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DebateCrazy_Individual_814/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 08:48 PM
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What things do you think are owed and what was invested that you feel is “owed” back now in the context of relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:16 PM
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To all the men being like “no one would ask repeatedly” sure, maybe not directly, but they sure will dry beg a woman repeatedly. (Narcissistic abuse tactic used regularly by men) eg “well most people would be happy their partner wants to have sex with them all the time”. That is repeated asking (and more typical for LTRs which men seem to think is an exception because of their entitlement)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:20 PM
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Enthusiastic interest is the bar. Most men aren’t meeting that. That’s the study wrapped up in two sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:29 AM
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Not wanting to have sex is not a neutral or negotiable position.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:27 PM
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This was interesting to consider, but you are proposing punitive action for emotional damages in comparison to restorative action for financial loss. One is intentionally malicious, the other is restorative. Also practically, hard to sue someone for money they don’t have, which is the issue when alimony is needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:46 PM
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Just another personal example (how many do these men need??): Dads coworker friend (approx 35) when I was 16 started making inappropriate comments, everyone just laughed it off, he came over when no one home, cornered me, grabbed me and forced a kiss on me. Thankfully my brothers showed up, and he went to jail, but a lot of women aren’t so “lucky”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:22 PM
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That’s the disconnect. That is never what women mean. IMO men are trying to push forward their definition of bad boy so that the still harmful but not outright abusive men benefit. You even admit that “making fun of fat people” always there, that sounds more like a general male quality, not a “bad boy” quality. Women aren’t buying it. It was never our definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:44 PM
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Depends. Are they just saying how cute their outfits are, or are they discussing the ramifications of the glorification of their outfits on our culture. More contexts and examples that you have been avoiding needed. I’ve very easily disproven your “gotcha”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:07 PM
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Your stats are wrong. ~1.8% of pregnant women die from childbirth in the US. Close to 700 women per year. 0.33% of people die from workplace injuries a year in US, including women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:26 PM
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Yes..figure it out before you even try to start dating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:00 PM
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Miscomprehension, I’m guessing bad faith. She wanted to marry him BEFORE she found out she was being manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:09 AM
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What does it matter that relationship is open? If a man is riding the relationship escalator (in established relationship, meeting friends family, living together etc) but doesn’t want to actually be ON the elevator then he needs to stop and either do the hard work of walking up (communicating clearly with partner) or jump off (end relationship)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:07 AM
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More like persistent exposure to inequity, injustice, contempt, and danger (that *may result in increase levels of neuroticism as a natural and expected response) that men don’t have to deal with because of patriarchal privileges. Neuroticism is the symptom, not the malady.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:03 AM
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Women value mental health and relationships, men value money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:41 AM
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Hmm I wonder why women would be more sensitive unfairness… 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:43 PM
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Men weaponize “want to get married someday” and “want children” will be in years long relationships with women on who they have no intention to marry or have children with to keep them around. If a man is deceptive and manipulative in his communication women can’t be blamed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:23 PM
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Looks fade. The average woman is overweight according to the relied on but ultimately useless BMI calculator. 97% of women have at least one negative thought about their body a day, the average is 13 negative thoughts a day. Goodness isn’t performative it is innate. “Nice guys” are maybe worse than outright misogynistic guys who are at least upfront
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:08 AM
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Most women don’t like muscle men, so then that man would also be below average and badly built in the eyes of most women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:01 AM
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When and how are teachers telling boys to date overweight women? Saying you should treat fat people respectfully is not the same as forcing someone to date an overweight person. A fit guy, normal face IS just an average guy, with some muscles. Same as an overweight woman, normal face IS just an average woman, with some fat. At the end of the day both just average people, and that’s all body positivity is saying. All are people worth respect, not any kinda mandate to fuck them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:14 PM
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Who is forcing you to date people you don’t want t to?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:10 PM
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Please explain how feminists indirectly forcing young boys to lower their standards to properly debate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:38 PM
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Because money gives women freedom and men the ability to limit women’s freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:29 PM
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90% of men watch porn, 70% are gamers so it’s highly statistically possible they are the same men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:41 PM
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But they are questioning their faith…as you are questioning your partners integrity. “I acknowledge the possibility that my trust is in vain” is saying “I WANT to trust you, but I DONT”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:33 PM
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Having insurance is to protect you from someone causing you damage, asking for a paternity test is an accusation that the person has already caused you damage
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:18 PM
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Yes. If it’s such a small minority than its irrelevant. That’s the argument for abusive men isn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:24 PM
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It’s the intention. Her intention in posting is sharing her experiences, his intention in liking is getting the woman’s attention and expressing his sexual interest; they are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:18 PM
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If a man constantly pressures her, it becomes a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:36 PM
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Bro I’ve been in multiple relationships, married, divorced, and currently have 5 men in my roster. I have no troubles finding men. Dick is abundant and low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:22 PM
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If married men aren’t “lonely” why do they make up the majority of OF subscribers? SEX IS NOT A NEED.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:20 PM
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Women’s bodies are not up for compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:18 PM
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He can feel however he wants, he can’t make his libido his partners problem
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:13 PM
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What do you think is a reasonable amount of desire to be negotiated? ( Hint: The answer is none. )
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:59 PM
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Socioeconomic status
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:56 PM
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What exactly am I “attaching” which are NOT values in a relationship? Financial stability is a relationship value. Valuing a certain lifestyle and valuing a part of a persons anatomy are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:52 PM
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Yes that is higher SES individual entitlement to the labor of lower SES individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:57 PM
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Women want a close relationship + sex, men want sex and *maybe* a surface level relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:40 PM
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But how often are men ACTUALLY honest about this before engaging in relationships? 🤔 The answer is rarely because they know it will hurt their chances for 🐈. If it’s an expectation it should be the first thing in your dating profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:26 PM
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But the statistics prove that men ARE more likely to cheat or abandon if woman is pregnant or sick
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:51 PM
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No you cannot simply switch it to women and money and have a true argument. Most women are not expecting a man to pay her an allowance of money, most men ARE expecting women to pay an allowance of sex. Women would rather leave their partners and be financially destitute than stay solely for money. They are doing it in droves. Men would rather stay and abuse women to continue benefiting from their resources. Financial security is a need. You need a roof over your head, you don’t need to get your …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:50 PM
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Why should she make an effort to repair what he broke?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:04 PM
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Threats: I will break up with you, I will intentionally make your life worse, if you don’t have sex with me I’ll leak your nudes Intimidation: shaming eg “What’s wrong with you” (as I’ve seen commented on this very post), screaming, throwing things, slamming doors, aggressive silent treatment, guilt tripping I hope I don’t need to explain physical force; seems to be the only type of abuse men recognize
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:55 PM
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Because the conversation is VERY rarely “in nit happy with the sex in this relationship I am leaving” it’s “what’s wrong with you” “why can’t you just do it” pouting, throwing fits (maybe actually throwing things), stonewalling, and disengagement from the probably already low household maintenance. Saying if you don’t have sex with me more I am going to leave you is coercive. Just saying I am not happy in this relationship, I’m leaving, without putting an onus of responsibility, change, or failu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:44 PM
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The need is emotional validation. You 100% could say no, and if the way you are willing to express emotional validation is not to her standards would just prove you are not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:34 PM
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Think you need to change your flair bro
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:15 PM
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Women cannot bait and switch around sex. Consent can always be revoked. Expecting anything is entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:13 AM
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True. That was more in reference to relationships/marriage though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:10 AM
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Yes emotional intimacy is a need. Cooperation toward a goal is not a need, but is the basis of partnerships of any kind. Ask any of the tons of lonely men on this sub. Could argue ejaculation is a need, but not sex. That’s entitlement to another persons body.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:09 AM
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You are talking around the point. Why do men need to be rewarded with sex to behave well? Why does lack of access to another persons body cause relationship friction? How exactly does this friction manifest? Scheduled sex is just another way to weaponize consent. That’s expecting a certain outcome, and coercion, instead of true consent which can be revoked at any time. Women should not be expected to have sex if men cannot create a safe emotional environment for it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:01 AM
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Then why does she need to change for you to get what you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:55 AM
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Because emotional intimacy is a need and sex is not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:53 AM
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“I want her to do the work to figure out what specifically it is about me that’s hanging her up about having sex with me” Directly addressed in OP. It’s not that women’s attraction to men physically has changed, it’s that men change their behavior, and expect women to continue behaving the way they were when they were being treated differently. It is perfectly natural for someone to engage with someone when they are being treated well, and disengage when they are not. She does not need to “get h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:44 PM
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Not a caricature, reality of most men. Your article does not refute my point that men try to use sex for emotional closeness instead of doing the work of relationship maintenance. Gamifying sex to emotional intimacy is weak mental and emotional behavior; lack of emotional intelligence. You cannot say that women are more likely than men to sexually pressure or coerce. That’s facts. And men admit it themselves. Please explain how women being hypergamous (I don’t believe they are, but we will go wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:10 PM
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Women were told that, after high school, men would become more mature and see the value in the smart, thoughtful, adorably nerdy girl they had previously overlooked. When I got to college and saw that men were not fundamentally different from how they were in high school, I quietly and sadly accepted reality, feeling like I had been lied to. I got married to a man that was just like most men, shallow, self centered, egotistical, and violent, and divorced him. I’m sure I’m not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:27 PM
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Bro have you even been on this sub??? The majority of posts are saying negative things about women with the highest votes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:07 AM
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“Conditioned into being an avoidant” Ahhh I love to see men taking that accountability they screech about /s
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:10 PM
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Women can literally say that and men will just be like oh she’s lying about not liking it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:58 PM
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Holy added context Batman
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:37 PM
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I mean…there is a significant difference between trying anal once and building a whole housing expansion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:26 PM
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The only reason you listed for having a child that has any merit is life narrative; if the woman wants that for her life path. Children are not attachment dispensers, children are not “your legacy”, not every woman has that biological drive, and having a child just to satisfy that urge is a bad reason, children are not support - THEY need MASSIVE support, and you cannot rely that they will take care of you when you’re old, making a whole human is pretty cool! NOT in itself a good reason to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:19 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:14 PM
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You’re disagreeing with yourself at this point, because your fantasy doesn’t match reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:17 PM
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That’s not a research article, there are no studies cited, and in no way proved that sub 20 women are having sex. IF anything MAYBE lends some thought necessarily further proof that women between 20-80% are having more sexual than the top 20%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:16 PM
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Yes. As much as y’all want to believe every woman is having all the sex, it’s not reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:43 PM
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Sure; they acknowledged that. But it is EXCEEDING RARE. Even in the state with the highest rate it’s only 1/3 of 1% of men who are behind on payments. I can google too, and apparently better than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:36 PM
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Why do you feel you need to say something about relationships you aren’t in?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 09:31 PM
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Reciprocity includes caring for your partner and children. Sorry not sorry you have to actually be a good partner and parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:22 PM
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Bro that’s almost half..AT MINIMUM
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:15 PM
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So men betabux women as well, at or above the amount that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:40 AM
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This is a debate sub. If you can’t support your point, you lose
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:33 PM
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So…by your own admission AT LEAST 40% were really shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:59 PM
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- Most men would gladly commit if they met someone they generally liked The problem is, most men don’t actually like women. They like what women can do for them, not the women themselves. That’s why so many men are single
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:35 PM
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Ok so sounds like she had you on the back burner. Is immature and shallow behavior, but definitely not gendered, and if it is then behavior men engage in more than women. Doesn’t make her not normal tho, unfortunately very normal behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:01 PM
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In what ways were you pursing her…for *a year*?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 09:08 PM
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That’s the logic women have adapted because they gave the men who did not cause harm themselves but tacitly accept male violence when it benefits them (eg I didn’t do it I’m so great - benefiting from worse men) and then those men end up hurting them too that all men have the capacity and willingness for violence when it benefit them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 07:36 PM
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Treat me like a human is baseline. Men also need to care about all human harm, particularly in times in which they would benefit from not caring. Eg care and advocate for women’s health and bodily autonomy, care and advocate for immigrants, care and advocate for LGBT folks. Just being apathetic is the lowest bar that could alone be reason to not be chosen, and actively working against things that are most positive for society is the bar to meet or beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 07:30 PM
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They are not *more* dangerous, but *just as* dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:16 PM
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The issue is men see it as being “above average” good but women think men are barely meeting (if at all) the bar of being a good person. Women’s thoughts now are “they are all bad, so may as well get with someone hot”. Even if a majority of men are “good men” by traditional standards, most men are not *good people* based on modern standards. Are the men who “try” to be better and are unsuccessful with women *actually* becoming better people or trying to fake that they are, being clocked, and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:44 PM
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The “have to have” is a lot more negotiable than compatibility. Eg a women would be willing to date a man who makes less if he is more compatible partner than another who makes more. Men can’t wrap their heads around that because they don’t consider compatibility. It’s of course we are compatible because I like you the end when there is a lot more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:13 PM
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No. Men’s standards are too low. They are causing the problems with the dating market. Stop accepting that behavior. Men need to raise their standards and stop being desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:08 PM
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This man is *above* average
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:09 PM
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Unfortunately, just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:11 PM
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Did you not read my initial comment/have no knowledge of how AI is used in practice by different groups?? It is not “the same thing” they are completely different. Did you even read the articles you linked to your own OP????
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:36 AM
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That is just simply not true. A girl could wish with all her heart that it is, but it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:17 PM
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So you have some anecdotal evidence of life not working out for some women; doesn’t explain how all women who have been promiscuous “age like milk”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 08:10 PM
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If you take the human interaction out of all of those things, sure. But when *humans* (who are dating, not computers) interact with the systems it becomes more vibes based. A person has to determine if they are going to slow down or speed up for the yellow (dating - slow or speed connection). A person can accidentally type their password wrong (dating - just having an off day when approached). A vending machine can get jammed and not give you your snack (dating - a person could be overwhelmed by…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:54 PM
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You mean she slows down on sex from the FTL burnout level of household and sex pest husband management and birthing children, destroying her body and identity, that starts before marriage and then becomes exponentially worse? Frankly, men aren’t remotely worth the Herculean effort women put into them from the jump. They never were.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:47 PM
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Are you going to respond to my comment or should I report you for pointless rhetoric?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:40 PM
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The way in which groups of people interact with AI is significant, and you try to gloss over it and compare two highly different groups of people, middle aged, professional women vs teenage boys. The women are using it for emotional companionship, the boys are using it control and commands, often of a sexual nature so concerning as to be banned in other countries. The women already have good interpersonal skills, the boys do not, and AI isn’t helping.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:28 PM
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I mean I don’t disagree that if it’s that important to someone they should divorce, but people also get to make their own judgement on your actions. If men filed for divorce instead of cheating there would be more men filing for divorce than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:42 PM
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It’s actually the opposite. Once men get sex, they become complacent. Nothing left to chase for. That’s when the sex starts to slow down. Add it to the list of the thousand of other reasons to never marry
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:35 PM
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I mean…if men are supposedly so strong and resilient, but a lack of sex is enough to send them spiraling, then yeah kinda looks like a weakness of character
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:32 PM
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He can ask for a divorce then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:22 PM
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Please explain to me how promiscuity makes women age; I need a good laugh this morning
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:18 PM
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1/7 men admit they would rape a child if they wouldn’t face punishment, I’m sure the number would be higher for wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:08 PM
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Do NOT even pretend that women are almost always the primary caregivers, men VERY often abandon their children after divorce, or argue custody arrangements solely for financial reasons and then offload the care of their children to other women, and even in cases of substantiated abuse get more parenting time 90% of the time when asked. Maybe if less men expected their wives to be sex slaves and/or cheat constantly less women would want divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:46 PM
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IMO dependent on age. Like a 40+ widow no one really gonna care, but if she’s a widow in her 20s people are gonna be like oh she’s got baggage
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:17 PM
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Pretty sure you mean wary, but I am certainly weary of men at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:57 PM
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I could argue the same regarding patriarchy and misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:36 PM
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What trauma are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:45 PM
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That’s why it’s great that women don’t need men anymore, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:03 PM
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Go to any nonmonogamy sub and you will see women engaging sexually with both genders when not attracted to any of them because of influence of male partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:37 PM
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Oh come off it. I know men who identify as straight, only date straight women, but have had a blowie from a male friend when desperate af.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:33 PM
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No. Absolutely not. In one scenario the man straight up cheated on her. In the other they came to an agreement; if he didn’t want to agree to it then he shouldnt have agreed. It’s not women’s fault that men do not view same sex relationships as real relationships. People often do not have clear boundaries, but that isn’t usually outta malice just ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:16 PM
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Now this may blow your mind…but you can eat her kitty while she is standing too. You can literally do that on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:35 PM
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If men don’t feel the “return” is worth the effort then yeah just opt out, women aren’t gonna cry about it. Women want an equal partner, that includes financially. When women are the breadwinners there is more abuse…OF WOMEN, not men, check your facts. I do agree some women can fall into the relationship entitlement similar to men, but they don’t make it men’s problem like men are tying to do to women. Men need to fix their self esteem issues first, then maybe they will find a partner. Women’s s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:38 PM
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Idk are we talking about loading the dishwasher or putting them away? Cause looking for something when you need it and it not being there, and the person knows where it goes when they need it, but put it somewhere else is annoying af an additional labor
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:34 PM
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This is the best comparative example I have seen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:29 PM
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Relationships are risks, and can be ended at anytime, for any reason. Maybe he shouldn’t have lied about who he is and what he likes in the first place. Wife is gonna leave if she finds out he cheated too, so again sounds like honesty and accountability is what these men are lacking. The men are trying to change the agreement they made retroactively, or actually, they are avoiding taking accountability for their choices and lying about wanting to change the agreements and then being pussys and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:40 AM
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Married men often self isolate in marriage. They do not communicate their needs. They do not make their partners feel seen, valued, or heard. They do not support their wives, and then they cheat on them. It’s devastating when you really get into it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 11:15 PM
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Sounds like they need to end their relationships and get real therapy with a professional who can diagnose and treat them to me. Not get their ego (penis) stroked and soothed. They should sit in their discomfort and address it, not cheat and avoid it. nohatetoSW
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 09:18 PM
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If men feel accountability is “throwing them under the bus” I think we found the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 09:07 PM
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If men held other men accountable that cause fear in women there would be less fear and then more relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:54 PM
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If you established one woman as more desirable then the men would want her most as well, so what argument are you trying to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:49 PM
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Democratic would be women having the ability to “vote” for who they have sex with, which is the current system we have. You are arguing for sexual communism and/or tyranny
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:27 PM
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Yeah the “slightly autistic gf” is trending; just as long as it’s only cute not any actual work for him. The perception of innocence is infantilizing and makes him feel powerful; this is a large amount of men, some feels intentionally, disingenuously diminutive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 05:31 PM
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This is the answer I came to as well. Less socially adjusted women are easier to manipulate, are more likely to have self esteem issues, and more likely to have lower standards and not strong boundary setting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 05:25 PM
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It is true that society functions better with less men. Sounds to me like there are too many men…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 04:51 PM
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She didn’t say women don’t get lazier as well, both genders do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:36 PM
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Not me wondering if I’m the cousin lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:29 PM
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Women are praised if they are performing lesbianism for the male gaze. If it’s for their own pleasure they are castigated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:04 PM
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Making your partner suffer for your benefit is abusive behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:37 PM
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So you want to be an abuser like her previous partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:36 PM
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But the point is you don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:34 PM
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Youve counted every time you’ve done every single type of sex act? Either you’re damn near a virgin or your consistently argument is out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:14 PM
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You don’t know the circumstances that led up to that discount and free coke. Maybe he helped build the restaurant, invested in a way you didn’t, so basic social reciprocity means he gets more now because he put in more before
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:34 PM
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So you want your partner to suffer for your benefit?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:29 PM
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Yes…and?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:15 PM
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Having other priorities in a relationship beyond sex are not “ulterior motives”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:03 PM
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You SHOULDNT expect her to cook for you. If you want to take her out on a date as a surprise that is completely different. You do chores for the same reason as why you would as single, so that you don’t live in filth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:48 PM
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Partners should only want to do things with their partner that they also want to do??? The use of coercion is rampant and damn near ubiquitous to men. The entire point of the discussion is women treating different men different because they are different now. It IS SERIOUS. You’re describing hormonal changes not changes in level of attraction. You are being unserious in your understanding of pervasive rape culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:40 PM
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If you are a good partner then you should always be giving your partner special treatment. Hearing that you did not treat your exs as special is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:39 PM
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You being her best does not guarantee best treatment. The guy who is the best at eating me out certainly has not gotten my best relationship behavior. The guy who is only ok in bed but treats me better, does.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:33 PM
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There is a major difference between past and present.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:03 PM
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Most women were forced to marry. Now women have the “luxury” of being able to choose, and even with improvements, men are still coming up short, particularly in morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:00 PM
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Please explain how women “being radicalized” has lead to the eroding off social third spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:48 PM
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No, your analogy is lacking. It’s like going to the same restaurant ordering the same thing 9 times and all good, but on the 10th bad. Would you never go back if 9/10 times the food was good?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:27 AM
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It wasn’t the emotional wall they were attracted to, it was who he was pretending to be. Once the woman learned what he really thought and felt hard to look at him the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:45 PM
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If it were the case that men will act right with incentive of having sex or the threat of lack of sex, then in this exact moment in time men would be becoming better people because being POS is not getting them pussy on a large scale obviously. Still waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:39 PM
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And if a woman has to go to court to make the papers reflect reality (which 90% of them time is the man refusing 50/50 in practice) then both of you will still have to pay thousands (even more because at this point it’s a modification!) and child support is still going to be ordered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:34 PM
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Do you really think that the current set of laws in whatever jurisdiction you happen to live in is the ultimate representation of positive morality? Do you feel morally reprehensible behavior is always justified if the aggrieved party has no legal means of reparation?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:32 PM
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If men say women are cute are they not attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:43 PM
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That’s victim blaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 10:35 PM
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And women are pushing for rape by deception to be actionable
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:44 PM
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You don’t see harm in him cheating on his spouse?? I worry for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:33 PM
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Not true. How often have adults said #lifesnotfair ? lesson men need to learn
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 06:00 PM
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No. Men need to be willing to learn and grow into better people. Then maybe you at least have a shot at being less lonely. Idgaf about your RMN - been with short, fat, bald everything in between, but have to be a good person, which a good majority of you are lacking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:43 PM
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What get out of jail cards and lower expectations do women have? How are childless women not currently exploited the same as men? Why do you feel entitled to a womb? Why should women help men with a goal they do not care about, that they won’t benefit from, and could even potentially be further harmed from?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:25 PM
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But…by your own definition they are gullible, emotional, stupid, and naive so do they even have the ability to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 02:09 AM
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And then when women try to do this men try to shut it down. See AWDTSG
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 02:04 AM
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The highest reason cited as “last straw” to divorce is infidelity. I wonder which gender is being more unfaithful if women are the primary “demanders” of divorce 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 02:01 AM
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You can be romantically intimate without being physical. Friends aren’t romantic. LDRs exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 08:54 PM
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The party line is there is someone in the entire world who would date you. They may be 1/10 in looks, but they will love you if you are kind even if you are also a 1/10 in looks. You can’t expect to have it all, especially if you offer nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:12 PM
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What is the condemnable action precisely? Not dating cause don’t like you (but don’t actively hate you either)??
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:31 AM
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But not having sex with men is not causing harm; it’s literally nothing at all
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:25 AM
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Statistically, women fare worse than men financially after divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 07:15 PM
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So the question is how are they weighted cause if he has all 3 and she does too then equal or if she has all 3 and he only has 1 or 2 then she is dating down (unless the points are unequally weighted)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:47 PM
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I feel like *desirable is doing a lot of heavy lifting here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:43 AM
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No. A need is still me me me, it just has the manipulation behind it to make YOUR problem someone else’s. YOU “need” something so you IMPOSE a duty on someone else. This logic is how marital rape is normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:28 PM
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And then men complain that if they want to be picked based off of their personality and not their resources they aren’t being picked, and refuse to change. Men need to level up in emotional maturity and stop worrying so much about finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:45 PM
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Sure, technically accurate; one in three women is not most, but is very statistically significant
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 05:59 AM
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He can terminate his parental rights and be released from financial liability, but it’s just not likely in the system we have created because that would then put the liability on the state which would cost tax money of all men for the child of one, which men have rallied against hard enough to have adopted the system in its current form.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:12 AM
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It could be other things too. Eg I have a male friend who was interested in dating me who is nice, treats women well, and we like the same things, but we are in different places in life. He just graduated college and figuring his life out, I am established and ready to take next life steps, so doesn’t matter how nice or even attractive he is, we are not compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:30 PM
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Yes it is sexist if a woman has unequal standards for height and income for a woman as for a man; this would only be applicable to bi women tho who would apply those standards to different genders. And yes men do vilify women’s standards. Women generally contribute equally financially and do more domestic physical and emotional labor. Men could argue women should shovel the driveway more, but women could argue men should run after their own children more. If talking sex for “physically contribut…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:19 PM
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What if the person has A LOT of serial partners because they partner easily? Which category do they fall into?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:13 PM
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Not always. Often men wait years until they all of a sudden have a problem with it, and by that time you could be highly enmeshed and/or even married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:21 PM
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The man has a right to refuse to provide information. He does not have the right to be deceitful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:05 PM
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A woman can do all those things and still be morally upstanding. A man can want to be with her regardless. This is not some universal truth that a more experienced woman should end a relationship with a less experienced man because he might be so insecure he can’t handle it. So if it’s his problem he should do the breaking up. Stop pushing emotional labor onto women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:03 PM
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Why should a man only ask after the woman has emotionally and physically invested into the relationship? If it’s such a big compatibility issue, shouldn’t that question be asked on the first date? Should be ASAP right so no one uses time/energy on an incompatible relationship? What EXACTLY do you mean by right context and tone, phrasing and timing? Please provide examples. Because really giving I am willing to have sex with her and enjoy her energy, but I won’t marry her because other men’s peni…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:38 PM
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Statistically, men leave their sick partners more than women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:37 PM
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Because men leave for reasons like I’m bored and women leave for reasons like he hit me. Yes, in both and almost all cases, the men suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 03:51 PM
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Men should set up their friends more, but they want every possibility for themselves. Women often will set up their friends and will often be like “I don’t know him that well, but there’s this guy you may be interested in”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:06 AM
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I agree about all of this, but gender flipped.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:04 PM
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Number of partner or how quickly one slept with them has absolutely nothing to do with hygiene practices
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:58 PM
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Romantic love is safety, consistently, dependability. Crushes/limerence is fiery. I would hope that someone romantically involved with includes the things you list as platonic. Platonic relationships can and do also support when sick. Round two and three again fall more into limerence. Again trying to define romantic love with sex, but FWBs exist. People’s “person” is not always their romantic partner. Yearning for 5 minutes more - limerence. People can and do build platonic lives together, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 08:14 PM
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We want a Rhysand, not a Tamlin! #ACOTAR
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:40 PM
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Men start at 0, women start at 100.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:08 PM
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So do men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:20 AM
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This is kinda a misrepresentation tho. Hetro couples on average have sex 3x/wk for 20 mins, while lesbians on average have sex 1x/wk for 60mins
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:03 AM
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Yes the act of orgasm is a biological need. If a person does absolutely nothing night emissions may happen. Masturbation can take care of this need, sex is not a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:53 PM
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And what does effort look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:11 AM
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I’ve had hook ups with short guys and with soft-spoken gentle boys. The perks come from the relationship aspects and consistent access to sex, the sex act is nondifferential.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:41 AM
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Men don’t have to “put up with it” but that just means their chances of having sex are lower. Besides a penis, what else do you have that can’t be offered by a female counterpart? Cause toys exist and women are much more likely to use them than men, so your penis is of even lesser value than my vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:07 PM
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IF she is more sexually adventurous/free with fling (you have no way of knowing, and more likely not true) You can have the fun happy giddy drunk version, set the stage for that. Take your gf out on dates. If you are making a life with someone, yes laundry and taxes are a part of that. Love is taking care of someone and managing a life together, it’s actual work. Effort is a balance of expectations and autonomy. Effort is being communicative of where you are at and what you want moving forward. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:49 PM
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Exactly. Women don’t want to be held to any standard. That’s the whole point. We reject what you define as standards, we have our own definitions of what standards mean and when they are to be applied in what matter that are different than men and yall can’t seem to understand that. Edit to add: you may be getting more enthusiasm, frequency, variety etc but it still not be enough FOR YOU. Have a conversation with your partner about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:06 PM
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Reading and comprehension are things women have to do?? Men don’t have to know how to read and comprehend?? Bar may be low af but will never be that low.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:11 PM
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Exactly…he is “kind of” cute. He’s not some stunning guy like the other commenter is trying to argue. He’s average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:01 PM
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Or you could say that men betrayed both genders by creating and perpetuating the economic system of enslavement that affects both genders as men are the majority gender in positions of power
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:11 AM
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No, it’s just ALMOST getting to the point, but not quite there. Of course I would do the same things for someone I’m interested in dating as someone for hookup, in fact, I will do MORE for the person interested in dating because an escalation in relationship generally comes with more investment. And of course I want a relationship with equal investment, so I would of course expect a man to invest more if wanting to date me vs hookup. That’s the whole point of waiting, to ensure equal emotional i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:46 AM
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Just look up stats for why people get divorced. There are usually a lot of reasons, but the “final straw” is usually infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:58 PM
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If it really came to a men vs women war you can bet your ass women who have never touched a gun would be picking them up. They’d have better organized plans, more cohesive teams, and would probs be better at hiding bombs too cause we been teaching e/o to hide go bags for generations. Women have also historically infiltrated men’s military operations. In the heat men are better shots, but with prep time women are. I don’t think it’d be the landslide domination you are fantasizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 08:14 PM
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I would take vague notions of freedom over a “fully secure society” any day of the week. I mean maybe if we could dispel this illusion of unsafety from “illegals” people would more clearly see the real fear is those who wish to control society. Sure, women would go along with it; if they are forced into it they don’t really have another choice, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:13 PM
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I would say a lot of people by their actions think fun times more indicative of real love. Like if woman thinks relationship all good and he betrays her because he does not give a shit about her as a person by cheating he is valuing the fun times with someone else, and will often for as long as it suits him at least claim that he was really in love with the affair partner all along. He may stay with the woman he betrayed, and even say staying out of love, but again it’s guilt.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:37 PM
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People stay and help during tough times with partners they hate all the time (think bad relationship but one gets sick or in an accident or staying in a marriage “for the children”). That’s not love it’s guilt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:30 PM
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That’s not a preference, that’s a value judgement. A preference is I like chocolate more than vanilla, a value judgement is anyone who prefers vanilla is lesser.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:09 PM
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The lower education would be the biggest swipe left factor; a factor I do not use when swiping for men because I would swipe left on 90% of men. Men generally don’t care if women have lower education and most dont include that as a swipe right factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 09:00 PM
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Yall (not you specifically) could stop with all these bitch posts about not being able to get laid. Women know men want sex. Its posts like this that turn us off ALL men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:31 PM
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Yes women promote it…so do men. It’s a holdover survival strategy for this patriarchal society
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:04 PM
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This is all incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:21 PM
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Well…what are said “standards”?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:54 PM
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That’s just a misrepresentation. In a lot of states adultery cannot be a reason for divorce on paper “irrevocable differences” legal reason, the REAL life reason of what the irrevocable difference is for divorce is most commonly adultery, usually on the part of the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:06 PM
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Also in a majority of cases in which it has been confirmed by the court that he is abusive if he claims “alienation” he will get custody
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:01 PM
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Dating? Not against norms. Hooking up? Maybe more of a norm, but still highly socially shamed for women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 07:58 PM
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You think men would rather marry a smart ugly girl than an average intelligence hot girl? Idts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:17 AM
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Also commenting similar to other commenter/so ups on feed. It’s not even just waiting to settle in 30s or being a single mom. There are also lots of women like me who got married in 20s, after paper was signed he became abusive, left him and now we are “damaged goods” and it takes an actually good man to look past just even “she’s a divorcee”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:54 PM
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I feel like you’re on to something but maybe we have a little different take. I think that women have always known they had a slowly descending looks ceiling, men have either never known their was a ceiling or that their ceiling ascends with age, and now women are less hypergamous due to cultural changes (ie education, work) so they prioritize looks almost as much as men always have so now more men realize that the ceiling is a thing and are real bitter about it (note to get back to premise of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:31 PM
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Is this with the assumption that I knew he was or had been simping for her before starting the relationship with him? Did they have an emotional affair? Did I see him simp hard for her and he doesn’t act the same with me? If so we wouldn’t make it past dating to in a relationship. I think most people wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone pining for someone else. If you haven’t gotten over someone, you shouldn’t be dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:59 PM
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Actions are what matters. Are you going to honor your commitments, cheat, or break up? Is the relationship you’ve built worth throwing away for a chance? There’s no reason to tell your partner except to hurt them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:40 PM
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It may be in some way influenced by globalization/the internet. Most other countries are more permissive sexually and less violently than America, so maybe America is drifting towards those attitudes generally which causes a violent backlash from those who still deeply internalize more American values over global
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:48 PM
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How frequently do you think grandparents are really involved with their grandchildren? “Roughly 20% of grandparents with grandchildren under 18 provide regular childcare, with 8% providing daily or near-daily care” Do you know it is most likely that children will not take care of you when old? “studies show that about 17% of adult children provide care to their parents at some point in their lives”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:52 PM
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To the end goal of having a comfortable, fulfilling, self-actualized life. A house brings comfort and stability, foreseeably for the rest of your life. A career that brings you meaning and joy fulfills you and gives you a purpose in the world. Often people , especially women, get married and have children and lose their sense of identity. They are no longer name they are mom; they don’t know who they are anymore and are not fully fulfilled or self-actualized. Some people will not be without chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:47 PM
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Therein lies the fallacy. People think you reach “the end” when you get married and have children, but then you have many more years of life to live, a larger amount of which your children will be grown up and on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:41 PM
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Both buying/owning a house and building/maintaining a fulfilling career are long term pleasures
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:35 PM
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No never gone completely. You can clean something and still has some particles, but in the example if the issues have been worked on that would be more self assuredness, more awareness, less codependency, less insecure than the can that has been passed through many hands but never licked and never done any work on themselves. To try to exhaust this analogy one is a rebrand with a superior product, one is a rebrand with the same product.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:56 PM
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Yes, and that would be applicable to a woman who is freshly separated and has done no work on herself both mentally and physically. In that case one would reach for the unlicked one. You did not answer my question if it was cleaned to even cleaner than the unlicked one (is now a more stable person, better partner, and hotter than the never licked can) would you still pick the one that has never been licked solely because it has never been licked even if the other can is by all other measures a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:39 PM
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If both sodas were $1, one was licked but then cleaned/sanitized is the soda now the same value since it is (even cleaner!) than the other soda, or is it still less value because it was licked once?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:21 PM
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If both sodas were $1, one was licked but then cleaned/sanitized is the soda now the same value since it is (even cleaner!) than the other soda, or is it still less value?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:20 PM
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So the man was justified in being abusive because something about her? You don’t think that virgin when married perfect housewives etc are ever abused?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:04 PM
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So that persons value is forever less because of actions taken against them, not their own actions, and their actions are of no value? (Leaving, going to therapy, “glow up” etc) 1/3 of women (that’s just partner violence not even other forms) are less value because a man got insecure and violent because “he doesn’t deserve you”?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:01 PM
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So if a woman has a low body count, no golddigging tendencies, married for years then leaves the man because he abused her, she is no longer high value because she was abused??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:46 PM
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Yeah I think when you said insecure a better framing than feeling intimidated by partner. They feel like they are not needed so they get insecure. Or they idealize you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:46 PM
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Relationship stability comes down to dedication and constraints. Generally, the same restraints apply to both people in the couple (marriage, children etc) but men score lower in dedication (are more likely to cheat) thus if the man likes the woman more relationships work better
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:34 PM
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Men place women at 0 and work up to 100. Women place men at 100 and work down to 0. Men will fuck anything but have to earn thought of being gf, wife, mother. Women see men as possible of all those roles, but their actions as time progresses show they do not deserve to fill those roles. This can even be applied to other social aspects eg. Women clawing their way to the glass ceiling, and men’s outrage at women in high level positions- it is posed as women generally aren’t good enough, the except…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:48 PM
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Please provide source for “scientific observation” that women more likely to get pregnant from rape than consensual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:22 PM
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So your argument is that is perfectly acceptable for a woman to be in a relationship with a man who says sex is a need and she never has sex with him and expects him to not have sex with anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:01 AM
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This whole argument fails. You can say a lot of things that work in theory, but not reality. You can say: sex is a need, I don’t support sexual slavery BUT because sex is a need I require my partner to sex with me every day. So actively creating a sexual slavery relationship while saying you don’t support it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:31 PM
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Why would you not want to be her Prince Charming? I mean a lot of stuff I see recently is like “if he won’t, another man will” which, as you have pointed out with the expanded socials circles created by the internet, is pretty true. This also points to the fact that if a woman likes a guy she will usually give him a chance to prove his intentions and how he will treat her. I would say that women often get a concept of a man who treats her well from social media (particularly TikTok with those “i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:35 PM
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Gently, speaking to a therapist may be a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:41 PM
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I guess what I don’t get is why people think it is better/easier to mentally rectify a fundamental change in relationships and your priority level then to come into a relationship with full knowledge and understanding of their role in the unit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:58 PM
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Yeah I mean single parents; sorry wasn’t clear
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:40 PM
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What if the person has children? Shouldn’t their child be the most special person in their world? And like if you know absolutely nothing about this person then why would you think they are special with no information on who they are? You need to date first before deciding if they are special or not to you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 08:59 PM
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I feel like men often say the exact opposite when it comes to porn. They often say they have no longing for the women or the acts, it’s not emotional at all, just works to get off
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 06:49 PM
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So you are arguing that men should have social control over women’s sexual behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 06:23 PM
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What is the significant difference of a woman buying a bagel or giving a hug compared to the same from a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:46 PM
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One should only hold oneself to one’s personal standards, not the standards of others, including one’s partner. It is not disrespectful to a partner to have different standards. If such a big issue, the “standard” should be discussed in explicit detail before marriage; you know what they say about assuming…Standards can changed based on life changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:40 PM
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Are you only attracted to a very specific type of woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:07 AM
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Obvi I can’t speak for all women, but I often find myself just imagining normal people during most sex scenes in books and the magic is more for the story. Like sometimes the book will say something about like his wings or something and I’m like oh yeah their supposed to be like a half man/half bat thing and can even take out of moment a bit; I am sure there are women who specifically find that hot tho
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:19 PM
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But like what thoughts are going through head at the time? Like maybe that’s just what I don’t understand is how just the act is enough. Like would ugly people doing the same act have the same effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:15 PM
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Maybe I just don’t get how other people view porn. Cause if not fantasizing about the people involved then fantasizing about doing the act with someone I know, which arguably could be worse. Like just looking at porn just like ok people fucking…and…?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:51 PM
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So more about content than context? Like reading not necessarily weird just the themes that are often associated with those types of books? Like what if it was about a normal couple who fell in love, fucked, had a baby lived happily ever after?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:43 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:20 PM
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How do you feel they are different? How would you even know their thoughts during watching it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:20 PM
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Why do you find smut weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:17 PM
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I’m confused by your comment (honest/earnest to learn tho pls) anyone having sex on video is porn right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 08:57 PM
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Trying to follow logic here…something along the lines of fantasizing is OK, but fetishizing not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 08:09 PM
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JC how like people on roster would count into this? Like if I slept with someone in 2023 then again in 2024 would I only count them for 2023 when they were new or both years?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 08:05 PM
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Why would you consider that a flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:59 PM
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There is a difference between what she likes for porn and how she acts in reality sexually. Are you the only man she has ever fucked? If not don’t be obtuse and answer the questions actually asked. Would you be ok with your girlfriend watching videos of her and an ex bf fucking?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:49 PM
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I’m confused…why do you think smut is worse than porn, and how does world building factor into opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:30 PM
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Audio porn is very popular with women, and yes some men get self conscious/jealous of men with deep voices
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:28 PM
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Or there are different interpretations of hookup? Like maybe one person considers a long term FWB a hookup, but other people don’t and only consider ONS as hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 10:56 PM
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Why do you think she does not value him due to less passion? There are completely sexless relationships in which the partners highly value each other
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:39 PM
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What pressure is she putting on him? How is she being disrespectful?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:31 PM
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What are you implying by “concessions”? What concessions do you see him making? Cause the way it reads comes off as engaging in sex acts she does not want to do and sexual assault by coercion. There is a big difference between being manipulated into something you don’t want to do and being turned down for something you want to do with a specific person
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:17 PM
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Maybe people should not discuss private sexual moments without the explicit consent of their partner to do so 🤷‍♀️ then would never have this problem if people keep private actions private.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:30 PM
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that you feel is unjustly denied to you That, right there is the issue. Male entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:37 PM
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If I may I ask, how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 02:16 AM
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In your example the woman asked repeatedly for sex; this is asserting pressure and attempting to persuade someone to engage in a sexual act. The flip side of “to make her happy” is - to avoid any negative repercussions of her being unhappy with your choice to not have sex. They do not WANT to, so you have received assent not consent due to coercion. I think would maybe be a little different if only asked once and partner didn’t really want to but did truly just to make them happy with no fear of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 01:26 AM
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Can someone explain to me WHY the OP and various men commenters have a problem with the child being #1 priority? I am a woman who has yet to have children dating a man who has them, and my thoughts are OF COURSE the child should be prioritized above me. If he prioritized BM above me that I would take issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:33 AM
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Could you elaborate on the “awe sweetie” rejection part? Like sounds like a gentle(ish?) let down, but what are the actual reasons for rejection? Trying to figure out by rest of comment…based on financial situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 10:41 PM
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100% on point
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 08:17 PM
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My favorite twist, and find it most accurate on this is “you can have it all…but you cannot have it all at once”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 07:47 PM
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Asking v telling is a big deal because it plays into general relationship dynamics. Ideally should feel safe to say no in either situation, but (and this may be coming from my personal interest in control dynamics) wanna fuck tonight? Like ight guess sounds good vs imma fuck the shit out of you tonight exciting and sounds like they are more excited to do it not like just dealing with a “need” makes it feel more like duty sex than sex because feel highly desired by partner
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 08:49 PM
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I would say that discussing it before in the moment is the way to go. Like I really wanna kiss you when I see you next, or would you be interested in trying X? I agree turn off in the moment; makes things awkward. Asking generally where want to eat may put on pressure; may be better to offer some options. The AC thing 🤷‍♀️ I have to say there is also some finesse in way of asking to keep it hot. The way you say it/body language. Eg blurt out and look away vs whisper and eye contact. As for the n…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:32 PM
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