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DoctorNini/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 12:08 PM
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DoctorNini/r/askMRP22/06/17 06:24 AM
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Both men and women are looking for a certain level of attractiveness that will differ per person. So yes, more guys will be interested in you than before you became more attractive. This means your options have increased, but there were probably also men that thought you were attractive before (who you might never be attracted to). This works for both men and women. It might not be fair that people are inclined to lean towards attractiveness, but it is in the nature of both men and women. I saw …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 10:47 PM
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Yep. Sounds like that dude that brags about threesomes with random chicks and his heavily pregnant wife, and how many women have tattooed husband on them. Absolutely bizarre.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/26 08:59 AM
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I strongly disagree. If she wants to adress this, then I think she should only phrase it positively (for instance “I would love for us to be more intimate”). But it sounds like the guy is at the end of his rope. Adding more stress by letting him know he is lacking in the intimacy department would not be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 04:09 PM
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I did something I rarely did: I showed my husband this post. Not for giggles, but because we were in the shoes of you and your husband a couple of years ago. We met during internships, then my husband started his residency in anesthesiology and I started my phd. There have also been times physical and emotional intimacy were a lot less than in the beginning (or now!) because of stress on his or my side. I’ll start with what my husband said. He asked: how come your husband is so tired? He remarke…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 02:39 PM
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I get why you showed more vulnerability, but him reacting this way is a sign that he is not (yet) worth that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/26 10:06 AM
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Thank you for your thoughts, the first line is really motivating 😊
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 05:06 PM
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Ah sorry, I missed that. What were you thinking off?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 01:42 PM
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I would advice you to read Why Men Love Bitches. Simply don’t pick up the phone after 9. You are asleep, you are busy, you have plans, whatever. You are just simply not available because you are not a last minute back up plan. If he can’t be bothered to plan ahead, then make plans without him. The plan can be painting your toenails while you watch a romcom, that doesn’t matter. Also: don’t verbally express boundaries like this. He will take it as nagging. Just draw back your availability. You ar…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 08:25 AM
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Thanks for all the suggestions, a lot of these sound really good! The no juice part is going to be hard though, a glass of orange juice in the morning is basically coffee for me haha. I think you only get the full effect if you really cut out all carbs, right? I’ve done low carb/high protein before and found that easy, but this sounds like you have to be pretty intense about it. I stopped breastfeeding my eldest son the same way you did, and my other two just weened themselves. But my youngest i…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 06:55 AM
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Haha I won’t down vote you! But as I’m married to a MD, he will probably kill me if I go on medication with risky side effects that isn’t strictly necessary. Thanks for the advice though!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 06:41 PM
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I also have a hard time with this! I generally don’t interfere except for when I’m really afraid something dangerous is happening. For instance when the roughhousing gets so rough that I can’t stand watching anymore, I will just say “I can’t watch this because I am too afraid x and y will happen” and then leave the room. He will almost always smile and tell the boys “alright kids, we are toning it down because we don’t want to scare mommy”. When I feel like the kids need comfort when he is being…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 04:33 PM
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Sounds like we are in pretty similar situations! I’m curious: how did you manage to do keto with kids? My husband and I always eat the same meal (just with bigger protein portions) as the kids. So while I make sure that I get enough protein, I find it very hard to go full keto without giving the kids the excuse that “if mommy isn’t having the pasta, then I don’t want the broccoli”, you know? Also, how does breastfeeding influence your weight? I’m still feeding my two year old and it feels like m…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 06:01 AM
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Thank you so much. ❤️ I started following her on YouTube. Some nice follow along work outs sound like a good way to get back into it!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 06:57 PM
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I hadn’t even considered that! It does seem to get harder to stick to a lower weight, the older I get. Thanks for the input!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 04:46 PM
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“My body is strong and healthy”, I think this is something I need to repeat to myself more often! And you are right, dance culture definitely influenced my way of thinking about my body. But I agree that is it time to make a switch in my way of thinking. I can run faster than I used too, I am strong and flexible and my body is still feeding my youngest child, which are all more important things than the weight on the scale. Would you have any advice on lifting? I switched to Pilates and resistan…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 07:23 AM
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You are probably right. I would prefer for my stomach to be as flat as it used to be, but that has more to do with excess skin after 4 pregnancies and less with weight loss. To be honest, the only time I got back to 59 kgs was 3 years ago when I had a miscarriage. I was grieving, barely eating and smoking like a chimney (not the best coping method, I know) and dropped the weight in no time. When I look back at those pictures now, my face looks almost gaunt to me. My husband disagrees and thought…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 07:02 AM
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Thank you for your advice. What health metrics would you focus on?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 05:12 AM
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Ha, funnily my husband says the same thing about Instagram. I actually deleted it for the entire month of May which was great, and think I will just toss it off my phone again. You are right that no amount of losing weight will get me back to 25. Even when I did get back to 59 kgs, my stomach was still softer than it was before and my waist didn't go down to the same measurements. I have accepted that this is simply a consequence of having kids, and I would not change being a mother for the worl…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 01:24 PM
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Thank you so much for responding. I will definitely check out that sub! A bit of de-influencing might be a good idea... Your story sounds very familiar! My waist is thicker and no amount of exercising or weight loss seems to get it back to the same level. I have to say that I am thankful that my hips and breasts have grown in the same degree though, so my figure looks basically the same, just slightly broader. I hear your advice to age gracefully and embrace it, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 01:17 PM
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Thank you so much for your response. I am not familiar with that app, but I will look it up! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 01:15 PM
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I don’t think attraction is the problem, as he never had a problem getting (or maintaining) an erection and he initiates as well. He also tells me that he is very attracted to me. His eyes don’t go wide in the way they used to when he sees me naked, but I figured that’s just the novelty wearing off. When we are intimate, he is a very enthusiastic lover. But at least half the time when I initiate he’ll apologise that he is tired. Which I get, honestly, we have 4 kids and 2 busy careers. I’d just …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/26 05:41 PM
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I have to say I’m having a hard time with this one. The title really caught my attention as I would like more physical intimacy but I’m not sure what to do with the solution. The child care responsibilities are well balanced in my home, and my husband changes as many diapers as I do. Still, he doesn’t desire me as much as he used to. When we go away on a weekend together, we might have sex twice a day for two days straight. But normally, it goes down to twice a week. My libido is higher than ave…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/26 05:16 PM
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OYS Number: 5 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. Gratitude list: - I’m grateful for the journal my children gave me. It helps me with my readings of scripture and creating gratitude for everyday things. - The relationship with my husband keeps growing and is generally much more positive and joyful. I am very grateful we are both capable of growth and want to grow together. - I am grateful that both my husband and children g…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/26 05:09 PM
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I agree with the first part, but instead of engaging these discussions with him yourself, perhaps offer other sources. The MRP forum here is focused on men in serious relationships. Jordan Peterson provided answers to men with troubled pasts that are more than “f-ck b-tches get money”. Would either of those appeal to him?
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/26 04:03 PM
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I have to say that my cycle doesn’t always help either. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/26 08:29 AM
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Good luck! I hope you will have the same experience as myself: the tools from the book can really have an astounding effect on your own happiness and your relationship. And if you get scared about him leaving: he hasn’t yet even though you have had a lot of conflicts, so clearly he loves you. Try to better yourself and you can have a long and loving relationship ahead of you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/26 02:53 PM
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What RPW content have you consumed? I would advice Laura Doyle’s the surrendered wife. Because honestly, it sounds like you nag a lot over nothing, and it is causing your relationship to implode.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/26 02:28 PM
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What do you argue about? And how come it has been escalating to this point?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/26 02:09 PM
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I don’t want to be to confrontational, but to me it sounds like your previous partner caused your self worth to drop to such lows that you do not trust a situation that is close to a fairy tail when it is presented to you. Are there any red flags you haven’t listed? If not, could it simply be that this man is serious about wanting to give you an amazing future?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/26 03:06 PM
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OYS Number: 5 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. Gratitude list: - I am very thankful to u/Prestigious_Log_1388 for his response to my last OYS. I really had a hard time with feeling like I was posting for nothing as nobody seemed to be reading it anyway. His response made me realise that I shouldn’t be doing it for feedback (or approval), but because it helps me reflect and improve. - I am very thankful that I currently ha…
/r/RedPillWives30/05/26 08:59 PM
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Oh yes I agree, not a red flag at all. But I can understand her feeling of disappointment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 07:09 PM
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I think that last part is the most important. As I said in another comment, I can definitely understand a sense of disappointment. It would have been very romantic if he did offer. But there are tons of reasons why he didn’t besides him just not caring enough. If he shows interest in other ways, then I would trust that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 06:50 PM
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I agree that he doesn’t HAVE to do anything. Women are not entitled to men arranging transportation for them. So I definitely agree with you on that part. That being said, I can imagine her feeling a slight sense of disappointment, simply because of how he phrased it. It does make it sound like the slight inconvenience isn’t worth it to him, which doesn’t seem romantic. Again, he doesn’t HAVE to be very romantic, but I can understand disappointment that he isn’t crazy enough about her yet to act…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 06:48 PM
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Thank you so much for responding! It was a bit disheartening to not have any response, so thank you so much!! And you are right, reading and reflecting did help me, so I will try to continue regardless. And you are right, I did not respect his opinion in that moment. I thought he was complaining about nothing and found it very hard to keep my mouth shut. I did ducttape though, so that felt like an achievement. And hopefully we can both continue to grow in our roles and these moments can become l…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/26 08:49 AM
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I think you are both making the same point. A man might still be building in the sense that he hasn’t completely finished the house and still has to add the roof, but if he is just standing there looking at an empty lot while figuring out what to build, you should be weary. Man in their 30s don’t need to be financially set for life, but they should at least be sure about their direction and actively building towards their future. If they are still figuring out what to do, that’s a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/26 08:04 AM
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I am very sorry for your loss. I guess it depends on what your dating scene is? Are you part of a certain community or religion? And are you open to widowers or divorced men? Also, if you are looking for a traditional man that wants to provide for a large family, I am not certain implants would add to your RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/26 08:00 AM
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What is ‘high’? What’s high to you might not be high to others.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 04:55 PM
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I would never advise a woman to go into a relationship hoping that a man will significantly change. It doesn’t seem that he, as he currently is, would be suited to you as a husband, head of your household or father of your children. I think that tells you enough. About your n-count: of course you want to keep this as low as possible. But it does matter what community you are dating in. Are the men you are dating expecting you to be a virgin? Or are they just not looking for a woman who was very …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 01:02 PM
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I have no idea why this enrages me so much, but IT DOES 😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 08:05 AM
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This is the same for me. I wouldn’t consider my husband a gamer, but he does like to play for an hour (or maybe two) maybe twice a week. He also goes to the gym, runs and has other hobbies. And his gaming doesn’t interfere with his role as a husband and a leader. It’s just like when I’m reading: I can put the book down if I have to. If he were to play things like WoW, it would be different. Those games take up so much time and you don’t want to leave a dungeon and let down your group. I think th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 06:57 AM
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Doesn’t that depend on what they want? Men could have a ton of options for sex with women they would want to marry, and decide they are willing to wait for a woman that is marriage material. I would actually argue that waiting for a bit might make him more prone to consider a woman to be marriage material.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 10:35 AM
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I have no idea why you got downvoted, I agree with everything you said here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 10:33 AM
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I also think there’s a difference in making a man wait ‘just because’ or because you are actually taking the time to make sure you feel safe enough (both emotionally but also practically with a STD test for instance) to share your sexuality with him. And I agree, it seems like an insult if you make a LTR wait months while you have also had ONS.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 10:31 AM
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Ah, I missed your comment. I’ve always been on the smaller side as well, and found that A line dressed really accentuate my natural shape and make me feel very feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 05:16 PM
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Wearing heels! I automatically stand up taller, walk more elegantly, and I just feel prettier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 05:14 PM
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My husband told me very clearly when we just met that he stuck to texting for logistics, and that he’d rather speak to me in person or even on the phone so he could hear my voice. Perhaps there’s a sweet and feminine way to convey the same message? :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 01:04 PM
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I find it very telling that you respond to exactly zero of the arguments I gave as to why reproduction with this man at this point is a bad idea.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/26 04:52 PM
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I respectfully disagree, as both problems are with him. A man is not entitled to lead a family just by being a man, but needs to demonstrate himself as a leader first. It doesn’t seem like he has done that. Instead of leading her in the relationship, he has let himself go physically. Instead of maintaining frame and being a rock, he blows up over small things. Instead of leading her sexually, he retreats and masturbate. These are not signs that point towards him being a good husband and father. …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/26 09:45 AM
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It sounds like you are advising her to have kids without any additional commitment, which I think would be a horrible decision. He also sounds far too immature to handle the hardships that come with fatherhood.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/26 07:07 AM
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Exactly, fairly certain the guys over in MRP would tear him a new one if he showed up with this kind of BS.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/26 06:46 AM
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You can’t fix him, only yourself. It seems you have done that and he is only reacting badly. If he gets this emotional over a missed work out class, how is he going to react to all the ups and downs of marriage and perhaps motherhood? I am married to a red pill aware man myself. But, and in my view this is important, he started out at MRP. He always had the intention of using the mindset and skills with marriage as a goal instead of spinning plates (or worse, just deciding all women are whores).…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/26 06:43 AM
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Is anyone reading these? After posting three without any interaction I am kind of wondering whether I’m just writing in an online diary 😅 OYS Number: 4 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. Gratitude list: - We had a lovely get-together with friends and family to celebrate both of our birthdays. Many of our friends told us when leaving that they liked people from other friend groups so much and hoped we would do it more often.…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/26 03:32 PM
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I remember your first post, and I don’t think anyone here told you that he was controlling. Quite the opposite, actually. So this post is very confusing. What are you trying to achieve?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/26 03:07 PM
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It sounds to me like he is just not sure about the relationship and/or the timeline and has come up with disconnection as an excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/26 06:38 AM
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To jump on to this: I’ve noticed that the OYS over at Redpillwives is very silent. I’ve posted three times now with zero interaction. It almost feels more like keeping a diary 😅 If others were to join, that would be great!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/26 08:55 AM
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OYS Number: 3 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. Gratitude list: - Although our holiday was amazing, coming back home is always such an amazing experience too. I am very grateful for our lovely home in which we get to build memories as a family. - Since we’ve been home, I’ve been spending time with my family as well. I am especially grateful for my mother and the role she plays in the lives of my children. I didn’t have any…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/26 02:38 PM
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Because you want people to want to be your friends, and it is clear that they currently don’t. If you want to change that, then you will have to change some things about your behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/26 03:31 PM
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To be honest, you sound jealous. Have you considered that jealousy of your husbands bond with your child and his liberty in choosing his program for the day might be influencing your view of the situation?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/26 12:32 PM
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And to add to that: if you don’t want him to stand by you at your death bed, break up and find a guy who you can trust in.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 08:19 PM
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There are plenty of women here who are strong and opinionated and have a good career. I am one of them. 😊 And I would even suggest that most if not all of the SAHM’s active here are strong and opinionated as well! So who knows, you might feel right at home!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 08:18 PM
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Thanks, that makes sense! And I completely agree on the peace aspect. It is something I have seen around me many times. I think, however, that many women underestimate that they are very likely to create drama if they are simply too focused on a man. If you make a man the centre of your entire universe, the chances of overreacting and/or reading too much into his behaviour are huge. And that is where “Why Men Marry Bitches” comes in: make sure to have a life before you try to find a husband. Whi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 05:48 PM
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If your gut feeling is right, she doesn’t sound like a friend that will lift you up. Maybe you should start practicing cutting people off by starting with her. 😉
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 05:16 PM
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I am not sure why your friend recommended this book, as it doesn’t seem to have anything to do with your situation. Sherry Argov explicitly stated that ‘bitches’ as she calls them can be very smiley and nice. The only thing that might be applicable to you, is to show more of a spine when necessary. I’m not sure your friend is the best judge of that, as she just sounds a bit like a mean girl. Do you feel as if you let people walk over you? Do you often feel like people take advantage of you and y…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 04:36 PM
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I have a question on III A! You say “the whole men marry bitches stuff is baloney”, so I just want to clarify: are you referencing Sherry Argov’s book? I’m asking because I’ve seen that recommended on RPW and I personally think it is a great guide to vetting and how/when to be wifey (and how not to waste your wifey skills on a men that is only going to make you a plate). Curious what your perspective is. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 09:06 AM
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I am reading the Surrendered Wife right now, and it is really helping me with how to treat myself and my husband. It is the old version though, I heard the new one has some questionable advice about not even leaving your husband when he is abusive. But the old one is great!
/r/RedPillWives01/05/26 07:09 AM
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To add to this: a 36 year old man who shows up for a first date with no idea of what to do… he sounds awfully indecisive. And to be clear: what makes it that you would be interested in him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 08:13 PM
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OYS Number: 2 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. Gratitude list: - We are still on a very lovely holiday. I am grateful we have the means to travel and explore the world. - My husband has simply been amazing this whole trip, flirting with me, being very physical but also kind and thoughtful. I am grateful to have found and married such a wonderful man who has only become more loving and attentive over the years. - My kids h…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/26 03:59 PM
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This took me a very long time to realise. My husband doesn’t notice most of my flaws until I mention them. I have a new haircare routine and was very proud of the results and wanted to share with him, and he was just puzzled. To him, my hair is always soft and shiny, and he doesn’t notice when my hair gets thinner post partum. He even literally told me “you shouldn’t tell me about your hair getting thinner, because then I’ll start noticing”. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 09:52 AM
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I haven’t read the Surrendered Single, only the Surrendered Wife so I can’t advice on that. But Why Men Love Bitches is a great one to help with vetting and keeping boundaries while dating! Good luck with reading 😊
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/26 11:45 AM
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What kind of books have you read apart from the posts on the sub here? For a young woman still dating, I would definitely recommend Why Men Love Bitches. Don’t get thrown by the title, it doesn’t actually teach you to be a bitch. It does, however, teach you not to go to a private place with a bed or a couch nearby with a man you don’t want to have sex with yet. It is normal for you to want to wait, but it is also normal for him to try and see if you change your mind. Make sure you don’t end up i…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/26 06:51 AM
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You need somebody to vent to, and this is a good place for that. It always helps to mention though, so you don’t get any advice you don’t actually want or need. If you ever want to vent again, feel free to DM me if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/26 12:36 PM
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This sounds exhausting. But perhaps it is best to just make up a reason to leave the house then. Just say “I have xyz errand/appointment, let’s talk later!” and physically leave.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/26 06:22 AM
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I have to agree with the other response. Yes, he has made mistakes, but it sounds like he has really tried to better himself. There is value in knowing how a man will weather storms with you, because apparently he is one that will step up (consistently, over a longer period of time). If you stay though: forgive him. Let go of the past. Love the person he is now and try to provide as much value for him as you can. If you can’t do that, than it isn’t fair to him to stay.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/26 06:20 AM
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I recognise a lot of myself in your words. It is sad that the fear of not being loved or being hurt again can cause a tendency towards control, which causes high chances of not being loved or being hurt again. It is a vicious cycle that can be very hard to break through.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/26 04:58 PM
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And to add to that: try and compliment the things he does do! It sounds like he tries to be a good father and provider. Showing him that you see his effort, can help him by seeing you as the loving spouse you want to be.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/26 04:55 PM
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What are you getting out of the Laura Doyle program? That seems like a ludicrous amount of money, and I think a lot of information is readily available on the internet.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/26 04:45 PM
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Do you have any idea why? My husband loves having passionate discussions about politics and morality with me. But there are certain topics that always get too heated because they are somehow personal. We have discussed this and simply agreed not to debate them anymore as it never ends well. Is that something that might help?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 07:50 PM
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So he is entertained by you getting worked up, but will punish you for days if you get so worked up you actually become angry? I might be reading this wrong, but it feels like he’s looking for an excuse to fight.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 07:17 PM
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Agreed. Although my husband is not a millionaire, he makes very decent money and we would be considered wealthy or rich by most standards. However, I met him young, while in college, and he was definitely not rich at the time. So while marrying someone who is already very wealthy might be hard, finding and loving someone with the potential is more doable, I think. And most men worship a woman that helps and supports them in and through that journey.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 07:05 AM
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Do you and your husband live in the US? My husband is an anesthesiologist too but in a European country and he makes nowhere near this kind of money. So curious what your husband makes if you would be willing to share? Maybe I can convince him to move, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 06:08 AM
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That sounds awful. I think this would work very well on a woman with a superiority complex, but it seems to me you have the opposite (also because of trauma with your parents). You said you have previously talked to him about this, how explicit have you been? Have you told him you would do anything for him if you know what he wants and needs, and that praise effects you a lot better than this kind of treatment?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 06:03 AM
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Agreed. It is not something I am personally into, but I would have no problem indulging my husband. Seems pretty low effort to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 05:54 AM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 34F, married to 36M, four children between 2 and 7. (Do I need to include things like weight, height and lifts like the men do?) Gratitude list: - We are on a holiday abroad that I had to do barely any planning and arranging for. I am grateful that we have enough money to travel and explore. - We have amazing friends that we can stay with during this time. I am grateful for profound and lasting friendships with people who make…
/r/RedPillWives23/04/26 01:54 PM
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While I’m sure at least part of your intentions were to be nice to your wife, are you sure this is not also a hint that you want more physical intimacy? It can certainly come across that way. When a gift feels less like a gift and more like a hint, it’s less fun to accept. In general: I would suggest a trip to then men’s side, at the marriedredpill. A lot of men come there with stories similar to yours.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/26 10:31 AM
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Still there!
/r/RedPillWives19/11/23 01:47 PM
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What kind of anticonception (if any) are you using right now?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 06:31 AM
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Right. I’m not even sure I would even consider this cheating. Let’s hope he just learned his lesson and move on. The more you punish him for this, the higher the chances at escalation, I’d think.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 05:55 PM
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My husband doesn’t particularly care for make up or jewellery, and he actually prefers yoga pants over dresses… but I always do my eyebrows (or have them coloured at the salon) and put my hair up the way he likes. It’s a very easy look (half of it up with a clip and half of it down) but appearantly it’s waaaaay sexier than a normal bun or ponytail. Maybe find out if he has a favourite hairdo for you?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 01:19 PM
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Could this be a regional thing? Because I live in a Western European country, and I’ve rarely ever met people with missing teeth. The few that I met were either older, really poor or had substance abuse issues. Then again, health care is a lot more accessible here, so maybe that’s it? Just curious, because my view is very different than the most liked replies on here. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 07:16 AM
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I would definitely regard missing teeth as a result of bad personal hygiene as a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 07:12 AM
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This differs greatly per woman. But a LOT of women get crazy horny during the second trimester, so maybe he has something to look forward to.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:12 PM
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Yes. Unless you have children, infidelity is never something to ‘work through’. He can work through it himself, in his therapy for sex addiction.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 11:51 AM
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Exactly. It is his family, so he should be handling this. I’ve had similar situations. When they try to get me to change my husbands mind, I’ll usually smile and say something like “I think you underestimate his stubbornness” in a joking manner. If it gets to a point like this, I will tell my husband I feel uncomfortable and don’t want to hurt anybodys feelings. He will handle it from there. Hope that helps!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 08:34 PM
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Wait, so he’s not even a HVM yet, just “on his way”, and you are considering letting him cheat? Even though you have already made up an entire list of things he needs to do or not do because you know it will hurt you otherwise? Honestly, I don’t think this is the right path for either of you. Let him become a HVM first, help him get there, and then revisit this thought if needed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 11:46 AM
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Leave as fast as you can. Go in nun mode and read Why Men Marry Bitches. You don’t need to STFU, you need a backbone.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 03:49 PM
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It is normal to feel exhausted and to feel like something is missing. It is also normal to expres this to your wife in an adult conversation, and she should definitely take it to heart and try to better the situation. But, once again, it is not normal to turn these negative feelings on your own child.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 07:59 PM
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You are making it seem like a father can’t bond with a baby because he is not his mom. Many fathers are equally invested in the child as the mother is, which to me seems the more logical response Of course, a woman shouldn’t shut her husband out or refuse to acknowledge his needs for emotional or physical connection. But I do think being jealous of an infant is a sign of emotional immaturity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 12:01 PM
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I wholeheartedly disagree. Men do want a challenge. They want a woman who seems slightly out of their league so they feel they have made a huge accomplishment by convincing her to be with him. They want to brag to their friends about how much of a catch she is. Men like to chase, and they want women to put up a bit of resistance because otherwise they will wonder if she gave in easily because he is so great or just because she is easy. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean you should constantly …
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 07:48 AM
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Let’s start with the fact that he has proposed to you, which means he loves you enough to want to marry you. He has done this, knowing you and these ‘masculine’ traits as being a part of you. So please don’t feel like these are flaws you have to change. There are red pilled men who still find women with strength and leadership skills attractive. Maybe he even thinks this makes you a better first mate (I know this is true for my husband). Have you discussed this with him?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 07:34 AM
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Yes, that is the recommendation here as well. We choose differently as our oldest seemed to sleep a lot better in his own room, and we discussed it with his paediatrician beforehand. I think we can skip the discussion whether that is a good idea though, as her baby is already 13 months.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 09:57 AM
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I am honestly confused about all these negative reactions on breastfeeding. I personally think (and have seen around me) that it is perfectly reasonable to combine BF with a healthy sexlife and/or setting boundaries for your kid. I breastfed my oldest until he was 2 and am still breastfeeding my youngest (almost 1). Both slept through the night in their own beds at 3 and 4 months respectively. Additionally, I think breastfeeding actually HELPED me get back my PBB, as I did an intensive training …
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 06:25 AM
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But... why? It’s completely possible to combine. breastfeeding with sleeping separately and an active bedroom.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 06:17 AM
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Why not do the sleep training while you continue to breastfeed? I fed my eldest until he was two, and now (3 months later) he still sometimes comes to ask because he sees his little brother feeding. However, at 4 months he moved into his own room. So did his brother. This GREATLY improved our intimacy to back to its old level, even though I have been breastfeeding and/or pregnant for the last three years.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 06:15 AM
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There is nothing wrong with wanting a traditional decision of labour. However, I don’t think the value you mention you bring to the relationship constitutes to even a part time job. So if I were you, I would make sure those are equal, to prevent resentment on both sides. And personally, I don’t think getting your nails done is putting effort into your relationship. Most man couldn’t care less about your nails. So while the premise is fine, I do think you need a bit of reality check.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:26 AM
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Haha yes, this basically describes how it works in my marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:55 PM
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Yes, my husband and I. We discuss ideas here and will sometimes share stories from the respective forums (mostly in a “OMG what was that guy/girl thinking lol” kind of way). We call each other out on crappy behaviour the same way any couple will do, although I might mention I need him to be my “oak” in a certain situation and he might mention that if I want him to take the lead then I have to give him an opportunity to do so. Apart from that, we are just a regular couple I guess, only more tradi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 02:31 PM
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Did you consider that traditionalist oppose rape of ALL women as well? And even if they think you should dress modestly as to not attract unwanted attention, they might still downvote you for your crude language?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:11 PM
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You mentioned you have 3 children, are any of them girls?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 06:12 AM
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I have had these exact same thoughts and questions, looking forward to any answers you might get!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:41 PM
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You made a great decision. Sticking around for longer would have only hurt you and lowered your chances at getting the life you want. As to the new ‘friend’: looks are important, but not the most important. Many high value men marry women that aren’t traditionally beautiful, but instead are feminine, caring, know what they want, don’t play mind games, have their life in order, etc. Looks will fade, the way you handle yourself and those around you will last you a lifetime. So of course it can hel…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:27 AM
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This week’s meal plan looks as follows: Quesadillas with a black bean salad Ravioli with mushroom filling with a mushroom and goat cheese sauce Risotto with tuna and pesto Traditional Dutch beef stew Lasagna with bechamel sauce, turkey and leeks Fried fish with sweet potato fries and baby carrots (because it’s the kids’ favourite :) I am looking for a good site with more recipes that are relatively easy and kids friendly. Any advice is welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 05:53 AM
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MD married to a MD here. My husband took an easier position for 6 months when we had our oldest. When we had our youngest, he had already started his residency. I work set hours because I am getting my phd, and research is generally less demanding than residency, but it was still really hard. I found it hard to be away from my children so much, especially when they were still really small. My husband is amazing and we have a great support system which really helped, but as we want more children,…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/20 06:03 AM
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That would suggest that DNA has nothing to do with sex development, and it is all based on hormonal factors of the mother. This is simply not true. It sounds logical, yes, but it is not based in biological or medical reality.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 06:30 AM
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For me, it is not about how romantic gestures are, but about putting in effort. I appreciate my husband putting gas in my car when he knows I have to work early just as much as flowers. It’s about being thoughtful. I could not be married to a person who puts in significantly less of an effort than I do.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 03:42 PM
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Hi! I am a MD who’s getting their phd and my husband (also a MD) is a resident. We have two small children and are very happy. I absolutely believe you can do this, but send me a PM if you want to know anything!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 06:41 PM
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We have two children, and want at least two more! We are both MDs, and while I chose a less demanding field to facilitate a family, we have both been able to maintain careers. In what kind of field do you and your husband work?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 06:20 PM
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The stance that you should be ‘cured’ from your views would be an absolute dealbreaker for me. My husband and I disagreed on many things, from politics to religion, but he found my opinion absolutely fascinating and we could talk about it for hours. If he had considered my opinion to be lesser than his, I would’ve never married him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 07:55 AM
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I am combining the two. Have to say though, it is really hard. I have kind of accepted it is going to be very intense for a couple of years until it gets easier and I can reap the benefits. But I couldn’t have done it without supportive parents (in law) and an amazing husband, and I see many of my peers failing at combining the two when they miss a support system. Edit: and I can confirm the part about men: my husband wouldn’t have married me if I had wanted to become a homemaker. He is very suc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 07:49 AM
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Why does this bother you so much? I think that’s what you should be thinking about: why does the ex of a guy you are not even seeing anymore getting under your skin in such a way?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/20 10:57 AM
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Regardless of whether it’s true or not, he is apparently the kind of guy who attracts girls like this. That by itself is saying something. I’d stay clear of him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/20 03:53 PM
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Oh sweetie, it sounds like you are being realistic enough. You don’t need a smack, you need a hug. You made a wrong choice, but that’s okay. Take care of yourself, practice a little nun mode, and internalise the knowledge you can take from this situation to help you in your further journey in life. But for now: give yourself all the love you would want from him, until the pain is less intense.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 02:58 PM
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I think what helped us a lot, is that our foundation was right. My husband has a dominant personality, was very popular with women, doing well in university, etc. We met during one of our internships when we were in med school, and as he puts it: “he immediately knew he had to have me”, haha. So I fell hopelessly in love with him, and everything in our relationship just worked out from that point. So I always looked up to him, found him attractive, etc, so I guess that makes it easier for me to …
/r/RedPillWives03/06/20 12:01 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives03/06/20 11:51 AM
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Do you believe RP theory can be applied by both partners in a happy marriage? I have to admit I am biased, as I am active here and my husband is in MRP, but I would love to hear your perspective! :)
/r/RedPillWives03/06/20 08:25 AM
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I am not here to give advice to men, this is the women’s sub.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 08:04 AM
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Sure, but what you are advising here isn’t in line with RPW. Giving a man husband privileges to convince him to make you a wife is against all advice here, and will make it a lot less likely you will get that ring on your finger.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 06:56 AM
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He should earn it in the same way: by being an interesting person and a reliable partner. The last part is the most difficult to vet, but men demonstrate many signs during dating that will tell you how he will behave in a relationship. As to your last question: ANY woman can give you food and sex. It’s not difficult to open a cookbook and it is also not difficult to open your legs. And while many women will tell you that giving him quality food and sex will make him feel good, many men would rat…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 04:34 AM
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By keeping him interested. By being an interesting person and a worthy partner. Not by fixing him food and giving him sex whenever he wants it. Those are things he should earn. Besides, if that’s the only thing you can offer, he might as well get a chef and a prostitute.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 07:02 PM
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This is absolutely the worst advice I have read on this sub. You don’t convince a guy to buy the cow by giving him milk, that’s ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 03:33 PM
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Yes. If you can’t trust him (which is very logical in my opinion), you will just continue to build resentment and anger. No good will come of this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 08:19 AM
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Well, none are 100% failsafe. So I would wait until you are in a situation where it might not be ideal to get pregnant, but it wouldn’t be a disaster either. I told my husband early on that abortion was not an option, and that if I would get pregnant I would keep the baby. He agreed, and promised he would marry me if that were to happen. I have a copper IUD, which I took out a week before our wedding, and got pregnant on our honeymoon. I know have one again, and am quite happy with it. Afraid th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 03:06 PM
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If he doesn’t want another guy to touch you, he shouldn’t allow a guy high on MDMA behind you on a bike. Honestly, what were either of you expecting? You both sound very immature.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:25 AM
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I don’t think either of you are completely right or wrong. Yes, bonding in the first couple of years is important. Yes, breastfeeding can be a great bonus to this. Working doesn’t mean this doesn’t happen. You are acting like it is either stay at home full time or be away 80 hours a week. My mom started working night shifts 3 days a week when I was born. I started working less hours, and my mom babysits two days a week. I still breastfeed exclusively, make sure I see my children for the majority…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:01 AM
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Dear Avalon, I know you deleted your account, but still hope you will somehow read this. I am so so sorry this happened. I understand how powerless you must feel, and how afraid you must be for your children. I am sure you understand the legal process better than I do, given your work history. But still, I would consider going to a woman’s shelter. Take your kids, and hide. If you need help, please let me know. I may live in a different country, but I would take you and your children in in a sec…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 06:05 PM
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I am not sure how others feel about this, but I discussed my fears with my husband. I basically sat him down and said something along the lines of: “I know you would like to be intimate again, and I would like that too. However, I am scared. I am scared of how things might have changed in how we will both feel, and I am scared it will hurt”. He hugged me, told me we could take it slow, and we did! We took a lot of time for forplay and used lube (which is a lifesaver, because breastfeeding makes …
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 10:34 AM
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There’s that. But in addition: it is SUCH an effort (both in time and financially) for a man you have not met. This doesn’t seem right to me. All the things taught here are to better yourself, and can additionally lead to appealing to better men. But the men should be a nice bonus, not the end goal. You shouldn’t jump through a hoop for a men that has not proven himself to you, let alone one you haven’t even met. In addition: I agree with your other comment. If she wants to do this for herself, …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 08:35 PM
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The kind of pictures that are useful in a work related setting are headshots, which is exactly what people shouldn’t use on their online dating profile. If she wants to get professional pictures for her work, then sure. But doing it to attract men is a terrible idea. To me, it screams she needs some nun-mode. I would recommend the book ‘Why Men Love Bitches’ by Sherry Argov.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 04:46 PM
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Hiring a professional photographer to take pictures for you to attract men is like holding a sign saying “I AM TRYING TOO HARD”.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 04:15 PM
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Oh you are right! I somehow missed that, I am so sorry. 32 is like a size 4 or 6 right? I’m European, so sizes here are different.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/20 07:24 AM
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I asked my husband and he would be absolutely fine with it. However, we both find breastfeeding important. I have fed the oldest for almost 2 years now and the youngest for 8 months, and am planning to continue for at least another year. So we’d both want for me to wait until I have birthed and fed all the children we might have. A question I was wondering about, and I hope this doesn’t come across as rude: does any of it have to do with weight? I had a friend with very large breasts who was con…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/20 05:37 AM
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I would say it depends on what kind of RP man you encounter. Many men on TRP are just looking to have fun and spin plates. I am sure you would understand why we on RPW don’t aspire to be a plate. On MRP, there are also men who are looking to build frame and lead their wife and family. This matches with RPW much better. I am probably biased though, as my husband is active in the MRP sub. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 05:15 AM
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Have you read her previous post? Her attraction to his best friend is shady, but she hasn’t acted on it, is feeling guilty, and is seeking advice on how to better herself for the relationship. Nowhere in her posts do I see any sign of HIM trying to better himself. Why would he deserve better?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 06:25 PM
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I am going to be a bit harsh. Sorry if it hurts your feelings, as this is not my intention. But this post in combination with your last one, leads me to believe it is needed. From your other post, it seems like you are young (21, right?) and working very hard on yourself. You started dating a man who seemed wonderful at first, but has since dropped out of school, failed to secure a job, doesn’t pick up chores around the house (that you cannot do as you need to bring in money since he doesn’t) an…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 02:21 PM
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Physician married to another physician here. I would definitely have the same advice. Although my husbands know I don’t need him to bring in the bacon (I currently make more than he does), I do need him for several other things: whether it is ‘manly’ maintenance stuff around the house, or just being my oak when life gets overwhelming. Besides, I think he’s secure enough of his own masculinity to not have it influenced by my level of neediness of him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 05:48 AM
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YES. My hair could REALLY use some new layers, but there’s no way I could do that myself :(
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:49 PM
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I think there is a big differences between TRP and MRP (red pill for married men). In the first, men mostly discuss sleeping around and how to date as many women as possible (generalising of course). In MRP, the men are (mostly) award that they have a responsibility towards their wife and children, and try their best to be a good leader. That’s generally speaking though, some MRP men are still mostly focused on spinning plates instead of investing in their marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:47 PM
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Go to bed on time Read every night before sleeping, no screen time 30 minutes before bed Exercise everyday for at least 20 minutes Stick to my new meal plan
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:42 PM
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Women definitely release more oxytocin during childbirth to help with the birth (as it reduces the pain, but also helps your uterus contract), bonding and breastfeeding. I delivered naturally and without pain medication twice, if you have any questions don't hesitate to ask :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 10:00 PM
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This is an amazingly though out response, that seems deserving of a star.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 03:04 PM
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I made moussaka: both husband and the kids loved it!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 04:50 AM
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I completely agree! It especially weirds me out when women want to submit to husbands who show absolutely no leadership skills... As women we have to do our part, but that doesn’t excuse the men in any way. If a man is not leadership material, than perhaps you shouldn’t be submitting to him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 08:13 AM
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Same goes for me. I’m a MD (definitely ‘strong independent woman’ in the work place) and so is my husband. We have quite a traditional relationship though, in which he is clearly the captain of the ship. He has told me that he actually values my following his leadership more, because I am not the following type in other aspects of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 08:11 AM
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That sounds great, and I am happy for you that he can help you in such a way. However, it sounds like he met you at your low point, and could lead you upward from there. Can he continue to do so when you are doing better? Or will you outgrow him?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 08:00 AM
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I’m not sure you (and many commentators here) aren’t overthinking it. My husband loves my feminine look, when I were dresses and put my hair up nice. He might comment, he might not. But when I wear tight jeans he will ALWAYS, without fail, comment on how amazing my butt looks. Doesn’t mean he prefers that look. He just really, really likes my butt.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 07:16 AM
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I would recommend going with her own preference over both his preferences and the subs recommendations.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 05:30 AM
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Exactly. Men who want to wait until marriage don’t necessarily have sexual hang ups. In addition, many men are starting to look at nofap as they learn that our over sexualised society with gratification on demand just isn’t very good for the dopamine regulation in your brain that is related to sex. There is nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 05:19 AM
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You call him your captain, so I assume he leads you in some form? In what aspects of life does he take the lead?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 06:57 PM
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Being a captain doesn’t mean you don’t have to listen to the opinion of your crew when they object to something.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 06:32 AM
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There are plenty of men who are capable of not acting on their every urge. If this is a boundary for her, she has every right to stick to it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 06:00 AM
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A friend of mine has a very unattractive face, but a good body. She has a bubbly personality, is very smart, although many people think she has a strange sense of humour and can come across as quite weird/eccentric. She found a man who has good face but a terrible body (quite fat), who likes the same things she does and loves her for who she is. He has a good stable job, is smart and thoughtful, and in general a good partner. They are happily married with one little I know many better looking pe…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 03:17 PM
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Even if it is true that any situation can be turned around, you can still make your life a lot easier by choosing a husband that is compatible with you, and that has the same needs, wishes and goals. I had a good long think about my relationship and my husband after he proposed. I had already said yes based on emotion, but wanted to really rationally think every aspect through. The fact that we have the same outlook on many things and can truly operate as a team has made our journey into marriag…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/20 02:45 PM
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I have always found the part about women loving there men unconditionally very difficult. I would say I love my husband almost unconditionally, but this of course is not in line with RP theory. I can’t imagine anything happening that would make me stop loving him, though. Of course, there are things that could make me decide I can’t be with him anymore, but I don’t think they could erase this deep feeling of love for the person he is. Especially because of the deep bond formed by our children, t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 02:37 PM
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Haha no problem! I’ll try to answer any questions you have. I found MRP a couple of years ago, around the time my husband and I attended a marriage course in which a lot of similar concepts were discussed. I showed him the sub and we talked about it, and I actually worried about the fight club rule and how to proceed. I even made a post about it in askMRP where I received some great advise. I think it wasn’t so hard for us, as we were already applying a lot of it unconsciously. My husband is qui…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 02:22 PM
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Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear this, that must be a very hard position to be in. I think I agree with you on the part about therapy. I think expecting love from you like you love your children is both unrealistic and unhealthy, as you are not his mother and should not try to be. Also, getting jealous of the children seems like a bad dynamic. Does this affect your kids in any way? I wish you much strength and guidance, and hope you find a way to solve this issue. If you ever need someone to vent t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 02:01 PM
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Right, I meant the second one!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 01:58 PM
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In that case I misunderstood, because setting such a personal boundary is exactly what I would advice.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 01:57 PM
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As to the last part of your reply: my experience is that it can work great !
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 01:53 PM
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He knows I am active here, and is active in MRP himself. He sometimes gets frustrated with that sub though, as there are many men who are in such a different position (either because of a terrible marriage with a feminist wife or because they are focussed on cheating and plates) that it doesn’t seem helpful. We discuss RP ideas and how they apply to our family.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 01:52 PM
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Why did that make him upset?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 01:50 PM
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Honestly, I don’t get why you suggest she shouldn’t give an ultimatum. She considers this cheating. She is not married yet. Of course she should make it clear this is a dealbreaker and vet him well! If this doesn’t clear up, she should reconsider the marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 07:27 PM
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Agreed. This is not porn, it’s sharing a sexual activity together. That’s cheating in my book.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 06:08 PM
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That’s not necessarily true. There are men who cheat no matter how good the sex at home is. Instantly jumping to assuming she must have done something wrong doesn’t seem fair.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 06:07 PM
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Start by determining your worth based on who you are, not on the men willing to date you. You made a mistake, but you are owning up to it and will work on not making the same mistake again. That is all you can do. As to overreacting with men you are dating, I would advice ‘Why Men Love Bitches’. The title sounds horrible, but it gives great advice on dating and also on how not to make a man your main priority. YOU should be your main priority, and therefor should be able to forgive and love your…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:07 PM
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I am thankful for my husband who is being simply amazing in managing his own workload while also supporting me, that my family is healthy, and that my two boys are becoming such great friends. When my 7 month old just giggles at everything my almost 2 year old does, and then my almost 2 year old exclaimes “MY baby” and hugs him, my heart just soars.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:03 PM
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I’ve been getting quite overwhelmed with the combination of work (I am finishing my PhD in the medical field while working two side jobs), supporting my husband (who is also a MD and working twice as many shifts because of COVID), taking care of the children (two boys under two), running the household and trying to work out. When I write it down like this, I can understand and forgive myself for feeling exhausted, but in daily life I try to push myself even more and end up disappointed and upset…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:01 PM
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To add to the children part: children test your patience CONSTANTLY. It takes so much longer to leave the house or do basically anything when there are children involved. Please consider that in your choice for a life time partner.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 11:52 AM
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Very much this. Many of my friends in college would tell me how amazing it was to have one night stands and friends with benefits. Funnily enough, weeks later they would often cry to me about how their FWBs has started dating another woman and had only been interested in them for sex. I never gave in to the pressure as I just didn’t see the fun about it, and felt like sex was a deeply personal thing that you have to trust the other for to truly enjoy it. However, the one time I decided “whatever…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 11:49 AM
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I don’t think this is an universal truth for all men. While my husband has expressed that he is glad I didn’t sleep around or have many partners before him, he doesn’t necessarily mind that I was intimate with long term boyfriends. Especially considering that he did sleep around a lot. Many men who are not religious will find it strange if a woman is in her mid twenties and has had no sexual experience at all. It’s more about the standards you hold for yourself and the fact that you don’t just s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 11:41 AM
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Unless this is something you feel intrinsically drawn to (for instance if it turns you on), I think this is a very, very bad idea. Sex is not that different to men. They can sleep with women and not catch feelings, but many men will start to feel attached to women they sleep with for an extending period of time. There is a reason the saying goes “women sleep with men they love and men love women they sleep with”. Personally, I would never agree to such an arrangement, as I simply consider myself…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 06:20 PM
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This is not applicable to all men. Many men will find a woman they find worth keeping, and will cling to her. Of course they would like more sex and might think about being intimate with other women. However, many will not prefer this route. You should also consider there are risks. No matter how careful you are, sex can still lead to pregnancy. What will you do if he gets another woman pregnant?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 06:13 PM
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I agree on the part about dread. However, there are ways to keep your man/husband on his toes, without losing your feminity. It's not the same as dread, but it is important to keep a balance of being there for your husband while not being overly available (does that make sense?). I love 'Why Men Love Bitches' and 'Why Men Marry Bitches'. Don't mind the title, it's not about being an actual bitch. :)
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 02:55 PM
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Congrats on the little one! I totally recognize the feeling of being so tired all the time during the first trimester... Don't be too hard on yourself! If you would like a prenatal workout schedule, I really loved the one from GlowBodyPT. And wow, such a great job on the finances! I am really looking forward towards finally paying of my student loans. Unfortunately I don't have much clothes to sell, haha! Keep up the great work :)
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 02:52 PM
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I would absolutely love it if we could make this a fixed weekly thing as well! EDIT: Might as well contribute :) EDIT2: Oh no, forgot to mention the family! Stats 28F, married to 29M for 3 years. Two sons, almost two and seven months. Height 5'7, weight 134 pounds. Husband used to be naturally alpha, we embraced MRP/RPW together before our marriage. Both working in the medical field, him in residency, me in a PhD trajectory with two side jobs. We are generally a great team. Lockdown Although the…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 01:24 PM
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This is absolutely ridiculous. What do you even base this on?
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 03:10 PM
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I’m a traditional Catholic. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 04:31 PM
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As a woman, I can’t imagine telling my (now) husband I would have wanted to delay our future plans by a year. I knew he was the man I wanted to spend my life with, and was glad he wanted the same with me. Especially because he could have easily waited 10 more years to start a family (at 27) whereas I felt my biological clock ticking (at 26). Having doubts for a short while might be understandable, I guess? But even that would have reflected on how she thinks of you. But to say she wanted to move…
/r/askMRP27/03/20 10:59 AM
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Just for clarification: you say he doesn’t like to think of ‘forever’, but how does that combine with the thought of having kids? That’s the part that I find hard to understand. Rest of your post sounds like marriage is not something that was in his plan, but he is trying to see if he can make it fit for your sake (which in my opinion is a mature and loving thing to do). The only thing that throws me off is the ‘forever’ sentence you wrote, so if you could clarify then that would help me get a b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 01:50 PM
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I don't think it is your trust in him that should be the issue. It is the trust your daughter has in him. I would be extremely careful with moving in with a man together with your daughter after such a short time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 09:05 AM
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I have a copper IUD for the same reasons, and definitely prefer the heavier periods to the emotional effects of hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 07:50 AM
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I read the post again, and think I reacted to hastily. My apologies.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 04:13 PM
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Ah, that I totally agree with! Telling him with a purpose of vetting, so to speak, is definitely a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 01:55 PM
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I definitely would not mention it. Why draw attention to the subject? This can go two ways: either he minds or he doesn't. If he does mind, there is nothing she can do to make those experiences undone, and reminding him of it might cause any range of negative emotions. If he doesn't mind, why bother bringing it up? And quite honestly, a man that somehow feels threatened be a woman having had two forms of sexual experiences (that she even feels guilty about!) is not a man that should be pampered,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 01:09 PM
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No, you shouldn't. In fact, I think he should feel badly for making you feel guilty daily about experience you already feel badly about. You are not obligated to tell him how many men you have had any form of contact with, let alone apologize for it. Edit: it has been pointed out that it wasn't him making you feel that way, and I apologize for misunderstanding. I stand by my point that you don't have to feel bad, though.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 12:41 PM
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You really describe my feelings as well. I like the saying that having kids doesn't bring you happiness, but it brings fulfillment. It adds a layer of depth to your life that wasn't previously there. However, it also makes you vulnerable. If you want to realize how badly you can be hurt as a parent through your kids, just imagine having no one show up to your child's birthday party. Having children is both the most amazing and the most terrible thing that will happen to you, and I would recommen…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 11:47 PM
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Sounds like a great plan, and congratulations on being a wonderful team. Please, don't take my comment as an insult. By the way you describe your relationship, I have no doubt you'll be wearing that ring soon enough. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 07:22 PM
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If you don't plan on using your master's degree, it would probably be a waste of energy and time to get it. However, I personally would still think it is a good idea to look for a (at least decent) job until you are married and/or have kids. While it is great that you and your boyfriend are in a stable enough relationship to make plans for the future together, I wouldn't depend on him to provide for you until you have a ring around your finger. Additionally, it is nice to have a career to fall b…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 04:35 PM
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The reason you have issues trusting him is that you have issues being trustworthy. Being this upset about a pair of panties he probably forgot about (because yes, men work completely differently when it comes to attaching emotions to stuff) while you regularly contact your ex while fighting... Honestly, you should work on yourself before you direct any critique towards him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 12:50 PM
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Assuming that this is something you can live up to now, it is still going to cause tremendous problems in the future. I have high libido, and my husband and I used to have sex at least daily, sometimes more. When we had kids, this changed. Not because I find him less attractive, but because life is a lot more stressful when there is a screaming baby. Additionally, I find it harder to find myself sexy when I'm still holding on to some babyweight, or have been puked upon all day. We still try to m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 06:46 AM
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If I am in any way inappropriate, please let me know! Don't want to step on any toes. :)
/r/askMRP25/07/19 05:05 AM
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I have been asked the second question before, but attraction has never been a problem in our relationship. Probably because the dynamic was right from the start, or just because my husband is really hot, I don't know. But attraction or sex wasn't a reason for us to end up here. And as we are both conservative, most of the general facts on differences between men and women and traditional roles in the relationship weren't new to us. Do I ever experience hypergamy: no, I don't think so. But again,…
/r/askMRP25/07/19 05:04 AM
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I am not sure me commenting here is appropriate as I am a woman, but I'll give it a go. My husband and I are both RP aware, and I am also catholic. We went to a marriage course (it was mandatory) before marriage, which was great for discussing all these points. Luckily, we had discussed most of it before and were quite clear on where each of us stood, but it was still a nice way of preparing for marriage. If you plan on having kids, please do the same! It's very important to have a mutual goal i…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 06:35 PM
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I hate men who use Christianity as a stick to beat others with. Have you considered that you might actually not be Godly enough to submit to? I am a Christian woman who submits to her husband. What plays a role in that dynamic, is that my husband doesn't throw a temper tantrum when he doesn't get his way, let alone call me a bitch and bring up divorce.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 09:47 AM
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This always weirds me out about weddings in the US. I am from the Netherlands, and my husband and I spend 7k. An expensive wedding here would be about 15k, but more than that would be considered overspending. Things we saved on were a big dinner (we had dinner with just our parents) and a big party (only 30 of our best friends). I am still happy about that choice, because it gave us the time to spend time with everyone at the party. At the reception (120 guests) I just felt like I was running to…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 10:17 AM
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In the dosages you can buy it in the US it absolutely qualifies as a drug.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 08:03 AM
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You sound awfully angry at some strangers on the internet because of what? Because their advice didn't immediately fix your marriage? Beggars can't be choosers, stop being so butthurt.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 05:14 AM
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Maybe I am getting this wrong completely (being a woman), but I always figured men are better at seperating love and sex. They can be completely devoted emotionally to a woman and still be balls deep in strange every weekend. Does that sound true to any men here?
/r/askMRP02/08/18 10:48 AM
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Can you clarify why he made this decision NOW? My husband and I are both MDs, and we knew both going into med school and going into the marriage how hard it was going to be. Maybe it is different where you live (I'm from Europe), but I would consider it public knowledge that working in medicine is tough and time consuming. Why did it take him this long to figure that out? And are you sure he is not quitting for another reason and using that as an excuse?
/r/RedPillWives30/07/18 10:19 AM
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Sure, physical value is important. To your husband. Not to some stranger on the internet who wants to see your butt.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:06 PM
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You realise he is not asking for pics to assess your situation or help you, right?
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:12 PM
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As a woman, you might feel more at home at Redpillwives :) Edit. To answer your question: your marriage cannot survive this. Abuse doesn't have to be the end, but he assaulted your ten month old. Repeat that to yourself a couple of times: assaulted a TEN MONTH OLD BABY. There is no way you can or should ever trust his abilities as a father again. Cut him out of your life, and more importantly your child's life, completely.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:06 PM
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Thank you! I do have to say that my son is a very easy baby that hardly ever cries, so that helps a lot. He likes to watch as I iron for instance, so that makes everything a lot easier. :)
/r/RedPillWives24/07/18 07:15 AM
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No, you are absolutely right. I am on maternity leave, so basically a temporary SAHM. Even with a newborn and breastfeeding every 3 hours, the house is spotless and I have a warm meal ready when my husband gets home. I have friends who are SAHMs who don't get half done of what I do, but that is because they don't treat it as a job. If you are used to working 40 or more hours a week and you apply that same mentality to being a SAHM/SAHW, you should have no trouble at all.
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 02:56 PM
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"These are the types of guys that fully believe open and honest communication will solve anything." Is that what makes a relationship blue pill, in your opinion? I am married to a RP man, and we are (mostly) open and honest with each other. I would say we are probably more honest than most BP couples I know, as we genuinely reflect on ourselves and the processes and dynamic in the relationship. When one of us messes up, we own up to it to each other. Most BP couples I know will try to explain th…
/r/askMRP21/07/18 07:43 AM
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This story warmed my heart. Lovely to read how you and your husband managed to overcome trauma together to start such a wonderful journey. God bless you both.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/18 10:57 PM
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They are talking to a pastor. Most religious women would absolutely care about marriage.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 08:37 PM
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It could be interpreted like that, and I think most women tend to be careful as they meet a lot of men who are just interested in hook ups. The advice given above seems good to me, just make sure to include you want to meet her at a place, not your or her home. Good luck! :)
/r/RPChristians08/07/18 01:59 PM
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Does anybody have advice on breastfeeding on demand versus feeding on schedule? I am hearing so much conflicting advice, with one side claiming feeding on schedule is close to emotional abuse and the other side claiming that feeding on demand leads to babies who will refuse to sleep through the night until a year old. I have been feeding on demand, but am worried I am somehow making the wrong choice. Any advice is welcome!
/r/RedPillWives08/07/18 12:08 PM
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Not sure my advice is appreciated as I am a woman, but I think your phrasing might have thrown her off. The last sentence read as sexual innuendo to me. If I had gotten this text, I would have assumed you meant "lets to do some Netflix and chill instead of the party" and would have decided not to respond as well. Is it possible the same happened with her?
/r/RPChristians08/07/18 12:00 PM
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Just an assumption based on the population here :) I was thinking about how this could work legally, but unfortunately I am from an European country where the laws are quite different. Good luck with everything!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 04:20 PM
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Glad to be of help! I can see you are getting disheartened by the negative response. Personally, I can understand the choice you have come too. And even if I didn't, you sound like an intelligent woman that can think for herself. Please don't let the reactions you receive here make you doubt that. You can always send me a PM if you want to talk about it some more. By the way, out of curiosity, do you currently live in the US?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:01 PM
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I think it is wonderful that you have so much trust in him. And maybe, that could even help you to use your hormones in a good way! When I got pregnant I felt the changes and it kind of freaked me out, so we decided to have a good, long talk about it. My husband understood that these feelings I was having were there for a reason, as these hormones are there to make you a better mother. So he decided to help me direct them in a way that didn't hurt us as a couple. Where I've seen many couples arg…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:03 PM
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I see many people judging you and understand this might be irritating, so I hope this doesn't come across as judgement. I understand that you feel like you might want to waive your rights now, but don't underestimate the hormonal changes you go through when you are pregnant. Logic and rationality are mostly out of the window, as you go into hormonal overload. Your entire body will be focused on protecting this child from ANYONE, also your man if needed. So giving up your rights might be somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 08:46 PM
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I had my baby a week ago, and completely understand how you feel. Walking was hard for me as well, but I did enjoy cycling. Also: during my third trimester I LOVED swimming. It's a good work out, but it also lifts your belly so you dont feel the strain of it on your tendons. Thought maybe this could help you out :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 04:11 PM
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This was the first thing that came to my mind as well. Although I am sure my husband would appreciate a nice meal, a chance to talk while looking each other in the eyes, or any other thing you could do in public, I am a 100% certain he would only want to do that after we've been in bed at least 24 hours. After 6 months of no physical contact, I am sure that's what a man longs for the most. So I would get him out of his house, and be there when he comes back. Put on something sexy, have mind blow…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 08:13 AM
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You said that it causes problems with your son's behaviour. I would expect that to be enough reason for you to take a stand.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 06:43 PM
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Sounds to me like you are mainly avoiding a confrontation with your mom, who is acting in a way that is not in line with your way of raising your kids. That's on you. It's ridiculous that you haven't called your mother out on this until now, and it is worse that you undermine your wife when she DOES have the balls to stand up to her. Get out of your mother's frame and take some responsibility.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 05:15 PM
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The way I read it, the best friend is the boyfriend of the sister. But perhaps you are right. Still, I think it is a stretch to assume she is cheating, mostly sounds like OPs oneitis is turning him paranoid.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 05:08 PM
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I am fairly certain that not many women think "it's a bf/gf combo, it doesn't count" when the gf in question is their sister.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 05:03 PM
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I would say that depends on where you are from. My husband was very serious about me from almost the start, but would have looked at me very funny if I asked him too church on our first date.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 09:05 AM
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Exactly. I wouldn't go on such an elaborate date with a man I have only met once a the supermarket. You haven't had the chance to do any vetting yet. What if you get there and find out in 20 minutes that you are not compatible AT ALL but you are still stuck at an all day festival he paid for? Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 09:04 AM
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I am from the Netherlands and live in a big city. I think drinks is a perfectly acceptable first date, especially if you don't know each other all that well. If things turn out awkward you can easily leave, no one has to pay a lot, etc. Additionally, both parties can do some basic vetting to decide if they even want to put effort into this person. So as a first date, I think it is great. I would expect that if the date goes well, the second one has some more effort put into it. On my first date …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:54 AM
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It would be a deal breaker for me. I am a traditional woman, also Catholic, and I would not have wanted to have kids outside of marriage. As having kids is extremely important to me, this would be an impossible hurdle to overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 08:39 PM
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While playing video games is okay, their hobbies might not make them compatible. If he has just one hobby that makes him want to stay inside, and she has many and wants to be outdoors a lot, this might cause a lot of frustration along the way.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 05:00 AM
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So you discredit her source without being willing to show any of your own? And yet you still talk down to her, suggesting she is uneducated? I think your hostile reaction was very uncalled for in what should have been a civilized discussion, and does not suit RPW values at all. To get back to the subject, while you are of course right that there are many factors at work during a marriage, what happens before a marriage is just as important. Having a common set of values and/or being from the sam…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 04:43 AM
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Instead of complaining about her sources, it might help to show an article that supports your point of view. You know, like an educated person would.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 01:49 AM
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Whether it is worse then knowing the details completely depends on what the details are. I am in no way ashamed of my n-count. I have only had sex in LTRs, and have a n-count below 5. I believe this is completely normal for a woman of 27 in a Western European country, and I will not apologize for it. If I had dodged the question at the time, my (now) husband would have assumed it to be MUCH higher, as most women with a similar background have been on tinder, done ONSs, have had FWBs, etc etc.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 12:48 AM
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When he asks you about your n-count, he is asking you about the choices you have previously made in your life, which say a lot about you as a person. Avoiding to answer would be, in my opinion, depriving him of information necessary to decide whether you are marriage material or not. Besides, you made your choice to sleep with X men, own up to it. I don't think that is comparable to sexual assault, which is a very traumatic experience of which you have no responsibility.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 12:33 AM
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I am not sure what the MRP stance is, but RPW are encouraged to do this, as it is a way of showing appreciation. I will pamper my husband even if he has the slightest cold, which he thinks is ridiculous, but I am quite sure he secretly enjoys a lot. As for appearing weak: I think that depends on how you, as a man, handle being sick. My husband would never ask me to take care of him, and will only stay in bed if I force him too. However, I know women who's men will whine and moan and act like the…
/r/askMRP30/05/18 12:48 PM
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You said something about her 'mothering', what did she do? While I may not have sex with my husband when he's really sick (maybe a BJ, but honestly, him sneezing up the place does not give me the tingles), I do other things to take care of him (make soup, get him drinks, rub his back, sanitize the house, etc etc). Basically, I pamper him back to health, because he is the man I love and respect so much and he normally takes care of me. If your LTR does those kinds of things, even though she might…
/r/askMRP30/05/18 10:53 AM
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Maybe it is worthwhile to elaborate a bit. What exactly does she want to 'try'? Does she want to get involved with other men? Go on dates, or just have ONSs?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 10:40 AM
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I would definitely tell him about your feelings. I can imagine leaving for deployment must be a hard (and maybe insecure?) time for him as well, and this might make him feel better about leaving. It is of course scary to do, as you are bearing your feelings to him, but it sounds from your text as that it is a risk you shouldn't be afraid to take. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 07:15 AM
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First of all: congratulations on your pregnancy! Secondly, I can personally really understand your fear of a second pregnancy. I am now at 39 weeks, and there have definitely been times when I doubted whether I would want to do this again. And I cannot even imagine how bad it must be if you have HG. However, don't underestimate how your feelings and view on this subject might change with time. Because of all the hormones during pregnancy, it is hard to think rationally, and things can feel very …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 05:42 PM
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You cannot challenge someone over not saying I love you. Even women know that. You can't negotiate desire and you sure as hell can't negotiate love. Demanding she says it or being butthurt when she doesn't, makes you look like a whiny, insecure girl.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 01:49 PM
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My apologies, didn't realise you meant the phase of starting a relationship. I absolutely agree with you that it is no use to show a man you have more suitors. I do think it is important to show him that while you want him, you do not need him, as you have a fulfilling life with or without him. I would consider that a form of dread, but I guess that's just semantics as we seem to be on the same page. :) What I think is VERY important about your post, is the use of social media. While men like to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 07:50 AM
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The 'male dread' you appear to be focussing on, starts from level 6. The first 5 have nothing to do with validation or attention from others, and I think those CAN be translated to women. For instance, level 1 is about shit tests. For men this is about passing them, for women it should be about not doing them and using clear communication instead. Level 2 to 5 can be translated quite literally, in my opinion. Women should also have an action plan to improve the major areas in their life (level 2…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 06:52 AM
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Regardless of whether he really wants to get you pregnant or not, he is clearly expecting sex. You should let him know this is not on the table for you before hand, otherwise you are just leading him on. And believe me, no man who expects a weekend of passionate sex will be happy to find out it is just going to be chaste handholding. If you don't want to mess everything up, be honest about your intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 07:12 AM
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You want her to want anal? You realise that might be an unrealistic wish? The vast majority of women don't want anal. Some might try it to please their husbands, but that is completely different from wanting it themselves. Simple fact is: anal is not as pleasurable for women as vaginal sex, and it often hurts/feels uncomfortable. Maybe just aim for enthusiastic/freaky sex with just vaginal penetration?
/r/askMRP19/05/18 11:17 AM
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Maybe it also has something to do with how she experiences her own sexuality in those moments? I tend to go for BJs at a certain point in my cycle because of how unsexy I feel (bloated, mentally unstable because of hormones, etc). However, sometimes my husband's reaction will make me feel so empowered and sexy that we will end up having sex anyway. Has nothing to do with him, only with my insecurities and hormones. Maybe the same is the case for your wife? Does she have enthusiastic sex with you…
/r/askMRP19/05/18 09:11 AM
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Well, considering the fact that I am Dutch... ;-) Joking aside: I would always do 'the reach' on a date. I have never ended up paying for both though. With my husband, he just smirked the first time I did it, and said something along the lines off "I asked you out tonight, so I am paying. If you want to spend money on me, take me on a next date." I did, and we fell into this habit of organising dates for each other. Which I completely prefer to 'going Dutch'!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 03:45 AM
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I guess it depends on what you mean by a 'nice girl'. If you mean women who are kind, generous, gracious and show humility, then I don't think those women finish last. Quite the opposite, I think they will get far, both in life in general and in relationships. However, when I think of men we commonly refer to as nice guys, I think of the keyboard heroes who defend women on the internet in the hope of getting laid, and then get upset when women don't reward their actions with sex. An equivalent i…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/18 10:10 PM
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That obviously depends on how much work there is. She has mentioned that she lives in a studio that takes a maximum of 1 hour a day to clean. I know several SAHWs, but they all either have a large home or a family to care for, or a part time business from home. In such cases, I completely understand the choice. I am thinking of taking some time to stay at home with the children as well. However, with such a small living space and no children for at least 5 years (again: her words), I can underst…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 11:42 AM
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Right, I didn't think about the distances.. I can imagine that makes it harder. Your hospital births sounds similar to the environment of the birth hotel! There they have a stool and bath as well, and you bring your own midwife, no doctors involved. Although the way you can give birth in hospitals here are changing, it is still generally old fashioned in the sense that you have to lay on your back and are constantly attached to all kinds of monitors. I hope this will change more towards your sys…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 09:33 AM
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Finland is a lovely country for children too, right? How long is your paid leave for parents? I am still in doubt... The problem is that I live in the centre of Amsterdam in a lovely appartment, which has no elevator. If I would have to go to the hospital for any reason, I would either have to take 3 flights of stairs, or the firemen would have to take me out through the window. So my husband and I decided that if everything progresses quickly and there are no early signs of danger for my or the…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 09:18 AM
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So you are from Germany? I am from the Netherlands, and we see the same problems in schools here. It really is quite sad to witness. However, it seems an increasing number of Dutch couples with a high education and good income are choosing to have larger families. It is starting to become an upper class thing as well.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 06:30 AM
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Thank you so much for your response, this is just what I needed to hear. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 06:25 AM
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Then make sure you use proper birth control. Get her an IUD. Getting a vasectomy and storing sperm is quite a risk from a medical point of view.
/r/askMRP07/05/18 06:22 AM
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Maybe it doesn't have to do with being the sole provider, but more with a difference in how much effort both partners are putting in. If he works full time, let's say 8 hours a day, and you spend 1 hour cleaning and 1 hour cooking, he is literally working 4 times harder than you are. I can understand how this would make him lose respect, especially if he is more used to viewing you as an equal. If you were to have a bigger house and/or children that would take at least 8 hours to take care of ea…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 06:14 AM
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I think that just because he doesn't want her to be a housewife now, and would not respect that decision, doesn't necessarily mean he wants a different lifestyle. It could very well be that he admires her for her efforts in her business, and how hard she works. Perhaps he could admire her for working hard in running the house as well, and the problem is just that there is no house to run. They have no children and she mentioned earlier that they live in a studio. Going from a full time job runni…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 06:11 AM
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I don't think getting a vasectomy before marriage is recommended by MRP. That is mainly to avoid getting tricked by plates who get pregnant. Many men here have kids or have that as a goal in their marriage.
/r/askMRP04/05/18 09:36 AM
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I am due to give birth on the first of June, and am starting to get quite nervous... I am on paid leave from work since this Monday (common in the country where I live), and have just started washing all the baby clothes and getting everything as tidy and clean as possible. I am just so worried I am forgetting something... What if I get home from the hospital and I find out I need something for the bed or feeding my son that I have forgotten to buy? Additionally, the idea of giving birth is quit…
/r/RedPillWives01/05/18 09:04 PM
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Personally, I think that as a woman you are always in the position to judge a suitor, and should absolutely do so. This is part of the vetting process. I deem it important to have a set of basic qualities you find non-negotiable, and also a set of qualities that would give a man just that extra bit of attractiveness. Based on your own SMV and RMV, you can set the bar as high as you want. Just make sure it is realistic. I think it is a great tactic to only show your girly/more feminine side to th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 06:15 PM
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Have you tried putting on something sexy (or at least in which you think you look really nice) and taking the lead? I find that when I feel anxious about sex or don't feel sexy, it helps when I am the one initiating and taking the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 07:46 AM
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From my experience: men who tell you that you are crazy are not the type of men you want in your life. Seriously. And if you are to the point of having panic attacks and instead of being worried he makes you feel bad, he is NOT a good guy. End it, as fast as you can.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 07:39 AM
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The more you mention here, the more you make her seem as a threat, therefore making her seem more attractive. Don't worry about it, he married you, not her.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 07:47 PM
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So she is pregnant? How far along is she? And do you think you need to take threats like this seriously? I am 8 months pregnant myself. Especially in the first trimester, I was so hormonal I barely recognized myself. In my case, it is my first pregnancy, and I had no idea this would happen. So it was hard for me to seperate what my feelings were, and what was just hormonal nonsense. I have said things to my husband I deeply regret, and I apologized once I got to the second trimester and started …
/r/askMRP25/04/18 07:43 PM
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I think it also has something to do with the kind of person you need to be to have a certain career. Nowadays, many people just choose a field of study because they think it is interesting or fun, while not taking the consequences into account. This might result in a career in serving tables. A good career in an expert field is not only a sign of intelligence, but also a sign of dedication and being able to plan ahead. It also shows that while you might prefer to have a traditional relationship,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 06:20 AM
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I think my message came across wrong and for that I apologize. I agree with you that eggs go bad, I am just saying 32 is not a hard cut off point. Having kids with a 30 year old woman is already a 'risk' if you compare her eggs to those of a 20 year old. So we agree, I just wanted to point out that this is a continuous process. And thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 05:09 PM
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Thank you for this response! The situation you described in Canada is comparable to where I live. If you have a bit of a 'natural' tan because you just got back from a holiday or something, that might be considered attractive. Fake tanning however, is almost done solely by women from lower class backgrounds. Most men in my social circle would see that as a reason to not date a woman, as it is considered tacky and shallow. The whole 'natural' look is really a thing here, but additionally many men…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 07:14 AM
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Although you are not completely wrong, this isn't exactly right (from a medical point of view). The amount of eggs you have goes down from birth and is a continuous process. The eggs becoming 'bad' (meaning there is a higher chance of mutations that will cause birth defects) is also a continuous process. A 25 year old woman will have a higher chance of having a baby with Down syndrome than a 20 year old woman. The risk of Down syndrome gets REALLY high past 35, to a point that in most countries …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 07:08 AM
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I would definitely mention the sleeping in part. That is something that can get very annoying, especially when you do have actual kids to wake up. In my opinion it's also about taking responsibility for getting to your job in time and such. Don't nag him of course, but I would definitely discuss something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 01:37 PM
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Question to the other men here: are messages on Facebook to other men (apparently not sexual in nature or anything) a reason for divorce if you have children together? This is the second topic I see mentioning this, and in neither of the cases would I consider it anywhere close to cheating. So I am just wondering what the bar for leaving your marriage is. I would deem this extremely irresponsible to any children involved, but maybe I am looking at it the wrong way. Would love to hear your opinio…
/r/askMRP21/04/18 05:03 AM
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That is the worst reason to have sex, and you are hurting yourself by doing this. Stop going on dates, go into monk mode and try to find out through counceling where these issues come from and how you can fix them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 04:58 AM
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Out of curiosity, are you from the US? I see many women talking about tanning, and that is completely different where I live (Western European country).
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 06:50 AM
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The fact that she apparently sees relationships as a struggle for power says enough, in my opinion. Although I have to say, I would never want to depend on my husband without bringing anything to the table myself. If he were to point out that he brings more money to our joint account, I could point out I am carrying his child, for instance. I think that woman who lean on their man for finances and such without providing him with anything, are doing something wrong. But I am sure that is in line …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 11:04 AM
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Explaining it like that doesn't work. Guys follow the "watch what she does, not what she says" principle. So if you go to his place for "Netflix and chill", he will try to have sex with you, and will probably feel bummed if you don't want to. If you don't want to get intimate, don't go this or your place together, especially in the evening. Plus she's right: there are so many free options. You could even go for a walk in the park together or something like that. It doesn't have to cost him anyth…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 04:47 AM
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I am not a native speaker myself. However, you don't see me use all types of abbreviations as "af" and "ur" That has nothing to do with being a native speaker, and everything with putting in an effort.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 08:15 PM
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Please put some more effort into the formatting and grammar of your post, as this was very hard to read. To answer your question: it sounds like the first guy is the 'captain type' and the second guy is not. Just because the second guy is more convenient right now, doesn't make him a good life partner. I would take my time in vetting guy 1, and not invest any time in guy 2.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 12:38 PM
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I think that if you have to check a woman's phone to know whether she's trustworthy or not, you're doing something wrong.
/r/askMRP18/04/18 11:43 AM
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Not to sound harsh, but in my experience it is hard to change the relationship dynamic if you have messed up several times in the past. Additionally, if you still carry issues of a past relationship around, maybe going into monkmode for a while isn't such a bad idea. For women who are still vetting, I would greatly recommend 'Why Men Love Bitches' from Sherry Argov. Don't be scared off by the title :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 11:38 AM
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I think that is true to an extent, in the sense that men don't like women that make them feel bad about their intelligence. To use my own marriage as an example: I have a higher IQ than my husband. We are both aware of this, and although I think it bothered him slightly when he first realised this, it's not an issue. I think this is also because he is still way above average (he is a MD training to be an anesthesiologist), but is mainly because I have always stressed that although I may be more …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 09:30 PM
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This is ridiculous. It is not her job to provide kinky enough sex for him to not stray to porn, especially without him ever mentioning he is unsatisfied. Porn is harmful to relationships for a number of reasons, and he is using it not only as a quick solution, but also as a substitute. A RP man would take control of the relationship and make sure he gets the sex he wants. What this guy is doing is the total opposite. He is a bad captain, and still she tries to fix the situation instead of packin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 07:37 AM
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If he says things like "sex takes long and porn is quick", he is not truly Red Pill. He wants a certain type of release without doing any work for it. That has nothing to do with RP mentality. Maybe have him read some articles on NoFap, or show him a Ted talk about this, I think it was called 'the demise of guys'. If that doesn't help: leave. The fact that he is trying to convince you to have a threesome even though your sex life is dysfunctional, shows he's well on his way of porn addiction. Do…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 07:33 AM
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In that case, I am afraid I did not explain it well. Once again, Sherry Argov explained it better than I ever could in her book. I am not saying she should withdraw in a cold way, to make a point. I am saying that she should focus on herself a bit more, because he clearly isn't doing it. Pull back in the sense that she isn't focussing on him for her happiness, but is providing it to herself. She shouldn't be cold or have an attitude, she should be nice and friendly as always. But by turning her …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 11:06 PM
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I disagree. He already has a concrete reason: she has made it clear she finds it important. If that is not reason enough for him, the balance in their relationship is off. I think both you and the author are looking at this from a femine point of view, which is not how he views it (obviously). Men are not compelled to do things for women by rational reasons, or the emotional reasons women have. She has clearly already tried that route, and it has not gotten her anywhere. If your man is slacking,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 05:56 PM
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I don't think talking to him about this will do you any good. You have already shown by your actions that this matters to you (for instance by taking the time to make a list of things you like). He knows that it is important to you, the question is: why doesn't he put in an effort? The most probable answer is: because he knows he'll get away with it. Being even nicer too him is just going to make things worse, because this attitude shows that you have been too nice already. Personally, I don't t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 04:06 PM
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First of all, I feel so incredibly sorry for you that you had to go through this. But honestly, give yourself time. You are in therapy already. Most likely, your libido issues are related to your past trauma. Are there any other physical factors, like birth control? If not, just focus on working through the trauma. If your boyfriend is worth his weight, he will understand this and give you time. If not, please do not force yourself to do things you don't want (again). Give yourself time to heal.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 11:04 AM
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The last past I completely agree with. Mostly, I don't understand why women would put up with that..
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 11:01 AM
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In my opinion, it's a certain type of man that will stay with a woman because it is nice and convenient even though he doesn't want to marry her, while knowing this is her goal. I didn't move in with my now husband until after he had made it very clear what his intentions with the relationship were. If he hadn't done this, not only would I not have moved in with him, but I would have broken up with him as well. Men are simple creatures who know what they want and don't change their mind quickly.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 09:19 AM
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The real question is: what on earth would make you spend 400 bucks on a guy you've only been dating officially for 2 months? In my view, this will only make you seem desperate. You can't buy love; do something smaller but still romantic, like cooking him his favourite meal or cake.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/18 07:28 AM
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I don't usually react in the men's section of RP as I feel it doesn't add anything, but I'll make an exception just for you. She has ABSOLUTELY no right to pull this kind of crap. First: you don't put your hands on your man, period. Second: you don't hold the relationship hostage by threatening separation every time you are pissed off. These are basic things. You touching her butt and being attracted to her is no kind of excuse for this behaviour. You didn't mess up, she did. Your problem is tha…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 02:40 PM
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That is lovely! I am happy for both you and your husband. Hope you continue to feel better!
/r/RedPillWives20/01/18 09:11 AM
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Being outside will probably work wonders too... Are there any winter-related activities you can do? I personally love making long walks in the snow, I find it very peaceful. Then again, I always have to make sure to wear three pairs of socks so my toes don't freeze off, but maybe something like that could help? Just to be clear: I'm not necessarily saying you shouldn't move during the winter. Just that it might be nice to try out all other possibilities before you make your choice. :)
/r/RedPillWives09/01/18 08:53 PM
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Additionally, most of the complaints from seasonal depressions are caused by the lack of sunlight. These can be greatly reduced by using a special type of lamp. Might be good to try that out before making such a drastic decision.
/r/RedPillWives09/01/18 08:35 PM
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For when you want to start dating again: Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. Don't let the title scare you, it doesn't have anything to do with being an actual bitch :) About the augmentation, I would personally not recommend it. As a MD I have seen a lot of horrible complications and botched operations... Besides, most men hardly care. Find a way to be completely happy with yourself and your natural assets; that will be a lot more beneficial in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 10:05 PM
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I think you're idealizing casual hook ups. Sex with someone you barely know isn't anywhere near as satisfying as sex in a LTR, simply because the person doesn't know your body. I understand that you like the thrill of meeting new men and flirting with them, but I personally don't think having sex with them will add much to that. That has always been a reason for me to never go further then kissing with a guy I wasn't serious about.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 08:37 AM
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Read "Why men love bitches" by Sherry Argov. It's all about the mental challenge and not knowing what you are thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 12:37 PM
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Not just cougars either. It's actually a consensus among my female friends (age 22 to 27): there's nothing quite as awesome as the way a virgin will look at you the first time he sees you naked. Just make up for lack of experience by enthusiasm, try to read the signs she gives you about what she likes, and she'll probably have a better time than with most dudes she has banged.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 05:50 AM
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I have had the exact same experience! I think it's good to talk about these things... My fiance found it difficult to tell me because I was still quite thin (130 lbs at 5'7) but I eventually dragged it out of him. Now, after four months, I'm down 8 lbs and am just more toned. I can tell he really appreciates my effort and just wants to touch me more! :) I also think it's good to ease his mind, because somewhere deep down he's afraid I'll stop putting in an effort and get fat now that he's put a …
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:57 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:49 AM
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I have absolutely no problems with that. Attraction has never been an issue, and I am very satisfied with our sex life (and think he is too). So most adjustments would be about leadership in general, and our positions in the relationship. If he's acting until it comes naturally, that is fine, especially since I've been doing the same since I found RP.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 07:14 PM
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I tried to find the book, but there is not a single store in the country I live that sells it. :( The other one is available though, so I'll look into that one! Thanks so much for your advice, and great to hear that you have a similar relationship and it is working! :) About the being a bitch part, of course I was not being serious. I have implemented many things into our relationship already (doing most of the chores, fix him dinner and/or a drink when he gets home, try to accomodate to his wis…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:51 PM
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Oh that's a shame! The church I go to is quite traditional, and what they taught was generally in line with TRP. Of course they also said you cannot get a divorce whatever happens, but I doubt any Catholic church is going to deny that. My fiancé is not religious, so while he has implemented some of the things he found worthwhile from the course, he doesn't feel like it is absolute truth. I think he finds the sidebare more informative, but he has never compared the two.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:43 PM
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Valid point. Thank you. :)
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:33 PM
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Oh please don't get me wrong, I don't want advice for him! I want advice for me; how I can be the best RP-compatible wife/first-mate to him? And my main question is: can it be helpful to be a RP-team or am I just going to get in his way because of hamster/feels/whatever? Edit: Thanks for the link, I'll read it :)
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:27 PM
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So you are saying you would recommend neither? What would you recommend, lurk around here and try to learn lessons from the male viewpoint? I will ask him if he'll have a look as soon as he is home. Not sure how he'll feel about this... But we'll see. :)
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:16 PM
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That's a great suggestion, I hadn't found that sub yet. Thanks so much for your input!
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:10 PM
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Thank you. :)
/r/askMRP22/06/17 12:38 PM
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I am already active in the RPW sub. The problem is that most women there don't have partners that are active in TRP or MRP, so I am afraid that my question does not really apply there. Additionally, I know what RPW teaches me to do and how I should apply that in my relationship, I am just afraid of being in the way of my fiance's MRP progress. However, if the mods feel my question is not supposed to be in this sub, I will gladly move it of course.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 12:38 PM
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A woman that does not have a cycle because she uses a contraceptive with hormones, does not have PMS. All the men here saying their LTR does: no she doesn't. She just uses the excuse card to be moody. I am saying this both as an MD and as a woman. I have used the pill and now am off hormones: it is COMPLETELY different. Don't let anybody tell you otherwhise, just Google the biology behind and you'll understand.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 05:37 PM
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Additionally, since there is no cycle, there's also no menstruation or ovulation. The 'period' someone has on stop weeks, is not the same as menstruation. It's really not that hard to grasp, just Google a little.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 05:30 PM
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Alright, that clears it up. These tests should be enough then. You can also measure vitamin D if you want. Additionally, besides your voice and balls, all of these symptoms are more often caused by depression then a physical problem. Have you considered that?
/r/askTRP29/05/17 04:44 PM
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I get most of these, but why would you want to know your lipid profile or PSA? With your age, I'd doubt either is out of range.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 03:49 PM
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That is not the point I am trying to make. In the beginning, you shouldn't be actively trying to prove your value, you should be deciding what his is. Your value should stand on its own because you care enough about yourself to take good care of you. You shouldn't have to put in extra effort to show this to a man you barely know.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 01:52 PM
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Welcome! I am still quite new myself, and me and my fiancé are also both from high-conflict families. In a way, this makes things much harder, because we both have not seen great examples of how to manage a relationship well. To me however, this just means it takes more work, and I am find with that (and luckily, so is he!). The most important thing for me, is leaving my ego at the door. We are a team, and there is no i in that. I always put our time first, also ahead of myself and he does the s…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 01:37 PM
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If it's taking "so long" for you to get to a point that your exclusive, know he doesn't have an STD, and can have a talk about brith control with him, then he probably isn't the right guy. I had sex with my fiancé after 3 to 4 weeks, and while that was of course frustrating because I wanted him, it was by no means impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 01:27 PM
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Personally, I believe being too "wifey" will ultimately result in getting your heart broken by a man who just wants you because of the convenience. No man will be convinced to start a relationship just because you can run a good household. Mainly because any woman can do this if they truly put the effort in (generalizing a bit of course, but you get my point). No man will fall in love with you JUST because of "wifey"-qualities. But more importantly, in the being of dating, a man should be showin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 01:16 PM
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There are a thousand things this simple line of text could tell you. Even if he did mean it in a good captain sense, that only tells you this is what he wants out of a relationship, not that he is good at executing it. Meet him, vet a little, and draw your conclusions from that. Also, not to sound mean, but please put a little more effort in your post the next time. This was quite annoying to read because of all the grammar and textual mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:42 AM
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Exactly this. I have always waited until the relationship was exclusive, the guy did an STD test and we discussed birth control. With my fiance I also discussed what would happen if the birth control would fail (abortion is not an option for me) which kind of freaked him out, but also made him respect me more.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 08:40 PM
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I LOVED that book! Must read for every woman.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 08:05 PM
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Thank you! He really is :D
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 10:14 PM
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Thanks so much! I think your plan sounds good, although I understand how hard that is. Best of luck to you both! Xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 05:03 PM
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Yes, he did tell me. He said he wanted to be able to fulfil the role of being a husband, and for him this meant being able to provide stability, both financially and emotionally. We had this talk after we had been dating for a year or so, and he proposed after two years of dating. Additionally, he has told me some of his friends deal with the same thing. Also because weddings are bizarrely expensive, so you need to have some money in the bank if you want to make it happen.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:30 PM
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I think timelines just differ per person, and this doesn't mean he doesn't want to get married. One of my friends didn't propose until after 5 years, one of them did it after just 3. I know they are both fully committed to their relationships and the difference of those two years does not reflect a difference in love or being serious about each other. Personally, I had a similar talk with my fiance about a year ago. He said the exact same thing: he didn't want to put a time on it out of fear he …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:23 PM
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There are two giant misconceptions in just the title alone: 1. "My child": you have no idea if the kid is yours. 2. "Fetal alcohol syndrome": diagnosing this pre-birth is difficult to do for doctors, let alone you. Since your whole problem appears to be based on these two points, I'd stop worrying about the kid and start worrying about you. How could you let it get to this point?!
/r/askTRP22/05/17 02:03 PM
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Just wondering: what is considered high? Does it matter if a woman has only had sex in relationships vs ONS, or is it just the actual number that matters? And wouldn't most guys find it weird or not believe it if a woman in her mid-twenties is still a virgin?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:26 AM
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Met my fiancé when I was 23, he was 24. Country in Western Europe We met in the hospital where we were both interning. We met each other during internships of med school. He asked me out on the first day we met, but I was just coming out of a bad relationship so I declined. He wasn't deterred and kept pursuing me, and I thought he was extremely attractive (both inside and out) so after about a week I caved and we went out to dinner. We took things quite slow (he didn't want to pressure me becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 07:41 AM
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Great that you appreciate them, always nice to hear! :) Yes, I did mean the examination room! Years of watching Grey's Anatomy should have taught me this... I have no idea how this works where you are from (USA I assume?), but where I live, not many RN's would hook up with an IT guy or radiology tech. Mostly because there's a large pool of MDs with higher SMV (because of status, money, experience, whatever) to choose from. So why mess around with an IT guy if you can also be with the hot surgeon…
/r/askTRP19/05/17 07:28 AM
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I don't think it's about knowledge, but more about status, how much money you make, and perhaps how passionate you are about your work.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 07:21 AM
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"Also, anyone who's familiar with the concept of hypergamy will recognize this: my RN gf has stated "doctors don't marry nurses.. they marry other doctors". And I suppose the overwhelming majority of women who've obtained an MD are totally trying to marry a doctor. Hypergamy 101." True, but this works two ways. My fiance is quite alpha and doesn't give a crap that I am getting my PhD before he does, or that I make the same amount of money as him, or that I need to work late often and thus have l…
/r/askTRP18/05/17 01:27 PM
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You are right of course. I have been reading TRP, MRP and RPW for quite some time now, but somehow keep falling in the naive trap that women are generally good people. Thanks for pointing me towards the facts, and thanks once more for not assuming I am one of those women. :)
/r/askTRP18/05/17 01:23 PM
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Yes, the on-call room is the most likely place. 90% of the inside-the-hospital-sex-stories I have heard, take place there. Not just nurses and MDs though, also interns with their boss or each other. Other places I have heard about are utility closets (not a good idea, both couples got caught and suffered the consequences) and the private room in which a doctor will see their patients. Since English is not my first language I have no clue what to call that last one. And indeed, it is mostly nurse…
/r/askTRP18/05/17 01:19 PM
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This sounds a lot like the stories I have heard. I know doctors who have had sex with nurses in on-call rooms... I have always looked down on this type of behaviour, also because of the chaos it inevitably ends up bringing to the work place (apart from the fact that I don't agree with unfaithfulness in general). Luckily, I know my fiance (also an MD) feels the same. I think the way your (potential) LTR looks at this situation says enough about her as a person that you do not have to worry about …
/r/askTRP18/05/17 11:28 AM
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I am a female MD so my position is somewhat different... However, many people do start relationships in the hospital, mostly because you have so little spare time that it is hard to start a relationship outside of it. Additionally, I know a lot of male MDs who have had affairs with nurses. I don't know if the women were also in relationships, but I know it is easy as a man to stray in this environment. Probably not the answer you were hoping for, but I thought I'd give it any way considering the…
/r/askTRP18/05/17 10:59 AM
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I used to have exactly the same thing with my fiancé. However, I learned to understand that this is just the difference between his male brain and my female one. He doesn't see the use in discussing hypothical scenarios about children that haven't even been conceived yet, and fears it is a trap (in the sense that I will try to hold him to any promises he makes now). I just want to talk about because I like daydreaming about the future, in the same sense that I like talking about our next vacatio…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 03:36 PM
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I am not sure being a virgin would raise your RMV, depending on your age. Maybe this differs based on where you live (I am from Europe), but I know men here would be extremely suspicious if a woman in her mid-twenties is still a virgin. It would raise questions: "Are you extremely religious?" "Are you asexual?" "Did no one want you (and if so, WHY?)?". Of course I agree with not sleeping around, but I think not being sexually active until you are married actually lowers your RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 03:25 PM
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