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sickbabe/r/ExRedPill22/01/23 09:33 PM
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imagine being that 26 year old who never left her parents sight for a quarter century only to have this loser as the reward you can't get rid of for obeying your parents so well now go learn a language or an instrument or craft or something. maybe it's something he couldn't stand, maybe it's something you were told not to do when growing up. enjoy the fruits of your civil disobedience :)
/r/ExRedPill30/05/26 03:38 PM
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I think we would all benefit from not taking unsolicited relationship advice from strangers. it helps to ask people you admire, but a lot of people at your age talk just to talk. the dumber people will do it into their 40s and wonder out loud why they're so unhappy that whole time. my female perspective is to be receptive and honest with potential partners. it's ok to double text or let a person know that you don't wanna talk at that moment, as long as you keep lines of communication open. and w…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/26 07:40 PM
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did learning about the human body and medical conditions come as easily to you as you think talking to women should? do you have any women around you that you'd consider friends? you're exotifying the concept of just talking to these people a little bit, which is sort of understandable if you lack practice but is really alienating to be on the receiving end of
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 12:17 PM
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it's the fixation on looking for younger women that's antisocial. women can have kids well into their 40s now, get better at sex the more they know their bodies (the same goes for men!), and have had the time to learn how to communicate like adults. I find it really hard to believe anyone who has a pattern of seeking out younger people of any gender isn't looking to exploit a power dynamic that naturally occurs with someone who has way less life experience and resources of their own to depend on…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/26 07:13 AM
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I don't think most men know what women want, especially not the straight ones who are confident they do
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 02:26 AM
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why do you think people in general are so replaceable? you talk about resenting women, but that's a really horrible thing to think about men too. you can't simply replace the other parent to your children, a child you spent 18 years desperately trying to teach right from wrong. why are you not more angry with the governments who put you in this situation?
/r/ExRedPill14/07/25 11:15 PM
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the best way to make this work is for men to take an active role in childcare. both my parents worked, and both of my parents came to my school to take me home when I was sick. there were at least 4 different after school programs in my neighborhood that would bus from my school and give my parents some extra time to finish work; I got to take ballet and pottery and spend valuable time learning how to socialize with other kids. I know many women find staying at home fulfilling but just as many i…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 02:43 PM
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have you considered that once you made it clear you don't value women or their opinions, that that's basically the go ahead for her to just give you banal advice and let the checks keep rolling? a good therapist would end that theraputic relationship before it even began, but surely you as a self-interested person could see the appeal in just indefinitely making a buck off someone who's insulted you.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/25 05:23 PM
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a competent therapist would not recommend you go on dating apps if you talk like this in front of them, it would benefit neither you nor the people exposed to you at this point. you're either lying here, or lying to your therapist.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/25 04:12 PM
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do you hear yourself? would you want to be stuck in a conversation with you?
/r/ExRedPill01/03/25 04:10 PM
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why should you care about what dumb assholes think of you when you're doing something to help yourself?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 08:03 PM
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because he was a very different person than who he was 4 years before that. I could see that much, but clearly not enough to be upfront about who he was.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/24 02:00 AM
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cosigning this. I almost entered into a relationship with someone who SA'd someone, and didn't find out until everyone else in my community did from someone doing some thorough research, made more difficult by the fact that his parents paid one of those SEO companies to better hide it. it felt like a massive betrayal to find out that way; I would've given him a chance if he just told me himself.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 03:01 PM
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just start calling him Ernst Röhm (not sarcastic, but I realize it might not be the most helpful). seriously though, some historical perspective could inform him that things do not work out for fascism enthusiasts in minority groups.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/24 09:35 PM
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I'm impressed with your english! I hope I can speak my target languages so well, someday. the women in your life remind me of many I have met around the world including my own grandma, tough people who held their families together while the men who were "supposed to" provide made their lives harder. providing for a family is hard, much harder than appealing to stereotypes of who provides financially and who takes care of the home! I genuinely believe that men who grow up with women like your fam…
/r/ExRedPill16/05/24 01:47 AM
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I'm worried, because it sounds like you're still basing your worth on the opinions of men. if you want to be a virgin for the next 24 years that's your decision, but I can't help but think you might miss out on some wonderful relationships to spite a bunch of hateful, greedy little fuckers. 24 for me was a turning point, I started looking a little bit older and all the real sick fucks stopped paying attention to me. I hope it works that way for you, too.
/r/ExRedPill29/02/24 04:00 AM
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I mean I would just disregard it unless you're just looking for a partner based on looks. some women want a guy tall enough to reach shelves she can't, some want a roger to their jessica rabbit who might be more charming in social situations, but most women will stick to that one type consistently. I'm having trouble describing this I think but the gist is while many women want one specific thing, there are probably just as many single minded freaks for men with a specific personality or physica…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/24 11:02 PM
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are women actually going around saying they're fans of drake now? because everyone I know thinks of him as the creep who got rejected by rihanna but dragged it out and now spends way too much time talking to underage girls on instagram. I haven't seen the pictures but if it's true that it's big I would call that a confirmation that even if you have a big dick you're not guaranteed to be a person people wanna partner with.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 01:02 PM
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either that or a terrifying subtextual admission to being groomed by somebody. I don't know a single case of anyone being as cruelly judgmental of a virgin being a virgin than the other way around, and that sense of judgement is instilled from a VERY young age.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/24 06:02 PM
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you have a very distorted view of reality if you think most or even a significant minority of women get this kind of treatment.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 08:11 AM
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it's a matter of safety. plenty of us have trusted men who are strangers to our detriment. personally I was roofied and I consider myself very lucky that it was only that and nobody had the opportunity to do anything worse. the whole idea that finding a solid relationship is in anyway comparable to finding a job is a little strange, but also potentially indicative of your attitude towards relationships. a job is a transaction between goods and labor, but a relationship should not be transactiona…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 12:45 AM
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...women take time out of their days to socialize too? I'm sorry but I really don't understand what disparity you're seeing here. and men certainly do initiate more but a) those approaches are frequently made towards women who they obviously have nothing in common with or are frequently some kind of power move to impress their friends to the point where we become very guarded around male strangers who don't have the endorsement of mutual friends/colleagues/what have you and b) women can and do i…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 12:13 AM
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I know tons of men and women in their 20s doing just that. your 20s are generally a peak in tolerance for all things, including social situations and the kind of grinding associated with advancing a career. I don't understand why you think only men have to do this?
/r/ExRedPill20/01/24 12:01 AM
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oh wow you actually sound a lot like my partner. it took us 3 years of long distance to finally get to a point where he's secure in the knowledge that I'm in love with him. personally I would just keep seeing her and try to redirect your attention when those thoughts come, deep breathing or the kind of meditation where you just try to notice those thoughts and let them go help. as your relationship becomes more secure you will start to feel more secure and if it doesn't work out it doesn't work …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 05:53 PM
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just do what you would for any abused woman who refuses to leave a partner that alienates her from friends and family: tell her you love her but can't stand watching her put herself through this and will be there for her if she ever wants out. a lot of people take years to get out of horrible relationships even when their friends point out the obvious, they need to get to that point themselves, but to know you have a person who you might not have talked to in years that will ride or die to get y…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 06:15 PM
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I was gonna tell you to ask them to set you up, but something tells me these guys wouldn't be up for the task and considering how resentful you sound, it probably wouldn't be great for the women either. you should work on your resentment first, in the process of doing that you'll probably become more likeable and definitely feel less bad about yourself.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 05:47 PM
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reading a synopsis I now believe the moshfegh book is a required companion
/r/ExRedPill11/01/24 02:09 AM
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I refuse to look up what this is but my year of rest and relaxation is what I'm suggesting off of title alone
/r/ExRedPill11/01/24 02:07 AM
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hard to tell if he's just a 16 year old or heavily into redpill, but either way I think you dodged a bullet. I've never had anyone ask me that but if they did it'd be the end of the discussion. std test before doing anything? that's responsible and looking out for your health. bodycount is a question asked by teenage boys and men insecure in their sexual experience (which honestly hasn't been a problem for me either since the people I've slept with with little experience haven't been assholes).
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 04:28 PM
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I probably would if they had a compelling explanation for it, and didn't talk about it like it's something to brag about. lots of people have sexual desires that take them a long time to learn how to talk about, which has been a huge sticking point in my relationship, but if my partner went to an escort to try things he was scared to bring up with women before I don't see any issue with that.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 01:15 PM
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I'm probably autistic, but girls don't get diagnosed and I don't see any benefit to doing it now. also naturally quiet and slow on the comebacks, also with very niche interests that most people aren't into. some of these things you're never gonna be able to change, and that's ok. there is no universal personality that will make people like you. the thing that helped me a lot was working service gigs with somewhat less dependence on socializing to make money, like coat check or bussing. servers a…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 09:05 PM
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yes the women who have you on social media will see you that way. you say they know nothing about you, but the only thing you're TELLING THEM about yourself is that you don't like women, have only had negative experiences with them and will continue to let that color your future interactions with them. I've had horrible interactions with people from various different groups of people but especially men, but never have I posted anything saying all men are x and y and do z (complicit when they sta…
/r/ExRedPill15/12/23 05:58 PM
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I'm sorry you grew up in an environment like that, emotionally well-adjusted people don't just throw the people they love away like that (although I suspect there's probably something more to the guy who lost his religion, plenty of people will do what his daughter thinks he does while also pretending to be religious). idk about you but as I grew up my definition of attractive has grown with me, and I think that's actually the case for most people. the idea that you have to "trade in" your partn…
/r/ExRedPill13/12/23 09:42 AM
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I think it would benefit all of us if we looked to academic books more than internet personalities to ground our ideas on gender, love, and power. it's easy to provoke reactions and sell individual courses, harder to go through years of academia and write a 300+ page book with sources.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/23 04:07 PM
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Thirdly, women are not "20x worse" than women back then. I mean how do you even measure that? What exactly is "worse" about them? they can hold bank accounts, potentially hold partners accountable for domestic abuse, and leave more easily now.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 10:03 PM
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I think that's the case for some women, but not the whole story. unmarried women are happier than married women in pretty much every age group, why do you think that is?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 12:40 AM
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I would agree with that. the question is, why are there so many more women contented to be without male partners than vice versa?
/r/ExRedPill20/11/23 10:56 PM
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...is this something that you've done? has it worked the way you hoped it has? how does walking around on a saturday night work for you? I have so many questions
/r/ExRedPill06/11/23 05:13 AM
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hey now this guy didn't invent facial feminization surgery
/r/ExRedPill06/11/23 05:09 AM
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I don't think it's just as much as men, but it's true that there's a significant number of women who enforce outdated gender norms that stifle emotional expression in men. these women usually grow up in very strongly patriarchal settings, and enforcing is one of the few ways that they can maintain some power and control when they don't have the motivation or resources to opt out entirely. I imagine it's much easier to just avoid and ignore them than it is to do the same for dysfunctionally patri…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 06:15 PM
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I think a "body count" can be a perfectly neutral attribute. doesn't make you better or worse necessarily, but the fixation from redpill feels juvenile in a way that specifically targets inexperienced young men who already have some resentment to begin with. in the real world, nobody I've ever dated has asked about it.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/23 08:29 PM
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because when faced with all-encompassing societal misogyny, some women who endure the worst of it become enforcers as a means to what little power they can possess under it. this is how you get "monster" MILs and boymoms in the anglosphere, and their cousins in other countries who enforce shit like bridal kidnapping and arranged marriages to men twice their daughters ages. "Down Girl: the logic of misogyny" talks a lot about this, if you're interested in further reading.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/23 07:41 AM
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most people irl aren't interested in the weird movies I like, or central asian history, or learning languages, like I am. but talking to people is how we learn things from each other. I felt like you for a very long time, but the fact of the matter is that it left me incredibly lonely. small talk nourishes those relationships, and eventually people might find your interests interesting enough to get into or vice versa. it just seems like you're keeping yourself in a very lonely mindset.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/23 12:23 AM
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just wondering: why? I feel like I've seen this become a more and more common sentiment, but it's that exactly that makes us feel lonely. I can't imagine going out of my way to avoid small talk or anything like that, it's all valuable social interaction and keeps us connected to each other.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/23 05:23 PM
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this might be a good start
/r/ExRedPill23/08/23 11:19 PM
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pretty simply: america's overton window has long been waaaay further to the right than most of the world, and america has a media hegemony that exports itself widely, especially with more people than ever having english fluency. the "screeching feminist" is probably just a centrist with few if any economically left views, but because you can use her as a culture war totem suddenly that person is the radical example and you can frame your idea that women are obligated to settle down and pop out 2…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/23 11:17 PM
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I'm 100% telling you not to care about your ex, yes. he's an asshole who worked to further erode your self esteem, and you are giving him way too much power. he does not deserve it. no matter what you think of yourself right now, for noticing the terrible things he believes and recognizing that they're terrible, YOU ARE BETTER THAN HIM.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/23 04:12 AM
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ok? I'm not gonna lie it's a little pathetic you care about a racist waste of oxygen this much. nazis are hypocrites, always have been.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/23 03:22 AM
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yeah I don't think I can extend much empathy for a person like this. women who participate in their own subjugation and the subjugation of others have nobody to blame but themselves when there's an abundance of options that don't require hatred for the unchangeable features of others. unfortunately I've seen countless white, liberal women get sucked into this trap, because their affection for white supremacy will always keep them in the fold of authoritarian men.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/23 06:01 PM
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it sounds like he thinks a shitty metalhead is cool and would love for you to feel bad about yourself over growing up and out of a bad relationship. move on.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/23 12:41 PM
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not to mention most people don't even lose the baby fat in their faces until at least 24! I got way cuter once I could see my own cheekbones and pretty much everyone else I knew did too. maybe it's one of the shallower things to think about, but I think it's testament to the theory that grown adults with fully developed brains who go after people younger than that want someone who acts and LOOKS like a kid.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/23 05:43 AM
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I'm sorry, I just can't bring myself to believe you're asking this in good faith. unless you can sincerely elaborate on their "overlapping members" or give your working definitions of both terms, this just comes off as very insincere
/r/ExRedPill28/07/23 11:20 PM
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what's keeping you from learning to drive? I think it's really fucked up that we're car dependent in most of this cursed country too, but the truth is that sort of autonomy is necessary for dating. and stop scrolling through nofap, that shit is bunk and reinforces a lot of the same unhealthy views on sexuality that purity culture does.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 12:00 AM
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considering redpill came exclusively out of anglophone media, I think if you're making grand sweeping statements about "less sophisticated cultures" you're going to have to put your own in that camp. maybe don't take masculinity advice from a man who lives off the largesse of his child brides' parents.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/23 01:55 PM
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I think you have to be decently online to know who jordan peterson is, the consensus I've seen from most people trained in theraputic practices is that he's a hack who specializes in an outdated modality. he's the equivalent of a tenured, rickety phrenology professor that a school in the 60s would wish they could get rid of.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 08:37 PM
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if my counselor was trying to debate me, I think I'd find a new one. I don't think that's lose your license unprofessional but it's definitely unprofessional, and I'm saying this as a very politically engaged person who's had therapists that don't agree on my politics (sometimes for years). I find debating with a list of facts usually doesn't change anyone's mind (i think there'sactuallydata to back this one up, but i dont wanna hunt it down), and especially with issues like patriarchy and racis…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 07:25 PM
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I think it would be more helpful to seek out a support group made up of people who have/had experienced the same disability you have. one of my friends had a stroke about a year and a half ago, she was 25. she'll never get sensation back in a lot of her left side. in the time since she's gotten a masters and published academic papers, and she also picked up a really wonderful community of stroke and brain injury survivors as well. there are a lot of people with disabilities like her! it wasn't t…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 06:50 PM
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this one seems like even more projection than usual, she's a tall girl with a bit of meat on her bones so she's probably classified as overweight bmi at the very least too
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:58 AM
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I would just love to know what the people who use those terms imagine that relationship looks like. archie bunker type life or whatever? something out of succession? just absolutely zero thought as to if they would even want to spend years on end with someone just because a bunch of guys who AREN'T YOU pulled out the metaphorical skull calipers and decided a very specific genre of beautiful but troubled women (we're not even gonna go into the inner lives of these ladies but suffice it to say, th…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 08:34 PM
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now why do you think lesbians don't have to deal with that? because I can assure you anyone with poor situational awareness is setting themselves up for a bad time if they hit on someone who isn't receptive, and the blowback is much more severe for someone of the same gender, maybe look at brandon teena or matthew sheppards wikipedia pages when you get a minute. As for being "falsely arrested for harassment?" that statement is so ridiculous I have to laugh or else I'll be absolutely furious at t…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:52 PM
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cosigning on this, lesbians have more "game" than even the most self confident straight man. I'm pretty sure most of it is down to having total comfort with themselves, and an implicit understanding that they will live beyond any uncomfortable situations they're put through
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 01:42 PM
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I say this as gently as I possibly can, but from the way you're describing it it doesn't really sound like you're horrified by your behavior as much as you are the idea of anybody finding out what you were part of. maybe sit with that for a while. I think the best thing you can do is to be open about your past with your friends now, and talk about what you learned from the experience. it probably wouldn't hurt to read some james baldwin or jamaica kincaid, while you're at it.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/23 03:50 PM
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I'm not gonna respond to all the rest of this but considering I worked in a nightclub for a long time, I'll tell you right now that those "parties" are money making ventures that grab cash from the same types of guys who get pulled into redpill. women have a much easier time getting into clubs and parties because we are MERCHANDISE, and the women who go out for those promotions are less likely to go home with any man than they are the friends they came with. I wouldn't bother with them unless yo…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/23 06:54 AM
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I sincerely couldn't care less. sometimes people have droughts, other times they have floods, and I don't really consider it my business so long as it's been consensual and they've made sure they're disease free before sleeping with me. I consider it as irrelevant to me as whether they believe in god, because neither of those has any effect on a one-on-one relationship between me and another person. I say this as a monogamous person too. I also recognize that I've spent enough time around adults…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/23 08:42 PM
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https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066 so I actually went and looked up one of the surveys that redpillers fixate on, and the thing I found interesting that doesn't get a lot of airtime on their tiktoks is that while less men are having sex and women seem to be having the same amount, the rate of men having sexual activity is HIGHER than that of women, and remains so. there are more women having sex once or more per week, but compared to men those women are overwhel…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 12:19 AM
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ok but you're making a huge logic leap right there. plenty if not most of the non-virgins I know weren't hooking up, even when they were in their early 20s. when I was your age I only slept with one person, the one who I lost my virginity to, and continued like that for years. some people I know, it was a one-time thing and they've gone through years long dry spells. our generation is the most sexless out of any others we have data for in the 20-30 age range, it's a very slim minority that's goi…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/23 11:36 PM
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I've been watching this whole scene with horror since around 2013, when pick up "artists" (jesus wept) and mgtow guys started fusing together into this. perhaps not coincidentally, it also coincided with me shaking off the internalized misogyny a lot of girls pick up as they become teenagers and emerge into a world where the dominant narrative is as a straight woman (and of course if you're feminine you're OBVIOUSLY straight, this one has tripped me up for years and honestly still does to this d…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/23 06:47 PM
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I've never been in your situation, but I genuinely believe talking to fat and formerly fat women might help widen your perspective. growing up with overweight parents I know the way people treat you is downright horrific, and I've met plenty of women who've told me how when they lost weight, it felt like other women were a lot more hostile to them. the key is to just widen your perspective in general, really seek out life stories from people who didn't grow up like you (namely, women). I just th…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/23 12:48 AM
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this is where I'm at with someone right now. he'll tell me he cries when I leave, but when we're actually together in person it feels like there's a wall there. I'm not sure if I'll even keep talking to him after I get my stuff back, because it's so difficult to be around someone with that emotional imbalance there.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 09:57 PM
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Have you asked them why they feel the way they do? there are plenty of reasons for women to be afraid of men. I personally haven't dated since I was roofied a few months ago, and being completely real with you it's hard to keep the manhating at bay when you go through something that terrible. the fact that they see you as a friend should give you confidence, because they've decided you're not a threat to their lives. the men I keep around, who reinforce for me that no, not all men are actually t…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/23 03:46 AM
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what kinds of issues are we talking about?
/r/ExRedPill05/06/23 02:40 AM
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my cousin adopted one of his kids from his ex wife. they've since divorced but he was there for everything for both their kids. the youngest just graduated, and in the pics you can see his step mom, who I guess would be the one in your situation, beaming with pride. kids understand more than you think, and if they feel your love they're gonna want you around in some capacity regardless of the situation with bio parents. and as an aside, I don't think it's all that ideal, all the time, for men to…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:10 PM
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the "best financial decision" for anyone is to grind away miserably only to retire in their 40s, guarding their retirement fund like some sort of fairy tale dragon. I can't tell you if it's a decision that best aligns with your financials and romantic desires though, because single moms with kids have all sorts of financial situations of their own.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 03:30 PM
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if they get along well sure, why not?
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 02:49 PM
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It has incredible job security honestly in the states? nothing sexier than a partner who can add you to a very generous healthcare plan. hotter than any sugar daddy.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/23 08:29 PM
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unfortunately this is what happens when you live in a society that fetishizes the small business owner. the people feeding you these ideas got all their money scamming people who've grown up like you, believing there's something somehow inherently valorous to owning a business. doing what? that's besides the point, as long as you're "engaging the market" right? owning a business and being able to make a success of it is a privilege almost exclusively afforded to the wealthy, at least in the stat…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/23 05:27 PM
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in a word, the alienated. it's the one commonality I've noticed across race and class with people who fall for redpill and PUA.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 04:14 PM
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oh buddy. I do the same thing and I'm a woman! sometimes we just aren't READY for relationships, even if we wanna be. I think that's why so many people of all genders have the experience of going on the apps and then bailing/having people bail after one date or making tentative plans. the only solution really is time. time to figure yourself out, time to meet people and think on it. funny enough it feels like a lot of the people I know who've shacked up most recently have ended up with people th…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 03:47 PM
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I'm sure there's plenty of people who will have better advice on potentially changing his mind, but if I were you I wouldn't bother and plot my escape instead. abuse in relationships often doesn't start until you hit the big milestones like marriage and pregnancy, and this is very worrying (especially considering crowder's recent divorce announcement). did he only start talking to you about it then?
/r/ExRedPill27/04/23 01:54 AM
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FD signifier is good, makes me smile now that I'm seeing his name pop up here. the good stuff comes from authors though, and a lot of these youtubers have bibliographies of the work they cite in the descriptions. find some videos you like, then find their sources.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/23 03:36 AM
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usually I'm one of those people who thinks the whole porn addiction/withholding masturbation thing is silly and not particularly useful. in your case I think it might be good stay away from porn for a while. maybe start reading or something. anything but this.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/23 03:09 AM
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....isn't that pretty much what whatsapp was built for?
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 08:28 AM
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just being with an 18 year old as a 30 year old, I'd need some compelling evidence to believe he's not there because she's inexperienced and may not have learned to say no. and if he is on her same level intellectually, I think I'd be a little concerned that she'd hang out with a 30 year old with the mindset of an 18 year old. there were men younger than him who turned me down at that age for being too young!
/r/ExRedPill04/04/23 07:58 AM
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this is such a weird response to someone's coping mechanism for trauma.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 10:54 PM
3

you're asking me to persuade you on a hypothetical. I'm not gonna do that. I don't come here to debate, I come here to empathize because it feels good to relate to people and meet them halfway. I call it patriarchy because I was raised by feminists, both my mother and father, who name it when they see it. the teacher who sexually harassed my mother and other students growing up was exhibiting patriarchal behavior, but so are the countless people who've called my dad gay for being interested in t…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 10:07 PM
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how do you know they hate you personally? you seem to think existing with a gender is a zero sum game, with winners and losers. I don't know you, nobody here knows you or your actions enough to hate you. I resent being what-abouted with anecdote, but I still haven't wrastled up the apathy to disengage. All those actions you're describing are patriarchal. families dictating their daughters marriage arrangements still happens in western countries, even though you don't personally see it. from arra…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 09:39 PM
3

it took me a while to figure out how to respond because while I really feel for you, I can't help but wonder if you have more to unpack here. you were working with a religion that isn't very kind to women to start with, and then are met with laughter when you tell people you were raped at 17 while you're asleep? it sounds like your universe was full of people who hated women, including the other women. and that hate from women is patriarchy manifest (the same hate that causes women to get angry …
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 08:30 PM
1

it sounds like you might have some pretty bad rejection sensitivity. I've been there. it's so weird because in the moment it feels like someone has literally ripped your heart out but if you look back a day or week later, you can see where someone wasn't thinking about what they were saying or that someone's so lame that their opinions on you really shouldn't matter anyway (which is kinda what I'm thinking of mr. ig live over here but you know what? different hobbies for different people). curio…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 08:11 PM
2

quick question what the fuck is wrong with you
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 05:18 PM
1

it's pretty bad for your heart, no? if you know any trans men, this is a good question for them. they're probably the only people on earth who are made explicitly aware of the health downsides to testosterone.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 02:43 PM
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"society ruined relationships" dude you ruined your own relationship, it's no use beating yourself up over it now but if you wanna be mad at anyone be mad at the specific assholes who told you to act how you did. you've blown up the relationship with this woman and it doesn't sound like she wants anything to do with you now, and I hope you can respect that and move on because stewing in it won't be helpful or productive for either of you.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 09:29 AM
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I mostly didn't think there were all that many where I live, and then I got roofied at a nearly empty bar before 9 pm. so there's something men don't usually have to worry about.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 09:50 PM
2

at least with astrology it can get you talking to people who aren't in your mindset! redpill and mgtow both can offer the same time sink but alienate men from women. half of my social skills have come from knowing enough about astrology to make conversations with strangers that I never would've known how to start a conversation with otherwise, it can just be a fun way to poke around and get to learn other peoples personalities and examine your own to become more self aware. one of the best readi…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 06:18 PM
1

you deterred them using the same method OLD obsessed redpillers complain about the most just by not engaging after the first message though.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 06:00 PM
2

technically, maybe. but that would be according to the originators' definition, and the semantics have been pretty twisted from her original intention.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 12:19 AM
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you're not the first guy to come up with this strategy here, and I'm telling you now it's not gonna work. nobody wants to date someone who they know finds them "homely" or unattractive, and unless it's a situation where you're getting paid to do so it's REALLY HARD to fake it, let alone for a long term relationship where you see them all the time. I've dated and slept with men your height before, and while I'll grant that I'm shorter I also wouldn't sleep with someone I didn't find attractive.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 06:49 PM
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I meant her mother. but since I've actually met some of the people you're talking about... de niro is a notoriously good guy. sharon stone just recently went out of her way, when criticizing almost all her other male costars, to exclude him from her criticisms over the number of misogynists in hollywood. the man has been a constant supporter of independent cinema and is currently in the process of divorcing that ex bartender, and being worked to death to pay off her alimony. decaprio lives in a …
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 12:59 PM
5

young college athletes don't chase Oprah because she's not straight. ivanka trump is a much better example, and she had a young minor noble clinging onto her for the last decade of her life. I really don't think you know what you're talking about though man. you've got affection confused with stalkery infatuation if you think a fangirl is an ideal partner, being a celebrity with being stable or a provider or content with whatever amount of money is meaningful to you. you're trying to make justif…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 11:33 AM
3

lots of people "age into" their faces, I think. Mark Maron is the best example of this to me, but I'm sure there are others. I'm pretty sure I've dated similar men to the kinds you're describing. in my city we call them "finance bros," overgrown fratboys with more money than sense or personality.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 06:20 PM
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why would a woman who can support herself yet chooses to be in a relationship be a hindrance if your goal is anything but entrapment? genuinely curious, because I can't think of any other reason.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 05:35 PM
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the thing is, a "high quality" person in my eyes isn't interested in dating anyone with a brain that hasn't finished developing. if I went on a date with a man now and found out the woman before me was 21 or younger, he wouldn't be seeing me again if he couldn't say anything nice or thoughtful about her personality and interests. it wouldn't really bode well for how he might describe me if we were to date and break up. I guess I just don't see other women as competition. maybe it's because I dat…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 05:14 PM
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I'm not even done with my 20s and I'm already seeing it! I may get slightly less interest and pay for more of my dates proportionately, but the men who have been interested are significantly more well-adjusted and kinder too.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 05:05 PM
3

I started out like you. up until I was 16 or so I hung out in places like /r9k/ pretty often, had few friends and never went outside. I still have problems with internet addiction but making friends with women, getting a job where I had to socialize constantly and finding purpose outside of my relationships helped a lot. it's scary and can be overwhelming to start looking, but it's really the only way to move on with your life.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 04:55 PM
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maybe, but for women I think the floor of the quality of those dating prospects goes up. that's not to say women in their 30s have better dating options, just that they aren't being chased by men who obsess over "sexual market value" or "hot teens" or whatever.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 04:32 PM
7

I'm the same age as you, although according to some men who operate under this lens I guess I'm already past "the wall." anyway I would never date a man who believed in red pill, PUAs, any type of ideology under that. I would seriously doubt a man who believes in that has the capacity to treat me as a fellow human being, and while I'm happy to help my partners with their mental health struggles and be a sympathetic ear for the most part, I am not willing to waste months if not years of my life t…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/23 10:41 PM
1

I dunno what it's like for men, but more and more I've been hearing about women who love their 40s. apparently for a lot of us, it's our sexual peak!
/r/ExRedPill28/01/23 08:10 AM
3

my parents (almost smugly after almost 40 years of being together) love to recite this barbara ehrenreich quote to me: "marriage is socialism between two people." I want a relationship where each gives to the BEST of their abilities, and we can reciprocally give each other the love and support we need according to our needs. redpill seems to believe you can halfass a that first part, but I would love to hear how our survivors in this group think it approaches the second.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 07:27 PM
1

you guys better let me know if other people masturbate to clear their sinuses!!
/r/ExRedPill24/01/23 07:22 PM
2

would love to read some on patriarchy's effect on men outside the anglosphere. I try to be well read on as many different countries' and their sociological dynamics as possible, and even with that effort it feels really rare. I have a few hypotheses as to why, but it's a shame nonetheless.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 05:59 AM
1

do you live in/near a city? look up if the local museums have teen programs. I'm kicking myself 10 years later for not going to any in mine.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 05:24 AM
1

cannon fodder? serfs? history has not historically given a shit about people who lack either status or good ideas, and those are redpill's client base.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 08:57 PM
2

masturbation is very healthy, and costs nothing.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 08:50 PM
2

in the future I think it might be more helpful for the first two to be identifying with the gender assigned at birth, I'm not sure what you're trying to learn but the way you have it now can easily contain both trans and cisgender people. "transitioning" can be a weasel-y word too; like if you know a trans person who's been on hormones for over a decade and doesn't want any gender related surgery in the future, are they transitioning or transitioned? and who gets to determine that?
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 08:48 PM
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a lot of women appreciate appreciate that kind of earnest vulnerability (at least I do haha), it comes across more confident to me if a man can actually sit with his emotions. besides, in my personal experience (and my therapists' advice) sitting with anxiety is really the only way to get over it.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 07:06 PM
3

you say people aren't happy alone, but unmarried and childless women are quite literally the happiest subgroup of the general population. there's a couple reasons for this, reasons that statistically illustrate why the secondary effects of men losing partners is so dire. when looking at the literature and reflecting on my own lifetime of experiences, men as a whole depend on women and specifically their partners in various spheres of life. While I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing to lean…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 09:49 AM
1

Even if she can distinguish between those (and while it's pretty easy to detect interest, divining someones long term intentions is pretty tough. i certainly can't if I've known a person for less than a year and doubt anyone of any gender can), I don't think you're taking into consideration the damage that a lifetime of that kind of attention, again starting from early puberty if not younger, does to how a woman might react. depending on their history, it can even appear as almost a post-traumat…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 04:14 AM
3

I don't know exactly why but that's what I read from women's writings, they feel betrayed, they don't feel flattered like us men. imagine if you grew up being sexualized by people from the opposite gender, starting from age 11 or so. many it's even earlier. it starts with dirty old men (read: literally above 25 at this age. the first man to grind on me and grab my ass when I was that age was probably no more than 35, it felt like the room was shaking when I realized it) and just continues intens…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 03:34 AM
3

I really don't think a dating coach will help you nearly as well as having women friends will. why don't you want to be friends with the women you date? is it because you resent them? or do you not have enough in common for a relationship not based on sexual fulfilment to be viable? Women can tell when a man sees them as nothing but a hole, and most of us are usually pretty sensitive to it. Asking someone to be friends is a way for vetting for that, and from the sound of it you're not passing th…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 01:34 AM
3

I would like to think the same of men too, but time and again I've been proven wrong! and to go off u/TheBaeOfSlay, I've seen the same social imperative in circles of women who objectify men in terms of capital over all else. unfortunately their ambition (both genders) leads their mindset to leak out to the most inexperienced, which is imo why so many young women get stuck in the trap of "I'm just coming into awareness of my own sexual capital and seeing as it's the only capital I have, I'll use…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/23 06:05 PM
1

I've been thinking about your post for a few days now. dating women as a woman is easier in some ways and others much harder, which is partially why I and many other bisexual women I know "fall into" dating men much more than women. there's really no cultural road map of expectations and even less if anyone in the relationship is trans, and while that does mean you have room to explore how you define said relationship and who does what, it can also be confusing if you have literally nothing to g…
/r/ExRedPill26/12/22 02:27 AM
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literally just helping out around the house, being an equal and willing partner who can do the same basic maintenance that she does. it's not losing the job that women find unattractive, it's everything that comes after. if my partner took some downtime from working and exclusively played Bioshock all summer, never thinking about how they could use that time to be with me or do something nice for me in those 3 months, I'd find them pretty unattractive too.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:29 PM
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in the opinion of a redpiller, how many of these women are attractive? or worth pursuing? I ask because I work in a looks-focused industry where a lot of people I know get scouted for modeling, but I can't imagine any of these people experiencing the same. they all look like very normal people, who likely mostly know very normal looking people. not an insult or anything, but I think it might be more interesting to hear about how being really, really, really good looking frequently puts you in da…
/r/ExRedPill05/12/22 02:53 AM
1

and that's fine. and normal. it took me two years to get over one of my relationships, months for others. take the time to be angry and sad, to find comfort in people you love.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/22 07:01 PM
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yes they do! and those arguments are worth having. it's like eating your vegetables: it might be uncomfortable, but it'll help you in the long run. this person doesn't sound like she's worth those conversations though. being compared to your partners' exes or having their actions affect your relationship is a big part of growing up, because people accumulate those experiences over time. I'm sure in your next relationship, if it's healthy, you'll have plenty of discussions about how this horror s…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 09:39 PM
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with another woman, no less.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 10:09 PM
8

women are taught to let themselves get pushed around, that it's the price one pays for a relationship. I think a lot of guys who fell for red pill often do the same actually, judging from some of the stories I've read here, but it doesn't verge into tolerance for abuse as often. my favorite word has been no ever since I was a kid and I've still caught myself going on dates 2 or 3 dates after I've realized we're probably not compatible, simply because I'm human and crave affection from people who…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/22 01:19 PM
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just like how a decently attractive woman can have sex fairly easily by lowering their standards enough to sleep with shallow, selfish, insecure men, a decently attractive man can have sex fairly easily by throwing cash and picking at the self esteem of shallow, selfish and insecure women. These strategies employed by redpill and subsequently thrown at the women who question it (i.e. "a woman could go out and have sex any night of the week, you don't know what it's like etc.") never like to dwel…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 04:33 AM
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redpill never talks about how this works the other way around, for some reason. how many men are going for the "top" 20% of women anyway? what makes someone that top strata? I'd take a waiter with good taste in movies over a finance guy who just watches the same 3 shows on netflix when he gets home easily, and to try and rank people according to some statistic of overall attractiveness seems impossible. going by straight looks though, a lot of men don't try in that respect. plenty of women don't…
/r/ExRedPill27/10/21 06:43 PM
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my issue was always that even when I want a ONS, a good 70 percent of men just don't give a shit about getting the other person off and lots of them can't even do a decent job at hiding it. I tend to go for guys that often have complexes around not fitting whatever the stereotype of an "alpha" is in their head and even those men will try things like telling me I'll have to leave before the night is over, refuse to talk about what they're into beforehand, on and on, but that lack of desire to tre…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/21 12:40 AM
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I really like this advice. it's impossible to make EVERYONE like you, sometimes you just gotta accept that some people won't be interested. respecting that boundary saves you from a lot of humiliation.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 10:38 PM
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maybe if you didnt write like birdsrightsactivist women would respect you more
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 12:49 PM
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do you think that any woman will date you as long as you have a car and a house?
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 09:31 AM
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