DarDarRules Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Don’t Know What to Do	Rant	DarDarRules	/r/Divorce_Men	10/12/25 04:39 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	I hate her, badly Therapy, bro. You need therapy. And surround yourself with friends.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/26 12:30 AM
3	Dating Again I realized I will have to get used to being lonely for a long time. And while that sounds fucking frightening, because we all want companionship and connection and adoration, it does give me opportunity for self-love and being centered/grounded with myself. That’s what I look forward to, and it’s the only way to stay fucking sane.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/26 12:28 AM
3	Am I in the right for not wanting my ex wife’s new boyfriend staying at our home Absolutely not. You have your own dignity to protect. Calmly tell her why this is makes you uncomfortable. Explain to her that this is extremely difficult for you, and that this is a boundary. If she still fights back, let her. But calmly reinforce that this is a boundary and that you will be staying at your house. It is not upon your responsibility to help her boyfriend find a place to rest his head.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 11:47 AM
8	Looking for advice Do not beg. Do not plead. Do not logic with her. Give her space. Ask to understand to why and do not get defensive even if the stuff she says isn’t remotely true. You want to find the feelings underneath all of it. And then own it by focusing on the areas you can control. That’s your only path forward if you want to save this marriage	/r/Divorce_Men	28/05/26 01:41 PM
3	Reconciliation They’re just papers. Reconciling after that is possible as well. Ask for more time, tell her how you feel. But be prepared to face rejection and be ok with it. In the end, be good with yourself. This relationship does not define you.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/26 11:38 PM
2	D-Day I think you need to give yourself and her a little grace Clearly, something was happening underneath during this period. I highly recommend you focus on you. Own your part, don’t worry about what she did, just own your shit and work on it. The work on yourself physically emotionally and mentally so that you become a high value man IN YOUR EYES. Because no matter, if this reconciles or you end up divorced, you do not want to bring the baggage into that new relationship. And you have to love you b…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 08:54 PM
0	You guys were right… Don’t get bitter. That’s not masculine	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 02:32 AM
3	You guys were right… Focus on you and stop following her texts, locations, etc. it won’t do you any good	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 01:58 AM
4	Worthlessness Don’t focus on what you can’t control. Focus on what you can, and that is you. Build tiny habits that become routine. Those will become small wins. Momentum is everything so don’t stand still. It’s hard, but force yourself to get out and about. Recognize the feelings you have, don’t ignore them. But work through them so the don’t own you. You got this, brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/26 02:36 PM
2	Torn Between Walking Away or Rebuilding After Betrayal Only way to rebuild is for both of you to let go of all resentment and forgive. If that can’t be done, then separation is best. But I fully believe that you have nothing to lose by trying to rebuild, but that’s only if you are ready and able. And there is no shame in not	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/26 03:13 PM
10	Can someone give me hope? Bro, I am 40 and going through separation into probable divorce. You’ve got more than a dozen years on most divorcees (average age of men at divorce is 42/43), a young virile energy, and with two kids. You’re a catch, bro. You ain’t cooked. You just have standards and values to live by now.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/26 03:11 PM
2	Advice on letting go of a post-divorce date? You’re not ready. And that’s ok. If she can’t respect that, you will have to ignore her. That’s a lot of emotional weight to carry. But it’s the right thing for you	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/26 02:12 PM
7	What were the signs you wished you paid more attention to? Talk to her now. Walk in non judgmental and stay calm. Do not defend, own. But you need to lead before she leaves	/r/Divorce_Men	24/03/26 04:55 PM
2	Confronting wife’s AP (Need advice) Not alpha or beta, dude. Superior. Apex. And you’re always working towards that.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/26 05:29 PM
1	Confronting wife’s AP (Need advice) DO NOT CONFRONT. It’s beneath you. First, do the inner work and understand where this anger, fear, sadness, etc comes from. Second, understand if you need to set boundaries. Third, practice what you will say to your wife to explain why you are uncomfortable and/or the boundaries you need to set. Practice for the worst case scenario. Practice being calm. Fourth, talk to your wife. Be calm. BREATHE. When speaking, if you feel yourself ramping up or triggered, REMOVE YOURSELF. Say, “I’m getting act…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/26 05:02 PM
2	Fuck. 10 months in, no peace Brother, I feel your pain. My wife asked for separation after a decade of being married, pretty sure there is an emotional affair partner. But you can’t control that. I completely understand the self-pity and the escape act of drinking. Nevertheless, escaping doesn’t help. You have to lean into a process of becoming better and rising above this situation. You’re not a victim, you have power. While this was done to you, you can decide to not let it rule you. Lean on friends, family, online suppor…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/26 09:23 PM
5	Feeling Lost and Scared Sent you a DM, friend. Happy to chat.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 02:52 PM
1	Don’t Know What to Do Character is consistency Thanks for the note, and I can’t disagree with any of those points. Will do!	/r/Divorce_Men	10/12/25 05:16 AM