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I don't think TRP is as simple as party affiliation. The real issue in politics is individualism vs. collectivism. It seems to me that TRP members are are in favor of individualism (work hard, educate yourself, question authority, especially question mainstream views in society, etc.). Where as bluepill folks are OK with collectivism (go along to get along, follow the crowd, don't question authority, supplicate and submit to the whims of those who seem better than you by some unearned virtue, et…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/15 08:15 AM
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Congratulations! But if the college of your choice is in a state with 'Yes means Yes' laws, know your rights. Which aren't a lot these days. Make sure you have written consent before doing the deed. Such as text before and after. Also, have a phone number or know a good attorney. Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill14/12/15 06:01 AM
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This weekend I saw special report on a news network related to this thread. It covered the case of Columbia’s mattress girl, the Rolling Stones "A Rape on Campus" err not rape, the two drunk students "rape after the fact" case at UTC, and a few others. While some may object to the "point of view" of this news network, this special report was well done and illustrated some of the issues and problems with false rape allegations on college campuses today. It is really hazardous for young men in col…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/15 05:49 AM
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Having served in the military years ago, I can say honestly it was the best thing for me. I got what I needed from it: discipline, a good work ethic, and support for my education. I have a good career now and fond memories. Also, I'll never forget the men and women I served with and formed very strong bonds of loyalty to. Good luck with your service, it won't be easy, I hope and pray you come home safe in the end. Now for some advice, here are some tips from what I learned: Basic training will b…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/15 06:27 PM
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I've been trying to find an LTR as well. I'm 40 and successful. Everyone says I'm a great guy. And I've read all the books and know all the theory. But after getting so many rejections from potential plates that I though were worthy LTRs...I've stopped looking. It just isn't worth getting emotionally invested in women these days. It's like they really don't want an LTR either. Even girls at our age are still trying to ride the cock carousel. Just keep spinning plates, you are better off that way…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 06:04 PM
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Well I'm 40 and am without kids, no child support, and never married. I guess I've won the bonus round. I know other guys in a similar situation. My brother is a MGTOW, though actually a blue pill man and wouldn't describe himself as such. In fact, I think we are going to have more bachelors over 30 in the future.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 01:28 AM
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Humor helps, but it's not a requirement. Just follow your purpose and have a passion for life.
/r/seduction31/05/15 01:50 AM
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As an introvert myself, putting on a facade has never helped me. The girl can sense that I'm not being true to myself and this usually turns her off. So I would say "Be yourself", but be yourself with confidence, humor, and passion for the things you're interested in.
/r/seduction31/05/15 01:25 AM
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I agree. I've spent more than a year working on my inner game: confidence building, positive self affirmations, meditating, etc. Focusing on my career, goals, interests, and hobbies. I've also been working on improving myself with diet and exercise. Worrying less about what other people think and making my own way. Now, I have more dates than there are days of the week. I still have more room for improvement, but I'm far and away from where I was a year ago. And your right, when you have this st…
/r/seduction12/05/15 09:30 PM
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Well, I'm glad you found the humor in it. I would have run like hell. Normally it's not my thing to offer a girl I just met to help her move. Let the beta friend do that. I'm only going to help a girl move the day she becomes my wife and we're moving in together. Haha I'm glad the coffee date is working for you. It hasn't been working for me. And a few girls have even told me that coffee dates are boring for them as well. So now I just go straight to asking out for drinks. Drinks in the evening …
/r/seduction12/05/15 09:07 PM
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I think it's really simple. I'm going to quote the coach on this one. Wait until you hear back from her. Assume she wants to see you and set a date. For example, she'll probably figure out she left at your place. She'll send a text: -"I think I lost my earring, have you seen it?" "Oh I just found it. Are you free Wednesday night? Let's have drinks and I'll bring it to you."- -"I'm busy Wednesday, what about Thursday?" "That works great! I'll see you at Joe's Bar @ 8pm. :)"- Just wait until she c…
/r/seduction12/05/15 08:48 PM
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Why so serious?
/r/seduction12/05/15 08:31 PM
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One more thing to consider, read this: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/35pmru/i_experienced_some_great_success_now_im_having/ Note he says: I wasn't happy with the way my life was going, so instead of jumping straight into trying to pick up girls I focused very intently on myself. I accomplished some things that many people consider impressive, I got really fit and athletic, focused on my music and DJ gigs He focused on what was important to him and then: So now I'm in a new city and …
/r/seduction12/05/15 08:29 PM
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I can only tell you what the coach told me: You have to participate in your own rescue I think you already know what you need to do to succeed, but you don't want to do it. don't want to get a rep here This is the story you tell yourself to sabotage your own success. In reality nobody gives that much of sh!t and if they do...F them. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks of me or my "rep". In my city, I move through it how I want. I tell them we have to take the train they put the guards up That…
/r/seduction12/05/15 08:20 PM
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Yeah, by bullshit media & marketing And Hollywood. We were all brainwashed into accepting the stereotype put out there by romance movies and sitcoms. Time for men to wake up!
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:45 PM
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You have nothing to feel bad about! This is your birth right. There is nothing wrong here. Dude, you are living the rock star life. OWN IT! I used to be a really jealous, but now girls I date describe me as confident. Confidence turns girls on more than anything else. Congrats, you have arrived. I am completely not used to getting so much attention from women Better get used to it. This is your new reality. Am I being a total scumbag? Does James Bond ask himself that question??? it's so opposite…
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:37 PM
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I'm of the opinion that you should not engage in this situation. Main reason, your integrity is on the line. People are trusting you with their health and that's a big deal. If you flirt with someone and it goes badly or gets taken the wrong way, you are looking at lawsuits, medical malpractice claims, and, at the least, a reputation as a druggist who gets fresh with his customers. I would not take that risk. I work Healthcare IT, and when I'm on the job I'm working for the customer not working …
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:07 PM
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Drink less.
/r/seduction04/05/15 08:22 PM
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I'm tall too, and the way I learned to deal with it was to just own it. In my mind I imagine I'm Dirty Harry, "Do you feel lucky punk?" Or I'm James Bond, "Hello Pussy Galore, I'm 007!" Walk a little slower, step with purpose and confidence, hold my head up. They must be jealous of how cool I am! Also, I took karate lessons. Any man wants to step up is gonna get it! Any girl who stares at me, I don't care what she thinks, I'll just look and wink at her! I know she wants to be my girl. I know thi…
/r/seduction04/05/15 08:20 PM
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I don't get approached much either. But attraction is really in the eye of the beholder. Some women have told me that I'm hot and sexy. Other women have told me I look like a fugly creepy stalker! Just be happy and friendly and approach anyone that seems receptive.
/r/seduction04/05/15 07:32 PM
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Preach on Zombieskank!. I couldn't agree more.
/r/seduction04/05/15 07:27 PM
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Well you got me there. I just got back into dating last year. You can follow up by checking my posting history on here. On average, I ask out one girl a week. But let me preface that by saying I'm older than most of you guys and when you get older, there are less women available.
/r/seduction04/05/15 07:21 PM
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Does nationality really matter? There are plenty of girls in America that act the same way. Especially girls from the more religious parts of the country. They are very prude and proper.
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:28 AM
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You may have a sexual anxiety, and if so don't feel bad. Lots of guys have this problem. Mark Manson has a course on dealing with it. You may need to seek professional help, too. Don't worry, you will eventually get past this. The thing I noticed in your post, you never mentioned where you would take the girl. What are your closing game tactics? You should consider where and how you are going to close with a girl. Do you have your own apartment? Do you have anything back your place to entertain …
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:17 AM
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Well if that's the case, I should be the Albert Einstein of dating. I've been failing for years. Last month was really bad with nothing but girls flaking and not responding to my messages. I feel I'm banging my head against the wall over and over. I'm getting too old for this BS.
/r/seduction04/05/15 05:32 AM
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Traveling alone is very empowering. It gives you a since of independence and freedom that you can't get anywhere else. When I travel alone I don't tell anyone about until after I get back. They are always so surprised. Just take it in small steps and gradually take larger journeys. Start with a short road trip, then a weekend to a city in another state, then a week away to a metropolitan city with a beach like L.A. or Miami, finally travel to another country. The world is your oyster...enjoy it!
/r/seduction02/02/15 05:26 AM
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Firstly, know that you are not alone. I feel the same way too. I think I could write up a similar post. My whole life, I have had feelings of low self worth and lack of confidence. Second, I can tell from personal experience talking to someone like a counselor or psychiatrist can help. Especially if you have past trauma from your life: childhood issues, abuse, etc. It's nothing to be ashamed of. We all need to get our problems out and a professional can help. Don't expect any of these so called …
/r/seduction02/02/15 05:07 AM
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It seems to me you are already a good wingman because you are concerned for your friend getting better. There's not really much you can do. He has to learn to get better by following your example or wanting to learn on his own. I would try giving him encouragement, praise his good qualities, tell him that he is a great guy that any girl would want to be with, etc. But honest statements about him, not just false platitudes. Maybe find out if he has any concerns or issues about talking to girls. I…
/r/seduction02/02/15 04:52 AM
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Hey, I get that you are frustrated. I feel it too. I thought for sure I had a cute girl into me tonight. But after a few hours in conversation with her, she hit on some other dude who was just standing at the bar. I remind myself that Attraction is not a choice. No matter how good your game, you can get rejected over and over again. This knowledge that we share on here can be challenging and frustrating. It's like being a hitter in a baseball game, you know the ball is coming somewhere in the st…
/r/seduction26/08/14 05:35 AM
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Well what was the "longass" conversation about? Other guys are talking to girls without problems, so you can learn to do that to. Listen to what they say. You are getting way too wrapped up in your own head. Shutdown your ego of fear and worry. Also, look at how talk show hosts carry on a conversation. Start with basic rapport building skills. Ask: Where are you from? What is your major? What do you think about our football team this year? Yes, these are boring conversation starters but you have…
/r/seduction26/08/14 05:20 AM
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Don't beat yourself up over mistakes. You did what most guys wouldn't have done. Focus on what you did right.
/r/seduction26/08/14 05:08 AM
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If you were in my home town, I'd kick your ass. HaHa Is that the jock response you were expecting? Seriously "bruh", where did I mention anything about buying drinks or using pickup lines? You are making a lot of assumptions from a simple post. Have you even read other posts I've made on reddit?
/r/seduction22/08/14 02:12 PM
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I have several things that I do. First, make plans for something in the near future. I'll try and get friends on the phone and see if they want to hang out. I'll set goals like running an extra mile on the weekend. Also, seek out some entertainment like watching a movie. The best thing to do is to get a constructive hobby. Recently, I've gotten back into painting. Also, something that can really help is to do volunteer work. Look up animal humane centers, habitat for humanity, etc. Helping other…
/r/seduction22/08/14 03:40 AM
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You can only get away with this after you have learned some fundamentals of game and are able to express male dominance with your body language. Any guy can say this to a girl, she gets it all the time. It means little. But if you can walk up to a girl like Brad Pitt and say, "Hey, how are you? You're really cute, I just had to talk to you. Whats your name?" Then that can only be done after you have learned the basics. And even then it may come off as try hard. So learn the fundamentals of whats…
/r/seduction22/08/14 03:20 AM
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My first thoughts are No and No. But to be specific: It is OK to compliment a girl if she has earned it!!! Which means you complement her after you have established some rapport. And its best to compliment her on things she's done: like clothes she wears, academics, volunteer work, etc... Further, being friendly is a key component, but you run the risk of getting Friend Zoned. If you're new at this then that probably is not a bad thing. But, you will eventually need to learn how to be able to ex…
/r/seduction22/08/14 03:14 AM
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You can ignore most of those results from /r/askwomen. Most Women don't know what it is that turns them on. So, YES, if a girl checks you out then just assume she is interested. Walk over to her and say 'Hi'. If it turns out she was not interested she'll let you know. Unless you can read minds, you don't know what she's thinking. Just go talk to her!
/r/seduction22/08/14 03:02 AM
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So you've tested it?
/r/seduction21/08/14 09:49 PM
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I think you just need to change your mind set. You have higher value than them because you don't need college. Just ask a lot of questions like, "Oh, so, in chemistry class you have to do that. HaHa. I don't have to worry about that shit with my business. Are you ever going to need that after college?" Just ask questions about what college is like then use qualifiers. "You guys better get to bed tonight so you can be ready for yoiur tests. While your sleeping I'll still be out partying. HaHa." C…
/r/seduction21/08/14 06:41 PM
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HaHa, Yes I agree, that works too. But, it's good to get some thought exercises going and something for you guys to try out.
/r/seduction21/08/14 06:29 PM
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Anyone have advise for conversing with someone who has a shitty personality? In my practice, I just don't do it. This may come off as a bit cold hearted, but I'm not here to be a girl's therapist. If you are listening to someone's problem, or trying to fix them, or working on sympathy with them, then you are not her boyfriend...you are her gay guy friend. It is not your job to be the shoulder for her to cry on during the early phase of the pickup. THIS IS FRIENDZONE If you are happy listening to…
/r/seduction21/08/14 06:21 PM
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I think you need to work on your nerves. Push yourself outside of your comfort zone and keep getting into situations that make you nervous. Eventually you'll get used to it and won't so nervous. Also, try and get a little turned on. You're less nervous with a semi.
/r/seduction21/08/14 06:03 PM
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This evening, I have been applying what you present here and am already seeing some notable increases in responses. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction16/08/14 10:43 PM
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This is what I'm trying to learn for Tender. After a few flirty messages back and forth I ask for the number, then get no response. Am I asking too soon?
/r/seduction16/08/14 04:43 PM
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All you guys saying a girl needs time to warmup. How many times has a girl really warmed up with you on a second date??? If a girl does not want to kiss you on the first date, she won't on the 2nd. This is the seduction sub reddit, not the Friend-zone sub reddit. Go get those K-closes.
/r/seduction16/08/14 04:37 PM
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You must be watching too much porn. Size does not matter. This is a trick perpetuated by society into shaming men. It actually comes from other men trying to hide their own inadequacies. Not all women want a Louisville slugger ramming their baby maker. Plus, you have other tools on your body to be sexual with. If you are as built as you suggest, you could probably finger bang the shit out of some girls. So use yours hands. When the lights go out, all that matters is how you make a girl feel. If …
/r/seduction15/08/14 04:41 PM
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Ok so you're an introvert. Most of us are. But, do the math, how many girls are at your home watching movies or television or playing video games? Exactly none. So you have to go out somewhere to get them. Now is the time to explore and learn. Dig deeper about the girls you're attracted to. What are their hobbies and interest and what are you comfortable with. Don't get distracted by their Fbook party pics. All young girls party. But they do other things to. Some girls like to play chess, join a…
/r/seduction15/08/14 04:27 PM
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I think you should wait and text her tomorrow. Then just text a simple cute message like: Hey (her name) It's (your name) I just had the world's most awesome breakfast burrito. How are you today? Her response will give you all you need to know: No response in 48 hours - She was too drunk to remember you, forget her and move on. She replies Who is this? - She was too drunk to remember you, forget her and move on. She replies Um Ok - Try another cute message. She replies HaHa You're funny - Then g…
/r/seduction15/08/14 04:07 PM
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This is classic c0ck blocking. You have to do at least two things: 1 - Win the friends over. You have to slightly game her friends by befriending them and winning them over. Include them in your conversation with the girl, tell jokes, etc. You are not just some random dude trying to take their friend away--you are the life of the party and inviting them into your world. 2 - Tell your girl to tell her friends not to interfere. When you get your girl close ask her: Do your friends want you to be h…
/r/seduction15/08/14 03:54 PM
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Lesson Learned: Don't trust an old guy with two young girls.
/r/seduction15/08/14 03:42 PM
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Depends on what you are looking for. School is about to start up so Mid-town is seeing an upswing in college girls. Downtown is your best bet with mostly tourists and locals. The challenge here is that most venues have bands so its hard to get a conversation going. Your voice has to really project. There are musicians literally on every street corner. So that is your biggest competition. I'm a local and go out often in Nashville. If anyone wants to meet up and wing, send me a message.
/r/seduction09/08/14 12:47 AM
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As you feel it. Get there late and leave early. Once a week or once a month as you think is enough.
/r/seduction08/08/14 07:51 PM
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I'm not a good dancer at all, and I'm not interested in learning either. So I work the bar and try to stay off the dance floor. Most PUAs I know don't bother "grinding" either. I think it gives the girls too much validation. You probably did the right thing by leaving early. Stick to what you are doing, it seems like you are making progress. You may you have to be a little assertive, but keep hanging out with these guys. You'll absorb some of their social status in the process. I mean, if you wa…
/r/seduction08/08/14 07:20 PM
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This seems like paralysis by analysis. You may want to take a step back and use some of the fundamentals that worked before. Try not to overload yourself on all the audio books. I choked last night too. What I keep telling myself is that a bad night is an intervention from the drug of validation. When you have a lot of good nights in a row you get addicted to that sensation. This can trip you up because you are starting to get dependent on an expected outcome. You cannot prevent a bad night. Set…
/r/seduction08/08/14 06:58 PM
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I find the premise of this post to be rather unnecessary. I don't want to be a jerk here, but what the hell does it matter? This is thinking too much like a Boy Scout. You did well in being straight and honest with the last girl. So be the exact same with the current girl. Let her know how you feel and make it a clean, no-drama break up. I know she will be devastated, she will be depressed few weeks until all her friends and family tells her how a pathetic/foreign/loser I am and encourage her to…
/r/seduction08/08/14 05:13 PM
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Think about this: Are you the only sophomore with braces in the world? Is it better to be a sophomore with braces or a senior with braces? Is it better to get this over with now or in the future be a Jr, Sr, grad student,etc. with crooked teeth? I am more concerned some of the hotter girls at my school will reject me outright for my braces. Uh huh, Right.... because what? Hot girls are shallow and don't want to see a man working on improving his smile? They won't reject you for the braces...The …
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:48 PM
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If you don't like to drink, then don't give in to pressure to do so. Alcohol is just an inhibitor reducer. So learn to be fun, crazy, and uninhibited by letting go of your ego and social fears. Be assertive. Sometimes you have to invite yourself and don't wait on other people. Hey guys are you going to XYZ, mind if I tag along? since she probably won't see that I don't hang out with anyone and that I'm currently weird and sad. She probably has noticed, but is being too polite to say anything or …
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:38 PM
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You are chasing this girl too much. You need to be less available. I would text her this and only this: Hey, you seem really busy right now. I'd like to hang out and have fun with you again. So when you definitely have some free time, maybe next week, please let me know. Cheers. And leave it at that. Back off and don't send any more texts or calls, give this girl some space. You should make plans to go out this weekend, have fun with your friends and find some new girls to flirt with.
/r/seduction07/08/14 10:19 PM
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My strategy is to use the phone for setting a date. Keep it short and sweet, just enough humor to tease and then make plans.
/r/seduction07/08/14 10:07 PM
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Well I'm no expert, but a few things: The pros are that you get more experience with girls and should be gaining confidence. On the down side, you risk getting a rep as the ug/fatty chaser. Also, you are leading these girls on since you only want one thing from them, which can also get you a bad rep. The more I think about this I would say 'no, don't lower your standards'. Sure its frustrating not getting the hotties, but what do you really want out of life. Being the the guy that settles for 4s…
/r/seduction07/08/14 09:27 PM
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You have stumbled on the secret truth...night clubs are not for Pick Up. But people will do it anyways. For all those reasons you mention clubs and bars are loud, obnoxious, and the worst place you can do game. They are in the business for one thing only--to sell booze. They do not want us men coming in there and taking away their female patrons. So they turn up the music, have "ladies nights", and convince you, the male, to buy the girls drinks. However, it is good to go to night clubs once in …
/r/seduction07/08/14 09:05 PM
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There is not info here to really provide advice. So I would ask you to answer these Qs: 1 - Are you building her up to a kiss? You need to be escalating contact and creating a sexual vibe. Or else going for a kiss will seem random and out of nowhere to her. You can't be mechanical and expect a girl to kiss you because you have taken her out on a date. 2 - What are you talking about before the kiss or on the date? Are making casual conversation that only stays on the surface level? Or are you bui…
/r/seduction01/08/14 10:41 PM
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Rules??? There are no rules for you :) But if you mean the Three Second Rule--its in the name. When you see a hot girl, within three seconds you should go and open her.
/r/seduction29/07/14 02:48 AM
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If only I had Seddit back when I was in college. You're a freshman--do everything! Do direct approach, do opinion openers, do day game, do night game, say anything, just say Hi even. Do everything you can think of... Now is the time to learn and experiment. Use the three second rule and do not hesitate. Go Go Go
/r/seduction29/07/14 02:40 AM
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Like riding a bicycle. If you fall off just get back on and keep peddling.
/r/seduction29/07/14 02:33 AM
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Strong eye contact, slightly smile, and then lift your hands to your ears and make the motion of pulling them out.
/r/seduction09/07/14 05:13 AM
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But, he is only confident when his fade is good. Now imagine if that guy could get past the feelings when his line is off. Just tell yourself my line is on and my fade is tight everyday. Boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth. Neo: What truth? Boy: There is no spoon. Neo: There is no spoon? Boy: Then you'll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.
/r/seduction16/06/14 11:09 PM
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Don't beat yourself up too much. Going out solo on a Friday night is the hardest thing you can do to yourself in PUA. I have done it enough to know. Just detach yourself from any outcomes, you don't have to have any goals on a Friday or Saturday night except one... Decide to just grove on my own and have a good time. This is the key. Self amuse yourself. You do not need anyone else to have a good time. You are the party. every group of girls seem to have 4-5 males dancing around them too Yeah, a…
/r/seduction14/06/14 11:58 PM
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I think you are worrying too much about it. But try this advice: http://www.winggirlmethod.com/how-to-avoid-being-creepy-around-women/
/r/seduction13/06/14 10:59 PM
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That's what I've been asking myself for a long time.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:54 PM
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Ask about her job and if she could see herself doing that job somewhere else. Something like... You: What do you do? Her: I'm a nurse [or whatever]. You: Oh, that's an important career. How do you like it? Her: It keeps me busy blah blah blah You: Do you ever see yourself doing that somewhere else? Her answer will give you all you need to know.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:54 PM
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being in love with yourself. I'm struggling so hard with this one. Good post, thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:05 AM
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Try finding out if she is willing to move to you. Don't make the mistake of moving to be closer to her. Personally, I have had long distances relationships before and they are not worth it. You should probably just look for other girls in your town to get busy with.
/r/seduction10/06/14 04:01 AM
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Just keep doing what you are doing. Eventually, it will just come naturally. Don't give up, you are about to make a breakthrough.
/r/seduction10/06/14 03:57 AM
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Then it wasn't a date. You guys were just hanging out. This is a good thing. You are just being a cool and sociable dude. I am not good looking... Who cares! She obvious thinks you are cute enough to be scene with in public and on snap chat. Stop disrespecting yourself on looks. He snap chatted back saying it sounded like we were on a date So what! You are the boss of the social scene and was showing your co-worker a nice time. Just keep playing it cool and everything will be fine. Now, me perso…
/r/seduction10/06/14 03:54 AM
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After Party One or two things to get a girl back to your place. Either have something there that she would be into like music, your pets, playing twister, your stamp collection, whatever... If at a party or somewhere then just invite her to the "After Party". Where is that? Its over there, down the street. The "After Party" is where things will be more fun and its happening now after this party. Some friends of yours will be there aka your little friend in your pants. And if the after party is n…
/r/seduction08/06/14 06:49 AM
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Here is what is really different: Can I even have a cup of coffee with this girl? This isn't related to PUA, but a lot of guys look at a girl and then based off her looks start fantasizing about what they are going to do with her. And by fantasizing I include what you have done and what your friends do. This is outcome dependence and it will not help you at all. Sure we all have these thoughts because we are men. But I have been around long enough that I start thinking will this girl enhance my …
/r/seduction06/06/14 11:36 PM
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She continued on her mixed drink and lost interest in me for the rest of the night. It seems like she lost interest because it bothered you so much. This amog/shit test wrecked your game. Whether you know it or not, you probably lost your frame from this interaction. So, the way to get around it is to just own up to it in some way. Either play in to it and say, But its the motion of the ocean not the size of the wave that matters [Laugh] Or make it into a joke, Yeah the doctors had to take off h…
/r/seduction06/06/14 11:19 PM
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Take lessons and until then just don't dance, use your other gifts and talents.
/r/seduction28/05/14 04:10 AM
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Just go with it. Talk to girls with a hard on and enjoy it. Your body is telling you that it wants her. So just talk to them, have fun, and don't worry about it.
/r/seduction28/05/14 02:39 AM
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Sounds like paralysis of analysis. You need to get out of your own head and stop thinking so much. Don't break tension by talking, let the tension build. You should try cutting down your mental scripts to the minimum. In my head I have an internal bullet point memo: Observe and Report - use the environment or situation as intel to begin a conversation. Enjoy the Moment - get out of my head and stop thinking. Because... use this keyword to turn any statement into an emotional topic, i.e.: I like …
/r/seduction27/05/14 04:36 AM
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I like what you are saying, but I need to understand more. How do you share your history (obesity, social anxiety, shame) and not come across as dumping your "baggage" on someone you just met? I mean at what point in the interaction do you feel that it is safe to share these emotions?
/r/seduction27/05/14 04:13 AM
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It seems to me he really was just a confident guy and genuinely wanted to get to know you. If he calls or texts and keeps up the positive vibe, be sure to reward him with your interest :) Well, this is a great post and gives me some inspiration, so thank you.
/r/seduction22/05/14 06:28 PM
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I'm kind of in the same boat. I usually do better off of bar approaches. Dating has been tricky, but I've been learning a lot from this guy Coach Corey Wayne. Look him up on you tube. His basic mantra is once you have a girl on a date DO NOT chase her. Be mysterious and make her come to you. Make sure to set up a date where sex COULD happen, i.e: meet for drinks in a bar at night, late evening coffee, walk in the park at sunset, etc. And here is another video that is solid advice I'm going to tr…
/r/seduction22/05/14 05:44 AM
1

I'm doing less cold approaches in bars and clubs for now. But I'm still going out there just about every night. I find that not forcing myself to approach is helping me relax and enjoy the experience. Basically I just look for IoIs and then go in direct. So the cold approach is now a warm approach.
/r/seduction20/05/14 05:07 AM
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Ok, you need to start by reading the links under the side bar NEW HERE? Then you need to read No More Mr Nice Guy by Glover (http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/14rfpi/no_more_mr_nice_guy/) You may also want to consider Models by Mark Manson (http://markmanson.net/) You also need to be ready to let this girl go completely and come to the realization that you may never get her back. I know that is hard, but the fear of letting go is holding you back. Once you get over the fear of losing he…
/r/seduction20/05/14 05:01 AM
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Any info on your age, location, her age...Salary Level... WTF None of that matters to help jewfro667. You can be at any age when you want to start to get this area of your life handled. Her age doesn't matter. The city you live in doesn't matter unless you live in town that has less than 100 single women. LOL Your income DOES NOT matter as long as you have a plan for your life. A guy flipping burgers can get laid all the time. Its what that guy making minimum wage is going to do to better himsel…
/r/seduction20/05/14 04:54 AM
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Right LOL, guess I should get some.
/r/seduction19/05/14 05:39 AM
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I think you need to find some amigos that are better wing men. Your wing men need to learn how to isolate the other amiga. I've also had a couple times that my buddies invited me on double dates and I had zero chemistry with the wingwoman. This is why you need a good wing man. Sometimes you just have to keep the other amiga distracted so she does not cock block your wing man. Do this for him so next time he has to distract the cock blocking amiga to help you get the f-close. The girls expect you…
/r/seduction19/05/14 05:35 AM
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Good job. Whichever method you use to msg her--remember to keep it short, simple, and funny. Look up some text games examples and make sure you move it quickly to a higher form of communication. Just don't push it. I blew myself out with a girl today because I sent one too many texts. Text Game: KISS Keep It Simple Stupid This is just an example for FB... You: Hey M its almost the weekend, time to choose: Vodka or Tequila... M: HaHa Vodka of course or whatever she texts You: Good call, now send …
/r/seduction17/05/14 10:43 PM
1

Great report. You were owning it! didn't see fucking this girl as a priority That's thinking like a boss! one of my best friends he kissed her and then they talked about me Hell yeah, while she is kissing another guy, she is thinking about you! she said I was now too arrogant and she didn't want anything with me because of that Bullshit! I think she wants you bad. It's never what they say, it's what their actions and body language says. You are living the life, keep it up!
/r/seduction17/05/14 08:36 AM
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College girls have so many options they usually don't want to date. Try escalating a little faster. Try getting more sexual early in the interaction with teasing and banter. And go with the flow and less texting.
/r/seduction17/05/14 02:43 AM
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Congrats, you have reached a higher level of self awareness. Keep up what your doing. It's to read such an inspirational post.
/r/seduction17/05/14 02:32 AM
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Please go and get on r/highseddit don't come back here until you graduate. Also, if you don't get laid or have a GF in HS, it's not the end of the world. Now, go do your homework. LOL
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:45 PM
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Build tension. If you ask her a question you really want an answer to like a qualifying question: let it linger, stare deep in her eyes, smirk a little, think to yourself "I'm waiting". Then wait for it and say, "Well..." One of my qualifications is that the girl has to be able to carry on an intelligent conversation. Only one time did I get a girl who could not do it and I nexted her.
/r/seduction16/05/14 04:26 AM
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These are great conversation starters in any situation: What gets you out of bed in the morning? What was the best part of your week? Working on any passion projects? or What are your passions in life? Maybe instead of coffee the girl wants to have a vodka shot. Who says you have to have coffee. Go to a bar and let them get drunk LOL. But really take them where YOU want to go. Go bowling or cow tipping or just go somewhere and have fun.
/r/seduction16/05/14 04:16 AM
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Well, a long time ago I was a bouncer at a strip club. And for me, I was too busy tossing out drunks and keeping the girls from fighting with each other. My advice: treat everyone like a customer and keep your employer happy. Don't give hot chicks anymore special treatment than you would a fat chick--unless you work at a place where your boss or a promoter wants you to give the hotties VIP access.
/r/seduction16/05/14 04:09 AM
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Please don't give up. I gave up and regret it completely. Take it from me as an echo of your future self. I'm now having to relearn and start all over. It's a bitch. I think you can drop all of this material now. All this reading material is training wheels. You don't need it anymore. It may even be causing you to doubt yourself or paralyzing you from over analysis. Your game does not have to be perfect. You got the life: fitness classses, salsa classes, and really active I think your problem is…
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:39 AM
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Thanks. I think once you get past this your game is going to sky rocket. Just remember, if all else fails, observe and report on the environment, look at what she is wearing, etc. Now go have fun!
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:26 AM
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Very inspirational. Thanks for sharing this. And yes, I'm also from the South, its awesome to find good sweet tea.
/r/seduction15/05/14 05:37 PM
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Getting this aspect of your life handled takes a long time. It's like learning how to walk again. Most guys I've seen, it takes 2 to 4 years. I can tell you that when I was doing this starting years ago it took 18 months just to get comfortable with leading conversations. I left the scene and am now back after a long break. I feel like a noob all over again. To answer your question, you need to develop hobbies and interests that excite you. Then that is what you talk about. If you like snowboard…
/r/seduction15/05/14 02:14 PM
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Wise mentor in deed. I'll take that on and work through it today.
/r/seduction15/05/14 01:58 PM
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Thanks, you got it right. So, I'll be going out tonight and trying again.
/r/seduction15/05/14 01:57 PM
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It's a real mind fuck isn't it? I am always surprised when I get something like that or strong IoIs. I guess its an inner game issue. Just keep replaying that scene over and over in your mind. Yes someone in the world actually thinks you are cute. That's a good thing. So internalize that and you will know what to say next time. Just imagine this for next time: you reach out, grab her hand. "Hey thanks. You made my day. Let's chat." etc. Just get out there and get the girl.
/r/seduction15/05/14 05:52 AM
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This already got pulled down once, but did you see my response? I'm not going to retype it, but the bottom line is stop stressing out over this shit. Just relax and have a good time. I was out tonight and had nothing go right. I'm a little upset about it, but I'm going out tomorrow night and trying again. Is this shit fucking hard??? Yes, but it has to be in order to reshape you. It's trial by fire. The crucible of the world is testing you. Stand in the fire and come out the other side cleansed …
/r/seduction15/05/14 04:53 AM
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Nothing, YOU are her birthday gift. :)
/r/seduction15/05/14 04:48 AM
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Then you need to find things that interest you and don't be afraid to talk about them. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qsaxJCvahA&list=WL&index=6
/r/seduction15/05/14 04:47 AM
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Well Ok maybe that is an extreme contrast, you just have to learn from experience. The good, if the girl is talking nervously and giving you body language such as looking at you sheepishly, tilting her head to reveal her neck, playing with her hair, etc that means she is into you. The bad, she rambles on looks around the room for other guys, crosses her arms, talks about boring girly shit, (or the worst) looks for another girl to give the sign in girl sub communication, "Save me from this guy, s…
/r/seduction15/05/14 04:44 AM
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Please, do yourself a favor and do not use this for your stats class. See my post here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/25iiac/so_you_are_in_high_school_then_get_off_this_sub/ Not to be rude, but bringing this into school is asking for trouble. Do this in college. Do stats on how many touchdowns are scored by guys over 6 feet tall or something. Do stats on peoples hair color: blond, brunette, red, etc. This community is like "our thing" and you should not be trying to quantify it for …
/r/seduction14/05/14 09:22 PM
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1 - Don't be boring. 2 - Don't be outcome dependent. 3 - Let your masculine instincts guide you. Also, relax, smile, have fun, and be playful (touching and adding humor to the interaction)
/r/seduction14/05/14 09:16 PM
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Yet, my success in k-closing and f-closing has diminish since last semester. Ok, so you got off to a good start but like what happened to me you became outcome dependent. (had no condom ;( so just fingered and made out/touched each other) That's good, always use protection guys. This energy however, died about four weeks in, then I'm stuck with the same routine everyday. So now you know its time to break up your routine, push harder, get out of your comfort zone. What ever is the next thing that…
/r/seduction14/05/14 09:01 PM
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After awhile I just touch them and say, "You're making my job easy...you're doing all the talking." When a girl rambles on it means one of two things she is way too into you and is trying to impress you [good] or she is starting to see you as just like one of her girlfriends and is about to throw you in the friend-zone [bad]. Be a leader of men and take control of the interaction. Politely demand she answer your questions. Stop and say, "So you are telling me a lot but I don't feel like I'm gett…
/r/seduction14/05/14 08:22 PM
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Yeah, I'm an IT guy too. If you are getting stigmatized by this then it is because YOU are making it that way. You already answered yourself in the post... Her: "So what do you do?" You: "I work out, I eat well, I play and teach guitar, go to gigs all the time, I dress well and my job pays me enough to be able to travel regularly. It allows me to pursue my interests and have a good life." [smile to yourself here] Her: "So what is your job?" You: "I learned long ago that I have a way with Technol…
/r/seduction14/05/14 07:59 PM
1

That's solid gold. I'm adding that to my play book!
/r/seduction14/05/14 07:47 PM
1

Self-deprecating humor should be done sparingly and mostly during banter. If women actually consider you a hot guy then more is OK. If you are not getting called "Hot" or "Sexy" or "Handsome" etc. then probably do it even less or not at all. Also, this works best in a convo where she is using it on you as a test, I have had this happen: Her: "You are so outgoing/aggressive/uninhibited/..." Me: "No I'm not. I'm shy, I never talk to cute girls." [wink] [smirk] It's a way to push back a little, but…
/r/seduction14/05/14 07:45 PM
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I'm also finding a lot of kids are self identifying themselves with pickup as if its a way of life. Like I say: "So kid what are you? In a band, are you a jock, or anything like that?" "No man, I ain't that shit, I'm a PUA!" Pickup is not a job and should not be your only hobby. Get out and live life kids.
/r/seduction14/05/14 05:47 AM
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Yeah, I am not against young people trying to improve themselves, but there are other places for that. My point is that when you are in High School these days the answers all around you. Plus like you said when you get to college and start off awkward...it still doesn't matter. While getting your degree or whatever then come back on here and start learning this stuff. But if you're in high school your brain needs to on the day to day shit of just navigating through that world with all of its BS …
/r/seduction14/05/14 05:42 AM
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Forget the notes. It is worth your time to watch!
/r/seduction14/05/14 05:32 AM
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First, I want you to read this post I made: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/25iiac/so_you_are_in_high_school_then_get_off_this_sub/ Second, you are in high school what are your options for night game? Everything is day game for you, even Friday night football...LOL. Now to answer the question, when you do get older, and go to places for night game--you will see day game is easier. Mainly, because at night you have more competition from other dudes, girls trying to get drunk, and loud …
/r/seduction14/05/14 05:03 AM
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Just give people a small friendly smile and then say "Hi". That's all you need to get started anywhere.
/r/seduction14/05/14 04:25 AM
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The answer I think can be found in nature. A man is solid like a rock in a river: the rock does not move, but lets the water flow around him. A man is like an oak tree with deep roots: the winds may move your branches, but they do not blow you over. A man is like a lion, king of the jungle: you are alpha, maintain order and dominance, but you take care of your pack. Ultimately, you have to learn how to feel and answer the question yourself. The answer is in the real world, not on the Internet.
/r/seduction13/05/14 05:18 PM
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Well in this situation you have to ask yourself: Is this girl worth the wait? If she meets your qualifications then, yes, be persistent and patient. Maybe she is going through a rough time and doesn't want to embarrass herself in front of you right now. Give it several days and just check back with her occasionally. The attraction is not going to disappear due to absence. All of this, of course, needs to come from a mentality of abundance. In the meantime, make sure you are continuing to get out…
/r/seduction13/05/14 05:07 PM
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I have done it a few times. It works well at getting more IoIs. But the same rules still apply. After you open you then have to maintain interest and be the cool guy she expects you to be. It really doesn't matter how you dress. As long as you are congruent, relaxed, and confident--then you can wear anything.
/r/seduction13/05/14 05:00 PM
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Try reverse psychology. Convince the girls that they should be putting you on a pedestal. Experiment with different forms of humor. Give these girls all sorts of emotional feelings except for dull and boring. Tell jokes, get all touchy feely and just be playful.
/r/seduction11/05/14 06:01 AM
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My advice: don't shit where you eat. Save the approaches for when you are off the clock. When you are at work you're getting paid to serve the business not your own interests. You don't have time for conversations because you are supposed to be keeping the bartenders stocked. Now, if some girls approach you then...give them good customer support, of course. But your focus should be on the job and just be natural. Worry about the approaches when you are not working.
/r/seduction11/05/14 05:52 AM
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Chat up everyone! No you don't have to seduce other girls, unless your girl losses interest in you. Be prepared to get blown out and don't get outcome dependent. Smile and tell jokes and just be relaxed and happy to be there. Also, if you really want to know, just ask people about the Spanish language and their cultural background. "So where are you from originally? ..... Oh, what is Mexico/Italy/etc like?" "What do you like about this city" "What are your best experiences here/there?" And say t…
/r/seduction09/05/14 05:59 PM
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As long as it comes from a place of abundance and not neediness. For example, make it a part of your process. Say to her, "I was in the pharmacy buying condoms[or whatever], and when I saw these flowers they made me think of you. So here have these flowers." This is for deep game and you should already have seen her multiple times. Do not do this within the first 7 hours of your interactions.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:50 PM
1

This sounds similar to performance anxiety. Use it as a lesson. I know in my experience, when I was getting good with this stuff and women were coming up to me it was a total surprise. When I was an AFC I thought, "I'm not worthy." When I started learning PU, I thought, "I have to approach or they won't even notice me." But when you get girls that are aggressive and approach, it can be system shock because you have not aligned your inner core to it yet. To get past this work on your inner game. …
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:22 PM
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I don't know if I agree with this. In my experience, I had a chance to fuck a girl and I didn't. Thought I'd make her wait. But on the next date she threw me into a quasi friend zone. I could not get her back to that state of wanting it. She wanted it and froze me out later for not delivering. Tried it again another time with a different girl, made her wait. Then what happened was she turned the courtship against me and made me wait for it. Her LMR on follow up dates was much higher than the fir…
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:06 PM
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"Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try. " -Yoda There is no "think right" action. You just put one foot in front of the other and open your mouth. Practice this each day in the mirror: smile at yourself and just say "Hi". Next, turn all of this electronic stuff off, leave your home, and wherever you go practice what you did in the mirror with anyone you come across: men, women, young, old, friends, strangers, people at work, bartenders, waiters, shop clerks, etc. Just Do It.
/r/seduction06/05/14 07:26 PM
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I had friends of mine who were naturals and they always told me, just act like you don't give a FCK. I could not understand their advice at that time. My ego and low self esteem would not allow me to. Now I have learned that to not give a F really just means respect yourself, don't be outcome dependent, and remain congruent with yourself speaking and acing in ways that reflect your core beliefs. Do not worry about how others feel about you. Find your own inner peace. Tactically, from your situat…
/r/seduction06/05/14 06:51 PM
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It seems you are outcome dependent on the girls you want. The more you want them, they will sense that and it comes across as needy. Just treat these women as if you want them even less: qualify them, shit test them, and even be ready to reject them. Play hard to get and see what happens.
/r/seduction04/05/14 02:57 AM
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Yes, you have hit new ground. Be proud that you are no longer phased by rejection. That is a very powerful thing. Also, even though you don't try being a PUA, dating in general is very paradoxical. Because you want a relationship, you are not going to get it. Women are attracted to men who are either already in a relationship or to guys who don't give a F about a relationship. Start rejecting them by screening and qualifying and you'll be surprised by how they will start to want you more.
/r/seduction03/05/14 08:06 AM
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When you walk into a room realize you are the sh!t and SMILE
/r/seduction02/05/14 09:31 PM
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I think we have all been in this situation. I've had some good dates and plenty of bad ones. What I notice mostly though is you seem to be in your own head and worried too much about what the girl is thinking or doing. This does not separate you from the pack. Other guys care about what she is doing and what the perfect first date should be. Forget that stuff! You have self limiting beliefs which you need to get over. First, what I always do is invite them to coffee. When they agree to that and …
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:58 PM
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Yeah, I'm in the same boat as you. Got burned out for years then said F-it need to get back into this. What I found is you have to get MAD AS HELL at your insecurities and just blow them out of your mind. Focus on your strengths: humor, passions, interest. Get really excited for what motivates you to get out of bed each day and own it. Other things to try are to look for new interests. Use your humor and take improv or stand up comedian classes. When you go out build up your confidence by puttin…
/r/seduction02/05/14 05:10 AM
1

The best way to cure jealousy is to go and find 10 other women. After that she will either get jealous of you or you may find someone more special then her.
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:27 AM
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Well, you don't have to read them. Why even reply? Now you are going to cause everyone else to reply here and force this thread up. This is Reddit, people are going to post things you may not like. Deal with it.
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:23 AM
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Well, I got a number close tonight. I'll post more when a meet her.
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:16 AM
1

Well, if you want to do PU around the world then you have to be able to at least start in your backyard. I realize customs and social practices are different there. But, you should at least learn the ropes in your town so you have a starting reference point for the rest of the globe. Bottom line: women may vary from place to place, but they all want the same thing...a real man. Have an amazing journey!
/r/seduction01/05/14 04:40 PM
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Just keep doing it regardless of the outcomes. You're doing 10 times better than the guy standing next you and getting better than the man you were yesterday.
/r/seduction01/05/14 03:11 PM
1

How are your PU results going right now in your hometown?
/r/seduction01/05/14 03:07 PM
1

Yeah I'm in Nashville. Send me a msg.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:08 AM
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Yeah, I usually go out solo a lot. It's actually a good thing because it forces you to be social. My trick is to try and make friends with other dudes, use them as temporary social proof. The funny thing is when I just casually chat up other dudes, on sports or whatever, other babes will just assume that I am friends with those guys and will take notice. As for the drinks I use it as a prop. Getting drunk totally wrecks my game, so I don't do it. If I buy a beer, I usually just get one and carry…
/r/seduction28/04/14 06:36 AM
1

The difference between a PUA and a player is that everyone knows who a player is but no one realizes who the PUA is. In other words as a PUA your approach has to be subtle. The reason why your friend got caught being a player was he came off as needy and value seeking. As a PUA in this small town situation you just need to put out a positive vibe and be social. Make friends, demonstrate higher value, tell amusing stories, and be an awesome dude, then the women will come to you.
/r/seduction28/04/14 06:22 AM
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As long as there is air in your lungs and you have a voice, you will always have options. Some of my best nights came from going out solo. Scared me to death each time but I pushed through it. I find wingmen can sometimes hold you back if they are not in the zone. Just keep telling yourself you are worthy, then relax and have fun. You can do this.
/r/seduction27/04/14 08:09 AM
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Yeah, I have been there. What I have learned is that when this is happening you are being 'inside your own head'. You got dependent on an outcome for a scenario to happen that didn't happen (waiting for her to come out at the end of the night). YOU CANNOT WAIT. Just assume that she was attracted to you in the first three seconds that you met. Go in right away and open with a simple, "Hi, you got a positive energy that I like." Smile, feel confident that you are a man among mice, and go all in. I…
/r/seduction27/04/14 07:53 AM
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Your friends can't really help you. YOU have to be in charge of your destiny. Be a good wingman for them by being positive and in the moment. When you see others to to talk to then step up. Try to be a leader and open other sets. Just say what is on your mind and be assertive. Put on a smile, act like this is your last night on Earth.
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:19 PM
1

You have to reframe what you believe is attractive. Who are you comparing yourself to? Brad Pitt? Chaning Tatum? Ok lets try me, from reading about you I can sense that your jiu-jitsu is better than where I left of on my taekwondo, I don't ride a motorcycle, I don't lift weights, I'm much older than you. Yet, women say I am attractive. Why? Well, I smile, try to be cocky/funny, and radiate positive energy. Dude! You are more attractive than me, because of what you do and have done is more than m…
/r/seduction26/04/14 07:08 PM
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