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MINDSET SHIFTDevils_Tango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 08:20 PM
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I would like to propose living with another single woman you vibe with is also fantastic, as I am very lucky to experience right now. I tend to isolate when depressed so I get a live-in friend with zero drama, feel safer, plus rent is expensive af where I live, and she helps take care of my baby cats :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:15 PM
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He’s from a volunteer org I’m in, so not work work, but yeah, I have to remind myself I don’t know that much about him and it’s very possible we’re not compatible at all. Gotta take him off the pedestal I’ve put him on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 01:40 AM
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GOOGLE IT OR STARVE 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:59 AM
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My last relationship was with a man with fairly HV traits and I was very pleased when he went down on me with enthusiasm and zero complaint the first time we were intimate and I hadn’t planned for it by even trimming. It was full bush and he made himself home in the forest 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 05:22 AM
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He’s bad at respecting your time and your wants/needs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:52 AM
152

Holy f*cking hell. Is it reversible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 06:23 PM
80

The dalcon shield iud. Monstrous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 06:22 PM
28

Awful, awful scrote. Good riddance. Hope you’re doing better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 11:33 PM
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DONE with the coffee table being littered in wrappers and weed dust with 7 pairs of smelly old socks underneath it for weeks. Eventually I gave up, booted him out, and moved. My living room is freaking gorgeous now and brings me so much peace and joy 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:37 AM
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Oof, described my marriage to a T
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 07:30 PM
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Going through old FDS posts and came across your comment—where are you in your journey?! Did you find the courage to break away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:16 AM
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Sooo…anyone have satin cap recommendations? :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:21 AM
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When I was much younger, I had an ex who (thankfully I never had sex with) ask if I would ever do anal because he found it “visually appealing” 😒🤮 He was a self-proclaimed recovering porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 06:54 AM
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That’s way too much awfulness, I hope you’re doing much better and are much happier now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 07:57 AM
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This is next level bravery and is giving me so much joy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:18 PM
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What in the Handmaid’s Tale fckery is this 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:02 AM
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Could not be more true. Described it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:32 PM
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Currently dating a man who has been to therapy and phew! what a welcome change from my ex. He will also call out misogyny when he sees it. Gotta keep vetting but it’s a green flag for now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:30 PM
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It’s really sad that a google search on news about this shows mostly conservative media reporting on it with liberal media crying woe is me, free speech bullshit. So disappointed in the left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:26 PM
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This 100%. Ruined my marriage with someone I shouldn’t have gotten married to in the first place. This was when I still thought I could make him better, a toxic combination of socialization and actually being a fairly new psychotherapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:46 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:02 AM
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Woah. I didn’t know that about the flowers and it makes the guy I’m dating get some brownie points for arranging a bouquet for me in a glass jar that I’m now realizing means he did the work of trimming the flowers etc. Hooray for green flags!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:14 AM
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Awww reminds me of some of my younger male cousins, some really sweet blossoming HVMs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:45 PM
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Realization I just had today is that I was feeling unnecessary guilt for dating other guys after connecting with one guy in particular. I don’t owe him loyalty or shit because we’re not exclusive and he has stated he wants to keep things “casual”. (I know, I know, I should drop him but I’m practicing dating after getting divorced). He said it’s fine if I see other guys, as long as he doesn’t hear or think about it. So I asked him what he feels if he does think about it and he said “not okay!!” M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:32 AM
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Oooh I think I will buy myself some flowers 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:58 PM
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This was really good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:45 PM
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This reminds me of two of my best friends I grew up with. One was always getting into trouble for “being loud” and “talking back” (read: asserting her needs/wants), and the other was extremely obedient and praised for it by everyone. Both had abusive parents. Obedient friend ended up in a decade long abusive marriage. Her mom recently told my other, louder friend “we used to tell you to be less loud, but if my daughter had been more like you maybe she wouldn’t have suffered in this marriage for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:56 PM
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Louder for my ex mother-in-law 🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:23 PM
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Caution with activated charcoal — if you’re taking any other medications (birth control, antidepressants, etc) charcoal will reduce or completely eliminate their efficacy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:32 PM
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A scrodiac, if you will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:11 AM
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Can you post the title and artist? Video isn’t available for some reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:50 AM
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I took pictures like this of our coffee table before and after I cleaned it, then less than 24hr later when it was a mess again because of my LVX. The before image was gross, just covered in wrappers, weed dust and ash, food particles, etc and with several pairs of dirty socks underneath. I basically gave up at one point because I couldn’t look at it without wanting to set it on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:02 AM
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This drove me fuckin crazy in my last relationship, so disgusting 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:57 AM
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This makes me think one of my old bosses was HV—always spoke respectfully and admiringly of his wife, was helping her with her complicated research, and hyphenated his last name with hers. Was a great boss too. (Sometimes I have to try really hard to remind myself HV men exist 🥲)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:51 AM
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Can’t wait for the sex robots to go Westworld on their asses 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:08 PM
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As an Asian woman, I theoretically love Asian men, but in person they’re usually disappointing 😂 They want to date women outside their race (re: white) and then get mad if Asian women do the same 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:46 PM
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Sometimes they don’t get an inflated ego and still ruin the relationship with their insecurities, pushing you away because they know you’re too good for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:32 PM
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I love this so much. It’s almost like looking into a mirror, I get to live the way that I want now, have an organized and clean apartment not picking up after a slob, taking fitness classes, cuddling with my cats, being able to host friends and not worry about my moody ex ruining everyone’s vibe. I haven’t really thought of myself as having a glow up but this helps me put things into perspective and see that yeah, I am glowing and growing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:45 PM
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50?? That’s a boss move 💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:06 PM
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Someone You Loved by Lewis Capaldi. Soooo whiny and self-centered (and weirdly annoying that he sounds like he’s spraying flecks of spit while singing). “I was getting kind of used to being someone you loved…”—ok and?? Did you offer anything for that?? Such a clown lolll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:26 AM
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Why the fuck are these men allowed to reproduce 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:13 PM
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SAME UGHH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:02 PM
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There are lots of Iranian Jews, even if the country is Muslim-majority. But yeah a lot of the other stuff is inaccurate, meh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:56 PM
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As a 31 year old, how do I stop feeling like I’m still not a real adult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:33 AM
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Thanks! The bell hooks book is the only one I have read! It’s an amazing read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:50 AM
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I just fell in love with her in under a minute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:39 AM
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Ooh I interpreted it as “mad at them for not wanting you” in that if we were mad at men the same way men are mad at women, it’s a psychological problem. At least that’s what I’m going to takeaway from this because anger at men for their perpetual bullshitery is very valid lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:34 AM
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Yeah I’ve never had that many male friends because they’re just…not as good as women at being friends lol. The ones I have now are all securely partnered or gay which I prefer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:23 AM
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Do you have any recommended readings on this? I’d love to learn more if you have the time to share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:08 AM
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“I idealized men because they had power I didn’t have, and I wanted access” 🤯🤯🤯 …I have so much to think about now. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:07 AM
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bell hooks gives me LIFE. I’m going to go revisit all about love again and see how it resonates after so many years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:04 AM
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Finally realizing I’ve been gaslighting myself for ages has been a trip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:01 AM
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I wish I had FDS when I was dating my ex so I could’ve seen the huge red flags stuck to the dust bunnies on his floor and the dishware that piled up in his room and the dirty bathroom that I cleaned for him 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:33 AM
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I didn’t know men still courted women 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:23 PM
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I went dancing this weekend and started dancing with a guy who after a while put his hands around my neck?? Like he was pretending to choke me? On the dance floor??? Didn’t even know my name like what the actual fuck is wrong with men?? (Rhetorical question, there’s so much wrong with them). Got the fuck away from him real fast. Porn has really poisoned their brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:02 AM
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I really, really hope this comes true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:23 PM
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It’s hard to love myself, but loving myself to spite the patriarchy is a great place to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:51 PM
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He looked like a carpet 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:39 AM
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And the way women are socialized to be caretakers to sick partners/how it looks if women leave a sick partner is so insidious too. I’m glad you chose yourself over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:15 AM
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As a short woman, I just want to say I’m jealous af of tall women, y’all are beautiful keep slaying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:54 AM
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I couldn’t even get my ex husband to watch all the movies with me 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:20 PM
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Really hope she doesn’t have kids with him and exits the relationship ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:59 PM
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“But in the 21st century it falls very behind. Which is why so many Muslim women are suffering today.” Agreed 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:03 PM
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Prior to finding FDS, I had casual sex for the first time this year after going on a handful of dates first. I was thirstyyy because of my divorce and not having sex for a year. I thought thr sex was SO GOOD….at first. Then weeks later after finding FDS, I realized it was actually mediocre, I didn’t orgasm at all (to be fair this was also due to my meds), and both guys’ dicks failed at some point. I’m laughing at myself for the standards I accepted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:58 PM
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I don’t want to get into an intense debate about this but from the translation that I use (by Laleh Bakhtiar) she makes it clear that “strike” is a willful mistranslation and actually means “go away” (i.e. leave her). This is backed by the fact that the Prophet never hit his wives. Also in the context of 7th century Arabia, Islam was radically pro-women. Comparing it to modern day morals and standards just doesn’t work. I personally reject most male scholars and have gravitated towards women sch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:46 PM
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My close friend’s husband made her stop going to therapy for her ptsd and depression because “he should be enough for her”. Then was shocked when she had a mental breakdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:41 AM
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I feel this. I made the conscious decision to leave when I flipped through my journal and saw that I was feeling the same way I was a whole year ago and nothing had changed. I had brought it up with my ex husband so many times and I finally had enough. I’ve been having a really hard time filing though, the paperwork stresses me out to the point of paralysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:17 AM
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What a deeply shitty scrote and it sounds like the trash took itself out. Please find an eating disorder specialist to get help from because YOU DESERVE TO HEAL AND FEEL GOOD. Sending hope <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:35 PM
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I recently did a masturbation meditation (quick google search will lead to several links) and it was really sensual and pleasurable, I highly recommend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:10 AM
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Sometimes my dad will make disparaging remarks about my mom and I will immediately shut him down. He is NOT allowed to speak to or about his wife like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:30 AM
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I’d ‘accidentally’ just stay at home and forget to go on the date 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:51 PM
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I got all dolled up for a first date and as I was parking he texted and said “work is crazy right now, I’m so sorry I can’t make it” etc, etc. This was pre-FDS so I should have not accepted a mid-day lol much date to begin with but I also said I’d be in the area and if he’s free later he can come join me. Of course he didn’t. But I did end up enjoying lunch and walking around the mall by myself so it wasn’t a totally wasted day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:59 AM
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What does it mean if I’m the one who always walks fast? 😬 I’m really short so I feel like I’ve always had to overcompensate to catch up with others and now it’s my normal pace. My foot-taller ex-husband used to walk much slower and I’d get super irritated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:38 PM
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New goal: Disenchantress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:38 PM
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Truly needed this today (and every day!) Thanks 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:27 PM
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Right?? They still won’t learn how to cook or clean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:02 PM
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Wish I had taken better care of my mental health via getting the help that I needed, and sleeping more. Sleep is so important!! Also not worrying about getting married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:21 PM
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Oof, I was with her until the ellipses then she took a wrong turn 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:34 AM
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My aunt told me the other day to hurry up and get remarried (I’m not even divorced yet lol, still separated) and I was like ???? Why would I want that??? I gave her these stats and and a lot of points that FDS has helped me communicate more clearly. Ended up having a pretty good discussion with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:45 AM
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A mix of both and massive denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:05 AM
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When he says he doesn’t smoke that much weed, don’t believe him like I did. When he turns out to smoke ALL DAY EVERYDAY, but promises he’s cutting down—DON’T BELIEVE HIM LIKE I DID🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:54 PM
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Oof I wish I had this mantra on my last trip! I was hyper-aware of being bloated and couldn’t enjoy myself fully at the beach and on top of that was mentally beating myself up for feeling upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:14 PM
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Oh shit you’re right, mine too!! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:27 AM
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I’m not here to argue that Arab (“Muslim”) nation’s laws aren’t horribly misogynistic, I’m just pointing out that you are making the same claims that you’re accusing me of—cherry picking and claiming that “true Islam” is what you imagine it to be—inherently barbaric and sexist. This is the line of thinking used to justify “liberating” Afghan women by bombing the shit out of them. I’ve heard all of your points a thousand times and they’re still orientalist and not nuanced and are used to silence …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:45 PM
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Nah, you’re still inaccurate and islamophobic. You’re not factual just because you say you are and have beef with religion. Yeah the Abraham’s religions are patriarchal and problematic af, but I’m just pointing out that you’re making and spreading claims about Islamic laws and rights you clearly don’t know anything about. For example, under “Islamic Law” (whatever that’s supposed to mean, there is no monolithic Islamic law but maybe you just mean “Arab nations’ laws”) the man would be punished (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:13 AM
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This is islamophobic and inaccurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:04 AM
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Ughh, my ex once got mad at me for not sitting with him and holding his hand while “we” (read: I) did all the planning for a trip that I researched and bought tickets for (we split it 50/50 🙄). I was busy with being in a close friend’s wedding party at the time too. While on the trip I ended up scheduling all the transportation to and from the hotel too because otherwise he wouldn’t have done shit. He also got mad about something stupid halfway through and dramatically started packing his suitca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:43 PM
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That’s so messed up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:42 PM
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Right?? Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:10 AM
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Big yikes, glad you moved far away from that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:23 AM
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I just did this yesterday 😭 I’m learning 🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:46 AM
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Guy I am dating who is otherwise really sweet asked if he could use a butt plug on me. First of all, we’ve only had sex once and he didn’t even make me orgasm. Like, slow tf down. I said no. FDS has made me realize this is probably a learned kink from porn so I don’t think we’re going anywhere. Still feeling a bit hurt because he seems to be pulling away but this group is helping me detach from scrotes and I’m so grateful for you all!! Update: He has been dumped!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:40 AM
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Hasan Minhaj 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:06 PM
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Highly recommend pre-marital counseling by a professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:13 PM
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Advice please! I’m dating a guy who paid generously for the first date (several courses, drinks, dessert - my standards are obviously low since I never expected this 😩). I felt compelled to pay on our next date, and then I got us dessert on the date after that (he paid for the meal). How do I NOT pay for next time or have I already fucked it up by setting an expectation that I will take turns paying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:22 AM
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This is so infuriating, I am LIVID. Our justice system is USELESS. I hope his dick falls off 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:35 AM
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And then are completely surprised when we decide to leave them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:16 PM
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My ex sure did! 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:50 PM
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I’m moving into a new apartment next month with my 2 sweet kitties after living with my parents for a year post-separation. That was hard but I saved a bunch of money and have started dating and making travel plans with friends. I’m finally feeling excited about life again and know I made the right decision leaving my ex-husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:44 AM
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Yes!! I broke it off with a guy I was dating because of this behavior. I guess I appreciated the apology but I knew better than to believe it wouldn’t happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:46 AM
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My ex could buy expensive weed every week but not a nice dinner for me 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:34 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:25 PM
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I was so afraid of expressing any displeasure or anger no matter how reasonable it was because I knew it would be met with an accusation of me being mean and hurting his feelings, then days of stonewalling and silence while I drowned in anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:17 AM
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Teach me your ways 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:15 AM
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I feel this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:15 PM
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I love it :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:15 PM
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I want to believe but it still sounds like a dream 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:06 AM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:31 AM
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My LVX used to say that all the time but when I did ask I was “nagging and unfair”. There’s no winning. I was always at fault for his failures. I’m still mad I married and stayed with him for as long as I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:10 AM
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What hell dimension.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:47 AM
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A happy ending!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:40 AM
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If I can keep my pubes clean when my partner goes down on me I expect him to keep his beard clean too. Hard agree on men’s universally nasty hygiene and the lols of this meme, but can we also not get racist about cultures where beards are common please? Like my dad’s not the greatest dude but he washes his beard at least 5 times a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:13 AM
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I’m so glad this was shared here, the comments on the original post made me 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:46 PM
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Go off 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:10 PM
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It pleases me to hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:58 PM
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Muslim woman here too! Wasn’t overtly pressured to get married young, but still felt guilt about being intimate with my partner and cultural pressure as a South Asian and so ended up rushing into a marriage that did not last. Wish I had found FDS years ago, glad you’re choosing yourself over low quality men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:49 PM
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This would help me with my overall life and time management tbh but I have such little self control 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:32 AM
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Wish I had responded to my ex husband like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:14 PM
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What if FDS writers or journalists wrote our own articles to counter the narrative/have our narrative be at the forefront? Not being sarcastic, legit think that might be a good idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:37 PM
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FDS helped me SO MUCH in understanding and implementing this concept. I was starting to catch feelings for a hookup because I hadn’t been intimate with anyone since my ex over a year ago but as soon as I added another guy to my rotation the anxious attachment to the first guy started to fade and became a lot more manageable. Now if anyone has suggestions on how to think less about these guys or not at all as I go about my day, that would be super appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:16 AM
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I am not like other women...I am a conglomeration of all existing women in a massive hive mind bent on the destruction of the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:11 AM
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This cracked me up 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:40 AM
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I am so thoroughly disgusted and traumatized from reading that and yet I couldn’t not read all of it. I had to teach my ex how to properly wash his ass and that’s one of the reasons he’s my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:25 AM
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Whenever I visited my in-laws I noticed that my ex would just leave his plate on the table after eating and expect his mom or sisters to take it to the sink and wash it. They also cooked all the food and would carry it to him in his room if he didn’t want to come out and mingle with people because he was stoned and watching TV. His dad expected the same from the women but at least he busted his ass working and gave them all the money they wanted. Can’t say the same for his son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:49 AM
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This reminds me so much of my marriage with my ex-husband! I’m so glad you’re out of that situation. I also became angry and critical because there was no winning. If I didn’t clean it was a problem, if I asked for help I was nagging, if I cleaned and was grumpy about it I was “mad at him for no reason”. He sat on his ass in front of the TV smoking weed all day after working only part time (literally home by 11am) and had the audacity to complain that I didn’t do enough housework or didn’t cook …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:42 AM
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Womyn give me life, I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:16 AM
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Yes to all of this!! I recently started dating after separating from my husband about a year ago and I’m so glad I found this group. I’m trying to remind myself that all my LVM relationships were lessons learned and my standards are much higher now because I know my worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:15 AM
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I’ve noticed that I often do this automatically. I definitely am hyper-aware of the male gaze and in the middle of wanting to be noticed realize what I’m thinking and get really frustrated/disgusted with myself for craving the attention. Anyone have tips on how to deprogram my brain??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:10 AM
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I feel this so much. I ended up getting married in my mid twenties because I felt like I “had to” or I’d be a disappointment to my family. Luckily I divorced him before we had any kids. And also lucky that my family supported that decision because they also saw how LV he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:52 PM
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Are you...me?? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:49 PM
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This sounds like an anxious attachment style and I did this a lot before I got married and am noticing it happen again now that I’m back to dating. It’s so frustrating!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:03 PM
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I was told to stay out of the sun since age 5 and given skin bleaching cream at age 8 because who would want to marry a dark skinned girl? 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:49 PM
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