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| 404 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄 | LIES MEN TELL | EmpressOfMyLife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 09:48 PM |
| 124 | "10 months from now on going to find a crystal, and make it into a ring for you because I really really love you!" When your 4 year old son is more HV than all the scrotes out there. Pathetic, men you need to step up! | RANT | EmpressOfMyLife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:09 AM |
| 56 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore. | ROAST-A-SCROTE | EmpressOfMyLife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:36 PM |
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| 3 | Pretending men in public are invisible: a new game I like to playI have moderate to severe hearing loss, so when this happens, I just say I'm deaf or make up some signs and talk to them in ASL. I do know sign language, but not enough for a conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 09:02 PM |
| 9 | "Cishet" women are still oppressed. We are still women living under a patriarchal system.You're welcome 😊 I can understand how it might be confusing to some. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:36 PM |
| 15 | "Cishet" women are still oppressed. We are still women living under a patriarchal system.I'm romantically attracted to both genders, women preferably. I have zero sexual attraction to either, but if it makes them happy (let's say they have a normal sexual libido), I wouldn't mind having sex with them, would I enjoy it? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:59 PM |
| 40 | "Cishet" women are still oppressed. We are still women living under a patriarchal system.I'm asexual, and I'm also bisexual. I agree with you. We're all oppressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:56 PM |
| 1 | In a Bad Situation and Can't Get out Because of Finances? Consider Bookkeeping (Don't Laugh)Sorry I was tired when I made that post, I'll clarify. I applied to Accounts Payable, Accounts Receivable, and Bookkeeping. Majority of the positions on Indeed when I searched for "bookkeeping" were sandwiched into an Accounts P/R role. So I'd apply to those, go on my interviews, and then I'd be denied because I didn't have an Associates in Accounting nor a certification. They will tell me to re-apply later when I finish my classes. The problem was, the remaining classes I had before finishing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Happy Mother’s Day FDS!Yup!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 2 | In a Bad Situation and Can't Get out Because of Finances? Consider Bookkeeping (Don't Laugh)Soon to be ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:46 PM |
| 8 | In a Bad Situation and Can't Get out Because of Finances? Consider Bookkeeping (Don't Laugh)I was going for my associates in Accounting to be a bookkeeper. My husband forced me to drop out my last semester, two kids later, and my bookkeeping knowledge is 7 years outdated. I'm glad that there are certification programs. It used to be that I needed a degree in bookkeeping, I actually got denied jobs because I didn't have that associates. But this was in 2014, I'm sure things changed since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Reminder: Mamas, you CAN do this alone - you don't need that ScroteYes but they are full. So I've just been bogging the hotline chats with my questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:19 AM |
| 8 | When I found out how many women I knew had been abused... TW abuseEXACTLY what my husband said. "I grew up with my parents beating me and yelling at me". 'But did you like it? No? Then why do it to our kids?' Him: "because I don't know any better, that's all I know!" 'Not a ducking excuse!' It really isn't. My own father used to belt me until I bled, he used to threaten that he will sell me into slavery if I didn't listen to him. He said all sorts of crap to me. Not once did I repeat what my father did to me, to my own children. In fact, I'm so terrified about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:35 AM |
| 3 | Reminder: Mamas, you CAN do this alone - you don't need that ScroteHere's the thing though; with covid19, domestic violence shelters being full, no familial support, daycare and schools that are closed.... it's hard to get out. I have several thousand dollars but still homeless because covid19 affected my job and I cannot get an apartment. DV shelters are all full, I cannot do my job unless both kids are being watched over. So what choices am I left with? Taking the kids, running to middle of nowhere in a Midwestern state and living on the campgrounds until bot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:04 AM |
| 9 | Bless women for the universal bullshit we live withAre you talking about my step aunt? She was a phlebotamist, her boyfriend was a musician. She retired when she turned 65, her boyfriend was still a no named musician, excuse me, he was only popular in Central American countries. Well he finally got into a band, he finally started being successful, going to award shows and traveling around South America and Central America, sometimes here in the USA on tours. They are still together, but not married. She doesn't believe in marrying him, and he's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:35 AM |
| 1 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.Sex addiction is actually real. However, it's born through trauma or severe neglect of sorts. 90% of the so called sex addiction cases you hear about in media or online, is actually the seggs addiction/porn sickness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:21 AM |
| 5 | My mom is now a Queen, a HVW.LV Husbands can never be a great father | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:14 AM |
| 1 | "There's no such thing as sex addiction. The only people at the clinic are married men who got caught"Thank you!!! It irritates me that people don't take it seriously. My brother has been suffering for a decade plus, he wouldn't wish it on anyone. It almost destroyed his marriage, and other relationships (family and friends). He now, literally, has to live with NO INTERNET in his house, as part of a detoxing program. He's been internet free for 3+ years now. My SIL is a psychologist that specializes in family therapy and sex addiction as well (she actually base her career on his affliction so sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:40 AM |
| 4 | "There's no such thing as sex addiction. The only people at the clinic are married men who got caught"My brother has it. We were both covertly sexually abused as kids and had our needs neglected. He went towards sex addiction, and I went towards sex repulsion/asexual. Same childhood, two extreme opposite paths. Funny. He is in therapy to get his sex addiction lower, and I've been suggested therapy to increase my libido lol. We used to both wish we traded our affliction and meet somewhere in the middle so we're normal like everyone else, and our spouses would stop suffering. I don't know about hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:34 AM |
| 19 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationThank goodness I am asexual and don't have to deal with pesky horny hormones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:31 AM |
| -5 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandNot trying to catch you, just telling OP that if she did end up with a LVM and bore his children, she DOES have options to escape the relationship, and never have to see her ex. Also, great fathers and LVM do not go hand in hand. For one to have the QUALITIES of a great father, that man must be MVM or above. No LVM in existence is a great father. You think just because it happens to his wife, the children are okay with it? Children are way more perceptive, just because Dad doesn't hit them or ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:10 AM |
| -10 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husband"you can't get away from them" and "often" are two different things. You're implying you literally cannot leave in one sentence, and the next, to your reply to me, you mention that it IS possible to gain full custody of your children if the child's father doesn't want to be in the picture. However, legally speaking, there are other ways you can get full custody. The child's father could do something illegal, the child's father ends up (mistakingly) showing the judge that he is an unfit parent, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:55 AM |
| -11 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandOh really? Then pray tell why there are single mothers out there with zero contact with their ex? OP don't listen to her. You absolutely CAN get away from an ex spouse with your children. Many women have done so. SuccessfulAppeal is making it sound like if you have kids with a LVM, you're permanently stuck with him and you should give up 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have this view on having children?Not really. I'm a mother to two sons. With the advent of modern medicine, I didn't have to worry much about childbirth. Plus, my sons are raised with my values, not a LVM's values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:25 AM |
| 1 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄Wow. Write a book about the ordeal, use the proceeds to restart your journalism career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:42 PM |
| -1 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄The book is not dismissing them. It's dismissing the type of abuse suffered by men by women. The abuse against women are much worse than abuse against men. According to later passages of the book, when men talk about their abuse, they exaggerate. 67% would raise their hands stating their wives were just as abusive, but when told they'd have to answer the same questions but this time with a LIE DETECTOR TEST, only 29% of them kept their hands up. Meanwhile, the majority of the women who were abus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:26 PM |
| 27 | Silly sugar mamasCareful about making assumptions about women. It could be just as innocent as they have joint bank accounts, and the husband always pays, so now the woman wants to. If my husband paid for everything, I'd be annoyed because as an adult, I'd also want to pay for purchases for the family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:19 PM |
| 17 | Men never 'lose control', they act in ways they deem justified.If you're like me, and cannot buy the book for whatever reason, there's a PDF of the entire book on Google. First result too, all 1020 pages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 08:25 AM |
| 3 | So many d***s on AITA today (they're OPs or dudes mentioned in the post). Have arranged from least terrible to the worst of the worst. Six posts and I had to take a break. Why are these men even in relationships??? Break-down of each in comments.BRB moving to Iceland | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:17 AM |
| 1 | “Me getting off is more important than your pain”You know what's weird? From sizes 42 DDD/F to 38DD/D, I had no back pain. The moment I went to 36D/CCC and below...maybe to 34D, I had tons of back pain! Maybe the extra fat around my midsection helps mitigate the back pain, because I find it odd that the closer I got to a healthy weight and my boobs shrank, the more my back started to hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:12 AM |
| -2 | How to Stop Worrying About What Others Think of YouI don't understand why you would block social media. Just block and delete anyone that you didn't like. I have my Facebook account, my friend list only has family members and my best friend, and a few old high school classmates. Anyone that gets on my nerves, I block and delete. In the case of family I see in person, I just remove them from my notifications so I don't see their posts. No big deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:15 AM |
| 5 | "10 months from now on going to find a crystal, and make it into a ring for you because I really really love you!" When your 4 year old son is more HV than all the scrotes out there. Pathetic, men you need to step up!Awww that's adorable 😍 Today he kept going, so far I have a rainbow cupcake at 49, and a rainbow shirt at 56 😂 I know he'll probably forget as he grows up, but it was so adorbs and you definitely know their love is genuine with no strings attached, unlike the LVM when they are "professing" their love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:13 AM |
| 3 | When LVM tell me I'll never amount to anything before ghosting meThe first picture is Eve. She's the Queen of the Nasods (Nasods are robots, who long ago tried to decimate humanity), her outfit is because her class is Code: Electra. She has no emotions, and her main schtick is that she slaps Elsword all the time whenever he gets too close, and that her character color is Pink. She's a game character from Elsword Online. The most of the characters on Elsword Online starts off 13, and by the time you're level 100 with all the class changes you're 18 years old. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:45 AM |
| 1 | When LVM tell me I'll never amount to anything before ghosting meThe first one is called Eve, but her actual class is Code: Electra from the game Elsword Online. She's supposed to be an emotional robot, called the Queen of the Nasods (Nasods are robots, and she's literally a queen). She's constantly slapping Elsword in the face, if he gets too close. Honestly, I never played her character, on paper she sounds cool but her attacks are clunky and her main color is Pink. This is her picture, she's expressionless. If you see any art that has her show emotion or l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Rewatching Girlfriends on Netflix and... yikesI LOVE Toni. She has standards and never lowered it. She fell in love and compromised her standards because of a hidden LVM masquerading as HV. After the divorce, she wised up and didn't bother dating, even HVMs because she was focusing on her daughter. It's too bad she had to sacrifice her business and fly to NYC, but that was the only way since Todd looked better on paper than she did. I like to think that despite sacrificing her career in LA, Toni Childs made a name for herself in NYC and co-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 10:31 PM |
| 5 | they did it to themselves. 🤷🏾♀️He's Navy Reserve, retiring this year. He also works for the city. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 12:17 AM |
| 2 | This is true, yeah? Thoughts?1000000000% "Be there" can be replaced with anything; take out the trash, marry you, be more responsible, date you, be a good father, get a license, get a job, etc. If they wanted to _________, they would! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:28 PM |
| 5 | "A garbage collector? Give him a bar of Irish Spring and marry him."This guy is an idiot. Women don't CARE HOW MUCH YOU MAKE AND FROM WHAT JOB, they only care if you're HVM and not an abusive piece of trash. My cousin in law's father is a garbage collector in Barbados. It's the best job in the world for him, he gets up at 3 AM, works until noon, and he'll have a good pension when he retires. He makes good money, and he has enough time in the day to spend with his family, and grandchildren. Before I met him, I thought janitors didn't make much, like they were jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:10 PM |
| 2 | I never get a good vibe from the “brutal honesty” guys.I'm like the queen of saying offensive shit and dark jokes. The thing is, I can handle brutal honesty. If someone says they are hurt by my words, I'll apologize. But if you tell a man that you are hurt, they'll get offended, gas light you, and say you're too sensitive. Women like me can dish out brutal honesty and take it, but LV men are usually fragile, they'd rather dish it out instead of taking it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:02 PM |
| 5 | Thank god this girl realizes he wants a new mommy. Stay strong girl or you’ll be participating in #kickhimout2020Here's the difference between men and women on the flip side. When women take in men and teach them how to do household chores, men never do their half of the chores. When men take in women and teach them how to do household chores (I knew nothing, my husband taught me), women ALWAYS end up taking over the household chores, even when men know how to do it. My husband used to say he didn't want to marry me if I was lazy with the household chores. He took time to teach me the basics. I went into t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:40 PM |
| 35 | they did it to themselves. 🤷🏾♀️You should meet my father in law then. He makes $100,000+ a year and has 2 government pensions. He still lives in the starter 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom tiny house. He has a wife and 3 children (husband is one of them). He provides, the bare minimum. From the outsider's perspective, it looks like he's a great family man that takes care of the bills especially since his wife was a stay at home mom since she was 19. Reality is, he's financially abusive. He never has the money to pay the bills on time, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:31 PM |
| 8 | "hitting the wall" is real. And it does usually happen around age 25-30. But it has nothing to do with looks. It's the age at which you stop seeking validation from men. And once you hit it your desirability (to LVM) will tank. It's a beautiful thing.Oh really? Then I guess I don't matter because I'm 33, and barely hit the wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:39 PM |
| 15 | This is so gross!! How is bad hygiene not a dealbreaker? All this shows me is a man who can’t take of himself 🤮🤮I agree, he didn't get better, your SIL cleans everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 11:53 PM |
| 1 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.Already watched all of them :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | A male friend of mine shared this and joked “Time to disappoint you ladies twice!” and this was my response.What constitutes a big city nowadays? Suburbs now have 200k+ people. Even someone from Dayton, or toledo, oh can make that much. It's called hustling and working 60 hours a week. I've seen a GH driver make $100k a year in NYC and CA, I've seen a DD make $65,000 a year in Mesa, AZ and San Antonio, TX etc. You need to know your market, you need to put in the hours. There is no excuse why an Uber driver is so cheap. Even part timers make $600/week going uber eats. Looks like the guy just doesn't hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:19 PM |
| 1 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.Thanks for letting me know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | A male friend of mine shared this and joked “Time to disappoint you ladies twice!” and this was my response.Sounds like he should've focused more on his "real job". Uber can net you $60,000/year, if you work hard at it and know your market. No excuses on why he has a crappy studio apartment. I've seen people on gig apps constantly showing their $1300+/week paychecks, they hustled and do it full-time. If you know what you're doing and work full time, there's no excuses for you to be poor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:40 PM |
| 3 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.Western society in general seem to take for granted, especially women. My family is from Eastern Europe. They lived in poverty for years, under communism, experienced two different genocides, poor Healthcare, and 2nd world country standards. They are much appreciative of the United States now that they escaped via asylum, but they haven't forgotten the past. My family is generous to the poor, but they are having difficulty feeling empathy lately because majority of the western values; either fro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:14 PM |
| 10 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.I'm a Caucasian woman, and it's not much but I've been consuming black shows lately, even the ones from the 90s. A lot of the issues they brought up on, the covert racism the characters felt, i was pretty shocked. It took a few episodes to get used to the fact that there are barely any white characters on there, then i realized that's how blacks see the world. A world of mostly white media, and barely anything to relate to. It's very refreshing, and the black women in the shows are usually queen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Pickmes arguing women shouldn’t have the right to voteThe only ones that do NOT deserve a vote are convicted felons, corrupt politicians or business owners, dead beat dads and dead beat moms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:54 PM |
| 28 | My thoughts about splitting the bill - 80/20 rule and marriage.Lol, I wish divorce wasn't too expensive. My husband has zero assets. Thanks to him, we lived in poverty barely making more than $25,000/year for several years. He had the gall to tell me last year, "ok it's your turn". Like, "it's your turn to get a career and provide for everyone, because I clearly failed at it. " In one year, I did WAY MORE than him lol. I settled $25,000 worth of student loans, have $5000+ in savings, paid $3000+ for necessary car repairs, and kept us all off of the streets … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:50 PM |
| 10 | Women repost this as a joke but in reality it’s pathetic and trueYour mom's boyfriend, sounds like my mother. "Oh but you live there too! It's your household too, and if he doesn't clean then you do! Do it for the sake of your kids. If i see the place trashy again, I'll file for custody and take the kids because you're not a good mom since you can't keep a 650 sq foot apartment clean!". Ugh. I cleaned CONSTANTLY, but I can't do it all. Cleaning up after myself and kids? Sure. Cleaning up after my husband? Total nightmare. He trashes the place within 3 days. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:13 PM |
| 7 | Women repost this as a joke but in reality it’s pathetic and trueOr he's like my husband, "I'll make dinner tonight"...proceeds to marinate and cook steak, that's it. No sides, just steak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:02 PM |
| 3 | How do we avoid men that we gotta one day throw in the trash? Is vetting enough? Part of me worries about the breadwinner thing for this reason.You're right. My husband and i had red flags from the beginning, but they were fixable, and we both had history of making good on our promise to improve, by turning the red flag into green. However, shortly after our first son was born, I leveled up and husband stopped trying. He declined rapidly into LVM territory. It wasn't because my attention went to our son, it was because my expectations increased. Back then, if I told him I needed something from him and he dragged his feet, I'd get disapp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:11 AM |
| 2 | How do we avoid men that we gotta one day throw in the trash? Is vetting enough? Part of me worries about the breadwinner thing for this reason.I learned the separate account thing too late. I thought it was a red flag if the spouses cannot share finances. I was with my husband for 7 years before we got married. He was MVM (middle value, low value sometimes, high value other times), and i too was a MVW. We married knowing we would both need to improve a lot if we want to be an apex power couple. Up until 4 years ago (we were together 11 years now) things were difficult but okay. I slowly leveled up, but he started declining. He made no … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:01 AM |
| 3 | How do we avoid men that we gotta one day throw in the trash? Is vetting enough? Part of me worries about the breadwinner thing for this reason.I hate it when guys say they are sex addicts. No, no they aren't. A true sex addict doesn't go to a hooker, and goes "my bad". Sex Addiction isn't a "my bad, I was horny" thing, it's an actual addiction, and can destroy livelihoods. My brother is a sex addict, and the only reason why my HV SiL took him back after he messed up kissing another woman? It's because of what he did. Before the kissing incident, my brother was in therapy for it for 10 years, he was also in church, getting his therapy t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:34 PM |
| 23 | South Korea's Low Birthrate and the Sampo GenerationMy main account got downvoted to hell when I said that women hold all the power, that if they truly want change, they need to stop popping out babies. Or if you already have children, to raise them with your values, not the patriarchy's. The men were so triggered, that ofcourse they downvoted me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 21 | For me this is the telltale sign of a man that is addicted to video games and/or porn. Lifeless eyes... keep a lookout for it!A HVM gamer guy, will be the man that learns to moderate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:29 PM |
| 4 | This influencer called out the blatant sexism on YouTube and it's painfully true... At least she made it humorous. But also, she lives with her fiancé and her ex and it's very weird? Or maybe it's just me and it can be done - as it obviously is working for them... (The ex is the model btw)Probably the ex is either male to female, a closeted gay that came out, or an asexual that came out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Get out of the shackles. You’ve got this!Same. 25 years of all the abuse under the sun. Ugh. That 1 year of antidepressants and having 2 kids that think you're the best mom in the world, helps me heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:14 PM |
| 8 | Boy do I wish I could not watch my kids because I feel like shit...No. We don't really know him, he could go crazy, resent the kids for making him feel worse, and next thing you know little Johnny is in the hospital with a broken arm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:08 PM |
| 4 | Keep yourself safe at all times.I'm from NYC as well, living in AZ now, i remember the dead bolts on the door. When I moved here, I was wondering why no house or apartment ever had those. I'm gonna get them when I have my own place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:20 AM |
| 13 | This is such a mess. He didn't do one thing right or research anything or even make sure the ring came on time. This is anything but romantic.Oh God this made me flashback to when I had to drive myself to the hospital with contractions with my first born, and with my second born, husband abandoned me to go clean the apartment. Except his cleaning was only for 40 minutes, and he played fortnite the rest of the time. He only came back to the hospital 30 minutes before I was pushing the baby out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:08 AM |
| 31 | Mature/Older FDS Sister'sMe! I'm married to a LVM, have 2 kids, and I am 33. I am trying to level up, and planning to separate by November. I unfortunately cannot file for divorce unless I lived in a separate household for atleast 60 days. Worse case scenario is I don't leave my marriage until next fall due to finances, by that I mean if my LVM husband got a job in the next 6 weeks, he'll cover most of the bills, allowing me to save as much as possible so I'll be very financially ready to leave. Either way it goes, next… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:56 AM |
| 3 | Someone posted the aita in a Facebook group, and I found a wild Pickme getting rightfully shamedI had no idea. Thanks for letting me know it's a meme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:13 AM |
| -9 | Someone posted the aita in a Facebook group, and I found a wild Pickme getting rightfully shamedI stopped reading the comments once I got to someone saying "sweaty " instead of "sweetie ". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:40 AM |
| 7 | Nope. He is not going to be my projectWhy is it the woman's responsibility? Holding a man in an embrace while he cries for hours.... that's a job for his Mama. Miss me with that bullshit. Men seriously expect women to give them physical affection, like they never got it before? Wow, that's a lie. Mothers give physical affection to their sons, they love and nurture their sons. If after all that, the sons grow up to say they never got physical affection, and that they need a shoulder to cry on aka, Theresa therapy, there's something s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:07 PM |
| 27 | Why do women reproduce with these LVM?!At first I felt guilty of the idea that you shouldn't be with a gamer man, simply because I'm a gamer and I spend my time gaming, even over hours and weeks. Then I realized that men in general cannot restrain themselves. Despite me gaming for hours, I still make time to do necessary errands, cook meals for myself and my sons, teach them, play with them, take them to the park, set up their birthday parties or any holidays, etc. I game for hours only when the kids are asleep, over at grandma's, or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:52 PM |
| 3 | A collage of things I hate about my ex. Idea came from another post by an FDS Queen and the reminder to do it came from my recent post.Sparkling water for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Can We Talk About The Song "Fixer Upper" From Frozen? Kristoff is awkward, smelly, and has a weird relationship with a reindeer but his family is trying to pawn him off on Anna to be *her* problem. The way to fix up this fixer-upper is NOT to Fix him up with one of us! He needs THERAPY and a BATH!I don't remember anything from the second one 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:44 PM |
| 56 | When you stick around waiting for him to changeYup, sums up my mother. She stuck around so damn long, that my step-dad got dementia and forgot he was ever abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 02:43 AM |
| 3 | The results of doing the workAnother person says Codependency, I legit thought it was child of deaf adults | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:17 AM |
| 9 | Can We Talk About The Song "Fixer Upper" From Frozen? Kristoff is awkward, smelly, and has a weird relationship with a reindeer but his family is trying to pawn him off on Anna to be *her* problem. The way to fix up this fixer-upper is NOT to Fix him up with one of us! He needs THERAPY and a BATH!What about Mulan? I don't think she got married in Mulan 2. She saved an entire country mostly by herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:13 AM |
| 1 | So many scrotes are so dirty and unhygienic that they have come up with their own term for why their nether regions smell like shit sometimes. dear scrotes... if you shower regularly, you shouldn’t stink so bad after a sweaty day (explication in the comments)Yeah they do. I just feel a little guilty for wasting water because water is precious in a desert climate, so i try to use less while being as clean as possible. I guess I can't lol, so I'm just going to bathe more. Which reminds me, it's time for my bath 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:04 AM |
| 3 | So many scrotes are so dirty and unhygienic that they have come up with their own term for why their nether regions smell like shit sometimes. dear scrotes... if you shower regularly, you shouldn’t stink so bad after a sweaty day (explication in the comments)Interesting! Thanks for letting me know! I'll do that from now on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:59 AM |
| 24 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore.Right?! She's a doctor as well since she has a PhD. On top of everything, she's probably exhausted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:42 AM |
| 8 | This is why I don’t date short men.Jesus christ he's a whiny brat. I'm 5'8" and my STBX is 5'5". He was never insecure about his height, ever. He loved the fact that I was tall, because that will mean that our kids have a better chance of being average height or taller than me. The only complaint he had about being short was finding clothes, or reaching for things. That's it. Husband used to joke that he loved being short because he was eye level with my boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 2 | So many scrotes are so dirty and unhygienic that they have come up with their own term for why their nether regions smell like shit sometimes. dear scrotes... if you shower regularly, you shouldn’t stink so bad after a sweaty day (explication in the comments)I think it depends on the climate. I shower twice or three times a week. However, I live in the desert, there's virtually no humidity, and I don't do physical activities enough that I sweat. The moment my hair starts being greasy, or when I start to smell, I get in the shower. I watched an Adam Ruins Everything episode about bathing, and scientifically it's not necessary to bathe every day if you don't have B.O., especially because it strips your skin and hair of the natural oils. If i lived in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:24 AM |
| 37 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore.Sadly I think it is, I've seen so many men who write like this, and legit believe their entitlement is normal behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 8 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore.Right??? It made my blood boil! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:07 AM |
| 3 | "child free" Men are manchildsGirl, how 🤔 can you juggle them all? I'd personally have my hands full with 2! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | How to rise above LVM?I'm struggling with the divorce as well. I have 2 kids with my LVM husband, I'm the one employed, and have my own car. My husband has nothing. Maybe a few gaming consoles and figurines. He doesn't even have a college degree or savings. Honestly, our assets is so small that the most expensive thing I own is my 15 year old car and the hearing aids I wear, and the gaming consoles we own. I also have money in the stock market, which came from MY unemployment. He didn't file for unemployment, and we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | (TW) Men have no empathy. And there are a lot of comments siding with the boyfriend.Same, I'm all about women now. Done with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 4 | "child free" Men are manchildsYou're dating 3 men, or have dated 3 men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:03 PM |
| 9 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?That's right. It took 25 years for me to get over my childhood abuse. It'll likely take more time to get over my abusive STBXH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:54 PM |
| 21 | TRIGGER WARNING: Just Some Casual Rape and Sexual Assualt Apologising, And They Wonder Why We Think They Have No Empathy?!?! From Men, Going Their Own Way 2.0 (AKA Men FORCED To Go Their Own Way )-VOMITYup. For years I've looked the other way, and convinced myself it was 100% consensual. I told myself it wasn't a big deal because I wasn't traumatized, but, big deal or not, I have to admit that I was raped and sexually assaulted MANY, MANY, MANY times by own husband. I don't feel sexual attraction to anyone, my husband knew that I was ace from day 1. He still begged and pleaded for me to have sex, and after the 6th or even 15th, "No", I got frustrated and gave in so he can satisfy his limp dick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Some high value behavior (saw rgis and thought we all could use to see something positive for once!)I find it really sad that the guy doesn't know how to surprise his wife. Does he not have a separate bank account? Does he not know how to install the trampoline in his house while she sleeps, or is out of the house at work? He's putting zero effort here, he'd rather get internet strangers to help him. If he's married to her, he should know by now how to surprise her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:36 PM |
| 19 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?Nope. Abusive husbands are always ZVM. They bring ZERO VALUE to your life, because no amount of abuse is worth the niceties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:33 PM |
| 14 | Does anyone else feel kind of disgusted that some men expect you to have their child?Nah sis. I want another baby, a girl this time. But another poster is right, I don't need a man to do that, i can just go to a sperm bank or adopt. I'm done having kids with LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:28 PM |
| 15 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢It's not only credit cards, it's also debit cards! Ugh. Cash is the only anonymous option here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:18 PM |
| 5 | When men scoff at women who talk about the dangers that we face - every day - I always think about this chart. It doesn’t even include violence by strangers, friends or family members. Don’t you dare downplay the threats we face during dating or relationships.8 years of marriage here, and husband strangled me last year. He slapped my face afterwards and said he wish he had killed me when he had the chance. Ofcourse the "chance" he was talking about was waaaaaay back in 2008, when I was extremely depressed, attempted suicide for weeks because of the abuse I went through with my parents, and I begged him (he was my fiancé then) to kill me to make the pain stop. He couldn't do it then and he was crying because I asked him to kill me. Last year's attempt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:19 AM |
| 3 | I can’t even think of a reason a HVM is worth going through all the dating LV bs I’ve been through anymoreSame, I'm leaving my STBXH. But I have 2 sons, they are still in their toddler years. If I ever feel lonely, I can just hug them and give them a kiss on the cheek, while hearing them call me the best mama in the 🌎, and seeing their adorable smiles. A child's love is so pure and wholesome, who needs men? Their love always come with strings attached | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:02 AM |
| 1 | September 2020 FDS Website Sign-Up Q&A Thread!Okay thanks for the heads up!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Can a “Couch Creature” be a HVM?He is only limited in his impairments if he lets it. He worked as a bar manager despite his impairments, I have the same ones he does, except he got his disabilities through the military, while i was born with them. He is NOT disabled in the traditional sense, he didn't have difficulty in school or maintaining friendships because of his impairments, since he didn't have any at the time. Ergo, despite his current disabilities, he is still more than capable of getting and keeping a job in this mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Can a “Couch Creature” be a HVM?He is NOT high value, period. I was born deaf in both ears. I have moderate to severe hearing loss, mostly severe than moderate, but I digress. I am considered legally blind in one eye, with the other eye being 100/20. I needed glasses to drive, but now I need it for anything that's more than 3 feet away lol. Despite this, I've worked in 3 call centers, worked at a library, worked at a fast food place, became a security guard for 2 different companies, worked at a warehouse, and currently I do g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Can a “Couch Creature” be a HVM?I'm legally blind in one eye, and deaf in both ears. I have 2 gig jobs that I'm using to pay for bills and my way through college eventually. This "HVM" has no excuse. I am not even eligible for SSI because I'm married, and I got denied twice, so I don't have the cushion he does -- however, I've worked in call centers, libraries, done security, and deliver food..... He has no excuse for his unemployed ass, none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:35 AM |
| 1 | September 2020 FDS Website Sign-Up Q&A Thread!6 goes on about an 8 digit code, isn't it supposed to be 9 digit? Anyway, I messaged the Moderators, but I'll ask again here. I'm using the mobile reddit app, but the link to the handbook isn't working, nor are some of the links in the FAQ/About Us page. Is this intentional? I signed up thinking I needed to be a member to read the handbook. Is the link's availability member only, or is it because of reddit's mobile app? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:08 AM |
| 15 | I'm glad my son will be able to grow up seeing women hosts for science shows.I agree. I dropped out of computer networking because of the sexism and accusations that I'm not smart enough, 10 years and 2 kids later, I'm going to take another chance at it, this time doing data management and analytics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 02:49 AM |
| 5 | “Pick me, pick me, pick me!”Lol this is so true it hurts 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menI completely agree with this. My father was married 7 times, my mother was his 3rd wife. Yet, other women didn't care and continued to date him. Granted, he always prayed on vulnerable women, especially from his home country who was desperate to come to America. But if a woman mentions she was married 7 times, she'd be vilified. Heck, my own mother didn't want to divorce my abusive stepfather because she didn't want to admit to 2 failed marriages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Just propose alreadyI think it should be. It has something to do about childhood trauma and lack of nurture. My brother has sex addiction, he's been in therapy for years and is trying daily to be the HVM my SIL deserves. My SIL isn't a pickme either, she kicked him out because he kissed another girl. He was only allowed back after 3 months away, because he went to therapy several times a week, cut off the internet entirely (they have no internet at their house) even from his phone, cut off all contact of female fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:27 AM |
| 1 | I'm Asexual and not really into guys, but reading about all of you gals living awesome, fulfilling lives without men as the main focus/goal is really validating. Thanks for sharing your stories :)Same here!!! I'm ace but a hopeless romantic, I want a relationship someday on my terms, no sex needed. I love everything about FDS, it's like they are my spirit animal lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Has the view of your own parents relationship changed since being on this sub? Is your father someone who is high value?I'm confused with this, if your dad was a HVM, why did your mother leave him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:31 AM |
| 96 | Successful woman is making $200k+, her husband willingly chose to get a job in a field that would destroy his wife's entire carrier, despite she asked him not to. Now he accused her of being selfish and put money before their marriage. LOLHahaha no, just no, if I were in her shoes, I would've started divorce proceedings the moment he mentioned that I wasn't being a supportive wife and he wants this job. She makes $200k and is in a specific field, where she can get to the millions in a few years .... he would make only $65k. He doesn't realize how lucky he was with that arrangement, she even offered to pay for more college for him! Men like that are so stupid, it's not even funny. I'm glad she woke up and filed for divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 07:00 PM |
| 23 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Can your mom adopt me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | This 55 year old man has aged like fine wine. Notice him choosing an age appropriate partner. One with grey hair and not even botox?Grant looks so humble and happy with him, I'm happy for her and Reeves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:43 AM |
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