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| 1309 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings. | Men's Rights | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 13/05/18 10:28 PM |
| 960 | The Ansari story - Red Pill Edition | Blue Pill Example | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 05:40 AM |
| 128 | Alpha Validation versus Beta Validation | Red Pill Theory | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/18 11:21 PM |
| 111 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest. | Field Report | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 02:50 PM |
| 19 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No Chad | MGTOW | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction. | Field Report | DickTerper | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/18 03:54 AM |
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| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadHave you read the post? The word MGTOW appears in it exactly once. It's an 1100+ word post. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadYeah, the best players I met in my life had this view that I call "the Master perspective". Basically, they choose the girls they want, by being themselves and seeing how the girls respond. Personally, I don't enjoy dressing up. So I don't. I picked up girls who were all dolled up as if for a cover shoot, while I was wearing sweat pants and flip flops. I don't recommend it in general, and nowadays I often dress better when I go out, but I do it because it's my choice. The worst thing you can do … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadBecause MGTOWS are quitters, dude. OK, maybe some of them are. Know what? Maybe all of them are. That's not the perspective I'm defending. My post is about the view that men don't need women in their lives to be happy. Do you see the difference? It's not about quitting, it's not about dropping every challenge to the ground, it's not about calling women evil and just staying away from them because they don't unlock with a button like your vidya. I'm not defending any of these things. MGTOW appear… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadIn a way it is still putting them on a pedestal, but pretending not to. Yeah, absolutely. How are you not putting women on a pedestal, if you consider them not merely desirable, but essential to your well-being? "Outcome independence" becomes a mere act: "I better not act nervous around this chick or she'll think I'm a loser... But actually I haven't been laid in weeks... I really have to get laid soon... I'm falling back to my incel shell... OMG I'm terrified..." You're like a buyer who won't w… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadWhy is that "ironic"? I've been known to make a decent point from time to time... And yes, that is a big part of my point: that guys are working from a more or less implicit assumption that they have to get women, thus sabotaging themselves, both tactically (they'll be nervous talking to women) and strategically: they'll see women as the ultimate goal, rather than themselves. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadIf you do everything right, over time you have to put in less and less effort. You sure about that? How about after 50? Still "getting easier over time"? It's a hell of a lot harder for me to game 18-20 year olds now than it was in my 20s, despite all the skills and how well the other aspects of my life are going. Personally I think TRP is about a lot more than "getting women". Sure, get them if you can, if the cost/benefit analysis is positive. Otherwise, don't. That's real empowerment. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadYou need to learn some basics of TRP! NEVER D.E.E.R (Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize). Are you a woman? Is this a relationship fight? And here I was thinking I'm posting at a forum for men, who discuss and explain the game rationally. My bad. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadIf you can't fuck younger or attractive by your standards women at any age it's still a you problem. Your second sentence/paragraph is literally a scarcity mentality. The way to solve this problem is to stay attractive and identify a relationship style that suits your wants without exceeding your abilities. Women are a benefit, that has costs. Beyond a certain age, the cost of women start rising, while benefits decline. If you're in your 60s, you will have to work incredibly hard to hook up with… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadTo me it reads like a bitter MGTOW who is mad I'm not MGTOW at all. Look at my post history, I am very much still involved in game, talking to women, going on dates. I just think MGTOW is a legitimate choice, and we should not disrespect a man just because he took it, or is unsuccessful with women. I firmly believe that if you are succeeding with women, you aren't going to walk away from that. I'm somewhat inclined to agree, and this doesn't contradict anything in my post. So many guys claiming … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadSaying you've solved the woman problem by not being involved by women is fucking up from step zero. Suppose you're a man in your late 50s. It will happen to all of us, if we don't die young. What are your options? The number of attractive young women who willingly sleep with you is vanishingly small. Do you fuck old, unattractive women? This is not a rhetorical question, and I really would be interested in your answer, but my current impression is that you are laboring under the delusion of bein… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadMGTOWS are only in one of two camps: What's the benefit of categorizing and generalizing and judging fellow men? If someone is acting like a whiny victimized bitch, it's useful to point out. Otherwise, mind your own affairs and progress, post about good shit to do, answer questions if you can, ask them if you need to. In my experience, most generalizations are aimed to serve the person doing the generalizing. Like, I might post about how "MGTOW are with few exceptions a bunch of bitter incels" t… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Do not let yourself be defined by women, nor your incidental success with them: There is No ChadBut you also define yourself by women. No, I do not. I don't think anyone who has much success with women is impressed with a man just because he fucks many women. You can be an immature man-child and have women throw themselves at you because you inherited billions and/or are a celebrity. It's idiotic to define yourself by that, much like defining yourself by the size of your bank account. There might be a reason to be proud of that, but let it define me? Hell no. If you weren't than why did yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationThere are those women that stay beautiful You know a woman who "stayed beautiful" after age 40, beautiful enough to compete against a 20 year old? Furthermore, I've been with some beautiful women. Given enough time together, even women who are clearly less attractive than them will be seen as more attractive, simply because we men are biologically programmed for diversity. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationExcept not every women can secure an “alpha” long term. An understatement. Alphas are normally a tiny minority of male population, and only a tiny minority of the top most attractive women can have any reasonable hope to secure one of them as a provider. There's research that only the most attractive women (think model-grade looks) see alphas as potential providers. All other women see them as a potential hookup and nothing more. And most likely the longer a man is around a woman the longer he’s… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationIf they wanted only the seed, they would only ask for sperm donation and raise them on their own. Sperm donations only existed for the past 70 years or so. From an evolutionary perspective, that's an eye blink. Women are simply not programmed to "ask for sperm donations" as a valid way of getting good genetic material, not anymore than us men are programmed to donate sperm as a way to reproduce. For both sexes, the activity mentally associated with reproduction is sexual intercourse, not visitin… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationOrdinary woman compared to the schedule of a music superstar (touring/recording/writing duties) would simply not comply. Not exactly sure what you mean. Male celebrities fuck non-celebrity females all the time. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/18 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationIn an LTR, sure, though less so than she'd feel for the beta. My post mentions LTRs with betas (since that's what they're good for, if anything) but only discusses relations with alphas in so far as the decision to have sex with them. I believe women rarely get a shot at LTRs with pure alphas, and most of them won't even try. Think of an ordinary woman who managed to hook up with say Kanye West. She will assume she can't get him to commit to her, and 9,999 times out of 10,000 she will be right. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationEven women who have complete financial freedom will seek out a man that earns more than her. Sure, she'll prefer it, but that's because it's an attractive alpha quality to be successful and powerful (which is what being "rich" really means). Not because they need his money to survive. That exerts profound implications on her choice process. For example, in the past just being able to provide could get you laid, because getting a provider was a matter of life or death to her. Nowadays, if all you… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationI suppose one question could be is which came first? Low sexual reproductive value, or the pseudo-fantasy relationships. They reciprocally support each other. The possibility of sinking into fantasy life entices men who would otherwise work on their SMV. Of course, men with low SMV would be even more enticed, especially when the face an uphill battle to increase their SMV. Once in the firm grip of fantasy, the chances of these men to escape depend on an increasingly elusive and difficult success… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationVirtual reality and the whole "waifu" thing might seem like reasonable options to all of the beta men that may otherwise have absolutely zero sexual gratification / outlets. Yeah, absolutely. Waifu, cyber sex, various forms of fantasies happening on and offline (like furries etc), porn of course. I've always wondered how a relatively functional male could slip into sexual-virtual fantasy relationships. You can be a totally functional, mentally healthy and "normal", but still have zero chance of … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationRight, that's what led to what I call the "beta crisis" of our age, in which most betas can no longer get laid at all. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Validation versus Beta ValidationSure. This post focuses on a dichotomy. In reality, there's shades of gray between these extremes. Very few men are pure alphas. I might address that in another post. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 03:49 AM |
| 1 | The sad realities of modern datingWhere are you at out of curiosity? Let's just say I'm in a big American city. I would look at statistics for specific cities, not entire states, let alone the whole nation. Women in my neighborhood are ambitious, tight, fit, work out. They compete for high quality men, and they won't let themselves go. These are the women I care about. There's some other neighborhoods around us, women are good there too. Farther than that... I don't care. For the record, I'm pretty sure some towns in my state ha… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 03:45 AM |
| 1 | The sad realities of modern dating40% of women are obese. These broad statistics are practically meaningless. I care about women living in my immediate area. And where I happen to live, not even 10% of unmarried women under 30 are obese. I doubt it's even 5%. 40% obese? Sure, maybe in some parts of the country, hundreds of miles away, where it doesn't affect me. Not here. Think you can eat a little icecream every now and again? Forget about it bro, you have to be flawless to climb to the top of this mountain. I'm all for persona… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction.Her bf probably knows it and he probably does the same thing. That's a benign explanation, which I unfortunately doubt very much. We talked for at least 20 minutes the first time we met, but the second time, every aspect of her body language screamed "do not fucking talk to me now". I'm pretty sure her boyfriend is not aware that she speaks to guys the way she spoke to me, much less that she hides her relationship with him under these circumstances. That's another thing I saw often: even girls w… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/18 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction.It's just better for them to not mention it unless they're actively trying to avoid flirty and fun behavior. To be fair, I've had a lot of women soak up some amount of attention, but still admit to having a boyfriend at some point in the interaction when the alternative was lying. Very often it happened at the end when I directly tried for something that would consist of cheating on her part, such as pulling her or meeting her again alone. I've seen plenty of girls lie when they want to cheat, b… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/18 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction.Yeah, I think that's a very plausible explanation. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction.I don't think it's "healthy" to blatantly lie about it. Most women actually would admit to having a boyfriend, at least by the end. I thought this case was slightly unusual because she was definitely lying and due to this accidental second meeting I was able to know that retroactively. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 05:28 AM |
| 1 | In only 1 sentence, what is the most painful truth you've learned from trp?Forgot "it just happened" sex. | /r/askTRP | 09/07/18 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Can you be auto-rejected if you take too long to escalate and remain pretty aloof?Of course. If you don't escalate, she'll move on, eventually. What else should she do? Wait around for years while you get your act together? | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 06:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a chick you open and start speaking to tells you she wants to speak to her friend?Sounds like your friends are useless for this. So find cooler friends who aren't. Or go it alone and accept that a lot girls will not work out since they're there with friends. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Field Report: HB8 wants to be a plate, but she can't stop acting like a LTR; so her hamster starts kicking over the ampsWhat exactly is there to understand here? You wasted a huge amount of time providing emotional support and attention to a girl you never actually met. Then you wrote a long-ass post about it, as if you have some insights to share. Newsflash: you don't don't understand anything being taught here if you think anything about this "report" is right. It's not even a "field report". You have no idea who this person is. You never met. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/18 05:46 PM |
| 1 | In only 1 sentence, what is the most painful truth you've learned from trp?A woman's own account of her sexual history should be in the dictionary definition of "subjective". Many women don't include hookups, "guys they weren't really into", sex with "friends", "I drank more than one beer". Others just lie and "forget". Not counting BJs and HJs is the tip of the iceberg. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 05:12 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a chick you open and start speaking to tells you she wants to speak to her friend?I didn't really escalate at all. That was probably my fault. I also didn't validate her whatsoever. Also, my fault. No. Not everything is your fault. Moreover, not everything happens because you did or did not perform some technique you read about in your PUA manual. I mean her friend was sitting on her left and I on her right so if she continued to talk to me, her friend would have been sitting idle. If they were really open to accepting you, they'd find a way to make it work. How do you know t… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Met a girl online, need advice.I see that she still uses okcupid ( the online dating site we used to meet up). Is this a red flag? Not the best sign, obviously, but normal at this stage. You just had two dates, she was probably talking to other guys before she met you, she still doesn't know if it works out. Don't expect her to drop everything immediately so soon. It looks like she also have a overly active social life because she is always hanging out with friends. Totally normal for a healthy girl. During the first date we … | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Met a girl online, need advice.Nope, fucked an international student from Korea who I thought was "conservative" So because one girl you fucked once seemed conservative and turned out otherwise, OPs girl is definitely the same? If she uses OkCupid, she probably fucks a lot of guys off of it. More baseless assumptions. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 12:25 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a chick you open and start speaking to tells you she wants to speak to her friend?So you started talking to a girl, and she said "I want to talk to my friend"? Yes, that is a rejection. It's a slightly more polite way of saying "I want to talk to my friend (and not to you)". | /r/askTRP | 08/07/18 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Girls often hide their relationship status, even when refusing to comply with a seduction.Still weird that she invented a whole false story ("won't date because of job instability") rather than say the truth. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/18 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Polygamous behavior in men is equilvalent to Hypergamous behaviorI think you misunderstood the purpose of this subreddit. The message here isn't "men are good, women are evil". The purpose of this place is to discover and disseminate accurate information regarding how the sexual game is played, what female sexual strategy really is, and how you may want to approach it in the role of an authentic man. Outside this place, male sexual strategy is often vilified, and female sexual strategy is often whitewashed. For example, yes, men are promiscuous by nature, and… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/18 12:19 PM |
| 1 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.Yes, women would rather have commitment from the man they want to mate with. But you are forgetting that the men they want most will likely be the most attractive men around, and desired by all other women, so their chance of getting that commitment from these men is very small. I recommend you check out the dual mating strategy: best genes vs most commitment. The feminine dilemma is that these strategies are contradictory. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/18 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Girl with boyfriend, sexual tension is strong, I'm going to be direct to her " I want to fuck you"> I'm going to tell her that I want her and want to fuck her and see her reaction and response. You are clearly scared of actually making a move. That's why you want to "tell her" and then wait to watch and "see her reaction and response". In other words, you want her approval. Otherwise, you're afraid to proceed. This is a very bad mindset. I didn't read your past post. If this girl let you get "close to sex" with her, then she most likely wants to cheat on her boyfriend. If she let's you get i… | /r/askTRP | 25/05/18 03:57 AM |
| 1 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.MeToo is aimed at men that use their positions of power to force women (and men sometimes) to do things they aren’t entirely ready to do or comfortable with, for social and political power. This was a front page article in arguably the most important paper in the country. The title and headline referred to #MeToo directly. Whether you agree or not, people do consider the stories in this article to be part of #MeToo. Even if they didn't, this article and stories reflect a movement to define sexua… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 04:45 AM |
| 8 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.It isn't "an isolated incident" if every woman you know has been catcalled, made uncomfortable or harassed by men "Making a woman uncomfortable" is defined as "harassment". Regardless of any reason, or lack thereof. Just by the fact a woman is uncomfortable, the man is necessarily guilty of "harassment". Thanks for reinforcing the point of my post. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 04:21 AM |
| 11 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.Good quote, but I don't think it's restricted to sexuality. The same is true for relationships in general, professional situations, etc. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 03:56 AM |
| 3 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.That might be one of the points some accounts make, but it is obscured and overwhelmed by the flood of anger, accusations, and blame directed at men. The women in the article generally place the blame and responsibility squarely at the feet of their male partners, even if some of them do acknowledge they could have done something. Note that they did not, but they still blame the men for their negative emotions. The article is full of women throwing men out of their bedrooms, feeling used, exploi… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 01:20 AM |
| 1 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.I don't know about Canada, but if you read the US stories in the article, most included explicit verbal consent. Also, would a recorded video help Aziz Ansari? I don't think so. Would probably make it so much worse, since he'd labelled a creepy perv to film the encounter, even if it wasn't illegal. I'm willing to bet he'd lose his career over this. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 01:04 AM |
| 1 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.Instead the man is expected to both get her to say "yes" (enthusiastically!) at the start... If you read the accounts in the article carefully, it becomes clear that not only did the woman provide consent prior to the sex, and in most cases explicit verbal consent, but in many cases it was most likely quite enthusiastic. The woman was horny, attracted to the man, and wanted to had sex (yes, they actually admit that in some cases). These very recent articles really close the curtain on the whole … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 01:02 AM |
| 6 | #MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings.I wrote specifically: However, while betas are at the highest risk from women's post-sex regret, they're not the only ones by any means. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/18 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Are girls actually as repulsed by signs of anxiety as I think they are?This question itself is a celebration of obsessive preoccupation with your anxiety. You're literally anxious about being anxious. My advice: fix your anxiety first, then worries about other people's reaction to them will take care of themselves. Also, pretty much everyone gets anxious at times. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Just got a girls number, asked to hang on Friday.It's not so complicated. Ask her when she's free over the weekend. Generally, her rejecting a date on a particular day without suggesting an alternative time that does work - is a pretty bad sign. She's being difficult, and typically that's because she's not serious about meeting. If you ask her the question I suggested, and she still can't come up with a good time, it will be much clearer that she's not interested, at which point you delete her number. Either that, or you'll have a date. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 01:16 AM |
| 4 | Phone callsIf you already know her socially, why go by a roundabout, indirect way like a phone call? It reeks of insecurity, fear, lack of confidence. Ask her in person. Much more effective. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/18 01:13 AM |
| 4 | she went cold after sexYeah, I also doubt this. Women getting cold after sex is 100% due to emotional, not sexual reasons. Also, women don't really expect first sex to be amazing. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 04:21 PM |
| 12 | Advice for a total noob, am I too late?difficult childhood with family problems and bullying in every year of school). Everyone had issues and misfortunes. I started to do exercise (not gym for the moment but I may get a job in a few days so I will pay one when I have the money to do so) You really don't have enough money for a cheap black iron gym membership? I plan to go on nofap Lots of plans - gym, nofap, etc - not enough execution. What's your excuse for not going nofap? Can't afford to stop masturbating? When it happens I get p… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a total noob, am I too late?Haven't even read the post. You are 20 years young. Your whole life is ahead of you. You cannot possibly be "late" for anything. Except you're definitely too late to act like a baby, which from glancing through the rest of your post, is what you are unfortunately doing. After the first line is just all a bunch of excuses about why you can't improve your life, why the odds are stacked against you, why life is so unfair, and waaahining. Just quit this shit and do what you have to do. Stop calculat… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/18 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Do I apologize?"Pretty pleaseeee... :(" | /r/askTRP | 12/02/18 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Do I apologize?Right. I personally dislike negs since they are manipulative, but at least that's a proper neg. What OP used was actually the opposite of a neg: it was an aggressive comment that overly tries to define the woman and control here. Women will perceive it as creepy and controlling, especially coming from someone they don't know and delivered with a box of chocolates (!). The exactly opposite of what negs are supposed to accomplish. | /r/askTRP | 12/02/18 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Do I apologize?"Your voice is great, but you need singing lessons." Attractive Bad Boy: confident, strong, doesn't supplicate to women. Unattractive Weirdo: makes rude abrasive comments that cause women to be upset and hate him. Learn the difference. | /r/askTRP | 12/02/18 03:31 AM |
| 1 | I'm a woman who is wondering if I've massively fucked up things with my BF? Friends accused him of cheating.No idea why they did that. Female friends are often envious when you get into a new relationship. Male friends can get jealous. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/18 03:57 PM |
| 1 | I'm a woman who is wondering if I've massively fucked up things with my BF? Friends accused him of cheating.we were FWB for 7 years That's a long-ass time to be FWBs. I sent him a long text last night saying I’m sorry and it’s been 12 hours and he hasn’t responded. I mean, it was a long text so maybe he’s taking his time and he was probably going to bed when I sent it but I’m still worried. Your key mistake was not responding to his texts for over a day after that drama. He is your boyfriend so that's disrespectful. If you realized your friends were just "blowing things out of proportion" then why did… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/18 03:47 PM |
| 1 | A Little AdviceDon't pick up women in professional circumstances. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/18 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsSex is not always sufficient for women to pair-bond either. I've had and heard of sexual relationships lasting for months with women who developed zero observable pair-bonding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/18 01:18 PM |
| 3 | Nobody came out for my birthdayKey thing is that he was surprised by this. I've had loose acquaintances. I knew they weren't reliable. If I invited them to a party like this, I wouldn't really expect them to show up unless they had nothing better to do at the time. The guy inviting 20 people he thought were "friends", expecting them to come, and then nobody did... That's some major misjudgment of his own situation and closest social circle. | /r/askTRP | 28/01/18 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Nobody came out for my birthdayFigure out how you could have misjudged these "friends" so grossly, that you were taken completely by surprise by their treatment of you. It means they either didn't understand you actually expected them to come, and/or didn't care enough to make the effort. Probably more of the latter. Your closest social circle didn't meet your expectations. Figure out why. Maybe you don't know how to build trust and strong bonds that will create the fulfilling mutual commitment that you apparently expect from… | /r/askTRP | 28/01/18 12:19 AM |
| 1 | What is TRP's thoughts on this interaction? What did I do good and how can I improve?OK, good. Good luck! | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Will I even find one?You're very welcome, good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Will I even find one?Perhaps, yes. Therapy, exercise, better diet, whatever works for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Will I even find one?Right, which is why I said this will kill your chances. If you are flooded with constant negative emotions, how can you make a stable home for a man? Fix that first. For yourself, not just for "a man". | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Will I even find one?Many women don't have that, and they are hard to maintain over a long relationship. For example, most women will have bursts of negative emotion that will make you act terribly if you can't control them. Also, a lot of the most attractive women develop a bitchy entitled attitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Will I even find one?Which qualities? It's hard to be a good partner over a long relationship. If you can do that, it will be valuable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:17 PM |
| – | Will I even find one?You can become more attractive if you work on yourself. You don't have to possess or develop talents, but if you're asking what can get you extra points to be taken more seriously, then that's one of the things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:11 PM |
| – | Will I even find one?You're asking as if there's only just 10-15 guys out there :) Men are not all exactly the same. Regarding talents, a lot of higher-quality men are attracted to talented women, so if you sing really well, or dance well (doesn't have to be sexy... I'd be impressed if someone is a really good ballet dancer, for instance), it will help. Also, it's another item in the man's list of "why this lady is special enough to settle down with": because she dances better than 99.99% of women out there. Do you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Advice on moving from texting to dateYeah, exactly. He can try to get a firm date, just as long as he knows she is very likely to flake. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 09:57 PM |
| 1 | What is TRP's thoughts on this interaction? What did I do good and how can I improve?Cool. Try to get a firm date, ideally during the week (she's flaky on weekends). Otherwise, schedule something the day before for the weekend. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 09:54 PM |
| – | Will I even find one?do you mean a lot of money too? Not necessarily, though with some men, that can certainly help. What type of talents are you talking about? Anything hard to come by: dancing, singing, writing. These are not a must, but if you happen to have some talent in any of them, developing it can make you seem very unique and desirable. But will a 30-40 man want someone in their 20’s? Yes, of course, if she's attractive. In fact, men prefer women in their 20s, even when the men themselves are in their 30s … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 09:44 PM |
| – | Will I even find one?What makes them settle down? First of all, they must want it, which is why I mentioned age. Men typically have more fears and perceived downsides when it comes to settling down. The equation tends to change in their 30s and especially 40s. Men are pretty rational, especially higher value men. So they'd have to value the woman quite highly. They'd have to see clear advantages to staying with this particular woman: she's loyal, pleasant, helpful, resourceful, a good companion, etc. Every man has d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 09:02 PM |
| – | Will I even find one?when you read what they say it makes me scared that the only alphas or dominant men are like them and only want sex and never want to settle down.. Most guys on Reddit are young. Alphas do settle down, but typically much later in life, towards their mid 30s or even 40s. Also, it's hard to get an alpha to settle down, but I'm sure you knew that before your trip to RP. I’m highly neurotic so I have a tendency to get anxiety. That would kill your prospects of ever settling down with an "alpha", or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 08:36 PM |
| 2 | If a girl cancels on a date...she just cancelled and gave me the classic not ready to date story. A woman canceling on the first date is not good, even if she immediately provides a reason and an alternative day/time. It's typically because she lost interest, became hesitant, met someone else... All bad for you. A woman canceling without a reason or alternative is usually a tacit "goodbye". A woman canceling for a permanent reason like "I'm not ready to date, sorry!" is an explicit "goodbye". Think about it for a second... H… | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What is TRP's thoughts on this interaction? What did I do good and how can I improve?What your overall thoughts on this interaction? What I do well and what can I improve on? Overall, you did well. The only real mistake was trying to set up a firm date for the same night, on a night that is very busy for most hot girls (Saturday night), and then really trying to make it happen. What happened is she got distracted by something else. You kept insisting, and started to get a bit needy ("Ok well let me know soon before I start heading over"), while she was flaking out, which is a ba… | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Advice on moving from texting to dateSolid advice. Just one comment: Ask her on a real date. Propose a specific activity, date, and time. It doesn't have to be a big deal, but make it SPECIFIC. Sounds like he already did, and she flaked on him. He can try the "firm date" as a hail-mary, but she'll almost certainly flake. I've been in these situations, and typically if she flakes on casual hangouts, she'll flake on a firm date too. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/18 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Is this a shit test or did she next me?last time we were together she asked if I was taking her out on a date for Valentine’s Day. She may have been joking around She wasn't. That's precisely how she'd approach it when she does want you to take her out. Then this past weekend I hit her up and asked to go out. She said yes and we set a time. Then she said let’s go later, and she was going to dinner with a friend This is already inexcusable flakiness on her part: you scheduled a firm date and time, yet she decides to blow you off to go… | /r/askTRP | 22/01/18 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Guys who get tons of interest from other girls, do you think having all that attention will keep you from having a good long term relationship?I feels good knowing I have options, but ultimately it makes me put less value on the relationship. In my experience, this is almost a necessary condition for LTRs with hot girls in their prime. The thing is, these girls are all getting a ton of male attention. Almost certainly, if she's 18-23 and hot, she's getting more attention and options than you, even if you are a hot guy yourself and have good game and social skills. If she has all these options, and you (or don't believe you do - which i… | /r/askTRP | 22/01/18 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How should I reply?How exactly would you "agree and amplify" in this case? | /r/askTRP | 22/01/18 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Women are hating aziz ansari for what he did but don't they love Christian grey from 50 shades of grey for doing the same shit?Franco is definitely an attractive alpha. The idea that alphas are immune to feminist rage, while reassuring, is sadly false. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/18 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Did I handle this correctly?A couple days later she comes over; however, right before she says, “I understand if you're tired and don't want to.” Typical female testing when sex is about to happen. She also must show she's not that interested, and not a slut (ASD). I'm trying to take her bra off and she says only if I can do it with one hand. Typical female testing and coyness I was trying to get her to give me a blowjob but she said something like, “I'm not done teasing you yet.” I haven't had this happen before so I didn… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/18 02:37 PM |
| 1 | epitome of femininityI found that a good diet and exercise are really helpful. Especially diet. Cut out sugar, fatty food, salty food. Meat, if you can. Lots of fruit and vegetables. Besides that, spirituality and meditation helped keep me grounded. Really thinking deeply about my problems, having quiet time for myself, having good people in my life (and kicking out the bad apples) are all important. I think the suffering I went through helped shape me as a person with depth I bet it did. Same for me and many others… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 03:46 AM |
| 1 | epitome of femininityGood, enjoy this! One more thing I will add, since you mentioned a history of affective disorders: do everything you can to bring your mood and affect under control, to stay positive as much as possible. It's really important for the relationship to succeed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Approached by girls after years of no contact and raising SMV: Go for it or move on?It's only scarcity mentality if you feel bad if they reject you. Or, in your specific case, feel like you have to fuck them to prove a point or whatever. If that's the case, you need to work on yourself, but let's be real here: fucking them would be fun and probably have a good effect on you, so why not do it? | /r/askTRP | 19/01/18 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Women are hating aziz ansari for what he did but don't they love Christian grey from 50 shades of grey for doing the same shit?I think we may eventually get there too. But watch the reaction when that happens, when some woman accuses, say, Brad Pitt. It's just much easier to believe and brigade when someone like Ansari is accused. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/18 01:33 AM |
| 1 | epitome of femininityNice! Usually being compared to your s/o's mother is a bad thing- but it put a big cheesy grin on my face. I would say that depends on the man's relation to his mother ;-) For many men, their mother is a rare example of a woman they really respected. If that's the case, then it's very good he said that to you, if your goal is a long term relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 01:31 AM |
| 1 | The Ansari story - Red Pill EditionWhat was she offering him, if not her body? Her gigantic, festering sense of entitlement. Didn't you know, all young women of our generation were born Disney Princesses. They are entitled from birth and don't have to do anything to deserve it and claiming otherwise is misogynism for which #MeToo will call you out a rape-apologist. #MeToo is the ultimate Entitled Princess movement: if you don't fulfill her Disney fantasy, you're literally a rapist. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 05:03 PM |
| 1 | The Ansari story - Red Pill EditionThe herd self-organizes without a central consciousness. Sure, typical women brigading. And as usual, every woman is pulling in a slightly different direction, so the herd' efficiency is limited, as it slowly but surely disintegrates into hysterical chaos. The fun part is when it eats its own because some of them start breaking rules that were never decided by any one. That is what you are witnessing here. Indeed, women are notoriously loyal, see Grace and her Emmy date! Just realized: I don't k… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 04:26 PM |
| 1 | The Ansari story - Red Pill EditionFrom the article, which is her own admission, and I'd expect heavily slanted in her favor: “Most of my discomfort was expressed in me pulling away and mumbling. I know that my hand stopped moving at some points,” she said. “I stopped moving my lips and turned cold.” So she expressed discomfort by "mumbling"? Her hand "stopped moving" at "some points"? She "stopped moving her lips"? (After the first or second time she proactively his dick, I assume.) This is a blatant joke. Men-hating feminists a… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 09:05 AM |
| 1 | The Ansari story - Red Pill EditionThe thing is, #MeToo isn't an organized movement. It's a a bunch of women piling up on top of each other, literally screaming "Me Too!", "Me Too!" "Me Too!" shrieked the girl who had a disappointing date. "Me Too!" screamed the woman who was hit on by a man she considered insultingly unattractive. "Me Too!" cried the Disney Princess who deluded herself she'll become Ansari's next girlfriend just because she was shameless enough to ditch her date and aggressively pursue him. This movement will ei… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 07:56 AM |
| 1 | What can we do about #MeToo?Take home girls that want to go home. Aggressively next girls that aren't interested. Ansari took home a girl who pursued him aggressively. Clearly, she was interested, and gladly followed him home. Didn't help him much. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/18 07:47 AM |
| 1 | The Ansari story - Red Pill EditionPlease edify me then, what did I get wrong? This account is based on facts she admitted. For example, ditching her "date" (her words!) to flirt with Ansari. I do love woman, and respect them, when they deserve it. Perhaps you'd rather I respect them all, just because they own a vagina? Or maybe the mirror is reflecting something you'd rather not see? | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 05:58 AM |
| 1 | I hate you?Women don't say shit like this unless they got serious mental issues. You'd be surprised what perfectly normal women are capable of under the influence of a strong emotions. Once you get a woman really emotional, stuff like this is perfectly possible. I've seen worse than this. OP might be exaggerating a bit about her "spamming his phone", but the rest doesn't sound out of the realm of possibility. The rest of the stuff checks out as well. It's definitely possible that he made the newbie mistake… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 08:06 AM |
| 1 | The plot thickens...Especially in the past when humans were an agrarian society and needed all hands on deck and 96% of humans were working on farms and making maybe a 10% caloric surplus. A farmer with 1-2 kids had nothing to rely on when he got old. Sure. That was in the past, though. You have a good argument that it was bad in the past, which is probably the reason there wasn't much of it. Still have to prove it's bad in our present. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/17 07:03 AM |
| 1 | The plot thickens...Sexual liberation is good for the individual, but bad for society. How is sexual liberation "bad for society"? Feminists think the original rules were made to benefit men, but they were made to benefit women and keep bastardry, cuckoldry and adultery to a minimum. Nowadays, if you're in a relationship, and your woman cheats on you, then you should ditch her and find someone else. These problems of the past just aren't relevant. If the Red Pill Women win, society will be better off. You really ne… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/17 06:37 AM |
| 1 | I hate you?There's this girl I'm currently eyeing who told me that she genuinely hates me. At the same time she keeps on spamming my phone with messages asking me to reply. This girl is most likely attracted to you. So what is going on....? Can you experts elaborate the situation with a redpill perspective? And what should I do next You got under her skin, which typically means (with a sexually healthy girl) that she is attracted to you. At the same time she keeps on spamming my phone with messages asking … | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 04:18 AM |
| 1 | How did I mess up this interaction?I thought our first interaction was perfect, I would have at least thought she was curious about what I am about. Doesn't mean shit, unfortunately. This is a girl, not a guy. Her emotions can change completely in a second. Also, plenty of girls will be really into you, but still get cold feet and bail in the last second, for example because: She did mention something about a bf of 6 years. They have a boyfriend... Our first interaction went so well that I was confident enough to think we would m… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 04:11 AM |
| 1 | How did I mess up this interaction?Your text was a bit long and a little lacking in confidence and resolution to my taste. I'd have just texted a time and the place. That said though, tons of these kind of interactions go south for no discernible reason. Dude, women are just very random. They're moody and their emotions change rapidly. If you want to play this type of game, accept that this will happen a lot to you. I never even send the final "U still there?" text. It was a nail in a coffin that probably already had more than en… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Gf dumped me to ride the CC now that we're in college.Why are you clinging to a girl who dumped you point blank, and even burnt the bridge by saying you're not compatible - which basically means you should never get back together? You really need to focus on moving on to other girls. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 03:32 AM |
| 1 | The plot thickens...The irony is that this community is the worst antidote to our game as sexually active men. If you want to have total freedom, plenty of low-cost sex, and build a soft harem - you do not want a bunch of women taking "an old-fashioned approach to relationships", withholding sex, emphasizing commitment. You absolutely do want liberated women exercising post-modern sexuality who sleep around a lot. I'm not sure how well it will work for them, if most other women are putting out for cheap. If you sel… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/17 03:24 AM |
| 5 | askTRP Megathread September 06Probably because they're rarely anywhere close to having abundance. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/17 03:12 AM |
| 4 | askTRP Megathread September 06Did all the right things Successful seduction is not about executing some universally-appropriate set of "right moves". probably the only thing I didn't do is make her feel like shit or play the game It only happened to you because you're so nice, right? ;-) anyways girl apologized for leading me on after she just wanted to be friends, she's also not over her ex This girl is not interested in you, and not attracted to you. "Not over her ex" is code word for some of these things. do girls like th… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/17 03:11 AM |
| 2 | I don't understand how girls have so many god damn friends...True, and deeper than that. Girls are also keenly aware of the benefits of many options. Yeah, absolutely. Girls don't need friends who will die for them, they just need friends who will prevent them from being left alone or isolated. Also, if that was what you were implying: yes, they do use their social connections to find and attract the highest value men they possibly can. It's part of girl game. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/17 04:01 AM |
| 3 | I don't understand how girls have so many god damn friends...Men are a hunting party, friends for life willing to drop every thing in a moment's notice. Yeah, I guess that could explain it. Each man in a hunting / war party must risk his life for his comrades, or the whole mission will fail, risking everyone's lives and the entire tribe. Women have a lot of mechanisms that prevent them from being alone, since being alone is very bad for the survival of a woman's genes. Alone, she can't ensure she will be impregnated by a high-quality man - she won't likel… | /r/askTRP | 04/09/17 03:40 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand how girls have so many god damn friends...All these girls I go on dates with are constantly going to weddings and being invited to parties. How does this even happen? Girls are keenly aware of the benefits of companionship. They naturally flock together. It makes them feel safe, including in situation where they actually may not be safe alone, such as going out at night. They do everything together. Girls typically have much more of a social life than guys, especially when they're young. That's because this social life is a priority for… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Handing intense arguments in an LTR?I don't think she is likely to cheat Men who get cheated on never do. How would you start re-establishing boundries? We live together on shared rent. Should I just fuck off for a while? It's all incredibly inconvenient. Life isn't always convenient. You have a serious problem with your LTR, and it sounds like you let it fester for a while. This will not be fixed easily, or as you put it, "conveniently". You'd have to find a way to punish her for disrespecting you. This should be done completely … | /r/askTRP | 27/08/17 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Handing intense arguments in an LTR?Perhaps. I was trying to think of ways to de-escalate this sort of shit though. I suspect she started being like this because I enabled it long ago by getting too angry. I don't think it's going to work. Fact is, your LTR woman has been openly disrespectful to your face for a long time. That means her respect and attraction for you is likely gone. It's far, far worse and more hopeless than just having "intense arguments" in an otherwise working relationship. Don't delude yourself. If she's attra… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/17 03:54 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst dating advice men are told?But continually keeping a women guessing about whether or not you like her or care about her is not wise or decent. First of all, "decent"? We are talking about game here. Since when is either party committed to be "decent"? A valuable woman will get tired of the games and emotional drain and check out sooner rather than later labelling you either a player or indecisive. I agree that will eventually happen with high-quality, high-self-esteem women who are genuinely looking for an LTR. That's why… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Handing intense arguments in an LTR?Met her when she was a virgin and she was completely in love with me and very polite for the first 1-2 years. Now it's all different. Time to move on. Also yeah, if a male treated me the way she does I would definitely do that. Unless you want to spend many years in prison, or fuck up your life in some other way, I recommend just dropping acquaintances that aren't fulfilling your expectations, rather than "beating the shit out of them". | /r/askTRP | 27/08/17 01:46 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst dating advice men are told?Be aloof. Women love it when they're not sure if you like them or not Great advice in most early dating situations. Make sure she knows that she's not your only interest/option. Could be good advice, depending on the woman and the situation. You'll be more attractive to her if other women are chasing after you or you're pursuing them. You're definitely going to be more attractive to her if she sees other women chasing you. Women don't care about chivalry anymore, they want to be treated like one… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Handing intense arguments in an LTR?She calls you retarded because of it She keeps insulting you and says your point is retarded Your long-term girlfriend is regularly calling you "retarded" and "insulting" you? In other words, you're the victim-side of an abusive relationship? Beat the shit out of her like you would if a male friend did this to you? Is this a joke post? Would you actually "beat the shit" out of a male friend? Do you want to "beat the shit" out of an LTR? Do you want to see the inside of a jail cell? All interesti… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/17 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Got a girl's number. Now what?But soon abandoned her because she was being poached by guys with higher SMV then me. Lack of confidence. Low self-esteem. The catch was that she recently broke up with her ex. How is that a "catch"? The best girls are always either in a relationship, or right after one. Because there's a line three-blocks long of great guys trying to get with them. Pretty much the only time you're going to catch a sane hot girl is when she's "recently broke up", unless you can get her to teach of course. The id… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/17 04:21 AM |
| 2 | (35m) Discovered through SMSs fiance(30f) cheating. Advice on first steps?You got together when she was 15 and you were 20? Yeah, something very fishy about this post. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/17 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Asked girl for number, she said add me on FB instead. I did and she hasn't messaged me but clearly seemed into me. Just seen she has a bf of 2 months? tf is this.Or FB = I was never interested and probably never will be but please make yourself useful and validate me. This. "I won't give you my number, but here's my Facebook/Instagram" = "I don't really give a fuck about you, stranger, but please do join my horde of orbiters in validating me by liking all my photos and commenting sycophantically on everything I post 24/7." I've banged plenty of girls who for whatever reason (usually, trust issues) didn't give me their phone, but instead gave me their ema… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 02:51 PM |
| 1 | the love bombing phraseaccording to TRP love bombing is going to make her hypergamy work against us.. but i think that masters of manipulation wouldn't do those things if they didn't work.. can someone shed some light? These people find victims on which this behavior could be effective. Then, they execute it, effectively. Most betas fail because they lovebomb: A woman who isn't very receptive to it. Ineffectively, communicating all the wrong things and few of the right things. Finally, I suspect you'd be very surprise… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 04:42 AM |
| 1 | A few questions about women...All a woman wants is to have fun? No. Women are complex human beings with many goals, just like you! If that's the case then how come I get shut down sometimes when I barely approach them? This is just a guess, but maybe you don't seem fun, and also not like you can promote any of the other goals of the women you approach? How do you get a girl to hangout with you after you get the number? The last few girls I was talking to have been flaky so I'm not exactly sure what I did wrong. Girls give th… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Hard to get or chance blownWe hit it off and she was whispering in my ear and feeling me up. Translation: she was slightly drunk and horny, and you were a reasonably attractive guy within reach. We eventually leave to walk her back home and I get her number and kiss her. Guaranteed she's done this every other weekend, at least. Welcome to the club of all the dozens of guys she's done this with. The next day or so later, I texted her and she took forever to respond. After my response to that she didn't reply and I stopped … | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 04:16 AM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.See my reply about girl code. The example I use is from that part of the conversation, and most of the rest of the conversation was like that. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 05:07 PM |
| 3 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest."Girl code" is basically speaking in hints. The meaning of these hints is ambiguous, because nothing important is stated explicitly or logically. You need to read a tapestry of these hints, plus many other signals (body language, intonation), plus the general vibe of the interaction and conversation - to make any sense of them at all. For example, in the time between my first failed attempt to kiss her and the first successful kiss, she told me a story about some guy she went out with, who tried… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 05:04 PM |
| 4 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.I believe that, to her, a kiss was equivalent to sex. Once she gave in to the kiss for real, things were already decided. That's another neat-sounding theory, without much basis in the actual events. There were plenty of opportunities to lose her after we started kissing. As I described in OP, even after 30 minutes of kissing, she still didn't really comply with my attempt to schedule another date. Then, the next day, there was a serious shit test just before our date when she tried to reschedul… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 10:59 AM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.A woman's biological imperative is to pair/mate with the highest quality man she can. Right, and the "highest quality man" also has the most alternatives, highest opportunity cost, and least patience for her tests. Imagine a woman meeting some alpha billionaire playboy. Do you think she'll risk annoying him with silly shit tests? She already knows he's solid. Anyway, one thing I dislike about evolutionary psychology - it makes too many explanations plausible, and it's hard to decide between them… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 02:54 AM |
| 3 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.I can't be too sure why guys lose girls after sex, because I was never able to consistently avoid that. What you wrote does fit my recently-formed working hypothesis about my own personal post-sex ghosting issue, which guided me through the events in this report. Of course, it's not the time, but what you do with it. That said, taking a lot of time makes it easier, because you don't have to be very efficient, that is - do a lot with little time, which is hard and takes skill. Most guys can't do … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 02:07 AM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.Why hate when you can love? | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 01:05 AM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.I'm suspicious of models because they so easily mislead. If I had to provide some conceptual framework though, I'd suggest something along three axes: attraction, comfort, value. You must hit a particular threshold combination of these 3 scores in order to get to any particular level of compliance. With this girl, I feel like in the time between my first failed and first successful kiss attempt, the main scores rising were attraction but (especially) comfort, or some sort of combination thereof.… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/17 12:57 AM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.Can't confirm or deny from personal experience, but from everything I've read on here same day lays lead to losing the girl. Yeah, I've been resisting this conclusion for a long time. See, my game used to focus on myself, my masculinity, and masculine goals. So I'd go, solipsistically: "alphas fuck on the first date, I am alpha, I should fuck on the first date". Meanwhile I was losing tons of hot girls because it may be alpha (whatever the hell that means), but it's ignoring reality and not effe… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 05:05 PM |
| 3 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.Yeah, we did. That last line is only partially tongue-in-cheek. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 04:38 PM |
| 1 | All non-compliance is due to current insufficiency of interest.I actually like to go out and do shit with my girls rather than just Netflix and chill. Yeah, me too. The more experience I gained, the less pressing it was for me to bang the girl ASAP, and the more I enjoyed the sexual tension building over several hours and a couple of dates. Let's face it: first-date sex is usually about the same. The real fun in the whole process is getting there. Also, I'm starting to realize I've been banging girls who were, of course, consenting, but emotionally and sexu… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 03:39 PM |
| 1 | How to act when your date is flirting with other guys at the barI should probably not give a shit about who she talks to I know I'm going home.m with her anyways. If it's already established pretty solidly that you're going home with her, then yes, you shouldn't care. It can actually be amusing to watch her talk to a guy who gets his hopes up, until you grab her by the arm and take her home to bang her. Otherwise, if you're just beginning a first date and it's not obvious that you're going home together, this is most likely a shit test. It's usually not a ha… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/17 12:39 AM |
| 3 | If your average young woman gets absolutely spammed on dating websites (yes, I checked) is this the same for facebook? Linkedin (well, who knows, I wouldn't be supprised)?Young women get spammed everywhere online, basically. Yes, that includes Facebook too. Usually guys on Facebook try not to be too obvious that they're hitting on her, which makes their attempt more amusing, because they obviously are. Girls occasionally get hit on in other, even less appropriate websites, like LinkedIn. It's more rare, because the guys have more to lose - their full name and job details are right there, after all - but I've seen it happen. I noticed guys try to be more "classy" … | /r/askTRP | 19/08/17 12:23 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16Thanks. Some of what you recommend sounds like things I already do on dates: Get her laughing. Say something offensive. Touch her. Make her smile. Make her frown. Scare her. Take her on an adventure. Do something risky with her. Dance with her or grab her hand and spin her for no reason. Tease her. Treat her like a child. Don't just do it because you're trying to impress her. Oh, I don't. I learned to thoroughly enjoy my dates. If she doesn't enjoy all these things I do with her, then I end the … | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16You need to evoke emotion in her. I think that's the key. Hot girls don't get hooked on sex, or money, or validation, or anything... except this one thing: emotions. Of course, the million dollar questions is how to do that, how to evoke emotions. I confess I only have the vaguest idea. I know how to escalate, and basically get sex. I'm not very good at creating these emotions. I've had another date tonight, I didn't escalate on purpose, and at the end it was clear she doesn't have enough intere… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 04:32 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16Next time you choose to roast someone, try perusing their fucking post history first, you little cunt. Oh, wow, you're so mature and secure and alpha, this debate has clearly been won. Ranting is obviously working for you, so I suggest you keep at it. I heard when you get your 1,000th highly-upvoted rant, Bumble sends you one of their hottest 19 year old members. Don't give up now! | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 04:27 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16Not sure what you're trying to say. Yes, going after hot young women is tough. Guess what, it's all supply and demand. Demand for these girls exceeds supply. That's your problem. Not "society", not "female choice", not "online dating". You are chasing the exact same girls everyone else is chasing, so these girls have a lot of options, and they're going to choose the best one. I'm not sure what you're suggesting, rather than an immature vent. Should these girls be required to date you or somethin… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 01:53 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16There were many. Following up on my previous comment, a major theme was that I was focused on what is happening inside my head, rather than the reality outside it. For example, I was very afraid of realizing I'm not attractive. So I analyzed every interaction from the point of "can I still maintain my image of being attractive?" rather than "did I get where I wanted with this girl?". There's a lot of similar insecurities and issues that distract you when you're focused internally rather than ext… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 01:43 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16No offense but you might not be good at sex. We've been through that on the last thread. I edited my question to reflect that's probably not the problem. At this point I have a lot of experience fucking total strangers for the first time. The sex is typically good, lasting for 1-4 hours, and they usually come seveal times. I think one reason this comes up as a possible reason is that a lot of guys are not used to banging girls from a cold-approach pickup. So for example, if you bang a girl you m… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 04:38 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16I'm in my early twenties and a kissless virgin. Is there anyone here who was in my shoes? How's your life now? Hoping for realistic answers here. I was in your shoes, and now I have more sexual experience than most guys of my age, especially if you factor in looks and other statistics. My looks didn't improve much over the years. I'm short and my body isn't very good for lifting. If anything, I probably looked younger and more attractive back when I was a "kissless virgin" in my early twenties, … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 04:16 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16That sounds pretty normal in a place like the gym, but try to smile and sort of "say hi" from a distance, with your eyes and facial expression, instead of just "holding eye contact". If you do that well, it will naturally to lead to nodding and saying hi when you see each again. I would say, if it's an intimate gym and you're likely to see the girl again, go with that approach: "greet" them over eye contact, then later say hi when you meet again. If it's a busy urban gym and you won't likely see… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 02:34 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16Haha, if you're getting into "stare matches", you're doing something wrong. Either way, in most cases if you get a good amount of eye contact, you are clear to approach, except if it's the wrong kind (which a "stare match" sounds like it might be). | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 02:17 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 16Guys who convert cold-approach pick-ups into plates - how do you do it? I wrote two weeks ago about how most girls I pick up in cold-approach never come back after I bang them on the first date: I typically approach them in some public location like the street or public transport, then usually if they bite, we set up a date a day or two later, or we "go on a date" immediately. Either way, I tend to push pretty hard and fast for sex, and a lot of them drop out, but those who don't - typically fuc… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 01:58 PM |
| 15 | Men love women, women respect men.it's unlikely that she'll love you to the degree you love her Well, I'm not sure that's true. Women love differently than men, and maybe that throws you off and makes you think they don't love men, but I think they do. I also think in many situations, women love men more than those men love back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Men love women, women respect men.Sorry to ruin the party, and hope it's OK for me to comment as a man, but this neat equation just doesn't apply so perfectly to real life. Plenty of men need love, perhaps more than women. Men are often more lonely, or at least alone, and don't get love from many other sources in their lives. Many, probably most of them do crave it from their sexual partner. Also, many women absolutely desire respect. In long-term relationships, there's only so far a woman will go with you if she senses you don'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Developed oneitis, girl flaked, not sure how to play it next?She first said sure but then said she would let me know. Never agree to this. Personally, if she can't schedule, then I won't either. Girls flake even when they firmly schedule, no need to put my valuable time at risk for someone who can't even confirm a date a few days in advanced. Consider that if she was into you, she'd definitely schedule you firmly. She didn't, which is either a shit-test if she likes you (which you failed, by the way), or she's just power-playing you. Possibly a little bit… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Are women's desires contradictory?Aren't male desires sometimes contradictory, too? We want an attractive woman of healthy sexual appetities, but we also want her to be inexperienced, innocent, etc. Guess what, attractive women usually have spades of appealing opportunities thrown in their faces every day, they're unlikely to be inexperienced or innocent. If so, how does that contradiction play out? Typical scenarios: they secure commitment with the beta, and cheat with the alpha. Another typical scenario: she will spend some ti… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 02:47 AM |
| 1 | On friends.It'd be beautiful if you could have that kind of connection with a woman. I think you can, to some extent. The best relationships I've had with women also included a strong component of friendship, similar to what I've described. The big difference is the whole sex/love theme, which obviously doesn't exist with real friends, but of course for women is the most important consideration in their interpersonal lives. In short, it's not that women don't have the ability to be friends. They do. It's j… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Incessant shit testsWe make out, get intimate but no sex. Unless she has some unusual reason (like some sort of religion), her not fucking you after knowing you for "years" and already making out with you repeatedly is very off. She's visibly interested in me. Frankly, you don't sound like you have the experience or skills to recognize real interest. She's (playfully) hitting me a ton now (I don't hit back because duh). It's starting to get annoying. If it's annoying, then it's not really playful, is it? You missed… | /r/askTRP | 14/08/17 03:08 PM |
| 1 | On friends.They were never friends. There is a word for these people: "acquaintance". Exactly. My suggestion is to work on yourself so as to become someone pleasant and valuable, and let friendships happen. One should always do that, but personally I found that true friends male are more about feelings (genuinely caring for each other) than about being "valuable", which is vastly more important for the quality and stability of your sexual relationships. For me, male friendships happened when I spent a lot … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Plates keep breaking after a couple weeksPlates will inevitably shatter. Sure, but is it normal for that to happen consistently after only a couple of weeks in each case? I was under the impression that you could expect to keep them for at least a couple of months in most cases, if you play your game right. | /r/askTRP | 14/08/17 02:46 PM |
| 2 | askTRP Megathread August 09You seem to think that you need to make some sort of a special effort for a girl you just met. As if you have to use some special "opening line", and on top of that also come up with an interesting conversation. All that, while she's not really helping. That's a very wrong view of meeting women. Think about meeting a new male friend. You wouldn't suppose that you need to come up with all the right words, make fascinating conversation for both of you, etc. You'd just start talking normally, and i… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/17 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Do people stop caring about social life and making new friends after 30? Will this change given recent social trends?Yet the more posts I read by people past 30, it seems like if you aren't married it is you all by yourself because everyone else is married. Not everyone is married by 30, certainly not in liberal, modern societies such as the US and Canada. Everyone seems to say that college was THE TIME to make a lot of new friends Yes, college is easier. It becomes harder after. Not impossible, harder. You can still make friends through work and recreational activities. You can even stay friends with people w… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/17 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Committed cardinal sin and double texted while asking about date. Is she doing this out of pity?Just the way she looked and laughed at my jokes, I felt that she was really into me. Guys tend to make too much of this. A woman may be into you, but still never meet you, for example because she has other prospects she cares more about, or even some guy she's really committed to. Also, it's pretty easy for these things to be fleeting. She could also be just flirting. I honestly was pretty shocked and somewhat depressed tbh. You cared way, way to much about a girl you've only spoken to once, nev… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/17 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Feelings of Inadequacy - Lingering Thoughts About Broken Plate With ChadYou're being pretty dodgy about this very central fact: the cause of the breakup. I had to read between the lines of your OP and ask some followup questions and read two additional clarifying posts, and only now I feel like I'm getting a (vague) sense of why you broke up. Was feeling the oneitis creep up, plus she began mentioning other people (and saying it wouldn't be fair if she kept getting intimate with me), so I took my shot. So looks like her doubts about the relationship escalated, then … | /r/askTRP | 11/08/17 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Feelings of Inadequacy - Lingering Thoughts About Broken Plate With ChadI kept it stupid simple, asked if she wanted to pursue my commitment. I'm not sure what you mean by that. Did you try to convert her into an exclusive LTR, and she refused? Pressuring women into a level of commitment they're not ready for is both unattractive and ineffective. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/17 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Feelings of Inadequacy - Lingering Thoughts About Broken Plate With ChadYou know, the whole "Was I not good enough?" thing. So, you got rejected, and it was a blow which opened some cracks of insecurity in your self esteem. And yes, the more time you spend with a girl, and the more you like her, the harder her rejection hits. Emotions, man, they're kind of logical when you think about it: it's your body telling you to stay with women you: Already invested in. Perceived as high quality, and a source of further investment. Reality is, I got the oneitis creeping up on … | /r/askTRP | 11/08/17 12:27 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09Are you just wanting higher quality plates? Yup. I'm not looking for a serious / exclusive relationship. I want to get multiple attractive girls into parallel relationships, which I understand is what you mean by "plates". What my theory on this is I was very sexually appealing to them but they couldn't look at me any other way. Yeah, that's something I heard from girls as well. The emerging consensus is that it's very difficult to get girls into relationships if you bang them on the first meet.… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/17 04:05 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09There's probably some truth to your assessment. I've certainly pedetalled women in the past, and evolving out of this delusion is necessarily a gradual process.While consciously I've learned many facts, and seen much of women as they truly are, it's quite likely that some residues of the delusion are still lingering in the crevices of my unconscious. However, I don't think that is the only problem. I've had periods of abundance, when I was getting more dates than I had the time to attend. My fir… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/17 03:37 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09It seems like your game is generally good. My current game does yield me hookups with attractive women, but as you see in my posts, very few of these evolve into any sort of relationship, and when they do, it's typically with the women I wanted least. One useful frame you can try to adopt, is "sex is going to happen, no need to rush it". This is golden. Funny thing is, I don't really have a ton of confidence in my ability to date in any form except my current typical rush into sex. All of my dat… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/17 05:29 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09Unlike what a lot of TRP says, there are higher quality women who don't tend to bang guys after 45 minutes, no matter how "Chad" he is. Especially girls with high self-esteem and LTR options with Alphas. That might the epicenter of this issue. See, I started out as a "nice guy", giving women "friendship" in hope of them eventually becoming lovers. Naturally, I instead got burned by a series of fake female "friends" who used me for attention and gladly threw me under a bus for any random guy they… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/17 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Should I give up on dating ?OK. Here's a summary then: Your looks matter a lot to men. Yes, with age your looks will certainly deteriorate. You can delay this harmful process by a healthy lifestyle. No, you're probably not reached the point your looks are gone at 25, unless you let yourself go. You have at least 5-7 years, maybe 10-12 if you keep healthy. There are some alphas who'd be interested in you, even if you're older and less hot, as long as your personality is 9-10. Of course, they may not be the best looking them… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Should I give up on dating ?Though I have read a lot of red pill articles that say women who are 25 are old. I can link you. Sounds like a huge exaggeration. Also, I'm somewhat puzzled by your apparent insecurity. If you're really a "8.5-9" who looks to be in her early 20s, you should be getting plenty of attention from attractive men. Plenty of compliments, offers to date you, guys trying to get close to you. How come you are you obsessing over some article by some guy on the internet? | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 04:20 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09Yeah, that's pretty close to what I was thinking. I'm actually not very good at dating, basically went from someone who couldn't get sex at all, to someone who initiates makeouts and sex very fast on the first date. I never had much experience taking a girl out a few times and getting closer to her on a personal / emotional level, but in a real way, while keeping up the sexual tension, instead of as a friendzoned beta. I basically learned to get fast sex and nothing else. Seems like these skills… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Should I give up on dating ?We all live in an ageist society. We live in a superficially ageist society, which judges people mostly on looking young. Also, considering 25 as "old" is pushing it even for ageism. There's plenty of great men in their 30s and even 40s who'd date a cute, fun 25 year old. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 04:01 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09This is really hard for an outside party to understand then, too many variables. Do some introspective thinking. I've done a lot of that, and also consulted with many, especially girls I trust. One common answer I got is that because I push so hard and fast for sex, I come across as only interested in that. So even if the girl would otherwise be open for something more, once she sees me that way, she will treat the interaction as nothing more than a one-night stand. One practical recommendation … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 03:01 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09Do you make them orgasm (intensely, preferable multiple times) every time? Usually, yes. They typically have multiple intense orgasms, then pass out / take a short nap to recover, then they leave. It does happen on rare occasion that the sex is bad, but typically it's good and intense. So I doubt it's the problem. I'll clarify that in the question. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Girl I started messaging with few days ago asks "do you like me?" What the fuck do I sayIt's a girl I met couple of weeks ago, I tried setting a few dates but she was "busy" or couldn't... So you've been texting for a "couple of weeks", and every time you try to meet, she's "busy"? Most likely she's not actually interested in meeting you, and only keeps texting for some other reason. I asked her out again yesterday morning, she only replied at night, told me she didn't see it and asked if I like her. Looks like that reason is attention and compliments. You can simply ask her when s… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Should I give up on dating ?I'm worried that I'll be alone, since you guys think I'm old. You're not really old at 25. You have at least 5 more years before guys will start consider you old. Even then, you can stay attractive for several years later, if you keep fit through a healthy lifestyle. I look like I'm in my early 20s or at least, that's the overarching general consensus of people around me. I do Pilates and I don't drink or smoke. For the sake of transparency, my male friend and I were discussing ratings and he to… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 02:08 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread August 09TL;DR: I learned to get dates with strange girls, and usually they fuck me on the first date, but afterwards they almost always disappear forever. How do I see them again and turn this into some sort of relationship? Longer version: I'm 34 (though I look at least 5 years younger) and used to be the eternally friendzoned guy, until about 3 years ago I learned to meet new girls and get them to come on a date with me. I also learned how to move things very quickly, so now most of my dates progress … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/17 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Let’s Talk Female RatingsNow gather every woman in your city, odds are you'll find one or two. Right, but if I have to gather a million women in the city, just to find one woman at Ratajkowski's level, then she is one in a million, not one in 10, right? That's a lot less than "top 10%". More like "top 0.0001%" Your post is literally about the top 10%, so that means if we choose 10 totally random women (NOT from the chess club), one must be as hot than Ratajkowski or hotter. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/17 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Let’s Talk Female RatingsAn HB9 is a woman that his hotter than 90% of the female population. That is a VERY rare thing; we’re talking Emily Ratajkowski or models like Sierra Skye types of women. Just a technicality: someone like Emily Ratajkowski is way hotter than way more than 90% of the female population. Think about this: if you gather 10 totally random women, is one of them likely to be at least as hot or hotter than miss Ratajkowski? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/17 07:56 PM |
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