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DJ_Fuji/r/seduction22/06/11 02:16 AM
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This is tricky advice, as it applies on tinder or online game when a girl is interested, but is counter productive in live/cold approach game when the girl is neutral or NOT interested (in that case, it just looks needy). And since it's sometimes not obvious when a girl is not interested, it makes things even more confusing. Showing too much or too little interest are both tactical mistakes, and both will get you blown out. Here are some general guidelines to go with (both online and off): 1) In…
/r/seduction01/09/14 11:49 PM
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Don't shit where you eat, man. Especially if you're in an industry/niche where a lot of people know each other (as happens sometimes among photogs). At the very least, don't do it recklessly. In your case, contact her under the guise of work as TheGreatOutdoor said. Then see how receptive she is to continuing a conversation (e.g., she doesnt immediately try to steer the conversation back to work). If she's receptive, propose a ambiguous meetup for coffee or lunch. If she likes you, she'll say ye…
/r/seduction19/12/13 09:19 AM
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"dont worry about what other people think" is good advice but abstract and not actionable. It's "be confident" advice. Actionable things to do: Open the first set as soon as you get in Talk to EVERYONE nonstop. Guys, girls, bouncers, etc. No one assumes the guy talking to everyone is solo. Don't stagnate. If you're having trouble starting out (also: see step 1), talk to guys around you about women. Easiest conversations ever. Some openers: "is it always a cockfest here?" "jesus that girl in the …
/r/seduction19/12/13 06:37 AM
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Hey man, First off, good job getting out there and actually opening and approaching. 99% of guys talk the talk or read about this stuff but never actually go out and do it. In terms of this opener, I don't particularly like it, though I do like that it gets guys out there actually approaching. But tactically speaking, I'm not a huge fan. Too limited in scope and too many disadvantages. If this was counter strike, think of this as a shotgun: Easy to use, useful in certain scenarios, but ultimatel…
/r/seduction19/12/13 05:14 AM
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Daygame, online game, and fri/sat night game. Also -- start working from starbucks one day a week if you can.
/r/seduction19/12/13 04:53 AM
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Look for the NYC Lair talk. It's on vimeo. I detail all 4 conversational drills.
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:38 AM
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Looks matter but not the way you think. Looks are about 10-20% of the game. Out of that 10-20%, genetics are about 10-20% of THAT. In other words, the role that genetic looks plays is approx 10% of 10% = 1%. Everything else is fixable. Think about this: Take a guy who's a 5 on the looks scale -- completely and totally average. Now give this guy a crapload of confidence. Now make him buff. Give him a cool haircut. Great fashion. Fix his teeth. Get him a tan. What do you have? A 5 who is now an 8 …
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:36 AM
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The fallacy is that you're seeing this as binary -- looks either matter 100% or 0%. You're neglecting the shades of grey -- only seeing black and white. In reality, looks matter but not a ton. They matter about 10-20% max. Looks matter the way strength matters in wrestling or MMA, e.g., somewhat, but nothing compared to say, skill or technique.
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:32 AM
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Do it exactly that way. Walk up and say whats up. I made a lot of natural friends by approaching them and complimenting them on their fashion, game, etc. Just be normal and talk to him like a guy friend. Try to figure out what value you can bring. Sometimes it'll seem like you have nothing to offer but that usually means you aren't thinking hard enough. Sometimes you can get him a job. Sometimes you're just a guy who approaches a LOT but you suck at it. The fact that you're approaching is value …
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:30 AM
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Yeah that's basically how it is at the beginning.
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:26 AM
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If you run out of things to say around friends and family, then yeah you're definitely going to benefit from these drills. Do them a LOT and you'll see a big improvement in how you're able to interact with people.
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:23 AM
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Well the first thing is that your mindset has to change. You're seeing escalation as you taking something from people. You see it as not "respecting" her because you are subtly associating sexual escalation with not being "respectful." That mindset is going to be detrimental to your development. You have to look at escalation as something that you're GIVING to her. A girl doesn't moan when i'm escalating because i'm taking something from her. When I escalate, it's because she WANTS me to. It's b…
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:22 AM
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Hey guys, sorry been mia the last couple of days. Going to answer the last few remaining questions on here before we wrap up this Q&A. Hope you guys got something out of this.
/r/seduction27/06/11 12:14 AM
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Go watch my NYC Lair Talk lecture and my 2010 21 Convention Lecture. Both of them mention a series of conversational drills that will help you develop your social skills. Keep in mind that occasionally it's not your social skills -- sometimes it's just you being nervous. The drills will still help, but make sure you're focusing on the root cause of the problem rather than just trying to fix the symptoms.
/r/seduction23/06/11 08:24 AM
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There are things girls can do to up their "game" but it doesn't exactly translate from traditional game. Men are such visual creatures that the "looks" component is a MUCH bigger deal than vice versa, so you can't neglect it. And really, women choosing among the men who approach them is no different than guys choosing among the girls who are interested in them. I'd say that if not enough guys are approaching you, or you're unhappy with the guys who do, you'll want to do 2 things: 1.) Figure out …
/r/seduction23/06/11 08:23 AM
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Uhh, pretty simple. Look at a guy and smile. If he doesn't get the hint, say hello. If that doesn't work, suck on your finger. Then ask him if he wants to get out of there. The end. This is why there's no "pickup" for women -- it's too easy most of the time. The bigger problem women have is KEEPING HIM AROUND, not getting him interested initially. Unfortunately, if you're trying to keep a guy around, standard pickup stuff doesn't work. You have to do exactly the opposite. You have to make him in…
/r/seduction23/06/11 07:25 AM
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Yeah i see that. But it only sorts the main comments -- i can't for example, see all NEW comments (including nested replies) in one neat little place.
/r/seduction23/06/11 07:19 AM
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Honestly, I would contact Nick over at SameNightSeduction.com. He's currently a gringo living in Colombia with limited spanish. He'll have much better insights on that subject.
/r/seduction23/06/11 07:18 AM
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Can someone please explain how I can keep up with new replies (especially to older topics) without re-scanning the entire comment tree every time i hit refresh?
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:27 AM
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"Magic" is also an Indian PUA. Jeremy almost doesnt count because of his charming accent. Magic, however, has the quik-e-mart accent. And he still pulls. That's game right there.
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:26 AM
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Who are they trying to pick up? Men or women? For what reason?
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:25 AM
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She's latina so she's jealous and doesnt like that I have to demo on boot camp and flirt with girls, but she understands (most of the time). She didn't like the whole community thing at first but it's grown on her. She likes seeing the changes and improvements in my students and she knows how passionate I am about what I do. Seeing the guys I work with and the transformations is really what changed her mind about the whole thing. That said, I do try to keep her shielded from a lot of the pickup …
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:23 AM
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Best place to meet girls: Wherever you are. Seriously. Open girls everywhere. At the mall. At the beach. In a bar. Walking down the street. At the supermarket. Make it a habit to open whenever you see an attractive girl you'd like to meet. And if you're brand new, make it a habit to open ANY girl who's +/- 15 years of your age (18+). Because at that point the main thing you need is experience. Best place to take them: Gun range, rock climbing, hot tub in the back yard, movie at my place, etc. It…
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:18 AM
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Tease, flirt, kino, push-pull. That's your ticket out of the friend zone.
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:15 AM
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I agree with you, but that's because what you're saying makes sense to me NOW. It does NOT make sense to a guy who is terrified of girls because he thinks girls don't like asian guys. Telling him to "be confident" and "see yourself as a man" is too vague to help him. It would NOT make sense to me 7 years ago. What guys really need to know is that being asian in dating is like being black in the job market. And... if you hadn't noticed... WE HAVE A BLACK PRESIDENT. 'Nuff said.
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:14 AM
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Understand that most lairs and community forums have an extremely bad SNR (signal to noise ratio). In other words, it's 99% keyboard jockeys and 1% skilled guys. The guys who are offering "advice" are often the worst guys. I used to get really scared when I was first coaching and I had a student I knew from the forums or lair who seemed advanced. He'd always seem so good from his posts. I was worried I wouldn't be able to teach him anything. I remember feeling really self conscious about it. And…
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:12 AM
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Not sure I understand your question. Do you mean men who are transgender? Or do you mean girls who are trying to pick up guys? Or girls who are trying to pick up other girls?
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:08 AM
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Sent PM
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:07 AM
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Grow taller. Just kidding. :) At the beginning, just be ok with it. If you're below 5'2" or so, then if I was in your situation I would research that thing they do in China to break your legs and grow them back taller. I'm not saying DO it, but you might want to look into it. I've heard it gives you like 4 or 5 inches, which still puts you below average, but at least you can reach the pedals of the car so you can drive now. :) Height is a real factor that can affect your game, but most guys worr…
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:03 AM
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Ironically, I don't go to bars to meet women. I go to practice and now, to teach. At least half of my relationships and girls i've dated have come from day game and other environments. Bars and clubs are not good places to meet women. They're good places to PRACTICE. Because there's no consequences. That said, I kind of have my own style of day game but I have learned critical elements from Sinn, Doc Holliday (retired), and Rob Kramer (innerconfidence.com).
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:56 AM
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Here's all you need to know regarding height: height : game : good genetics : weight lifting
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:53 AM
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:) I don't put it up every morning. I don't hang out with my mom with the 'hawk up haha. It takes about an hour to put up (including shower and everything) when I do go all out.
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:52 AM
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Depends on what you consider a 'breakthrough.' For me, a breakthrough was the fact that i could actually walk up and talk to girls -- that was f'ing amazing to me because i thought that was impossible. I felt like i had superpowers. For about, you know, 2 seconds until she walked away from me haha. It took me 7 months to get my first lay. That's 7 months going out 4-6 times a week. As far as advice goes, start by setting goals for yourself each week. Getting good at this is a combination of disc…
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:51 AM
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Yeah i know them personally. They've attended a few of the events I've spoken at. I don't hang out that often with them but they wing with my admin/assistant a lot. They're solid guys. Check out casanovacrew.com. It's the local "lair" in the socal region. I am not divulging my fav pickup spots on the internet as I learned my lesson last time I did that -- it got overrun by pickup guys who bombarded me with questions while I was trying to teach a boot camp. :) If you think CC game is tough, try g…
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:34 AM
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Lead. Always.
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:26 AM
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Get naked. Be in a room with girls who are naked. Make normal conversation like everything is normal.
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:20 AM
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Bingo. Maintenance means that you have to actively maintain the relationship. That means that even when you're living with a girl, you have to take her out on "dates". You have to spend "quality time" with her. You have to keep things interesting. You have to continue to qualify her and keep things exciting. And you have to gradually move the relationship forward.
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:17 AM
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Not that I know of, no. But it's not always necessarily to find a local coach -- training is often done either when I come to your area or through phone/internet teleconferencing. See the coaching page for more info: www.taoofdjfuji.com/training.
/r/seduction23/06/11 05:15 AM
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Small price to pay to be squared away. :)
/r/seduction22/06/11 06:26 AM
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Yes, it can be learned. But the time it would take could be better spent on other things that will help you in pickup. Don't learn it FOR pickup.
/r/seduction22/06/11 06:25 AM
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Origin is a student in my long term program. I've worked closely enough with him to identify his sticking points and provide solutions. That doesn't necessarily mean that it's the best thing for YOU though. Everyone's different and that's why I work with guys individually.
/r/seduction22/06/11 06:24 AM
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Bro, you're hyperfocused on this race thing. One, there's no answer to this question because it's a hypothetical, could-batman-beat-up-wolverine-in-a-fight question, and two, even if we could figure it out, it wouldn't make a difference because you're not me and as much as we have in common, there's a LOT we have that is different. Instead, focus on getting good for YOU, not to compare yourself to other people. I can outgame a lot of white guys and I'm sure there are asian guys who can outgame m…
/r/seduction22/06/11 05:12 AM
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1.) Do both. Hang out at fraternities and be NORMAL. Just laugh and have a good time and force yourself to talk to people, guys and girls. Go to Boston sometimes, too, and try your hand in the nightclub scene. Both will give you what you need most right now: Experience. 2.) Drills are only as useful as their applicability. I can't give you a drill to fix a sticking point unless i know you HAVE that sticking point. Here are 3 tips to getting good fast: Open 100 sets a week Get a GOOD coach or men…
/r/seduction22/06/11 05:03 AM
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Thanks man. 1.) Pick a good coach and give it 100% during your coaching. Ask a lot of questions but think for yourself. Hold your coach to high standards. If he's getting drunk during infield coaching, or ignoring students to talk to his own girls, ask him respectfully to stop and to coach you. If he refuses or continues do it, ask for a refund. 2.) I don't teach either stacking or DHVs. Traditional stacking doesn't work. It just makes you weird. If you're good enough to make stacking work, then…
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:54 AM
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Ha, try hooking up with latinas and black girls.
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:28 AM
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Direct, confident, playful, kinesthetic. Lots of push/pull, lots of back turns.
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:27 AM
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disingenuous: I picture Mystery (lol) bigotry: picture redneck racist guy rude: picture either rihanna or a guy farting (haha) music: picture like 1000 4things Rebelliousness: motorcycle damage: street fighter How in the hell are you getting rebelliousness as a word association? WTF? And yes, freestyling is REALLY helpful. Kamo can do it super well.
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:19 AM
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Eh, asian girls like me. The feeling just isn't mutual. Nothing against them being asian, I just don't like shy, submissive girls. The racial thing is blown out of proportion. It's not that bad.
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:15 AM
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Cmon man, you're really going to sit there and tell me you want me to link you to pirated stuff because you're too cheap to invest in yourself? I don't even work for Mehow (nor do I get royalties, or even think the footage is good), but it doesn't matter. The bigger problem is that a) you're shamelessly stealing (or attempting to steal) from people in this industry and then asking me to give you more free stuff? That's like me telling Dr. Dre I just pirated his two new songs from Detox but would…
/r/seduction22/06/11 04:10 AM
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You have a very specific sticking point -- you're nervous about escalation because you don't know how to smoothly pull it off. I'm going to give you the closest thing there is to a magic bullet. It's the thing that opened the doors to escalation for me. It's the setup to make escalating smooth. Ready? Humor. Make girls laugh. When you make them laugh, you can do almost ANYTHING and it's ok. Don't know how to hold a girl's hand? Make her laugh. Walk somewhere with her and when you're about to cro…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:56 AM
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Haha those are my boys! They're part of the local crew out here in California. Much respect for them for putting themselves out there and for spending the time to put those videos together. Those videos take hundreds of hours in manpower to put together. Respect. Gamewise, it's solid. It's more tongue in cheek, comedy stuff (e.g., most of the time they're screwing around versus actually trying to pick up the girl), but the attitudes are EXACTLY what you want to have -- not taking this seriously,…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:44 AM
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Haha maybe. I don't think I was THAT bad as a virgin. But I did have a LOT OF TIME to read books on sex before it actually happened. To answer your question, yes, keep at it. Getting in a relationship is fine because at this point, all you really want is experience. You're looking for social, dating, and sexual experience and you can't be picky with it. If that means you talk to homeless guys to learn how to keep a conversation going, then do it. Don't be stupid and think you're too good for tha…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:42 AM
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Ask yourself the same question. Brainstorm. Think outside the box. Get used to being self reliant. How do YOU think you should work on this stuff? Post your ideas and I'll help.
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:38 AM
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Which one?
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:37 AM
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I think it's good. I haven't studied it very extensively -- I mostly just read cliff's notes of concepts and philosophies, but from what I've read, it's very similar to my philosophy on pickup and dating. Just don't fall into the trap of reading without action. See the 1:100 page:girls ratio I mentioned in my reply to FattestRabbit.
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:33 AM
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A LOT. Like a crapton. Unless, of course, you hang out in a college town or have some other extenuating circumstance. But aside from that, it's way different. All of a sudden you're in an environment now where you're not around a lot of girls. Especially if you work in a male dominated environment like IT. Your success now is going to depend on the following factors: How strong is your social circle? How strong are you at meeting new people? How strong are your social skills? Here's what I'd rec…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:31 AM
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I'm here, right? Do you think I'd be here if it was impossible to overcome my limiting beliefs?
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:23 AM
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I'll be back in a few weeks :)
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:21 AM
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Ooh-rah. I got into it after The Corps. Semper Fi, devil.
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:21 AM
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Yes, associate off the mental image. Success rates depend heavily on environment, context, individual and location. However, if you're going out at least twice a week, you should be able to get dates and sleep with new girls (if that's what youre looking for) on a fairly regular basis. Anything more specific than that is going to be too dependent on environmental variables. Consistency does come with enough dedication, but like I said, it's all relative. I'd bet money that I'll close more in LA …
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:19 AM
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Stay away from seduction as much as you can. I'm serious. The younger you are, the more it can screw you up because you don't develop naturally. Think of what might happen if you expose a 4 year old to hardcore porn. Think of how that's going to affect his sexual development. It's going to throw it all out of whack. Stay away from tactical seduction. Focus on making friends and on the skills that will help you further on down the road (talking to people, humor, public speaking, sales, confidence…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:16 AM
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No problem, man. The reason I do this is the reason I coach when I made more money in computers. Because I genuinely enjoy helping people, especially in this area of their lives. 1.) Inner game by itself is worthless. Take a monk with amazing centeredness and inner game and put him in a club. I'll destroy him. Outer game by itself is also worthless. Give me a guy with great outer and nothing else and i'll give you a guy who can't keep girls around him. They constantly leave once they pierce the …
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:14 AM
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See reply above.
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:02 AM
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Important things to know: College is social circle and warm approach. Don't do weird shit like opinion openers, the claw, too much cold reading, hypnosis, or any of that other stuff. It doesn't work and just makes you come off weird. Focus on being social, on being funny, and on capitalizing and escalating when the time is right. That's all you really need to know in college. Girls are practically handed to you on a silver platter there. Just know how and when to escalate and be social enough no…
/r/seduction22/06/11 03:01 AM
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Holy crap this is a lot of questions haha. Try to keep these separate if you can, so that I don't accidentally miss one of your questions in my answers. I'll try to answer them in order: Asian men are at the same disadvantage that black men are at in a job search. So the next time you feel sorry for yourself because a girl says she doesn't like asian guys, look at your 100k job and at your BMW outside and the black guy who's better qualified than you but didn't get the job. All of a sudden datin…
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:58 AM
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Origin: See comment above.
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:47 AM
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I'm more of a LIFE coach than a lifeSTYLE coach. Here's the difference: a lifestyle coach (ideally) helps you develop your lifestyle. And that's cool. A LIFE coach helps you live your LIFE to the fullest. A life coach must be able to help you with limiting beliefs, dating, writing resumes and finding jobs, career changes and shifts, social skills, written communication, conflict resolution, and more. But more important than all of that is the fact that a life coach changes lives. I used to work …
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:45 AM
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If you're not already popular or well-adjusted, minimize your experience with "seduction" and traditional pickup. It will make you f'ing weird and that's one of the worst things in high school. Instead of reading theory, just make it a point to talk to people around you ALL the time in school. You have plenty of things to talk about and plenty of commonalities. TALK incessantly. That skill alone will be worth its weight in gold and will probably get you a girlfriend faster than anything else. Ot…
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:37 AM
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Hahaha that's actually a really funny response, but I just don't like the fact that you're qualifying yourself to her. When girls ask how big my dick is, I always say that it's 1.5 inches of steel. It's a silly question so they get a silly answer. The main thing is just not reacting to it and letting it bother you. In terms of dating and stuff, I probably had a very similar upbringing to you. I had conservative asian parents who told me not to be loud, obnoxious, extroverted, or "rock the boat."…
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:32 AM
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It IS hard. If it was easy, you wouldn't have to do this drill because you'd be good at it already. You do want to aim for 60wpm but it's not an absolute requirement. On a bad day I won't hit 60. But you shouldn't be at 9, either. You should be minimum at like 20-30, even on really bad days. Start associating on concepts and ideas and pictures, not on the word itself. So if you say "apple," think of what an apple looks like, not the actual WORD apple. Associations be things like, Pear, fruit, te…
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:25 AM
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Yeah, I grew up in Orange County but moved to San Diego when I was in the Marines so I know what it's like to start over with no friends and family. The good news is that you can play the 'I just moved here" card. I swear I played that card for like 3 years because it's SO good. Basically it gives you a reason and context to say hi to people, to meet people, to get phone numbers, to make new friends, and basically almost anything social-based just because, "you just moved here." Like literally y…
/r/seduction22/06/11 02:22 AM
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