Devastated

ClueLazy834 · 2026-05-30T15:20:53+00:00

You dodged a bullet. Think about how he’s going to treat that girl like a slave. Her life won’t be easy, lots of domestic work and probably having to live with his parents.

sickbabe · 2026-05-30T15:38:01+00:00

imagine being that 26 year old who never left her parents sight for a quarter century only to have this loser as the reward you can't get rid of for obeying your parents so well

now go learn a language or an instrument or craft or something. maybe it's something he couldn't stand, maybe it's something you were told not to do when growing up. enjoy the fruits of your civil disobedience :)

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2026-05-30T19:31:19+00:00

There is no way for you to know if his new fiance is a virgin or if she exists. The fact that he told you is weird.

No idea how he managed to upgrade your plane ticket, it's time to change your passwords.

Also, don't date narcs. It is awkward if someone wears a wire on a date.

not_a_cumguzzler · 2026-05-30T19:08:58+00:00

You're a perfectly wonderful human being!

Forget that toxic loser. You dodged a bullet. Meditate, have fun, live life, remind yourself that all things will come to pass, everything will be ok, and time will heal.

Future you will be much healthier and stronger!

Kaicaly · 2026-05-30T16:59:34+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Saddly the manipulation of a abusive partner doesn't end just when you cut ties with that person, usually you have to deal with the after effects (It doesn't mean you can't overcome them, just that it could take some time).

As the things are going, the best for you is to cut any interaction with him and his image (even don't try to look on how his life is going, since it will just rub salt in the wound), but always remember he is and always will be the main cause of his own, and every persons alongside him, insatisfaction, he is and always will be the cause of many problems for any relationship he is in. The best thing you did was prioritize your well-being, and the best thing you can do now, is to still continue doing it. And don't let the experience you had with him take off what is important in you and your life.

Focus on your self and your life, doing things you enjoy, reconnecting with old friends and people you trust and care about, engage in activities that you feel makes your life improve in the way that you want, you can finally have control over your life again, and choose for your self what you truly want and what truly makes you feel happy. Take this oportunity life (or God, if you believe in him (i have my personal take in spirituality and religion, but i know how important it can still be for many people) is giving you now, to learn from this experience (so you can identify the signals better and protect yourself in the future), and to take the time and space to heal from this wounds, and progresively move to a new and better chapter in your life 🫂.

Cry if you need to cry. And the worst thing that happened was losing and betraying yourself and sacrificing your well-being just for his pleasure, and the best thing you can do now is to take the time and space that you need to reconnect with your self, regaing control of your life and take care of your well-being.

No-Dream1324 · 2026-05-30T15:26:35+00:00

What country is he from? Before I got married I was always very cautious about dating men from other cultures because they can be extremely misogynistic. You did the right thing by getting rid of him. He's probably going to treat his new wife like shit.

Extreme-Struggle3665 · 2026-05-30T23:31:43+00:00

He became her problem now

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Extreme-Struggle3665 · 2026-05-30T23:32:45+00:00

Let me guess he's Arab !

MrKrayzeeK · 2026-05-30T16:00:39+00:00

So you blocked him and didn’t expect him to move on? Sounds like you’re the problem not him

Title	Devastated
Author	peachibab
Upvotes	5
Comments	36
Date	May 30, 2026 3:05 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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