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| 2 | Has anyone tried an Outty?Gimmick man. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 06:29 PM |
| 1 | How to find the right dating coach? Ideally in person (greater Boston area)Might be able to give you some quick tips on this, sent you a dm | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 04:22 PM |
| 42 | I really appreciate this community but there’s always been an elephant in the room…Yes, being conventionally attractive helps, especially on dating apps where you’re being judged in 2 seconds. But in real life and even on dates, your vibe, confidence, body language, voice tone, and ability to create tension matter just as much, if not more. I’ve seen very average looking guys do well because they’re grounded, playful, and comfortable in their own skin. And I’ve seen objectively good looking guys struggle because they’re tense, approval-seeking, or low energy. | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 03:53 PM |
| 1 | You ever hire a dating coach? Is it worth it?Hey man, just sent you a mesasge, not sure if you've seen it? | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 04:09 AM |
| 0 | Do you think I need therapy because I can't get a GF and I'm scared of the possibility of not finding one forever?Therapy is going to be dependent on if you have trauma, and the trauma is causing you to disassociate or disconnect when you're interacting with women, if this is the case, there may be a deeper issue that needs to be worked on. A lot of people involved in the cold approaching scene, Think they are dealing with something called approach anxiety, however, a lot of the time this is not the case. Things like shyness, trauma and apathy, play a huge part in holding guys back, feel free to direct mess… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/24 08:49 AM |
| 1 | Gonna try going to a bar completely solo this Friday. Mid-30’s, a bit shy, any advice?This is definitely a great skill set to build, if you can start going out solo and feel comfortable doing so it will give you lots of opportunities but you have full control over all the time, I will send you a Diem if I think of anything I can suggest to help good luck bro | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 08:07 AM |
| 0 | Everyone says to optimize instagram profile but how?Instagram can be optimised by your overall vibe and how you come across in your photos, make sure that you are having fun and are fully engaged when your photos are being taken as the expression on your face is the first thing people subconsciously recognise when they see a static picture, remember this is not something you can fake so focus your efforts on having a good time so your natural authentic smile is captured | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Affectionate but doesn't put effortThe frame of the relationship is normally sit in the beginning and the fact you have allowed this frame to be set it's going to be very hard for you to change it, she is obviously comfortable with a man paying for everything there are some guys out there that actually like this, and enjoy paying for absolutely everything you clearly are not that guy asking her to change and be someone she is not is never going to work as it will go against her boundaries so even if she does resentment is likely … | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Being confident that I’m not boring?This kind of ties in with the fact approaching hundreds and hundreds of women does not necessarily mean it will increase your game. The interactions that you have need to set the right narrative and contain the right vibe otherwise you will end up in lots and lots of platonic conversations and as you put it this can create a limiting belief because it cuts off and suppresses your authentic expression. Feel free to reach out to me I'll give you the best advice I can on how to ensure your interact… | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Theory v. Experience, What's more important?Hey bro I know what it's like to read lots of information and watch lots of videos, when you're consuming the content we can lift you and make you feel a sense of confidence but then when it comes to actually going out everything that you've learnt goes out the window you feel a sense of deflation, and then, before you know it, you find yourself back in front of the laptop, consume an even more content to try and bring back that motivation and confidence that you felt only a few days beforehand.… | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 06:02 AM |
| 0 | Ghosted after first date - double text adviceHey bro this is normally has something to do with not having a Knouff emotional investment on the first date which means yes she was originally attracted to you but on the day you are giving off the wrong vibe which is coming from your body language everything from your expression and voice tonality is being read second, by second by the woman that you're on the date with, this is something that can be fixed, and it's good that you are aware and asking questions about why ghosting is happening. … | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Books on social skills/seduction for men…Have you read Models my Mark Manson? | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 05:56 AM |
| 0 | I never actually learned how to actually flirtflirting is what takes platonic conversation into more of a romantic conversation, so it is imperative to learn, because if you don't the conversations will fizzle out and even if you do get phone numbers, they normally lead to ghosting or flakes. | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Models: attract women through honesty by Mark MansonThis book is mainly based on the mindset and inner game of what it takes to attract and date women it really depends on what it is you're looking to learn and what stage you are at in your development | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 02:01 AM |
| 5 | Best inner game mind switches?is more of a switch and a realisation that needs to take place. It used to be believed that through something called progressive desensitisation, so putting yourself out there in social situations which make you feel uncomfortable and doing it over and over again could help fix inner game. However even if this does lead to results normally what is happening is a grandiose ego is being built which yes can lead to success meeting women and becoming better socially however the void is still felt in… | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 06:50 AM |
| 1 | 26M looking for coaches or wingmen available in SF, I'm inexperienced but motivated, slowly working through Austen Summers course and want to start putting it into practicewhat is the kind of stuff that you're looking to put into practice is this in regards to cold approach? | /r/seduction | 19/04/24 06:29 AM |
| 1 | I want to buy honest signalz – general foundations + proofWhat do you mean when yo say foundations? | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Girls don't like me because I look like a serial k.llerWhat your describing can be caused by past trauma, becoming arrested in emotional development from a very young age, the range of emotions at expression have been halted which results in a narrow range of expression hence a resting angry face, this can be resolved through reconnecting to your authentic self, feel free to reach out bro if you have any questions on this | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 02:51 AM |
| 1 | The main areas of life to get back into now you are divorcedNice! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Only tall rich guys attract hot women, yeah right!one hunnid | /r/seduction | 23/10/23 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Only tall rich guys attract hot women, yeah right!happens all the time bro | /r/seduction | 23/10/23 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Only tall rich guys attract hot women, yeah right!Yep, vibe, confidence and joy! height not needed | /r/seduction | 23/10/23 10:43 AM |
| 8 | What is the main reason men are single 2023Thats the thing, when i see stuff like the juice is not worth the squeeze this to me seems like a subjective view on the whole of women, which in reality is simply not the case... yeah dating these days can be frustrating but giving up and painting the whole of society with one brush is kind of like giving up and blaming, i could be wrong but maybe pointing the finger at ourselves and moving past our egoic rationale, can lead to a place of joy which in-fact is the only thing needed to meet and d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 08:43 AM |
| 3 | What is the main reason men are single 2023i have seen this said a few times, what do you mean by that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 08:32 AM |
| 2 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceHey bro the words "To be honest I'm miserable, I'm anxious all the time, I can't work due to depression, and I'm happy if I manage to eat something in a day. I have no hobbies because I can't focus on anything. I wish I had someone who cared about me so I walk around the city for hours, approaching random girls and hoping they like me" this is not being authentic this is just listing egoic script that is running your mind and life, being authentic is connecting with your true self and allowing t… | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 10:33 AM |
| 5 | Getting ghosted leads to feeling demotivatedhaha he done a lot of self improvement! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 03:31 PM |
| 15 | Who has found getting back into dating difficult in this climateAbusive relationships can cause real trauma, sorry to hear this bro, good to hear you are working on yourself and in high spirits | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 10:25 AM |
| 4 | How do I work on my confidence?Confidence will come with a high self-esteem within yourself, and practice, practice. Being able to not take rejection personally, and hurt your ego will help, and also come with improving confidence. Not basing your worth on someone rejecting you will also help with confidence when it comes to approaching. It can be learnt, but you need to be okay with making yourself uncomfortable. | /r/seduction | 07/11/22 09:12 AM |
| 3 | Best books or references to get back in the game?YouTube has quite a few guys in the game that you can watch, depending on what you're after. Todd V, Julien Blanc. | /r/seduction | 07/11/22 09:04 AM |
| 3 | Closing the deal over text is the hardest thing in existenceWomen respond to the emotion of the moment, the women that you meet while out are acting on what they see at that moment because they find you attractive, however, women can find somebody attractive, but not necessarily feel the emotion of attraction. Attraction is an emotional and psychological response that gets triggered inside a woman when certain behaviors and actions are displayed for a long and consistent enough time, therefore looks alone are not enough to amp up the attraction that the … | /r/seduction | 07/11/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Real Life ConundrumWithout knowing much about what you say when you start talking; Women recognise the frequency, energy and humour behind a man's communication. The topics of conversation, and whether or not you are an extrovert are irrelevant (a lot of guys see being an introvert as an issue). Only you know if you're saying things for a reaction, or if you are expressing yourself authentically and trying to actually get to know the girl as a human being rather than trying to use her as a source of validation via… | /r/seduction | 07/11/22 08:43 AM |
| 1 | How can I have an abundance mindset if no girl wants me?The ability to approach, meet and attract women is only ever a realisation away its a state of mind or should, I say no mind. All men have access to a place where they can express themselves with no interference from the inner critic of the mind that deflates, stifles and fills the head with thoughts of self doubt and a continuous script that keeps you locked in the story of you. Abundance mindset is not so much about you feeling that you are unloved or unwanted, the abundance mindset is knowing… | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 09:47 AM |
| 10 | Does anybody else feel sick when they don’t approach a woman that they see as attractive?What your describing is when you are reminded of the prison that is your mind, yet again holding you back, so the sick feeling you feel is the emotional response its a mixture of fear and apathy, its not so much that you did not approach the woman its the fact that you cannot freely express yourself, you are trapped in a persona, you know that if you could just not care what others think you could then access that place inside your self of freedom and expression. good news is this can be fixed a… | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 09:33 AM |
| 2 | Was with a girl I managed to get for 2 weeks and it was the best time of my life but she left abruptlyIts hard bro, You liked this girl so at the moment you will probably feel deflated and this feeling is made even worse if you do not have the ability to simply go and meet another woman. For a lot of men they can actually find this quite hard, however it is a skill and mind set that can be learnt... Take sometime over the next couple of days to remind yourself of the positive lessons that this has taught you, which is, the girl that you managed to date for a couple of weeks found you attractive … | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Where to meet women?Bars and Clubs have a high traffic of women in them so they provide a great way to meet lots of women, if you are working on your social skills and want to build confidence and competence, Bars and clubs are great, however if you are looking for a specific type of woman who shares similar values and interests its better to ask yourself where would my ideal woman be, for example I myself love dance and woman who like to express themselves through music, So I meet a lot of great women at dance cla… | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 11:57 AM |
| 1 | How do I get past my limiting belief of age?Forcing yourself to face those feeling is possible by using extreme will power and having the resilience to keep a clear picture in your mind of who you are as a person whilst also regulating your emotional state into that of a positive one, by the use of motivational music, podcasts and hypnotherapy, which all of this these methods are readily sold to people trying to learn how to become better at the game, However mastery is achieved in a lot more elegant and simple way, this it to realise why… | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 09:22 AM |
| 1 | How do I get past my limiting belief of age?First part of mastering this stuff is realising right away that nothing is going to take away the way you feel weird about approaching someone that isn't in a bar. People can and do spend years and years trying to find material or some type of inner game trick to take away that feeling, but the truth is it will not go it is something that you have to face the way around it is to go through it, you have said in your post you want to figure it out which means you are committed. I am not gonna lie … | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25?Hey bro, feel free to message me for specific advice but to answer your general question here, NO your sex does not in anyway have to lower past the age of 25.Many guys don't improve their dating lives well into there 40s so you have plenty of time | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 12:08 PM |
| 2 | How do I get a idgaf attitude?This is a complex area, it would be easy for me to say just stop caring about what others think and take some time to ask yourself who you are as a person and what is important to you and then realise this person who you care about their opinion of who you are has no reflection and no meaning of your worth. But if you are like most people this is not gonna get tho the route of your problem. The caring about what people think is not coming from the conscious part of the mind its coming from a dee… | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Do failed attempts still count as progress?A failed attempt is still an attempt. You put yourself out there, and even though you got rejected once out of the 3 you kept going and then had two dates all of this is a huge experience and all that I think you should be focused on at this time is you have just come out of a relationship so do not out to much pressure, you really need to congratulate yourself on the fact you have used courage and approached these women in the first place. | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 09:46 AM |
| 2 | I’m confident in myself and feel like a total package man — but my marketing sucks.Just by reading this post, I can see many attractive qualities that you already have. The thing, is like you have pointed, out when you're speaking to women unless you have the ability to steer the conversation in the right direction and ensure that you're flirting towards a man-to-woman interaction, the qualities that you have don't matter. Fair play to you for the fact you're aware of this bro, you're a lot closer to getting this part of your life handled than you think. | /r/seduction | 07/10/22 09:36 AM |
| 1 | My confidence is based on how many girls have checked me out recently, how can I develop a stable self confidence?You're conscious of it, which, is a good thing. Because you were previously invisible to girls, and now you're not, it's clearly understandable why your self-esteem is based on the attention of others. This does, however, highlight that you're not self-assured and your self-esteem could be extremely low. You need to introspective work if you want to fix this. Do you have direction in your life? Do you have purpose? This is what drives confidence. You need to value YOURSELF. It's not anybody else… | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 10:46 AM |
| 3 | Is it kind of late to the pickup game at the age of 50?The attraction for a woman is primarily based on the way a man behaves. Anyone can learn to tweak their behaviours to do better socially, in the same way you can condition your body to do better with the right training programme and discipline. The more attracted a woman becomes, the more she is likely to overlook or ignore her own socialisation and judgements about what her 'ideal' man is. Attraction isn't something that people decided to feel, and if you can make a woman feel a certain way the… | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Am I Undateable/Unf**kable?No man is undatable, dating is a skill set and an attitude that anyone can learn, for a few guys dating and meeting women is an easy and natural process this usually comes from a healthy upbringing, positive affirmations and references when growing up. However, for many men, the ability to meet, attract and date women seems like an impossible task and other than some brief and limited success can evade them for a lifetime. Believe me when I say being overweight plays absolutely no part in sparki… | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Is it kind of late to the pickup game at the age of 50?Are you getting out there and trying to meet people actively? Are you using any dating apps or going out to social gatherings to meet women? It's definitely possible to meet a suitable partner at your age, you just need to be brutally self honest to figure out the reasons why you aren't meeting anyone. I.e are you using the correct resources, does your approach need a few tweaks etc. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 11:23 AM |
| 1 | How do I meet girls and make friends as a loner?Not everyone is for online dating, but have you considered trying it out? If you find anyone worth meeting you can arrange a date and get to know them. This can also help break up the constant requirement to always go out on your own to a club if that's where you're comfortable, but it's not the best environment to meet someone. | /r/seduction | 31/08/22 07:40 AM |
| 1 | This whole community is focused on younger guys, 20s-30s, but I'm 47yo. Where do I start?What are you looking to learn? Anything specific? Your age is not the problem, you can potentially use this to your advantage | /r/seduction | 31/08/22 07:35 AM |
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