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Social status is too much work for me. Happy for you though.
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:46 PM
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A clean shave bald head can look more attractive than a monk cut or a japanese topknot (a matter of culture). Do you think the Rock would've been doing so well if he just kept the sides of his hair?
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:35 PM
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You don't need to introduce yourself first every time you meet someone. Sometimes a joke or an icebreaker is better. If they laugh, that'd be a good time for introductions.
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:28 PM
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It's just the way the world is. Many people are so concerned with their own life they don't bother reaching out to others. After some time, people might forget what you said, but they remember how you made them feel. You are enough.
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:26 PM
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My girlfriend told me this one guy really wanted to date her, but what really turned her off is that she had to drive him everywhere. Go figure what happened when I had a car.
/r/seduction31/03/22 11:08 PM
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When you can visualize it, it becomes more achievable.
/r/seduction31/03/22 08:04 PM
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When one part of your life succeeds, another part suffers. You found things you are passionate about at the expense of your health. It's up to you to find the right balance between work/play/rest for the right reasons. You have a company, so you could think about it like sunken cost fallacy. Not getting in shape just because you aren't in shape is only going to make you more out of shape. It's a endless loop. Break that cycle. Hell, you don't even need a gym. There are parks, basketball courts, …
/r/seduction31/03/22 07:13 PM
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What's keeping you from dieting and exercise?
/r/seduction31/03/22 06:54 PM
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I don't know who they are, but from your description they sound weak and are trying to make excuses for their bullshit. It's like saying "she shouldn't leave me for sleeping around because at least I payed for the rent." Love isn't transactional.
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:35 PM
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When did dating women that are faithful to their husband and god become a bad thing? Don't believe everything you hear.
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:10 AM
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You can't change what you can't change. There's no point asking why. Planning your next move is more important. People with dwarfism do well for themselves. You can learn from them.
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:03 AM
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There's no good or bad. It is what it is. For people that can't stay in monogamous relationships, they do open or polygamous relationships. Many people inevitably have sex with many partners in order to grow and make their current relationship successful. You too may find yourself wanting to settle down one day.
/r/seduction29/03/22 11:40 PM
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'One more' implies that you have been with someone. Being a virgin doesn't mean your first time is going to be bad. You are just creating an unnecessary expectation to fail. And there are actually a lot of women that want to be a guy's first. All that really matters is that you are honest. They can appreciate that because having sex with someone who has a decent personality is more important than someone saying anything to get in another's pants.
/r/seduction23/03/22 03:38 PM
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If you are trying to trap him by sending a picture of your boobs or what not so that he can essentially cheat with you, then regardless of how he responds your relationship might as well already be over. Once a seed of doubt is planted it will grow it's roots of insecurities beyond snapchat and anything he does or doesn't do you will be suspicious.
/r/seduction23/03/22 02:29 PM
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Either way, it's not a good look. It sounds like he's broadcasting his activities. 9 years isn't a reason to trust someone.
/r/seduction23/03/22 02:11 PM
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I don't go on twitter. Was he talking to someone or just to himself?
/r/seduction23/03/22 01:49 PM
1

I see. I've been there. Like someone might say "that was fun let's hang out again this weekend" and then it's just a bunch of excuses back to back and then they don't even bother replying. There's no point thinking about it. You'll never get closure trying to figure it out. It says more about them if they prefer giving the silent treatment instead of being honest, considering you knew her for 6 months.
/r/seduction23/03/22 01:22 PM
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It sounds like the first girl didn't want to be with you because she didn't respect you. The second one it sounded like you were saying you were being too needy. The first one is pretty common. It's more forgiving for people in their 20s, but the important thing is that everyone goes at their own pace. I wish I could save money. I occasionally go home to see parents for a week or so, but I still have to pay 800 a month up north. The second issue is also very common. The important thing to rememb…
/r/seduction23/03/22 05:01 AM
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Yeah, you came right out the gate. Some women like a little romance and tension.
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:36 AM
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Do you have a story to tell us?
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:31 AM
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I don't know if seeing means you are in a relationship with her, but it doesn't sound like you trust her. The other thing is what she has told you is going to constantly haunt you. No guy wants to hear about how his girl had sex with her ex 3-4 times a day. You might just compare yourself and that's never a good thing. If you are going to make it work, you need to wipe the slate clean.
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:25 AM
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Yeah it doesn’t affect what someone was going to do anyway, unless they have a guilty conscience . I do feel bad for that one redditor who had to talk to a crazy guy. Seemed unnecessary. As far as seduction goes having people say it to you, as annoying as it is, can make you appear more attractive in her eyes if you’re cool with it. Like how parents tell a child not to do something and it just makes them want to do it more. All those insecurities that people project works in your favor.
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:55 PM
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Haha I'd rather hear people making car jokes. That reminds me. Last person that said this to me I told them to get in line.
/r/seduction22/03/22 02:32 AM
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If you have a daughter, then you must know there is no way to control who they date.
/r/seduction22/03/22 02:11 AM
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It goes without saying that if a guy has to be threatened to treat a girl right, then what's the point of being together?
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:52 AM
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Ukulele. An amazing instrument to take anywhere.
/r/seduction21/03/22 05:21 PM
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If it's works, but you could try pushing the envelope with more mystery.
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:44 AM
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It's not what you say, it's how you say it
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:37 AM
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I see. I wouldn't think too much about it. Respect or not is just noise. A guy's self-worth is something he determines and no amount of validation from a woman can change that. OP seems to have a good mindset. He sees the funny side to situations like these.
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:32 AM
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First thing you want to do is build rapport. That just means getting on the same page as them or seeing eye to eye. You build it by pointing out something obvious or taking notice of them. When you hear someone say "Nice weather today, isn't it?" That's them building rapport. If someone is wearing the same color as you, you could say that you're both red/blue/green (st patricks day?). Once you find something you both can agree on, you can ask them a question.
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:15 AM
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It's always going to be different with a partner even if it's the old fashioned Missionary, Cowgirl, and Doggy. As long as you are both having a good time, that's a win in everyone's book.
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:03 AM
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What's that supposed to be, a consolation prize?
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:59 AM
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Sounds like you need some self reflection. The questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life.
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:38 PM
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A good flirt knows an opportunity when they see one, even when they need to create one. Pay attention to signs and body language as that can tell you if someone is receptive to talking. You don't have to talk to someone that has headphones on. You only have so much energy, and positive vibes create more energy, so listen to your gut in who you choose to flirt with and be open to how you can improve future interactions.
/r/seduction16/03/22 02:15 AM
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Depends on why girl A left. Was she going to come back? If not, then girl B may feel she has to come up with an excuse eventually to get out of talking and might be slightly annoyed as indefinitely talking to you isn't what she had in mind. In other words, girl B isn't curious enough about you as you are into her. You keep cool by keeping cool and bringing girl A back. Make it natural.
/r/seduction15/03/22 07:16 PM
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For sure. Women seeing a guy with self love and self respect hits differently.
/r/seduction15/03/22 07:08 PM
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Sounds like a roundabout way of saying "Just be yourself"
/r/seduction15/03/22 06:58 PM
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"I'm willing to bet if this guy kissed you, it would have steered things in a more romantic direction making you want to see him again." Bro. That's creepy. If she did kiss him, it sounds like she would've been forcing herself to. If you aren't romantic enough to point she's open to or actually wants to make out with you, then a kiss isn't going to change that. It takes two to date. If a guy is turning the charm on with his skill set and the woman is just going with the flow, do you call that su…
/r/seduction15/03/22 06:50 PM
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I see what you mean. It’s fine to joke or not take her disbelief seriously. One thing though is it’s not always a shit test, as in they aren’t really trying to test you or at least not consciously. What one would consider a shit test can also just be her having low self esteem, or a distrust of men. The sooner a guy can tell the difference, the more headache they can save, but still a light hearted approach like you mentioned seems like the best option.
/r/seduction13/03/22 04:31 PM
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I don’t get it. Can you elaborate?
/r/seduction11/03/22 02:27 PM
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Assuming you are working, then at your leisure.
/r/seduction10/03/22 06:31 PM
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Not constantly.
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:40 PM
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Why not ask her about it when you see her?
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:10 PM
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Shit tests is a dumb concept in itself. If someone acts like a bitch to you for no reason, you telling me you should pursue her more?
/r/seduction09/03/22 08:34 PM
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I don't. Some would consider that a priority when traveling. How much does she charge you?
/r/seduction09/03/22 08:23 PM
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If this is the same girl that you mentioned a month ago, you either tell her upfront or just stop responding to her. And no offense, you seem strangely hung up to occasionally write these posts about her.
/r/seduction09/03/22 08:17 PM
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Just enough hair to not look like a mole rat. Interesting thing you can do is shave a bit of hair around the base above the penis to make your dick look bigger. Optical illusion to women.
/r/seduction09/03/22 08:04 PM
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I see. Realistically, I'd say a lot of people aren't going to pick up a girl on their first try at the club. And if they are out of their element, having fun can be hard to do. Enjoying themselves would be the bare minimum they need to achieve for success as they get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Whatever happens after that is a bonus for them.
/r/seduction03/03/22 07:29 PM
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Replying quickly if she forgot you doesn't really make any sense. Maybe she has the brains of a goldfish. And the mutual friend talking to her, what's up with that lol. In any case, better to just forget her.
/r/seduction03/03/22 07:00 PM
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Just pretend that your time wasn't wasted. You got feedback that she's actually a toxic person, so she did you a favor by showing her true colors. If you have any future events with your classmates then you exclude her. And for future reference: No matter what happens, always have a back up plan.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:52 PM
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While I'm sure balding hair isn't a deal breaker for some women, you are right that first impressions count. Mine was thinning, so I just shaved my head to make it even and it looks much better. If you wanted a wig/toupee, would it be any different than women who shave their head or add hair extensions? Double standards huh?
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:38 PM
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For what it's worth, I don't believe in cold approaching random women, so I don't recommend you doing it either. What did help me though was the book Flirting 101. While I was reading it, I tried a lot of the exercises that helped me switch my mindset, and my life pretty much changed from there. It's so weird to think where I would be right now if I didn't read it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:29 PM
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Depends on what you mean by opposites. It's very hard to connect with someone when there is little in common. But having a shared sense of humor, willingness to try new things, and being open minded to communication goes a long way.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:16 PM
1

You learn to dance. Being a sexy and subtle dancer will make you more attractive to whoever you are locking eyes with on the floor. Otherwise, you pick your battles more wisely to suit your personality.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:08 PM
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If you aren't having fun while picking up women, then what is the point?
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:00 PM
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For sure. The more the two of you like each other, the more receptive she’ll be. And there are ways to test the waters, so that if you feel you put yourself out too far you can fall back like nothing happened.
/r/seduction24/02/22 03:53 AM
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You don’t owe him an explanation. With his attitude, he’d be lucky if you said anything to him. It could be anything from “not interested” to yes he should suck a dick.
/r/seduction24/02/22 12:51 AM
1

Sounds like you found a real whack job
/r/seduction24/02/22 12:34 AM
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Don't talk about yourself too much unless she asks. Otherwise, you do talk about yourself briefly when you want to relate to her after being curious about her life.
/r/seduction23/02/22 11:22 PM
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Some women aren't as clever as you make them out to be. You might just pick up on things they don't mean to do and over think it. Rather than lead to a misunderstanding, you need to be direct with them eventually.
/r/seduction23/02/22 11:19 PM
1

Why are you saying come back? Did she insult you by not giving you the time of day?
/r/seduction23/02/22 11:06 PM
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I don't understand. If she says it would be good, why would she deny anything?
/r/seduction23/02/22 10:53 PM
1

Why would someone break down over dropping a parcel?
/r/seduction23/02/22 10:45 PM
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Things like instagram are like looking at a picture perfect resume of their life, but it means something else when they tell you about it themselves. They connect their positive memories with your interest in them. Not to mention eye contact and the sound of laughter.
/r/seduction22/02/22 01:51 AM
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What kind of guys do you want to be approached by?
/r/seduction22/02/22 01:43 AM
1

There's a code-switching song for it.
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:22 PM
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What you are describing is branding vs advertising. Advertising is just as you described as someone who needs to make some effort to find/approach women to get dates. It's like going up to women and basically saying "Hey I'm good in bed." And that can be a struggle. Branding is when people can see you are very fun to be around without you having to interact with them. You might make some glimpses of eye contact every now and then with the cute redhead in the corner but are focused more on the gi…
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:09 PM
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They would on purpose if they saw you as competition. Otherwise, it's bad advice out of ignorance because they don't know what it's like to date another woman (unless they do). That's not to say their advice doesn't have value, but it should also be taken with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:17 PM
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Oh yeah. My mom was a complete helicopter parent. She was friends with one of the teachers at my HS because of church, and she must've said something to him, because after he saw me hugging a girl he said something along the lines of 'don't make me tell your mother'. Some fucked up cringe.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:05 PM
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That's kind of creepy that you all want to hear about her sex life. That's not an indicator she's going to sleep with you. Unless it's a ONS/hookup, women don't just talk to anyone about their sex life. It wouldn't be surprising for any number of reasons such as they are afraid it's going to get around, or someone's going to start expecting blowjobs, or being labeled a slut. It takes building trust. For some reason, they trust you more if they think you are in a relationship.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:16 PM
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Who said anything about being 40 and a mom with 5 kids?
/r/seduction19/02/22 09:12 PM
1

Well, in that case texting her would give her more details so she can make a decision. It would be a lot more awkward if she just agreed, and then told you she couldn't make it after learning when it was, don't you think?
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:52 PM
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If I didn't know better I'd say she has really bad memory and she just use messenger or whatsapp. In that sense, it's overthinking. The telling you about who flirts with her though is a manipulation technique to make you act in a certain way. It may be to become official, or make you initiate a date. She might be frustrated in her own way that she can't get more of you, but doesn't know how to communicate it in a healthy manner.
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:41 PM
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Looks will get you to hello, value will get you past hello. Looks don't just apply to your face. It also means your style, how you dress, how you hold yourself up through body language can make you appear more attractive. I'd practice smiling in a mirror. Your value is something only you can decide. Knowing yourself, being curious about others, willing to play, looking to grow, being unpredictable, all goes towards how others see you. And if they like what they see, you can tell by their body la…
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:31 PM
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Too vague, but she wants you to text her and wants to walk with you after class. Are you asking her out on a date, or asking her to be your girlfriend?
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:09 PM
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It's implied, but not usually taken literally.
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:02 PM
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When one part of your life succeeds another part suffers. Can you say your sex life is balanced with your career, relationships, etc.?
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:59 PM
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Ariana Grande told everyone he's got a big dick, even if in spite. So just have someone famous say the same thing about you
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:52 PM
2

If she likes Sherlock, there is that movie Enola Holmes that came out a couple years ago. Very fun mystery movie. Sequel supposedly coming out this year.
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:49 PM
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I don't take meds but I can relate. What you described happened to me after quitting porn. The lizard brain of us wants instant dopamine, either through naked pictures or getting off asap. It basically became all I thought about. I'd imagine what people in public look like naked. Really interfered with life and relationships. After some research, I learned that the brain will create new pathways for enjoyment when it doesn't rely on cheap pleasures. It really makes you feel in control (instead o…
/r/seduction17/02/22 06:22 PM
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That's so ridiculous. Are you aware of how many people wish they just had an ugly face? Some people are born blind, so they can't tell who or themselves are attractive. Some people get 1st degree burns on their body and face and have to get reconstructive surgery. Some people develop tumors on their body. Some people are missing limbs. Some women can't control how much hair grows on their face. You think these people, who's lives are so changed they have to compensate for dating just as much liv…
/r/seduction16/02/22 08:56 PM
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The issue with this is that you are assuming you are in the friendzone already, and you are trying to act like her romantic partner by blurring the lines. When words don't match actions, it just makes a guy look undecisive. It's not any different from a guy confessing hard his feelings but then acting very distant (also referred to as love bombing). I've seen my girlfriend's guy "friends" do this to her, and they dropped out of her life because they got frustrated of doing this for over a year. …
/r/seduction16/02/22 08:30 PM
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Drinking is overrated. Many limit their drinking because they develop guts in their 30s due to their metabolisms slowed. But bars are great for the atmosphere and meeting others. The other thing is to experience everything. Get out of your comfort zone. If it makes you uncomfortable, but you see benefit in doing it, then all the more reason. It's like the moral of the story Yes Man. You don't have to say yes to everything. You only have to be open to saying yes.
/r/seduction15/02/22 09:07 PM
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Being flirty doesn't mean being some kind of macho chad. If that's not who you are then acting that way will cause your mind and heart to be on different pages like how you are feeling. You don't have to be anyone, you just be in the moment. The truth is most people only care about themselves, so when you find someone who shows a genuine interest in the real you just as much as you are in them, then that's when flirting becomes fun.
/r/seduction15/02/22 08:39 PM
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Well it depends what you mean when you say certain cases. Being confident does not make a ‘bad’ guy a bad guy. Real bad guys are those that have killed and abused for their own gain yet there are flocks of women who love those types of guys. So how bad are we talking?
/r/seduction15/02/22 06:15 PM
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It's like you said, "The idea is that once you stop caring the girls will come." The difference is the people that don't care actually enjoy being alone. They value that time solo. Building themselves up at the gym, playing an instrument, or reading a book. Confidence comes from within.
/r/seduction15/02/22 05:30 PM
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It's because they remind a girl of her father. There's a psychology that people want to date their parents. And it's funny how accurate it is for men and women. Of the 4 attachment styles, the attraction to 'bad boys' or 'bad girls' would be the fearful/avoidant attachment, characterized by challenging life experiences/trauma/abandonment, fear of annihilation in loving intimate situations.
/r/seduction15/02/22 05:21 PM
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Being spontaneous is another word for 'not asking someone if they want to be spontaneous with you'
/r/seduction15/02/22 05:08 PM
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People are conditioned to be "nice" to others. In other words, they'll lie through their teeth because they don't want to deal with the possibility of the other person being upset. But you might as well take their word for it because life is too short to waste time on excuses. If they care, then it's up to them to reach out next.
/r/seduction15/02/22 05:02 PM
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It'll come off as if you are annoyed. If you want to come off as you simply don't care then you just don't say anything. There's a psychological study about people that don't respond to texts get anxiety the longer it takes to reply.
/r/seduction14/02/22 03:59 PM
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Realistically speaking, the club scene is women who are looking for fun or drinks, not women that want to know if you got yourself a 401k, is debt free, or can put a down payment on a house, which can be seen as sexy to woman that has her shit together. And realistically, you’re not going to please everyone. Some women like muscles/dad bods, dark/light/tan skin, blue/brown/green eyes, 6’4”, scruffy, guys that look like Chris Hemsworth, some only like other women, the list goes on. It’s important…
/r/seduction13/02/22 04:42 AM
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What do you mean by realistic view?
/r/seduction12/02/22 08:43 PM
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No, unless you are a sex addict. But then again, my idea of a great night is sex, then eating, cuddling to a good movie, sex again, then passing out. Only difference is having to go out of your way to a scene.
/r/seduction12/02/22 08:41 PM
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Most people don't know what their schedule is like next week. It sounds like she's open to it though.
/r/seduction12/02/22 08:25 PM
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Sounds like you are putting your hopes and dreams into these dates. It's best to keep your expectations low, realistic, and achievable. Like rather than thinking you might get lucky whichever night, you tell yourself, "no matter what happens, I'm going to have a good time."
/r/seduction12/02/22 08:20 PM
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It's a zero sum game, but going out to have fun with no expectations? That's a win-win.
/r/seduction12/02/22 08:10 PM
1

Well, I had plastic surgery years ago for gynocomastia. I was already fit from working out hard but nothing got rid of it. I got the surgery at 27. My life didn't change all that much, but I was more confident in taking my shirt off. However, even though it's done now, and I wish I did get it sooner, I still find things to nitpick and get self conscious like how I was before the surgery. So my point is, even if you did get the surgery, you may still not be satisfied with the results you wanted. …
/r/seduction11/02/22 09:26 PM
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Flirting, as people have said. It's being playful, confident, clever, funny, taking risks, having a go-for-it mentality. Like I don't care if it sounds corny. At the beach I might say "All this ocean, but you're the only one I see." Things like that are funny on dates, especially if you do it in a serious tone. Give genuine compliments where they are due. If you see a girl did her hair, her nails, or is wearing a specific shaped earring, pointing that out with "I like how you did/wear/got/made..…
/r/seduction11/02/22 08:48 PM
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What kind of plastic surgery?
/r/seduction11/02/22 08:21 PM
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It's like you said, grades are the only thing that matters. Most of the people you meet in HS you likely won't hear from them again in a decade. But that doesn't mean you can't build your social skills (which you will use for a life time). As kapoof2 said, talk to girls and guys and build them up and they will return the favor to you. And if you see bullying, stopping that shit will improve your reputation.
/r/seduction11/02/22 07:59 PM
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In porn, but that's hardly realistic. The chances that people 'just happen' to have sex with strangers is so slim that it skews peoples perceptions of it actually happening when they read about it here. Many posts are just polar opposites of people who are either in desperate need of help or are so happy they are they want the world to know of their random one night stands.
/r/seduction10/02/22 08:56 PM
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What can I say. You bring out the best in me lol
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:59 PM
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A very protective father that nearly killed her boyfriend for sleeping with her. But it's much funnier the way you put it.
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:52 PM
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Ask for help Get asked what do you need "Your number"
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:49 PM
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Lol is that an incest joke?
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:46 PM
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Well, that's the thing. Pressure. You ask yourself what pressure are you facing. Approval, opinions of what they think, how you look or sound, whether you have a chance, boobs. It's all noise that comes with thinking someone's attractive or someone you'd consider dating. When you tell yourself "who cares if she's hot/gorgeous/sexy" your interactions with a girl will change because you are taking that pressure off yourself.
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:33 PM
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It sounds like you came off a bit too strong. People can smell desperation, and it's not the most attractive smell. Being in a checkout line, you have one short window of small talk. It's usually Greetings->How's it going? + follow up response -> Goodbye. You can change what you say, but it's always going to be that way. Being familiar with a cashier is something that happens after like a dozen times meetings on different days, not after the first interaction. So figuring out her name, asking fo…
/r/seduction31/01/22 09:53 PM
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Friendzone them in your mind first so your actions will follow. If you start thinking about sex when you meet a woman you find attractive, people can tell just by your body language and tone let alone what you say. It's okay to admit being nervous. Many women find it a genuine compliment if you were to say something like "I get nervous around beautiful girls." I've had to use this mindset a few times around my girlfriend's sisters, so I don't say or do anything that would make my life hell.
/r/seduction31/01/22 09:30 PM
1

If you say so, but I need more from a woman than that
/r/seduction31/01/22 08:54 PM
1

For what reason would anyone want to seduce you?
/r/seduction31/01/22 08:17 PM
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Haha she’s a horny virgin no doubt. She probably felt like she could trust OP with her weirdest fantasies after he briefly mentioned his encounter.
/r/seduction31/01/22 12:45 AM
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Non-ironic that's funny. Well, I wouldn't try to pursue her anymore but if you're okay with talking about sex stuff with her, then it wouldn't hurt to have her as a reference to brainstorm ideas about about girls. She might have some great ideas where to take a date in japan. You have a point that it could be an issue if other girls saw your texts with her. Boundaries would have to be made.
/r/seduction31/01/22 12:20 AM
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Well, it's not a bad topic. Certain jobs give people an impression and can make someone more attractive. It will also give a good idea where to branch your topics.. General rule I follow is not asking the question twice. If someone asks "what your job is", then I'd say "What do you like to do for a living?" If they literally ask the same question I asked them, I'd call them out (playfully) for being a copycat. It will definitely make them think.
/r/seduction31/01/22 12:07 AM
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I'm sure there's more to that conversation, but generally women don't like to be interrogated with random questions. If you ask a question, then do a follow up question. Like if she tells you she's a dancer, you can ask her "How much would I need to pay you to teach me?" When she tells you on the follow up you can give her a compliment and then say something silly about yourself like "I have 2 left feet lol". Self-deprecating a little can show people that you don't take yourself too seriously. I…
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:46 PM
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It's really none of her business. You can be honest, but it wouldn't do anything except fuel jealousy or if she is needy then make her become exclusive with you.
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:29 PM
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Love isn't just found online. If you are like me, then the natural approach or face to face is better. You can try speed dating in person, or have someone set a blind date up for you. The important part is having fun. Don't look to get married. These things happen when you are just enjoying the person you are talking to and then you both decide to take it another level. If you aren't ready to date yet, then even just visiting clubs or meet ups will go a long way to increasing your social circle.
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:22 PM
1

First of all, is she japanese? She gives off some weeaboo vibes, even though it's pretty cool she can do translations and probably actually live there.
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:16 PM
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If you want to make a relationship work it's essential to have an affinity for women. To love how they look, how they smell, how they feel. Bringing past baggage when meeting a women is a recipe for disaster.
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:10 PM
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Compliments are bad when the girl didn't do anything to get the compliment other than just being born. However when a girl does put in the work to do her hair, make up, nails done, then she appreciates a compliment about something she worked hard to get (even if it was technically her hairdress, she still picked it). When you complimented her dancing, she probably tied all that positivity to you because she actually practiced to get good. Of course, you can make a compliment more genuine by bein…
/r/seduction30/01/22 11:05 PM
1

That's how I met your mother.
/r/seduction30/01/22 10:48 PM
2

You could easily get a programming job in under a year if you applied just as much time as drinking, smoking, and videogames. See this story of a guy who was in a coma and tell us what excuses you have.
/r/seduction29/01/22 10:44 PM
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You don't have to be manipulative. In a relationship, it's finding that balance between being comfortable (e.g. financially set, emotionally stable, routine) and the spark that got a couple dating in the first place (e.g. adventurous, unpredictable, romantic, etc) that keeps it alive.
/r/seduction29/01/22 10:36 PM
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You go to a retail store where the woman is forced to listen to you and smile in hopes you buy something. After trying on multiple things and getting complimented on how good you look, she'll laugh at just about any joke you say. As you check out, remark how excellent her customer service was. Return product next day.
/r/seduction29/01/22 09:34 PM
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I can’t chat right now but you can leave a message and I’ll get back to you
/r/seduction28/01/22 08:24 PM
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Yeah. I’ve actually remixed it a few times from kissing to compliments like “how do I tell you you’re cute without...” The magic about it is that you’re not actually asking them out. You are asking how to ask them. Many find it funny and will tell you how if they they are interested. If they aren’t, well, then you know not to ask them.
/r/seduction28/01/22 08:14 PM
1

"How do I ask you out without you thinking I'm coming on to you?"
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:58 PM
2

Life's too short for that bullshit. Some girl I thought was a friend in college wanted to meet up. I said okay. When the time comes, she tells me she's not feeling well and couldn't come. I said no problem, we can reschedule, feel better. She then says "I knew you didn't want to hang out with me." I was going through a lot at the time so I wasn't in the mood for mind games. I let her see herself as the energy vampire bitch that she was and said have a nice life. Doesn't really matter if you "pas…
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:53 PM
1

Unless you live in amsterdam, the majority of strangers you meet are not going to like what they smell. It's a strong scent. It comes with all kinds of pre-conceived notions if someone knows it's coming from you. They may be good notions or bad, but how willing are you to take that chance?
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:30 PM
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It says more about the people who try to undermine others than it does about the person they are trying to undermine. A few people have talked to the gf about me behind my back and after that her value of them decreased. It's good you trust your girlfriend. The other options are seeing if you and johanna can try to introduce your friend to someone new so you can all go on a double date. If Steven absolutely can't respect your relationships boundaries, then don't be afraid to drop him out of your…
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:21 PM
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You get it by being comfortable around women and yourself, but also willing to push the envelope and being open to feedback+new experiences. For most guys that never talk to women but want to date one, of course things are going to get awkward cringe and possibly even a slap in the face. One guy tried to flirt with my girlfriend by saying "I bet you make all the guys dicks hard." Too soon buddy. How can one date a girl without any understanding how they think? The spoiler is that they don't thin…
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:00 PM
1

Lol The Game by Neil Strauss talks about how lonely it is to be a PUA.
/r/seduction28/01/22 06:31 PM
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If you want to look young, it's also recommended to not smoke or be around people when they smoke. Also, I'm sure this is not what people want to hear, but drinking alcohol can actually accelerate aging too.
/r/seduction28/01/22 06:28 PM
2

If you finish with a condom, it's good practice to pull out just to make sure.
/r/seduction28/01/22 06:24 PM
1

That's basically Gone With The Wind. The main girl (who is married) is obsessed with her friend's husband. The moment her friend is out of the picture she's not longer obsessed about the husband. Some women want what they can't have.
/r/seduction27/01/22 04:00 PM
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Do you mean you are just worried you'll offend someone? It's technically just meeting up a girl for a date, have sex, and leave a great impression by being a gentleman throughout the whole experience. If you really hit it off, then you let her know you'd love to do this again. If she's down, then you've made a fwb. In the meanwhile, this is also the time to work on yourself. Being in a serious relationship, your identity can get tied into being a couple. For most couples it's give and take, but …
/r/seduction27/01/22 03:54 PM
1

Sounds kind of sarcastic depending on who reads it. If you can get the same message with less words the better.
/r/seduction27/01/22 03:28 PM
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"How do we kiss you without you thinking I'm coming on to you?"
/r/seduction27/01/22 03:22 PM
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I feel ya. Social anxiety is real. And you know, sex isn't everything. Not everyone is looking for hook ups and one night stands. Guys and girls want the chase and being chased. It builds excitement and makes one another feel attractive. You know what sex is like, but what's sex without connection? I highly recommend this book flirting 101. Being a very awkward guy back then, I just wanted to learn how to talk with people, but I got way more out of it and still practice the lessons of it after m…
/r/seduction26/01/22 06:12 AM
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No need to bring it up if no ones asks. It sets this expectation in people's minds. Less expectations the better. In reality, you may actually do better than you think your first time. If any girl really wants to know, it's more flirty to say something like you'd rather show them.
/r/seduction26/01/22 05:39 AM
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Depends on the girls personality. If you meet a girl who's basically the boss in her life making the decisions, then typically in the bedroom she wants to take a break from all that and get handled instead. If you meet a girl who's shy and passive publicly, she may actually like being dominant and expressing herself aggressively in the bedroom. But since everyone is different, you have to figure it out by communicating with them about what they like or what type of porn they watch (not something…
/r/seduction26/01/22 05:29 AM
2

You want to be ahead of the game? You start a life of continuous learning early even if early is right now. It's never too late to be better than who you were yesterday.
/r/seduction26/01/22 05:16 AM
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More important is that you were in the moment and made a connection. Sex can always come later.
/r/seduction25/01/22 08:43 PM
1

You don't have to date, but it's easier when you hang out more with women. Pick their brains, ask them how to dress you, learn from other women what they like and don't like. You'd be surprised how much fun they have trying to be your sensei/wing woman. Of course, you're going to need to learn eye contact. It's practically the most important body language in building trust.
/r/seduction25/01/22 08:19 PM
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It’s called consent. Both parties give it. No point pressuring yourself to have sex with someone youre not attracted to.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:49 PM
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I wouldn’t overthink it. Of course, don’t say “a man’s job” next time. You’re going to look sexist. First impressions matter.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:37 PM
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It could help to communicate what her insecurities are. Like if she’s afraid to have piv sex because of pain or pregnancy, then lots of lube or condoms is a solution. Or if she doesn’t want you doing oral because she doesnt like how it looks or what it smells like, then she can turn the lights off or take a shower. Or she might be too formal and doesn’t know how to approach things naturally. In that case, you could give her a back massage and while you are massaging down to her thigh, you subtly…
/r/seduction25/01/22 01:59 AM
1

Reminds me that I brought the GF to a bowling/movie theater. She was depressed the whole time. She told me later this was the same place this one guy she kissed brought her too. Wtf? I didn’t know, but you know, so why risk it.
/r/seduction24/01/22 11:30 PM
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She sounds like an energy vampire. You telling us she’s doing the same thing with other guys is a sign she doesn’t really love you or anyone. Also, do you know why her past relationship didn’t work? People tend to hide a lot of important details when they are trying to love bomb others.
/r/seduction24/01/22 11:16 PM
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4 dates in two weeks seems like taking things fast. Don’t know if she’s in school or what not, but people only have so much time in a week. When one part of their life succeeds (I.e dating you) other parts will suffer (e.g. her family life/ career/ school). You did your part, so now the only way to know is if she is really interest is if she contacts you herself when she is ready.
/r/seduction24/01/22 10:47 PM
1

double standards
/r/seduction18/12/20 03:02 PM
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It certainly is. But what actions would they take if a cute girl did it
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:37 PM
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If you want a relationship of course you’ll need some vulnerability. However someone that goes to you to constantly vent out all their problems is a huge red flag. It says they have poor coping skills, are extremely needy, and are very volatile. Last relationship I was in this girl would talk to me about her family, friend, and job problems so much that she’d snap at me and ruin the mood. I had to tell her I’m not those people so if she wants to contaminate what we have she might as well keep ac…
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:29 PM
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Ice cream isn't worth it. If I could go back in time and slap dessert out of my hand, I'd probably have a hook right now. While pleasurable and exciting, sex can be overrated. It's more who you do it with than for the sake itself. There are many stories of people who have sex and they are unfulfilled because they weren't in love, or one party wasn't into it, or it was just business. If you let your life get consumed by constant thoughts of sex, then you become this brain fog zombie wandering lif…
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:54 AM
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Lol there is a social experiment on a street with a guy asking the opposite sex and the girl asking both sexes if the interviewee wanted to sleep with them. Of course the girl unanimously got positive reactions. It's just that easy for women. There's many double standards too. Like a girl could slap a guy's butt and everyone would like it.
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:32 AM
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Only if you told her beforehand how much time you are going to spend with her. When people know how important your time is, they are more likely to do what they came to do and not waste yours on bullshit. The girl I'm sleeping with I do hear her bullshit, and while empathetic I do some active listening, and when I see an opportunity I will poke fun at her tell her she worries too much and get to the fun. Now that I think of it, she tells me her issues when she's on my lap or when I'm holding her…
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:26 AM
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Because if you focus on the relationship, then you have nothing to show for it outside of the relationship, and then the attraction is gone. Even though it may not be apparent to her, women actually like it when the guy is very busy working, hanging out with friends, doing his hobbies. It makes her miss him and appreciate the time they spend together, so when he does take a break from his life she'll get what she's been craving. That taking a break is the maintaining attraction part because if s…
/r/seduction18/12/20 02:08 AM
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Yeah, she can pick out the underwear she likes. It's good to encourage your GF to embrace her feminine side. If you see panties on sale, buy them so you can rip them off her during foreplay. Believe me, she'll remember you did that for a long time. Whatever you do though, don't bring up your mom because it's a huge turn off.
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:55 AM
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You'd have to give an example because shameless sexually can mean confidence but if done wrong then it can make someone look like a desperate loser with no game. Women find a guy that can control their desires very attractive. I haven't jerked off or looked at porn in 7 months, so the girl I'm with is stunned when we get to bed, even though she'd be flattered if I did jerk to the thought of her. Also, looking at other women because "you can't help it" can be a turn off to a girl. Generally, if s…
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:47 AM
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The only thing that's going to hurt your chances is overthinking it. There's nothing wrong with getting a girl flowers for no reason, or getting someone a gift just because it reminded you of them. The important thing is to do it in moderation because by not freeing your schedule for someone else you are saying your time is valuable.
/r/seduction14/12/20 07:37 PM
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I don't know what the Style Life Challenge is but I quit jerking off and looking at porn for 90 days and it was then I had the best sex of my life. Also got really fit too. It's amazing how much spare time you have when you quit other habits. Tried to quit video games but everything coming out is way too tempting.
/r/seduction05/12/20 08:33 PM
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Women don't have to go to a guy's place to get date raped. Someone could easily slip a drug into their drink and then the girl wakes up in an alley. Also, if a guy is showering a girl with luxury on a first date, it's very likely there's an ulterior motive. It's a typical move of sex traffickers. Moral of the story is don't trust anyone you don't know. And even when you think you know them, you could be sitting across from the next Ted Bundy or Aileen Wuornos. Shout out to all the crazy women th…
/r/seduction05/12/20 06:29 PM
1

As long as it's an awkward that you can laugh off. First time making out with first GF our teeth hit. It's true that the more times you kiss with someone the better both get. There's also the different kinds of making out experiences you can do, like making out when one person is on top, or spiderman makeout, or making out when pushed against a wall, and making out passionately when in the act.
/r/seduction05/12/20 06:13 PM
2

It's not black and white. Although negatively portrayed, being a nice guy doesn't mean being a tool that women can walk over like a door mat. Likewise, having self respect doesn't mean they are no less of a nice guy. There are not-so-nice guys who don't have any self respect and will cheat on the woman they are with because they think they they can get away with it while still having the benefits of the girlfriend. You gain value by being true to yourself, achieving your milestones, and by const…
/r/seduction04/12/20 10:21 PM
2

What kind of Twilight fanfiction shit did I just read? You're lucky someone isn't already banging her because most people don't wait a decade to ask someone out to coffee. You need to grow balls, stop nitpicking every action she makes, and just make it happen already.
/r/seduction04/12/20 09:39 PM
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It's exactly that. You are more relaxed around people when you really know someone, so why not just pretend like everyone around you is a good friend? There's boundaries, of course, but you'll be able to smile, joke around, and laugh without being self conscious. It might be hard to pretend, but imagine all the good moments you've had with your real friends, and then put the people you aren't friends with yet into those moments. Another thing you can do is learn skills. If there's a party, you'l…
/r/seduction04/12/20 09:14 PM
1

I talk to people on the phone every day, so when you say all they can hear is your voice, that’s what I picture. Have you put this into practice? What was the last conversation you had with your radio technique?
/r/seduction04/12/20 08:54 PM
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It's so true. My ex had this one friend who would hit on her and would constantly brag to her about how he knows so much about sex because he slept with so many women. The guy's been a fry cook for 7 years, and it would be generous to say he peaked in high school because he failed art class. Poor guy couldn't hold a relationship. Even if he wasn't all those things that he made himself become, telling people your number might as well be a neon sign saying you're overcompensating hard.
/r/seduction04/12/20 07:46 PM
1

Can you give an example of what speaking through a radio would be like?
/r/seduction04/12/20 07:29 PM
1

Can you give an example?
/r/seduction04/12/20 04:36 PM
1

Really depends on the context. If she's straight up calling you out, you have to agree or add something to it. Most people willing to play the game would be more subtle when being flirted with.
/r/seduction04/12/20 12:57 AM
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Teasing is a form of flirting. Though seriously, that teacher suggestion sounds fucked up.
/r/seduction04/12/20 12:47 AM
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You don’t have to approach random women to show you are the alpha male. Women can tell who is dominant by seeing a guy getting everything he wants without trying so hard. I’m sure you’ve seen how many women strike up conversations with a guy who has a nice car and other women in the back. That’s like money being handed to you for sitting on your ass while everyone else is slaving away at a 9 to 5 job. Attractive women with high self esteem don’t care if you compliment them. It’s not a challenge.…
/r/seduction04/12/20 12:11 AM
1

There's a concept/book called the 5 love languages. To show that you like someone, you do certain things that mean the most to them. Gift giving, words of affection, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. Acts of service are things for them that they find a huge help like changing their tires or helping around the house. Quality time is like not picking up your phone when you are a date so that you are making them feel special. Gift Giving and Words of affection is pretty straightfor…
/r/seduction03/12/20 11:08 PM
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No. Some guys have had sex for 10 years and they still last under a minute. You may do better than you think you will. Lasting long is about confidence and thinking about unsexy things lol. I recommend checking out the sex subreddit. There's a lot of advice for first times there.
/r/seduction03/12/20 10:52 PM
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You don't think she knows random guys want her for her body? Do you like when someone you don't know forces you to have a conversation? Can you picture making excuses not to talk to them but they take that as a shit test, so they follow you around? Yeah, unnatural as fuck. No one has all the time for real life interactions. If you want stay in people's lives, you need to learn to text. Out of sight out of mind.
/r/seduction03/12/20 10:44 PM
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Cold approaching isn't natural. I get that it's supposed to be build confidence in people to not care what people think, but if someone doesn't care that they creeped others out by asking for their information, then it makes them more like a stalker or those people that stop others to sell them things or ask for money. You ever get that feeling if you don't give someone a dollar, they are going to pull a knife out on you? That's women obliging by giving out fake numbers, or giving their number b…
/r/seduction03/12/20 10:13 PM
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You made a lesbian friend. That's a win. Imagine all the advice from her unique perspective she can give you about women.
/r/seduction01/12/20 04:13 AM
1

But did they learn anything?
/r/seduction01/12/20 04:06 AM
3

You sure she wasn't a princess in disguise?
/r/seduction01/12/20 04:02 AM
1

You can throw in a joke once or twice but do it too much and you won't be taken seriously. The conversations you want are the ones that are deep. Deep conversations connect on an emotional level as though the person you have known for 5 minutes has known you for 5 years. They can range from your love of ice cream during your childhoods to something more vulnerable. Of course, the ice cream topic is more fun.
/r/seduction27/11/20 06:30 PM
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There is no "one." If you have high standards for what you want in a woman, don't you think you'd need high standards for yourself too? Likewise, if a woman is desperate for affection, does she really care how the guy looks, dresses, or is in shape? Is that the real one you are looking for? I don't like the expression "be your self" either. In flirting, it's more like be the best self that makes the greatest impression. The fastest way to be your best self is feeling confident in your body, your…
/r/seduction27/11/20 06:17 PM
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So you are blocking out communication for two weeks and expect her to make the next move? That expectation might end up hurting you. There's truth to the phrase "out of sight, out of mind". Don't know what kind of exams you have, but you wouldn't be coming off strong tell her good morning or wish her a great day or to take a break to pop in.
/r/seduction07/11/20 11:53 PM
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Depends on how specific. Generally it's not what you say, but how you say it. Most things that melt people's heart sound kind, sympathetic, and humble. Body language plays a big role too. So it's not really enough to say the same thing the other guy did to get the same effect. People need to see and hear genuine emotions if you want them to feel a certain way.
/r/seduction06/11/20 08:22 PM
1

It shares some concepts with this subreddit, but inside you learn your strengths and weaknesses as well as how to spot others' and how to adapt to them.
/r/seduction06/11/20 08:08 PM
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Lol you're reminding me of that one scene from King of the Hill. I've read this book Flirting 101 a few times. Really changed my mindset and inadvertently got a girlfriend.
/r/seduction06/11/20 08:05 PM
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You have a good point. At most, people here get an idea how they should act. Personally, I found that if you want to learn more about women, then it would be better to talk with women. And what I've learned is that women have a skewed measurement of size, so rather than guys thinking about how they'll look, it would benefit them to think more how they'll make the girl feel.
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:00 PM
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Sharing secrets is intimate and whispering is seductive. If you whisper a secret they can lean their ear in and you can get really close to where they can feel your breath.
/r/seduction06/11/20 06:47 PM
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Not everyone has the ability to outright reject someone. It was an issue with my ex, who was afraid to tell them to leave her alone, so they just kept trying. One guy even proposed. There's not much you can do with the theater group. She expressed her concerns with the members, so you can't simply flirt with them for a while. However, everyone's different. The girl you are dating may appreciate your approach. You don't have to hope for another date. Just take everything as feedback for how you c…
/r/seduction06/11/20 06:40 PM
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Like WAPWhiteboi said. Ask her on a date. That would be the natural progression after you said neither of you doesn't want to be single. If you have an idea where you want to go, you'd just say "What's a good time I can take you out to eat?"
/r/seduction06/11/20 05:44 AM
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You ask too many questions. Just do it. Sex depends on who you're having sex with. Good chemistry and laughter during sex makes it more awesome. If you're attractive in the way that they like (e.g. can take control, doesn't give a shit, physically sexy, talented, good in bed) then it increases your chances of getting laid sooner. Sex is only as fun as the people doing it. There's many different kind of sex, but what can spice things up quickly is spontaneous sex. If you find yourself in a positi…
/r/seduction06/11/20 05:26 AM
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I'd recommend having some women as friends, so you can talk to them about everyday stuff, even flirt with them without intending to have sex just so you can build up your social skills. Hell, you can even ask your women friends advice about what type of dates they'd like to see or have them pick out clothing for you for fun. And then while you still go after women you won't be in your head because you'll notice talking to women isn't anything different from talking to your friends.
/r/seduction05/11/20 11:54 PM
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Yeah bro. Not just what you wore made you stand out, but the fact that you were down to have fun and didn't sweat the details is a confidence many find attractive. It sounds like your outfit was a great conversation starter. Coming to a costume party and not bringing a costume is like seeing guys drinking by themselves while everyone's dancing.
/r/seduction05/11/20 11:20 PM
1

You don't have to do all the work, just what you need to make the impression that your time is valuable and if they waste it then you will drop their ass.
/r/seduction05/11/20 10:53 PM
1

Can you explain what you mean
/r/askTRP05/11/20 02:12 PM
1

Sounds like you're over thinking it. Greeting her with anything less than an ass smacking would be an insult
/r/askTRP05/11/20 12:13 AM
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They say soft spoken is very seductive because people lean in more to hear you, which is especially great when you are alone with someone. However, crowds are more difficult because you have to raise voice and it's hard to talk because you aren't used that. It's really all about volume control. If you project the right amount, you can grab the attention of anyone in the room. I've been soft spoken my whole life. I didn't really notice it until I heard myself from a recording of a song cover. Whe…
/r/askTRP05/11/20 12:04 AM
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Just go for it!
/r/seduction04/11/20 11:52 PM
1

There is no ratio. You don't have to be anything for anyone. The more you try the more they can see it. A good conversation comes naturally. It's not like you're not supposed to talk, but if someone else is speaking then you are listening. And when it's your turn to speak, you can followup your friend on what she was talking about or you can relate the topic to your own experience.
/r/seduction04/11/20 11:33 PM
1

If you want to get with them just be honest about it so you don't waste your time. They respect a guy who's more direct.
/r/seduction04/11/20 11:08 PM
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Sounds like a question for the fitness subreddit Thing about cardio is it burns muscle. You lifting in combination with diet builds muscle. So it's no surprise you'd be exhausted. I'd alternate days for different workouts. Like MWF lifting and then TRSa would be cardio, then Sunday rest day. Building muscle is all about hormones, namely testosterone. You need to make sure you get rest 7-8 hours sleep, no alcohol, no smoking, limit sugar, and keep yourself hydrated with water.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 07:39 PM
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Huh? Do you actually have a stand up? It's funnier if you do but pretend like you just made it up. I'm no vet, but I would just say "Don't make me laugh" and then laugh. You can also go with random phrases that are taken out of context like "You should see the other guy"
/r/askTRP04/11/20 06:53 PM
1

Your lover is yours for the moment, but like a car requires constant maintenance. The moment you neglect something for too long the relationship dips. Can you afford to balance everything in your life at the cost of paying attention to another being.
/r/seduction22/06/20 01:49 AM
1

Yeah I see why you would find it hard to trust her. That was disrespectful. I would suggest talking about it next time something like that happens. Jealousy or no, that is a deal breaker. I don’t know your girlfriend, but ones that constantly do that or keep more male company than female have major insecurities they “fix” by validating their worth through how much attention they can get. It’s no ones job to change those girls, but you can make them aware how it affects how you will view them on …
/r/seduction29/05/20 02:20 AM
1

What did she say when you talked with her about it
/r/seduction29/05/20 12:10 AM
1

All you can do is trust her. Perhaps it's your fear of being afraid to lose someone you need to change. It's one thing to limit guys from talking to your girlfriend so you don't feel that way. It's another thing to see guys talking to her and you not giving a shit because you know she's coming home with you. Which would you prefer
/r/seduction29/05/20 12:05 AM
12

Thinking about sex during an interaction can cause someone to subconsciously behave desperate, and desperation is unattractive. If someone knows you are not just trying to talk to someone for their body they will put a guard up to. Having fun doesn't need to involve sex, so it's more inviting
/r/seduction28/05/20 05:48 PM
3

Lol did you accidentally agree to be her boyfriend because it sounds like she didn't consider your consent
/r/seduction04/04/17 07:57 PM
1

What is meant by "asking stuff?" Asking them about themselves is a way to establish an emotional connection or bond over something you have in common. Then will pushing/pulling have more effect
/r/seduction04/04/17 05:13 PM
1

Lol it's fine if women want more out of your friendship. It makes you seem more desirable to other women who you have yet to meet
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:24 PM
1

Establish rapport first because if you push someone away, then it can be taken as unfriendly. They should know you are kidding. Whatever counts as regular conversation to you is the safest bet at first.
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:09 PM
2

You didn't have to make it weird. Telling her to explain herself is like deconstructing a joke, causing it to lose it's magic. She said she loved you, and if you felt so inclined you'd tell her you'd want to as well instead of playing process of elimination who you can be. If you did want a relationship with her, because she does sound like a woman of substance, then you'd have to make her understand that baggage has to be let go so that both of you can start even stronger.
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:03 PM
2

Fun depot/ an arcade. Points for go karts and laser tag. My first official date was in a science museum, and after a year the GF considers that experience topping the Legend of Zelda Symphony Concert
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:50 PM
30

You are in a relationship right now and feel like you are wasting your time? That sounds toxic
/r/seduction04/04/17 01:59 PM
1

Flirting 101:How to charm your way to love, friendship, and success Helped me get my first girlfriend. It talks about branding yourself, where women come to you, as type of marketing as opposed to advertising by coming up to women and telling them about yourself. Other things are the power that words have and tapping into deep conversations and of course flirting such as "How do I tell you you're cute without making you think I'm coming onto you?"
/r/seduction02/04/17 03:50 AM
1

Lol, it's true. I told my date "Don't be a stalker now" at the end and now she constantly wants to know where I am.
/r/seduction02/04/17 03:38 AM
1

Embracing the weird and abstract can't hurt. There's a game improv actors use called "yes, and..." People play by agreeing to what the person before said then say "and..." and add additional information to create a story of sorts. Disagreeing with someone breaks the story because it doesn't affirm what someone said and figuratively that's like an "f u." If you think of conversations like co-writing a story with plot twists and prologues it's really fun
/r/seduction30/03/17 07:55 PM
1

I play their game intending to win
/r/seduction30/03/17 06:45 PM
1

You can assume a bunch of things and get her to laugh if you are right or she'll talk about herself to clarify. You can include What ifs that get you to talk about yourself if you had her "expertise." Have an even amount of self-deprecating humor as well as high self-esteem. The more you get her to talk about herself the better
/r/seduction30/03/17 06:43 PM
1

If it's smooth and you immediately build rapport they like it
/r/seduction30/03/17 06:25 PM
1

why didn't u just stay FWB?
/r/seduction15/01/17 04:10 AM
2

If you can make a relationship fun for six months without sex, then you can also turn water into wine
/r/seduction15/01/17 03:53 AM
1

What kind of successful guy have time for women in the first place?
/r/seduction14/01/17 11:40 PM
3

Why don't you ask? "How do I kiss you without us swallowing each other's faces"
/r/seduction14/01/17 10:08 AM
1

One that never seems to fail is when they ask you if you are happy with anything, and you just smile and say "I'm never happy" Disclaimer: Advised against using while in a relationship
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:04 PM
1

Unpredictability in Irony, complimentary sarcasm, role play, puns, even some things that are straight contradictory. For example, if a girl ever asked if you think she wouldn't get mad and let you touch her, you could so playfully say that you can still touch while she gets mad
/r/seduction13/01/17 04:53 PM
1

Friendly flirting is without the intention of wanting to get with cause you could pay a guy and girl the same compliment, but it doesn't need to mean more than that. Seductive flirting is obvious in the methods like touching, word power, or any non-verbal cues. But if you friendly flirt, it should be clear that it's nothing more because some people start assuming things and then feelings are hurt.
/r/seduction04/01/17 06:59 PM
1

Who knows if it won't be something for her to tell the children about. If I was a girl I'd fuck me for breaking the ice and giving my number all at once. Not sure what you mean by enemy of action, but if you're going to surprise her now and then it's going to take some thought and balls to go through it, but how could she tell past all the smoothness 😏
/r/seduction02/11/16 11:43 PM
1

Calling them silly nicknames. I'm in a 10 month relationship right now and while we were reminiscing back she said things started getting sexual when I called her a "blood slut" after she told me she likes to donate blood. "Fit bitch" is another she likes. If they are laughing after being called something dirty or insulting, then you're flirting.
/r/seduction02/11/16 06:42 PM
1

You could take the initiative to plan dates and give her things that remind you of her or something she said. Girls are attracted to that kind of autonomy. Real gentleman shit. Not starting conversations about sex when on dates will make one appear civilized as well.
/r/seduction02/11/16 06:32 PM
2

What class is it? Maybe you can come up with something smooth. Like if it was math class and you could show a trick with a calculator (there's a bunch of them like a number that is exactly what the person was thinking or flipping it upside down for a message). Ask any 7 numbers and see what it comes to. Then ask her to put her phone number in and see what she gets 😏
/r/seduction02/11/16 04:11 PM
1

How about branding yourself? When people think of who is cool, funny, smart, gentlemanly, charming, they should immediately think of you. Of course, you have to look and act like that. The best part about branding is that you don't have to go out of your way to meet people because by assuming attraction they'll see you in the corner of their eye and come to you. It's true word gets around fast for a small school, and that's something you can use to your advantage. You want girls to ask, "How can…
/r/seduction02/11/16 03:52 PM
1

Being smoother and having a backup plan. Please don't be that guy at a mall who stops people to say "Hi I'm blahblah, what's your name? Wow you have the same name as my sister. Cool." People have places to be, and can do without being followed around like a puppy. Try to pick a girl up in a starbucks line because they might just sit with you afterwards, or pretend that you work in a retail store so there are more chances to compliment them because it's not that unusual.
/r/seduction18/10/16 11:56 AM
1

It certainly helps if she shows an interest about you. If they constantly talk about themselves, then they are vain and narcissistic. You should ask yourself what you like about the person or if you like them at all. I'm not going to stick around with a person that's leaving me out to dry. She should be trying to get me wet as much as I am trying to for her, and if she can't do that, then she can see me flirt with another woman who knows how to flirt back. What do you talk about anyways?
/r/seduction18/10/16 11:28 AM
2

That sounds like a mistake. While it is a new growing experience, it's the kind that can build a reputation as a sexual harasser. Everyone needs a backup plan where they can disengage and separate themselves from the conversation at the expense of no one's ego.
/r/seduction14/10/16 02:11 AM
1

Sometimes it feels right when the mood is playful. Like if a girl says she's going to have a BBQ and it's only for girls, which you are invited, then playing along by saying you are going to be grilled or you have girly features will definitely win you points. You shouldn't have to draw any attention to yourself if not required. If someone else points things out like your nose, then by all means embrace and milk it for what it's worth. You could say you'll broil it in her hotpot.
/r/seduction29/05/16 02:47 AM
1

By over-analyzing you mean she would sleep with you in the very short time you were talking with her (8 minutes + a book discussion)? True flirting is ambiguous. If she's not obvious and seducing you then and there , odds are she's just looking for a friend to mentally joust with. Meaning she's not a slut, or what you consider someone without integrity. Dressing nice makes a good first impression, but how about considering she would still love to chat with you if you didn't talk about how fancy …
/r/seduction27/05/16 12:49 AM
1

How do you know she wasn't shit testing you? Either you can continue a conversation or you can't (like your response to crossbreeds); You either look at her boobs or you don't; You either are modest like she is or you pay too much attention to yourself (ironically not enough if you spill coffee on your shoes). Most people are conditioned to be polite like how you said goodbye, so what if she was being nice to you because she doesn't like insulting superficial people?
/r/seduction26/05/16 08:20 PM
1

Funny you say that. I called my girlfriend at midnight, and she got pissed at me for waking her up and she couldn't go back to sleep for 3 hours
/r/seduction26/04/16 11:22 AM
1

Lol. You had me at everyone was going to die. My current girlfriend was only looking for a friend at first. Then flirting on random topics about why we like roller coasters or horror movies to past relationships somehow led to warming her up for sex.
/r/seduction07/04/16 06:44 PM
1

Lol that reminds me that last month this one girl I am now seeing told me, "what do you think if I get back with my ex?" And I told her "you have my blessing."
/r/seduction23/03/16 02:17 AM
1

Texts are fun! It's a lot like talking, but with the sense someone's giving you the silent treatment.
/r/seduction20/03/16 03:53 AM
1

you realize people are comfortable with their lives and aren't willing to take risks like it's all or nothing
/r/seduction16/03/16 02:30 AM
8

Start giving genuine compliments. Positivity gets tied back to you.
/r/seduction15/03/16 10:53 PM
2

fear of not dying tomorrow
/r/seduction15/03/16 10:46 PM
1

How can I get her to approach me?
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:34 AM
1

Taking notice and building rapport. First of all, how did you know she studied psychology? Was it the way she just observes people? Was she giving a social experiment vibe? Anything is better to say than without a reason. Turn up the jokes. There's so many different types of humor out there, but you need the mindset of "How can I make her laugh?" instead of "what should I say?" Whatever women tell you you can send back their information right at them. She tells you psychology. What does psycholo…
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:28 AM
1

It's contradicting and ironic, which leads to humor. Being short, acne, and depression are usually excuses to not talk to anyone, and yet there your friend was. Like if I was smiling and laughing but said "I'm never happy," it would make people curious what the hell that means.
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:06 AM
8

Desperation is a stinky cologne
/r/seduction09/03/16 07:27 AM
1

What's different about reading these field reports and reading 50 Shades of Grey?
/r/seduction06/03/16 11:50 PM
1

By feeling awesome in every cell of your body. To look back at all the positive experiences from your past and step in to whip that you out wherever. To step up to the plate and know every word you say will be golden.
/r/seduction06/03/16 11:42 PM
1

What was your intent after stopping her?
/r/seduction06/03/16 11:24 PM
1

Or combine their name with something based on the conversation topic. Food is fun to do because it can turn sexually charged with word power like dripping, biting, licking
/r/seduction06/03/16 09:46 PM
7

Tl;dr Practice makes perfect
/r/seduction06/03/16 09:23 PM
1

"Oh I love it when you try to woo me! Tell me what about my eyes you like"
/r/seduction05/03/16 06:32 AM
1

Good question, but be careful what you wish for. A nice guy would make up for accidentally crashing into you while the latter would crash into you and make it look like an accident.
/r/seduction04/03/16 09:35 PM
1

Isn't that the paradoxical truth. The more you lightly push them away, the more they'll push back until you're both at opposite ends of a rope where the sexual tension could snap it at any second. If furious and still loves you, that's a good a sign.
/r/seduction29/02/16 07:41 PM
1

Yeah. When I agreed, my gut feeling was telling me the more fine I am with whatever she says, the less chance of it actually happening, which in this case actually driving far up to my school.
/r/seduction29/02/16 04:17 PM
1

You aren't wrong. Later that day she sent me a picture saying "I own you now." My response was "What's PETA going to say when they find out you're drowning me like bobbing for apples?" And she types "They'll pat me on the back and tell you to hold your breath longer kissy emote." So could just all be an S&M joke or she's aware just what she's asking is unlikely.
/r/seduction29/02/16 04:15 PM
1

Usually when they ask something about me and I would say "What do you think? Wink wink." I say wink when winking. Wink.
/r/seduction29/02/16 03:44 PM
2

Yes, I am the second coming of Kanye West. Language is a buoy that can help sink or swim; diffuse or elevate situations; insult or compliment; paint a picture of peace or poop. From my experience, no one will love your intelligence if you treat them like crap. But when you make them feel like they are the most intelligent, they'll associate that happy feeling with you meaning they can't wait to see you again. OP actually has a few things going for him. 1 he's a foreigner so it's understandable i…
/r/seduction29/02/16 03:19 PM
8

Exactly. People suffer from depression because they often compare themselves to their friends. Not being on Facebook is social proof that you are too busy to care what others are doing while they'll be on Facebook still thinking "WHY DIDN'T YOU LIKE MY POST?"
/r/seduction29/02/16 02:42 PM
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Did you ever just wonder that since light travels faster than sound, isn't that why some people appear bright until you hear them speak?
/r/seduction29/02/16 02:31 PM
1

So you don't talk when you have a conversation? :p
/r/seduction22/02/16 06:36 AM
1

How does that not scream desperation when you will drop everything (I'm assuming career and social life) to get in their pants?
/r/seduction20/02/16 06:40 PM
1

Step 4. Pay for child support
/r/seduction19/02/16 05:58 PM
0

What exactly does being in a relationship mean to you? To me, it's just the same as being a friend except with sex. So it sounds like you only want her for sex or nothing at all.
/r/seduction17/02/16 05:04 AM
1

Looking someone in the eyes is a show of confidence. The most basic nonverbal cue. And touching them while making eye contact makes you more attractive.
/r/seduction15/02/16 03:07 AM
1

So you're saying an introvert can be "crazy aggressive" and "soft nice guy?"
/r/seduction14/02/16 05:31 AM
4

Why do you call a woman a bitch if a man gets rejected? I ask because I love women, so I wouldn't start name calling them if things didn't go my way.
/r/seduction13/02/16 03:20 PM
2

You can try out snap chatting with her by sending her funny pictures or whatever to start conversations. For me, sexual topics don't come about until after normal conversation is started. For example a conversation after talking about Kung Fu Panda 3. Her: Can you master the mari(her name) arts? Me: It would take 5 lifetimes and gallons of marinara. So yeah Her: Idk, it doesn't work like that. You have to be the chosen one Me: How can you tell Mari-sensei? Her: There's a prophecy about it Me: Ha…
/r/seduction13/02/16 03:04 PM
1

You realize they are called backhanded compliments because they can be taken as insults, right?
/r/seduction13/02/16 01:30 PM
2

Its impossible to be selfless. Every nice action done, with sexual intentions or not, goes toward boosting self esteem
/r/seduction13/02/16 01:23 PM
3

Are you defining introvert as the "soft nice guy?"
/r/seduction13/02/16 02:31 AM
1

It's what you didn't say that failed. She could've said anything like Europe or Moscow. You did right by making her laugh. Now you just have to follow through by preparing responses to how they react to your questions. Why do you think great comedians can interact with the audience? They've preprogrammed themselves for any situation to which people will consider improv gold. Jokes depend all on the delivery, so since you paid her a compliment you introduce yourself and finish the punchline. "I l…
/r/seduction12/02/16 11:53 PM
2

I'd love to hang back like an ostrich with my feathers fluffing, but I feel some caution is advised when suddenly fighting a position that's formed over the years
/r/seduction11/02/16 06:27 PM
2

Because life isn't a harem anime.
/r/seduction11/02/16 06:12 PM
2

Sarcasm usually has a dry humor to it, so she probably would take it the wrong way over texting or if the mood wasn't right
/r/seduction11/02/16 04:58 PM
1

Lol a girl just asked me for "Netflix and chill" this week, so I found this
/r/seduction11/02/16 04:49 PM
2

Did you have to allude to Danny Devito? The dude's got game
/r/seduction11/02/16 04:39 PM
2

I wonder if you said all that in a sarcastic tone would it produce positive results?
/r/seduction11/02/16 04:29 PM
1

That's what we should be asking. How did it help your situation?
/r/seduction10/02/16 06:31 PM
1

that's less seduction and more on the date rape side. I imagine the OP wouldn't want to wake up with a transvestite because he couldn't tell the difference between a penis and a hand
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:39 PM
1

Would a wing woman be as or more helpful than a wingman?
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:09 PM
1

Yeah makes sense, except for the difference of searching and using pick up lines on women with their BFs next to them. A conversation started like that would be very awkward
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:05 PM
1

What's "every opening ever" supposed to mean?
/r/seduction10/02/16 01:54 PM
0

It is the healthy way because you wouldn't take it well if he started becoming jealous, would you?
/r/seduction10/02/16 04:27 AM
1

Eh, I don't need people to reconfirm how attractive my GFs are, but that's me. I have a friend who's a nurse and she tells me she gets harassed about every time she has a male patient. What crosses the line for you?
/r/seduction10/02/16 04:23 AM
1

You realize I'm talking about the guy who spies women, comes out of nowhere, who could have a knife gun chloroform whatever, and wastes everyone's time, right?
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:59 AM
1

that was only a sample. Talking just about everyday for 2 months, it wouldn't be like we haven't empathized with each other. It's all taken out of context though so it could be misunderstood if we told each other to "shut up and sleep" without a mood or what built up to it. You bring good points though. I'll consider your feelings.
/r/seduction09/02/16 07:32 PM
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If you say so. Even if it was funny the first time, I'd imagine that it would get annoying fast if you were both stopped daily. You never know, show them the slightest bit of interest and you got a stalker on your hands.
/r/seduction09/02/16 07:11 PM
-18

Even if she wasn't taken, it would still be creepy. What makes you think he was trying to improve his social skills?
/r/seduction09/02/16 04:34 AM
2

Sounds like that movie Hitch
/r/seduction08/02/16 09:12 PM
2

Not other guys but the the topic of pick up lines would make great conversation
/r/seduction08/02/16 07:14 PM
1

Just fuck it
/r/seduction08/02/16 06:55 PM
1

And how good are you at poker?
/r/seduction06/02/16 05:31 AM
1

What makes you think it's not uni work? I have a physics exam tomorrow and the last place I should be is shopping or hanging out with someone. Make it two or three exams and it becomes the equivalent of house arrest
/r/seduction03/02/16 03:05 PM
1

How about using humor to get her to understand your point? Laughter is a good way to release tension and a sense of humor brings more intimacy.
/r/seduction03/02/16 02:16 PM
64

So be like Jim Carry in Yes Man
/r/seduction03/02/16 02:03 PM
1

Why does that first one remind me of Obama?
/r/seduction03/02/16 02:00 PM
1

Not really my groups. I'm just suggesting they are there, though to be honest topics about fucking women has nothing to do with seddit, so it's great that you are on the job.
/r/seduction03/02/16 01:33 PM
1

It could be it wasn't their real number. I do this on forms so I don't get telemarketers, but they always manage to find me...
/r/seduction02/02/16 10:11 PM
1

What do you mean by natural text flow going when she doesn't respond?
/r/seduction02/02/16 05:15 AM
1

It's funny you say that. When she was wearing the hoodie and I could barely feel my face I looked down into her eyes and whispered "It'd be sad if I could no longer feel your touch." I leaned closer in, but she just laughed it off and grasped my hands together for a rubdown. So I decided not to rush it, besides feeling her up. I'm intoverted like that
/r/seduction01/02/16 03:53 PM
5

Being really good at "moving the scene" is helpful when flirting. It's an expression used in improv when you create a story out of nowhere. When I first started taking notice my conversations started coming out like this: She tells me she's at a lake, so I say "There's a time and a place for skinny dipping, you know." She plays along "I would but I don't do it with an audience. Found out my secret place wasn't so secret." Now this is where I moved the scene by saying "And that's when you started…
/r/seduction01/02/16 07:36 AM
2

That isn't to say a picture can't create a thousand words in someone's mind. At least smile for gods sake!
/r/seduction01/02/16 05:46 AM
3

What you are doing is Advertise marketing: having to put effort into getting noticed. What is more effective is Brand marketing: getting noticed just by appearing unique and creating a positive image in people's minds. Once you feel super comfortable within your own skin and how cool your hair and clothes look, then your self doubts will melt away and all you have to do is look people in the eyes and put on your best smile to be the latest buzz. When enough news about you spreads, then people yo…
/r/seduction11/01/16 07:39 AM
1

what's the difference between texting and everything else that drives us? It's all an escape from boredom, isn't it?
/r/seduction04/01/16 04:35 PM
1

It's not like you say the same 'dumb' thing to every girl, right? I think taking in their reaction is good feedback to what you can do next time.
/r/seduction04/01/16 04:30 PM
1

What if she asks about your day? Isn't that still the perfect time to talk about the craziest thing happening?
/r/seduction03/01/16 11:45 PM
1

Did you have one of those life flashing before your eyes?
/r/seduction03/01/16 11:41 PM
1

Maybe it's a professional thing. People act differently when they are being watched.
/r/seduction03/01/16 11:32 PM
1

I've never heard that one. Is it like go for broke?
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:09 PM
1

Sitting in a school bus with two girls to a seat...:'(
/r/seduction03/01/16 06:03 PM
1

Of course! My goal is to do both
/r/seduction03/01/16 04:46 PM
1

You could build rapport through the text. Quick hookups don't seem the type to involve feelings. What your hearts wanted was the sex. Is it too bold to say you want to continue where you left off?
/r/seduction03/01/16 05:18 AM
1

If you can talk to every girl, touch them, and only get cursed out with no alcohol next NYE, then you will be a genius.
/r/seduction03/01/16 05:05 AM
1

Agreed, but as long as it's the safe misunderstood, it cant go wrong.
/r/seduction03/01/16 04:55 AM
1

Yeah. It seems to follow that proverb "not what you say, but how you say it."
/r/seduction02/01/16 07:03 AM
2

It's awkward if you're awkward. If you're not in the right state of mind, your date would be doomed even if you weren't in public.
/r/seduction01/01/16 05:03 PM
1

It's a common misconception reinforced by pornography that a bigger dick makes you automatically attractive. Porn is not reality. The more you follow what you watch, the deeper the slump you'll fall into. All you describe is physical traits. Having someone want you more than anything is psychological and requires personality. I suggest you try the subreddit NoFap so you can build self control rather than let your penis think for you until you do land a real woman.
/r/seduction01/01/16 04:16 PM
2

Why do you blame your height? You've never seen someone 3'0" get a date?
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:38 PM
0

What does it entail?
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:18 PM
1

isn't that very unlikely? After all, mods are unpaid and I'm assuming have lives of their own. If they had time to hover seddit, then they would probably be out dating too.
/r/seduction01/01/16 07:54 AM
1

Sleeping early is a good thing though. People who consistently sleep late have dry flaky skin and sunken eyes. Basically qualities that turnoff who you try to attract. But you going out while they sleep is a potential problem they shouldn't have to deal with. If you ever get in trouble, the first place you'll come for help is home. That would be embarrassing for both you and them.
/r/seduction01/01/16 07:41 AM
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It's still kind of rapey if you don't get consent
/r/seduction01/01/16 07:22 AM
1

Does asking for suggestions count as validation?
/r/seduction01/01/16 04:05 AM
2

You'll have to seduce them with your brain eventually. And you don't have to be drunk to flirt well either.
/r/seduction31/12/15 10:05 PM
1

Haha yeah. Though I was going to include a smily and because of the two steps forward one step back approach. A bit of conflict makes things interesting wouldn't you say?
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:14 PM
1

But how high is attracting people on the priority list?
/r/seduction31/12/15 03:54 PM
1

Why not keep it casual? "See you next week or not"
/r/seduction31/12/15 03:43 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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