. It’s not good to be so indirect that not even you know what you want. After a few one on one hang outs escalate (gradually and respectfully) then move on from there. There’s no good or bad answers there’s only answers that that get you closer to your goal or further away from your goal. You ask her on a date “she says yes”. Good luck, invest more time in her. “She says no “good, now …
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 04:13 AM
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lol. Coming from a former guy who thought like you I want to say you don’t have to be manipulative or mean or anything. Women and men both like people who speak and move with conviction. Whether that be bill gates or the dude you compare yourself to and wonder why he gets all the girls and you don’t. Bill gates has conviction because he’s proud of himself and feels knows his worth and because of that he is deliberate in his actions. The neighborhood douchebag may objectively offer nothing of val…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 03:33 AM
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Lol. Coming from a former guy who thought like you. My guess is that you’re very picky and maybe a bit clueless. I’m not telling you to bang a bunch of hood rats but it’s ok to talk to the cute girl who isn’t a ten out of ten or the girl who was not your first choice. Also I’m assuming in college you actually went to a campus and did not stay home all day, but you’d be surprised how many girls maybe give you a double take or smile at you or want an excuse to hang out and talk with you if you’re …
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 03:25 AM
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