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Embarrassed_Heat_153/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 03:07 AM
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Well fortunately for me I logged onto Facebook messenger and she ended up telling a friend what had happened. I took a screen shot and saved it. Funny thing- the friend said and I quote “maybe it was not the best approach. BUT maybe it will finally get through to him.” Wife replies- “it’s gonna be my fault if he wants a divorce.” “It won’t get through to him. Just made him angry.” Friends response- “ If he tries to tell you he wants a divorce over this he’s full of crap and using this as an excu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 11:16 PM
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Yea and mine are just about 10 and 7. I think it would hit the older very hard. She’s even said in the past after some fights that she worries me and the wife would divorce. I’ve mentioned that to her and it hasn’t changed anything really. She still hammers on about any of my families missteps and always sees the glass half full no matter what they do.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 07:08 PM
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I hear you. We’ve had the “divorce talk” in the past and she said if that’s what I want she wouldn’t stop me. She’s also admitted I’m a good father and would never keep our kids from me. She has gone to therapy before (not sure if she still is) but it hasn’t done anything for her. Everything with my family sets her off. And now they’re a thousand miles away and they still piss her off. I’m like WTF. My wife can be such a cunt. When she doesn’t get her way or people don’t want to fall in line wit…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 07:05 PM
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Good advice
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 06:59 PM
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Correct. No documentation, there was no redness. Just a typical slap out of the blue across the face while I was down in SC and now we’re back in NJ.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 06:52 PM
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How old were your kids that you waited 7 more years for them?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 06:48 PM
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No, not at all. She slapped me. Just not in front of our family members. What are you getting that from?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 05:08 PM
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The kids were with my folks at the pool. We were by ourselves in bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:46 PM
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She didn’t hit me in front of anyone. We were in the bedroom by ourselves
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:45 PM
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I appreciate your pov. You are right
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:44 PM
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Yea but our kids are totally different. We both give them a little smack when they misbehave. This is different.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:51 PM
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She tried to- I said I know her emotions got the best of her and that I needed her to get away from me. We haven’t said much as we travel home.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:48 PM
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Well we’re pretty good not to fight in front of the kids. If they come by we tell them that we’re talking but my older one knows there’s trouble in paradise from time to time. My younger one is so happy go lucky that she doesn’t understand. I’m not concerned about her hitting my kids…that I’m confident on. I’m curious to see how things pan out in the days to come with her approach to the conversation.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:25 PM
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Thank you for your input. I’d imagine half of you are in my boat thinking stay in, figure out how to work it out, do it for the kids while the other half says GTFO now before it gets worse and I’m ruined. I don’t know how to take that leap (for now anyway)…we’ll see where the chips lands once we return home later today. I was planning on avoiding her, waiting for the kids to sleep and let her know her action brought us to a new low and we need distance and to figure out how to co-parent in the i…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:27 PM
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I could but tbh I sleep better in the other bed anyway. I wanna play the victim card and make her feel like shit now so I’m gonna be “the bigger person” and remove myself from the situation.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 11:11 AM
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She hates my family Bc they are selfish and aren’t as inclusive as she’d like them to be. My family dynamic is much different than hers. I grew up very independent as did my brother and sister. We don’t have anything against each other but we aren’t “tight”. - my wife is Indian so they are close. She has two sisters and they are in each other’s business. So my mom turns 70 later this year. This was the ONLY time all grandkids would be together so she said it might be a nice idea to throw her a p…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 03:04 AM
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This was the first time she’s ever smacked me. I could tell this was a tough weekend for her. She’s not a fan of my family, my brothers ex was also here for the grandparents weekend and she dropped us like a bad habit after their divorce some 7 years ago. That really broke my wife Bc she was close with her (so she thought). She’s just never let that go. So all this shit just sorta came to a head along with our usual BS. I can honestly say this was a shock.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 01:46 AM
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No, we’re in South Carolina at the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:35 AM
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Yea we have a guest room and a basement as well. I’m gonna be heading to the guest room tomorrow night. In my mind, we either both go and split the proceeds or neither of us go and we figure this out and co-parent.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:30 AM
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I think she’s so spooked over the fact that she let her emotions get the best of her. I’ve been avoiding her. We’ll have the conversation when we get back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:27 AM
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I agree. Too bad housing is fucking insane still in NJ. I’ll be in a little fucking apartment after it all settles. Have most of you rented or bought something after a break up?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:22 AM
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When we get back home I’ll try recording a convo about her hitting me. I don’t want to destroy her Bc that’ll affect my children as well.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 12:17 AM
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Fuck…not ready to go nuclear like that just yet. I’m hoping that since she came to her senses after the fact she might be more willing to divorce (if we do) without a lawyer and just do everything 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 11:42 PM
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How about taking a trip somewhere? A nice weekend getaway? I’m not divorced (yet) - cheaper to keep her - and I have two kids that are my world. I recently got into golf. It’s a fun game you can play with others or by yourself…might be something to try out. Best wishes man. Sorry to hear you’re running through a tough time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 01:29 AM
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I’m married 13 and that’s my goal. To end it without having to pay child support and alimony. Is that the norm once your children are no longer minors? How are your kids taking it? If I were in your shoes I think I’d find some hobbies you can do individually (if you haven’t already)- golf, hiking, etc. I’d also probably make it a point to book a summer vacation with just your kids and make that the “new norm” Best of luck and congrats on your new found freedom. Godspeed
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 12:50 AM
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Wait till you are set into your career before getting married…so maybe 30 if you want a round number. And I second a lot of what’s been said on here. Women are irrational and you’ll fight over the dumbest shit. Often times their irrationality comes from thinking all men are like the ones you see on the Hallmark channel. I’m still married…and at this rate my stubborn ass will stay married so I don’t have to pay alimony!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 12:00 PM
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Maybe try buying an Echo Show 8 or 10 so you can video chat? You wouldn’t need her to pick up the phone.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 06:11 PM
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Yea I think the moment I say I wanna sleep with other women it’ll be all down hill!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 02:28 PM
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She works. She makes approx 65k and I make about $82k. She also carries the insurance since she has great coverage and it’s cheaper with her carrying it. At some point I think we’ll have that conversation that we need to be in it for the kids. We’ve been in our 4 bed 2.5 bath home for 9 years. If we both had to get our own places we’d both end up with the short end of the stick so I think she might realize it’s in both of our financial interests to stay put. She just needs to stop being such a c…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 02:10 PM
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Haha far from it. I just don’t personalize shit the way she does and I have a very thick skin. I am a teacher so I have developed that through a long career. I keep telling her that she shouldn’t be upset that she’s pissed off about things with my family more than I am. I can’t conjure up feelings of resent when they just aren’t there.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:08 PM
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I don’t know if they would step in meaning interfere. But financially, she would not have to worry because her parents would always assist in anyway possible if she needed the help. They also still live in the house she grew up in, so she could always move back in with my kids and have a place to stay free of charge. That’s my other concern, this is going to be the worst time to be going through all this shit with housing as crazy as it is
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:38 AM
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That’s a losing battle. I flat out said I cannot tell anyone that what they give is not good enough. Regarding her bloodwork, she gets that checked often because her thyroid is out of whack and she is on Synthroid as a result
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:36 AM
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No they’re pretty open like that. They’ve been here since the 70s. Her father just wanted to make sure I could provide financially and that I didn’t have any significant debt. My parents are very hands-off. They’re retired now and moved to SC. They visit 2x a year around Xmas and in the summer. They talk once a week on Alexa. My wive’s problem with them (and my sister for that matter) is that she feels they don’t put enough effort into seeing our kids and making us more of a priority. I’ve told …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 11:00 AM
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And we can’t even get to a fucking counselor Bc they all have waiting lists. It’s ridiculous. Tbh our wounds are so old and in the past that our current issues generally are a continuation of the same shit. She says I’m able to compartmentalize so well that I can never see the big picture. I’m constantly telling her she assumes the worst possible outcome of everything my family does so she looks at everything with a biased lens. That goes over so well.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 10:51 AM
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She’s had thyroid issues all her adult life. This on again off again fight/unhappiness about my family has been there since we got engaged and they didn’t pony up the amount of money she had hoped for when we got married. They cut a check to cover my guest list. Indian weddings, as I’m sure you can imagine can be quite expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 10:46 AM
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We’ve been down that road before and have had nice weekend getaways without the kids. Things are good but the moment something comes up having anything to do with my family an issue is created. She’s Indian and is very close with her family. I’m white and not exactly close with mine. Nothing against them, but the family dynamic is just different and she makes issues out of things that aren’t exactly there. She just interprets everything negatively because of how I am with my family. Unfortunatel…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 03:41 AM
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How old are your kids? How did they take the separation? I’m essentially in a sex-less marriage and we are both emotionally exhausted. I think we’re only still together for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 03:11 AM
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