Wife asking for more kids

teaandtalk · 2019-12-08T01:49:20+00:00

Get a vasectomy. Otherwise, when we see you here next year, stressed about how the new baby is affecting your life, no sympathy.

InChargeMan · 2019-12-08T12:05:31+00:00

Post in 12 months:

I got a secret vasectomy, but now wife is pregnant, what do I do?

RoccoPinkman · 2019-12-08T00:58:40+00:00

If you don't want anymore kids you should get a vasectomy. I didn't want a third. Drunk captain was probably literally drunk and got taken advantage of. After kid 3 I got snipped even though she wanted more. Man I wish I got snipped after 2... Either way, don't get drunk and have raw sex when she is ovulating.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-12-08T00:47:25+00:00

How fat are you still? Last time you were 26% BF.

After I made some noob progress my wife wanted more kids too to lock me down even more. Now, she still wants more but we cant have them. It sucks, it makes her sad, but through my leadership (and comfort) we both understand and she has come to accept it.

I think you would do better to explore WHY she wants more kids when you admittedly can barely handle the ones you have.

I have a couple guesses but won't project.

creating_my_life · 2019-12-08T00:48:11+00:00

I don’t want more kids.

Asked and answered.

But, this is an adult conversation with your wife. You say, "I feel like we have our hands full with two and having a third is not something I think we should do."

But in true MRP fashion, don't forget the basics. Amused Mastery "Three kids we have not." Agree and Amplify, "Why not have 5? or seven? We can get one of those big-ass vans". Teasing, "I already have three" (while you smack her ass and hand her a glass of wine in a sippy cup). "Hasn't your uterus fallen out yet?"

Edit: And a favorite on three kids, "I'm just getting my man-to-man defense dialed-in, not switching to zone."

Is your wife the type of person that would get pregnant "on accident"? (notice the air-quotes). And, when YOU are done--get snipped. It's fantastic knowing you'll never make another baby again.

RStonePT · 2019-12-08T01:23:52+00:00

Get a vasectomy

She will get over it or she won't, but she won't congratulate you for setting a boundary

BobbyPeru · 2019-12-08T02:21:49+00:00

If you don’t want any more kids, control your destiny by getting snipped.

I know you won’t since you’re too scared to even tell your wife to stop asking. How and where did you ever set a boundary? If you did, she wouldn’t be asking anymore. That’s how boundaries work.

Read the sidebar and lift Pussy

EasyDaysHardNights · 2019-12-08T14:55:51+00:00

You have two obvious problems. 1) Birth Control, 2) Tools for talking with your wife. Others have given you good advice there so I won't spend much time on that other than to say, #MeToo

There is third problem, however, that you don't even know to be asking about, that is foundational to both of the ones you raised. Which, if you had addressed ... neither would actually be a problem.

You have no Frame.

If you wanted no more kids and actually had Frame, you would have simply said "No" gotten a Vasectomy and been done with it. That's not what happened though. I suspect this the root of your problem ...

I used to say three kids is a good number but

You changed your mind.

In the sidebar book, "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" it lists out a set of assertive rights. There is one in particular that applies here.

ASSERTIVE RIGHT IV: You have the right to change your mind (p. 53).

Knowing that and believing it ... gives you the freedom to approach your wife in confidence and have the conversation you need to have. /u/creating_my_life has given you good examples of tools you can use. WISNIFG has others.

The tools you need are here. You're just not doing the work.

Lift, STFU, SIDEBAR

ChokingDownRP · 2019-12-08T15:54:51+00:00

If you don't want another, don't do it. Could end up with twins, ask me how I know!

redwall92 · 2019-12-09T17:00:48+00:00

You're asking us for advice on how to better handle this situation so that your wife doesn't feel bad.

There is no spoon.

HeckleandChide · 2019-12-08T19:51:08+00:00

We have a lot of kids. 2 to 3 was the hardest other than 0 to 1. If your frame isn't set and you aren't kicking life in the ass, you will be back here in 18-24 months in a worse position.

razenha · 2019-12-10T04:18:45+00:00

Freeze some sperm and get a vasectomy tomorrow morning.

Aechzen · 2019-12-11T15:25:17+00:00

Am I doing anything that sounds wrong? Are there better ways to handle this?

Kids are something you should agree about before you marry somebody. You can't compromise and have 2.5 kids.

Are there better ways to handle this?

Yes. Go back in your time machine to just after you had kid two, and get a vasectomy right then. You would now be at two years of shooting blanks. Getting one now is almost as good, but you should have already owned your shit about this a long time ago. To humor my wife, I waited until my second was one year old. I repeated myself until it was clear what my plan was, and I followed my plan.

The only way you show her just how serious you are about never having more kids is personally ensuring that you can't have more kids.

As long as you're trusting her to not get pregnant from you cumming in her, she has the final say on whether you are having more kids.

Rock_Granite · 2019-12-08T00:47:20+00:00

Does your wife work? This sounds like the classic setup where the wife is stay at home, wants kids, then ends up divorce raping the guy in court when she gets bored with it all.

FiendishFisherCat · 2019-12-08T22:25:48+00:00

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Title	Wife asking for more kids
Author	FiendishFisherCat
Upvotes	7
Comments	58
Date	December 8, 2019 12:31 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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