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If it's your house, and yours alone, then you can ask her to leave. If she doesn't, call the police. If you have a nice car that is kinda a family car, sell it, give her half the money and she can get her own car. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. And you can turn some things back on her, if she said she doesn't feel safe, then she needs to leave YOUR house. Then, if she doesn't, then she obviously doesn't feel that unsafe. Take the emotion out, be pragmatic, it's now a game of self preservation. Do not live…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 10:22 PM
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Thank you for your input, I think you’re right but I’ve got to do it and I’ll attempt to do it with as little pain for us both as possible. But these things never go to plan! But fingers crossed. Thank you for also teaching me a new word 😝
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 01:23 AM
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No, she is in denial! I'm fully on board and ready to pull the trigger. We still care about each other, and there's no real hate or cheating or affairs etc, so there's no need for negative emotions. My point was more around the angst of her finding out through an unsolicited channel, rather than me having the chance to have a respectful conversation with her when she is in a state of being receptive to the talk. I'm trying to be gracious and thinking about her feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 11:13 PM
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yeah the other day we were talking about the issues we have been having. Seems we have run out of things to talk about... and I can't actually remember the last time she asked me how my day was.... it seems like yes, it is the beginning of the end for you. But if you dont want it to be, you can save it, but sometimes things just come to an end. Divorce has such negative connotations, but not every divorce has a negative catalyst, sometimes people are in your life for a season, a reason or a life…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 05:59 AM
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Chiropractor. A cracking good job
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 09:43 PM
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Or maybe we should bring in marriage levels? You get married, you're at level 1, after 5 years you move to level 2, after 10 years level 3. At each level, there are slightly different rules around divorcing, and who get what etc.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 09:49 PM
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Yeah I totally agree. I almost feel like these days marriage should be a 5 or 10 year contract and then, at the end of that 10 years, if both parties dont want to "renew" then it should be easier to end things. I also think that there should be mandatory basic prenuptials, in some situations it would avoid a lot of issues. We also need to stop glorifying marriage so much like it's some "sacred" cow. I am going through a divorce at the moment and I had a lot of people saying that it's really impo…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 09:47 PM
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Or find a place you can actually yell properly. Not some pussy yell, but a deep, from the guts all out growl and yell. You need to get that anger out in a positive way. Find an abandoned area, use a pillow, but you got to blow off some steam in a semi-healthy way (ie dont just pound whisky)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 04:57 AM
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You need to channel it somehow. The first thing I can think of is a boxing class. Not only can it help you burn some energy, it's good for the mindset to get your mind off things, you'll get some natural endorphins that will help, keeping fit in this situation will help you and oh yeah, you get to punch the crap out of a bag. Just picture her or Chris.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 04:56 AM
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My STBXW is a chiropractor 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 09:25 PM
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I’m not abusive. I might get a little testy at times but I’m a fairly placid person normally
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 09:56 AM
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Yes, i feel like divorce has so much negative energy around it, and I feel that a lot of the time there’s a negative catalyst that causes it. Eg cheating or not standing each other. We are not There yet so I’m hoping we can have a “nice” divorce and work things out well. We are still getting well and we are both (at the moment) quite reasonable people
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 05:33 AM
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Wow, thanks for sharing. Only 1 kid for me so that makes things easier on one hand…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:22 PM
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That’s good to hear (apart from the dollars). Thank you for your insights
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:21 PM
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So good to hear, Thank you for your insights
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:21 PM
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Yeah boi
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:20 PM
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I feel the same and when we did have a big chat, it was her that asked “has our marriage just come to an end?”
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:20 PM
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Wow, quick. Thank you for your insights
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:19 PM
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Yeah deep down I know the answer. I just started a business too so not the best timing! But we have low debts and good equity in our property so i don’t think I’ll end up in a financial hole
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:19 PM
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Thank you for your insights, only 2 women? LOL, great stuff mate
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:18 PM
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Thank you for your insights, we are the opposite in that most of the people we hang out with are my friends and I have a large support network
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:18 PM
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Thank you for your insights
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:17 PM
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Good to hear you’re talking to “someone”. Sometimes it not them listening, it’s us getting things off our chest. I always feel better voicing my concerns or frustrations. Sometimes that’s enough for me just to say it. A year from now you’ll look back and see all the growth you’ve had. Keep at it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:01 PM
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Stop aiming for happy? I don't understand that comment. So it's better to be married and miserable? That doesnt seem to be living life to it's full extend. One life, no regrets?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:52 AM
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I'm still attracted to her, I just don't think I'm "in love" with her any more. But I do care about her and just want the best for her. Not every divorce needs to end in negativity and not every divorce has to have a negative catalyst (eg affairs etc)
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:25 AM
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Thank you, yes I am a very dedicated and "hands-on" dad and do a lot for the household eg I do most of the cooking, help with dishes, washing etc. I'm very domesticated LOL
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:24 AM
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How old were you when your mother left your dad?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:23 AM
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thank you, good advice. I do journal on a regular basis and I am very aware of my values, my mantras and what lights me up. When I have journaled about it, it all leads to ending things 😞
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:23 AM
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I also want her to be happy, and I just don't think I make her happy anymore. I also think that she deserves to be with someone that is 100% invested in her and if that's no longer me, then she deserves better
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:22 AM
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I actually spent my 20s being called "Davey", I only changed it when I went into the corporate world. Most of my friends still call me Davey, so it's more of a return than a new thing
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:20 AM
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Yes, over the years she has been mean at times (of course, we make allowances for "that time" or her being tired) but it doesn't stop it hurting. It would be ok if it was balanced with her being affectionate and telling me she misses me and looks forward to me but that doesnt happen. In our relationship, I am the "girl" when it comes to being emotional, empathetic and talking about feelings. She is stoic, doesn't like to talk about things and is not very affectionate. I am craving someone that w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:19 AM
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It's a nice Volvo! I have one daughter, almost 13. But staying together "for the kids" is actually worse than divorce. Kids dont get damaged from divorce, they get damaged from seeing their parents fight, bicker, and be nasty to each other.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 09:48 PM
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Total midlife crisis! Yes to getting some therapy but the biggest question I ask myself is "Am I truly happy?" and I really think that's the first step. If that's a no, then there's other issues at play...
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 09:47 PM
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Thank you for your comment. I actually think that marriage has some great PR! Some people close to me have focused on "saving the marriage" but no one has asked me if I'm happy. Or feeling fulfilled. But I get it, there's a lot of "fallout" from a marriage ending and I do appreciate you taking the time to comment
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 09:47 PM
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