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It's not that hard to speak a language you're not fluent in, rather than adapt the kind each partner enjoys, you could have partners being mindful of the kind of affection the other wants. Fiancé associates platonic touch and acts of service with love, curling up with him after sex isn't difficult even if it's not my first instinct and cooking his favourite foods isn't hard. Fiancé knows I like to be thought of, he generally gets lemon scented cleaning products because while I know it isn't logi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 11:58 PM
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Pill didn't change my drive but I didn't get as wet it could be uncomfortable without lube so less spontaneity, no problems with the implant though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:02 PM
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The difference is in the desirability of the options. Sex with a man they aren't attracted to is generally viewed by most women as a worse option than masturbation. So the option is worse than the default state. Sex with a woman they aren't attracted to is often viewed by men as a preferable option to the default state. So the option is better than the default state. The overall difference in type of sex drive is what makes the analogy work, it's comparing joyless sex to joyless sex, using unatt…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 03:12 AM
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This is male dissonance. The job is generally an improvement over being unemployed. Sex with a guy I'm not attracted to instead of masturbating is an option in the same way throwing my tablet out my window instead of putting it on charge is an option. I could use that option but I can't think of any advantages to it. Most men in a dry spell would go for sex with someone they don't find very attractive over masturbating, most women wouldn't. The option is essentially a non-option while it is tech…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 03:02 AM
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It doesn't and you start hitting problems with individual preferences, it's fair to say that most women aren't attracted to most men, but the portion they are attracted to doesn't necessarily overlap that much. People are rating their attraction levels on OKCupid not the averageness of the other. I think Colin Morgan's cute, he does nothing for me sexually. I'm not generally attracted to blonds or blue eyes, I'm not into hairless chests, or muscles in HD but I am very into that V, dark eyes and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 02:31 AM
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I don't think that's true, I think men might be more likely to perpetuate extreme physical violence eg punching holes in walls etc. But more covert abuse such as extreme nagging and verbal degradation can be just as damaging and women do their fair share of general physical violence. That girl that talked her bf into killing himself was just as responsible as a guy shoving a woman down the stairs, possibly more so as she had the express intention of killing him and the second is debatable. Peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 11:36 AM
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Just anecdotal and it didn't quite cross the line into abuse, but a few years ago I dated a guy who didn't have much experience and wasn't very hot. He was fine before we got together, but he built up this amazing image of me in his head that no one could live up to, an idea that if he got a gf all his own issues would go away, and he knew that I was getting attention from hotter guys every time I stepped outside. After the honeymoon phase which lasted all of 2 months, he felt like he'd been dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 11:22 AM
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Never been in an abusive relationship, but I was in one edging that way. Not the most attractive guy I dated, but he put me so high on a pedestal that the only way I could go was down and it would be a long fall. He knew a lot of guys were hotter and smarter than him and he'd struggle to get another me so he started obsessing over where I was going and who would be there. IMO insecurity tends to lead to more controlling behaviours than attractiveness, if they feel like a good option then they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 11:08 AM
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Not American, but personally I'm not for mass-sterilisation, I don't want children abused or starving. Free contraception and subsidised abortion is a lot cheaper than supporting more children on welfare. I'm not against welfare, I just think that job seekers and other people claiming it should be expected to do what they can, if they are genuinely seeking employment they'll have something to stick on the CV, people want respect and if they are doing something for the community in exchange for '…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/17 12:43 PM
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If you read what I wrote, I'm completely aware that a lot of my male friends would like to sleep with me, and a lot of men are pretty honest about it. Most of the single ones would prefer to be FwithB, but we get on well and are happy with FwithoutB as they do value the friendship but would also value sex if it was on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 10:35 PM
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Depends on the bar and time of day, there's a couple around me that do cheap meals and drinks at lunchtimes and has a mix of students and young professionals, it wouldn't be unusual to be hit on there, but friendly conversation's also common. Also not sure if it's the same in the USA, but SU bars could generally go either way. (UK) There also some clubs with quieter areas with tables/booths and I'd still assume getting hit on but people do just chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 05:43 PM
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You can value someone as a friend and still be dft. Most of my single guy friends would be up for benefits if I'm became single, that doesn't mean they are just waiting around hoping for it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 05:36 PM
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Fiance sometimes simply gets the exact outfit shown in a magazine but just gets a different colour shirt. The style really depends on where you go, but clothes that fit are a huge thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 07:37 AM
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Eh, personally a 6 with a great personality can be very hot, much hotter than a 10, but if we're talking about a 4 then it's just a guy who'd be a good friend. I've never slept with someone I didn't like, but I've also never slept with great guys who were physically unattractive to start with, if they don't hit my minimum requirement I'll think more of them for it, but (even when I was single) it wouldn't have gotten them anywhere sexually, or romantically. OTOH I have turned down physical 10s f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 07:25 AM
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It doesn't seem that long to me, but personally I've really varied on that, it was after/during the first date with my first (I was 14), then probably 30th-ish maybe with my second (I was 16), around 15 with my third (I was 18) and then my best friend (now fiancé) took me to lunch, then dinner, then dancing on Valentine's day which I considered to be our first date and I was dft whenever wherever, but he didn't realise we were dating for another couple of months. If I already know them really we…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 08:55 PM
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No I wouldn't get them tested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/17 04:00 PM
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The first has only women in shape that aren't too old and has old men and overweight men, all nude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/17 10:09 AM
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I think it's also largely that women, me included, are more likely to value intangibles. I could get better pay, but flexi-time, telecommuting, free membership to one gym and cheaper membership to another, discounted insurance (UK so not such a big deal), a short commute, nice office environment, really good location etc. I'd rather get paid a little less and have a job that fits around my life than vice-versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/17 11:58 PM
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It might be a random number or it might be a play off 0.05 as the boundary in scientific research when it comes to significance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/17 05:25 PM
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I'm guessing she would go for the 7 over the 9 and be the hottest that 7 has ever been with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 08:38 AM
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Or make him more attached to the relationship and obsess over it further.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/16 09:37 PM
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It's a range but I fall fairly heavily towards the stereotypical Jane on this, fiancé is a Jake. He's very thoughtful but when he starts his Christmas shopping it really is completely from scratch with no idea and he's gotten much much better at it. Our first Xmas I got given boxes of laundry capsules because he knew I liked them better than powder but didn't want to pay the extra cost (money was tight at the time) and he'd seen them on offer. It might not have been what I wanted, but he put ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/16 03:20 PM
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I think it's mostly a combination of social aptitude, subject knowledge, subjectivity and shopping/browsing tendencies. Subject knowledge is the difference between a gift that she won't use (that's otherwise amazing) and one she'll love, for example her favourite colour might not be flattering in terms of clothing or I have a friend who knits and US and UK needle sizes are different. I think women are a little more careful about this than guys. Social aptitude is about picking up that they like …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/16 02:57 PM
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It's probably more that there is video from only some of the players and it doesn't specify that the video is from the alleged non consensual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/16 05:51 PM
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Contraception lies would be hard to prove but I'd definitely be happy to consider a prison sentence. It should cut down on 'forgetfulness'. Rape by fraud had a couple of cases of people entering (generally unlawfully) someone's bedroom and initiating sex with a sleeping partner, knowing that the person would assume they were their SO. There was a case when a man argued it wasn't rape because she didn't resist, but her consent (lack of rejection) was to sex with her bf not to sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:04 AM
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I meant there I'd only heard any serious talk about cases involving impersonating someone's SO. People lie to get laid, but IMO contraception, disease and sneaking into someone's bedroom are 'rape' lies, because they're integral to consent, most other stuff like money, job etc isn't integral. Sometimes it's fine to be very generous with the truth. I know there's a punishment for HIV but I think there should be something for STDs even if you don't 'successfully' infect your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 12:53 AM
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I think I heard about people with (known) STDs and rape by fraud (impersonation), I'm fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 12:31 AM
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I've known him since we were children and I rank facial attraction very highly and height fairly low, I prefer guys who are taller than me but it's nowhere near a deal breaker. He conforms very closely to my type runner build, dark eyes, slim fingers, his features are very symmetrical even if his jaw is sightly narrow. His stutter I'd consider to be a negative to most people, but after 20 years I barely notice it and he barely stutters when we're alone. The 10 was considered very hot by everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/16 10:53 PM
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They're still physically attractive, I've dated 10s and am engaged to a 5/6 who is my type and whose flaws are aspects I rate lowly (so is at least a 7 to me), but even single I didn't go for 4s or 5s who were flawed in aspects I rate very highly (eyes etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/16 12:10 PM
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Yes, I feel zero or very close to it dread.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/16 08:27 PM
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I'd say she has an advantage due to the gender ratio in her workplace. Also while there is a wage gap it's largely misinterpreted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/16 09:18 AM
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The pudgy guy's face is fine, hate the bone structure on the previous guy tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/16 09:09 AM
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Men and women having different tendencies is an accepted fact in mainstream (what TRP calls blue) society, some people disagree, but on the whole people agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/16 09:22 AM
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I'm not in denial, having a preference doesn't make someone picky, going to extremes to get that preference does. Attraction is largely visual, so looking is 'trying' in this respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 05:21 PM
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But if her preference wasn't available she'd go for something else. I've never bought red wine for myself and will always go for white or rose if they are equally open, I'm not picky because I will drink the red but it's never my top pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 06:33 AM
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But in the bar analogy the white is also open so she constantly has the choice of a 6 or a 10 and people will always pick the best offer over an offer that they'd otherwise take.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/16 09:08 PM
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It depends, it seems harsh for the majority of false accusations (which don't accuse anyone) but I wouldn't be against it for those that do. It would have to be a provably deliberate false accusation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/16 06:37 AM
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No, I'm not religious and given the importance of sex in most relationships there's also the risk of complete incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/16 06:30 AM
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If I go to my friend's house and there's a bottle of red open I'll have a glass with dinner. If I go to my friend's house and she asks me to pick something from the bottle rack, I'll ignore it and go for a white.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/16 10:03 PM
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Yes and no. The methods to gain facts can be -ist (testing intelligence across cultures), the interpretation can be sexist/racist (low IQ=low intelligence) and the presentation and usage of facts can be biased/sexist/racist. E.g. Men are generally better at maths than women (fairly accepted fact) and there are more male accountants than female. These are facts and not sexist. Now let's say we have 5 applicants for 2 jobs, 2 men and 3 women. Bob is okay at math but has always worked very hard and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/16 11:05 PM
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My fiancé always lets me know if he'll be back late, I sometimes let him know.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/16 09:42 AM
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Varies, I don't like it either way but it ranges from a mildly unpleasant 'ouch' without interrupting sex off BC to curling up in a ball and feeling like throwing up on BC.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 08:31 AM
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They have very poor viability ratio so better freeze lots.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 06:12 PM
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You're making the assumption that this is a dominant x-linked allele based on...?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/16 08:40 PM
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She was an hourglass though, clothes that fit a size 6 might be right for her waist, but if her T&A doesn't fit they're going to have to go up a size. A lot of women have this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 06:03 AM
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Chico's very good looking, not a fan of the facial hair. IDK about Sean some photos of him are very appealing to me others...not so much. The other 2 look good but not my thing particularly Jordan, they're very nice looking but no.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/16 10:36 PM
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That's not the bit that's confusing me. Gene mutations pop up spontaneously and you can't guarantee this one popping up anytime soon. You also run into the issue that these guys carrying the gene aren't competing with women but with other men. These 2 men have to be successful to make the gene count as evolution is about the gene frequency of the population. If this gene is carried on the Y chromosome all you need is for one generation to produce no men and you've lost it. Assuming that each guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/16 07:06 PM
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How/why would evolution change the birth ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/16 06:01 PM
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If an unattractive guy gets told he's going to get sex with a hot girl, he probably expects PiV. There is variation, but in this scenario the guy in question is likely to want and push for PiV because that's what he probably wants most and is fairly standard for hetero encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/16 11:12 PM
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Assuming that I somehow know in advance that the beating won't go any further I'd pick the beating. It would probably be initially more traumatising but I wouldn't have to be complicit in hurting myself. I enjoy sex, I don't get into fights so the beating wouldn't taint something I enjoy the same way the rape would. There's no stigma to being beaten up whereas saying that a guy told you to bend over and you did without actual use of violence carries some. It would also be harder to prove. I've b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/16 03:09 PM
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Yes, my sister is a SAHM, and she works harder than I do. People make snide comments but growing organic, cooking completely from scratch, raising animals, selling some of it and taking care of her family and home takes time and a lot of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 06:37 AM
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24 Caucasian (some Asian ancestry, but blonde and blue-eyed so..) UK Single Christian Underclass Class isn't always as flexible in the UK as in the US, there is an element of heritability. Working class to upper class depending on whom you ask. An honour's degree from a well-reputed university and an accidental Open degree from the OU.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:50 PM
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Coworkers who want the same promotion?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/16 02:32 AM
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Not really. I've been a bit friendlier than I'd normally be to get free drinks on occasion or get extra things covered under my insurance, but I've never really led anyone on and I don't get as flirty as my brother does. I wouldn't say I use it as a weapon. Never withheld sex as a weapon, but there was an incident with an ex where we went nearly a week without because I was completely overworked and too stressed and somewhat annoyed at him to even think about being in the mood. There's maintenan…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 10:17 PM
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If she's very introverted styling herself and going to a bar is the last thing she'll do, ime half the time she'll be interested in a guy friend who's theoretically in her league but hasn't realised that she has boobs. Also the bar thing seems more like a ONS tactic than a way to get a bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/16 05:54 AM
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I disagree if she's average, doesn't style herself and is introverted or too weird she won't get attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/16 05:35 AM
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But the idea of competition is that each side uses what they have. It might be fairer to make different leagues for them, but when competing in the same competition it makes no sense to hinder the more able.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 04:47 PM
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Sports isn't the analogy I'd like but I'm trying to express the idea of seeing performance before any other factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 04:44 PM
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So if my little sister and I sat an English literature A-level it would be unfair because she'd beat me every time?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 12:55 PM
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A lot of us want blind submissions, where the name is removed from the CV until after first round selection. The equivalent would be picking players by baskets scored before seeing their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 12:50 PM
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However IRL they would probably play in different leagues. Because C's height is a natural advantage and his experience is something he's chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 06:44 AM
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....because you don't want one enough to invest in improving your job prospects enough, it doesn't fit in with your lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/16 07:00 AM
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I don't think it's an epidemic. However while I'm anti fat-discrimination (so long as you're functional), fat is a minus to how attractive you are. I know a girl who's a little overweight (bmi of about 27 with a fair bit of muscle), she has a small waist, big chest and most of the fat has gone into her ass. A guy I know has a slight layer of fat over muscle, but you can still see his shape and some muscle under there. Both of these people do well with the opposite sex. 'Blobfat' when the muscle …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/16 06:19 AM
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Given that more men want casual sex with strangers than women, I assume that if this ratio was reversed and men were outnumbered, then a 6 would be just as likely to pick a 6 as a 10, and if not he'd be saying he's completely unattracted to the 6?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/16 05:45 AM
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Given that he's commenting on a porn site I'm guessing sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 09:37 PM
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"that he finds the matter — including the exploitation of primary school girls" Primary school starts at 5 and ends at 12 in Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 06:18 PM
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Are you seriously blaming the under-12s?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 03:16 PM
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No, because they own the copyright unless an agreement is made.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 02:55 PM
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I don't support this idea, but while women might do a higher percentage of childcare it doesn't necessarily increase the hypothetical hours she spends doing it. Originally Sue spends 30 hours watching the kid, Bob spends 10 hours watching the kid. Amy and Jake have 2 kids, Amy spends 30 hours, Jake 10. In the second scenario there might be 3 kids instead of 1, but Sue now only spends 20 hours watching all 3 and Amy spends 20 hours watching all 3. The women have changed from doing 80% of childcar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 01:09 PM
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Because it's a hypothetical and people are generally attached to their friends and friends can disagree with your choices without being bad friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 11:11 PM
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But it's pretty hard for someone who already knows you not to notice, the full works is cost prohibitive and limited when it comes to reducing bone structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 10:29 PM
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It's not cheap and it carries a pretty big stigma that you don't get if you have a passable face that just needs a little touching up or dieting or dressing to flatter. Although the stigma might be greater here (UK) than in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 10:06 PM
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It depends on facial structure, you can cover up a lot with make up and soften various features, but if you have a big nose or asymmetry and a wide jaw to work with you can only do so much. Thai ladyboys generally have relatively feminine faces to begin with. With make up and a wig he could be a really cute girl. On the left I can't do much about the length of her face, a soft layered hair cut should help with the nose, I could colour-balance and contour her face, maybe try lining her up lip in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 09:54 PM
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I don't think it's that bad, but what you choose to wear to accept an award makes a statement about you. If you can't handle criticism don't wear anything controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/16 04:44 AM
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Actually 2 low calorie days of one meal (c.600-800 cal.) a week can work really well. Not my preference, but you can build muscle (I only know runners who do it so I can't vouch for bulk). Although I don't think she was being serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/16 04:38 AM
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My sister's first went unnoticed/undiagnosed until 5 months, it was during her competition season so low body fat meant there wasn't enough Hcg to trigger a positive on a pregnancy test. Symptoms only started appearing after she went back to lower intensity exercise for the off-season. There wasn't a bump and at 4 months the baby was tucked neatly in behind her 6 pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/16 04:32 AM
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I think you misread the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 11:22 PM
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Are they only not stacking up because she's doing them though? We tried leaving his dishes by the sink, asking him to do them etc. He just wouldn't pick up after himself, wouldn't help clean the communal areas etc. In the end he had 4 washing-up bowls of dirty dishes and 2 laundry baskets of things he left in the living room/kitchen when he failed inspection he was mad because we helped each other clear up but didn't help him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 01:50 PM
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Yes, it's done all the time. E.g. I've noticed that students that have more friends are better at maths. To operationalise it/make it test able you simply state how you are going to measure 'number of friends' and 'better at maths'. Example hypothesis: students who have report having more friends will score higher on their maths GCSEs than students who report fewer friendships. Cue correlation coefficients, critical values and scattergrams.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/16 08:48 PM
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A large factor IMO is that guys don't generally like guys who want their gf. Also combination of the gf venting more than she should to friends, jealousy, guys being nice to their gf and not to others, the occasional asshole and some 'jerks'.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/16 05:02 PM
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1, 3, 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 05:44 PM
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It's neither they threw in female characters to gain audience appeal. It's just a bad film.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 05:28 PM
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Bluepill, single with a FWB. The single biggest issue I've noticed with girls and dating is change, a lot seem to swing too far in either direction, the girl who changes completely for every guy that she dates and the one who doesn't want to compromise because she doesn't want to change herself for a guy. There's a nice healthy middle ground, find it. Figure out your priorities before you have to make a decision. Where do kids, career etc. fit in. If either of you have a course requiring oversea…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 08:12 PM
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My 'full-time' job is basically handling companies' data and making presentations. I also do some freelance things. I'm good at it, I don't mind it and the pay and benefits are great. Men tend to take pay into account more than intangible benefits like flexitime which is a major criterion for me. No, I make more than six figures a year, I enjoy my spare time and earn more than I need now. The pay doesn't matter that much within limits of course. Hypothetically yes, but my current job suits me re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 07:05 PM
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I'm pretty neutral it can feel really good but the slightest bit too hard and my eyes water and it really really hurts
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 11:59 AM
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They have separate money, I find it odd that she would hide the forms if it was something that would destroy their relationship rather than completely get rid of them. Hypothetically she might be keeping them to try and convince herself to get a fertility test as the possible procedures are often used to treat things that might cause infertility the same way people in debt might not open a bill but not throw it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 07:45 AM
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One difference at least is that in post 1 it's not even confirmed that she had an abortion as opposed to a miscarriage or endometriosis etc. which have the same procedures (and show up on bills) as abortions. Also most posts are telling him to go talk to his wife although like always some posters go too far. If they were early term miscarriages then she probably should have told him, if they were abortions than he has every right to be angry, it could just be a generic health issue, but talking …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 11:35 PM
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I'm guessing trial and error, online reviews, or surveying previous sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 11:10 PM
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Okay, one of the links you've provided is to datingadvice.com that same site (which you've used as an example of a site providing mainstream advice) has at least one advising men to get fit to improve their dating/sex life. There you go a link to a mainstream dating website it as advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 10:45 PM
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The implication is that it is so blindingly obvious that most people wouldn't tell you. If you asked me how to make a cup of tea I wouldn't tell you to plug in the kettle, assuming you have an iota of common sense and have used an appliance before. Given that mainstream dating advice for women doesn't generally include things like using deodorant, is it therefore fair to assume (by your logic) that using deodorant isn't common sense when trying to attract a guy? Please find a mainstream article …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 08:53 PM
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It's unusual but in my relationships I've always been the one with a higher drive and I've never seen much attraction in a partner who's not that into it. I see no problem with prostitution, but most women enjoy sex for its own sake and I think that relationships that are sexually compatible tend to be happier relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 05:28 PM
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3, 2, 1, 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 05:22 PM
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I agree somewhat, incels want to be wanted and being able to get sex makes men feel good about themselves, given that men tend to want casual sex more than women do so being able to get sex as a woman doesn't say anything good about them, mostly just that they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 08:07 PM
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Not completely hardwired but partially and women tend to want more close friendships than men do when in a relationship, so the ease of obtaining sex and social support outside of a relationship means that being single as a girl isn't always that bad. I actually replied to 8 ads and got 7 replies that weren't just after friendship (unlike stated in the ads) first, so I created an ad that made it clear I had a completely monogamous boyfriend I was living with and was looking for friends with abso…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 04:57 PM
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Lower active (as opposed to passive) sex drive and less interest in casual sex (generally speaking), also women may find it easier to be single. I actually made a similar type of ad (not on reddit) when my ex and I moved looking for new people to hangout and possibly be friends with and about 40% were outright sexual/romantic offers and the few I met up with seemed mostly interested in more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 04:43 PM
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I don't think it should be taught about in school particularly, maybe brushed over. But I agree with upping the sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 12:01 PM
8

A lot of responders are hoping for more and replying can lead to men thinking you're interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 11:58 AM
1

I think they're actually talking about the woman mentioned in the post who claimed to be male and had sex with someone with a strap on. The post mistakenly refers to them as a man with a prosthetic penis, it's a link to an article on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 06:32 AM
1

In that particular case he admitted it but there was an issue in the beginning because she wasn't married to her boyfriend and the law referred to husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 10:28 PM
7

Because she didn't consent to sex with him, he admitted that he knew she thought he was her boyfriend. If Dave says he's a CEO but is really a bus driver, I'd still have consented to sex with Dave. If Dave comes into my bedroom at night and initiates sex with me while I'm sleeping knowing I think he's my bf Bob then it's rape because I haven't consented to sex with Dave.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 12:21 PM
4

Yes and no, lying about your job isn't rape by deception, however I'd consider pretending to be someone's boyfriend as Julio Morales did to be rape by fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 06:55 AM
3

To an extent but a lot of guys wear clothes that don't fit right and ruin their silhouette. When girls do the same thing they might not specifically think about the lack of waist as a result of a too tight bra and baggy top but they'll still be less attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 06:16 AM
1

If the date went well I might kiss him. If not then I'd assume it would happen in the next couple of dates. But my dating history is unusual so everything's always escalated pretty fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/16 06:07 AM
1

Not an expert, but vibes can be fun and I don't know any vibe-sexuals. It feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 10:39 PM
0

None of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 08:10 AM
1

Yes and no. Most couples in most circumstances wouldn't be happy. Assuming that they both have insanely low sex drives then they might both be satisfied. If they're young/old, are sexually satisfied by other actions or waiting for marriage they might be okay. Personally it would depend if it was no sex, which I'm pretty sure I could deal with relatively easily, or no sexual activity (mutual masturbation, bjs etc) in which case if they were able but unwilling I would have a problem. I've dealt in…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 08:56 PM
1

Given that he is focusing on actual strength building rather than just aesthetics, there's a chance he at least somewhat enjoys the gym and wouldn't otherwise spend the time working.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 04:53 AM
2

Using this definition my FWB relationship isn't casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 10:30 AM
3

I'd be fine with it, I've asked for a test before sex in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/16 09:55 PM
1

I don't think paying for sex is pathetic, I think you should be careful picking. I don't know; here in the UK at least most hot women aren't chasing money/status, they want guys who hit a minimum level of attractiveness, who they like, a job is often a requirement but doesn't need to be super high-powered/paid and are interesting and personable for the most part. Some women want other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 06:42 AM
2

It's violation, context and bodily autonomy. If you have a prostate exam which is emotionally meaningless to you, then it doesn't make it okay for a man (non-violently) to immobilise you and put things in your arse even though it's the same basic mechanism. A lot of meaning is contextual. I let my dentist drug me and put things in my mouth, if a random stranger drugged me and put things in my mouth I'd feel pretty violated by the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 10:20 AM
1

Yes, used well. Depends on the degree etc. I've engaged in minor deception that I wouldn't call immoral. Not very much. Moral: I have read/seen that book/film, I want to go to that concert, faking confidence, saying losing your virginity didn't really hurt when your bf is hesitant to have sex a second time etc. Immoral: I'm on the pill, I've had a vasectomy, I don't have any STDs (or simply not informing them you do), I'm not married (or not saying you are), I'm pregnant, I'm dying etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 09:46 AM
2

I rarely completely cut contact with a friend who's fallen in love with me. Most of the time, I let them know I am definitely not interested and won't be in the future and give the friendship a little time to cool off. Usually we'll still be friends by the end of it, but I've lost some friends who weren't very close. There were a couple of exceptions, a guy who I'd only known for a month and a guy who kept holding out for more where I said it was probably better if we didn't see each other anymo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 07:10 AM
2

I've only been ghosted twice, but I think it's better to let people know the relationship isn't going to continue. You don't have to have some longwinded weepy conversation, but it's almost always better to say something. Has she tried explaining her intentions and maybe apologising?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 07:08 AM
1

Personally there is a point where standards override orientation. I'd pick a clean healthy woman over a man with really bad hygiene or who is very old or insanely obese....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 10:44 PM
1

Not redpill, but the best thread on redpillwomen (imo) Teams have different roles, you don't need to play the same one. Also be supportive and don't nag. I love anything with self-improvement in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 03:48 PM
2

If you include so-called soft dread i.e. going for a run, trying out a new shade of tinted lip balm, then I casually dreaded everyone I've ever dated relentlessly. If we're talking medium-hard dread, not really, I had one relationship a few years ago (I was 17 or 18) where it really wasn't working out. He was great until he wasn't, so as a last-ditch attempt I pointed out that I had options and engaged in 'dread' for a week. It failed. (I went out without him every night [he was invited] and wen…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 03:07 PM
13

Being a RPW isn't about being weak, or being unable to function alone, it's about becoming more feminine and nurturing. Taking the more submissive part in a relationship with a man they respect and trust to make the right decisions. Learning skills like cooking and being supportive. It's not about obeying random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 05:18 PM
1

There's often a slight cool down after the first 4 months, but I've never had a relationship drop below twice a week (8ish if you count BJs and other orgasms) apart from short term separations like family holidays etc. My FWB and I have been having sex on and off for years and neither of us are bored yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 05:08 PM
1

When you're told there are plenty of fish in the sea, we're not saying try every kind, just that the fish you've got isn't your only option. That's not true, most men are pretty happy to have sex with their gfs. You're not happy as is, it's not going to magically fix itself, he's not going to fix it, I'd leave. I don't know your circumstances but while I disagree that a relationship can't be romantic without sex, if I was in a relationship that was sexless without reason in most circumstances, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 05:00 PM
1

I don't particularly aim for femininity, but I do have some feminine traits. I often cook for family/friends, curve in the right places, tend to sympathise before I troubleshoot, I like clothes, my skincare takes half an hour (I don't use toner to rebalance pH), I do have amazing skin though, I bake and decorate cakes, I knit. I'm polite to most people and at least civil/polite to all but 4 people. I'm considered reasonably nurturing. I wear tinted lip balm daily and almost always wear mascara. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 04:48 PM
2

Have you seen how many people (women) find Benedict Cumberbatch and/or Alan Rickman insanely attractive, when visually they aren't particularly special?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 04:23 PM
2

See Benedict Cumberbatch and Alan Rickman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 04:21 PM
4

I don't plan out everything I do in detail, but I know what clubs are like. If I can't cope with being in that environment and being faithful then I shouldn't go, but either way cheating is a choice. TBH if I didn't trust a partner not to cheat in that environment or decide not to go if there was any doubt in his mind, then either our relationship would need serious work, or we'd break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 08:03 AM
1

Yes, we started bringing each other stuff in primary school before we ever slept together and when we were in secondary school coffee joined the list(I'n pretty sure before I turned 14). We've been friends since we were 4, so while we're not absolute best friends(we don't spend time together when one of us is in a relationship), we trust each other the most and when one of us has a crisis we tend to call the other. He brings it to me more often now because we rarely met up very early in the morn…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 08:06 AM
1

It really depends on the relationship, my FWB is always bringing me coffee because I love coffee. I cook breakfast for him and pack a lunch for him when he stays over (3-5 nights a week), but if he started buying a random girl who barely knew him coffee, or I started cooking for a random colleague it would be really weird and creepy. Small favours like getting down the book, or holding the door open are very low investment and something that's pretty normal to do for a complete stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 07:12 AM
1

I slut-shamed my friend's ex because she was manipulative, cheated on him and gave him an STD, I have nothing against people having casual sex and have casual sex myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 07:03 AM
1

Probably paying attention to what they liked. A lot of guys get focused on what they think girls like in bed, which is often either what they've read or what their ex liked. I orgasm very easily from sex, internal stimulation works a lot better for me than clitoral, a lot of guys (trying to help) focus on clitoral after being told that actually the girl they're with would prefer otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 07:00 AM
2

Personally I try not to use the word, but there was one girl who hit on my ex (while we were together) then didn't back off when he said he was seeing someone. My friend's ex cheated on him and I think slut is the nicest word I used given that she was a manipulative hell bitch. So someone who tries to hit on men they know are dating someone/married, or especially cheat on someone or try to sleep with a friend's SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 06:40 AM
1

Maybe the first few months of it I guess. I was 14, so was he, we were best friends, he's cute, we get along well. We tried to date each other for about 11 months with it slowly devolving into separate sex and friendship. Then we stopped going on dates altogether and just kept up the sex and friendship until he met a girl then restarted until I met a guy etc. Now we're both single we're FWB again and it's great because we don't spend much time together when we're dating people, because not wanti…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 07:53 PM
1

I meant both genders should have reasonable access to getting non-invasive paternity tests done. So either gender should be able to request a paternity test within reason. So not being able to demand tests for a celebrity's baby randomly, or that Brad Pitt be tested against your baby. Or harassing someone by demanding multiple tests (on a single child), despite conclusive results the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 07:17 PM
1

I know, lots of places have presumptive father laws so even if a married couple has been separated for years the husband is the presumed father until legally proven otherwise and a woman might want to prove that her husband isn't the father. It's happened with guys who are in jail and don't want to get tested.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 07:05 PM
1

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 06:37 PM
2

I didn't know that, I was just thinking that in my school at least, (almost) no one would have taken it due to the stigma and at GCSE no one wants to take anything that won't lead to a qualification.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 06:02 AM
1

In the UK (my high school at least) both music and art were compulsory up to GCSE level.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 05:43 AM
1

Paternity tests should be available to both genders, once per child assuming conclusive results.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/16 05:40 AM
2

TBH, I fall into the zone of having learnt an instrument but rarely playing. I picked up the ocarina during secondary which is very easy instrument to get to grips with, and it's not that I didn't enjoy it, it's just that I enjoy other things more, and in terms of creative activities I don't prioritise it, so it just comes out a few times a year. In terms of creativity playing an ocarina doesn't do much for me. Until you reach the higher levels or start writing your own songs etc. apart from som…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/16 12:00 PM
1

Like the girl with bad hygiene who thinks people are being shallow and judging on appearances by not wanting to be around her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/16 11:07 AM
2

Not judging =/= being attracted to. I haven't said anything along those lines and most other BP women haven't, but a lot of us find balding unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 09:32 PM
2

I use it pretty interchangeably. I described a rock climbing buddy to a jogging partner as 'attractive' and vice-versa because they are both fit and attractive for their age and I think they'd be a good fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/16 08:24 AM
2

Agreed, I tried dating my best friend when I was 14. It became FWB for over a year, we slept together whenever we weren't dating through school, and now (23) we've been FWB again for nearly a year. We don't make a good couple, but we do get on well and we trust each other even if we're no longer best friends, we're still pretty close.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/16 08:11 AM
2

Yes, it does help that my FWB was also my first as a teenager years ago. I'm counting anything that brought someone to orgasm, and genital touching with reasonable exclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/16 06:58 PM
1

Depends, I don't have a problem with it in theory, but the penis construction surgery isn't that great. If they weren't body-shy with lovers and had either a passable dick or enjoyed using a strap on I wouldn't overly care. If they were body-shy (within the confines of sex) I'd probably pass. Although if I didn't find out until the relationship was good, I'd try to work through rather than break up over any sex issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/16 03:07 PM
2

I have casual sex and my N is still at 4, but I've had the same FWB for about a year and have never had a ONS. I would never have sex with someone I didn't trust, but nothing wrong with a little casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/16 09:04 AM
5

I find PPD interesting and I don't actually spend much time on Reddit. If you look at my post history I don't spend enough time redditing to keep up with too many subs. Also I don't really look at TBP and don't post there. A lot of BPers on this sub don't frequent TBP. TL;DR: don't post at TBP, don't reddit much, PPD's interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/16 08:18 AM
1

No, I was seriously anxious and awkward as a child. At 11 I got sent to mandatory counseling as did my younger siblings as a condition of my mother retaining custody. At 12 I got a part time job and became pretty, I got more confident and lost my stuttering completely. By 13 I was one of the popular girls. CBT can be used to treat anxiety very effectively as can things such as exposure therapy. Social skills are learnable otherwise there'd be no cultural variation. Some people learn them more ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 06:19 PM
2

In terms of validation: Guy who'll commit to anyone = Sex with a prostitute. If both want validation then the FA man would get it by having sex with the FA woman because unpaid sex is validating for men, the woman won't generally get validation by dating someone who'd date basically anyone and is with her because he can't get anyone else. I liked the validation of getting good grades at school, but if literally everyone got As all the time it would lose any value.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 08:29 AM
2

It's not so much the virginity itself as the question of why they're still a virgin. At my age (23) it's not a big issue for me. At my elder sister's age (36) it is more likely to be for a real reason. I don't want to date someone: with a low sex drive, waiting for marriage, devoutly religious, sexually repressed, very body shy etc. A guy at 36 who didn't date much for a couple of years then had a LTR with someone waiting for marriage which didn't work out and wants to trust the person he loses …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 07:10 AM
1

I disagree that all 3 explanations are equally likely assuming he seems like a decent guy in other respects and given no other information, I think it's more likely that like my ex he simply has a lower standard of clean and doesn't really plan cleaning ahead. When my ex worked part time, he did most of the housework to a good standard for 'us', things like dusting the skirting boards were above what was needed for us to have a good environment and I did them because they were really for 'me'. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 06:11 AM
4

Yes, and no.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/16 06:44 PM
1

Yes, I belong to a lot of groups and have a lot of relatively weak friendships and significantly fewer far stronger friendships. I have 'activity friends' we get on well, but we don't spend time together outside of the shared activity. We'll say hi and chat for a few minutes if we see each other around and can count on each other for small favours if we had to. I have some 'social friends' we hang out a lot and are somewhat close. If one of us stopped doing a shared activity, we'd maintain the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/16 06:32 PM
3

Aside from different people wanting different things. 1. I've dated a guy slightly shorter than me before, it's not a dealbreaker, but all other things being equal I prefer men who are taller than me (5'5). There's a difference between a dealbreaker (not being open to something) and not preferring something. 2. Either different people, looks outweighing personality, different perception, or he's nice to her and that's what she means. 3. Different strokes.....and also they might be thinking more …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/16 05:15 PM
3

Yes as individuals, but there isn't a BP way, there aren't any real BP tenets, because it's a bunch of people who just don't believe in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/16 10:28 PM
1

Most of them are dating people who earn similar amounts and are also hot. I do have one guy friend who enjoys plenty of casual sex, but has dated seriously in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/16 09:45 PM
2

The difference from my point of view is that TRP is a sexual strategy sub that sees their way as the 'right way'. I haven't seen many studies that have impressed me that support them, and I wish people would stop quoting/referencing the flawed OKC study. I see quite a few them as often taking words and statements too literally 'just be yourself' etc. which is a platitude rather than actual dating advice for the most part. Bits of the strategy are solid such as get fit and be confident, which is …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/16 09:39 PM
2

Yes, generally speaking. It does depend somewhat on why and how long for. Being unemployed is a general disadvantage when it comes to socialising.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 07:48 AM
1

I believe in chance, I have gotten 'unlucky' in one relationship. You can be careful and try to maximise your odds but there is always a chance of things going badly. The odds are against everyone when it comes to the lottery and yet someone still wins. I don't reject the idea of chance, but don't believe in people being 'lucky/unlucky' as in things are destined to go right/wrong. There is always an element of risk, but people who are reasonably fit, intelligent and have social skills tend to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 02:38 AM
1

Might be genetically identical but not physically identical, my friend's identical sister is plump and doesn't highlight her hair. I can see the similarity but I wouldn't mistake one for the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 02:12 AM
2

But not all of the chromosomes they share are alike. Chimpanzees have 24 chromosomes, so at the very least it would be a 2 chromosome difference, human chromosome 2 and the extra.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 07:39 PM
2

How? Ignoring the fact that genes on those chromosomes are different, there's a different chromosome count as well. Nothing you just said made any sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 04:10 PM
1

Not unless by the same logic you accept the statement: men have blonde hair, blue eyes and no legs. If you use that logic then a lot of statements are 'correct'.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 03:48 PM
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Or by being recessive, or being due to multiple genes, or being carried on the X chromosome. I don't think misogyny's genetic, but there are a lot of ways for genes to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 03:35 PM
3

Putting her in the fuckzone doesn't make him an asshole, you can pick who you want fuck/friend, but refusing to talk about it and say 'we're not exclusive' makes him an 'asshole'.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 09:02 AM
2

Personally it varies. I agree that you should make sure your needs are met. Assuming it was an act you enjoyed, you trust the new partner and the current partner wants it about as badly as the old one did and other circumstances haven't changed then I'd assume the act's on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/16 06:46 PM
1

Abigale John Sinbad Tom Abigale's mother Abigale just made bad decision after bad decision. John should have been more loyal to his friend and not attacked someone he trusted and cared for on one person's opinion. Then 'stole' his best friend's ex. Sinbad wasn't great. Tom either wasn't in love with her or was kind of ridiculous if the boat was the only way to cross the river. Abigale's mother sounds like she wants to stay out of Abigale's drama and it's not like Abigale would have listened to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/16 09:41 PM
3

No they are saying that people shouldn't be called liars for saying they want something other than what people say they want with no evidence. There was a thread a while back in which a lot of women said they liked ottermode men to highly muscled men. Sex was just an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:50 AM
3

It is simple statistics but that's not quite right. It's to do with how good the test is and how rare the condition is. You can't say it's more probable that someone it's a false positive without knowing the frequency of the condition, whether there is any selection bias in the sample you are testing and the rate of false positives in the test. E.g. if you're testing people for an uncommon condition which 15% of the population has, but they have a genetic predisposition and other risk factors an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:48 AM
3

Sex. I like sex, my friends like sex, Internet people generally want sex.... Or apparently a dominant man for a C/FM relationship. Bulky guys etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:34 AM
1

If you constantly help 'friends' without any return you're displaying inferior behaviour not equal. Also see: one-sided friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:29 AM
2

I've been using a shortened 'version' of my name because my real name is ridiculous. My primary schoolteacher shit-tested me so hard. *Think something like Kalatinea to 'Katie'. I basically picked a more normal name that shared some of the letters and started using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:23 AM
0

Person with Asperger's.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/16 08:19 AM
1

We're exclusive FWB, but neither of us would date the other. We trust each other mostly, but I'm not really into watching him or anything like that. I'd just gotten out of a nearly 3 year relationship with a guy I was still in love with in a somewhat messy breakup. I like sex, he likes sex and I wasn't ready or looking for a relationship. It works for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:38 PM
2

For me there is something special about seeing all the reactions you produce in your partner that you don't normally get to see and that they are showing you and no one else. Watching ach other can be very fun. I do get the more possessive POV though, neither of us were overly possessive but an open relationship isn't something we'd be okay with. I must admit I wasn't that sure about having a 3some, but no real harm in trying it once. I am on my second-ish FWB, but I've known him for years and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:26 PM
2

Just wondering because my ex was into 3somes and somewhat voyeuristic and I loved noticing new things about him like the way the way his throat moved and it was very intimate/sensual for both of us, but not something I'd do with someone I wasn't in love with. Also depending who's counting it my ex and I had sex somewhere between 4-30+ times a week. I also count any kind of intentional sexual genital touching for Ns. I do casual but not ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:10 PM
2

What do you count as sex with a GF? E.g. Would you count it as the two of you having sex if you had a 3some with a woman with her only making out with the woman, and you penetrating the woman but not her except for her mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 08:47 PM
2

I'm really not up for scat with anyone ever, excluding my life literally depending on it or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 03:55 PM
2

But it's a different compromise. The first time she agreed to try something she wasn't sure she'd like. The second time she already knew she hated it, or it made her feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:49 AM
1

Reasonably well, I didn't take lessons as a child, but I did took some salsa, zumba and ballroom as an adult and did better than most beginners, not my favourite thing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:41 AM
5

Yes, I won't date a guy who has/wants children. I don't want children and I can't see that being a good combination. You can have whatever dealbreakers you want, it's unreasonable to say everyone who suffered DV is crazy etc. but you can refuse to date whoever you want. It's the difference between me saying all guys who want to be a dad are x and I don't want to date someone who wants to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 09:29 AM
3

11 months I guess if you count last date Neither of us it just happened. We were best friends and we thought we'd make a good couple but apart from a couple of awkward dates we just acted like friends when we weren't having sex. And neither of us wanted to look back on losing our virginity with regret. 50% Nothing, we weren't 'into' each other to begin with. No it actually continued on and off when we weren't dating anyone else. 1- c.2 years 2- Both of us 3- His family moved to the U.S. Neither …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 07:50 AM
5

But if it wasn't restricted to incels then it would become a bigger burden on the taxpayer. I believe in regulated prostitution, but I'm not sure government-funded prostitution would work as intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 09:16 PM
8

Assuming I agree with the rest of it, how would the government make sure they are only paying for incels?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 09:10 PM
2

Do you live in Brazil?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 09:09 PM
3

Depends, if an ex has acted like a reasonable human being up to this point and you haven't done anything to offend them lately, then if everyone's on the same page (just casual sex) and he wraps up I don't see why not. If there are still feelings on at least one side or they don't act reasonably then I'd advise a swift but polite retreat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 09:05 PM
1

Empathy depending on situation and them. I'd feel bad for a normal misogynist with terminal cancer. I wouldn't use a slur I don't believe in and would try to keep civil. I wouldn't lend money to most strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 07:46 PM
1

But without the 'All'.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 04:02 PM
0

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 03:59 PM
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Vulnerability isn't going to get you laid generally, but in a LTR it's not a turn off either in proportion, being excessively vulnerable around friends early on can induce 'you're like a little brother'. My ex had to deal with a parent getting cancer, we got through it together and our sex life didn't suffer. If he hadn't shown any vulnerability when someone he cared about deeply was diagnosed with cancer I would have felt less comfortable in our relationship. Frame in terms of standing your gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 02:01 PM
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Things like women are the oldest teenagers in the house and everyone has lied to you (not a core idea, but widely echoed by users) are largely things I don't agree with and I don't think are helpful/healthy. I'd have aimed to teach him to be healthy, stand up for himself, be active rather than passive, be kind but not sacrifice himself for anything and anyone, to trust himself, handle money etc. properly, think of the consequences of his actions, listen to others but accept that not everyone wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 01:11 PM
1

It depends, I'm pretty open to most lifestyles, I can only really see there being an issue if they spend time pushing it on others as 'the right way'. I know someone who has accepted crossfit as 'the way' and apparently I will feel healthier if I take up crossfit instead of running etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 09:12 AM
3

My last boyfriend rarely went down on me I gave at least 1 BJ a day usually more pretty much whenever he wanted. I like oral, but I orgasm from pretty much anything and he doesn't particularly like giving oral and he was really fun to blow.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 09:03 AM
1

I'd be disappointed if hypothetical-he was reading it to put it into practice rather than just browsing it. I probably wouldn't bring it up if I stumbled across it, because he should be able to expect privacy in his online life. I would probably attempt to reinforce the lessons I'd have tried to teach him, and feel like I'd failed slightly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 08:55 AM
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Not really, a lot of exclusively TRP behaviours don't crop up unless you're already dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 08:49 AM
1

Affirmative action is taking 'you're good at engineering for a latino' up a level. I see affirmative action as sexist and racist. Making education accessible should help with fixing economic inequality. It's not an instant fix, but most things aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 08:47 AM
3

It seems like a bad strategy. I have a friend who isn't fat, but could slim down a little. She knows how to lose weight and get hotter, but she prefers to eat what she wants while doing enough exercise that she doesn't cross the line from a few extra pounds on top of lean muscle to being fat. Obese people either lack the willpower or prefer eating what they want to being slimmer and more attractive, probably to a much greater degree. Assuming it's successful there's a good chance of excessive st…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 12:43 AM
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Not entirely, but I don't see affirmative action as a good option and fixing economic equalities is a good starting point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 12:28 AM
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But the gap between white and black SAT scores fluctuates, which indicates there is something more than just race at play. Possibly cultural differences in prioritising work, education and sports etc. Nesbitt found IQ scores largely dependent on the race of the family who raised the child. There have also been multiple studies on how environment affects IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 12:25 AM
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Historical discrimination is sad, but I don't support affirmative action as a method of repairing it or in terms of economic opportunity. I believe in a solid inexpensive education system and maybe free lunch at school for needy students to repair longlasting economic effects and redacted gender and race (name) in the preliminary stages of application for higher education and jobs to repair longlasting social effects. I'm not an expert on the US, but primary and secondary education seem inadequa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/16 12:12 AM
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Which stats specifically? I live in the UK and education is more affordable here, so the disparity in education isn't so great. I do think, however, that the cost of education in the US is somewhat discriminatory. You can't even out discrimination with discrimination in the opposite direction though. So I'd accept it as better than the current state of affairs and very good in the UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 10:45 PM
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I don't believe in symmetry, but I do believe in judging people professionally independently of race/gender. I don't support affirmative action due to this, but I do think that it would be good (in theory) to redact names and genders to eliminate these facts on university and job applications in the preliminary stages. That way no one can (reasonably although someone inevitably will) call foul. I feel that independent differences are greater than gender differences, but that there are obvious ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 10:13 PM
2

Chastity belts are generally for women, I think you mean cock cage and a lot of subs don't wear one. BDSM's not really my specialty, but my ex and I dabbled in vanilla BDSM/BDSM-lite with me being slightly more dominant sometimes and I tied him down and rode him a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 10:01 PM
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It should occur at the same rate if everyone followed this behaviour, assuming that guys and girls have an equal amount of crushes. IRL (imo) men tend to want sex (when single) more intensely than women do, get more validation from and find it more difficult to obtain casual sex than women do. Women also tend to have fewer guys they are interested in at any one time than vice-versa. So girls can ask guys out, but given that a lot of them get plenty of invitations, there's not much to gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 10:07 PM
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They should ask a guy out if there is a SPECIFIC guy they want to date. If they're getting lots of attention from guys they're attracted to and aren't interested in one guy in particular, they can just say yes when they're asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/16 04:52 PM
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There's no one I'm particularly interested in RIGHT NOW, I have asked a guy out before and have had several relationships, but I have a steady supply of good sex so I have no real motivation to pursue a relationship until I develop an interest in someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 12:33 AM
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There isn't anyone I particularly want to date right now, so I don't ask anyone out. Guys sometimes want to date me so they ask me out. If more of the opposite gender asked you out than you wanted to date so al you had to do was agree, would you put effort and the risk of rejection in?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/16 09:51 AM
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Given that I have an N of 4, I'm pretty sure that if it was a huge factor I'd be halfway in love with my FWB by now. I like him, but not much more than I previously did. Sex can be incredibly intimate and bonding, but for a lot of women casual sex isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 01:36 PM
3

Don't want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 05:35 AM
1

I also do a lot of exercise which probably contributes, but if I was having that much sex I wouldn't have time for anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 12:33 AM
2

Per week. Normally 3-4 days when we had sex a few times so 1 session for each day. 1-2 3somes where he had sex with her, but I participate/watch (so not sex for me), and 1-2 BJs/other a day, maybe a little anal and then 'anything goes' Sunday.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 12:22 AM
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Blue, 23F, a lot. 4 times is ideal when single. In my last relationship, 10+ if you count BJs, voyeurism/3somes etc. If not more like 3-5, assuming you count each session as 1. Not really sure what my minimum in a relationship would be, if no BJs etc, more like 7+, I guess. I like sex so I don't know what the minimum for satisfaction is because haven't really tried to limit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 12:13 AM
3

Then communicate your need for space.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/16 07:39 AM
2

Theoretically no, because neither animal nor hominid has consented and you can't have rape without a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/16 03:29 AM
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You should always look at people's actions rather than their words. From the example it looks like the girl just wants to let him down gently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 10:01 PM
1

I'd feel flattered in most cases, more flattered if he was hot because he has more options. It wouldn't change much according to profession or social group, unless they were part of my social group in which case I'd have to be slightly careful. I'd prefer someone to crush on me for a hobby, it'd be a nice change. Also on the scale 4 seems a little harsh for the last guy on that line, and the first 4 isn't bad for an older guy, not hot, but not ugly. Don't think much of the second 8 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 05:04 PM
1

Against other women in general very high. In a room of 20 other in shape girls in their early 20s, not top 3, but not at the bottom either. Guys I've dated (for their age group) mostly 7-9s. Guys I've slept with (seriously dated, except the last) 7, 8, 6 (but an 8 to me), and 8 (also the first but about 8 years later).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 04:41 PM
1

So frame is basically making eye contact and behaving normally. It's not so much beta comfort traits as learning how to read what they mean. And leading a woman isn't always a cue of seducing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 08:23 AM
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I actually was okay with it, but I do think it's reasonable to discuss your history.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 08:21 AM
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Not really, pretty sure TRP wants you to hold frame during relationships. Also they want you to remain in control of the situation and exude confidence, you don't need to control and guide the situation, you just need to follow the social cues. This is largely a problem when hooking up, if you have a gf who knows you, you can be vulnerable without her losing attraction. It's also as much to do with communicating that you want to fuck them in a socially acceptable way, because if you can't tell i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/16 12:33 AM
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Lots of people act like that. If there aren't many consequences you tend to keep doing. Pretty girls and young people in general can often get away with it, so they keep doing it until it becomes penalising. If a teenager breaks something and the parents go 'boys will be boys' and replace it, he's more likely to do something similar than if he had to clear up the mess and pay to replace it. The same if a girl blows off classes, unless she has at least a threat of failing an exam, she'll probably…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 11:42 PM
2

Nothing turns me on like a guy who is anxious, talks over me and fidgets and avoids eye contact, sadly the 'no virgin' rule means I lose my girl-club membership if I have sex with one of them. Without investing time, IOW not in a casual hook up, it can be had to tell if they are ignoring social cues because they are a jerk, or if they are simply ignoring them. They can come across as disinterested, needy or obnoxious without being any of those things, but it's still a turn-off. When you're looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 09:03 PM
3

Apart from disagreeing about cats, there are many, many reasons to have one. It's that I don't agree with the way TRP describes male/female sexual dynamics. I agree that AF/BB happens, but it's relatively rare, sometimes people just grow up and change environment, so they behave differently. Women tend to marry guys they are attracted to. 80/20 is based, at least partly, on an incredibly flawed study and unless (almost) all the guys I spend time with are near-Chads is off by a lot. I might agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 08:33 PM
1

The position of power changes depending on how replaceable each party is. In my uni job, I needed well-paid work that was close to my non-city campus, allowed for enough time for full-time uni work and all I had to offer that the other students didn't was some retail experience. I was replaceable, that job wasn't so easily. They changed my hours I stuck around. Now I have the occasional email from contacts, my job, while I enjoy it, is replaceable. I am also replaceable, but not to the same exte…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 07:34 PM
1

Spin her as a plate in the background or next her. Given that it's not exclusive, I don't see the problem with her sleeping with another guy, but I don't like being ditched, so I'd probably talk to her about it and let her know that while I want to continue seeing her, if she cancels the next date I won't Depending on TRPer, blend in. Agree, most white people are privileged simply due to the colour of their skin, the privilege varies due to situation between genders. Either get her to agree to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 08:39 AM
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My theory is that since rating them highly lets them know you're interested, women rated guys based on whether or not they were compatible, and women message guys they think are compatible with them. So the hot hippie gets low ratings from the majority of women, BUT women who want that lifestyle message him a lot because he's hot. Same with the guy who has kids or is very into his hobby. Most women rate them low, but they are appealing to women in their niche. I wouldn't rate my best friend's gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 06:21 PM
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One thing that could kill their rating is a different lifestyle/goal from the norm. It's something that could make a lot of people rate them lowly and some rate them very highly. Like being emo, a hippie etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 06:16 PM
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They might have something in their profile that is an absolute no to a lot of women, but very appealing to some. Like being a Digital Nomad, not wanting kids etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 06:11 PM
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OR they don't want to be messaged by them, as the second they give them a high rating the guy gets notified the woman found them attractive. It doesn't even have to be based off the photo, the might reject after seeing something about having kids etc. in the profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 08:55 AM
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Meant infertility....will edit
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 01:36 PM
1

I think I've seen too much of his personality on TV to find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 01:30 PM
3

Very low. Honestly, not much into US politics, most of them just look old to me. Rubio looks good for his age and if he was 15-20ish years younger (same shape etc.) he'd be hot. Ted Cruz is heavier than I like and his facial features aren't great. 3 looks like he'd be attractive a couple of decades ago, I'm not sure who he and 4 (Christian something??) are. George Bush is just a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 11:44 AM
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Jeb Bush is 5, I think you clicked the wrong link, 6 is George Bush.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 11:41 AM
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You have the choice of sleeping with: a) a drop-dead gorgeous girl, b) she's pretty most guys wouldn't say hot, c) average girl maybe a little pudgy but not fat, decent makeup. Are you saying that if there were significantly more women than men looking for casual sex, if they didn't go for b or c, that they were only attracted to the top 3rd of women? Because if they were attracted to HB6s they would randomly pick her over an HB10.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 07:52 AM
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It's nearly impossible to come up with a reliable rape statistic because it's difficult to prove lack of consent. He says it was just rough sex, she says she said no. I don't consider it legitimate particularly to include unsubstantiated claims, but how else can you come up with a statistic for a crime that is so difficult to prove? I don't know. You can prove someone's been murdered relatively easily, but rape, not so much. You can even prove that they did have sex, but unless she happens to ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 08:49 PM
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I consider consent (assuming not out of it, of age, not blackmailed etc.) the absence of clear rejection when the action is projected. If they say 'no', 'stop' or anything with similar meaning, that's not consenting. If they start crying and you don't affirm consent, I'd consider that definitely towards the 'not consenting' side of things, also if they go still and silent. So if a guy penetrated a girl in a club suddenly, there wouldn't be 'presumed consent' from my POV. If they're making out on…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 08:36 PM
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Yes, she's a potential stalker. Whenever I'm in public I never acknowledge anyone I've flirted with or talked to unless we have either previously agreed to or they have been officially recognised as my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 08:08 PM
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Sometimes, honestly I've played both roles (pretty vanilla-ish) and it depends on mood and what the other person's feeling. No, my last bf and I engaged in the occasional faux-non-consensual game, which were obviously nothing like getting raped otherwise there wouldn't be anyone who'd like to be submissive. I don't think prostitution's an issue, or porn particularly, there are always going to be rapists, and I think societal (more than sexual) inequality increases it, but in the UK both genders …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 08:03 PM
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It seems too difficult to prove in order to punish for it, but if you were I think it should depend on the STD and effect. If an STD causes permanent damage like infertility, weak immune system (HIV), death of a baby (mainly herpes [25% of infected babies]), sterility..... I'm not sure a small fine would have compensated my ex for testicular pain or sterility.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 07:46 PM
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But the illegality of it gives them a motive to not fuck up. The risk for a woman catching HIV from a guy (PIV) is 8 per 10000 exposures. If it wasn't illegal, then they might be less likely to inform a partner beforehand (so no treatment pre-exposure), there's also the fact that depending on morality some might feel that 8 per 10000 is an acceptable risk, if they only have sex once a month for 20 years, then of their 240 partners there is a good chance that they won't have transmitted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 07:34 PM
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....Well there are 2 sides to every story, I'm not sure how hers is going to be any better and make it easier to judge, I can't expect it to be much more flattering than: having sex with guy, said stop, he didn't stop, got punched in face, psychorapist threatened to kill me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 06:54 AM
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I don't really agree with the article, none of my bfs ever complained about getting a BJ. Sex is about both people's pleasure (generally) and I don't think getting a sense of achievement from pleasuring your partner is wrong. If you don't get pleasure from pleasuring your partner, oral is basically duty sex, which isn't very hot imo. The boasting about loving to give women oral is rare, and can come across as a bit of a boast, but I don't think it's particularly misogynistic. PS. If any of my ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 10:28 AM
1

There are a lot of reasons not to cheat, I know what kept me faithful. I believe cheating is wrong, I implicitly gave my word not to cheat when I entered relationships, I value honesty in close relationships, I wouldn't want to hurt an SO (you can never guarantee they won't find out), casual sex is fun but my relationships were meaningful. Others: religion, social consequences of being found out, fear of being left if the other found out, too much effort for too little reward, not much interest …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:00 AM
2

1 elder, 1 younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 05:52 AM
3

People with RFF, don't always smile when they're sad or tired or stressed, I got the 'smile' thing while coming home after a funeral. My neutral face is smiley, but I wasn't smiling right then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 10:08 PM
1

If not smoking being healthy were mainstream, people wouldn't smoke. Also there would be fewer diets and ads focused on losing weight. It's about effort and motivation, obese people know being slimmer would make them more attractive, but either they don't think it's worth it or lack the willpower.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 08:47 AM
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Actually I'm secretly hoping that by putting out a few times a week I can get my FWB to propose. Now he asked me out on the basis he's not great with women, he finds me tolerable, he'd like to have access to a steady supply of sex and doesn't have anything better on offer right now (I think he phrased it as 'dry spell years', 'friends', 'physical intimacy' and 'stopgap relationship'), but by saying no and starting a FWB relationship I can play hard to get and I'm sure he'll propose any day now. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:21 PM
1

I think everyone regardless of gender should read 6 Harsh Truths. I think everyone should have a life outside their work unless their work is also a hobby in some way. I'm not holding my friend to different standards, if we lived in an idealised World men and women might approach equally, but we don't. His female equivalent might be able to get laid using the same approach, and if it works for her fine. The fact is in the world we live in this approach isn't working for him. Several women have m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:03 PM
1

In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 08:42 PM
1

Women tend to be attracted to men within a couple of years of their own age and not all women are under 30. 3rd and 4th graphs women don't start showing much interest in 30 year olds until 25+ and 36 year olds until they are about 30. However 36 year old guys still get interest from 48 year old women (limit of the graph). 24 year old guys start getting less attention from women as they enter their 30s. So both are true, women my age not generally much attracted to 30+ year olds, 36 year olds ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 08:19 PM
0

Being physically attractive is attractive. Yet somehow most boys by the age of 11 'just know' that girls like hot guys. You never noticed that the lead role in a romcom aimed at women is near always hot or that men on women's magazines are hot, or that women react to hot guys they don't know yet by smiling, actors popular with women are hot, it's not exactly hidden and managing to stay oblivous past 14 is impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:15 PM
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I am a feminist........both men and women have agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:01 PM
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If you weren't told these things, there's a good chance that they assumed you knew it, the same way I might not tell someone to plug the microwave in when telling them how to reheat a meal. The vast majority of the population know that being attractive is attractive so you wouldn't bring it up, because it's blindingly obvious. If you (clear your cache or whatever floats your boat) and google how to be more attractive as a man most of the relevant results on the front page bring up being physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 03:57 PM
1

Bizarre, it was the wrong verdict, without being able to show consent or lack of consent on each part, they shouldn't have taken any action on the rape side of things. They said he was likely blacked out but without either a confession on her part and the messages quoted don't prove rape to me, or something proving he was blacked out. Depending on the exact statements and evidence, they might be able to punish for a deliberate false accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 01:59 PM
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My opinion is that very little RP advice that is not mainstream and is exclusively RP is effective. A lot of things on there such as maximising attractiveness make total sense, but are also completely mainstream. If you were overweight and sat down with a friend and asked them in all honesty, no pulled punches, what would make it easier to attract the opposite sex, getting fit would come up assuming an honest friend with an iota of intelligence who assumed you were too stupid to figure out that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 01:42 PM
1

It is a vocal minority, I've only known a couple, the best thing to do is not even be friends, most nice guys I meet are just nice guys. The only failing nice guy I'm friends with at the moment, is a great confident, fairly attractive guy about 99% of the time, but his last and only gf was a total bitch, and when it comes to flirting, most of the time he doesn't try, and when he does he chokes, he gets anxious, his body language doesn't exactly scream interested and it just falls apart, he doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:13 AM
1

In my opinion there was more motivation to stay married beyond just the normal social pressure, if I got sick today and couldn't work there'd still be fresh food on the table, heat and water etc. If I was poor in the 1800s with no partner, no adult children and became very sick, there's a good chance I wouldn't have regular access to food and heat during a hard Winter. There were also fewer options, so more downsides to being alone and fewer upsides to leaving. If you weren't one of very few in …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:50 AM
3

It's the median not the mean. If women's counts were: 2, 2, 3, 3, 100 The mean would be: 22 The median would be around: 3 The same population can give a different average, if the average they're using isn't a raw mean. The same way if I wanted to order a packet of something and needed to know how many x I get in a package and people reported getting: 20, 30, 30, 30, 30, 30, 45, 500 I'd use the mode and expect around 30, even though 30xn doesn't equal the total number of x those people received, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:39 AM
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....the same thing we do in other cases, if there is room for reasonable doubt (which there is), we decide not guilty. Unless there is some overwhelming evidence like CCTV, you can't be sure who's telling the truth, and even then she's just saying she doesn't remember consenting, not that she definitely didn't. I'm not sure that would even get anywhere near court.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:36 AM
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Not currently dating, but I'd go with cheating. People can consent when drunk, I've consented while drunk, it's only when they're pretty out of it that they can't consent. If he was pretty out of it and she pushed for it, then I would consider it rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:10 AM
2

The guys who committed rape, it's not a question of reproductive rights, but of body autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:05 AM
1

They're all pretty attractive objectively. I find 2 of the 4 very attractive, 1 unattractive and 1 fairly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 11:04 PM
2

It's hard to count prison rape, simply because prisoners are assumed to be incapable of consenting, so some of the 'rape' is consensual and mutual. Some of it is also transactional, apart from having to have sex for survival, I'm not opposed to adults trading services for goods/money, and I would consider it consensual even if prostitution isn't legal. I haven't seen a breakdown into categories that count or categories that don't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 08:00 AM
2

I also have single friends, I am literally nothing else with 4 out of 5 of them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 01:52 AM
5

Yes, I'm attracted to some of my friends, but I can just not go there. They aren't orbiters, a lot of them are in relationships and they are full members of the social group, I even let them eat the food at parties sometimes. If you're both single and he's showed signs of interest, it might be best to avoid situations that might be misleading and make your position clear. I'm currently sleeping with one of my friends, but we are just friends about 30% of the time we're together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 01:22 AM
1

There's a line between not rocking the boat too much and being passive, if you never rock the boat a little you won't get where you want to go. Be confident, be calm, you can value others without devaluing yourself. Approach women, not in the middle of the street, but in bars and other social situations where it's appropriate. You sound like you want a relatonship so try places related to your hobbies and more casual places rather than clubs. An approach with a look to date should normally be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 01:04 AM
1

Secret sex Not a 10 but there is someone I've always wanted to try having sex with Great at sex but bad at oral, I like having sex more than giving BJs The kiss, I can get 8/10 sex easily, I don't get many amazing kisses Invisible, I've approached a guy before and gotten amazing sex out of it, being catcalled is just annoying female/23/blue
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 09:14 PM
2

The median IS an average, when you say average, you're using it to mean the raw mean, but average could also mean something like the mode etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 05:29 PM
1

The main difference imo is one is being funny and friendly, the other isn't, or fails to read body language/establish a relationship, in which case they don't come off as funny/friendly. One of my ex-bfs liked to pick me up randomly from behind, if a stranger did that I'd be pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 06:12 AM
0

But getting someone who isn't attracted to you to agree to come somewhere with you to have a threesome with someone they've never met is generally harder than just straight up seducing someone who is attracted to your gender. I don't believe the UK is very sexist against men, although in sexual situations men are more threatening than women on the whole. I don't think I would find it overly hard getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 09:09 PM
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It would probably be easier as a guy given that I was convincing straight women to have a threesome with me and my SO. I'm not bad at reading body language and I know how to present myself, if I'd been male since birth I'm sure I'd clue in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:07 PM
5

In women...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 07:06 PM
12

....they're a woman, they currently act in a way RP would disapprove of (bold, self-sufficient) but if they changed gender RP would approve, those are behaviours TRP encourages in men..........
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 05:14 PM
3

I'd probably be fairly similar but get laid more. I'd be good with women, based off being 3 inches taller than average for my gender (UK) and I am reasonably good at seducing women. I'm reasonably popular but not into watching sport and more into individual sports than team sports, that might change depending, I didn't enjoy team sports in school, because the girls chose what they did as a group and netball isn't really my thing. I earn the equivalent of 6 figures (in US dollars, in GBP not quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 05:10 PM
1

If I knew financial dominatrixes did the grocery shopping and took the car in to be serviced, I'd have signed up years ago. Unless they actually eat all of the 93% of food shopping they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:27 PM
1

It's not just fashion magazines, it's via social media and tv as a whole. So unless you're suggesting that all feminists boycott TV, social media and everything else, which seems extreme, I don't see it as a failure. It's the same with wealth divides, the more you're exposed to people/characters who have more than you the more likely you are to be dissatisfied. Not trying to censor everything is hardly a failure, I'm not a big fan of censorship as a whole, but there are consequences, but everyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:19 PM
4

It's often a mutual decision about which partner works, unfortunately that means that one partner has to decide how much they want to work and the other is either happy or unhappy with it, they could push the other to earn more, but ne might be dissatisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 11:07 AM
12

In couples with one working partner, the working partner is usually the man. The study doesn't seem to take this into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 10:56 AM
1

Honestly, I like men in general. They tend to be blunter, which I appreciate, but they also are more likely to miss social cues which I don't appreciate quite so much. They also tend to have a more pressing desire for sex than most women tend to have. Not that I don't like sex, but when I feel the need, going without doesn't bother me much. They are less likely than women to hold that slight grudge for something without letting you know, fine at work, but holding onto small things is kind of stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 10:39 AM
15

My grandmother married the man who raped her and ended up dying of 'inconclusive' causes. People have been unhappy through history, the main difference is that now depression is more socially acceptable. Also given that the article says 5% of women with degrees also suffer from depression and isolation, whereas 40% are often lonely and 36% "often felt that they could not cope with their lives", assuming no correlation between depression and loneliness (even though there is one), 14.4% of women o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 10:04 AM
1

Not generally, unless gender is relevant. I'd consider it odd, if it's a publishing house focusing on erotica (for women) that would make sense although, numbers would give a better idea. A tech company, not so much, I don't see an advantage to being female when working in tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 09:11 AM
1

I live in a big city, and go out a lot. 18-25 Cold approaches, none, other approaches, 4. Cold approaches, 2, others, maybe 15. I have no idea, I get approached more during the Summer, so maybe 200. Single-ish. Don't mind, but living in a big city, there are a lot of daygamers and some of them think standing in front of you or touching you on the shoulder is a great way to get your attention I'd like to get rid of those. Not really attached, but if I didn't have regular sex I'd be more inclined …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 09:07 AM
2

It depends, there's cool approaching and then there's just ice-cold approaches. At a bar, party, coffee shop, queue etc. it's fair game, unless you do something inappropriate like telling me my bf doesn't have to know, worst case scenario, it's a no and I'm flattered. Guys who hit on me when I'm walking to work, or the shops, are idiots, standing in front of people when they're trying to go somewhere isn't an effective strategy. Even if it would have been a yes in line for the checkouts or whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:59 AM
3

Agreed, most of my friends and I like some muscle, rather than just completely smooth, but not generally huge guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:47 AM
2

First impressions: Arms are massive, nothing about his hair or clothing is working for me. Very generic, attractive in a non-memorable way. Attraction: Not really, his fice is nice, but he's too built for my tastes, in ottermode with dark, or natural looking hair, would be attracted. First impressions: That's a lot of fedoras, needs to finish painting that wall, and he's wearing a crucifix. Attraction: Not really his face is on the nice side of average, but I don't know what he's doing with that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:32 AM
1

Hayden Christiansen is hotter than Hardy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:10 AM
1

He's very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:09 AM
1

AFAIK, they use the normal loophole of 'we don't test our products on animals', but allow others to conduct testing on their behalf in order to meet standards. You'd be surprised how many companies do that. There is a component loophole to as in 'our PRODUCTS aren't tested on animals'.......but our ingredients totally are, but I think they use the other one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 08:05 AM
7

Not really, a lot of below-average guys had girlfriends at my uni, maybe not the hottest girls, but they were getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 08:05 AM
3

Also if they think you're perfect the relationship probably won't do well in when it becomes clear to them that you aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/15 07:06 AM
2

I love that article, I don't believe af/bb, but being nice alone doesn't make you attractive or interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/15 07:04 AM
2

But you could argue that about a lot of things. I could argue that SAHP rely on others going to work and if everyone did that the economy would crash, so SAHPs are freeloaders. That doesn't mean it's selfish anymore than my not having children is selfish. I wouldn't consider it mooching, because I'm contributing to the economy and will pay more taxes than most people who have children. The economy needs present and future tax payers, I am contributing heavily to the present taxes, but not produc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 08:11 PM
7

Not being married doesn't equal being a single-parent....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 07:49 PM
2

......Assuming a good study, not using the raw mean, I'd guess. Pretend the data looks like this (except more): Women: 0, 4, 5, 9, 7, 82, 7, 8, 150, 3, 5, 6. The raw mean is 23.83... and if you multiply it by the number of women you get how many times they each had a new partner in total BUT it doesn't give me a good idea of around how many people the average woman had sex with, it's going to be really far off most of the time. The adapted mean (pretend I used a stats test to remove outliers ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 09:27 AM
1

Yeah, if he hadn't changed his mind about wanting kids we'd probably be married by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 01:21 PM
4

He wasn't harassed for not conforming or attending, he was harassed because he made a huge point of not going, because he was offended at being asked and put up a picture of himself with "This is not what a rapist looks like". Which was sort of the opposite of the lecture, probably, because rapists don't exactly have a particular look. I've been invited to lectures on plagiarism, intellectual honesty, covert domestic abuse etc. I didn't go to a lot of them by just not going, so did a lot of othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 11:34 AM
2

Well I've only had sex with 4 people in total, but one a week sounds a lot more reasonable than almost 400. I've seen a friend get laid with a couple of different girls in a week and he's got hobbies, a decent job, is funny and generally a great guy. Being able to make the comparison changes it from a huge number to not unreasonable for a guy who likes sex (from my point of view), and if he can get laid that often, then I don't see a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:48 AM
6

Sex, shower, jog (without him), farmer's market/shops to pick up ingredients, drop by the library to switch books and just hang out leading up to under the table action, return to the flat, kinky sex, then just Netflix and the weirdest snacks we could find a recipe for that still sounded possibly edible (anchovy popcorn - not bad, doughnut burger - not a big fan).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 12:21 AM
8

Didn't do much for charities this year because I suck and got side tracked with my new job, moving and buying a (different) flat. I gave a percentage of all my ebay sales to Orchid, which actually added up to quite a lot, between old furniture, my old laptop and a lot of near new clothing (new job has a different dress code). I wrote to my prison penpal on alternate days and sent him some pretty bland, soft cover novels, non-fiction and graphic novels. Writing to him personalises how stupid the …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 12:13 AM
2

The question was about them having had nearly 400 partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 10:38 PM
3

That makes more sense, when l eat half a sandwich I butter a slice of bread put whatever on it then cut it in half and put it together. I couldn't see why eating half a sandwich would be particularly annoying unless she was stealing half of yours or something. I have a friend who does the whole 'I'm not hungry' but then steals half of my meal and it's my least favourite thing about her. That's slightly odd though have you tried suggesting she make the sandwich differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 10:37 PM
3

I'd be okay with it. It's a lot in their 20s, but it's only about one a week from 15. One of my guy friends probably hasn't slept with that many girls, but he's definitely into triple figures and he did date a girl for almost a year and was faithful, so knowing that helps. It would put me off if he'd been unfaithful in a relationship, has an STD, didn't use contraception, or hasn't had a relationship last more than a couple of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 08:19 PM
3

So does she make a sandwich with one slice of bread, or make a whole sandwich or steal half of your sandwich?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 08:06 PM
7

A 24 pack in a week is what I went through a week living with 9 other girls my first year of uni. Maybe you're buying toilet roll that's too thin, because there's nothing like pee soaking through it to your hand to make a girl use a lot more just to be certain. Or they are using it for a ton of different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 08:06 PM
1

The term would be hebe/ephebophilia not paedophilia for teens. ......And legally speaking it isn't the same in the US, although the differences vary by state. The 'boy' in pederasty ranges from 13-30, with most not beginning until at least 15. A lot of them would be over the age of consent in a lot of US states. Maryland considers sex with a 14/15 year old to be "sexual offense in the third degree" whereas if they're under 14 it's "rape in the second degree".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:47 AM
4

No, but I have had guys think that becoming my friend would lead to sex, admittedly I've never slept with anyone I haven't been friends with first, but I'm not exactly working my way through my social group. Giving people rides and paying for each others' meals isn't unusual among my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 07:27 AM
3

OP mentions lower down he is joking so he's just letting off steam. If it actually happened to me and was explained, I'd probably be offended, on the other hand that's way more than I was planning on spending on him so that's nice. The thing is I'm not a big fan of passive-aggressiveness in relationships. If making your issues clear and how much they are hurting you doesn't have any effect (excluding a physical problem on their part), talking things through, making things great for them, therapy…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 07:20 AM
3

Compromise is a viable solution when the thing you're compromising on is less important than the relationship. In my last relationship I wanted to move to a different area (better job opportunities for me, no change in his opportunities), he didn't want to move. So when we moved he got to cut his working hours and do some training, while also moving into a better place (I had final pick out of his top 5) after a month with me paying 90% of the rent dropping to 75% after he found a job he liked w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 09:08 AM
1

Not very long. 8 'active' hours a week tops for me. I live in an apartment without much clutter, batch prepare and cook meals, scrubbing the shower doesn't take long when listening to Netflix and doesn't need to be done more than once a month, which keeps it relatively easy to do. No carpets, so hoovering is pretty quick and simple on a daily basis with an extra 20 minutes a week on different areas (skirting boards etc.). I don't do my own laundry, I don't like doing it and I earn more per hour …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:40 AM
1

Can you prove that polygamy in a romantic relationship is the norm?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 10:45 AM
2

Popular media, news etc. Most relationships are monogamous, polyamory is seen as unusual, read internet forums. It's pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 10:21 AM
2

It's not just my assumption, it's the assumption of the vast majority. I don't have to prove an overwhelming majority, in countries like the UK and USA it's self-evident. The pair themselves should know the status of their relationship in regards to dating/FWB if they both have a basic grasp of communicating and confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 10:00 AM
2

Because most dating relationships are monogamous, outside of hook-ups and casual sex if someone is considered to be someone's boyfriend the base assumption is that it's monogamous. You can and should expect any overwhelming majority as your default assumption until something indicates otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 09:09 AM
3

But it can be expected by default. Neither my ex nor I specifically said that we were monogamous, but if I walked in on him having sex with someone else after we'd moved in together, I wouldn't have been happy or vice-versa. Monogamy is the norm, so can be expected by default. If you're engaged to someone, unless you have specifically agreed/discussed poly/open relationships, it's probably assumed that it's monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 07:44 PM
3

I think their body wanted sex in general, the person they had sex with wasn't important in the wanting of sex, just a convenient/safe option for the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 07:39 PM
2

I don't literally think that most of them are 15 year old boys, but a lot of them come across as kind of naïve. The 'lies' they were told about 'just be yourself' and physical attractiveness not mattering are taken as obvious platitudes by the vast majority of people. The 80:20 (and the flawed OKC study), nowhere near true for the people I know outside of secondary school, excluding those who don't try for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/15 07:48 AM
4

I don't like the deliberate diversification of job fields. I use a little coding in data analysis, which I am interested in, but I'm not really interested in coding itself, it's just a means to an end. Also a lot of women plan to take time off for kids and some fields are easier to come back to than others. I don't think there should be any discrimination and affirmative action is largely discrimination in favour of the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 09:34 AM
1

Yes, but there's a limit, I've become more attracted to guys I haven't been particularly attracted to because of getting to know them, but I've never developed attraction for a guy that I found very unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 09:18 AM
2

Depends how much tbh, once you hit a certain level of hygiene or obesity I'm repulsed. I tend to date guys I know so personality gives the attraction a boost, but there has to be some level of attraction to begin with. I probably wouldn't go below a 4. I would probably try dating some of the androgynous women I am vaguely attracted to and see how that pans out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 07:03 AM
1

I don't think a complete idiot would excel and I'm not talking about the guys that enter competitions, but average people can and do play successfully. A lot of people who play casually only really need to do pretty basic maths such as the dice probabilities (and applying modifiers), damage (including weapon die and modifiers), knowing that rolling multiple dice gives a more average result overall, but is also less likely to give you a really low result. You also should aim to have a party with …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:57 PM
2

I'm open that it's just sex on top of our friendship. If he didn't, I wouldn't I wouldn't go forward with it. Never, I wouldn't try a FWB relationship with someone I could see myself dating and changing someone I have been romantic with in the past to FWB would be emotionally messy for at least one of us. Be open about what you want, and make sure they understand that this isn't going to lead to a relationship, also if you're sleeping with other people that should probably come up if you don't w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:54 AM
1

True, I could never date anyone that participated in an EU, joking, I like (most of) the Star Wars EU.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:43 AM
1

I've played DandD, and a few other RP games, they really don't require much intelligence. Mafia, maybe, I'd consider being intelligence a pretty big bonus in, but people whom are less intelligent than average can play most roleplaying games without any problems. Experience is more useful in most RP games than intelligence assuming that everyone playing is reasonably average, nerdy hobbies =/= intelligence. Participation in fandoms would vary, if they are producing quality games or fanfiction it …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:39 AM
3

I find Kit Harrington very definitely above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 06:59 AM
3

He's also not in his 30s yet, looks don't tend to go downhill much before 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/15 08:03 PM
1

But if she's hot, wears make up, works out and dresses well then she might only be getting laid by 'high value' guys and is working for it in which case it's totally fine, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/15 06:28 AM
3

Some RPers quote it like it's actually proof that women shouldn't sleep around. Also I haven't seen any reliable studies that show significantly more problems for women than men while promiscuous. Also I don't get why the woman is lazy for getting easy sex. Logically with all the birth control around today it's easy to avoid getting pregnant. It makes no sense to me that something being easy makes you lazy. Since my guy friend doesn't put any real effort into getting laid most of the time and is…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 05:46 AM
1

The rape one was definitely the woman's fault and I do think there should be harsher measures on false accusers. The second one though, was letting him stay with her a few days. He hugged her while she'd just stopped worrying about rapey guys in the attic and he was drunk and she wasn't wearing any underwear (maybe, dressed for bed so probably at least braless). He might not have had sexual intentions and she overreacted, but he could have definitely come across as inappropriate, or had a hand s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 08:37 PM
-1

Depending on where you live and how old you are making out means slightly different things. Where I live my age group (low 20s) use it for basically everything up to but not including sex/bj/hj. If a friend told she made out with a guy I wouldn't think they just snogged a bit. I was thinking more on the nudity side of making out, which most girls would definitely go back to a guy's room for rather than kissing and maybe a bit of groping. It's pretty common to make out at least topless here befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 02:04 PM
0

I prefer relationships to casual sex, but I won't get involved with a relationship if it's going to go to hell later. I get the desire for sex and have a FWB, but I also get lots of physical intimacy (hugs, cuddling on the sofa) from friends so I might not 'need' it for intimacy the same way some people do. I need sex in a relationship, but when single sex is just a luxury to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 01:42 PM
1

Not the wildest partier but most people left if they were going to be taking clothes off rather than slipping out of clothing at a house party.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 01:39 PM
1

But it's much easier with a social network. ONS just don't appeal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:36 AM
0

But is fake emotional intimacy better than nothing if you know it's not real and he just wants sex? A lot of women don't prefer fake to nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:33 AM
0

Validation of appearance as a woman can come from guys and is also available from friend, my friends will notice and compliment an outfit that looks great, or a new haircut. I agree, some of my friendships are pretty intimate. If I was going through an emotional crisis, there are a lot of people I could count on to be thoroughly supportive. Some of my friends are very cuddly. I don't feel the same drive for relationships as a lot of guys seem to, being single isn't an issue. A lot of women who g…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:23 AM
2

But if you know a guy JUST wants sex, I'm not sure how much help sleeping with him is going to be when it's incredibly unlikely to result in the emotional intimacy which is what you're after. They're not saying women are looking for a perfect guy, only that they are looking for a guy that offers a decent chance at emotional intimacy. If I went to a nightclub, how many guys would I have to go through to get emotional intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:18 AM
0

Not for me, I'd rather be single than get emotionally invested in a relationship that I know isn't going to work. You know the shit cupcake will make you vomit taking away more nutrients than you got from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:12 AM
2

Women tend to have a bigger emotional support network, guys are more likely to rely on a gf from emotional support. The validation guys get from sex, a lot of women get at least partially from elsewhere being approached/friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:08 AM
0

It depends on the person and the kind of making out (UK so no frat parties) if it involves toplessness we Brits tend to find somewhere more private.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 07:26 AM
1

No Dads who have/want significant custody; I don't like most kids and those who I like I don't generally want around for any significant amount of time. No truly fat guys, a couple of pounds overweight is fine, full-on fat, not really. Reasonably fit I guess, if they are a bit overweight, so maybe a bit of padding over some muscle. Depressed guys, I have stuck with a boyfriend through a very difficult time for him and don't regret having done it because I loved him, but depressed people tend to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 07:23 AM
1

I think she's willing to compromise on the physique she finds most attractive because of not too many options.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 06:44 AM
1

I think we have very different social groups. There's a reason most guys in rom coms are more attractive than average (for their age group). I wouldn't base a relationship on it, but if there is no attraction, then there is no relationship (excluding sugar babies and other outliers).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 10:44 AM
3

Kinda, TRP agrees with it, but as a Blooper I've never heard the advice be less attractive and clingy it will get you all the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 09:34 AM
1

Nothing exclusively TRP but some mainstream stuff that TRP agrees with, get a hobby, a job, actually talk to women, don't be a doormat and get fit. I used a few connections to get the CV in the door and prepped him for the interview, but the rest was all him. It went well, he's not exactly fit, but he's not fat anymore and he seems pretty happy with his gf. Also figure out what the fuck you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 09:32 AM
2

Being secure financially, I never have that awful feeling I did as a teen trying to figure out how long I could avoid paying a bill before they would cut it off (causing a reconnection fee) and hoping I got it right. Freedom, I like my job, I have a lot of friends, close ones who provide a good support network and some that are more acquaintances but I have a great time with. An awesome FWB who is fun in and out the bedroom. My reality is pretty good, I don't have much to care about and it's tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 09:33 PM
2

It's two separate strategies imo, there's sleeping around for casual sex. Then there's putting out fast (first date or two) because he has enough options that while it doesn't guarantee him sticking around you know if you don't he won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 09:14 PM
1

It's give up 3 vices for a month and pick up a good habit or a project something daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 07:12 PM
1

Use something with a solvent in e.g. Hairspray, perfume, hand sanitiser etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 07:01 PM
2

Seconding the baking soda. Buy it in bulk use it for EVERYTHING.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:49 PM
1

Not really, I've seen a FWB relationship as preferable to a subpar relationship, but if I'd seen a good relationship, I'd have gone for it. Not really, never had one night stand. No, never been rebuffed. This happens sometimes, I wouldn't say a lot, it's a combination of being careful and being lucky. I don't really want kids, so settling down might be a bit different in my eyes, but 19-ish I guess. That was with a specific guy who I'd been friends with for 5 years at the time and not dated long…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:38 PM
1

Honestly, I don't think TRP in particular works. Any strategy that involves getting fit and approaching more women will improve your chances. That's mainstream advice, as is act confident and don't get too invested early on. I don't have evidence of a negative, but haven't seen any indication that things which are EXCLUSIVELY TRP as opposed to mainstream have any effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 09:05 AM
1

Not particularly, I go with my friends occasionally so the behaviour of other people doesn't really affect my experience. The alcohol is over-priced, but you're paying for the alcohol as part of the experience. I wouldn't go every week though. It's a fun place to dance with friends to loud music, a bit exciting. Also great to go to with a bf, not somewhere that I'd go alone because dancing with a bunch of strangers isn't fun and being alone at a nightclub will get you hit on (as a woman) some gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 08:44 AM
3

Positive generally. Someone I want to date as well as have sex with. I haven't really heard the 'would make a great husband' much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 08:21 AM
0

Semi-realistic, I've seen it happen, but not because of the whole SMV thing. In the UK at least, there are plenty of fit guys at uni, who have the advantage of being younger and fitting in with the social group. There were a couple of girls I went to uni with who couldn't get the attention of guys our age. I quite liked one of them but she had a skin condition and was a bit overweight, the other was the most overweight person I've met (UK). There was also a pretty girl who'd lead guys on to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 07:35 AM
2

The sex wasn't great for me the first time. I knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 07:07 AM
1

23F, I'm pretty sure I can find love. Honestly though, it's not that important to me, I'm very good at making friends, financially independent and don't want kids. I'm not looking for a relationship and don't really need one. I might see how my ex feels in a year or so because he went from not wanting kids to wanting them to uncertain. I still care for him and know the attraction and compatibility (apart from wanting/not wanting children) are there. I'd like to be able to find love again, but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:58 AM
0

Don't know of the study but they only culled out of the options they were given. Considering the second culling, modern media shouldn't have caused a second culling given that the presence of media was no different from the first culling. I don't consider actors to be options for most people so it would still be between different men I know who might be an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:44 AM
1

I have guardianship of my sister (17), she works part-time pays her bills (I own the flat she lives in but she pays £20 rent a week), lives in a different flat (very close by) and does her own housework and most of her cooking (we have Sunday roast together so I do that and feed her during exam time). It's not average for the Western teen, but I moved out at 16 and I was semi-prepared. A lot of people don't teach their children how to cook and do housework, nothing like going to uni and realisin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:32 AM
1

???
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 08:39 PM
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University (college) fund and healthcare plan are basically irrelevant in the UK. The UK isn't as spread out as the US car ownership in cities is more hassle than it's worth for a lot of us, because I can't park near work anywhere so I generally get a taxi, guys in their 20s who live rurally generally own cars. But they will also get old and retire faster. The emotionally more mature on average is true, but there are plenty of mature guys in their 20s to pick from and the guys who like partying …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 09:25 AM
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I think it's more that I work in data analysis and I'm on a team of 21 and I'm the only woman and the only under 30 on the team. The office as a whole is about 2% female, so we get a bit too much attention sometimes. Not sure about the US, but clubbing isn't generally done by most 40s in the UK, so if you want frequent sex a relationship is probably your best bet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 09:05 AM
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I already get the "This must be your daughter." when out with colleagues, it must be so much worse when you're actually sleeping with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 09:00 AM
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With you there, for all the talk about 'status' if I started dating a guy in his 40s I'd expect a fall in status.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 08:13 AM
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I get asked out by an incredible amount of guys in their 40s. I'm guessing it's largely because they might want a relationship or regular sex which can be harder to get as a single guy in your 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 08:11 AM
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A common issue with people in their 20s is while a lot of careers have a clear list of steps to get there e.g. A-levels -> uni -> career, they fail to make any kind of plan for the rest of their life and expect a lot of things to just sort of happen, which leaves a lot up to chance. My friend was pretty much like this, he planned to get a gf, so he started working out and dressing better. But he didn't make a list of what he wanted in a girl, why, and how important things were, he didn't put muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 08:09 AM
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Interesting, we were talking about guys in their 40s, but guys in their 30s in the UK are basically just older versions of guys in their 20s. So guys about my age are the obvious choice for the most part. There's not much social backlash between 20s and 30s, but when girls my age date guys in their 40s it generally hurts their social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 07:44 AM
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Dating guys a lot older than you doesn't exactly raise your status here (UK) unless they're an A-list celebrity or something. Also what they say about women is the same with men, I can't fuck his paycheque. Wealth is great, but unless you're the 1%, and even then, not likely to get you a LTR with lots of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 07:21 AM
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But as a woman in my 20s why would I want a guy in his 40s for marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 05:34 AM
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Very fit, workout about 5 times a week. Lift occasionally to keep arms toned but mainly running, climbing, swimming etc. Yes, Bluepill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 05:24 AM
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I was actually think of ben-wa balls, I tried kegel once a week when I was with my last bf because it was supposed to make sex amazing and I got far too tight for both of us. Ben-wa a couple of times a month was the right side of too tight for us. There's also electro-stim for those who have real trouble (women 40s+, or after a few pregnancies).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 08:33 PM
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Both
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 08:29 PM
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Also there are certain things you can do to 'tighten' up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 08:25 PM
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That's not my opinion (I've been looking at online charts and that's the consensus), athletic or ripped, he doesn't quite have enough bulk to be 'built'. Women generally find Ottermode the most attractive, it looks fit, healthy and natural. 1 2
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 06:28 PM
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Yes, in most cases, but I'm saying a guy who fits the subculture can compete with guys who would normally be a few steps ahead. Not that someone lacking all those qualities will beat someone with all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 02:33 PM
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That guy is 'athletic' most women actually prefer otter mode which is the step before that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 02:30 PM
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I've never said anything about the first two. I said the sub is 'drowning' because there are some good points in there, but there's also things like a link to an article (on the front page last night GMT) called something along the lines of "Why it's ok for women to abandon their children" which concluded with the author saying that society undervalues fathers, the person who posted it either didn't read it or didn't understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 09:52 AM
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BP just means not RP so never mind. I don't care what kind of sex people are after so long as they don't pretend otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 08:24 AM
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No commitment issues (I just don't want to commit to him), STDs (4 partners total[bare with 1], using condoms and testing every other month currently) mental illness or self-esteem issues. Everyone is insecure about something, I'm teamleader in a company I joined under 3 months ago, all of my subordinates are older than me and they all thought the deputy team leader would get the job. I struggled when I first got the position, but I feel a lot more relaxed now. Generalisation might be powerful i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 11:36 PM
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Because both MRAs and feminists often get hung up on stupid little things. There's a lot of confusion without a very unified front, what I as a feminist care about and campaign for isn't the same as what another feminist might focus on. Feminism started out with a very unified front, votes for women etc. MRAs campaigning for equality fit the description of feminists, but avoid the label, you also have feminists who don't identify as either to avoid being thrown in with the extremists. MRAs are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 08:40 PM
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Agree about the self-help books in general, but 6 Harsh Truths is a really good 2 page article I highly recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 07:55 PM
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I'm not against it, especially when it comes to ONS. I mainly disagree with what TRP thinks the sexual market is like. Especially with the oversimplification that ignores subcultures and the one size fits all approach. Like women having casual sex longing after commitment, I'm screwing my FWB because the sex is good and I like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 06:02 PM
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First sexual relationship, I decided I'd rather play it safe and lose my virginity to someone I trusted and not risk regretting it. Dated a friend for about a year, it was fun but probably more like FWB than actual dating, although I didn't notice at the time. We're still friends today. Don't regret it, but learned you can't just decide to fall in love with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 10:51 AM
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They're both entitled to say no to anyone who doesn't meet their standards which they can set however they want. But they're not entitled to those people. I can decide I'm only going to go for musically talented 10/10s and I'm entitled to do that, but I'm not entitled to one, so if I end up alone as a result I shouldn't bitch too much about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 10:39 AM
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Rose hasn't got any beta bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 09:31 PM
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Assuming the bride thing works out, what about friends, networking etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 07:26 AM
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Even RPW and TRP don't necessarily slot together that well. If a TRPer was in a relationship with a RPW who cooked, cleaned, obeyed etc I'm sure most TRPers wouldn't be against her intiating sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 06:25 AM
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No, I don't like most children, even those I do like I'm happy to give back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 06:21 AM
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Bluepill, 14/15, I had to google Dalton and Lyell as didn't know who they were. result
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 05:49 PM
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I would argue that it's not a claim towards the woman are wonderful effect as they think both men and women should become less selfish as they grow into adulthood. They aren't saying men should serve women only that both should be less self-serving as they mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 05:26 PM
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As we can see, TAoM explicitly defines young boys finally becoming men, by abandoning 'childish' and 'self-centred' pursuits such as passive consumption, hedonism and lechery, and instead following the selfless road to serve the needs of others-families explicitly mentioned. I subscribe to the latter philosophy. Manhood is the opposite of childhood and concerns one’s inner values. A child is self-centered, fearful, and dependent. A man is bold, courageous, respectful, independent and of service …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 08:19 AM
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My mother didn't fill the traditional female role, but she tried to push me into it and my primary school was very traditionalist as was Sunday school. I didn't like it, I became an atheist at 9 which my teachers and Sunday school didn't appreciate. I found it difficult, I like my nieces, but I don't want to spend more than a couple of hours with them and I don't like most children in general. I never liked playing with dolls and most of the other games the girls were encouraged towards. I am ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 05:30 AM
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They both look average-ish to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 12:38 PM
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There are more men than women on dating sites and men tend to do the approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 08:56 AM
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A decreased chance of orgasm isn't an incentive, I have situational anorgasmia and a few orgasms are a sure thing with my FWB or myself, it's a good reason for me not to have a one night stand. So you're saying you'd be more willing to have sex if you got blue-balled 80% of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 08:54 AM
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Last LTR: I had total control of the study. He had total control of the spare bedroom. Other than that he had more control of the kitchen because he did most of the cooking, but it was pretty equal. Both of us liked having our own space.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 06:50 AM
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Most penises fall reasonably close to average in size, I can only see there being much of an issue with it being very small <4 inches which could make a few positions difficult or very big. Most of my social group don't talk about it much and the only time the penis has been an issue, it was circumcised and it was my second real bf and I had real trouble figuring out how to give him a handjob, which isn't the norm in the UK. The sex also wasn't as good, but that might just have been him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 03:56 PM
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I have 'nice labia' but it's not something I've ever been complimented on. I really don't think guys care that much, they seem much more interested in technique and enthusiasm, it really doesn't make a difference during sex, so why care.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 03:52 PM
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But there's also a good chance of hitting the cervix with a longer penis which a lot of women don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 03:48 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 12:40 PM
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Most ratings I agree with, but I'd rank Rollin's body over Brad's (ignoring the tattoos). I find Bob Harper's body the hottest overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 12:30 PM
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TRP is actually a collection of beliefs that RPers subscribe to in varying amounts. A lot of BPers don't even subscribe to TBP, including me. BP is not red pill beliefs, RP is a reasonable amount of TRP beliefs. Red pillers are more of a group than Blue pillers, it's like various forms of Christianity to everything else. The various forms of Christianity have common beliefs, the others have some beliefs shared by quite a few of them but no real core tenets they operate off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 05:32 AM
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You're conflating two different things. TBP is a satire subreddit. BluePill on PPD/TRP mainly just means not Black/Redpill. So Bluepill identifies our beliefs as not RedPill, but TheBluePill is a subreddit that mocks TRP. My beliefs are BluePill, but I don't subscribe to TBP. TBP=/=BPers
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:58 PM
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I've never given that advice. TBP is a satire sub, so not where I'd look for dating advice, and bluepill generally just means not redpill. Advice I've actually given: 1 2 3 4 I keep seeing TRPers saying BP keep saying just be yourself, but I've never seen a BPer actually say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:51 PM
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I would agree sexuality isn't entirely separate from standards. There comes a point where I'd pick sex with women, and then celibacy over sex with certain guys even with the knowledge that was the best I was restricted to. I'm neutral to a lot of guys, but sexual repulsion kicks in for me at very obese, bad hygiene, old etc. post
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:20 PM
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In relationships to keep the 'spark' alive, make sure to have 'special' sex at least a couple of times a month. Last relationship, I'd buy some new really nice underwear(or items, or plan out something) and half an hour before he finished work send a few (just about)SFW pics of the lacy hem peeking out or something. Have his favourite food ready to be heated before/after and have some good alcohol. Or he'd cook my favourite dinner, make a few cocktails and buy some handcuffs/underwear or whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:02 PM
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I don't know, I'm guessing because I posted it at gone 4am (my time) after the company party and I wasn't very sober.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 06:21 PM
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But one aspect of creepiness, ignoring signs of complete disinterest, is less likely in hot guys, because they're less likely to be given the signs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 02:57 AM
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There are also literally more women than men in their 30s. Not all of the single third are necessarily looking for a partner. A lot of those women could have guys, just maybe not ones as educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/15 06:12 AM
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MRA: they have a few good points but a lot of their stats are like the way age gap stat which is 5% at worst and probably due at least partially to women being less likely to ask for a raise which isn't really sexist. The good things they have are drowning in a sea of one offs, inaccurate stats, stats due to personal choices, things that aren't actually sexist* and random anti-feminist hate. MGTOW: a lot of hating on women, but given that they are just removing themselves from the SMP and avoidi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 06:02 AM
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I'd want them to be employed or looking for work, but other than that I don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 05:07 AM
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I worked retail more than 20 hours a week for 7 years. I hated it, but I focused on other things. I worked more hours of retail after finishing uni. It was hard to impossible to find something else that would fit around my school and later uni hours. I put in tens of thousands of hours to get away from it, it took me years to get a good job. I also had to wait out living with my mother, because my situation wasn't considered to be 'that bad'. I was earning enough to live independently before I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/15 08:14 PM
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He wasn't even incel, he never mentions a direct rejection in his manifesto even once. He never approached women to talk to them and had no female friends after childhood. All he did was wander around and wait for attractive women to walk up to him and say 'wanna fuck'. He does once mention saying 'hi' to one extremely hot girl. He had issues in childhood before he hit puberty, which is what his issues with women came from. His last ditch attempt to lose his virginity as a teenager was eating al…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/15 07:13 AM
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Elliot Rodger's manifesto revealed very different problems to being incel. In its 149 pages the pattern is him exploding over any slight, it focuses on women after puberty, but you could replace 'women' with anything else. His issue with girls was the guys who had them were more popular than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/15 06:49 AM
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Mach score: 70 Dark Triad test Narcissism: 30th percentile Mach: 23rd percentile Psychopathy: 2nd percentile I'm pretty cynical.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/15 06:22 PM
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Not average, I have a first from a Russell Group (very good in the UK) university, I have a job that nearly pays $100k* at 23. I am 2/3 of the way through an open degree with the OU. I'd say I'm more driven than average and I'm pretty adventurous. I have been professionally published and I go on holiday a lot. I work in data analysis and everyone on my team is more than 10 years older than me and male. I have a FWB which is slightly atypical and a lot of hobbies, I also don't want children. *I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/15 05:27 PM
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Not in the 30s actually, 15-24 is the last group with more men than women and a large proportion of those are too young for adult women to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/15 08:21 AM
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I will assume your logic is correct and follow it through with logic. Genetic superiority can't be fully-determined from aesthetics. Genetic screening, family history, IQ and fitness tests (mainly fitness tests, because IQ is far more useful nowadays) would be used to determine desirability. The same to determine the top 80% of women. We'd also have to check the sperm produced is of good quality. Sperm starts to deteriorate in the 30s, so there would be a disproportionate number of 'superior' me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/15 08:16 AM
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I don't have a very low n-count, but I suffer from situational anorgasmia, I never orgasm the first time I have sex with a guy I get abdominal pain and half a panic attack, which makes ONS not very appealing. I have a friend with benefits that I have sex with 3+ times a week, so I'd say I understand the desire for sex. Although sex in a relationship is more desirable to me than casual sex. It's not wrong to want sex in the slightest, but some people seem to build it up to a huge level, I feel th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/15 07:45 AM
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Some of the people I see getting laid aren't exactly hot. The 'lifting' body isn't as popular as a toned lean one where I live. There's a lot of get fit and lift on TRP, but very little about the superficial ways to look better such as clothing, facial hair and haircuts that can give a pretty big boost in SMV for less effort and faster. A lot of my social group tends to earn pretty well, between my job, my team leader bonus and other performance bonuses, I should hit £62k($95k) this working year…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 07:24 AM
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I'd suggest approaching, you have to play to win.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 12:20 AM
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I don't think most people have actually read it if that makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 10:52 PM
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His great attempt at losing his virginity in the last 12 days of being a teenager centred on walking to a pizza place and sitting at a table alone at lunch and a different restaurant for dinner and waiting for a tall attractive blonde girl to walk up to him. All the books, movies and tv shows I've seen at bare minimum require talking to girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 09:51 PM
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Before he started getting attracted to girls, he had 2 pets that both lasted under a year despite normally living a lot longer.... He was also experiencing a lot of jealousy, feeling inferior and was desperate to be popular. Later he was ashamed of living part-time in a poor area. At 11 he bumped into a pretty girl at Summer camp, "She cursed at me and pushed me", this "ruined a part of my life." He hated any popular guy who was good with girls, but desperately wanted to be popular. He became ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 09:47 PM
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So what you're saying is that simply walking down the street while not insanely gorgeous or famous and not actually talking to women is not an effective seduction strategy.......
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:00 PM
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I didn't say he never talks about getting laid, he just doesn't brag about being good in bed. He talks about it sometimes (if the girl's fine with him talking about it) but doesn't brag that he is good in bed. When girls talk about it (knowing that he's fine with them talking about it) they often mention 'it was great', 'he really knows what he's doing'. He doesn't tend to be very braggy, all our friends already know he's getting laid so maybe not much point, but everyone in the world knew when …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 07:42 PM
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I don't spend much time with women anything like those described on TRP. There are some at the periphery of my life, the woman at work who flinches if I raise my voice even slightly and is too desperate to please, the cashier at the corner store who has too many kids and a new guy every week, but it would be completely inappropriate for me to criticise them out of the blue. I don't care about 50 Shades fans, because for the most part they get it's fantasy. I read the Twilight series as a teen an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 07:37 PM
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It's not a double standard, he knows not everyone is okay with people knowing they slept together, he is fine with people knowing and girls know that he won't say anything unless they're okay with it too. A double-standard means I'm okay with one of them doing something I'd consider wrong if the other were to do it. No one is using him like a sex toy. He is a fun guy and at parties he tends to get laid a lot. No one's pressuring him or keeping him around for the sex. It's not like we only invite…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 06:52 PM
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Women gossip about him being good in bed, he doesn't brag about the different women he takes home. (If a guy claims he's good in bed it doesn't mean much to most women given that he has an obvious motive, bias and can't have experienced it first hand).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 06:29 PM
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There's a guy I know who's like this, he has a very good reputation. He's a good fuck, safe, reasonably attractive, fun and won't spread it around.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:42 AM
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It's not a predatory goal. Optionally try to max out attractiveness, at least wear clothes that fit, be clean and a flattering haircut. Ideally you will already have a pool of 'candidates', women you already know who you could potentially date. These should be your first port of call. You can also ask them if the have any single friends. Approach women in suitable situations, not randomly when they are walking down the street. Strike up conversation in queues, groups etc. If you want to try onli…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:38 AM
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This seems crazy familiar. I have nothing against single parents (or most other groups), but your job is your job. If you can't handle kids and that job then it isn't for your coworkers and employers to compensate for you. She shouldn't have let her quality of work drop. Firing her was the right decision. Flexi-time is the norm in my job, if you start handing in shoddy/late work you lose the privilege. I'd have allowed flexi-time but made the consequences for screwing up clear. You shouldn't all…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 07:10 PM
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You should get married if you (and your partner) want to. It offers some benefits when it comes to custody and the legal commitment can encourage a couple to work through their problems. On the other hand it can make splitting up difficult if one spouse doesn't want to let go and they can drag out a divorce by demanding sentimental items etc. Alimony could be a pain, but could also make sense if one partner has taken primary care of the house. I'm not religious, but would be willing to marry for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 07:02 PM
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High five :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 06:55 PM
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Onus of proof on her to prove he was told, if she can prove he was told than he has to prove he relinquished his rights in time. I'm thinking maybe like serving someone with papers, so he has a time period to file a response in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 06:54 PM
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I'd be fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 08:27 AM
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I wouldn't support this partly because my last relationship broke up because he changed his mind about wanting children and I didn't. We came pretty close to getting married and neither of us did anything wrong. If he'd turned out to be not such a great guy then this could have put me in a position where I either got "divorce-raped" or stuck in a marriage playing chicken until either he yielded or I refused sex long enough to be accused of sexual neglect. There are reasons for divorce that aren'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 05:57 AM
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I am a feminist. I don't think forcing someone to get an abortion is okay. Personally I believe that the guy should be told before the abortion cutoff and have a chance to surrender all rights then. That way the decision can be made with no surprises. This can't always be the case. On the other hand giving someone on welfare an implant wouldn't be awful from my point of view. The alternative with Catholics etc. would be not giving them parental rights in the first place I guess. Children can als…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 05:45 AM
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ENTJ-A on the main test, INTJ on the other, but only 3% introverted. I am very sociable, but at the end of the day I find it pretty tiring if enjoyable, I have always flipped between I and E, I'd consider myself to be a sociable introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/15 09:56 PM
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The just world fallacy/hypothesis requires me believing that she WILL act like a decent adult and friend. Given that I have pointed out that this selfishness might be another side of her or she might have always been this way but not had enough power to act on it, I haven't assumed the best of her intentions. I also said she SHOULD act like a decent adult, I didn't say she WOULD, the just world hypothesis is entirely about conflating your EXPECTATIONS with your IDEALS, not just having ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 07:23 AM
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It could be a few different things. I was unpopular as a child and rather plain, I couldn't invite friends back, didn't have parties or money/a lift to go anywhere and never had anything to share. Puberty suddenly hit me really hard at 12, I started doing work (mowing lawns etc) for some people, I got a lot of confidence, became pretty and had enough money to meet up with people and bus to people's houses. My popularity spiked, but I neglected my best friend because suddenly my life was really e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 07:33 PM
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Not really the equivalent. I don't see anything wrong with the single mother scenario, but I guess the equivalent would be for the guy to get them to use the eggs of someone he's having an affair with in an IVF treatment. With the single mother and immature man, you could just not date/breakup with them. There's also no deceit involved, so assuming they take the rejection well I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 07:36 AM
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Honestly it sounds like she wants to justify her actions so she doesn't have to be the bad guy. I'm not calling her defective, but it takes effort from both partners to keep passion up. The novelty of a new relationship tends to be a boost to passion, there are some people who just flit between relationships because once the initial boost is gone their desire for sex stops/lowers and they don't know what to do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 02:57 AM
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Honestly it sounds like she wants to justify her actions so she doesn't have to be the bad guy. I'm not calling her defective, but it takes effort from both partners to keep passion up. The novelty of a new relationship tends to be a boost to passion, there are some people who just flit between relationships because once the initial boost is gone their desire for sex stops/lowers and they don't know what to do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 02:57 AM
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Fine, but no trafficking, regular thorough testing, condoms, no advertising on normal tv until watershed and no pimps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 02:42 AM
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I'd want him to be attracted to me, I know there are women who are stunning and I don't need him to desire me more than others. It depends how early it is in the relationship, if he randomly says that after the first time I have sex with him I might.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 10:02 AM
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Honestly I've never felt like I owed them an explanation for the rare rejection. When you're having sex at least 5 times a week and intialising about 60% of the time sort of, rejecting a few times every couple of months shouldn't require an explanation. It's different if you're neglecting your partner, but apart from random guys trying to hook up with me or guys wanting to get to the sex earlier I've never really had guys want a reason behind the rejection. Sometimes I'll give one, but 'not real…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:12 PM
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Yes, but he's talking about guys buying expensive gifts for women without a serious relationship, without the women doing anything to elicit the gifts other than being female and existing. That's different, I paid rent for both of us when my last boyfriend was waiting for his student loan, I don't randomly buy men online gifts of a similar value no. Sharing of resources to some extent is the norm in relationships for men and women. You wouldn't cook multiple meals for random guys on the Internet…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 08:51 PM
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He doesn't say 80% of men are considered less attractive than average, he's saying 80% of them just aren't getting laid. Men are also more likely to be overweight than women and there is selection bias in that the only men included were those using a particular dating site which is unlikely to be representative of the population, especially given that a lot of guys tend to use really bad photos. Source 1 All of my clothes fit me perfectly and are flattering, I take really good care of my skin, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 08:36 PM
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But they are unlikely to be getting gifts worth thousands without meeting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 07:54 AM
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He's wrong about men outnumbering women in the US, that's not true in any group other than 18-24 year olds (100.1 men per 100 women) dateable by adult women, I'd consider the surplus men (0-17) in other age groups undateable for most women. Women actually outnumber men in every single age group after the age of 25. When my friend says she's lonely she's not talking about sex, she's talking about having a loving relationship, she's not incel, but it's been a couple of years and she is lonely, alt…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 06:36 AM
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I'd ask why. Not because I feel entitled to it, but because I'd want to know why he felt that way. Wanting to know the reason doesn't mean someone feels entitled, it's a pretty reasonable response to an unexpected answer. When my ex asked why we couldn't have sex that morning, he didn't feel entitled to sex, it's just we usually had sex then so he had a reasonable belief we would be having sex that morning. I don't think a wife being given the husband's name is oppression, I think the couple sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 02:03 AM
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Honestly, not many, I assume you mean guys I find attractive immediately rather than guys I think are hot down the line. About 14% of men are in my age range of 20-29, I'll add 1% for 19 year olds, another 6% for guys in their early 30s. Call that 21%, I'm not a big fan of guys over 6"2-ish or under 5"3-ish so that takes it down to about 19%. About a third are obese so 13%, I'd say I notice 6 and ups most of the time, so 9% with guys in their 30s having to be more attractive within their age ran…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 07:04 AM
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I'm not in favour of this, apart from trying to put a price tag on caregiving which really varies during relationships, it also assumes that guys won't carry their half of a relationship. If you as a housewife can't talk about your financial needs with a partner, I'm not sure getting a small wage will fix your problem. I experience emotional labour, but so do a lot of people and it's not like it's all from men. If anything I'd say the campaign is somewhat sexist. Caregiving during a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 06:45 AM
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An exercise of power isn't inherently immoral, but you don't have to intentionally manipulate someone to harm them and teens are vulnerable. Mixed with a sexual or romantic relationship and lack of intent doesn't mean she won't compromise herself. I also obeyed teachers outside of the classroom, random adults when they asked me to fetch their bag for them or perform other small tasks, even though I wouldn't do that for another teen. There wouldn't have been any consequences for disobeying. I use…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 02:27 AM
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The issue with pairing up and consent, is that if people were willing they'd already be doing it. I'd be okay with heavily-regulated prostitution, but that would get expensive for those who don't earn a lot so they might not be able to obtain frequent sex anyway. Some people would have to be providing this service and I'm not sure there is a consensual one that isn't cost-probative to all but the wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 02:18 AM
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But given you've said you aren't immature and teenage girls are immature there will still be the tendency towards a power imbalance. There was a girl at McDonald's making a mess, a teen around her age told her to stop it. She didn't. I told her to stop it and she did because my position as an adult gave me higher perceived status than the teen, I didn't work there, I had no real way of enforcing any kind of authority but she felt like I had some kind of authority. It's not as strong as it is wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 02:08 AM
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Would you also argue that an incel gay man is owed his basic needs, if he is responsible and pays taxes, from a male who is unemployed for whatever reason (between jobs etc.) and having his healthcare needs paid for by the taxes of others?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 01:49 AM
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I remember most teen girls being very materialistic, conformist and partying more than most adults. I don't discriminate against ephebophiles, I also think that adults who are primarily attracted to other adults shouldn't have sex with underage teens. There comes a point where an age difference means a power imbalance and not in a fun way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 01:44 AM
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I wasn't using a specific source, but: Source 1 Source 2 Source 3 Basically there's an axis that can take several years to fully mature and until it's mature it doesn't really work fully all the time and when it doesn't a chemical isn't produced in the right amount and the egg doesn't get released. The skipped period information is pretty common knowledge I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 01:31 AM
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You can have periods without ovulating and you obviously can't get pregnant in that cycle. Missing periods is also reasonably common in teenagers and they aren't likely to be very fertile during a skipped period. For the first few years after starting periods up to 80% (in most circumstances) can be anovulatory. The timing of the period tends to become more regular in about 3 years with maybe 50% ovulation, ovulation 90% of the time doesn't generally begin for 6 years after the start of periods …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 11:28 PM
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Given that we'd have done the training and assessment stage but most likely not have been matched to a child I'd probably have to say no. I'd be willing to pay a small amount as a goodwill gesture during the first few years. However I don't feel like I should be considered the parent of a child that hasn't even been picked out yet, I'm not related to and will never interact with. Its needs and theoretical needed payments would be entirely dependent on the ex choosing a certain child. I highly do…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 06:37 AM
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Not the guy who's actually a jerk, but the nice guy I tend to see more. My stock definition I guess is they are nice and often see this as compensating for other things they sometimes lack. They don't tend to have many passions and won't fight for much, they won't always speak up if unhappy. They can want to please others too much, which often results in not getting what they want. Sometimes they can come across as slightly lacking in terms of a personality as they don't like arguing or inconven…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 06:47 AM
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An issue with some people who are FA is that they can be unwilling to lower their standards. I didn't say they had to become SMV6+, but given that attraction is a hurdle to dating, boosting yours as much as possible will open up your dating pool. I wouldn't date someone I was unattracted to even if I had a very low SMV and wouldn't expect anyone who found me unattractive to date me. Some guys find it hard to hold muscle, but most can at least get most of the excess fat off with some effort. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 06:33 AM
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Maximise attractiveness, I'm not talking about just hitting the gym, if you're starting with a handicap you need to get as many 'points as you can get. Very toned and lean is popular with the people I hang around with. Clothes that flatter, are current and fit perfectly. Amazing hygiene, maybe LIGHT application of a good cologne. Trim any nose hair or anything else. If you have a naturally downturned lips you'll need to smile slightly just to look neutral. You can use facial hair to shape your f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 08:25 PM
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Unless there's something we haven't been told it's not rape and I don't see anything wrong with it. She doesn't sound too impaired to make the decision, so girl gets laid with a guy she might not usually be interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 07:55 PM
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Attractive men who put effort into their appearance also have an easier life. Being attractive regardless of sex or anything else gives you a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 09:25 AM
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I wouldn't say it's abusive to leave a spouse over an extreme lack of sex. I believe in autonomy, you can't force her to have sex with you, conversely she can't force you to stay in a relationship with her. I don't really like the phrasing, but physical intimacy is somewhat important to me in a relationship and leaving due to a lack of intimacy is a reasonable reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 07:50 PM
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No, I'm a feminist, but there are a few different types of 'feminism' on tumblr and the kind you've mentioned is a little extremist for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 07:39 PM
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I don't have a strong opinion on it. There's discrimination against the overweight when it comes to hiring which I don't agree with, but when it comes to attraction people can like whatever they happen to like. I don't agree with fat-shaming, but unless people are randomly commenting on dating profiles telling people they would rather die than touch them etc. I really don't care that much. I find acne unattractive, they might have trouble controlling it and some people might find it beautiful, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 02:30 PM
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Speaking up in a relationship is better than suffering in silence. The aim in a good relationship is to have both be happy, in this sub people criticise each other other all the time, regardless of gender. I may or may not be willing to compromise on it, but I'd rather know. In my last relationship my ex changed his mind about wanting children. He didn't mention it until he was going to propose, we were jointly liable for a lease on a flat, he couldn't afford it alone and it was a bit of a stret…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 02:08 PM
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Not the life of the party, but willing to speak up about something they want/don't want, to go for things even though they might get rejected, not afraid to fail or sound stupid to the point where they don't do it. It's not so much an image thing, it just makes for a better long term relationship. Those are individual examples, people who are depressed are generally unmotivated and lack energy. It's not a 1:1, but there is a correlation. People who have their own life and are happy in themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 01:31 PM
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When I don't get to orgasm, it doesn't even feel good for me after the first few minutes. It feels like I got punched in the stomach and am about to have a panic attack, I tighten up, get a little dry and sometimes bleed a little. On the other hand I can have pretty intense orgasms when masturbating. I prefer good sex to masturbating, but the difference for me isn't anywhere as big as it is for you. I love having sex with my FWB, but it's not that much better than masturbating, so I won't go far…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 01:18 PM
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It's more about associations or implications. I like people who are confident/happy, not clingy and prefer relationships where we do things together as much/more than watch/listen to things to together. Ambition/passion needs motivation, people who are motivated/ambitious/passionate tend (imo) to be less prone to depression, less clingy/dependent, more interested in doing things, more confident. Talent is similar, most talents require time investment, so if they have a talent they (probably) hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 12:54 PM
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Personally, I never have an orgasm the first time I have sex with a guy so he'd get to cum and I'd get anxiety and abdominal pain. It's not unusual for women not to cum during sex with a stranger. How keen would the average guy be to engage in sex with a stranger if he knew he was going to get blue-balled?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 12:24 PM
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6am: woke up got dressed etc. 7am: ran a few miles 9am: showered, changed, packed lunch, hoovered etc. 10am: did work 4pm: met up with friends, went swimming. 6pm: returned home, ate. 8pm: watched tv 9pm: studied 10pm: had sex 11pm:... 12am: messed around on the Internet I always start the day with a run, shower after it, and I have sex most nights, but other than that I don't have much in the way of a routine. I 'telecommute' but tend to have long deadlines so I don't work some days. I belong t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:33 AM
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~1900-2300 calories a day I guess, it depends on the time of year, mostly vegetables, lean meat, complex carbs and dairy. I have two days a week when I eat and drink whatever I fancy and I also eat a fair bit of 'healthy junk food' made with wholemeal flour, less fat etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:20 AM
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I'm slightly confused. Guys treat girls who are having casual sex with them differently than girls who are a prospective LTR prospect. It's a different relationship. Do you treat a FWB the same way you would a boyfriend? My FWB and I get on outside the bedroom, but we're not the closest of friends. My expectations of him in terms of time, affection, 'faithfulness', common-values etc are different than those I'd have of a boyfriend. He has propositioned a relationship, but not due to feelings so …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:43 AM
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I'm slightly confused. Guys treat girls who are having casual sex with them differently than girls who are a prospective LTR prospect. It's a different relationship. Do you treat a FWB the same way you would a boyfriend? My FWB and I get on outside the bedroom, but we're not the closest of friends. My expectations of him in terms of time, affection, 'faithfulness', common-values etc are different than those I'd have of a boyfriend. He has propositioned a relationship, but not due to feelings so …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:43 AM
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Convenience and my period isn't completely regular. It very occasionally becomes irregular and I sometimes ovulate again unexpectedly before having a period so sometimes I 'skip' a period, but I become fertile again without warning at some unknown point. So to be completely safe I wouldn't be able to have sex a lot of the time. I gained a bit of weight while on the pill, but I lost it after switching to the implant and it hasn't had any side effects. I also don't have to worry much about a broke…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:11 AM
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We were in uni and would have had other flatmates if we hadn't moved in together. We'd also known each other for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 06:48 PM
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I didn't check that he still felt the same about our future, I assumed if his position changed he'd have told me. It's the normal story, girl meets guy, they're friends for years, at some unknown time things start getting 'relationshippy'. They start dating, move in together after a month or two. Start discussing their future, neither wants kids, both are doing well enough in terms of uni and career etc. Almost 3 years after they start dating guy decides he wants to propose. He changed his mind …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 06:26 PM
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Jogging 3 times a week normally with a friend. Paintball a couple of times a month. Rock climbing alternate Sundays, I swim most Sundays. Some weightlifting but not bodybuilding, just toned lean muscle, I occasionally go hiking but not very often. Bluepill woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/15 06:00 PM
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I've never been rejected but I've only initiated with 3 guys. Once for sex, twice for dates then a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/15 12:43 PM
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Personally I think it's about willingness to settle and prospective new relationships. Having fun and great sex isn't a basis for a (dating) relationship if there aren't romantic feelings etc. it's not enough to start a relationship in my opinion. The woman might also have more opportunities to get into a relationship she's happier in. A lot of guys who have opened their relationships have found that their gf/wife can get laid any night of the week while they struggle. For the man it might be ok…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 11:25 AM
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I have a reasonably high sex drive but I still have absolutely no interest in having sex with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 12:07 AM
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I think most people have a little flexibility when it comes to sexuality vs. standards. Age and bad hygiene can get a lot of people to fall outside the range of attraction even if they are the right gender. I am straight, but there comes a point where if given the option of morbidly obese man with very bad hygiene and a very androgynous woman I would go for the woman. Attractive man -> average-ish (4+) man -> attractive androgynous woman -> above-average women -> celibacy -> other* *there are so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 01:14 PM
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It's not that risky. The result is positive or neutral, it's very low risk for people without fragile self esteem. Investment bank etc. is far more of a risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 12:30 PM
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He hasn't won the genetic lottery, but he hasn't worked with what he has. Ignoring his attitude. Haircut, it is very unflattering Stop smoking Lose weight and tone up If he can grow facial hair that would really help. General guide His clothes aren't his size. They aren't particularly great in general, but they don't fit right on the shoulders at least (haven't seen the rest of his body to judge).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 11:41 AM
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They can't force themselves to be attracted to short guys, and most people want to date people they're attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/15 02:09 PM
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He is toned, reasonably attractive face, dresses really well. He is great fun to be around, he is always doing something, he never stands at the edge of a party. He's interesting, he always has something to say and he never acts sulky/despairing at parties. He doesn't try to turn a no into a yes, he goes for women who are already a yes or most way there. Since a lot of the parties have some of the same people there is always a girl who has already been charmed by him halfway. He also has a reput…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 06:11 PM
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When someone's been used for sex it's generally because there was an implication or statement that the sex was contingent on something else. I get a guy to go down on me. There is an unspoken implication that I will get him off in return. If I don't, I used him for sex because he wouldn't have done it if he'd known there would be no reciprocation. A guy takes me on a few dates, says he really likes me and is looking for a serious relationship and isn't seeing anyone else. The implication is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 05:58 PM
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:( nevermind....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 08:31 AM
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No, unless he pays less rent and bills (if you live together), or other exceptional circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 07:26 AM
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I go jogging, but honestly, if a guy asked me to go jogging with him, I wouldn't necessarily realise it was supposed to be a date. But watching a film on the free big screen would be cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 07:18 AM
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Insisting can make the first date awkward. I offer twice on a good first date, which allows for a polite refusal. C: I'll pay half A: I've got it C: It's fine A: I want to pay
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 07:07 AM
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The invitee should offer to pay for themselves and be willing to do so. Or snacks (cinema), skate hire, desserts and tip etc. In real life, a lot of guys turn down the offer to pay half (twice) so I don't insist because I don't want to make the first date awkward. I've generally gone for inviting on the second (fourth....) date and paying for that. I only insist on paying half for the first (or third) date if there's not going to be another date. In relationships I normally pay half or slightly …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 07:02 AM
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I'm a pretty straight female. Andrej Pejic is gorgeous, he's not my 'type' at all, but wow, I just really want to touch him. Elliott Sailors, the first time I saw her I actually thought she was a guy. Robert Downey Jr, decades than men I usually look at. Emma Stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 06:47 AM
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Intelligent people are generally more attractive. Also I'm not a nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 06:27 AM
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Perhaps, but women are more likely to get screened and tested (so treated) for several diseases like chlamydia so while more likely to get them are also likely to have them for a shorter period of time. Women are more likely to get diagnosed with chlamydia, but they are also much more likely to get tested. Women are more likely to be asymptomatic. If the guy is having the kids with his partner he could give them and std which could be passed to his kids or complicate their pregnancy. Guys can ep…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 06:24 AM
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Personal taste, also I haven't exactly done a survey, but voice, personality and face can outweigh body. Benedict Cumberbatch is considered extremely attractive by several of my friends, but if his voice was mediocre, they wouldn't find him that special. Also see how many women find Alan Rickman hot. Men don't seem to find someone's voice hot the same way women do. My male friends can't agree on the hottest woman either so.....
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 11:53 AM
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Because feminists are a very large group so there's going to be people with dissenting/unpopular opinions. Also extremists tend to be a lot more vocal and people only tend to comment when they have an opinion on the subject. Also people often look down on people who make different choices to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 11:36 AM
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It can also be how she likes to relate to people and what she likes to do with them. I've also never disqualified someone based on IQ, but given that I met most of my (current main) friends at debate/book club/quiz society/evening class, none of my friends are dim and most of them are driven. Feelings are important, but you need to match up in other areas too. I've dated 3 guys who've made less than me, the one who had no drive made for a bad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 11:14 AM
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I don't believe that female emancipation will lead to the destruction of society so I don't feel distressed. Pre-emancipation many women were unhappy, equality might make other people unhappy, but that doesn't make equality wrong. Getting 'left out' sucks, but I want regulated (STD-testing mostly) prostitution to be legalised. I believe strongly in bodily autonomy, which would include them in the SMP. Economic problems caused by lower birth-rates should stabilise and improve reasonably fast. Man…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 10:57 AM
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But if he does catch an STD and has PIV sex with a woman she's much more likely to get it from him, than a man having sex with a woman whom has an STD.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 10:25 AM
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I have casual sex but with a FWB. My friends range from below-average to hot, 19-32, and the highest partner count is 13, lowest is 0. Most of us have had about 2-5 partners, most of us haven't had one-night stand, but 2/9 of us have had several. The formula is off for pretty much all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 07:59 AM
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It varies from person to person, but in general I wanted sex more often but not as much. If I'm looking forward to getting sex but unexpectedly my friend has to work late it's slightly disappointing but not a big deal. When he is looking forward to sex and something comes up, he waits or gets really disappointed. *sample of 4 guys and only 1 woman so purely anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 07:47 PM
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It's difficult to make an equivalent policy for women. Cut, material, length, colour, pattern and accessories combine to a level of formality. I have a knee length dress that is formal, I have another one in almost the same cut and material, but a very fun pattern that is smart-casual at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 04:32 PM
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I can cook, but a lot of people my age (both genders, young 20s) can't cook. I don't particularly enjoy it so I tend to cook a lot and freeze it which also saves on the washing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 03:36 PM
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But on the other hand, depending on how big and high-maintenance the yard, apart from cooking and mowing/whatever, his jobs might be relatively infrequent despite taking longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 03:34 PM
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I don't feel disadvantaged in many ways tbh. I'm all for feminism, but where I live (UK) most fundraising I do is against genital mutilation, reproductive or health issues, or for racial equality or other countries. There are still a few issues affecting gender equality, but some are on the other side. I got the same funding for uni as most guys, graduated well, earn well for my age and have had interviews for jobs with opportunity for promotion and still have a few more lined up. I guess it mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 03:08 PM
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If slavery is so bad why is the bible totally cool with it? Because morals and standards change over time and even if I believed in Jesus those were guidelines for that time period and most of the bible would be pretty outdated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/15 05:31 PM
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The truth can be a terrifying thing, but it's better than waking up 5 years from now with one of us in a situation we can't be fully happy in. Sometimes the best thing for one or both people in the relationship is to just let it go.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 12:24 PM
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A lot of relationship problems especially in r/relationships seem to come from an inability to communicate or an assumption that the other person will change their mind eventually. In the short term it sucked but I had a near 3 year relationship end because we managed to communicate, if we hadn't we would probably have gotten married and run into huge issues a few years later. Then it would have been a lot harder to make the right decision and break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 11:26 AM
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He's in love with her, she probably doesn't return his feelings. He should tell her and get an answer, then (assuming it's a no) move on and see other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 07:33 AM
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I'm having sex and my FWB is having sex and we're both millenials. Although I've never had a ONS and he isn't having (m)any currently and I don't know if he has had any. Maybe they are counting partners rather than amount of sex, because I can only speak for my social group, but we're having sex apart from 2 of the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 07:30 AM
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Thanks, however I am still not naturally submissive. My relationships so far have also been moderately successful, so I don't have much use for RPW. If the decision is accounting for both of our interests equally I would just want to make it jointly. It's not a matter of trust, I just can't see any advantage unless it is to do with the car and they are a mechanic etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 09:42 PM
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RedPillWomen would have my theoretical husband have the final say in every decision. I can have mutual support, love, value, desire and respect without handing over all big decisions to one partner. I agree that those things are important, but for me RedPillWomen isn't necessary to have them. I am not naturally submissive, I enjoy being self-sufficient. Even in a LTR I prefer separate finances, I feel that a relationship should be an equal partnership. I can understand the concept of soft power,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 08:35 PM
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RedPillWomen is absolutely not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 06:19 PM
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The risk for cancer as a result of HPV is much higher in women than in men. Also assuming most people engage only in heterosexual sex it's much cheaper to vaccinate only one gender in terms of cost per prevented case of cancer. I disagree morally, but economically speaking it makes sense to target those most at risk.
/r/MensRights21/08/15 01:00 PM
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He's posting redpill stuff on the bluepill.....it's not a rational argument he's told her she's bad at communicating, should date someone she's not attracted to, then tell him why she's not attracted to him.....and this would make a real change. It also assumes that nice guys are losers and she's not attracted to nice guys. Redpill wouldn't react much better if I told an OP that they should date a pathetic inexperienced submissive girl they aren't attracted to and tell her they aren't attracted …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 12:46 PM
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In my opinion cheating is a betrayal within the relationship that says something about you and is directly related to your relationship with them, visiting a prostitute before the relationship started isn't directly relevant to the relationship and doesn't really indicate how you are likely to behave within the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 12:17 PM
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Personally someone having legal sex with a prostitute when they're not in a (monogamous/polyamorous) relationship a few times isn't a big deal. I wouldn't bring it up, but I wouldn't lie about it in a relationship either. A lie of omission early in a relationship is fine when it's not something terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 11:42 AM
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I really don't know much about Russia and Russian dating. I wouldn't suggest getting together with someone who just wants you for kids or a paycheck, unless you're well-off and want a sugar baby. If you have bad skin, dry or whatever, take care of it. I'm not saying wear makeup but good skin looks great on everyone. Make sure your haircut is flattering but not old-fashioned and your hair is clean. Clothes should be the same. Make sure your breath smells good. Tinted moisturiser is flattering and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 09:17 AM
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21, a relationship of 2 years, a relationship of 1 year, 2 shorter relationships and 1 FWB is enough that I wouldn't wake up 3 years later and wonder about what else is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 08:26 AM
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It seems largely a matter of personal or religious preference, there are some financial advantages for some people, but for a lot of people it's not the best option.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 11:52 PM
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Yes, with some exceptions. Each person should be willing to pay their own half unless one of them has invited the other somewhere obviously out of their price range with the implication being that the inviter will pay. Or there is some other agreement in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 11:31 PM
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My hobbies interest me I jog but don't run marathons, sorry but I don't like it that much. I go geocaching, make notebooks, read a lot of non-fiction, taking evening classes, learning French, growing vegetables, I take online courses (mainly coursera), going to museums, other crafts, playing board games, I also like playing non-romantic visual novels and watching the Chase, I do sudokus sometimes. I like to try a new hobby every other month, next month is trying to learn to draw a different styl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 11:09 PM
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I agree assuming the regulations are enforced such as STD issues etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:44 PM
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Being sensitive makes a guy more attractive IF it's in the context of a relationship. The emotional connection makes up a decent part of sexual attraction for me. In a bar this isn't going to get you laid. It can work in a relationship scenario but even on an early date with someone you've seen before you don't want to come across as clingy or getting overly attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:36 PM
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Fame makes them more accessible. The serial killers receiving letters are known by billions/millions of people but only a tiny fraction of them send love letters. Justin Bieber gets a lot of love letters, the more famous you are the more people are able to build an image of you in their head. Femme fatales and most don't appear sociopathic. A lot of male characters are actually toned down in fanfiction, for every character that appears sociopathic in FF, 2 more have been made kinder. Also fanfic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:25 PM
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He looks fine for his age I guess. I mainly date around my own age though so don't have much to compare him with as I don't usually look much at guys older than my parents. I wouldn't say yes but I don't know anyone that age I would say yes to so.....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:05 PM
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His face looks a lot better on google images. Maybe a 7, he doesn't overwhelm me with lust but he looks good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:01 PM
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Chris Hemsworth probably. Familiarity breeds attraction, I participated in a psychology experiment and when people rated faces they recognised, they were more highly-rated than by people who didn't recognise them. It was inconclusive as to whether this was due to visual familiarity, associating the face with an attractive body/voice, associating the face with a character etc. It was most likely a mixture. More women know who Chris Hemsworth is than Sergey Brin. Personally I'm not particularly at…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 09:52 PM
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Nice isn't enough. Niceness isn't enough to build a relationship on. Most guys I know are nice, but I wouldn't consider having a relationship with all of them. When a woman says this she often means where are the nice guys who: are attractive; attracted to me; have a similar libido; are interesting; have similar values; same views on child-rearing; compatible lifestyles etc. A lot of the time it is difficult to find someone with all the qualities that are your basic requirements. I wouldn't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 09:36 PM
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True, but on the other hand you wouldn't want the person you're poisoning to retaliate and I don't know how to hide the taste of a fuckton of aspirin or even if you can spread it out. Cyanide has a small dose so I could probably toss it in a cake or something.
/r/MensRights08/08/15 11:21 AM
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I didn't mention music, video games etc. or say that men were more violent than women. I went and looked at the other set of statistics regarding people killing other people, homicide. I said men are more likely to engage in 'overt violence' like shooting someone as opposed to using poison. I didn't say that killing someone with poison isn't violent. Poison is used more by women when killing other people as well as when committing suicide. It would be a terrible defense to say in court that she …
/r/MensRights07/08/15 07:21 PM
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I think 16 is a good overall age of consent. 13-14 year olds aren't usually great at anticipating the consequences of their actions as shown in this story which doesn't make me more inclined to lower the age. She didn't mean to cause trouble but lacked the foresight to realise the possible consequences of her actions... As such she shouldn't be considered able to consent. Although I think 3 years difference from the age of 13 without being prosecuted should be fine so 14-17 15-18 etc. Personally…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 11:49 AM
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I don't really care about their 'count' but if it's particularly high I might want them to get tested before we start having sex. I think all active people should get tested on a regular basis anyway. For me a lot of it is context, I don't care if he had sex with a bunch of different women but if he cheated that's generally a bad sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 11:35 AM
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Yes but I see a lot of these cases as one partner making a massive change to their lifestyle. When the other doesn't their lifestyles are no longer compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 11:26 AM
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But the dude asking girls for sex mainly approaches groups and often girls with guys right there. He's also not dressed very attractively. The girl mainly approaches guys on their own and often ones that are slightly overweight or old that wouldn't generally be considered in the same league as her. 5 of his were girls and their mother out together. Not many people will agree to casual sex with a stranger in front of either their parent or children. She was also more flattering when asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 11:23 AM
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I considered one but women are also more likely to use poison etc. when trying to commit murder and less likely to engage in overt violence. A lot of women don't like blood and don't like pain, there is also the consideration of the person who finds the body. Assuming I wanted to commit suicide I'd go for pills because spending the last of life in pain sounds awful and I'd rather friends had a relatively complete body so they wouldn't be left wondering what's in the box at a closed-casket funera…
/r/MensRights06/08/15 09:45 AM
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But the judge would have found it difficult to charge the girl with anything seeing as the illegality was due to the fact she was a minor.
/r/MensRights06/08/15 09:28 AM
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I wouldn't dump or cheat on a partner due to that. Emotional attraction or past sex can compensate A LOT for visual attraction. I might think x is super hot but seeing y I remember that time by the river...... x might be hotter, but y is the one my brain immediately connects to sex. Arousal for me is often more emotional than visual and a nice voice or some teasing touches goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 10:47 PM
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Prudishness is related to being more easily shocked when it comes to sex. I didn't say anything about misogyny or woman hating.... If my guy friends were uncomfortable discussing sex with women they wouldn't bring it up. The issue is that they are fine discussing their desires and experiences with women, but are uncomfortable when a woman reciprocates. Alex says he wants to fingerbang Beth till she squirts all over his hand then I say I wouldn't say no the guy that just walked in. The difference…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 10:08 PM
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It was a relationship a few years back, it was only a few months in when I realised how much I missed working out. I changed he didn't. For me it was a relationship where he ate a lot of junkfood and the two of us slowly fell into a Netflix and junkfood routine. He was borderline supportive but didn't want it to affect him beyond me getting hotter, the issue was our lifestyles no longer matched. I kept eating relatively few calories so still looked ok if less toned but I felt unmotivated most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 09:35 PM
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No. When it comes to discussing sex in my experience guys get weirder than women do. Like Jake will tell me Amy has great breasts and he'd like to touch them, but if I say that Ben has a great V and I'd love to lick it he is suddenly a bewildered blushing virgin. With my friends guys can discuss who they find hot and what they'd like to do to them with guys or women and it's fine. But if a woman tells the guys the same thing unless it's about another woman they react like someone's turned a hose…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 08:54 PM
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Past relationship Sexually kind of, emotionally no. We had a lot in common values and hobbies, but were different enough to have our own space. The sex was really good, it's easy to have casual fun sex, but it's very different to sex with an emotional attachment for me. I can have fun sex with anyone but when it's a relationship I want emotionally fulfilling sex at least a few times a month as well as fun sex. I found it hard to replace him. He finds it very difficult. He's barely dated since. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 08:36 PM
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No, there were two Indian guys in my social group. One got a lot of female attention the other got basically none. One was about average height but very charming, took good care of his skin, funny and nice but not a doormat. The other was his brother, he largely used money as a pick up line, bragged a lot and drank too much. On the other hand most Indian guys (where I lived at the time) were kind of short and most women like taller guys so.....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 08:21 PM
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Because the only way to equalise this would be to encourage men to use different methods of committing suicide, it is difficult to come up with a good way of doing this. What kind of action plan would you advocate?
/r/MensRights05/08/15 05:53 PM
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He takes his need to change society out on a kid. Dennis is a guy.
/r/MensRights05/08/15 05:37 PM
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