Help from disabled person

eefr · 2023-07-18T17:05:35+00:00

It isn't true that 27% of men are virgins.

https://datepsychology.com/are-27-of-young-men-really-virgins-and-why/

RP content creators lie to you because it's profitable for them. Stop watching that nonsense, it's a really warped and twisted view of reality that will just make you depressed.

I'm sorry to hear about your disability. COVID has left me disabled too. It's wreaked havoc on a lot of people.

But disabled people find love all the time. (My own mother is disabled in much the same way you are — she has nerve damage from getting polio as a child and also walks with a brace.) RP spaces are extremely ableist and like to pretend that anyone with a disability is hopeless. But that's simply not true.

Please stop watching that nonsense. I promise you that the world isn't actually like that, and it's totally possible for you to find love.

Take care. 🙂

sickbabe · 2023-07-18T18:50:55+00:00

I think it would be more helpful to seek out a support group made up of people who have/had experienced the same disability you have.

one of my friends had a stroke about a year and a half ago, she was 25. she'll never get sensation back in a lot of her left side. in the time since she's gotten a masters and published academic papers, and she also picked up a really wonderful community of stroke and brain injury survivors as well. there are a lot of people with disabilities like her! it wasn't the end of her world, she's just got different challenges now and is rolling with the punches. you can too.

bluemagex2517 · 2023-07-18T17:06:15+00:00

A lot of this is above our paygrade. Are you seeing a therapist, my dude?

That being said, I can throw some stuff out there.

I don't blame women but when I look at the behaviors the RP shows I wonder do I have a chance as this sickness makes it hard to find my purpose I've become depressed.

You need to find purpose outside of getting into a relationship sexual or otherwise. If you make getting laid or getting a gf your purpose, then you are going to end up laid or with a gf but still having no purpose. Those kind of things don't give people long term purpose.

Similarly, you shouldn't be working out for the purpose of getting women interested. Working out is great, you should do it to stay as healthy as you can given your circumstances.

What kind of things give people purpose then, if not relationships and sex. Well, some of the important ones are helping others, career, or creative outlets. Have you tried working on those things? What have you done specifically, maybe we can brainstorm some others to try?

I honestly think you should focus on other stuff. Finding another girlfriend will probably come along sooner or later once you find purpose outside of that and stop obsessing over your virginity.

Nightchanger · 2023-07-18T17:46:31+00:00

People on the internet aren't equipped to help your psychological issues. Your best bet is to get a therapist to help you on that. Redpill especially.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-07-18T18:20:44+00:00

All these ideals and statements like the one about 27% of males being virgins

As others have mentioned there are some real problems with this claim. Also this is the most extreme study that has been cherry picked by the redpill. Generally these social surveys will often contradict each other and its best to take an average of several studies.

I've been trying to find my purpose

Purpose is just an emotion. Is there anything you like or care about or believe in? Pursue that. Also if you have mental health issues it makes it difficult to feel this sense of purpose so get that addressed. Also keep working on your physical health and get some social contact.

Title	Help from disabled person
Author	United-GC4640
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	July 18, 2023 4:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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