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DiscussionDry_Grab_3874/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:12 PM
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DiscussionDry_Grab_3874/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:38 AM
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i forget this sub doesn't invite rational discussions nvm <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:45 AM
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From what i remember, "nice guys" were known for showing up at parties and pretending to be super liberal to get girls. When rejected, they'd get defensive, angry, and that politically-correct façade would drift away. I think that whole nice guy shtick was at its peak around the Obama administration and Trump's first term. Late 2000s and 2010s, when being politically left was all the rage and the hipsters ran the world. Lonely men at the time wore a "nice guy" disguise to manipulate the dating p…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:25 AM
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Can't say I agree cause my brother was forced into little league sports when he was a boy and I wasn't. Thank you, sexism, you gave me a lot of wonderful days playing minecraft instead of running around 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:55 PM
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Probably not. I'm sensitive, introverted, and not very career-focused. If I was a dude, I'd probably get shamed for my personality and life choices
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:53 PM
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I am not the lorax, I don't speak for the shes. If you want to have a conversation about this, you can make a reddit post asking women as a whole what they find attractive in men. I am just one person, can't answer your questions without making unfair generalisations
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:50 PM
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People are so angry on this sub, good lord..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:42 PM
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So he's not attractive to you. He's incredibly attractive to me. That's kinda the point of the show, explaining to straight men what women want and giving them make-overs. Straight men only see perks and flaws. Big jaw good. Small jaw bad. Man with small jaw = bad. That's just not how straight women operate. The female gaze doesn't care about big noses and small jawlines. In fact, we're quite drawn to imperfections. Have you seen the unbelievable thirst for Jeremy Allen White? The man has incred…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:18 PM
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I don't use make-up, my friend. You didn't have to get angry. Fact is that men who put simple effort into their appearance, like wearing nice clothes, accessories, contacts, using a razor and cologne, will look more attractive. Appealing to the opposite gender will make you more appealing to the opposite gender. It's pretty simple
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:53 AM
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Fitness isn't everything. The man I showed earlier went from a basement dweller to a smokeshow and that wasn't from lifting weights. If he didn't change his hair or clothes and just got abs, the change wouldn't be as drastic. Put simply, men care more about bodies and women care more about faces. Making your body as athletic and lean as you can is how you attract men, not women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:26 AM
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How can you say you believe in self-improvement while saying "you can't put lipstick on a pig". I don't get it. You either believe that people can enhance their appearance through their choices, or you believe it's all down to bone structure
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:19 AM
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You might want to switch your flair to 'black pill'. I think it fits you better. Anyway, this is an example of one of those Queer Eye for the Straight Guy transformations. Beauty comes from effort. Everyone can look hot if they actually try <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:53 AM
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I feel like you could've phrased that better 💀 Anyway, this take isn't exactly revolutionary. In fact it was very mainstream in the 2000s, with the metrosexual fad that spiralled from reality tv shows like Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. We've known for decades now that women like when men put effort into their looks and act more progressive. Trouble is that most straight men aren't willing to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:22 AM
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Yes, but that's because they're constantly at war with their comedically evil neighbour. If there wasn't a healthy crop of experienced South Korean men in the military at all times, their country wouldn't stand up on its own. There aren't any other first world countries that are in a situation like that. Finland has mandatory elistment for men but it can be as low as four months, since their conflict with Russia is nowhere near as frequent or as threatening as it is in Korea. So yea like that co…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 05:24 AM
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Lesbians do. Straight girls don't. The same thing applies to men - the guys who act the most homoerotic with their buddies are the straight ones. Treating gay people like predators is so tired
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:16 PM
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I don't care if people have racial preferences. Most people subconsciously have them. We're statistically more likely to be attracted to people who look like us. Reread the final couple sentences I wrote. I said there aren't any good reasons why a person would use slurs when they reject another person. Your experience is directly tied to the actions of racists, not average women. You realise you're a victim of a hate crime, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:22 AM
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Your post is treating getting slurred at by a racist person and not meeting someone's preferences as the same thing. Weird. Clearly the people who say "i don't date short guys" aren't the same people who say "i don't date [insert racial slur here]". Acting like they're one in the same treats women as a cruel and superficial hive mind. Additionally, there are good reasons why a barely legal woman would reject a 31 year old guy. There aren't good reasons why a woman would call a man slurs for aski…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:11 AM
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I'd hazard to call ALL preferences okay, because not all of them are. I can't help but raise an eyebrow when a person ONLY dates individuals who are significantly younger than them, or people who have histories of mental illness. If you're exclusively attracted to people you can easily manipulate, that's abnormal. Some preferences can also be considered fetishes, and that's very dehumanising to bring into the dating market. Excusing those examples, I'd say the most common preferences are pretty …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 11:56 AM
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So you want your kids to have sex, despite their genders, because if they don't you're a bad parent? What if they're just waiting for the one 💀 That's a good thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:29 AM
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Right so the dad has to know if his kid is having sex otherwise he has failed as a parent? Right, right. And I'm guessing it's the exact opposite for women, isn't it? 🫩
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:11 AM
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"Proper path to life success" = being a virgin. Aight bro
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:50 AM
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Why on earth do you know about your childrens' virginities dude
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:25 AM
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I do make the first move more often than not, but I guess it's less likely for me to experience rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:08 AM
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Men aren't happy. Very little of it is fun. That is a very interesting statement to me, because you are completely right. Womanhood is inherently chaotic, dangerous, and political, and yet it's also uniquely fun. We're the ones with bright colours at the galas while you guys have black suits. Everything from our flicks, to our drinks, to our friendships, it's all so much sweeter than our male counterparts. I think it's the kind of thing women don't even realise we have. We're allowed to openly c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:02 PM
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How bro felt writing this <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:34 PM
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Honest question, (and i will delete this comment if people get heated over this) what are things that men uniquely experience that women wouldn't want? I mean daily issues btw. Yes, it sucks that custody cases are in the woman's favour, but that's not something people deal with regularly. Normal experiences men have that women wouldn't like if we had it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:23 PM
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True. I do wonder if the homoromantic vibes were intentional though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:16 PM
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Then you're too far gone <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:15 PM
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Do you plan to have a happy relationship any time soon or are you content being like this forever? Genuinely, my friend, your attitude is as posionous as a third wave feminist with a KAM tattoo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:11 PM
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I'm going to rewrite that sentence in a fashion that I agree with. "Because many men are blinded by sex appeal and prioritise it over personalities". You can easily make your point without sounding misogynistic or homoromantic. You get that, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 01:57 PM
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I get that testorone makes you lads pretty horny, but it really can't be that hard to consider personalities when you get into a relationship. I don't understand why this post spiralled into a commentary on "the problem with women" and how boring they are, when the clear issue here is a man's lack of effort to connect with a woman on any deep level. (Aka, any level that isn't about sex.) Talk about tv shows, talk about her interests, her bucket list, her career. You're gonna find something inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 01:52 PM
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It's simple psychology. When people have limited options, they feel happy with what they end up with. When they are spoiled for choice, they walk away dissatisfied. We can talk to anyone with the click of a button, so why would we even bother talking to each other in the real world? But online, it's a different challenge. I'd compare it to turning on cable tv and watching a random show. You only have a few channels to pick from, you go on Fox, watch The Simpsons and laugh. Or you could turn on D…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:59 AM
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I'm lost. Do you want a girlfriend and you're upset you don't have one? Bitter at the people who do have them? Or are you telling yourself you don't need a woman, which is the exact behaviour you complain that women have?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:18 PM
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You're on the money there. A lot of fantasies (no matter how absurd they are) can be boiled down to simple, very human desires. No matter who you are, everyone wants to feel desirable. For women, that takes the form of a powerful mafia boss who just can't hold himself back from a regular woman. And for men, that's through a beautiful young woman who fancies a regular man. These are the most common fantasies for either gender because, at their core, they're actually pretty vanilla. It's a lot har…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:42 PM
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Women like individuality. When men hear "confidence is key", they tend to think that means you have to be a comedian to get the girl. You have to make the first moves, steal her focus, be suave like in the movies. But "confidence is key" generally doesn't mean that. From my experience, it means he's fun, not afraid to look stupid, has little quirks. Someone who genuinely enjoys the moment. That's attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:26 PM
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It's a tad weird that OP asked this question about women's psychology but only allowed men to answer. How curious..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:16 PM
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You're right on the money there. Reddit and debate are two male dominated things on their own. Naturally that gender imbalance will have an impact on the discussions held
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:08 PM
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It's a good place to communicate with others who share different beliefs than you. It's a bad place for your own mental wellbeing. Most of the time when I get in conversations on here, I have to end it with "agree to disagree" because the other person gets hostile. I find using this sub for too long draining, because every belief seems to stem from beliefs instead of facts. I saw a comment today that said "all women have BPD and that's why they're undatable". That level of nonsense just tires yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:05 PM
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And you do. Isn't it great having different opinions? 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:09 AM
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The fun of dating is in spontaneity. Courting isn't exactly "fun" in that way. It has unwritten rules and an objective outcome. I'd compare it like this, dating is like hanging out with a friend. Courting is like hanging out with a co-worker
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:06 AM
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The people who understand this are the people who will have happy relationships. Courting, tradition, chivalry, it's all incredibly restrictive and long outdated. Dating is meant to be fun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:04 AM
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People really need to stop mourning these old relationship traditions. "Courting" existed in a time where marriage was a financial necessity for a woman, and the only way a man was going to reproduce. There weren't any hookups or divorce. It was a highly restrictive time that made basically everyone unhappy. All of us need to get with the times. Women, make the first move. Pay for some dates. Give him compliments. Men, start caring about how you look. Do the dishes. Express your emotions. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:01 AM
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It's always been this way. There's the "I hate my wife" and "my husband doesn't satisfy me" jokes that you can find all over popular media from decades ago. The genders have always been clashing, and now the internet has given both sides the space to complain
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 05:01 AM
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You have chosen to avoid my point. I have explained that my experience and my thoughts aren't logical. Pointing at me and saying that my thoughts are illogical is redundant. My insecurities aren't due to a "wishful thinking power fantasy" - don't politicise it like that. I just dislike my height and feel oddly uncomfortable being pursued by a shorter male. It's very normal; I've felt this way since the ripe old age of fourteen. I feel like you want to make a larger claim about women as a whole, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:15 PM
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That's solely based on initial attraction. Women are more initially attracted to personality while men are attracted to looks. To get a date with a woman, you need to be more than just a pretty face. She needs to make a judgement in her head about your personality before committing to a date. "Is he going to use me?" "is he going to beg me for sex?" "is this going to be awkward and uncomfortable?" Questions that women ask and men don't. A lot of it is based on emotional survival. We don't want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:15 AM
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My male friend once told me that he gets uncomfortable when he's in an elevator, alone, with a woman. Apparently he felt like he was intruding on her personal space or scaring her, just by being nearby. He asked if I ever felt uncomfortable sharing a lift with a man and I, of course, said I never have. People have irrational insecurities and worries about the way the opposite gender views them. That's just how life is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 09:36 AM
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I replied to another person explaining that. I'm specifically talking about in romantic settings. To approach a person is to start a romantic relationship, which I avoid doing when there's a large height difference. Isn't the post about romantic relationships anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 09:26 AM
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Approach and speak to = Dating I have friends who are shorter than me, I'd just feel uncomfortable going on a date with a man 5+ inches shorter than me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:01 AM
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Well, I try not to approach or speak to men who are significantly shorter than me. I'm consciously aware of that. I don't know why, but it feels like by being there, I'm emasculating him. Aside from that, I feel like I treat most men the same way. I rarely meet men who are extremely attractive or extremely ugly. Most dudes are average. Edit: I'm talking about romantically lol. Thought that was what this thread was about - whether women treat men they're attracted to differently, compared to men …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:24 AM
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That is also why women are so selective on dating apps. We're working based on our strict set of standards - standards that genuinely don't matter when you like a person
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:39 PM
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I'm thankful you explained what OP meant, because his response wasn't exactly fulfilling. However, I'm a little disappointed that your response is another "all women are at fault and all men are angry" rhetoric. I stopped using reddit as much when I started seeing my current boyfriend. These conversations have quickly become unrelatable to me, now that I know what modern dating actually looks like. It's these kinds of mental gymnastics that paint people as black and white. They might seem intell…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:14 AM
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Which has nothing to do with women losing their rights. That's just your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:17 AM
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American men go to war because of women's romantic standards and that's why Afghan women aren't allowed to speak publically? You just confused me more
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:07 AM
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How does wanting a rich partner link to a loss of rights? And what "rights" are we talking about? Americans banning abortions? Afghan women not being allowed to speak in public? Be more specific
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:15 AM
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You had a point at the start. There are a shocking amount of people who still have a connection to their ex, whether it be emotionally or physically. The other two points are too specific and won't apply to the vast majority of women. Remember, it's not all men, and it's not all women. If it's unfair to generalise one gender then it's unfair to generalise the other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:08 AM
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This rule doesn't apply to domination scenarios. Most men want BJs. Most men want sex. Most men do not want to be pegged. Imagine hearing that your woman used to choke her ex, and then getting mad that she didn't do it with you. That's just a weird thing to get offended over. How's she supposed to know you wanted that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:36 AM
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Three kinds of comments here: All porn! As long as it's not super kinky. As long as it doesn't include people we know that they have dated. Looks like everyone's got a different opinion on whether porn should be consumed in a relationship. Some people are completely against it and others just don't want their partner jacking off to their ex lol. I think it's fine if he's not watching disturbing stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:31 AM
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Eh, there are benefits and downsides to whatever gender you get. I really don't like the thought of an accidental pregnancy, and all those other quirky benefits of having a uterus. But at the same time, I'm a total crybaby... so, hey, I enjoy the benefits of being able to freely express that. It's all just one big dice roll and we live with what we get
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:10 AM
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I'm introverted, but very confident. In my relationships I've always made the first move, planned dates, done the driving, and I'm even a dominant in the bedroom. If I traded bodies with my older brother, I'd live it up. No menstruation, no makeup, and I'd never have to worry about settling down ASAP, because I wouldn't have a ticking clock. I'd have sex with whoever was up for it and get praise instead of nasty looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:23 AM
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This is not the right place to get dating advice, brother. You might receive ten normal comments, and the rest will start arguing about how 6/10 women leach you of your product value by not having sex on the first date 💀 Just find another sub and try your luck there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:51 AM
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Uhh... okay, I'll give you a list: Custody court cases being skewed in the woman's favour Male loneliness epidemic High rates of depression and suicide Men being ridiculed for seeking mental health support, being sexually assaulted, and other fallouts of toxic masculinity The rise of gambling, porn, and phone addiction Body shaming Being excluded from the abortion debate socially Struggling to conform to masculine expectations Men being the most common victims (and perpretrators) of violent crim…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:41 AM
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Yep. Easily. I'd be a 6'2 white guy born into a loving middle class family. Every privilege and benefit of my life now, except I would also be a man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:08 AM
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The whole wage gap conversation gets mixed in with the maternity leave topic. That being, if a woman is hired, she could get pregnant, which could then lead to months of paid absence. This then incentivises companies not to hire women. That's a pretty big issue, but it always seems undermined by the "wage gap" whenever it's brought up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:12 PM
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You know women so well, I can't believe it! What a king 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:32 AM
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It's a very "us vs them" mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:25 AM
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I just think of an attractive scenario, kink, or theme and let it play out in my head. There's not some object im focusing on
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:47 PM
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A man punching a man isn't interesting. A woman punching a woman isn't interesting. A man punching a woman? That'll make headlines
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:35 AM
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Ah, I see where this conversation is headed. Adios, nice chatting with you 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:19 PM
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1 in 5 women have been sexually assaulted. You're pointing to something women often do. I'm pointing to something men often do. It's not all men, but it's all women? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:14 PM
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If we can agree that it's "not all men", we can also agree that it's not all women, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:09 PM
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Yet women keep telling guys that the boring dude is what is better but go around and show primal attraction to the douche exciting guy Viewing women as a hive mind is a mentality that gets people nowhere. We aren't all telling guys one thing and then doing another. Some people drive souped-up sports cars that cost too much and aren't very practical. The majority of people drive normal, reliable brands. "Why do people keep saying they like average cars but then drive mustangs?" Well... because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:00 PM
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Reddit learns that women are complex. What a hot take lol. The women who swipe away from shirtless guys do it because those men look like players. We, of course, still find muscles attractive, though. Some women are going to stay far away from the bad vibes, and others are going to steer into it. We're not a hive mind. I don't know jack about the flirtacious dick size chats you guys are having, but the last point about nice guys applies to this as well. Women can tell when the guy is going to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:07 PM
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You could use that logic on everything in this community, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:39 AM
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Literally 💀 All I said was "you know there are some negative traits that men have after aging" and this guy went on a spiel saying I'm a hypocrite and how nasty I am. I'm sorry...? So red pillers are allowed to call us used up inferior products, but I'm the devil for voicing a contrarian critique. They really can't take what they give out. Good grief
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:51 PM
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Nvm i thought you were reasonable. Turns out you can't tell one small contrarian opinion apart from a giant wave of hate year after year. I hope one day you learn what "punching up" is. Gday to ya
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 08:43 AM
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Red pill for years: Women over 30 are used up. Damaged goods. Hit the wall. Too much baggage. Ugly. Infertile. Only want to date 18-29. Me, once: Why don't men get the same treatment? Not that I support ageism, but isn't it silly to act like men age like fine wine? Since balding and erectile dysfunction exist. You: So, you're insulting men? How's what you just said any different to what the red pill does? It's different because older men don't get insulted on these sites. In fact, they get prais…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 08:36 AM
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Oh, no! I made fun of men 😱 Under a post that called older women "inferior products". I think you people can live with it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 08:16 AM
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Red pillers only talk about fertility when discussing age preferences. Since the ages 18-29 are the most fertile, women above thirty are, thus, useless and unnattractive. This logic then puts men on a pedestal as they stay fertile for much longer. But that's just talking about fertility. One metric. One topic. I could talk about a completely different issue that comes from aging, and use it as the core reason why young men are better than older men. Young guys have crazy libido. They're at their…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:26 AM
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If you think the amount of women hating on older man is even comparable to men hating older women, you are sorely mistaken. Sure, it happens, but it's very uncommon in comparison. Especially when talking about the red pill community. Aged 30+ men are praised over there, while women of the same age get called every insult under the sun
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:37 AM
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Exactly. You don't see women on here bringing up how older men are inferior. Even though they end up having erectile dysfunction or go bald, which is incredibly undesirable to us
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:05 AM
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They have sex with your body while discarding your personhood Thank you for my daily reminder to stay a virgin 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:12 PM
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"It's not a matter of belief" you say, in the same breath as a subjective experience 💀 Say it with me now, people, an anecdote isn't evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:14 AM
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You really believe the average women has slept with 10-20 people and are lying about it? That's delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:22 AM
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Yeah, you hit the nail on the head there. I think it also links in part to the whole dominant/submissive roles and the gender binary. Men are often drawn to a dominant role during sex, taking the lead, being on top, and all that. Largely, they're the ones satisfying, not being satisfied. They're happy doing that because they are visual people. What arouses them just as much as their own pleasure, is making someone else feel good. Of course women share that interest to a certain extent, but it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:42 AM
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And for guys who live in Canada and Australia, it's inconceivable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:03 AM
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When they're in their late 20s-30s? Yeah I'd hope their dating woes go away by then, that's the age when people start families
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 12:29 PM
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I believe the love parents have for their children is often unconditional. Relationships are conditional though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:54 AM
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I can't tell anymore, man. Everyone on this sub is so extreme. I bet tomorrow someone will say masturbation is misogynistic and someone else will say if a woman doesn't shave she's 88% less breedable than a 50 year old with two kids. It's bizarre. I love it though. So gd entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:30 PM
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Yeah you've got a point 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:20 PM
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I did it, your parents are gonna do it, break the cycle Morty. Focus on science
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah I'm not validating that with a response
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:03 PM
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A friend of my family was knocked up at 18 by a 28 year old man, who already had abandoned two other families, and abandoned hers shortly after. If you want to bring up inconsequential self reports, so will I. They're all just subjective claims that prove nothing about how emotionally intelligent the average 18 year old is. The truth is in the middle. I'm not trying to say they're children, but they're obviously not fully grown adults. That's why the term "teenager" came about, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:53 PM
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Ohhh so they're just doing that red pill thing where people are boiled down to numerals and assets? Objectifying women in the most literal way? How fun 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:12 PM
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Are you 18? You seem to know all about their capabilities and emotional intelligence
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:07 PM
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I'm really trying to figure out wtf those acronyms mean, but my brain is stuck reading Resting Motor Vehicle. I'm sure the V means variety. Or variable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:35 PM
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Thank you for being sensible. Idk what everyone else here is smoking
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:31 PM
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I remember saying once how going through red pill forums was like watching aliens argue over nothing. Then someone told me "have you gone on feminist tiktok?" Maybe it's the matrix around me but I have to ask, where did our sanity go? Was it covid? It has to be covid. Love is a naturally occuring chemical that makes people want to be close together. It wasn't created or manufactured to oppress people. That's like saying endorphins are an artefact of fatphobia. Raising a child isn't "free labour"…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:26 PM
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I can't tell ya how many times a naked man has just popped up on my screen, saying "3kms away and extremely horny!" to try and get my money 🤣😂 Wait, yes I can! It's zero! Those bots are always naked women! Obviously that's beside the point - just because there are more naked lady bots doesn't mean men are funding them - but you can't lie, it's overwhelmingly men who get targetted by romance scammers. Camgirls, catfishes, bots, etc. Young men are lonely and horny. I don't see a reality where wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:15 PM
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This sub: "What's the difference between an enthusiastic and unhappy yes, as they both consent? How is it creepy for a 50 year old to date an 18 year old, when they're both adults?" A lot of questions have a nuanced answer, like you said. It's not "one size fits all", no matter how badly people want to simplify things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:00 PM
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I'm not really a competitive person. Actually, I'm a shy and sensitive person out there in the real world. But I never want to be a passenger, I'm always the driver. I leave 20 minutes early to things and I plan out everything in my life. That need to always be in control just seeps into the bedroom. Being in control isn't a dominatrix fantasy, if that's what you're implying. I just can't relax unless I have a plan. Can't enjoy it unless he's taking the backseat
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:35 AM
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Reading this as a dominant woman is interesting. Even though I get incredible entertainment making a man squirm, being in control, and embarrassing him just a tad, I have for some reason had the rape fantasy too. I don't think the fantasy is even tied to submission at all. It's tied to womanhood. We're taught to hold back our sexuality, to see it as shameful, and so we travel to that reality where we don't have to initiate sex. Where we get to be a bystander to sex, in a way. Present, but not an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 02:44 PM
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I think my opinion is askew because I'm kiiinda the dominant one in the bedroom, so I just don't really understand the starfish mentality. How do people enjoy laying there? But hey, just different interests. I actively enjoy giving head, and that has to look bizarre to a lot of women. I don't think it's right to shame women for being vanilla. Because there's nothing wrong with it. The fact that vanillas are considered prudes nowadays is... jeez, that's a really depressing symptom of porn culture…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:59 PM
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Absolutely. It's supposed to be a passionate, emotional act that people just stumble into during adulthood. I don't think our society was even meant to know this much about sex. People a century ago didn't have to worry if their 4 inch 🍆 was good enough, or shave from head to toe. But now sex is insecure and performative. The modern awareness of kinks just made everything a lot worse-
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:34 PM
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I love this sub, because every now and again, I get to read eight paragraphs of a centrist opinion that I agree with from start to end. Monogamous relationships are systems where two people swear off sex from everyone else. I don't think we acknowledge that enough. When you're dating someone, you've become a celibate to the rest of society, and so has your partner. Why wouldn't you do everything in your power to satisfy them? Good communication, effort, and respect are required in every intimate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:28 PM
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The comments here have just been complaining about "starfishing", not vanilla women. No one's asking for a porn star, just a person who does more than lay there. Porn has made sex into a purely physical thing and stripped the intimacy/emotion out of it, which is a massive problem. But it shouldn't be too much of an ask for the woman to be involved in doing the deed 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:15 PM
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Yeah you got a point there lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:54 PM
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Have you... actually had sex before?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:43 PM
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Why do people date when AI chatbots say everything you want to hear? Why do people make friends when you could just watch a sitcom and pretend like you're with people? Easy. The real thing is better
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:42 PM
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Why are you getting mad at me lol I'm just contributing to the conversation. You were so chill before, damn
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:18 AM
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We lost another one, ladies 😔🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:09 AM
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Being 5'11" makes this conversation infuriating. Whenever I say I want my man to be my height or taller, I get downvotes with angry replies. But short women are allowed to say "he has to be taller than me in heels" and people are cool with that 😃 Essentially, that's about a 3-4 inch requirement. Which is a lot more of an ask, but they're allowed to say it without scrutiny. Drives me insane
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:04 AM
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That's a run-on sentence. It's a common grammatical mistake that makes reading your comment difficult. Cutting sentences up with semicolons, commas, or full stops will improve your comprehension 👍 Sorry to sound like a dick, I just genuinely struggled to read that lmao. Also, I'm not sure why you're saying it in this thread. It's outside the topic of discussion, and is really just another random hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:33 PM
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Horny, yes. We all know what the showerhead feels like. We've all done it. But most women will still seek out an emotional connection before having sex. This is in part due to the scrutiny women face when they engage in hook-up culture. Slut shaming and the like. I mean, you see it all the time on this sub. So, as a woman, you don't want to put out too soon. When you do, you've been sullied, you're "easy," and no longer marriage material. You have to wait a little longer, go on a few dates, make…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 12:25 PM
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Yeah, sure. Preferably, he'd be a little taller than me or exactly my height. I've dated men wayy shorter than me, it's not my thing, but I don't expect to meet a giant. Side note: I always enjoy these kinds of height questions on here, because I generally get around 5-10 downvotes and a few angry replies. It's funny, because people already know in their heads that tall women are going to want tall men. You just can't say it. Then the insecure ones will get all mad
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 12:14 PM
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I'm sorry, I don't think you understood their reply at all. Their point was that women seek out emotional relationships before going to the bedroom, so the existence of horny strangers always ready for sex really isn't a benefit to us. You kinda just strolled into a discussion about dating standards
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 12:07 PM
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I personally do, since I'm 5'11. No other choice really lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:09 AM
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You said that viewing an 18 year old as anything other than an adult was "wordplay" when it's not lol. There are reasons why people view 18 year olds in this way. Like I said, adulthood is a rising wave, not a brick wall. Not tryna argue here, just pointing out the flaws in your understanding of adulthood
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:52 AM
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Maturity is a rising current that slowly turns a child into a well-adjusted adult. Maturity, according to the law, is a brick wall that hits the child when they turn 18, immediately turning them into an adult. Don't expect the rigid nature of public law to ever represent maturity, because adulthood isn't a number. It's an experience that varies from person to person. 18 year olds are high school students applying for colleges. They might be labelled adults by the law, but they're a lot less matu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:18 AM
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Very intelligent assessment there, my friend. Never thought of it like that. Blue pilled guys really are just people who just followed advice and found success. Either due to having other benefits like good genes, or just pure luck
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:54 PM
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This thread is bizarre. It's just one group saying "I've done x. Didn't work." And everyone else saying "no you didn't. X works." This is brainrot I swear to god
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:46 PM
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If your partner ever had a desire to sleep with another person other than yourself, would you wish to know? No thanks. I'm good. You keep your fantasies to yourself and I'll keep that one random sex dream I had with another man to myself. You can't stop your subconscious mind from being promiscuous. However, you choose to be in a committed relationship. Once they admitted they were willing to risk everything for sex with a stranger, but didn't, could you continue the relationship? Depends on a h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:09 AM
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I see where you're coming from. When two different groups are advocating for different things, it starts to seem like they're against each other. The current gender war doesn't help matters either. I watched both of your videos, but I couldn't help but notice how one video was from 2012 and the other, 2013. That SJW KAM movement isn't around anymore. Feminists have radical opinions, and those change depending on the decade. Back then, they saw men as the enemy and wanted their voices snuffed out…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:38 PM
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Obviously. But I'm not talking about that. For example, I know a person who said her boyfriend assaulted her because he touched her butt a few times
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:29 AM
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Well put 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:15 AM
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Funny and friendly. Lives nearby. That's literally it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:06 AM
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Has this happened to you, perchance? And if so, can you tell me what you said?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:42 AM
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I'm sorry, who is calling a man a radical incel for talking about male suicide rates? He would have said more than just that to get those terms thrown his way 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:38 AM
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I personally know several women who have lied about being SA'd, though I think exaggeration is a lot more common. "That didn't feel good" becomes "I didn't like it, but he didn't stop". It is the outcome of being in an echo chamber. This isn't me trying to devalue what you've gone through, of course, but just speak to what I know. Harassment, assault, and rape aren't always black and white, so people might not interpret their experience as SA in the moment, but change their mind after talking to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:46 AM
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No, my friend. You are getting triggered. Big difference
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 10:04 AM
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Bro I'm just kidding why are you so mad 😔🤌
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:40 AM
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A vast majority of them, cutie pie 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:27 AM
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Research is inconclusive on this topic, with some reports stating that 50% of new couples meet online, others saying around 40%, and some an upwards of 55-60%. You could say it's extremely common for couples to match up online - because it is - but modern relationships still have the capacity to start in person. I know a good handful of young couples who met through school or work. It's less common nowadays, but it does still happen
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:54 PM
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Genuine question, I'm not trying to start a fight by asking this, but how do you believe modern men and women start relationships? Do they all meet online/on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:39 AM
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Of course, there are people out there who believe the man of their dreams is actually alive and out there. That's what all the movies convinced us would happen. He's rich, tall, respectful yet thrilling, confident but not a show-off, and experienced but not in a player way. It's an unrealistic fantasy. The people who stick to these standards will probably end up alone, or settling. But it's not the majority of women. Most of us don't go that crazy with our standards. You meet a cute co-worker at…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:59 AM
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this sub is weird
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:30 AM
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Yeah I think during ovulation we have the same sex drive as men, but that's a very short period of time. Female and male libido aren't even comparable
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:29 AM
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I want to put this quote on my wall omfg
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:10 PM
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He never said it was all men, and he was talking about himself a lot there
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:30 AM
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I'm talking about how he is a scam artist who takes advantage of young, lonely men. You're the only one talking about women, my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:44 AM
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The Red Pill definitely existed before 2022, but Tate made it into a much bigger phenomenon. I'm just talking about him because he's the biggest name to come out of that community. To my knowledge, at least
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:42 AM
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Andrew Tate is a scam artist. He built his business by convincing his girlfriends to be cam girls, make men online fall in love with them, and give them money. Since then, his career has been spent using manipulative tactics, displaying a perfect life, and then convincing men they can get it if they pay him. He's just in the Red Pill community to take advantage of young men and milk them for cash
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:56 AM
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I explained why I feel this way in another reply. I'm just not attracted to guys who are shorter than me 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:52 PM
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I guess it's just fun making any man whimper, since they're supposed to be the stronger gender. Logically, it would be more fun to embarrass a strong person, but they don't really interest me. I don't know why, but there's something about an awkward guy that I'm very attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:36 AM
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I'm going to be fr with you my friend, I'm a sadist 💀 All of that is going to be attractive to me. Love a nervous, overthinking, and stuttering man. There's nothing better than that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:24 AM
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That's where most people are on the fence. It's perfectly normal not to want to be around or date a sex worker. I don't think I would do it, either. But I have come across a lot of extreme anger around OF models that I'd definitely call "hate"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:00 AM
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I don't think i can edit the title, but that doesn't really phase me. If it gets taken down, it gets taken down
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:55 AM
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I'm struggling to understand what a 50/50 placeholder boss babe is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:52 AM
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Of course there are two very different groups at play here, as they are on completely opposite sides of the spectrum. I just find it intriguing that sex workers are hated by - and funded by - the same gender
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:36 AM
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Yeah, I've never understood the claim that sex work is in any way liberating. It's always seemed like a cope
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:32 AM
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I hope I made it more neutral! I'm not very good at delivering the right tone. Thanks for the advice, though 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:28 AM
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I find shyness adorable and very attractive. If he's an overly confident and talkative gym bro, I'll probably see him as bad news. Being a little reserved will make him stand out. I'll naturally want to know more about him
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:22 AM
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I've never said that, lol. Sure, other women have, but we're not a hive mind. I don't see much of a problem with adults consuming porn. It definitely messes with teen boys' perception of sex, and children should have zero access to it while their minds are still developing. But what an adult man does with his right hand is none of my business
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:13 AM
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The woman might have hormone imbalances, medical shit going on, trauma, blah blah (more excuses). Any excuse and every excuse is valid. If she doesn't want it, you have your right hand 👍 Okay, but on a serious note, women generally aren't as horny as men. That's just the way most of us are. I pity the men in unsatisfactory relationships, but I also pity their women, who feel forced to put out. It's a difference between the genders that will always lead to tension and frustration
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:24 AM
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Yeah I realise lol. That's the reason why my first two bfs were shorter than me. I've always kinda thought I'm not good enough to deserve a guy my size. But I've learned that I'm just not physically attracted to guys 5'10 and below. I know it's pretty unlikely for me to meet a tall man who would settle for me, but I'd rather that than be in a relationship without attraction. Gotta make sacrifices, right? 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:54 AM
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Good point, I completely forgot Pixar studios existed for a second there and was only thinking about Disney Animation (those princess films that people consider problematic nowadays)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:09 AM
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Many of these media sources are geared toward children, and set them up to be negatively surprised later in life Disney hasn't made a genuine love story in fourteen years. Frozen was largely just the company making fun of its own clichés, so 2010s Tangled would be the end of the trend. Their reasons for this boil down to: These films were telling little girls that their happy endings had to include kissing a man, which didn't jive with 2010s girl power feminism The unrealistic beauty standards t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:21 AM
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Again, semantics... Why do you care 🧍‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:08 AM
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Standard, then? Expectation? Idk it's all just semantics to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:49 AM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:42 PM
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I don't think I'm very special 🤷‍♀️ And there's no men I've been ignoring because no one shows interest in me. Ig it's my fault for not going on dating apps or texting guys. I just exclusively want to meet people in the real world, and that doesn't happen to me. But to answer your question, I don't care about how much he earns or how he looks. He just has to be taller than me; that's my one preference. Sooo I wouldn't ignore an average man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:00 PM
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Soooo I think I've got a unique perspective on this. I'm 5'11 and I used to be relatively buff. I was hitting the gym pretty often, just working on my abdomen and legs. After a year or so, I quit to focus on uni, and after going on some ADHD meds that suppressed my appetite, I became underweight. People looked at me differently when I was smaller. I noticed men opening more doors for me or calling me 'cute', which is still really fuckin' foreign to me. I noticed more glances in my direction as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:03 AM
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Men's expectations are very "one size fits all" in society. There's only one way to be an attractive man. Just buff enough, just tall enough, with the right complexion. Women are a lot more diverse with our bodies, and so there are a lot of different ways to look attractive. But at the same time, it's also more important for women to be attractive. It's engrained into us from birth - makeup, plastic surgery, anti-aging, dieting, botox, skin care, etc - you don't really see these advertisements t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:40 AM
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So I'm condescending, dismissive, pandering, and misogynistic for saying I like being around males. Keep on doing the lord's work here, my friend. Keep putting down other women online for their use of tone instead of criticising genuinely bad behaviour. You need introspection if you think telling me all of this going to benefit the world in any way. It's crazy to me that I can receive backlash for just saying "men are simple and I like that". Besides, I think I have my reasons for saying this - …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:57 AM
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I don't really think my behaviour is hurting him. We go halves on dates, I drive most of the time, give him head a lot, etc. He likes the way this is too. Sooo I think we'll be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:42 AM
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I didn't say anything negative about women. The only thing I said was that I perceive girl world as extremely complex. You know... because of my mental disorder... which makes me struggle with social cues. My bad? Like, c'mon, what do you want from me bro? 😭 You can't tell an Autistic person, "no, it's not what you said! It's how you came across!" Bestie, that's the one thing I fundamentally do not understand. And I've of course considered having internalised misogyny. I just don't see how I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:31 AM
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I feel like you ignored what I said entirely lol. I said "imagine if" as in "i realise this isn't the current reality for men but hypothetically what would happen if the roles were reversed?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:57 PM
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I feel like more women would actually say positive things about men if we didn't get called misogynistic or pick-mes for doing so 🥲 And yes... I've been called both...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:02 PM
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[FYI: I'm in a happy relationship. Not looking to get picked. Even if I was, I doubt I'd want to hunt for a man on a reddit forum. Sooo pls don't hate me for this] I really enjoy being around men. Love the energy. Love the vibes. My guy friends have very quick, humorous exchanges that instantly make my day better. My dad and brother have this instinct to immediately help out when someone is in danger - they recognise their duty to protect others and always act on it. It's a paternal trait that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:52 PM
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If you could sleep with the most gorgeous woman on Earth, you'd want to do it, right? Imagine if there were thousands of women at your disposal. All of them want to sleep with you. Some are a lot better looking than others, and hidden in the back is the most gorgeous person you've ever laid eyes on. Who are you going for first? If you had the selection hookup culture gives women, you would want the best of the best too. It's human nature to want the most of your options when you're spoiled with …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:31 PM
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Who hurt you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:17 PM
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I've been on dating apps. There are a lot of men that do, haha. Though I guess it's more common with women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:44 AM
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So it's worse for a woman to do it because it implies that the money she's spending isn't her own, but her boyfriend's? And a woman who travels a lot is bad news because her lover will need to fund that habit? That's reasonable enough. I can understand why a man wouldn't want to be with someone with a price tag. I just didn't think that was a main issue, since it was a bit of a throwaway line in the original post
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:40 AM
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Can you elaborate further with examples? I just don't really see the connection between narcissism and travelling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:36 AM
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Mine's doing pretty well lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:32 AM
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You haven't explained yet why this is a negative trait especially in women. This red flag doesn't seem to be exclusive to one gender. If a man was to spend all his money on glamorous flights, seek out an escape from loved ones, and thus avoid his responsibilities, isn't that just as bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:31 AM
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If by "this kind of thing" you mean women desiring submissive men, you are mistaken. It's very common in female spaces to hear the desire for a golden retriever, whimpering puppy dog of a man. We don't need to rely on a man's strength or income much anymore, since we're also able to get jobs, buy houses, etc. The desire for a dominant man would've been a necessity a couple decades back, but nowadays, its lost some steam. A lot of women desire control, so we'll naturally want a man who likes to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 12:02 AM
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Yeah, I'm Christian and a virgin, I can just tell that I would want to take the lead if the opportunity presented itself
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 11:48 PM
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I 100% uncerstand why men prefer women with low body counts. The idea of being with a guy who's never been touched is so 🤭🥰 That's so hot (I might just think this because I'm a bit of a dom, so I'm not really looking for an experienced dude to take the lead 💀 But regardless there are living and breathing women who like virgin men)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:35 PM
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There are exceptions to every relationship dynamic. I once saw a trans guy on tiktok talk about how he chose to carry a baby so that his wife didn't have to lmao. But pregnant men in heterosexual relationships are rare, so we tend not to bring them up when discussing pregnancies. The fact that you had to show me evidence that a powerful 18 year old existed speaks to how rare it is. Most of the people in political power are men aged 30+. I don't need to elaborate on that since it's pretty well kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 05:00 AM
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So... you just narrowed this entire conversation down to one specific example? Anyway, there are different kinds of power. Legitimate power - Being an authority figure in a workplace or among a group Reward power - The ability to incentivise others Coercive power - The ability to punish others Expert power - Having abilities/skills Referent power - Having strong relationships and respect An 18 year old won't have legitimate or expert power, which a 40 year old will likely have based on their lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:50 AM
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I'm Australian, so no, it wasn't exactly intending to focus on US politics lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:09 PM
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My friend dated this guy last year, and when she showed me his photos, I thought he was pretty ugly. Didn't get it at all. They broke up, and I ended up working the same job with him. I get it now. He is charismatic and silly and fun, and even though his appearance hasn't changed, I have started to see him as attractive. I think this anecdote helps to describe how women's brains work in dating. When red pill guys say that all we want is a 10/10, 6'4, and six figure mate, I can't make sense of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:50 AM
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