DirtWinter5022 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	Maybe she really wants a divorce		DirtWinter5022	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 02:35 PM
1	Need advice, just live with it or make a change (really long, sorry)		DirtWinter5022	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/24 04:06 PM

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12	Divorce made us stronger Trump isn’t stronger, or stoic, or whatever; he’s just more delusional about the situation. Nothing in that softball interview with Hannity wasn’t pre-planned to stroke his ego and play him in the best possible light. If I need to get inspired by that kind of obvious bullshit to overcome my personal struggles, I’ve got real problems!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/25 05:09 PM
1	Time to move on ? Exactly, find a better marriage counselor and get both your needs and expectations out on the table. We just hear OP side of this, and I get the frustration (been there too!) but there’s a reason for her behavior and you don’t know what that is. You need a good counselor to get that out there for you, and to get your point of view out there in a way she understands it.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/25 04:52 AM
2	Guys, the peace of mind and silence is truly worth it God, do not get me started on cars. I am a bona fide car nut, always been into cars, know way more about the specs, maintenance, performance, etc than any salesperson I ever encountered. Oh but, in her mind I know nothing because: 1) only Toyota and Honda are capable of making a good car, 2) silver is the only good color because all other colors either always look dirty or show every little scratch, 3) only 4-cyl cars are worth considering, all others “eat too much gas”, 4) all wheel drive cars …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/24 04:54 AM
4	Guys, the peace of mind and silence is truly worth it Decisions are hard for my wife, she can’t pick a paint color to save her life other than anything I suggest isn’t worth her wasting time to even look at, because I’m obviously wrong or just picking something without “caring” to try and hurry her up. The only constant is that I’m always wrong or lying. But… everything else in life that doesn’t involve a choice like colors, styles, etc, she is always right, even if she’s jumping to the wildest possible conclusion with zero evidence. And if I dare …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/24 07:19 PM
1	Maybe she really wants a divorce Not out for revenge (that’s her thing actually), and she doesn’t work anymore. I was wondering if that was her plan, divorce after our youngest is done with HS. But seems like she’s trying to see if I’ll leave the house on my own just in case I fall for that.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 06:36 PM
2	Was granted a Protective Order and I feel horrible about it Oh man, the accusations of cheating… I’ve been on the receiving end of that from my wife for several years. Nothing I say or do will convince her otherwise. I told her yes, I chatted online with random strangers a few years back when we were sleeping in separate bedrooms and hadn’t had sex in over two years (and stupidly left history on my phone), but I never met up with anyone ever. She’ll never let it go, brings it up in almost every heated argument.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 02:46 PM
7	Guys, the peace of mind and silence is truly worth it “ Every decision about the house needed a 3 month decision process. It took us YEARS to replace the carriage lights” OMG, this is my life! My wife cannot make a decision to save her life. When something needs to actually get done, her usual mode of operation is to put the decision on me, so she can blame me later and ridicule me to others for everything that’s she later decides she doesn’t like about it. I once called her out on that, and I was angrily accused of being ridiculous. In the first y…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 12:09 AM
2	A Spreadsheet Yeah the kids get zero praise from her for anything, and harsh criticism for any minor problem. Then she complains that they don’t give her any respect. Her main problem, in my opinion, is her complete lack of empathy. She has no capacity for understanding anyone else’s needs, feelings, point of view, or experience. Only her perspective counts.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:36 PM
1	A Spreadsheet Wife grew up in South America. Yes, in any argument we get in, anything I try to say in my defense is countered by her with “doesn’t matter!” Couple of days ago when she all of a sudden blames me for her losing her job… “doesn’t matter” applied to all those times I helped her with spreadsheets late at night, encouraged her and explained how her boss was being totally unprofessional, told her how valuable she was, etc. And baseless accusations have always been there… how I meet with “prostitutes”…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 07:22 PM
1	A Spreadsheet Wow, the parallels are spooky. The last 6-8 years has seen a steady climb of getting told you’re a little girl, go cry to your mom, you’re not a real man, you’re a terrible father, you ruined our kids, you wasted 20 years of my life, my brother would never let this happen. Another thing that gets me is that anything involving the kids is automatically on me… 19 year old college freshman gets As in all his classes except a C in calculus. Math was never his forte, I thought it was great that he ke…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 02:39 PM
1	A Spreadsheet Holy cow, I just made my decision, I’m definitely filing for divorce now because my wife clearly is leading a double life and has another family in San Diego. I have actually been accused of getting into her phone (that I do not have the passcode for) and deleting pictures that she lost. Telling her there’s literally no way that could have happened led to a huge argument, her hitting me, and me sleeping in the guest bedroom, to be woken up later to get yelled at some more, capped off with derisi…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 02:55 AM
2	It's INSANE that even in male-dominated forums, the shortcomings of modern femininity, like a lack of accountability and toxicity towards men, are often still blamed on men. This seems to be one of the few places where such issues can logically be discussed.. My wife had some major conflicts with her boss and coworkers, I always took her side, totally supported her, always encouraged her that she was a pro at what she did and a hard worker. She just told me (two years after getting fired and not working since, not even trying) that she lost her job because of me, it was my fault. For what?? For believing in her??	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 12:05 AM
1	How old were you when you get divorced? 1st marriage at age 21, 4.5 years later (age 26) came home from work one day and she said she wanted a divorce. I was shocked and heartbroken. I cried a ton. Then I sucked it up and I did everything myself DIY-style. It was 1997, I went to an old school stationery store and bought forms, typed everything up on a manual typewriter, drove to the county courthouse and filed the papers in triplicate. Waited three months and two copies came back with a big red stamp and a signature from a judge I nev…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/24 04:50 AM
1	Need advice, just live with it or make a change (really long, sorry) Thanks for the reply. I’m not sure how to get at her emotional/behavioral health. I can’t imagine the response to suggesting she see someone. On the flip side of that, I’ve gone through my own mental health issues, sought help, tried to work things through and gotten zero support or understanding from her. I was seeing a doctor for a while and on the rare occasion that she’d ask about it, the attitude I felt from her could be paraphrased as “so, hasn’t that doctor fixed you yet, and why is it ta…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 02:37 PM
1	Had the talk with kids today I periodically get the "go fuck your prostitutes that you meet at lunch time" whenever we have an argument. It's usually followed by "you wasted 20 years of my life".	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/24 07:26 PM