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Definitely use a parenting app. Message through that. You can block her everywhere else. Updateme! us when you can.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:39 AM
1

Updateme! us when you can. Remindme! 3 months. .
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 09:02 PM
1

Especially if it turns out you already know the guy, lol.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 07:48 PM
7

Ha ha ha, it's like the old joke, "I've been trying to change my husband for 20 years, and he's not the man I married!" Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 06:54 PM
0

Just for grins and giggles do you have a friend that can follow them get picture, address, license plate info so you can look him up?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 06:48 PM
3

Is she bitter you divorced her?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 06:46 PM
3

Way to be! 👍
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 10:45 PM
14

You'll find yourself again and answer those questions for yourself. You are taking the right steps. This is the new you and you can be proud of yourself. You can get caught up in the Sunk Cost Fallacy, and end up walking on eggshells to save a relationship and lose yourself in the process. Updateme us with you progress. Things will get better now. .
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 07:24 PM
4

Don't give her the satisfaction of being anything but indifferent to her. Give her the mechanics shrug and walk away. Sometimes, later on, when it feels like life shit on them, they can start to feel like it's karma and may try to assuage their guilt by apologizing. It's not remors. It's just fear things won't improve, or (God forbid) they want you to rescue them. The epitome of selfishness. They want to reclaim their humanity. Don't even reply to them. Let them live with it. You may think you w…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 05:33 PM
7

You don't think you deserve to be loved? I'm just a year older. Ten years ago, I got to the point where I was willing to lose it to fix it. I wasn't bluffing. I was kind but firm. I learned to say no, and to walk away. Finally, the day came. I told her if you threaten me with divorce one more time, I will make it happen. At that point, I felt I had nothing to lose. She said, "Well, I was just trying to wake you up." It wasn't perfect, but I refused to walk on eggshells after that, and we worked …
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 05:33 PM
3

I don't see a rock or a hard place. Just a nice guy, in the worst sense of the word.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 04:35 AM
2

Lol, I totally understand. 🤣 too bad we can't just say, "If you're not busy I would like to borrow your body for a bit, but you can't stay the night." You have a kid with her, and I'm sure that tears at your heart. Sorry it turned out this way for you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 10:46 PM
5

You have every reason to question the type of woman you attract and fall for.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 09:11 PM
1

Lawyer up! File! Have her served!
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 10:49 AM
1

It's time to focus on yourself, to work on yourself. Hit the gym, get into therapy. Take up a hobby. Maybe take up Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ)
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 10:41 AM
1

Well done!!! You have good judgment. Trust yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 10:36 AM
1

Sure. Well, thanks for sharing. Human nature is fascinating, isn't it?
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 04:55 AM
9

Block her on everything but a parenting app. I grew up without a phone in my pocket. She doesn't need that kind of immediate access to you. She can and should call emergency services in an emergency.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 04:35 AM
2

Use me...abuse me...it makes me feel loved! You must feel like you don't deserve to be loved.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 04:29 AM
1

Did she show any remorse? So sorry. Updateme us when you can. .
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 02:19 AM
1

Updateme!
/r/MensRights20/07/23 12:52 AM
0

Brah!
/r/MensRights27/06/23 01:41 PM
1

She is obviously selfish and heartless. Did you guys have any children together?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 06:22 PM
3

Of course she is going to go after you. Don't be foolish.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 03:31 AM
1

Of course it's ok to get away for a day or two, but you must continue to live there. It's not up to her, and dont admit to anything by text or in person in case she is recording.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 05:05 AM
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Don't fight with her anymore. If she says something harsh be a little self deprecating, i.e. "I know I have some things I need to work on. Once things settle down a bit I going to see a therapist to work on myself to be a better man!" Also if she complains say, "I'm sorry you feel that way" then repeat the above, then walk away!!! Don't talk about her cheating, her failures etc. She will get sick of hearing you say these things. Thats ok. If you're lucky she will hardly even talk to you. Tell he…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 04:47 AM
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For the reasons stated. You put yourself in the legal position of abandonment. You give her all the power. I am not a lawyer but you will here men say this all the time, their attorneys tell them don't leave the house. There is a point where it becomes ok. That may be specific to your jurisdiction. In some cases after the divorce is filed and a parenting plan is in place the court will not see it as abandonment. This is no joke. Your soon to be ex wife is not your friend, and she does not have y…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 04:04 AM
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Go back!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 03:27 AM
2

Well, thank you for your service to our country. You understand what kind of commitment, character, and choices it takes to build a free society. You also know that nothing undermines a country or a family like selfishness, and ignorance.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 10:32 PM
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You can't reward this level of disloyalty, disregard, and disrespect.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 10:19 PM
2

I don't think you should White Knight her now. The damage is done. I don't see how she would respect you or you even respect yourself if you do. We see many men come back here some years later saying it was a huge mistake to rugsweep it. They feel trapped, and they hate themselves. Is that where you want to end up? Expedite the divorce. Get your mojo back with other women. Let your broken confidence and self-esteem heal and get some strokes. Some years later, after her life goes to shit, and she…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 10:12 PM
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Now she is free to be her true carefree self. The person she always wanted to be. Smh. It's ain't so pretty is it? Put her out with the rest of the trash. Updateme! Remindme! 6 months .
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 09:52 PM
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Please updateme! When you make it happen. Best!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 12:08 PM
1

Ratchet.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 05:40 AM
1

Updateme!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 02:58 AM
3

If she tries to talk to you, just pull out the recorder and record yourself telling her you are recording it. Maybe she will walk away. Win!
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 11:27 AM
2

Updateme! Remindme! 6 months .
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 03:04 AM
1

Updateme!
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 08:20 PM
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Updateme! e
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 08:11 PM
7

She is in for a surprise.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 05:15 AM
3

Dude..youdaman!
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:03 AM
1

Yes, get a lawyer right away. Listen, cheating is the result of a lack of character on the part of the cheater. IT'S NOT YOU!!! Her loyalty has shifted to her new man. She is not your friend, SHE DOES NOT HAVE YOUR BACK!!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:15 AM
1

The fact you are even considering this, well...smh.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 02:24 AM
1

That is the one thing you can control.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 02:08 AM
1

You should drag your feet on the divorce as much as possible so your wife can completely screw you over. You should read some of those stories. They are excruciating. Like a zombie, eating the brain of a living person in a horror movie. You could be next. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 05:58 PM
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Excellent!!! Updateme! 1
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 03:41 AM
1

Congrads bro!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 07:42 AM
15

You can say that again.
/r/PussyPassDenied20/03/23 04:50 PM
3

This is the only time in life when playing the nice guy will get you screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 04:12 AM
5

So it sounds like you have swept up all the egg shells off the floor. Now you can walk around in bare feet, too. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 05:43 PM
2

Well the parties get simpler as they get older. They can choose a restaurant, when you are home before you go or after, give them a present, blow out the candles, sing the song, come home for dessert.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 04:22 AM
5

Damn, that's some next level exploitation. The 403 has a 401K vagina.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 12:01 PM
3

Did they tell you that or did you see the messages? She is evil!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 11:30 AM
2

Oh ok, I was hoping your ex would be reasonable in spite of her lawyer's unprofessional and disturbing vindictivenes. Hey I want to congratulate you on following the Lord in baptism. Way to go brother! Through all this pain and disappointment, I'm predicting hope, purpose, and joy for your future! Here is a song called The Baptism of Jesse Taylor. This song never fails to make me laugh and smile while bringing a tear to my eye. I hope it blesses you. Baptism of Jesse Taylor
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 04:38 PM
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It wasn't a child. Just a blob of tissue. No different than the stuff you pick out your nose and flick off...or eat.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/03/23 05:03 AM
0

Did you end up with 70/30% custody?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 03:54 AM
1

Document EVERYTHING!!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 08:14 PM
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You should not have to walk on eggshells in your own home. I ended that shit years ago. Updateme! Remindme! 6 weeks fff
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 02:17 AM
1

If do this, realize she will no longer feel loyal to you. She will no longer be your friend (maybe later). She will no longer have your back. You likely have no idea!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 12:43 AM
2

You need to move to Divorceland.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 04:43 AM
3

You still feel that bond but know she isn't good for you. They say when someone shows you who they are believe them. Don't be a chump and let her keep you around as a fall back bro! You will only have to go through this again. She ain't loyal!
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 10:48 AM
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😉
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:44 AM
4

Yeah you want the "How I saved my marriage" sub. Down the hall and to the left. CUlater! fff
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 02:20 AM
2

I don't like to use public toilets, and yet when the urge hits they get the job done. Wrap it and take a shower later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 02:14 AM
3

Move valuables to storage. Secure important papers. Did you talk to your lawyer and create a separate account for your check deposit, take 50% of your savings and put in under your name, etc. Cancel shared credit cards, etc! She is not your friend, she does NOT hsve your back.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 12:05 AM
1

Aww sweet thing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:10 AM
0

Any karma for the little lady?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 09:55 AM
4

Don't trust her. She is not your friend and does not have your back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 03:14 AM
1

You understand that no matter what you do she is going to tell your children you abandoned them? You really should hire a good professional investor yesterday to get proof of infidelity. She is rewriting your marriage history. Which is classical thinking of someone in an affair and limerence. You dont seem to be aware of this. Updateme! fff
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 11:06 PM
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Do you have a time frame to file? Perhaps just telling citing incompatibility will eat at her more. Don't give her a heads up, file, and have her served. Then she may ask to go to marriage counseling. Do that and use it as an opportunity to get it off your chest in a less confrontational setting. This may help to amoreliate the negativity to your children. Once you have said your peace, after a couple sessions you get to discontinue marriage counseling (MC). Another blow. Updateme! Remindme! 3 w…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 03:55 PM
1

Take this seriously. Date her. Have fun. She married you to be your partner, not your maid and sex toy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 04:44 PM
2

Excellent! You're on top of it. Sorry it has come to this.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 05:47 PM
2

Put up cameras in the bar to catch her cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 12:27 PM
2

Tell your lawyer to go scorched earth. Don't be foolish, and let her play you. You can always be amiable later.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 12:06 PM
12

Yeah. She is getting ready to monkey branch.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/23 11:53 PM
3

Start keeping a journal. Each of your time with kids. Home chores. Time away from home. Any training or school work you each help with. Musical instruments, gym/dancing classes etc. Note to self, remindme! 5 days updateme! fff
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/23 10:13 PM
9

Be sure to use a parenting app to interact about the children. Ask your lawyer to put it in the co-parent plan. There is often already one approved by the court.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 11:44 AM
14

Take the deal. She is in what we call the affair fog. She will never admit it, so don't waste your time trying. Hurry. Realize that if you want want to be generous later, you can. Later, say a year from now, think twice about letting her take the kids out of the country. Talk to your lawyer, but don't mention this to her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 02:17 PM
3

Unbelievable. She can't make her own decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 04:15 AM
1

Remindme! 3 weeks updateme! fff
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 10:52 PM
7

DNA the baby!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:24 AM
1

Oh gosh. These make my blood boil.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 03:31 AM
1

Updateme! Remindme! 6 months fff
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 01:34 AM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 12:50 AM
1

Updateme! Remindme! 3 weeks fff
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 10:08 AM
14

Even if you did hit her you can still say you've never hit a lady!
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/22 03:48 PM
2

You have the soul of a poet I think!
/r/PussyPassDenied06/11/22 02:07 AM
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“Their relationship was described as up and down,” Lenert told jurors. “Then they would love each other, then they would fight, makeup, rinse, repeat.” She repeated the shot to the head 3 times. Put an end to that cycle.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/11/22 05:09 PM
1

Got it, thanks.
/r/PussyPassDenied18/10/22 01:22 AM
1

So they had different sides of town accents? Maybe he has a southern British accent?
/r/PussyPassDenied17/10/22 09:06 PM
8

He can still say he never hit a lady!
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/22 09:45 PM
16

Is she going to jail?
/r/PussyPassDenied29/08/22 02:09 AM
14

D'OH (Headslap) thank you.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/07/22 04:37 PM
6

What is PPD?
/r/PussyPassDenied26/07/22 04:25 PM
2

You can't trust anyone these days.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/06/22 01:51 AM
2

Remindme! 6 weeks
/r/askTRP18/04/20 06:40 PM
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Remindme! 4 weeks
/r/MGTOW03/09/19 06:33 PM
1

That so cute when they like like that about going over to an ex's place. You're a lucky man.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 03:17 AM
1

Did she actually lie to you about going to Choads party?
/r/askTRP13/10/16 02:57 AM
1

Send him the pics saying, "hey these are great recent pics of your gf on bumble, I notice she just uploaded them on facebook too, she is very photogenic".
/r/askTRP13/10/16 02:01 AM
1

The mom knows what she is doing, she is trying to break you up. Working both sides, how much shit will you eat, and can she make sparks fly with another man. The wine will flow, probable good stuff too. She has manipulated her daughter into a level of disrespect for you that is astonishing. When will your GF start seeing you as weak?
/r/askTRP13/10/16 01:56 AM
1

So how did it go?
/r/askTRP13/10/16 01:36 AM
1

I see out late with guys never called.
/r/askTRP12/10/16 11:19 PM
2

If you read on sites that deal with infidelity, husbands say this all the time, "between kids, work, us, etc, she has no time for an affair, I would know." yet more often than not they are cheating when the husband suspects something and making time when they are together, in the case of a coworker, or boss for example. You know best but dont put a lot of trust in the "no time" logic, trust your guy. Regards,
/r/askTRP12/10/16 05:16 PM
2

So do you think she is already fking her coach, or just wanting to?
/r/askTRP12/10/16 01:24 PM
1

So is it over, or not over?
/r/askTRP12/10/16 04:04 AM
3

If you keep banging her. Buy your own condoms and hide them. Dont ever use ones at her place. Dont strip off a condom and leave it in the bathroom garbage. Bring a baggie or something n hid it in your stuff. Dont let her trap you with pregnancy!!!!
/r/askTRP11/10/16 02:15 PM
1

Maybe touch her (small steps) more aggressively/sexually, let her ride on your back, see where it goes.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 01:20 PM
1

Stay chill and get to know other people in the group. Eventually you can ignore her a bit and she will seek you out. Not being invited is no reflection on you, your new and still aligning. Unless its a reunion (like they are all close friends from High School), new people make things interesting, maybe be more subtle about establishing dominance, and just be fun to be around.
/r/askTRP05/09/16 02:49 AM
1

Please go on.
/r/askTRP26/08/16 11:16 AM
1

UFB. Girls like this see you as a commodity not a person. Someone to meet her needs. You learned a lot from this. Well done!!
/r/askTRP11/08/16 09:39 PM
1

IDK but TY! I know my orgasms don't survive nearly long enough for me.
/r/askTRP04/08/16 02:54 PM
1

The square root of each dyad is the root of any other dyad. You are left with three and only three possibilities!
/r/askTRP04/08/16 08:47 AM
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She was looking for a reason to cheat with this other guy, found it and now wants back in. Toxic and manipulative! There is not a prosecutor in the world that would take her case. Don't fret it. If you can save the texts or messages asking to get back together do so, but you wont need them. Steer completely clear of her, don't get drawn into her lies. Your real friends will know the truth. She is now feeling used by both you and the other guy, neither of you are interested in a LTR. She ruined t…
/r/askTRP03/08/16 10:44 PM
1

Black supremacy porn.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 12:14 AM
2

After all the medical exams. You are going to have to script yourself. Stories, purpose in life, etc and try to separate and approach one on one. You will be limited but you can become good at this. Be realistic in your expectations so you don't make yourself choke. Build consensus before a meeting and work as a group.
/r/askTRP06/02/16 02:23 AM
0

If a girl is into you she will do whatever it takes to have your attention. They do not so they are not. Stop trying to force it.
/r/askTRP28/01/16 05:18 PM
1

I didn't say she could cheat. She said you would not notice he is attractive because he is such an asshole. That's bullshit, the attraction is there and a woman feels it as attested to by the fact that it is common for a woman to cheat with an asshole she cant stand. Btw I know this is generally understood.
/r/askTRP23/01/16 02:50 AM
1

It so common for a woman to cheat with an annoying asshole they cant stand. Like so many she doesn't know what she really wants or needs because it not what she thinks it is, pretty obvious though. She may never level out in the long run. To much emotional maintenance needed. You could always just amplify it as a game to call her out on it. Your mouth to her neck, "oh you are so desirable, men will risk their marriages and jobs to fuck you and here I am the envy of them all." Then fuck her, she …
/r/askTRP23/01/16 12:07 AM
7

I have a friend who wears the foam type earplugs in loud bars. (tan color) Its not that big a deal. Over 85dB is a no no. Tell them your a musician with million dollar ears and you cant afford to risk them on a night out at a club ;)
/r/askTRP22/01/16 06:37 PM
2

This is a standard social tool to put you on the defensive so you try to seek her and prove yourself to her. Its game man, and your hamsters wheel is spinning, but you handled it ok by not acting on it. Be confident next time you see her like it never was said. Take what you want.
/r/askTRP18/01/16 03:16 AM
1

She kept you as an option if she felt "up to it" she didn't and now your spinning.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 12:11 AM
3

She thinks you're an astronaut, she wants to put you in orbit. But if the expense and effort is near zero then it might be worth it if occasionally if the eagle gets to land (on a plate). It doesn't look like the logistics are right for you to be her main act ATM.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 10:42 PM
1

Seriously, are you trying to set them up!?!
/r/askTRP28/12/15 06:43 PM
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You have been warned.
/r/askTRP20/12/15 11:32 AM
3

I dont think you are stupid at all, nor have you been that beta. I just like to hear details. She just sounds very selfish. I have seen some people realize this but she does not sound anyway near that. You actually sound like a good catch, a more willing partner may have unearthed gold, but she does not deserve it. It doesn't matter if a lady knows how you roll. It changes nothing, just lets her know how to please you, or manipulate you, which you won't allow. I think you are rocking it, no offe…
/r/askTRP18/12/15 03:12 AM
1

How did you find out? Does she realize how she fked up? Pleading with snot bubbles? :)
/r/askTRP18/12/15 12:47 AM
1

Nothing different! Living well is the best revenge.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 12:43 PM
2

Right, good call!
/r/askTRP16/12/15 12:40 PM
5

Take a picture of her painting hanging on your wall and send it to her and thank her again, tell her it was a lovely gift and you appreciate it. She deserves some recognition for it. Friend zone yes but not terminal.
/r/askTRP15/12/15 04:52 PM
5

Tomorrow is a result of your effort today. Wake the hell up and get your act together, and dont harm a woman who has been good to you. You may not find one like her again. Your boredom is your issue, fix it and be happy and content, and have confidence, drive, purpose!
/r/askTRP10/12/15 05:34 PM
2

Trying to awaken your inner White Knight through sexual availability and vulnerability. Sniff sniff, something in the air.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 01:14 AM
2

Sounds like he is lazy and selfish and found a set of principles that reinforces it. You are totally on board with it huh? You just want to know if this BS is part of it, ha ha. He is an ideologue but not an ideal man!
/r/askTRP27/11/15 05:10 PM
1

Maybe she learned a lesson that while she is attracted to you, you are not good for her. That would be a step toward maturity and foundational to self confidence. In which case someday she may be a high value partner, just not with you.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 05:43 PM
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