DJ Fuji here to answer your questions!

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:24:22+00:00

HighSchoolLTRpickup asks: Hey, thanks for doing this DJ Fuji. A bunch of us are incoming freshman to colleges- what would you say are the most important things to know and consider for college game (and social success) and what resources would you recommend, if any?

bananatomato · 2011-06-22T03:40:45+00:00

What do you think of SimplePickup? More specifically, Kong (Asian guy)'s game?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aw0zzXAXulg&feature=channel_video_title

-Origin- · 2011-06-22T02:22:44+00:00

Q for Fuji: I've been doing the word association drill. In your attraction TC, you say I need to be able to do 60wpm, that's 1 word per second. That's a lot. I'm way way slower than that. I'm somewhere between 9wpm and 25wpm. I also find that I get stuck, because sometimes the first word that comes to mind is a word that rhymes, so then I get stuck doing only rhymes. Other times I get stuck in a 3 word loop, so I force myself out of it, but that slows me down. Am I doing this wrong? This seems really hard.

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:22:51+00:00

_clifton_asks : Thanks for taking the time to do this. Being asian myself, I'm definitely interesting on getting more information on your style and experiences. What was the hardest part about the entire process for you? How much of your own upbringing did you have to change or disregard to become successful? I hear a lot about asians being less attractive to women in the field. What are your perspectives and experiences about asian males trying to pick up in the field? What's your retort to the small penis shit-test? Mine is "There are 1.4 billion chinese people for a reason. Just saying. ;)"

Tradman · 2011-06-22T03:14:25+00:00

DJ Fuji, I'm a big fan of the Tao Te Jing and I've tried to incorporate it into my personal philosophy as much as possible.

I found that a lot of it gels with pickup -- action and non action, being in the moment, succeeding without being needy.

What are your thought on the TTJ and what do you think the impact has been on your game?

winnnar · 2011-06-22T04:32:28+00:00

DJ Fuji, thank you so much for doing this. Your writing, interviews and speeches have been so inspiring for me. In fact, it's probably the reason I finally decided to bite the bullet (stop being cheap) and hire a coach because you always emphasize the importance of seeking mentors. After one session he's already pointed out a lot of mistakes / bad habits I been making and developing while cold approaching on my own. A few questions for you:

1) How can I make the most of coaching? 2) Do you feel that routines, stacks, DHVs etc are absolutely necessary for someone who is socially calibrated/well adjusted, has good verbal game but just needs to be more aggressive? 3) How do you find the motivation to get out of your house, sometimes alone, to get those approaches in? and 4) As Asian guys we tend to be so over analytical and I tend to read way too much theory and over analyze / overthink everything - especially infield. What tips do you have to be more in the moment, getting rid of the internal chatter, and to just "do?"

Thanks again, you are an inspiration.

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-22T04:38:29+00:00

Hi Dr. Fuji,

Thanks for agreeing to post answers to questions. Really appreciate as a fellow asian guy ;) I'm a college sophomore by the way

I live in a college that is extensive in fraternities and quite isolated from the big city. do you think I should do night game at fraternities or take the bus to Boston to practice night game?
What's your biggest advice on getting better as fast as possible? Obviously, calibrating is part of it -- but are there any drills/exercises that you would recommend?
I'm currently practicing day game every single day just to become more social and be more comfortable around girls. What are things that you would recommend I do in day game and things that you would recommend against? I'm on a college campus.

Thanks again

pleasant_chap · 2011-06-22T10:21:04+00:00

How much time in the morning do you spend on maintaining your (frankly awesome) hair?

anatimedream · 2011-06-22T15:39:04+00:00

Hey, real quick: I find drunkenness to be a turn off (ironic as I'm a DJ as well) which is frustrating because the bar scene seems to be the main focus in PUA. Who gives the best advice in day game or do you have any tips for outside the bars? Thank you, DJ anatimedream

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-22T15:49:21+00:00

Any advice for short guys?

VirgilWoods · 2011-06-22T18:21:08+00:00

Where do we draw the line on one-itis? Seduction was designed for us to get with many women, and find the one we want to be with at least on a temporary basis. I hear many guys left and right screaming out "one-itis" at other men who decide that they found the girl they want to commit to for a while. What the fuck? I've been with many girls, and I have good game, but as soon as I find a girl that fits my criteria and ask for help with her, I'm told to move on or shouted at. Sorry, but I don't want to move on. Where, in the community, do we get the understanding that at some point, we're going to stop?

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-23T06:27:56+00:00

Can someone please explain how I can keep up with new replies (especially to older topics) without re-scanning the entire comment tree every time i hit refresh?

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-27T00:14:05+00:00

Hey guys, sorry been mia the last couple of days. Going to answer the last few remaining questions on here before we wrap up this Q&A. Hope you guys got something out of this.

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:48:46+00:00

Hey Fuji, first off I know that you're taking a lot of your own free time to do this and could be doing a lot more important things in life instead of this AMA so it really goes without saying that all of us here really appreciate the time you're taking to do this.

1) How much do you emphasize inner game in relation to outer game with your students? I just watched your interview with Manwhore and both T21C speeches online and I think that you probably emphasize inner game more than most of the other PUA's out there, but it still seems that many guys are looking for results rather than personal development. I know its probably easier to teach a system such as "Find, meet, attract, close" but how much time do you spend on the student's internal development and self-actualization before they go out in-field? Is it better to teach them these concepts after a couple, or even several failed sets?

2) Do you think that game changes depending on the individual's physical attributes? I'm not saying that its any less hopeless for a guy who isn't as physically attractive as another guy (I think you responded to this in clifton's post) but rather adjusting game depending on the individual's background. For example, I'm a 5'8 Indian guy. Would my game vary from a 6'4 blonde, white dude? Or is this a silly notion?

Again, thanks a ton Fuji!

JBlaze88 · 2011-06-22T03:36:21+00:00

What's your advice to people with little to no experience trying to learn pickup? A virgin in his early 20's, for example. Do you think it's preferable for him to try to meet a girl and get into a relationship with her, or to "play the field" from the get-go? I'm in this sort of situation. I've been opening and meeting girls when I go out. I've only really been reading/putting this stuff into practice for the past month or so. But I know when I actually do hookup with a girl, I'm going to be really bad at sex.

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-22T13:27:20+00:00

How do you feel height has affected your performance in this area of your life? I am a 5'6" male and starting to get over the idea that short guys can't game as I see other short peers doing well with girls. It is still a limiting belief for me and any insight you have on the subject would be appreciated. Thanks

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:23:04+00:00

tryglucose asks: What would be your best advice for someone in highschool?

BlueTigerKid · 2011-06-22T02:59:24+00:00

Hey, Thanks for spending your time doing an AMA. Do you have any tips you can give to me, as a 7th grade in Middle School? No, this isn't a joke. Thanks.

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:23:15+00:00

Boonana asks: What made you want to become a lifestyle coach, and do that for a living?

FattestRabbit · 2011-06-22T03:08:09+00:00

Hey DJ Fuji, thanks a lot for doing this. I've learned a lot from this Q/A already! I read your answer for the incoming college freshmen question, and my question is a bit similar. I'm just finishing college and moving to an urban area (Massachusetts, just outside of Cambridge). What are the most important things to know and consider for post-college game and social success, and can you recommend any resources? How much does the crowd change after college?

Thanks again!

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:23:37+00:00

razqel asks: 1. What unique challenges would you say Asian men face when it comes to seduction? What would you recommend to them? Which thought leaders in seduction (or other arena) has been been the most influential force in shaping your current perceptions of seduction/relationships? Which model(s) of seduction (or other field, like psychology) do you find most useful for understanding the core or essential elements of attraction/seduction/relationships/self-improvement? What widely-accepted community wisdom do you most disagree with? Are the principles/rules/techniques of pick up the same as trying to build long-term relationships? What are the similarities and differences?

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-22T02:23:59+00:00

-Origin- asks: Q for Fuji: I've been doing the word association drill. In your attraction TC, you say I need to be able to do 60wpm, that's 1 word per second. That's a lot. I'm way way slower than that. I'm somewhere between 9wpm and 25wpm. I also find that I get stuck, because sometimes the first word that comes to mind is a word that rhymes, so then I get stuck doing only rhymes. Other times I get stuck in a 3 word loop, so I force myself out of it, but that slows me down. Am I doing this wrong? This seems really hard.

razqel · 2011-06-22T02:25:50+00:00

Hey man, really respect the work you do and your message. Many thanks and keep it up.

What unique challenges would you say Asian men face when it comes to seduction? What would you recommend to them?
Which thought leaders in seduction (or other arena) has been been the most influential force in shaping your current perceptions of seduction/relationships?
Which model(s) of seduction (or other field, like psychology) do you find most useful for understanding the core or essential elements of attraction/seduction/relationships/self-improvement?
What widely-accepted community wisdom do you most disagree with?
Are the principles/rules/techniques of pick up the same as trying to build long-term relationships? What are the similarities and differences?

urfaselol · 2011-06-22T06:57:13+00:00

How long did it take for you to make a breakthrough in pick up? Asian Playboy said it wasn't until he was going out for 48 days straight when he started to get good. (I took a bootcamp with him) He also mentioned beginner's hell (the time that one gets good at the game usually takes 6 months - 2 years).

What kind of advice would you give to someone (me) who is just starting out going out regularly?

ryanZ1 · 2011-06-22T16:06:58+00:00

DJ...only stupid Q is the one not asked. Asking anonymously, though I've taken your boot camp. Thoughts on someone Bisexual (heteroflexible is a better term) in the community. I often feel not true to myself as I am closeted, only a few female friends know. Fucks with my mind often. Every girl I've dated I feel out and either move on or tell, with positive reactions, their already emotionally hooked. My current fb told me she hopes the next guy she dates is Bi, but also said if she knew from day 1, she would have ran. Thoughts on how to handle for future girls? Know any instructors who are? Feel free to msg me privately. Thanks in advance.

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-22T17:16:06+00:00

Hey DJ Fuji,

What is your best advice for would-be females interested in the game?

Thanks!

jackblack382 · 2011-06-22T19:51:58+00:00

I know this is your AMA dj Fuji. But I just want to comment, and I think dj Fuji might agree. I'm seeing a lot of comments about "I am Asian this or as an Asian that" stop seeing your race as shortcoming and start seeing yourself as a man. That shit does not matter. Not once has I gone up to a girl thinking "Oh fuck I'm Asian she won't talk to me". You have to approach as a confident man, like you have the biggest dick in the room. To be honest most girls don't care about that. Be the man. But understand, that girls have preferences as well as you do. And understand that racism is real and alive. So don't take rejection so personal, just move on to the next.

sumthinsumthin · 2011-06-22T19:52:46+00:00

what are your tips for dealing with the dreaded friendzone?

DJ_Fuji · 2011-06-22T23:47:36+00:00

Where's the best place to meet girls, and where is the best place to take them later?

gojirAwr · 2011-06-23T05:54:41+00:00

umm i noticed that you've said (elsewhere) that you have a girlfriend. how does she view your job and the community? show any disdain towards the community etc. feel free to not answer this if it's too intrusive/not the purpose of this thread

galletaBA · 2011-06-23T07:08:41+00:00

I'm an American living in South America. While I can speak conversationally fairly well, I'm far from fluent. Do you have any advice for someone who isn't completely comfortable with the native language?

lapuma · 2011-06-23T07:35:25+00:00

Hopefully you're still answering questions:

I feel like my biggest weakness by far is holding a conversation. It's the main reason I get AA since I know I'll run out of things to say very fast. So I'm going to practice 3 things to help with that: 1) the ADD self-talk thread-cutting technique you mentioned at the 2009 T21C, 2) after reading this thread and your comments to Origin, I'm going to try increasing the # of word associations I can do in 1 minute, and 3) taking 10 words and trying to talk about each back-to-back.

Other than the obvious of going out more (which I'm trying to do as much as possible), would you suggest anything else for improving my ability to just talk and make conversation?

mremmafrost · 2011-06-23T11:03:58+00:00

Hey Fuji... I doubt you're still looking here but if you are I'd like to shoot you a belated question:

I feel like my game is within line... I don't have problems opening, making friends, getting girls' numbers, etc.

But the problem is when it comes time to close the deal. It's not like I haven't closed before, but I clam up and feel like I "respect" others too much to the point where I don't want to force anything on them... which forces them to force themselves upon me (it's happened). I don't want to be like that though... so... do you have any general advice you could give to take me from being able to see and get IOI's (I don't have problems getting this far) to closing the deal back at my place?

(Almost everything I've read just talks about getting the IOI's in the first place... this jump seems so much harder for me.)

EDIT: The only good advice I've gotten along these lines are to get a girl's number and to invite her over to my place some day to watch a movie, watch TV, eat dinner, etc. That's fine and all... but I'd like a few other options.

ImKumarYo · 2011-06-22T02:18:17+00:00

About to move to a place in SF. Already live in the bay and have good amount of friends there. Planning to branch out and build a network and places to frequent as quickly as possible but any thoughts on starting in a new place?

TofuTofu · 2011-06-22T02:20:57+00:00

Can someone else copy the questions over from the other thread? I am having connectivity problems.

chalengr · 2011-06-22T04:00:05+00:00

Hey I was inspired by one of your lecture videos. However I've been hunting for infield footage of you, to see how you are infield. I only found one reference to you in one of Mehow's Infield Insider series but couldn't find a bootleg copy of it (my bad, I just don't like paying for things online). Anyways if you could link to footage, or just describe what you typically experience when you're infield, I'd appreciate it. It'll give me an idea of what is potentially possible for Asian PUAs. The only Asian guys I've seen footage of are AsianPlayboy, Grandma, and Kong (of "penis pickup" fame). I think your style is different from theirs and would love to see you in action.

Title	DJ Fuji here to answer your questions!
Author	DJ_Fuji
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Date	June 22, 2011 2:16 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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