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EasyDaysHardNights/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 03:32 PM
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has nothing to do with your frame Wrong. Go to jail. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 11:59 AM
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People win the lottery. It's statistically unlikely, but it's real. So was her response (for you). As you continue to fumble around applying the sidebar, don't discount reality. It's your orienting function in the feedback loop of what works. Just because you or some other dimwit here doesn't understand it, that doesn't make it less real. Use it as a trigger for further reflection.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 11:52 AM
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Don't dismiss the possibility due to it being unlikely. Edge cases are where progress is made. I've gotten that line myself. She can't read your mind, just your responses and can only compare them to her amplified chaos. When an apparently unbreakable Frame meets a mind melted by a reality that she didn't believe was possible, she instinctively wants to curl up inside what feels like is a most safe place. Dismissing that is denying yourself the possibility of complete submission. In u/2wo2wo3hre…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 11:43 AM
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It's no more incongruous than her ending up with the house, kids and a regular check from your bank account while she's banging said dude. Life is full of incongruity. Move along.
/r/askMRP04/01/23 05:28 PM
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I don't give a warm shit about his wife or her behavior. I also didn't give a shit about his epiphany that he's "counter-attacking." Is he better than where he was? Yes. Good for him. He's the king of the retards for the day. I pointed out your brain put a set of words "avoiding escalating conflict" on the table with the intent of you pausing for a moment and reflecting on whether an option, any option should even BE an option. In what world does the loudest teenager in the house deserve verbal …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 02:31 PM
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I can see how the mistakes I made previously. Nope, you're repeating the same ones all over again. Hint: I am much too validated by ... Everything external to me Sidebar, (since 2022): WISNIFG Liar. You're just ticking a box on a list. Read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 05:17 PM
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Why would you think @deerstfu should escalate conflict with mouth noises?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 05:07 PM
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acknowledge it, and then go on with my day You know, when my wife has something to say and I treat what she shares, like you're suggesting you should treat your emotions, that's when we're both happiest. Funny how that works.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/22 03:24 PM
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Nice FR. Got the Flair. Gratz.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 05:40 PM
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Who the fuck is interested in I can't seem to change my beliefs about myself Pointing out the obvious here, you aren't trying to change your beliefs. You're trying to change what others believe about you. You are stuck in their heads, concerned with what they think about you. Stay out of their heads.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 03:47 PM
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hard to do at the restaurant. Wait are you indicating they don't have bathrooms in said establishment?
/r/askMRP13/01/22 05:20 PM
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Pareto's Law. The possibility is mathematically viable. It's just hard to connect the dots going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 10:08 PM
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+1 Figuring out when that 10% thought is actually necessary though. Ah, that's the rub.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:07 PM
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Agreed. Hyperbole with brevity for the sake of clarity comes with the risk of overstatement. So that's why my finger has that permanent twitch!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 11:45 PM
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Ha. No worries. I'm fully confident in my retardation now. It brings me and those around me a high degree of entertainment.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 11:40 PM
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/u/blarg_risen Play downgrades the perceived risk. Freeing up action.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 09:20 PM
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/u/blarg_risen Another piece to curiosity is it upregulates energy, so you are more likely to act. You feel the energy rising to move.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 09:07 PM
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Gonna chew on this. But it feels right. Mental masturbation at an extreme isnt even awareness. It's caught in an actionless thought loop. Rambo is caught in a thoughtless action loop. To me, curiosity creates a tight pendulum starting from the right. "I wonder" begs for clarity and action. The only way to know, is to act. To test. Hypothesize Test Reflection Uber Your comments about being emotionally stunted cut close. In a good way. And reinforces a view I've had for a long time that one of the…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 08:53 PM
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this "..." is the way. Keep that shit up. +1 /u/PonchoToTheFace Let's take a look at the following definitions and a few quotes from your post. - Emotions - Physiological experiences that "you" interpret like butterflies, sweaty palms. e.g. my goal these past few days has been to feel the discomfort - Feelings - "your" interpretation of the physiological experience. e.g. I’m feeling anxious ... - Thoughts - The vocalizations in your head "you" produce based on your interpretation of the feelings…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 11:29 PM
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It is. A bit harder to nail down than originally anticipated but working on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/22 05:47 PM
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You stated: I could take this opportunity to create some strong emotions Then in the same sentence you said: like it doesn't really matter But it does matter, to you. Otherwise you wouldn't have intentionally stirred shit up. And you're doing it because your gut feeling tells you to. But then your gut is also saying I may end up divorced in 6 months ​ Do you see the incongruence in all this? The hilarious part is you're doing this with a sparring partner who has lived with you for 9 years and kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 04:46 PM
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and then just drop it, like it doesn't really matter Expand on this. Why would you just "drop it?"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 03:07 PM
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OYS #2 MMSLP in the process WOTSM x2 I've got an idea for a new drinking game. You have to take a shot every time a guy posts in OYS that they've read a graduate level book and they haven't finished pre-reqs. We'd all be hammered by noon.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 01:33 PM
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She said, "blah blah blah" (mouth noises) but she did not move my hand or move away. "Ignore what she says. Look at what she does." It's almost like we say this stuff for a reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 01:25 PM
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giver her the chance to add value she was 60% 0% of my problems Fixed it. better behaviour and sex at 3am. Not had that in a decade. It's called hysterical bonding. You aren't suddenly "the man." She's just securing an option while she tests the strength of nearby branches. But you'd know that if you'd read more than just a Selection of suggested linked posts. Keep reading sport. You've got a long way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 01:15 PM
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Dunning-Kruger is a good summary for this whole conversation. Gonna leave it there, so I can go back to my "guy 2" larping as "guy 1" antics.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:42 PM
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I haven't. To be fully honest, I've been working on a mental model around this for about 6 years and have been pushing to try to clarify my thoughts around this and find a way to simplify it so that's it's widely applicable. Curiosity / Play is key, but another core piece is attention and shepherding it. They are, as I'm sure you're aware, fundamental to Frame but to get there, is a more convoluted path than you might expect. After this interaction started a couple days ago with you, I'd been th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 07:33 PM
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Doing so from a curiosity seems to keep the task fresh and invigorating I was hoping to see Curiosity. You've found a good path. Playfulness is gold but there's more. Keep pressing your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 02:12 PM
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incorporating play Expand on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 12:30 PM
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Nah, she's projecting her own thoughts of cheating into him.
/r/askMRP18/12/21 02:32 PM
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If only there was a curated collection of notes men have been swapping for decades on this very topic.
/r/askMRP18/12/21 02:31 PM
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Hah. I wondered how long it would be before that showed up. Some of the best films ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 07:07 PM
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It's not personal, it's strictly business.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 12:44 PM
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Better a hole in your life, than an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 02:21 AM
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"need to" is always an interesting choice of words. Anger has its place. Forgiveness disconnects you from the resentment but leaves you without the energy anger provides. You will vacillate back to anger until you can find a new source of energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 01:23 PM
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Vulnerability. I enjoy it when someone is comfortable enough to open up to me. Expand on this. What about this resonates for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 01:06 PM
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"Spoke to" a divorce attorney. No papers drawn up. "need to" be more social "want to" start automatic deduction Life gives no credit for "could", "should", "ought", "want" Only "done."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 12:59 PM
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But to keep a person there, there also requires a constant amount of effort. Effort is required regardless of path. It's simply a question of who is traveling that path. Effort you ultimately feel is wasted because you could get better value return elsewhere. Speaks to possibility, not certainty. No guarantee. Only potential. But effort you develop guilt giving up because you've convinced yourself that with any withdraw of effort, the subsequent withdraw of reward is also your fault. Only potent…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 01:48 AM
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Your version is even more complicated than what I stated. Are you proud of yourself? Good. Done. Today goes down as a W. Not proud? Fine. Chalk today up as an L. Work to collect more W's than L's. Don't overcomplicate this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 07:18 PM
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For now, for you, fuck your mission. You're trying to figure out MRP 301 and you're stuck in 101. At the end of each day, ask yourself, "Am I proud of how I navigated today?" Over time, a few things happen: 1. You will start anticipating during the day the fact that later the same day you will be asking yourself that question. Saying "no" sucks so you will self correct and get back on task. Which leads to two things A. Greater self awareness during the day B. Faster cycling times to getting back…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 05:41 PM
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The problem with wanting her to initiate, is that it destroys what she wants most, to be desired by a high value man. If she initiates and you accept, assuming you are high value, the best she can hope for is acquiescence. Does that mean she will never initiate? No. Of course she will. But mostly she will wait, dropping hints. Subtle hints that carry with them plausible deniability, so that she can rationalize your desire for her. So in the end, you need to be progressing toward high value. Ther…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:08 PM
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So who is "the prize" in that scenario?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:43 PM
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You are still looking for external validation. Sex with your wife is one version of that. Seeing her squirm, as you indicated above, is another one. You are still firmly in your wife's frame. Which means you are creating a special hell for yourself. One where your wife is running in circles and you have no life outside of her roller coaster of emotions. You have ceded control to externalities. You are unable to give because you are an empty shell looking for something else to fill you. To valida…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:12 AM
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I think I'm still dealing with a considerable amount of scarcity How does sex with your wife feel? Does it feel like you are "getting" or "giving?"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:56 AM
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How will I know until I try? You won't, until you commit. Not "try." Commit. “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too." William Hutchison Murray
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:39 AM
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Congratulations, you found the beginnings of congruence. Your thoughts and actions were consistent. You wanted to flick a nipple. You flicked a nipple. You wanted to suck a tit. You sucked a tit. Good. You have experienced the freedom of getting out of your own way and actually doing what you want. Good. Don't get confused though. The beginnings of congruence is good. But it's not confidence. Let me state that again. Partial congruence is not confidence. That is why you have the dialogue in your…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 11:28 AM
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Yeah, that comment about her wrastlin stood out to me. It almost seems like a built-in shit test before she accepts it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 09:07 PM
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Got it. We're about about 8 months in, generally. This specific piece is brand new so. Still picking up distinctions and related nuances.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 09:02 PM
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It isn't for us, it is for them OK, good. That's the light bulb that went off for me. Glad to see the instincts are wiring in correctly. She feels like she paid the price What are you using to guage "enough." Is it simply looking to see her reach a point of release?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 08:26 PM
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Well shit. I wish I had known this about a week ago Spanking just became a thing for us (details in the reply I just dropped to Horns post if you're curious). Am I right in assuming the physical separation in the punishment is to amplify the feelings of the break and the cuddles afterwards is to close the gap? Thanks for drawing out the distinctions.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 08:04 PM
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Up until recently, spanking has never been a big thing for us either. Then the other day she seriously disappointed me. To the point that I went overt with silence. After a couple minutes of the hamster spinning I got "You're right. I'm sorry." She went on to explain how she fell short to be sure I knew that she had self-corrected. That was good enough for me. I pulled her in and held her. As far as I was concerned, that was that. But it wasn't. Next morning she's still apologizing. "I'm such an…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 07:54 PM
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+1 After-noon. ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 07:21 PM
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100% Also, first kid. Baby book full of pictures. 2nd kid. What book?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 03:57 PM
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First kid is hard because you don't know what you're doing. But you can double team so you're good. Second one, is easier. You know what you're doing and still can pull of a man on man defense. Three kids, move to a zone defense. After that, it's go deep and don't let the ball get over your head. Congratulations!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:42 PM
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I took it at face value as I do not yet know how to game an apology. You were close. You could have simply stopped at "OK." STFU The STFU, had weight. She felt it, so she stewed about it. When she came back to apologize, you pull in her close, give her a kiss on the top of the head, or a simple nod, depending on how magnanimous you'd like to be, and that's that. Just like when someone gives you a complement. You simply accept it. Simply accept the apology. Don't validate it. Don't add onto it. J…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:35 PM
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Most could get there quicker by improving their value. Except when 38% of the M2 Money supply has shown up in the last 18 months and everyone's favorite gas pump shows it. Businesses hope "it's only a temporary supply / demand issue" until it's not and the last man to get "caught up" is the salaried guy down at headquarters. Except he's now competing with a dude in Croatia who's willing to take that same role for 1/5 the salary cost, and work harder for it. "Improving your value" ain't what it u…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:02 PM
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Big4 offer is the pinnacle of my career and what I’ve been working towards for 15 years, one level removed from CEO/Prez. Congrats. You are where you are, however, because you're bigger than that. Most companies hire based on demonstrated competence. The best, like the company you're now at, hire on potential and have a process to reliably uncover that in their interview process. Both of those point to the fact that there's more in the tank. Your Edge is further out. There's a church in Italy. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:00 PM
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My options are literally infinite This. I think this is the key.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/21 03:46 AM
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real frame means telling them when you're willing to play games in their frame, and when they can fuck right off with their games. /u/Blarg_Risen and I were recently swapping notes on this too. There's a third way. One where you aren't choosing to play in her Frame, or telling her to fuck off with her frame ... but you choose to inhabit her Frame in such a way that you now create new potentials. New, possibilities that didn't exist before. Because you were not "in her frame" before, but now you …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/21 03:43 AM
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be the heavy if needed She needs your strength to help her overcome her fear of the unknown. That strength comes from congruence. Congruence communicates safety. She leans on that safety until she can prove to herself that she can complete what is required. Upon success, she learns she actually can trust herself. Until she bumps up against the unknown again. The key (your role) is to force regular, successful contact with the unknown. With consistent success, she learns to trust herself in an in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 11:46 PM
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/hibernation -off ***System Alert - MentalPointOfOrigin Dislocation*** ​ /ScreenPrint -source My lack of congruence was tearing this woman apart. My congruence is her mental health. ​ /execute MentalPointOfOrigin -rewrite My lack of congruence was tearing this woman my life apart. My congruence is her my mental health. ​ Rewrite complete. /execute WhackUpsideTheHead MentalPointOfOrigin -status ***MentalPointOfOrigin Nominal*** Adjustment Complete *System Status Normal* /hibernation -on *Hibernat…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 11:32 PM
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Not by anyone who mattered.
/r/askMRP03/11/21 02:23 PM
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If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If by Rudyard Kipling The stanza above applies to your current situation. Internalizing the whole poem is worth the effort.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 08:15 PM
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It's not your vision she buys into, it's you Remember my comment about Frame not always being binary? That, there could be levels. You just pointed out two. "You" being the deeper of the two. "Vision" being shallower. "Anti-vision" being shallowest. I.e. she's against whatever you're against. That lasts only as long as the obstacle exists. So it's by nature more definite and shorter lived. "Vision" can be extended and morphed indefinitely so it lasts longer but at some point, she may decide your…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 11:14 AM
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the stairs Stairs? Who said anything about "Stairs." ​ pendulum
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 04:58 AM
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Once you see it, you can't un-see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 02:07 PM
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how I think she sees me or thinks of me. my poor wife trying to influence her her sexual OMG Becky, look at her frame. ​ I have to have the balls to be my best, most joyful and giving self **hurl** ​ I have to have the guts to be perfectly happy without sex Dafuq? ​ Holy fuck balls. ​ the geek who bagged the head cheerleaderI've carried this insecurity throughout the entire relationship. THIS is your problem. You're still living in the past. The one where YOU "won the prize." You are not yet con…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 01:20 PM
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my ability to bullshit myself Really, it's just this. You're not fooling anyone here. Most DNGAF one way or another if you're bullshitting yourself. It's your responsibility alone to figure your shit out. Every once in a while, if you're lucky, somebody like /u/Blarg_Risen will give a half a fuck and say something like ... I feel like you're full of shit. When that happens, don't take that as just a suggestion. Take it as a 2x4 to the head that you're fucking up. The moment you say you've gotten…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 02:30 AM
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Wanna know something twisted? There's still more in there. When you apply just a hint of critical review you can see that your thought patterns are rife with "off-ramps" to anger. That's enough for now. I'll DM you. This is just the entrance to the. Now it's time to follow the white rabbit down the rabbit hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 08:50 PM
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Yes. You're seeing it now. Keep going. There's more. We're attuning you're vision for what's next. What else?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 10:00 PM
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Yes! Key words. my parent's bullshit. There are other places you made statements like that. Reply with those.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:58 PM
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No. You create a story in your head about someone or something around you that gives you the excuse, the trigger, to enrage. Try again.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:22 PM
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No. I am both. We agree on that. in some unknown way. We'll tackle that, but not in the way you're thinking. at the limbic level. habit built around that response Yes, of course. looking at the same thing from different angles? Yes. Maybe we're splitting hairs, No. Perspective IS the key. But I can't get you there until you get past your retardation. Try again.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:13 PM
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You might be right, but I don't see it. Such a lazy fuck. You literally did it in your response to me. Go back, look at your response and highlight for me where you did it. Take the time now to evaluate what is literally pouring out of your head. If I was a mod, you'd have gotten a Rule 9 violation ban. But I'm not, so we're putting a toll bridge in this conversation and you can put the work in to figure your shit out before we progress onto the rest of your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 01:23 PM
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You're allowing your focus to be determined by externalities or the internal wanderings of your emotions and thoughts. Meditation helps there. Attune to the mental drift. Anytime you're not present, you eliminate the possibility of play. Play, curiosity, flow. These only happen in the present moment. As you find your thoughts drifting, gently bring them back to the present and repetitively ask yourself, how can I be more playful in this moment? More curious? What can I engage in that brings abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 05:50 PM
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Lots to unpack here. You see others as the obstacle to your progress. I do project my shit onto others, yes. Those are not equivalent. Yes, you project. But that projection results in an observation that allows you to continue the cycle of Anger you find yourself stuck in. Anger is an emotion intended to up-regulate energy to "overcome" an obstacle. I am making a precise observation about the circumstances by which you create for yourself the excuse to create the Anger you feel comfortable with.…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 04:01 PM
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I’m determined ... As of this moment, you're "determined." Focus on that. It's not guilt or shame or any of the energy sapping emotions you've been experiencing. They are a fundamental drag on your productivity and a contributing factor to your "laziness." To be clear, you feel like shit because you have been acting like a shit. Now that you're acting like a slightly polished pile of shit, your energy levels are rising and you're "determined." Which indicates a real shift in your outlook. When y…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 01:21 PM
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Almost a year ago I recommended to you a mindset shift. Core, to that recommendation was employing Curiosity as a path out of emotional chains. Core to Curiosity is a sense of Playfulness. Which you've picked up on. That's good. You still seem to be wrapped around the axle of "causality" though. Yesterday I walked into my kitchen and saw my wife eating some walnuts. I stopped, turned to look at her from her left side. Intentionally staying just on the edge of her peripheral vision, I gave her th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 12:38 PM
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Well. Really got your panties in a wad this week didn't you. Hackles up. Lashing out at 9 year old girls and internet retards. You can push us away, just like you did your Daughter, but then what? OK, you're Angry. You know it, and we do too. I'm going to highlight a pattern I'm seeing. You see others as the obstacle to your progress. You dig up a character and assign them a place in your timeline and make them the focus. Your wife, to reclaiming your missed past. Your daughter to maintaining yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/21 01:55 AM
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You act like a unicorn. You're not. First, Lift. Second, STFU. Third, Sidebar. 4th, OYS. That is all you need to focus on. That is all you need to know. That is all you need to do. Any thought, word or action that is not tied to those 4 things is a complete waste of your time and you are slowing your progress. That is all.
/r/askMRP10/04/21 07:20 PM
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So many guys get caught on this point. As if, the relationship is what keeps the kids healthy. It's not. It's a healthy parent. If you have your shit together, you will be able to give your kids the stability they need. Whether or not you and your wife stay together. If you don't have your shit together, your kids will have the instability they don't need, regardless of whether you and your wife are together. The ONLY focus you need to have is getting your shit together. It covers all bases. Mis…
/r/askMRP10/04/21 07:15 PM
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Percent. And you had to go and put the Field of Dreams scene in there. You bastard.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 03:47 PM
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I'm going to try and draw a finer point on this. What you and /u/HornsOfApathy have achieved is GOOD. VERY good. You have gained mastery over yourselves and directed your resources (time, energy) in effective ways to the point that have gained you mastery over those things that were meaningful pursuits at the time. And that's the key. They were real, valid and meaningful ... at the time. The fact that you have the Mastery now to easily obtain those things that at one point were elusive to you an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 02:57 PM
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This.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:00 PM
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I am cynical No ... you're angry. Angry at her for running the script that was bred into her. But that's not really true either. What's really true is your Ego is trying to blame her for who she was, as a smoke screen for coming to terms with who you were. You were a plow horse. So what. Most of us in here still have bruises on our shoulders from the yokes we've been pulling. Get over it. Why? Because then you get to define who you will be going forward. Sure, you can walk away. Or you could bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 06:59 PM
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I'm going to +1 /u/Blarg_Risen's comments from last week with my own spin … and throw out some noob dynamite in the process, but fuck it. Understand that this is coming from a man who sat in your shoes 6 years ago and lit the fuse. I was totally fucking miserable and decided I was done. I blew my world up. Here's what that guy would say to you. You're a Narcissist, spinning around inside a web of self delusion, assuming that further self-satisfying pursuits will supply you the gratification you …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 03:43 PM
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Sent you a friend request in Discord. I'll add you to a group DM when you accept.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 05:27 PM
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Do I fit some archetype here? Yes. You are a special fire breathing dragon unlike any dragon that has ever ... err ... dragoned before. Your fire fills your dragon lungs with heat and fire ... and heat. Which makes you even more powerful and unique. And special. And firey. And unique. No jackwagon. You're just like every other idiot that stumbles in here. LIFT, STFU, SIDEBAR and OYS. Now get to the back of the bus. That is all.
/r/askMRP27/03/21 01:38 AM
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/u/ancient_resistance. Get yourself onto the MRP Discord and we'll sort it from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 12:51 AM
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Have a cute friend you can bring?
/r/askMRP22/03/21 01:33 AM
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I’m in the process of internalizing what Horns said about leading and praising Here, let me help. Would you blame an employee that didn't know the company mission or their job description for poor performance? Of course not. That's a failure of leadership. So ... The shitty comfort tests began Crying followed and talk about how I could leave her at anytime for someone younger and better. Sex has been insane lately Do you see the pattern here? Your mission is obvious. It's pussy. Which makes you,…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:23 PM
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Was your ring still on your finger when she broke out the hammer?
/r/askMRP07/03/21 03:26 PM
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Multiple seasoned vets and regulars post guidance on where to read up and encourage you to think about the possibility that you're not ready to post on Frame. You respond like an arrogant fucktard. I'll learn my abc's and how to wipe my ass You have had some success with frame ... that success does not translate into a technical understanding. ​ Yet when it comes to attempting to write a coherent thought, less than a month ago you said ... " Just wrote out a fuck load of text. Deleted it all. " …
/r/askMRP02/03/21 03:39 PM
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routines, familiar places All triggers. Consider intentionally setting new responses to old triggers as ways to catch the drift before it starts.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 03:07 PM
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Lately I've taken to buying silk pajamas for men. I wear just the bottoms. The Mrs. wears just the tops. To each his own, but a woman in a man's button down top, holy shit that works.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 03:03 PM
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Look into Stronglifts 5 x 5.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 02:54 PM
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gratitude practice ... been doing it every morning Try playing around with different times of the day. I've actually found Morning, Noon and Evening seem to have different affects and ultimately decided to do it all three times. Morning is priming the pump. Noon / Lunch is a refocus I inevitably need after whatever bullshit pops up in the morning. Evening is about settling in my mind all the good shit that happened and focusing on that for my subconscious to chew on as I fall asleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 02:50 PM
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"I think anyone can benefit from doing weightlifting." Secretly, yes ... Own Your Shit. OWN it. Not to us. We don't give a fuck. To Yourself. To your world. Give up the fucking covert contracts. Quit tip-toeing around the issues in your life. NO MORE SECRETS. ​ I have an urge to really push her to make it a regular thing, but it seems like her seeing the results of my regular workouts are probably a better motivation than me trying to micromanage her to schedule workouts. This one sentence right…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 02:33 PM
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Glad to hear this landed for you. 1:1's are perfect. Expect people to be incredulous in the beginning. 1:1s will make it a bit easier to share. It's extremely rare for a resource manager to actually give a shit about someone's personal goals, never mind professional ones. It may take some coaxing. That's OK. Let it. Then bust your ass to make it happen for people. Once people see you are serious, and that you're not playing favorites (i.e. the opportunity is there for everyone) and that this is …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 03:30 PM
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Start small and work out from there. Don't overthink it. In the beginning just focus on the stuff we encourage you to focus on. Lift, STFU, Sidebar, OYS. As an example. What sort of lifts are we talking about? 1.5 Times Bodyweight bench press? Is that the outcome you want to shoot for? Fine, what kind of dude do you need to be get that? Obviously be a dude who shows up, on the regular and presses a bar off his chest with gradually increasing weights. Easy to do, but hard to stay consistent at. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 05:01 AM
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The man.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:25 PM
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dancing monkey problem. This when you make HER your mission. Don't do that. ​ who I want to be. This is a precursor to getting what you want. Figure out what you want. Then figure out who you need to be, to get what you want. Then pursue that dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:18 PM
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100% And, in my experience, it all starts with belief. There is always an experience you haven't yet had and you have to believe in being that level of whore to get to that level of whore.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:22 PM
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the balls to turn it down When you have 5 women simultaneously clawing at your completely drained balls, asking for another round ... worry about it then. For now ... just encourage the behavior you want and ignore the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 04:09 PM
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A wise man once gave away the secret to creating a space for the slut to show herself ... ​ No judgement.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 04:04 PM
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I’m a beginner here at MRP ... and think very slow when responding to any situation. Shawn t smith and revisiting TWOTSM via audiobook Drop these books for now. Stick to the sidebar and the course pre-requisites section only. There's no bonus points for running ahead and not internalizing the foundational elements. ​ DEERing on my part the whole time Go back and read WISNIFG at least a couple times. When you get to the point where you realize shit tests are nothing but an opportunity to play pin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:57 PM
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be at a level that ensures I feel good, look good and am strong. Otherwise, for me it is just a number. This. "Manage to the result, not the number." This is a quote from the guy helping me manage my T levels. He also just happens to be the guy in charge of the sexual health of over 4 million men in my area. Kinda sorta knows what he's talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:45 PM
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~~5x5: BP: 210 OP: 160 Row: 150 DL: 225 Squat: 225. Pushups: 100 per day~~ Corona Bullshit. Have cinderblocks around the house? Swing those around. You can do a fuck ton more than just pushups. Get creative. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JS-v2-ftubY&ab_channel=JREClips
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:37 PM
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Nowhere in there do I see a key component. "What's in it for them?" Figure out what THEIR professional goals are, and show them how the task before them helps them achieve it. The rest of what you said is just window dressing. Bonus points. Figure out what personal goals they have. Help them achieve those. Need to take off Thursday at 4 for a ballet class? If I see you here after 4 PM on Thursday I'm going to be upset. Need to come in around 9 AM because you're training to do a marathon? Go for …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:35 PM
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With so much shit, there must be a pony in there somewhere. Let me know when someone finds it ...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 04:45 AM
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N count 15 Actually she's now saying it's 25. Nah. It's more like 60. Who cares. What do you want? That's all that matters. Get reading the sidebar junior. You got a lot to learn.
/r/askMRP23/12/20 02:46 AM
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running and cycling. I’m actually in fantastic shape No. This is not the shape her hind brain gets attracted to. You can run away in this shape. She needs to know you can stay and fight. So no, you are not in fantastic shape. You've only reinforced the idea in her mind that you are weak.
/r/askMRP26/11/20 04:06 PM
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doing things just for yourself is selfish. Is it? Is that a bad thing? Is it possible that no-one in your frame will be happy unless you are? Ever been around someone who only whines? Did you want to stay around them very long? How about someone who was enjoying themselves? If you had to pick just one, who would you most want to spend more time with? I'm scared of what darkness I might find if I do accept who I am. Is it possible, that there can be no light without the darkness? Can you really b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 08:55 PM
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There are lots of factors but one is that I see the world going down a path I don’t like and worry about humanities future, I feel like I should be ‘fixing’ this. "Should" is an interesting word. What's at the bottom of that? ​ During meditation I find myself chasing the ‘awakening’ experience I had a while back. Trying to let go of this. There's a meaning seeking exercise going on here. How is letting go, going to help you find meaning?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:58 PM
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the struggle that give the meaning in a lot of ways. Struggle can certainly provide meaning. Joy does too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:52 PM
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extensive conversations I'm laughing to myself at this. I'm putting the final paragraph together on what is currently a 9 page word document reply. Which even is ridiculous to say. So yeah. "Extensive" is an apt word.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:44 PM
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Rudyard Kipling said what needed to be said, in just two lines. Consider the rest "overdelivering" … ​ If BY RUDYARD KIPLING ​ If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: ​ If you can dream…
/r/askMRP02/11/20 05:12 AM
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Most guys come here with a dry dick. They figure some shit out, their wife responds and their dick gets wet. Then they start spinning in circles. It's not the right kind of wet. Or amount of wet. Or they lose interest in the wet because, who wants what they have? They want what they don't have. In all cases the issue is outcome independence. You have an ego attached to sex. And attached to lifts. And attached to how you dress. And. And. And. The point of identifying the covert contracts you have…
/r/askMRP30/10/20 02:18 PM
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Mattress -> Mattress protector -> Fitted Sheet -> Sheet -> Mattress Protector -> Fitted Sheet -> Sheet -> Comforter. When done, rip off the first protector/fitted/sheet layer and go to sleep. Damn. That's brilliant!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 04:31 PM
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Let me guess. You have no choice but to put your balls on the table because you don't have a fanny pack anymore. Well written as usual. Keep us posted on your plans for intergalactic domination.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 04:03 PM
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7 - The number of times you typed "she." 5 - The number of times you typed "wife." The only frame you have is the one your wife let's you live in. ​ She wants to think she is lucky to have you. Your Ego is way the fuck out of line. You say: I am successful, have a prominent job She: out earns me by 100K and is in a top position of her company. So better than wife? Nope. ​ She describes you as: Exclusionary - Making decisions on own that affect me. Deceitful - Maybe I wasn't supportive but so dec…
/r/askMRP29/10/20 03:54 PM
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Don't stick your dick in crazy.
/r/askMRP28/10/20 04:06 PM
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While you're at it, take a moment to clarify for yourself what Shame is. What Guilt is. And how they differ from Failure. When you can draw those lines, and connect them in a way where you understand that you are setting yourself up for failure, guilt and shame and most importantly the payoff your Ego gets when that happens because you never do anything without there being a payoff, then you will really be onto something.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/20 03:54 AM
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You're wrapped up in your feelings. Which are tied to the validation you get from the gym. My gains have stalled At some point, every journey worth pursuing migrates from exciting to a grind. It's inevitable. The high never sustains long term. This is an opportunity to learn discipline and breadth. By breadth I mean having more than a singular focus for self improvement and gauge by which you measure self worth. You mention Gains. But no word on Frame or Game. I'd place money on the fact that yo…
/r/askMRP23/10/20 03:22 PM
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I haven't slept well since April A lot of guys struggling with this when the shit hits the fan. I highly recommend Shawn Stevenson's book "Sleep Smarter.". Very practical / tactical advice to get your sleep on lockdown.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/20 05:10 AM
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Didn't read the drivel. No need to. You're no different than the rest of the rejects in the back of the bus. Lift, STFU, Sidebar, OYS. Off you go soldier.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 06:24 PM
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+1 for a hiking group. I started one back in February right after Covid took off. I now have a group of about 15 guys who all go out together every Saturday. The masculine comraderie and connection has been a huge relief valve in this 2020 shit show. If you can't find a group, start one.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 10:23 PM
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extra virgin unrefined coconut oil Just realized my wife buys this shit for her smoothies. There's a "foot massage" parlor not far from where we live. My wife always points it out when we go by. I'm thinking my foot long needs a massage! ​ Create hardship unnecessarily to provide my ego a sense of worth. I remember seeing you post this. It planted a seed in my head that sprouted into a realization along with some other correlating events that I did that too. It's a behavior spawned by a covert c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/20 08:05 PM
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You need to be thinking 5 steps ahead on this. If she gets to play with another girl, does she also get to play with another guy?
/r/askMRP03/10/20 07:44 PM
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That is the best part of us as humans in action, just never count on it. Agreed. ​ Self interest is good, giving is good, too much of either side also doesn't work. Agreed. This has been a point of reflection for me over the last year. Jocko Willink's book The Dichotomy of Leadership, highlights the concept well in the leadership arena. e.g. Be resolute but not overbearing. Aggressive but not Reckless. Focused but Detached. This caused me to reflect on other seemingly dichotomous values we hold …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 03:23 PM
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Insight came through a book and a series of reflections on events with in-laws and others in my life. 5 Years ago, I had someone suggest reading The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins. There's significant depth to that book and it should be read slowly to be appreciated, but to quickly cover one of the major themes, we are more than just a "survival vehicle" for the genetic code handed to us by our biological parents. More than Gene transport vehicles, we are "Meme" vehicles. Meme is short for Mime…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 03:03 PM
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families I've redefined the definition of family over the years. The line between friend an family has blurred quite a bit. Genealogy is just a shadow of the form it once was. It's much more now about the person that finds you in a pit, climbs down in with you and helps you get back out, because they've been down there before themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/20 03:52 AM
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Holy shit bro, this made me laugh my ass off. Sweet Jesus. I can't stop laughing. I'm tossing you an upvote. Thanks for that!
/r/askMRP16/09/20 09:11 PM
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Hi. My name is EasyDaysHardNights. It's been 39 days since I last bought my wife flowers. I used to buy her flowers every Friday. I'd take her out to lunch too ... and tell her how amazing she is. At first it got me smiles and she'd touch my arm. Then she wanted to be on top. Eventually she started pegging me. It felt good though. I got the attention I so desperately craved. She wanted me. Until she didn't. Eventually she just got bored and nothing worked. So I offered to let her boyfriend peg m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 03:15 AM
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Wait, now we're overt about noobs lighting themselves on fire to keep others warm? Cool, let me go get some popcorn.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 09:17 PM
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Put this on /askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 04:49 AM
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my lack of sleep You gotta nail this down. Without solid sleep whatever Frame you have will collapse quickly. Check out Shawn Stevenson's book: Sleep Smarter. It will provide many actionable steps you can take to address this problem. A couple quick thoughts to get you going: Get to sleep by 9:30. As in, lights out, you're already under by that time. Your brain will be releasing hormones for body repair (e.g. HGH) and perform long term memory storage between the hours of 10 PM and 2 AM. You don'…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:09 PM
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283 lbs of lard. BF 31% Your trainer might know nutrition, but with your situation I'd be hiring a dedicated nutritionist as well. The battle that you most need to overcome is the shit you've been shoving in your pie hole. You can't outwork a bad diet. Also, don't be surprised if your wife brings home your favorite dessert for you while you do all this shit just to fuck with you. Look at it as a shit test. Laugh it off. Throw that motherfucker into the disposal, turn it on and walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 03:49 PM
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There's no way you'd know what you were getting that fast. Humans naturally put their best foot forward when they're getting to know each other. Even more so when it's a romantic relationship. The clock doesn't START on you seeing what you've got until 9 months have passed. The day she greets you at the door with curlers in her hair is the day you know you're seeing the real version of her. THEN the clock starts and you can evaluate if the girl is one you should settle down with. Not before.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 02:36 PM
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Your post is full of bullshit. Sex was amazing. Best I'd ever had. I'm a practicing Christian ... so as to not live in sin. Rationalizing. ​ lots of packing and stress so sex is naturally less frequent Excuses. ​ (lost my temper, broke frame, covid left us with housing and employment issues) No Alpha, No Beta. Useless. ​ it was a very bad time in my life Delusion. If you had handled your shit and navigated your new bride through the issues you state to a new level of stability you wouldn't be he…
/r/askMRP25/08/20 05:31 AM
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Questions like this belong at /askMRP. Take this down and repost it there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/20 01:47 AM
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Those thoughts are amalgamated from over 4 years of digesting materials from many sources. It's a very deep rabbit hole. Here's a few more thoughts on Curiosity that I have. Here's a source to orient you. Start here. Part 2. Part 3. Part 4. Completing that will give you enough to start digging on your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/20 01:13 AM
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I do know though that I would have been stoked if someone Be careful. This is revisionist hindsight and a fantasy. It's not what happened and probably wouldn't have worked out the way you think it would. Consider this: It's highly likely you DID see someone modeling for you what you needed to know or hinted to you what you needed to do, just like you're wanting to do for your brother but you couldn't see / hear what was being said. Our brains work as deleting and distortion devices. They literal…
/r/askMRP12/08/20 04:25 PM
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No advice for him. For you, lead by example.
/r/askMRP11/08/20 10:01 PM
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which is an LTR (Ewwww). Own your relationship faggot. This is after all M_RP. If you want an LTR, fine. If you don't fine. Just make a fucking decision. ​ I may have phrased this post wrong I actually don't have an issue Own your words faggot. Everything you said will teach you something about yourself. Deny it and you deny yourself progress. ​ it was later flipped Own your identity faggot. Nobody gets to label you with anything. YOU decide whether something is true about you or not. ​ I give t…
/r/askMRP10/08/20 06:45 PM
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Wait ... let me get this straight. You're dumping on us, your issue, which is figuring out how to handle a plate, whose is dumping on you, her issues? That's some Inception level faggotry right there. You don't have a plate. She has a pet. Does she put lube on your ass before she pegs you?
/r/askMRP10/08/20 03:31 AM
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Yeah but to get anything out of it, OP would need to be a rationale male.
/r/askMRP09/08/20 04:29 PM
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anger is a subconscious social strategy which threatens hostility to get something from another without having to take further action of your own. This line confuses Anger and what Ego does with Anger. There is nothing wrong with Anger in and of itself. It is a normal and necessary part of our human existence and part of the process of swallowing the pill. The problem (we all agree) is when a man gets stuck in his Anger and it becomes a "Phase." Anger is (as is every other emotion we experience)…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 06:20 PM
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Is learning not living? It can be both. It can also just be mental masturbation. In which case it's the avoidance of living, which in my book is "not living." So true learning may be inextricably tied to actual living. Or not. That would require a Free Will discussion and I'm not feeling THAT frisky right now. ​ the latter is what it seems like youre saying. Nope. Subsection. That's why I made the point about staying on mission. Acknowledging there needs to be a prioritization of what you work o…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 02:44 AM
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Wow. Someone's coffee had some extra caffeine in it this morning. That or work is a total snooze fest. Probably both. I'm the guy who's simply trying to point out there's a point in time when you can be too smart. Or too knowledgeable and lose practicality. That the only dangerous case isn't being smart enough to "figure it out." That you can end up losing the perspective that the point of all this isn't just whether you "figure it out" or not, but that the goal is to LIVE. And that I'm not conv…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 06:02 PM
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Agreed. I've been questioning that though, lately. The value of understand. And how much do I need to know. I've begun to think it's overrated. To illustrate, a joke a math teacher once told me ... Do you know what the difference between a mathematician and a physicist is? If you put a Beauty Queen at the far end of a basketball court and told the mathematician he could only walk half the distance between he and the girl, each time he progressed forward, the mathematician would never leave the s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 02:38 PM
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Not really angry. But I suppose a little angry at myself for chasing a truth for so long that doesn't exist but in the mind and only for a moment. Brother, welcome to Hell. The version you create for yourself. Your awareness is not completely shut off which is good, but you're developing tunnel vision. You ARE angry ... at yourself. That's fine. It's the truth. Acknowledge it. And yes, (here's a distinction to meditate on) your understanding of what is True is evolving but that doesn't make what…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 01:31 PM
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adaequatio intellectus et rei
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 03:28 AM
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Good stuff, as usual. How dependant is your communication style on the D/s dynamic?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 09:28 PM
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new me The moment we let go of the "old norm" and move past even "new me" opens up the possibility of "I am." Grounding in that last bit ... Is gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/20 04:33 AM
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You should post your concerns in r/RedPillWives.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 04:36 PM
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Hamster overdrive of preselection Probably a bit of hysterical bonding too. Not that there's a damn thing wrong with that ...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 01:46 PM
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This belongs on r/askMRP. Your problem started well before the triad. We generally describe that here as a threesome. Do a quick search on "threesome" and you'll find other responses here. You described a MFF threesome. We advise against it as It can be / often is a prelude to her getting what she wants. It goes like this. She doesn't want you sexually anymore. Some other Man catches her interest. She wants to keep you on the line as a provider while she fucks other guy / tests the branch swing.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 07:15 PM
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Your wife's attractiveness is a reliable measure of your own.
/r/askMRP15/06/20 12:06 PM
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Yes. You got it. You're welcome. One last thought. Instead of using the word "Failure," try using the words "Unexpected Results." Continuing the car analogy to the point of nausea ... It's now all about "laps around the track." Godspeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 11:21 PM
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Bonus Thought - Beside what I say in part 1 and 2 below. Setting a task for yourself ... and doing it. (i.e. doing what you say you'll do) is also a powerful way to develop self-confidence. Even if you don't currently have an answer to your problems ... you create space for a self evaluation that you are capable of completing things. You're just still figuring out how to work through portions of your world. Maintaining credibility with yourself is vital.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/20 05:16 PM
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(Part 2 of 2) You are hungry. I have the last piece of pizza on my plate. You now have a problem. You have conflicting desires. You want to satiate your hunger, but you don't want to upset the relationship you have with me. Because relationships are a gateway to a whole host of resources. Ideas being one of the most powerful ones. So now what do you do? You likely have conflicting emotions in play. A strong urge to get that food. You like pizza. It will satiate your hunger. You know how to eat i…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/20 04:58 PM
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(Part 1 of 2) Short version. Yes. You got it. Longer version - We're going to have to go a bit further down the rabbit hole on this one. First thing though. I need you to put on that lab coat. I want you looking at yourself like a technician looks at a car. We'll be discussing HOW you operate, just like I would be pointing out how fuel gets from the gas tank to the engine block, combusts, then escapes back out a tail-pipe. We're talking about how the vehicle known as YOU ... operates. Just like …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/20 04:57 PM
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Very High praise, coming from you. Thanks for the gold. Appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/20 02:13 AM
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Learn to harness sadness/depression (which is the result of unmet needs or other dysfunctional patterns e.g. comparing myself to others/shame cycle) into action via anger. Side point, it seems the point of anger is to drive action. I'd like to add a few thoughts to this particular point. By way of introduction /u/Blarg_Risen has helped me personally with some of my own models so I tend to go back and read his posts. There's always gold there. Occasionally I interject some of my own thoughts, int…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/20 04:57 PM
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This is not about the baby, this is about control. More specifically, her trying to control you and you giving it to her. She got herself a baby and a 50/50 gravy-train without having to be committed to you. But the moment you end things with her she's laying out 5 miles of hurdles you have to jump over to "convince her" that everything is "safe" for the baby. Yet, you also say in this comment what looks like she wants to hurt herself "and the baby." If that's true, she has no interest in the ba…
/r/askMRP24/05/20 04:00 PM
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Check my response below. Emotional stability is only one part of holding frame.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 09:46 PM
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Nope. But he's not alone in it. Most guys come here with huge Egos (present company included) and hear about this Frame thing and think "Frame is not being butt-hurt." How often do we hear a guy say "I held Frame." Hell, I did it. You could turn it into a drinking game here on /AskMRP. Every-time a dude says ... "I held Frame" we'd take a shot. We'd all be drunk if we did. So FNG tries to not react to fitness tests ... but still acts butt-hurt because the issue is deeper ... it's Ego. So then we…
/r/askMRP05/05/20 02:40 PM
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OK, Let's try this. Give us a definition of Frame. You say you "held Frame" more than once. Once you have a clear idea of what it is ... you won't lose it. Or at least not as easily as you did. What is "It?" What is "Frame?"
/r/askMRP05/05/20 03:54 AM
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Consider for a moment the possibility that multiple realities can exist simultaneously. One version is where I stand as a gatekeeper ... hindering a willing traveler from reaching his desired destination. Another is where I stand as a gatekeeper ... warning a traveler who is asking for something he is not ready for. Both can be true. Both can be true at the same time. The issue is not what is true. This issue at stake is what serves the traveler most. And that itself is a function of time. Eithe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 02:51 PM
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The simple fact that you're asking, means you're not ready for those posts. Read the sidebar. Apply the sidebar. Read it again. Apply it. Apply it some more Apply it some more. Repeat for at least 9 months and then come back and ask about those posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 06:20 AM
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Quit looking for easily digestible answers supplied by someone else. Figure it out. There's no shortcut here, just work.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 04:31 PM
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You know you really have them on the line when there's at least three nested replies.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 02:37 PM
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Can confirm. Have two high trust sources (1 spec ops and 1 national guard) called with corroborating details to OPs post. ​ Edit. Four sources now from completely independent social circles in four different states.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 12:05 AM
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It's been a hobby of mine to study pandemics Any information sources you particularly like? I'm particularly curious regarding economic assessments.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 06:21 PM
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Your wife asking for an open relationship and BEING OK with you fucking other women is his her way of creating a door to absolve herself of the guilt for cheating. It's Feelz logic. She fucked somebody else. Her greenlighting you fucking somebody else is the way she gets to balance the scale. She can say you had sex with someone too, so she's not a bad person. You both did it. Her hamster can rationalize away the bad feelings. She's attempting to hamster away the past. She's fucked someone else …
/r/askMRP13/03/20 01:41 PM
1

This research by Dr Arnaud Wisman, a Psychologist at Kent, expands on previous studies which have concluded that humans can communicate and detect emotions such as fear or sadness through scent. I have a theory that this is at least partially why video conferencing feels so flat compared to "in person" visits.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 08:51 PM
1

Focus on enjoying whatever it is you're doing We use the word "grinding" a lot. You're suggesting a "there is no spoon" approach. I like it. I like it a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 12:47 AM
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It's the "learned" part of "learned helplessness" that is the key. Of course you have to be able to stride into your mental citadel and kick the usurper out before you realize you put the fucker on the throne in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 12:41 AM
1

So what happens when he dies? When he becomes mortal, just like the rest of us. When all the stories of his frailty and mistakes that can't be told when he's alive come up. Then what? Your identity is tied to something that can be taken from you. Do you think that is smart?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 12:04 AM
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When they're auditioning your cock is huge. When they're kicking you to the curb your cock is tiny. Neither are true. Their comments mean nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:55 PM
2

Thanks Horns. I'm not quite at Joy yet. It's been a rough year. The boat is on fire but the Captain and FO are finally in synch and working to tackle the challenges around us. Hope and gratitude is probably the best way to describe my state now. Hope for our future and grateful to have found this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 03:15 PM
3

The "lexicon" is a collection of concepts and terms that accrued and evolved over time. In the beginning it was simply Red Pill terms and acronyms that allowed us to be referring to the same concepts. Some she took to quickly. Alpha / Beta was easy. She started pointed out various men we would come across as being either more one or the other. Some terms were a bit harder to float ... like AWALT. Until she started exhibiting behaviors that RedPill aphorisms pointed out. Like "A woman would rathe…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 05:29 AM
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I endorse this approach ... once the man has Frame. Before that point, as /u/Sepean puts so eloquently, you are just having a "Do you like my dissected boobs?" conversation. Once a man has Frame as /u/strategos_autokrator lays out in his post 4 years ago, as a baseline discussion, he can and SHOULD have an open discussion about his needs as /u/youngscott18 points out so well in his comment. Being an "MRP Approved" contributor, certainly implies you have Frame in your marriage, which is why this …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/20 05:43 PM
1

It's only after doing the external and internal work to become a man who's self-validated and on his purpose that an honest communication of needs becomes possible and a good thing to do. Agreed. He must be in a place where he DNGAF and she must be tossing comfort tests. Or put more simply, He has Frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/20 04:16 PM
1

I've read that. He didn't finish as he left the Vision Element out. But I've had that framework in mind for my own journey and have some updated perspective on that I'm going to share now. It's time.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/20 12:59 AM
2

definitely post-worthy Agreed. I had to go through it too. The irony is, that vulnerability ... is everything his wife desperately wants. She wants a coconut. HARD ON THE OUTSIDE (to everyone else) ... SOFT ON THE INSIDE (for her).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 10:03 PM
4

You see dots but haven't connected them. /u/rocknrollchuck and /u/hornsofapathy are absolutely right in pointing out your state of being stuck behind "your emotional-STFU castle walls," ... and that you need to "learn to express your emotions like a man instead of like a beta bitch, and be vulnerable." What /u/Blarg_Risen and I are pointing out ... is the other side of that exact same coin. The reason you are stuck behind your walls is that you care. You care what she says and does. Most importa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:57 PM
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You are still deeply rooted in the ideal that if your marriage fails, you are a failure, and every action you make is congruent with that ideal right now. Your woman knows this, and until you un-know it, deeply in your core, she will never submit to your frame. This. It's not until /u/OptimusRP DNGAF if his marriage fails or not ... that he will be able to progress. He's walled himself in to not feel the pain of failure ... and in the process made himself emotionally unavailable to his wife, as …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:49 PM
1

Always loved a one touch cross. Give and go is great way to get the ball deeper into defender territory as a precursor to setting up the cross. https://youtu.be/YaYLRaRdh6I Some kids got it ... You're providing an opportunity for those who can get it ... To move at the pace they are able rather than be held back by a standardized norm. It also gives kids the opportunity to see it modeled by a peer which will have a bigger impact than from an authority figure anyway. Makes perfect sense to me. As…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 04:17 PM
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I'd agree that's a better (likely, "ideal") state to be. I'm not sure /u/OptimusRP is even close to that place yet though or that it's even appropriate at this point. To draw out the comparison between you and /u/OptimusRP a bit more, I think it's safe to say that you've been at this long enough now that you've been able to fine tune the ability to modulate your emotional state, and already been able to sufficiently demonstrate DNGAF to your wife which provides your words and (if necessary) acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 01:28 AM
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Yes. You actually have to not give a fuck. It's called congruence. Your wife can smell incongruous behavior a mile away and that shit makes her (and every other woman) want to puke in your face. Edit: Just make sure you're congruous because you're tired of fucking playing games. Not because it will make her behave better. Actually MEAN what you say.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 07:29 PM
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Good stuff man. On "being chosen" ... I believe you see this show up in females very early. I've told my boys, when you see a girl you like in a group of other girls that's the best chance you have of getting her attention. They want a brave boy who is not afraid of girls and most importantly they want their friends to see you picked them. My youngest constantly has little girls chasing him at school now. I think you also see this in PUA when you intentionally ignore the prettiest woman in a gro…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 07:23 PM
2

For All the "kill the ego" we use around here ... There is another perspective. "There is no enemy." Just an opportunity for growth. Lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 07:07 PM
1

Nope. Your problem isn't a goal. It's a mindset. Go back up and read /u/steelsharpenssteel reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:35 PM
1

Your dancing monkey habit makes me think you feel it's about your weight, or STFU or your lifts or some other goal which gets morphed into a covert contract. Those are problems, yes, but not THE problem. What exactly are you planning to improve?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 04:57 PM
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I believe the juice is worth the squeeze if you can reach a point where your wife is not just willing to be unplugged but actively seeking to wrestle with her own ego and YOU guide her towards that possibility. In my experience you can accelerate the process of ego death on each other's behalf because you each know the other better than anyone else. Not just because it's easier to read the label when you're not in the bottle but because instinctively you've got the ability to develop a level of …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:52 AM
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This. So ... much ... this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:12 AM
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No. You are killing yourself. She has no power except what you give her. You grant her the power to hold the machete. There are no crocodiles. It's all an illusion your ego is holding onto, to preserve the status quo. The one where you are responsive to her antics. Your ego is an identity defense mechanism. Core to your identity are the beliefs you use to navigate the world and get your needs met. In this case, you believe your wife holds the final say on who you are. In your siginificance. Your…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:04 AM
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But isn't there some point ... I can expect her to... Embrace the new power structure? What new power structure? You've come here with uncertainty, indecision and a self admitted difficulty in determining what your wife needs from you to feel safe. That's not a power structure. That's a maze with no exit. She even went overt and said she only feels like you want her for sex. Which means she got so frustrated at the covert indicators not landing that she had no other choice. Which leads to the so…
/r/askMRP22/02/20 05:15 AM
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Stay out of her head. Watch what she does, not what she says.
/r/askMRP22/02/20 12:32 AM
1

Consider ... Freedom. Do you have the ability to do what you want, with who you want, where you want, when you want? The more you consider the ramifications of that question, in all the roles and contexts of your life, both today, and going forward ... the more you will see the chains draped around you. Free yourself.
/r/askMRP20/02/20 02:55 PM
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Lawyer up. Run.
/r/askMRP13/02/20 09:59 PM
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There's levels to this shit brother. Let's start with your logic. Sex = validation You are attempting to set up a scale. On one end is our Incel brethren ... who get nada in the sack. You acknowledge that point. women not sleeping with their husbands Implied is the other end. The sex that the mystical creature known as "Alpha" gets. I'm sure you would acknowledge there is a world of possibility between the two points on that scale. How would you go about defining them? Categorizing the variables…
/r/askMRP10/02/20 02:55 PM
1

Sir, no sir!
/r/askMRP07/02/20 02:53 PM
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This. Boundaries > Vetting. Simple logic. Boundaries can be applied before and after the wedding. Vetting only applies before.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 02:47 PM
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"Shit coming out my eyeballs" That's got flair written all over it ...
/r/askMRP07/02/20 12:31 AM
2

Makes men look replaceable Don't fear the toy, be Chad. ... just doesn't have the same ring to it.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 04:38 PM
3

Your concerns are misplaced. You are worried about your fiancee, family, service people (photographer, dressmaker, etc.) The reason you are in the spot you are in is you have been looking out for everyone else's needs and ignoring your own. Now is the time to change that. The ONLY person you should be focused on now is yourself. As you negotiate to get refunds, cancel dates, separate finances ... all of it ... ask yourself "Does the serve me?" "Does this add value to my life?" If the answer is a…
/r/askMRP01/02/20 05:32 PM
8

As far as this sub is concerned ... there's really only one story.
/r/askMRP26/01/20 02:28 PM
1

Shit yeah it did.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:11 PM
1

OYS #4 STATS 45-ish (M), 45-ish (F), 20+ years, Kids: 3, M&F, 8 to 18. 6', 178 lbs., 19.2% BF (worse, details below) Lifts are FUBAR. Details below. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, RM 1/2/3, 16 CoP, BoP, TRP Sidebar, MRP Wiki, BPP: SALSM, HTWFAIP, ABWT, TG, ROTG About three months ago, I realized thanks to a post here that I wasn’t progressing in my lifts as fast as I should be. Lifts plateaued and I started getting massive Charlie-horse type cramps during squats. Thought it might be electroly…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 06:15 PM
1

I just wish I was better at it. You are in your own head, and it causes you to hand over Frame. You're looking forward at the figment of an Alpha that doesn't exist and holding yourself to that standard in the present. That gap creates a sense of suffering, get's tied to "faking it" I have no intention of fucking these girls. ... and results in the awkwardness you're having in your conversations. Set your focus on the woman in front you, let yourself fade away and communicate sincere interest. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 03:22 PM
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Bang 5% Day Bang 100% Atomic Habits 60% BPP 50% The Natural 5% You have multiple books rolling in parallel. Develop your Focus. Focus and Finish. one book. Then work on a plan to implement the biggest takeaways and start immediately integrating it into your behaviors before moving onto the next thing. If you're dispersing your energy here ... you are very likely doing it elsewhere in life and diminishing what you'll actually be able to accomplish.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 02:54 PM
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Most guys spend their lives slowly closing doors over time and locking themselves into a monotonous routine until one day they look back on their life and think..."where did all the possibility go?" ​ This. This. This. This. This. How do you up-vote more than once?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 02:46 PM
9

This is the way.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 02:16 PM
2

extremely difficult decisions The right thing to do is often the difficult thing. Difficulty is directly proportional to the emotions experienced. Yours and the kids. Removing yourself from the equation (because we allow ourselves to go through mountains of pain but won't tolerate an ounce for our kids) what often gets lost is that kids are picking up on negative emotions in both a stay or go scenario. You are not saving your children from "blowback" by not making the decision to pull the trigge…
/r/askMRP17/01/20 06:03 PM
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Good. Keep using the negative as a trigger to take positive action. Use this moment to forge the man you want to become.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:20 AM
2

Blindspots are already addressed. No changes to the plan. 1) Lift - Take your anger out at the iron temple. 2) STFU - Keep quiet about what you know. 3) Sidebar - Divorce advice section. She's shown you who she is. Believe her. Some fish are best thrown back.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:03 AM
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The old bull and the young bull were standing at the top of the hill overlooking a paddock of many gorgeous young heifers. The young bull said, "Let's run down the hill and each service a heifer." The old bull wisely replied, "Why don't we saunter down the hill and service ALL of those heifers?"
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 05:34 AM
4

changing my actions is easier to start with than changing my beliefs. There's nothing wrong with actions being easier. In fact, it's a good place to start. It's simply a tool to change beliefs. In fancy psychology terms it's called "exposure therapy." Actions and Beliefs are in a feedback loop. New actions give new results which will either reinforce or disprove existing beliefs. The goal however isn't the action ... or even the new outcome ... it's the new belief. Proving to yourself that what'…
/r/askMRP12/01/20 07:17 PM
3

No. There are nuanced and distinct differences between what I'm saying and you are saying and the driving factor behind them. While I don't disagree with your statement. "He his weak." I'm less concerned about that weakness being the cause of what makes him "not her type." You have the same issue as OP. You are looking for an answer, and it is tied to her ... and why he is weak in her eyes. That, his weakness is what makes him "not her type." You are looking for an answer. Just like OP is, Somet…
/r/askMRP12/01/20 05:09 PM
3

This ... it takes a minimum of 9 months before a woman will even begin to let her guard down. You won't know what you got until she greets you at the door with a mud mask on her face. That's the BEGINNING of when you'll be able to see what you've got.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 03:26 PM
3

You are making assumptions. That, by definition, is dangerous. This includes the fact that you are automatically precluded from a red pill relationship because you will never be a sub 10% BF Unit on juice. There are foundational elements you have got to get your head (your greatest weakness) around. The first is that you are being whipsawed by your emotions, which are generated by limiting beliefs that do NOT serve you or are based on reality. A woman's attraction is based on more than just phys…
/r/askMRP11/01/20 11:18 PM
1

She fucks you. Right? Seriously, What other type of attraction are you looking for?
/r/askMRP11/01/20 07:20 PM
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3.5 Billion women on the planet and you're worried about having kids? If you do the math there are going to literally be 10s of millions of women who are available, and fertile. Surely one of them could figure out how to be a good mother. You have Oneitis and a Frame made of a wet paper bag.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 07:17 PM
3

I'd swear you already posted something similar about scanning her text messages because she let you use her apple laptop and it synched those messages. That was almost a year ago ... wasn't it. You're not just a little bitch. You're a repeat bitch ... with One-itis ... ... for a woman who's done riding the cock carousel and is looking to settle down. How do I know? She's 26 he's totally not my type we've been exclusive for six months ​ And you're in her Frame ... FUCK THAT NOISE. We all know tha…
/r/askMRP11/01/20 07:06 PM
2

Wear a fedora. Fedoras are poon magnets.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 12:08 AM
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OP. You should be posting this on /r/askmrp As to the question. Women are responsive. If you lead to dominant play they will follow. Don't confuse your medicine with lack of leadership. Just. Start. Fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 09:10 PM
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Drop the lol, for one.
/r/askMRP08/01/20 10:00 PM
2

Appreciate you taking the time to lay out your thoughts on OP's post like that. The self delusion part is the hardest to get around and seeing how you cut through it gave me some tools for my own introspection.
/r/askMRP08/01/20 02:24 PM
3

Nice warning shot. Fuck.
/r/askMRP07/01/20 03:11 PM
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You didn't lose a life. You're just now getting one. You are beginning to own your shit. Keep going.
/r/askMRP07/01/20 01:38 PM
3

Should I care For you, No. What if she doesn't want to have an orgasm? You're seeking validation and the evidence you use that you are sufficient as a man is her orgasm.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 02:31 PM
2

This post should be on /r/askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/20 02:27 PM
2

"Stay out of her head" applies to both your wife's as well as OP's.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 11:40 PM
3

she was probably crying from being stuck with such a beta faggot, Agreed, OP needs /u/Archwinger's post - Every unhappy wife is a rape victim.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 06:03 AM
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Last time I gave you a hall pass because it'd only been a few weeks. No such luck this time. It's not about your big fucking orgasm, you autistic fuck. She is looking to feel some kind of positive emotion from you. Anything. Normally that comes as simple attention. But your cold non emotionally expressive ass doesn't do that. So she goes around lighting divorce dynamite just to get a rise out of you so you'll pay any kind of attention, even bad attention, to her. She doesn't know how to get the …
/r/askMRP02/01/20 10:30 PM
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She, She, Her, Her, She, Her. You're a Dancing Monkey in HER Frame. You've been on the clock 3 years but you're still in year one with her. Think about it. You get deployed for 7 months, have no sparring partner and then come back with rusty awareness and questionable skills and try to make progress again. The deployment time doesn't count towards your dread window. Running away to a family member, brother or otherwise is weak. But I think it's the answer you like. Just like going on deployment,…
/r/askMRP02/01/20 12:02 PM
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OK. I could tear this apart but let's take just take one interaction with your wife. You say She "came across" the exact workshop I asked her to go to over a year ago. She says: "I know this may be frustrating but we have lot to communicate about " She didn't magically rediscover the workshop you suggested. She's seeing her Daddy Warbucks meal ticket heading for the separation door and is actually saying .. /engage Womanese Translator: "You're thinking about dropping the mediator so let's put a …
/r/askMRP02/01/20 02:56 AM
1

+1
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 12:35 AM
6

This. ... and check out the Divorce Advice section of the Sidebar on the /r/MarriedRedPill sub. Start here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/79n1mz/and_so_my_journey_must_begin/dp3mr2o?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/askMRP29/12/19 10:38 PM
4

Dancing Monkey means you're still running a bunch of covert contracts expecting her to respond to you the way you want her to. R&R is part of being on Mission. There are however certain aspects of your mission which allow for no pause. That doesn't mean no R&R, just no pause. Stop. Think about it for a moment. Then respond. Dude isn't swinging his balls ... He was giving a nuanced response that your Ego is flaring too large to see. So let me swing a bat at your head. Who should "get" to be fucke…
/r/askMRP28/12/19 04:16 AM
3

-1 Demerit for the Victim Puke. -1 Demerit for running a Dancing Monkey Improvement Program. -1 for not being on Mission -2 for being in HER Frame. -3 for arguing semantics and missing the point Equals +10 Faggot (Watch OP do the math and have his head explode).
/r/askMRP28/12/19 03:46 AM
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You're 26. With no details on your LTR, I'm going to assume she's about the same age. Which means she's smacking into The Wall just as your SMV is starting to rise. That means her clock is ticking. Yours is not. Don't let her pressure become your noose. You're just going through the withdrawals of the first relationship you've had and are rationalizing a return because the emotions are whipsawing you about. Responding that way is a recipe for a lifetime of pain. Not just with women but in anythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 01:29 AM
7

Lift. STFU. Sidebar.
/r/askMRP23/12/19 10:34 PM
7

... and yourself for STDs.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 01:43 PM
6

Debrief yourself after each engagement with the intent of identifying "launch patterns" and "perpetuating language." There is often a pattern of events that leads up to each engagement which "launch" the argument, shit test or generally undesirable behavior. Identifying the patterns you are running as a couple will allow you to raise your awareness and be on the lookout for something coming. That awareness will give you the opportunity to breath deeply and have the type of internal dialog /u/UEM…
/r/askMRP20/12/19 03:10 PM
1

You're probably fucked. Marriage, in the USA has about a 53% divorce rate. Chances are in favor you will get a divorce. Even if you don't get a divorce ... the vast majority will drag it out, in pain, ad infinitum for "reasons." The kids. A Faith. An inheritance. Whatever. So chances are high ... marriage will suck. Even the best marriages have periods of time when they suck. Not always ... but it just sucks. Not because it has to be that way but because most people won't put in the work necessa…
/r/askMRP18/12/19 04:55 PM
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Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
/r/askMRP16/12/19 04:38 PM
3

MORE happy from 45-dead, because you have a lineage left on this earth ... and if you have done your job right, your lineage is self-sufficient and you can enjoy the years you have left pursuing meaningful activities. Those activities may include time with your kids and grand-kids and / or a period of reflection and passing on the wisdom you have accrued in your lifetime. Billionaire Ray Dalio and his promulgation of Principles resources is a good example of this mentoring activity.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 02:31 PM
1

You can never go back and have the life you had. That's literally not possible. You CAN create the life you want. One better than you ever had. Your choice where to put your focus.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 03:23 AM
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Yep. I dated a Clinically diagnosed BPD woman. Shit tests were shit storms. Comfort tests were comfort chasms. Still a woman ... just more of one. Which is why you need to be more of a man. Just gotta ask yourself if the rollercoaster is worth it. That's an individual call. In OP's case. She's trying to get him to kill the puppy so she can move on. He's just too dense to see it.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 12:19 AM
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"BPD wife" usually means "Eunuch Husband." You haven't given enough evidence to convince otherwise so I'm going with that interpretation of events. As further evidence of my supposition, you provide no details on lifts or sidebar ... But you can write love notes ... So you probably aren't STFUing. And if you haven't done that ... My guess is you haven't done the other things either. My advice. File the divorce papers and put your wife out of her misery.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:16 PM
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You have two obvious problems. 1) Birth Control, 2) Tools for talking with your wife. Others have given you good advice there so I won't spend much time on that other than to say, #MeToo There is third problem, however, that you don't even know to be asking about, that is foundational to both of the ones you raised. Which, if you had addressed ... neither would actually be a problem. You have no Frame. If you wanted no more kids and actually had Frame, you would have simply said "No" gotten a Va…
/r/askMRP08/12/19 02:55 PM
1

... and a Caique. Because "Parrot" isn't cool enough.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 12:38 AM
2

I can't believe I'm saying this about a victim puke in /r/askMRP but hey ... even a blind squirrel gets a nut every once in a while ... You sound like you're actually in a pretty good place ... mentally. Yeah your life is fucked up but you are owning it. You know you're just starting out on a bigger journey. You're even spouting out MRP tenets in your own words. The plan is to keep improving myself. That’s really all I can do. I may just have to accept that we’ll have to move on separately. i.e.…
/r/askMRP05/12/19 05:37 PM
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You don't listen to the recommendations of those ... you ask recommendations from. Looking for some input - [in a post on /r/askMRP] I'm going against the recommendations of those on TRP and MRP ... ​ Hmmm wonder why that is .... ​ You're 22, which means your brain isn't fully developed yet. Which means, You're making one of the most important decisions you could ever make in your life, with the deck, by definition, stacked against you. ​ Probably a correlation there ... ​ BUT, since you're prob…
/r/askMRP04/12/19 06:01 PM
2

You married someone you shouldn't have. Strike one. You took her back when she cheated on you. Strike two. You want us to justify your next decision. Own your life.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 08:38 PM
2

I do. Same situation. My Mom's Dad was Navy. Dad's dad was Marines. The two of them went at it all the time. In good humor of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/19 05:03 PM
4

I need to be more stern verbally No, that's not your problem. I'd rather have 4 fights in one night than verbally figure out how to express myself This is your problem. A willingness to fight isn't want makes you Alpha. A willingness to face your struggles, in this case "expressing yourself", and tackling that issue ... That's where your journey begins. How the hell did you guys get that confidence Face down what scares you most. It's not the fight. It's the reason why you fight. For some guys f…
/r/askMRP02/12/19 05:57 AM
1

Great Point on gratitude being expressed to the cook. Additionally, at our house, everyone helps clean up before dessert. No pie or other sweets until the clean up is done. It helps everyone relax and enjoy each other after dinner plus reinforces a spirit of common purpose as a family and looking out for each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/19 04:12 PM
1

At this point, I'm less concerned about your fiance and more about you. This whole comment tells me you really haven't thought this through. ​ Children, mainly. Your fiance's ability to have children isn't special. There's over 874 million other women on the planet between the ages of 20 and 35 (Legal and Fertile). I'm sure one of them can help you with that. ​ Byproduct of my Christian beliefs. There seems to be simplistic view of your religious beliefs here. Are we talking about the command to…
/r/askMRP27/11/19 03:35 PM
1

100% agreed. To all of it. Including my Ego Investment.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 04:54 PM
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When getting up in front of a group to speak, most people make the mistake of speaking to "the group." This is the single biggest point of failure most people make. If anyone gets anything from this thread ... this next part is what I'd most want them to take from here. If you are in front of a group, only focus on one person at a time. It's that simple. Just like in your PUA example, 1v1 is easiest to pull off. When in front of several hundred people, like the example I gave above where I was i…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 02:54 PM
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I agree, in the random social situation you described you are taking a large social risk. I think there are things you can do to more than mitigate that kind of risk in the organized group situation I'm describing, however, that may not be obvious and should also be highlighted . Taking a side step for a moment, I've been affectionately described here as someone who "talks pretty." That's something I'm happy to own. Not looking for a change in flair, BTW, I'm more than happy with "Grinding Like …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 02:53 PM
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You should see my Christmas sweaters! I have one with a red light up LED for Rudolph's nose ...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:49 PM
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It's all in the Frame which is heavily dependent on the authenticity. If you don't take the moment seriously ... then yes, it can easily skid off the rails into corny. Give the occasion a moment of solemnity ... and it's not hard to pull off. Tell your father-in-law I'll split the wishbone with him. Tell your father, I've got a nice scotch in the drawer of my office we can share.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:29 PM
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Some people may care, others won't. To each his own. My goal here was to give those who might care a structure to work from. As for holidays, and the inherent momentum that can be had there, I see no harm in taking advantage of it to aid in building your role as a leader. I agree in not limiting it to holidays. That's why I pointed out other opportunities in the Final Notes. I just made another comment to that effect below about an event that happened this summer. I don't limit gratitude to just…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:20 PM
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Yes it takes some balls to pull this off but not as much as might be expected. The Thanksgiving holiday provides a ready made expectation that "Giving Thanks" is something that's done. You're just clothing yourself in that opportunity. For families like mine, it's gone well past an expectation. It's just a given. My family has more of a ritualistic history so it's not an odd thing for it to happen for us. My wife's family is more free-for-all at holidays so when we got together there was some ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 09:59 PM
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What seems contrived about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 07:37 PM
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I can see how it would appear that way. Not the vibe that transpired in the moment but certainly something to be watchful for.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:12 PM
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I know I have a fear of falling back into my old ways. Makes it hard to know whether me feeling bad and like I want to apologize is something I should repress or pursue. In other words, hard to be authentic when I don’t know if I can trust what I’m feeling. You can trust your feelings. They are neither good nor bad. They are simply there to point out that there is something you should pay attention to. Be grateful for that heightened awareness. Then take a deep breath or two. Re-center yourself,…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 01:37 PM
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On the flip side, if a woman percieves you to be higher value than you, she will go out of her way to be helpful, remove inconveniences out of your way and even, most hilariously be REALLY uncomfortable with you serving her. The other day I carried a box with a bunch of shit in it, out of a room down a hallway and out a front door of a building. I was going that way, it was not heavy and I was just feeling helpful. The woman who owned the box did not ask for my assistance and I didn't ask for pe…
/r/askMRP21/11/19 05:17 AM
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Don't forget to fill out the TPS reports.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 12:30 AM
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I struggle because deep down inside I’m worried I’m not going to be good enough and she’s going to cheat on me anyway. This is Ego protection. ​ /u/blarg_risen gave me with the quote below. It helped me with the same thought. Maybe it will help you. My concern for protecting my ego is a part of me ... I made it so that it protects me from the outside world. I accept what it is and what it does, and know that when things get hard it may be a crutch I need to lean on to get through. But ultimately…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 07:48 PM
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Be sure to read Jackten's comment below it as well.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:38 PM
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You're 4 weeks in and still pulling your head out of your ass so I'm going to cut you a small amount of slack. ​ It's physical and attitude, You are pointing out her physical state and attitude but the irony is ... That's YOUR problem. ​ Physical: At 23% body fat you've put a ceiling on your libido that makes it all about you right now. Dropping just 6% or 7% body fat will go a long way toward getting a hard on for your wife. Pre-RP, my wife and I were in bed together on vacation in one of those…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:18 PM
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How much of a caloric deficit were you running during your cut? Just the usual 500 Calories or more?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 12:11 AM
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Worrying about whether or not it's weak is you operating her Frame. Decide what YOU want to do, then do it without apologies.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 03:56 PM
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VIII. Say you’re sorry only when absolutely necessary. You only get two lifetime Sorrys. Use them wisely.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 05:22 AM
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Better a scratch than a cut. “Composition is a discipline; it forces us to think. If you want to ‘get in touch with your feelings,’ fine — talk to yourself; we all do. If you want to communicate with another thinking human being, get in touch with your thoughts. Put them in order; give them a purpose; use them to persuade, to instruct, to discover, to seduce. The secret way to do this is to write it down and then cut out the confusing parts.” – William Safire ​ Remove the confusion from your wor…
/r/askMRP18/11/19 03:25 AM
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Right. Say hello to Future You.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 02:15 AM
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Consider the following: The ultimate evidence of belief is action. The ultimate evidence of conviction is decisive action. I more or less said ... That quote implies you waffled. You used waffling terms all over your description to us. Which tells us you're bothered but not strong enough in your convictions to take a firm stance. Just like when you said ... I'm pretty anti-smoking Here's the thing. You had two family members die from it and you're bothered enough to bring it up to internet retar…
/r/askMRP18/11/19 01:02 AM
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You aren't anti-smoking.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 12:04 AM
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Good for you on stopping when she used the safe word but It doesn't seem to me that you are actually owning your dominance and she's not clear on expectations. A safe word is not something she would normally call out because she's bored. It's used because you are pushing her beyond pre-established boundaries. SHE gets to define those boundaries and you damn well have better had a conversation about those in advance ... but once those are set, you do your thing. This includes you denying her what…
/r/askMRP17/11/19 10:06 PM
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loses interest and wants to be untied or gets scared What are you doing to create trust? Have you established safe words? Do you untie her right away if she signals for that? Have you talked through scenarios ahead of time to ensure you are both crystal clear on boundaries? Edit: spelling autocorrect
/r/askMRP17/11/19 05:46 PM
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From your post two months ago: Frame ... Frame ... Frame: FINALLY made me see how I never stopped living in my wife's frame. Sex is bad and I always initiate. ​ This Post: I know she is thinking I will break down and she will give me her pussy for shit sex and ... Still starfish and boring sex. I stopped approaching. She told me she ... masturbates I have not masturbated in months. I am angry. ​ You are still in your Wife's Frame. ​ You have invented your own fucked up version of a power struggl…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 02:48 PM
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I suspect there's more going on there under the covers for you on the "draining balls." front. You are absolutely correct, though. Intimacy, Commitment and Passion are three very different things. Confusing those is perilous. Understanding how they are different and how they interact with each other can bring a great amount of clarity. Understanding how to get and give all three is the goal.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 05:43 AM
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Good. You posted. You're addicted to thinking. Too many thoughts going on in your head. You need to calm the fuck down and simplify. Here's the plan. We're going to keep it really simple. By next Tuesday's OYS: - Gain 0.5 lb. - Apply for 1 job more than the one you have already applied to through your HR connection. I don't care if it's the local grocery store or not. Just ONE more job application. - Set a poker night. Even if it's a month out. - Get through chapter one of NMMNG. Your goal is to…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 08:17 PM
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Cuddles are required.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 04:58 PM
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Sidebar. WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 02:45 AM
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Now that we've got you out into the light ... let's take a look at you. Guilt and Shame ... Normal. A pretty bad case of self flagellation ... sticky but treatable. Miscarriage. Whew ... that's a tough road to walk. There's guys here who've lost kids. I'm sure they'll reach out at some point. Doxxing ... yeah that's a risk. So's staying in the shadows. But you know that, don't you. That's why you posted in the first place. The point is ... you're here. Yes, next stop is OYS. The good part ... yo…
/r/askMRP12/11/19 01:24 AM
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Don't delete it. Understand it's part of your journey. Every Beta faggot out there has Victim Puked at some point. It's part of the persona. You just did yours here. ​ Three days ago you posted this on /r/survivinginfidelity The best revenge is becoming a man of high value then before this happened. This is what makes me feel safe. ​ Just now, in this post you said this. There’s no safe place. ​ You want to feel safe. That's normal. Everyone does. You're hardwired for it. Own that as part of the…
/r/askMRP11/11/19 04:29 PM
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By the time you get to the end of my comment, one of two things will happen. Either you'll pussy up and delete your post ... or you'll man up and actually face yourself. Your call. You have a fresh account but include lots of the "right terms" in your post which tells me you've been lurking for a while and are just poking your head out. You're trying to hide. NO hiding here. Welcome to the Bear Pit mother fucker. ​ Recovering faggot-beta-nice guy Nope. This is a lie. No "recovering" yet. You're …
/r/askMRP11/11/19 01:08 AM
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OYS #2 STATS 45+ (M), +/-1 Year (F), Married 15+ years, Kids: More than 2, M&F, Older than 8 Less than 18. - OpSec 6', 175 lbs., 17.5% BF Lifts (in lbs., DL 1x5, others 5x5): DL 230, SQ 195, ROW 125, BP 125, OHP 85 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, RM 1/2/3, 16 Commandments, BoP, TRP Sidebar, MRP Wiki, BPP: SALSM, HTWFAIP, ABWT, TG, ROTG, SGM, PFP Reading: Undercover Sex Signals. On Deck: Mult-Orgasmic Man, Superflirt ​ Wife / Game / Sex: Sex is On Demand but am not initiating a lot. Libido feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/19 06:43 PM
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You're doing the work. The tow rope is tightening. Keep at it. Outcome Independence.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 04:10 PM
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as if the previous night meant nothing This. Reset each day. It's important for both of you to be able to let the past go. Her tests. Your depression.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:21 PM
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I'm not sure always being happy is the right answer. There are some events in life where "negative" emotions, like anger (in a moment of injustice) or grief (death of a close friend) are totally appropriate responses. Who you choose to be in those moments can ultimately be the most defining events you will experience. Will you meet injustice with unbridled rage or a proportional response? Will you allow your grief to consume you or will you allow yourself to feel the pain and remain open to new …
/r/askMRP06/11/19 04:08 AM
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Good. I got to you. Just like your woman is getting to you. I don't hate you. You CAN squash the ego. THAT my friend is the real work here at MRP. Taking that on will pay off not just with your woman ... but "assholes like me" who write or say shit that yanks your chain. Do you really want the world to be able to yank you around like that? My guess is "No." But only you can do the work. Lifting doesn't help there. Your mission doesn't help there. STFU is just the first step down that road. It's …
/r/askMRP05/11/19 03:25 PM
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Consider the fact that your triggered state is a hook that controls you. Frame requires your ability to remain in control when all the world (including your wife) tries to impose its will on you. Is it possible that the "needless faggotry" is actually an innoculation shot you can use to help reduce your ability to be triggered. Is it possible that it is actually a gift given by men to you which you can use to begin your journey toward a more emotionally balanced place. Food for thought ...
/r/askMRP04/11/19 03:57 PM
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It's a difficult task talking about Tenderness in your frame and wrapping it in the language of a locker room so I opted to simply make the point with congruent language. Tenderness is single tool in a much larger arsenal guys need to employ. Most guys here really need to up their Alpha which is the hard ass, their beta frames don't have. They've already got the tenderness tool in their belt. That said /u/redpillglasses is correct to point out the language I chose to use and it's use in this con…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 03:00 PM
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From a biological perspective a female only needs her mate around long enough to take care of a young child. Once the child is basically self sufficient a female will want to have sex with other males to give her genes a better chance by being spread across more than one mate. The Betafication process serves two purposes. 1) Control the provision for her and her young offspring until the offspring is self sufficient and 2) kill her attraction to the mate and his ability to resist her movements s…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 02:36 AM
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Be honest with yourself. You know you were losing ground before the kid came along. The IDGAF attitude wasn't true before (the fights before proved to her it was a strategy that worked) and isn't true now (you posting to internet strangers proves that to us). She'll pick up on that shit. Its normal for her to work hard to control you post marriage. It also normal for her to change her focus off you to the kid once one comes along. Now that you have a kid, she's using the "control the Beta" hamme…
/r/askMRP03/11/19 11:33 PM
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I've basically raped her No. You haven't basically raped her ... You HAVE. That shit can be found in the sidebar too. You haven't done the work to find it otherwise you would have known that already. Every Unhappy Wife is a Rape Victim Pretty critical point. No, It's THE point. Quit dancing around the problem. Own the fact that your life is fucked up and it's YOUR fault. The answers are right in front of you and you aren't putting in the effort to fix the problem. Own the fact that you aren't do…
/r/askMRP03/11/19 03:52 PM
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Fucking hell. You can't get 5 phrases out without betraying how much of a faggot you are. I've never replied twice to the same post in askMRP before. But I have to do this. I'm not doing this for you OP. You're more than a Faggot. I'm at the point where I'm thinking you're a Troll as well or some fucking combination of both. A "Fagroll." I'm doing this as way to educate the other men who come along and find this comment. Maybe they will learn what OP clearly hasn't and seem intent on ignoring. N…
/r/askMRP03/11/19 03:32 PM
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I feel bad THIS is your problem. You are a woman being tossed around by your FEELZ as opposed to being a man who is the Oak. You are unable to control your own Frame and as a result she has no idea who she is dealing with from moment to moment. For her to want sex she needs to feel you are dominant. You cannot be dominant without being able to control yourself. You can't control yourself because your emotions control you. Your Testosterone and Viagra fueled sex highs are just a way for you to ge…
/r/askMRP02/11/19 04:43 PM
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You are confused about frame. Sweetness and Softness is NOT supplication or a lack of frame. When I gently touch my wife's cheek, look deeply into her eyes and just breath. I let her feel my strong but gentle presence and she literally melts into me. She nestles her head into the crook of my arm at my shoulder. She bends her knees to make herself smaller. She softens her voice and raises the pitch and makes it sound like a small child's because she wants to be wrapped physically, and emotionally…
/r/askMRP02/11/19 12:29 AM
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I appreciate you speaking up. Overthinking is an easy thing to do when looking to tackle any area of life. Sexual Dynamics or not. Especially when you're wired more towards the analytical side of things. In the spirit of keeping it simple, /u/Blarg_Risen and I have had an ongoing DM discussion which jumped into your post. Congratulations, you made a great lightning rod. Your OP points are well made. Even more so when you simplify it down to the acronym of your section headers. In that case It's …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 04:25 AM
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I'm not denying the label ... But the credit for that Graph is all /u/Blarg_risen
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:35 PM
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We seem to be weaving around each other in our agreement and disagreement. Agreed. ​ my advice is going 1v1 to guys in PMs or in their OYS A wise approach. I'm not sure our tennis match is going down a path that provides general value anymore, so I'll cap my comments here and reply in a DM.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 05:55 PM
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I've been in the hole you are in. Here's the first two steps I used to crawl my way out. Breathe There is no separation at the moment between you and your emotions. You ARE your emotions and they are whipping you about. There are a handful of processes we have that can be consciously controlled that directly affect our subconscious and as a result our emotions. A simple box breathing technique will help you get a wedge between you and your emotions so you can become an observer of them again. Br…
/r/askMRP29/10/19 04:07 PM
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I appreciate you providing a finer point of distinction on your thoughts and will attempt to answer your reply here as there is certainly an overlap in concepts. The challenge to me in defining Masculine and Feminine is, centers around the struggle to define what is Nature and what is Nurture. On A[X]HTCTBLT ... I agree that there's a much wider range of items that men and women can both do than society traditionally allows for. I don't believe there's a complete overlap, at least as of now, e.g…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 02:26 PM
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OK, I'll bite. I think you've got your best chance of creating those definitions right here in this community. My Rationale: I think this a particularly difficult question to answer. By definition you're assuming "Who" which implies someone or even a particular subset of people can define what is masculine and what is feminine. At a visceral level I'm suspect of that approach as it's difficult for a even a subset of people to get a reasonable answer never mind agreed on what there is in front of…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 04:13 PM
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Excellent question, that deserves serious consideration. Tackling my own ego's side, I could see ego disrupting, distracting or prolonging efforts in ways that aren't effective. Clearly most guys rolling in here (myself included) have tried the "negotiate desire" plan, at some point, which failed. Hindsight and RP canon clearly point to it not working but when you're heavily BP it's hard to see. You're ego doesn't want you to see how unattractive you are. I would think there would need to be a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/19 02:11 PM
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Dig into the Divorce Advice section on the MRP sidebar ASAP.
/r/askMRP27/10/19 03:02 AM
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So, this raises the possibility of intentional fine tuning of Dread and state management in general in public settings based on how you respond to or initiate flirting selectively by age. For vets and guys further along in their journey this could be a tool that's available to them that never was available as a bloop and so we'd totally miss out on this. I wonder who else is seeing this phenomena that /u/BobbyPeru pointed out.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 02:25 PM
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I think you're definitely onto something here. My wife is a similar age to yours and more than holds her own in her age bracket. When her friends or random strangers of a similar age flirt with me it's a total dread boost. As I've been upping my SMV, on more than one occasion she's stated "Just remember me when a younger model comes along." When you think about it, it's almost self-evident that there's a variable response to an uneven playing field.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 02:09 PM
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It's all yours. I'm sure I'll find some other titles for posts when I need them!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 03:16 PM
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No worries. Let's just take it one step at a time. Just reply here with some basic thoughts on the walls our wives put up. We'll figure out the Reddit logistics later.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 03:13 PM
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No brother. Your story. Your post. I'm just offering to help work through any ideas you have and swap notes with you based on things I've seen in my own journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 03:07 PM
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The walls our wives put up can only be taken down by them. Even still, understanding what may be going on so we can identify it and perhaps point at a door she could walk through ... Could be really valuable. Especially if there's a similarity to something we do as part of.owming our shit. Leading our wives to new possibilities and pushing limits is a fundamental part of what happens here. To keep this succinct, why not post a quick comment on what comes to mind. If it looks like there's a bigge…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 02:28 PM
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I'm interested in hearing about those walls. My wife puts those up too. I'm betting there are similarities there that other guys are experiencing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 02:09 PM
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Thank you for clarification around current lifts. Your post is getting a lot of upvotes which means it will be seen for years to come by new guys with no context. I suggest you make that clarification about current lifts in OP in case guys don't make it all the way down this comment thread. Thanks again for posting this. I'm personally looking forward to your additional posts. Last Christmas was my own Awakening when Mrs Claus didn't slide down the chimney. A long term convert contract was broke…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 01:57 PM
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Eventually she will be cool with Dear MRP. I'm in her frame. OK, bye!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 01:02 AM
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Congratulations, brother. You did the work. Enjoy the rewards!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 12:58 AM
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He definitely is! You are evaluating him based on present circumstances. This is normal and a feminine thing to do. There is a reason most marriages fail, some publicly, most privately. The world changes, the marriage partners change, but they do not change together. There is a life tax that will be applied against both you and the man you settle down with. It is the passage of time and it comes with many things that can tear your world apart. As humans we are cognitively wired for stimulation. …
/r/askMRP24/10/19 12:54 PM
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Don't assume it would be yours.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:13 PM
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Your kids will always be your kids. Even after a divorce they will get to see you in all the new relationships you have. Even if this relationship doesn't work out, if you fix your shit ... the next one has a chance to be a good one and your kids can see that. Focus all your resources on you and your own performance. It's the key to everything.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 03:20 PM
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(except for the Sex Part) ... you're in a good relationship. We have two most fundamental needs. Preservation and Propagation. Not getting either of them met creates literal shit storms in relationships. Not getting "the Sex Part" can cause a reduced immune system, accelerated necrosis in your genitals due to reduced blood flow, increased menstrual cramps, increased cardiac risk, increased chance of prostate cancer, bladder leakage, higher anxiety, a higher risk of depression, lower pain toleran…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 01:55 PM
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The stay plan, is the go plan.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 12:41 PM
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I have no clue what I'm doing Greetings Captain Obvious. You have a bad case of One-itis. She's pulled you into her frame and has you dancing like a monkey. Keep reading the sidebar. Let's hope you can find the magic answer to your problem before you seal that deal. Hint: Iron Rule 1.
/r/askMRP22/10/19 12:05 AM
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that camera alone cost more than my She's comparing herself to the camera. Help her out. "I value simplicity ... Ever notice how easy it is to turn that camera on?"
/r/askMRP20/10/19 02:10 PM
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You are living your life from the neck up. The words you use betray that. Just look at the words you chose to include in the post I'm replying to: criticism, discussion, learn, philosophy, thoughts. Life is meant to be more than just a mental masturbation. It's meant to be experienced. There are certain things you only truly know once you've experienced them. I can tell you all about bicycles. Show you pictures of bicycles. Explain how gears make it easy to go up a hill or the gyroscopic nature …
/r/askMRP18/10/19 02:13 PM
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Cool. Thanks Steel. Appreciate the nod. Does it come with a Soccer mom?
/r/askMRP18/10/19 02:29 AM
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my LTR is already redpill aware and onboard Buddy, your girl is literally telling you she wants YOU to become Chad. Just through the usual indirect womanese. Relax. She likes you. ​ she is self-professed submissive if ... I am alright with it she is looking for permission to attend this event She isn't just a self-professed Submissive ... she IS one. She wants a dominant man and figures you swallowing the RP will get it done. You aren't just aware ... you have actually swallowed the pill ... rig…
/r/askMRP17/10/19 02:05 AM
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Yes, I became "attractive enough." Look. I get it. I was there. End of day, after hustling the kids into bed, lights out, exhausted to the point of almost saying "I'd rather not" but if you don't get it now it could be 2 more months until it happens again, sex. 9 Months ago I found MRP and some genius here (raise your hand if it was you) posted the following question. "Would you fuck you?" One look in the mirror and I had my answer. I got serious. I started the Stronglifts 5x5 program and hit it…
/r/askMRP16/10/19 11:32 PM
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I kinda get it since we just woke up and I haven't had time to mess around and put her on edge about the whole thing. It doesn't hurt my feelings, but BS. You're in her frame. Stay the course. Do the work. My wife was giving me the "I just woke up ... I don't look sexy ... my breath stinks ... in the morning" thing nine months ago. Now she "prefers" mornings. Interestingly enough ... that's the only time that works for me.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:32 PM
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​ Just know that a fat loser developing frame isn't nearly as 'tingle-generating' as a getting-fitter-and-taking-more-care-of-his-shit guy developing frame Truth. I've been lifting 3 days a week for a year. Shit is getting handled and stress level around the house is dropping. ​ Two weeks ago my wife sent me a shit-test by text. It linked to a news article that predicted declining profits for her business. I thought about it for a second, decided to AA ... Me: [Oh Noes - The Sky is Falling!!!] H…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 02:23 PM
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even negative validation of my own self-perception was still validation all the same. Great insight. ​ So, after a couple weeks, I caught myself asking: "Why isn't she initiating like she used to?" ... Because she's a woman. Women are primarily sexually responsive. Good reminder. I've seen that thought fly through my own head. ​ develop confidence through successes, your confidence only lasts while you are successful. I'd suggest that immunization comes through redefining success. Initiating bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/19 07:03 PM
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Seriously, what good is an allegedly red-pill high value male if he gives shit advice or can't think past his own hypothalamus. Consider this ... how is you sharing your feelings helping your friend progress past what happened to him? Expressing your emotions of sorrow or anger aren't encouraging your friend. At best they indicate he's not alone in his emotions. At worst they may confirm for him that he is insufficient to society and deserves to be cast aside. But is that the best you can do? Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/19 12:46 PM
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quads feel like they are collapsing You're doing squats and listening to your body, both of which are really good things to be doing as you start out. Use the length of time it takes to recover between sets and the quality of your form as an indicator on when to increase or decrease your weights. If it's taking more than 3 minutes to recover between sets or your knees are wiggling left and right like Elvis Presley during your squats, those are both indicators to dial back the weights. I cycled a…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 01:03 AM
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that's the Nice Guy beta faggot in you stepping into her imagined frame and then reacting to your false projection onto her of your own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy about yourself. Spoiler alert. Plot line to the Christopher Nolan movie 'Inception'
/r/askMRP10/10/19 07:43 PM
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Why do you know or even care what's in her mind?
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:52 PM
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I'm pretty sure she's going to flip ... You're still in her crazy ass BPD Frame. GTFO. DON'T LOOK BACK. RUN!
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:50 PM
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I refuse to be taken advantage of, even if it was a moment where I understand why someone would. That. Fucking fantastic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 03:04 PM
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Is there a point where you set your sights too high for improvement? Your question betrays a weak frame. Teddy Roosevelt's "Man in the arena" quote applies here. It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is …
/r/askMRP05/10/19 02:44 PM
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Porn is mostly visual (male audience targeted). So if you want to get yourself riled up, go for it. There's a reason women tore through "50 Shades of Faking it." That's their porn. The FEELZ. Forget the Porn. Read Sex God Method (Sidebar) and execute. For extra credit, If you really want to know what your wife may want, read "A Billion Wicked Thoughts." One read of that and you'll understand why Stone is saying she doesn't know what she wants to do ... because she'll entertain way more than you …
/r/askMRP03/10/19 05:35 PM
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take her on Daddy daughter dates. Seconded. I started taking mine on dates when she was 3. A slice of pizza, a ride on the carousel and a gumball. More than a decade later and she still occasionally asks for that combo. Daughters are females too. They just trade attention for hugs.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 01:37 PM
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You don't realize how insightful The_Litz's advice is. She's left her shit so she can contol you and make it easier to go back. Imagine sitting in the middle of all her shit and sincerely being able to laugh at her, her shit and the absurdity of her trying to control you. That nothing about it all affects you except in a humorous way. Progressing through higher Levels of Dread is a process of gaining control over your life starting inside and working outwards. You start inside, working on your m…
/r/askMRP02/10/19 01:36 PM
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"She even openly said ... " "I suspect it's a low SMV issue." You're still trying to negotiate desire. Put your focus on your MAP. Get to the point where you genuinely don't give a fuck if you have any sex with her or not. Make yourself the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 09:15 PM
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She's in "wait and see" mode, betting you'll relax and back off at some point. If you keep pressing, then the real tests come. Burden of Performance and Shit Tests NEVER go away.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 08:31 PM
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This. I told my kids they need to listen "first time." Simultaneously, I held up one finger. After a while, all I had to do was give them a look and hold up one finger. Didn't need to say a word.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 08:26 PM
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if I'll be able to find someone as hot and as smart. Of course you won't. That's why your current wife is leaving. She found someone better. That said. If you improve yourself ... you may be able to get someone who is better than your current wife. Welcome to the game player. ​ She wants to suck my dick and give me a back massage every night. It's called auditioning. She's lining up to be the next chick to put you on a drip feed.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 02:18 AM
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This. I dated a girl with BPD. Total fucking emotional roller coaster. Never again. Run your ass off and don't look back.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 02:12 AM
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Bingo! Now we're getting somewhere. It's not about me. Or my kids. Or your wife. This is about your daughter. And how important she is to you. And that's why your wife is acting up. I know you love your wife and daughter. Your daughter knows you love her. Your wife is feeling insecure about your love right now. She feels like she's second fiddle to the 3 year old and she's working to get the attention you're directing elsewhere. To your daughter. Pause for a moment. Breathe. Take it in.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 04:27 AM
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Because I don’t scream at her, put her down, etc., she's getting the kind of attention she wants from me. Corrected. Your daughter is better at training you than your wife is.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 04:03 AM
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No matter how much your hamster wants to fuck her hamster, stay out of her head.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 01:50 AM
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Not sure this is targeted at my post. Based on assumptive text it looks like it should be inline with another thread. You may want to check. If it was targeted at my post I'd appreciate a bit of clarification.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 12:34 AM
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Providing 9 months of insight in one (epically long) post can absolutely make it seem I'm in Epic Rambo mode. I've posted the hardest shit I've had to work through. It hasn't all been a hell hole but you don't learn from the good times and this isn't Own Your Successes. Scrawny and debt laden is totally accurate. Not hiding it nor proud of it. No, I didn't push for an open relationship. She, like most women would when they become aware of MRP freaked out and brought up the Equalist idea that she…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 08:50 PM
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Triceps are nothing compared to my ass. My cheeks almost dimple when I clench them during a squat.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:24 PM
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Newbie Faggot reporting for duty.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 05:10 PM
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[Part 2 of 2] Cognitive / Emotions: The Beginning - Fetal Position on the floor. Literally. Complete Overwhelm. Debilitating Depression. How the fuck do I get up? I am completely insufficient to the task of life. We're totally financially fucked, and I don't know how to get out of this. We're fucked. I'm fucked. I want to die. The Middle - I'm standing now. I'm off the floor. Out the front door. Out in the world. Living moment by moment. Day by day. Total miracle. Ran into a guy ... who gave me …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 05:06 PM
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OYS #1, 09-26-19 - part 1 of 2 Journey began: Dec 2018 This is a 9-month OYS progress report. Why post, now? The Red Carpet was rolled out. ​ STATS 45+ (M), +/-1 Year (F), 15+ years, Kids: More than 2, M&F, Older than 8 Less than 18. - OpSec 6', 174 lbs., 17.2% BF Lifts (in lbs., DL 1x5, others 5x5): DL 220, SQ 190, ROW 125, BP 120, OHP 85 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, RM 1/2/3, 16 Commandments, BoP, TRP Sidebar, MRP Wiki, BPP: SALSM, HTWFAIP, ABWT, TG, ROTG Reading: SGM. On Deck: 48LoP ​ VA…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 05:05 PM
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...by accepting that struggle is a part of life ... The man is content with his struggle. Do you tell him about the aquifer? Who am I to create discontent? Should he search for the aquifer? But over time, the man adapts by fashioning some shoes ... Who am I to say his standards are incorrect? Is time spent searching for a solution to a problem he is already at equilibrium with time well spent? If he is searching for a new solution to an old problem, he is no longer at equilibrium. Perhaps now he…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 06:27 PM
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Suggest you post this to /RedPillWives
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 01:42 PM
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