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From what you wrote, no reason to be guilty. You were honest, didn't manipulate her into bed in any way. She's probably in a bad mindstate, but you can't force her to open up to you. Either way, I don't think you did anything wrong so don't feel bad man.
/r/seduction10/04/16 10:25 PM
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I don't see why not, just be prepared for the drama - it depends on their relations. I once dated a good friend's ex, he was cool with it - but they broke up on good terms, mutually agreeing it wasn't working out and actually stayed friends. I'd say it's a pretty rare occurence though - most exes usually aren't on good terms, unless it's been a really long time one side still misses the other and it's the guy most of the time. So if you wanna do it better be prepared for things to be awkward if …
/r/seduction08/04/16 03:32 PM
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Just out of my head, I'd say 10% at max ever heard of game, 1% are really putting work in learning it.
/r/seduction22/12/15 06:15 PM
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I mostly agree (I consider "looks don't matter" the biggest bullshit someone can tell you in this business), though I think looks are more like 30-40% at most. I think game is still more important - I consider myself very good looking and frequently hear it from people in general, yet I was a complete foreveralone before my game days. Couldn't talk to girls at all, failed to notice mass amounts of IOIs I'd get in highschool, looking back I could've easily get laid a lot. That's why I think every…
/r/seduction13/12/15 04:04 PM
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Teach your dog to attack on command Spot a girl you like Let your dog out on her Then save her. ??? Profit Just had to write that after I saw the title :D. But seriously, I'd probably open with "Your dog is so awesome, what breed is that?" and then just go from there
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:41 PM
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Looking at the title I thought it was another "I'm short/Indian/xxx" rant until I saw the last sentence. You are awesome!
/r/seduction08/12/15 05:41 PM
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Nobody says it doesn't work. But it is outdated (it is a difference, you could still destroy buildings with catapults but why if you can use bombs). Virtually all coaches teach the "modern school" as you call it now. The main problem with that oldschool kind was game it was outer only - dependent heavily on memorizing routines and almost exact things to say in each situation. If you master this style of game without ever working on your inner self - you're essentially faking confidence and value…
/r/seduction08/12/15 01:57 PM
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Just use PC mode on your phone browser, I personally hate the mobile reddit :P
/r/seduction07/12/15 10:32 PM
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Sidebar of this sub. Also this series of posts lays great foundation: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/11ng7n/above_the_game_intro_my_story_preview_of_my/ For actual books, Mark Manson - Models for an indepth look at how attraction works. Also, The Game by Neil Strauss is fun to read but treat it more as a novel (and a proof how a short bald guy can become a total pickup badass), few people still use techniques presented there. This is pretty much the core stuff, the rest is situation…
/r/seduction07/12/15 07:09 PM
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This is pretty much the polarization concept from Manson's Models. If literally everybody likes you, you're totally nonpolarizing and that pretty much means average. I, for instance, have a very dark sense of humor and love sarcasm, I'm also never afraid of saying what I think. This leads to some girls being straight offended (mostly ones who aren't the greatest at catching sarcasm) but guess what? The ones who get it, REALLY LOVE IT. And I'm totally good with that ;)
/r/seduction05/12/15 04:13 PM
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5'8 "very short"? That's like the low end of average. I'm 5'5 and even that I don't consider extremely short, I'll see at least a one guy shorter on most parties. If you really approach this much, you must have done thousands of approaches at this point. With this amount even a really clueless guy would find a girl who liked him and was available at this time through pure numbers game. I don't know what it is as there are no details in your post, but you must be doing something very very wrong. …
/r/seduction05/12/15 01:09 PM
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This right here. I agree confidence/game is probably the most important factor, but money and looks do matter as well. You can still do great if you don't have them, but a confident rich good looking guy will do better than a confident broke average guy any day. I hate when people say these do not matter at all.
/r/seduction03/12/15 09:16 PM
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Why the hell is this downvoted, are people that lazy now? This question was here time and time again and the answers are usually the same ("car", "move out" or "her place"). And I agree about the lack of info in this post - especially parents' schedule. I live at home as well though I'm planning to move out as soon as I get my degree next year. I just plan to bring girls when parents aren't home, simple as that. Also I don't know OPs living conditions so I don't judge, but if I were 26 and with …
/r/seduction30/11/15 11:57 AM
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The biggest player I know doesn't have a car and goes everywhere by bus with girls (wouldn't ever bother to pay for cabs). I'm pretty much the same. Cabs should be fine as well. So it shouldn't be a problem at all. Are you American by any chance? I'm just curious as you guys seem to make a big deal out of a car, isn't there good bus/subway communication in US?
/r/seduction19/11/15 07:29 PM
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Put on netflix, have some wine or a beer, show her a funny youtube video you saw, whatthefuckever... This "fun to do thing" is only supposed to be background noise while you escalate. No point in overthinking it.
/r/seduction18/11/15 11:57 PM
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Just leave it alone, it's way too dodgy as it is. Try Tinder or websites like POF (that depends much on your area)
/r/seduction09/11/15 11:16 PM
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What's interesting/unclear about it? Girls very rarely message first even the best looking guys, it's impossible you'd get 40 messages in a half hour without a single photo. And paying for "reading" them is the biggest red flag
/r/seduction09/11/15 11:08 PM
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No way it's not a scam. Leave and don't come back.
/r/seduction09/11/15 11:01 PM
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Basics are here: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3qasvo/practical_guide_to_dressing_for_meeting_women_and/ After that, check out various outfits he's suggesting and pick a one that's congrugent with you. For example, I love the edgy biker jacket look but I find the "smart" looks bland. It might be the opposite in your case, which is fine. Also, get a great hairstyle, it can totally change how your face is perceived. It's a good thing you thought about it, if your fashion is bad right…
/r/seduction09/11/15 09:03 PM
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In your last sentence you have answered your own question. Max out everything you can control and you still can be pretty damn attractive. Yes, you'll probably have to work harder than tall handsome guys and there are girls who only like 6 feet guys - but those are the cards you've been given. You can't change it so stop giving a shit, focus on the rest. Also you didn't mention style - it can make a HUGE difference. When I had shitty baggy clothes and a bad hairstyle I was totally invisible to g…
/r/seduction07/11/15 05:33 PM
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I won't say that. Some people here will push you to approach, but I firmly believe that you should deal with your social anxiety before attempting any pickup stuff. If you've got general social anxiety approaching will only make matters worse, in the beginning it's hard even for otherwise confident guys. Just forget about it for now, get your anxiety sorted out, whatever it takes.
/r/seduction05/11/15 11:49 PM
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Yeah, that was a typo, just corrected it ;)
/r/seduction04/11/15 06:22 PM
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Newsflash: many guys are shy too. He was just nervous when you took off your shirt. And now that you told him he should go, HE thinks he's the one rejected. If he's this kind of guy you need to be pretty blatant you like him. Just have a honest talk with him.
/r/seduction04/11/15 06:19 PM
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OnlineBootyCall? First time I hear of it. I wouldn't use it - it seems kinda shady, but even if it is a legit booty call website, girls will expect you to be confident, especially in bed, which as a virgin you'd probably have problems with. I'd stay with Tinder, OkCupid, POF. Now for the actual advice - online dating boils down pretty much to two factors: photos and hitting the numbers. You need to have really good photos, fortunately most guys don't know what are they doing, you can very easily…
/r/seduction03/11/15 10:28 PM
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Height is just a part of a huge picture. What you need to do is stop giving a shit about it - you can't change it, so why think about it so much? Look the best you can and learn game like we all do. Yes, you are at a disadvantage with a taller guy with looks equal to yours, but most men don't know how to groom and dress well and are too scared to approach any girl. You can outdo vast majority of guys in this areas. Also one glance at your account tells that you're pretty hung on the height issue…
/r/seduction01/11/15 06:41 PM
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I don't share that point as well. Right now I train krav maga and it makes me more confident than any other activity I ever did. Some people still prefer to lift over anything else - to each his own. I think the general point is to do any sort of physical activity, as most people are couch potatoes nowadays. Also, even though it isn't my thing, I can't deny lifting gives you a great body - even though my trainings are brutal and I've got quite a lot of endurance and a toned body, I hardly gain a…
/r/seduction01/11/15 04:09 PM
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I'll actually say the same - not this shit again. If you want to "approach, approach, approach", fine, but some people do well with online dating. He wrote a decent guide, if you don't do online just don't use it, I'm sick of seeing another version of this same "omg just go approach" comment in an every single online dating post.
/r/seduction31/10/15 03:33 PM
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A question for you, if you have time: in your opinion, would most of these outfits work if you swapped skinny jeans for slim? I actually wore skinny jeans for years but recently changed them to slims, as I'm short and have lean legs, I just came to the conclusion I look too feminine in skinnies. I feel much better in slims. But yeah, the question stands, as skinny jeans certainly give a big part of that edgy rocker vibe. Thanks in advance ;)
/r/seduction29/10/15 03:30 PM
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This is like a guide to game in a nutshell. Clear steps, no theories that will only make you overanalyze everything. Awesome work!
/r/seduction25/10/15 11:42 PM
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In this case: "Whatever you say, man" in a totally sarcasm-dripping tone. And then stop talking to him if it's possible. You just can not get through skulls of people like that, it's simply a waste of energy trying to prove a point to them.
/r/seduction16/10/15 12:57 AM
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Yeah I'm from Europe, 300k city, should've mentioned that. I always did it outside so those are cool indoors suggestions for me, thanks :)
/r/seduction11/10/15 03:47 PM
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Because you won, the challenge is gone. Exactly the same reason women lose interest when men go all nice guy on them.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:53 PM
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Yeah, we don't know the sex frequency part. But still, they had an average number of partners. So this should be a statement to the "I'm fucked because I'm 5'8, I'll be alone forever, why should I even try" guy. And for quality/quantity - there are a lot of tall guys with not the most attractive chicks as well. I myself go for girls that would be considered quality by most guys, so I know it's possible (as long as you don't let your height define you, that is).
/r/seduction05/10/15 10:56 AM
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Hope this speaks to any shorter guys that blame everything on their height. Yes, a guy with looks and game equal to yours but taller will have it easier, but you can outdo literally 90% of guys by working on these areas. I also used to know a guy who couldn't be taller than 5'3 but got girls because he was ripped and gave zero fucks. And I'm 5'5 myself. So fellow short guys, drop this excuse and go for it!
/r/seduction04/10/15 09:57 PM
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Haunts, no. But I still sometimes think back to highschool and how I'd like to play it out differently - girls were basically throwing themselves at me but I finished it as a kissless virgin because I was the absolutely worst fucking clueless chump and the only sign I would notice would be a girl forcefully jumping on my dick. Had I gone for it it probably would make me really confident entering college and I wouldn't have to learn game the hard way. Still, as I said, it doesn't haunt me, I just…
/r/seduction04/10/15 09:37 PM
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This right here, the smirk is the key. The keyword here is also controlled: it's okay to laugh at something hilarious but don't grin and laugh at everything like it's the funniest thing you ever heard (ever see Bond do that?), this comes across as submissive.
/r/seduction04/10/15 01:03 PM
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Yeah, only total hoes go to parties. Good girls only stay home and read books all the time... /s Yes, on every party you'll meet some "hoes" as you call it, but there's a fair share of normal cool girls that just want to have some weekend fun. It's pretty easy to tell them apart by clothing and behaviour. For actual place, I think college bars and clubs are your best bet, especially clubs with this house-party feel as opposed to megaclubs.
/r/seduction03/10/15 03:41 PM
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Touch is big. One brush could have been an accident, but multiple definitely aren't. Go for it.
/r/seduction14/09/15 12:56 PM
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I absolutely agree. That is the biggest pro of approaching: if you have good personality, you can present it right away. It doesn't matter online. But with enough effort in making your photos great (most guys have terrible ones, so you can really shine here even if you don't naturally look that great) and hitting the numbers (unfortunately a big part of online), I believe most guys can find a cute girl. But it's still easier and less overwhelming when you're a beginner with no sense of entitleme…
/r/seduction11/09/15 11:21 PM
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Congratulations! And I think it brings an interesting point about Tinder/online dating. It seems frowned upon in this sub, but I actually think this is the easiest way for an inexperienced guy. As Good Looking Loser says (really legit guy IMO) - if you're virgin/inexperienced, get laid a few times from online dates, then start cold approaching as your confidence gets built up. Else, you're likely to get discouraged very fast.
/r/seduction11/09/15 06:26 PM
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I'll trade your height for my 5'5 any moment you want :D. Seriously though, it's nothing but an advantage. For most girls the perfect height seems to be 6'0-6'3, I wouldn't say that inch hurts you and it's definitely better than being on the shorter side. About your looks and style: it's hard for me to actually rate you as a guy but you definitely look like a cool bro I'd like to have a beer with. I'd go for a short fade haircut, unfortunately your curly hair limits your options here but the one…
/r/seduction25/08/15 08:46 PM
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I don't feel the daygame model is the problem here. The guy himself is the problem. He doesn't even follow it properly (the opener there is never a simple "hi") and he uses canned observations even though you're supposed to make them yourself. I think this is rather a good example of losing your humanity while learning pickup and becoming a robot - no wonder he's so ineffective. But I agree with the overall message - it's supposed to be fun and you need to actually want to connect with all these…
/r/seduction25/08/15 04:10 PM
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Most guys are pussies and won't approach, it's that simple. Your resting bitch face makes it even worse cause you're additionally intimidating to them. You may give them hints - eye contact, smile, being really close to them, "accidentally" touching them, et cetera. It still won't be enough for majority but may encourage a few ones to approach. Aside from that you can try being really forward or try Tinder - as a girl you'll get a lot of matches by swiping just a while few times per day and some…
/r/seduction23/08/15 02:22 PM
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This is actually a good question. "What's up" isn't good - when someone I haven't seen in months or years writes to me like that, in 90% of cases they want something from me and it's a poor attempt to initially mask it - so this immediately puts me on guard. I think you should have an excuse for the initial message - something like "Hey how it's going. If I remember correctly you were good with xxx? Because I need an opinion on yyy". Asking people to help you is a great way to open them up in ge…
/r/seduction22/08/15 05:14 PM
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First off, no one can sense if you're a virgin if you don't give a shit about it. No one ever suspected I was one back in the day, because aside from my lack of game I was a total party animal and I didn't give a shit about anything. If you want to lose it, you need to meet new girls and find one that you'll eventually click with. It would be the best if you can somehow meet them naturally, like through your work or hobby. If you can't, clubs and online dating. You'll be anxious, especially in r…
/r/seduction20/08/15 09:42 PM
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We tend to discredit this advice because most women say shit along the lines of "just be nice and yourself, there's someone there for you". Your advice is great ;)
/r/seduction20/08/15 09:19 PM
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I'm 5'5. Height does matter, but it's not the only thing. It's just a piece of the great jigsaw of being attractive. You can make up for it with style, being fit and primarily good game and confidence. Most guys are taller but put zero effort in their appearance and have no game or confidence so you can still be better than most of them in any room you'll enter. Also I think it matters where are you from - I heard much stories about being at big disadvantage if you're short in US, while I'm from…
/r/seduction19/08/15 03:28 PM
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Enjoy yourself. Approaching: get eye contact from her and start to dance with her, start escalating. That's it. You don't need to be a great dancer, being able to move to the rhythm is enough. And here are some cool specific moves you can use: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHG6YVaLIFQ
/r/seduction16/08/15 05:56 PM
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Wow, recovering from a spine injury after a year? That's crazy. And about the seduction part: I'm not godlike looking, I'm not rich or anything. I just take care of myself, I'm considered good looking (but again, nothing godlike I think). I don't believe there are some crazy game tricks that suddenly make the girls wet on you. Maybe I'm lucky, who knows. But I think for the most part is the fact that I acknowledge my weaknesses and work to adapt. I consider height to be a part of a huge attracti…
/r/seduction12/08/15 10:19 PM
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I'm 5'5 in Europe and I've got no problems. Maybe actually stop giving a shit and go out instead of spreading your bitterness upon others? All your posts are "short=incel/omega". Height isn't your biggest issue, your mindset is
/r/seduction12/08/15 09:35 PM
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Bond movies. Especially with Daniel Craig.
/r/seduction11/08/15 03:21 PM
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Oh yes. Back in high school, I looked bad - a little bit overweight, TERRIBLE hairstyle and baggy clothes. No girl would look at me (and I don't blame them). But after I got this figured out, everything changes. Not only eyefucks from girls, people are more helpful and open to you in general. "Looks don't matter" is bullshit - looking good helps you in everything. And being fit and having good style turned many average guys into hot ones, so you can change more than you think.
/r/seduction06/08/15 09:48 AM
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Like it or not, I'd call it a negative thing. If I saw you on the street, I'd immediately think you're a hardcore D&D player. And that's a very unsexy stereotype. I know it's wrong (I'm a programmer and we fall under the same stereotype, everyone is surprised when I tell it, like WTF I don't have baggy clothes and a greasy ponytail), but that's just how people think. A change of image would make you more attractive to women in general but I don't think it would hurt your chances with nerdy girls…
/r/seduction01/08/15 02:34 PM
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If you consider your build a problem, start fixing it - hit the gym, start eating a lot (don't understate it, especially with your body type). You'll never know if your genetics are such a problem if you don't even try. Maybe you won't get huge, but you definitely can gain enough mass to stop looking "like a child" if you dedicate yourself to it.
/r/seduction01/08/15 11:58 AM
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It's been said a lot here but you definitely need to lose weight. You don't need to be ripped, but get down to about 15% bodyfat. This will make a big impact on your face as well. Change your hairstyle as well - your current one kinda gives a nerdy vibe. Find a good hairstylist (ask a friend with great hair) and talk with him about it, but I think you would look good with short sides and a bit longer at the top (even with your cowlicks I think it will still look way better). Also, your style - t…
/r/seduction01/08/15 11:31 AM
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This is more like a transcript, nice job. I like how SHIFT tackles the problem of motivation and taking action, a rare thing in all the products. Too bad it's so damn expensive.
/r/seduction30/07/15 02:24 PM
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"Obsolete" doesn't mean that something ceases to work - it means that it's not worth using when there are better new solutions available. That's exactly how I think about Mystery Method - along with The Game it caused PUA to go mainstream and a lot of people started practicing it. Mark Manson himself was a hardcore typical PUA before he changed his mindset and wrote Models, which I think is a lot simpler and natural way to be attractive. Also most seduction coaches turned this way, I don't know …
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:11 PM
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I didn't catch you meant groups, my bad. To be honest, I rarely bother with them - I'll somehow usually meet a lone girl I like when going out. But I think the same principles apply, except it's harder especially when the group is big (you're kinda invading their space, especially when they don't really look to meet anyone new, with big mixed groups in bars this is often the case). You definitely need good conversation skill. It's best to do it with a wingman, if you don't have one - again, just…
/r/seduction26/07/15 05:32 PM
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There is no "magic trick". Most of us had approach anxiety - the only real way is just to grit your teeth and just do it. It's not easy, but that's why most guys suck with women, you need to be better than most of them. I wouldn't buy it - maybe those magic tricks would help you with your anxiety but you know what the problem is? With this kind of openers you immediately fall into entertainer role, making a transition to a sexual guy role is harder than you think. That was the whole concept of M…
/r/seduction26/07/15 04:42 PM
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It's always like this - only guys who also studied game will understand you. Naturals usually think it's stupid to learn theory instead of just "being confident", chodes think it's creepy ("OMG, approaching random girls YOU DON'T KNOW?! YOU'RE MAD")/useless/even mysogynic if they went white knights. Even if they have GFs they're not happy with (but won't leave them cause they won't find new ones) or no sex at all. Altough I've got two friends I've got into game, most would probably shun me as we…
/r/seduction20/07/15 08:41 PM
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I'm 5'5 so I'm with you. First of all, very fitted clothes. It can really make wonders to make you look taller. Especially jeans - only low rise, slim or skinny ones. It makes your legs look longer and you way taller. I don't recommend insoles - you'll still be shorter than most guys unless you take like 5 inches ones, but then it will be really awkward when you take your shoes off. You also want to stand out with your style - check out sexystyleforjoe.com for that. You also must be fit - you do…
/r/seduction14/07/15 09:35 PM
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Hmm, maybe it's your dress sense? Not saying it's bad but it does sound quite mature. I'd try a more relaxed/youthful style and see what happens.
/r/seduction07/07/15 12:58 AM
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The core of your problem is not being able to approach. I once wrote a post about it here. TLDR: it's a great thing you improved yourself but you need to approach if you hope to have any success, girls opening you are way too rare to have any good rate. I'd start with nightclubs: you said you feel like you're interrupting, well in nightclubs girls are expecting to be approached, so there goes your excuse. As for the opener, don't bother with inventing some canned ones: say what's on your mind, b…
/r/seduction03/07/15 12:25 PM
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This is just great. Style/fashion is an extremely underrated element - it's the fastest way you can go from (below)average to sexy. Yes, physique is more important but it takes time. And it won't substitute game but good looks will make it a lot easier to get some initial attraction, in rarer cases even girls opening you. No girl would look at me when I dressed bad, even average. But when I really got my shit together in this area, eyefucks all the time. Some people who last saw me in terrible l…
/r/seduction01/07/15 03:15 PM
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Strongly disagreed. I knew many good looking guys who couldn't get laid because they were so clueless and unconfident. Especially in highschool: I dare say that a not bad looking confident douchebag gets laid a lot more than a hot shy guy. Yes, looks are a big factor, but your behavior, or game if you will is equally important. If that wasn't the case, guys like Tyler or Todd from RSD could never get laid, they are far from being conventionally good looking. But they do, just watch some infields…
/r/seduction15/06/15 09:44 PM
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This is true. The only lone girls left at like 3AM are the ones really wanting a guy. It's extremely likely they will be receptive or downright DTF if you're at least a bit above average looking. So I agree this is the EASIEST way, but not the most EFFECTIVE one, as you kinda leave things to luck and you're forced to wait long into the night (but this is said in the article as well). IMO the best way to use it: when you go out it's best to always approach as you usually would, but if you don't g…
/r/seduction15/06/15 12:08 AM
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It is, in my opinion. Think about it, why couldn't you approach when you already know they like you? Because it's still not normal for you. This is approach anxiety at it's core: fear of leaving your comfort zone. Most people define it as fear of rejection, but it's not the same thing - in my case since in my city you see a hot girl around every corner I always had abundance mentality and couldn't give a shit if I got rejected, yet I still was afraid of approaching and couldn't really explain wh…
/r/seduction10/06/15 07:20 PM
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I used to be the same. I wouldn't approach when exact same things would happen. There is only one way to overcome it: say FUCK IT and introduce yourself. This is typical approach anxiety: even though logically you shouldn't be afraid because you know they like you, you pussy out because it's something new, you step outside your comfort zone. So just say FUCK IT, go in right away and say something before your mind generates excuses and go from there. As I said I've been there so I know, you just …
/r/seduction10/06/15 05:44 PM
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Why the hell not? I don't get the hate on video games. In my eyes it's no different than watching TV, better even, you actually do something instead of mindlessly sitting and staring. Just don't let them interfere with the rest of your life (aka. playing WoW hours a day), only play them in time for relaxation. I play a lot of games when I'm not going out with nothing else to do (but never sacrifice going out for games, only when I can't/too tired after a heavy week/whatever) and I can't see them…
/r/seduction09/06/15 09:48 PM
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This is very true. Back when I had AA that usually caused me to pussy out, there was this very hot girl eyefucking me at the bar. Of course, I didn't approach. Weeks later, she's at the same bar with a guy, all over eachother. He was definitely not as good looking as me, so if I only approached back then, it probably would be me in his place. This was my greatest motivator in fighting AA, because it really felt like shit. Just promise yourself you'll never allow it again.
/r/seduction07/06/15 09:26 PM
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This is golden. Just goes to show how there isn't one best style of game. I do almost pure buying temperature because I'm cocky and sarcastic by nature, yet other guys use all the different styles and succeed. Great post.
/r/seduction31/05/15 02:01 PM
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I am in pretty much the same situation. I live in suburbs 40 mins from the city centre - there are no bars I could bounce from either. So it's pretty much impossible for me to pull the "hey I live 2 blocks away, let's have a little afterparty" type lay. I'll probably live closer to the centre in a year or two. But I don't give up game, I still go out and try to get lays the dating way. Just think about it that way - when you finally have a place with good logistics, you'll be able to get to work…
/r/seduction27/05/15 05:50 PM
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It's good for your health, you'll feel better as well. But it's not a magic bullet. While being well built is definitely attractive, every time I go out I'll see some very swole guys doing the typical AFC thing - standing by the wall with a beer and commenting on girls with their bros, yet not a single one will approach. And somehow women don't throw themselves over them. So muscles give you some points but won't cover up nonexistent game. That being said, I think it would be good for you to gai…
/r/seduction26/05/15 08:56 PM
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Weird phrased question, but it you mean the first PUAs, they did it by trial and error. Mystery who pretty much is the cause this industry exists would go out endlessly and do everything by trial and error until he figured out the system. No. It's all formed by your envinronment. Most "naturals" I know simply got lucky with a girl at a very young age and that gave them confidence. Hard to say. I think the biggest mainstream company is RSD but there are loads of smaller ones with different game s…
/r/seduction23/05/15 11:14 PM
2

You aren't manipulating them. If she doesn't like you she won't hook up, simple as that.
/r/seduction23/05/15 02:05 PM
3

Other RSD guys. I love Julien's stuff like you do, but also Todd's and Max's as well. Also, Johnny Berba for daygame.
/r/seduction23/05/15 12:14 PM
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Yes, I never was in Asia but everybody says that. Supposedly in Thailand if you're a white guy it's like you were Brad Pitt in the US. But that's not the point here. Even if he pulled those girls, all it took was one offended woman with a Twitter account to pull whole world on his head. So even if it's true, in this business you need to be careful what you show and say.
/r/seduction22/05/15 12:46 PM
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Some infields from Japan. They got deleted a long time ago. He was escalating really hard right from the start and said that "as a white guy in Japan you can do anything". This led to all this shit and him getting banned from UK and Australia. I can't blame him for toning down now, any guy with a sane mind would do that. Besides I bet he still does it, they just don't record it.
/r/seduction22/05/15 11:17 AM
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This is why you shouldn't even think about girls in your workplace - don't shit where you eat. Besides the standard cure for oneitis, that is going out and picking up different girls, there isn't much you can do now. Just try to focus your thoughts elsewere.
/r/seduction20/05/15 04:50 PM
1

Use this pain. Next time you go out, think how shitty you will feel again if you don't approach. Even if every single girl rejects you, you at least tried and should be proud of it. But if you don't try, you have no chance of gaining anything and the regret will be killing you again.
/r/seduction16/05/15 03:34 PM
4

Due to some circumstances and a lot of luck, I have recently earned a lot of money, especially for an university student. Basically more than my friends will make in months of their part time jobs. There was also a period when I was quite broke and everything in between. And how did impact my game? It didn't at all. I didn't go and blow thousands on new clothes nor did I start to buy shots for everyone at bars. It simply doesn't show that much. It didn't show when I wasn't well off either - havi…
/r/seduction14/05/15 08:00 PM
1

THIS. Some facial structures look good with beards, some don't, you need to find it out for yourself, end of topic.
/r/seduction13/05/15 11:42 PM
2

Uhh, because she looks at YOU, not at HIM, and he's a cool guy who thinks that he will at least help you out when he sees that? So approach, he's doing you a huge favour. You probably don't realize how cool is that but I wish guys at my country were like that. I've never had a random guy tell me that, only friends/wingmen. So don't think and go for it, she likes you if she was staring at you and by not going you just miss a good opportunity, as well as make that guy's very cool deed go to waste
/r/seduction13/05/15 09:48 PM
1

From my experience? Jack off when you feel like it. Just don't do it out of boredom - "meh, it's evening, I'm bored and at home, let's fap". Only when you feel the need. Fapping is a controversial topic here. Many people claim it's needed for motivation to go out and suggest total nofap. In my case, I can only find motivation in my internal state as a whole. If I got a period of stress, bad mood or whatever and I don't feel like going out, not fapping doesn't change anything, it will just make m…
/r/seduction11/05/15 08:00 PM
2

This is very great and true. Just look at people around you. Most of the unemployed ones bitch and whine about the government causing unemployment and they applied for like one workplace. Same goes for girls - most of guys who whine about girls only liking 6'2 Mariano di Vaio lookalikes never approached one, they expect them to jump into their arms. You can be better than 95% of people in every area of your life - you just need to work for it, something that they aren't able to do.
/r/seduction09/05/15 12:00 PM
1

Write at least a short report of your night at the club. We cannot help you if all the info you give is basically "girls don't like me". How many did you approach? How exactly did they reject you, and after what time of interaction? And for the record, I'm 5'6. I may have a quite good looking face, but my height is a disadvantage, if you're "not bad-looking" and tall you're probably overall better off than myself. Yet I still pull even if I have to work harder than most guys. One answer to every…
/r/seduction09/05/15 11:30 AM
1

It varies from person to person. In my case, going from average style and hairstyle to a good, standing out one made an absolutely crazy difference. If I judged it by numbers I'd say I went from a 4 to 7-8. But then again, some of my friends go out in decent but average clothes and are attractive as well. So I may just have very clothes dependent looks while other guys don't. Overall, it may have a bigger or smaller impact in your case but in my opinion it's always good to stand out with your st…
/r/seduction08/05/15 11:16 PM
3

Precisely. Being helpful but putting yourself first is the key. The best example I can give are exams in school. I'll always try to help people sitting next to me but if there's no time or it's too risky, I won't. And if they fail they will more often that not be butthurt about it (when you start to say "no" you will see how many people expect you to handle their shit for them), but I don't give a fuck. I'd help if I could but I couldn't, you should've studied more and relied on yourself, end of…
/r/seduction06/05/15 05:59 PM
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It's simple. Typical nice guys are nice because they expect people and girls to like them for it. It's not the same if you're nice because you actually want to - people sense it, it gives a totally different vibe. Also even if you like being kind and helping people, don't be a pushover. My general rule is not to do things that they can easily do by themselves. If you genuinely want to help them with a hard task go right ahead, but don't be afraid to say "no" if they want to use you out of their …
/r/seduction06/05/15 05:41 PM
1

The Game started it all and it's fun to read, but it's more like a novel than a guide. It's also obviously very oldschool PUA game, which is now considered obsolete by many people. So you can read it if you want to know how seduction community looked back in the day, but not really like a guide. I just got up so my mind is still kinda blank, but one book I remember even now is Models by Mark Manson. It's a long read, but it'll teach you everything you need to know about how attraction works
/r/seduction06/05/15 12:32 PM
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You can get laid with online dating, but it's a BRUTAL numbers game, especially if you're not well above average looks. 40 opens would be a lot in reality but it isn't much online. You need to message as much as you can every day to get success. Can't say anything about POF and OkCupid since nobody uses them in my country. I didn't try Badoo myself but there's been a lot of complaints about unspoken costs, so I'd be wary with it. There's also Tinder that quite a few people seemed to get lays wit…
/r/seduction28/04/15 04:08 PM
1

Same night lay doesn't equal one night stand. You can get a fuck buddy or even a relationship following it, the most important thing is you skip the whole dating process where many things can go wrong, flaking mainly. But I assumed you're 20-25 and now that you mentioned that you're 30 - I'd definitely try to go to her place when sex is about to happen. I don't know your life situation so I don't judge you, but unfortunately a 30 year old living with parents can definitely be a turn-off for many…
/r/seduction28/04/15 02:53 PM
1

Yep. It is a disadvantage but it shouldn't stop you. Where I come from, it's pretty much impossible to live by yourself without a full time job, so almost all people in university live at home. Yet somehow they have sex. It will be hard for you to pull same night lays, but taking her for some dates and finally going to her place or yours when your parents leave - totally doable.
/r/seduction27/04/15 10:59 PM
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Most of us were in this situation. My approach anxiety used to be extreme and I won't forget what opportunities I missed when all I had to do was talk to the damn hot girl eyefucking me. What finally worked was using this pain as a motivator. Next time you're afraid too approach, think of feeling like shit again when you pussy out. If she rejects you, it doesn't even matter, at least you had the balls to try. But if you don't even try, regret will be killing you again. This mindset is what make …
/r/seduction26/04/15 11:37 AM
2

"I see attractive, vibrant women all around me, and the only ones I ever attract/sleep with are the reasonably pretty but insecure ones who are looking for a good shag and a confidence boost" This sounds like a classic example of attracting them with your looks only, not as a person. While looks are important, this is what happens when you don't have good emotional connection with them. You've read Models, so review the sections on how to be more fascinating and have better connections with peop…
/r/seduction26/04/15 11:31 AM
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Awesome. Most girls go to the dancefloor expecting to be picked up, period, even if they say they just wanna have some fun. So hit it hard!
/r/seduction25/04/15 04:18 PM
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Agreed. I don't get all the hate on online game. Ideally it should be a passive supplement to usual game, but if you only use it and get the results you want then I can't see anything wrong with it.
/r/seduction25/04/15 12:49 PM
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Fuck that guy. Pulling your wing who's making out away, seriously?! If YOU like a girl that's the only thing that matters. Maybe he even was jealous. You made him go away anyway, I would simply not go out with him again
/r/seduction24/04/15 08:41 PM
2

You're doing a lot of things right, especially telling what's on your mind and paying attention to your pros and cons. Also, when you feel like you're approaching for sake of approaching, just approach the girls you like, because you want to meet them, right? Very good work, keep it up
/r/seduction24/04/15 07:05 PM
1

While I agree the inner game is much more important, outer/approaching is still needed. If we're going to use your analogy, talent is just a multiplier of your learning speed. Take learning maths for example. You may soak everything like a sponge, yet you still need to solve at least a few problems to be ready for the test. Trying to solve them only from theoretical knowledge without never doing them earlier usually doesn't end good. The same applies here: I actually always had pretty good inner…
/r/seduction23/04/15 03:01 PM
1

Well, as I said, my AA was extreme. None of the posts here helped me with it, I would still freeze up. What worked for me was telling girls something I genuinely wanted to say. One example I somehow remember the most: I was getting something at a store, and the cashier had very cool tattoos on her forearms. At that time I was wanting to get more of them myself so I was curious, she was quite good looking as well. So I said I liked them and asked where she got them. And that became my opening phi…
/r/seduction23/04/15 02:38 PM
1

Well, maybe you took my words out of context because I agree with everything you wrote. I probably meant forcing yourself to approach in a different way you thought, so let me elaborate. The way you described is what is worst with oldschool PUA - robotic, countless approaches with same canned lines. And by this way you put them on pedestal the most. Nowadays when I tell some girl a compliment is because I mean it, not because I feel it's needed to get in her pants. So good inner game is definite…
/r/seduction23/04/15 02:16 PM
2

My lower body is pretty much always the same - black skinny jeans and boots or hi-tops. For the rest, now when it's warm I've got two outfits for most of the time. For everyday stuff or just grabbing a beer with friends, black or white v-neck and a leather biker jacket. And aviators whenever I'm outside at day (as cool as they look, it's tryhard to wear them indoors or at night). And when I go out to clubs - a white slim fitting dress shirt. Simple as that. In my area all guys have either plaid …
/r/seduction14/04/15 02:13 PM
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Hey, that's nice of you, but I do consider myself quite short. Maybe not "ridiculously short" as I know some guys who are like 5'2 (and one of them is super ripped and pulls more than I or most other guys do), but most of guys my age are all 5'11 or more so in comparison, I am short. Still, as I said... I don't give a fuck. That's just one of the cards my life dealt to me but I make up for it with all the things I can actually control ;)
/r/seduction12/04/15 11:33 AM
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Me either, but if it's supposed to be a pun, nice job XD
/r/seduction12/04/15 12:09 AM
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I'm 5'5 and all good here. It's because I put effort in myself like OP described and more importantly, I don't give a flying fuck about my height. Sure some girls will reject you based on that but fuck them, you've got hundreds of other ones who won't care.
/r/seduction11/04/15 11:06 PM
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http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/picking-up-women/2-socially-acceptable-ways-to-ask-a-chick-to-sleep-with-you Everything you need to know about this topic.
/r/seduction11/04/15 04:14 PM
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You approached, you're better than most guys on this planet already. Don't feel too bad about bombing it, you'll bomb a lot more of them. Just keep at it, you will get better! Also, before asking for number try to have a longer conversation. It should be the last thing you do during the whole interaction.
/r/seduction11/04/15 12:02 PM
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I'm on my mobile so I'll keep it short for now: EYE CONTACT. If she looks at you longer than most people you walk by, assume she's attracted and hit it. If you're at a club or bar, she sits there and shoots repeated glances or just blatantly stares - put on your smile and approach!
/r/seduction11/04/15 12:49 AM
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I get you exactly, I have the same "all in or nothing" personality. When exams are coming, I don't even think of going out, but then again I'm the typical jackass who will do nothing at all and then ingest the whole semester through the weekend before the exam and somehow get a good grade. If I wanted to connect the two I guess I'd study for a few hours right after school and then go out in the evening, it's all about time organization.
/r/seduction10/04/15 04:49 PM
2

Disagreed. Status might help very much and may be even required for some very high value girls but it isn't necessary in general. If that was true, daygame would have no right to exist (what status do you have as some creepy guy complimenting her on the street?) and only promoters and bouncers would get laid in clubs (but a lot of average partygoers do as well). EDIT: Uh, might have misinterpreted here. I instantly thought about social status, or did you mean material/money status?
/r/seduction10/04/15 03:46 PM
1

I don't know which one is that either, but I do know it works. Good clothes and hairstyle changed me from unfuckable below-average guy to being eyefucked and sometimes opened all the time, that's all I need to know :)
/r/seduction10/04/15 03:38 PM
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If she was interested she would give you her number, "really bad at answering phone" seems like a very bullshit excuse. I'd move on if I were you.
/r/seduction10/04/15 03:19 PM
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Don't you have buses to move around? My good friend hasn't got a car and he's the best natural I know, goes to dates and brings girls to his home by bus (or cab if it's late at night, but still he rarely does it) all the time.
/r/seduction08/04/15 11:49 PM
1

I got this sometimes. To be honest, I don't know why it happens exactly - I definitely don't look like some bitch boy, my best guess is that guys in my area all look the same (checkered shirts, straight jeans, some generic haircut) and I put much effort into my looks so I stand out like a sore thumb - gay guys usually look good as well. But I do know how to deal with it - just treat it as an IOI. She might be opening you in a teasing way. I usually tease her back with something that will come to…
/r/seduction08/04/15 11:33 PM
2

I think those are the most important things in game here. Most people learning from typical PUA sources will know about points 1 and 4, but not 2 and 3. Yes, looks are goddamn important despite what many PUAs like to say. When I wore jeans and nikes I was invisible to women, now I'm constantly eyefucked. And I struggled a lot because of reading too much material, I would think about every word I told. A big turning point for me in this matter was discovering goodlookingloser.com and his infield …
/r/seduction08/04/15 06:17 PM
3

By a quick glance at your account, you seem to have some issues. Get them fixed, forget about pickup for the moment. Even a typical bad mood can be ruining for game, so your situation will probably kill it. When everything is good, then start. Read the sidebar, some top posts and go out, there's no other way. And don't expect it to be easy, it's a long and hard road for everyone.
/r/seduction07/04/15 04:29 PM
1

Your age isn't a problem. Good Looking Loser (check out his stuff btw, along with Models it made the biggest change in my mindset) is 30-something and gets new, usually young girls all the time. This isn't to say you need to do the same, it's okay to look for a relationship if you want it, this is just to prove that you're definitely not too old. One thing I can say is that appearance really matters. You don't need to be ripped but if you're visibly overweight, lose it. Get some clothes that fit…
/r/seduction04/04/15 12:23 PM
2

The standard tactic is to befriend the guys and it often works wonders, but as everything it's not 100%. If you encounter hardcore white knights, they'll often do everything in their power to cockblock you. It's one of the things I hate the most, but what can you do, shit happens.
/r/seduction30/03/15 09:27 PM
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Not worth it. Find some safe clubs or run other venues, daytime if it's needed. No girl is worth getting your neck broken on stairs.
/r/seduction22/03/15 08:55 PM
3

In that context I agree. If you like a girl by all means approach her. I meant that when you're in a big club, IOIs help find easier targets when there are already a lot of good looking girls
/r/seduction22/03/15 08:52 PM
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That not everyone likes to spam approach. I much more prefer sniping, that is looking for IOIs first. Less approaches but much bigger success rate. But to each his own, if that's how you roll
/r/seduction21/03/15 11:35 PM
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She may simply not dig you. There is no way to be universally attractive to all women. Some may like guys in suits while others like bikers with tattoos and so on. You simply cannot appeal to everyone.
/r/seduction12/03/15 01:51 PM
2

It's very rare for women to full-on approach guys. Don't know where you live but I've got a friend who's tall, jacked and has Zac Efron-like face and not even once I've seen any girl open him. Yes, a lot of them are eyefucking him but not approaching. So you should get comfortable with this thought. Eye contact is usually the most they will give you if they like you, a few will make a comment on your clothes or something like that, but rarely anything more. It's socially programmed that the man …
/r/seduction02/03/15 11:58 PM
1

There is a single problem with this post: most guys take this kind of advice the wrong way. I agree the ultimate level of game is being able to attract girls by being 100% yourself, without any routines or lines. But 90% of guys will take this the wrong way and combined with their neediness they'll turn into orbiters. So most guys actually need to learn how to be themselves the proper way. Models by Manson is a good resource on that. And game stuff can actually be a good crutch until you reach c…
/r/seduction26/02/15 08:51 PM
2

If this is your outfit for going out, you definitely need to up it. You're not bad looking, you just look too much like a plain nice guy. I'd definitely get a different hairstyle and better clothes. For me personally, change of style did a HUGE difference even though it might seem superficial. Find a good hairstylist and let him give you something great. For clothes, I'd start with getting a good tailored shirt, fitting slim jeans and some good looking shoes. After that, experiment with fashion …
/r/seduction15/02/15 11:02 PM
1

I've only started it but already like the fact there's a lot about conversation. That's my main sticking point, I often stall out after a while, I've got most of my successes on the dancefloor where there's little talking, so I hope it will help. Thank you very much!
/r/seduction15/02/15 09:27 PM
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I'll agree with this. The fact that you survived cancer is admirable. The sad part is - nobody owes you anything because of it. You could be an inventor and create the most useful research ever, yet women would still rather go for models that only bring some photos of them to this world. You need to get out this mindset, books mentioned in the above comment are a good place to start. Also from the reactions that you're getting it seems that you're very plain and passive. Start doing some shit th…
/r/seduction15/02/15 06:10 PM
2

Pantera... Nuff said. "A New Level" would make me feel unstoppable before having a fistfight with Mike Tyson.
/r/seduction11/02/15 05:55 PM
4

I had the exact same dilemma just some time ago. I am a very sarcastic person, I know I give this vibe of being full of myself and to people that don't have a good sense of sarcasm I definitely might come across as a dick. I was well aware of it and all the time I used to tone it down, being more humble in social settings. But just recently I decided "fuck it, let's try being myself 100%". When someone would compliment me, I'd say "yep, I'm just that awesome". Someone does something stupid, I im…
/r/seduction10/02/15 12:53 PM
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Good that you had boldness to say that, but don't do it again. A kiss should happen naturally after you two talk and touch each other for a while. You should never ask for it, especially that early, it's just creepy.
/r/seduction09/02/15 11:52 PM
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I wouldn't flat out tell her. It would at least instantly clear out the situation, but the chances it works are much lower. I'd do it by flirting. Many ways out there, I personally do it by being sarcastic, a lot of teasing and push-and-pull (but it's MY way, don't do it if YOU aren't like that). Read the sidebar and some posts around here for other ideas. That's the main problem with friendzone, it's just plain out creepy when you suddenly start being flirty after such a long time of knowing he…
/r/seduction09/02/15 01:55 PM
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Honestly? It seems like a textbook friendzone scenario. Not much you can do once it already happens. Besides you seem very needy and that's the #1 way to kill attraction. Sorry if it sounds harsh but I'd forget about her. Even if you get with her you'll probably lose her due to being that way. I know this is some tough love but that's the way it is man. For some actual advice? If I were you I'd heavily cut down the time listening to her problems and start demonstrating interest in her. She'll ei…
/r/seduction09/02/15 01:41 PM
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Go for the kill. If she agrees that's a definite green light (she probably even assumes you were talking about Valentine's). You should finally kiss her (if you didn't yet, that's how I understood the post) and go even farther if possible.
/r/seduction03/02/15 11:45 PM
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Man this post is spot on what happened last night to me... I'm rather new to game, I think I maxed out my looks and started getting IOIs generally, but I still fight with AA. So last night I was in a bar with friends, we went to hang out and get drunk, I wasn't really thinking about approaching. As we were leaving this HOT girl literally EYEFUCKS me... My whole mind screamed "FUCKING OPEN HER IT'S A SURE KILL"... And I didn't approach. Being quite drunk probably didn't help, but it definitely wa…
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