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5

If she's bringing it up now, she's been telling her friends and family this for months. Right out of the playbook
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 10:53 PM
27

"New phone who dis?"
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:27 PM
8

I'm happier without my X. My kids thrown into the chaos of it all made me depressed.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 08:33 PM
4

Same story with me basically, but she hit me with two attempted restraining orders to get me out of the house (which were both denied by the court).
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 10:41 PM
9

Yup, there's a reason that a man going through a divorce is like 8 times more likely to kill themselves than a woman, even when corrected for normal gender based suicide statistics.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 08:55 PM
6

It's communal property so no, but beware of the fake call to the police accusing you of dv so that you're forced out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 12:03 AM
5

Feeling this. All I want is a tree with my mom's homemade decorations. Luckily I was able to grab them on my way out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 11:53 PM
15

If You're getting hit with divorce papers today, your wife has been plotting it for 6 months or more. I knew mine was comming because a few months before, my daughter spilled the beans that my wife and her mom had been scheming.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 05:07 PM
9

So glad I no longer have to solve an unsolvable puzzle.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 05:28 PM
1

Millstone -> Neck -> Sea
/r/MensRights06/07/24 03:24 PM
7

"Conservatives" and Republicans are not your friend
/r/MensRights20/06/24 10:42 PM
8

The old Kafka-trap
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:07 AM
3

Excellent excellent, now what do biologists say about BMI and longevity?
/r/MensRights02/06/24 08:23 PM
34

But don't forget the "emotional labor" they all have to do!
/r/MensRights01/06/24 02:04 PM
18

Saw this this morning on CNN and I'm surprised they bothered reporting on this. It needs to come to light.
/r/MensRights30/05/24 03:58 PM
2

Going on 2 years and no end in sight
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 11:29 PM
1

The first few months were the hardest for me. Take care of yourself. Get involved with a group, work out, get a hobby. Sound mind, sound body, sound spirit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 10:15 PM
6

Why are you renting out so much space in your mind to her?
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 09:01 PM
8

Dodging accountability like usual. Ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 10:44 PM
5

I am without my family today too, I feel you man. One and a half years of custody battle but the end is in sight. DM me if you need to talk to someone who understands.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 09:21 PM
8

I wasn't really into church much before. I'd go maybe once every few months. After the divorce started I showed up at church, and one of the deacons must have sensed I was sad. He invited me over to him and his wife's house for dinner. A year and half later, they've become my surrogate mom and dad, and have literally saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 04:59 AM
7

Yup, calm stoicism is the best response. The more you get upset the more ammunition she has.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:33 PM
13

They all play from the same playbook
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 04:32 PM
5

This. Watch out for the fake dv report to get the police to do her dirty work for her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 06:58 PM
15

Return to your own house with a locksmith. When you do, record everything. Beware the fake domestic violence restraining order to force you out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 06:42 PM
27

Called the police and told them she "had a restraining order against me and I was trying to kill her". Both lies. I was sitting on the couch watching youtube at the time. Cop cars drive up on my lawn and storm my house and drag me out. Guns drawn, dogs, the whole nine yards. I didn't know what the fuck was happening. Scariest night of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 02:49 PM
1

This would be such great news. WRT the bedroom you mean it was never about me you were just never really into penis in the first place, what a relief.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 07:53 PM
9

I can spend the whole day cleaning and no one comes home and says "it's still dirty". Feels good man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 08:00 PM
7

Woot, no more alimony. Also fine, let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 07:58 PM
7

It's gonna happen whether you got the balls or not. Best to be proactive here.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 08:07 PM
3

Well if you ever want to talk, DM me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 11:44 PM
3

Thanks. I press on. Being a perpetual victim is something my Ex does.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 11:38 PM
3

I'm going through this too. A year plus in, not even temp orders yet. Custody evaluation ongoing. 3 daughters have been severely alienated but now Ex is playing nice for the evaluator.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 11:34 PM
4

Married 16 years, I am a year or so into a very vicious divorce. I hear you man.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 05:08 AM
2

My wife did this to me, though I wasn't reading her messages or anything. Nothing happened to her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:47 AM
10

They all play from the same play book.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 03:41 PM
27

Calling it now, 3 months probation
/r/MensRights09/02/24 03:21 PM
5

The most important thing is to stay calm and cool at all times, don't give her an excuse.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 05:11 AM
6

my X tried this on me too. Changed the locks, filed a fake domestic violence restraining order that was denied by the court, police said I could return to my own house whenever I wanted with a locksmith.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 05:01 AM
12

Is your name on the lease? She can't legally kick you out of your own home without a court order.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 04:54 AM
5

Lol yes, when my mother in law sat me down and did a huge star chart thing where she had to make sure my star sign and her daughter's star sign was compatible.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 09:28 PM
6

She wants the advantages of being married (money) without having to be married. Bingo, my X is the same way.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 05:18 PM
8

Stop paying for her vehicle. File the papers. She wants the financial benefit of being married to you without the actual marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 05:17 PM
6

The house with a big backyard and me cooking for my wife and kids.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 06:02 PM
5

One day at a time. I started dating my wife when we were 17. Got married at 22. Married 16 years. I never learned how to be single as an adult. A year in and I'm still figuring it out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 02:43 AM
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And I'm sure she owned up to it that she is responsible for half the problems that caused the relationship to fail, right?
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 02:55 AM
10

Yep, she and her husband Noah Baumbach cowrote, so they'd share the Oscar if they won. Her movie "Lady Bird" was also nominated for 6 Academy Awards a few years ago. Gerwig is well respected and at the top of the profession. Its silly that folks are saying she is not respected as a woman director/writer.
/r/MensRights27/01/24 03:12 PM
9

He is Kenough
/r/MensRights25/01/24 02:34 AM
3

Over a year in myself. It's a war of attrition.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 06:30 PM
2

Going through this now. Ex has worked hard to make sure kids are thoroughly alienated from me. It's the worst thing I've ever been through.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 06:23 PM
2

"But other than that Mrs. Lincoln how was the play?" Dude fantastic moms don't endanger the lives of their kids. Call the police next time you know she's driving drunk with the kids. Request soberlink in the divorce decree.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 02:10 AM
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Me and my friends got drunk, played Dungeons and Dragons, watched Star Wars, and smoked cigars. It was perfect.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 02:03 AM
4

I begged my ex wife to go to couples therapy with me. She never did. I was supposed to go to my own therapy to fix myself.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 09:06 PM
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They'll soon think their boyfriend or husband are terrible people too when they break up, "they were always closet narcissists my therapist said so".
/r/MensRights20/01/24 04:10 PM
7

Laughs in Queen Victoria
/r/MensRights20/01/24 02:17 AM
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Going through this too right now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 02:32 AM
2

I have. The restraining order was never granted. It's still pending. I get Saturdays.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:43 AM
2

The court has deferred on it for a year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:17 AM
2

Still "pending" ....after a year
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:11 AM
14

Go fight hard. Take this seriously. My ex wife did this and my life has been fucked for the past year.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:52 PM
9

So glad some of this DEI nonsense is starting to be dismantled.
/r/MensRights12/01/24 06:03 AM
17

When you're told over and over that you're shit and you are the problem with society, why not drop out of it?
/r/MensRights11/01/24 07:33 PM
4

Expect absolute hell.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 05:48 AM
13

It won't mean anything in court. But holy hell, your father is also a piece of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 04:31 PM
5

If I ever hit the PowerBall I'm starting a foundation for this purpose.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:47 PM
2

Healthy mind, healthy body, healthy spirit. One suffers then they all suffer. I don't even work out per say, I just walk on the treadmill for a while listening to music or watching something. Gives me a sense of accomplishment for the day.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 06:41 PM
6

Stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:56 PM
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Fine, let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:27 PM
15

Just break it off, why on earth would you pay hundreds or thousands of dollars for couples therapy when she's already checked out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 04:10 AM
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Nope, if she wants she can leave.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 11:27 PM
4

Gym, therapy, and a men's group.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 12:25 AM
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I lost everything too, even the dogs. I was planning to hang myself on St Patrick's day this year. A email from a friend saved my life. I'm glad I didn't though I'm not out of the woods yet. Put one foot in front of the other. Make a list of small accomplishments you can do every day and accomplish them and check them off as you do. Get involved with a men's group, I got a connected with a men's group at a church. Masons, Oddfellows, Elks etc are also all great. Start working out. Healthy mind, …
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 08:39 PM
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a few months probation at most, and the younger brother will have to pay child support.
/r/MensRights20/12/23 04:16 AM
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My ex wife also tried to swat me with the police....twice.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 02:24 AM
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basically every western institution favors women.
/r/MensRights10/12/23 04:33 AM
7

When someone files for divorce, usually there's an injunction also filed that prevents one party from altering the insurance status quo until after the divorce is finalized.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:32 AM
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This sub made me feel not so alone. Thanks all.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:35 PM
5

But Leo dumps a girl when she turns 25 and everyone loses their minds. If you are a 20 year old man and you want to date Hanoi Jane, more power to you.
/r/MensRights02/12/23 02:10 AM
4

Living this too right now
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 10:38 PM
1

Sorry for your loss. So much for the "abortion is a tragic but necessary choice" lie that gets peddled.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 08:42 PM
35

Sometimes I wonder what these women are on
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 02:33 PM
2

Relationship sure, marriage hell no.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 11:55 PM
6

Tale as old as time. Stay calm and collected. Worst thing to do is lose your shit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 11:43 PM
3

Ignorance and hatred. By basically every measure, men have it worse.
/r/MensRights23/11/23 04:02 PM
3

Anyone needs a ear to bend DM me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 03:47 AM
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I was there too about 6 months ago, my divorce is pending, awaiting final decree. I was going to do myself in on St. Patricks Day. A email from my lawyer saved my life. DM me if you need to talk.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 04:25 PM
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I'm glad you're still here. I was going to do myself in about 6 months ago. A simple email from my lawyer saved my life. I am glad I'm still here. DM me if you need to bend the ear of someone who knows what you're going through.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 09:02 PM
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Lol sounds like you're wise.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 01:21 AM
12

I miss the sweet woman I married not the screeching harpy I divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 02:55 AM
17

Whatever benefit to marriage there was in the past, that benefit no longer exists.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 07:44 PM
3

Yup, beware incoming fake restraining order
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 07:58 PM
1

I'd want to know. Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 07:58 PM
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Yes partly. There were plenty of red flags even before we got married that I saw and didn't care enough, ignored, or missed completely. I own up to that.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 05:21 PM
1

Sounds good, will do.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 04:28 PM
11

About a year in. False abuse claims, domestic violence restraining orders, supervised visits, the whole 9 yards.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:08 AM
3

Celebrate.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 03:54 AM
2

Any home security camera, you can get them on the cheap on Amazon.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:18 PM
10

It might already be too late, if the judge grants the order, you're leaving. If its denied, get ready for hell in the house. Set up cameras, record every interaction, move out of the bedroom and sleep on the couch, don't leave your phone or laptop around and change all the passwords. My X tried this with me when I refused to leave the house. Her order request was denied. She subsequently tried to swat me with the police TWICE. Most importantly keep calm and cool, don't let yourself get baited in…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 02:35 PM
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Yup prepare to have the entire history of your marriage rewritten. She was always miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 09:19 PM
2

If I pay alimony for my wife to maintain her standard of living she would have to come to my house and cook and clean so I can maintain my standard of living
/r/MensRights01/11/23 09:04 PM
3

Going through a brutal divorce over the past year, had some days where I seriously considered self deleting. Sometimes the only thing keeping me alive is spite. If I kill myself my bitch of an X will going around telling everyone she was justified in calling me a head case all this time. I'm not giving her that pleasure.
/r/MensRights01/11/23 09:00 PM
3

I regret staying and trying to make it work for 5 years too long.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:30 PM
4

Celebrate, seriously though. I started dating my wife when we were 17. I'm 37 now. I've never been single as an adult and I'm learning it right now.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 10:55 PM
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You cant. You can be cordial but not friends.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 03:40 PM
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The reason women tend to make less on average is because they choose to work less hours and opt in to lower paying jobs. To protest this the PM is taking the day off. Shouldn't she work overtime today in protest?
/r/MensRights24/10/23 02:06 PM
5

Grieve the loss, then move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:45 PM
1

If you have feelings that you need to talk about, share them with the bros.
/r/MensRights21/10/23 09:47 PM
10

Stoicism is great practice. The obstacle is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 08:32 PM
2

If any of you want someone to talk to, dm me.
/r/MensRights21/10/23 05:26 PM
7

It's said that when your rebound ends you end up in more pain than when the original relation ends.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 05:08 PM
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She's with someone else, no question
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 02:33 PM
3

Same man. Looking back I saw the red flags but I was too cowardly to do anything about it then, now I'm suffering because of weakness back then.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:38 PM
8

That's my biggest piece of advice for someone going through same thing. Stay cool collected at all costs. Be mellow yellow.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 07:34 PM
13

Ex filed for divorce and ran off with the kids for 3 weeks. She came back with the kids and we resided together for about two months. Grey rocked her for that time. She petitioned the court to kick me out, denied. Filed fake RO, denied. She then called the police one night and said I was threatening her, and "breaking in" and she had a restraining order against me (all lies). Police came and drove up on my lawn and forced me out of my house at gun point with dogs. They went in and talked to her …
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 03:27 PM
3

Met a few guys online going through brutal divorces like me. I text them to check in.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 09:35 PM
8

I hope Zale's, Jared, Devon's, et al, also die in bankruptcy. They started a new marketing campaign where you're supposed to buy a diamond for your friend. Lol, rot in hell diamond industry.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 01:50 AM
2

Almost like there's nothing wrong with teens working out their emotional issues normally and naturally with the support of parents and peers without meddling by psychobabbling headshrinkers.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 04:01 PM
3

I wish I got out 5 years ago
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 04:15 AM
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5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 02:26 AM
1

My situation is similar to yours. I got put on supervised visits, I was able to claw back unsupervised Saturdays a few months ago. Going back for more in a few weeks. Kids are alienated against me by my lying bitch of an X. She called the cops on me.... multiple times. Each time I was calm and collected. Finally she called them and said she had a restraining order against me (complete lie). And they came rolling up on my yard with dogs and guns drawn and dragged me out of the house in front of m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 01:27 AM
1

Prepare to have your kids completely alienated against you. Her telling them "We had to leave because daddy was going to hurt us..." etc.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 01:10 AM
2

Lol oh it happened a lot more than one day ha
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 06:41 PM
2

Coming home to her sobbing on the floor is something I won't miss.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 06:39 PM
3

No more coming home to an angry bipolar harpy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 06:09 PM
7

Chances are low. I am also going through divorce with special needs kids. It's hell. Good luck. Dm me if you need to talk.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 06:38 PM
14

She'll be divorced again soon once his balls drop.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 01:18 AM
10

How will I ever know how to clean and put away the dishes without a angry harpy telling me I did it wrong?
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 03:13 PM
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9 months in, I am still having nightmares pretty regularly, but they're getting less frequent. Hang on man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 07:12 PM
2

Yup, I married a lunatic. She denies all my calls trying to talk to my kids. Even during my supposed unsupervised time she hovers in the parking lot wherever my kids and I go and follows us around. Lawyer said to record everything and bring it to court next time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:14 PM
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Ex wife filed fake restraining orders, which were denied but I was given supervised visits until the next court hearing, then I was able to claw back unsupervised Saturdays but no overnights, court has been postponed 3 times because my wife says she's sick, or her lawyer requested... The shitshow has taken 9 months so far.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:10 PM
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Same. I am suffering too. Been 9 months for me with barely any contact with my kids. Here's hoping for brighter days.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 08:42 PM
2

I'll talk to you, dm me. I am in the process to. 9 months in and still no end in sight.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 01:46 AM
5

A gym membership, talk therapy, and a men's group at church.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 07:22 PM
3

I don't know how I've been dealing with it. I hold out hope that things will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 01:06 PM
1

9 months in here, I still have nightmares a few times a week or more.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 08:33 PM
2

Call frequently and try to get to them on holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 04:54 PM
4

Man I'm sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 03:14 PM
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When you've spent tens of thousands of dollars, and your kids go from saying and texting I love you and miss you every day to I hate you and I don't want to see you anymore, you start to wonder if its worth continuing to drag them through a brutal civil war.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 03:38 AM
1

Someone nonexistant lol.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 10:40 PM
1

I have documented evidence and recordings made by a third party supervisor or my ex wife's lying to the kids parental alienation and the like. Court hasn't given a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:28 PM
0

Yup, there even told me as much. It's all my fault "Mommy said so".
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 07:14 PM
1

This is also my hell. 9 months ago when this started the kids would be texting me hearts and I love yous all day when i was at work. Now they hate me and tell me they never want to see me. Sucks man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 06:40 PM
3

Yes, my did 150 for a 30 minute consult.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 08:00 PM
1

"No". Set up cameras now and keep a recorder on you for all interactions. The fake DV restraining order is coming.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 03:00 AM
2

Keep pushing on. I am 8 months in. I still have those thoughts but its not as severe as it was in the first couple of months. I am in my own place and fighting to see my kids again. DM me if you want to talk.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 10:46 PM
3

the biggest mistake I think I made was thinking that because we are both Christians that we would be able to weather the storms that all couples have. This is almost made it worse for me. We got married in a very traditional Christian wedding, (Anglican Church, BCP 1928)
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 01:11 AM
7

Take it. Jesus Christ, I wish I got a deal like this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 02:35 AM
7

"women have always been the primary victims of war."
/r/MensRights31/08/23 02:30 AM
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That's also why all the false domestic violence accusations and restraining order petitions. If it gives an upper hand they will use it, no risk, high reward. My ex has been caught lying multiple times. Nothing as of yet has happened to her for lying.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 07:00 PM
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I read that in general men marry women expecting them not to change, and women marry men expecting to change them.
/r/MensRights29/08/23 12:27 AM
1

I think you are correct.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 08:06 PM
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Whatever benefit that marriage bestowed on people in society, those benefits are largely gone. Hundreds of years ago, if you were a woman, the only way you could secure your life was by marrying a man with money or skills. You couldn't really work on your own unless you were a teacher or nurse. As a man, you had to get married to have your children be raised and educated. As society has progressed marriage largely doesn't accomplish these goals anymore for the man or the woman.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 07:29 PM
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"But I didn't know that Hugh Hefner was a lecherous old pornographer before I married him!"
/r/MensRights27/08/23 09:54 PM
6

You came to the right place
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 04:24 PM
1

In general she believes she is entirely entitled to everything, house, kids, and money.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 08:28 PM
2

That's good to hear. My wife is trying to get full custody too, we have court next week
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:26 PM
3

My spouse did much the same thing although the restraining order was denied. How did things turn out for you with regard to custody?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 05:27 PM
7

I refused to move out when my wife told me to leave. She ended up claiming domestic violence and calling the police and trying to swat me from the house.... twice. Both times the police saw that she was full of shit so they let me stay, no arrests or anything. She still filed DVRO paper work that was denied by the judge. She then fired her lawyer for not "Fighting hard enough" for her. She then left the house on her own and I've stayed for a few months. Since I couldn't afford the house anyway, …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 04:16 AM
2

I am suffering too. Every day talking myself out of taking an early check out.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:54 AM
2

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 11:11 PM
16

Bring back gender segregated education.
/r/MensRights22/08/23 09:47 PM
25

They ask to be pleased but make themselves fundamentally unable to be pleased.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 06:07 PM
65

It gets easier with time. I'm 8 months in. Honestly it's nice when I clean the home no one comes in and says "it's still dirty" like my X used to.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 04:39 PM
8

He'll eventually break if off with his Sancha and it will probably be even more painful than the divorce itself.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:57 PM
12

Ignore her. Grey rock technique. Have cameras or recorders in the house to record every interaction. Beware the incoming fake domestic violence accusation.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:08 PM
26

Being here over the last 8 months, reading the same story again and again, living it myself.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 04:54 PM
4

Yep, OP let the enemy see your troop positions before battle. Get out ahead of it now, OP. Beware the woman going into divorce fake domestic violence restraining order tactic.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 06:52 PM
35

Lawyer up. File for divorce. Once the divorce is finalized send the evidence to her HR department.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 02:46 PM
1

Thanks man. This sub and you all have been great.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 11:50 PM
1

Yeah I'm not hopeful the court will issue any consequences for her multiple false police reports and attempts to harm me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:42 PM
2

Jesus man, sorry to hear. Sounds similar to me but the police talked to my wife and found out she's full of shit and released me (with about as close to an apology as I've ever gotten from a cop). No actual arrest made.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:06 PM
1

How did it turn out for you?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 09:12 PM
5

The name of my life for the past 8 months has been suffering and pain. My bitch X filed everything in the play book. Domestic violence restraining orders, etc. Called the police on me twice. Both to no avail, and dv ro denied. Have you ever had 10 cops point guns at you with dogs and get handcuffed and shoved in the back of a squad car only to have them come release you a hour later with an apology when they found out your X is full of shit? I have.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 08:55 PM
1

If she was standing on a bridge I'd tell her to do a flip.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 06:21 PM
1

Thanks for the encouragement. The only way out is through.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 06:14 PM
20

Sorry that happened to you. Note there's no such thing as "love of my life" or "soul mates" or "the one" etc. That's a false bill of goods sold to us by modern Disney culture.
/r/MensRights17/08/23 01:41 PM
9

Working on my happiness. Once I get my kids back I'll be a lot happier.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:27 AM
15

I won't be able to afford to re fi and give her half the equity. But that was never my goal. My goal was to prevent HER from staying in the house MY parents bought for us, and I did that. So I am fine with selling now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:14 AM
12

I filed a police report for the AC unit. I doubt anything will come of it. We go back to court in a few weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:13 AM
8

We own nothing together, no joint bank accounts, no house and no kids she doesn't even have my last name. consider yourself very lucky.
/r/MensRights17/08/23 04:04 AM
4

Alimony is remnant from the past when women needed a man to live. It's archaic today.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 10:56 PM
5

r/custody too, largely "tell me how to screw my narcissist ex husband out of custody."
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 09:52 PM
9

Got banned permanently for telling men about this sub.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 07:39 PM
3

Much like the pirate's code, the rules there are more like guidelines.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 07:38 PM
6

This is a gun pointed towards your head, and there's an emotional bullet in every chamber.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:09 AM
20

Headline: 20% of all suicides last year were women, public health crisis declared.
/r/MensRights12/08/23 04:05 AM
2

Pretty good for a home business. She pulled in about 38K last year.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 05:03 PM
16

Tale as old as time My wife claimed this too. My wife had her own bank account with her own business money in it that I never even asked about because I never cared what she did with her own money. We had the joint account that I paid mortgage and bills with that my paycheck got direct deposited into. Whatever was left over after mortgage and bills was what was both of ours at the end of the month. The only money deposited into the joint account was my paycheck. My wife accused me of "stealing m…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 04:21 PM
3

She has a Sancho, no question.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 09:47 PM
3

Yup, had no idea there was even a problem. When I walk in, I get asked that by my kids. Apparently my wife would spend some of her day on the floor sobbing and then blaming me when my kids asked her what was wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 12:31 AM
21

Feminism should be about equal rights. If women can abdicate all responsibility for a child then men should have the same right.
/r/MensRights06/08/23 04:12 PM
16

Yup, her emotions were always my responsibility. She'd even tell the kids this. "Daddy why did you give mommy a panic attack?" and the like.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 02:58 PM
3

As someone fighting hard to get any time with my kids at all, this post enrages me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 11:53 PM
5

This gives me hope. You rock man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 11:25 PM
1

Divorce/custody battle turns everyone in armchair psychologists.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:46 PM
10

Sure, just no marriage contracts please.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 02:22 PM
8

Why couldn't she have killed herself instead of Bourdain.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 02:59 PM
19

Their worldview is strangely religious and spiritual. Like we are all gender neutral spirit babies who get incarnated into fleshly prisons. I was not "born into a male body". I am a male body and I have been since conception.
/r/MensRights31/07/23 10:23 PM
6

A man raised by a single mother should be less violent then a man raised by both a mother and father then correct?
/r/MensRights31/07/23 10:20 PM
34

But they've grown accustomed to their high calorie diets and need continued financial help to maintain those diets.
/r/MensRights31/07/23 09:19 PM
10

She and other women, whose ex-husbands want to relieve themselves of sometimes decades-old divorce settlements, say they have been harassed on social media, described as “alimony leeches” and publicly fat-shamed. Lol, fat leeches.
/r/MensRights31/07/23 08:45 PM
2

I've been wearing a coat and tie to court. I have a beard and long hair. I've been wondering if I should get a haircut and shave. But over the past seven months I've seen chuds show up to court in flip flops, baseball caps, and sweatshirts so I think I'm ok.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 11:42 PM
5

I do alright.
/r/MensRights30/07/23 08:19 PM
2

I am glad you're alive. Your kids need their father. My X tried to swat me with the police....twice.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:33 PM
80

Ok, and "Starship Troopers" will be the new litmus test for me dating women.
/r/MensRights30/07/23 03:21 PM
19

She belong to the streets.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:46 AM
2

And the divorce lawyer leeches are against it, big surprise.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 07:21 PM
2

A gym membership, a therapist, and a mens group at church literally saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 02:15 PM
1

I won't die in the fire if I'm out of town.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 05:19 PM
3

Same here brother. Keep moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 05:02 PM
5

Same. I'm gonna get out of town for a while after my trial. I'm worried about my wife showing up and burning my house down or something.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 08:37 PM
1

No hitting needs to happen, all she needs to do is tell the court "I'm afraid of him..." and you'll be removed from your house by force of law.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 02:40 AM
1

Domestic violence restraining orders
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 01:01 PM
1

California here too. Also with twins. Wife filed multiple DVROS that were denied, but the damage was done. Kids are alienated from me. They went from texting me they loved me every day when I was at work to saying they hate me and don't want to see me anymore. Feels bad man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 12:32 AM
6

A jury trial? I've never heard of this. Imagine being selected for a jury to judge a squabbling divorcing couple.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 08:46 PM
9

I am not a supervisor, but I believe that is against the rules of supervised visits.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:55 AM
21

Just go get a hooker, no need for a loan application
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:07 AM
1

Get ready for hell. False abuse allegations.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 02:37 PM
26

emotional manipulation. Don't fall for it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 02:27 PM
11

If my wife told me she's suicidal I'd be tempted to tell her to do a flip on the way down
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 08:57 PM
1

Ignore it or just tell her to go get help. Nothing else you can do.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 08:54 PM
2

Can confirm, 6 months into my wife doing the same thing. I'm in hell.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 02:42 PM
2

My wife did much the same. Told the judge she went to a woman's shelter and then a abused woman's charity put her up in an apartment. I am baffled by what she could have told them. Never even so much as raised my voice at her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 02:41 PM
2

We have the same x?
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 11:47 PM
8

What, doesn't your child require 130 thousand dollars in food and clothes and stuff every month?
/r/MensRights16/07/23 11:33 PM
2

Yeah I hear that. I am going through hell right now too. If you need someone to listen or talk to, feel free to DM me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 03:37 PM
3

A therapist, a gym membership, and a men's group at church.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 03:06 PM
0

When someone serves you humble pie, why do you keep going back for seconds?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 02:59 PM
2

Does he have any custody? Petition the court to bar her from moving out of state with the kids.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 02:03 PM
1

I don't hate her. I hate myself for not seeing the writing in the wall 5 years ago. Could have saved myself a huge amount of pain if I had broken it off then.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 05:42 PM
3

Let's see who she calls when her water heater breaks.
/r/MensRights12/07/23 01:11 PM
2

I'm shocked I tell you, shocked.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:44 PM
2

And your wife, has she accepted any accountability for the breakdown of the relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:22 PM
2

"Your tears say more than real evidence ever could."
/r/MensRights10/07/23 03:44 AM
1

Yes, women will frequently tell the court "I'm scared of him...." and then you'll be legally bound from contacting her or your kids for a set amount of time.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 02:57 AM
1

File first. Strike hard and fast before she hits you with a protective order. Once that happens you're screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 01:57 AM
1

Are you still with us, bro?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 08:15 PM
6

Join a men's only group. Masons, Oddfellow, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 07:16 PM
29

Yup, welcome to the worlds worst club.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:23 AM
10

I'm planning on getting a truck and a dog. I think I'll be alot happier.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 02:07 AM
7

The feeling's mutual.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 02:36 AM
23

No bitch is worth dying over. Win your custody of your child, and be a good dad.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 11:11 PM
2

Is divorced and living together until kids graduated a bad idea? Separate bedrooms/floors. Yes that's a bad idea. Better for the kids to split and be happy separately.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 09:19 PM
2

Is there a custody or visitation order in place from the court? If not there's nothing really he can do pending a court filing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 04:36 PM
2

That time you accidentally bumped into her leg with the shopping cart at Walmart? my X said this exact same thing, only it was Home Depot.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:40 PM
5

Get a recorder because a fake restraining order is coming.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:38 PM
7

🤡
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 10:02 PM
5

When someone's serving you humble pie, why do you keep going back for seconds?
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 10:01 PM
86

A strong independent woman who suddenly can't survive without my cash money.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:35 AM
7

Yup. The amount of people my X cut out of her life is a long list, I am just next on it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 11:40 PM
2

If he's good to your kids then who cares. Let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 08:11 PM
3

Her attorney probably advised her to do this. False dv/abuse claims are now part of the gamesmanship of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 10:12 PM
8

"Yes I know the risks, but that won't happen to me!"
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 02:45 PM
8

I'm thinking if you're just sitting in the hospital waiting to die, write letters about everything you could think of. Love, politics, family, lawn care, music, movies. Whatever. I would love to have a letter just about my dad's favorite movies. I'd read it again and again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 09:57 PM
14

Use this time to write letters to your children then give them to a trusted family or friend to give them to your kids when they're old enough. Your sons will treasure them.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:57 PM
1

Leave and get to a safe space and then call a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:39 PM
4

A therapist, a men's group, and a gym membership.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 04:08 PM
4

I've seen my daughters a handful of times in the past 6 months. Going to court in a few weeks, here's hoping.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 02:44 PM
30

Calling it now. A few years probation and a suspended sentence.
/r/MensRights29/06/23 02:53 AM
2

My wife left with the kids and tried to go to the abused woman's shelter.... they wouldn't let her stay there because she wasn't being abused, lol.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 10:41 PM
3

Block her on Facebook, then get a therapist and a gym membership
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 08:15 PM
20

About 2 or 3 years ago my wife and I were at Home Depot. I accidentally hit her foot with the cart. And I apparently wasn't apologetic enough. She brought this up in court as evidence that I'm an abuser.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 12:30 PM
1

Yup, this is a game of chess.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:39 AM
2

This gives me hope, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:26 AM
1

Took it off the day I got served papers (Valentines day this year). I've since lost it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:24 AM
4

Get a dog
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 10:29 PM
10

Pathetically begged her to not leave me a year and half ago when she said she didn't love me anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 01:25 AM
14

Keep moving forward and becoming a better man.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 09:57 PM
3

but she said my mistakes are forgivable Wow, what a saintly person! Has she said anything about her own accountability for the relationship issues?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 06:13 PM
2

Tale as old as time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 07:56 PM
20

The fruits of parental alienation. I am dealing with this too.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 07:37 PM
22

Women who get a divorce are like the dog that caught the car. They got what they wanted and now don't know what to do and are still pissed off.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 03:14 AM
15

Well, how does he expect her to survive off a measly 250k a month?
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 04:56 PM
0

File first.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 02:46 PM
2

Get attached to a men's group. I joined a church men's group. That works for me. It doesn't have to be a church, consider something like Masons or Elks Club.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 05:16 PM
2

Rebuilding by Dr Bruce Fisher
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 05:15 PM
9

Well, how is he supposed to expect her to live on a measly 248k a month?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 03:01 AM
22

I've learned there's a difference in how men and women perceive truth. For men truth is the objective reality underpinning all things. For women it's the sum total of their emotional experiences. It doesn't matter he is blind. Her emotional experience constitutes the truth of the matter.
/r/MensRights21/06/23 08:01 PM
2

Yup, everyone says their X is a narcissist. There just aren't that many clinical narcissists out there. Sometimes someone is just a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 06:43 PM
4

How many pots did he have to break to collect that many rupees.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 03:48 PM
45

Most therapists these days
/r/MensRights20/06/23 10:18 PM
6

All the more reason, I surrendered a lot of my friendships when I got married. Now I am building up new friends on my own.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 06:05 PM
2

Thank you, the viscious pain has become a dull ache, with good and bad days. I have a good family and friends.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 04:53 PM
2

Excellent.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 04:30 PM
6

Do you have good male friends?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 03:33 PM
10

Stay the course, you're going to be glad you kept 5050.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 02:30 AM
2

Putting one foot in front of the other, no longer want to kill myself. At least I don't think I do. So I got that going for me which is nice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 02:13 AM
1

All too common for alcoholics. Lots relapse because their friend or family member encourages them to drink again.
/r/MensRights19/06/23 10:01 PM
2

6 months in right now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 07:51 PM
4

Yup, if you're not happy alone and you seek happiness in another person then you're setting yourself up for pain. Learn to be happy alone and then seek someone to share it. That's what I'm doing right now. It ain't easy but I hope it's going to be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 07:37 PM
1

Lawyer up
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 07:13 PM
4

Yup, beware the rebound. If you don't do the work to become whole after your divorce and you jump into a new relationship to rebound, your just putting a band aid on the wounds without cleaning them. The result will be an even more painful situation. In "Rebuilding", Dr. Bruce Fisher talks about people going through the program feeling worse when their rebound ends than when their marriage ends.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 06:04 PM
3

Dinner inquisition where you get to confess to all your crimes and she gets to stroke her ego. I really hope my X invites me for a dinner marriage post mortem so I can tell her to fuck right off.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:40 PM
3

What a cop out. You get to confess to all your crimes and she gets to say an "I'm not perfect" platitude.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:30 PM
2

And what did she say about her own accountability for the marriage failing?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:11 PM
1

She's losing and she's desperate. She had it in her head that you'd be screwed and she'd get everything.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:21 PM
3

Grey rock mode. Only communicate via text. Don't take the bait when she tries to bait you into fights. Get a recorder and record every interaction. Beware of phony claims of DV to get false restraining orders to boot you from the house. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 02:34 AM
1

My STBXW did this to me, tried to swat me with the police, scariest night of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 11:06 PM
1

Internet/phone companies generally don't cough up records in civil cases. There needs to be a suspicion of a crime, eg. A criminal warrant.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 09:39 PM
4

It will get better, I'm 6 months in and the pain has become sorta dull ache.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:03 AM
8

To laugh often and much: To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded. -(Ralph Waldo Emmerson)
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 12:49 AM
10

You're not alone. I'm suffering too. Putting one foot in front of the other. Dm me if you need to talk.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 11:49 PM
1

Inane deepities. My ex is full of them too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 08:22 PM
4

My STbXW is pulling this sob story too, "oh no I'm a stay at home mom who is homeschooling I can't work boo hoo". Our kids are school age put them back in school and get a real job, parasite.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:25 PM
3

Kids deserve equal access to both parents. Yes, go for 5050.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:24 PM
5

Who cares about her feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 05:56 PM
2

Rebuilding by Dr. Bruce Fisher
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:04 AM
6

Imagine a group of people jumped out of a plane and 50 percent of their parachutes didn't open, then you go to the group that landed safely and ask them if jumping out of a plane was really that bad.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 11:23 PM
18

Enticement to Suicide is a felony level crime in most US states.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 09:31 PM
3

Date? Sure. Marry? Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:35 PM
2

She wants that meal ticket with CS.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 06:34 PM
3

"I like fell on a bullet and it like drove itself into my gut." -Snake, The Simpsons.
/r/MensRights13/06/23 06:31 PM
1

Let Sancho pay for the abortion.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:34 AM
5

And be disappointed again? No thanks. She was not exactly generous in the bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:37 AM
2

Lol, no.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 03:46 AM
5

Nothing new under the sun
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:16 PM
6

Same, my family despised my wife. Now that the garbage took itself out, my family and I are back on good terms.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:02 PM
2

Join a men's club. I joined a men's group at church. It doesn't have to be a church through, consider the Masons, Elks, Moose, Oddfellows etc, or a service club like Rotary or Kiwanis.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:02 PM
3

"We just want equality!"
/r/MensRights11/06/23 02:59 PM
7

CPS just loves it when they are weaponized by women in a divorce proceeding.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 02:59 AM
8

proving that premature death of men is not inevitable. More recently, the lifespan gender gap has grown back to nearly six years due to factors such as disproportionately high “Deaths of Despair” among men from suicide, alcohol, and drugs. Yes, finally.
/r/MensRights10/06/23 03:29 AM
1

My wife schemed and plotted for almost a year.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:23 PM
3

The majority of homeless people are men. Also, I hope this study wasn't tax funded
/r/MensRights09/06/23 04:22 PM
5

"Soul mates", "love of my life", "the one". All lies.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:18 PM
12

She told me she didn't love me and she was only staying with me because it "made sense", that is, I provided her a meal ticket.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:50 PM
25

If you bought it together, the court will not give a shit about who put in more. If you're in a community property state she's getting half.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:36 PM
12

Get ready for the court to not do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 02:50 AM
6

This gives me hope. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 02:48 AM
3

Move on and stop worrying about what she does
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 04:09 PM
1

And she's threatening to smear me publically in the news What a strange threat. Are you a big celebrity?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 03:59 PM
3

Give it a few weeks I say.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 03:35 AM
3

A church men's group, a therapist, and the gym have literally saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:40 PM
1

I am suffering too. You aren't alone. DM ms. We can walk through this together.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:39 PM
74

Who cares what she thinks.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:03 PM
4

When my daughter had a relapse of her cancer back in 2018. Something died in my wife that day. Whatever emotion part of her that could connect with me turned to rage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 09:36 PM
1

I refused to move out and my wife swatted me with the police. Called in a fake 911 emergency. They arrested me and went to talk to her, once they saw that she was bullshitting they let me go and told her to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 08:16 PM
1

You are legally separated once the papers are filed. Your spouse will get served the papers and will gave a time frame to respond, 30 days in CA.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 03:18 PM
13

Leaving the house thrashed and when I cleaned and she'd come home she'd say "Its still dirty". She'd never take out the trash, she'd hide garbage bags around the house. I'd open a closet and there would be a bag of trash in there. She and her mom were fuckin convinced they were Cherokee or something. They got a 23 and Me to determine just how much Cherokee they had. Zip, zilch, nada, not a drop of native blood. Pure white English/German. They said the test was wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 09:49 PM
2

Get a lawyer. Start recording everything. Beware of the false restraining orders she will try to file on you. And don't move out of your house.
/r/MensRights03/06/23 02:15 PM
1

She's coaching them to manipulate you. What a disgusting thing to do. Kids have no business getting involved in the financial issues between parents.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 11:15 PM
8

My ex was also uh shall I say....stingy in bed. I don't miss her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 04:11 AM
3

Welcome to family court where women can do whatever they want consequence free. I tried. Filed retraining orders against her, for full custody, all denied.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:56 AM
19

I'm going to get a motorcycle instead. I think I'll be a lot happier.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 11:17 PM
1

Let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:04 PM
60

Crocodile tears meant to emotionally manipulate you to feel guilty so she can absolve herself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:03 PM
1

I mean I'm still in my house and my wife and kids are gone. So the status quo got changed anyway. Also I could have been killed by the police.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:38 PM
1

I got served on Valentines Day lol.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:00 PM
9

My wife called in a false 911 emergency to attempt to swat me with the police. Just know that there are consequences to staying and consequences to leaving.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 02:59 PM
43

Feels nice to not have to work to please someone who has made themselves fundamentally unable to be pleased.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 02:14 AM
3

Staying or leaving both have consequences. I stayed and my wife tried to swat me with the police. I'm thinking if there's a full blown threat to you and your child, you should err on the side of caution. But that's just me, do what you think is right.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 03:32 PM
13

She's a danger to herself, you, and your child. Leave now and take your daughter with you. File for divorce and for custody. She needs to get some help. But it's not your job to take her abuse constantly.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 03:17 PM
0

Thanks a lot Ronald Reagan.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 04:49 PM
10

Yup, 5 months in and my wife has kept my kids from me for this whole time, even denying court ordered visits and calls because "she's afraid of me". There's nothing on me, no cps reports, no police reports, never even so much as raised my voice to my wife or kids. That didn't matter to the court. Buckle up man, your life is about to become a cluster fuck. Stay the course and stay in your house.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 03:18 AM
13

It's parental alienation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 09:34 PM
3

Just wait and see how they feel about men once their water heater breaks.
/r/MensRights25/05/23 05:54 PM
7

Try to find a way to inform him anonymously that his wife's a skank.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 09:57 PM
1

This is the way. Learn from us.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 03:47 PM
1

A 17 year old needs an after school babysitter? Is she severely disabled?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 03:31 PM
15

My wife hid some cameras in the house before she took off with the kids too. I relocated them to the garage. She can spy on the junk in there.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 07:56 PM
7

I'm openly hoping for the government to default and collapse.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 02:29 PM
3

A men's group at church has literally saved my life
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 06:12 PM
–

Love me some Pismo Beach.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:58 PM
3

She’s already told me that I’ll only get to see my daughter for 2 weekends a month, at most, and I know she’ll work hard to turn her against me. Get that shit in writing and send it to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:58 PM
40

Divorced men are around 8 times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women. Check up on your friend daily.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:18 PM
2

A divorced man is 8 times more likely to off themselves than a divorced woman.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 06:43 PM
1

My X has stopped at nothing to remove me. Even tried to swat me with the police.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 04:42 PM
3

I'm not. Wife petitioned the court to evict me. Denied. What did you do?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 01:57 PM
3

Yup. We're in a vicious fight for custody too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:22 AM
7

I'm staying in the home. My wife and kids are at her moms house. I was cleaning the house and one of my daughters toys started going off. All the crushing emotion came flooding back. Feels bad man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:16 AM
13

What a confusing nightmare for a kid to have to think about.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 02:09 AM
2

Just what works for me. You do you. Fitness of mind, fitness of body, and fitness of spirit.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:12 PM
3

A men's group at a church has literally saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:20 PM
4

This is such great advice.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:19 PM
44

You came to the right place. You're not alone. I am going through hell right now too in much the same situation. Has she filed paperwork yet? If not try to file paperwork first. There will be a part that will prevent her from taking the kids out of state. Also request temporary orders to ensure your contact with your kids. I've been there, wrt taking an early check out. Dm me and we can do this together.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:08 PM
7

Never again. I would have been much happier with a dog and a truck. That's the direction I'm going now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 02:26 AM
24

Don't marry at all.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 11:57 PM
2

A letter?
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 07:01 PM
12

Wait until the decree is signed, then inform them anonymously.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 05:16 PM
34

Gym membership
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 05:12 PM
1

We're going on Wednesday.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:30 PM
1

That's true. I've had 4 hours of contact with my kids in three months.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:27 PM
1

What happened to you?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:19 PM
6

Way too long. My marriage was functionally over years ago, but I stayed holding out hope that things were going to get better. We men sometimes have way too much patience.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:13 PM
1

Make sure if you stay in the home, protect yourself from fake restraining orders. Take it from me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:11 PM
7

How do you suggest we fight for custody?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 09:20 PM
1

This gives me hope. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 08:52 PM
1

Yeah since I've been denied contact these past three months I've been writing my kids little notes and letters and saving them. At some point I'll give them all the letters when they're ready to have them. They probably will be pretty mad at me, I can't imagine my wife has told them many good things about me over the past few months.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 08:21 PM
1

Thank you for your prayers.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:57 PM
2

I'm not, also my family is supportive which is nice. Hitting the gym everyday, therapist, reading and Journaling.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:57 PM
1

It appears her behavior will be consequence free.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:56 PM
2

We did. Denied until hearing. Hearing is on Wednesday. Here's hoping for the best.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:55 PM
1

She's always thrived on other people's praise. She needs others to tell her how great she is.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:55 PM
2

We already did. Here's hoping for the best.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:23 PM
2

Yes. I filed with CPS. I petitioned the court for full custody, a restraining order against her, and full use of the home. I submitted pictures of the steel cage and the locks. And documentation. All of which were denied "pending hearing". Our hearing is scheduled for Wednesday. Even with everything I've filed I'm expecting to be screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:04 PM
1

My wife is a SAHM but she opted to, she has a masters degree and just has chosen not to work for the past 9 years of our 16 year marriage (I supported this over the years). She does have a moderately successful side hustle (she raked in 38k last year). I too am worried she's going to claim no income.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:54 PM
2

Yup, my daughter was in the hospital for surgery. Wife didn't permit me to come to the hospital to visit. I tried to call the day she was released so I could talk to her. Wife said I was a "horrible father" for trying to talk to my daughter on the day she got out of the hospital. Feels bad man.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 04:15 PM
10

During the marriage she was an angry person who always saw the “problem” with things, not the “solution”. During divorce, everything is my fault and I’m the evil person. You know, cause I want to be part of my child’s life. My wife said I was a "horrible father" for wanting to call and talk to my kids. Yes, I know how you feel.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 10:44 PM
9

I am in hell right now too. A gym membership, a therapist, and a mens group at church have literally saved my life. You don't have to do the same thing I did, but that's what has helped me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 07:53 PM
5

Don't get married again, you got burned twice. Don't be a glutton for punishment.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 05:06 PM
2

Your self care is now paramount. When the airplane is going down in flames, they tell you put your own oxygen mask on first. Fitness of mind, fitness of body, fitness of spirit. Those should be your priorities. A gym membership, a therapist, and a mens group at a local church saved my life literally. You don't have to do it the same way as me, but do make sure you are doing things to ensure your self care.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 04:48 PM
2

Good
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 03:43 AM
12

Bro at least you're seeing your kids at all. I've had 4 hours of contact with my kids in the last 3 months.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:16 PM
42

I sent my own mom a card and gift. My ex wife can go get her own card.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 09:02 PM
14

Run and don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 07:50 PM
1

Just find a local therapist. A psychiatrist will just push medicine on you. A therapist will actually talk with you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 06:25 PM
1

Yes, a fake RO is coming your way. Sorry man, welcome to to the club.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:37 PM
39

Lay down with dogs and you're gonna get fleas. Break it off, her problems are no longer your concern. Emotional investment in drug addicts doesn't pay back dividends.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:04 PM
32

Yes, your spouse has exploded your life and is actively dismantling your relationship with your kids, while at the same time badmouthing you to everyone you know. She's been doing it for a long time probably. Welcome to the club. Your kids still need you. Though your wife is actively poisoning them, they need to see you fighting for them. They will still get older and you will still be able to have a relationship with them. Play the long game. First, lawyer up. Second, no drinking. Third, your o…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 11:01 PM
2

Asked her to go to counseling many times. Always refused. I was to go to counseling to fix myself, never for us.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 03:43 PM
2

Can you petition the court to hold your sons passport?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:48 PM
3

Thanks. The stories on this sub help me feel not alone
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:47 PM
2

Dropped about 5 grand so far in 3 months. And we're just getting started I think.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:46 PM
1

You're not going to get half the equity in the house?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 03:42 AM
2

Thanks for getting the reference
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:44 AM
4

Observe their actions, don't listen to their words.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 05:35 PM
3

Filed request for temp restraining order against my wife, request for sole use of the home, and request sole custody.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 05:22 PM
4

This. No bitch is worth dying over.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 03:23 PM
14

My wife installed a steel cage in the house "to separate me from them". When I cut the padlock she called 911 and said I was trying to kill her. 5 police cars rolled up on my yard, guns drawn, dogs, I got cuffed and put in the back of a squad car. Police come back after 30 minutes and tell me I was justified in what I did and let me go. My wife ran to her mom's with the kids. We have court next week.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 03:18 PM
1

I could have pushed it down with a hard shove. She's not thinking clearly.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 09:28 PM
2

In progress, will update the subreddit if granted.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 08:58 PM
1

Wise. Ay at least I have some cool kids, if they ever want to speak to me again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 08:58 PM
3

I will be delighted when the lunatic barnacle removes herself from my life permanently. I have to stay and fight for my kids though.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 08:23 PM
1

I don't think she has me parenting in mind at all.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 07:05 PM
1

It was designed as a decorative gate you'd put in your yard or something.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 07:05 PM
2

Yeah she didn't do.a very good job. Screwed it right into the drywall. Not anchors or studs or anything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:58 PM
3

It's going to take some time. The damage she's done to my kids and my relationship with them has been severe
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:28 PM
3

I already did, but I am not holding out a huge amount of hope that anything will change.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:28 PM
2

How is it going for you? Yes I have a lawyer and he's been updated.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:27 PM
17

Bingo, she has a vagina which is invincible armor in the court system.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:34 PM
11

I've reported everything to the courts. Wanna bet on what the consequence will be for her for calling in a false 911 emergency?
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:17 PM
9

Don't leave your house. File for divorce but stay in your residence. If she doesn't like it she can leave.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 02:30 PM
2

You lucky duck. The trash is taking itself out.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 07:29 PM
3

Don't worry about "dick moves". You probably like me were Mr Nice Guy through your entire marriage. She doesn't care about that anymore. This is a business negotiation now. Your wife is your enemy now. File first.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 03:12 PM
12

I send a card to my own mother. My wife can buy her own card.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 04:39 AM
5

Trial separations are a terrible idea
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 11:37 PM
8

I don't know. Everyone has their own time. I foresee myself being angry for a very long time. Take it out on the iron at the gym. That's what I do and it's saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 10:14 PM
2

A phony Temporary Restraining Order is inbound from her to you. Protect yourself now by filing first, petition the court for full custody and full possession of the house. Get a recorder and keep it on you at all times when you are around her. If you're living in the same room, move out into a guest room, and change the lock on the door. Don't leave your phone or laptop lying around. Change all passwords to your accounts. And most importantly do not move out of your house. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 07:17 PM
1

My stbxw tried to murder me by cop. She's nothing to me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 04:21 PM
6

Therapy, a gym membership, and a men's group at church have literally saved my life these past few months. Also book recommendation: "Rebuilding" by Dr. Bruce Fisher. Read it. Listen to it. Work the program Dr Fisher prescribes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 06:31 PM
15

Community property means the state doesn't care who paid the down payment. Don't let her bully you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 03:29 PM
3

Keep it up, king. I too am going through hell right now. Hit the gym, therapy, mens group at church. Working on fitness of mind, fitness of body, and fitness of spirit right now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 03:23 AM
10

Yup, every issue that came up was because of me and I needed to work on it. My ex is a beleaguered angel. And she will let you know about it so you can praise her for how great she is.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 09:20 PM
11

That would have been nice. I could have gotten this over with quicker. I asked and asked my wife for marriage counseling but she always refused. She never was the one who needed to change anything. It was always me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 05:58 PM
3

Realized this with my ex. Lying doesn't even register as a lie for them because if it feels right it can't be a lie. Truth is what emotions tell them to feel in the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 01:23 PM
11

Congratulations on your retirement. Now get rid of the parasite.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 01:27 AM
3

Coming to the understanding that constantly shoving down my own needs for "Happy wife happy life" as I have done didn't result in my wife going "oh I respect you more for giving in to me". It has the opposite effect.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 11:21 PM
3

I'm going through it too. I was served divorce papers on Valentines Day this year. It's gonna forever associate it with that day in my mind. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, king. We are all walking the same path.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 08:41 PM
1

Yes! Keep moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 05:50 PM
1

Good. One foot in front of the other. That's how I'm taking things.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 05:11 PM
11

Absolute king. You give me hope for my future. I'm going through hell right now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 04:26 PM
1

How's it going today, OP?
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 07:58 PM
8

Put one foot in front of the other. Go do something. Sitting at home ruminating never helped me. Go to the gym. Go run some errands. Get something done. Hell, go to an AA meeting. Even if you're not an alcoholic, you'll never meet a more honest and real group of people. Whatever you do, don't drown your sorrow in booze.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 06:33 PM
3

Get ready for a completely rewritten and revised history of your marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 05:50 PM
10

Therapy, a gym membership, and a church men's group have literally saved my life these past few months.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 02:20 PM
10

Whichever age bracket you want.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 03:57 AM
3

Damn I haven't slept well for months.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 07:06 PM
17

Take time to grieve the loss. Owning up to your mistakes is good. But ruminating on them will not help you at all. Resolve to begin improving yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 04:02 PM
2

Right? Why even bother at that point.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 03:39 PM
1

Not your circus, not your monkeys.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 03:36 PM
9

Women have every incentive to pull this shit and nothing to lose. So they do. It's a win win scenario for them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 07:49 PM
1

Grounding techniques are good for anxiety. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 05:07 PM
6

File first. I wish I did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 05:04 PM
3

I'm going through it too. Wife left with the kids, filed false TRO claims, denying me my visitations, denying me my parenting rights, denying me even phone calls with my kids, asked the court to force me from the house, etc. I'm putting one foot in front of the other and informing my lawyer of all new developments in my wife's scam and her parental alienation she's doing to my kids. I'll be lucky if my relationship with them isn't completely destroyed by the time this is all over. But I press on…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 04:04 PM
3

This gives me hope.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 04:00 PM
10

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:39 PM
3

She is making up degrading lies to friends and neighbors about me while I am a truly upstanding citizen and was always a great husband. It hurts that she is slandering my name, lying to the kids and family - unfortunately this is apparently common in divorce. She is on a mission to destroy me without any ammunition. Protect yourself man, false allegations are on their way.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:50 AM
9

She should go live with her Sancho and stop whining about having no place to go.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:30 AM
1

I'm not. I'm still in my house. A week ago when I made this post my wife ran off with the kids and I haven't seen or talked to them since. We have court again next month. I asked my lawyer to file emergency request to force my wife to allow me to see and talk to my children.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 10:21 PM
3

For years I told everyone how happy my wife and I were. We were actually miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 06:03 PM
3

This gives me hope for my future. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 05:43 PM
7

Never sign a contract with someone who has an incentive to break it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 05:09 PM
4

Thank you for reminding me that there are good women in the world.
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:26 AM
11

Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 03:22 AM
7

Doing this right now myself. Wife threw everything and the kitchen sink at the court to try to bully me out, CPS reports, attempted restraining orders, all denied.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 02:44 AM
7

My wife brought up shit from 12 years ago she was mad about. Like you've been pissed off about this minor thing for that long. I've always called it "gunneysacking"
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:03 AM
5

Minimalizing/maximalizing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:00 AM
6

John Edwards too, tanked his presidential campaign
/r/MensRights21/04/23 10:31 PM
8

A gym membership, therapy, and the men's group at church saved my life. Fitness of mind, fitness of body, fitness of spirit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 10:27 PM
1

CA is a 2 party consent state. Can't record someone without their consent.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 09:28 PM
17

It's going to get ugly very fast. You're going to be shocked how fast it cascades. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 05:24 PM
2

This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 02:53 PM
1

What happened?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 01:26 PM
2

How on earth do you put your salary in someone else's name?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 03:06 AM
4

My heart broke when my kids said they hate me because "mommy said you're forcing us to leave the house."
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 02:01 AM
1

CA
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 11:43 PM
3

He said if I leave I risk losing custody and property rights, and I might still be ordered to pay for the house evn if I'm gone. This is reiterated by other guys ive spoken to who have gone through acrimonious divorces. But yeah I can bring it up again. I can't really afford to talk to my lawyer about things I've already talked about though.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 11:39 PM
3

Yes I have.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 11:14 PM
5

No. But I would like half the equity and a 50 50 parenting agreement
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 10:58 PM
5

She is, she's thrown everything and the kitchen sink at me to bully me out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 09:50 PM
25

My wife has never admitted any mistake she's ever made, I don't know why she'd start now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:13 AM
4

Give yourself some time. Work on yourself. Fitness of mind, fitness of body, and fitness of spirit. Find things to do that you enjoy yourself and make you happy. Don't seek happiness in another person. Then once you are happy alone, reach out to date.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:07 AM
3

Just enjoy spending one on one time with them. They don't need to be doing playdates all the fuckin time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:04 AM
4

Let the skank have her Sanchos, you're better off without her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 02:27 AM
5

Go to therapy, get a gym membership. Your job now is fitness. Fitness of mind, fitness of body, fitness of spirit.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 02:21 AM
2

Oh ok. Then I'd say cancel the airbnb, go back to living in your house full time. Let her squawk and wring her hands. You don't need to subsidize her Sancho and her fucking.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 08:12 PM
1

Is the nesting agreement per a court order? If not cancel the airbnb.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 08:09 PM
1

Going through this myself right now. STBXW has called the police on me, attempted to file false PTO, petitioned the court to evict me, nothing has worked so far.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 08:08 PM
12

Miss me with the pity hand job that made my dick and balls a punching bag.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 04:33 PM
14

Bro yes, let her go disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 03:21 PM
9

After my wife filed for divorce she became Betty Crocker around the house with the kids. I've never seen her this nice to the kids before. It was messing with my head.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 02:54 PM
63

A 43 year old single man who has his shit together has a higher market value than a 43 year old single woman no matter how attractive she is.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 02:36 PM
3

This is the way. Men age like fine wine, women age like fine milk.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 02:54 AM
2

Break it off. Better kids see happy single dad and mom than miserable married dad and mom.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 02:46 AM
11

Your job now is fitness. Fitness of mind. Fitness of body. Fitness of spirit. A gym membership and a church men's group saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 01:06 AM
2

My wife too always needs to be the hero. She adores people telling her how amazing of a mom she is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 03:06 AM
1

You guys still living in the same house?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 03:01 AM
5

Focus on yourself and your "fitness". Fitness of mind. Fitness of body. Fitness of spirit. A gym membership, and the men's group at church have saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 02:55 AM
8

She's going to have to buy you out with half the equity
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 02:53 AM
1

Well, if she's got Sancho waiting in the wings, he's gonna have to wait. Her deadbeat sheister of a lawyer didn't even bother showing up this morning. So we got postpones.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 10:27 PM
3

I requested my law firm to send the bill for my lawyers time this morning to my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 06:52 PM
2

Whelp, my wife's deadbeat lawyer never even showed up so hearing postponed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 06:41 PM
3

I am grey rocking and have been for 2 months. CA is a "two party" consent state for recording though.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 03:31 AM
3

She has requested to the court to force me to move out, and I continue covering all the costs of the house at the same time. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 03:15 AM
3

Nope, no offers or anything, just attempts to bully me out of my house.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 02:59 AM
3

I am going through it too, hang in there man. If you need to talk about it, I am in the same boat as you. DM me if you want.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 12:55 AM
3

This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 10:46 PM
1

Wife attempted to file one on me to keep me out of the house. Judge denied it. We went to mediation and my wife accused me of all sorts of heinous acts but provided no evidence because of course not. Mediator out of an "abundance of caution" asked for supervised visits. Thing is, we're still living peacefully in the same house.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 04:07 PM
13

Yup, I should have broken it off 5 years ago. But we men are willing to endure all manner of abuse for way too long.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 06:21 PM
20

She was sweet funny and caring. We started dating when we were 18, married at 21. Though I missed some serious red flags early on I was in love and you tend to overlook those things. Things got stressful and hard after kids but I could still see that sweet funny girl I dated. Then my daughter got sick. Something in my wife died that day. Whatever part that was was the part that could emotionally connect with me. Suddenly my daughter and her were completely emotionally intertwined and I was the o…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 05:36 PM
1

Because it's she's doing it to play head games. She wants me to react negatively.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:04 PM
1

The judge removed them from the court record
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:03 PM
4

My wife had her stupid friends write scathing letters about me to the court. The judge struck them, but she keeps inviting them over. (We are sharing a house still since I refuse to leave). I am stupid friendly to them every time they show up.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:48 AM
1

Wait until her friends submit letters to the court about how you're Satan incarnate.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:18 AM
8

Me endlessly compromising to my wife's every whim because "happy wife happy life", and my own fear and insecurity of her leaving me, well that ship has sailed. No longer am I compromising during this divorce process (I refuse to leave the house like she demanded I do, got hit with fake TRO which was denied but I'm on "supervised visits") and I've never seen her throw a tantrum this big.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 03:14 PM
12

Work on yourself now. Don't try to date.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 03:39 AM
3

Do not move out of your house.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 09:27 PM
8

This post gives me hope for my future. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 09:00 PM
3

Working with the public in the mental health field is like this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:31 AM
4

Relatable. My ex wife had her best friend write scathing letters to the court saying how I'm basically Satan incarnate. The judge struck them from the record.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 08:53 PM
16

"My ex husband is a narcissist, my therapist said so."
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 07:10 PM
5

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 06:19 PM
1

What does your time look like, supervised visits?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:26 PM
1

Do you have any time with your kids now?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 07:50 PM
1

Yep, the focus now should be fitness of mind, body and spirit.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:42 PM
3

File first, and also file for emergency custody. Your wife is about to hit you with a false TRO, you need to get out ahead of it. I am talking from experience.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:37 PM
2

My entire family was alienated from me because my wife hated them and they hated her. I went back and let them know I am divorcing her and now my family and I are all on good terms, its like a whole new beginning with my family. Don't kill yourself, things will get better with time. I am going through it myself.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:33 PM
13

Don't try to date. Work on yourself right now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:30 PM
7

You know why.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:21 PM
2

Lawyer up and file first.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:27 AM
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