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I hate the cold winter, I was planning on moving somewhere warm year around next year so this would be going against my goals. Plus, I’m taking all the risk by moving with her.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 11:22 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate it
/r/askTRP15/03/21 02:14 AM
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She told me that she was sad when she got the phone-call because she knew there was a good possibility of me not coming. She is 100% for me going with her but is also mature enough to understand my perspective of it being a risk.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 01:13 AM
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She does a ton for me without even asking or even deeming it necessary so hypothetically if she cut back it wouldn’t be the end of the world. I’m definitely the type to check her on things and she is always responds positively. She’s extremely motivated (hence getting into the prestigious school) and works out religiously. Even has a personal trainer she goes to multiple times a week so I don’t see that being an issue. Your last paragraph hits home because everything I’ve read tells me my turn i…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 01:01 AM
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I have read them all. I don't plan on LDRing her, so my options are break up with her or take the risk and move there as well. My TRP gut is telling me my turn is over and to just enjoy it for what time is left.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 12:36 AM
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100% disagree, it teaches basic communication skills. Read, learn, and apply your knowledge accordingly based on the situation.
/r/askTRP23/02/21 01:08 PM
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How to Win Friends and Influence People
/r/askTRP23/02/21 04:06 AM
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Do you know how easy it is to pick-up on characteristics and tendencies that an overtly promiscuous girl showcases? Women with tons of partners obviously display an inability to stay committed. It has nothing to do with insecurity of comparing myself to the guys she's been with wtf? My question has everything to do with finding an ideal mate that won't likely repeat their programmed past tendencies of fucking a ton of dudes. Why is that so hard to understand?
/r/askTRP13/01/21 03:09 PM
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I'd rather lose sleep dating multiple women non-exclusively rather than likely be cheated on because I wifed up a chick with a 50+ body count
/r/askTRP13/01/21 02:59 PM
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You're kidding, right? The fact that they have a high body count makes them incompatible. Wife up a hoe, see how that works for you in the long-run.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 02:53 PM
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How is it overthinking when you are factoring in one of the most important metrics when it comes to vetting for an LTR? There is no way you can tell me you would be more comfortable with an LTR that has a body count over 30 than one that has under 5. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If that is something that you are okay with, go for it.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 02:44 AM
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I'm asking this question strictly objectively. There has been studies done that correlate infidelity to number of partners, so yes, I think it is an appropriate thing to think about. If you think there is no difference in quality of dating a girl with under 3 partners and dating a girl with over 20 partners, I don't know what to tell you.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 02:23 AM
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I know everyone’s experience is different but heard this one is notorious. Did you get the surgery?
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:19 AM
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Bitcoin operates on boom and bust cycles. We are in the boom phase and are just getting started.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 12:19 AM
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Tons of money can be made in crypto, but it is pertinent that you do your own research and only risk money you can afford to lose. A good way to mitigate risk with any investment is to dollar cost average into the market as well as out of the market. Also, it is important to note that the crypto market is BY FAR the most emotionally stressful investment market there is (trust me). I would recommend sticking to Bitcoin and Ethereum.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 11:14 PM
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Soooo it's been a bubble since 2009, eh?
/r/askTRP09/01/21 11:12 PM
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I don’t know why other comments are saying it’s not a big deal. To me you made a huge brash decision and then immediately back pedaled on it and took her back. Do you think that shows her that you’re a confident man that sticks by his actions? No it doesn’t, and at worse comes off as toxic manipulative behavior.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 03:51 AM
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She is the nervous attachment type with tons of insecurities. My ex was the same but worse (would literally accuse and confront me about cheating on her in her dreams). Also, she is in her 30s and clearly lacks maturity/confidence. Not something I would want in a mate. No amount of reassurance will help and this will just keep spiraling imo. The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 02:21 AM
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Having a chick say that to you really depends on the dynamics of your relationship with her. We met up, she cooked me ribs, fucked me twice (she said it hurt but wanted to anyways) and sucked my dick. Sooooooo seems like it was successful.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:22 PM
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I saw her this weekend and we fucked a lot but she doesn’t pee right afterwards so that’s my theory.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:31 AM
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Trueee, when we do meet-up we fuck a lot. She was coming over to make me dinner, so she is still investing in me. Probably good chance of oral and I enjoy her company so figured why not?
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:20 AM
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10+ body count at 22 is holding me back
/r/askTRP04/01/21 08:37 PM
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How am I doing that? I just thought it was an interesting question given that make-up does bump up a woman's looks 1-3+ points.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 08:06 PM
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Sounds like you are doing a whole lot of projecting to me lmao
/r/askTRP29/12/20 06:03 PM
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Keep it really simple, don't fall for the over-materialistic bullshit. Same situation happened to me with my ex-LTR for Valentine's Day. Was working an insane amount of hours stressed and had no time for anything. She mentioned that she understood and literally told me I did not need to get her anything. I thought holy fuck, that was so mature of her and appreciated the shit out of that moment. Come Valentine's Day and she gets me chocolate, a card, and a watch. I managed to get her chocolate, a…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 04:13 AM
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Personal
/r/askTRP14/12/20 05:17 AM
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Continue normally, act like nothing happened. If you are busy, then great, you are busy.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 03:49 AM
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The fact that I am not invested as much as her ironically makes her invest even more
/r/askTRP14/12/20 03:44 AM
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It's okay to make mistakes, that is how you learn. The most successful people have failed the most. At this point, I wouldn't apologize to her, but just don't mention it again because it makes you look insecure. Honestly, investing in some books and just learning has helped me a ton in interacting with women. A book that gave me a great perspective was The Way of the Superior Man, so I would recommend that.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 03:40 AM
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If you are overtly telling her that other women are "objectively" hotter than her, you aren't being a high-value alpha, you are being an asshole. Demonstrate your value through your actions, not your words.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 03:33 AM
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Schindler's List is definitely a movie you do not want to fuck to...
/r/askTRP09/12/20 02:17 PM
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Yeah man that's weird, I am really surprised you didn't get her panties soaking wet and had her fucking your brains out when you mentioned watching The Grinch together.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 02:21 AM
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My ex-LTR was extremely insecure to the point where one time I couldn't get it up and she claimed it was because I was cheating and/or thinking about another girl. Honestly, at first the insecurities seem cute because it is coming from a source of compassion to you, BUT over the long haul it is absolutely draining to keep up with. I basically couldn't handle her insecurities 24/7 and had to drop her. My advice is that it is going to get annoying to handle over time being on your game 100% of the…
/r/askTRP08/12/20 11:04 PM
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The Bible of this ^
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:00 PM
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Any other cities you would recommend looking into?
/r/askTRP28/11/20 05:16 AM
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I want to be near a city with warm weather year around. I traveled to Austin, Texas and fucking loved it. Also, St Pete in Florida was great too. I currently have a high paying job and am interviewing at a few companies right now shopping around. My job is 100% remote so I don’t need to be tied down to a specific location. I have good savings and investments so I’m not worried about running out of money. I do wish I had better and more reliable friends though. That has impacted me mentally quite…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 04:07 AM
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I get that, I just have noticed whenever I travel somewhere I am infinitely more happy and grounded. I think I am just sick of the bs that goes on in the city as well as the brutal winters.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:59 AM
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Ya'll overthink this shit so much lmao
/r/askTRP26/11/20 03:44 PM
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It is not an affiliate link, I am just trying to help OP out you dumb fuck
/r/askTRP20/11/20 09:21 PM
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Few weeks
/r/askTRP20/11/20 05:57 PM
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I just take one 400mg tablet per day. I think it took a while for me to really start feeling the effects. Basically, am much harder and even when I bust I am rock hard afterwards.
/r/askTRP20/11/20 05:34 PM
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L Arginine has done absolute wonders for me. Try it out.
/r/askTRP20/11/20 04:48 PM
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The fact that you say IDGAF and then a few sentences later say that you went through her messages while she was asleep tells me everything I need to know.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 01:26 AM
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Your LTR's Instagram feed is filled with male models posing half naked and she likes the posts in front of you. What is your reaction?
/r/askTRP19/11/20 12:08 AM
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I take this approach but my buddy's text game has much more effort and response engagement and he is pulling dimes. Makes me wonder what switching it up could do? I think good text game is especially important in the era of COVID online dating.
/r/askTRP17/11/20 12:32 PM
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Yup, I broke up with my ex 6-months ago and she has had 3 exclusive boyfriends since. The entire time dating them, she was texting and calling me...
/r/askTRP16/11/20 08:04 PM
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I was the opposite. I saw who my ex was dating and was like damn I feel good lmao
/r/askTRP16/11/20 07:39 PM
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So in other words I need to get my shit together in different aspects of my life? I am doing well financially and am very physically fit. I do have to find a new job in a few months but I am not too worried about that. I lack a reliable social circle of truly good friends and that has impacted me the most. I can't really do anything sports activity related until I have some upcoming surgeries in the next couple months that are required to improve my life. The issue with those surgeries is that t…
/r/askTRP15/11/20 01:31 PM
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Out of those things you listed I have my career and working out down pretty well. I was never close with my family and my social circle has dwindled ever since breaking up with my ex. I just don't know how to build it up in a COVID era.
/r/askTRP15/11/20 01:18 PM
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I am in the best shape of my life and make pretty damn good money so those areas of my life are in good standing. I would say that I lack friends and social circles. This is something that has always bothered me because I currently don't have a social outlet which is probably why I date around so much.
/r/askTRP15/11/20 01:17 PM
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It was petty for me to tell her that "My time is valuable and I made other plans" but not petty for her to be 30 minutes late? Also, my buddy had reservations at an exclusive speakeasy last night, so yeah I did still go out regardless. Stop assuming shit, you look dumb as fuck.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 07:06 PM
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Definitely taking this route next date
/r/askTRP14/11/20 07:04 PM
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Lmao I 100% disagree with this one Brad Pitt
/r/askTRP14/11/20 06:24 AM
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Yeah, I don't even know why I feel guilty for standing up for myself sometimes. These chicks can play some crazy emotional manipulation games.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 03:45 AM
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Hit her with: "Oof first round is on you 😏" And she said: "That's fair lol" Gave her another 15 minutes and then dipped out. I am very punctual and hate having my time being taken advantage of.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 03:15 AM
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Probably a combination of me having options and not wanting to risk re-attachment. I broke up with her for a reason and need to stand by that. Getting new pussy is easy so why would I limit my options going back to her?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 03:08 PM
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She just got dumped and is coming back to me for comfort. I have moved on to bigger and better things.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 03:07 PM
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I just made a post last week about literally pretty much the same thing. I broke up with my ex about 6-months ago. She has been texting/calling me "I miss you" and making excuses to contact me. I finally agreed to grab drinks with her this weekend because I would have 100% of the power and it would be an easy FWB situation. We texted for a bit and I was just completely turned off by the conversation. She was almost bragging about having THREE exclusive boyfriends in the 6-months since I ended it…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 12:18 PM
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You are sounding insecure. Looks do play a role but how you act and present yourself is far more important. A chick will go for an average looking dude who is confident, driven, and has his shit together over the better looking dude who is insecure, lacks social skills, and has nothing going on in his life.
/r/askTRP08/11/20 04:53 AM
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Most of the good advice on here is based on action, not verbal negotiation
/r/askTRP08/11/20 04:25 AM
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I just walked out on a chick mid-date last week. We just weren't vibing personality-wise and she started giving me shit because I didn't pay for her drinks. I just left because I don't have time to waste on that bs. Just be yourself and if that does not align with her, don't change for her.
/r/askTRP27/10/20 10:13 PM
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Honestly having 2 solid plates is more than enough for me to handle outside of my other life priorities. I have tried more and it is just way too much of a time investment.
/r/askTRP27/10/20 09:26 PM
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Don't respond directly, that is basically your opportunity to invite her out
/r/askTRP27/10/20 03:20 PM
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Okay good to know, it is interesting the internal differences women can have.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 03:20 PM
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Lmao on this topic, are "cavernous vaginas" genetic or developed?
/r/askTRP21/10/20 02:04 PM
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Bruh, I wear this $130 watch and get compliments on dates all of the time. Don't be financially foolish.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 01:19 AM
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Exactly, women are the most horny while on their period
/r/askTRP20/10/20 08:45 PM
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Depends on the time discrepancy, but the ball was in her court to confirm and she did not. Make other plans.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 02:00 PM
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100% I am fucking a HB7 and she is WAY more fun to fuck than the HB9
/r/askTRP19/10/20 12:01 PM
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These bars are in perfect proximity to my place and know them well
/r/askTRP18/10/20 05:27 PM
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I am already fucking her, that is not even the point of this post...
/r/askTRP18/10/20 05:23 PM
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That is not how abundance works...
/r/askTRP18/10/20 04:41 PM
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Don't respond or say "Sounds good to me, I have a lot to focus on as well". Go work on your purpose and/or game other women. Your relationship is over, ghost and block.
/r/askTRP16/10/20 12:27 PM
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Unfortunately, in this case the best way to learn is by experience.
/r/askTRP16/10/20 02:16 AM
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Less than 4% of subjects got side-effects from Finasteride and even less than 1% had them permanent. Look up the Finasteride Merck study.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 12:57 AM
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First off, work on your self confidence. Second, respond with banter and then ask out. It's doesn't need to be overly complicated.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 01:23 AM
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Red pill rage still got you, huh?
/r/askTRP05/10/20 07:44 PM
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Okay, that permission slip analogy was fucking spot on. 100% put things into perspective... You are absolutely spot on, thanks for the insight bro.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 04:06 PM
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I guess because I am joining a sports league that she introduced me to? I just don't want any pre-conceived alterative motives being thrown out by just showing up without warning.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 03:16 PM
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Pavlov
/r/askTRP05/10/20 02:31 AM
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On the topic of the therapist, take a few sessions to see if you two click. If not, move on to another therapist. Compatibility is key and makes a world of a difference. Good luck homie.
/r/askTRP17/09/20 12:01 PM
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I believe I was a part of your crypto group and might even know you... Regardless, I think the issue is that you had goals and you achieved them. The grind and hustle towards the goal is infinitely more rewarding then when you actually attain them. You've achieved the unthinkable so now you're left with what? You might not have motivation because you may not have set future goals to achieve for yourself. These don't necessarily have to be as big as "make 7-figures off crypto and retire" but they…
/r/askTRP17/09/20 02:01 AM
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The most successful people are the ones who have failed the most
/r/askTRP09/09/20 01:36 PM
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Okay I really like this perspective. I have always been good at being demanding and talking dirty but coaching her to respond properly takes that control to another level.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:57 PM
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lmao goddamit
/r/askTRP01/09/20 07:58 PM
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Your response was great! I do use quite a few of those already but will implement the others.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 03:54 PM
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Start lifting more. Focus on compound movements and your traps. Hair looks on point for the most part (Short fade on sides and long on top is the best imo). Grow more facial hair if you can. Pluck and align your eyebrows (idgaf if people in here thinks it's feminine, it can go a LONG way).
/r/askTRP28/08/20 09:51 PM
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I got something called the 5 Minute Journal on Amazon and it has been incredibly insightful. I definitely recommend it.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 08:01 PM
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This post hits home for me. These are the exact steps I am going through now.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 08:01 PM
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How is blocking someone even remotely childish behavior? Why the fuck would OP hard next his cheating girlfriend but still have her on social media and in direct phone contact with him. What could he possibly benefit from that when she starts posting about her life post-breakup (i.e. with other men, having fun, etc.) which would open old wounds and not allow OP to heal? This chick cheated on him, completely betraying him and is now not deserving of any amount of trust or respect from OP. Complet…
/r/askTRP23/08/20 12:28 PM
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Reading now, thanks for the ping homie
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:47 PM
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Not melatonin but I read every night and try to meditate when I can. Tonight I am gonna do all three as well as smoke some indica.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:46 PM
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I am extremely active. I lift and run at least 4 times a week. My diet is pretty solid as well. I am also currently seeing a therapist and that has been helpful. Wanted blood work done but can't see my PCP until mid-October. I am STD-free and am also going for a t-check next week.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:33 PM
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Same here man. I thought I was being mysterious and more of a valuable man because my time was limited but a ton of girls stopped chasing because they took it as me being cold or dismissive. Now adays, I still don't over-text but I definitely send over some quick playful banter "check-ins" to keep the rapport going in order to set up more "logistics" for a date.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/20 01:20 PM
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It is basically dealing with female nature set on the hardest fucking difficulty
/r/TheRedPill19/08/20 01:18 PM
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Could you recommend the best TRP Twitter accounts to follow?
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 05:20 PM
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Posts like this is why we are quarantined on Reddit. Women love sex. Men love sex. Don't make it a negative demeaning thing. Get through your anger phase and be a better man.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/20 05:00 PM
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Excellent response, I will use this in the future. Usually my go to is "first round of drinks is one you" because it is a push as well as it puts her in your frame that being late is something that I do not appreciate. I am a very punctual person, I will let it slide the first couple times meeting up but after that it is a deal breaker for me.
/r/askTRP06/08/20 01:19 PM
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“Might” pretty much means “no”. I’d make other plans if I were you. You waiting around for her puts you totally in her frame. I actually just had this happen to me and I just told her to go on with her plans and I was going to make my own. Just don’t be a dick or come off as sensitive. Remember, you are living your own happy life regardless if this woman is in it or not. If she is interested enough she will set up an alternate date.
/r/askTRP01/08/20 11:58 PM
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Isn't that concept fucking wild? Lose frame ONE time with a chick and she might view you as beta forever. Happened with my last LTR. I made the mistake of opening up and becoming vulnerable because it felt like a natural thing to do with my "best friend". As soon as I did, she lost attraction and disrespect ramped up. You REALLY need to be on your game CONSTANTLY in a LTR. I am so much happier being single and spinning plates. I can let any one of them go without hesitation.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 01:08 PM
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$1000 EOY
/r/askTRP26/06/20 09:01 PM
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can confirm that this guy fucks ^
/r/askTRP24/06/20 02:15 AM
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UltraThin gang checking in
/r/TheRedPill23/06/20 12:29 PM
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Why the fuck are you comparing yourself to someone else and not focusing on improving habits and characteristics in your life that make you higher value? Use all of your toxicity and anger to be the better man.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 05:53 PM
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I just started reading When I Say No, I Feel Guilty and have learned a ton of insight on this topic. I would definitely recommend it to you.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 06:17 PM
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I would just say you were busy occupying yourself with work, hobbies, activities, friends, blah blah
/r/askTRP19/06/20 01:56 AM
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100% agree that my LTR broke me down over time
/r/askTRP17/06/20 08:59 PM
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Then you need to assess if she is acting like this in "mild" situations is the LTR even worth it at that point? That is the exact reason I recently ended my LTR.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 08:37 PM
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I think you are more fucked by not establishing your boundaries
/r/askTRP17/06/20 08:23 PM
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So to clarify, your reaction to her genuine feelings would be to make fun and belittle them rather than address the blatant unwarranted disrespect?
/r/askTRP17/06/20 08:03 PM
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My go to is drinks at a bar/cocktail lounge by my place and just trade off who's getting the first bill. "I got this one and you get the next one" has always worked for me and keeps the night going.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 06:34 PM
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If I were you I would continue on my own shit and let her be the one to reach out. She is the one that made the choice to childishly storm away and it is not your job to go running after her.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 04:52 PM
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I have been considering this route as well but recently have been hearing all the talks about "housing market crash is next!" in a year or so because for COVID-19. I know I cannot time the market, but historically we are at all-time-highs.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 03:55 PM
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What I realized in my recent LTR that it is absolutely crazy to me how you can be feeling really good about your relationship only to be met with pestering from your LTR based off of hypothetical situations which came from the societal pressure of what a relationship should look like. No matter what I did, she was never satisfied. The more I complied, the more she requested. I got to the point where I realized I was not being my true self and ended it. She told me the reason why she nagged me so…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:50 PM
4

Light hearted teasing relevant to her profile. Then get number. Set date asap.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 11:54 PM
7

She probably misses validation and is looking for an easy orbiter. Don't fall for it.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 08:16 PM
1

She's needy and controlling. That is not a great person. Accurate ​ If she's critical you don't just withdraw attention, you withdraw YOURSELF. This makes annoying women much easier to deal with :) Quarantine definitely fucked that for me a little bit ​ But she's not going to change, and would likely get worse and more controlling. Learned this after the first two breakups... ​ This is what tinder does to women. Meet them any other way you can. On it ​ Find better women I need to get over this o…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 07:56 PM
8

Don't directly respond. Just say that you were busy with other shit going on in your life.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 05:29 PM
1

I can understand but it gets to the point where I am consistently the "asshole" in most of my interactions that I have had with women. At what point do I take a step back and think "how can I be TRP without being a complete asshole and burning bridges at the same time"? ​ Because at that point it is moreso me being a man-child and not giving in to anything, right?
/r/askTRP15/06/20 05:23 PM
1

Definitely an element of one-itis. She just had such a large and strong friend group that would always do activities together. That is something I did not have. I only had a few friends and they were starting to become unreliable. At that point in life when I was single, I was beginning to accept myself and learning to love myself. I was happy being alone, so I thought I was ready for an LTR with someone that I have vetted. I guess I became to comfortable and let the important things that made m…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 01:29 PM
1

Thank you for this
/r/askTRP15/06/20 12:58 PM
2

Sounds exactly like the same situation I was in before dumping my LTR two days ago. Mannnn it is not fucking worth losing your sanity over some chick who has zero self confidence. It took me so long to come to that conclusion and it was hard breaking up with her but sheesh am I much more happier now not dealing with the constant bullshit.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 03:59 PM
1

I ended up just breaking up with her but your comment has very valuable insight. I will take that into account.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 03:40 AM
2

Holy fuck I think we dated the same person lmao Yeah man, literally EVERYTHING I did was taken out of context and then over analyzed and then negatively labeled it was fucking ridiculous.
/r/askTRP08/06/20 06:07 PM
1

Absolutely, I am not saying I am perfect. I definitely slipped up occasionally and just look at this all as a learning experience. And I definitely felt like I did a good job taking the lead in the relationship. The issue is that she equated that as me not taking her into consideration. She said she sometimes did not feel like a part of my life and we only did what I wanted (which was just simply me leading and steering the ship). And again, she is incredibly nit picky to the point where if I do…
/r/askTRP08/06/20 03:10 PM
1

Trueeee that may be the next move
/r/askTRP08/06/20 01:50 PM
1

I mean this is the 3rd time I have broken up with her so I am definitely leaning towards just ending it completely. I am just not sure what point she is trying to make by not taking responsibility for her faults and becoming defensive. I get she's hurt but she never wanted to change in the relationship, only when I ended things.
/r/askTRP08/06/20 01:50 PM
1

Will do! Thanks for the write up.
/r/askTRP08/06/20 12:41 PM
1

pls write me a permission slip warlock
/r/askTRP08/06/20 12:41 PM
1

I feel ya! Man it fucking sucks. Break ups are always messy. I don't plan on using any dating apps until about a couple months from now. Everything else I wanna do in person or by hitting up old plates.
/r/askTRP08/06/20 02:17 AM
2

The sarcasm is strong with this one
/r/askTRP08/06/20 02:16 AM
1

huh cut who off?
/r/askTRP08/06/20 02:14 AM
1

Destructive as in unhealthy lmao
/r/askTRP08/06/20 02:13 AM
1

Bingo ^
/r/askTRP08/06/20 02:13 AM
1

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying. Does this go for all requests or just the petty/immature ones? I think changing a little bit for someone else in a relationship can be a reasonable expectation, but I felt like I did it too much and then she started taking advantage of it. I have 100% been way too emotionally reactive sometimes and I take full responsibility for that. Just the combination of my stressful job, the constant issues in the relationship, and all the chaos in the world really put me off …
/r/askTRP06/06/20 03:18 PM
1

Yeah man, interesting analogy but I am picking up what you are putting down. It just seems whichever way I approach any (non) issues she is having, it always seems to bite me in the ass. If I become a complete beta and 100% comply with her calls for comfort and become a Disney character for her, it works out great in the short-term. But in the long-term, it seems like she ultimately loses respect, and thus attractiveness to me. To put it simply, it seems to me that her female nature is trying to…
/r/askTRP06/06/20 11:25 AM
1

I read that book a while back but probably need to revisit it. And I 100% know and expect that most women will be needy. It's just that this is just on another level of neediness. It first started off reasonably, but the more I complied the more issues she brought up of me not providing enough comfort. It got draining and drastically started affecting my mental health and frame.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 11:22 AM
1

Bingo, love the response. I just need the world to open up to even have my hobbies. I miss BJJ.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 06:09 PM
1

What is the key to "withdraw attention" and "be unavailable" when she is around you without it coming off as you being butt hurt or passive aggressive?
/r/askTRP05/06/20 04:57 PM
1

That is usually my approach! If it is something trivial that she is making a big deal out of it, I agree then amplify and then ignore. Then she takes that as me purposefully (yep) not addressing why I cannot respond to her goodnight texts all the time.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:37 AM
1

Typically, when responding to a test: Agree and amplify Ignore Oblige (If comfort test) And if none of the above work in any situation, like what the fuck can I do?
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:35 AM
2

Yeah man, you are right. It has affected my mental and emotional health so much putting so much energy into these little non-issues that set her off. I am leaning towards leaving.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 08:01 PM
1

Like I said earlier, when she is being need I will typically look at it as a comfort test and respond accordingly. But if I do not respond the same way 100% of the time, shit hits the fan. If I feel she is making a big deal out of nothing, I always agree/amplify or just straight ignore. Recently, she has been taking this as me being cold and ignoring the situation and then manifesting that idea into her having to be distant from me. All in all, it is really fucking stupid shit.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 07:51 PM
0

I feel ya, she is genuinely good LTR material but these small insecurities that get amplified derail everything. It is incredibly frustrating to see wasted potential.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 07:49 PM
4

That is usually my approach. If I feel like it is petty or immature I automatically: Agree and amplify Ignore And even that does not work, so I feel like it is a lost cause
/r/askTRP04/06/20 05:02 PM
5

Yeah man, absolutely draining. And on-top of that, when things are going good, things are like REALLY fucking great. Like we had an incredible weekend together and then she texted me "something cute" to close off the night and I did not respond to it 1:1 because I was Facetiming with an old friend and she fucking lost it and then boom, weekend ruined.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 04:23 PM
5

27, but emotionally 15
/r/askTRP04/06/20 04:15 PM
1

True, there are a ton of variables. But in your specific case, has your libido been affected?
/r/askTRP14/05/20 10:43 PM
1

I think what scares most people is that the 1% that is affected by it may experience the negative side effects to libido permanently (whether they continue to take finasteride or not).
/r/askTRP14/05/20 10:15 PM
-1

There has been reports that it kills your libido
/r/askTRP14/05/20 09:57 PM
9

Although these are unprecedented times, I am sure if she were attracted to you enough she would do anything to see you. Also, she lives two hours away from you. That is essentially quarantine at all times lmao
/r/askTRP09/05/20 05:33 PM
1

If you feel betrayed or whatever just leave her. Plenty of fish in the sea. All advice here is subjective anyways. Determine where you draw the line and let that be known for any future plates or LTRs. Also, good luck finding a pure no-body-count LTR in this day and age.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 03:22 PM
5

Dude c'mon now, she was not yours at that time because you two were not exclusive. Be logical and think about this. Were you fucking other girls while dating her? If she fucked some dude two months before you went exclusive who gives a fuck? She is not yours, it is just your turn. I was fucking four other girls while vetting my current girlfriend. If she was being an obvious hoe and fucking tons of guys, then she should have never been considered for an LTR to begin with. That being said, if she…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 02:24 PM
5

If she is with another dude and blatantly sending your private snaps to make you jealous, just know that she is playing games and is not LTR material. Absolutely ignore anything she tries to do to make you jealous and either: 1) act unfazed and keep fucking her 2) act unfazed and become more distant and work on yourself
/r/askTRP06/05/20 01:02 PM
1

Mannnn that is my problem right now. I need to learn to find the right balance because too much of either will fuck you over.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 02:15 PM
19

Can't tell which one is OP
/r/askTRP28/03/20 03:03 AM
2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAA1xgTTw9w
/r/askTRP24/03/20 03:53 PM
2

The thing that always puts me to sleep is listening to an audiobook
/r/askTRP21/02/20 12:25 PM
9

You can enforce boundaries without being a sensitive drama queen. Not doing so may come off as passive aggressive.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 04:09 AM
6

Even if she did not really send nudes to other dudes why the fuck are you allowing your LTR to communicate with multiple men through Snapchat?
/r/askTRP15/01/20 12:50 PM
1

Understood
/r/askTRP13/01/20 01:09 PM
1

She gave me pie and coffee without me asking. All she said to clean was the pie plate and mug, not the entire kitchen...
/r/askTRP12/01/20 09:05 PM
2

Well said
/r/askTRP12/01/20 08:16 PM
1

So even if she made pie and coffee and hand-delivered them to you in bed, you would still refuse to put away those dishes? At what point are we being a genuine asshole versus actually being red-pilled? Simply refusing to put away the dishes re-enforces the idea that she should not make you pie and coffee again if you are going to be petty. I think there is a healthier red-pilled option.
/r/askTRP12/01/20 07:40 PM
0

I 100% agree that I overthink shit a lot... I've been into TRP for about two years now and still need to learn a lot. I am absolutely being stubborn and need to differentiate between a disrespectful request versus a "hey I made you pie and coffee and hand-delivered it to you. Mind if you clean up afterward?" type request. I guess I am afraid of losing control which makes me super stubborn. This is something I realize and need to work on.
/r/askTRP12/01/20 07:38 PM
2

Honestly, even a simple response to her ex would have been a deal-breaker for me. You are letting her know that it is okay to interact with people she has fucked before. A good LTR would not even respond to such a text from her ex, let alone still have his number in her phone... You need to check your girl man...
/r/askTRP27/12/19 04:04 PM
6

You are already catching oneitis fam
/r/askTRP26/12/19 04:00 PM
7

You probably need more than one sentence if it is more complicated than that. I am strictly going off of my many experiences and the best route to take in this kind of situation. Setting precedent in any sort of interaction is very important. Just know that now you are setting the precedent that you have a ton of free time to accommodate this one chick's schedule and have no other options.
/r/askTRP26/12/19 03:33 PM
40

She probably had plans with a better option for Friday. If you have high SMV you wouldn't have both of your weekend days open like that. I would have already had plans for Saturday and would not be able to re-schedule. It may not be a huge issue if this is new, but know that she is now controlling the scheduling making you accommodate for her. Now you are the one chasing.
/r/askTRP26/12/19 03:23 PM
0

As big as the titties on that physical therapist that had you pre-maturely ejaculating
/r/askTRP24/12/19 08:04 PM
4

actions > words I have fucked plenty of women who stated that
/r/askTRP24/12/19 06:29 PM
1

She is 27 and I am 26... That is the issue because it is so childish it drives me crazy.
/r/askTRP24/12/19 05:25 PM
2

So just ignore or confront saying it is annoying?
/r/askTRP24/12/19 05:19 PM
3

I have been mixing it up by just ignoring or looking at it as a comfort test in specific situations and responding with something along the lines of "You know I do, you don't have to ask". But it is getting to the point where I am gonna have to be confrontational because it is annoying as fuck.
/r/askTRP24/12/19 03:54 PM
10

I mean is really being a temporary "errand boy" for you LTR for a short period of time while she is literally in the hospital recovering from surgery that big of a deal? You need to show comfort some times in an LTR but yes I agree that having that met with disrespect is a dealbreaker.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 03:43 PM
1

Just climb up the kino ladder of escalation and if you get to the top you're gucci
/r/askTRP20/12/19 05:04 PM
18

If your main goal after coming out of college is moving to an entire different city to work on picking up chicks and not furthering your career, you’re going to have a bad time.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 04:17 AM
4

The fact that she is even communicating with someone she has hooked up with while dating you shows me how much she doesn’t respect you. Vet your LTR much better.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 04:23 AM
1

The sub is pretty insane when it comes to these things imo... I agree that if you make it a big deal it will scream nothing but insecurity and weakness. Plan your own trip with your friends and use dread to your advantage instead. If you vetted her properly before you went LTR and are a high SMV male you shouldn’t let it bother you. This is not the final destination situation this sub always makes it seem like. There has to be some level of trust in an LTR because there is no point otherwise. If…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:25 PM
3

Strong eye contact is important but a good rule of thumb to follow is to not break eye contact until they look away, then that’s your queue to look away as well. The key is that you don’t want to come off as being a fucking robot.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 02:25 AM
3

Agree with OP, or at the very least try a different condom brand. I was freaking out thinking I had ED but switched condoms and all is well.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 12:58 AM
1

I believe the self-awareness and holding yourself accountable is one of the most difficult things one can do. The biggest hurdle is even recognizing there are issues you may have and the next is being proactive to actually changes those issues. ​ "Check yourself before you wreck yourself" has never been truer in an LTR.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 04:08 PM
30

I am in the same boat! Recently, have noticed my frame slipping because of the comfort of my LTR. I don't want to keep slipping further so decided to enroll in some extracurricular activities that will help me boost my SMV and limit my availability to my LTR. Win-win situation!
/r/askTRP07/10/19 11:53 AM
1

I am 26. Out of all of the women I have been with she is definitely the one with the least amount of red flags. She just has these intense emotional outbursts which may be the result of me not showing enough comfort. It goes both ways though, so I absolutely feel the need to put her in her place when she starts to act up. Again, this happens every two months or so.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 05:44 PM
3

Absolutely. There are so many other ways to have and show an abundance mentality besides just cheating (which seems like an easy cop-out).
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:17 PM
1

I believe you misunderstood me. I am saying that withdrawing attention would discourage her from acting like that again. To me, negative actions need to be met with repercussions to mold future behavior.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:16 PM
1

Why not bring up something she did that you felt was disrespectful? Why wouldn't I hold my ground and show her that I am not going to put up with shit like that? I have to set precedents and boundaries somehow, right? ​ She is absolutely a bit crazy but that comes with its pros and cons. She can be incredibly affectionate and selfless but then turn incredibly needy.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:13 PM
1

I feel that... I did withdraw attention and then that's when she started prodding.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:11 PM
0

lmao found the alpha male!!! Based on your post history, it seems like you spend even more time commenting on random people's posts so not sure what point you are trying to make? Also, I am in an LTR and have no intention of cheating which would sort of defeat the purpose of an LTR. I know, I know, don't get triggered but I am purple pilled currently. I have done all of that the red pill spin-plates shit. I am simply just currently at a different point in my life.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:55 PM
2

We talked about the situation and this is the approach we will try to take from now on. The main issue she was having was that I was cold to her and wanted time separate for us to digest the situation. She wanted to figure out what was going on immediately but we were in a social situation so I decided to hold off until afterward.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:38 PM
2

So in this situation, the best course of action is to not even bring it up? Just completely ignore the fact that she was rude and disrespectful? Would that not re-enforce that sort of behavior moving forward?
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:35 PM
2

It doesn't sound like it. She sounds like a PITA. I mean there is always so much I can explain in a post. I would say overall, the positives outweigh the negatives. ​ In regards to "the look" reaction I gave her, why the fuck wouldn't I do that? It's not like I am bursting out in emotions and yelling type of reaction. It is just a simple look to queue her in on her behavior. I did not react to it past that and just carried on with conversations and withdrew attention from my LTR. Then I brought …
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:34 PM
2

I definitely need to get in touch with my emotional side for sure. I feel like I have been emotionally numb ever since my dad passed away so I am still trying to figure that shit out. I am 90% logic 10% emotion and I see that as an issue. ​ At what point would you use comfort when withdrawing attention because of misbehavior?
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:29 PM
2

100% agree. I am still trying to figure out the balance. But in the case of her shoving me, how in that situation should I show comfort? Why would that not be reacted to with withdrawn attention? Showing comfort would only re-enforce those behaviors, would it not?
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:26 PM
18

If you can afford it, Aventus is the king.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 03:11 AM
2

For my LTR, sometimes I will just ignore and go about my day and then sometimes I will take action and talk about it. It really depends on whether or not she has been acting well. There has to be some level of comfort with a LTR. It is all about the balance.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 12:10 PM
1

Lmaoo this dude just posted 20 minutes ago about basically cheating on his LTR. What a dumbass.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 03:34 PM
1

zero frame control
/r/askTRP22/07/19 03:29 PM
9

Does anyone know of any YouTube channel that has these sort of situations unfolding? I can see it being extremely helpful in ways to approach them if it ever happens to me.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/19 12:17 PM
1

So I have done this with my LTR before and it's always met immediately with "What's wrong?" "What did I do?" "Are you mad at me?" I understand the reason for withholding attention but need to be better at the execution of it perhaps?
/r/askTRP12/07/19 01:12 PM
1

Trueee I am just curious what would be the proper way to approach this situation. Like obviously you need to hold frame and not show that it affects you whatsoever. The issue I see is that as soon as you withdraw attention for a few days, it becomes obvious that you are reacting.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 11:27 AM
1

I understand that but he did the right thing to withdraw attention and soft next but it just did not work out in his favor.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 11:16 AM
2

How would you approach the situation? Using sex as a weapon is bound to ruin the relationship.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 11:14 AM
3

Correct, but she sounds insecure. Soft next.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 11:52 AM
1

How could it be a trigger if it has literally never happened up until now? I've done it many times and it has never been an issue.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 11:46 AM
1

Seems like you've had some pretty personal issues regarding alcohol. I'm sorry for your unfortunate subjective experiences.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 11:24 AM
1

Are you that narrow-minded to say whenever someone wants to go out and enjoy themselves with drinks that there will always be drama? I have gone out with many women and drank and the majority of the time have has no drama. Alcohol is not the point of this post. There is an underlying issue at play.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 11:06 AM
1

Yeah man basically what I told her... She is acting out for some reason... Mind you we were celebrating six months so she probably is still in the power struggle phase. Like I don't even know how to respond to this... We are suppose to have plans together soon as well. I feel like I need to bring it up.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 10:47 AM
1

We were out celebrating and we drank a lot. She started to become super insecure and ask shit like "do you even like me?" "I just want you to like me for me" etc Get back to my place and she makes a move on be in bed and we start having sex and then u smack her ass and she freaked out saying "don't smack my ass" and it was a huge turn off for me. She saw I wasn't into it anymore and just started crying. I told her of course I want to smack her ass while fucking her because she has a nice ass... …
/r/askTRP22/06/19 10:44 AM
2

Noooopppppeeeeee
/r/askTRP10/06/19 04:03 AM
1

Absolutely a possibility, just currently weighing my options.
/r/askTRP09/06/19 02:40 AM
1

This probably wouldn't work because she already gave me the date and time well ahead.
/r/askTRP09/06/19 02:38 AM
1

Bent over barbell rows
/r/askTRP09/04/19 02:56 AM
1

It is just ASL. Words do not equal action.
/r/askTRP23/03/19 03:05 PM
1

Rationale Male is a MUST read. Get on it.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 12:58 AM
1

I think that suggesting being a model for your photography was a bit forward and can be left open-ended for interpretation. To me, her bringing friends is acting like a defense against you. She clearly does not want to be one on one with you. I would go with option B at the very least. If I was in this situation, I would just pass on this one.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 06:15 PM
2

I get that. I guess it'd be nice to see more personal experiences in regards to questions on this subreddit versus being told to read the sidebar which contains a good foundation, but doesn't really offer unique perspectives.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 03:05 AM
1

Why are 100% of the answers in ASKtrp "read the sidebar"?
/r/askTRP26/09/18 02:59 AM
1

If you are inexperienced, go into this with a "fuck it" attitude. Be confident, pass her shit tests, tease her, escalate physically. Do not put her on a pedestal. Look at this as a potential learning experience to use as leverage for future dates. You will do fine homie.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 03:05 PM
1

Yeah agreed. I definitely don't do it in a "goofy class clown" way. For me humor lightens the mood and gets them more comfy. What really kicks it off for me is suggestive/cocky humor. Not so much what you're saying but how you're saying it.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 03:29 AM
1

I've noticed a trend when it comes to TRP and humor. Is humor a bad thing? Like is it not an ideal characteristic? I consider myself pretty humorous and it has personally done me wonders with women. Thoughts?
/r/askTRP30/08/18 02:54 AM
1

I appreciate the kick in the ass. I do exercise regularly (at least four times per week). My sleep cycle is probably the crux of all my issues. I will take it more seriously.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 02:07 PM
1

I got my levels back to normal naturally. I have not been on HBP meds in years.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 02:05 PM
2

Agreed, I do not take sleep as seriously as I should. Sleep really sets up the rest of the day and how efficient I am with my time as well.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:35 PM
1

Stress is definitely a component. I have had HBP in the past but have since had my levels get back to normal. Gotta love inherit genetics!
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:34 PM
1

On it
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:33 PM
1

I will definitely consider if shit really starts getting out of hand
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:33 PM
1

Yes, but there are red flags with any woman. I do not plan on pursuing anything LTR, strictly just FWB.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:29 PM
2

I already do heavy compound lifting at least four time per week
/r/askTRP20/08/18 01:24 PM
1

That's what I was considering as well but didn't realize it could have this profound of an effect. How long did it take you to get back to your normal sex drive?
/r/askTRP20/08/18 04:54 AM
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