EmCee311 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	Getting past the (possible) cheating..		EmCee311	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/20 06:35 AM

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1	One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hell Really good point here. Hits home for me. I feel that the divorce has made we always wonder when the next shoe will drop.. I try hard not let that affect decision making and living my life but I’d be lying if said it doesn’t completely change my outlook on a lot of stuff..	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/26 09:38 PM
5	My story I’m sorry brother, stay strong. By your post you already have a good handle on what needs to be done, continue your path forward - it does get better on the other side!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/26 01:36 AM
16	My story The fact that she would do this 2 days after purchasing a home is ridiculous and evil.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/26 01:30 AM
11	Honest questions regarding all your ex wives Women will grow up to be their mother. I should have known when I heard her mom state several times she woulda already divorced her step dad if she didn’t have to give him half her money. Additionally, I now realize she never told me how she really felt, ever. We’d “talk” and I figured had mutual understanding on things. But deep deep down, her actual feelings were kept silent until it was too much. I look back and don’t understand how I didn’t see some of these things, I can spot it a mile away…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/25 08:44 PM
6	How did you make sense of her walking away after years together? To be honest I still haven’t made sense of it and I’m at peace with that, you have to be ok never getting all the answers. Sure, we had issues like any relationship but nothing I thought wouldn’t brought on divorce. The truth is, most people just don’t care to try any more, any sign of resistance or discomfort is met with quitting or leaving. I believe in karma and I think all that were wronged will eventually get what is due to them. Godspeed my friend.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/25 06:44 PM
2	Looking for Advice after unfair divorce This right here. I too likely left some money on the table, albeit it was a little different situation. The money was likely not gonna be worth it given the time and cost it woulda taken to fight for it. Learn from this, move on, strive to earn more money and go chase excellence. Tomorrow is a new day.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/25 12:55 AM
11	Bottom fell out after divorce Imagine you’re on island alone, the only one can save yourself is you. Unfortunately for men, no one will come to save you. You have to fight for no one else except yourself. One day at a time, 1 hour at a time. It will pass, but you have to put in the work daily. Keep getting exercise and taking care of your body. The basics like drinking water and getting enough rest are crucial. You got this brother, in order to see the light you gotta go through the darkness first.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/25 11:03 PM
2	When will I be able to eat again? The tale as old as time, my EX did the same thing. It will suck badly for a while, but it’s important to note this pain will pass and there is light at the end of the tunnel, but only if you make it out the other side. Stay the course and take it 1 day at a time. Godspeed	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/25 07:29 PM
2	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? I hear you, sounds like you’re doing all the right things, it will come in time! Be easy on yourself, you’ve been through a lot. Make sure you’re happy being along before inviting someone else in. If you can’t be happy alone, you’re in bad company. God speed!	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:34 AM
16	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Your confidence doesn’t come from women, it comes from chasing excellence and being a great father. Continue to work hard, hit the gym, eat right and before you know it women will come in to your life. Go to the coffee shop and strike up conversations with the baristas. Chat up a cute waitress. Even if you’re not attracted to them it will get you back into the groove of talking to women and strangers in general, this will do wonders for you. Point is, live your life to the fullest and people wil…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:18 AM
1	Need a reality check This	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/25 01:39 AM
11	She Plotted Sorry you’re here. Mine did something similar after her dad passed away. Keep coming back to this sub, it’s a great help.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 05:55 PM
5	My ex-wife unblocked me on social media after 8 months of no contact. What does this mean? Honestly I wouldn’t pay attention and or get off social media. I deleted FB and it was the best thing for me. You need to move forward, not back. For all practical purposes she should be “dead” to you. Don’t allowed her to rent out space in your head.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/24 08:49 PM
4	My ex-wife unblocked me on social media after 8 months of no contact. What does this mean? Mine did the same, I’m guessing it went like this. Therapist: “girl you’re so strong and independent with your AP, let him see you living your best life, you have nothing to hide”	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/24 08:45 PM
4	How far to move away? This	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 04:31 PM
6	I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all? It’s time to start to get out of that mindset, you attract what you project. Start acting like you are the prize, hit the gym, eat better, start acting like you’re on top of the world. It begins and ends with you! You got this man, just have to change the way you think, it’s not easy but it gets easier when you start to build that self confidence again.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/24 09:58 AM
2	Final steps What convinced you the second time around that marriage was a good option? Generally curious about 2nd marriages. Anything better or worse the second time around? Either way, I’m sorry you’re here.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/24 10:50 PM
6	What should I be feeling right now? There’s no right or wrong way to feel, you just have to feel it. It sounds like you tried everything you could, so good on you for doing that. Many stories of women who don’t try and just give up or move on/cheat without notice - you didn’t. Stay focused at work, get into the gym, pickup some hold hobbies, reconnect with family and friends are a few of the basics around here. Take a good year or two off from dating and just really focus on yourself. You’ll probably learn more about yourself than…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/24 09:52 PM
5	Lift heavy shit Yes, even it’s its going for a long walk to clear your mind. It’s therapeutic and great place to start.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/24 12:43 AM
3	all i do is work 100% this. Day by day, 1% better today than yesterday. You had a life before your Ex, go find it again!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/24 05:18 PM
4	What to do with mementos As others have mentioned, put them away for now. Best not to make any decisions like this while you’re still going through it. You can always throw them away later if decide that’s best. I still have a few albums of pictures and such, and we didn’t have any kids to pass them down to. Give it some time, like a few years time, and then decide what’s right for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 10:58 AM
3	Probable divorce Exactly this.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/24 11:22 PM
2	So it's been six months Your body weight is always there, start doing pushups, get some cheap elastic resistance bands, go for a walk. During my divorce, all the gyms were closed because of COVID, the local park was my gym and it gave me my appreciation of nature back. Point is, you can still do MANY things outside a gym to get healthier and leaner. Give it a shot!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/24 10:13 PM
1	True friends . Nicely said. It definitely shows people’s true colors, “friends” or not. It shined a bright light on who I could count on and who I couldn’t.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/24 01:10 AM
8	My wife just threatened separating. Man, this hits home as it’s similar to my story. I didn’t lose my job but left a decent job to move closer to her family and then I also tried to obtain clients in my field on my own, which is competitive enough. I guess I didn’t get it rolling as quickly as she wanted.. Very few women will be supportive in times like these. Just know, no matter what happens, you will be ok. This too shall pass. Godspeed brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/24 12:36 AM
3	It's all my fault.... my son is a nightmare because of me... This	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/24 11:26 PM
1	Moving in with GF post divorce What’s your living situation like? Do you own or rent? Have you discussed her mortgage or expenses when you might potentially move in? Have you discussed having her move into your place, if so, would she contribute to the expenses? There’s a lot to discuss. I’m in a similar situation but it’s my GF wanting to move in with me. I have the room and she would contribute finically as she has a child as well. The only difference if it doesn’t work out she is gone and I can still afford my place on my …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/24 12:35 AM
5	Moving out of our house My ex bought me out of the house, I didn’t want it and used the buyout money to buy my own place. It was my first home purchase and for the first time in my life I felt I made it, worked hard for the down payment and put a lot of sweat into making it our own. Moving my belongings out on my own roughly a year later was probably the hardest part of my divorce. I was packing bags and she was banging the AP. Moving sucks as it is, but sobbing and wondering where the hell my life was going while fill…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 11:58 PM
1	Divorced at 28, together 7 years and she cheated. Healed well with therapy and trying to date again, is this a big turn off or flag for women in mid - late 20’s? Just trying to help, you can live life however you deem fit. You came here looking for advice so I offered mine - take it or leave it. You also mentioned you’re in your mid-twenties, which you’re not. You’re closer to 30 than 25. Yes, typically younger women are more immature which offers up a whole other set of potential issues. Are there exceptions? Sure, but that shouldn’t be new information to you. Never once mentioned dating older but finding someone you align with. Either way, you do you. …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 04:04 PM
1	Divorced at 28, together 7 years and she cheated. Healed well with therapy and trying to date again, is this a big turn off or flag for women in mid - late 20’s? They might be but the right person won’t. I wouldn’t focus so much on age, but rather finding someone you align with when it comes to lifestyle and core values. Be as picky as you want but remember it’s up to you with what you’re willing to settle for. Girls in the age range may also be more immature and more of a flight risk as well, ask me how I know.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 02:18 PM
2	Divorced at 28, together 7 years and she cheated. Healed well with therapy and trying to date again, is this a big turn off or flag for women in mid - late 20’s? Agree with what others have mentioned. Don’t rush into things, we have similar stories. Would you want to be with someone who would hold that against you in the long run? It’s not something I’d mention right off the bat but I wouldn’t hold it in forever either. My therapist framed it like this: you took a chance at love with someone and ultimately it didn’t work out, I think most sensible women can get behind that, it shows you were committed. If not, it’s on to the next	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 11:08 AM
8	Took Her Less Than Two Months To Find Another Man Unfortunately this is usually the case, it’s female nature which is undefeated in ruining relationships. I was with my ex for 11 years, within 8 months she was engaged. Within another 6 months she was pregnant.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/05/24 11:18 PM
9	What bucket list items are you planning on doing when you get divorced Bought a Ducati and never looked back	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/24 11:20 PM
2	House appraisal today If it’s one you ordered then you should be ok. But if it’s hers, you definitely want your own. I was in a similar situation: big surprise, her appraisal was less. We took the average of the 2 and she bought me out a little less than what was owed because I just wanted it to be done and was emotionally and physically drained by that point. Looking back I shoulda fought for the exact difference but I felt I still got a decent deal all things considered. It sucks to grind through this stuff when yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/24 12:46 AM
3	DRINKING POISON Nicely said, amen.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/24 03:44 PM
8	I don't know, guys.... Emotions are not static, it’s normal to be happy one minute, and sad the next. What you have to keep telling yourself is that this is the new normal. So you have to ask yourself each time, should I stay in this state of sadness or push forward to create your own happiness? It’s not easy and everyone’s journey is different, hell, it even brings me sadness from time to time and I’ve been divorced for almost 4 years now. You have one life to live, make the best of every day in the best way you know…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/24 03:21 PM
1	I want to be a dad. I can see my dream crashing. Needed to hear this today as well, I’m sure there are more like us - so thank you. I to want to be a father but it’s hard to trust again, let alone bring a baby into the world.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/24 11:57 PM
2	I’m back after 6 months I feel you man, mine was engaged roughly 8 months after our divorce - there’s always someone else. At the time I was sad, but at the same time it gave me clarity. I blamed myself for a lot that wrong in our marriage, I made mistakes but I’m not a bad person - there was just someone else and I couldn’t nor would I want to compete with that. Take some time to feel emotion and go out and live life the best you can. Godspeed bro.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/24 07:47 PM
1	Post Divorce ED and dating That’s a good start, but diet is just as important. I thought I needed “something” to help me as well. Turns out when I got my diet on track everything else fell into place. I could mention adequate sleep, hydration etc are all important as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/24 05:50 PM
2	Post Divorce ED and dating As others have mentioned, could be psychological. Also, how’s your diet? Hows your workout routine? If you’re not in good shape, it will affect you in other areas of your life. You’d be amazed at what can happen by eating nutrient dense foods and eating cleaner. Get into the gym and fix your diet if needed, it’s all related. Good luck man!	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/24 05:21 PM
2	Lonely Valid point	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/24 03:07 AM
2	Lonely Is bullet point 6 determined by state with regards to responsibility? Currently dating one but not cohabitating.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/24 12:48 AM
5	How do I take Revenge after what happened to me I know it may not seem like you ever can again, and that’s ok. For me, trust in other women came from better trust in myself which I probably didn’t have the first time around. Trust that every day you’re working to be a better version of yourself. Trust that you won’t put up with BS and you’ll set boundaries in your next relationship. Trust that ultimately you’re the prize and any woman should be happy to be with you. Trust that no matter what happens, you’ll be OK because you’re not defined by…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/24 02:07 AM
4	How do I take Revenge after what happened to me Better to pay a little now than more down the road. It’s shitty and you didn’t deserve that, but like Roman stated, you dodged a bullet. I was divorced at 32 and thought the same, you have plenty of life left. Take some time for yourself and don’t worry about women for a while. Work on yourself and get back to some old hobbies. When the time is right you may meet someone else that is 10x better than your ex. I did and it’s infinitely better than who I married. You’ll go into the next relationshi…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/24 01:53 AM
4	Handling depression. All solid advice. Stick to a routine. Make sure you’re doing the basics - drink water, get sunlight daily if possible, eat clean and hit the gym. Go for walks and pickup old hobbies. The more your mind is focused on something else, the better. Stay moving.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/09/23 02:15 AM
2	What does it mean I’d say I’m roughly in a similar boat minus the age gap (36 here). I’m about 4 years out from my divorce but have been dating a wonderful woman for the past 2 years or so. In a sense she’s everything I’ve wanted or needed in a partner. Her baggage is that she does have a 8yr old girl who really is a good kid, and she’s a great mom. We have fun together and are on the same page on a lot of issues. I know there will be many here who would tell me not to get involved with a single mom, but we’re no…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/23 12:24 AM
3	Did you keep the engagement ring? It makes me feel good to know there are multiple other guys who didn’t pick up on it. It’s easy to look back and say “wtf was I thinking”. But in the end none of us planned for this or had the tools to recognize what was actually happening - we only got those tools after it was too late. My EX made some excuse about her hands being too dry and it bothered her to wear it etc. This topic comes up for me from time to time and I just have to forgive myself that I didn’t know better. Maybe I should h…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/23 12:12 AM
2	To mediate happily or lawyer up and burn it down? This.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/23 10:42 PM
5	I’m 29 and feel like my wife is abusive Anytime man. This is a great sub, I wished I found it sooner on my journey, I would have had more clarity and likely healed much sooner. Continue to come back here and read the other stories, it will help you understand that you’re not alone and it’s ok to feel what you’re feeling. My DM’s are open if you need anything!	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/23 10:40 PM
4	I’m 29 and feel like my wife is abusive I hear you and I basically felt the same - divorced at 32. You need to quit thinking about what “others” will think and do what’s best for you and your mental/physical well being. This is not a “partner”, this is anxiety, yelling, and a total nightmare from what you described. It will sting a bit mentally and financially in the beginning, but you’ll be better on the other side. There will be a woman 100x better than your current wife that will treat you how you want to be treated if you so choos…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/23 10:08 PM
4	OLD Love the Ducati! Bought a V2 after my divorce and it feels great to ride again! Safe riding brother!	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/23 01:56 PM
1	No warning at all! I feel ya brother. The last time I spoke to my ex wife was roughly 4 years ago. We were separated for about 2 months at the time and before she left the house on a visit, I asked if she still wanted to work this out and get to other side. She kissed me and said she did. 4 days later I got an email stating that she filed for divorce - “I’m myself again” as some of it read. Haven’t seen or spoken to her since… It’s a wild world, but as you stated - I’m happier and love myself more than I ever have…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/23 11:38 PM
3	Anyone win her back? Yes, start now. Check back in on this sub and read the stories/recommendations from others. It helped me immensely and will give you a good dose of what others have been through and what you may experience. One day at a time, you’ll come out a better person on the other side.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/23 08:44 PM
3	Anyone win her back? If the topic is even up for discussion, it’s over - I’m sorry. But there’s a lot of good advice here from many warriors that have been through the storm, including myself. Don’t let your mind think that you should be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you. Start acting now and get your ducks in order. It’s tough but you’ll thank yourself once you’re on the other side. Godspeed.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/23 11:48 PM
2	'Hit the gym'. For me it was channeling all the anger and sadness in a healthy way. I always hit the gym, but I hit even harder and more seriously post divorce. I’m roughly 9% body fat and in the best shape of my life at 35. As others have mentioned, music, endorphins, blood flow - it all helps reduce stress. I have a six pack for the first time in my life and overall, the gym and exercise has been the best outlet for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/23 11:10 PM
1	Young men who have divorced w/o kids I fall into this group, however, I’m having a hard time deciding if I want kids. I mean, I know I’d like to have a family, but my EW really messed with me and and it’s hard to trust again. On one hand I don’t want to the past to dictate my future, but at the same time it’s hard to forget the trauma. Anyone else in this same predicament?	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/23 12:26 AM
3	Wife wants a divorce; once the paper work is filed, I know everything will go to hell. How do you survive the process with nowhere else to go? Very good advice here. As others have mentioned, get a recording device and be sure to use it. Back the up the audio to a personal laptop that she can’t access. Remember you can’t control her actions, but you can control your response to her actions.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/23 02:18 AM
3	Angry Great response, I think we have the same Ex Wife, almost text book. Damn…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/23 12:18 AM
3	Angry “Im not Mr Right, I’m Mr Right Now”	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/23 12:17 AM
2	Ex finally popped up on online dating If nothing else, you need to take care of yourself to take care of your kids properly. Try to reframe the way you think about things, no woman is worth the pain. She’s one of a million, not one in a million.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/23 09:59 PM
2	Ex finally popped up on online dating I was there as well. You really have to dig deep, your body is in survival mode. Start by having a routine. Make the same thing every morning - I recommend eggs, wheat toast and some fruit. At the very least, you can at say you started your day with a solid meal - this sets the tone for the day. Then after breakfast you take a walk, get outside and be with nature for a bit. Do something active to get the blood pumping. For me it was the gym, but I was already going to the gym 3-4 times a week pr…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/23 08:32 PM
16	What did y’all do about your social media? Scrub it? Start over? Deleted FB and scrubbed my IG with all our pictures, there wasn’t very many anyway. To each their own but deleting FB was one of the best things for me. Where I am now in life and 3 years removed from divorce, I keep in touch with the people that WANT to keep in touch with me, no more, no less. 90% of the people I was “friends” with, didn’t give a rats ass about me anyway - and this was made even more clear during my divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/23 10:35 PM
20	Peace after divorce My peace is that I’m now aware that my happiness/needs come first in any relationship. I think when you get to this point whether you’re dating someone or not, you have a sense that whatever happens, “I’ll be ok”. I’ve been dating someone pretty great for roughly 2 years, and I can say that it’s completely different and much healthier than my marriage. I don’t put up with any nonsense and she knows this. We communicate really well, the sex is great and we generally have a lot of fun together. Al…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/22 02:27 AM
5	I couldn’t make it to work today It is scary, but how about trying this: for every negative thought, trying thinking of a positive outcome from your divorce. Maybe it’s connecting with friends that you fell out of touch with. Maybe it’s picking up that old hobby that you haven’t had time for. Maybe it’s enjoying the freedom to do whatever you want and on your terms. It’s not easy, but you have to start to re-wire your brain in a sense. It easy to obsess about the negative, try to think of a few of the positives too!	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/22 06:54 PM
8	Comparable Reddit site for Women in midst of Divorce? One of my only regrets was not finding this sub sooner. I spent a lot of time on the regular sub, which many have noted, has a clear bias.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/22 06:33 PM
42	End is Drawing Near Time for some tough love, and I know it’s hard to hear but it’s needed. This woman is now the enemy, she is a stranger to you. I know it’s tough but this is the time where you have to dig deep and fight for yourself everyday. You can be fair but get what’s rightfully yours - and no - you shouldn’t feel bad. This is what SHE wanted, so give it to her and make sure you don’t screw yourself in the process. Your story is very similar to mine so it struck a bit of a nerve. Give her what she wants and…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/22 01:44 AM
4	In laws I’m sure there are plenty of examples of people who hate their ex in-laws, myself included. But, as it’s been said before, the best revenge is a life well lived. It’s normal to feel the way you feel, but your energy/time/thoughts are better served in investing in yourself. Onward and upward!	/r/Divorce_Men	12/10/22 12:32 AM
3	Second Marriage? Damn, I could have written this myself - almost identical situations. Look forward to the responses on this one.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/09/22 07:31 PM
11	The five-star rating for divorced men Nice story and very much agree! My therapist framed it well for me: there’s nothing to be ashamed of by being divorced, if nothing else it shows you tried to make it work with someone and took a chance, committed etc, even if it didn’t work out. I think most sensible women can agree with that, although they may be more difficult to find.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/22 10:53 PM
3	Last Alimony Payment I don’t think we ever let go of the venom, but we use it to fuel our lives forward to greener pastures. We cant control the past, but we can control our future! Godspeed!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/22 05:10 PM
4	retainer fee gone? Unfortunately not, sorry you’re here brother. You need to list the most important things to you and have your attorney focus on only those things. You’re gonna lose a bit, but what can you not bend on? I took a hit on a few things because the end result was that the money I woulda settled on woulda been less than what I had to pay the lawyer to go after it. It’s sucks but lawyers make it out best in divorces, remember that.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/22 10:03 PM
25	How do women think? just with emotions? Outside of 50/50 with your kids it sounds like you’ll make out pretty well in this, at least compared to many on this sub - be thankful for that. Go out and be the best version of yourself you can be, build a newer, better you, in every aspect.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/22 10:35 PM
1	Can you help me get my head out of my Ass? Yep, I was made to feel guilty when I hung out with friends, had plans of my own etc. Then when I tried to lean in, it slowly built resentment on her end, plus I stopped doing a lot of the things I loved to do - not even realizing what I was doing at the time. It was almost like an awaking several months after things were official. For those lessons, I am thankful.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/08/22 12:44 AM
2	Can you help me get my head out of my Ass? I agree with you. Shitty part is, most women will then in turn make you feel guilty when you don’t show them enough attention. Then you do, then they start to turn away because “he’s obsessed” - you’re fucked either way these days.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/22 10:13 PM
3	When to give up? I’m sorry man, I hear you on the issue of career. I make decent money, but I’m not where I’d like to be at 35. I took a leap of faith with my Ex to start my own business and her income was to supplement until things grew. I still was able to pay the mortgage, the bills, etc. But the whole time I felt like I stunted my own career by waiting for her to complete hers. I supported her during grad school, once she landed the big job and made more than me, she was out. It sucks, this sub us helped a l…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/22 12:09 AM
1	I lost the desire to live. Thanks for sharing, this is really well writin and these are some great tools!	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/22 02:17 AM
1	I lost the desire to live. I agree with you, mostly… However, closure and 1 on 1’s aren’t guaranteed. I was blindsided and never saw or spoke to her again. OP should be aware of these scenarios as well. Sometimes we have to move forward and live with the fact that we may never get all the answers..	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/22 02:10 AM
3	I lost the desire to live. Jesus, that sounds brutal man, sorry you’re going through it. One day at a time, “we live to die another day”.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/22 02:06 AM
4	Simple help for men in Texas, with this get help if you have a gut feeling Can you give some examples of what can be done?	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/22 07:14 PM
1	When it comes to selling or buying out of a house I can only comment from my experience in MI. She wanted the house, I couldn’t afford it on my own nor did I want to live there. We each got an appraisal and took the average of both, divided by 2 against what we owed etc and settled on the buy out. In general each party has to agree on the equity that will be received/owed.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/22 11:22 PM
5	Officially divorced today. Good on you man, wise words. And yes, it can be beautiful on the other side, but it won’t come without the work!	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/22 07:27 PM
1	I don't know what to do. Great response, wish I read something like this before I went into the trenches.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/22 01:33 AM
7	Divorced and single This is a terrible take. We’re all here to support each other in this shitty nightmare that is divorce. Why do you think OP is bragging, generally curious? Is that he disclosed his income? Clearly you’d give different advice if he had said he made less money and had very little saved for retirement etc.. OP - I recommend therapy regardless of whether you think you need it. It can give perspective on a lot of what you went though, and how you reacted to certain situations etc. Also, pickup the bo…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/22 12:48 AM
5	Bit of a rant but I work harder to earn a lot more. Why does she get to benefit from that without contributing anything at home?! That’s a great outlook to have, what do you do? I don’t make anything close to what your bringing in but I’m slowly investing and saving more where I can. I’ve also learned to enjoy my money more as well. For years I sacrificed things I wanted or places I wanted to go for her. Hello new motorcycle and mountain bike!	/r/Divorce_Men	06/07/22 03:34 AM
4	I am lost in the divorce process, Need help Couldn’t agree more, I honestly don’t understand it. Very few marriages reconcile, it’s almost like they want you to get into with your STBX so that they can make more money off you.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/22 01:57 AM
1	18 months out still stings Good for you on the business! Mind sharing what you’re getting into? It’s important that we celebrate the positives as well!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/22 09:29 PM
3	What advice would you give to a single 20 year old man for his eventual future relationship and marriage with a woman? “A woman who won’t take your name in marriage, will gladly take your house in a divorce” Damn, that one hit home. Spot on. I guess the thing that surprised me the most (at the time), was the complete 180 she did as a person, and how she treated me in the process. Maybe I was naive or maybe it’s the way I was raised - to always be true yourself. She gave 0 fucks about the 11 years we spent together. It was a hard but needed dose of reality - never again.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/22 11:52 PM
1	Feeling alone even around friends and family. This is really well written and 100% accurate. Don’t ever let another person destroy you. Fight for yourself each and every day. “Today, better than yesterday, tomorrow better than today”	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/22 02:27 AM
2	New to this I wish I read this before my divorce. Especially the part about going after everything. I still made out pretty well all things considered but I could have gotten more, I think I was so emotionally drained I just wanted to be done with it but that’s actually when you need to be the strongest. Easier said than done but yea, wish I got the grey sectional instead of the “old” couch..	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/22 10:40 PM
2	Is there something wrong with women? That was quick, thank you!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/22 03:48 AM
1	Is there something wrong with women? I’d be interested in reading this study/article if you’re able to find it!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/22 03:26 AM
1	Post divorce hobbies Haha, cruiser will be next for me. I always liked riding track days so I went with a sport bike after I came outta retirement - best choice I’ve made in a long time! Cheers to you and better gas mileage! Lol	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/22 11:15 PM
3	Post divorce hobbies +1 for the motorcycle. Picked up a Ducati 3 months after things were official. Safe riding! 🤙🏼	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/22 02:44 AM
2	I feel like I can't be happy single 6 months out Like others have mentioned, you need to be happy with yourself first. Forget the women for a split second and focus on yourself and your mental and physical health. Start picking up old hobbies or sports again. Join a gym or a local club, travel, go out to eat by yourself, start conversations with women (and men) while in public. You’d be amazed at the people you can meet and the conversations you’ll have. Self confidence is one of the most attractive traits you can have - get out there and enjo…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/22 01:57 AM
1	Getting past the (possible) cheating.. https://imgur.com/a/OJoih97 Been a dream to get a Ducati since I was younger, it will be delivered to my door in about an hour.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/20 03:58 PM
4	Getting past the (possible) cheating.. I appreciate your perspective, however I don’t know how you can break a promise to someone that was once everything to you. I guess some people don’t take their vows as seriously as some. Either way I appreciate your response.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/20 03:58 PM
1	Getting past the (possible) cheating.. Thank you, that quote is actually something I tell myself every morning when I wake up. I’ve let almost everything go and accepted my new normal, just wish I knew for sure.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/20 11:54 AM
2	Fuse is lit This is good advice, you’re right. Thank you for the words of wisdom.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/20 03:11 PM
3	Fuse is lit This is the part I struggle with because my ex was such a good person, basically up until the end. She made good money, hardworking, caring etc. She wasn’t perfect, didn’t do much around the house, but I could live with that. She left me, so it has me thinking about how small and insignificant I am, I don’t know if that makes any sense. I guess it would be easier for me if she was crazy B and went off the deep end, I could understand it a bit more. I also struggle with the thought that she may h…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/20 06:08 AM
3	What was the point in your divorce that you realised 'actually, I'm going to be ok' What specifically are you struggling with?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/20 05:10 AM
3	What's the funniest thing that happened during you divorce that made you feel better (if only for a little while)? My ex bought me out of the house and owed me $XX,750. When I received the check from the title company it was for $XX, 570. Mind you her mom is a multi-millionaire. Not very funny, but it did make me chuckle at the time. I just shook my head.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/20 03:03 AM
4	What's the funniest thing that happened during you divorce that made you feel better (if only for a little while)? Jesus that’s good	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/20 02:45 AM
2	Why do some people, who are divorced, still wear their wedding band? I did the same thing, I kept mine on until about a month before things were final, I just felt naked without it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with, don’t worry what others think. My ex on the other hand took hers off the minute she moved out, but also during the time she said she had every intention of working things out. When I asked why she didn’t have them on she said she had eczema, and then the next time it was because she was getting a massage, all lies of course. Just seems like women…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/20 03:30 AM
2	My small victory this morning. Good on you man, keep it up! I am also lighter than my ex, I’m in the best shape of my life and haven’t been this lean since high school, I’m 32. Now I just gotta continue to eat well so that I can maintain this post divorce revenge bod lol.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/20 05:58 PM
2	Can't get past it Yea exactly, I know I wasn’t perfect but I never cheated, never abusive, made her dinner every night and coffee and breakfast every morning. Quit a good paying job and moved half across the state so she could be closer to family. All these things for her happiness, not mine. That’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned, I will never put my happiness in the arms of anyone else but myself. But like you said, I was willing to work on it, I would have done whatever what was needed, she checked out and cou…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/20 03:26 AM
3	Can't get past it My issue is she made me feel like everything was my fault, literally everything. My rational mind knows that it wasn’t just me, we mainly had communication issues which was mainly her problem, but I accept some accountability there as well. But man, it’s hard not to obsess over every little mistake I made or something I said. Woulda shoulda coulda..she seemed to be calling all the shots in the end, never even got to say goodbye to her or my dog. My mind is my own worst enemy most days. Sucks..	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/20 03:10 AM
2	Can't get past it I just imagine my Ex playing Lizzo-“Truth Hurts” on repeat.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/20 04:00 PM
2	Can't get past it Man, thank you for this. I really needed to hear this. This type of lifestyle is exactly what I think me ex went through. I just wasn’t exciting for her anymore, not worth the challenge or the “chase”. I vowed my life to be with her and her only, and she decided to walk out simply stating “I’m happier now, I’m myself again”..really!? You couldn’t be yourself for 11 years?	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/20 02:54 PM
3	Accused of being a narcissist Well said, a lot of similarities in our stories. Hang in there man, onward and upward!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/20 01:39 AM
3	Accused of being a narcissist My ex did this as well. I was never good enough even though I did everything around the house, cooked dinner for her every night, got her coffee every morning etc. It was never good enough, but I was the lazy one with no ambition etc..whatever.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/20 11:55 PM
1	Finally things are going my way.. Thank you, I needed to hear that. And I agree, especially with your last sentence. I recently saw a picture of my ex on social media of her at wedding that we had planned to go to several month ago. It looks like she has gained some weight and generally looks sad in the pictures. I on the other hand have lost roughly 30 pounds, continue to go to therapy and will be closing on a condo soon. I don’t wish her any ill will, I really don’t, if I did I would still be holding on to something which woul…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/20 01:00 AM
1	Finally things are going my way.. Ha, that won’t be happening anytime soon, but I hear what you’re saying.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/19 02:12 PM
2	Finally things are going my way.. Thank you, it’s been a long and difficult road. From a 2600 sq foot home to back to my Dad’s place until the dust settles. I’m antsy to get outta here and move on. There are still days I miss what we had but reading your post as well as other’s stories has shown me that I’m not alone on this journey, we’re all one in the same nightmare together. This isn’t how I envisioned my life and my future but it’s outta my control, only thing I can do is push forward and start taking care of myself. I hope…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/19 11:05 PM
2	Finally things are going my way.. Great post, I’m hopefully closing on a a condo soon, inspection is tomorrow. Best part is no one can take this house away from me. Onward and upward, it’s the only way forward.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/19 10:49 PM
2	I finally talked to my doctor about my depression. I am on one as well and I hate taking pills but I had to do what needed to be done to survive. I wasn’t eating or taking care of myself like I should be. I’m on a very low dosage but it has helped me. I would recommend getting in a low dosage for a few weeks to see how you feel and adjust accordingly. I am now sleeping and eating better.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/11/19 05:48 PM
2	Best advice I've heard yet: Spot on, only a few months in and it’s hard to imagine this gettin any “better”. I’ve been a wreck today..	/r/Divorce_Men	15/10/19 06:55 PM