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supportiveDelRMi05/r/MenSupportMen22/11/21 05:52 PM
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A lot of us feel like that. We can talk about why that is if you want, but I'll give you some quick advice. If good personal finance strategy includes paying yourself first, like saving 10% of every paycheck, then why doesn't that include time? Set aside some time daily, with bigger blocks once or twice a week. Schedule exercise in, and make sure you get to partake in your hobbies. Depression is a hard thing to conquer but if you are on a healthier schedule it can pay dividends. You got this.
/r/MenSupportMen12/10/24 12:41 AM
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Brother, you can’t compare yourself to anyone. It’s not fair to do that. As far as I’m concerned, anyone that works to better themselves, no matter the difficulty or time invested is a champion in my book. New job…gym… good for you man. A lot of us have things we don’t like about ourselves, and certainly insecurities. So you are far from alone. Hopefully posting here will validate that. The next step for you is to learn to love yourself. You’re a new person. You don’t recognize yourself. Take so…
/r/MenSupportMen02/05/24 02:42 AM
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Please do not be ashamed. Take a step back, take a deep breath. Your brain is not even fully developed yet and there’s plenty of time to set the stage for a lot of happiness moving forward. Many of us have experienced that kind of heartbreak and I’m sorry about that. She’s still developing too, and it’s one of the reasons why it’s so difficult to take a high school or college relationship to a healthy marriage. You literally have to grow together and that’s mostly out of your control. My advice,…
/r/MenSupportMen31/10/23 02:38 PM
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I love that you're working on this. I imagine it's not easy but it's certainly inspiring. The pandemic did nothing to help this for a lot of us. Finding a hobby you love like painting is a huge win.
/r/MenSupportMen09/05/23 01:10 PM
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We're all going to make mistakes. But sometimes it's hard for people to truly learn from them. You did. It's okay to be wrong, and we can use those "failures" to learn and grow as people. The internet is a hard and unforgiving place, but it definitely brings out the worst in us, especially when others point out our flaws and weaknesses. You learned the lesson, so it's not important to hash that out again unless you would like to. I just ask that you forgive yourself for making the mistake.
/r/MenSupportMen02/02/22 03:51 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story. It's awful that this is happening to you. In addition to the issue at hand it's also a symptom of our healthcare system and the importance of advocating for yourself. A loved one reported problems to their primary care, also labeled as someone who thinks everything is an issue. Went to a new doctor.. cancer. I commend you for going to Urologist B. I hope they you find the strength to find urologist C. I know this is not easy, and I know that their may not be a d…
/r/MenSupportMen02/02/22 03:48 PM
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I’m glad friend. Keep us posted.
/r/MenSupportMen19/01/22 12:06 PM
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This is a really tough situation without an easy remedy. Your character is on full display though; You, without question have put your personal needs aside to benefit your child. What a wonderful thing to do. Your happiness is important though OP. I don't think most of us are equipped to respond to this the way you deserve/need. I recommend talking to a therapist and formulating any action items if necessary after that point.
/r/MenSupportMen13/01/22 05:23 PM
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With a partner that’s very high risk in the Covid age, I have been pretty isolated and it definitely takes a toll. Not that I was going out much to begin with, but there are weeks I will not go out at all. Walking the dogs is always there, but the lack of contact with the outside world takes its toll. I feel like I limped into this new year in terms of energy and emotional exhaustion. I dread work now because it’s monotonous. I feel like these are signs of depression but I’m generally in great s…
/r/MenSupportMen07/01/22 12:19 PM
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My career advice, and this applies to everyone, is to always be looking for new opportunity. Set yourself to #opentowork on LinkedIn and don't be afraid to interview if the opportunity arises. Younger generations absolutely have to be more career mobile to be compensated fairly. So don't wait for your current position to potentially be eliminated to review your available options. I'm sorry you have to go through suicidal periods at all. Mental challenges are like figuratively having to run a mil…
/r/MenSupportMen04/01/22 10:03 PM
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Objectively speaking and despite our feelings, Your background is impressive and loaded with desirable skills. You've also highlighted career issues that plague a lot of us, especially when its regarding tasks you enjoyed that you are no longer doing. If I'm You, My play is to start looking for new opportunity now. I don't know Your personal financial situation, but a little bit of preparation for your next gig will make things a lot easier. A note to everyone; I know I speak for Myself and poss…
/r/MenSupportMen04/01/22 01:43 PM
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Thank you for elaborating. I've felt this way before, so I understand what you are going through. I mentioned the pandemic because at least for Me personally, it very much feels the same way. You can become isolated and you can also become limited in what you are able to accomplish, whether that's travel, or spending time with people you actually want to spend time with. So what I'm gathering is that you are feeling stuck and know you don't want to be stuck, but are also afraid of failure? Is th…
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 10:09 PM
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We have a lot in common, actually. It sounds like you're actually in a much better place than you realize. Take that from someone who has been out of school for some time. What I like is that you're actively working to finish school (assumption is college, last semester?). So you're pretty much planning for a positive change. Secondly, you know your job is ending and the writing is on the wall. Believe me when I say I understand imposter syndrome, but the truth of the matter is that you are trai…
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 08:26 PM
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I see. Would you like to talk about it? When I'm in a similar boat I try to focus on only the things that are within my power to control. Unfortunately, there's so many things that we just can't.
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 08:15 PM
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I don't believe in New Year's resolutions because I think it's arbitrary when it comes to having goals. I love goal setting though. Do you have anything you want to accomplish? Even if it's small I find it pretty damn empowering during some of these tough times.
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 08:09 PM
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Crazy brain seems to be happening more than ever now. Let's not underestimate the impact the pandemic has had on top of our typical personal issues. It's perfectly okay to feel lost, but it can become detrimental over longer periods of time. Anything you want to talk about?
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 08:01 PM
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Anything you want to talk about? I have been extra cautious with Covid and pretty serious about social distancing. It takes quite the toll on you being alone either way.
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 07:59 PM
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They caused you a tremendous amount of pain and you should find validation here for what you are feeling. I think the one of the things that Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z have in common is that we are far less forgiving of family members that abuse our love and our trust. We don't ignore actions that harm us for the sake of family and that's one trend I'm really happy to get behind. You don't have to forgive them OP. You may find that harboring anger isn't right or healthy for you long-term and …
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/22 07:53 PM
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I’m mentally exhausted. Work, the pandemic, and having to take extra responsibility have never completely drained. I’m in a great place overall, but I’m just posting to remind myself that I’m indeed human and nothing is ever perfect. It’s the second year in a row my brother isn’t coming home, and I miss him a lot. The annual family Xmas eve party is all but cancelled (for good reason), and I just feel isolated. Not alone mind you, but separated from the rest of the world. I have read that many f…
/r/MenSupportMen23/12/21 04:02 AM
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One year as an “adult”. One. None of this is your fault and you’re allowed to get better. I marvel at your strength. You want to overcome these daunting challenges. It’s inspiring. You may not be able to change your parents, but maybe that shouldn’t be your goal. Find support and solace in what you think a parent should be. And don’t be afraid to continually ask for help, love, and support. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you are certainly not alone. Is there anything specific you want …
/r/MenSupportMen19/12/21 03:16 AM
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I mentioned affirmations as Well. They are incredibly powerful. Cheesy? Maybe, but cheese is pretty awesome.
/r/MenSupportMen13/12/21 02:13 PM
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Imposter syndrome. It's the absolute worst. And we're at a time where social media can amplify it. Great response.
/r/MenSupportMen13/12/21 02:11 PM
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Hey Karma, Thanks for your post. A lot of us go through what you're describing. Sometimes we set such a high bar for ourselves that we drown in our own expectations. What you are experiencing is certainly not limited to you, and that's a good thing. Let's peel back the curtain a little bit and maybe talk about some specific examples if you are willing? But let's get one thing out of the way immediately. You are not an insecure crybaby. You are someone that wants to be better than they currently …
/r/MenSupportMen13/12/21 02:10 PM
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Yeah, at least you acknowledged that and have an understanding of the situation which is half the battle. As far as reinventing yourself, sure thing, and it can be a lot of different things depending on who you are and where you are in your life. For Me personally, in My high school days It was; from this point onward I'm going to believe in Myself and not ever allow Myself to be taken advantage of again. In My later years it became; hey, you really weren't your best self in that relationship so…
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 07:23 PM
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What is really holding you back here. Is it your looks? Or is it really your self-esteem? I'm going to guess it's the latter. The first "secret" to finding actual love is finding it for yourself. Plenty of us are challenged in one way or another, but there's often more than one way to overcome it or own it. The weight and burden you have placed on yourself is extremely cumbersome. Society has a lot to do with that of course, but I'm here to tell you that everything you are describing is nothing …
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 03:11 PM
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Checking in after a month /u/twentydogs. How are you holding up?
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 03:05 PM
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It's an empty feeling isn't it? It's great that you are acknowledging you miss her. There's no shame in it. Whether you ended the relationship or she did, it's perfectly normal to understand that it was an important part of your life and without her represents a significant change. While no one enjoys breakups, I always used the time after one to reinvent Myself. You can choose to be what you want to be without having to answer to anyone or follow boundaries. Maybe use this opportunity to find h…
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 02:58 PM
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You seem to understand how not resolving the issue is going to turn out. Neither of you wants to deliver an ultimatum because you know what it could mean. It's really hard to deal with, no doubt. If you want to go into more detail about it, that could help. Otherwise, try to get ahead of the situation and understand where you want to be in 1, 3, 5, and 10 years. Subject to change, but seeing yourself in different scenarios and asking the question of; Am I happy in this situation is a great place…
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 01:55 PM
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I hear this. There's always a scramble before the Christmas holidays. End of the year work, school exams, Family commitments, etc. There's a saying that the only way to eat a shit sandwich is one bite at a time. Looking at the cluster that is this season is daunting and you can get lost in it quickly. A strategy I use is to only focus one on aspect of it at a time. For example, you enter your shift at work, so you only focus on doing the best job you can at work. Study time; only focus on studyi…
/r/MenSupportMen07/12/21 01:51 PM
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It seems like a couple of big issues you're dealing with. The first challenge is you are not content with your career and it's burdens. Why would you be, it sounds like it takes a toll and drains you. I like that you shared you have an internship coming up. Not only will the change of scenery be good, but it hopefully provides you with new opportunity. I'd like to point out something for everyone reading, and many of you have heard this before as Well: Social Media is toxic and largely fake. Psy…
/r/MenSupportMen06/12/21 05:27 PM
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If your lowest is a mental ailment it could be, that that’s not what the original context was centered around. I was making fun of the us healthcare system. I know not everyone lives in the us.
/r/MenSupportMen25/11/21 09:45 PM
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It was a non-serious reply to a non-serious reply
/r/MenSupportMen25/11/21 09:19 PM
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Great message. Everyone can make a difference by asking the right kind of questions too. Perhaps “how are you” can be too generic and it gets brushed off as small talk. Being more specific can make a big difference. Instead of how are you, maybe something more engaging. I think the people is that small Talk questions are more of a greeting than anything, so we tend to just respond generically thinking or sometimes knowing that question is not meant to be a full conversation
/r/MenSupportMen25/11/21 02:23 PM
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Many of us share these problems where we feel there's not a good outlet for us to open up to. And of course, everyone here knows how the internet works. The spirit here is to support one another and help each other through our very personal issues. I recommend continuing to poke around your childhood struggles and how you deal with those relationships. These are points of discussion with your therapist and anger management counselor. It's nice all around. I think I speak for many of us when I sa…
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 03:56 PM
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Judging from the comments and replies you have made it seems like you know exactly what you need to do. You're in a lot better shape than you're giving yourself credit for. You're holding yourself accountable, acknowledging your weaknesses, and understanding your strengths in other aspects. Op, this is called learning and growing, and you're doing a great job at it. All you need to do is go out and execute. Everyone else that hasn't taken not can learn from this situation. All of us are flawed i…
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 03:12 PM
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With the cost of healthcare the way it is? That's crazy.
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 02:53 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree. As we age relationships with a significant other take precedent and other relationships fade out as a result. I think Covid has exasperated this problem is well. If we look at the law of inertia (an object at motion stays at motion..) I would say relationships are similar. This isn’t a you thing I particular. I have done two things to help preserve my friendships that don’t put a lot of pressure on my group. The first is a meme thread. We’re all browsing the Internet in o…
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 12:17 PM
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To offer some more perspective if I may, plenty of families that appear nuclear or traditional are anything but. We’re not always privy to what happens behind closed doors. What I do know is that social media really distorts perceptions about relationships and the idea that everyone is happy but you. Family, in My opinion only is when two or more people care for each other beyond their own self interest. You don’t need to label relationships, but you quickly find that they come in all different …
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 03:29 AM
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You’re welcome friend.
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 03:21 AM
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I appreciate you for the discussion
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 03:20 AM
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Sounds like you’re going in the right direction. I hope you don’t feel like the only reason to have a serious discussion revolves around something negative. Happy emotion is emotion you also process.
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 01:52 AM
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I won’t underestimate a stranger that exhibits kindness. Sometimes they have everything you need
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 01:50 AM
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I hear you on the family situation. It’s not easy there like many assume. But that’s okay. It’s probably more normal than many realize. I’ll say that friends come in many forms, and serve different roles. Keep it light with them if need be. It may just help to find a different outlet. I think whoever created this sub had the right idea. I appreciate you taking part in the discussion. Feel free to DM about real estate. I’m in the industry and I understand the nightmare that is home buying. I can …
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 01:50 AM
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Shooting sports can be great. I’m into it as well but I typically end up fishing over all else. Ammo is also very expensive. Bass fishing gets cheaper over time and I catch and release. Both outside, and both can help you keep a clear mind. Instead of a gym, maybe throw on some headphones and go for a walk? Great small step that can make a quick difference and there’s not much to it. The outdoors is great when it’s not cold and is nature is known to make people happy. Just my two cents. Baby ste…
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 01:46 AM
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Oh man, that hits close to home. I switched roles in My industry, went back to school, and have been challenged recently and I just feel worthless at My job sometimes despite putting in the effort. I feel you on the energy thing too. One thing I did this Fall was to pick back up an old hobby. I kind of forced Myself to do it on the weekends and I ended up rekindling a passion of mine that was a little healthier than gaming every day. I started to make time for Myself, to not do just anything, bu…
/r/MenSupportMen23/11/21 12:23 AM
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If I may ask, what are the biggest challenges you are facing right now? (in regards to what is making your average day slightly more than bad)
/r/MenSupportMen22/11/21 08:55 PM
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You're very lucky. It's great to have these types of people to lean on. Friendships take on different forms and each friend plays a different but special roll. Sometimes we need a person to listen to us, sometimes guide us in the right direction or bounce ideas around with, and sometimes just someone to hang with without any sort of pressure. Growing up I had a really close friend who I had a falling out with after high school (We're still in touch and friends!), and we were inseparable. Never d…
/r/MenSupportMen22/11/21 08:20 PM
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I have a decent friend group, but we’re spread out and only get together from time to time. I’ve always been jealous of people who have had that best friend since they met in the hospital the day they were born and have been inseparable ever since. As a grew older, I learned that family is yours for the choosing, and that there can be many different types of friendships. Im sorry for your circumstances, but I also feel there’s nothing wrong with having small groups of friends or boundaries like …
/r/MenSupportMen22/11/21 07:24 PM
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It’s certainly nice to have that perspective from someone older, and you bring up a good topic here to talk about: “I had it worse then you.” This is going to happen from time to time but if taken the wrong way it can sound like your feelings are being invalidated because you didn’t have it as bad. It’s probably not a case where the person you’re talking with is trying to make you feel bad, and they are empathizing, but you can see where some people can take it the wrong way. Thank you for the r…
/r/MenSupportMen22/11/21 07:17 PM
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I’m in My thirties and still learning. Keep up that attitude. You’re doing fine.
/r/MenSupportMen17/09/21 11:34 PM
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You're very welcome. Some advice based on what I wish I new during My late high school and college years. I tended to invest a lot of emotion into My relationships and if I did it again, I wouldn't invest nearly as much energy (Note: This does not mean I wouldn't care). I would simply be more passive and not stress about a lot of the situations I found Myself in. A lot of college relationships end by the time school is over, and during this time where everyone is figuring things out, it may not …
/r/MenSupportMen17/09/21 05:37 PM
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100% a normal feeling OP. Society is putting more and more pressure on teenagers and adults to act older than they are. While consent is really important and we're exposing problems with it, it obviously leads to some confusion. communication with a partner is key, and sex after a night of partying sometimes lacks that communication and clarity that should be there. Avoid alcohol and other substances, make sure you have consent with a partner, and ensure that it's with someone you can trust. Jus…
/r/MenSupportMen17/09/21 03:57 PM
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The human brain doesn't even finish developing until our mid-20's. People are still finding themselves in college. I recall plenty of examples in My college years where similar situations would occur. This person may even be confused about what they want. Sometimes it can be a little more devious, but in many cases their confusion can come across as hurtful and/or confusing to you. I would recommend distancing yourself a bit emotionally. until you can approach it with a clear mind and maybe this…
/r/MenSupportMen17/09/21 03:52 PM
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Knowing You're out there caring about him is pretty powerful. If are able to make any contact, I'd recommend it. Legal issues involving custody are terrible as it is, but showing you are not abandoning him and want to see him is important. I'm sorry you're going through this right now.
/r/MenSupportMen17/09/21 03:48 PM
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I'll try to keep it short and sweet, but it's hard as there is so much I wished I knew as a frustrated teen: Academically: Work hard, it can open up more opportunities Socially: Don't stress about plutonic or romantic relationships. Because everyone is not even close to being fully emotionally developed, your friends and partners can change rapidly, and that can be confusing. Financially: Try to acquire good working habits, maybe through studying or a small job. Experience is key. Also learn how…
/r/MenSupportMen27/08/21 02:03 PM
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Add me to the list. Feel free to reach out OP.
/r/MenSupportMen25/08/21 08:53 PM
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What's it going to take? 1) Define what happiness means to you 2) Take that hard step of moving in that direction. You don't sound like a rapist, you sound like someone that feels like they have made a mistake and are showing compassion and regret for that mistake (No good deed goes unpunished as they say). Either way I would recommend not moving home if at all possible, and reaching out to the organizations that our brothers have mentioned. But the most important part of My response is that you…
/r/MenSupportMen25/08/21 12:46 PM
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It is extremely frustrating to watch from a distance and feel helpless. But the real problem here is the hate that gets manifested. Hate alienates you from your cause. You may think it's a passion that drives you, but it can be incredibly counterintuitive. I think step 1, to your point, is to normalize talking about it. And hey, we're doing that now. The first step is typically the hardest. Step two, as another commenter pointed out is to be the hero and the change you want to see in the world. …
/r/MenSupportMen25/08/21 12:34 PM
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