GF broke up with me and I’m getting over it. When I start dating again how do I prevent myself from comparing the new girl to my ex. How do I stop myself from thinking all girls are the same.

I enjoyed my previous relationship and I learned a lot about myself. I learned what I need in stressful situations, I learned what type of affection I respond well to, I learned that I’m a big compromiser and I know what I don’t need in stressful situations, I know what issues I don’t want to deal with again.

My ex was great at some things and not so great at others.

I guess what I’m wondering is after my last relationship am I looking for someone with all the good qualities or more that my Ex had and fewer of the bad qualities my Ex had?

Is my ex the standard and all new women need to be at least this good or better? It feels a bit too much like comparing in a negative/ toxic way but it also makes sense to me because I can make more educated decisions on what type of women I choose to date.

Any general thoughts is good. Mostly just wondering how to get out of a relationship and use it as a blessing for my life not look at it as a blemish