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| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?That's fair. We're trying to help guys of all kinds. So, hopefully some of the ones that you'd like get some actually helpful advice here. We sadly, can't make all men compatible with all women, we can just try to help them find love in their field. | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Most men think sex is on the table. Probably, most of the best dates you had were probably with men that thought that, but didn't think it had to happen or were "outcome independent". Outcome independent men have the goal of just having a good time on the date. These men go with the flow and aren't hurt if they get the vibe that your not into sex on the first date, though they might bring it up very casually to test the water and do some light escalation that doesn't have to lead to anything dir… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?I would like to point out that he starts by talking to fully autonomous beings to find out when they are usually ready for something, and then respecting that opinion. His initial opinion was that sex wasn't even on the table for the first date, and had been acting accordingly. We try to remember that women like sex as much as we do and sometimes more. Alot of autonomous beings are horny and attracted to other autonomous beings. Those that aren't horny/attracted to others are generally not going… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Why would you say he's obsessed rather than curious about something he was wrong about? Especially when he's been acting as if sex on the first date wasnt on the table until he asked women's genuine opinion. Should we be punishing him for actually asking questions, instead of assuming? | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard is that it is better to be alone than be with the wrong person. Why should we care if they are working on any of these things, when we can see that they aren't and just move on? There are plenty of women who are more self aware than you described. Just as there are plenty of women who are exactly as you decribed, but those women have disqualified themselves from my dating pool. If they act like that, they are not good enough for us and require no fur… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?So the right way is to make the attempt. When you have more practice you get to know what a good time is. If you're on a date, just find a time where you're both having a good time, and ask. If you have had good energy going and there's an awkward silence, sometimes that the right time to make a move, cause your both trying to figure out how to broach the subject. Asking awkwardly is better than going home wishing you tried. You usually shouldnt be totally blatant with it. "Lets go back to my/yo… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?I definitely understand those issues as well as I think anyone can. I'm also aware that if we put all the onus of the problem on them, it tends to make men feel like women are to blame which also perpetuates the problem. So, I push back as much as I can against things that could perpetuate misogyny, especially in this sub. I'll agree that its good for women to learn to defend themselves, but its unrealistic to expect them to all do so or that said training brings them up to the level of possible… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?I think she was being honest with you, and she was just looking to have a good time and wasnt worried about getting caught since her bf was elsewhere. So, then you get to decide if thats something you're ok with. Of course, maybe they have an open relationship or some other form of ethical non-monogamy, but I wouldn't assume that upfront. If you need more info from her just ask. If your ok with whatever the situation is, then move passed the questions and just have fun. That being said, she basi… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?There's a bit of differences in method as well. I usually get first date sex, but I like to know someone before I ask them on a date, so Im sure I've made my own selection bias. I'm already going on a date with someone I know is into me. Cold opens and dating apps, probably are different. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?So you've gotten passed the first hurdle then. Now you get to work on picking up signals. Its easier once you've relaxed and go with the flow. Its also wouldnt hurt to sometimes just ask if she wants to go back to your place before you get to the end of the night. Especially, if your getting great vibes from her. Something like "I'm having a great time and dont really want this to end, would you like to continue this at my place?" But use something that fits your situation or personality better.… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:36 AM |
| 3 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Victorious Lovers win first and then go to the date, while defeated men go to the date first and then seek to get laid. – Sun Tzu, maybe | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Not OP, but maybe you want to see whether or not you want them to know where you live first. And most people are usually more comfortable at a more public venue | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:17 AM |
| 3 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?Its an everyone problem. Women are in a more dangerous world than men, because a lot of creeps are physically more powerful than them, know better how to fight, and those same creeps don't target men at the same rate. So constant insecurity is just a survival mechanism. Its rare that we have to physically fear for their insecurities, but in a moment of insecurity a man can quickly become dangerous. Men usually don't have to leverage anything other than their own body and natural instincts to be … | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 12:08 AM |
| 8 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?I think it would be better to say don't come off as a potential serial killer, abuser, or level 5 clinger, than to say to focus on safety. | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 11:44 PM |
| -1 | Fuck it I’m just gonna approach girls for fun instead of treating it like it’s some kind of big choreHonestly, that should be everyones baseline. This is where we want everyone to be before they try to implement any "techniques." If you're not at ease and enjoying yourself then you're probably putting too much pressure on yourself to succeed. When you can feel like you've gone out for the last three nights and got no numbers and you don't care, then you're in the right mindset. Then you can get a connection and be very happy about it, and learn from your own success. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Why do women have high physical standards when looking for a hookup but not so much when looking for a relationship?There's a little bit of selection bias here. Most tests are requested by men who think their SO's are cheating on them. So you have a higher number of cheating women in that sample size than would normally exist. With comprehensive testing (i.e. every baby is tested) it could drop to low single digit numbers easily, but could be as high as 15%. We wouldnt know without committing to universal tests. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Why do women have high physical standards when looking for a hookup but not so much when looking for a relationship?Well, I think the average women is probably just more into sex than the hotter woman whos having it thrown at her everytime she goes out, and is bored with it or get more people that will do most of the work. I think alot of them view it as an easy way to feel good, and don't have as much incentive to perform well for their partner. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Why do women have high physical standards when looking for a hookup but not so much when looking for a relationship?I think he's saying the standards are different, for a hookup, higher with some things like appearance, lower in somethings like maturity and compatibility. So "higher" standards is not strictly true. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything more essential than confidence?So the important thing is that your demeanor is that you're relaxed, because relaxed means you're in control of yourself. I have been told that I sit in a feminine way a couple of times, but I have never let it change what I do. It could've increased my success rate with some women, but if I'm worried about how I'm sitting, then I'm not engaged in the conversation. Your focus needs to be on connecting with and enjoying your time with her. You have to expect that some girls will judge you about t… | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything more essential than confidence?"Being yourself" is shorthand for "not doing things simply because you think it will get you outcome x" Like, if your with your friends, you don't usually think "would it they think its funny if I said this?", and instead you just say it and it comes across more naturally. Thus when you're with a girl, you shouldn't sit awkwardly while you think about the best thing to say, just say the first thing that comes to you. It comes across as a more honest conversation, you start looking like you're lo… | /r/seduction | 29/04/24 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Guys out there if you lock eyes with a girl and she smilesBout as childish as saying hi to someone. Its just a normal interaction. | /r/seduction | 28/04/24 02:05 AM |
| 4 | You don’t *have* to kiss on the first date, have sex, or anything. Don’t force itChemistry is a connection between 2 people. If you're not feeling it, its not there. Your job is to find common interests or passions, and be able to talk about it. Maybe you have to tell stories about yourself or ask about things your interested in that you think she might be as well. Sometimes it is personal goals or books youve read or shows you've watched or bands you like. If you are finding no overlap, then you are probably not interested in her and it will be near impossible to hook up. T… | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 11:27 PM |
| 7 | You don’t *have* to kiss on the first date, have sex, or anything. Don’t force itIts almost like its a sub about seduction in general, which includes dudes getting into LTRs and dudes just trying to get laid for once in their lives, and everything in between. Lots of those dudes don't know what should be expected on a first date and thats the exact reason they are here. Its like you're looking at a bunch of toddlers and trying to say they are incompetent for shitting in their pants. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Girl asked me text her when I got gone after date and I did tWhich of those doesn't add to your confidence? | /r/seduction | 15/10/22 12:37 PM |
| 0 | Men who are unsuccessful with women share two characteristics: they self-victimize and make excusesJust because some girls don't like you doesn't mean that all girls are closed off to you. Most women that are turned off by you will find the first physical trait they can identify and blame it on that, because they don't want to talk to you and want your interaction with them to be over quickly. Some men are so persistent that many women learn to be rude to be quick about their rejections, and some women are just rude because they have a big ego. What you should be looking for is someone who's … | /r/seduction | 13/10/22 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.Confidence is a by product of many things, but the less you have the less you get laid. Confidence is also a by product of not giving a shit about what people think about you or whether your going to get laid with a given person, doing things to make your life better and being able to just go out and have fun with no expectations. People are not just born with confidence, and while good looking people have an easier time getting it, they don't have a monopoly on it and its not guaranteed they wi… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.I mean if you don't like sex you can use any excuse to not try to have it, right? If there's no use in trying then why are you even here? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.If it didn't bother you, you wouldn't have sworn off the effort. Be honest with yourself, you'll go farther that way, because you'll actually be able to see what you need to improve, then you can ask how you can improve it. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 03:20 AM |
| 0 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.Yeah man ugly people dont breed, that why everyone is 10/10 /s If you were born its proof that you have the genes that can get you laid. Both of your parents were genetically inclined to having kids and you only have their genes. 100% of the genes you have were from people who had sex, the vast majority of them more than once. Now maintaining a personality that is self indulgent in self loathing and constantly making excuses why no one likes them will actually keep you from getting laid. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.Well one thing he is doing is approaching, so he's seeing success. People should be fitting things to their own style and personality, so it is good to point out as OP is doing the "Dumb" style as you call it. The one thing that does apply to everybody is that he's putting in the legwork that he should be. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.Todays news: Redditor picks random celebrity for an example and another redditor demands to know why, exactly, it had to be that celebrity. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.I don't think that what OP is doing. I think he's devaluing putting too much work into seduction. I mean one of the best things you can do to help yourself in seduction is to relax and not overthink things. Alot of the advice we have is to get people to the point that they are not simping over every girl they come across and pulling women at large off any pedestal you have them on. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:54 AM |
| 5 | Here you're sitting thinking about Push Pull Theory, Escalation Ladders, Inner Game and Eckhart Tolle. Meanwhile girls will literally fuck guys because they are bored, want weed, are lonely, have nothing better to do.I have a friend whose fat and gets laid constantly, I have a friend with weird buggy eyes and a receding hairline, whose married now and was pulling different girls from every class he went to in college. They both had confidence and thats all they needed. They have said if they had my looks they'd be pulling super models, but I have considerably less confidence and get laid infrequently, mostly cause i don't go out to where I can meet women as often as they do. They would go out have a good tim… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?That because there is no generally good way to do so. Every situation is different every girl is different and every guy is different. Each of those differences modifies the others. Maybe you work better with kino (touching) or innuendo, but maybe the girl your with doesn't respond well to that, or maybe she responds well to specific types, or you're not in a location that lends itself well to what your strong in. r/seduction is here to help with what we can, but we can't do the work for you | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:18 AM |
| 0 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?So if you've gotten the fun stuff down, then you need to find how to make escalation natural. It needs to fit the environment you're in and you're creating. This is the big part because its the last step before success, and it is often the hardest part. With that in mind, there is only one way to learn it and that is to keep trying and learn from it and learn that you will fail until you don't. It may sound simple, but that's because its the core of the problem, and each situation is complex and… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?The real answer is that you will be rejected so you need to be able to let the rejections slide off of you, but for a lot of people you have keep trying til you don't care, but the other way is to make it so that closing isn't your goal. Your goal should be to find out how to have fun with women long before you even consider trying to close. If you skip the having fun aspect, you'll fail 90% of the time. You have to learn how to relax around women, how to have something to talk about with women,… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 10:30 PM |
| 11 | Is once a cheater always a cheater ?Well, a year is good amount of time for stuff to end and if there is no further evidence, then its possible she actually stopped. The key words you've said are "as far as I know." So she might be doing stuff, but you don't know and it would be creepy to investigate too much further into this, unless you are her significant other. How religious a person is, is rarely a sign of what they are like when they are in private company. Plenty of religious people cheat. | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 10:18 PM |
| 48 | Is once a cheater always a cheater ?If she isn't wanting to stop on her own, getting caught is probably not going to change much. She will probably be more careful for a while, but she won't stop unless she actually wants to stop. People can stop cheating, but it takes more than being found out for them to change that in general. Basically, if she cheated on someone 10 years ago, that might not be who she is today. If she was cheating last night, then she will probably be cheating again this month. | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Can someone give me actual legit advices that really work?This is the real advice here. Most advice has some merit, but its about how you incorporate it into who you are naturally | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | How I Learned To Seduce Women With My EyesYup, no one on the internet ever succeeds. Might as well stay inside and cry /s | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Talking about body count???I don't think body count should really matter. I don't know that I would suggest bringing it up, but I wouldn't suggest lying about it or avoiding talking about it with any SO that you want to be with long-term, especially if they bring it up. Basically, if you don't feel like you can talk about it with them, then either your not fully vested in the relationship or your relationship is not healthy. | /r/seduction | 17/05/22 02:38 AM |
| 5 | Why am I getting ghosted so often? I've been out of the game for 7 years and holy crap is this a huge problem!Hey guys, there's a girl here lets insult her! I certainly have anything meaningful to say that could help in anyway. | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 11:37 PM |
| 2 | When a woman likes a man, she gives him a window of time for him to make something happenNot really. For guys what disqualifies someone is rarely time, its usually things like wasting our time or making us waste our time, dragging us into drama, the list goes on. You basically have to disqualify yourself somehow or they find someone else. Some guys will move on if they don't think things are going to happen, but if its someone your attracted to in your social circle, or work or something where you will see them from time to time the option is probably open until it becomes clear it … | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 03:49 AM |
| 4 | I think two things are hurting inexperienced men the most on these dating subs100%, no advice and nothing you read is going to make you good at seduction. The best it can do is give you a framework for improvement, but to actually build on that framework you have to actually practice the things you learn in the real world, and you will fail a lot early on. Between having the framework and putting things into practice, only the former is optional, because you can be successful as long as you're actually getting out there, because experience will teach you what we can't. Th… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 08:00 PM |
| 2 | To all the homies that think they can’t pull coming from a homie who once though the same. Never forget the following:Gotcha. thanks for explaining. | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 12:22 PM |
| 2 | To all the homies that think they can’t pull coming from a homie who once though the same. Never forget the following:ok, but why commas though? | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 10:54 AM |
| 1 | How do I get my swagger backIt sounds like you lost confidence. So you need to work on that. Pick one or two things to work on, like your grades, going to the gym, or some hobby that can be social like music. Basically, anything that makes you feel like you're worth it. Also, get out there and talk with them until you're comfortable around them again. Do approaches if you can. The game changes in college, because womens priorities shift so some common talking points no longer work the way they used to, but the basic conc… | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 10:52 AM |
| 6 | To all the homies that think they can’t pull coming from a homie who once though the same. Never forget the following:I like all of that, except #2 which I don't understand at all. I would like to be enlightened. | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 10:18 AM |
| 150 | Is it bad to openly tell a girl "I think we should have sex"?There's this real great shorthand for this. Work your game so that you kiss her again. Then once your done kissing and you're both hot and bothered, you simply ask "would you like to:" go back to my place get out of here find something more private have some fun, just the two of us Say it like its a fun/naughty conspiracy between the two of you. If she liked kissing you, basically all you have to do is get the excitement back up and then close. Its probably not a great idea to say it quite so pl… | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Extremely high-value girl, unsure how to proceed.I wouldn't put much more effort towards her after that. If she was interested in another date she would've worked on finding a time where you could've met again. When she says she will tell you when she's free, that means she would rather you not pester her for another and is likely planning to ghost you. If she message you again on her own then do what you can, but it seems like you just didn't click on her side. Thats ok, though. You actually went on a date, and now you can learn from some of … | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Asked a girl out and she said 'awww'So, many people trying to act like she committed some kind of disqualifying act. She isn't thinking about it nearly as deeply as a lot of the guys here. If that was the only thing that you have an issue with and everything else she's doing makes it seem like she's into you then act like she's into you. Sometimes "awww" means she thinks it was cute or sweet which is not a bad thing. Sometimes it means other things, but everything else you have mentioned says to me that your still in a good place … | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Got rejected by more than 5 girls in a clubs, what am I doing wrongThats exactly what the numbers are supposed to get you passed. You should have enough approaches that you stop putting women on a pedestal and start behaving like its normal to interact with members of the opposite sex and how to understand how to escalate in a more natural way. Picking "high value targets" means your already putting their value higher than it needs to be. Picking someone up should feel fun in a casual way, not like you're in some competition with the other dudes or the girl. Al… | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Am I delusional for thinking i can score hot women despite being short, skinny, mediocre job. Should i settle?Oh yeah, thats what im talking about. When you find someone like that it honestly can work much better, because you know you have chemistry and I think thats far more important than looks. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 03:02 AM |
| 4 | Am I delusional for thinking i can score hot women despite being short, skinny, mediocre job. Should i settle?I think about it this way. You should go after girls that interest you. Hotness can pique your interest, but you can also quickly find out they're crazy, but sometime you meet a girl thats more normal, but is a huge flirt and can hold up her end of the conversation and between the 2 the latter girl is going to be far more fun in bed and in general. Occasionally you meet a hot girl thats also interesting, and there you hit the jackpot, but honestly it pretty rare. So, basically don't worry about … | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Am I delusional for thinking i can score hot women despite being short, skinny, mediocre job. Should i settle?I think it would be better to say that women like to feel safe, and there's alot of subconscious feelings of safety to being with a guy who's physically bigger than them. If they're submissive then they often like to have someone that can physically move them. Just a couple of better ways of stating the point you were getting to, with out someone with no context thinking that its condescending. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Am I delusional for thinking i can score hot women despite being short, skinny, mediocre job. Should i settle?While that is somewhat true, its also true that his book was on the subject of picking up women, so his career is based on his skill in seduction which he learned and honed before he became famous. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 09:00 PM |
| 88 | Getting laid as a man has more to do with favorable circumstances and logistics than looks and confidenceImproving your circumstances is probably the baseline of improvement for seduction. Any improvement in your circumstances has the side effect of effecting you confidence as well, so not only does it make your life better personally it also moves the gears forward on most of the aspects that are key to seduction that aren't the actual experience of approaches and escalation. | /r/seduction | 20/03/22 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Am I clueless or just never hit onThat last line is why most of us are here. No one teaches us how to flirt, so we do what we can, and a lot of times we're not obvious or we're just testing the waters and getting info to see if your available, and if you're not we move on. A lot of guys here are trying to find out how to approach women without being a creep but also being forward enough to be interesting, or interesting enough to be forward. The reason you see a lot of guys come out of the woodwork is because they hadn't figured… | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 10:04 PM |
| 6 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Oh great now the pirates will be after us :) | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 10:51 AM |
| 2 | I'm in an acting school, people love me, I'm very good at it and very confident. But everyone is seducing everyone but me.Ok, first thing is that you need to take the wheel as far as seduction is concerned. If you sit and wait for it you will get what you have now. You need to reach out to the people you are attracted to, and then you need to learn how to escalate. Some things I would look at is some of the all time highest posts in this sub to get more of an idea of what your looking for, because everything you just said is the attitude that brought me to this sub, so its clear to me that you have just started you… | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 10:49 AM |
| 57 | Girl with holding sex?A lot of guys have decent advice, so I will put something I haven't seen as a top level comment yet. Assuming that you know how to escalate, I would tell her to stop working you up if she doesn't want to get physical. You've been doing this for months, and that means you should be able to talk to her about why she doesn't want to get physical without feeling like your stepping out of bounds. If there is a genuine connection, then you should be able to talk to her about it and let her know that w… | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 11:19 AM |
| -5 | [deleted by user]Honestly, I think you should just see if you can have a conversation outside of work(either going to coffee catching a ride home with him or the other way around or start texting him), and take the conversation as naturally as you can, which for your first conversation like this will always be awkward. Flirt the same way you always do, and then mention that you are in a open-relationship. Stay honest about it and answer what questions he might have about your situation that you are comfortable w… | /r/seduction | 07/11/21 09:49 AM |
| 3 | Me and this girl have been hitting it off for a few weeks, but she is scared of commitment.Ok, your getting a bunch of people telling you to move on. I would just say that if you want to have a casual relationship while she figures her shit out, that should be fine. Have fun with her, and don't stress. You could consider an open relationship or a FWB scenario. Both can give you time to get passed her misgivings and can allow you to decide whether or not she's worth pursuing more, while allowing yourself to stay on the market for someone that is more ready to commit. Just don't be more… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | We "broke up" out of the blue and she's dating someone. And I really miss her as a close friend.That sucks. What others are saying about moving on is the right move, but that doesn't mean its the easy one. If she still wants to be friends, she'll reach out. Don't try to make it happen because it won't if she isnt on board and there's no way to get her on board because you are going to be outcome dependent in any interaction with her. That outcome dependency will make you less attractive by clouding your mind over every interaction. Remembering the good times you had together isn't a bad th… | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Should you ask for consent before having sex? Does that turn chicks off?That is true, but mostly It comes down to picking up on cues, if she is into what you are doing, and you can always ask "do you like this?" You don't want to be asking like your reading from a script or checking off a checklist. Saying "I want you" and getting some form of "I want you too" is a green light. If she says things like "Im nervous" or "I'm not sure" thats a yellow light, and maybe you slow down, move towards cuddling, and give cues that you can stop whenever she feels like it. Its mu… | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 01:35 AM |
| 6 | This girl (24f) and I (20m) have a clear unspoken thing going on and I don’t know if she truly likes me or not. If I’m wrong there could be issues.Being patient sounds like a great idea, but its a great way for you to lose your opportunity to someone else. She is being patient waiting for you to make a move, she's acting differently because she's got some things to figure out about the break-up and she's now nervous about your reaction to her situation. Give her the opportunity to say yes or no, or someone else will and it won't be long, it could be tomorrow. That's not a joke, or hyperbole. If you ever want to pursue things with her, bite… | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 3 | How can i show romantic interest without being seen as an easy sexual exploit?Ok, so I will try my best to give what could be applicable advice, but I will preface it with the phrase "don't ask a fish, how to catch a fish." Its a phrase we use often because usually the "fish" will talk about something they would want someone they are already interested in to do, rather than giving you strategies that work more generally. As an example, I ask my friend Mary what I should do to pick up a girl, and she thinks about what she would want this guy, steve from work who she has a … | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 10:25 AM |
| 2 | No one on the planet knows your low value until you demonstrate it.When you compare your level of success to someone else's you immediately start losing your inner game and you immediately start acting in ways that project neediness to everyone else. Envy is a game killer. Its one of the reason that we say that in order to be successful you have to not be outcome dependent. You need to already be having fun going out, before you can start having consistant success. Every time you look at your friend and think "he's got it easy" and are not focusing on enjoying … | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Ex gf [F 20] asked me [M 20] to hangout then ignored me so she can “get her shit together”The best thing you can do (that isnt telling her to go fuck herself or something similar) would be for you to say that you can hang out only when she figured her shit out, because you have your shit figured out as best as you have since the break-up and you don't need someone messing your shit up for what amounts to a "maybe". | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Help! All Of The Hostesses Think Im Horny As Shit And Think Im Trying To Hook Up With Them...That is what is known as "working with highschool girls" and it can be pretty toxic. Not all highschool girls are toxic, but they are usually pretty mixed so you really don't see them sorting into girls that hate drama and girls that love drama until the mid 20's, when alot of the drama-free girls have been betrayed by the drama-lovers. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Is sex important and decisive in a relationship?Well, the fact of the matter is that all men (except asexuals and a few I would describe as post-sexual) are after sex, but not all men are after a relationship. Its hard to find out before the fact if a man is after one just thing or both. I have to say this can really suck for highly sexual women, because they are often after sex as much as men are so on that front its mutually beneficial, but might hamper the training of one's senses on who's out for more than just sex. Unfortunately, I don't… | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 09:54 AM |
| 15 | Girl says she will do anything...I would either shit or get off the pot. If you're not into her, it's not gonna matter what fantasies she can fulfill, you're going to leave her or you're going to be miserable. If she's giving it up because your leaving her, she's not doing it because she wants it, and thats not good for either of you. Don't let sex be bait or a weapon. | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Asking for a girls snapchat over her phone number?Hey gurl, whats yo credit card number and those 3 digits on the back. I just wanna get to know ya! | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | 10 points girl is giving me second thoughtsAlright, I would ask where she think the best sushi is and then call it a plan, be happy with it and don't over think it. If the texts are coming along naturally, then go with the flow. If they're not, then its ok to not text until later. Other than that, it sounds like your golden. | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 12:13 AM |
| 1 | 10 points girl is giving me second thoughtsI wouldn't say it that way specifically, I would say focus on doing what you would want to do without her, and take her off the pedestal. Basically, give her time to text back, and only text when you have something meaningful to say. Also, maybe line up another date with actual plans. I feel like text game, at the point you are at, is only strong when combined with IRL game. | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Why Nice Guys Finish Last (And Assholes Get Laid) - Playing With FireThis is actually what the video breaks down at the end. Being a "nice guy" just gets you put off. The reason we talk about assholes in these terms, is because of the common saying "assholes get laid." The youtuber and most others here, are trying to use that as a teaching term, that confident people that aren't bending over backwards for women, actually see results. Your needs and her needs should be equal, but you have to represent your needs just as she has represent hers. Don't come from a pl… | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Pulling over SnapchatLike a band-aid, just say you want to meet up and where you'd like to do so. Coffee is decent, but the better option is something you know she'd like doing. Anything is better than waiting for the perfect solution, so if you can't think of anything better in 15 minutes than just suggest coffee. Watching a movie, going to the park are also options, but choose one and go with it. If she suggests something else and it sounds like fun then go with that. You want to be clear in your intentions and ke… | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 10:16 PM |
| 19 | Do you think girls can seduce faster than boys?Honestly, it really depends on who can read the situation well enough and act on it. If you're talking about an average girl that is single to the average guy that is single, then the girl is going to seduce the guy easier, cause he's probably already mostly willing and the girl has to do something disqualifying to fail, where as the guy as to demonstrate that he's worth the girls time and/or isn't going to be a problem. If either party is exceptional in either direction in attractiveness, self … | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 03:47 PM |
| 11 | Do women usually start swiping in there dating app when there horny?This is probably not a great place to ask this question. Generally, we steer people away from using dating apps, because its a great way to not be able to leverage anything other than your looks and having to stand tall in a dog pile of other dudes all vying for her attention. YMMV, but actually approaching in real life has a much better ROI. Personally, I would guess that its either horniness or boredom in equal measure. | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Girls aren’t enemiesThere should be a step 0 for seduction that just says "don't put the words 'no' into a women's mouth before you even approach them" | /r/seduction | 16/06/21 04:06 AM |
| 1 | A trans man on reddit told me that the reason trans women are fetishized and trans men are not is because society is penis obsessed so trans women are seen a woman plus and trans men as men minus. Is this true?Why are you asking this in r/seduction? | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Is there anyone here who actually went from "Zero to Hero"? Anyone who went through massive dry periods, but then started dating with ease? How did you do it?I think when people are really talking about dry spells, they mean for years, not weeks. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 11:14 PM |
| 1 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?So one of the things I would say is that when it comes to low self-esteem, what we are looking for is someone that feels free to enjoy themselves. It can be hard for me to have a connection when you look like your not sure what you should be doing and are maybe a little afraid. Now for my part, I would try to alleviate those fears, but while I'm a fairly empathic person, its not a perfect sense and it tends to cause me reflect the people I'm with. Mostly, though I want to know you're genuinely e… | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 01:21 AM |
| 3 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?Its safer, because it comes with references. You may also have a lack of options, but neither implies case the other. | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 12:48 AM |
| 2 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?lol, that would put you squarely in the not LTR material list, but it sounds like your having fun. | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 10 | What really is Alpha Male vs. Beta MaleAlpha male comes from the disproven theory of wolf social structures, which only exist in capitivity and not out in the wild, so if it has any merit it would probably be in prison psychology and possibly not even there. It has never had any correlation to brain wave patterns. | /r/seduction | 16/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 4 | How To Text A Girl If You Don't Want To Use It Exclusively For LogisticsI think the days of the week are also abit less important as you get older, but alot of girls in the low 20s are going out together downtown on fridays and saturdays. | /r/seduction | 19/12/20 08:35 AM |
| 4 | I got my shit together, but I'm not in the mood.Yeah, thats a big problem that we don't really address here, but that been me for a few years as well, just replace weights with videogames. You basically gotta find a way to make a part of social life to be interacting with women, and if you say "maybe not today" enough it goes from being a phase to being your life. I think this is when you focus on approaches in your day game and motivation. I always said that I would rather have a motivation pill/drink instead of energy drink/caffeine pill. | /r/seduction | 09/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.You have one option you can choose excuses or growth. Im not here to explain the world to you when you cant grasp that you need to focus on improving what you can change and stop complaining to strangers on the internet about what you cant change. If you choose growth I would suggest seeing a therapist to see if you have clinical depression and/or body dysphoria, its a real thing and its common in trans folk but not by any means exclusive to them. If you don't, then its not my problem anymore. J… | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 03:13 PM |
| 2 | My ex broke up with me saying that I texted him too much. I decided to write a program to analyze our text and using hard data to show him wrongThat probably depends on things like whether they are living together or not, or if they've worked out a routine that allows them to see each other or if they work together or go to school together. Honestly its probably calls though, as he said he has an aversion to texts. I think they're easier but to each they're own | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.You are lacking the kind of confidence you need to succeed. If you had the kind of confidence you needed, you wouldn't be worried about what women thought of you. Or you wouldnt let it stop you from making yourself into a better person, and you wouldnt be seeing them as something unobtainable. Confidence isnt a blanket that covers your whole life equally, each person has confidence in differnet areas at different levels. We are here, to instill confidence in yourself and then with women. You als… | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.You've already proven you don't. If you had confidence you wouldnt be making excuses about why your body is preventing you from improving. if you had confidence you wouldn't need to externalize your problems. If you had confidence then why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.well, he's short too. So there goes that problem. why do you refuse to improve yourself while coming to a subreddit about building your confidence? What do you think this sub reddit does? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.thats a rhetorical question, there is only one answer and its that you don't. So why are you here if you refuse to improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Its your failing that you cant get past your weight not his, why are you here if you refuse to improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.No rhetorical questions. Why are you here if you refuse to improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Because he got laid with your physical qualities, so it aint your physical qualites holding you back. SO why are you here when you refuse to improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Why are you quoting incel BS? That shit doesnt belong here. Why are you here if you cant improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Why are you here if you refuse to improve? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.But your confidence problems are not their confidence problems. You are not them. so if you refuse to improve, then why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Yeah, because his bad personality isnt your bad personality. Its not his fault you cant get laid. You're two different creatures. you need to stop comparing your self to other and improve yourself. If your not doing that then why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.So your problem is either your bad personality or your bad personality? I think thats been my argument this whole time. So why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Can you though? I mean you obviously can rationalize your self out of improving your life so maybe, But then again at least one person had to be confident enough to start a relationship and get married. Maybe they have the kind of confidence you don't. You still havent answered why your here if we cant help you. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Then why are you here? | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 11:08 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Well, then they've already done the work. They dont need to be here. They have the confidence they need to be approachable. You think its just the way they look because you are the superficial one. You dont see what else they are bringing to the table. You have externalized the problem and thus made it out of your control. You know who got laid that I can point to. Peter Dinklage, he's a fucking dwarf who's married with 2 kids. If a dwarf can get laid you can too. Im sure you not shorter than hi… | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.So then why are you even here. One of the first things we tell people to do is 100 approaches, part of that is so that you get used to the fact that people reject you. It will happen, it happens to everyone. When your dependant on the outcome, you fail, because your looking to win the game rather than enjoy the experience, girls arent videogames, they dont have a code to unlock the end and you aren't owed anything. You have to get past the failures to get there, if you cant have fun without gett… | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.you're wrong, because I either lied well and you didnt notice it or I told the truth. Either way, its your shitty life to live, and no longer worth my time. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.And again that being outcome dependant and you are saying no for them without getting their input. If you had confidence, you wouldnt be down on your looks. If you go out and have a fun time with folks you will get laid, but even the most skilled/attractive folks dont go home with someone new every night. If you are only looking to get with a 9-10 and otherwise its not worth your time to go out, you have already failed. A girl who is a 5-6 can absolutely be 9-10 in the sack, and the reverse is a… | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Wow, I dont even want to read what you were saying there. Have a ok life. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 09:11 AM |
| 0 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.And that is a perfect example of what Im talking about. Now you could be joking, which self-deprecating humor can work, but has many more pitfalls than other kinds of humor, so I would suggest avoiding it it can make people uncomfortable because they might perceive that you think at least some of what your joking about is true, but if you can make it work Im not here to judge. Or you could be serious at which point I have to say everyone who's successful at doing this stuff and has been on here … | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Lol, thats generating interest and that is a powerful tool as well. Social awkwardness is more about feeling like you dont have control. Putting mouse ears on and acting strangely is taking control, even if abnormal. | /r/seduction | 07/12/20 10:46 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Yes, absolutely. You went out cause you wanted to have fun there and just enjoyed yourself, so you weren't there for the sole purpose of picking someone up. It meant if you weren't succeeding in getting laid you still enjoyed your time, thus you were able to keep going out and not constantly be in your head about whether or not you went home with someone. It makes a huge difference in attitude and keeps you socially available to get laid, as opposed to someone that want to stay at home all day a… | /r/seduction | 07/12/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.Off topic, but I just had an image of knit pants made by someones aunty and it was hilarious. | /r/seduction | 07/12/20 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else find bars and nightclubs super awkward because nobody seems to go alone.When you're dancing alone, you're not dancing to get women to approach. You're dancing to have fun yourself. While women will approach occasionally, it will be after you've gotten a few successes and you can relax while there. Start by getting yourself acclimated to the club atmosphere, go with the flow. Make approaches when you see an opportunity, and dont make every approach succeed or die. If you're not confident talking with women then you need to make approaches with the goal of just striki… | /r/seduction | 07/12/20 09:41 PM |
| 6 | Don't worry about other guys that are interested in your girlYup, thats every girls go to move after a single fight. /s | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 06:37 PM |
| 7 | Upped my picture game and the amount of effort I need to put in has drastically went downBro, its cool, bro. It aint worth fighting over. | /r/seduction | 05/09/20 10:38 AM |
| 4 | Upped my picture game and the amount of effort I need to put in has drastically went downAfter rereading the post, I'm fairly sure we're both making assumptions there as nothing is explicitly stated either way. However, I do think a little of both is a good plan. Showing that you can have fun and have friends is still a positive as far as showing value goes, while getting good full body solo shots shows confidence. | /r/seduction | 05/09/20 10:21 AM |
| 47 | Upped my picture game and the amount of effort I need to put in has drastically went downI think part of what OP is saying is that doing pictures with more than just yourself is a good thing. If your worried about taking a pic with you and 1 or 2 of your friends, just relax and have fun. Put your arm around your friend and tell a joke, no matter how dumb, before you take a picture. Maybe have 1 selfie so they know for sure which one is you. Taking pics with your friends shows that you have a social life and you can have a good time, and you should play that up cause thats value as w… | /r/seduction | 05/09/20 09:40 AM |
| 1 | Do you settle for the girl who you don’t like that much, or do you wait longer and strive for a hotter girl?Well, I dont think that anyone telling you to ignore red flags is going to do you any good. I think its not a bad thing to get yourself some experience, but if something feels off in a bad way and it doesn't just feel like its an inexperienced way, then I would listen to your gut on that one. If you think "well she might be interesting, and she's kinda cute" maybe go for a coffee date or something, nothing committal. Otherwise, one of my favorite sayings is that its better to be alone than to be… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Which hairstyle do girls love?THE GUYS JOB IS LOOKING GOOD. You put 40 pounds on him and his facial features will change. you put 100 pounds on him and have him grow out his hair with no care applied to it whatsoever and then have him wear the same 3 shirts for 4 years, and this man isnt getting laid anymore. Especailly if he loses his job and makes crap money and lives in a crappy 1 bedroom and blames all that on the world fucking him over and he really stops getting laid. I never said that guys don't get away with awful be… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Which hairstyle do girls love?OMG, I'm so so so glad you dont breed. We dont need anymore people who spout off nonsense like this in the world anymore. Attractiveness is subjective, not objective. Confidence is the key to enhancing your own attractiveness. And someone who is an asshole, has a leg up on "nice guys" like you because they fucking actually approach women. Literally if you have no confidence, you could have perfect "bone structure" and also not get laid. When your spreading this shit around it makes me happy to k… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Lower I will grant you, but work romances would be only available for managers and their underlings if that were the case. I'm not gonna say it doesnt give you a leg up with many women, as more of them are more concerned with security, stability and safety than we are, but it is by no means the only thing they are looking at. Just because it is one way you can have an advantage, doesn't mean that is the only advantage that can be leveraged in the field. Im curious, about the 80/20 rule you menti… | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Actually, one of the things your missing is that the Attractive guys already have the personality the girls are looking for, because they started by taking care of themselves in the first place. If your personality is bitching and moaning, and not showering for days or months while feeling sorry for yourself, then you could get plastic surgery to look like 20-something tom cruise and still not get fucked, unless you find someone drunk enough to not remember you're a shit person, and that would p… | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Which hairstyle do girls love?OK thats BS. I mean the abundance part is fine, but not caring about a girl is narcissistic and unhealthy. Well, at least thats how that comment came off. If you're saying don't worry about what girls think about you and just go approach them, then its spot on. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Well, one thing I would mention is that it is a direct violation of rule 3 in the subs rules. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Who's lying about what? | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Well, I think it can be stated in a more healthy way than "Women are gold diggers." Its much better to say no one wants to be dating a resource sink. If she has to pay for your ass, you better be really good at something or you wont get any play, and even then you will get significantly less than you would if you were more successful. If you're looking for something long term, then you need to remember that you need to be a good long term option. Gold diggers do exist as well, but there is a big… | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Which hairstyle do girls love?Well, its more complicated than that. See if a man is already successful he might not be seeing her assets as adding to his own, and may be looking for someone physically, socially and/or sexually attractive and entirely divorced from the prospective mates personal wealth as they may have more than enough to support both of them, or at least thinks that they can. At equal attractiveness, it comes down to who do you enjoy your time with more and feel more relaxed around. With the more successful … | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | FWB QuestionsOk, so FWB is a relationship that explicitly says that you're not dating/romantically driven, but you get to have fun when your both in the mood, but you are still friends. So, talking daily and hanging out alot is fine. Just know that she may never want to make it more than that and your own feelings can certainly bubble up. If you ask if she wants to make it a more committed relationship, she may say no. However, if you find someone else that tickles your fancy, you can go on a date to see if … | /r/seduction | 25/10/19 10:23 AM |
| 1 | I dont understand this anymore...First, don't be putting your thoughts into her head like that, when you're doing that your shutting down that opportunity in your own mind, because you dont want to believe that she into you. It's a story your mind creates to tell yourself you dont have a real chance, because subconsciously its easier to say they have ulterior motives than to deal with the possibility of success. Our minds are weird with stuff like that. To me it sounds like you were in the right place with her, you just need to… | /r/seduction | 21/10/19 12:30 PM |
| 1 | I dont understand this anymore...Well, there's a difference between letting your mind be blank and working on impulses. It's not about not thinking, it's really about reacting quickly, but all that comes with practice and honestly, just blurting stuff can work out you just got to refine what your blurting out. I have a friend that has extremely good luck with absolutely vulgar stuff. I, personally, could not get away with that. Of course, listen to what she's saying, and when you got something you can relate with her about talk… | /r/seduction | 20/10/19 11:04 AM |
| 1 | I dont understand this anymore...This is what you're out there to do. It sucks and it hurts. You still think you carry no expectations, but as long as it hurts afterwards you're still carrying expectations or gaining them as you're watching your friends. There's a reason why we say to do 100 approaches. Somewhere along the line of doing 100 you will inevitably get bored and tired of the inner BS, but not til after you've been rejected alot. Once you get to that point you start experimenting with things that sound fun in your ap… | /r/seduction | 20/10/19 10:15 AM |
| 2 | Hooking up sucks, thoughtsI would just say you've gotten passed the getting laid part. Now, you can choose to use your skills to get into a real relationship. In the meantime have fun. Of course, if your getting nothing out of it or its doing more harm then good, it might not be a bad idea to try something other than going out to get laid. A new hobby, videogames you been waiting to play, books, work on another part of yourself you want to improve. You can always get laid again, when you just want some fun. One night sta… | /r/seduction | 11/08/19 06:02 PM |
| 2 | What's with the whole "no-porn" and so onI'm in the same place in relation to socializing. It's hard to find places that are both social and fit what I want out of a place to go. I recognize that this is basically the crux of MY problems with seduction. I know that these are the things I have to surmount to move forward. Porn doesn't really play into that for me. Its part of the "get out of your comfort zone" part of what we try to get folk to do. I totally agree that the effects can be overblown. What I think is making these people re… | /r/seduction | 11/08/19 10:34 AM |
| 12 | What's with the whole "no-porn" and so onSo part of it is that, porn is a low-effort replacement for real sex. That means that you could just got to porn instead of working to get with the girl that smiled at you at the bar, or even going out at all. So, if you give up porn you're far more likely to get to work if you have to succeed to get off. Basically, its taking away a crutch so that they get good, instead of hiding inside with porn which is less scary and doesnt judge them for watching it. Also, lots of women say porn is the reas… | /r/seduction | 10/08/19 08:57 AM |
| 3 | What's with the whole "no-porn" and so onYou got to be super careful about taking porn for sexual advice. Basically if it doesn't look like it should be fun for the girl, its probably not. You can learn to get a handle on which things work, and whether a girl is into you being overly aggressive, but I would not suggest any of that for beginners. What works best is open communication. If you don't know what your doing, its probably alright to say so, if they are not alright with that then you dont want them in your life anyways. Once yo… | /r/seduction | 10/08/19 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Guys, what the fuck did I do wrong?Ok, so if I were to give a closer critique, than what I would say is take some more time making out, using your fingers to trace lightly over her skin/clothes on her back, neck, and arms doing your best to make it feel natural and free with the goal of turning her on without making it overtly sexual, ramp it up but not too fast. You want her to be very turned on when you ask. It works better if she's the thirstier one, between the 2 of you. At least, until you're in the bedroom. But at this stag… | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 09:09 AM |
| 5 | Guys, what the fuck did I do wrong?I think you did everything you should have. It sounds like she had a great time and you had a good time. Honestly, while you didnt get to take her home, with this girl it was probably still a win. When you're at your peak game this kind of outcome should be acceptable, because you shouldnt be outcome dependent. Having a good time should be your goal, while making it clear that coming back to your place would be very appreciated and fun for both of you. Which you did. If you got this outcome once… | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 08:29 AM |
| 3 | why do we guys overthink ?Outcome dependence. We tend to fear the answer "no", because it means we don't get to what we want, when you never get to do what you want if you don't take the chance. However, if you get a no answer it means you can move to the next girl faster and you're not wasting your time thinking about it. It mostly that when you see a girl you want, you immediately fantasize about her. Then, a "no" answer is the end of that fantasy. We want that to be a reality. So, we will think and plan to find the pe… | /r/seduction | 28/07/19 12:05 AM |
| 1 | If I ask a girl in my friend group on a date and she tells me we should invite another friend, should I assume she thinks it was friendly or that she isnt interested?She may just want her friend along to feel like she has some security. You could just say I was hoping for sometime to hang out one on one. She may be seeing if you are comfortable with someone around, or to see if you feel threatened by someone tagging along, or she just might be trying to be social with more people. She may let her guard down more if she has someone there to help her feel secure. Basically, relax and have some fun hanging out with her, however it goes down. | /r/seduction | 10/07/19 06:35 AM |
| 1 | How to make out in a car?Stickshifts and safety belts, bucket seats have all got to go. | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 11:03 AM |
| 2 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsWell, one day you'll be acquainted with reality but that day hasnt yet come. | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 10:54 AM |
| 2 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsYour telling it how its been in your persepective which takes no one elses perspective outside of the incel community into account. | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 06:16 AM |
| 3 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsSo your angry cause they don't want to have to sleep with you to hang out. Do you hold your guy friends to the same standards? If not then your missing the problem. Girls dont care for guys with double standards cause they got what you want. The thing is that if you gave girls a chance they would surprise you, but your really just looking to get with high value girls and ignoring the rest. You are just like you think they are, you dont care for them you just care about high quality pussy or that… | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 04:07 AM |
| 3 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsIt becomes more complex once you add in sexual/romantic interaction. Guys judge people all the time, but a-romantic male interaction means there is little investment in simply hanging out because there are no expectations or pressure to do anything other than being yourself. Much of seddit is getting people into that same mind set when they are approaching, because then you have genuine interactions. It hurts your chances when you go into an approach someone being invested in the outcome (i.e. g… | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 03:35 AM |
| 2 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsNot everyone with having problems picking up girls is misogynist, but the way you talk about them is, because you're reducing them to some unobtainable object that you assign your own feelings to. Life is difficult and not everyone picks up the skills needed to do what they want before they want to look for help and they come here. I'm not burying my head in the sand or I wouldnt be talking to you to get yours out of the sand of Incel culture. Girls are human. Human interaction is complex and ma… | /r/seduction | 05/06/19 12:16 AM |
| 1 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsWell, then get yourself an ugly one if you think thats about how they are. oh you dont like that, then your just like you think they are. You are as shallow as you think they are. Incels like yourself, need help and not from r/seduction. r/seduction is for people that want to get better, not complain about how the worlds unfair, because they dont want to change. They're not the problem, your attitude is. See a therapist. Girls are more complex than you think. They just dont want to date garbage … | /r/seduction | 04/06/19 08:56 PM |
| 2 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsWell, the fact that most of their magazines are written about how to attract and keep a man, would say they've had stuff like this for longer than we have. Looks can help you initially attract girls, but thats just step one. Between the two of our opinions, I think I would trust the one thats had a real relationship and doesnt treat women like they dont have more complex thoughts than "Is he pretty." The reason this sub exists is because we dont teach people how to initiate relationship, especia… | /r/seduction | 04/06/19 05:40 PM |
| 3 | 3 CREEPY mistakes Guys make that Women hate.. and why you should avoid these at all costsShallow guys think everyone is shallow. You can be physically ugly as sin and still get good looking women, even long term. If you get them to relax and have fun while you're around they wont mind the looks. If you cant do that then you'll fail at getting anything worthwhile even if you look like capt. america. | /r/seduction | 04/06/19 10:42 AM |
| 6 | Do girls really prefer douchebags?The first guy asked for her number, the second guy asked her to go with him. Douchebags make their intentions clear. Doesn't mean you have to be a douchebag to do the same. | /r/seduction | 04/06/19 01:54 AM |
| 2 | How can I tell my best friend I like her?One thing you really need to understand in this situation is that she really might say no. This is extremely important. Not to make you nervous, but to prepare you for it. I'm certainly not gonna tell you not to do it, but make sure that you know that and know that its ok if she doesnt want to be with you. I would recommend doing it in person cause you can talk about it afterwards to make sure everythings cool between you two if she says no. Other than that I would take u/AccomplishedDuty1 's ad… | /r/seduction | 23/04/19 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Would getting a job improve my self confidence?It will do alot for your self conifdence, but it will be overtime and in a passive way. However, when you have your own money, understand what its like to deal with people on a professional basis, and dont have unemployment as a negative to look at yourself with, you'll end up several rungs up on the confidence ladder than where you started. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 02:35 AM |
| 3 | I dont go to school or have a job, is it possible to get a girlfriend?This isnt about them being gold diggers. they don't want to support you and themselves. They're looking for a bf not a dependant, and they really don't want to worry about your parents being home if they'd want to have sexy times. They want to find someone that they don't have to carry through life. | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 09:42 AM |
| 1 | I dont go to school or have a job, is it possible to get a girlfriend?Step 1 Do the at least the bare minimum to have some semblance of self worth Step 2 Get girl Its like asking how to have a successful business with no capital or idea to start it with. You dont get gifted with a gf. You get your shit together then you get a gf. If your tired of feeling like this, then you will have to take the steps to make yourself into something attractive on some level. If you dont have Looks you can focus on Success, Confidence or Personality. Living at home without a job, f… | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 09:37 AM |
| 2 | What does glirting really mean?I think of flirting as literally any action involving multiple people who are attracted to each other. Basically, if your talking/hanging out with a girl and you feel the energy between you two, you're flirting. Hitting on is when its one sided, but is probably how you initiate and if she responds positively, then you're flirting. It really covers everything from initiation to escalation and more. It can be glances across the bar, a ticklefight at home or simply chatting over coffee. It also usu… | /r/seduction | 09/08/17 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Need some advice about why girls do thisAwesome, you keep working on that and things will line up. You have a great day! | /r/seduction | 12/03/16 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Need some advice about why girls do thisOk, so it sounds like you need someone who's looking at what you need, not just going to call you a douche. It seems like you are trying to present your value through your appearance and your making value judgements based on what others are wearing. Your focus on appearance gives you a leg up on things like hygiene, while it pulls you away from the thing that makes girls really attracted which is that they want to be around someone who has fun. Inner game is really important and you should be fo… | /r/seduction | 10/03/16 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Do you have to go on that 'first date' every time you meet a girl?I dont know why your getting downvoted, this is probably the best advice for what he's looking for. | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 12:03 AM |
| 1 | In an interracial relationship and facing a lot of racism for it, what areas of the USA would be good to us?Well, not Indian guys as much as Native American guys. There's not a huge Indian population here. There is a large lgbt community and its a fairly liberal town, so there is a bit of focus on equality in all forms. | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 01:46 AM |
| 1 | In an interracial relationship and facing a lot of racism for it, what areas of the USA would be good to us?I live in Missoula, MT and I'm pretty sure you'd get along here. Helena would even work. I cant really say too much about the rest, but I think its strange its very white up here that we end up being more curious when we see someone not white, but generally try to be respectful, even then. Its not that we dont have racists, it more that its generally unacceptable to whip out that racism in front of everyone. | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Girls will try to make you a nice guy by default"pedal-stool" 'nough said | /r/seduction | 16/10/15 10:38 PM |
| 2 | My outlook on dating women is purely for sex. I have been very successful with it. I'm starting to think it might be wrong. I'd like your opinion.I noticed that it seems no one has mentioned that polyamory is a viable option and it comes in various kinds, from open relationships to poly fidelity, which means that you keep yourself to a specific set of people and a bunch in between. I find its best to tell people about being polyamorous as soon as you know they might be a potential LTR, so they know what they are signing up for if they want to be with you. Certainly not everyone is down for that, but it is gaining increasing traction with … | /r/seduction | 08/10/15 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Do's and dont's for a first date with a wealthy high-end girl?Dont worry so much and have fun | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 10:44 AM |
| 3 | How can I be alpha if there are super alphas in the room ?First stop looking at what other guys have. It is theirs and you cant have it, there's no use crying over it. What you can do is keep improving yourself. You know your struggle and no one else really gives a shit about it, not anyone you want to attract anyway. They just want to hang around someone who's having a good time. I've seen some ugly, skinny motherfuckers get laid nightly. I've seen good looking guys fail all the time, because they feel like no one understands them and that the world s… | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 10:37 AM |
| 1 | I can't be the only guy on here looking whose first priority is to get laid constantly, am I?I'm just gonna have to let you know I have no I dea what the headline and your explanation have to do with each other. I'm here, because I'm looking for an LTR, but in the meantime if I'm gonna put what I have learned to use on girl I just like, and maybe one of those is the one i'll want to be with. I dont think it helps to have one-itis over an idea of the girl you want to be with, as she might not exist. I feel like this sub is helping me to maintain the interest of the girls I'm attracted to… | /r/seduction | 10/02/15 06:35 PM |
| 1 | I think TheRedPill/seduction technique has been used on me...This is one of those places where you could probably beat yourself up over how things came about, or alternatively you could enjoy the fact that you had sex. I say this because sex is fun, and having a partner that can make you feel a great amount of excitement is awesome. On a lesser, but hopefully not terrible note, He liked you, but maybe not for anything long-term. Also, I'm not that guy so I don't know, but guys looking for one night stands are standard faire in bars, but they don't general… | /r/seduction | 31/07/14 01:41 PM |
| 3 | I am a woman and I wrote an article about seduction from a woman's point of view. I would like some feedback on it ..more info insideBecause I don't understnad why anyone in seddit can say "you're making generalizations of men" i figured I would give you a quote I love: All generaliztions are false, including this one. To me this means that while we can say that women love cats, it doesn't mean all women love cats, but that many do. In our community, we make many generalizations for both men and women, because if we're talking about picking up women we have to refer to the lower common denominator while also talking about bei… | /r/seduction | 19/01/14 02:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you balance the high-energy vibe that many girls like with the more calm, and somewhat reseved way of being that you are more inclined to be normally - without being boring ?I'm usually fairly calm myself. At parties I usually join in any conversations that are going and chime in when I have something to say. I build rapport with the girls around me this way. I just sit back and have some fun. I'll usually approach after this when someone looks bored and engage them with whatever flows out of my mouth, sometimes its witty sometimes boring, but whatever I do I engage her in conversation. Sometimes I don't approach as much as I start engaging the one I like individual… | /r/seduction | 10/12/13 08:09 PM |
| 9 | To the guys with Approach Anxiety: Sarge/Scratch that girl!one thing about weak attempts is that you have to begin somewhere, then you get to start getting more bold and more couragous approaches. | /r/seduction | 24/09/13 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Peacocking - HatsMaybe, I just thought of peacocking being anything you have that women will find interest or good to look at, which might also include good hygiene. Especially since guys don't have to do much more than not look like they don't care about themselves. After all its more about personality with us, than anything else. | /r/seduction | 05/02/13 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Peacocking - HatsI'm not entirely sure that doesn't qualify in an oblique sense, maybe peacocking for a different crowd. | /r/seduction | 04/02/13 10:50 AM |
| -2 | The 55 laws of the Alpha MaleI do understand what your saying, but I've been around those who did these things while in highschool and those that did it after, and everyone wanted to be around them, with exception of those that preyed on the week, and when they were around they behaved themselves. These things describe the shell, that allows the person on the inside to show. These things do not tell you what their views on politics are, nor their perspective on films, music, etc. | /r/seduction | 22/12/12 05:19 PM |
| 3 | I'm curious about the "dark side" of PUA. What techniques or experiences do you have with the potentially immoral side of this community?It might be the way that it is similar to nuclear energy, if used one way it provides power and well being to millions of people, used in another way it leaves a desolate radioactive wasteland in its wake filled with broken souls. It more about the intentions behind the tools for they give you avenues into emotions. You have to be responsible with what your doing. | /r/seduction | 22/12/12 05:05 PM |
| 1 | feminist myth of women earning $0.72 to a man's $1 repeated in u.s. presidential debatesorry I was unclear, it makes you full of awe. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/12 10:48 PM |
| 1 | feminist myth of women earning $0.72 to a man's $1 repeated in u.s. presidential debateto be precise it meant full of awe | /r/MensRights | 18/10/12 09:42 AM |
| 0 | feminist myth of women earning $0.72 to a man's $1 repeated in u.s. presidential debateIm gonna guess you are an angry person, that goes on to reddit to berate and insult as many people who disagree with you as you can. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/12 07:10 PM |
| 3 | feminist myth of women earning $0.72 to a man's $1 repeated in u.s. presidential debateunless you consider awe being neutral, then awful can be something so bad your in awe of it. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/12 07:05 PM |
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