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FIELD REPORTEgoistchan/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 12:08 AM
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The lucky ones get a warning/caution. Most other women find out first hand not to feel safe around men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:19 AM
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Why are you no coping over the basic concept of nuance? I'm wheezing. How dare women like expressive girly men as well as 250 pound slabs of bicep meat that clack rocks together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:26 PM
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Pagliacci smiles at this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:20 PM
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You realize musicians, especially male ones, are infamously messy and dysregulated? Were you born in a hole?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:17 PM
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"Niche people" is still millions of people. You should become a street magician. Bitches love magic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:06 PM
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Emo bands are non neurotic? My guy this is comedic gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:05 PM
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"Interest in sex from men is meaningless" "Without sex, most women have nothing to offer" Ah yes, the meaningless pursuit of something you value highly enough to pursue. My favorite fakeout
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:54 PM
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Attractive and socially adapted men get women? THIS IS UNCONSCIONABLE. Also women should settle for balloon animal shaped virgins and freaks otherwise they're dating above their league and my feelings will be hurt :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:52 PM
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Eh your Sispyhus cope fantasy is exactly how biology intended men to act. Oh, you have to look healthy and marginally able to work/defend yourself? Boo hoo. At least you don't have to fight to death like literally every other land mammal. Also, 100% of couples married 20+ years look older than they did while dating. Crazy. True love is the biggest beta enabler. Think about that while your lifting your little weights in front of the mirror
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:09 PM
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If you have to ask people to imagine a hypothetical toxic dynamic rather than acknowledge some couples appear physically mismatched and can recognize it then I'm pleased to announce you haven't made your point. Guys call fat women the most horrific insults all the time and yet ignore the fact most of them have at least a couple of admirers or, dare I say it, loving partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:05 PM
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Yeah, and? That only shows men work harder to achieve lower physical standards for their partners. 99.9% of men never fuck a supermodel. The world still gets populated nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:50 PM
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Most men hit the wall pre-birth. The obsession with the basic fact that women get older is a thin veneer for the fact at least 60% of men look like feet and have to get good jobs and skills to compensate for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:15 PM
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Lmao yeah, about that.....
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:35 AM
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A lot of them are dead, pure and simple. After the U.S withdrew many families were separated and the men of fighting age forced into the Taliban. Entire generations have been raised and live under the threat of death, torture, and displacement. Literally nobody has rights there anymore, not just the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:48 AM
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Men rape women in hijabs, let's not pretend women's clothing choices actually make a difference in whether or not they're objectified
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:20 AM
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Eh, the outspoken hot conservative women pushed by guys aren't actually "real" conservatives either. They benefit from liberal laws and mindsets, rage against degenerate feminists on live with their tits hanging out and bleached blonde hair perfectly in place, and earn massive incomes from being content creators and influencers while saying other women shouldn't work outside the home. They know perfectly well that their beauty and willingness to shit on women will give them validation, and their…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:15 AM
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I mean, women make up half of the entire population. And many are used to having rights and freedoms. It won't be a clean taking of power and I imagine there will be isolated, small strongholds of women who resist. Most women I know won't just throw up their hands and say "oh well! Guess Im a slave now :D". Even Afghani women and those impacted during past wars have formed their own militia groups that men for some reason just can't stamp out with brute force and chest hair
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:38 AM
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Really all anyone cares about is equality under the law. Which in the west is pretty much achieved. So I'm wondering what rights exactly men could take away if they already demonstrate pretty well they don't view women as beholden to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:21 AM
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This post totally ignores the fact that healthy men want to protect and cherish the women in their lives. Fathers want to make the world safe for their daughters. Husband's want to give their wives a good life. Sons want to look after their mothers. Equality means nothing through a lens of genuine love. That's pretty much why men haven't forced women into slavery and humiliation. Because the vast majority don't want to, and that's the way its supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:14 AM
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Not really. You only think that way because you frame fulfillment and happiness as having complete control over your life. It must be scary to deal with human unpredictability but I guarantee you AI will not fill that void simply because it's designed to be a stand in for real love
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 11:27 PM
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She should have canceled a date over one phone call? To her sick mom? That took less time that it takes to wait for drinks? That she asked him specifically if it was ok to do at that time? I find that a bizarre mindset personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 02:35 PM
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Well the story was basically the girls mother was in intensive care and wanted to talk at a specific time before surgery. Unsure what it was for but I assume from the tone that it was a serious thing and the girl was worried about her mom. And yeah I do think it's unreasonable. 5 minutes is literally chicken scratch and I have basic empathy. I'd even have offered to leave for a few minutes to give her some time to compose herself. It's not hard to accommodate someone's very simple request just o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 02:23 PM
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It does work out. Often. Myself, I've witnessed guys get haircuts and immediately they pull a pretty girl who really likes them. A philistine red pill will say that the haircut makes him look more in control/masculine/rich and women like that because they're shallow. Whereas the actual dynamic is probably more like: haircut= confidence boost + comfortable with self = fostering connection with pretty girl. I think people tend to think that the world is judging them harshly when in actuality, we a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 02:13 PM
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With zero irony I've seen a man claim a date was bad because the girl had the audacity to ask if she could ring her mom in hospital for a few minutes and apparently it showed a "lack of respect" and "a shit test". Fully convinced these people have negative IQs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:59 PM
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Not really. It's not blue pill or red pill to state the obvious fact that you can't just just show up to the dating ATM and cash out a hot babe or Chad of your choosing, with zero regret involved. It's mostly a case of red pillers being incapable of comprehending anything beyond their immediate control. The red pill focuses heavily on "maxxing" your stats to ensure a bigger pool of dating options but then turns around and complains that the dating options don't make them happy or place demands o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:32 PM
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These people are essentially trying to turn the subjective and unpredictable nature of human beings into a tactical role-player game where the outcomes are all achievable if the players go by the rules. Essentially, they're approaching women and dating like they would a Lego set or broken engine - identify an outcome or problem, do x, y, z, then you'll get what you deserve: a shiny prize. The problem is, by reducing themselves and other people down to stats and probabilities, inevitably you're g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:32 PM
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Research studies are dogshit, as are random website articles. I was single and celibate for 4 years and it was great. I had all this spare time for hobbies and friends and just enjoyed being alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:04 PM
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How nice for you! Regarding dresses and pretty clothes, I recommend looking up your Kibbe body type and finding elegant, flattering pieces for all occasions. Looking "hot" is easy, but having a style that can't be imitated is an amazing feminine skill and your boyfriend will love standing beside a beautiful goddess.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 08:03 PM
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Most research studies and polls are utter horseshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 05:09 AM
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No, it's that the threat of being harmed by men in general can affect her behavior and choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:59 AM
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All I'm reading here is that men (intentionally or not) are women's only natural predator and adjust their behavior accordingly or stop giving much of a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:30 AM
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Lack of desire and/or satisfaction from sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 01:08 AM
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I read somewhere that 30% to 80% of ALL women experience sexual dysfunction. However this isn't in the strictly physical sense. It's specified that a desire for sex is part of healthy sexual function and a huge chunk of women seemingly never want to have sex even if the capacity for orgasm is there. Women should want sex, full stop. Who cares about protecting a man's wishes to "please her".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 12:59 AM
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I think penis size and being a good lover are 95% unrelated. Unless you're at the extreme end of big or little of course. "Vaginas are malleable" yes because their primary purpose is to push out a small watermelon sized human. I feel like people discussing the specifics of size are either pornsick or fixated on themselves, again usually influenced by porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:20 PM
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Honestly? I think he is lying about being spiritually torn. He was always a lustful and greedy person and now he's trying to justify his weakness by blaming you for "leading him astray". I'm an atheist but I have read the Scriptures and it does not say anything about premarital intimacy being a sin. He is being extremely unfair and manipulative by framing your intimacy as a sin and destructive to his spiritual journey. You have dodged a bullet. Please don't blame yourself for being naive. You we…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 09:13 PM
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Oh sure I agree with you. And you can disagree with my post, I was just amending the assumption that the post was intended to tell men how to behave or berating them
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 02:47 AM
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It's worked for me and others. The fact people are so adverse to the idea (even just doing it for a week, as a singular experiment) is fine, not everybody thinks the same way. But it's not inherently unhealthy. Certainly not any worse than repressing ones feelings or putting up with an uncaring partner.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:51 AM
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Hm yeah its pretty gross to say I'm autistic for literally trying to help people. Also dumb because humankind would literally still be squatting in a cave if it weren't for the contributions of neurodivergent people. So thank you for making this point!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:47 AM
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It's how you frame it. You're not judging a guy on his final score, you're letting him know the gestures you appreciate the most vs the things that made you feel resentment, if any. But I do agree this idea wouldn't suit everyone and that's fine. It's more about bringing awareness to how couples judge and value communication and reciprocation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:45 AM
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"Such a scorecard is likely to encourage more beta behavior" I'm confused. I didn't say anything about trying to change a man's behavior, it's about communicating what makes you feel loved vs what fosters resentment. Nobody thinks their partner is a beta unless they never had much respect for him to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:42 AM
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If you don't experience communication problems then the post isn't for you. No need to be a cretin.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:38 AM
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This is the way 💚
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:10 AM
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I'm in a LTR. With a guy who makes 6 figures and has 7 in the bank. Accusations of autism aside, being aware of this stuff works and has helped me deepen my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:09 AM
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"I can communicate without nagging" see, from a males perspective, most women can't. Because the communication styles of both sexes have different goals and intents. This is the crux of the issue. So while everyone keeps a scorecard, women and men communicate differently what they want and how they reciprocate. That's basically what I'm highlighting in this post. It's aimed at women because I assume most of us here are women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 12:43 AM
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A lot of toxic behavior is prominent in this sub, that gets downplayed because "men and women are different hurr durr". There's also a lot of young women here seeking advice and tips on how to have a healthy relationship. Telling them their partner is going to tell them to stop nagging or that they're "stupid" actually perfectly highlights why red pill isn't a good relationship strategy. You're creating a dynamic where the male is allowed to be dismissive and rude and then wondering why he treat…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 12:39 AM
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I'm not. Why would it be relevant even if I was? Is there a problem with the post?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 12:32 AM
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Neither is a man's, which is why they are always blindsided when they get the divorce papers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:24 PM
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I have a couple female friends who got divorced and ALL of them lost money and property because of it. They all quit their jobs or reduced their hours after marriage so they had less overall income plus all the bills to pay in spite of ostensibly "getting half" of "his" stuff. They got custody but only because the dads refused to negotiate in court or wouldn't show up. The divorces themselves were mostly amicable, both parties did what was best for the kids and everything else followed. The ex h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:19 PM
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Well that's because femininity is almost always defined passively and thus is way easier to project. And frankly it IS a lot easier to smile prettily and pick flowers and cuddle little bunnies and bake a pie than it is to conquer the world or some shit. Femininity is basically just masculinity with all the fun, thrilling, challenging parts removed, which is also why women's work and women's labor is continuously invalidated or mocked by men. It's "easy" due to a lack of status and competition an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 11:57 AM
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Its good you two are able to talk to each other about online behavior, and he's likely just genuinely private about his life and doesn't feel the need to post the relationship. The fact you feel down, though, is significant and he needs to address that. Because it's completely valid. Being posted on social media is an undeniable statement of your exclusivity/commitment and the fact he's not done that yet is understandably making you sad. A conversation needs to be had soon regarding this, and yo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 12:09 AM
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We don't post each other, in fact we haven't even changed relationship status lol. To the world both of us are still single. We've discussed posting/tagging each other in stuff and agreed we don't want to live our relationship online and just keep it simple and private. If we get messaged/hit on we just ignore it or block. Now I have noticed a distinct pattern of men not posting their girlfriends despite the relationship going on for a couple years. And frankly they fall into two camps; the ones…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 11:39 PM
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I have no children currently, and tbh I don't plan on having children anytime soon (I'm 27). And while I am on call and work up to 50 hours a week, it only takes an hour max to clean up the house, which I usually do on a day off. I try to do things like dishes and sweeping the floor instantly so things don't "pile up" and I have to deal with a huge load of housework at an inopportune time. My house is pretty small, thankfully, and my partner is a clean person who helps me out if he sees me picki…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 11:22 PM
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I'm not a traditionally feminine woman at all really and I LOVE it. I love my job as an engineer, I love working, I love physical labor, I love going on adventures. Putting on a pink dress and heels might make me look softer but it won't change my core values and personality. And I don't want to change. You need to be happy with yourself. Not just what you look like but the person you are. If you're more "masculine" then you either need to reconsider your attitudes towards being masculine OR bal…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 08:24 PM
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Ha that's the most irrelevant thing I've read this year. It's interesting though how women continue to express themselves emotionally despite men labeling them crazy, hysterical, childish, chaotic, illogical, weak, and so much more. It's almost as if men fear women treating them harshly for showing emotion the same way men shit on women for doing so. I see you .
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:19 PM
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I'm wondering if you've actually had a loving relationship with any woman at all tbh. Because the biggest complaint given by women in relationships is that their boyfriend or husband won't talk to them, or become abusive when they're feeling emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:12 PM
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Lots. I'm bi. It's funny how most of them aren't actually crazy, just looking for empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:09 PM
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It does though. Violent behavior is undeniably an expression of rage, hate, jealousy, and a desire to destroy. Prisons are full of guys who couldn't see the benefit of getting help for their issues. I don't know why this is so hard to understand tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:57 PM
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Men choose those high stress careers lol.What a dumbass retort. Well, idk, women don't complain nearly as much about not being allowed to show emotion or use not being fucked as an excuse to murder strangers. It's funny how women have friends that they use to gain emotional support as opposed to wanting to legally murder people in the army. Soooo weird. I said this earlier, but guys just don't have the emotional range that women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:55 PM
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It's the desire to seek treatment that's the important thing I'm highlighting, dummy. It's true the serotonin theory of depression is unproven, but it's also true that women are far more likely to acknowledge they need help. A guy will deny anything is wrong until he blows his brains out. Does that strike you as evidence of better regulation skills? I swear missing the point is a national sport for ppl like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:44 PM
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Nah. Women just don't externalize their emotions as much. Which isn't a good thing, BUT, it doesn't result in other people being directly harmed nearly as often. More women being on antidepressants only tells me that women seek treatment more and with a greater desire to feel better. See above as to why. Men would rather feel like shit for their entire lives than acknowledge a need for support.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:37 PM
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0 lol. I'm not a fan of kids at all.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 10:27 PM
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Name all the women mass shooters, all the women who go on to commit violent crimes, and all the women claiming they don't have emotions only to go on and be obsessed with the same person who they dated 20 years ago. Women have a greater range of emotional expressions. Curiously enough, this results in women being more likely to show them. It's not the same as being dysregulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:21 PM
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I find that men consider any form of emotional expression to be evidence of dysregulation lol. You're not punished for being emotional. You're punished for saying you don't have them and then going on to have an outburst.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:19 PM
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Its because women have more social support and overall emotional regulation skills. It's not that men fall more deeply in love, they dont; they just have fewer relationships to fall back on and generally less coping skills. I know a couple guys who are STILL bitter over their high school girlfriend breaking up with them in their 30s. They're not emotionally attached, they don't love their ex still, they're just stuck in a negative loop that they usually extend to all other women by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:54 PM
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It's been my repeated experience that intelligent men value intelligent women. It doesn't always mean a college degree, a prestigious job, etc... but it NEVER means aspiring purely to stay at home to be a domestic partner for life.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 09:18 PM
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Adults should know how to budget and plan with money. I've done it my entire working life and it's not rocket science.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:23 PM
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Well unless you inherit money, I'm curious to know what income you'd use to invest in property or stocks if not the money you get from working a traditional job or earning in some capacity. Different roles in marriage is one thing. I respect the choice to stay at home just as much as the choice to work. However accusing people of bad vetting skills when they've been promised a certain lifestyle or love breaks down is.... fear mongering, lol. People do vet badly, but they also get deceived and li…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:21 PM
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RedPillWomen. The advice this sub focuses on is mostly how to find a man to marry and settle with.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:54 AM
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Oh for sure. And sadly it's not really touched on enough in this sub. RPW is a really good dating strategy but not so good at predicting relationship outcomes. Women can definitely live a traditional life and enjoy it BUT we have the resources and accessibility to education opportunities now and regardless of marriage and babies and the white picket fence, it's just the smart thing to always have a backup plan regarding your income/working skills. You don't need a full on girlboss corporate care…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:51 AM
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You sound like a really cool person with interesting hobbies. Don't be worried about finding a guy who is into those things or competing with other women. I've said this many times in this sub, but your own self development and self esteem is key to finding a partner who loves you and will support you. The whole "trad" thing comes in many forms. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:46 AM
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A lot of the time they simply want a woman to be dependent on them. Which again, is ok if you're willing to take on that responsibility and it's with your partners happiness in mind. It's a situation that's very easy to abuse though. I've listened to and read far too many stories of women who were promised the tradwife dream and ended up trapped/destitute because their trad captain decided to leave them or mistreat them. Going back into the workforce to support yourself and kids after staying at…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:43 AM
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True but 90% of their criticisms of working women basically amount to "I don't like it" lol. Which is fine, everyone has their preferences. I'd also assume these guys aren't too accomplished or wealthy either, because not a single really accomplished man I've met or worked with thinks women should exclusively stay at home forever.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:47 AM
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Good luck! ❤
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:22 AM
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That's how men tend to think when they're finding a forever partner and not just a FWB, unfortunately. A traditional man is definitely going to judge your spending habits, income, skills, and how happy you'll be with what he can provide. If he thinks you're going to be too high maintenance, too wasteful, too demanding, too dependent etc he will probably opt for someone else to be perfectly honest. That's just how the cookie crumbles, and it's not a statement about you being a loser, because you …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:21 AM
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I worked for the military as an engineer. It's a great career for stability/building a skill set. While its definitely a male-dominated field, it's not completely bereft of women. I made lots of female friends on base amongst the soldiers and admin, and they were the coolest women I've ever met.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:16 AM
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A boss babe can still cook, nuture, clean and prettify a house, and be feminine when she's not working. In fact, most feminist boss babes I know do exactly that. The idea that men aren't attracted to working women is a cope fantasy/lie perpetuated (ironically) by the same women who can't score a traditional man. Most men value a woman who is skilled/educated and can earn her own income in this modern world. It's not cheap to keep your wife barefoot in the kitchen. Either he's so loaded that mone…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:09 AM
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This really isn't your choice to make tbh. You might find a guy who you'll desperately want to marry and end up being his fun/self discovery relationship and you'll be heartbroken. Or you might fall out of love with a guy who seemed to tick all your boxes at age 24 but doesn't measure up when you're 30 and have different life priorities When I was your age and younger- I'm 27 - I was a very staunch believer in "dating to marry". I still am, but I've learnt that you simply can't predict what the …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:25 AM
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How about you develop neutral attitudes to how women dress and the cultural contexts that impact those choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:13 AM
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I mean, it begs the question of why you can't just look for a guy with all the same values but isn't divorced. Is being divorced a bad thing? Of course not. Does being divorced add value to a relationship? Eh 😬 usually it doesn't. If he's got an OK relationship with the ex, that's a green flag. If he's divorced WITH a kid, does he have a good relationship with kiddo? And you have to ask yourself, will your presence affect that relationship? It's just a huge can of worms to work out. Frankly too …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:21 AM
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Good luck. I'm sorry you're going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 03:13 AM
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He knew you well enough to fuck you. I assume he knows how babies are made and he had every opportunity to not do that very thing. What a silly excuse. You can't force this guy to care, and sadly, many simply don't. Do you want to bet your child's happiness and quality of life on this flaky dudes decisions? Sure, he could just be freaked out and scared. It's normal for men to panic. But you can't sit around and hope he'll blossom into a perfect daddy. You need to think of yourself as a single pa…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 02:06 AM
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They didn't even have jobs or houses in the stone age
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:00 AM
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How do you reconcile this with high infant mortality plus high male mortality? You live in a fat cat era where you can reliably predict your death to occur in your 80s, if you're healthy. In former societies you could be sent on a war campaign for ten years, you could shit yourself to death after drinking bad water, hell you could just die from a snowstorm or random attack for shits and giggles. You're deliberately ignoring the fact that men were highly expendable, hence their position as head o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:47 PM
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It doesn't even help them in the long run. We live in a horrendously beige, barely-functional culture and EVERYONE suffers for it because we've truly internalized the concept of profit over value. We have AI doing the fun stuff like art and writing instead of what it's actually fuckin designed for. We have subscription services to access basic media that SUCKS because, again, profit margin over value. This era will be remembered for being boring, dumb, and minimalistic to the point of poverty JU…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:36 PM
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The nuclear family was literally an invention to create more units of consumerism lol. The epidemic of single oarents and divorces is a humble reminder than two people were never meant to sustain a family and be happy at the same time. But I honestly think that was the point? Breaking down community bonds and making an entire generation reliant on consumer culture? Yay for traditional values I guess. Most 50's housewives were doped to their gills
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:05 PM
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Calling it traditional in the first place is laughable. They really mean the localized, western, middle class era post WW2 that women (briefly) stayed at home to raise children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:24 PM
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I'm well adjusted lol. I hate asshole guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:26 AM
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Nah. Granted, many women today are broken and addicted to drama but a healthy, well-adjusted individual does not want to be mistreated in their relationship and won't find an asshole attractive. Most genuinely nice people are in relationships. With other super nice people. I can anecdotally observe this pretty much everywhere, and it's common sense we are most attracted to people who have similar values and personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:22 AM
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Good luck :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 12:18 AM
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Its really as simple as doing things you like and find satisfying when you're upset or feeling "off". Rather than instinctively wanting to talk about feelings, you need to be able to sit with them and turn your mind to a more productive activity. I personally like to paint/have a bath/do embroidery/plant my garden when I'm feeling a bit crappy. 95% of the time I get sufficiently distracted so by the time I connect with my partner I've pretty much forgotten what I was sad about and don't care any…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 12:17 AM
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Basically you need to learn to regulate your own emotions without needing your partner as a sounding board. I'm a low-emotion woman. I very rarely ever feel so upset I need my partner to comfort or help me. I remind myself constantly that he has a busy, demanding job, a tight deadline, and his own thoughts to deal with. Adding mine on top isn't only cruel, it's stupid and makes me look dependent and selfish. You owe it to your partner to be self sufficient in the sense he doesn't have to worry a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 09:20 PM
2

The best skincare is staying out of the sun, drinking plenty of water, and a stress free life. All free of charge. The whole "you need a 7 step skincare routine" is fine but with such a saturated market and some really disingenuous advertising, I advise you to stick to what is fully in your control, which is what I mentioned above plus a really good diet/workout routine. No skin cream or laser treatment can compare with good healthy living.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 01:54 AM
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I'm in a LDR with an American. I didn't do anything different regarding vetting; of course it's a bit harder to ensure he's being truthful and isn't talking to other people BUT you have to have equal parts trust and common sense. If it's too good to be true, then it's probably bs and you need to be very wary. I find a lot of American men find non-American women very refreshing. If this is you, then you're already winning. You need to meet within six months AT THE MOST. Your first priority should…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 02:46 AM
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Redpill: most women would prefer to be jealous/insecure over their bf possibly looking at other women than believe they're with a guy no other girl wants full stop. The status seeking side is real and one they hopefully grow out of. Bluepill: men actually desire love, true love, and the experience of sappy, fairytale romance. They're just so afraid of being hurt they choose to sabotage themselves by way of saying women are either not worth pursuing or only good for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:15 AM
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It may come as shocking to a lot of people, but it's normal for humans to enjoy sexual exploration with trusted partners. Yes, plural. Reddit is a horrible source of information.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 08:37 PM
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Not a specific age but a mindset. Some people truly are just late bloomers or raised very sheltered, the key is how it affects their development and motivation to form connections. I'd say the closer you get to thirty with zero sexual or romantic experience is when the dread and anxiety would start to creep in. As in, they see their same age peers have multiple relationships and going onto marriage and kids and wonder if something is fundamentally wrong with them. However, if they have fulfillin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:52 AM
1

Lol I piss blood in the mouths of XY's like you every month.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:16 AM
1

Im an engineer lol. Im worth 50 times more than some barefoot parasite in the kitchen and I know it. Why is it that a man is fine and masculine if he writes reports and pushes paper for a corporate boss, but if a woman does the same work she's useless and trivial? Dumbasses really call themselves out on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:19 PM
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The irony is, plenty of plain, fat women find loving partners and don't care about looking hot. Yet most depressed, anxious, and self-hating people don't ever find a healthy relationship no matter how attractive they are. Even if OP finds her alpha, she'll undeniably sabotage the relationship due to insecurity or fearing a rug pull. I've seen it over and over again. I feel very much for this lady, but she needs to work on her issues ASAP.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:36 PM
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You really need to work on your self esteem. I'm willing to bet good money it's not your weight or your age that's preventing you from finding a good man who doesn't use you. Your perception of yourself as either being only good for sex/hitting the wall/being fat and undesirable is literally a self fulfilling prophecy and of course a guy is going to pick up on it and exploit it. You get treated exactly how you present yourself to be, and if you're objectifying yourself via age and appearance, do…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:20 PM
1

Oh sure. I'm just saying the fact someone had a bad day at work doesn't mean they're not built for work or the only solution is to quit and be dependent on the higher earning partner.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:59 PM
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Rich men aren't a singular entity. Also a lot of women find working fulfilling regardless if it actually adds significantly to the household finances. I'm an engineer, I love it. I continue to work because I enjoy it and my oartner wants me to be happy. The money is a bonus, and it's silly to say a woman's income will not benefit you just because you make substantially more, tbh. And yes, I do sometimes bitch about work, but it's not much different from a man saying he's tired. A woman with no j…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:50 PM
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I have never slept with a guy before getting the confirmation he wants to be a couple. And no, it has nothing to do with worrying about body count or being high value.To me, sex is very special and having it before the couple stage almost always results in the relationship losing momentum and the act itself being less meaningful. This doesn't mean you should dangle sex as leverage though. You just need to state very clearly you want to be a couple. My advice in the situation when you sleep toget…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:29 PM
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Exactly. These guys can afford a maid and a cook and a housekeeper if they want one. For a wife, they want someone they can converse with and rely on to keep the ship running smoothly. Going to school also opens you up to some very wealthy people (depends on the school of course) without feeling out of place. People from all walks of life are tossed together and it's a great way to make friends and connections at the very least.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:48 AM
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Hobbies and pastimes are definitely 100% the best way to connect with men. Keep in mind too that you're probably not gonna find high value guys in clubs, on Tinder, or at bars/nightlife areas. Sure, there are some quality men out there on dating apps but getting to them is pure misery. You'll have to sift through garbage and even then, transcending the whole "we're talking/chatting" thing to become his actual girlfriend is a nightmare. I'd personally try out nice cafes, nice supermarkets, gyms, …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:10 AM
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I met my partner in a Facebook group of all places.....but I absolutely understand the struggle and it's not easy to just stumble upon a single, wealthy man who you also enjoy being around. Hobbies are a great way to meet people with similar values. I wouldn't recommend dating apps at all, but finding people online in general is often very accessible and allows you to bet properly. Don't be discouraged! You sound like a solid gal with good priorities, you just need to open your pool of potential…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:46 AM
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My partner makes 6 figures with 7 in the bank. I can only advise you according to my own experience. Getting an education is a good idea. It doesn't have to be Ivy League or a prestigious school, but some form of degree/qualification/training will take you very far. Though people like to claim than men do not care about a woman's career, they DO care that their partner isn't just an extra expense they have to shoulder or worry about. Having a part time job or side hustle mitigates this fear a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:39 AM
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No, they can't. A woman who only cares about wealth and a man using wealth to get women are in a transactional dynamic, whether or not they are aware of it. I've rejected millionaires. It was easy. Compatibility is worth more than wealth
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:25 AM
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Honestly I get that. Most tradwife influencers just like the aesthetic and validation. And the fact it's incredibly easy to call yourself trad because technology has essentially replaced every single aspect of a genuine traditional lifestyle. Honestly I respect the grift
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 12:24 AM
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My dad did all that and he never complained. And it's not that being a housewife is bad, or a stay at home parent is bad, it's the implication that women working or men cleaning is inherently unnatural and a sign that they're being oppressed by "modern feminists hurr durr". It's a denial of basic everyday reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:18 PM
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Idk claiming cooking and cleaning require some degree of skill that only a trad woman can possess is a braindead take, yet guys fall for it every single time. The current trend of saying modern life is incompatible with female biology is just an extension of making cooking and cleaning your sole value in life, and justifying your essential lack of motivation to learn actual skills. Everybody knows deep down housework is easy and unimportant work compared to a regular career, which is why most tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:51 PM
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I feel that way when I see tradwife content. "I love to cook and clean and nuture my family" most adults literally do this without making it their sole identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:38 PM
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Yeah but men are more expendable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:38 AM
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Yeah thats just a delusional statement made by OP. A man's fertility tanks at 45 and older dads are more heavily implicated in having disabled kids than older moms. I know plenty of women who had kids in their late 30's and early 40's
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:02 AM
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Eh plenty of women are attracted to poetic and sensitive elf-prinxe types. Emo bands who sing about crying in the bathrooms and who wear literal eyeshadow DROWN in pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:00 AM
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Is it a male burden to be biologically expendable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:58 AM
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Either that or a loser who is in love with his mom
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:57 AM
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Exactly. You don't stay wealthy by spending extravagantly, and it's very much an "old money" mentality to care more about assets, investments, and building a portfolio of passive income than having designer clothes and big cars. Also virtually none of the women involved with such men are your basic SAHM. Every wife of every business partner my guy has is highly educated and usually works too. Makes sense in this economy but also logically as well; if you're ambitious and want to build wealth you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 05:50 AM
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Not married but my guy has a upper middle class salary. I'm very low maintenance myself, and I buy all my own things with my own money. Happy to drive an older vehicle. Don't get my nails or hair done. The key to maintaining and creating wealth is to not try and look like someone who is wealthy. Always live within your means and save for a rainy day.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:31 AM
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Very true. Like I think the narrative that women are damaged goods by 30 if they aren't married or mothers actually leads people to lower their standards and accept abuse because they think they're racing against a clock. I was 26 when I met my luvluv - it doesn't mean I "failed" at my previous relationships or missed the boat. They just weren't meant to be and that's also fine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 11:25 PM
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Not everybody finds their true love on the school bus at 17. I never understood the narrative that being single at a certain age is a negative character trait. A string of failed relationships is a way bigger red flag than a person being careful and selective.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 10:40 PM
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"When he gets cheated on, he has nobody else" well he's in a relationship, the obvious solution is to break up and get another girlfriend. Cheating is very common and both sexes engage in it equally. Men seem dumber and get caught more easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:09 AM
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I've said this before and I'll say it again: red pill is a DATING strategy. It gives people a template to FIND a partner based on their values and understanding of human biology. And it does work, very well, in that respect. You can easily disregard incompatible people and values and focus on those who understand the template laid out by gender roles. In the initial phase of courtship at least. However, I've noticed, red pill as a RELATIONSHIP strategy can be flawed. It doesn't take into account…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:00 AM
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I'm still a tomboy. I still love welding, climbing trees, camping, and wearing pants. I've never denied or repudiated that side of myself because it's ME and frankly the concept of certain hobbies being inherently gendered is kinda silly imo. HOWEVER I am still a woman. I'm still feminine. It took me a while to tap into my outward, observable femininity but once I had some skills it was very easy. I watched makeup tutorials and shopped for girly clothes, learnt how to giggle and be charming, and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 09:43 PM
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"Men can have kids at 60" they really shouldn't though. They really shouldn't. After the age of 40, men are twice as likely to have kids with autism and schizophrenia (in fact, advanced paternal age is one of the biggest risk factors for developing schizophrenia and psychosis) and there's an increased chance of birth defects just like women who have kids after 40. Don't believe the retarded red pill narrative that men can just keep pumping out babies past retirement while women are barren and bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 11:04 AM
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Ah yes the old fist through the cave wall method
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:31 AM
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Well it's an analogy, you idiot. You realize I'm not actually saying dating men is Russian Roulette? I'm highlighting why women who have been abused or fear abuse choose being single over finding another man who may or may not fulfill their exact fears. I fear for the youth if people are so braindead they can't navigate a symbolic literary device.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:51 AM
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Fair enough, you shouldn't put your life or freedom at risk. And I wasn't saying you were pro abuse, it's just not a win for toxicity if an abuser attracts another person to abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:33 AM
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Well a lot of people don't play Russian Roulette because they've either almost been shot or are afraid to be. Would you say they're crazy or stupid? Or utilizing a reasonable caution in spite of the odds being in their favor? Think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:30 AM
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Oh sure. But that doesn't change the fact he's damaged another person and will likely do it again. I don't see a win, I see an animal that needs putting down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:29 AM
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Actually, they're more likely to remain single or never remarry/cohabitate. Look at the stats
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:11 AM
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Eh, you break somebody down enough they're more likely to turn dependent on you. Which is a classic feature of abuse and not a character trait of all women. I've never gone back to a man, I know plenty of women who have and ended up in hospital or dead. And the guy in prison. Not really the "women are so dumb" moment people frame it to be
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:10 AM
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Majority of murders and rapes and school shootings committed by who? Next at 11, 6, 9, and 12 because it's so common lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:45 AM
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Its not once you realize the happiness tanks over time, for specific reasons. Women statistically start relationships at equal levels of happiness but it lessens the longer the relationship lasts. It shows that women enter relationships hoping for an equal effort and attitude towards emotional support, and gradually become sadder and more likely to leave once they realize their male partners aren't particularly interested in meeting them halfway. The most cited reasons for divorce by women is in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:44 AM
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Detailing the female as the awful partner by default is intrinsically retarded. I mean that quite emphatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:35 AM
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Same logic of "opposite attract", which is blatant fraud considering the happiest and longest relationships are between people with similar values. Not saying extroverts are inherently incompatible with introverts, but the personality differences don't point to attraction or alignment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:34 AM
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Well yeah obviously a woman is a legitimate judge of her own relationship. Why would the mailmans take be any more valid? Fried brain logic, try harder
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:28 AM
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They eventually get high due to constant disappointment and dissatisfaction. Young women in particular don't really know better and will overlook stuff a 30 year old would kick an ass to the curb for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:24 AM
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Yeah and I'm saying the bar for a good man is literally to not be a violent or useless clown, for most women. Until they meet a guy who is actually decent they think the previous guys were OK because the standards are so low. I'm beginning to think your brain cells are made of literal wet garbage if you think these are contradictory statements
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:19 AM
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Having a good partner isn't a fantasy, it's a reasonable desire to have. I'm not sure what else to tell you aside from a lack of abusive tendencies doesn't make you a good partner, it just makes you look marginally better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:10 AM
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Majority of guys are dogshit partners, yes. Not necessarily "abusive" or even bad people but empirical reality also proves that women are less happy in relationships and marriages across all ages and lengths of time. And the typical male response is to shit on these women for not leaving as opposed to doing a crumb of self reflection and adjusting their behavior to be better partners. Same guys complain about the divorce rate too, funnily enough. If the shoe fits..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:04 AM
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Female introverts exist too you know. The idea that women only go for exciting party-addicted Chad's is stupid. Post 25, pretty much everyone has slowed down on partying and developed actual interests and personality traits outside of being a drunken clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:56 AM
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I inhabit a pulsar
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:52 AM
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From this post alone the logical counterpoint is: why are men such shitty partners? A man is called a good catch of he doesn't hit, verbally degrade, or gaslight his partner and is marginally self sufficient. The bar is in the sewer for guys lol. Glad I've rejected 99% of them and found my man-unicorn. We laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:46 AM
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Low sexual interest is a very common side effect of AD'S and not something you can really just "improve" yourself out of. Arousal is primarily hormonal/chemical. Too much serotonin inhibits your excitatory pathways and reduces your level of dopamine. Put simply, you can do all the foreplay, buy all the toys, and do all the right things physically to cause arousal but it doesn't matter because your entire neurochemical system and pathways have essentially been put into a coma. Doing "more" isn't …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 12:20 AM
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Sure they can. Are the relationship outlooks optimal? Depends. A gap of more than 10 years tends to be predictive of more problems and likelihood of separation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:26 AM
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I hope I find that one day :) Congrats again, and be sure to tell hubs about this interaction lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:47 AM
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Divorce is not "so common" it's literally 50/50. And divorce rates are falling and so are birth rates. "Love is about making babies" is idiotic and reductive And pretty sure sugar daddies are not impregnating the sugar baby; if he wanted that, why not just get into a relationship? He's got the resources already lol Age gap relationships are viewed with suspicion because they're outside the cultural norm. In a society where marriage is not strictly enforced for young women, the overwhelming major…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:45 AM
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Happy anniversary! And I agree. I've never been married but I'm sure as HELL am not using reddit as a resource for finding a partner and not getting divorced. I work with a man whose been married 25 years and he often says his wife is his best friend and he couldn't live without her. Nearly every day he tells me he can't wait to go home so he can see his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:32 AM
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Meh, sure, if you're middle class and upwards. The majority of peasants/serfs/lower classes married whoever they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:59 AM
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I mean this is blatantly untrue lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:40 AM
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The divorce rate has been falling and has floated around 50% for years now. So from that stat you can safely assume a lot of marriages are based in love and don't lead to divorce. Its worth noting that until relatively recently divorce was extremely hard to get if not outlawed. Saying marriages not based in love are more successful/traditional is kinda irrelevant considering those marriages were extremely hard to get out of regardless if the people in them actually wanted each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:17 AM
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I dont mean to sound condescending but women can benefit enormously from shutting up and just "being" with their man. Yes we all know a woman who takes charge and isn't very supportive BUT this also applies to women having anxiety, worrying, "fussing", never being satisfied, always second guessing, always thinking out loud, always OVERthinking, and always looking for things to be upset or obsessive about at any given moment. Stop. Smile. Take a deep breath and give captain a cuddle and just be h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 01:58 AM
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The sugar baby dynamic is mutually agreed upon and the transactional nature of the relationship is obvious. Sugar daddies date babies because they want sex and companionship from a pretty woman and she wants money/gifts. It's sleazy but consistent. And not ALL babies are in their late teens/early 20s. The youth aspect isn't necessarily the primary reason the daddy is daring her. Older guys deliberately going for younger women are definitely going for youth/naivete over substance. Marriages are s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:48 AM
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I'd be highly suspicious of letting a quasi MiL dictate my relationship. Especially one that clearly thinks meddling in people's lives constitutes them "needing" a leader. You can accept her opinions and suggestions, of course, and respectfully take into account her experience being a mother BUT it's not her life, not her relationship, and she needs to mind her business tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 10:27 PM
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Yes, they're actually successful. In fact most of these guys are very successful, both financially and in their personal pursuits. Most do some form of martial art or sport, most can cook proper gourmet food, most are concerned with grooming and interior design and all sorts of aesthetic/classy hobbies that men get onto when they have the funds and maturity to develop a sense of personal taste. And yet, their relationships fail. Over and over again. And often it's because they sabotage their own…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 08:50 PM
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Men are not less affected by a lifestyle of sleeping around and viewing women as sexual commodities. Brain structure differences don't translate to different consequences for the same choices. I've met plenty of lonely playboys in their 30's and 40's who can't understand why decent women don't want to marry them and settle down. It's because you're ran through, pure and simple. A woman with values isn't just going to overlook a gross sexual history because you're a self proclaimed HMV.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 09:11 PM
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If your count is significantly higher than a potential partners, yes. For men AND women. A high amount of sexual partners has negative relationship outlooks for both sexes. A man who has slept around with impunity is a red flag and someone I intrinsically find unattractive. I don't care about "lock and key" analogies or pre-selection lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 08:22 PM
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Its really up to you. I don't personally subscribe to the idea that virgins are the highest value females to men, as many have told me that they don't care and frankly, other things should be more prioritized regarding being an excellent woman. Your virginity can be taken and eventually becomes a fading memory, but your character and integrity and wisdom are eternal.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 10:12 AM
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"If he wanted to, he would" has nothing to do with being chased, pursued, or "romanced". It actually became a popular term for men who pulled their equal weight in the home and caring for children, and treating their partner like a person they actually love as opposed to a mother, wife, maid, etc. In this context, you don't need to "do" anything to be a supportive presence. Just let him know you are there for him whenever he needs you. Custody battles are so stressful and making the situation ab…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 01:49 AM
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No lol. The vast majority of people- both men and women - are inherently suspicious of men who are obsessed with young women. No good involved parent wants their 20 year old daughter with a 35+ year old and women especially remember how older mem blatantly tried to manipulate them when they were 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:24 AM
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Best advice, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 09:07 PM
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Call his bluff. Say you prefer to go Dutch anyway and you'll only go on a picnic if he shows his worth and makes a thermos of soup. I'm not normally a fan of mind games but in cases where there's a clear power dynamic trying to be asserted people need a taste of their own medicine
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:24 PM
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I think having your own set of friends into the same hobbies as you does help, plus just knowing your partner doesn't hold you in contempt for having different outlooks and past times. You don't need to "mesh" with a hobby that truly holds no value to you but you can appreciate how happy it makes your partner and ask them about their pursuits. I personally love camping and fishing but I also do painting, embroidery, and gardening. Which are more traditionally feminine. My guy asks to see my proj…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 10:54 PM
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Pretty much it's just for my relationships. I'm not an overtly feminine woman, I've always been a tomboy, and I enjoy working and earning money. In fact I'm probably close to the "modern masculine woman" RP icons warn about lol. HOWEVER. I have never, ever failed to attract men in spite of being a tomboy and liking masculine pursuits/hobbies. My SO is very masculine and I adore him for it. The key to happiness isn't living some contrived fantasy based on generalized differences between the sexes…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 01:59 AM
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I wanted someone introverted, intelligent, and ambitious with solid integrity. No high body count or a long string of girlfriends before me. Also a wicked sense of humor. Looks, fitness, and money would be nice but not essential, so I didn't "look" at those things. I met him within months and we are very happy. We are currently LDR (He's American, I'm not) but I plan to move within a few months and marriage soon after.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 06:38 PM
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Oh sure. I know a couple women IRL who have OF, who initially went into it with stars in their eyes only to realize its a saturated market, clients will ask for the most disturbing things, and threats on having their accounts outed to their families or whatever. I think most women sign up expecting one thing only to come to terms with the fact OF will, at best, supplement their already existing income.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 06:35 AM
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I disagree purely because OF is like, the worst way to make money lol. Maybe yes, if you're absolutely desperate. But otherwise I don't think your average woman is quitting her job for OF. The vast majority of OF creators make 150 bucks a month. Only the top 1% make enough to live on. The amount of money you can make doing OF has always been massively overblown and the creators who aren't already celebrities/have a following are taking a huge risk just to make a lousy 150 bucks (far below what t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 06:27 AM
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Thank you for the kind feedback :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 02:09 AM
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Oooo thank you so much! :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 02:08 AM
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Enjoying sex isn't a bad thing. Neither is novelty tbh. And people grow up and have different priorities at different stages of life. I personally am uncomfortable with dating someone with such a high number but in saying that, writing the guy off completely based on his sexual history can be counterintuitive. Nobody is perfect. I'd encourage the OP to listen to her gut feelings about this man and see if his behavior matches his promises/explanations.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 01:55 AM
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Good luck and take some time to treat yourself :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 12:39 AM
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Its really not about the sex or the amount of partners. It's about the values that motivated that behavior and whether or not they align with yours. Even though statistically those with a lot of partners have worse relationship outcomes (yes including men), it's quite possible he no longer values casual sex as much and is ready to settle. However, you can't bet on you "getting over it". I wouldn't personally. Have a (open-minded) discussion about your feelings and what your values are.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 12:32 AM
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Hes a partner and a leader, not a babysitter. I find that in RP contexts, a lot of women confuse being provided for with a complete lack of self sufficiency. Yes, it is absolutely a traditional man's role to help, teach, and support his partner. But blaming him for mistakes "because he should have taught me/dealt with it" is pure toxic dependency. Managing finances and taxes can be intimidating but at face value are easy skills to learn. Just say you won't do them or don't want to do them as opp…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 02:25 AM
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Good luck with your studies and the love quest :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:12 AM
3

It is not hypocrisy to point out someone's subjective self opinion might not be rooted in practical reality.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 05:59 AM
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I think a change of environment is needed, yes. And take care of yourself when engaging.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 11:47 PM
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Ok, this makes a lot of sense. I get that persistent guys are very draining and often even scary.....and how it would make you defensive over their intents with you. I think the idea that femininity means being friendly, open, and accessible is actually counterintuitive. Like you say, guys are either incompatible or not your type but will see your friendliness as a sign you're into them. Rather than be cold or haughty, I think a bit of assertiveness is needed. You don't need to cut men down if t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 11:43 PM
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Not really. I'm not trying to shame or belittle OP. I just find this mindset inexplicable and would like some context..
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 11:30 PM
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You dont want anything from them, yet are offended by the idea they find value in you? Seems like you care more about your own perceived value to yourself than mutually engaging with a man in good faith. Self esteem based on how many people want to sleep with you or how well they treat you is contrived and shallow, but you do you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 11:16 PM
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No. And I think this is entitled attitude towards a group of people you perceive as being beneath you, even though they're interacting with you positively and may even have something to offer that isn't immediately observable.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 10:58 PM
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As someone who grew up in poverty and still cuts stuff up by hand, I get it. You say he's loyal and wants a family. That's rare these days. Having flashy stuff or frivolous spending isn't necessary for a successful relationship
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 05:54 PM
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You're still being a dumb sack of shit. Anyone could hurt anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:11 AM
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Or from their husbands or intimate partners. Risk goes up exponentially if you're pregnant too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:11 AM
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Actually, studies have proven that women tend to choose men who are 10% taller than them as partners, regardless of what height they said was most attractive. I'm not saying it's random, I'm saying men who are taller than women are the biological norm, retard.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:10 AM
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You're literally adjusting the metric from "larger man who will protect women" to "women are most attracted to men who will hurt them" pick one, asswipe. They aren't interchangeable. Neither is "passive" and "weak".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:58 AM
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"Why do women select for men that are stronger, taller, etc" cause the vast majority of men are stronger and taller than the vast majority of women, dummy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:25 AM
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Guys love saying this because "female" roles like cooking and cleaning need to be performed every single day whereas "male" roles like protection are, like you said, very isolated or something you'd do anyway for someone you cared about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:43 PM
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I find it funny when guys say the male role is to "protect" when statistically most female murder victims are killed by their husband's or an intimate partner lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:20 PM
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I agree and think OP's partner is backtracking and he needs to be held accountable for that. Also if he's so dead set on going clubbing then it's obvious the "work" excuse is just a veneer to party. However, at 18, most guys (hell most women too) are still finding their feet and aren't great at navigating complex emotions. It could be that OP's partner is genuinely clueless and doesn't see a big deal about it. Maybe he is gaslighting her into compliance. Either way I hope he's open to switching …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 11:16 PM
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Though I'm a big supporter of communicating boundaries in a relationship I find it inherently icky when one partner says they won't "let" their partner do something or go somewhere. No matter how you justify it, this is manipulative language, and your partner isn't your possession. However, if he truly cares about your feelings on the matter, he would understand that one night on the town (even if it's "business") isn't worth jeopardizing his entire relationship for. I think both of you should s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 10:39 PM
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Yeah, the worrying is a you problem that needs to be addressed. With grace and understanding of course. Not only are you stressing yourself out, you're making a partner a hostage to your anxiety problem and it's unfair to think the worse about the future if he is making the effort to keep you happy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:18 AM
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The key to the development of trust in a man is understanding what makes him a man in the first place - determination and drive. If you find yourself doubting his ability you won't ever see him as a leader.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:12 AM
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That's a weird way to describe being streetwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:24 AM
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Pro tip: if a guy is trying extremely hard to justify why it's OK to be an annoying creep against your better judgement you should probably regard him with suspicion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:01 AM
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Yes. Now go practice dilating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:38 AM
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Complaining is a feminine trait. You must be a trans in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:36 AM
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I find it fascinating that a woman who wants to do something other than be a man's companion is labeled ambitious and masculine. Also I can assure you nobody really cares who you'd find attractive enough to stick your dick into.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:11 AM
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Its better to know facts than believe in things, such as narratives about capitalism/communism. Go do your better things if it turns you on lol. But don't say something and expect unanimous agreement, especially in the context of a bad correlation
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:03 AM
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I didnt either. I offered a solution that works
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:00 AM
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"Aren't attractive women always taken?" No lol "Why isn't that the case for me?" Why do the opinions of literal random strangers matter so much, especially after you've gotten praised for your looks in the past? Are you asking why girls posting thirst traps or just selfies online get more attention than you? Many a social studies essay could be written on the effects that a constant barrage of attractive, most likely filtered, self-portraits have on passive viewers. But I won't patronize you by …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:59 AM
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If you go to Walmart you'll see plenty of couples. Average couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:46 AM
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Well communism has killed people, but so has capitalism. The means and contexts are different but millions have indeed perished under both ideologies. So yeah bad comparison. TRP might teach reality and objective facts but the way it interprets the raw data can be massively skewed, hence why we get retarded stats like "20% of men date 80% of women". Sure you can assume a whole bunch about strangers, or you can focus on your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:45 AM
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Not necessarily. For a single man it makes sense. If we are getting together then I'd wonder why he persists with the habit though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:55 AM
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Sure. I guess occasional viewing of porn is less contemptible than chronic, daily consumption of super perverted stuff. It's a bell curve. The degree of disgust gets exponentially worse the further along the curve (addiction) a guy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:49 AM
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I wouldnt say I'm offended by it. More so I hold it in greater contempt the more people watch it and defend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:45 AM
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A lot of people need to log off and touch grass, seriously. I'm surrounded by mediocre average guys in relationships. Theyre literally everywhere. Companionship is the NORM.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:41 AM
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I make good money already working a real job lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:37 AM
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Eh I'd rather not be a sex worker or a consolation prize for addicted scrotes but thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:33 AM
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Really it's up to you to decide whether these comments are just casual thinking-out-loud or genuinely held beliefs and desires. A guy who persistently brings up sleeping around and treating women like notches is probably trying to sow the seeds of dread into you or is just a douchebag.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:01 PM
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Well I guess if you want to sleep around with a bunch of chicks you're going to settle on the most convenient logic to justify it. I do know that while the ability to get easy sex is seen as signifying high value in men, the reality is that having a lot of sexual partners has negative relationship outcomes for men (as well as women). Much ink has been spilt over the fact promiscuous women are unable to perform pair bonds and have unstable personalities, but the same holds true for men as well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 08:07 PM
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Its not a red flag but it is crass. Also it's a critical misunderstanding of how biology works; while men are designed to want to spread their seed around, this is within the context of a highly competitive mating game where mortality is extremely high and actually sticking around to protect your partner and offspring has a higher success rate than mindless fornication, hence why monogamy had persisted in our society despite our ostensibly "normal" state being polygamous. This was out of necessi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 07:36 PM
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I suppose you could say that being viewed as extremely easy to assault and victimize is in some ways worse than being seen as threatening. ..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:06 AM
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You dont know what anything means outside of your own headcanon, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:03 AM
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You dont know what anything means outside of your own headcanon, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:03 AM
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You falsified my response completely, yet don't see the irony...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:59 AM
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I never said that, you're making it up lol. Why are you making stuff up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:32 AM
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Sure, how convenient for you if you think im lying. I have proof but hey, I wouldn't want to burst your fragile little bubble
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:27 AM
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If you pray, please keep a girl named Dayna in your prayers. That was her name. If you don't, please remember her when you feel doubtful of yourself or insecure. Especially if you encounter love bombing or see a friend falling for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:25 AM
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"Not seen as a threat for being a woman" my inbox full of guys threatening to assault me for such reasons as not wanting kids or wondering if I'm asexual begs to differ. Women are threatened with implied violence literally all the time, for nothing. Even the narrative that men are "protectors" seems to contain the insidious notion that women are always open and at risk of being violently hurt. So no. I disagree with that idea. However, Karens definitely have lost their halo effect, but it's not …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:22 AM
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I mean a lot of people highly value commitment for its own sake. It's not a transaction per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:07 AM
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Yeah, whenever I see guys spreading the narrative that women don't like being put on pedestals, I remind them that it's because women don't like being objectified and the ones that do perish as objects. I think of that girl, and what being love bombed cost her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:03 AM
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Don't use plural when responding to a single person, dummy. Also, wanting to be married is a choice that's far more steeped in integrity than just wanting to get your dick wet with scags.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:32 AM
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It definitely works on insecure or highly agreeable women. Don't believe me? I knew a girl who was bullied a lot in high school. Chubby, shy, a bit awkward, you know the type. Nice girl but a tad socially inept. Well she met some dude who would buy her lots of gifts and take her out for food. Tell her she was beautiful and gorgeous etcetc. She dropped out of school to stay with him. A couple years later I saw he had killed her on the news
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:29 AM
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The key takeaway is that both tradcons and gold diggers use stringent (they believe) vetting to ensure the highest quality guy they can get. Now a woman can be a gold digger without being tradcon but ALL tradcons are by definition gold diggers (the foremost value a man has to them is providing, ie "paypigging", even if their specific goal isn't to be wealthy like the gold digger)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:17 AM
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Not to me but meh. Different strokes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:51 AM
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Guys are shocked when I tell them "tradcon" is just a materialistic dating strategy for women. They really truly want to believe that these women can't wait to cook dinner barefoot in the kitchen whilst singing gospel music and burping 6 babies at once. But it's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:34 AM
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"The reality of male sexuality" so being a desperate loser who lacks integrity lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 11:44 PM
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I'm not a black woman but I just want to say you are not bitter, angry, or a Jezebel purely for being black.....though I understand the impact of stereotypes and bias, and how hard they are to overcome.I'm very sorry you've been mistreated. You are desirable and worthy. You deserve to not just be accepted, but revered. I hope you find someone special that does that for you and helps you heal.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 09:33 PM
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You're both still very young. I'm also 27 and don't feel ready for a baby, even though I adore my partner and he's expressed a deep desire for a family. In fact, one of the first conversations we had was about how he was 100% all in to start a family and how much he wanted a baby. So I think it's really beautiful you're so ready and have such strong emotions. However, I have told my partner that I want at least two years of just us together before we start seriously thinking about babies. My rea…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 07:45 PM
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Its ultimately about demeanor and self-containment and being somewhat unattainable, ie "one of a kind". Imo it has nothing really to do with your actual appearance or how traditional you are. Classy women are singular; their energy can't be replicated or copied. Think about how many women have tried to emulate Marilyn Monroe, or Audrey Hepburn. They might be able to get the makeup look down and wear the same style of clothes, but they just look like women role-playing or playing "dress up"- Mari…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 09:14 AM
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Men are actually not more visual than women. This is a myth based off old studies that used self reporting as a metric to estimate how stimulated people got looking at sexy pictures. Men reported feeling more aroused by visual stimulation, but meta-analysis of the findings plus additional experiments conducted using brain imaging technology shows women and men respond biologically to visual stimulus in identical ways. The differences really lie in an individuals attitude towards specific sexual …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 06:08 PM
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Good job OP! I want to add that eating/cooking whole foods is a lot healthier than preparing frozen meals and/or eating out. I've been into cooking since I was a teenager (I'm 27 now) and am still the same size as I was in high school. So not only is cooking an incredible way to look after your partner, it's a great way for both of you to be in the peak of fitness and wellbeing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 08:22 PM
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Good job OP! I want to add that eating/cooking whole foods is a lot healthier than preparing frozen meals and/or eating out. I've been into cooking since I was a teenager (I'm 27 now) and am still the same size as I was in high school. So not only is cooking an incredible way to look after your partner, it's a great way for both of you to be in the peak of fitness and wellbeing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 08:21 PM
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Its a mix of factors based off lifestyle and genetics. I truly believe no body type is better than another, unless we are talking about unhealthy extremes like morbid obesity/severely underweight. I think everyone agrees that nobody wants to be those things, but it's relevant that not everybody wants to be shredded or bulky, either. It's better to be healthy, always. Which manifests as a stable and productive balance between working out, good nutrition, maintaining stress, and self confidence. L…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 11:56 AM
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I like guys who work out/are strong and eat healthy, not a specific body type. There's actually some really good scientific evidence that "shredded" men have some very unhealthy habits and mindsets, no matter how strong or masculine they appear to be. Now I want to preface this by saying "not every shredded guy/gym rat" (of course) but I have my own personal experience with eating disorders and orthorexia, plus a lot of research done over the years. And also the anecdotal but relevant evidence t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 09:29 AM
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I guess more variation in styles and colors? I've always been a tomboy and the "adrogynous" look actually suits me really well. I lived in black turtlenecks and plaid trousers and army boots before I met him. He likes my style a lot, but also loves how I look in dresses and heels. He'd never tell me how to dress, but has let me know what kind of outfits he finds cute and wants to coordinate with (he likes to match his outfit colors with mine) Ive bought the stereotype flower sundress, dressy min…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 06:05 AM
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Key element here is consent. A lot of people would have a moral or ethical issue with asking for and accepting money and that's fine. But from a purely rational perspective: you stated a desire, and he consented to fulfill it. Given he was unfaithful and stringing you along, the accountability for the broken trust and wasted time is on his shoulders. As long as you're not weaponizing your resentment over the long term, I believe this is a fair and mature way to take responsibility for ones actio…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 08:16 AM
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I cant link the original study, it seems to be behind a paywall. But here's an excerpt from the conclusion: "Researchers examined the accuracy of paternity judgments based on facial resemblance. The study found that men were able to correctly identify their biological children based on facial resemblance alone at a rate slightly above chance, but the accuracy was still relatively low" Similar studies based on behavioral cues have virtually identical results.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:24 AM
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I can assure you, a guy who brags about his big dick is a clown and a moron lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:18 AM
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It kinda is weird considering men have no way to ascertain paternity by themselves. "My child shares my blood" how do you know?. You clearly assume men can tell the difference between their child and some other man's but study after study had proven men cannot intuit which child is biologically theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:04 AM
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Its more about cultural familiarity than pure physical features imo. We feel most safe around people who share our values and traditions and social customs, and there's quite a number of distinct phenotypes in different countries. The vast majority of people end up marrying someone from their own culture and some countries this is more pronounced than others, like Japan. Personally, I'm a sucker for big brown eyes. I have grey eyes. And I find light colored eyes to be kinda creepy in general ngl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:12 AM
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Isn't staying at home with a child the epitome of protection? Not trying to play semantics chess, but at face value a full grown man can absolutely defend his home and child if theyre threatened. Maybe more so than a woman. My father told me more than once his biggest fear while he was at work for weeks at a time was something happening to his kids and him not being there to defend us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 02:00 AM
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Extra weight doesn't make you ugly, but if you're chunky and ugly it's a double whammy tbh. So if you do manage to get into decent shape and take care of the rest (clothing style, grooming, social skills) I think the difference is noticeable if you have an unfortunate face.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:26 AM
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Oh gee another crybaby bleating about mIsandRy lol. Please. Men are the biggest victims of male violence, but sure, me saying stuff on the internet is the same thing as committing 90% of murders and comprising 75% of murder victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:07 AM
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I dont care, do you know why?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:58 AM
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Men fear women will laugh at them. Women fear men will kill them. Of course those with too much skin in the game will say I'm a misandrist or just a bitch, then go ahead and commit 90% of violent crimes, mostly against other men lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:10 PM
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There's perfectly sound reasons to hate men lol. To say otherwise is living in retarded denial. I bet you my comment will trigger plenty of XY's, but that's a cost I'm perfectly happy to remain completely indifferent to. Maybe you could learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:35 PM
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I'd rather be proven wrong and be pleasantly surprised than play 4-D mental chess over any given man's behavior. Ain't nobody got time for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:30 PM
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I just assume every guy hates women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:25 PM
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You forget that all the women writing love letters to Ted Bundy were pretty mentally/emotionally fucked up themselves. Most healthy and intelligent people can acknowledge Bundy was ok looking but still find his acts disgusting and despicable, and would never overlook them in spite of his appearance. This is also pretty subjective. I never understood why women find Richard Ramirez hot, for example.The dude had rotten little corn cob teeth, cluster b skin picking sores, and allegedly always smelt …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:57 AM
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Even worse, if an ugly woman happens to have a partner that loves her and adores her, society will often judge the guy for being with an ugly woman or tell her she should be "grateful" for such a nice dude. Or straight up say she doesn't deserve him and he will inevitably cheat. I've seen this myself. My uncle is a 6 foot 5 dude, super fit and active, fun, and really kind. He has never had a shortage of women to date and every woman in his life adores him. A couple years ago he ended up getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:26 AM
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It isn't though. Polygamy was the norm for most of human history and this is proven by genetic studies showing female ancestors almost outnumber male ones two to one. Because most women got pregnant and to multiple men. Men had half the chance to breed with one woman due to natural selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:48 PM
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Yeah and so is attempting to use credentials as an argument, clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:38 PM
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Pursing? Maybe pursue a literacy test lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:34 PM
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Wow great rebuttal there, stunning and brave
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:25 PM
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I understand it better than you lmao. More women than men have contributed to the human gene pool, resulting in nearly 70% of our ancestral DNA coming from women. The simplest implication we can derive from this is that the vast majority of women throughout history have reproduced and passed on their genes, whereas only a small percentage of men ever did or will. Survival of the fittest little buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:01 PM
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Nope. Male sexlessness is the biological norm. 100% of men were never meant to breed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:49 PM
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Men outperform women on the male productivity model, in reality a lot women work just as hard for zero pay or recognition (bearing the brunt of childcare and housework). But I do agree men have a far greater incentive to impress women with skills and wealth and achievement. Women bear the burden of reproduction and any sexual encounter can theoretically change your life and body completely. It makes sense to be a lot more selective when you're a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:19 PM
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Not at all. I'm childfree and have a partner who is too. Not all men like children or want a family, but still want financial freedom and a nice lifestyle
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 06:55 PM
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I'm a trained engineer, I won't ever work in service lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:33 PM
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Its not my whole identity, but that money is wholly mine lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 12:50 PM
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No dick is that amazing lmao. Delusional levels of importance
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 11:44 AM
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Being s SAHM sounds boring as fuck. I want and plan to get married but refuse to lose my identity to being stuck in the same four walls with a screaming spawn. Who would have thought that women who literally view men as "providers" and money banks might see a situation where they are entirely financially supported to be worth exploiting in lieu of getting a real job
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 11:43 AM
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Oh absolutely. Apps are ruining healthy dynamics and the complimentary roles of men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:34 AM
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You dont have to tell me, I can smell your dirty sadness from the curb
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:30 AM
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Having a high partner count has negative relationship outcomes for both sexes. It's common sense that a superficial/casual attitude to intimacy would make you unable to experience the real thing, regardless of your gender. And I've noticed this in guys who choose to engage in mindless sex as much as women; they're used up and fragmented, too addicted to novelty and drama, and driven by sensual greed and insecurity. Enjoying sex is one thing, making it your life's pursuit with nothing left in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:26 AM
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I dont judge anyone on their lifestyle but I immediately get the ick if I find out a guy has had multiple hookups/one night stands. Especially if he's 30+ and still hasn't had at least one long term stable relationship but is still actively trying to have casual sex. Biggest ick and red flag. He's for the gutter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:19 AM
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Meh I'm a 5 foot 10 woman, and can say men who are significantly taller than me aren't that common, and aren't automatically attractive for being uncommon lol. Plenty of men shorter than me have girlfriends and are successful with women. In fact more guys have had a problem with my height than I have with theirs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:07 AM
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Men are more efficient and aim for efficiency, more so than being "single focused"; a lot of successful and good men have multiple incomes, projects, side hustles, and ideas. Intelligent men want to expand and get value for time and effort. This isn't necessarily contradictory to being able to commit either. A man chooses to commit because you bring him value for time and effort, like all investments, not because he can only focus on one thing at a time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 09:39 PM
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Extremely! But there's still women who desire marriage and don't engage with degenerate apps. I simply don't watch any of it. At all. I chill with my guy and we have fun doing wholesome stuff like walks in the park and foraging for mushrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:52 AM
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I met my partner online, but we never use tiktok or Instagram or any other social media besides YouTube and our Facebook profiles. All of that stuff is designed to create division and isolation, not just between partners, but our own identities. All the young kids nowadays don't have thoughts or opinions anymore, it's just what their favorite content creator or influencer tells them to believe or think, and they do it. Unquestionably. We are wanting to get married, I think we will move far FAR a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:45 AM
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TikTok is a fucking cancerous app and 90% of the content creators doing discourse on sexual dynamics or modern dating values are in it for the validation, money, or a combination of both. Especially tradcon women and "you go girl" type feminists.They get huge amounts of praise and attention just by repeating the same sweet soundbites like "I believe in traditional marriage" or "I think a guy should pay for dates"; meanwhile in the next video they're dancing with their tits hanging out or complai…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:38 AM
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I really don't care whether or not random dudes get their dicks wet, it you think I should then maybe pray for a reality check.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 11:51 PM
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Log off and touch grass. You'll see plenty of average sized men with girlfriends and wives in real life if you look around. Social media is horseshit and really just a dirty platform for maladjusted people to both vicariously live through and base their oversimplified assumptions on. Truly, it has warped our concept of reality and what's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 11:02 AM
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Yeah and they end up dating an average sized guy anyway 90% of the time lol. Women on dating apps are the minority, the ease of selection and fact most get far more replies and attention than male users gives this inflated sense of both entitlement and belief that there are more tall men than there actually are. I'm a five foot ten gal myself and can say men above 6 foot aren't that common, and don't get nearly as much leverage just from being tall as guys here think they do. Like sure I'll agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:53 AM
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The only women I've ever heard talk about masculine, tall, provider/alpha type men are red pill/conservative women lol. And they're typically trying to attract red pill men, who ALSO value traditional/housewife type chicks. Both these groups are pretty niche but vocal, and don't really represent the genders as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 09:17 AM
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Idk, most jobs don't entail eating literal shit on camera. Porn is turning people and services into commodities to an extreme degree. People like OP are using the "she consented to it, thus she can face the consequences" argument to negate the fact that these acts and the dynamics surrounding them are inherently based in humiliation, degradation, and straight up violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:54 AM
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I mean, to me it sounds like she was genuinely traumatized by her work and being candid about the physical/mental damage it did her. A lot of soldiers and front line workers see and do terrible things, the effects of which can last far beyond the point they end that particular job. I hate porn and those warped by its effects, cause it leads to treating people like commodities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:33 AM
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Don't date. It's crude, doesn't work, and ultimately leads to thinking of people as commodities and overall resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 12:42 AM
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