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| 48 | TRP Hates Stepfathers | bluemagex2517 | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 11:28 AM | |
| 32 | Empathy is a Core Problem | bluemagex2517 | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/23 01:07 PM |
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| 2 | My friend has fallen into red pill community and I think I’ve lost him for goodHe was never like this before he moved to LA It sucks, but you should focus on how he is and not how he used to be. I know that's hard, because you're experience a kind of sock and awe or a lighter version of cognitive dissonance, but thinking of it like "if he could only go back to the way he was" won't help. I had a friend in high school (2005 grad) who was the most leftist of all my friends at the time. He was suspended from school for protesting the Iraq war a few times. He went into the mil… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/10/24 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Article by Olivia FaneHow does your wife feel about this? Does your experience of romance vs sexual arousal affect your marriage? | /r/ExRedPill | 15/10/24 03:28 PM |
| 7 | My friend has fallen into red pill community and I think I’ve lost him for goodI’ve urged him to not Watch them but he’s told me that my mind is fogged by the left. Don't let him bully you like that. "The left" doesn't fog anyone's mind. Push back, hard. If you want to be a good friend, don't roll over to his bullshit. Set boundaries and don't let him break them. Demand respect, and if he's totally unwilling to give it, then end your friendship. My best advice is to not use soft gloves because of your empathy and fear for him and your friendship. It's good that you have th… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/10/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | My friend has fallen into red pill community and I think I’ve lost him for goodIf it would make him look bad, maybe he shouldn't be doing it in the first place. It sounds like you need to stage an intervention of sorts. He also needs to know that this doesn't make him any more manly. It makes him more bitter and angry and misogynistic, that's it. "Real men" are multifaceted people, not one dimensional idiots like those red bill gurus. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/10/24 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Article by Olivia FaneThis lady is incredibly dumb in my opinion. She thinks for two week course on sex therapy in the 80s given to her as training to be a probation officer qualifies her any any way to make the claims. Sex doesn't require love, but to say they are antithetical is truly divorced from reality. How can someone communicate with other humans and come to that conclusion? I'd imagine she has mental health issues that prevent her from experiencing sexual arousal with someone who she is emotionally connected… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/10/24 11:22 AM |
| 44 | Has hatred of women increased in the past couple of years?I remember the days when arguments against modern feminism were mostly about supporting "egalitarianism" instead of whining about women working. This was always a very silly and misinformed argument. I worked with a read the work of highly regarded egalitarians theorists while I was in grad school for moral and political philosophy. Every single one would have said without hesitation or reservation that they were feminists as well as egalitarians. Egalitarianism is in no way contrary to feminism… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/24 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Need a mentor (specifically one that’s also queer)It would probably work better to search the queer community for someone that can help than to search the exredpill community for someone who can help that's queer. Just odds-wise. I'm sure there are plenty of queer people who can relate to trying to embody hypermasculinity when they were trying to hide or deny their queerness or transness ect. Even if they never got into redpill directly, I'm sure they a similar experience and would be a good resource. It's quite common to overcompensate when yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 05:02 PM |
| 13 | How do Red Pill Men feel when their girlfriend calls them out on their game?I would like to either punch him in the face or tell him I am ON to the Game and I am gone. Don't do any of this. He absolutely deserves it, but it might lead to escalation or retaliation on his part. Be safe. The concern I always have is for the next woman. How can you or we a society help warn the next woman he's with that he's going to abuse her too? So many times in situations like yours these guys find another woman to abuse, and that woman will go into denial mode about it. If you want to … | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/24 03:50 PM |
| 6 | The Red Pill impact on mental healthMy experience was rare. I doubt similar will happen for most guys. I was taking philosophy classes at my university, started to learn a lot about political philosophy, ethics, and intellectual feminism. My behavior didn't really jive with what I was learning. I realized I could pursue women in a more open way, without manipulation or tactics. I realized I was trying to emotionally manipulate women because I was bullied in highschool and had low self esteem. It made more sense to be myself, or th… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/24 09:34 PM |
| 10 | The Red Pill impact on mental healthI have a history of anxiety as well as being adhd/autistic. I am older and luckily missed out on the red pill as it currently stands, but did some similar stuff/ had similar mindset in my early 20s. This is very common among redpillers and blackpillers, I've noticed. Anxiety makes some men very insecure about their ability to form sexual relationships and the redpill provides the kind of wrong answers that prey upon those anxieties. Many autistic men have a hard time with the variability of roma… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/24 09:17 PM |
| 11 | Olivia NuzziIt could be his wealth and status. It could be something else. The reality isn't that women never act in a manner similar to how redpill describes women, it's that women act in a wide variety of ways and that redpiller's takes on women's behavior isn't useful or predictive. Think of all the millions of stereotypically attractive 30ish year old women who don't sleep with ultra wealthy old geezers. The vast majority of them do not and would not even if given the chance. Reality isn't red or blue p… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/09/24 05:07 PM |
| 1 | What’s the hate towards older women?Page not found. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/24 10:52 AM |
| 1 | What’s the hate towards older women?Sometimes that happens. It's not right. On the other hand, you're worried about 4-5 upvotes and downvotes in the wrong direction deep into a thread. That's just the nature of any small sub. The earliest top level comments get way more votes, the ones deep in a thread get less and are more prone to bad takes. My point wasn't that you literally want perfection, it's that you're focusing on the wrong things. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/24 10:45 AM |
| 2 | What’s the hate towards older women?"Perfection is the enemy of the good." Any such sub, or any space at all, is going to make trade-offs. This sub does a lot of good, even if you think it might accomplish more if it were more focused in a way you preferred. I'd suggest accepting that no space of this type is going to be perfect and try to help people where you can. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/24 10:19 AM |
| 15 | What’s the hate towards older women?You have somewhat of a point, but there are definitely other red pill guys who want dumber/less educated women to take advantage of, manipulate, and control. I believe you when you say you weren't like that when you were into the red pill, but I've encountered many guys who were. That's especially true of the earlier redpill ~2011-2013, but I've encountered lots of red pilled dudes who are similar in the last few years too. You have to remember that this is also a space for victims to vent. Some… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/24 09:18 AM |
| 8 | Trying to avoid redpill menDepends on the state, but usually 50/50 shared custody doesn't involve child support. Obviously your dude just has visitation, not 50/50 shared, so he has to make up the difference financially. They're taking him to court because he's not paying it all and/or hiding income. Which is really shitty. Some women (or men) squander child support payments, but it's still his duty to pay them in the first place. Kids are expensive. He's shortchanging his own children. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/24 12:40 AM |
| 22 | Trying to avoid redpill menThey keep taking him to court for child support so he tries to find ways to hide any bonuses or pay raises. Fuck dead beat dads. I was lucky and my dad always paid his share toward my care (parents were never married, Mom took primary custody with no contest). A few of my friends had shit dads who were always dodging child support. Those guys really fucked up their kids in many ways. People say that the courts are stacked against dads in custody, but most men don't even seek shared custody. When… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/24 12:29 AM |
| 19 | Redpill only works with insecure women. How to find good women ?I was really hit by the realisation that I don't want to have sex with a woman who doesn't really know me. There is this thing in redpill where you are told to not open up about yourself. I mean, there is one thing to whine like a little bitch , and one thing to talk about yourself like you don't feel sorry for yourself. This is super common with guys who get into the red pill. Before the red pill they don't know how to talk to women, so as soon as one shows interest they pour their soul out to … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/24 10:54 AM |
| 7 | How to become attracted to someone based on their personality?I remember explaining to you that it takes a little bit of attraction to start with. Most people don't go from zero attraction to a ton of attraction. They go from "that person is kinda cute" to "wow, they're pretty hot." So, if you find a young woman that you're somewhat attracted to and she feels the same back, and you really like each other's personalities and spend a lot of time together, then it's highly likely you'll be more attracted to one another over time. That's just how the vast majo… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/08/24 03:48 PM |
| 5 | How to become attracted to someone based on their personality?Didn't you already ask this a while ago and then delete the thread when you didn't get answers you liked? | /r/ExRedPill | 31/08/24 03:31 PM |
| 5 | How do I gain confidence in myself without any positive affirmations from other people?Sorry to hear all that. I'll try to research some books that may help. Hopefully I can get to that tomorrow. I will say that part of it is that you might benefit from rolling with things. Like, if they spot something interesting and wander off, join them and wander off with them. Take joy in what others are taking joy from. It feels like you're primed to take things personally because you're looking externally for validation, because the internal validation wasn't nutured in you when you were yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/24 01:01 AM |
| 11 | How do I gain confidence in myself without any positive affirmations from other people?Then you shouldn't expect anyone to help you and you shouldn't be surprised when no one likes you and you're lonely. Seems pretty straightforward. If you're a misanthrope, you shouldn't be surprised when that leads to unhappiness. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/24 11:30 PM |
| 1 | As a woman how can I avoid being affected by reading misogynistic comments on the internet?Weird when all the porn is hidden now. Used to be All was like 20% porn. I sometimes forget that porn on reddit is a thing. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/24 11:19 PM |
| 7 | How do I gain confidence in myself without any positive affirmations from other people?They are far more important. Don't speak on things you don't understand. Compliments from family from a young age are immensely important to building long term sense of self worth into adulthood. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/24 11:10 PM |
| 10 | How do I gain confidence in myself without any positive affirmations from other people?I've never been the type of person that people compliment. Not even your family? Your parents? If your own family never supported you or helped build your self esteem, then it's definitely time to see a therapist or at least read some books on attachment styles and how you can build self esteem as an adult. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/24 04:30 PM |
| 2 | As a woman how can I avoid being affected by reading misogynistic comments on the internet?There's a few others, but misogyny is the big one. It was way worse when I started using Reddit in ~2010. The user base was probably ~70-80% men back then and you couldn't pushback against the misogyny even a little bit without a hundred downvotes. Hell, r/ theredpill was a straight up sadism against women hobby group at the time, where dudes would brag about abusing their wives/girlfriends openly. It got better for a while after that, marginally. I'd say around 2015 the misogyny stopped getting… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/08/24 03:30 PM |
| 7 | Genuinely curious, what’s obsession with women and sex?The evidence is clearly against your position. You've posted this before, (on the exact same subreddit!) and people linked tons of evidence that proved you wrong, that you clearly ignored. I'd research it again and post it again, but you'd just ignore it again. You're the one who continuously just believes whatever he wants. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/24 05:13 PM |
| 5 | Gets worse after decide to leave itI agree, I guess I wasn't as clear about that so I should have been. I did include the line: if you feel affected by it. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/24 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Gets worse after decide to leave itWhat does this have to do with red pill? Abstinence from masturbation isn't necessarily bad, but it's usually based on pseudoscience. Using the term PMO tells me you're deep into the nofap pseudoscience. Giving up video porn I great, but it's fine to masturbate to your own imagination or to erotic stories. The claims nofappers and religious sources make about brain chemicals is nonsense. Yeah, masturbation releases endorphins, oxytocin, and serotonin... but not an unhealthy amount. No more than … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/24 01:58 AM |
| 11 | Advice for entering into my (21M) first real relationship?showed total vulnerability and 100% honesty around her, then she lost romantic interest Honesty is great, but total emotional vulnerability to someone who you're not already in a relationship with is way too much, dude. No one wants you to dump all your emotional trauma on them when you're first getting together. teasing/flirting/being a bit mysterious led to much more romantic female interest Yeah, of course it did. Flirting is a lot more fun for a potential romantic partner then emotionally du… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/24 02:44 AM |
| 6 | How to stop caring if a girl looks at me or notI don't think you can undo your awareness, but you can teach yourself that someone's looking at you is meaningless without context. Some people have adhd or just zone out a lot and their eyes tend to track movement. Some people have outward focus and look at everyone around them. Some people are hyper keyed in on fashion so they're always checking out other people's clothes. You can't really guess why random strangers are looking at you or what they're thinking about when they do so. If it's som… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/24 12:57 AM |
| 4 | Did redpill ruin me? Why do I feel totally in love with a girl but not so much sexual desire?Seems like you're suffering from: https://www.verywellmind.com/jumping-to-conclusions-2584181 | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 06:52 PM |
| 17 | Redpill PillarsEverything that the redpill is correct about isn't unique to them. Everything that's unique to them is incorrect. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 05:45 PM |
| 52 | Why is "No Jordan Peterson" A Rule?Because years ago, when this rule was made, dumbass redpillers would come here and claim they weren't supporting the red pill, they just followed JP and would push his content. I think it just got annoying for the mods so they niped it on the bud. In the years since then JP embraced the red pill dude-bros for a bit, but now they've kind of rejected him. Sometime in the last year or so it became a big meme that he tells young men to clean their rooms and have discipline but his office is in total… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/24 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it Red-Pill to Believe that “Leagues” Exist?Yup. idk why you said that like you're contradicting me. Leagues are a social construct, and therefore do "exist" to some extent if everyone involved enforces them. So yeah.. Most likely Margo Robbie is going to enforce those leagues and not date people like me. But, some much smaller number of random hot celebrities date super regular guys/women. The same is true for non-celebrities. Just because something is a social construct, doesn't mean it's not real. Military hierarchies are social constr… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/24 09:00 AM |
| 3 | Is it Red-Pill to Believe that “Leagues” Exist?So I'm arguing it is not a social construct, it's just a quick way to talk about how much attractive qualities a person has. I think you're misunderstanding what a social construct is. What people find attractive, at a fine grain level, is a social construct. It's changed over time and varies by culture. For example people in some African nations find heavier people more attractive than others cultures because of the effect of their AIDS epidemic. People in the middle ages thought fat nobles wer… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/24 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Is it Red-Pill to Believe that “Leagues” Exist?Glad I could help, even just a bit. In hindsight, I feel like I didn't emphasize just how much I'd raz one of my friends if they were like this. Especially in my 20s. There's no way I'd just rationally tell him to date in his league. I'd just make jokes at his expense every time his dating life came up. Lol. "Who rejected you this time Jessica Alba or Carrie Underwood." (I was 20 in 2007...) | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/24 07:59 PM |
| 26 | Is it Red-Pill to Believe that “Leagues” Exist?Leagues are a social construct, and therefore do "exist" to some extent if everyone involved enforces them. Red pill goes serval steps further and tries to explain leagues with biological determinism and other nonsense. The reality is that none of that quackery about genetics is true. But, many people do follow these social contructs, so it's not helpful to ignore them entirely. For me personally, I don't like to think of things on those terms, because they're limiting. But, I'm in a LTR now and… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/24 10:20 AM |
| 36 | Dating women? After dilema how to get some, I realised I´m not sure if I even want some. At least at my age.Your wording is a bit... blunt and impersonal. Is English your second language? Maybe you don't mean to but the way your wording all this sounds a bit... antisocial, for lack of a better word. I'll try to answer anyway. If you don't want to date. Don't date. Why do you think we're going to try to convince you to try to date when you don't want to? Also, I agree with the other commenter: If you only want a woman to start a family with and don't see any value in a loving romantic relationship and … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/24 11:32 PM |
| 37 | Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look?Why do you keep coming back to this subreddit to try to "prove" your "point"? You've already said that you're on a military base in military town with very few dating options. Your only outlet is online dating, which is a crap-shoot. You've proven to us, through your own damn words that looks isn't the problem. Circumstances are. Yes, if you were absurdly attractive you might gets some dates despite your circumstances. But, why should we give a fuck that you're not? Just the fact that you keep t… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/24 02:39 PM |
| 102 | Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look?Because most of the time that isn't the problem. Maybe you're a rare exception. Maybe your 100% certainty is just wrong. Experience shows us that the vast majority of the time guys complaining about their looks on this subreddit have other problems that are more important. Literally every time a guy has complained about this on this sub and shared a pic of himself or had a pic posted somewhere else, he's been moderately attractive. This has happened dozens if not scores of times on this subreddi… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/24 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so picky compared to men?Rural areas have more conservative women. Conservative women are more likely to be shallow (especially younger conservative women). This could definitely explain your experience. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/24 05:02 PM |
| 5 | Feeling the need to rack up a high n count as a man to compete with women on dating appsRealistically, I would be comfortable with ANY woman who was with less than 35 people. After that I would start to question intentions and how she views relationships. And The majority of women I know are definitely over 10 by this point (which is fine, no judgement) I just have no idea what their totals are So, most women you know have slept with some number of people that's higher than 10 and you don't have an issue if they've slept with under 35... Sounds like this isn't an issue. Sounds like… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/24 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Why are women so picky compared to men?Overweight when they started dating. At least one was even heavier when they date/were married, but he's lost some weight since then. This kind of thing is pretty normal. I dated lots of women who were way thinner than I was back when I was dating. I also dated women who were heavier than me. There were also plenty of women not interested in me because of my weight/looks. Real world people are so full of variety. You just gotta wade into humanity to find the ones who are gonna like you. I feel l… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/24 11:15 AM |
| 11 | Why are women so picky compared to men?From what I see, in real life, not on social media, men around me are dating women that seem to not be as attractive as them. The amount of in shape or even just average built men I see dating fat women is exponentially more than the inverse. I see the exact opposite of this every day. Hell, a few of my close friends are dudes who are overweight and their wives are thin/medium weight. Did you ever think that maybe those people have different standards of attraction than you do? Like, those thin … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/24 04:47 PM |
| 8 | Are most people just not attracted to people they date in a physical sense?Yeah, that's probably true. Though plenty are neurotypical or some other type of neurospicy. I think that autistic guys (myself included) are really drawn to more rigid rules. Real dating is dynamic and variable and inconsistent. That can be hard to navigate for anyone, but especially difficult for autistic people. The pills pretend that there are these special hidden rules to dating that are systematic and rigid. Autistic dudes find that very appealing, to the point where they'll ignore all kin… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/24 11:35 AM |
| 3 | Are most people just not attracted to people they date in a physical sense?That's a very small minority. The vast majority of heterosexual and bi women find a range of men attractive, not just the most conventionally attractive men. Most "average" guy are dating just fine. They're finding "average" women who find them plenty attractive. You have to be terminally online and never venture into the real world to think otherwise. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/24 11:24 AM |
| 6 | Are most people just not attracted to people they date in a physical sense?https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/black-and-white-thinking Black and white thinking is a common symptom of narcissism (redpillers) or severe depression/anxiety (blackpillers). | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/24 11:25 PM |
| 7 | Are most people just not attracted to people they date in a physical sense?Some people say that, but not all of them here. You're also erasing all of the context people give. Others say something more like: "personality can more than make up the difference if someone finds you a little attractive." So there has to be a little physical attraction to start, but a great personality can grow that attraction. This is usually said in response to incels who thinks no woman will ever like them because they're not in the top 20% of conventionally physically attractive men. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/24 11:35 AM |
| 2 | Am I overthinking this?Am i overthinking this? Based of the story and the events that unfolded does it seem like she's actually genuinely interested despite alcohol consumption or was it the alcohol influencing her decisions? Yes, you're overthinking things. But, that doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Maybe she's interested, maybe she was just a little tipsy and got cuddly without thinking about it. Neither you nor anyone on reddit has enough info to say for certain. Best we can do is guess. The worst thing you can d… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/24 11:44 PM |
| 9 | What made you abandon the red pill ideology?This question has been asked many times before. Try searching the words "made you" and limit the results to just this sub. You'll see dozens of threads asking this question and hundreds of answers. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/24 11:26 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with the bits of retroactive jealousy?If that's the case, then you have nothing to worry about. Women like that, who tried for serious relationships a few times but things didn't work out will be very common. Even in your early 20s, many women are in relationships. Eventually some of those relationships end for various reasons. When you start dating you'll run into women who dated like that and some that were hooking up. If you want to reject the women who were partying and casually hooking up in favor of the women who had a couple … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/24 10:27 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with the bits of retroactive jealousy?I was not "hot enough" when they wanted to have fun but only become enough later on in life. Do you already know these hypothetical women and have they already rejected you? Presumably you don't know them, so you don't know that they wouldn't have dated you or at least found you cute if they had met you. You've made up this scenario in your head where an average looking woman dated dudes that were hotter than you to have fun, but then they'll settle for you later. That's a made up scenario that'… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/24 01:00 AM |
| 7 | Need help with my line of thinkingAnyone have any advice on why that might be true and why someone like me would try to always seduce women and think about them in a negative light? They "work" because they manipulate people. This is like asking why cheating on tests works and why you can't actually understand the course material after cheating on all the assignments. You see them in a negative light because you've depersonalized and dehumanized them in your mind in order to make it easier to manipulate them. You withdraw your e… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/24 02:09 PM |
| 3 | As a woman, what signs should I look out for in a man that might indicate whether or he is a misogynist?Anyone who calls a childfree woman a "childless cat lady" has major issues. Literally JD Vance behavior. Lol Edit: for clarity, fuck that fraudster and all of the misogynistic dude bros who act like him. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/24 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How to actually meet people IrlThe vast majority of men lost their virginity on average around age 25 for gen x and millennials, 26 for gen Z and later millennials. I don't know if anyone keeps satistics of when people have their first kiss. This really isn't the dire situation you might feel it is. So, don't dispare. But, it's also good you're making steps towards doing something about it. It you want something, it's best to make a goal, plan steps that will likely lead to that goal, and execute those steps while leaving roo… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/24 03:52 PM |
| 4 | How to actually meet people IrlI'm glad your trying to get out and meet people and socialize! That's a good first step. Places I socialized when I was over 21: Dive bars (I personally love dive bars and don't like clubs), reddit meetups when I lived in a different city, Ultimate Frisbee (until I turned 35 and my ankles and knees started to be old), Adult Dodge-ball league, Adult Kickball League, Magic the Gathering casual events, board game nights held at bars (this is something I still do, and is one of the best ways to meet… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/24 11:45 PM |
| 1 | What relationship advice will protect young women in places where female bodily-autonomy is being (or risks being) legislated away?I'm accusing you of using equivocation and a total misunderstanding of biology to make an ad hoc argument. And on the basis of that, I'm accusing you of being a idiot. Which is a ad hominem, one of which I free admit to. Because, using such an obviously false argument to justify such a moronic position, makes you an idiot. "Confession Conundrum," as if I give a shit. Again, and very sincerely, fuck right off. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/24 11:31 PM |
| 15 | Why is it so hard to find ugly girls that like ugly guys?I've met and have seen a lot of women date guys who I think are pretty unattractive. My apartment has a great view of a promiade. I see people walking there all the time. Including people who I think aren't very attractive and are holding hands, obviously couples. So, when you say, I'm struggling to find girls that are equally as ugly as me that also like ugly guys What I assume you mean is that you're struggling to find young women who will date you, and you think that's because you're ugly. So… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/24 01:11 PM |
| 3 | What relationship advice will protect young women in places where female bodily-autonomy is being (or risks being) legislated away?I read your profile and realized you're an idiot. "Life begins at conception is a biological fact." What an idiotic statement. "Conception" isn't even a biological term. Cell division starts at fertilization. That's a biological fact. But, that's not the "life" we're talking about. Killing single celled organisms isn't murder. When we talk about ending a life we're talking about ending a conscious being, not ending cell division. Consciousness doesn't start "at conception." It starts around the … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/24 10:08 AM |
| 19 | What relationship advice will protect young women in places where female bodily-autonomy is being (or risks being) legislated away?In the US you're going to see a lot of women migrating to states with better laws. Not that every or even most can. A lot of people already move to larger cities especially post college. If a woman is already moving away from her home, why move to a city in a state where the laws actively hurt her? Rural parts of the US in every state and the whole of more conservative states like Louisiana, Alabama, Missouri, and Arkansas have experienced a "brain drain" for decades, where more educated people … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/24 07:01 PM |
| 17 | Going to sex workers.That's not a thing then. People who aren't the misogynistic incels don't really care if you're celibate or whether that voluntary. If you're not frequenting incel spaces, and don't share their toxic veiws, then you're just single. It doesn't matter why your single. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/24 05:04 PM |
| 6 | Going to sex workers.What do you mean by that? | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/24 02:19 PM |
| 34 | Going to sex workers.If you don't care about all the social stigma around using sex workers, then why do you care about the social stigma of being considered an incel? Being an incel is something you have to self identify as to be anyway. Plenty of men and women are technically involuntarily celibate without participating in the incel community. They're just single and happen to not be having sex. That might be frustrating, but it's no one's business and it doesn't mean anything. It's different when someone actively… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/24 01:04 PM |
| 11 | I am unsure how it's possible for me to date when I'm in a situation where it seems like the only way for me to be able to date is to be more physically attractive than possible to me.I mean, it sounds like you're probably going to have to wait until you're out of the military or get stationed somewhere else. That's just the sad fact of military life on most bases in the US. There aren't that many women around compared to men, especially at the age that most military men are, and a fair number of the available women are there to get married, get pregnant, and get on the benefits. Military life has a huge number of drawbacks and downsides. Dating is certainly one of them. Many… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/24 11:22 AM |
| 3 | The significant flaws of The Rational Male and its author Rollo TomassiAd hominem is an attack on someone's character instead of their arguments. Did you mean straw-man? With the exception of the line about acting like a 13 year old girl, I don't see anything close to ad hominem. Though, I think even that is not an ad hominem, but instead showing hypocritical action in contrast to Rollo's advice. Regarding hypergamy - he's wife was in a relationship with a radiologist and left the guy for Rollo. And that is a quintessential example of the fallacy of faulty generali… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/07/24 02:38 PM |
| 8 | Listened to Dating coachThat women don't like men they can control. And they like men who are liked by other women. So I refuse to give my gf my social media password and refuse to stop talking to other girls. First of all, don't give anyone your passwords so that they can spy on you. That's abusive controlling behavior. Don't put up with that shit. Second, do you mean "literally talk to any women" or "talk" as in "flirt with"? If your ex wasn't allowing you talk to women in a platonic way, that's also abuse. If she di… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/24 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Garnering female interest: being hard to get or aloof?There are other good answers here, so I'm not going to say much that hasn't been said, But I can try to summarize and explain in depth. Basically, most single women don't want to feel like a guy is only into them because he's desperate. They want to feel like he's into them because he likes them as individuals, their looks, personality, and everything else. Being somewhat aloof and not overly interested accomplishes this. Of course she has to be interested in him in other ways as well. Take two … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/24 01:01 AM |
| 4 | Why the hell are red pill influencers so obsessed with young men losing their virginity?That answers why the influencers' followers are obsessed with losing their virginity. It doesn't answer why the influencers are obsessed with their followers losing their virginity. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/24 12:37 PM |
| 1 | How are you supposed to "add value" in an adult relationship?Why though? Seems like a terrible life choice. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/07/24 01:48 AM |
| 6 | How are you supposed to "add value" in an adult relationship?Weird thing to admit to, lol. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/24 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Tall husbands and short wives make the happiest marriagesA single study is doesn't mean much. Science works on consensus, of a majority of experts within a field, which often takes many studies and much meta analysis. I'm sure that are many studies that show that relationships with partners with high emotional intelligence do better. Why are you anxious about her leaving you for your height, but not for your emotional intelligence? Specifically, the whole notion that my girlfriend would probably be happier with a taller man, and that she might realize… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/24 11:38 AM |
| 12 | How are you supposed to "add value" in an adult relationship?I've read on women saying that women have raised their expectations and desire a man that "adds value to their lives" and this genuinely losses me The easiest way to explain this is to think about what women saying this are trying to avoid. In the past a lot of women put up with men who put very little effort into a relationship. Imagine a guy who didn't plan dates or try to make them fun or put in any emotional labor, etc. women would be frustrated, but try to change those dudes into someone wh… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/24 11:08 AM |
| 8 | How do I leave the Black Pill?Why though? Why do you think that person is more likely to attract women? A far as I've seen, in real life, women much more prefer the attractive guy with a great empathy and emotional intelligence. I'm wondering if this is one of the big flaws in your logic. That a woman is going to pine after these "alpha male chads." As far as I've seen, those guys don't do half as well with women as the more sensitive emotional guys who also happen to be attractive. Like take the same guy, imagine he's very … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/24 01:50 AM |
| 12 | How do I leave the Black Pill?Why the former and not the later? Why a misogynist and not a good looking guy who's also has emotional intelligence or is a really great partner/husband? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/24 08:37 PM |
| 11 | How do I leave the Black Pill?Let's start with this: Who is "Chad" to you? Is he a really buff "alpha" guy who's a misogynist but still gets women? Is he a pretty boy with emotional intelligence? What's he like exactly? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/24 08:25 PM |
| 11 | Where may I find women who do not care about looks/height?We would rather you clog up the page a little bit, if it meant that you really carefully considered what people are saying. If you left the posts up you could revisit them when you need a refresher. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/06/24 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Great VideoThanks for sharing. Can you give your thoughts or a summary as a top level comment? Videos tend not to get many views on this sub unless there is some discussion to go with them. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/06/24 04:57 PM |
| 8 | I hate myself for not having a girlfriendYour first set of questions are more complicated and I may answer them when I have more time, but I can answer the second thing pretty easily. Like although I have no experience if I was to gain some I’d want to start causally first before committing to someone. Is that wrong? No it's not wrong. And it is similar, but not the same. A lot of the same qualities still apply. You can become a great "partner" for a night of fun instead of or in addition to a great partner for a long term relationship… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/06/24 11:08 AM |
| 18 | I hate myself for not having a girlfrienddating for the purpose of being in a relationship requires you to be open and vulnerable with other people and that's something I want to do This is very true and it's a really good thing that you've realized this. Macho "alpha" guys constantly try to avoid being vulnerable. They claim vulnerability is weakness and so one must avoid vulnerability to be strong. This is backwards. Notice how difficult it is to be vulnerable? How anxious it makes you? How can doing something so difficult be sign of… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/06/24 10:07 AM |
| 52 | If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates?Women want to be entirely equal to men, but not in relationships-they just get to sit around and look pretty while men do everything: initiate sex, dates, the works This is in your head. This is made up. You don't have experience with women, so what are you basing this on? Nothing valid, because it's false. My girlfriend asked me out. She initiates sex as much or more than I do. She has a degree and a career. Whatever it is in your mind that I, a man, does that she doesn't do, you're wrong. This… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/06/24 11:54 AM |
| 11 | CMV: Why would a woman even care?You sound like someone who has never really interacted with women. You sound like someone who is basing everything off of tv and the internet. Frankly, you're wrong. Obviously and painfully wrong. It's really sad. You're going to live a miserable life based on nonsense. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/24 08:53 AM |
| 24 | CMV: Why would a woman even care?Men are desperate. I'm not. My friends aren't. Most of us are married or in long term relationships. Don't speak for other men. most women are primally, enthusiastically wanted like most men will never be. Wtf are you talking about? Is your entire life online? Most men are enthusiastically wanted by some people just like women. Outside of whatever bubble you're in normal people are out there having normal lives. If RP is true (which I assume a lot of it is) How about instead of assuming things y… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/24 11:22 PM |
| 19 | How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to?Firstly, different people are different. Some people have different levels of experiencing growth of attraction based on emotional connections. Secondly, most people who grow more attracted to their partner over time have some attraction to begin with. It's not like the other person is completely unattractive to them and then suddenly they're super attractive to them. It's more like the person thinks they're kinda cute, then over time they become more and more attractive on the person. Moreover,… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/06/24 11:59 AM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me?rejection after rejection, failed first date after failed first date, how am I not supposed to internalise the feelings others have towards me and hate myself too? I'm going to be really frank with you. Try to not get defensive and hear me out. It's okay if you disagree, but just know that I'm not attacking you; I'm trying to get you to see what I see. Rejection isn't hate. You're not internalizing their feelings, you're using them to justify your own. Saying that they don't want to be with you … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/06/24 02:20 AM |
| 5 | Why do girls go through a guys phone behind their back? What to do if I catch my girl going through my phone? Should I create a safe space for her to go through my phone?My partner doesn't go through my phone. She respects my privacy because we're both adults who respect each other. I don't go through her's either. I don't think it's more complicated than that. If I dated someone who didn't give me that kind of respect, about everything not just my phone, I would leave them. Red pill uses coercion and gaslighting. Fuck that. That's like fighting toxicity with more toxicity. The response you purpose isn't much better. Having her go through your phone is just enab… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/06/24 09:59 AM |
| 15 | Why shouldn’t I just give up honestlySaid to myself at the start of the year that I’d get it done by mid year. Yeah, 6 months is a really short amount of time to expect results in this situation. , I’m sociable and able to hold a conversation. That sounds like the bare minimum, not what we suggest at all. The idea is to become very good at socializing. To be exceptionally amiable. Not just to hold a conversation. You need skills like active listening, making people feel heard, emotional literacy, and the ability to shape a story, e… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/24 01:13 PM |
| 4 | Moving on from a break up how do I not compare new girls to my ExWhen I start dating again how do I prevent myself from comparing the new girl to my ex. Maybe people will disagree with me, but I don't see why you would try avoiding comparisons between partners. When I first got together with my current girlfriend, six years ago, I definitely compared her to my previous girlfriends. Our compatibility was way better. The way she treated me was way better. My physical attraction to her was the same or better. Your allowed to use your wisdom and experience gained… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/24 12:57 PM |
| 9 | I can't fit the female gazeWell, I'm sorry you were lead to believe that. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/24 02:35 AM |
| 19 | I can't fit the female gazeYou have pics visible on your profile. You're plenty attractive, dude. That's very obviously not your problem. Like, incredibly absolutely obviously not your problem. If there even is a problem. Maybe you've just been unlucky up to this point. You're very young after all. Maybe it's just a matter of time. Isn't that what guys are told to do? Guys are told a lot of things. This one happens to be bad advice. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/24 02:13 AM |
| 25 | I can't fit the female gazeWanting to fit the female gaze isn't being obsessed with it. Well, it's still actively hurting you and your chances. You can say you're not "obsessed" with it, but that's just semantics. The crux of what that person was saying is that if your worried about it at all, or are trying to figure out how you can fit it, turn you're already killing your chances. Stop trying to gamify attraction. Stop trying to figure out what women in general want physically and trying to be that. Also, just because yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/24 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Cheating seems depressingly common now, is it really?You're just running into availability bias. The internet amplifies bad stories so you hear them more. I'm almost 40. People cheated just as much in the 90s and 00s, I was around to see that it hasn't really changed since then. The late 60s through the 70s was probably the peak for infidelity and casual sex in general, because it was post-pill pre-AIDS. With very little fear of pregnancy or STDs, people fucked more. The big difference now is simply that all these stories are available for you to … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/24 12:59 AM |
| 7 | A different questionI've been thinking honestly to cut my losses and just see a professional? I really got my hopes up when I read this. Thought you were going to see a therapist. Then I read the next line. Bummer. Yeah, go use the services of a sex worker if you want. Please treat her well and respect all of her rules, but also protect yourself from getting scammed. It's not going to fix anything. It's not going to give you the social skills you need in order to find someone who actually wants to date you. It's no… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/06/24 09:19 PM |
| 29 | Just unsubbed from purplepilldebate…Purplepill debate is the equivalent of debating climate science with flat earthers. There is no benefit from having a debate with an extremist viewpoint in order to come to a "moderate" in between consensus. That's a well known falacy. It's called the fallacy of the golden mean. Everything the red pill is right about isn't unique to them and everything unique to them is wrong. Even the point you mentioned, "women value looks" isn't a red pill idea. Almost everyone thinks looks matter to some deg… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/06/24 12:21 PM |
| 2 | According to a software engineer working with dating apps, women are absolutely much more picky than men arehttps://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships Hope this helps. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/24 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Former Redpillers and AntifaSometimes yes, but sometimes just as bad. There are those who mouth left wing politics who don't live any of their platitudes. There are also "tankies" who believe shit like, "Lenin and Stalin did nothing wrong." You have to realize that part of the far "left" is just pro USSR conservatives and similar. Even among liberal leftists, there's wolves in sheep's clothing. The Joss Whedons of the world. Guys who have all the feminist talking points down, but who act rapey or treat women like objects o… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/24 07:57 PM |
| 2 | The hard truth about attempting to socialize.So despite the challenges the true answer is to just try to put yourself out there as much as you can. Yes. Throw yourself into social situations if you have to? Yes. Alt types of people are dating so it really doesn’t matter what you look like Sort of. Looks matter, but so does everything else you mention. Looks don't lock you out of dating, but they do help or hurt. as long as you’re well groomed, have excellent hygiene, not a trash person and willing to have a good personality? Yes. It's more… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/06/24 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Former Redpillers and AntifaMost don't, in my experience. Most stay right wing, but just cut out the red pill parts. This sub isn't representative because it's people who really want to help others, not just random ex red pillers. A few are right wing, most are center liberal or left wing. And, many members weren't totally red pilled to begin with or weren't at all. Many guys who leave the red pill aren't going to stick around and participate. A big part of that is realizing they just wasted several years of their life. Th… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/24 12:07 PM |
| 5 | How to date as a 25 year old late bloomer?You said your friend group is all guys. I suggest making friends with more women. Maybe join a hobby group that is 50/50 or mostly women. The more you talk with women as friends the more comfortable you'll be taking the small social chances involved in flirting with other women you're interested in later on. The vast majority of people also meet significant others through their friend networks, not online dating or meeting randos at bars/clubs, so having more women friends may mean they introduc… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/24 08:47 PM |
| 13 | At what point should people stop entertaining others who have no intention of changing their minds?I have mixed feelings about this. One the one hand, it can be quite frustrating and there is certainly those who just spout red pill talking points under the guise of "just asking questions." On the other hand I've seen a few guys, who were like that, suddenly had epiphanies on here and start to change their views, though it's certainly rare. Most the time, if a guy is really open to changing things and working on things about himself that are red pilled or red pill adjacent, then he'll be open … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/24 03:59 PM |
| 20 | I feel like the guys that exhibit the qualities that people talk about as bad and unattractive to women are the guys women want to be around the mostThere's a reason why the majority of hookups are being had by a small percentage of men. All female sexual attraction is concentrated at a select few men, whereas the opposite doesn't seem to be true for men. This is what you wrote in your post earlier today. It is just as false, batshit illogical, and misogynistic as: Guys that casually talk about how they think women are just worse drivers, that women are stupider than men, that women shouldn't be politicians or leaders or bosses. This is prob… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/24 02:17 PM |
| 6 | Is it okay to not be super crazy about sex?I'd be careful not to overstate that universally. For you it felt that way, but it's not that way for everyone. I've had amazing fun and giving short term connections with people. Casual sex that was meaningful and fulfilling. Nearly as much so as the sex in my current 7 year relationship. Of course, you don't get all the wonderful parts of a great long term relationship even in the most fulfilling casual connection. Still, it certainly was much more than just getting off on each other, which I'… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 10:04 AM |
| 5 | Is it okay to not be super crazy about sex?Screening a candidate just means rejecting them. Right now you're meeting girls who you're not that compatible with, but would hook up or maybe briefly date you. Afterwards they find someone who is more compatible and they get into a serious relationship with them. If you learned to recognize when you're both attracted to one another but not actually compatible, then you could gently reject or break things off with them. That would save you time and emotional bandwidth so that you could have mor… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 09:58 AM |
| 9 | "Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not."Tbh, I feel like I'm trying to educate a rude version of Fostest Gump when I talk to you. I think you should just remove yourself from these conversations because you seem incapable of taking in relevant outside information that doesn't conform with your preconceived notions. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 09:02 AM |
| 5 | "Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not."There are several studies that suggest that, yes. But, it has no bearing on what I said. As the majority of women are still straight and don't have fluid sexualities, and the number of bisexual men is only marginally smaller. There are also notable flaws with many of these studies. For instance bi men might be more closeted (even to themselves) then bi women. This is especially true of people who identify as "mostly heterosexual." In all of those studies that I'm aware of women who identified as… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 08:54 AM |
| 5 | Is it okay to not be super crazy about sex?That's fairly common actually. A lot of guys act like casual sex is all their into at your age, but many of them are having or are about to have the same realization you are. Others really do prefer casual. I perfered sex in a relationships in my early 20s, casual sex in my late 20s and very early 30s, then went back to preferring a relationship. I've been in a long term committed relationship since then (I'm in my late 30s now). So, it can change as you age and go through experiences that chang… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 02:33 AM |
| 18 | "Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not."Some people have fluid sexualities, but generally women don't just become lesbians. Generally those women were either bi or lesbians in denial or in secret beforehand. The same holds true for men who "become gay," they were either bi or gay the whole time and either didn't realize it or were hiding it because of familial or societal pressures and dangers. Some bi women do identify as lesbians because trauma from men has made them no longer interested in men in practical terms. For example a bi w… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 01:02 AM |
| 46 | "Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not."Most men could do the bare minimum, passively exist, and find a gay guy willing to have sex or date him. Of course, most men aren't gay, or even bi, and even those who are most don't want thirsty gay guys who would fuck any dude. My point is that having options you don't want is not better than having no options or few options. The anti-redpill position isn't that women don't have more options, it's that those extra options aren't better. The real question is why there are large minority of stra… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/24 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Why is "LetsGetLaid" the first recommended dating subreddit?I don't use an app, just a browser, Mozilla. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/24 10:37 PM |
| 4 | Why is "LetsGetLaid" the first recommended dating subreddit?I'm not seeing that. Is it something that gets removed with adblocker? All I see on the sidebar is a description of the subreddit and the rules. I don't see any recommended links at all. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/24 09:38 AM |
| 6 | Online dating advices makes me feel insecure about myselfi wont be good enough for her or will be a boring boyfriend unlike these alpha males they mentioned Have you met any of these so called "alpha males?" They're boring as fuck. If you're going to be left for anyone it's not likely to be an "alpha" guy. If you look around at the guys who think they're "alphas" when they get to their 40s, most of them have been left multiple times. Most of the most hyper masculine guys I've ever met had 3 or so ex wives by the time they were 50. If you grow up to be… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/24 12:48 PM |
| 13 | Online dating advices makes me feel insecure about myselfWell, those people were wrong. Some women do indeed date abusive guys, but most don't. Very few seek abusive guys purposefully or even subconsciously. It's more that abusive people tend to be good at hiding the fact that they are abusive, especially to the people they want to date and abuse. There are also people who have traumatic pasts that get stuck in cycles of abuse. For example someone who had abusive parents and subconsciously seeks partners who are similar to their parents. Here's someth… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/24 12:27 PM |
| 40 | Decoupling sex and intimacyPerhaps when sex bot technology matures and becomes affordable it will cure the manosphere and they will finally be able to see women as people to seek intimacy with and not subconsciously confuse them with sex bots. The opposite is far more likely to be true. The more they interact with sex bots the more they will expect women to be more like sex bots. Porn and popular media already have this problem. A certain percentage of men are highly affected by the content they consume and can't compartm… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/24 12:18 PM |
| 5 | How to successfully date if I have autism, not funny, and have an overly logical and formal way of speaking?I deleted my advice upon reading your profile, OP. Being rather conservative politically, you're only going to be compatible with conservative women, who are: much rarer, far more likely to expect a potential match to live up to expected gender roles, and much more likely to be prejudice against autistic people. That basically negates all of my advice. I'm not telling you to change politically. It would be a very strange motivation to change your politics. Still, the combination of your traits a… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/05/24 12:07 PM |
| 6 | Contradiction I’ve noticedThe bible also says "thou shalt not kill," but then has a ton of God sanctioned murder. Picking and choosing which parts to follow is a necessary part of all religions. Not following Christianity in the proper way is the least of the concerning behaviors of the red pill gurus. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/24 09:45 PM |
| 6 | What do the people here think of evolutionary psychology?I'm just trying to explain established science to you. Plenty of studies still show women prefer men who are dominant, make more (have more resources) and are physically fit. This may be true, but connecting that to neolithic humans via evolutionary psychology is not accepted by current science. Again, I'm not debating. I'm just explaining. If you don't believe me, that's your choice. You can take it up with the broader scientific community. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/24 12:33 AM |
| 19 | What do the people here think of evolutionary psychology?It doesn't matter. It's made up story, just like every other convenient story about neolithic humans used by evolutionary psychology to explain modern human behavior. We don't have a time machine to see which one is right. Just because one story about neolithic humans seems more common sense, doesn't mean it actually happened that way. Evolutionary psychology is useful, but not for complex human behaviors. It's useful for understanding more primitive and universal behaviors like childhood develo… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/24 02:13 AM |
| 2 | If socializing is really the only thing that makes or breaks a guy dating than what happens if you don't have that many options or outlets for socializing?Almost identical issues come up with median and mode. And, the "I look, have, and act similarly to most those around me," is part of what I mean by a psychological category. Judging something like that with a simple eye test is something humans are exceptionally bad at. Psychological biases make these guys think more people around them are more similar than actually are. So, I take your points, but I still think my conclusion follows. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/05/24 03:26 AM |
| 20 | If socializing is really the only thing that makes or breaks a guy dating than what happens if you don't have that many options or outlets for socializing?I think it's interesting how so many guys think they're "average" in every category. I'm not calling you out in particular, OP. I understand that your post above is a hypothetical. Still, a lot of guys come here talking about how they're "just average." Like, the actual average American male is 5'9" and 200lbs. That's fairly overweight, in large part because of how averages work. 300lb dudes are being averaged together with 150lb dudes and everything in between. There's no reason to assume a bel… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/05/24 07:41 AM |
| 18 | I feel like I've done literally everything possible in my power to hedge my bets with women and dating and it's never matteredWtf are we supposed to do about that? This sub has told you what we think about this a dozen times before. You've had your posts removed by the mods, you've changed your username, you've generally been a pest. If you treat women like you treat this sub, it's no fucking wonder none of them are interested in you. If we're wrong, then we're wrong. We're not changing our opinions. So leave us alone and go move on with your life or complain somewhere else. If you want someone to agree with you, that … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/05/24 06:01 PM |
| – | Women are more humanAgreed. Also, most people who genuinely can't control an impulse are apologetic if that bothers someone else. If they are trying to control something but cannot, then it's bothersome to them that they can't and they don't want to bother others. Like, for instance, people with tourets syndrome generally apologize a lot, especially when they unintentionally swear around children. For a personal example, I've zoned out while staring off in someone's general direction and been asked to stop staring … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Women are more humanIn the essay, the author, who isn't OP, explains what they mean by "human." They aren't using "human" in a general sense, but a very particular one. I too think it's the wrong term to use, but since they define it within their argument, it's easy enough to assess their argument based on the definition given instead of the general definition of the term. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 6 | Is there really a “loneliness epidemic” going on or is it just a online narrativeSocial media makes people lonelier. Even reddit. But mostly YouTube, twitter, Facebook, Instagram, twitch, and ticktock. (Etc. I'm sure I'm missing a bunch) I have a lot of friends in real life. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed by it. It can be hard to show up for everyone when you only have so much time and energy. It's a good problem to have. I credit, in part, my large friend network with the fact that reddit and the occasional youtube video are my only social media intake. Social media gives people… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 08:51 AM |
| 5 | I (25M) have a weird voice, sounds like a cartoon character or teenager, and is not that deep, will it hold me back that much in dating?I would guess your insecurity about the sound of your voice will be a bigger obstacle than your voice itself. That tends to be true about anything like that, even when the thing itself is an actual obstacle. Everything is a major turnoff for some women, and nothing is a major turnoff for all women. Focus on being cute and funny and fun to be around. Your voice can be an asset in those regards. There's lots of women who are really into guys who are like that, and many won't care about your voice.… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 08:30 AM |
| 7 | How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women?really none of those other things were issues. Those people told you that none of those things were issues, or you personally don't think any of those things are issues for you? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:46 PM |
| 15 | How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women?That doesn't follow at all from what those other people said. Do you want me to run through the logic with you? Because there all all kinds of reasons that doesn't logically follow. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:44 PM |
| 7 | How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women?I mean, it probably was one of your problems, but it wasn't necessarily all of your problems. Like, if you become less misogynistic, but have poor social skills, or poor self esteem, or poor self awareness, or poor hygiene, or don't approach the right right women in the right circumstances, etc. you're still not going to have much success in dating unless you're just lucky. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:41 PM |
| 3 | He wanted to get in a relationship because of FOMOYou have been dating for a couple of months now. If he's been a good partner in that time, I don't think you need to worry extra. Of course, most relationships don't work out, and everyone has stuff they need to work on, and relationships require a lot of effort and maintenance. So, I don't think you should worry about that stuff, but you should worry about building a healthy and strong relationship. It seemed like he genuinely wanted to change, and when you came along he didn't pass up the oppo… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:32 PM |
| 11 | How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women?That information seems pretty neutral to me. I found the same true for one night stands with women, back when I was into that in my 20s. Some women were fun and exciting and that led to really great sex but too much drama for a relationship (at least for me). Though, not always. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:09 PM |
| 6 | How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women?Why? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/05/24 12:04 PM |
| 2 | We Often Suggest Therapy. Has Anyone Actually Taken This Advice?Yeah, for sure. I should also add that therapy helped me a lot too. Turns out I have a combo of ADHD and autism, which mask each other in some ways and in others present their own combined challenges. Along with a host of other stuff my therapist helped me work through. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/05/24 01:36 AM |
| 12 | What's the point of invalidating the experiences of ugly men that post here?Good thing none of us are advocating the blue pill or the red pill. We're advocating reality. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 08:54 PM |
| 12 | What's the point of invalidating the experiences of ugly men that post here?It's not one person. It's most people. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 07:51 PM |
| 36 | What's the point of invalidating the experiences of ugly men that post here?You've never addressed the fact that many physically ugly men date just fine. If so many ugly men are dating, getting married, and having one night stands, how can it be possible that is someone's only issue? If being ugly made it impossible for you to date, why didn't it for them? | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 07:41 PM |
| 9 | We Often Suggest Therapy. Has Anyone Actually Taken This Advice?My former roommate was a self identified incel when I met him. He was 20 very nearly 21 at the time. Through a long series of conversations and socialization with my friend/neighbor group he eventually came out of his shell. Eventually he started dating and such (by age 23). Along the way he did therapy. It was a piece of the puzzle for him. Eventually he was referred to a psychiatrist who diagnosed him with OCD. He also dealt with a lot of unresolved issues concerning his druggie neglectful par… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 06:56 PM |
| 5 | How do I know if I am creepy or weird?It's a weird bit of psychology that people tend to feel more guilty for merely appearing to do wrong than when they actually do wrong on purpose. When we do wrong on purpose, we tend to use our justifications and motivations for the actions to shield ourselves from guilt. This leaves us in a weird spot when there is a real chance we might do wrong on accident. It's a difficult situation for most people. The best thing I've found is to ask myself if I'm taking "reasonable precautions" against acc… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 05:06 PM |
| 7 | What country has successfully brought true equality for men and women?I'm not really sure. I can tell you Maryland is better than Pennsylvania. I would imagine much of western Europe is better than the US, as they have stricter discrimination laws and better family leave. As to individual countries, that's not my area of expertise. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 09:29 PM |
| 16 | What country has successfully brought true equality for men and women?We'll before we get into this conversation you should look up the difference between equity and equality. People tend to use them interchangeably, but they shouldn't. Feminism is, in general, seeking equity and not equality for people of any gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 09:14 PM |
| 9 | I don't get what's so wrong with that not one girl can be attracted to meIt's about feeling like I'm worthy of someone's affection. That doesn't come from external sources, like women telling you they like you That can only come from within. External validation can reinforce self-worth, but it can't replace it. There are lots of people who are told they're attractive that feel the same way you do. Again, because self-worth comes from the self, not external sources. You're seeking something in the wrong way to cure a feeling that it won't cure. No one here can help yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Should women prove themselvesThat's just your personal preference though. I'm in a serious long term relationship of 7 years. My partner took the lead in beginning. That didn't make her more masculine or me more feminine. That's all just nonsense, the astrology of gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Should women prove themselvesit puts her in her mas culine and the man in his feminine I was with you up until you said this. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 10:14 AM |
| 41 | The Most Dangerous "Red Pill" LieOne of the things that makes the red pill such a hard thing to combat is that it's a multi-headed hydra so to speak. By that I mean that there is more than one type of red-piller. Primarily there are two groups. The first group is made up of men with low sexual and dating experience (many of which identify or have identified as incels). The second group is made up of very controlling men who worship traditional masculinity. There is quite a bit of overlap between the groups, and they don't accou… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/24 12:33 PM |
| 10 | What's the nicest way to get my friends to stop talking about their dating lives around me?Just just have a normal conversation about it with them. The fact that you can't do that shows that: reminder of a normal part of life that is unavailable to me for reasons I can't control. is utter bullshit. You have quite a bit of control over this, but you're a stubborn fool who thinks he knows better. You've made multiple other posts where people have gone through in great detail on what you can do to help, but you always say "it's just my looks." Then you never respond when people point out… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/24 08:25 PM |
| 12 | What's the nuance I'm missing on the criticism of incels telling women to lower their standards vs. people here telling men that are struggling to date to lower their standards.Did you read any of those links? Most of them say the opposite of what you're implying they do. You're a fucking clown, dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/24 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Suddenly feeling empty about my partner after leaving TRP.What people are saying is true about dopamine, but I'd also posit that there is a often a mild depression that accompanies accomplishing anything that you've obsessed over for years. It really doesn't matter that the relationship sort of fell into your lap or that you had stopped obsessing over it before it happened. Two facts are undeniably true. First, that you spent years anxiously obsessed with getting into a relationship; and second, that you're in one now. It's just a weird bit of psycholo… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/24 12:33 PM |
| 5 | Struggling with an ex and leaving red pill philosophy behindStuck between following the red pill advice and ..returning to what worked the last time. Different red pill gurus give different advice. What is the red pill advice you're considering? Hold "frame" and wait for her to contact you? And your other option is to poor your heart put again? Buddy, these red pill guys have you acting like a fool. These extremes are the not only options. You don't have to pick between being totally emotionally reserved and being totally emotionally vulnerable! If you w… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/04/24 09:54 PM |
| 7 | Looking for advice, cuz I think I'm cursed or sumnYeah basically, and make small adjustments as you go. You essentially make yourself as attractive as you can be: dress, style, grooming, as well as personality stuff. Then you figure out where women who might like guys like you are, then go hang out and try to show yourself off. Then ask them out. Rinse and repeat until you have a girlfriend. Then try to build a healthy relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/24 11:26 PM |
| 9 | Looking for advice, cuz I think I'm cursed or sumnHow do you make friends or get a job or literally anything else where a human chooses another human for a role? None of those things have formulas. There are good practices, and rules of thumb, but at the end of the day sometimes the dude who looks like a bum can get the bartending gig, or the douchey frat boy has a lot of friends, or the asshole finds girls who are into him. It's not totally random, but there's no algorithm that will guarantee results. There's a lot of variance and that creates… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/24 11:05 PM |
| 10 | Looking for advice, cuz I think I'm cursed or sumnSounds like you're doing the right things, but it takes time. You should also learn to get your mind off of stuff. Why do you care that some shitty dudes get dates and have sex? Women are varied. Some don't care about that stuff, some do. Some only are interested in dudes of a particular race, some don't care. The problem isn't those women or the fairness of the world. The problem in this situation is that you care what happens with those people and that you're contrasting that with stuff in you… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/24 06:10 PM |
| 16 | I can’t think about rp guys raising a childrenMost of them won't even pay their child support, let alone raise their kids. If they can't be in control of their family, they won't contribute to it. It's the same reason why they say the, "imagine raising someone else's kids" line. For them, being someone who contributes to the healthy and happy life of an autonomous person is NOT the point. It's about having control over a group of people that they can mold to their purposes and sense of fulfillment. To be fair though, there were plenty of sh… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/24 05:32 PM |
| 34 | Why???That's a very good question. I think someone would have to know him personally, like a close male friend he trusts with his more unsavory opinions, to understand his trajectory. There's probably some ideas he's had that he's hid from you. A lot of these guys have some form of traditionalism as a background philosophy, even if they don't necessarily abide by it very well. Oftentimes it's coupled with political conservativism, but sometimes not. The content made by the red pill community is design… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/24 01:11 PM |
| 2 | So how many men are actually having casual sex?Well, you're missing a lot of context, because that's a single paragraph from a much longer post. I impled that ~people's~ complaints that they can't find casual sex partners ~needn't~ be taken seriously as compared to people's complaints that they can't find partners for relationships. There's nothing gendered about what I was originally saying in my original post. And it's ~needn't~ not ~shouldn't~, because anyone is free to care about it, but I don't see why they would. I also think people ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/24 09:30 AM |
| 2 | So how many men are actually having casual sex?That's not what I said at all. I guess, unlike OP, your reading comprehension is the problem. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/24 12:16 PM |
| 5 | So how many men are actually having casual sex?Really?? You don't understand the difference between "this is exceptionally rare" and "this doesn't happen for everyone, but that's not a big deal"? | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/24 11:49 AM |
| 7 | So how many men are actually having casual sex?If someone is complaining that they can't get tons of hookups because they are physically ugly, that's legit. But, also, idk why anyone should care. It's like ~shrug~ sorry for your luck. Not everyone is gonna hook up with the people they find hot. That's just how free will works. This is my comment from another one of your posts. No where in it do I imply that casual sex is unrealistic or unobtainable. What I do imply is that no one should have sympathy or care if you're not. It's not something… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/24 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Why is all red pill/anti incel advice geared towards the lowest level when many incels are normal people who are just ugly?He never said there was anything wrong with that. They a different things that have different considerations. Advice for one may be different than the other. There is some overlap, but there are differences. For example, looks and appearance (how you dress and groom yourself) matter way more for hookups. Personableness and charisma matter a lot for both. Empathy and values matter way more for finding a "real" relationship. If someone is complaining that they can't get tons of hookups because the… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/04/24 03:41 PM |
| 17 | How "good" do I have to be to find a girlfriend?At a club? You have some very strange parents. Most people don't meet their spouse at a club. Hope it worked out well for them. The fact that you're calling him a "chad" instead of just handsome or attractive is very concerning. Maybe you should get off the internet for a while. The term "Chad" was supposed to be ironic. Using it unironically is a sign that you've taken in a lot of garbage content and it's affecting you very negatively. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/04/24 04:39 PM |
| 4 | Girl I had been crushing on rejected me, hooked up with a much better looking guy and is now talking to me again wanting to reconnect?There's nothing particularly red pill about not wanting to be around someone who rejects you. Some people remain friends with people who have rejected them, but many others, including feminists, just move on with their life. Red pill tells you that this is a horrible situation. In reality, you got rejected and she dated someone else, then they broke up. That's really not a big deal. There's really no reason to think of yourself as lesser to this guy she dated, or to think of her as a villian for… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/04/24 01:49 AM |
| 1 | I get depressed when I see pretty womenUnfortunately that's actually a good thing to do on dating apps. Often times the algorithms are set up to punish users who swipe right on too many people. They start funneling you more inactive accounts (people who don't use the app after setting it up or bots) to swipe on. So you feel like you're still participating, but it's unlikely any of them will ever match. If you swipe left on women you perceive as "out of your league," you'll have a better chance of the women you swipe right on being ac… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/24 10:59 AM |
| 1 | I get depressed when I see pretty womenI don't get why should we condemn beauty as just a superficial The person you're responding to just gave you a pretty good argument as to why. I'd counter that physical attraction is and should be important, but shouldn't overshadow other factors. It should be overshadowed by really important factors like compatibility, but that doesn't mean it should be discarded entirely. Most people who find really meaningful relationships, do so with people who, to them, have a balance of physical and behavi… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/24 10:47 AM |
| 2 | I get depressed when I see pretty womenFind someone who is like that, but that you also feel some sexual attraction to. But, if you only feel sexual attraction to stereotypically attractive people in peek fitness/ with youthful appearances, then either figure out why you're like that and change it or make peace with the fact that your attraction is unrealistic and don't date. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/24 10:30 AM |
| 11 | I get depressed when I see pretty womenNotice that the idea that "she'd never date you" is entirely internal. Those women haven't given you any indication of how they feel about you, so that idea is actually yourself talking to and about yourself. Basically, you have low self-esteem and don't think you're attractive, so you project that thought onto anyone you think is attractive. The solution to this is to find a way to raise your self-esteem such that you either think of yourself as attractive, or think highly enough about your ove… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/24 12:36 PM |
| 8 | What makes a good boyfriend?dominant frame This is red pill language. Even hyper masculine dudes didn't use this kind of language 20 years ago. That's also not "being a man," it's being an insecure dumbass. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/24 11:56 AM |
| 15 | What makes a good boyfriend?That's different for different women. Generally a good boyfriend is supportive, empathetic, charming, ambitious, loving, etc. Basically any good traits you can think of. But each person, including women, have different wants and needs when it comes to those traits. The perfect blend for each individual is going to be different. Some are more universal than others. Like being charming and empathetic. Women who want a partner who is not charming or no empathetic are rare. (Though, I knew a woman w… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/04/24 11:16 AM |
| 2 | I’ll never be desiredHow would I be able to agree or disagree? I don't know him in person. I have no idea what he looks like. I have no idea what his personality is like or how he acts around women. So, I can't say whether I agree with his assessment of himself or not. Seems like he just has really low self-esteem, but idk, maybe he's truly hideous. Unlikely but possible. I talked to him in his most resent thread where I asked the same question. I brought up the self esteem thing, and the need for him to shift his p… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/24 09:50 PM |
| 28 | I still get insecure about women earning more than meI'm not sure if men and women's menaltiy has truly caught up with the times because I heard so much about women still expecting gender roles to be traditional with the man earning more. It's wild to me that you don't see that women are very divided on this. The traditionalist women I went to school with in rural Pennsylvania, many wouldn't date/marry a guy who made less then them. The graduate level educated friends I have living in a city mostly don't care about that. Other women I know do or d… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/24 11:32 PM |
| 33 | I’ll never be desiredWhat are you trying to get out of this post? Do you want us to agree with you? Do you want us to disagree with you, so you can feel some hope? Do you want to pity? What's your goal here? This is a sub for dispelling red pill bullshit. We're happy to help incels turn their life around too, but you gotta be willing to learn and try to change. If you're not willing to do that, then you're not in the right place. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | I can’t picture myself in a relationshipThat's good. It's not going to be easy, but it's totally possible to grow a bit as a person and become the sort of person who does all that cute relationship stuff with someone. In real life there are no main characters. Weirdos and goofballs find each other and do all that cute stuff together. Partially, you do need to change your behavior, but that's only half. The other half is shifting your perspective. Learning to believe in yourself a bit. Learning to see yourself as someone who someone wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/24 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Did you have unrealistic or idealistic standards about women before you became a redpiller?I agree, and I'd go further and say that this is doubley true for tweens and teens on the spectrum or otherwise neurospicy. Autism and similar often makes it difficult to pick up on direct social cues. People with this difficulty, especially when they're young, prefer to have very ridged rules for behavior in social situations so they can avoid social fas pas. Trying to react to changing dynamic social situations can leave them confused and feeling like they're losing a game with rules that don'… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/24 04:10 PM |
| 7 | I can’t picture myself in a relationshipHow do you feel about that? Are you okay with it, or do you wish it was different? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/24 11:21 AM |
| 1 | How to stop weird and paranoid feelings about women? (No superficial advice, please)Also, as an FYI, the self compassion stuff was suggested to me by my therapist. On another note, I read your profile a bit, just wondering if you've been active since this post. Seeing your post on possible schizotypical disorder: good luck, dude. It's great that your putting so much effort into thinking about these things. I'm sure your therapist will give you some clarity, or refer you to a psychiatrist who can diagnose. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/24 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How to stop weird and paranoid feelings about women? (No superficial advice, please)You should. I've been trying it for a couple of years now, and it's helped out a lot in a lot of ways. It takes time and effort though. You have to correct your own internal voice a lot at first. Eventually though, it just becomes the way you think. Like I used to be really harsh on myself if I was late to something or missed something, but I missed an event the other day I was supposed to go to, and I actually just internally complimented myself for letting people know that I wasn't going to ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/24 04:38 PM |
| 2 | How to stop weird and paranoid feelings about women? (No superficial advice, please)I'm going to guess you just don't think you're very attractive yourself. That voice inside your head saying, "she doesn't find me attractive," that's your voice saying that. You don't have access to these women's thoughts, just your own thoughts. You might think that the answer to this is to get external validation. In other words, if other people were to tell you you're attractive, then you'd feel more attractive. Unfortunately, psychology has found this not to be the case. If someone doesn't t… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/24 07:41 PM |
| 6 | How do I move on from this if others will never forgive me and keep reminding meJust own up to it 100%. You shouldn't let go of it. Keep it as a reminder that you can grow and change. I've been shitty it my past and I just admit it right away. One only should apologize the first time, or if someone seems genuinely still very upset, but you can still own up to it without apologizing. Like if someone brings up the fact that you used to believe something misogynistic, right away start talking about it. Like, "yeah, I can't believe I used to believe that garbage. It makes my cr… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/24 09:23 AM |
| 11 | This community is so blackpilling. I never felt as bad or as hopeless as I do now until reading through here.Give me a link to prove it, because I'm 99% sure you're fucking lying. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/24 08:48 AM |
| 48 | This community is so blackpilling. I never felt as bad or as hopeless as I do now until reading through here.Knowing that women aren't actually physically interested in average men, and average men can never be a woman's first choice The fuck are you talking about? Did you read like two comments on two threads that weren't even the most upvoted and decide that's the opinion on the whole sub? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/24 07:50 PM |
| 7 | Yet another relationship ruined by Red Pill ideasYeah, it turns out theories developed by real psychologists, and improved upon over decades, are more accurate than wild hypotheses made by unqualified people that cherry pick justifications from various disciplines without any proper understanding or methodology. As an interesting aside: there is currently a movement in psychology to move away from attachment theory. That doesn't mean it's unuseful, in the way that Newtonian physics is still useful despite being replaced by Relatively. It's lik… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/24 11:20 AM |
| 2 | Why is being overconfident seen as so much better than having low confidence?The OP only thinks those things about his roommate because his roommate succeeded where he failed, and is ascribing negative traits to him in order to feel less bad about being an utter failure. This is a huge assumption on your part, and I see no reason to assume this. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/24 02:13 PM |
| 8 | Why is being overconfident seen as so much better than having low confidence?The answer to this question is pretty multifaceted. Firstly, being confident gets you to try more. A guy who is confident in his ability to talk to women is going to talk to more women, and thus even if the number of women attracted to him doesn't go up, the number that actually know that he's interested goes up. If there's 100 women around you, and 15 of them think your cute, but you only talk to 3 of them, your odds are really low. The odds go way up if you talk to 50 of them instead. Secondly… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/24 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Why is being overconfident seen as so much better than having low confidence?No one needs to be a psychologist to know if someone is a bit of a narcissist. They aren't making a diagnosis, they're just observing behaviors. They're not using "narcissistic" in a clinical way, just in a colloquial way. You're being overly aggressive and criticizing the wrong parts of OP's posts. Of course confidence isn't a 100% requirement for dating, but it helps. Everyone with half a brain knows it helps, that's why it's given as advice all the time. Other comments on this sub I've agreed… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/24 01:51 PM |
| 4 | Why do the people here as questions clearly meant for redpill?not like as if you can even attempt to make a steelman argument against it to begin with. This isn't a sub to figure out whether the red pill is right or not. This isn't a high school debate club. The pinned post at the top of the subreddit gives links that go very in depth into why each of the major claims of the red pill are completely false. It does so with intellectual honesty. In the posts you talk about, we treat the red pill like any other nonsensical world view. We treat it like flat-ear… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/24 12:30 PM |
| 31 | Did you have unrealistic or idealistic standards about women before you became a redpiller?I think this is pretty common among red pillers. I was never into the red pill, but acted in similar ways (mostly lying to try to get laid) for a bit of my 20s. Luckily for me, the red pill didn't have the reach it does now in 2007-2008. Eventually I stopped being a piece of shit and started treating women with honesty and equity. But, yeah, I definitely had to weird ideas about women being nicer than men in high school. At least, a certain subset of women. Like popular girls, the cheerleader ty… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/24 12:42 PM |
| 10 | Is it okay to body shame men?but on the whole, I think that the biggest offender of body shaming men are other men. Also true in my experience, and 10x more true for manosphere spaces and red pill spaces. Regular dudes body shame dudes a lot, but trad masc worshiping dudes are absolutely the worst offenders, no question. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/24 05:22 PM |
| 6 | Is it okay to body shame men?If you're trying to fight people using phrases like "small dick energy" join the menslib movement, not the red pill. The red pill only uses women shaming small penises as a justification for treating women even more horribly. They don't actually do anything to solve this problem. They also participate in it. Guys like Tate will call a non-redpilled dude a small dicked cuck. They call normal men betas and cucks and all sorts of bullshit all the time. They shame dudes for being small (not jacked a… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/24 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Do most women have empathy for men?No, I totally understand. My first two sexual partners were horrible people. I've been that way to some degree since then off and on. I wasn't down voting you btw, idk who would read that entire thread and think yours was the comment that needed down voting. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/24 09:35 PM |
| 13 | Why do men talk a lot about their ‘prime’It's really hard to say whether it's mostly just misinformation or malicious behavior. These are the same guys who use a fake heavy handed version evolutionary psychology to justify everything. But they're also the guys who are obsessed with making women feel less than and having power and control over them. It's sort of a chicken and the egg, which came first the pseudoscience or rabid misogyny? Overall, definitely the misogyny came first; but on an individual level, some guys pick up the pseud… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/24 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Will I ever get a girlfriend?Some people make it sound like you just have to do those things and then getting a girlfriend will be easier, Easier doesn't mean guaranteed. Edit: just saw that you're 17. That's not even late at all, dude. Keep doing what your doing. It's not guaranteed, but the likelihood goes up over time. Also, from another comment you said you don't know how to flirt without being creepy. You need to figure that out. Nows the time. Coming off as slightly creepy isn't the end of the world. If you're not act… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/24 01:46 PM |
| 5 | Do most women have empathy for men?That's fair. There's a lot of ways to go about it. I was more so giving an example, but I appreciate you strategizing about the best method. In my experience, using myself and real stories about by actual life always worked perfectly well. But, your concerns are valid and worth considering. The most important bit is just to vet people individually instead of what OP is doing, worrying about potential partners in the aggregate. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/24 01:30 PM |
| 12 | Do most women have empathy for men?You'll just have to vet women during the beginning stages of dating. That's a normal thing to do and a good skill to have. For example: on about the 2ndish date tell her a story of a time you experienced something like a difficult time getting an erection (doesn't have to be exactly that). Watch her reaction. You'll see if she responds with empathy of disdain. I don't know if a majority of women lack empathy for men, though I doubt it. Still, obviously some do, hense that comment section. Don't … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/24 08:51 AM |
| 15 | Is following red pill content pages a red flag?Edit: I’m adding this to say the reason I didn’t immediately flag the age difference was because we’re both in college and we didn’t know each others ages before we started talking. So I interpreted it as we just met and there happened to be an age difference . (Not an excuse but I’m just saying) You make this sound like not catching the red flag is your fault. The thing about red flags is that it's good to catch them, but it's not a reflection on you if you miss them. You see them now, and that… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/24 04:10 AM |
| 1 | How do I get rid of these thoughts?Yeah, of course. Bringing that about is extremely difficult. Probably the best you can do is to surround yourself with like minded people in that way. Also, minimize social media and content agreggators (ex: reddit), or at least constantly be leary of rage bait content. Don't let your idealism get in the way of your own mental health. That doesn't mean abandoning your idealism. It means don't dwell on the disparities you see in the wider world, focus on what you can change: your own world. The p… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/24 01:11 PM |
| 2 | How do I get rid of these thoughts?This is a phenomenon to a certain extent. It's not universal, but it does happen. Keep in mind in both cases you're comparing groups of women's reactions to other groups of women's reactions. What if you compared men's reactions in similar circumstances? In my experience groups of (straight) men have similar reactions. They're far more likely to judge a woman harshly for cheating, but make excuses for a man cheating. This is really just a form of in-group vs out-group behavior. A plurality of wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/24 12:39 PM |
| 2 | “My money is my money, your money is OUR money.”That is an excellent rant. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/24 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Women like me nowI'll tell my partner, she'll be shocked to find out she hates me. I guess I should reach out to all my exes and the women I had one night stands with in my 20s. I've been open about being a feminist for the vast majority of my dating life for the past 19 years. It's never been a problem. What women are you talking about? Hyper conservative women? Yeah, no one is losing out on them not wanting to date feminists. Feminist dudes don't want to date the Laren Boeberts of the world. There are more wom… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/24 12:56 PM |
| 10 | Gonna see a mental health professional.Hey. This is a good decision. Definitely, good luck, I hope it goes smoothly. Hopefully the college thing works out. If not, and assuming you don't have money, here's something you should know: many therapists will do a sliding scale or even pro-bono work if you reach out to them. I've helped a friend IRL do this. We basically just emailed 10 local therapists asking about a sliding scale and the first one who responded he went with. He ended up paying only like $25 a session (so $50 a month for … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/24 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled?my personality is not the problem. I very much doubt this. I know plenty of short guys who don't have a problem with woman, have had one night stands and relationships. Reading through your profile, it's super obvious that your personality and attitude are the most important factors your missing. If you were very physically attractive, that wouldn't matter, but if you were actually enjoyable to be around that would be even better. You either gotta be physically attractive or personable/charismat… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/02/24 03:41 PM |
| 8 | It's all black and all white, or we have a grey color in btw?some clear facts, of women, who I have personally seen, being with "alpha" men, and at the same time having cheated on or rejected other "beta" men, with all the traits descrpted in the redpill theory. Some number of women dating "alpha" dudes doesn't make the red pill right. There are women who think Ted Bundy is sexy, that doesn't make serial killers right. Read the sidebar. The vast majority of claims that redpillers make are demonstrably false. https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 06:53 PM |
| 2 | what do you think about pick up artistsThis is the most fictional bullshit maybe ever. "Multiple high paying jobs" lol. So, In your fictional world you can't even hold down the high paying job you had? lol Then you brag that THEY took YOU to a high end hotel with a spa? Oh my god, this shit is hilarious. Why would anyone be envious of that? Why would you need to be taken to the luxury hotel and spa if you have all that money from high end jobs? Why would that even matter to you? It's nonsensical. I avoid gold diggers and toxic femi… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 06:39 PM |
| 3 | It’s retarded bullshit that everyone who has wronged me, gets to live easy, content, happy lives while I get to rot in rage, pain, and trauma and I’m sick of it.everyone who has wronged me, gets to live easy, content, happy lives Who are these people and what did they do to wrong you? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 06:12 PM |
| 4 | what do you think about middle age men dating 18 yr oldsAgreed, for the most part. Often times though, it's not about how mature or not the 18 year old is, it's about the middle aged person perceiving them as naive and manipulatable. To illustrate: a very mature 18yo gets talked up by a 35yo. The 35yo doesn't even notice that the 18 year old is mature for their age. The 35yo just assumes they're going to be naive and easy to manipulate and abuse. The 35yo being an abuser hides those intentions well, like most abusers do, and they get together. The 18… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 05:44 PM |
| 2 | what do you think about middle age men dating 18 yr oldsHis whole profile is nonstop content for MenAndFemales. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 05:15 PM |
| 7 | what do you think about middle age men dating 18 yr oldsNot everything that's legal is moral. It's creepy the vast majority of the time. Middle aged women with 18 year old boys too. I think maybe there are rare cases where people of those ages just hit it off and there's no advantage being taken, but those cases are very rare. I'd always error on the side of it being creepy. Again, I'm not advocating for making it illegal. Legal adulthood has to start somewhere. But, it should certainly be discouraged and called out socially. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 05:09 PM |
| 6 | how would you define red pillHave you read the sidebar? https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4cvx/red_pill_detox_first_aid_kit_start_here/ | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 05:02 PM |
| 2 | How RedPill YouTubers Brainwash YouYou're welcome. Most of my best guy friends are very empathetic and sensitive, and most of them are married. One of my more acquaintance-ish guy friends look super fem and wears a lot of make-up. He's nonmongomous and dates like ridiculously attractive goth/indy chicks. I'm not saying every woman in the world wants those guys. The hyper conservative girls from my high-school probably wouldn't. But, you're not trying to date every woman in the world. Plenty of women are out there who are into tho… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/24 10:16 PM |
| 5 | How RedPill YouTubers Brainwash YouI never said, "we're all the same." Don't strawman my words. We're all different. Different women have different preferences. Some like really manly dudes. Some like really cute fem guys. Human sexuality and culture are complex subjects that you're making simplified platitudes about. Your platitudes don't track with reality. If feminine and masculine traits wouldn't matter and gender diffrences in sexual selection non existent then the absolute majority of woman wouldn't be heterosexual. This is… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/24 04:13 PM |
| 11 | How RedPill YouTubers Brainwash YouI'm 37, I dated plently of women and a fair number of one night stands in my 20s. Now I'm in a long term relationship. You need to get off the trad. masc. bullshit, dude. Lots of dudes who have many feminine traits are in long term relationships or have very active dating lives. Lots of very masculine dudes who avoid femininity like it's the plague can't get a date to save their lives. You have no idea what you're talking about. Look at the guy in the video. His whole vibe is metrosexual, but he… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/24 01:35 PM |
| 13 | How RedPill YouTubers Brainwash YouI couldn't get past the first 10 seconds. "They are making you more feminine." This whole concept of feminine traits as bad is just so fucking stupid. I mean, maybe he's trying to lure misogynistic dudes in and then pull the ol' switcharoo, but in the long run those dudes are still going to be misogynists. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/24 01:01 PM |
| 4 | Please respect men's preferencesThis was the top comment on that post you are talking about and it's pretty spot on: It's not. You can have sex with whoever the fuck you want. So can women. Your question is 'Why can't I state my personal romantic requirements in public that constitute a value judgement on people who don't meet that requirement' and the answer is 'Because people don't like fucking assholes'. Hope this helps you move on with life. Nobody, ever, needs to know what your romantic requirements are. Not even potent… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/24 03:01 AM |
| 7 | How to des-radicalizeI believe feminism (actual one, because i like some feminist ideas too) has damaged men and masculinity. I disagree. Both on a personal level, and observing society as a whole, feminism helps men who actually accept it. Men who try to hold onto their traditional roles and who think they are superior and should be favored by society are the only ones losing out, and they can get fucked. Men who genuinely want equity with women and who want to live happy healthy lives have benefited massively from… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/24 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Women, how have you felt about your male partner sharing their emotions, vulnerabilities, etc with you?I wish I could see the person you were responding to's comment, but he deleted it. In case he rereads this thread, I want to add that sometimes people don't even think about the sexist connotations for the phrases they use. A woman might say, "be a man," or "man up," and she's not thinking about the fact that those phrases equate bravery and decisive action with masculinity. For many people they're just idioms. They're phrases that mean, "stop being scared, be brave, and go for it." And, those p… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/24 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Women, how have you felt about your male partner sharing their emotions, vulnerabilities, etc with you?You opened up too soon. This is most common so it goes on top. A lot of times when you're in a relatively new relationship, you're both getting to know each other, one partner may start to feel very strong attachments and overwhelming love. It's okay to call it that too, we're humans, we're social and wired to love easily. Loving someone is one of the easiest things we can do even, people do it all day long, every day, and very often for all the wrong reasons and for the wrong people! The challe… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/24 01:03 PM |
| 4 | What hard proof can I look at that disproves the black pill.Remember in the other thread where I confronted you about how there are other guys who aren't "chads," as you put it then, who do get laid? There are guys who are feminists who get laid as easily and as much as your frat brothers. Why are you jealous of your frat bothers and not those other guys? | /r/ExRedPill | 19/02/24 01:22 PM |
| 1 | This came up in my doomscroll session and it made me think of this group.They are asked to be both. I'm not equating them. That's why I sad "and" it's a conditional where they have to meet both requirements separately. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/24 01:53 AM |
| 2 | This came up in my doomscroll session and it made me think of this group.Basically correct, except half the guy who say shit like, "no woman genuinely likes me" don't "talk to women like that" because they don't talk to women at all. Some are hitting on women like they're some PUA douche, but others just avoid most interactions at all and just assume no one likes them. Then they peek their head out of it's hidey hole for a single attempt at talking to young woman they think is cute, get shot down, and declare that women have hugely high standards and none will like t… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/24 05:28 PM |
| 7 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeJust because some women like that guy and are willing to have sex with him doesn't make the red pill right. Lots of oher guys are dorky and not stereotypically attractive, but women slept with them too. Your line of reasoning is completely illogical. Your conclusions don't follow from your premises. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 02:21 PM |
| 8 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeYeah, some do. But some don't. Sometimes a guy is physically attractive enough that his looks make up the difference. Especially if he also has social skills. Some women are willing to overlook bad character for looks or charisma, or more often a combined of the two. That's obvious. If you're physically not very attractive you probably should shore that up in other areas don't you think? A dude who's attractive and charismatic can get away with 0 character. If your looks are as bad as you say, w… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 12:34 PM |
| 6 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeThe truth about the red pills claims has absolutely nothing to do with whether you personally can get laid. They are false whether any woman wants to fuck you or not. The truth isn't red pilled or blue pilled. The reality is that neither the mocho bullshit of the red pill nor the be nice and women will like you better of your church lady grandma are true. The reality is that women like a variety of things. Some are into stereotypically attractive assholes. Most just want a guy who is socially ad… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 12:29 PM |
| 6 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeI'm not a chad. I've gotten laid a lot. A lot in my 20s, and now I'm in a long term relationship in my 30s. Why can I get laid, if I'm not a chad? Maybe start comparing yourself to the guys who aren't Chads, but can get laid. Since you're not a chad, but want to get laid. What do those non-chad guys, not just myself, do or have that you do not? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 12:16 PM |
| 10 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeSo, your character is better than literally the worst guys out there? Setting the bar pretty low, aren't you? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 12:13 PM |
| 11 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeThen read the sidebar of this sub. They're very demonstrably false. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 11:46 AM |
| 11 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changebuilding character and charisma. What kind of effort did you put into these two? From seeing your comments on your last thread on dick size, I almost guarantee that these two are your issue. Not looks. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 11:45 AM |
| 7 | What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will changeIsn't the fact that all this things are false and toxic enough to abandon them? Why do you need to get something out of it? Personally, I don't like believing things that are false, so for me that's enough. Those red pill beliefs are false. Why do you want to believe false things? Does it make being lonely easier? Sure doesn't seem like it. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/24 11:36 AM |
| 1 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?I guess my response is that it's all about reasonable responses to actual possibilities and their actual probabilities. It's not a bad thing at all to protect yourself from the various harms a partner or spouse can do to you. That includes men protecting themselves from being taken to the cleaners financially in a divorce. They're response to this is not proportional to the actual problem. Nor does it even really address it or prevent it. The way to avoid or mitigate being taken advantage of by … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/24 12:34 PM |
| 1 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?OP worries that due to the statistical 70% divorce rate being initiated by women (again I'm just coming from word of mouth don't quote) is simply because women get bored and they lose nothing by divorcing. Women do initiate divorce more often, though 70% is probably higher than the actual number (I get your point though). I don't know why anyone would assume that's simply because those women are bored. I'm sure some women divorce because they are bored, just like some men, but I see no reason to… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/02/24 01:36 PM |
| 70 | Red pill hypocrisy and circular logicStraight women: most of us want a guy who is sweet but also confident. Redpillers/incels: best we can do is insecure but in your face in order to seem confident, and also passive aggressively nice in an attempt to get sex then assholish. Oh, that didn't work? It's gotta be because we're not buff and 6'4 with a square jaw, obviously. That's the only possible reason. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/24 11:57 PM |
| 20 | Why did she ghost meDude, am I just supposed to read the only thing you gave me and not draw the logical conclusion from it? Again, that's why I used the word "seem." Because clearly I don't know your entire life. All I have to go off of is what you gave me to go off of. If you don't think I'll talk in good faith, you're the one who is making big assumptions. I've just been honest and straightforward from the beginning. If you don't like what I have to say, or think it's wrong just ignore me or give me reasons to t… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 02:07 PM |
| 22 | Why did she ghost meWhat do you think "assumption" means. I'm basing it off of the things you said. I'm not assuming it's true based off of nothing. Give me more information about what happens and I'll come to a different conclusion. Also, again, you seem that way. I never said you actually were. This woman said she felt abandoned and you told her "my bad". Did you apologize? Did you try to show her emotional support? | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 01:45 PM |
| 26 | Why did she ghost meYou seem really defensive. Sorry I hit a nerve. I probably could have given the advice in a nicer and less direct way. Maybe you'd have taken it better. But I do stand by the advice. Yeah do. I am on this forum because in my 20s, I was kind of a say anything to get laid guy. I've grow a lot since then. I understand your defense, but you're just being a prick to be a prick now. If you think I'm wrong don't take the advice. Go live your life. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 01:40 PM |
| 18 | Why did she ghost meI said you seemed emotionally illiterate. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 01:37 PM |
| 35 | Why did she ghost meZero anger. And zero assumptions. I'm literally going off of what you said in your post and in your replies. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 01:31 PM |
| 41 | Why did she ghost meJudging by your responses to other replies so far you seem pretty emotionally illiterate. She said she felt discarded and you're response was "my bad"? Even if you didn't realize she wanted texts and emotional support afterwards, you should have listened to her and apologized and tried to make it up to her and prove that you'd fulfill her emotional needs in the future. Don't try to get back with this young woman or any woman until you can figure out how to be emotionally supportive and empatheti… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 01:03 PM |
| 28 | Why did she ghost meSo? It seems pretty reasonable for her to feel that way for a week, consider her options an break things off. Ghosting isn't the best way to break things off, but considering things for a week afterwards sounds very normal. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 12:55 PM |
| 9 | Incels and virginsseems like a lot of young guys these days are virgins Young people have always mostly been virgins. This hasn't changed very much. It's fine to prefer relationships with experienced partners, but your post is all over the place. Seems like you just want to shame your ex without giving us any details. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/24 05:51 PM |
| 8 | I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation)In addition to my other comment: During my disappearance from them I need to get into better shape maybe get very ripped , get nice Instagram pictures , post nice pictures of place in my story , importantly date new women preferably hotter ones or average minimum and try to fix all my flaws in my character and my approach in my dating life. In this way i feel like I’m desirable and will make up for all the fuck ups i did as a beta. I am not meeting her or her hot friend anymore unless it is unde… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/24 02:01 PM |
| 14 | I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation)IDK, if you're going to believe me but I'm gonna try to be blunt and get to the core of what's wrong here: I just realised I’ve fucked up the whole time , all this 3 years it was me to blame it got what I deserved I should’ve been more assertive and made my intentions clear. I should’ve polarised her instead of playing too safe by being this friendly guy . I painfully remember texting her saying you wanna hang out instead being a real man by saying let’s go on a date. There is a middle ground wh… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/24 01:31 PM |
| 6 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offYou always say stuff like this like there aren't Eastern countries where casual dating is a thing. This isn't 1986, Western and Eastern cultures aren't separate. I've held my tongue about it for so long, but it's pretty intellectually dishonest. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/24 12:40 AM |
| 7 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offfinding a best friend to marry, it sounds like they are looking for a roommat This is one of the fucking dumbest line of reasoning I've ever read. How do these guys think healthy long term relationships work? Like even if they don't want one themselves, they can't understand what a healthy normal relationship looks like? These dudes need classes on psychology and human sexuality. Or maybe incels should just stay incels if they can't even understand the basics to being human. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/24 11:00 PM |
| 3 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offi guess thats where the entire difference is, i dont care about marriage, that outcome of the other guy has nothing to do with me, Then why are you making this post about him? Why are you "bothered" by him? Sorry dude, you just seem dumb to me. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/24 10:56 PM |
| 16 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offI'm trying to have empathy for you, but holy shit, man. Your thought process is so twisted. i felt extremely put off, not exactly by her, but i think, mostly, for her husband, for the simple thought of being that guy or worse, Worse? The fat short guy in question literally out competed stereotypically attractive men. His wife tried out these other guys, found them wanting, and then dated him. He was so much better that she not only married this dude, but is so bursting full of happiness that she… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/24 12:39 PM |
| 8 | does romantic dating connection happen instantly or built upon with someone on autism spectum?when people on the spectrum go on a date. the biggest challenge is realizing that logic goes out the window and its really about how the person feels and bringing emotional connection to conversation which is something autistic people just can't seem to grasp because logic is very ingrained in the autism spectum. I have a few things to say about this. First, I'm AuDHD, so I'm on the spectrum, but different than, for instance, someone with what use to be called Asperger's. This gives me a bit of … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/24 03:28 AM |
| 14 | Is any form of algorithmic dating advice generally bad?I have the idea that it isn't necessarily the specific advice that is hated, but the idea of the existance of a step by step procedure or 'if/else' logic for getting girls. But why is this morally different from advice on doing job interviews or advertising? Because a job isn't a human being. A company isn't a human being. You're dealing with people who hold positions at that company, but you're trying to get a job at the company they work at and not directly from them. A cold impersonal algorit… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/24 02:48 AM |
| 2 | I can’t unredpill. Could some of you guys challenge some red pill beliefs in the comments and explain them so I can unredpill myselfSorry your going through all that, man. I was super worried you were trying to be totally emotionless and socially isolated, because I've met dudes who were doing that and it ended up pretty scary. But, that doesn't mean the shit your going through isn't difficult or worth addressing. Take care of yourself, man. Hopefully it eases over time. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/24 02:46 AM |
| 6 | Feeling invisible (need help)As in I think I am better than everyone else but none seems to agree. Still, I stand by my opinion and Love myself. Loving yourself has nothing to do with thinking your better than everyone else. Loving yourself isn't a comparison to other people. This is not a healthy mindset. It's a indicator of emotional instability and narcissism. I'm not diagnosing you or anything like that, but dude, you have bigger things to worry about than a girl if this is how you see yourself. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/24 02:39 AM |
| 28 | I am terrified of not being married with kids by the age of 35?So I am a serious home body and don’t socialise that much I’m not talking to any girls and online dating is atrocious and What should I do? Seems really obvious you should socialize more and talk to women in real life. Focusing on socializing in a non-romantic way with both men and women for a long while before you try to romantically engage a woman. You have zero of the social skills necessary to be a good partner/husband. If you want to be one, you have to build those skills. If you get into… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/24 02:26 AM |
| 6 | Woman's have a easier life?You seriously can't estimate based on the massive number of humans around you who live in poverty? The amount of people who never go on trips or even have cars? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 01:06 PM |
| 18 | Woman's have a easier life?80% of the women you know have been given a car or an expensive trip? I seriously don't believe you. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 01:01 PM |
| 14 | Women don't see guys. They see worldsWomen (actually just a large % of women) see both the man and his "world." It's not an either or. And they are highly integrated. A guy who has ambition and has a supporting family is going to be incredibly affected by those things in how he is as a person. Instead of thinking about what women want and getting guys to fit that, we should be focused differently Here's the real interesting question in this subject: Why are there so many men who ignore a woman's "world" and even her personality ent… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 12:57 PM |
| 18 | Woman's have a easier life?How is that "your reality"? How many women do you know in real life who have been gifted cars or trips? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 12:48 PM |
| 15 | Woman's have a easier life?Not maybe. Absolutely. What percentage of women in the world get gifted cars or trips? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 12:47 PM |
| 13 | Woman's have a easier life?A lot of men in the "men'srights" spaces will only look at a few of the small advantages homeless women have over homeless men, for example: there are many more women's shelters and women and children only shelters than those that accept men. They'll see those few examples of small advantages without looking at the whole picture, including all the massive disadvantages women have, as happylittlepuppy pointed out, so they'll conclude men have it worse. To top it off those "mensrights" guys will u… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 12:44 PM |
| 6 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?Oh for sure. We've thought about those considerations. There are living will options to get around the hospital considerations. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 08:05 PM |
| 7 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?My understanding of modern arranged marriage is that it's not insanely different than western dating for rather religious people. The difference is that parents and sometimes matchmakers are involved in deciding if the match is a fit, instead of just the two people who are considering getting married. The idea ofa guy just finding a couple who have a daughter and that daughter has no say is becoming rather rare. Is this true from your perspective? | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 05:30 PM |
| 12 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?Virgins cheat just as much as people who have one night stands before getting into committed relationships. The thing that I wouldn't like about an arranged marriage is the thought of the woman realizing I'm not right for her but staying with me anyway. I'd rather be single than be in a loveless marriage where the other person was basically being culturally coerced into being with me . Isn't it better to date people, find one who's really compatible, and try to build a relationship with them? Ev… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:49 PM |
| 14 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?Because evolutionary psychology doesn't work that way. Any convenient story about Neolithic humans used to explain complex modern behavior is 100% false. I agree with you that gold diggers are easy to spot but what I am terrified of is a woman acting like a “unicorn” for a couple of years and then when the time is right divorce me for my money? And cheating on me as the cherry on top? That seems so ridiculous unlikely. Why are you not worrying about lightning strikes or planes falling out of the… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:36 PM |
| 24 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?Because there's no evidence that it's widespread. Everyone who claims that it is uses fake science to justify those claims. There are some women who are constantly looking to "upgrade," but they're very rare and it's very obvious that that's the way they are. No. I'm absolutely not worried about that. My partner and I are in an amazing relationship built on trust, love, and compatibility. If she cheated on me, it would be a huge loss for her. I'm a great partner. I'm empathetic and supportive an… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:18 PM |
| 26 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?To be fair I don’t watch red pill content creators like Sandman as his views are just straight up mysoginistic. However I do watch Tribe of Men and Better Bachelor who do seem more reasonable? Less misogynistic doesn't mean more reasonable. It might seem reasonable to you, but it's not. I am just terrified of hypergamy and getting cheated on? Why? Most women aren't hypergamous. The redpill tries to use a bunch of fake science to justify their claims about hypergamy. It's fake. I frequently hear … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:04 PM |
| 35 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?I am terrified of divorce and losing everything and my kids as a man Idk what country you from but in the US, the reason most men don't get custody is because they don't ask for it. When men try for custody they're equally likely to get it as women. Some judges individually favor men or women, but overall the system it pretty good at awarding custody to any parent who actually asks for it and isn't an active danger to the children. Red pill content is so vile, that they will take out of context … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 01:28 PM |
| 14 | This sub is no better than the redpill subs.Someone(assuming a woman) commented about if you were a loser at 20 or 30 you'll always be a loser at 40. Which is not always true but it got upvoted so much it was the top comment. Then went on to talk about beer bellies and hair loss. You took this way out of context and are strawmanning the fuck out the people in that conversation. Judging by the stuff your saying in these comments you're totally detached from reality. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/24 12:39 AM |
| 12 | I can’t unredpill. Could some of you guys challenge some red pill beliefs in the comments and explain them so I can unredpill myselfOh. You just meant you don't get your emotional needs met by others. Not the same thing as not having any. Cool. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/24 09:09 PM |
| 15 | I can’t unredpill. Could some of you guys challenge some red pill beliefs in the comments and explain them so I can unredpill myselfYour "lol" makes me think you're just self depreciating, but just in case: all humans have emotional needs. If you're suppressing them, that will end poorly. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/24 09:02 PM |
| 5 | Some lingering RP damagehttps://psychcentral.com/health/ways-to-let-go-of-stuck-thoughts I went through a few of the top links on Google for dealing with intrusive thoughts. The above link had some advice similar to what my therapist has had me try and what has worked for me. If there is any way you can see a therapist, I highly suggest it. Intrusive thoughts aren't some vague childhood problem that will take years of therapy. They can be manged quite well and rather quickly with talk therapy. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/24 08:58 PM |
| 14 | Were people more faithful back in the day? (Crosspost)Not you fault OP, but it really irks me when people conflate cheating with promiscuity, like the person in the original post did. Simply having a bunch of mutually consensual sex with various people while you're single is not an indicator of a lack of fidelity once someone gets into a committed relationship. Lots of people who stay virgins until marriage cheat on their partners. Lots people who have tons of one night stands settle down and never cheat. The opposite is true is well. The number of… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/24 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Were people more faithful back in the day? (Crosspost)1970s I agree that fidelity is probably the same now as it has been since the 80s, but the 1970s were the post-pill pre-aids era. The 70s were wild. Though a good deal of that was swinging or single people, not necessarily cheating. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/24 05:57 PM |
| 4 | I think the solution to TRP and inceldom is for a person to have a consensual purely sexual encounter with a woman.You want a contradiction. If women would consent to purely sexual encounters with these men, they'd already be having sex with them. You're basically saying: "you know these guys who women don't want to have sex with, they'd be different if women wanted to have sex with them." Yeah... of course, but that's absolutely meaningless. Women don't want to have sex with them. That's their whole thing. Your solution is for women to consent to something they've already made clear they don't consent to. I… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/01/24 10:09 AM |
| 4 | Can people tell my relationship history with women by looking at me, and knowing me for a year but I keep everything private?This says some pretty weird stuff about you, dude. I'm in my late 30s. I don't expect to have any more enemies, let alone any of my friends. I think that's fairly normal for adults. Unless they're like in the military or a spy organization. I had enemies in middle-school and a few left over in high-school, bullies and whatnot, but since I reached adulthood, I've had a distinct lack of enemies. What's going on in your life where your friends are going to become your enemies? You must live a radic… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/24 01:43 PM |
| 35 | Female "Shittests" real or redpill myth?With "real" I mean the evolutionary "facts" and how women seem to test men without even being aware of it. Any convient story about Neolithic humans to explain complex modern behavior is 100% bullshit. The guys who talk about evolution in these contexts have certainly never taken even a 100 level university class on ecology and evolution. When I googled "dating shittests" and article came up from some PUA idiot. The crux of the article was a confusion that some women banter with guys in flirting… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/24 01:35 PM |
| 17 | I feel that my "real - self" will not be enough for herIf she leaves you for someone else, then that's 100% her loss. You're as good or better than those other guys. Don't let your insecurities make you think you're lesser. The typical "alpha bad boy" is a miserable dick head. Your jealousy of him is totally misplaced. A few girls might swoon over him, but he's never going to be in a loving satisfying relationship. You need to be a pleaser to yourself. Be the kind of friend to yourself that you are to other people. Stop comparing yourself to others.… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/24 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Disengaging from negative thoughtsThis was a direct response to Racerboy427, so I don't know if you need to take a critical thinking class. Generally everyone could use lessons in critical thinking, because fallacious reasoning and biases are everywhere. People are naturally very bad at avoiding them, so it's useful to learn how to avoid them better. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/24 12:19 PM |
| 27 | Am I wrong to feel like average women have been hyped up so much to the point where now it’s exponentially harder to date as an average man?Dating apps are skewed by the shear number of men. The ratio fucks you over. With the IRL interactions: Maybe the women you think are ugly can tell you think lesser of them and it puts them off. Maybe it's your additude. Maybe it's your personality. Maybe these women you think are ugly are more attractive to different dudes that are more attractive to these women than you. The biggest problem you have is thinking attractiveness is objective and linear. It's not. It has objective elements, but it… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 07:42 PM |
| 2 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingThat seems fair to some extent. I went to a traditional University and it did provide me with a lot of social opportunities. Once you're 21 you can just go to bars and whatnot to meet more people (not just for dates, I mean a whole social life). Or find other places people do things. Right now I do most of my socializing through board game nights and playing disc golf, but i don't know if those things appeal to young people. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 01:58 PM |
| 5 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingJust FYI: Introversion means you recharge alone. Extroverstion means you recharge by socializing. So, introverts are equally capable of being amiable and personable. They just need to take breaks to mentally recharge. you still won't be sexually desired if your partner doesn't find you physically attractive Just because someone isn't the hottest person they've ever seen doesn't mean they don't find you somewhat attractive. My girlfriend isn't the hottest woman I've ever dated, but she's still at… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 01:52 PM |
| 4 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingYou have a personality. How do you become more personable? Well, to start... How do you get better at anything? You work at it. You make more friends. You put effort in to socializing. You organize get togethers. You practice and pay attention when someone else does it well and learn from them. You figure out your own personal individual problems that have kept you from being a personable person and you figure out how to deal with them. Maybe that just requires introspection and effort to change… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 04:14 AM |
| 5 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingCool. That's your choice. But don't pretend like you had to be born handsome to attract women. The option to work on your personality and have dating success was open to you, but you just chose not to take it. It was too much work or whatever. That's fine. Personally, I'd be much more jealous of regular guys who have meaningful fulfilling relationships, if I were you. But, to each their own. You do you, homie. Just leave the rest of us alone, if that's the path you choose to take. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 03:42 AM |
| 16 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingYou aren’t single because you’re ugly you probably just have a bad personality” when I know racists homophobes sexists and just general assholes Personality in this instance has nothing to do with morality. We literally just mean enjoyable to be around. Fun to hang out with. Charismatic. Personable. Amiable. Etc. 99.99% of the time this is absolutely true and the evidence is everywhere. Every ugly dude I've ever met who had a cool personality, who was genuinely fun to hang out with, was in a rel… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Evidence?Very true. Also: Sarah has a couple of girlfriends who have the same Steve/Stu dynamic, like you said, but the rest of her 8-20 friends are in relationships with Mikes. Mike is a guy who is neither a cad nor a delusional hanger-on. Mike's just a guy who dates exclusively. He's not perfect, and he's been through breakups, but generally he's just a regular but amiable dude. Guys like him are doing fine with women and generally find happy long term exclusive relationships. I consistently wonder why… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/24 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Is love real?I feel that love is shallow I honestly think that nothing replaces the primitive sparks of attraction. I don't want to believe in that, how do I think the opposite? This is a very confusing question. Those things aren't in contradiction. You can genuinely be in love and also have that primitive spark of attraction. They aren't mutually exclusive. The can exist independently, but in other cases can be complimentary. Shallowness is market by a lack of multi-facetedness. Physical attraction is only… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/24 02:51 AM |
| 9 | Evidence?Women are known for being totally cool with their significant other having another partner or more. /s I can't see anything when I see that link, but this is a common but obviously false red pill claim. Sometimes I wonder if when they say "women" they only mean 20 year old "models" who date around silicon valley. Because, in the wider world straight women are generally looking for a compatible dude who they personally find kinda cute who has a midling or better career for an exclusive long term … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/24 02:37 AM |
| 23 | Age gap relationships?To target? Depends on who she wants to kill... lol | /r/ExRedPill | 13/01/24 12:58 AM |
| 5 | Disengaging from negative thoughtsWell, stop asking for advice on internet forums and start journaling and doing work toward your next session. Asking these questions over and over again (you said you were banned from other places) will do nothing but hurt you. It's not healthy and it will do the opposite of help. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/01/24 12:31 AM |
| 8 | Disengaging from negative thoughtsYou want the blunt honest truth? You are a walking ball of confirmation biases and illogical thinking coupled with faulty premises. You are totally ruled by your insecurities. Until you change internally, change your entire mental framework and lens, nothing external will matter. A random internet celebrities success with sex work should be totally irrelevant to your life. You've somehow built a mental construct, where you pathologically need to blame someone for your purely perceived shortcomin… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/24 01:31 PM |
| 41 | Why does getting a dog instead of a gf is advice from the redpill? #newbieHonestly, if TRP is giving this advice now, then good. I know their reasoning is misogynistic and toxic, like all their reasoning, but the result would be great. By all means redpillers should go adopt a shelter dog and leave women the fuck alone. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/24 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Self worthYeah. Just give it a try. The next time you're critical of yourself try to stop yourself and ask, "what would I say to a really good friend, instead." | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Self worthSelf-esteem is binary. It's whether we think that we are good enough or not. And humans are extremely bad at knowing how others perceive them, so a majority of people with low self-esteem see themselves as "not good enough" despite the fact that the majority of people around them don't see them that way. Self-esteem is a trap. Trying to reach that imaginary threshold can be impossible, because for most people they will just move their own goalposts. If they do things that should make them good e… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/24 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous?I mean. Again, it depends on who you are dating and how honest you want to be with them and when. If it were me, I'd tell them about it probably second or third-ish date, but definitely before we've had sex. I'd be open about by reasons and whether or not a regretted it or not, etc. It would be a part of a larger conversation about what I've gone through with relationships, sex, etc. But, also, if it were me, I'd be dating women who generally wouldn't care as long as I'd been STD tested since th… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Help me with intrusive Red/Blackpill thoughtsExcellent. I hope it works out for you. Some mental health stuff can be pretty open ended, and therapy helps but it can take a long while to see results. Intrusive thoughts, on the other hand, are one of those things that should be more straight forward. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Help me with intrusive Red/Blackpill thoughtsDo you have a therapist? Intrusive thoughts are something that a therapist can help with. Especially if you find one who specializes in OCD (I'm not saying you have OCD, just that intrusive thoughts are a symptom of OCD and thus a specialist in OCD will be suited to help even if OCD isn't what's causing the intrusive thoughts). Intrusive thoughts are usually well managed with a few weeks of therapy. It can be a life changer. I have intrusive thoughts, and used to have more/ was more bothered by … | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 03:31 PM |
| 12 | Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous?Here are my very earnest and serious answers to your questions: Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, No. absolutely not. have fun, Sure, if you are just trying to have fun. and be adventurous in life Same as fun, yeah but only if that's all you're looking for in it. whenever I’m feeling lonely, It will not cure loneliness. If you try to use it to feel less lonely, you will end up feeling more lonely. will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, Maybe. Depends … | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Be feminine if you want. Be geeky if you want. The world isn't going to end.Extreme liberals say the world will end in a few years from climate change. Who? Climate scientists say that the environment is going to change radically in a harmful and disastrous way at an ever accelerated pace in future. Leftists and to some extent liberals actually want to take measures to mitigate that. No one of note is seriously saying that the world is ending in the next two years, and if they imply that, it's an exaggeration for effect, you know... hyperbole. Climate Change or "Matri… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 02:45 PM |
| 28 | I guess the dose makes the poison?Glad you realized that red pill is bullshit, but a fair amount of the platitudes and such you are throwing out there are bullshit too. Redpill isn't "mostly right." And psychology and evolution don't support any of their claims, except that working out a little when you generally don't will improve your mood. The "hard pills to swallow about women" that you allude to are all bullshit and not supported by actual behavioral psychology or any reputable evolutionary science. They're just post-hoc ju… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/01/24 02:06 PM |
| 4 | Question for men who have been in a relationship with a redpilled woman what was your experience like?Thanks for answering. I didn't want to have to research this question. (Sifting through red pill content is gross). Anyway, to continue the conversation: OP asked: I was wondering for men who experienced and later found out your GF was redpilled what was your experience But now that you've explained red pilled women. It sounds like they're dating red pilled men or at least guys who are similar/open to red pill concepts. Like, redpilled men regularly hide their redpill shit from women because mos… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/24 01:10 PM |
| 10 | Question for men who have been in a relationship with a redpilled woman what was your experience like?Is there redpilled women? I know there are women who seek out redpilled men specifically. They're sort of aggressively quazi-trad-con women who are attracted to alpha douches. They are rare, but they do exist. Then there are women who are into female dating strategy. FDS is, in my opinion, the women's equivalent to Red Pill. It mixes self help with tips on how to control a partner through emotional manipation. It objectifies and comodifies men by separating them into "low value men" vs "high val… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/24 12:16 PM |
| 4 | What would your reaction be if a man became aggressive, angry and bitter after you ended the relationship with him and he said he’s like that because you broke up with him? (Shower thought)I am a guy I am scared, not only for myself but for the women in my life that I care about. Lots of people are on drugs acting violent and because of a broken relationship. How does one stay safe? This is concerning behavior, but from your post you didn't mention actually seeing any of it in real life. I ask because as I read stories, and I did my big research into these people and incels If you're not running into these people in real life, there is no need to be scared. It makes me think… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/01/24 02:54 PM |
| 58 | My Dating experience has red pilled mealways pissed me off that women can always complain that men have nothing to offer but when it’s the other way around it’s misogynistic. Bro. No one's going to call you misogynistic for not wanting to date a coke addict. And if they do, they're a fucking idiot. You have a made up persecution complex thing going on here. If a woman complains about the guys she dates being unemployed, not doing housework, and having a porn addiction, and those things are true of those particular guys... then ya, t… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/12/23 06:02 PM |
| 6 | No eggs???Agreed. The most telling thing to me is how they view guys who are (in their words) "raising someone else's kid." As if it can't be a joy to be a step-parent. As if the envious person in the scenario is the dude who abandoned his own kid(s) or couldn't hold down a relationship with the mother of his children. I've made a post about it before, so I won't get too deep into it, but the language they use around this subject shows they would make incredibly poor fathers. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/23 09:07 AM |
| 2 | So, how DO you form sexual relationships?It depends on the bar. Often times it also depends on the time of day and day of the week as well. Is the venue primarily for socializing? That's usually a good indicator that it's a good place for that. Also, people who don't want to be bothered will give off that vibe. Women care a lot more about pestering repeatedly than you trying to start up a conversation when they're not in the mood. If the venue is for socializing and they're open to a normal conversation, then you're fine. Some don't wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/12/23 01:03 AM |
| 7 | How does this r/ feel about white pills?For one. Not coming up with terms like "white pilled." | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 08:33 PM |
| 8 | How does this r/ feel about white pills?Well, OK. But can you engage with the actual conversation then? Edit: In fact you said you "disagree that it is overused." Who were you disagreeing with? I explained where the term come from, what it means, and why it's harmful. Whether they're overused or not has no bearing on the discussion. And you phrased it as a reply, in a post reply. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 08:29 PM |
| 8 | How does this r/ feel about white pills?I never once used the word "overused" nor any string of words that implied it was overused. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 08:26 PM |
| 10 | How does this r/ feel about white pills?I was talking in general. I gave in depth reasons that apply to a general audience. If you disagree, engage with the reasons I gave. Don't be dismissive and act like the venue we're in dictated my argument. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 08:22 PM |
| 16 | How does this r/ feel about white pills?The whole pill terminology needs to go. The idea of "secret knowledge" that changes you forever needs to end. It's conspiracy theory thinking. It's harmful. The original idea, from the matrix movie, was cool because it was about a virtual reality. It was also a metaphor for being trans and choosing between taking hormones and living as the gender you are inside vs taking zoloft or lithium to numb yourself from the depression caused by gender dysphoria. We don't need this kind of language for ide… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 08:17 PM |
| 3 | So, how DO you form sexual relationships?I'm absolutely petrified about showing any interest in women, or asking a woman if she wants to have sex, not because I'm afraid of rejection, I can handle that - I don't want to disrespect her. That isn't compatible with women, because they are people just like me. I'm not saying you're a horrible misogynist and you're hurting women, but you've swung the pendulum too far where you're treating them like glass objects that will shatter from your touch. To be less metaphorical: part of women bei… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | How to develop “charm” and sex appeal as an autist?But, to reiterate what ManWazo said, "who cares about most ppl?" Lots of odd autistic ppl date just fine and find partners. Why not follow their lead? Why are you trying to be a dominant charismatic person? Why do you think that's better? Why do you want "most" women to like you by changing yourself completely instead of finding one woman who actually likes you? Or at least a cleaned up and matured version of you. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/23 12:46 PM |
| 3 | How to develop “charm” and sex appeal as an autist?I have a naturally quiet personality and don’t really have that edge to my personality (also due to autism). I have autism. Those aren't symptoms of autism directly. They might be behaviors you picked up because of how people treated you as a child with autism. Or maybe they're just normal parts of your personality and nothing to do with your autism. Autism has a wide variety of associated behaviors that can present differently with different people. Just being a quiet person isn't one of them. … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/23 01:19 AM |
| 7 | Is the rise of Andrew Tate simply the result of a nihilistic consumer society?There may have been a time when the redpill was just about getting laid. But that time has been gone for decades. Around 2012, when I first started seeing red pill stuff on the net they were actually not into dating advice at all. It was more a club for sadists to share ways to torture their spouses and girlfriends. If a virgin came around asking for advice they'd have made fun of him. By 2014 that all changed. The PUA community intermingled with the red pill community, and a large part of it be… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/23 04:19 PM |
| 6 | Is the rise of Andrew Tate simply the result of a nihilistic consumer society?I don't think Tate would be nearly as popular in the 80's or 90's. It's not anything you said that makes this true. The 80s and early 90s were even more full of misogynist gym bros and nerds who were jealous of them. There were a lot of guys like Tate back then that were popular enough. Consumerism was actually worse back then with Mall culture. Gender roles and religion actually made those things worse. Self help was huge in the 80s, including the just clean your room kind. No, the major differ… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/23 11:33 AM |
| 2 | Why are specifically male suicide rates so high ?The answers at the top are correct and well cited, though. This isn't a question that requires experts, just search skills and reading proficiency. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/23 11:46 PM |
| 0 | Another huge problem with TRP (and any adjacent BS): it causes self-sabotage in otherwise good romantic prospects.Yeah, sure. I understand that there is a growing body of evidence that attachment theory needs to be replaced. I personally think it's invalid, just like you. That's not my point. You're using the term "pseudoscience" incorrectly. A displaced theory isn't pseudoscience. They are different things, and it's an important distinction. Newtonion physics isn't pseudoscience just because relativity came along a displaced it. Things like horoscopes, astrology, flat earth, young earth creationism, etc. a… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/12/23 02:44 AM |
| 0 | Another huge problem with TRP (and any adjacent BS): it causes self-sabotage in otherwise good romantic prospects.It's a real theory of psychology, not pseudoscience. It also has quite a bit of support among the overall current psychology communities. Not overwhelming, but quite a bit. Obviously the conclusions of psychology aren't as "hard" as physics or chemistry, but that doesn't mean that their theories have no value or explanatory power. They definitely have more validity than horoscopes. But, yes, a grain of salt is warranted. Moreso, when some layman starts talking about other people's attachment sty… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/23 09:08 PM |
| 6 | Another huge problem with TRP (and any adjacent BS): it causes self-sabotage in otherwise good romantic prospects.Yeah, if she really has an avoidance attachment style, that's going to be a problematic thing if he wants an emotionally fulfilling relationship, but I don't trust this guy to assess that. The sugar daddy thing could be a red flag, because it can be a coercive relationship. When he says "none sex sugar daddy relationships" does he man she hasn't had any or that she's had some but that didn't involve sex? Either way, I guess she's open to it in the future. All the other stuff are just weird hangu… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/23 11:35 AM |
| 1 | The Manosphere's Big Picture?Not OP, but one of the single largest factor driving 2nd wave feminism was hormonal birth control. The pill was developed in the 1950s, but became widely available in the early 1960s. It's not that women in academia weren't having these ideas earlier. There were many calls from the 1920s through the 1950s to transition from feminism focused on political power to feminism focused on more general equality and individual liberty. The Pill becoming available gave women a massive dose equality and in… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/12/23 06:57 PM |
| 2 | My date used the terms “simp” and “frame.”That part was moreso a guess. It's what redpilled guys are taught to do when they're pursuing. Saw your edit. Glad you decided to end it. If you were here asking these questions, it must have been your instict anyway. It's good that you followed that instinct. I hope you find a man as committed to your faith and values as you are. Someone truly compatible with you. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/23 12:21 PM |
| 10 | My date used the terms “simp” and “frame.”Yeah, dude is definitely listening to red pill content. He seems relatively normal because he's "masking." He seems sweet because he's love bombing you. Obviously, I wasn't there with you, so nothing I'm saying is with 100% certainty. But, from what you said, my suggestion is to run as fast as you can. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/23 02:03 AM |
| 3 | My date used the terms “simp” and “frame.”What was the context? Do you remember the sentences he used them in, or at least approx.? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/12/23 05:58 PM |
| 1 | What are alternatives to redpill/PUA/manosphere stuff that can help men be better with women?If you're already going to therapy and regularly socializing, just keep working on it. Try different things. Don't be afraid to take moderate social chances. Flirt, ask women out. Make mistakes and learn from them. Work on your self-esteem and self-compassion (self-compassion is being a friend to yourself inside your head rather than being critical of yourself). Remember you're not trying to "get" a girl, your trying to find one. Find one that is compatible and interested. So just keep putting y… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/12/23 02:25 PM |
| 2 | What you have thoughts about modern feminism and modern masculinity on internet?Thanks. On a related note: My other pet peeve involves the overlap between the edgy "STEM Lords" and Redpillers. That group tends to say things about feminism and ethics in general about them being "soft sciences" or "just humanities." And while it is true that the conclusions drawn in ethics aren't as strong as physics or mathematics, that doesn't mean that it justifies these people's conservative or traditionalist nonsense. The ethics they derive from their drunk uncle, half paying attention a… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/12/23 12:02 AM |
| 1 | What you have thoughts about modern feminism and modern masculinity on internet?Feminism at its core is very logical A lot of people act like it's some controversial set of beliefs, but it's absolutely not. I have a graduate degree in political philosophy from a well respected university. In the world of political theory, it's part of the absolute bedrock of any theory worth it's salt. It's incredibly difficult to find consquentialists, egalitarians, deontologists, virtue ethicists, pragmatists, libertarians (the philosophical variety, not politicians), or any of the sub di… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/12/23 07:09 PM |
| 7 | I don't want the red pill to brainwash meI understand that your parents are an important example for you, but literally just go out and talk to more people then. It's basically impossible for you to go out and make 10 friends who are part of couples and not have at least one have no infidelity. You are either totally and utterly isolated, or exaggerating to an extreme. Sorry about your parents though. My Dad cheated on my stepmom when I was 14, and it did suck. That's not you though. You're not your mom and I'm not my dad. Maybe reread… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/23 06:36 PM |
| 9 | I don't want the red pill to brainwash meYour whole mentality is strange to me. You see some examples of partners betraying others and you lose all hope? What about the countless examples of people who are together and aren't cheating? Why are you focused on those minority of bad examples? Also, people having the option to leave you, in my opinion is a feature not a bug. I don't want to be cheated on or left, but I do always want my partner to choose me. I would never want my partner to feel like she was stuck with me. That she had to … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/23 04:37 PM |
| 8 | Are they harmless?But is because they are toxic or is because we as people are weak? It's because they are toxic. Even very "tough" guys are often turned into manchildren who are terrified of emotional vulnerability by red/black pill. Even if we discount all the damage done to men, the damage these guys are doing to women is immense. Just scroll through this subs history and you'll see women coming here to vet about their boyfriend or husband getting into RP content and becoming more and more abusive, narcissisti… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/23 02:54 PM |
| 5 | What you have thoughts about modern feminism and modern masculinity on internet?Not all man have time to spend 2 hours in gym or have ideal time to explore or not all women have money and time to afford being a Barbie doll. This is literally a feminist position. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/12/23 01:04 PM |
| 12 | My brother was a textbook redpiller. Why was he more accepted than I was?What about the women he was "committing sex crimes" against? I'm sure they weren't "cherishing" him afterwards. It sounds like your brother was/is more personable and charismatic than you. Even though he's, at times, terrible to people. You may think of things as "my brother is an asshole and I'm nice, so how does he attract women and have people like him?" But, that's the wrong factors to focus on. There are guys who are just as nerdy as yourself, who also aren't assholes like your brother, who… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/12/23 07:12 PM |
| 6 | Fighting Redpill RhetoricRead the pinned post at the top of the subreddit. u/RedPillDetox did a ton of research to debunk the majority of the red pills claims. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/23 01:21 PM |
| 10 | How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content?Here's a thought experiment: Compare these two scenarios: Scenario 1: A woman has 30 sexual partners over the course of 10 years, between the ages of 21 and 30. She has sex with each exactly 1 time (Once every 4 months). At age 30 she's had sex 30 times. Scenario 2: A woman has 3 sexual partners over the course of 10 years, between the ages of 21 and 30. She has sex with each exactly 100 times (approx. once every other week). At the age of 30 she's had sex 300 times. Do either of these scenarios… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/23 06:11 PM |
| 31 | How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content?Apparently, there is an evolutionary reason for why men are concerned with a woman's sexual history. It is because for most of human history, men couldn't ensure paternity if he slept with a promiscuous woman. Yeah, this is made up. Evolutionary psychology doesn't answer these kinds of questions. Anything you read that is a convenient story about neolithic humans to explain complex social behavior today is 100% bullshit. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/23 01:23 PM |
| 6 | Sydney Watson videoWhen it comes to people who are 18-22ish dating people significantly older I think it's a case by case basis. There are cases where those people just happen to be compatible, and that's ok. There are cases where the older person only ever dates people who are barely legal, and that's creepy. There are cases where the younger person is very naive and eazy to manipulate, and that's creepy. This particular case sounds particularly creepy. A 47 year old marries an 18 year old who has never even kiss… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/11/23 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Have been consuming redpill content for over 6 years now.Point out any irrational thing in my OP I'm not the person you were talking to, but okay I'll point that out for you. gets down-voted instead of hearing out their perspective This is a false dichotomy, and thus irrational. We can hear OP out, read what they are saying, and still down vote his comments. Personally, I didn't dote vote the guy, but his comments aren't really worth hearing out. There are tons of other ways to "develop a sense of purpose" that don't come with all the misogyny and all… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/11/23 03:54 PM |
| 7 | More and more red pill coaches and self-improvement gurus are coming out as fascists, authoritarians and eugenics promoters. Do you think this has always been the case and their views have just found encouragement by now?Not all traditionalists are conservative, but most are. Red Pill at it's core is a warped version of traditionalism. It's not a leap to imagine that most of it's leaders are going to be very conservative as well. Conservatives are becoming more and more mask off fascist these days, so it's no surprise that these guys are as well. Not that conservatives weren't horrible back in the day, they just wore a mask better. I'm not sure which was worse though. The Newt Gingrich/ Dick Chaney era of conser… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/11/23 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Listening to red pill podcasts made me incredible insecureDo you guys think it's weird if the woman is a bit older than the guy in a relationship? Would you date a woman a couple of years older? Do men who aren't into the red pill even care? Most of the long term relationships I've had are with slightly older women. My current partner of 5 years is a year older than me. A decade ago I was with a woman for 7 years, she was 2 years older than me. It's really not an issue. Three years difference once you're both over 25 is basically the same age, regardle… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/23 11:40 PM |
| 2 | What about femcels?A woman literally coined the term incel. Of course there are women who are involuntarily celibate. Now, if you mean that women who are involuntarily celibate don't interact in a fucked up cult like community about their celibacy, then you'd be correct. I have a feeling though, that you're just being ignorant. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/23 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Shoutout to all the people in this group who have autism and who at one point we’re red pill.I have autism and ADHD. I'm in a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman. Have been for almost 6 years now. The working alternative is normal boring stuff. Learn to adapt. Don't join a misogynistic cult that gives "easy" answers. Get a therapist. Work on yourself in a normal way. There are no "hidden" truths. Life is challenging at times. Accept those challenges and work at them. Become a well rounded social person. If you're looking for an alternative that's another "we have the secret lif… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/11/23 03:47 PM |
| 4 | Questions about evolutionary psychology?Re-posting this from the last time this was discussed: The field of Evolutionary Psychology is very controversial and much of it is denounced as pseudoscience by psychologists broadly. It's not that evo psych has no explanatory value, but it has much less explanatory power than many try to give it credit for. The kind of evo psych explanations that the redpill makes are precisely the sort that it doesn't have the power to make. One can't simply make up a story that kinda sounds right about neo… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/23 03:04 PM |
| 1 | The 80/20 idea is nonsense but I do think there's a "romantic underclass" of sortsIf you've reached this age without success, you've almost certainly tried this and it hasn't worked. Idk, maybe you've tried this, but I've known a lot of guys who are in your situation and actually never really tried any of those things. They think they have, but their definitions of those things are very different then what people are actually suggesting with that advice. My experience is that guys, and even women, who are in that situation will do anything besides actually working on their pe… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Question for people who used to be redpill.Maybe it's because I'm old and slightly autistic, but bar hopping to me is moving from dive bar to gastropub back to dive bar. I've literally never enjoyed a venue that had a DJ. I like to talk to people, to joke and laugh and make human connections. How do you do that at a club? Dance up on someone and then meet them in the bathroom? Yeah, that's a no from me. Even if we're being "degenerate" I'd rather smoke weed out behind the building then drop MDMA or do stimulants in a toilet stall. I'd ra… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/23 01:13 AM |
| 9 | ReflectingSelf help has been a part of cults and toxic groups for forever. Look into the yoga cults of the 90s. They were all about getting their members into shape and getting them to be successful. Then once the members were really committed all the terrible sex stuff and abuse starts happening. When an ideology helps you become physically healthier and financially or personally successful, you're not going to question any of the bad stuff they say and do down the road. You're going to feel better and h… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with insecurityJust embrace the moment. It's normal behavior to have butterflies. People in the 1700-1800s would check the mail all the damn time waiting for a letter from their new paramore. In the age of texting, we check our messages on our phone. Over time that will fade as y'all get used to one another. While it's happening, just let it be a reminder of how joyous life is. Smile to yourself. If you didn't give a fuck, that'd be depressing. Still, playing it somewhat cool is a good thing. People want someo… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/23 01:44 AM |
| 1 | When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better.From a safety perspective, some lifestyles are “better” than others i.e. Risk of disease, pregnancy, rape and being killed. This is "highly controversial" and easily debunked. By "highly controversial" I simply mean mostly wrong. Sleeping with even dozens of people does not increase the risk of any of these things by any significant amount for people who use condoms. Period. That's uncontroversial. Condoms don't have an effect on abuse, but neither does casual sex. Marriage and long term relatio… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/23 03:11 PM |
| 4 | When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better.I'm not saying most people. I'm saying a "high rate of failure." Most people would be more than 50%. 10% is still a high rate of failure. Especially when other birth control and STI prevention methods are well below 1%. Just Google abstinence failure rates. Read the first 4ish things that come up. Educate yourself. I'm not a rper or some nonsense. You're adding shit to what I'm saying. I'm providing purely uncontroversial facts. Plain and simple. Yes, you may be able to abstain no problem. That'… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/23 09:54 PM |
| 7 | When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better.This is such a ridiculous take that I am not even going to bother addressing. It is well known and well studied that abstinence is a horrible method for birth control or STD control. You can dismiss it out of hand all you want, but it just makes you look incredibly ignorant. People who attempt to be abstinent from sex often fail, and when they do they tend not to use condoms. That's very non controversial. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/23 05:35 PM |
| 14 | When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better.The risk is incredibly minimal in today's day in age for STIs, if you use condoms. You shouldn't be any more worried than someone who has sex on once or twice. Sure, the odds go up a lot, but if something is near zero and increases by 8 times, it can still be near zero. The same goes for pregnancy with two forms of birth control, i.e. condoms plus and IUD or the pill. Considering one lifestyle "better" in that sense is basically a technicality. There is also the fact that abstinence has a failur… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/23 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Should I just pay for sex?For "personality" that does not matter unless the person was already attracted to you. You wouldn't want your lawyer to look "homeless" no matter how qualified he is or what experience he is. Yeah, but if you were trying to hire a lawyer and one was a little shabby but shook your hand, took your number, seemed to understand your case really well, and called you to ask if you were still looking for representation, and another one was in an impeccable suit but kept forgetting about your case, made… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Was I wrong all alongI don't know why people get so agitated when you correct them. Doesn't striving to be better require corrections? Since you appreciate being corrected, allow me to explain. It feels derailing and unrelated to the conversation when you correct someone like that. There are better ways to do it. Like at the end of your reply instead of the beginning. Also, with purposeful politeness. Some corrections are things that people seem to not know and need correcting on, and some aren't. For instance, if I… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Was I wrong all alongHow am I supposed to participate in a relationship without being in one? I meant relationships in the general sense. Not just romantic relationships. Your friendships and relationships with family and coworkers and acquaintances etc. That's how anyone who has never been in a romantic relationship gets the social skills necessary to be in one. Humans don't just come with social skills baked in, they have to develop them continuously throughout the course of their whole life. Also, then i guess in… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Was I wrong all alongThis argument makes no sense because not all those who appreciate F1 drivers have to be best drivers I wasn't making an argument. I was explaining something. Here's an argument: As to your metaphor it's a bad one. The women aren't looking for someone who appreciates relationships, a fan of racing. They're looking for someone who's good at them, a driver. A driver here is someone who actively participates in relationships. So it makes no sense to say you don't socialize much but you appreciate so… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 02:12 PM |
| 5 | Was I wrong all alongYeah, of course I meant unfathomable. Sorry for the misspelling, but idk why you felt the need to be my copy editor there. F vs ph, get me a lot and I was typing without autocorrect. Anyway... How does not being good at socializing makes me a bad friend or partner? First, being a good friend and partner takes practice. If you have very few friends and you're not making any new ones you're not practicing at being a friend. Maybe you're just naturally a great friend without putting any effort into… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 02:03 PM |
| 4 | The Art Of Being DominantI think the debate is over. Tate's legacy is human trafficking. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 10:19 AM |
| 8 | The Art Of Being DominantIt obviously did matter 2000 years ago Stop getting your history from action movies. Most of our ancestors weren't Roman leginaires. They were simple subsistence farmers. Their ability to plan for an extra harsh winter was far more important than their "dominance." Soldier classes had less children and died younger in every pre-industrial society. Being strong "dominant" types helped protect the collective at the expense of their own genes being passed on. In early pre-history, 10,000 years befo… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 10:17 AM |
| 11 | Was I wrong all alongMystery solved then. If you're unwilling to socialize or get better at socializing, then of course it's going to be insanely difficult to find someone. You're basically hoping a unicorn of a woman shows up randomly and likes you for unphathomable reasons. Then stays with you despite the fact that you have no skills at being a good friend and partner. Oh, and to boot, she has to be okay with you only liking her for her looks, because you don't value social skills in yourself how are you going to … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/23 09:59 AM |
| 6 | Was I wrong all alongThe vast majority of people meet their long term partners through regular networking. They meet people through people they know. So, simply make more friends. Be a better friend. Get better at socializing in general. Get better at meeting aquantences and being personable. Try to organize doing stuff with people more. Etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/23 10:43 PM |
| 4 | David goggins is the best and an alternative to red pillI agree with the other commenters. The best alternative to the red pill content isn't different but similarly formatted content. Don't get any of your ideals from someone making a pre-written speech over a video to you. It doesn't matter whether it's really good info or not. Go out and have real conversations, ones with dynamic interactions. Dynamic meaning you both interact back and forth, instead of a video where you listen to someone give you the information they want, coupled with info-graph… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/23 03:46 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend seems to be into redpillHe became a victim to “this is what women secretly want -to be dominated” I would have a bit more sympathy for this line of understanding if he had communicated with his actual girlfriend about this before drawing this conclusion. By her account, she doesn't secretly want to be controlled. He had access to the real information on what his partner wants, he could have talked with her about it before sharing RP videos. Instead he trusted Tate and other tRP gurus to tell him what his partner wanted… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/23 06:18 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend seems to be into redpillEverything was great until a few months ago. and In person he’s sweet and loving but on instagram he sends me this shit. Sounds like classic love bombing. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing It sounds like he isn't abusive yet, but he's paving the way. He's outlining how he wants you to act, and eventually he's going to try to force you to act that way. More likely psychological methods of force, but physical methods are possible as well. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/23 05:23 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend seems to be into redpillIf your boyfriend acted like a douchebag and seduced you based on that you need to take accountability for that. That's not an accurate description of what happened here or in those other posts. Read what she wrote: Everything was great until a few months ago. and In person he’s sweet and loving but on instagram he sends me this shit. To me, that indicates that he love bombed her first. He wasn't acting like a douche alpha when he met her, and that's not what drew her to him. He acted overly swe… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/23 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Advice for a guy with OCD on cold approach & datingThe vast majority of people meet their partners through regular old networking. That is to say that they are introduced to their eventual partner through friends, family, or mutual acquaintances. In some cases these are set-ups, where those friends, family members, or acquaintances introduce two people because they want them to get together, but most of the time it is not. Most of the time, it's just random chance, not intention. In some cases it's a mutual friend of a mutual friend. To give an … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Red pill is the same than agressive feminismHonestly, I'm not a great person for any content. I only use reddit. I deleted facebook, twitter, insta, etc. years ago, don't follow anything on youtube (use it as little as possible), and never started using tick tock. I avoid direct social media all together and use reddit because it's a content aggregator. But, even then I'm constantly thinking about giving it up. My girlfriend shares that type of content with me occasionally, but she's working and I doubt I'll remember by the time she's don… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/23 04:34 PM |
| 8 | Red pill is the same than agressive feminismWhy there is not a strong movement who just teaches you to be happy with yourself and find the person who makes you happy? A few things come to mind. First, feminism is a movement in response to oppression. Some of it is about being happy with yourself and finding someone who makes you happy, but largely simply being happy isn't enough to fight systemic oppression. To a large degree you need to get angry in order to fight back against those systems. Being "exigent and aggressive" is necessary, t… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/23 04:19 PM |
| 2 | guys watching...... hard core..... "stuff".... yet watching videos and preaching "i want a pure virgin wife". What is that called? Derangement ? I'm sorry, I throw my hands up for this one.Why? | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/23 09:37 PM |
| 16 | guys watching...... hard core..... "stuff".... yet watching videos and preaching "i want a pure virgin wife". What is that called? Derangement ? I'm sorry, I throw my hands up for this one.When I would try to mention it to the person, they would go down my throat with attacks which also made zero sense. Yeah, of course. They're bound to be embarrassed and super defensive. That's the nature of being called out for hypocrisy. One thing that I've come to realize is that they think a virginal wife will "cure" them of their sin. I mean, sin is magical nonsense anyway, why not add some weird magical properties to it? Yeah, many of them believe that women once corrupted by sin (sex) can'… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/23 08:19 PM |
| 2 | How did the red pill effect your life negatively? How has it gotten better since you’ve left?not all bad as is the same with most things people demonize. If you want to find some truth from something that's been demonized, you should do a really deep dive into feminism. Read some academic works. People act like it's controversial or extreme all the time. I studied ethics and political philosophy for a decade. In political theory it's pretty much the most non-controversial thing that there is. Basically every type of ethical framework accepts feminism as true and incorporates it into the… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/23 03:57 PM |
| 11 | How did the red pill effect your life negatively? How has it gotten better since you’ve left?I'm willing to bet he feels this way because of the self help stuff that he initially experienced. When guys first get into the red pill they mostly only see the "work out, get a better job, eat better, etc" and the more minor criticisms of women. So, they think that's the core of the red pill. They are unaware of the history of the red pill. As they get deeper they start to see the more brutal misogyny and because they experienced that part later assume that it's a new development. But, it's no… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/23 02:11 PM |
| 3 | How did the red pill effect your life negatively? How has it gotten better since you’ve left?evolutionary psychology isnt all bs Evolutionary psychology isn't all bs, true. It is useful, but only for things that are truly universal. Things like early childhood developmental stages, can be studied with Evo Psych. Things like sexual selection preferences cannot. It's totally worthless as a tool for this. Telling evolutionary psych stories about early humans to explain complex behaviors today is completely pseudo-scientific. Any hypothesis to explain those behaviors with evolutionary psych… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/23 02:03 PM |
| 2 | I feel like this is the end of the redpillIt's embarrassing for me to say. In middle school, my bullies were mainly girls Nothing to be embarrassed about. Girls can be brutal. Especially when you're big, so guys are less likely to mess with you out of respect of the possibility that you fight back. Some girls realize that you're not going to physically fight them the way you might a guy, so they're the ones who do the bullying. At least half my bullies were girls in middle/ jr high. I was also 6'2 by the time I was 16, but I was also go… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/23 01:45 PM |
| 6 | I feel like this is the end of the redpillFor me especially being bullied, it felt good knowing there were people that went through the same things I went through and I didn't feel alone. Such a different experience for me. I'm more than a decade older. I was severely bullied in grade and middle school, which peaked around the time you were born. I escaped into movies like The Matrix. There was no youtube or social media back then, so the only place to find like minded people talking about what I was going through was music, i.e. nu met… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/23 05:44 PM |
| 12 | I feel like this is the end of the redpillTrp been around I believe since the 80s. Was it called something else? The term "the red pill" comes from The Matrix (1999). I first ran into "The Red Pill" internet forums was around 2010. The red pill reddit subreddit was made in ~2012ish if I remember correctly. Not that toxic masculinity and advice on how to manipulate women didn't exist in the 80s and 90s, but the specific red pill movement didn't come about at least until the mid to late 2000s. Even then redpill in 2013 didn't have the pic… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/23 02:29 PM |
| 1 | The main talking point of The Right is how the Trans Idelogy is harmful to children. What if The Left had the same level of aggression towards the Catholic Church being harmful to children? Fight fire with fire kinda thing.That's true. It's a shame they moved more towards the center only for other conservative institutions to move even further to the right. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/08/23 03:22 AM |
| 1 | The main talking point of The Right is how the Trans Idelogy is harmful to children. What if The Left had the same level of aggression towards the Catholic Church being harmful to children? Fight fire with fire kinda thing.Eh, more center-right. Like American democrats. It's crazy that the right has moved so far right that the Catholic church seems left. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/23 08:29 PM |
| 5 | I am losing my mind here i need comfortThat's not how addiction works. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/23 06:29 PM |
| 8 | I am losing my mind here i need comfortI deleted my original comment because you answered it elsewhere. Please, stop this nofap nonsense. Porn addiction is real. But, for fuck-sake, there is no reason to stop masturbating all together. Just stop watching video porn. You're not in a sexually active relationship, you're not ace or low sex drive, therefore it's normal and healthy to masturbate occasionally. Even once a day is within a healthy range. Just masturbate with your imagination, or some erotic fiction or something. If you're ad… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/23 06:28 PM |
| 11 | Why do redpillers see all liberals as extremists ? Do they not realize that extremist right-wings are advocating for genocide? Are they comparable to these people?Partially it's because people who fall for one cult are likely to fall for another one. Partially it's because traditionalists are generally drawn to conservativism. Partially, it's that the US is so messed up politically people see liberals as far left when they're actually center right. Bill Clinton and Obama were the definition of center right. A few congress people are solidly on the left, but there's basically no far left in this country. Red Pill is also most popular in the US. (If you wan… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/23 10:37 PM |
| 31 | Does TRP seriously harm women? If so in what way?Yeah, sure they get 'mysogynistic' but I don't see how that harms women other than online. You don't see how running dread game or spinning plates hurts women? Over half of red pill content is just a playbook for how to abuse a wife or girlfriend. Look back through the history of this sub, at least a couple times a month a woman or girl comes here in shambles because her boyfriend or husband got into the red pill and started treating her like absolute garbage. Of course women are going to want t… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/23 07:50 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop being so easily influenced by redpill thinking?I don't bother changing their views because it's futile I wondering if challenging them a little bit, not with the goal of changing their mind, but just standing up for what you believe in might help. It doesn't have to be confrontational. It can be more of a skepticism sort of angle. Someone says something like, "girls are always looking to jump to the next, better guy." And maybe you respond with, "I don't know, man. You can believe what you want, but I don't see it that way. Some are like tha… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/23 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Another thing is men and women are the SAME.But I'm not. My flippant comment isn't all I'm going off. Your comment didn't have anecdotal evidence or anything else. It was just like your opinion, and it's a clearly bad one. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/23 01:25 AM |
| 4 | Another thing is men and women are the SAME.But, it's also men in general though... | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notI think you think that's a gotcha, but toxic feminism is absolutely real. Some of your examples are pretty good. I think it should be thought about more and a concerted effort made against it. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/23 01:08 AM |
| 9 | Another thing is men and women are the SAME.men want attention, men let there emotions control them, men clout chase, men act like bitches This describes every man I've ever met who describes himself as a "masculine man." Every. Single. One. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/23 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Looking for a mgtow-ish (without the hate) communityA large part of "working on one's self" almost always involves working on one's social skills and building a larger base of friends and aquantences. This is doublely true for anyone who has trouble with dating. The only good take away from mgtow is to stop worrying about dating directly. It's a good idea to not worry about approaching the opposite sex with romance in mind (or any gender, if you're gay or bi) for the time being. However, that doesn't mean you should go into some "monk mode" and i… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/23 02:03 PM |
| 12 | Why I left the red pill - Accepting my genetic destinyYou don't have to give up on socializing if you're mildly or even moderately autistic. Yes, absolutely accept your neurodivergence. Accepting it doesn't mean giving up on having a full and satisfying social life though. It just means your route to get there is going to be different than other people's. At the same time, the red pill or anything similar (black pill or incels community) isn't going to help with that. It's going to make you insanely miserable. The rules are straightforward and easy… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?people who trust that you won't take the compliment as an invitation to harass them. Definitely part of the reason I specified close friends. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/23 02:32 AM |
| 7 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?But the reality is that, as per OP, the HANDSOME construction worker tik toker got the attention of the girl. That's a fact, But, again, we don't know that it was BECAUSE he was handsome. And also, this is just literally one case. "Hardly ever" accounts for some cases. It's literally OP's and your bias that you assume it was because of his attractiveness. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't. It's really irrelevant though because ColdSnickersBar was talking about how worrying about how much attention a… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 09:12 PM |
| 7 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?Sure, some. People get weird around celebrities, even unattractive ones, even minor ones from social media. If your point is that attractive people are more likely to get compliments... yeah, sure, of course. But even then attractive men hardly ever have women just randomly come up to them and compliment them like that. At least not where I live or anywhere I've been. More to the point. What does that have to do with anything ColdSnickersBar said about the red pill above in the comment you were … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 08:51 PM |
| 6 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?Is a compliment too much to ask for? I never got one. NEVER! not even from my own mom. Lmao Do you have any advice other than just move on or dress better and hit the gym? Find some friends who compliment their friends often. I don't remember ever being complimented by random women on the street, and in my 20s I was pretty decent looking (In shape-ish, 6'2, bald but owned it). I guess very occasionally a woman or girl might have remarked "nice shirt" but that was because she liked Zelda or whate… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 08:22 PM |
| 8 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?She kept saying, "I saw you on tiktok omg!!" and the dude kept saying in spanish "I don't know you." Because she mistook him for a minor celebrity... What's the lesson here? Try to look as much like a minor celebrity as you can so that some random girl might compliment you? | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 08:04 PM |
| 7 | How do I cope with the fact that I've never gotten any compliment from women in my entire life?he was a content creator on tiktok It's more dumb than that: dude kept saying in spanish "I don't know you" Sounds like the dude was mistaken for a tiktok content creator. Like, it's pure random luck that she was doing that at all. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Do lack of women make an incel or being an incel results in lack of womenThat's fair, and I agree. (I was mostly hedging my bets as I wasn't sure what u/eatfleshdrinkblood was asking about exactly.) | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Do lack of women make an incel or being an incel results in lack of womenOuroboros is a mythical dragon that eats its own tail. It's a symbol for never ending cycles. u/Codeofconduct is essentially saying, "it's a viscous cycle of angry tears and masturbation." It's a bit simplistic and reductive, and needlessly shames people for masturbation, but the core sentiment isn't entirely wrong. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/23 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Do lack of women make an incel or being an incel results in lack of womenI used to publish papers in academia, philosophy in particular, if that counts. Otherwise, no. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/23 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Kids saying "woman's cheat"There is a certain amount of irony in the fact that 25 year ago I thought the "TV is rotting kids brains" was overblown. Then 20+ years ago I thought "the internet is rotting kids brains" was overblown. The last 10ish years though I've been more and more on the "algorithmic content on youtube, facebook, twitch, and tik tok is actually really really bad for kids under 10 (maybe older)" bandwagon. It's especially scary when parents just hand a 3 year old tablet every day with youtube playing and k… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/23 07:21 PM |
| 30 | Do lack of women make an incel or being an incel results in lack of womenSometimes words develop more than one connotation or meaning. "Incel" is short for involuntarily celibate. In current context "incel" refers not to just anyone who happens to be involuntarily celibate, but people who are that plus participate in the incel community and refer to themselves as incels. Basically it requires both a condition that's not a choice, involuntary celibacy, and one that is a choice, thinking of one's self as an incel and consuming incel content. The term incel was coined b… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/23 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Kids saying "woman's cheat"Youtube videos are, most likely... :-/ | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/23 10:28 PM |
| 2 | did the cashier have a crush on meThat's totally fair! I've been there before. Still, hold on to my advice for next time. (Not with her, I mean next time you're interested in another girl/woman) | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/23 01:53 AM |
| 5 | did the cashier have a crush on meEven if you don't go back. Keep it in mind for next time. If you like someone and you get the first inkling they might like you back, just go for it and ask them out as soon as you can. It's always better to find out, rather than play guessing games. And, truly, outside of her telling someone else or asking you out yourself, that's the only way you're ever going to know. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/23 01:44 AM |
| 5 | did the cashier have a crush on meGo back anyway. If you were still working there and she left and then came back months later to ask you out... would you care how long it's been? Maybe she's not there anymore, or maybe she'll say no thanks, but it's worth a shot. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/23 01:39 AM |
| 3 | did the cashier have a crush on meIdk, go back and ask her on a date, coffee or something. You like her, and she hasn't indicated that she doesn't like you. Go back and give it a try. As long as you're willing to accept rejection gracefully, most people don't mind being asked out. Worst that happens is she says no and you're bummed about it for a day or two. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/23 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Problem with red pill / manosphere.Feminism isn't controversial. You're like an evolution denier asking for one example of macro evolution. Bro, open up a fucking textbook. I'm not going to teach you remedial ethics and political theory. Also it's "oppressed" not "supressed," maybe start with a grammar book. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/23 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Problem with red pill / manosphere.I wish you could meet me irl, lol. I'm far from whatever idea you have in your head of a "beta." I'm also not some dumb fuck who thinks he's "alpha." Being a feminist doesn't make me weak or cowardly. It just means that I have the ability to empathize and use logic. Feminism is just the brute truth about the world: women are whole people who deserve equity. All this alpha/beta nonsense is just flat earth for misogynists. Basesless nonsense they tell themselves to make themselves feel powerful. K… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/23 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Problem with red pill / manosphere.Yeah, I too hope men find feminism as a path out of misogyny. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/23 12:02 PM |
| 7 | Another thing that disproves every single redpill talking points is the show “my 600lb life”.Why does the dating app vs the social place matter? The other questions I understand. You want to discount this example and if he was 200lbs when he met her or she was unattractive by your standards, you'd gladly discount it. But, I don't get the app vs social event question... She's with him now and she chooses to be with him every day. Da fuck does it matter how they met? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/23 08:36 PM |
| 10 | Red pill friend went on some red pill rageThis isn't "r/askredpill" or anything like that. There doesn't need to be a question. The point of this post is to illustrate how messed up the mind and behavior of a redpiller is. This sub isn't here to coddle you away from red pill. It's a toxic cult. If calling its members out for their behavior is too much for you, that's on you. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/23 08:31 PM |
| 1 | I love movies like Halloween 2007 and falling down.Villains don't appear spontaneously; they are the product of prior injustices and trauma That's great in movies and books where everyone needs clear motivation, but in real life the "villains" most often don't have any injustices or trauma motivating them or at best they massively overreact to small setbacks. Most of the time it's just the culture around them or their own greed or entitlement. KKK members aren't and weren't motivated by trauma and injustice, they produced and magnified the traum… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/23 12:55 AM |
| 2 | I love movies like Halloween 2007 and falling down.Can you explain more? How do they make you feel represented? Why do you enjoy them? What does this have to do with redpill? | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/23 02:12 PM |
| 2 | At what point is a redpiller considered an incel?If many redpillers are getting laid with (many) women because they use abuse tactics this means that you're considering (many) women as weak and broken. Repillers aren't getting laid with "many" women. I never said "many" in regards to women, just in regards to redpillers. They are getting laid. That doesn't mean that the redpillers are players or some such. They generally have the average number for partners for their age. I also don't think that "many" women are weak or broken. Some are vulner… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/23 02:02 PM |
| 30 | At what point is a redpiller considered an incel?Many redpillers aren't incels at all. A good number of them are abusers that use abuse to manipulate women and girls into sexual relationships and to keep them there through a cycle of psychological abuse. There are a lot of incels who are also red pillers, or watch red pill content. They make up a good portion too, but it's hard to say which is the majority. Many incels also skip the red pill and go right to the black pill (a similar cult that's more nihilistic and suicide idealizing). Assuming… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/23 01:48 PM |
| 25 | Purple pill debate sub has been bannedA lot of people, honestly maybe the majority of people, are under the false impression that healthy debate works like the purple pill. It simply does not. Healthy debate isn't two sides of an issue hashing it out. There aren't "two sides" to every issue. Giving two pollar extremes equal measure and consideration only ends, at best, with the fallacy of the golden mean. In real measured debate, aimed at either seeking the truth or solving a problem, participants quickly abandon bad ideas to sharpe… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/23 08:01 AM |
| 1 | What percentage of guys in society actually have an incel mindset?I'm not equating the two together. There are plenty of people who are just quiet. I'm talking specifically of the ones who are both. It was a brief description of those guys. There is a lot more to it than that, but those are things that stand out immediately. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/23 06:20 AM |
| 5 | my ex feels like a nazi to me.It's sort of a combination of modern fashion and little house of the prairie cosplay. It's a popular aesthetic for young white hyper trad-cons. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 4 | What percentage of guys in society actually have an incel mindset?all the men i've crossed paths with that have RP-adjacent/PUA mentality have all been good-looking, seemingly well-adjusted prior to being radicalised To be fair, the question was about the incel mindset, not about RPers in general. A fair number of RPers are incels, especially recently, but many aren't. The ones you seem to have encountered are the non-incels. In the history of the red pill, this was actually the first group. They used to actively exclude incels, until the guru types among them… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/23 02:10 PM |
| 3 | What percentage of guys in society actually have an incel mindset?Actual statistics, idk, but I take my rough idea from being a substitute teacher for a number of years. This sort of behavior starts in middle/high school, so it's a good place to get an idea. I worked at 12ish school districts in VA and PA (so being East Coast US is a bias) in rural (VA), suburban (both Va and PA), and urban (Philly) areas. I would have probably estimated that 2-10 per 100 guys would be like this. One of the sad/weird part about this is guys like this almost always describe the… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/23 01:53 PM |
| 10 | my ex feels like a nazi to me.Probably still IS | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/23 12:02 PM |
| 13 | my ex feels like a nazi to me.Not much to say except I'm glad he's your ex. Related story: The closest person I've known to a "trad wife" was the girl who took my virginity. To the outside world she portrayed herself as perfectly traditional. She had super straight very long hair, very plain and conservative clothes. She was extremely Christian. This is the mid 00s, so cottage-core wasn't a thing yet, but for that time period she was exactly as you'd expect. I met her in college through a friend from highschool and we surpri… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/23 10:21 AM |
| 15 | What does redpill say about punishments?It’s basically abuse I hope this doesn't come off as trying to correct you, I mean it in an empowering sort of way, but I'm a bit tired and unsure how to word it better: It's basically abuse. Psychological abuse. No need to soften it with adverbs like 'basically.' A big empathetic sorry you went through it. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/23 07:51 PM |
| 6 | My friend's behaviour has been triggering redpill thinkingDuring the trip she told me that she wasn't into me because she was a year older Did you ever tell her how you felt? Maybe you just left it out, but from this entire story it sounds like you've been holding back your feelings from her the whole time. It doesn't take assertiveness to be straight forward with someone. It takes honesty. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notSociety expects men to protect women, to not be driven by their emotions, to show restraint and temperance. "be a man" is used to pressure men to generally make sacrifices. Yeah, and sometimes society over pressures men in these ways. Sometimes men are pressured to be over-protective to the point of controlling. Sometimes men are pressured to suppress their emotions to the point where it's harmful (in fact suppressing your emotions all the time just is very harmful). Making unnecessary sacrifice… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/23 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Who else has autism/aspergers?My therapist mentioned I might have autism a couple of years ago, but diagnosis as an adult is difficult to come by, at least in the US. I also have ADHD that I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood, but at least there is medicine for that, so I did go through the year+ long ordeal to get a diagnosis and get meds. I really don't think I want to go through that for an autism diagnosis, since there isn't any meds or anything like that. I've learned to cope and adapt well enough. So what if I strongly p… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/08/23 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Can someone point me to the study/studies done that claim a high number of past sexual partners increases the chance of infidelity?My first thought is that you'd have to control for age. Like, obviously an 18 year old who has only had one sexual partner is less likely to have cheated than a 30 year old who has had five sexual partners. The 18 year old literally hasn't had as much time to cheat yet if they are going to. Since most 18-20 year olds are either virgins or have only had one partner, that's going to really skew the numbers if you don't correct for it. There's also the simple fact that cheaters are more likely to h… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/23 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Getting married doesn’t make people any happierI have trouble understanding why someone would care enough to live together with someone else, if they were perfectly content with themselves. I'm not the person you were responding to, but maybe I can help. Idk about which is more frequent, but people who go into relationships already happy and content have much healthier relationships. Maybe you just don't see their motivation? They aren't motivated to fix their loneliness or depression. They are instead motivated to build even more happiness … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/23 08:23 PM |
| 17 | My Experience With the Red PillI agree with almost everything you said emphatically. There are a couple of things I want to point out that I disagree with or think should be worked differently. I want to be clear though, that it doesn't dilute your overall meaning or anything. The heart of everything you said is very true and generally the arc of any guy who goes through the red pill and comes out happier and healthier. Some nitpicks/notes: Their self control is superior to mens. It worth noting, or reiterating, that it's not… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/23 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Do you need a certain level of karma to post here?If it happens right away it's the automod. Just message the mods and they'll put it back up (assuming it doesn't violate rules or anything) | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/23 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Hung out with a girl. Interested or just being nice?Totally agree. I will add that even if you own up to your feelings and face rejection head on it can still be painful. But, it's a different kind of pain when you remove the fear and loss of self worth. It's the kind of pain that reminds you that you're human. It's the kind of low in life that makes the highs in life that much better. It reminds you that you're capable of caring deeply and being romantic. When you let the fear of rejection overwhelm you and effect your senses of self worth, you'… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/23 11:00 AM |
| 10 | Hung out with a girl. Interested or just being nice?TBH, you made a mistake from the get go. If you want hanging out to be a date, tell the person that it's a date. If you were up front about it, you wouldn't be playing this guessing game. Keeping it ambiguous might help you avoid rejection on the short term, but it's just going to make it worse down the line. She doesn't have to have interest to just show up. Maybe she just wants a friend. Next time find out beforehand. Tell her you had a minor crush on her when you worked together. If she's int… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/23 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Getting married doesn’t make people any happierMarriages come with all kinds of expectations and social pressures that relationships don't have. That's the most important bit. But, yes, the ability to walk away from a relationship without all the legal hassle is also important. People with faltering marriages feel trapped, which doesn't help fix the underlying relationship. It might seem paradoxical, but having the option to walk away at any time can actually make people feel more secure. The person in the relationship knows their partner is… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone here signed up for David tians legendary program ? Does it really work ?He’s actually a physicalist That wasn't the part of his metaphysics I was talking about. I really don't want to get into all the nuances, but watched some of his videos and he talks a lot about objective morality vs. subjective morality in a way that is very mistaken. But, I used to be a professional philosopher, so that's my own gripe. So he definitely doesn’t subscribe to any mysticism/spirituality that’s for sure. So, all the "aura" language and eastern philosophy talk is just advertising? | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 05:37 PM |
| 8 | Is there anyway too attract women ethically or the right way without having too get mean or be a jerk ?There’s the saying women like assholes Do you believe every saying you hear? You shouldn't. Women like a lot of different things, because there are 4ish billion of them. They are all individuals with individual desires. Some like assholes. Some like wallflowers. Some like confidence. Some like shyness. Some like goth fem bois with purple hair. Some like bearded mountain men in flannel. Some like really silly guys. Some like really stoic guys. etc. etc... forever. Don't play the numbers game. Don… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 10:50 AM |
| 11 | From what I’ve seen, a lot of the dudes who claim to be Redpill just end up as Pookies&RayRays.Yeah, of course. There are much better ways of "chasing your potential" that don't involve all the misogyny of the red pill. Most of the guys who buy into it are only going to get so much out of their self help, then all they'll be left with is the misogyny. The ones who really want to better themselves will find something better. The ones who want to hide in their own little world and justify using and abusing women will stay. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone here signed up for David tians legendary program ? Does it really work ?There are some people on this sub who have mentioned legitimate life and dating coaches that are purely science and evidence based on the past. Hopefully one of those people sees this thread and comments, because I totally didn't save the links. I know there are better options out there that don't come with all the "aura" stuff, but I don't know their names. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone here signed up for David tians legendary program ? Does it really work ?I think he's a really shitty philosopher. But, that's more of a professional hazzard. If you stick to his dating advice and ignore all the Eastern Mysticism and terrible easily debunked metaphysics, he doesn't seem too bad. I appreciate that he tries to use lessons from therapy and psychology in teaching someone how to search for a partner. That part is worthwhile. Anyone claiming to "change your aura" strikes me as a con-man, but he definitely seems better than redpill gurus. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Getting married doesn’t make people any happierPersonally I don't "believe" in marriage. Not that I don't think it exists. I think it's mostly pointless and has a lot of downsides. The core of this belief is simply that it's superfluous and antiquated. People don't need a ceremony, vows, a contract, extra social pressure, and sometimes mountains of debt, in order to have a healthy and happy long term relationship. Especially non-religious people like my partner and me. My partner and I have been together 5.5 years, and our relationship is st… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/23 10:41 PM |
| 12 | RP dudes going to the gym for all the wrong reasonsdepression, working out is a good medicine. The problem for a lot of men is that purely lifting weights isn't the best way to do that. They are drawn to weight lifting, because they want to be big and muscular. Unfortunately for them, they'd get a lot more out of low impact cardio as far as mental health is concerned. Cycling or swimming are much more beneficial for regulation of various hormones and brain chemicals compared to lifting. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/23 11:32 PM |
| 26 | RP dudes going to the gym for all the wrong reasonsSomeone in a comment on another thread in this sub said that body building for men is like make-up for women* in that a. you should do it for yourself b. mostly only men are going to notice the effort you put into it. My buddies who were into lifting in the 2000s (I'm old) were approached all the time... by dudes asking about their routine. Which, honestly was pretty cool and fun for them. Just don't kid yourself into thinking more than a handful of women you meet will give a fuck. *Dudes can be… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/23 11:24 PM |
| 11 | Have some women also fallen into the red pill ideology?“pickme’s” I've most often read the term "pickme" used by Femaledatingstrategy members. They use the term almost exactly like red pill uses "betas." Both are exaggerated caricatures of people who exhibit behaviors and characteristics that don't fit into their ideology. FDS, in my opinion, is the women's equivalent of red pill. They both teach self-help at the start, then teach their members manipulation and abusive tactics in regards to dating, as well as dehumanize and commodify* the opposite g… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/23 11:47 AM |
| 11 | Does the one who got away always have to stay away?the woman who taught them the harsh lessons I don't want to come off as contradicting your lived experience, but I think this is the part that you have wrong. I don't think their partners "teach" these men anything. I think that after the problematic relationships are over some men can reflect on their own behavior within that relationship and change while they are single. Then they are able to find a new partner and not make the same mistakes. The first woman didn't teach them anything. They we… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/23 11:35 AM |
| 2 | What do women in general want in a long term relationship?Or, you could just work on your social skills. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/23 10:07 PM |
| 12 | What do women in general want in a long term relationship?I do not feel much empathy Then you shouldn't be in any kind of a relationship. Empathy is necessary for any kind of healthy relationship. Is there like any manual for relationships? I could learn it in a week. It's not the kind of thing you can learn from reading. You have to work on building relationships. You have to have friendships. You don't necessarily have other romantic relationships, but it certainly helps. You can build a lasting relationship as your first one, but you have to have a … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/23 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Can I forgive my ex for being redpilled in the distant past?I get that. I have ADHD and possibly mild autism (according to my therapist I probably do, but I wanted to treat the ADHD before trying to get an autism diagnosis). It is difficult. I still think you should try to look outwardly and try to get a solid social circle and find someone else. Not saying this guy is shit or anything. I just think that would help you. I too went through a lot of trauma early on (in my case it was a couple of women who took advantage of me when I was 18-19). I can't… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/23 01:52 PM |
| 12 | Can I forgive my ex for being redpilled in the distant past?He has many other issues he has to work on first like addiction and borderline homelessness and I've never had anyone close to me ever care like he does or keep up mentally (that's from a comment not your original post) These two things make me think it's a bad idea. This guy sounds like the last thing he needs is a romantic relationship right now. He's got a lot to figure out and what he could really use is supportive friends. It's really great that he found this sub and he's getting away fro… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/23 01:35 PM |
| 4 | Redpill and Relationship OCDIdk if all red pill guys have thought loops and rituals. OCD is a very specific mental health disorder. I'm loathed to using it for someone who wasn't specifically diagnosed. Instead I'd say that they can become very neurotic and obsessed. They do fixate on their sexual or romantic relationships. But, it usually doesn't rise to OCD. Maybe your specific partner had OCD, I can't speak to that, but we shouldn't be using that language for them in a general sense. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/23 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Man woman ratio here?Yeah, of course, that's pretty weird too. In both cases there are sometimes good reasons, but in general it's a pretty strange thing. It's especially weird to think it's "not possible." For either gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/07/23 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Man woman ratio here?I guess, for context, I meant it's weird to live in a western society (or any of the various Asian, African, South American, etc. places where it's normalized to have mixed gendered friendships... Of which there are many) to not have mixed gendered friendships. Sure, in some non western nations that might be very normal. But, lots of things will be normal there that would be very weird elsewhere. That doesn't really change anything that I said. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/07/23 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Why do we glorify the act of black men hating Black women? 🤔 A response to RedPill.Yeah, the story made it out like dating black women meant literally dating his bullies. He's this brilliant guy with a PhD, but doesn't realize there are black women who didn't go to his highschool? I'm white, I got bullied by white girls in middle school. I still hate those particular white girls. But I'm not a moron, so I know that the white girls I've dated over the years since then are completely different people. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/07/23 11:29 AM |
| 10 | Man woman ratio here?But men and women can be just friends, so the redpill must be incorrect then. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 10:20 PM |
| 4 | Man woman ratio here?That's cool. But what does that have to do with a poll about the gender ratio of the sub? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Man woman ratio here?I think you're reading way too much into what I'm doing in this post. I asked a couple of questions to figure out why OP made the poll. He respondes with something about how men and women can't get along. Which, idk why that was relevant, but I commented that I think that concept is dumb and why I think it's dumb. I asked you about the half full thing because it was legit a weird way to phrase something, I was trying to turn it into a joke. I like puns and other grammar based humor. I didn't do … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 10:14 PM |
| 7 | Man woman ratio here?A smart ass to you, because you "don't care about diction." This whole thread seems like you and OP trying to delegitimizing the sub because "it's all women." | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Man woman ratio here?FOR This sentence is grammatically confusing. Do you mean, "understanding OF the redpill" or "understanding IN FAVOR OF the redpill"? In other words do you think "men and women can't just be friends" is the basis for the redpill, or do you think it's a good reason to believe in the redpill? Or both/ neither? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 09:57 PM |
| 6 | Man woman ratio here?I didn't say anything about his beliefs. I was talking in general. Anyone who has that belief baffles me. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 09:46 PM |
| 7 | Man woman ratio here?Yeah, of course. Did you think there were literally no men here? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 09:14 PM |
| 11 | Man woman ratio here?"Men and women can't be friends," is just so foreign to me. Some of my best friends have been women my whole life. I've had crushes on a couple of them when I was young, which didn't work out very well, but most were no different than my guy friends. Y'all must be living some very weird lives that you don't have any friends from the other gender. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 09:13 PM |
| 7 | Man woman ratio here?Why does it matter? "and others who recognize the damage caused by redpill." - is clearly stated in the description of the sub. There are lots of women who fit that description. It's also good to have the perspectives of women when discussing issues around dating and relationships. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 08:55 PM |
| 7 | Man woman ratio here?"Half was full." What a strange way to phrase that. What about the other half? Was it empty? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/23 08:50 PM |
| 8 | What you think about red pill people who dont stop of citing schoppenhauer and nieztcheI'm a trained philosopher. I don't teach anymore, but I have the fancy degree and was a professor for a while. Anyway, the funny part about dude bros from RP or the manosphere quoting Nieztche in general is how they skip the part where he was in a polyamourous fmm thruple with a dominatrix and another submissive man. A lot of his writing makes a lot more sense when you know the context. Dude was into pony/oxen play where he and another dude would pull a cart with their mistress riding the cart a… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/23 09:18 PM |
| 1 | My counselor is a moron! I agree with everyone.This is a follow up to an earlier post. He didn't link the original. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Even PragerU is calling out red pill now.Tates already facing trafficking charges. What specifically would you make illegal about PUAs or RPers? Simply being misogynistic doesn't really rise to the level of a crime. Sometimes they do commit already existing crimes, and they definitely should be looked at pretty hard. Still, I don't think it makes any sense to just "make them illegal." That's not really coherent. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/23 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Should we as men pay for everything for a woman?Yeah, man. That's always a choice. If you want to trade sex for money, go for it. Just, be very weary of LTR with anyone like that. If these women want this much money from a short term guy, imagine what they'll do to a husband. 😬 | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/23 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Friend of mine is in so deepSorry you have had to watch him go through this, and given him your emotional labor without reciprocation. My advice, if you want any, is to dampen your contact to almost zero. I'd keep open the lines of communication to some extent, purely because I think people need lifelines in case they ever start to figure it out on there own, but I won't engage with him on this or much of anything else. Make it clear that he's part of a misogynist cult, and while you want to be there for him if he gets out… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 11:42 PM |
| 11 | Should we as men pay for everything for a woman?Nope! I stopped doing that the same time that I stopped lying about , or misleading, my intentions to women to try to get laid (over a decade ago.) Part of realizing women are fully formed people who deserve every bit of respect as you, is that you also should look for someone who treats you with that respect. If you're both making the same amount of money, it only makes sense for you to split costs for dates. miscellaneous errands etc. Bro. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. YOU ARE NOT IN A LIFE TIME COMMIT… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Help from disabled personThere are definitely techniques you can learn in therapy to help with that. For instance, people with OCD tend to obsess on certain subjects and mental health professionals have developed techniques to help them to handle those mental behaviors better, to get out of those "thought loops". Not that I think you have OCD, just pointing out that the techniques exist and that if they are strong enough to help someone with OCD, then they are strong enough to help someone who is "a chronic over-thinker… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Hookup Culture: Real or Myth?And why did you say 18-20 and then 25? There’s a huge amount of time between ages 20 and 25. The context of the article I was talking about. 30% of 18-20 year olds said they hadn't had sex (since they turned 18 - their question not mine) whereas by 25 it was less then 2%. There was a steady decline 21-24 as well. My point wasn't that 25 was precisely the age the perfect age or anything. 20 is better than 18 too and 23 is better than 20, etc. Where "better" just means more likely to be a safe exp… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Help from disabled personYeah, learning to control your obsession is more something a therapist can help you with. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Help from disabled personA lot of this is above our paygrade. Are you seeing a therapist, my dude? That being said, I can throw some stuff out there. I don't blame women but when I look at the behaviors the RP shows I wonder do I have a chance as this sickness makes it hard to find my purpose I've become depressed. You need to find purpose outside of getting into a relationship sexual or otherwise. If you make getting laid or getting a gf your purpose, then you are going to end up laid or with a gf but still having no p… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Hookup Culture: Real or Myth?It is better to lose it at 25 than 18-20, generally. Some people can handle it or find the right person to do it with at 18-20, but they are more likely to be able to do that at 25. Experience is wanted if it's a good experience than doesn't hurt or traumatize them. But, maybe I'm confused about what you mean by experience? Could you elaborate? I'm not saying it's a bad thing for everyone, but it's probably a better thing for most people. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 04:50 PM |
| 1 | *sigh* let me try this again... "women are attracted to men with muscles"You know the gym/fitness industry is worth billions of dollars likely and the biggest motivator for people to be into fitness is to improve their attractiveness. Do you know how bad this argument is? "you know the psychic hotline industry is worth billions of dollars likely and the biggest motivator for people to be into psychic hotlines is to improve their fortunes." Think about it. I'm not even saying you're general idea is wrong, but your entire statement is a jumble of fallacies. You start o… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Whenever the redpill asserts naturalismnot wrong it's just toxic and tend to support the idea of naturalism and evolutionary psychology as our nature Are incompatible. The field of Evolutionary Psychology is very controversial and much of it is denounced as pseudoscience by psychologists broadly. It's not that evo psych has no explanatory value, but it has much less explanatory power than many try to give it credit for. The kind of evo psych explanations that the redpill makes are precisely the sort that it doesn't have the power t… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 02:22 PM |
| 5 | Hookup Culture: Real or Myth?"For men over age 25 (but not older than 30), only 1.9% are virgins." -- From the third article you posted. This is the really important statistic. 27% is the average of all men 18-30 y.o. (who hadn't had sex between 18 and when they took the survey), but the vast majority of guys lose it by 25, more than 98%! Which is way more healthy than previous generations that lost it more often between 18-20, or even younger (though the statistics here don't report on that). The younger you are when you l… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/07/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Dating hack for menI'm mostly with you. I'd instead say it wasn't their original problem. I think it's their biggest problem, or main problem, once it takes root. But yeah, they're still going to have to deal with their original problems at some point. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/23 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Dating hack for menThis is true, but I think the OP statement was meant to be hyperbolic anyway. I think the crux is that being a misogynist isn't doing them any favors. For some very attractive or very lucky guys being a misogynist won't stop some number for women who don't care about that sort of thing from pursuing them. So, yeah, attractiveness or wealth can be a pass. But for any other guy, it's going to shrink their dating pool to a size that's uncomfortably small. For the guys you are talking about, who don… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/23 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Average guyI agree with what the majority of the people are saying, that most men will end up have at least some relationship success. Because, it's just obviously the case. More men are remaining virgins or dateless longer than ever before, but those men are still a tiny percentage of men over the age of 25, and even smaller by 30. It's concerning for those particular guys, but they are a very small minority of men so there is no need to get alarmist. It would also be mathematically impossible for the maj… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/23 01:27 PM |
| 7 | Is it normal to be jealous of women who have been with more women than you?It makes me feel pathetic like if a woman can easily find other women to have sex with then why can't I do the same as a man As a guy who hooked up a lot (almost a decade ago, I'm getting old). Quality matters a lot more than quantity. I honestly can't remember the most women I hooked-up with in a week. What I do remember is the women who were incredibly fun to be around. The nights that were joyously fun. That's more women than I have been with in my life in just a week! It sounds like you wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/23 12:49 PM |
| 2 | I’m convinced that my Red-Pilled mindset lost me a relationship!Even if that's true, which I don't think it really is. How does that excuse your behavior? Sure, OP has issues, but he's not acting like a middle school bully. Are you alright, man? | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 10:33 PM |
| 5 | I'm an exRP, and now I find people who are still in it angry and weird.You know we're on the 4th wave now though, right? First wave feminism was full of racism and bigotry. Is that why you like it better? | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 04:56 PM |
| 5 | I’m convinced that my Red-Pilled mindset lost me a relationship!Why are you acting like a middle school bully? Are you a grown adult acting like this? Seriously, read your comment back to yourself. That's some middle school level shit right there. If you're going to be a bully, at least do it at a adult level. Are you a teenager? Otherwise, you're absolutely pathetic. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 01:30 PM |
| 2 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notThose fathers aren't alpha males. There are no alpha males. Well, in terms of people. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 01:22 PM |
| 3 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notYeah, sure, but it's certainly shouldn't be the default. There's also men who prefer to let their partner take the "lead" so to speak. If it's mutually consenting, of course it's up to them. I still think it's risky. Living your life with that much of a power imbalance is a very risky endeavor. Just look around at all the women who get divorces because their husband is a controlling dickbag. Everyone wants to imagine the best case scenario where the guy or the woman in charge doesn't take advant… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 01:13 PM |
| 18 | I'm an exRP, and now I find people who are still in it angry and weird.Getting your understanding of feminism from "rp vs feminism podcasts" is like getting your version of socialism from Fox News. Of course you think feminists have a victim mindset and are all manhaters, you literally fell for propaganda. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/23 10:11 AM |
| 3 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notThis should be it's own post. Excellent lists. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/23 05:53 PM |
| 3 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notWhy is there particular pressures on men to behave and think in certain ways? If those pressures stopped existing or none of them were harmful, then toxic masculinity would cease to be a useful term. But, they do exist, so it is useful. OPs examples are wrong and confusing. Toxic masculinity isn't just anything toxic a man does, it's the toxic things that come out of the pressures and expectations society puts on men. So, for example if a guy gets body dismorphia because he thinks being super mu… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/23 05:51 PM |
| 12 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notMasculinity is the cultural expectations and roles given to men to perform by their society both their family/local common and society more broadly. Toxic masculinity is therefore simply those expectations and roles which are harmful either to the men who are expected to perform them or those around them. Your examples are strange ones: -Gambling and drinking aren't roles always given to men in particular. But, in some contexts they may be. If he's gambling and drinking to prove his manliness, t… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/23 01:09 PM |
| 29 | What toxic masculinity is and what it is notA husband leading his wife This is pretty toxic. Your wife needs a partner, not a "leader." A marriage isn't a military campaign. It's a partnership. It requires compromise and equality. A marriage where one person has the final say and not the other is a psychologically abusive marriage. Share the lead. Take turns. No one should be making unilateral decisions. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/23 12:22 PM |
| 3 | I'm worried about the future of dating.Most women aren't poly. Most people don't put up with cheating. Even if those women aim for more attractive men, eventually all the above average guys will get taken. The above average guys are mostly monogamous anyway. Eventually, the average and below average girls will get with average and below average guys. This has happened in every generation since women have had sexual freedom. Besides, most of the guys you are talking about aren't failing because of their looks. Ugly guys find partners … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 11:31 PM |
| 11 | Can men and women be friends?This is something I honestly don't envy women on at all. For (straight/bi) guys women rarely do this. It does happen, but it's rare. I've had friends catch feelings for me, but it was always after we were friends for a long time. Like how the hell do y'all tell the difference between a guy who develops a crush on his friend (who is you), which is also very common, and a guy who was interested the whole time but started pretending to be your friend in the hopes that you'd change your mind? I woul… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 11:12 PM |
| 13 | Can men and women be friends?I have lots of friends who are women. Some of them are among my best friends. Some of them I do indeed find attractive. I'm in a committed relationship with my partner and cheating with a friend holds absolutely no temptation for me. Not being able to maintain your friendship with someone just because you're attracted to them is some teenage level shit. If you're a teenager, you get a crush on a friend, they don't reciprocate it, and you can't handle those emotions, it's totally fine to back out… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 11:04 PM |
| 13 | So I seen this post on FB I just wanted to share it here because it reminded me of the redpill losers I’ll quote it.I like the sentiment. I will say though. That often it's worth arguing with someone in a public forum, sometimes especially with someone who doesn't care about the truth or reality. Not because you're going to change that person's mind, or they yours. But, instead, because a third part might witness this argument who is undecided. That person is the one you're really making the argument for. And if your arguing against something like the red pill, your argument might save them and those around t… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 09:00 PM |
| 0 | I'm worried about the future of dating.a lot of average and below-average-looking people Those people will just date each other like they always do. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | I'm worried about the future of dating.Yup, the vast majority of people meet through normal networking. A friend of a friend or a friend of a family member or a friend of a coworker. It's not even usually a set-up, people just invite their friends to events or casual get-togethers or parties and occasionally two people hit it off there. Or, meet there and hit it off later. I'm hitting the age where most of my friends are getting married. My partner and I are the only ones I know who met online (we're also weirdos who don't ever want … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Why Is RedPill So Bad?You don't need red pill to work out and eat well. If you want to save yourself for marriage and have a partner that does the same, that's your prerogative. That's not red pill, that's just your personal preference. You can get all the benefits that your talking about without red pill. You can get them without all the misogynistic and abusive crap red pill teaches: dread game, hot and cold, beta bux, 80/20 rule, women hit "the wall" at 30, etc. Red pill also teaches that it's okay for men to spin… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Empathy is a Core ProblemI do think it's a good article in regards to empathy. I just also think it has nothing to do with emotional labor. Emotional labor has a different meaning, so his intro doesn't fit the bulk of the article. The bulk of the article is still worthwhile though. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Empathy is a Core ProblemI don't think they talk about empathy directly. I think they prey upon men with low empathy and give advice that lowers empathy. They solicit young men with low self esteem and blame women for their problems. The constant blaming dehumanizes and others women in these young men's eyes, making them less and less empathetic towards women. They then provide a solution to this: be hyper masculine and dehumanize any men who aren't hyper masculine. Now they're dehumanizing and losing empathy for 90% of… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Empathy is a Core ProblemThat guy really doesn't understand the term emotional labor. Lol. Good read about him learning about his wife's domestic imbalance and taking up the slack though. I wonder if his wife and him do have an emotional labor gap: one of them suppressing emotions in order to pacify the other. Or one listening to the other's emotional outpouring without reciprocation from the outpourer. I get the impression that she's pretty blunt with him. Just from the way he phrase the domestic imbalance. Hopefully t… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Ngl, the unfortunate popularity of the manosphere has made dating EXTREMLEY for me since I don't listen to that B.S.Because 20yo's have a lot of money and status. Lol | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Ngl, the unfortunate popularity of the manosphere has made dating EXTREMLEY for me since I don't listen to that B.S.The exceptions outnumber the cases that actually follow the rule. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Are redpillers happy?early 20's, during my "prove to myself I can pick up girls at bars" / PUA playbook period. I never felt any strong resentment towards women, but I definitely managed to hand them a lot of power over my self-esteem and masculinity (through no fault of their own). I wasn't soc I had a very similar time in my life. Luckily for me it was the mid 2000s, so red pill wasn't a thing yet. I might have gotten into it if it had been. I had been psychologically and sexually abused by my first couple of sex … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/23 10:01 AM |
| 24 | Ngl, the unfortunate popularity of the manosphere has made dating EXTREMLEY for me since I don't listen to that B.S.From your profile I can see you're exactly the kind of guy who drives TRP guys nuts. They preach being as much of an "alpha" and "Chad" as possible. The more hyper masculine the better. When they find out about skinny nerdy goth guys who have better relationship success than they do, they just can't groc it. They'll make up all kinds of excuses. They'll try to put you down or your partners. They'll do anything but admit that other people who don't fit their bullshit theories are doing better tha… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/23 07:43 PM |
| 12 | Are redpillers happy?They do feel justified and grandiose most of the time, but most are not happy. You can't be full of that much anger and be happy. You can't be that paranoid about your partner leaving you and feel happy. You can't live under that much pressure to be an "alpha" and be happy. The exception is young guys who start self help stuff because of TRP. Going from not exercising, dressing well, cleaning, socializing more, etc, to suddenly doing all those things is going to make anyone happier. But, eventua… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/23 07:34 PM |
| 1 | I was never redpilled/call it how you want it but the redpill never existedEverything is dualism you have to stay in the center. This is the fallacy of the golden mean aka the fallacy of moderation. Recently people have referred to it as "enlightened centrism." It's a well known mental trap. Taking an in between position between two extremes is usually wrong. If I say 1+1=2 and someone else says 1+1=4, it doesn't follow that 1+1=3. Of course money and looks matter to most people. That's not red pill. That's common knowledge. Many women want someone who can build a life… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/23 12:01 PM |
| 3 | Do you guys think that lust is huge problem for men?It's not supposed to "prove" anything. It's supposed to illustrate something. That something has no need to be proven, it's well established. No one has a duty to prove something to you that isn't controversial and you can't seem to groc. No amount of proof or cogent arguments would convince you. So, buzz off. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/23 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Resources for people who are recovering from dating a red-pillerIt's not a "secret" book. It's literally hundreds of videos and dozens of actual books the red pill gurus sell. They all have very similar content. There are two parts to the red pill. The first is advice for incels to get more women. Basically, pick up artist stuff couples with demonizing women and toxic masculinity. The second is advice for how to treat women they're with. This second part is basically a play book on how to mentally and psychologically abused their partners. More than that, th… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/23 12:00 AM |
| 14 | How to get rid of envy/resentment towards women?All(I mean all) the women, average or below, talk about their bfs and parties they're going. If those women all have boyfriends, then there has to be guys to match. A small percentage of those women are dating some of the same guys (who are cheating), but most are matched one to one with a guy somewhere. It's thus simply mathematically impossible for there to be far more women with bfs then there are men with gfs. It's possible for for their to be slightly more, if men cheat more. But cheating c… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/23 04:34 PM |
| 7 | Why do red-pillers think that relationship is some kind of a war or a battle where you have to strategize and beat your enemy otherwise you'll loseThis is right on. Unfortunately redpillers, in my experience, are better at solving collective action problems than libertarians. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/23 12:38 AM |
| 9 | Resources for people who are recovering from dating a red-pillerThe red pill teaches men in relationships a system of emotional abuse. It's a specific system, with specific jargon, but it's still emotional abuse. So, many of the resources for emotional abuse generally are going to be the best help. Googling around I found https://mindwellnyc.com/how-to-heal-from-emotional-abuse-in-relationships/ That's a good introduction. If you look around for resources in this area you'll see the term "self-compassion" used a lot as something that will help. I highly reco… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/23 11:58 AM |
| 2 | How did patriarchy start ?Sorry that I misinterpreted you. It was purely unintentional, not an intentional strawman. To unpack it I mean it has naturally occurred across cultures before or after larger civilizations came into play. What work is the word "natural" doing here or in your original comment? It seems none, if your not making any kind of a value statement. You might as well just say that it "occurred" not that it "occurred naturally." Using the word "naturally" makes it sound like you are either applying the na… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/07/23 05:57 AM |
| 6 | Things about the redpill that are hard to disproveBut, that was never the problem. You admitted your true personality is an abrasive asshat. Not nice. have no filter, annoyingly sarcastic, constantly argue about random BS for entertainment, have insane views, So that's the thing they would never like. They can tell that the nice thing is fake. And you said you're unwilling to change that, or even work on it. Only hide behind a facade of "niceness." So it is indeed your fault. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 10:52 PM |
| 4 | How did patriarchy start ?But one could argue it is natural. One can argue anything. I could argue that plate tectonics is wrong, or gravity, or evolutionary biology. I could argue it but I'd have no standing and I'd be wrong. There isn't a scientifically cogent argument to be made that men make better leaders than women. There's no evidence of that, and consensus in psychology and anthropology opposes it. So, sure, you could argue it, but you'd be wrong. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 07:46 PM |
| 0 | How did patriarchy start ?https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy The Wikipedia article has a history section. Try starting there. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 07:40 PM |
| 4 | Things about the redpill that are hard to disproveSo it sounds like the red pill is wrong. You're just in a bad situation you put yourself in and they sound good to you because it helps you cope. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Things about the redpill that are hard to disproveIf I actually be myself w/out caring, I'll piss alot of people off, as my fam says I have no filter, annoyingly sarcastic, constantly argue about random BS for entertainment, have insane views, So, you're only outwardly nice? Idk anyone who would want to be with someone like that. Seems duplicitous. Some women want to date very genuinely sweet guys. Some women like really abrasive guys. I don't know very many want to be with someone pretending to be something they aren't. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Things about the redpill that are hard to disproveYour post is so full of black and white thinking. Either guys are masculine assholes or "nice." Either guys are virgins or they're players. Straight/bi women aren't min-maxing their partners. Most want a guy who has some confidence and charisma but is still nice to them. Most don't want a virgin or a player. They want a guy who has a little experience, but is serious about a monogamous relationship. Most women want something in between these extremes. They don't want a self described incels or a… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/23 03:23 PM |
| 5 | TRP Hates Stepfatherswon't be allowed to discipline the kids or raise them how I want to, I forgot to ask you about this from you first comment. This seems off to me. Throws up some red flags even. People who have kids together can't unilaterally decide how their kids are raised. That would make them very terrible partners and parents. If you raise kids together you both get input. A step parent gets less input at first, but one can always reject someone that has a different parenting philosophy. Like if you started… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 10:28 PM |
| 4 | TRP Hates StepfathersSeems like a rare occurrence. That didn't happen to me or any of my friends/ family with step parents. I guess we just had different experiences that biased us differently. To me that's an additional challenge, but not something that would be worth abandoning the whole idea. Then again, I don't want kids anyway, step or otherwise. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 10:16 PM |
| 4 | TRP Hates StepfathersI'd argue that the middle paragraph is holding you back less then you think. But yeah... rural life sucks for dating. Can't argue with that. Fat dudes who have low paying jobs do fine in cities, but rural areas can be rough. I know plenty of chubby bearded bartender dudes who date or are getting married in their 30s, but that's because I live in a major city on the east coast. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 10:12 PM |
| 4 | TRP Hates StepfathersFinancially being a step father sucks. You get to support your women who had a child with someone else. How's that different than being a father? Besides it not being your DNA in the kids? The kid can grow up and reject you. You can reject your bio parents too. I had a step dad and he was an alcoholic so I have a biased A big empathetic sorry about that. My step dad was a alcoholic and later a meth head, so I relate. My friend's and relative's step parents were awesome people though, so I'm more… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 10:01 PM |
| 3 | TRP Hates StepfathersSome are some aren't. There's plenty of both. I'm wondering why you think it will take til your 30s to be dateable? Why can't you work on your emotional maturity and personality and become datable sooner? | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 09:56 PM |
| 5 | TRP Hates StepfathersAs a dude in his mid 30s, there are plenty of women my age around who don't have kids. My current partner didn't have kids and we still don't. Got together when I was 32. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 08:53 PM |
| 6 | I still feel traumatised by my redpill exSince finding out about RP, I haven't spoken to him about it and I've never confronted him - I know how that conversation will go, theres no point in it. The lower the contact the better. Cut this guy out of your life to the best of your ability. Confronting him or trying to help him will never end well for you. As far as a smear campaign goes, I know that it sucks. Just stand up for yourself to you friends and your community. Eventually he'll burn enough bridges that no one will trust his word.… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 03:20 PM |
| 9 | TRP Hates StepfathersTelling guys they must be shitty human beings for struggling is not helpful at all. I think that most sources aren't saying that young men are shitty for struggling with dating. They're saying that struggling with dating is no excuse for being shitty. They aren't upset with young men to happen to be involuntarily celibate. They are upset with the men who self identity as incels act like fucking monsters with their involuntary celibacy as their excuse for it. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 02:24 PM |
| 7 | TRP Hates StepfathersI wouldn't call it "truth" that resonates with people. I think something resonates with people in all cults, I just don't think that's truth. A lot of cults prey upon people's misconceptions and insecurities. People who want desperately to believe that aliens will take them away or there is a secret way of understanding God are sucked into those sorts of cults. Men who want to believe that women are terrible and their personal problems come from that are drawn to red pill. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 01:50 PM |
| 6 | I don't think I've heard a single positive thing...Lol. That metaphore doesn't quite work. Like I know what you're trying to say, but... According to the metaphor the redpillers would be gay. The men (redpillers) don't say good things about light beer (women), because they only drink IPAs (date men?). Again, I still got your point, but the misused analogy made me chuckle. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/06/23 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Do you have autism (high functioning)/aspergersYeah, I asked because it feels exploitative. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you have autism (high functioning)/aspergersWhat's up with all these surveys? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/23 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Another big thing is incels don’t have anyone in real life guiding them."home training" you mean "house training" like a dog? Lol, as a metaphor, I 100% agree. They do act like a dog who pisses on your floor. They have serious socialization problems, that's for sure. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/23 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Another big thing is incels don’t have anyone in real life guiding them.Because you have data or any evidence whatsoever? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Another big thing is incels don’t have anyone in real life guiding them.Yes, very much so. I grew up with a single mom. Had sex at 18. Had lots of relationships since then. I'm 36 and I'm in a LTR. I've known lots of incels. I used to play MtG, and met quite a few in that community. Most of them had a normal nuclear family with both parents together. People who grew up in single parent households face a lot of extra challenges because of it. This isn't one of them. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Another big thing is incels don’t have anyone in real life guiding them.But Incels come from households with together parents just as often. There's plenty of fathers who's support/insights/advice either is bad or "falls on deaf ears." Sometimes incels have shitty overbearing hyper masculine fathers. Sometimes they has great dads, but they're assholes who repell women despite the dad's effort. Case in point: I grew up with a single mom. Still had sex at 18. Have had plenty of relationships since then. In a LTR now. People who grow up in single parent households have… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Another big thing is incels don’t have anyone in real life guiding them.Fatherless? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Can incels be helped?Viewing these situations as "settle-down" is biased. It's looking at things through a lens of bitterness and anger. I know both men and women who lived wild and shallow dating lives in their teens and early 20s, who then "settled-down" with someone who was more stable and less conventionally attractive. They would never describe their later relationship as one of no attraction or settling for less. Not because they're lying, but because they don't have your biases. They have their own biases bas… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 01:57 PM |
| 5 | RP double-standardsMost of these those double standards are the same double standards society has at large. The red pill just takes those further with a mix of traditionalist ignorance/malice and bro-humor. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/06/23 07:54 PM |
| 23 | Why should I quit red pillThat's cool. Honestly, I don't think any argument would change your mind. Not because you're obstinate or anything, but because that's just not generally how people change their minds. I've seen a lot of guys quit and come here. Most guys who quit the redpill start to see all the flaws and toxicity of the ideology and the community for themselves before coming here. Then they detox here and learn how to deprogram themselves of some of the toxic ideas they've internalized. They figure it out for … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 11:30 PM |
| 14 | Why should I quit red pillWhy are you here asking this question if the redpill is so good for you? | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 11:10 PM |
| 2 | From Redpill to manhoodTraditionalist dudes love to cling to their traditionalism. Even if they figure out that something like the redpill is wrong, they'll hold on to all the elements of traditional masculinity that they can while rejecting only the most extreme elements of the redpill/whatever extremist ideology they previously bought into. Ultimately it's their traditionalism that's the underlying problem, but that's extremely difficult for them to see. They ultimately end up doubling down on the core of their trad… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Watching smash or pass face to face videos made me realize being short should count as disability in datingYeah, just feels like he wants to argue. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Watching smash or pass face to face videos made me realize being short should count as disability in datingI don't really feel like debating this. Regardless of whether rejection caused his mental health problems or exacerbated underlying issues, the dude needs to stop posting this shit over and over and seek therapy and possibly psychiatric treatment. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Watching smash or pass face to face videos made me realize being short should count as disability in datingRejection is a normal part of life that almost everyone faces. It's those with certain mental health issues that turn that into an all consuming problem for themselves. Sorry to put it like "no you." But, I think it's you who has the causation backwards. Also, he's def cute. Not like insanely hot or anything, but certainly cute. Obviously that's a matter of taste, but I'm not exaggerating. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 01:46 PM |
| 3 | Watching smash or pass face to face videos made me realize being short should count as disability in datingAgreed. I know I have my own. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 01:17 PM |
| 13 | Watching smash or pass face to face videos made me realize being short should count as disability in datingYou're actually good looking in the picture in your history. It's your personality, intelligence, and mental health problems that are the problem. Not height or looks. You need to stop posting this shit over and over again and seek help with your mental health! | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/23 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Even if you disagree with the red pill, do you think romantic relationships are more shallow than many comfortably can admit?That's definitely not the definition of shallow that OP was using. So idk why you interjected. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 06:02 PM |
| 4 | Even if you disagree with the red pill, do you think romantic relationships are more shallow than many comfortably can admit?Most people are not attracted to other people, they are attracted to conditioned components of their current existence. I can't imagine anyone is attracted to someone purely beyond any of their attributes. Wtf would that even look like? Would they be attracted to their Platonic idea or something? To their "soul"? That seems far more bizarre. It seems perfectly natural to be attracted to the person's various attributes at first, and then eventually love them unconditionally as you grow in love to… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Why are there so many girls here?Your post history is a wild ride. Being a DIK is a fun game. Not surprised you're a Jill fan. A little surprised you're a Heather fan. Corey Wayne is a grifter con man. Hope you eventually see that and are able to move on from his "coaching." | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 02:47 PM |
| 7 | Why are there so many girls here?"others who recognize the damage caused by redpill." It's right there in the description of the subreddit. Women* feel the effects of red pill quite directly. Redpilled men are misogynists first and foremost. That gives them plenty of reason to be here. *There aren't very many girls here. There are a lot of full grown women. There are a number of boys here though. Usually they come and go. 14-17 year old boys are those being targeted by the red pill gurus, so the boys who figure out quickly that… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Even if you disagree with the red pill, do you think romantic relationships are more shallow than many comfortably can admit?I wouldn't say that people trying to hook up don't care about personality at all. They just care about looks more and personality less. Personality still matters to a degree, but it's just a different amount ad different types. Like, people trying to hook up will prefer someone who's exciting and impulsive, for instance. But they'll care even more about looks. There also isn't one monolithic hook-up culture. Different people hook-up in different ways for different reasons. In my mid 20s I was ho… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 11:11 AM |
| 3 | The myth of ‘girls only liking tall guys’Eh, again I think you're overblowing things. Three of my good guy friends have wives who are taller than them. One is 5'2 and his wife is 5'7. One is 5'9 and his wife is 6'. Another is 5'10 and his wife is 5'11. (Those are all rough estimates). Shorter men who are looking for serious relationships and have their shit together: a career of any sort, amiable personality, no extremist or misogynist beliefs, etc. won't have major problems finding a partner (or a string of partners if the relationshi… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 10:46 AM |
| 13 | Even if you disagree with the red pill, do you think romantic relationships are more shallow than many comfortably can admit?How is intelligence shallow? That's a new one to me. Also, I think the idea of caring about looks = shallow, is overblown. The vast majority of people do want to be physically attracted to their partner, but that doesn't make most of them shallow. The reason why we say that "only caring about looks is shallow" is because some people make looks the only criteria in a partner they care about. Focusing solely on any criteria for a partner is shallow. If your partner has a great personality, but eve… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 10:20 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on Gerbert Johnson?I have two criteria for watching someone on youtube try to explain, discuss or teach a subject: They must either be teaching something practical. E.g. change a car battery, or caulk a sink. Or They must have a relevant degree in the field and be currently respected within that field. None of these redpill influencers fit those categories. Some of what they say may have merit. I'm fine missing out on those small nuggets of knowledge, because of all the bullshit they pack a long with it. Sitting i… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Should I just buy a 2,000 sex from ll considering I am 5'8" and still a virgin at 26 because of being the most unattractive person in history?You have a pic of yourself in your history. You're not ugly. This is going to sound really mean, but I'll be blunt: You're just dumb, have a terrible personality, and serious mental health problems. My evidence for this is that you've posted this similar thing over and over again on various subs. Who would want to date someone who acts like that let alone fuck them? Those aren't the actions of someone who is smart, amiable, or stable. You need a therapist and a psychiatrist. Stop posting this sh… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 02:45 AM |
| 7 | Sincere question: what initially drew you to this movement?I also watched red pill form. Back in 2011ish it was literally just a forum for abusers to talk shop. I remember vividly a guy go on about how he "had no time for safe words" with his wife. Then, as you mentioned, around 2013 the PUA community sort of fused with it. Then around 2015, they picked up a lot of the "don't tread on me" MGTOW guys too. It was wild watching it go from this really niche group of sadists to a supergroup of misogynists. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/06/23 11:26 AM |
| 3 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalEither you think it's bad, and re therefore being judgemental of people who do it. Or you don't think it's bad, and aren't. I don't think you're being malicious, but you're still being judgemental. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalIt's really hard to believe you aren't being judgemental when you say things like: Personally, I think promiscuity is bad, so yes. Elsewhere in the thread. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalBeing in a monogamous relationship increases the risk of abuse too.... That was my point. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalI'm currently in a 5 year long term relationship. It's not a cope to want others to be treated with dignity and respect. I guess your just a bully who wants slut shame people for kicks. Very cool. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 12:08 AM |
| 3 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalI’m not saying they’re bad all the time. Maybe they can lead to amazing relationships. They can be good even if they don't lead to relationships at all. Maybe they aren't for you personally, but your comment says that no one should do it. That is very judgemental of people who are different than yourself, even if you didn't mean it like that. Which, from context it seems like you did. Monogamous relationships can lead to long term abuse. They aren't magically better than casual relationships. Th… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalWhy do redpill "opinions" bother you? It bothers me because it's not a matter of opinion. Whether something is harmful or not isn't a matter of opinion. It's a matter of fact. It bothers me because real people are harmed by similar "opinions." People like me. So, you "keep moving." You jerk. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/05/23 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalCasual hook-ups absolutely can be harmful. But it's far from the truth to say that they all are. I've had casual hook-ups that were amazing and life affirming and just plain fun for both parties. I've also been in abusive serious relationships. Not casual at all and also extremely harmful. It's honestly really sad coming to the comments and see you make a statement that you believe something that is as false and toxic as any redpill statement, when your post was so good. It's disheartening. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/05/23 11:23 PM |
| 8 | Why does it seem like most women are in a toxic relationship?or have been in a toxic relationship Don't most men who have been in multiple relationships have this same experience? I sure do. The woman I lost my virginity to was a toxic nightmare. She pressured me into sex I didn't want to have. She lied about breaking up with her ex so that I would get with her. She wasn't just cheating with me but with at least one other guy, who I knew. She was able to lie, cajole, and manipulate at least three guys with her toxic crap at the same time. There are a lot … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Is it healthy to live in a bubble?For instance I used to be a big nba fan, but a lot of the race talk about the reasons why someone would vote Nikola Jokic "White guy," for mvp just takes me completely out of it. Pointing out that MVP voters might favor Jokic because he's white is not anti-white, it's an attempt at being anti-racist. Now, that attempt might be a bad one. Maybe the MVP voters don't have that bais, or maybe Jokic is so much better than Embiid and Gianis that even if the MVP voters do have a racial bias toward Joki… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Can you hook up without being redpill?Almost all redpillers are traditionalists. Most traditionalists are conservative or further right politically than conservative. Some redpillers are centrists, liberals, socialists, etc, but rather few comparatively. They're still mostly traditionalists though. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/23 09:51 PM |
| 5 | Please help me, I’m spiralling out of controlI assume you meant "cold" approaching in person. The vast majority of people meet significant others through family and friends (or acquaintances and co-workers). Let's call this "warm" approaching. That's a good option. Most people start a monogamous relationship to have sex, even if that relationship is short. Dating apps don't work now that they're owned by only a couple of companies. OK cupid is how I met my partner, but their practices have changed a lot since then. They aren't advisable. C… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 08:21 PM |
| 6 | Please help me, I’m spiralling out of controlNone of those are good ways to meet women... | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 07:49 PM |
| 6 | Please help me, I’m spiralling out of controlOk... That's fine too. If you want to experience sex, don't complain that you're "gonna be an incel virgin forever." If you have a goal, e.g. having sex, make a good plan and follow through with all the steps of that plan. How do other people have sex? Well, they find someone else who wants to have sex with them. So, either make a good plan on how to look for people who want to have sex with you and/or improve yourself so more people will want to have sex with you. How much do you actually get p… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 07:45 PM |
| 6 | Please help me, I’m spiralling out of controlBecause: A. It's not pathetic B. The person you responded to just told you that you need to stop having tantrums about it, and you responded with a winey tantrum about it. Yes, you want to have sex. You've been clear about that. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex. There is something deeply wrong with how you are responding to not getting what you want. You want to have sex, but you're not having sex. There are a lot of healthy normal responses to that situation. Unfortunately, you'r… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 01:12 PM |
| 9 | why do some men think birth control is a choice for women but they want to have sex with us without having children too?Totally agree. I'd take it a step further. A lot of men are socialized to be unempathetic in general and it has a profound effect on how they treat sex, i.e. selfishly. A guy who is taught to "man up" and to not "feel sorry for himself" and that vulnerability is weakness in his early years will project that outward. He will think of others not as emotional creatures who need understanding, but as weak individuals who need to take care of themselves. This will fundamentally make him less capable … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 12:59 PM |
| 1 | why do some men think birth control is a choice for women but they want to have sex with us without having children too?Men should be wearing condoms and also I would advise men not to have sex with someone they’re not willing to have kids with but that’s going to offend folks with delicate sensibilities. My partner and I agree on staying child free for life. She has an IUD, which is more effective than BC pills or condoms. We still used condoms in the beginning though. It's one thing for her to say that, it's another for me to trust her 100%. That took time. Women do underestimate how much sensation men lose whi… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Did anyone else's redpill ex do these things?This is what red pill has been preaching and teaching since at least 2011, when I first encountered them on the net. Way before they started talking about the 80/20 rule, alpha and betas, and selling shit to incels. This is their original purpose, and much of what they still do. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 12:30 PM |
| 2 | If RP men claim that it is within their biological nature to “exercise their options”, why are so many women still against it?The man can maximize his genes by fathering children through many women. So he has an incentive to cheat. That's the theory. Let's be clear in our language. This isn't a theory, it's an unverified and unverifiable hypothesis. I could counter with an equally compelling narrative that men maximize their genes by having less children but having more time to raise them to be for and survive until sexual maturity. Fo example: a man whole has 10 kids with one women, and only 2 of them die before reach… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 03:52 PM |
| 2 | People say male privledge doesn't exist what are privledges males have that females don't in society? (List in bullet points)It's a bit more complex than that. Men are actually more likely to be the targets of violent crime. More likely to be assaulted, mugged, or murdered. They're less likely to be sexually assaulted, but that doesn't come close to closing the gap in terms of the totality of violent crime. Yet, it's still an unlikely event for anyone. The pressure to stay home or be afraid in public for men is about on par with how risky the activity actually is. For women it's hugely outsized. The real double standa… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it okay to be fat and paint your nails as a man?Luckily for who? I'm gonna take a wild guess that there aren't a lot of women interested in you, neither those who prefer purely masculine men or those in touch with their feminine side. Guys like you play the numbers and still lose. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 01:03 AM |
| 2 | I don't know what to believeThat's like judging lawyers based on watching Law and Order and talking to your cousin who was convicted for a small crime once. You weren't a feminist. You don't understand feminism. You briefly entertained the idea of being the charcaracture of feminism you picked up on the street. Your whole original post is worthless because of this. Why should anyone take a discussion on this seriously with you if you're so ill informed? Go read up on some actual feminist theory before trying to criticize i… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/23 02:01 PM |
| 2 | I don't know what to believeI get where it comes from, but a lot of feminism and a literature in wording around it seems to always imply that the woman is the inherent victim and the man is the inherent perpetrator. I don't know what you are reading, but nothing I've read has ever had this connotation. This language of victim and perpetrator is a common charcaracture used by misogynistic authors and pundits against feminism. It's not the actual content of any actual feminist writers of note. Feminism in ethics and politica… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/23 06:55 PM |
| 11 | The red pill ruined my mental health and has nearly ruined my relationshipTry to internalize the truth. Crying is good for you. It's normal and healthy. If your partner is upset with you for crying occasionally, they are an abusive partner. If a woman loses attraction for a man because she saw him cry, that's not normal or healthy and is something she should see a therapist about. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/23 02:52 PM |
| 4 | I don't know what to believeI've been both a male feminist I doubt you were much of a feminist. What kind of feminist were you? Radical, liberal, ecofeminist, socialist, libertarian, intersectional? What authors did you read/ were you influenced by? I suspect you labeled yourself based on a vague and inaccurate interpretation of what you perceive feminism to be. You sound very much like a christian who claims they were an atheist in college. They had no philosophical underpinnings to their atheism, they just didn't go to c… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/23 02:10 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Yeah. It's called dopamine. You get a rush of reward chemicals to your brain when you think a woman is interested in you. It's not ever going to lead to better self esteem. Bro, I really don't care about how attractive you find the women you hit on. Hitting on hotter women doesn't mean shit. Even if they like you back. It's not something to brag about. If it's what you're into, great, go for it, but don't drag people around you into it. I'd be more jealous of an homely guy who gets with homely w… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/23 11:36 AM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Well then, do something to fix your mental instability. Therapy or something. Why are you looking for hook ups if you feel mentally unstable anyway? It sounds like you're looking for a sense of validation from sex, which is just going to make you feel worse and make your life worse. No amount of women, no matter how attractive, being attracted to you is going to make you feel good about yourself. That's just not how it works. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 04:35 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Having bad communication skills makes it hard to communicate your desires and find someone who shares those desires. You said it yourself. You're bad at talking to girls. It's kind of a necessary component to finding the ones who want to fuck you. They're not just gonna turn purple or something to indicate their attraction. You have to communicate with them for them to become attracted, feel safe, and for y'all to let each other know there is mutual attraction. I see overweight dudes who aren't … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined"Am I out of touch?.. No! It's the [women] who are wrong." | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declinedWell...good for you. Not everyone has it like that... Your words are even more relevant for yourself my dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declinedPhilly and then Baltimore. Those are the two places I've lived since 2013. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declinedI never had any of these problems dating in the US. Did you live in NYC or LA or something? I've been in a committed relationship for 4 years, but I don't think the dating landscape has wildly changed. Though, if you're only going after women who want to be treated in traditional ways, being paided for and pampered, then of course Latin American women are going to have lower standards. Their standard of living is lower, so their expectations are going to be naturally lower in regards to material… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declinedYou can have your standards, but women get to have there's too. Using the language you do shows that your personality is so poor that no amount of physical attractiveness or social standing will make up for it. Any woman with any self respect would never be with you. Good luck. It's gonna be a rough life. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 11:45 AM |
| 4 | Why do you think young men seem way more worried about being undesirable and unattractive in dating than young women today?I'm sorry I responded to you. Based on all of the responses you've given in this read, it's clear you're unwilling to hear out conflicting facts. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?There are two sides to redpill. The first is teaching inexperienced men a bunch of bullshit about "alphas" and "betas" and 80/20 rules etc. The second is a playbook on how to abuse a woman to keep her with you. Lots of very shitty men want to have a handbook on emotional manipulation. The second is actually much older in the redpill community. Originally redpillers didn't want anything to do with inexperienced men, until they realized they could con them out of money. Before that it was basicall… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 02:42 AM |
| 5 | Why do you think young men seem way more worried about being undesirable and unattractive in dating than young women today?Incel subs drive women incels out of them. The term incel was coined by a woman to describe herself and others, and originally those communities were much more inclusive. Over time the most toxic men in those communities made those environments inhospitable for women to participate. Looking at those communities and seeing very few if any women is not indicative of the number of women who actually feel like they'll never find a partner. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 02:33 AM |
| 22 | How to stand out as a mediocre guy?6 figures is not average, even if the high cost of living high where you live. Average is 50k for single men in the US, so you make at least double that. The average man in the US has a higher BMI than you describe yourself as having. The average height for men in the US is 5'9. So you're taller than average as well. You're not average looking either, because that's an incoherent concept. I'll get to that later. It seems like there is an epidemic of men who think of themselves as "average" of "n… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Discussion about the Black pill.This entire post is an attribute to the fact that you're not actually very good at critical thinking. From the very first line where you say that handful of studies that "prove" something. At best they can suggest something. Of course the implications of the study you posted is much weaker than the conclusions you are drawing from it. This is called the fallacy of weak induction. Then you go on about about veiwing people as vessels for genes with regards to dating. That isn't a fallacy per se, b… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/23 05:38 PM |
| 2 | How do I emotionally detachYeah, just sounds like your communication skills really suck. Which is fine, you're only 17, but now's the time to get better at it. If you're off and on again with her why don't you have a conversation about what you're both looking for? If she wants a long term relationship, ask her if she's willing to try to make it work with you. If she's not trying to settle down right now, which is super legit as she's also only 17, then move on. Your situation sounds a lot like a song by The Offspring, Se… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/23 04:52 AM |
| 2 | What specifically is, according to red pill-ers, wrong with “modern feminism”?How so? | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/23 04:36 AM |
| 1 | I have no female friends and it is unsatisfying?Without knowing much about her it's my best guess. Certainly a better theory that your original post. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 12:45 AM |
| 3 | I have no female friends and it is unsatisfying?I mean, it's really hard to know what you mean. Like if you're in the US the liberals are center right with a few left ideals and republicans are center right to hard right and the alt right is super far right and conservative libertarians are far right on economics and center-left on social issues. So just being conservative doesn't really tell me much. But yeah, kind of besides the point. My point was just that if you shared conservative political opinions on FB, I'd wager that's why some wome… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 10:52 PM |
| 6 | I have no female friends and it is unsatisfying?Idk. You tell me. Is that what you post? If it is, I'd think that's the most likely culprit. I have a bunch of reasons I think you should rid yourself of conservative politics, but if you believe in them I doubt you'd listen to my reasons. More to the point though, most women aren't conservative and feel as if conservative politics are a direct attrack against them. Why would they stay friends with someone who posts that kinda stuff? If you post that kind of stuff and want women friends, you bas… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 10:31 PM |
| 2 | I have no female friends and it is unsatisfying?Meh. I don't think people should censor themselves for corporate sensibilities. After all, unionization can be controversial, but it's absolutely necessary to talk about in elant and every social space. I do however think that some "controversial" political opinions aren't just controversial, they're hate speech. Hate speech is protected from government censorship, in the US, but is absolutely fair game to be punished by any non government source, both individual and institution. I just disagree… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 08:24 PM |
| 1 | My main beef with redpill is its illogical and emotionally driven "science"Great info. Another thing to point out to anyone questioning macro evolution and speciation is that biologists have observed speciation in the last 150 years. Many many plants, but also a few animal species, mostly insects, have divided off in that time. Some good examples are Heliconius butterflies and American apple maggots. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 07:02 PM |
| 1 | My main beef with redpill is its illogical and emotionally driven "science"I do though. Red pill content uses very controversial evolutionary psychology hypothesises that are not at all accepted by psychology or biology at large. I criticize that all the time. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 06:53 PM |
| 2 | My main beef with redpill is its illogical and emotionally driven "science"You realize that an accepted "theory" is the highest level of certainty in science, right? Plate tectonics is theory. Universal gravitation is a theory. Etc. Those theories, and any other accepted theories were once hypothesises competing with other possible hypothesises. Then once a sufficient data and observation and studies have been conducted, scientists within a field come to a consensus on which is the most likely to be true. It becomes the accepted theory to explain that phenomenon. Then … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 07:44 AM |
| 25 | I have no female friends and it is unsatisfying?I seem to get unfriended/blocked by a lot of women on social media without me knowing why? Are you posting red pill shit, conservative political shit, or anti feminist shit by chance? If you're into red pill there's a good chance, and a lot of women will unfollow you for any of that. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 03:23 AM |
| 1 | What is ya’lls opinion on the fact women file for divorce 70% of the time, 90% if she is college educated. The vast majority of the time for financial reasonsSo you mean the USA then. I wasn't asking which government agency. You didn't answer the question about single mothers. You know single fathers exist too and are always included in the statistics, right? Well, I doubt you looked at the statistics, because anything from 2015 forward shows exactly what I said. In both the US and the UK. That isn't proof of increased hypergamous behavior amount women. That's just your weird theory based off of celebrity men... They aren't common knowledge. They're … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/23 03:18 AM |
| 1 | What is ya’lls opinion on the fact women file for divorce 70% of the time, 90% if she is college educated. The vast majority of the time for financial reasonsWhich government? Why are you calling them single mother households instead of single parent? Show your source for men being less hypergamous. Women aren't paid to leave either. I don't know why we're even discussing this, you obviously came here with your conclusions drawn before even having a discussion. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | This shit is complete suicide fuel. Cant tell me this isnt how most modern women areNah. People were way more garbage before the sexual revolution. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/23 07:51 AM |
| 1 | What is ya’lls opinion on the fact women file for divorce 70% of the time, 90% if she is college educated. The vast majority of the time for financial reasonsThis is a really really good thing. Not a bad thing at all. I don't know what you're on about. The real question is why are men willing to stay in unhappy marriages? Why are they risking the mental well being of themselve, their partner, and their children just to make some archaic institution work out. On the subject of kids. It's not the 90s anymore. Children of divorce have similar outcomes to kids whose parents stay together now. It was never a fair comparison anyway. You shouldn't lump happ… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/23 07:18 AM |
| 1 | What do you think women refer to when they say dating apps are full of low quality sexual offers and very few actual options?It's not an opinion though. I'm making a factual statement. I might have the facts wrong, that's a possibility, but it's not an opinion. Opinions are matters of taste. What we like or don't like. I'm not showing a preference here. It's not a matter of taste. It's a matter of falsifiable facts. So don't be a dick and act like "it's just my opinion." I wasn't giving my opinion. I was presenting what I believe are facts. Have some intellectual honesty, my dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/23 06:44 AM |
| 5 | What do you think women refer to when they say dating apps are full of low quality sexual offers and very few actual options?Off topic and of no value to the conversation are different metrics. You haven't been off topic, but from the original post forward you really have contributed nothing to the conversation. They're disagreeing with you because you're obviously wrong, and a lot of the top level comments are explaining why you're obviously wrong. It's not like you're saying vanilla is the best flavor and everyone is down voting you because they don't like vanilla. It's more like you came to a forum about evolution … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/23 02:41 PM |
| 8 | What do you think women refer to when they say dating apps are full of low quality sexual offers and very few actual options?You mean you lost Karma because you made really bad arguments based on a really biased test they you drew way too strong of conclusions from? Because objectively that's what happened. All the top level comments are calling you out for your bullshit, because that's what this post and your comments on it have been. That's exactly what the down vote button is for, for pushing down things not relevant to the conversation. This post and your responses to people are of no value to the conversation. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/23 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Am I red pilled if I watch Hamza and Andrew TateThat just sounds like a huge cope. Romania does have a lot of government corruption, but the evidence they endighted him on was solid. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/23 02:18 AM |
| 16 | Am I red pilled if I watch Hamza and Andrew TateAndrew Tate is going on trial for sex trafficing women. If that guy isn't a bad guy, who the fuck is? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Approaching women?Most people meet their partners through other friends. My partner and I met via online dating, but we have like a dozen sets of friends who are couples. Most of them were introduced to their partner by a mutual friend at some point. Not always as a set up, often just in a "I'm friends with both of you, we should all be friends way." Then those mutual friends end up hitting it off as more than just friends. Or it might be more extended than that. Like: I invite my buddy out and my partner invites… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/23 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Approaching women?Yeah, it is fine to do that. But like the op said, it's important that you're really good at reading people. Like if you go up and say, "hey I saw u from over there," and her expression goes sour... Then you might want to change the last half of you sentence to something more platonic like, "and I just wanted to say I really like your outfit [or whatever]." And then walk away. Idk if it's something you can learn. It's more of a personality type of thing. If you're good at reading people cold app… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/23 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Why do women really get approached so much by men, online and irl?This is totally not true. As a dude who actually has been approached by women, it can be really fun and enjoyable. Maybe it's just your personality that you never enjoy it? Or maybe all the gender specific stuff you have to worry about? In my 20s occasionally a woman would chat me up at a bar or in a coffee shop. I wasn't always attracted enough to take things further than a conversation and some flirting, but it was almost always a great time. It's was usually flattering, sometimes exciting, an… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/23 05:51 AM |
| 15 | (21m) Let’s say I add a girl on Facebook and Snapchat? How do I get her interested in me?You don't "get" someone interested in you. You flirt and either they're interested or they're not. Dudes think there is this secret combo of words and timing like some sort of magic spell. If she's not into you, she's not into you. That's for both looks and personality. So just show off your personality, show you're interested, and If she's interested back it'll happen. If she's not interested or not looking for someone, it won't. Then you move on. Try try again. If you're worried that your look… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/23 05:03 AM |
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