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That’s messed up man. My ex tried doing the same thing. It’s called a silver bullet divorce and is nasty. It’s not enough for them to rip your soul out with divorce; then you also have to deal with false allegations. I’m here for you if you ever need to talk man.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 09:33 PM
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The woman you married died. Every woman goes on a bender after marriage to fill the void and not take accountability
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 07:37 PM
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That’s exactly what I’m saying. When I was married all I heard was good things about divorce and it gave me a bad head space about marriage. The world idolizes sleeping around without commitment. I wouldn’t wish this shit on my worsts enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 03:30 AM
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No one can relate unless they have been through divorce with woman they truely loved. I vented to my friends they were supportive but I found I was keeping her alive in my head by venting. Best thing you can do is workout and before you go to bed spend 10 min telling god how you feel. Even if you don’t believe in god it will help
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 09:13 PM
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My name is cleared. I showed respect and never got angry. People could see who was telling the truth and who was the lair. She and him destroyed there names in our small home town. She went to get her hair done at my other friends moms hair studio. She was denied and told to leave. Karma will come around
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:13 AM
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Porn and lack of intimacy
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:54 PM
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If he actually has change and wants to work on it I would give him another chance. I went through this same cycle your mentioning with my wife. I love her deeply but was afraid to love. I didn’t realize I had avoidant attachment until she left. If she would have came back I would have finally done the work to know how to open myself to love. Have him journal with you and write down things he likes about you. This will help him to look at when he struggles to feel the compatibility.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 11:31 PM
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When I look it up there’s reports that re marrying has a 72 percent success rate well a second marriage has a 60-70 percent chance of failure
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 11:34 PM
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If you guys got divorced for stupid reasons or lack of communication I would definitely try getting back together if you can. Stats show that getting married a second time with first wife has way higher success rate then starting over. I would go back to my wife if I could it was terrible communication on my part and little issues became big problems. Just my .02 cents.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 11:19 PM
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This sounds like a post I would see on the woman’s page. Why would you choose your own happiness over building a family. 8 years is when all relationships get hard. Why not put in the work and build with her. Remember the reasons you married her and take some time to self reflect. Trust me from a guy that had a grass is greener mindset it’s not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 01:48 AM
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I would go back to her. Your wife sounds like an amazing woman if she put up with all that and still wants you back. Most of us weren’t that lucky
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 03:11 AM
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It’s crazy dude most girls are happier after divorce were men struggle. I have been dying inside wondering how my wife could leave me and feel nothing. Just got to move on and focus on what you can make better.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 10:45 PM
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Dude I was in the same boat as you. I rushed into marriage. I felt like we weren’t compatible. I pushed my wife away by being neglectful and distant. I realized when she left it was an internal problem. My wife was a good woman but I was so focused on the negatives and how my life would be better without her. Divorce is super painful and has massive consequences. Please try to work it out. I would do anything to have another chance with my wife. The grass is not greener on the other side it’s gr…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 08:44 PM
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Dude I could have wrote this myself. Exact same situation minus the friend’s part. I never fully committed to her and always would day dream of my high school days. I never grew up and become the man she wanted. I struggled with porn addiction which made me compare her body to unrealistic expectations. I realized when she left how immature I was and how I had wronged her in so many ways. Ever since she left I handled myself really well and gave her nothing but empathy well she tried ripping my l…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 04:03 AM
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I think every person has a side to them you never want to see. Divorce brings out the worst in people. I would ask yourself if there’s anything you did to contribute to the downfall of your marriage. If the answer is yes I would try counseling and see if you guys can work through it. Divorce is brutal and takes the life out of you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:07 AM
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Stay clear of her. If you talk to her she might get more pissed and come after you
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:04 AM
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Same thing happened to me. No police reports and 100 percent un true. I think the stress of divorce causes them to feel unsafe and they wanna make you out to be the worst human possible for the downfall of the marriage. I tried winning her back like an idiot and flew down to her parent’s house to try to talk to her. I talked to her dad for awhile and everything seemed ok. He told me thanks for everything you provided my daughter and the activities you taught her. He said she had her mind dead se…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:02 AM
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Those are completely normal feelings. Your grieving let yourself feel them. I feel almost the exact same way. Lost 20lbs and I didn’t have much to loose in the first place. Started to feel like no one would wanna date because of the baggage but I’m learning that’s not true and just a natural feeling to grieving. Keep your head up stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 04:58 PM
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Humans have free will. God is a gentlemen and won’t force himself on anyone. Sounds like one or both of you created your own trail. I had to learn this the hard way. I set my marriage up for failure and when it went downhill and she left I prayed and asked god for help. Since she had free will god did not bring her back but he did work in my heart. I started thanking god for the things I do have and surrender my life over to him.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 06:56 AM
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I was in the same situation as you. My ex wife is a good woman. I told her so many times I didn’t feel love for her anymore. Be careful doing that and dig deep to find out why you’re feeling that way. I never looked deeper into my feelings and drowned them out by doing sports. My wife got tired of feeling neglected and on top of me saying I wasn’t in love with her. When she left I realized I had avoidant attachment and I was just too comfortable. I was taking her for granted. Don’t let a good wo…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 10:33 PM
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Mine did the same thing. It hurt so bad made me question everything in our marriage. I don’t even know how to process it
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 09:55 PM
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Divorce is super hard and only becomes real when your in it. I thought for years I didn’t want to be with my wife. Turned out I was pushing down my emotions and not working towards connection. I highly suggest reading the book to keep your love on before calling it quits. My marriage could have easily been worked through but I didn’t realize I was taking her for granted. Please take a hard look before calling it quits. Divorce sucks
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:10 PM
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Prayer helped me a lot. I used to get angry. Then I started praying and being grateful for what I do have. We are blessed to live in the U.S. as much as it sucks going through divorce most of us don’t have to worry about we’re are next meal is coming from. I lost everything I worked for since I was 19. Ended up paying wife 120k in divorce. I was real angry and got to the point were I felt like a complete failure and that I would never achieve my goals. I had to adjust my mindset and realize this…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 10:26 PM
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I would take a hard look and take time to reflect. I always wanted divorce and didn’t realize I was taking my wife for granted. I told her so many times I was bored and felt like I was in arranged marriage. I pushed her to the breaking point and she left. Once she left and I had time to reflect I realized my wife was a good woman and I was only focusing on the negatives. It’s easy to focus on the grass being greener let me tell you it is not. I ruined any chance of getting back with my wife and …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 07:53 PM
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