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Nope, my money. Leave her to take care of all the kids. She can find someone else to help financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 10:54 PM
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Right, but the concern is no longer him, he’s out of the picture. The question is whether or not I’m a jerk for not resuming the friendship after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:00 PM
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Since summer 2022 Not initially, we met on a dating app, went on two dates, then I told her I’d rather stay friends. But we never exchanged anything more than a hug. I don’t know why he felt that way, I can only guess. Were the same height, thought I would say I’m more in shape and conventionally attractive. When it comes to career and finances, vastly different, with the prestige in this area in my favor. This is the only thing I can think that might be “intimidating”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:47 PM
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Specify the info you need to make a call
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:34 PM
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A few months ago my friend said she couldn’t text or hang out with me anymore because I made her new boyfriend feel intimidated and insecure after he met me. Unsurprisingly the relationship didn’t work and she called me crying asking to be friends again. I told her absolutely not as I don’t associate with people who disrespect me. Am I the Asshole?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:22 PM
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I’m restating the term you used, which was youth. You should amend your original comment to say “slay throughout his youth and into late middle age” rather than insinuate that your uncle couldn’t find someone after his “youth” was over. Your original comment makes it seem all women were not relationship material after his “youth” when in actuality he wasted most of his life fucking around. There are plenty of women in his age demographic that would suit him, but due to his skewed expectations, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:51 AM
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If we consider youth to be 18-30, what did your uncle do during 31-70? Has he been repeating this sentiment the last 40 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:34 AM
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If women want to do what you described why should anyone stop them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:46 AM
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Having seen this firsthand, it is not “cap”. It’s reality. What does it matter to you if this is true or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:51 AM
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Yup, very true. I did meet one girl, we had our third date in a week together last night and I can already tell she’s getting super attached. I like her, but I don’t want to hurt her if I feel like I really don’t want to date anymore. I’m just not as into dating as I used to be and now I’m at a loss for what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 08:08 PM
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True! Going from an in bed selfie with flash on to a headshot with natural lighting, a good smile, haircut and body language really makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:52 PM
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I guess you were lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:33 PM
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Right about bot being ugly or not wanting to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:32 PM
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I was so concerned I was ugly even after making physical changes, and I would never be able to date again. Got new pics, got back on the apps, and had multiple dates/hookups within the first week. Now I feel validated, got my ego boost, and don’t even know if I want to date anymore now lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 06:46 PM
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Q4M: Are you generally intimated by women, and do you automatically think they’re “disgusted” by you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:43 AM
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Why can’t you have both? A good career and an alimony payment coming in, maybe even with a house attained in court too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:12 AM
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I’m pretty sure there are a lot of guys on here who would date a homeless woman or enter a relationship with one who says she’s “happy” with staying at home
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:10 AM
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So you would rather be homeless and starving?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:06 AM
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That’s really disgusting and I don’t see how that pertains to the question I asked
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:04 AM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:56 AM
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Love is blinding!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:56 AM
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Can you really blame a woman for marrying a guy with the intent of divorcing him and taking his assets? The economy is brutal right now and while being a good person is important, self preservation is the most important thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:53 AM
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Wise words
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:07 AM
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What else would you one up them at?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:06 AM
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Q4M: How do you not constantly physically compare yourselves to other guys and think that no matter what or how much you do, there is still someone taller/more attractive out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 12:41 AM
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Statistically it is average, but socially, it is short
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 08:35 AM
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5’10” is short. Anyone saying otherwise is in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:30 AM
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When you’re in LA and there’s 12M people, statistically there will be more taller people, which gives the impression that there’s more of them, and therefore it’s average.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:09 AM
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I’d say yes to both, but the latter makes the former even more of a detriment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:56 AM
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Just had a hair transplant and have been considering a rhinoplasty for a long time, I still have a deposit down at my surgeons office but I’m too chicken shit to go under the knife. I’ve also had this opportunity present itself, there is a clinic here in LA with an office near my house that does just that, but I’m also too scared that it’ll cause my hair to fall out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:47 AM
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Biologically, we weren’t meant to jump out of planes into the sky, yet we can do it and enjoy it despite it being a clear violation of survival instincts. There are endless ways one can circumvent the primal need you say we have for companionship and reproduction in modern day society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:57 AM
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But at the end of the day, I think I win. With the economy looking the way it does, automation sweeping the blue collar industry, I’ll never have to worry about that. While I may be single and not dating, if I continue to play my cards right, I’ll never sweat thinking about how I’m going to make ends meet, or even put food on the table. I’m very thankful for that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:48 AM
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Yeah, that’s more than likely not gonna happen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:43 AM
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My net worth aggregate is marginally in that range, but even so, will it make a difference? I don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:37 AM
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Very true. Being a high achiever, driving a sports car, wearing designer clothing, watches…all the compliments I’ve gotten were from friends or dudes. The sheer number of times I’ve heard things akin to “you would make a perfect husband” from other people genuinely just makes me feel sad nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:31 AM
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Even if I am UMC, it doesn’t seem to make me more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:28 AM
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Compared to my local competition it is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:24 AM
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Yeah it’s run of the mill here. In my city 300k is lower middle class too
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:23 AM
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It’s a classic case of you want what you don’t have, or think you need. One of my friends is my same age and works at Target and lives with 4 roommates, but he’s 6’4” and looks eerily similar to a young Ryan Reynolds. He goes on dates with new girls every week it seems. He tells me all the time that he would be able to land “hotter chicks” if he had my money, but never seems to ask me why I’m never going on dates though. He does seem to have a sense of entitlement, which I think came from his da…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:21 AM
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I agree with this from personal experience. Late 20s, senior engineer making only in the low 300s total comp, live by the beach in SoCal, but short (5’10) and not too muscular. White, strong hairline and facial symmetry/angularity, but my two negative features trump my career and financial status.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:08 AM
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Because we live in the year 2024, not 2024 B.C. Physical strength is not a barometer for protectiveness anymore when anyone can acquire a firearm. The desire for having a large physical build is that it makes a woman feel small and protected. There are no practical means for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:45 PM
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lol sure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:39 AM
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So I just showed him two of these and he said they’re all attractive except the ones who are clearly much older than him. I feel like he was saying that and wasn’t being honest
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:46 AM
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Care to share pictures of what you consider average? I’m still here at happy hour and want to show him pictures to see what he thinks of these girls
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:16 AM
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There is a single guy at my company who was talking at happy hour about how upset he is that he’s having trouble getting dates even though he’s an accomplished engineer with his own place, a car and money. Meanwhile he’s short, overweight, balding and always wear graphic anime shirts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:09 AM
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I don’t think you need to wonder; this is obviously the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 12:26 AM
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Yeah they should, and yet they don’t. It’s honestly kinda pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:48 PM
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Well, they shouldn’t. What’s changed since the 90s? The world is more accessible now than ever before. I think you’re confusing loneliness with isolation. I know plenty of guys who are single yet have friends, work with and around people, have hobbies, and they’re not showing signs of developing neuro-degenerative diseases.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:23 PM
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That seems like a conscious choice made by those men and not anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:16 PM
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Why does it seem like men who are single always say they’re sad and depressed, yet women who are single seem content and fulfilled?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:14 PM
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What a gross over exaggeration. I feel men come on her to complain because they have nothing else better to do. What about the parent whose child died to cancer? I bet that type of depressing seeps into every aspect of their life, and yet they don’t come onto Reddit and complain. They can’t do anything to get their child back, but a man could do something to have the same type of dating life they think women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:20 AM
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Problems are problems, and just because you’re jealous of someone else’s problem doesn’t make it any less difficult for them. Life is probably easier for men who don’t have to worry about wasting time and getting emotionally invested in someone who is just playing them, which is what happens to women quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:55 AM
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Having basically unlimited choice makes choosing extremely difficult. Constantly worried you didn’t make the best choice for yourself, someone might be a better choice, how and when to upgrade. Just these concepts alone can make life stressful and difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:30 AM
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That’s a pretty closed minded rebuttal; “I don’t know what that’s like but it’s not complicated” I would imagine you’re not a surgeon either, but you probably thing brain surgery isn’t that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:08 AM
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I bet a lot of women would like to just relax at home and not have to worry about societal pressures.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:59 AM
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Is that a serious question? Having to choose what to wear, what to do, who to hang out with, who to go on a date with, it’s extremely complicated and complex. Why can’t men be empathetic about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:58 AM
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Why should women care about men’s struggles? Women have way more to be concerned about in their lives than why some random dude isn’t getting dates. To be frank, women have much more difficult romantic lives than men. They have to deal with constant approaches, maintaining their appearance, socializing, and enjoying life. Why don’t you care about how that makes their lives complicated?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:32 AM
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I’m an idiot and forgot to add the /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 07:15 PM
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It’s so funny that men can’t accept that they’re worthless at any age! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:46 PM
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Your logic makes no sense and it boils down to you implying women are innocent and victims of manipulation while men are twisted and users. It’s clear you have bias while I’m looking at things impartially from both sides. I do believe there are wrongful men who would lead a woman on just for sex. I also believe there are some women who would do the same to men. If a woman approached me who I wasn’t attracted to and propositioned me, I would politely decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:26 PM
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Couldn’t the same be said for men too? I’m not trying to discount this concern for women, just trying to understand it. Should my friend be leery about approaching women under the guise that if she agrees to date him, he should constantly be worried about if and when she’s going to upgrade from him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:04 PM
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No, I would be interested to understand why women in New York have this mindset vs women in LA or any other area.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:52 PM
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What demographic are we talking about here? Is this mostly women saying this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:43 PM
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What facial deformities did you have and how has your dating life changed since?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:44 PM
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I’ve never heard of this abundance of options problem, what kind of people in NYC have this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:43 PM
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Why can’t women do the same? What would it hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:41 PM
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If it’s not so accurate, why would a woman be so quick to dismiss a guy if she thinks he’s not attracted to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:51 PM
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Do you think that the aloneness would eventually make you break from that feeling?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:52 PM
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Agreed as sad as it is. Well, he has none, and he’s actively swiping and updating his profile. Maybe he’s just inept and doesn’t know how to use the app, but I don’t think that’s the case
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:37 PM
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I would unequivocally want to start a family in the latter and not the former. When I was 24 I was just starting my career, making barely $65k and exploring a new hobby which took up all my time. I’m 28 now, so closer to 30 than 27, making over $300k, have my own house and don’t dedicate as much time to those hobbies anymore. I don’t think that someone should have to upend their life to find someone at this point in their life by any means. What is the logic behind people saying LA is so difficu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:33 PM
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How long have you been alone for and what would you consider to be the “bottom of the barrel” in terms of physical and social traits you’d be willing to accept at this point?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:17 PM
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Isn’t this logic further perpetuating the issues in dating? Assuming all men are lonely and will accept anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:11 PM
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This should not be considered normal by any stretch of the imagination. Someone should not have to relocate across the world just to find someone. So you fit the stereotypical trope of female attraction; which makes sense as to why you received matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:00 PM
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I agree, you shouldn’t approach people you aren’t attracted to, but I am jealous that women have this innate ability to sense that so quickly and accurately.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:48 PM
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What in your mind, would a woman be doing alone in a bar, regularly scanning the room, be trying to do? Is this not what this subreddit preaches to do? Approach women in social situations, specifically those that are intended to have people talk with one another?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:36 PM
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Well I think it’s quite obvious you have no rebuttal for my comment and have resulted to making vague, baseless statements you can’t back up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:28 PM
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I don’t believe that a person can gauge that energy in that brief of an interaction, especially if someone greets you with a smile and directly asks you questions. Unless you are implying that maybe she felt she was too unattractive for him and wanted to leave because of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:27 PM
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Because she was in a social situation putting out social cues that she wanted to be approached. Would you disagree with that? Alongside the fact that she lied in order to leave; of course I would be astonished.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:21 PM
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What self awareness is he lacking? Let me copy a reply I made to someone about a scenario I saw with him just recently and you tell me, by my recount, if what he did is spectacularly bad: “Yep, I’ve seen it first hand, and lately it’s been to women who I would describe to be unattractive, such as substantially overweight, or just very plain Jane looking types who are clearly looking for guys to talk to them. For example, we were at Pat Molloy’s, an Irish Bar/Club in Hermosa Beach, which, of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:12 PM
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Yep, I’ve seen it first hand, and lately it’s been to women who I would describe to be unattractive, such as substantially overweight, or just very plain Jane looking types who are clearly looking for guys to talk to them. For example, we were at Pat Molloy’s, an Irish Bar/Club in Hermosa Beach, which, of the South Bay Beach cities, is the one for younger people. He approached a girl, who was sitting alone at a table, and had been there for about 30m looking around at the room. She was overweigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:08 PM
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I’ve visually seen him talk to girls who are obese and not attractive, in social situations where you would think they’re out to be talked to, with no luck. He’s got strong bone structure in his face, blue eyes, good jawline, full head of hair, white teeth, Caucasian. From what I collect, this would make him attractive. He’s not ripped but he’s toned. His photos are a good quality mix. And go where? His career is defined in LA, he owns property in LA; who in their right mind would drop all that …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:02 PM
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I don’t get why people say LA is some off the path, “weird market.” I see families and people in relationships here all the time. What are they doing different? My first is single and lonely, and conversely isn’t getting snatched up. He also makes over 200k a year, owns in LA and drives a Porsche, yet still cannot use that to his advantage either, which I’ll preemptively agree should not be used to as an aid to date, but theoretically should attract someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:57 PM
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What is one of the reason? I don’t get how this response pertains to what I said in any logical vain.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:54 PM
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Well, while I am also a straight male, I cannot say that he’s attractive to me, but he posses features that are conventionally attractive; ie good jawline and bone structure, blue eyes, healthy white skin, full head of hair. I don’t see what it would afford him to lie to me, but I’ve seen it firsthand both by looking at his matches, or lack thereof, and seeing him out at bars and not getting anything more than a brief conversation with, in my book, some ugly, fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:52 PM
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Why would things get worse the closer you get to 30? Isn’t that supposed to be the inverse for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:48 PM
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That’s exactly what he’s looking for, and I’d say he is. He’s an engineer that earns in the 200s, and advertises he’s looking for a relationship. He’s pictures are a mix of him looking fun and adventurous as well as humble and reserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:47 PM
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I don’t see how your personal anecdote nor statement are directly applicable to what my friend is doing. He actively goes out and socializes, talks with women in multiple different environments, and according to him, cant get a single number or social media handle. So there’s a disconnect between you and him, what do you think that could be?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:17 AM
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I’m pretty sure I can find one instance of a women saying she’ll take anyone too. Sounds to me like you’re insinuating that men are just desperately stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:13 AM
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I don’t agree that LA lacks third places; I drove through Silver Lake tonight and it was lined with bars and restaurants full of people. I went to a USC game as well and socialized with a bunch of random people. If anything LA has exponentially more third places than some podunk nowheresville Midwest town.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:10 AM
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Where would you recommend he live?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:47 AM
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Are you implying that a man would take your very specific example of a person if they were a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:19 AM
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This has been going on for a while for him, it’s not something he said after trying for a few days. I think what’s worrying him is exactly that; why it’s been so long. I may have even undersold him in my description. He makes in the 200s, has his own place and is extremely sociable and talkative, which makes you wonder even deeper as to if the problem is him, or something greater
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:20 AM
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Why did you date her if you weren’t attracted to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:16 AM
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Ironically, he’s from AZ originally and had no luck out there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:18 AM
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What exactly did you learn and how did you apply it to your dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:18 AM
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What did that serve to do you for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:46 AM
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Closing in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:46 AM
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Yeah, it’s not easy out here but I don’t know if he’s willing to quit his job and relocate on the hopes he can find a girl
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:49 AM
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Checks out. Dude needs help lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:47 AM
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I don’t see the connection between this and what I posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:41 AM
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two cents* let’s use the correct terms if we’re going to insult people now. And yes I did because it is delusion and misleading naive people such as yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:41 PM
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I find it equally interesting that you completely discounted my statement because you believe that I have a different lived experience than you. Much to your chagrin, I am someone who has never had sex nor a relationship, even a date, and I’m 28. My claim can be reinforced by looking at my recent post history corroborating my claim from a previous date than when this thread was created. By that metric, certainly I must share your worldview regarding this topic? I must’ve been treated differently…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 01:49 AM
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You’re either living in your little terminally online fantasy bubble, barely 20 years old, or you’re just straight up lying. Nobody picks fun at people for these things in the real world. Women do not screen for virginity. If one did she would be labeled as crazy and rightfully so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 01:12 AM
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It’s wild you spent probably 10 minutes to type up your delusional thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:07 PM
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Projection. Nobody cares if you’re single or a virgin. And how would they know otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:41 PM
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They are normal and average, they just won’t accept that. So they cry on here and other likeminded spaces about how they’re not able to walk out their front door and have dozens of women basking in their presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:40 PM
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Why are they rightly upset? Just because they can’t have something so menial as a relationship? So they have to vent online 24/7 and hate their lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:21 PM
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Something had to be said to wake these people up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:16 AM
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As is everything else on this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:27 AM
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We as society tend to listen to level headed people when it comes to advice. I assume you go to a doctor for medical advice vs going to a drug addict? OP and this post are in the same vein as that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:16 AM
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“Played the stocks” is not what I meant. The majority of the population invested in retirement accounts, their company, etc, which paid dividends. I was making the analogous statement that I should be allowed to complain that I should be able to invest like people did back then and reap the same rewards today.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:14 AM
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It most definitely was the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:07 AM
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They’re making a problem out of nothing and need someone well adjusted and normal like OP to knock them out of their trance
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:06 AM
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Clearly that’s a you problem
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:02 AM
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You’re right, they should shut up and stop complaining!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:01 AM
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Per the National Institute of Health, only 1.5% of the population is afflicted with multiple personality disorder, or Dissociative Identity Disorder, as its more commonly known as medically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:59 AM
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Actually no, I would contest that. There were roughly 3.9B people alive in 1970 vs 8.1B today. I refuse to believe there are less people in relationships today than back then. Using comparative arguments to the past is logical fallacy. I should start complaining that I wasn’t able to invest in the market like people could in the 70s. It’s not fair!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:56 AM
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Unless you have a personality disorder, what you post online is commensurate to how you innately behave in real world scenarios
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:50 AM
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Most people still do today too. This is just an echo chamber that makes you think that isn’t the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:49 AM
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Because things were scaled back then, people weren’t complaining about having 100k to their name in the 70s either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:37 AM
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What needed to be said but nobody stepped up to do so. Really just a bunch of socially awkward people congregating and commiserating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:27 AM
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Do you think if someone explained the science and safety behind the sport, you’d be less worried?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:47 PM
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Yes, I always told myself I would quit the sport if I had kids or others dependent on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:56 PM
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“Unlike testosterone, DHT doesn’t play a significant role in maintaining male physiology in adulthood. Effects mainly include prostate enlargement and male pattern hair loss in adulthood.” Source: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24555-dht-dihydrotestosterone Are you a physician actively doing research in this field, or are you just typing what you think is right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:54 PM
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I’d like to clarify to others reading that it inhibits the synthesis of DHT, not regular testosterone. DHT is important during sexual development, not in adult males. Do your research before making brash statements. Let’s not try and mislead people now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:50 PM
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Let me guess, you’ve also been brainwashed to believe that finasteride will kill your libido and make your grow boobs right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:39 PM
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Because I’d rather have a full head of hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:35 PM
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Women - thoughts on dudes who are into extreme sports? I’ve been skydiving for years and I’ve always wondered how women would view it. Always thought it was either cool/unique in their eyes or a total turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:51 PM
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Basically had this. Had a hair transplant and now have a full hairline. Guys - if you’re at this level please just get a hair transplant. And if it’s starting to get to this level please get on Fin.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:49 PM
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So the unfortunate people who are doomed to having no possible romantic prospects, what should they do? Go about life visibly depressed and sad? Complain that they feel lonely and lament the fact that they want a partner but have failed time and again to get one? People who do that are seen as outcasts; looked down upon and avoided like the lepers from history. The world we live in is all about optics and it is socially vital to make it seem like we are at the bare minimum content with how are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:19 PM
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Well plenty of people are stupid in my mind, and should end relationships if it’s come down to something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:11 AM
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I agree, there should be no lowering of standards across the board. It will just increase the issues already prevalent in the dating market. The people, both men and women, saying that the other should lower their standards are just upset they don’t meet them. The world we live in gives them every opportunity to do so. Whether it be an education to increase income, therapy to fix behavioral issues, or plastic surgery to correct physical issues. What have you done to try and heal? I can’t imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:15 AM
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I see. But you shouldn’t make hasty generalizations about what all men say. Here: I am single and have never had a relationship, though I would not want any girl and I have standards. There you go, I have transcended the boundaries for what you think men say. Now you can say men don’t want to be just any girl. I am sorry you are dealing with heartbreak. While I have not experienced such a feeling, I have heard it is extremely painful. I hope you heal in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 11:43 PM
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Exactly as you said it “Sex with someone I don’t desire.” Using terms like “duty sex” in a discussion related to relationships is akin to someone using a term like “libtards” in a political discourse. It illustrates maladjustment and to a certain extent immaturity. Stating that “any sex is okay for men” is just reaffirming the fact that you’re not well adjusted. It’s demeaning, disrespectful and insensitive. I would not want to be with someone that does not desire me, nor would I be with someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 11:19 PM
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Well adjusted people don’t use terms like duty sex. I hope you’re getting the help you need. Maybe it’s for the best. Wouldn’t want to traumatize someone else by engaging in a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 11:04 PM
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This is a wild and dangerous take - this is not a space to advocate for chemical castration. There are clearly mentally unwell people here who will take this advice and seek drugs to do this, more than likely not under medical supervision.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 10:16 PM
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So then you’re just gonna live an unhappy life until you die?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 10:13 PM
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If you want the “works everytime” solution, just do this: Become exceedingly rich, buy property in a very affluent area, and flaunt your wealth. Drive hypercars, go on shopping sprees, host Jay Gatsby like parties. You’ll have those 10/10 women right away. They will want you for all the reasons I listed above, and not for who you actually are without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:39 PM
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I think this really depends on how you frame loneliness, and there are so many variables that factor into one’s life that can contribute to loneliness that ascribing it to one gender is nonsensical. Our society today, speaking primarily for western societies, is one of the most interconnected while simultaneously disconnected ones that this planet has ever seen. There is an epidemic of increasing depression which is resultant from feeling lonely, and it isn’t exclusive to either men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:01 PM
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Delusions of Grandeur 101
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:56 PM
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Just wondering, how old are you? Do you not feel left out or weird doing things or going places solo?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 01:40 AM
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Dude same I told my parents I’d go so long as we went to a church where I know the priest only talks for like 5m and not some 30m speech lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:38 PM
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It is so disgusting that we don’t just hand out postgraduate degrees to cute people so they don’t have to waste time learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:31 PM
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I used to be so into sneaker/hype culture and now I feel so dumb for being a part of it and wasting so much money. Don’t think it’ll ever die down as people feel such a need to prove themselves. Hopefully they also snap out of it as they get older
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:14 PM
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I think people conflate fat and obese interchangeably which is problematic
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:46 PM
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Why do you come back here then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:11 AM
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How did this sub affect your thoughts on dating? Has it made you more pessimistic or help you figure out anything? Also, I remember talking with you on another thread, you met your ex in college right? What was different about you then? You had success with someone, why don’t you think you can replicate it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:03 AM
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Oh damn, I’m sorry to hear that. Did you “fall into” this community after the breakup?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 05:58 AM
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That honestly sounds magical my dude. Sorry it didn’t work out, hope things are going well for you now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 05:52 AM
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The answer I knew was coming but didn’t want to read, though needed to. Do you have this mindset to a point? Is there a certain stage of dating where you feel less anxious or more secure?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 05:44 AM
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Very stoic outlook on life, thanks for the response. For relationships specifically, did it take practice and time to get to that acceptance stage?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 05:40 AM
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This response was really eye opening, especially the last paragraph. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:45 PM
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Yeah you pretty much described me to a T. Kinda wild how everything you just said is extremely accurate. So I just gotta go out and start talking to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:25 PM
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How am I supposed to know if I’m doing these things? I don’t try and do them, nor do I think I do them either. Nobody has mentioned anything to me about any of these.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:03 PM
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Can you describe to me the vibe of being needy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:08 PM
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The delineating factor between your advice and what my friend’s girlfriend said is that you’re assuming that I was presenting myself as a complete needy wreck when the comment was said, when it was almost the opposite. Us three were just hanging out when my friend out of the blue asked me why he’s never seen me date. I told them both I had planned to try the dating apps soon when she made that comment. It wasn’t a result of me complaining for hours on end or asking them “what’s wrong with me?”, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:19 PM
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The oblivious RPers are in SHAMBLES
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 08:25 AM
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I downloaded Imgur and put on some random bracelet so you better not crush my dreams https://imgur.com/a/mjxJkFN dont hate on my lighting the candle is a vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 08:13 AM
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Well there go my hopes and dreams of modeling bracelets on Etsy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 08:01 AM
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Hmmm dunno. Define what that wrist looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:55 AM
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I’ve got hella good hand to wrist proportions I think you gave me an idea for a side hustle
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:51 AM
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Your last point is so real. I’ve had multiple friends tell me that “relationships aren’t all they’re cracked up to be” and unsurprisingly they’re all in relationships. One of the hardest things I’ve ever been told that’ll be forever engrained in my mind is something my friend’s girlfriend told me: “Even if you got a girl, it wouldn’t work out anyways.” When I asked her why, she looked like a deer in headlights for a few seconds then said “oh I dunno” Her response was so instinctual and innate an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:48 AM
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I didn’t know latchkey kids was an actual term! Thought it was just something Silversun Pickups made up for the song.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:40 AM
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I’m glad that you’re comfortable with your height. I must be letting these insane ideologies get to my head because I instinctively thought you were short and coping until I really thought it through. Most of my feelings on height stem from this and other similar subreddits. How old are you, and how has dating been for you in recent years?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:52 AM
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Have you ever felt too short as a 5’9” guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:35 AM
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I’m not gonna be rude but I’ve gotten this question as a response to my complaints so many times. I could tell you I was 4’6” or 6’10” and I’d get the same monologue that “height doesn’t really matter” and “you need to fix your mindset” talk just the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:31 AM
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Yeah, when I said I don’t have the ability to physically, I was always referring to my height. That part of my physiology I can’t change
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:21 AM
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Hope it works out for you! I felt the same way, got fit and felt confident, but that all got shattered because getting fit and muscular couldn’t fix my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:17 AM
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Sounds like you’ve got comfortable life. I agree, there isn’t much of a point to leaving home aside from work and the necessities anymore. I do hope that there is a shift in what parents are telling their kids. There needs to be more push to be successful in social settings and prioritizing their fitness and looks over “getting a degree”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:15 AM
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Those wrinkles aren’t helping
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:12 PM
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I’m not saying you’re wrong, I definitely have the ability to try and date, but I can’t date not because of that, but because of the risk to my mental health. I don’t take failure or loss well, and I don’t have a support network. Getting my heart broken or learning that I’m not physically qualified to date makes it extremely risky. I also tried to appeal to those on here who also suffer the misfortunes of not being able to date for one reason or another, and not exclude them by naming the title …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:32 PM
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Simple and noble. Hope it works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:40 AM
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I don’t have the ability to physically. It would be the same as a quadriplegic trying to play varsity basketball. What do you do to train your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:38 AM
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Thinking it through, the real reason may be that I’m terrified of proving to myself that I can’t get a date. Right now I’m living life in limbo; I might be able to find someone if I tried, or I might not be able to and validate all the preconceived notions I have about myself. That coupled with the ideals on this subreddit that make me think if I am unsuccessful, it’s over and I can’t do anything about it. It’s like that quote by Mark Twain: “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:38 AM
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¡Yo se un poquito espanol, pero es un buen idioma! Sounds like you have great goals, hope they go well!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:30 AM
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Well in that case it might be difficult finding a better place than here haha. I loved it so much that I moved to Manhattan Beach. Not sure what could be better. And Venice is definitely fun for people watching. Do you have any places you’re hoping to get sent to?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:21 AM
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What do you mean by survive? Like making ends meet to put food on the table, or by surviving, is it a mental heath thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:16 AM
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That’s an awesome benefit, and moreso because you have reason to go for work. Hope it goes well and if you end up in SoCal do not miss out on visiting the beach cities!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:06 AM
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Yeah that’s the real deal question, how do you find another? Aside from OLD which doesn’t work, I have absolutely no clue. I do have an “idea” of what I need to do, which is make more friends, find more hobbies, etc, which can lead to a date, but I also have no clue on how to do those things either. Coupled with the fact the world just feels against you as a guy, it’s just not worth trying. This is why we end up in the same routine day after day. I’m sorry my dude that life has resulted in this …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:04 AM
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Very cool, what is registry? Also, not sure if it’s a woman thing, but what makes you enjoy traveling alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:58 AM
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Damn, that’s really sad, might be not the best time for them, or time for new ones. How did you meet your previous girlfriend, and what’s preventing you from getting another now that you have a proven record of being able to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:54 AM
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Have you tried rekindling those friendships? I’ve reached out to many old friends from high school and before and all of them were happy to hear from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:50 AM
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I can’t speak for Europe but that sounds like an excellent plan. I’m also MechE with a minor in Auto and while I don’t use my minor, I’d love to someday. Best of luck my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:50 AM
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The latter, but in doing the latter, I developed extreme social anxiety that I’ve tried to counter to no avail. Admittedly I’ve become extremely intimidated by women, put the entire gender on a pedestal, and have a slippery slope mindset that one bad encounter with a woman could ruin my mental health or somehow affect my career.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:49 AM
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I see, and can relate. My weekends are somewhat of the same theme as yours. What do you think is the main reason you don’t change things up? Apathy/Social Anxiety?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:42 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that, also an engineer myself but I haven’t had issues finding jobs lately. Where are you applying/looking?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:40 AM
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Eventually the monotony of dieting and exercising has to become apparent right? Do you ever feel bored to the point of just not knowing what to do for a day/weekend?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:36 AM
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What do you do on your days off? BG3 is a ton of fun, the hardest part is coordinating a time for my group to get together to play it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:33 AM
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Regarding your last point that you’re just screwed, isn’t that contrary to RP tenants? Isn’t the idea that you should be able to identify your shortcomings and work on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:52 AM
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Ok, but how could someone who is 20+ years removed from being an infant even know if that happened or now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:49 AM
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What specific things could have happened in early childhood?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:46 AM
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Living by the beach in SoCal will fix this problem!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:45 AM
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Or just get a hair transplant and never worry about the state of your hair ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:44 AM
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I dream about getting to do this one day pretty often
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:53 AM
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Good to know. Do you think someone who is 5’9” - 5’10” would really benefit from this surgery?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:13 AM
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Good read, though I do find publishings like this somewhat suspect as it’s written by a company that sells these products. They do cite journals though which backs up their claims. At this point I don’t really see the need to switch; I’m not losing hair anymore and for areas I had the transplant, I don’t think I ever had hair there to begin with, so there wouldn’t be hair to regrow, at least I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:38 AM
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Wait so you’ve had a transplant but still think it’s extreme? Also, how does dutasteride help regrow hair and stop excessive body hair from growing? Isn’t it just a stronger DHT inhibitor? My physician told me that all Finasteride does is prevent you from losing more hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:15 AM
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Has your dating improved, or have you had any relationships? Also, do you have any fears of backlash when you cold approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:58 PM
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How has leg lengthening adversely affected your life? Have you had any long term complications or chronic pain? Also, I couldn’t tell by your post, but are you straight/gay? You called yourself a twink so it threw me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:54 PM
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My parents are the root of them problem, or at least the start. My mother harped on my face growing up. When I was heavier she called me “faccia di patate” which is Italian for potato face. My father is an immigrant and not very well educated, and does not understand the nuances of my mental state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:43 PM
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How can you be so sure? It may not be from lack of plastic surgery, but rather lack of physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:29 PM
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I wish I knew how to fix my thought process but I don’t. I think if I had one instance of someone complimenting me I’d feel better, but that’s never happened which in turn makes me wonder what’s wrong with me. So that makes me think I’m visually unappealing and therefore need to fix that, ergo plastic surgery
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:28 PM
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I’ll keep licking their boots until they make me look like one of the Bogdanoff brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:26 PM
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I agree LL surgery is drastic and I’m not gonna do it. As for the Hair Transplant, I already got one and I couldn’t be happier. I went from a Norwood 3 down to basically NW 0. I’ve been on Fin/Min for years and while my recession stopped I never got back what I lost. I used to spend so much time styling my hair and worrying about it getting messed up and showing my bald widows peaks. Now, I’ll never have to worry about that again and it was worth every cent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:24 PM
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Los Angeles
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:15 PM
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It’s amazing, I went down to the pier by my house last night in shorts and a tshirt in December. Just feels wrong haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:20 PM
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This was the case and my main reason why I went this route. Everything looks natural and the only people who have noticed were people who knew me prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:07 PM
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I do believe there are baseline beauty standards required to get most any women, and that’s why I got the surgeries
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:54 AM
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Am I supposed to ignore my parents when they ask why I don’t have a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:15 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that, are you both struggling with women? What do you think the main reasons are?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:57 AM
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Why are you against a rhinoplasty? I just had one and I’m very pleased with the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:56 AM
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I agree, I don’t think blanket calling women “bitches” is appropriate. But I do agree with other points that user made.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:13 AM
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I agree with this, my response was moreso directed to how the Reddit user I responded to seemed to imply that some random woman should be more important than my parents. If I had the opportunity for a relationship/wife, then my feelings would be different. I would still respect and love my parents, but my SO and Kids would be more important then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:11 AM
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I think the mystique behind being grandparents is being able to enjoy all the fun of having kids without the responsibility of raising them. Like a victory lap per se. That’s exactly what I tell them, and they just can’t wrap their heads around it. Then again, my dad says I should create a personal ad in the paper, so he’s not exactly with the times anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:07 AM
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Glad the got them. I agree it’s not their decision, but I personally wouldn’t disrespect my parents by telling them to shut it when they voiced their interest in grandchildren. You do you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:58 AM
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What was so special about miss moral that you would have cut communication with your parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:38 AM
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Have to tried to show her examples of the women in society today? Your dad rocks btw, if I ever have kids and they were getting married I would get wasted at their wedding. It seems like the most dad thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:37 AM
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Thank you my dude, wishing you a great life too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:11 AM
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Right, game is in my mind. It’s not like math whereby you learn basic theory and increase the complexity in an environment that is universally accepted. Game is completely unique in its execution. There isn’t a defined response to something someone says because there are countless variables that affect each situation uniquely. I also think people who are highly analytical or high higher IQs are less capable of developing “game” because of how their neurological web is structured. I’ve not heard …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:10 AM
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I know I don’t owe them anything, but I would like to repay the favor by giving them something we both mutually want, I’m just not able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:06 AM
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I’ve already had a hair transplant and rhinoplasty. I’m very happy with the results. I made sure to go with the top surgeons in Cali. I have been debating limb lengthening but the recovery and myriad of complications makes it not worth it. I chose surgery because it was an easy solution to these problems. I know I don’t have game, but there isn’t a defined solution on how to fix that because it’s all innate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:03 AM
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That honestly sounds like a great, peaceful life. I’m a patriot through and through, and I think America is the greatest country to live in regardless of the dating scene. I have the luxury of living by the beach in one of the most beautiful parts of SoCal. That makes up for any shortcomings I have in dating. I’ve got a great life and I can’t complain, and it sounds like you have a great one planned too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:59 PM
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I see. Did you not feel bad lying to them, even if you knew it was better than the truth? I just don’t have it in me to lie to my parents even though telling them the truth would just hurt them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:48 PM
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The fact that such a high percentage of guys are single and there are multiple single mothers should be seen as an enormous issue with society in the west, but it’s going the opposite way and being accepted as normal and “correct”. I just don’t see how such a society built upon factors like this is sustainable. I wouldn’t be surprised if we saw another federal tax levied on us to support single parents that was treated in the same fashion as social security.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:46 PM
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Jesus, I’m so sorry you’ve had women telling you that. The fact that they aren’t banned/prosecuted is beyond me. Taking care of your mom is the right thing to do, after all she is one of the few women in your life who has always cared about you no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:44 PM
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I see, thanks for the insight. It is appalling, but it is the agenda that’s being pushed today, and it’s one women are very happy to adhere to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:29 PM
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I understand. Glad that you overcame your fears and found someone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:28 PM
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The issue is they don’t immerse themselves in environments where they can see it firsthand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:27 PM
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What does she do specifically? And I would imagine your comment about getting where you’re coming from is just her understanding the dating market by seeing it in action via proxy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:14 PM
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Right, but you never had to go so far as trying to explain that you wanted a boyfriend but couldn’t get one, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:09 PM
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Exactly this. They use the argument of “But you live in California, have a great career and plenty of money! It just doesn’t make sense!” At least they see the rationale behind the cosmetic surgeries I told them I’ve had/planning on getting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:08 PM
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The craziest thing I saw lately was when I visited a friend and his sister was there with her “boyfriend”. This guy was six foot something and extremely fit, but he was a self proclaimed “music creator” and then asked me if I wanted to buy weed lol. He then proceeded to get upset when I told him he could not take my Tesla “for a ride” and called me a bitch. The icing on the cake was when another girl showed up who was his “friend” and all three of them went out to do God knows what.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:05 PM
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I wouldn’t lie to them, but that would also upset their catholic heads, and potentially disqualify me from inheritance, which would not be worth it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:43 PM
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It is rough seeing my friend living off unemployment with his parents having multiple dates a week. It is what it is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:42 PM
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Yup, I know exactly what you mean when you speak of these types of women. Living in LA, I see them all the time. One of my friends is one of them; she’s a smart engineer but “cant seem to get the guy she wants.” When I asked who that may be, she pretty much described Chris Hemsworth, when she isn’t exactly more than conventionally attractive herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:40 PM
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You had great grandparents, and your grandmother was extremely socially aware for being from an older generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:27 PM
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Because they ask pretty much every time we talk on the phone/Skype and it usually devolves into a discussion of “what I should be doing” which isn’t reflective of the trends in society today. Plus they say “we really want grandchildren” and it’s rough because I feel as though I’ve failed to give them the one thing they want when they gave so much to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:24 PM
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What is the point of the anecdote about the woman at her work? Agreed, my friends who are in happy relationships or married with kids have been together for years. You nailed it on the single guy thing, I’m rocking the sitting at home on a Saturday vibes right now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:19 PM
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I attribute all the successes in my life to the opportunities my parents gave me. Why would I throw all that in their face for sex with some random woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:14 PM
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I don’t think there is a single woman on this planet that I would ever care more about than my parents
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:05 PM
8

You and I are very similar, so I hope there’s solace in knowing you’re not alone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:04 PM
3

Did you just tell them to stop asking, or did they get the hint?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:53 PM
3

You’re lucky you didn’t have to have this weighing on you while they were still alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:53 PM
10

There seems to be a correlation between men who excel in education/career while simultaneously not having much success in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:52 PM
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Wild
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:38 PM
4

Do you still feel bad for not meeting their expectations?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:38 PM
3

Are they aware that you do have dates? I think there is a stark difference in a parent’s reaction to their child having dating success with no long term relationships vs their child not getting any dates at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:35 PM
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I’m sorry you had to deal with rejection like that, but you seem to be apathetic towards it which is good. It is a culture shock to parents to see something like this, but at least you have the wherewithal to show them the problem isn’t you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:33 PM
4

In a way you’re very fortunate
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:31 PM
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What is their take on that? My parents are religious but I think they would be somewhat taken aback by that requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:18 PM
4

What was the age gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:17 PM
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A cat enthusiast in the making
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 08:38 PM
3

Great take. I’m currently living that flashy lifestyle, but I think it’s due to not having a reason not to. I think I would enjoy living more modestly and wholesomely if I had reason to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:56 PM
2

I respect that and I would more likely than not pay for those services if I were in the same position.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:43 PM
2

What is your combined annual household income? I’m currently at 350k and I still feel like having a housekeeper/gardener is a waste of money. But I am also single and enjoy chores, so that may factor into my bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:34 PM
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To be fair, I don’t try when it comes to approaching. A combination of social anxiety, fear of rejection, fear of being “put on blast” or however you want to word it for “bothering” a woman, and an analytical/pessimistic hybrid mindset makes approaching near impossible for me. I’m in therapy and have been for over a year, and I really don’t get much out of it. I’ve had multiple therapists with not much improvement. I attribute my financial success to luck; I just happened to invest in various st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:17 AM
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I respect everything you just said from a purely subjective point of view, but you failed to touch on something very critical which this subreddit focuses on: Looks Sure I can leverage my resources to put myself in positions to meet women, but the buck stops there if they aren’t attracted to me physically. I then just become “another average dude” with no outlet to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:03 AM
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I’m 28. I agree I am well above average, but nobody but my family, close friends, randoms on the internet and the IRS need to know my financial status. I would like for a woman to show genuine attraction and interest toward me, and down the line she can learn about my financial status. Your comment about getting a sugar baby is ridiculous and you seem to think I only care about sex and not forming an emotional connection with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:56 AM
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Source? I was pointing out my wealth not in an effort to say why I don’t have luck dating but to counter your point of how men act and live life when they don’t have luck dating. Your advice leverages myself using my wealth to attract women, which is not my intent. For all intents and purposes I dress plainly and don’t advertise my wealth because I don’t want to attract a women based on that. Also, what do you mean by “grind it out”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:48 AM
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You have to admit this individual is an outlier; your description of this dude is basically synonymous with a homeless person. Guys who don’t “relate to women” aren’t getting wasted and shiftlessly running around posting Tik Toks. I struggle with relating to women and dating, yet I own a house by the beach in LA, make 350k/year and have hobbies that don’t revolve around drunkenness or getting high. You don’t see me or many other guys mirroring what this individual is doing. We just fly under the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:47 AM
1

Has it occurred to you that people can get plastic surgery for other reasons than just being insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 01:12 AM
2

And this is relevant because?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:37 AM
1

Could that not also be said for women who wear a lot of makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:32 PM
3

Could you describe how an asexual, feral man lives/operates life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:45 PM
1

Wild take, I don’t have any more to say
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:06 PM
1

Do you think that modern medical advancements are an indication that we need not consider how these traits will affect our children and the next generations?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:54 PM
1

Do you also think that ugly women shouldn’t reproduce or is it exclusive to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:48 PM
1

You’re assuming that I considered myself ugly to begin with and that reproduction is blanket copy/paste of all traits you seem to consider to be ugly. Your comments have mildly eugenic undertones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:06 PM
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I made this thread mainly to see exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:20 PM
0

So ugly men shouldn’t reproduce and be denied the experience of having a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:58 PM
1

Appreciate the response, but I am interested to know what you view as priorities? If I own my house and car outright, and save/invest well, what other financial priorities would you look for in a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:09 AM
3

Agreed, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 02:19 AM
3

Looking at old pictures of myself, someone might mention it, etc. I am mainly concerned that women might feel it’s a copout, or that a guy is trying to hide his actual genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:59 AM
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Just based on your standards for physical beauty only, would you prefer to date a guy who was balding or one who had a hair transplant to fix his balding? I know there are other factors that may trump these characteristics, but considering this in a vacuum, what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:37 AM
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Agreed, the surgeries are for myself, but with the indirect intent to build confidence to make dating easier. I asked this question primarily because if women viewed plastic surgery as something negative, I would be less inclined to spend money and take the risks associated with elective surgeries
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:32 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:20 AM
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This is honestly pretty disheartening to read. As a reasonably successful late 20s male who can’t get any dates at all, I was very hopeful that when I hit my 30s, the women would have lowered their standards a bit. Sounds like I don’t have much to look forward to anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:05 AM
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Surely being 6ft is better than being 5”10 no?
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 02:49 PM
1

Not all I make it out to be, but women would say differently. I have seen how much more respected my colleagues are around women at work, they’re just inherently more well respected and treated better.
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 02:44 PM
2

Yeah you’re right. Either be short and unattractive or tall and weird looking. Lose lose
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 02:54 AM
1

Is it really just 10 minutes of friction or a happy LTR for life though?
/r/AllPillDebate20/09/23 02:02 AM
3

I feel the same way, having nobody to be responsible for except myself is very freeing. Love being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want.
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 07:47 PM
2

Surely there is something you’ve always wanted to purchase or go visit?
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 06:53 PM
2

Great plan, happy for you. Hope you can travel the world and explore what our amazing planet has to offer.
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 05:32 PM
1

Nah bro I have a fucking massive nose im getting it fixed it’s hurting my chances.
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 03:09 AM
1

What does that mean?
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 03:03 AM
1

Then it’s really over
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 12:03 AM
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Maybe hookup wasn’t the right term. I matched with all of them on dating apps and we went on a few dates and had sex. But I paid for everything and that probably kept them interested. For the two girls I had a relationship with; I can say without a doubt they just saw $$$s and not me for who I am.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 11:02 PM
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No, I had about seven different hookups and two girlfriends in the past few years, but looking back holistically I’m almost certain they all wanted me for my money and that’s it. Pretty sure I’ve never actually had a girl genuinely attracted to me.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 10:29 PM
1

Sad thing is that I have crossed the 7 figure threshold, yet I’m still considered middle class in my area. SoCal is very difficult.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 09:26 PM
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I don’t ever intend on moving to the Philippines, or outside of the US for that matter. I live by the beach in Southern California and wouldn’t trade this for anything. Would rather be single and forever alone and live in this amazing place than in some 3rd world country with a lower quality of life. So I need to evaluate my dating prospects here in the US only, and that’ll determine if the surgery is something I should seriously take a gamble on.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 08:56 PM
1

Thank you I appreciate it :)
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 08:36 PM
0

It’s not bad but it could be better
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 08:31 PM
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I’ll wait and reassess once my hair grows back and my nose has fully healed.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 08:09 PM
2

More than likely a combination of software and my large nose; which is why I’m getting a reduction rhinoplasty. Though to be fair, I do rarely put myself out there, am not on dating apps and keep to myself, so I don’t know if I would actually have success with my current looks.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:46 PM
1

So you would rather be stuck at your height forever rather than take the risk for a better romantic life?
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:33 PM
1

Gotcha, I’ll take a look into it. I have pretty broad shoulders currently, so I might not be a candidate.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:30 PM
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I appreciate the sentiment and am honestly surprised you’re being upvoted given the stark difference in mindset that I’ve read on here. It would ruin my life to have this surgery and subsequently become paralyzed or something.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:20 PM
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Not worth it because I’m not that bad right now, or not worth it because I’d still be too short after gaining 3-4”?
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:06 PM
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