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THINGS SCROTES SAYDiamond_fairy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:05 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTDiamond_fairy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:02 PM
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Story time ☕Diamond_fairy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:04 PM
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This comes from my late boss, so not even someone that should feel anything for me or start comparisons. We were on mandatory office lunches every Friday, and I my coworker was asking me about basic biology stuff - difference between viruses and bacteria, and how cells get infected. We're in the legal field, but I'm much more interested in science since I can remember. My boss started shouting "we're lawyers! We do not f**ing give a s*t about cells and science!". Vulgarities included. That's how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:43 AM
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Basically, when in doubt, be assured that they perfectly know what they're doing when they're inappropriate and fueling insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:30 PM
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This is marvelous... 😍 Mouth watering, actually 😅 Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:18 AM
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I think I'm hopeless now. /s 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:59 PM
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"I look forward to debating you in the comments" Of course, "let me tell you how to live your life and how you should really lower your standards so that I can profit from you". Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:34 PM
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That's why I think FDS and you mods need to be protected at all costs. Too precious. And thanks for these gems! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:31 PM
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They're asking for the ChOiChE to throw women as a whole under the bus, reinforcing the view of women as pieces of meat for sale, while failing to explain how's that feminist. FDS is empowering and actually liberating from patriarchy, but a pickme can't survive without her daily dose of male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:28 AM
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That's indeed a life lesson. She's basically playing the mom of an uneducated kindergartner and enduring the shame of bad reviews. And for what? 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:19 AM
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No one is obligated to make sure you have a pleasant experience when you cross their boundaries. Standing ovation. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:31 PM
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I guess diamonds and other bloody sparkling stones, money, invitations to VIP events, marvelous homes, exquisite clothes and whatever being a Royal brings to the table is more than enough for many people to eat (almost) any type of excrement they're given, and then complain because it stinks. 🤦🏻‍♀️ They're low value as people, no matter how they handle their romantic life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:41 AM
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This is exactly my thought, too. Meghan is definitely not a pickme, but she stormed into a delicate situation with a remarkable level of entitlement, being totally blind to ancient rules, responsibilities and expectations, while being effortlessly ready for the benefits that the Royal family - not Harry - provided. That's not just a relationship between two individuals and the problems lay way beyond the cute couple. Based on my limited life experience, she gives me some sociopath / narcissistic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:42 PM
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Is that Abena for real or is the account run by a scrote in disguise? 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:29 PM
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They just can't avoid screaming "pickme!" at any occasion, but anyone with more than half a neuron browsing FDS would understand that this is literally "how to face too many options of stinky men and reject them all until one is capable to be a decent human being". A lot of us are not even single. I'm not single. Involuntary celibate? Never heard of that. At most, it becomes voluntary, since there's no reason to roll in mud for the sake of having a situationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:47 AM
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A pickme and her LVM spotted in the wild. I hope no one here would marry a piece of wood that sticks his hands in the pockets during a wedding photoshoot. She's clinging so much on him that I wouldn't be surprised if she's "porn positive" and willingly cleaning his dirty underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:28 PM
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Oh, the audacity. If the one expecting a baby with a coworker was her, he wouldn't be here rambling about forgiveness and I doubt that she would even be alive. To not even start taking about random people deciding for a grown person to quit her job. I hope that this trapped Queen divorces his stinky ass and goes on with her building plans and her career. These fundamentalist scumbags are all abusers, they can't be otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:54 PM
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She may need to eat or to sleep, but definitely not to change anything just because a random scrote got offended by her not having a standard low enough for him to fit in. Also, looking at the amount of time that he can spend lecturing uninterested strangers, it tells a lot about how much of an invested father he is (not).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:56 PM
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I'm astonished by her willingness to have a "conversation" about this. This is a block and delete situation wrapped in a red flag bigger than my disgust at this NVM. She doesn't need to find what the hell is going on, it doesn't matter since it's messed up anyway. Indeed, she needs to run. Someone please rescue her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:26 PM
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Oh, she is! She was on a worldwide tour at 87, being admired by everyone and still just doing what she loves to do, like a true Queen. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:12 AM
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Fun fact: the Amerigo Vespucci is still sailing. She didn't hit any wall, not even at 90.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:04 PM
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The same red flags that you'd look for when vetting any other man. I would add that some of them can't fathom that being a millionaire is not a personality trait and will act as if it is, and that's a red flag in itself. This being said, spotting "basic" red flags in those relationships can require a level of emotional detachment that's not usual: the comfort provided by money could be confused with effort and care from their part, and that can fuel a distorted perception of reality. Look for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:24 PM
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I'm glad he's not even trying to hide that he's advertising for pickmes looking for his validation and ready to bend over backwards to be objectified: it's a lot more easy to spot and avoid NVM when they deliver these masterpieces of brain farts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:01 PM
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Indeed, a monogamous "committed partnership", to use her own words. Spot on, I'm not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:09 AM
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Very well done! People that pull out their dirty and nasty phones during any social situation - let alone a date - without it being a serious emergency, deserve no less than being left there hanging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:32 PM
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Spot on 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:42 PM
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What kind of relationship is this person in? I bet that she's into a classic monogamous one, but she's playing the cool and modern therapist to be appealing to libfems and NVM, which are the vast majority of users.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:10 AM
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This needs a trigger warning, I'm literally shaking thinking at how painful and heartbreaking this is. Not only that disgusting scrote had the audacity to violate the sacred place that the family house is, but he also ruined forever the life that she generated with a lot of sacrifices. To not even talk about that yes, that's cheating, and there's no need to be ok with it if she's not comfortable. There's no terms of divorce that will ever be able to bring justice to this, but at least it will ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:13 AM
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Pickmeism doormat level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:35 AM
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It is perfectly fine to put your own standard wherever you feel comfortable. If you are not comfortable with someone that's not ambitious enough to pursue a career related to his studies, you don't need to question yourself or apologize for it. I don't think that's inherently a LV thing tho, it really depends on the situation: I love culture just for the sake of it, and I plan to get a couple more degrees myself. In my country it's affordable to pay for University, and I personally wouldn't date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:00 PM
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Too much to unpack here, but I would highlight that someone who thinks like this is never actually becoming HV at all: he's just looking for another pickme bangmaid or he'll try to lower a Queen to his non detected standard. It's not that he's going to treat his next gf any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:52 AM
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NVM doesn't even contemplate the possibility that he should level up himself. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He still wants and feels like he deserves a woman that he's probably going to resent again, tho. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:45 PM
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It sounds really magical and romantic! 😍 Well done! 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:11 PM
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I appreciate this a lot. Thanks as always for the great work that you mods are doing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:09 PM
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What kind of childhood trauma is she trying to overcome in this heartbreaking way? It looks like she's ok with whatever consideration she's taken into, as long as she's getting some shade of affection, or something that resembles it. It's excruciatingly sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:21 PM
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🤣 I was drinking water and you can imagine what happened... Thanks for the laughs tho! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:28 PM
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Understandable, there's some of these schools in my little area too, even though water sports are luckily prevalent here. I appreciate a lot when I see men doing kayak school even in winter, or even regular sea swimming! Since it's something that I wouldn't be able to tolerate, I'm kind of positively impressed with this (which doesn't mean anything in the big picture, but at least I'm not immediately repulsed).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:33 PM
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The idea of the resume is perfect! It would make things a lot easier. I personally would not date a MMA practitioner even if he was the last man remained on Earth, as odds are that he'll turn violent more easily than not, since these sports require a level of aggressiveness that I'm not comfortable with, and I'm scared from scientific literature that links a faster congnitive degradation with sports where the head is often hit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:33 PM
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"worth something". Oh wow, I bet that you're feeling so pleased and honoured. /s What a loser, omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:23 PM
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If they don't ask you first and you're not the one picking the ring (or the stone, if he's ready to destroy it) from at least some valuable options - with the possibility of not liking any of them - that's a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:43 AM
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This is spot-on the depiction of my narcissist father. Even though I actually have some similar tendencies going on in my mind - bad memories outweighing the good ones, always ready to open the book about the whole list of wrongdoing I've been subjected - I can also assure that someone with self awareness, who's able to practice some self control and who's educated to not disrespect people, will train this trait to be the best possible at managing conflicts. Don't be fooled by people that "can't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:55 PM
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And this normalisation of the shittiest men possible is teaching girls what? To accept NVM because it's "just how men are"? To feel empowered in being emotionally - when not physically - abused? Even if all men were actually like this, our own happiness comes first than being with someone at all costs and settling with whatever trash is available just for the sake of it. Only pickmes are going to put up with this BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:24 PM
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...and her opinion was requested exactly when? 🤡 She couldn't mind her own business: since she's miserable, better be proud of it and normalize it, just to drag in misery someone else. She can keep her own NVM for herself, I highly doubt that there's any line of women trying to get him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:47 PM
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Why would you even doubt that you've done anything wrong when even the other victim is literally thanking you.... You don't feel pity for people having to deal with the consequences of their own actions and choices. He messed up, you can't ruin things that he already disregarded and disrespected. He now has the possibility to learn something and start clean, but I bet that he will not. Don't worry, and good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:23 PM
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🤢🤮 Imagine the rates of STDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:07 PM
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Unexpectedly accurate. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:29 PM
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So that he can drag me down because he'll set up a competition where he's the resentful one that can't catch up with me and would rather blow up what I've worked hard for? No, thanks. I'm allergic to this idiocy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:27 PM
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Which is absolutely healthy and liberating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:09 AM
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This is "murdered by words" worthy 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:44 PM
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If he really deserved a reply, it should have been a TL; DR. But literally, when they're like this I would erase the message before even reading it. He says that he doesn't care but he goes on for paragraphs. He's a psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:43 PM
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NVM and pickmes just can't respect boundaries and feelings: wtf with all the condescending gaslighting in those comments, wtf with telling people what's right to look for in a relationship... It's called "unpopular opinion", not "take it personal and change my mind with cheap arguments". And the joke about her boyfriend watching porn in incognito? Projecting. Just a way to make her feel insecure and drag down to their low bar anything she may have. I also feel nothing more than pity for the bang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:13 PM
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Seriously, this is so true! They can't take anything, one should basically tiptoe around them for being able to not trigger an overemotional response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:31 PM
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They don't even need public transportation, I was even stopped on the sidewalk by a man 30 years older that threw himself before me just because he felt like he needed me answering to his greetings. I was visibly in a hurry and wearing headphones. This just because he complimented me on my eyes the prior day at the post office and I had the bad idea of flatly say thanks. After that he felt entitled to be considered and greeted on the street. Hell no. I was so blatantly annoyed and angry that he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:45 PM
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Welcome in the club, I had to fight myself to not punch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:00 PM
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Thank you so much for all this useful information and let me send you and your friend a big hug and my deepest cheering for your strength. What you described is an heartbreaking horror show. We luckily live in a country with public healthcare and quite affordable costs for medical and psychological help, for medications, for social care in general. But liberalism is destroying this heaven too, since the past cuts on healthcare mostly damaged the families of disabled people and we're still failin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:58 PM
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Actually, thank you for your time to give advices and some useful information on this kind of situations, I really really appreciate it since it was all I was concerned about wondering how I could move at this point. My own career would definitely be at risk if he gets angry enough to go out of his way, but I could always turn to public administration jobs, I wouldn't mind, what really matters is his wife safety. The best idea I've come up with - still debatable and far from perfect - is to just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:28 PM
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I actually had such a positive experience with this professor in University, I can't complain about his work method and even as an acquaintance level, in 15 years I knew him I had no idea that he was like this! The first time this lunch thing happened I was sincerely shocked. The problem here is especially towards his wife and kid. Work-wise, he's is good at teaching and delegating, even the youngest trainee has full access to everything: office keys, sensitive mail, archives, a personal phone w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:02 PM
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I seriously feel like this is exactly how things are going. They're doing well enough to afford first class domestic help, but he also splurges a lot at work, and she's an extremely caring woman that's doesn't invest much in herself, hence I think that the heavy lifting out of school, apart from some therapy (I hope), is all on her. Mothers of special needs are seriously heroes. Since you understand the situation better than I could ever do, do you suggest reaching her out for a closer friendshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:46 PM
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Ikr! The first years were painful to even hear about, the kid was some years old and still not speaking, but the scrote decided it was fine because someone in his family started speaking late. But seriously, the kid was already not behaving right in everything else, overtime it just became more apparent that he's way behind and still doesn't talk much. The way he carries himself and his facial expressions immediately tell that there's something going on, but no specific feature seems to tell any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:36 AM
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Unless he doesn't care: if he owns what he says and he sees nothing wrong in it, he can even be comfortable with it being spilled without any consequence. This is a big possibility, the world is still run by this kind of people and they have little to none sense of shame, since they just don't care. Still, I know that there are possible consequences if I decide to expose him to his wife's family. Secretly recording this kind of monologue is something I can totally do, but if anyone above me in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:00 AM
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This! You are so right! He's definitely one of those that would downplay anything related to boys getting groomed, they're the first that don't take other men seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:29 AM
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He's totally projecting his own insecurities about his age on women, since reproduction-wise he's hit his deadline before knowing he had one: no sperm bank would accept that personality, that height, his age when he conceived, and add the fact that he had quite a belly too. He totally played a huge role in the son's condition and he was not able to address it without taking it personally. Evaluation was delayed, help was delayed, recognition was delayed, his wife was stopped from taking action. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:33 AM
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I prefer not to answer to avoid details that could help directly or by exclusion localize me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:49 AM
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I'm thinking about how to move my pieces, because I personally know her and her family since before they married. He has no problem with talking like that even knowing that I'm close to his in-laws, hence I have no problem with telling her what was publicly told in my face as soon as I'll be asked how is it going. I'll talk about it like it's some minor annoyance, but I'll totally spill the tea. I prefer to suppose that she knows and she's willingly ignoring it for the quiet, the sake of the kid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:39 AM
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Ikr, it would be inappropriate to talk about these things even if he said otherwise, it's just not stuff you discuss at work. And... He's the HR. He's the boss, he owns the office and the firm, he select trainees and lawyers. I obviously have my benefits to be trained there, otherwise I wouldn't be, but those lunches are seriously dreadful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:22 AM
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He's old, ugly and short. And with a special needs kid his already fragile ego got so crushed that he now has to lower everyone else to feel better. I saw young male lawyers turning into lambs while he declares his BS, literally no one dares to fight him back but we all think that he's gone mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:14 AM
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I hear constant horror stories about surgeons believing to be gods on earth. I wish you good luck! I'm indeed so exhausted that I just try to seat as far as possible and to not listen during lunch, he's seriously disgusting at that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:06 AM
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Ikr!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:53 AM
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The whole situation is heartbreaking if I think about her, and I can't imagine how he is at home if he's already this nonchalant with vulgarities and toxicity at work. This scrote got a Barbie and a 50s housewife just because he already was a professor and famous lawyer when they married, but can't even be a decent husband and at least shut tf up, since these things are not appropriate for work. I'm there just because his name in my CV will be a boost to enter other important firms when I'll hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:50 AM
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Seriously, I really hope that his wife is living her life, but knowing her I don't know, he really doesn't deserve what he has. It's extremely testing indeed, I'm just waiting to be able to write his name in my CV and benefit from his fame. Luckily enough, I have to hear him only once a week when it's "client receiving day", while the other people in office are totally fine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:47 AM
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At least sperm donors get selected for their personality too - among the other things - and if they're giving bad vibes or they're difficult to work with, they won't be picked to procreate. That poor baby is paying for a terrible reproductive choice: don't give offspring to NVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:36 PM
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When consenting to men giving you a chance at permanent cognitive damage and death is fine, but if you do it yourself it's called attempted suicide, you know that you've seen it all. There's no way this is enjoyable and no way someone deserves that level of trust. It's called torture and homicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:02 PM
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The fact that she's still there washing his underwear - which is something that no one but himself should do - freaks me out. The fact that he's publicly talking about his pooped clothes like he's proud of it and he tries to push the "most men do it" to normalize this shit is straight up disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:27 AM
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Thank you! Comment saved! 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:15 AM
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First of all, welcome and congrats for holding him accountable, it's so refreshing to see other women putting themselves first and not taking bs anymore! You got rid of an abuser, no less than that. So, whats your opinion on this, should I have been punished for my bad, bad behaviour towards the poor scrote? /s 🤣 Of course, your punishment is not having to deal with him anymore! Such a hard and hurting punishment, right? 😄 If I think that in relationship advice subs people ask these questions fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:37 AM
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Literally: no one is getting an award for being fine with an effortless and cheap shadow of a proposal. Libfems and pickmes can be ok with whatever they like, but one of the rules of FDS is indeed the "no standard shaming" when other women have higher standards. Being cheap won't make a pickme any morally superior, she'll just be preferable to LVM. I do get that some women at that point just want to get married and they lower their standards to quickly get there, but they just need to recognize …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:20 PM
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Great advice! 📝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:02 PM
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I hope that the trash is going to take itself out and I feel sorry for the deceived woman that has wasted time over such a disgusting NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:39 PM
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😳 internalized misogyny and racism at its finest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:03 AM
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Idk, look at the non verbal language: silence the audio and just watch it. A lot of music videos say something good but show the opposite, they come across as having incredibly high pickme vibes. Being a non native English speaker, the first time I watch mainstream music videos I don't understand more than a few words (unless I concentrate or turn on the captions) and that's when I decide if I want to know more: I don't want words, I want facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:58 AM
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A commitment-phobe, predator, NV porn-sick and manipulative ass calls himself out about looking for a bangmaid. 27 is too old only when they know that you won't take their BS and won't be easily manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:15 AM
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In legal training women get this one day yes and one day yes. It's exhausting to constantly repeat that you're not there to entertain men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:31 AM
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She already knows what to do: leave. Especially once she's said that that's the consequence for stomping on the boundary, the only way to respect herself is to follow her own words. He's literally testing her for how much he can get away with and to see if her boundaries are serious. If I learned something about people it's that they may listen to you, but once you backpedal on consequences they won't take you seriously ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:19 AM
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Although FDS handbook gives us pretty much all the tools to be free from the little creepy inner pickme that has been probably installed into us since we were young, in reality it could be dangerous to ever consider ourselves above the odds of failing back into pickme behavior: leveling up is a lifelong journey, a mindset, a distinctive trait of any HVW. I see that everyone strives for constant improvement, not for a sudden perfect change, which means that some of us will be ahead in their journ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:12 PM
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It's a turnoff bigger than my annoyance at scrolling through relationship advice! There's nothing interesting, enjoyable or fulfilling about having to deal with this kind of overgrown toddlers but somehow breaking up is not the first thing that they go for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:49 PM
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Oh wow, there's a lot that I have no idea about the Trumps and I'm going to look deeper, as if they weren't already creepy enough. I don't know if he's that dumb and functionally illiterate for real or he's playing pretend just for the sake of entitlement and privilege, but I'm not surprised that he's not as good with money as he's portrayed to be. I really hope that if the Trumps wants to run again they'll choose someone more rational and with a larger vocabulary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:52 PM
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It makes a lot of sense with this additional information! It was too easy to be just a mismanagement or some disorganization on the police part, especially on the day when they were confirming Biden victory. It fits so well Trump behavior too, if I think about the votes call that got leaked, and it's almost the obvious explanation, no one could be surprised. Do you think that he's going face destitution? Not that it would matter at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:35 PM
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🤦🏻‍♀️ as if. They could even steal things from the building while waving and smiling at the cameras, definitely an endangered specie... While I was surprised to see the Confederate flag to be flaunted this nonchalantly - I expected it to be kind of prohibited, idk - the flags that genuinely made me laugh were the "women for Trump" pink one (that's some unreciprocated love right there) and the prohibition symbol over socialism, while over here socialism is just mild left that fights for workers a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:15 PM
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At this point I have to think that if they were both black and left they would have been used as moving targets for some shooting training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:07 PM
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When I realized that Capitol Hill is the same place that was protected by a full army when black lives matter protests where going on, yes, the lightbulb switched on and I can imagine. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was sincerely expecting the same if not an harder treatment yesterday tho, as it was a clear attempt of a coup d'etat and these people where breaching in with guns... 😳 I'm too european to not freak out to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:52 PM
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I was totally asking all evening and night what the hell were they waiting for. It would have been too easy for these people with guns to execute some police or congress member. Being used to see in the TV news what's the usual response to protests in the USA I expected the same treatment in this situation, but I guess that I still have to figure out the extent of the double standard going on over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:43 PM
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I seriously thought that shooting at sight was the norm for a country where citizens are potentially equipped with every kind of guns. Then it clicked, and I was wondering what would have happened if the protestors were black. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:23 AM
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I'm actually surprised that it's one and not a carpet of shot people as soon as they broke in. It's night in Europe but we're all glued to the TV watching the USA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:45 AM
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I would like to know what do the actual parents think about the matter, but I'm afraid of what they could say. Unfortunately, even where honour killings have been banned, it's something from a few decades ago, there's literally no culture, no country where a big or bigger percentage of men doesn't retain this kind of mentality and would justify any sort of punishment for whatever they think or dream "their" women are guilty of. They still have the gut to whine each one of those rare times when a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:43 AM
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Imagine to graciously wave to his trapped mug behind a barred window, while you're flying away in a cloud of happiness and cotton candy, your night blue dress fluttering and the wind in your hair. You dodged a bullet Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:17 AM
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"I tripped and penetrated her" Yeah, there was also a marmot making chocolate somewhere in the background. How could the Court believe him? Seriously, they can't take aim for the toilet, it's not that they can magically become snipers in minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:13 PM
12

This is a wonderful compliment to receive since English is not my native language, thanks again! 🌹💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:37 PM
13

Oh no! This legitimately made me chuckle.. I hope you got rid of them without consequences, I heard that parasitic worms are kind of problematic with their bad habit of not even paying rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:31 PM
48

I'm failing to think of any "good" that this sub-human may provide that could outweigh the horror show that I've just red. I'm both curious and scared to know what's her family standard, because the bar must be really in hell for her to not see what she's into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:51 PM
38

I've learned something today! Thank YOU! I now feel like I did a disservice to earthworms, and I totally did. Cute little creatures. 🐛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:03 PM
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Thank you! Yes, it came out just reading the post, as it is, I was thinking about the scene in my head...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:01 PM
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He said. Then he punched the wall. She was listening with the same curiosity that one could have for the reproductive life of a worm, calmly sipping her tea. These men, claiming that they were immune to being emotional, never failed to show her some interesting mood swings. Maybe they were not that good at managing themselves, she thought. She slowly put down her cup, wore her coat and gloves, then left. Forever. Without a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:11 PM
10

Oh wow. I would have guessed that it was from relationship advice sub, but pickmes would probably have been even more. Is this something that the podcast pushes about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:12 PM
12

Where did they pick the data from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:00 PM
17

I've never been on online dating services my whole life, but this thread is handbook material and makes me swing between chuckle and facepalm. I frankly don't know how all of you can endure this shitstorm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:57 AM
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This is one of those idiots that say "you have no sense of humor" when you leave him and the obnoxious shirt he dares to gift. A nice handmade Christmas decoration would probably cost the same and be more appropriate if she's into cheap gifts and nothing for herself, but no, he needs to show how childish he is and brag about it on the internet. I bet that he has not even asked for permission to show her and the kids faces. I already wouldn't have chosen a gamer in my teens, so I really can't tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:02 PM
25

I love the blue stone! And the Michael Kors bag too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:19 AM
7

I'm glad if it will help! I don't know if she's dealing with past trauma, but holding her accountable seems to be the only option you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:15 AM
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Set boundaries and consequences with her. Of course, if you're not ready to cut her off don't say that you'd do that, but she must not be rewarded with your silence or your tolerance when she steps over your boundaries. Keep in mind that a friend like this would be worth a block and delete, but since she's your mother you really need to put all the effort to avoid that her actions damage you. It's not ethical, but I'd go as far as trying to guilt trip her saying that her behavior give men the se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:16 PM
2

He has said multiple times that that's exactly what he thought, you're spot on! I don't know how frequent this could statistically be - before him I've only encountered NVM that tried to lower my standards, my self esteem and to trash my accomplishments - but I would say that a man that feels below us is more often than not a recipe for abuse, unless he deeply falls in love and wants to be on our level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:29 AM
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It's true. People can change, not everyone and not on predictable terms, hence it's not something that's going to happen when it's asked and it's definitely NOT something that women should put hope on. During pickme days in my late teens I tried so hard to change, educate and level up my boyfriend of the time, but if he's ever capable to mold himself for anyone, that was definitely not me and I had to let him go. On the other hand, the man that's now my boyfriend noticed that I could not tolerat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:24 PM
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This could resolve 99% of men rant on breakingmom subreddit. Women need to constantly ask themselves if what they have is what they want from a relationship and if they would like a stranger behaving like their bf/husband. If you're hurting and you wouldn't without him, every future minute that you can save from this is precious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:31 PM
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Ikr! This is spot on. Pickme culture puts these women in a constant mental competition, and their insecurities control their emotions: anyone getting male attention is viewed as a threat. While men are regarded as non capable of indipendent thinking and disrespectful behavior on their own, things really go south as soon as the pickme start to blame you for seducing, hypnotizing, flirting with her man, that's almost always the one taking unsolicited initiative. They need to start taking the NVM a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:23 PM
6

I'm wondering what kind of BS he told her to lower her defenses, because if someone flatly brings me to their house when we're supposed to go to at the restaurant I would refuse to enter the building and just call myself a taxi. She's clearly capable of managing the situation, but wtf for real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:19 PM
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he'd find a place for "both of us" Wtf??? This is so clingy, intrusive and low effort. I'm sorry that you had to deal with a similar scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:15 PM
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What does that message even mean, if he wanted to wish you happy new year he would just have done it at the right moment with a text and not caring if you're free, if he's the first (wtf) and waiting for a previous response on your part. This is really a socially awkward NVM, just testing the waters to see if he still has some emotional power over you. Very well done on your part and, of course, happy 2021!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:33 AM
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... because a woman that managed to roast the president of the United States will totally care about what Mr. Nothing number infinity has to say. These scrotes value their own opinion way too much. "Expose"? Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:20 AM
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I hope that she's never going to accept again any date at someone's house, it's dangerous for our life, let alone unuseful for the purpose of a valuable relationship. This man needs to be publicly pointed out as manipulative and a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:17 AM
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In my case, I see that she's genuinely sorry and we're still able to have some great time together twice a year since she's living abroad, but we're not teens anymore: if I didn't drop at her parents place to bring a little present from my mother I might not have known that she managed to be here for Christmas and I wrote to her in October. Other friends were informed tho. I'm just not going to text anymore, she knows where I am, and I'm not less busy than she is just because I did not left our …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:07 AM
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Women like those are to men what enablers are to narcissists: you may get rid of the main problem, but its support system will drag you down at any moment and these people just need to be dropped as well. I sadly have to distance myself from the oldest friendships I have - literally, her pregnant mother was at my first birthday party - at least until she knows better, since she seems unable to answer to one text every few weeks (like, no answer at all, but profusely apologizing if we meet) but i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:17 PM
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I understand! I've seen that being mostly silent and looking almost annoyed is the thing that makes people listen to me more when I have something to say, and keeping it short and sharp helps too. Being already less than intimidating - I'm the girl that people say "she must be cute and dumb" until I start to speak and I give them the sarcastic burn - a smile would do me a disservice. I think that it could be useful to women with a more imposing presence, where their smirk can be taken as a bit o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:15 AM
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Thank you a lot for this great advice. I definitely have to practice my calm assertiveness and the full control over my instinctive emotions to avoid raising my voice. I'm actually working on no smiling as much as possible with coworkers and clients, as I'm already giving too much of a "kind and available" energy because of my age, but I'll see if it's sustainable. Of course if they keep harassing me I let them face as many consequences as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:18 PM
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Exactly what I was thinking. I'm entering a male dominated work environment and I'm unsure of how we defend ourselves in these situations when we may not even be able to block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:22 PM
73

"Look at me! I fit men supposed preferences! I'm not like other women! Pick me! Pick me!" Literally advertising for NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:34 AM
149

This is what nightmares look like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:23 AM
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When they show signs of being manipulative it's a full army of red flags. There's no reason to pick up the challenge and fall for this poorly applied reverse psychology from a thrift shop handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:08 AM
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I don't watch the show but your description of the comments sounds like they're displaying internalized misogyny and textbook pickme behavior, as they're setting a competition to be seen as more "worthy" of some men attention, and they raise their own self esteem only through dragging other women down, which speaks volumes about the little confidence that they actually have in themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:52 AM
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I'm extremely disappointed indeed, especially at the spoon disappearing in the bowl of soup and at the flipper ball falling central!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:08 AM
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They're projecting: that's exactly how they whine the precise moment that they realize that we're satisfied, confident and have a fulfilling life at work and with friends, without them. They're hoping to receive any sign of sadness or jealousy over some ridiculous robot, but it's more likely that we won't even notice the disappearance of a bunch of NVM that will finally give up on their "LoWeR yOuR sTaNdArDs" missions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:59 PM
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I love to read stories about HV dads as I had the worst experience with that entitled narcissist of a NVM that's my male bio parent, and I'm just so happy for you, it must be beautiful! I'm totally going to gift myself a toolbox too! I need it and I'm tired to ask to unreliable men if they can fix a thing, being said yes, and then watching them forget or "not having time", and probably being not as precise as I would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:51 PM
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I would title it "Unsatisfying". 😄 So accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:37 PM
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I find your take on this matter extremely interesting, as I have the same vision about FDS principles being healthy and successful not only when it comes to relationships, but in every other aspect of life too: setting boundaries with consequences, confronting abusive behavior with "block and delete", being self sufficient and indipendent, avoiding being a people pleaser... I believe that this is the recipe for true mental health, self confidence and satisfaction. I applied FDS principles to fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:34 PM
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I'm at fault for not being thoughtful enough about the issues that other white women face out of my part of Europe, where we are quite homogeneous and we have it definitely easier than any other woman. Of course I red the meme thinking at my own experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:12 PM
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Does he even read himself? He's the one that waited to be dropped and even came back to ask to work on it, hence being the one benefitting from the relationship, but somehow you're abusive and he's the liberated poor victim now. Textbook walking red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:28 PM
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That's a narcissistic, ungrateful and abusive scrote. Any HVM would have stopped the moment that she told that she's sick and would help her to recover, willing to clean vomit if she happened to throw up anywhere. Women take care of men body fluids from the moment that they're born, yet this NVM has the audacity to call his wife names and act disgusted, failing to treat her as a human being. I'm rooting for divorce and therapy, there's nothing to fix here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:13 PM
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Women of color face every day an amount of disrespect that's astonishingly arsher than what I'll face in a lifetime, hence I think that the last thing that they should do is defending us from some hate that we're privileged enough to not even care about, as it will hardly cause us problems. White women should stand more for women as a whole against all men racism, but as some comic said "it's hard to start a revolution from under a duvet", and being the most privileged means that we're also the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:39 PM
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This! Going really mgtow should mean a journey to really not needing women anymore, not even the ones that get exploited to arouse them and tickle their kinks. They shouldn't call themselves mgtow if they think and lurk and judge women all the f**king time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:26 PM
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If her PTSD got worse, she was probably skipping therapy and the whole part of FDS about leveling up and being a self sufficient human being that lives happily without necessarily needing a man to feel complete, because that's the mindset that leads to settle for whatever and to suffer for the loss of negative people. If she was suffering because FDS put some reality before her eyes, too bad, having values and standards means going to be displeased by a lot of people. Regarding the gender critic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:17 PM
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I would go as far as saying that the vast majority of women would not consider appropriate any sexual joke on disabled people, let alone making them hear it. This lack of empathy is on the other hand extremely common between men, which is something that makes me sad about being straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:15 PM
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This is some abusive shit to tell to the mother of his son, he seems to be extremely mad, which wouldn't happen if he really put himself on that much of an higher level, and he's totally trying to lower your self esteem and control your emotions. No answer is the best approach, as he's looking for any type of reaction and attention from you, and receiving none will make him tired and stop at some point. I hope that you're safe and I'm sorry that you've to deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:34 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if he turns out to have a pickme mom that praises his "good heart", believes that her son can't do anything wrong and is a libfem. Where's the girl's parents would also be a good question, as she needs therapy asap and some good advice about avoiding exploitative men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:12 PM
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That's the whole point indeed: libfems fail to look at anything further from formal equity, aka to not actively discriminate and treating everyone the same, as if we were created with a cookie cutter. FDS aims at substantial equity, acknowledging the difference between men and women in society: real equity is giving the same opportunities to everyone, treating differently the different situations. It's not adding privileges to those that are already fine but holding them accountable when they pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:04 PM
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So, an underaged immature snowflake of a scrote decided to play the therapist with a girl that was clearly not ready for a relationship, probably because he saw that in this situation it was easy to create a co-dependent bond and secure some sex. Then, knowing nothing about what's he was doing, he gives the girl no factual reasons to trust him, fuels her insecurities gaslighting her, and proceeds to cheat on her. Great, that's exactly how you help someone with trust issues and depression. /s Now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:20 PM
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This is particularly true! We are regressing on women's rights and protection when it comes to divorce and domestic violence, thanks to the nonsense of lib-feminism, that acts as if real equity was already achieved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:14 AM
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A well spoken father that actually remembers what his wife told him, feels like teaching boundaries against LVM to his daughter and takes action for the best? This is an high value limited edition of a father. The daughter is lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:45 AM
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She needs to realize that being hurt is not what relationships are for. This can't be better than being alone with no problems caused by a childish idiot. I would say that it's for the better that he did not propose: she can now dodge a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:36 AM
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If I feel like taking a look into something that he's hiding from me/ not talking about, it just means that he has already put up a secretive behavior that gives insecurities, doubts and reasons to check. No woman ever should be ok with a man that doesn't prioritize his woman's feelings and emotional stability. This goes before and without actually finding anything wrong, because he's giving reasons to snoop and he just should not. When you snoop and find something like this, you run. I wouldn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:21 PM
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A lot of the abuse that disabled people face everyday comes from men, especially if we look at young girl in school with male teachers. The struggle is literally treated as a kink. To say that this is disgusting is an understatement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:09 PM
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You dodged a cannonball! 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:21 PM
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This is top level reasoning and worth saving for a reminder! 🌹 Thank you for putting this into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:16 PM
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I would add to check if he shares our values on his own or he's just mirroring what we appreciate for the sake of faking a connection in order to faster jump in our bed. Basically: do not disclose him your deal breakers, especially when it comes to behaviors that he could have behind closed doors in your absence (porn, prostitution, too close friendships with pickmes, questionable use of social media...).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:13 PM
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Let's just leave him to the pickmes that are willing to put up with being cheated and disrespected... The standard was under the sea and you deserve so much more than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:06 PM
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Any guy who pays a monthly subscription to see naked pictures and videos of a specific woman is trash. Disgusting, pathetic, desperate, perverted TRASH. It’s not jealousy. I just can’t respect him. Standing ovation. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:58 PM
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His anger totally comes from being personally called out on the matter, from shame - whatever they say, the urge to defend porn so vehemently comes from feeling guilty - and from being in the wrong against a woman, which is something that LVM find so uncomfortable. When it's about others, who knows, there's a lot of people that tells other to behave but the rule doesn't apply to them. 🙄 I would totally hope that women would not ask for help about these matters to a man. P.s. the meme is on point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:56 PM
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🤦🏻‍♀️ oh no. This sounds terrible. I would hope that he's able to put his own "values" in the background when he's working with clients and tell them that their emotions are valid and they're entitled to set whatever boundary works for them, but I'm not really a fan of male therapists at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:25 PM
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Women of color are so misrepresented and harmed from the porn industry that it really breaks my heart. I don't know how porn actresses of color are able to get away with the roles they accept to be put in, without facing any accountability from their own community, while I see huge protests when a woman of color is romantically involved with a man of a different ethnicity that actually respects her. Racism and oppression of women go hand in hand. (English is not my first language and I'm not fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:41 PM
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The fact that he didn't even see the problem, didn't apologize and had no plan to overcome his addiction with a therapist automatically puts him in the real trash. I'm sorry that you had to deal with him. Actually, very well done on your part! Bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:13 PM
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These people get to profit from the objectification of women's body and from telling men that they can do anything to any woman. This happens on the shoulder of each and every other woman, it's harmful to women as a whole. Nonetheless, these people can't take accountability, they're sold to violence against women and just can't get that their actions harm others. This kind of selfishness wouldn't be allowed between men, they would get heavily criticised if they decided to humiliate their gender …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:56 PM
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If she's so lost without a man in her life to the point of lowering her standards this much and throwing her own values out of the window, she can totally pick whatever scumbag she prefers, I'm not mad at her for her will to eat mud. I definitely have a problem with telling other women that they should also join this path to become doormats tho. I wouldn't be surprised if this was actually written by a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:42 PM
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What's the benefit of keeping a man like this into her life? This loser is making a neurosurgeon question herself and her ability to take the right decision just because he's an envious POS. The fact that he also had to bring his mother into the equation speaks volumes about the abuse that this queen of medical professional is facing. I hope that she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:25 PM
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This is such a beautiful and fulfilling hobby! 😍 Your work is absolutely lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:43 PM
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I have nausea from reading this. This woman is 21, she basically has all the time to do magic with her life, while this NVM allowed himself to be so comfortable that he doesn't even rush to tell her to stop cooking for him as soon as it's not helpful. He has not even proposed after all this time of cohabitation. She's too precious for him. Any girl friend would appreciate her effort more than this scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:34 PM
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"how can we change things so that the wealthiest would stop making other people feel insecure?" is a funny question to ask while showing an unattractive old man that sell his cosmetics just fueling exactly those insecurities. This is one of a long list of things that I would not trust any man to be in charge of changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:22 PM
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They can't really get over the fact that they can't match with everyone they'd like to, and this is clearly a byproduct of pornography use: they deceive themselves into thinking that any woman must be available to them, no matter how dirty, broke or dumb they are. Healthy people do not get mad at someone they're just not compatible with, they leave and save time for someone else. But guess what happens to the woman with no boundaries that settle for a dusty: underappreciated, abused, cheated, ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:08 PM
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I'm definitely going to ask this question each time one of my friends defend porn. I can't wait to hear the stuttering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:16 AM
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Congratulations! 🥂🌹☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:01 PM
3

Another episode of "LoWeR yOuR sTaNdArDs" where the unemployed balding fatball of the week tries to undermine a woman self esteem, because how dare you having preferences and leaving him out, but of course you're the one being undesirable. 🤦🏻‍♀️ What about minding their own business, instead of wasting time on supposedly not good enough women? Mysteries of their cognitive dissonance. I hardly have time to scroll through the things that I'm interested in, and these people have days in their hands…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:04 PM
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They think that they're entitled to judge and have the last word on our reasons. This ends in arguments about lowering our standards and our boundaries, as if NO meant "convince me otherwise". Block everywhere, put their email under spam and delete everything about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:21 AM
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If they put the same level of effort into some house cleaning their places would shine like nowhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:54 PM
27

Congratulations!!! 🥂🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:02 PM
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The only positive thing about porn being so blatantly normalized is that it gives us the possibility to immediately cut out porn-sick people from our life, as they're not even trying to conceal it and some are even proud of their addiction. Disgusting, even more when I see pickmes going in defense mode to be the doormat of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:37 PM
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That's why men need to invest months in quality dates and they need to ask for public commitment way before being allowed to touch our lingerie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:46 PM
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When basic human brain functions seem like overthinking to the simpler animals...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:18 PM
76

This is wonderful! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:15 PM
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Welcome to another episode of "LoWeR yOuR sTaNdArDs!!1!" Gently provided from clown number ♾️.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:42 PM
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The fact that people like him are able to become cops is so disturbing... I'm sorry that you had to deal with such a scumbag, but above all I hope that this doesn't set you up for petty annoyances if he ever gets bored at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:19 PM
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The last phrase really resonates with me. DUMP DUMP DUMP as soonnnnnn as you're unhappy For real! I had a similar experience in my late teens until I turned 20: it's wasted effort to even bother getting angry. If he's dismissive and manipulative, he already took too much of your time and mental energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:00 PM
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Another misogynist. If a fourty years old man is pursuing women 15-20+ years younger, hence showing that he needs power and control to raise his self esteem, I don't think that there's a HVW his age that would even bother rolling her eyes for him. I do feel sorry for the pickme that ends with them, as they'll be easily manipulated into kinks, no commitment situationships and out of school. No one in their right mind would want an abusive man around, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:15 AM
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That's really disgusting... I've seen here on Reddit some pickmes defending their NVM that proposed during someone else's baby shower or marriage and they not only said yes but went on to whine about the host disappointment. He would be a total scumbag, but if she even dares to say yes in those situations, the whole couple has to get out of it and never return in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:31 PM
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Whoever puts a woman on the spot on such a sensitive topic, without being sure that: she is ready to get married she likes this kind of attention seeking shows the situation is the best possible she could find herself in (at least a dinner where she gets to dress up for the event, not that he shows up in suit and you're grocery shopping) ...kind of deserves to be left there with a middle finger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:54 AM
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I would say that the best effort is not pestering me about seeing each other at all. Since it's a pandemic and both have parents at risk, we don't really do dates and I would be annoyed if he insisted in going out. He resorted on showing that he thinks about me through thoughtful gifts when we get to say hello in person. When the situation is not that bad, to the point that high quality restaurants and fancy XIX century cafes are open, we're going there in the least crowded hours. Keeping the ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:31 PM
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He's a NVM. Not even close to be HV. Even if he's wealthy, with a good job and a loving family, these things mean nothing when he is not generous, caring, family oriented, emotionally stable and empathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:24 PM
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I completely agree, as life is already complicate enough to even think about keeping a deadlift that does not make an effort on his own (and will likely slow down everyone around him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:48 PM
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This is definitely some great advice for every stage of the relationship, as men can turn into dead potatoes at any point in their lifelong middle-age crisis. Basically, we have to vet forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:11 PM
12

I've saved this just to remind myself that I'm constantly under crossing fires, as society constantly pushes women's boundaries to the point of raising doormats. Seeing your list of links really gives an image of the BS we deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:27 AM
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I've seen the real deal in my family: the sperm donor always barks about being eXpLoiTeD for his money... (What money? Where? Do they really believe that their wifes are there just because of an average wage that they can't even properly manage?) ...but nevermind asking full custody and showing real interest and accountability in every aspect of the kid life. Just be the free time parent, put all the raising up and dirty work on the mother, and whine about having to put money on your own offspri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:51 AM
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It's already messed up when a 29 years old thinks that he's fine with a teenager, but her still questioning if that abuse is offensive just shows how easy it is for manipolative abusers. You just can't catch up with the experience in deception of someone ten years your senior, but a lot of teenagers just refuse to believe it, me at the time being the first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:40 AM
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Lower your standards and you'll end up asking yourself why even the pickmes around you could get away with better deals than yours. It's also quite realistic that not even the people in needs eating at the charity would bring their first date there. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:50 PM
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Clearly we do create our struggles on our own. /s If I have to recall all the mental breakdowns that led me to cry for days it was literally each time caused by a male abusive behavior. 🙄 And looking around at other women's struggles I'm definitely not the only one. Wgtow with a ban on men bashing is like a book without the ink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:21 PM
5

This is such a beautiful and spot on view on FDS! I'm totally on the same page.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:11 PM
90

As if women were those taking the life of their husbands over some divorce papers. Definitely. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:50 PM
33

Looks like he's married tho 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:48 PM
233

The illustrator has to be some ugly single that's projecting his own scarce cleanliness on women. As usual, women can talk only for themselves, but men get to talk for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:38 PM
5

You dodged the biggest bullet not giving this man any kid. Clownish on his part to ask you to slow things down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:18 PM
57

I'm happy to have not the slightest idea about who this is. ✔️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:05 PM
5

Think that they're probably into porn and willing to dump the girls that they get to hookup with until you'll be proved wrong. It's a test you're giving them. You don't even know if he washes his hands after going to the toilet, or if he prefers washing pieces over a full shower. Do not project your expectations, otherwise you won't be able to see any red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:03 PM
15

Handbook scrote I see, trying to neg and to do last minutes hookups. 🤢 Block and delete?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:48 PM
1

Definitely not an option then 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:25 PM
2

At that point, I don't know how being a single mother would be worse than that. They would get rid of the additional load of work and expenses, plus getting the chance to start all over. But I get that it's not this easy and some would feel or actually be trapped in there for some time. I send my thoughts to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:10 PM
2

It sounds terrible, as it seems that he didn't believe that it was an actual problem. May I send you a big hug? Please don't be harsh on yourself for not seeing through it soon enough, porn is basically another pandemia. I'm probably wrong on FDS terms and I would like a more experienced opinion on the matter, but the only way I could condone an episodic vanilla porn consumption to an actual all around perfect HVM is if the man promptly brings up his own mistake and is determined to quit with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:05 PM
120

Oh the audacity to end it blaming his own behavior on the wife... as if she forced him to look for comfort in a coworker. This scumbag is not even capable to take accountability nor action to reject the mistress. Basically a puppet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:42 PM
7

I'm so sorry for your friends! I have your same experience, and indeed following the handbook leads to wholesome relationships based on trust and accountability. *not really the same, since I've not consented to marriage yet, but indeed similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:31 PM
5

I indeed thought about roughly one date per week, since meeting more often in the first dating/interviewing/vetting stages doesn't give us the time to properly process all the infos and could give the vibe that we've nothing much else to do. 🤔 But absolutely, fourth date is enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:26 PM
7

I'm sorry that this happened to you! Unfortunately, the talk about porn needs to be brought up quite soon, maybe acting in a reassuring libfem approach, asking not if they watch porn but asking what genre they're into, assuming they watch it. The biggest red flag that brings to an immediate break up is linked to appreciation for messed up, violent or exploitative genres, and to his personal view about it. I would not like to be with a man that has a positive view on porn even if he doesn't consu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:18 PM
50

Libfems are lying to themselves into a mindset that values the lowest sexual instinct and porn addiction over the clear issues regarding the objectification and humiliation of women and the emotional health of the relationship, just for the sake of being everything-positive and because they are in majority pickmes that would throw themselves under a bus for LVM's validation. Actually, porn addiction is regarded as therapy matter in healthy relationships, no matter if it's the man or the woman be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:45 PM
16

Ikr! It's ridiculous that a self proclaimed feminist sub gets to show its true colors being inclusive towards misogynistic mindsets like MRA's, but exclusive towards women having boundaries and standards in dating life. 🤯 Good to know that a man from red pill, mgtow and mra would likely be more welcome than actual women, it tells a lot about libfems. I'm fine being a radfem is an only-women space. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:17 PM
26

Delusional and entitled speech diarrhea should be an actual medical condition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:04 AM
51

I praise your ability to dribble pedantic questions without feeling someway urged to come up with an explanation! That's a spot on queen vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:00 AM
13

My boyfriend recommended me that channel! I was like "my dear, sorry to tell you but the last time I checked you were definitely not a woman 🤔". 😂 But hey, not complaining, some podcasts in there are indeed awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:11 AM
11

It may be a joke but there's women out there that seriously believe in this shit, without even recognizing the flashing dissonance. I don't know if it's fear of being alone or not detected self esteem, but they all could have much more, the one in picture being the first. I feel that I've lost a couple of brain cells and my IQ dropped by at least half a point, just reading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:06 AM
74

Sex is definitely one the biggest no-nos during dating stages and for the first months at all. You can't know if he's faking the relationship evolution just to get there asap until you make him wait some time being already officially together. Most LVM will disappear on their own and it's important not to feel guilty or bad for it, they failed the test and it was for your own well-being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:59 AM
110

If he's enough into you and wants it secured, he'll make it clear that he wants you to be officially his girlfriend during the first month of dating. No sex prior to official and public commitment is mandatory. Will it take months? Fine. He (not you) will bring up marriage one or two years after, depending on how young you are. During this period, you do not cohabitate, even if the sky is falling on your head. And do not care for his home and food, ffs. It's either that he thinks that you match …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:20 AM
21

Someone's feelings are going to be hurt it seems 🤦🏻‍♀️ That's exactly what she needs to stop doing if the guy is not taking it seriously enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:53 AM
20

If they drink anything more than one glass of wine or one beer at meal, they're done for me. I'm too scared from the lack of self control that alcohol produces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:54 PM
97

If I think that today kids get in contact with pornography even before middle school, I can't but feel hopeless for future generations. Their sex drive will be gone way before they'll be able drink a beer. Problem is, young women are getting shamed into accepting porn too, not only by exploitative men, but also and above all from libfem propaganda spreaded from pickmes. You know, the "it's 2020, you're prude, porn is empowerment" shaming anthem. I won't even start on cartoons with huge sexual fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:50 PM
20

Sounds like something fancy to brag about, to be honest 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:36 PM
77

How is "princess syndrome" an offence? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:13 PM
9

She seems so fun and pleasant to be around, I imagine her being light hearted and super confident! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:47 PM
4

With high intensity screen light the names are perfectly visible, cover them with full opaque for your own privacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:06 PM
5

It sounds promising for a good laugh, later, on the phone with friends! I've resorted to not even making eye contact, I just blatantly look straight somewhere else as if they were not even there. They sometimes get angry tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:50 PM
14

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! Pets are such a precious presence in our life that this is basically asking you to smile after a best friend funeral. For them to feel better about their non existent charming skills? No way, also they're usually complete strangers and the audacity never fail to surprise me. Idk, I would never start to negatively address a random person just because I don't like their mood. 🤷 how sour and grumpy or arrogant a lot of men look all the time? 99% of them look pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:01 PM
124

I love the comeback and I'm saving this! ✨ How entitled one needs to be to actually demand and think that they have rights on other people smiling has always been beyond my understanding. Basic self awareness of their worthless meaning in the universe should humble those clowns but apparently not, they just come with an unhealthy amount of sense of importance. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:27 AM
26

I hear them from far away "YoU'rE bLaCkMaILiNg mE!!1!" 🤣 Definitely time to call it a day...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:10 AM
13

My NVfather used to call "blackmail" and "threat" anything that would put a limit to his misbehaviour to the point that the other person would leave: go figure how much of entitlement these people feel. 🙄 When I was a teen I tried to ask him what about the freedom of that person to not deal with BS they don't want in their life. As much as he's free to choose his bad habits, they're free to walk away from him, right? According to the sperm donor, nope. Women should just put up with his BS becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:07 AM
84

This probably was in the early 90s with no cellphones at hand, when being able to rely on family could make a difference between life and death even more than today. 😥 I can't imagine the fear and the sense of abandonment that would come with realizing that her SO is an abusive and dismissive POS, yet staying with him for whatever reason she thought she couldn't deserve better. This is truly heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:50 AM
158

An HVM will gladly wait months while already being exclusive before having sex. The only way to properly vet them is waiting with eyes wide open. NVM will start to whine and shame the woman for being "prude" and they'll probably won't even make it to be exclusive with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:37 AM
42

That's cognitive dissonance at its finest 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:41 PM
2

Thank you! I really appreciate your point and I'm totally on board with it. Since marriage is a lot of responsibilities, I won't ever look forward to it if things are not really really worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:31 PM
1

That's my fear indeed as I recognize that your description fits the majority of people I know and see around me. And it's just what I don't want for me. Looking at my situation I must say that romanticism and emotions are there way more than day one, but we worked on it to be this way. There's intentional and mutal effort on both parts to make things always better every day. I am indeed thinking about marriage because he constantly courts me, gets emotional happiness even talking about us and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:36 PM
4

It's great if that's even a bit useful! Indeed, the whole point is that I don't want to be brought to do that. If I ever feel that urge, it means that he already engaged in secretive or dismissive behavior and he's done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:56 PM
17

I've promised myself long years ago that if a man ever gives me reasons to doubt his faithfulness, I don't need to prove myself right or wrong on his devices, I just don't want that uncertain energy around me and he gets dumped. We do exchange passwords (unlock, nothing else) and fingerprints on each other devices tho, as a sign of trust and respect. He also talks on speakers with everyone calling when we're in the car and I can totally use his phone or laptop if needed. I steer clear from inten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:26 PM
25

I follow her! She's such a knowledgeable therapist about narcissism and gives really good advices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:46 PM
1

Aww 💕 thank you darling! Have a wonderful day and may your future be as you dream it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:20 PM
2

You're right, I need to be kinder on myself 💐 I'm quite good in theory but we'll only see during practice year if I'm fit for the real deal and I'm so scared! 😂 I've already set plans B, C and D ready in my pockets tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:49 PM
2

Oh Lord, I'm naive... 🤦🏻‍♀️ I didn't think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:38 PM
6

Ikr! My mother always made a point on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:37 PM
2

Thank you so much for this. I'm actually late with my degree but dealing with a disabled parent is no joke. Luckily he understands and helps me with grocery shopping loads or taking my mom wherever she needs when he can. In the meanwhile I got to watch him picking his own path and growing into adulthood too, which was unexpectedly useful for me just to know in advance what kind of lifestyle I'm signing up for. Age wise, I am at fault and I definitely need to move my ass. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:36 PM
3

It was still a great reminder post, as slippery slopes are around the corner for everyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:18 PM
2

Thank you for letting me know your point of view, my insecurity about my part is probably due to the fact that I'm a bit late with having everything on point, but he's here to wait and remind me that he's waiting indeed. So yeah, I need to focus and hurry up a bit career wise maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:15 PM
6

You're making me feel much better about it, thanks... We were definitely too young when he proposed, and he also witnessed my mother going into physical disabilities while I was struggling to find the time to study, so I thought that I had every right to slow the relationship down. I'm usually that tired that being together it's usually me finally taking the time to dress up, relax, cuddling his cats in front of a movie while he prepares tea and snacks, being treated to some good restaurant or h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:05 PM
5

I'm sure that lib-feminism convinced many women that they need to play both their role and the role of the man that they would have loved to be with. What's that for? Showing men that we could do the man part better than they do? No prize in sight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:10 PM
7

I may be messing upon this. He proposed me five years ago, but I said that even though I see a life with him, I have other things that needs to be set first (career and family wise). I kept pushing the date and he's keeping asking me every few months until we recently agreed to 2022 but I'm actually not thinking about it until after my degree and until date, venue and guests list are set. It's just too much of a burden right now. In the meanwhile we just continued to date as if we were in the fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:05 PM
6

I'm resorting to say something like "offence is decided upon offended point of view, not yours" and they lose it. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:59 AM
16

Add to this saying them that a toy feels better, and they wouldn't even think twice about dumping us, which is exactly what this woman needs to do. She's young, she can do a lot better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:55 AM
1

It's highly possibile that at least she gets rid of some pickme habits, but sadly it takes hard and conscious mental work to actually change for life... I hope that someone brings her here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:52 AM
6

I see this working wonders especially with those that take it personally if you come back at them. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:50 AM
25

I'm horrified by this kind of stories. I really hope that she blocks him and burn every bridge, this cheater does not even deserve basic acknowledgement on the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:11 AM
24

I don't even want to recall how many times I've had to go through this since childhood, while no one gave me tools to answer and to not feel emotionally drained and angry. I resorted to avoid engaging with people I don't know and to leave as soon as someone shows that type of bullying personality. How do you usually respond when this happens face to face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:04 AM
96

This is beyond ridiculous, try to imagine the rage if gender were reversed! There's nothing to fix here, just trash to dump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:18 AM
31

He's trying the macho part "I can't stand these new age things" but miserably fails, not only publicly disrespecting his wife, but also coming across as a worm without any willpower on his own. And probably will be rewarded with divorce papers. Yay, three pidgeons with one pea. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:58 PM
2

I thought that the joke was her family testing him! 😦 Like "how funny, I thought she was for real!" Ok, so there's people writing made up stories about how much they would act trashy but somehow saving themselves. 😱 I need to let this sink in 😶 thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:19 PM
3

He could end it as an accountable, grown up man, taking pride into doing the right thing to do. But no. Not cool enough I guess. His macho image needs to be assessed trashing every marriage value and any respect for the woman HE choose to be with under the bus. I just hope that it's totally made up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:06 PM
18

Why, why they have to be so unnecessarily mean, cruel, disrespectful and childish? 😓 They're not even worth my anger, but I'm sad for the world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:31 PM
4

I was asked the same precise question by my female gynecologist, when I hinted that I am willing to get a salpingectomy. How an hypothetical man's manipulative opinion is supposed to outweigh mine when we're talking about my body and my life, is still to be explained. TBS, my answer was that I would not stay at all with a man who wants bio babies, I'm not here to compromise. She was appalled. I however did not get the prescription for the salpingectomy because "too young, you'll change your mind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:03 AM
12

"your dad is an artist!" He doesn't need to worry, mine was a professor but you can bet that he has none of this figured out. He actually tried to guilt trip me when I broke up from an abusive relationship because "he's such a nice guy™️!" Thank you for sharing this wholesome video! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:47 PM
199

Yeah, because newspapers are definitely full of men bring brutally tortured and killed because they refused to continue or start a relationship. Totally on the same level... /sarcasm Also, I wish I had that conversation with my mother at 12!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:41 PM
26

😂 I didn't see this coming... Is that what nightmares are made of? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:32 AM
97

The fact that they can't tell the difference between the red pill and FDS speaks volumes. Also, why do they care so much? What's the purpose? If they're the kind of men that we don't like, they're not our type nor we are their. It's fine. Can we just have standards and opinions on our own? There's plenty of libfem out there that are completely fine with whatever garbage they stumble upon, seek them and leave FDS alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:47 AM
6

She had two kids with this kind of garbage tho, I can't believe that this is the first red flag that he shows... How can she still look forward to holidays is beyond my understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:26 AM
3

I kind of ticked them all in my life, it's a constant work on ourselves but we're not alone anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:15 AM
2

This man is an horror show waiting to happen 😧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:43 AM
2

It's actually from The Paragons, an all male group from the Sixties... And genders in the song were reversed! Here's the original one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:06 PM
6

I'm sorry that you had to deal with such lack of basic human decency!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:42 PM
7

Since she's the breadwinner and she's would totally benefit from taking some load off of her shoulders, I root for divorce. It would be a remarkable improvement in peace, health, cleanliness and homeworks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:10 PM
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